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For Your Own Good: Hidden Cruelty in Child-Rearing and the Roots of Violence
Written by Alice Miller
Narrated by Jo Anna Perrin
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For Your Own Good, the contemporary classic exploring the serious if not gravely dangerous consequences parental cruelty can bring to bear on children everywhere, is one of the central works by Alice Miller, the celebrated Swiss psychoanalyst.
With her typically lucid, strong, and poetic language, Miller investigates the personal stories and case histories of various self-destructive and/or violent individuals to expand on her theories about the long-term affects of abusive child-rearing. Her conclusions-on what sort of parenting can create a drug addict, or a murderer, or a Hitler-offer much insight, and make a good deal of sense, while also straying far from psychoanalytic dogma about human nature, which Miller vehemently rejects.
This important study paints a shocking picture of the violent world-indeed, of the ever-more-violent world-that each generation helps to create when traditional upbringing, with its hidden cruelty, is perpetuated. The book also presents listeners with useful solutions in this regard-namely, to resensitize the victimized child who has been trapped within the adult, and to unlock the emotional life that has been frozen in repression.
With her typically lucid, strong, and poetic language, Miller investigates the personal stories and case histories of various self-destructive and/or violent individuals to expand on her theories about the long-term affects of abusive child-rearing. Her conclusions-on what sort of parenting can create a drug addict, or a murderer, or a Hitler-offer much insight, and make a good deal of sense, while also straying far from psychoanalytic dogma about human nature, which Miller vehemently rejects.
This important study paints a shocking picture of the violent world-indeed, of the ever-more-violent world-that each generation helps to create when traditional upbringing, with its hidden cruelty, is perpetuated. The book also presents listeners with useful solutions in this regard-namely, to resensitize the victimized child who has been trapped within the adult, and to unlock the emotional life that has been frozen in repression.
Author
Alice Miller
Alice Miller, Ph.D., practiced and taught psychoanalysis for over twenty years before devoting herself to writing in 1979. She is the author of the bestselling Prisoners of Childhood (reissued in paperback as The Drama of the Gifted Child) and For Your Own Good: Hidden Cruelty in Child-Rearing and the Roots of Violence, as well as numerous other books. Miller lives in Zurich, Switzerland.
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- Rating: 4 out of 5 stars4/5Excellent book but difficult to follow along. Very important topic
- Rating: 5 out of 5 stars5/5Alice Miller is a brave person with deep insights of the emotional nature of us humans. She is the courageous whistle-blower of a bad belief on raising children with “the rod” mentality, and she illustrates that other pseudo-normal reflex of repeating on our children what our parents did to us, with all that Good Intention of Righteousness that the Jewish-Christian hereditary brain washing has transmitted through the millennia. I’m so grateful for her courageous insights!
- Rating: 5 out of 5 stars5/5I really liked this book by Alice Miller. In three distinct cases (and more) it outlines the childhood origins of destructive and self-destructive behaviour with empathetic objectivity. It also warns against "learning to regard human beings as machines in order to gain a better understanding of how they function."