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What Your Life Partner Relationship Can Teach You About Yourself

Life Partner Relationships, by Katherine Searcy, Photograph by Sabina Ciesielska

Photograph by Sabina Ciesielska

Allowing your life partner to open the windows to your soul

Have you ever felt insecure and alone in your marriage — even if your spouse is sitting right next to you, affirming all of your wonderful qualities, trying to find ways to love and support you?

I have experienced this several times in the course of my marriage. I have felt deeply alone and abandoned with no reasons for the feeling. When I get to this place, I feel my protective walls go up, fortified with a moat and several sharp shooters ready to take aim at anyone who attempts to approach me. I go on the

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