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    Getting the Love You Want Audio Companion: The New Couples' Study Guide
    Getting the Love You Want Audio Companion: The New Couples' Study Guide
    Getting the Love You Want Audio Companion: The New Couples' Study Guide
    Audiobook (abridged)2 hours

    Getting the Love You Want Audio Companion: The New Couples' Study Guide

    Written by Harville Hendrix and Helen LaKelly Hunt

    Narrated by Harville Hendrix

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    About this audiobook

    An audio companion to the enormously successful New York Times bestselling relationship book, Getting the Love You Want: A Guide for Couples.

    In 1988, Harville Hendrix in partnership with his wife, Helen LaKelly Hunt, published a terrifically successful relationship guide, Getting the Love You Want. The book introduced thousands to their Imago Relationship Therapy, a unique healing process for couples, prospective couples, and parents. Doctors Hendrix and Hunt managed to aid scores of couples in their pursuit of more loving, supportive, and deeply satisfying relationships.

    The Getting the Love You Want Audio Companion, is designed for couples seeking a practical route back to intimacy and passionate friendship. This companion contains a unique twelve-week course which includes complete step-by-step instructions for transforming relationships into a lasting source of love and companionship.

    For those of us struggling to maintain our most precious relationships, the Getting the Love You Want Audio Companion helps us grow aware of our individual, unconscious agenda while steering us towards a more harmonious link with our loved ones that will satisfy our deepest need.
    LanguageEnglish
    PublisherSimon & Schuster Audio
    Release dateAug 16, 2004
    ISBN9780743549011
    Getting the Love You Want Audio Companion: The New Couples' Study Guide
    Author

    Harville Hendrix

    Harville Hendrix, Ph.D., a clinical pastoral counselor and co-creator of Imago Relationship Therapy, has more than thirty-five years' experience as an educator, public lecturer, and couples' therapist.

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    • 4/5
      A superior book about couple building, and very helpful at the time.
    • 5/5
      After over 20 years, my wife and I still use this book.
    • 5/5
      If you're going through a divorce or marital troubles, this book makes sense of why things are not going well.
    • 4/5
      I have some reservations about Hendrix, his endlessly multiplying books, and the Imago Therapy industry that has grown up around them. Having said that - and I will come back to it later - it must be said that there is a great deal of substance to his theories and these books. His basic premise is that there is an unconscious element to romantic attraction. There is no controversy here. What Hendrix has done - based on extensive couple therapy - is to peel back the layers of behavior and motivation to get at a workable hypothesis of what is really going on. He notes that people entering into a romantic relationship (or failing to do so) often seem to have a sense that the other party has (or had) the potential to heal or complete something that was damaged or absent in themselves. Hendrix?s particular genius was to realize that this could be true and not true at the same time. True in the sense that the other person is the key to healing or completion; but not true in the sense that they will provide it to you by simply being there or by giving it to you as a gift. Hendrix?s theory is that you might unconsciously select someone whose makeup/personality is perfectly suited to ?pressing all those buttons? that are linked to issues inside yourself that your unconscious would like you to address. So the job of the other person is to press buttons (and you to press theirs), and the job of each person is to address their own issues. Hendrix?s therapy essentially involves stepping back from seeing the other person as the one with the problems, or the one causing the problem, or the one who is going to (or should) give you the solution to the problem. He suggests that you treat the irritations of a connected life (once that blind romantic stage fades) as pointers (and a motivation) to do work you need to do on yourself. Which involves a lot (a very great many) of exercises that can by very uncomfortable. And like physical exercise it is easy to fail to do it properly and give up. But like physical exercise it is often easier to do it together with other people (not necessarily your partner), and if you persist with it my experience is that you will see at least some benefit.What don?t I like about Hendrix? He has a conversational style of writing, rather than an academic one. Which is great, but sometimes I feel that it is a rather rambling conversation and I yearn for some dot points. I?d love to see Hendrix say in less than ten thousand (or a hundred thousand) words, ?This is the essentials of what I?m talking about.? His analogies are great, his case studies support his arguments, and I have no argument with him expressing his strong Christian faith. It is just that they make reading him an effort, which I find wearying, knowing that the exercises he prescribes will be arduous enough. That said, he has set himself the challenge of trying to get across an abstract idea that is a little counter-intuitive to an audience that have hugely varied experiences, belief systems and appreciation of the workings of the unconscious. Which explains the multiple books, and the effectiveness of the group seminars where facilitators can ?bring people along? with the theory and exercises.What else don?t I like? Most of all that Hendrix says this only works in deep romantic (love) relationships. I don?t think he has an issue with same sex relationships, but the books of his I have read (and this one) don?t give them any focus. As a theory it would be more interesting if he had looked at long term friendships and even our relationship with animals, with inanimate things and ideas, and with work and our position in society. Essentially his theory pins everything on the unconscious, and provides (apparently) useful exercises to satisfy it, but does not wrestle with what is going on in the unconscious - the way it represents the external world and it?s capacity for confusion, self-deception and displacement. And last of all, while the development of his theory is well anchored in real life couples experience, I sometimes miss some explanation or reflection on how his therapy can be effectively introduced to couples: how it leaves them ?on the far side?, and how it relates to the wider family (children, in-laws, etc) and situations where there is real mental illness. But worthwhile? Yes. Read it, put it down, come back to it and think about it. Accept its limitations, take advantage of what it has to offer, don?t expect a silver bullet. Try and be nice to your partner, and yourself.
    • 5/5
      Simply put: a must. Everyone- married, engaged, or even single- should read (no, study) this book. It will inform and enrich the reader's life, giving an understanding where there had been before.