SEX IN THE GREY ZONE

Lisa, a 30-year-old writer living in Auckland, recalls a difficult sexual experience that took place when she was 18. “I went home with somebody I met in a bar, and we had pretty average drunk sex,” she says. “Then I woke up in the morning, and he wanted to have sex again.” Lisa (not her real name) remembers giving non-verbal cues that she wasn’t interested — pretending to be asleep while he touched her, rolling away