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    What Happened to You?: Conversations on Trauma, Resilience, and Healing
    What Happened to You?: Conversations on Trauma, Resilience, and Healing
    What Happened to You?: Conversations on Trauma, Resilience, and Healing
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    What Happened to You?: Conversations on Trauma, Resilience, and Healing

    Written by Oprah Winfrey and Bruce D. Perry

    Narrated by Oprah Winfrey and Bruce D. Perry

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    "[Oprah Winfrey and Bruce D. Perry] are both capable, likable narrators who are sincerely engaged with their subject matter...The performances of these two humanitarians make this a must-hear for anyone recovering from their traumatic past." —AudioFile

    This program is read by the authors.

    Our earliest experiences shape our lives far down the road, and What Happened to You? provides powerful scientific and emotional insights into the behavioral patterns so many of us struggle to understand.

    “Through this lens we can build a renewed sense of personal self-worth and ultimately recalibrate our responses to circumstances, situations, and relationships. It is, in other words, the key to reshaping our very lives.”—Oprah Winfrey

    This audiobook is going to change the way you see your life.

    Have you ever wondered "Why did I do that?" or "Why can't I just control my behavior?" Others may judge our reactions and think, "What's wrong with that person?" When questioning our emotions, it's easy to place the blame on ourselves; holding ourselves and those around us to an impossible standard. It's time we started asking a different question.

    Through deeply personal conversations, Oprah Winfrey and renowned brain and trauma expert Dr. Bruce Perry offer a groundbreaking and profound shift from asking “What’s wrong with you?” to “What happened to you?”

    Here, Winfrey shares stories from her own past, understanding through experience the vulnerability that comes from facing trauma and adversity at a young age. In conversation throughout the audiobook, she and Dr. Perry focus on understanding people, behavior, and ourselves. It’s a subtle but profound shift in our approach to trauma, and it’s one that allows us to understand our pasts in order to clear a path to our future—opening the door to resilience and healing in a proven, powerful way.

    A Macmillan Audio production from Flatiron Books

    Editor's Note

    Remarkable healing…

    Oprah wants you to stop asking people the judgy question “What’s wrong with you?” and instead initiate a supportive conversation with “What happened to you?” In this powerful personal and scientific exploration of the lasting impact of trauma, Oprah joins forces with child trauma expert and neuroscientist Dr. Bruce Perry. Together they explore how a deceptively simple shift in perspective can pave the way for remarkable healing.

    LanguageEnglish
    PublisherMacmillan Audio
    Release dateApr 27, 2021
    ISBN9781250260635
    Author

    Oprah Winfrey

    Through the power of media, Oprah Winfrey has created an unparalleled connection with people around the world. As host and supervising producer of the history-making The Oprah Winfrey Show, editorial director of O, The Oprah Magazine, and the CEO of OWN: Oprah Winfrey Network, she has entertained, enlightened, and uplifted millions of viewers for more than twenty-five years. Her accomplishments as a global media leader and philanthropist have established her as one of the most respected and admired public figures today. She is the author of What I Know For Sure, a collection of her contributions to her widely popular column in O, The Oprah Magazine.

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    • 5/5
      powerfully healing - “ forgiveness is giving up the hope that the past could have been any different”

      1 person found this helpful

    • 5/5
      Intense!!! Authors do an outstanding job of explaining and understanding the inside of my head

      1 person found this helpful

    • 5/5
      One of the most inspiring and important books I've read (listened to) in years. Thank you Dr. Perry and Oprah for your combined wisdom, compassion and vision. A must read for everyone interested in learning how to recognize and deal with the effects of trauma and neglect (which as we've learned is about what 'didn't happen but should have') Very in line with the fine work of Dr. Gabor Maté.

      1 person found this helpful

    • 4/5
      Deep *deep* in the feels.

      Read/listen to this one more than once.

      1 person found this helpful

    • 5/5
      Whew. Be prepared to ugly cry, maybe a few times. I strongly, strongly recommend the audio version. Hearing the words spoken into you is a very impactful & meaningful experience.
      I could go on and on as to why this is a 5 star book and why ugly crying is a GOOD THING. Feeling all the feelings and acceptance go a long way towards healing.
      My only tiny critique would be there was a heavy focus on what to do with and/or how to help children from traumatic experience. I think it would be very helpful for virtually all teachers and childcare givers/workers to read this book.
      For those of us who are all grown up and survived our trauma, I found myself saying “yes, but HOW” more than once. It’s there. The answer is there. Open yourself to it.
      I read/listen to 3-4 books a month and this will definitely be in my top books of 2021. Absolutely recommend.

      1 person found this helpful

    • 5/5
      A must read. Exceptional for anyone who works in the field of trauma, with children or has experienced trauma themselves.

      1 person found this helpful

    • 5/5
      Life changing, an absolute must listen! It's presented in a dialogue that keeps you engaged while teaching you so much about yourself, your loved ones, and and world at large. What an amazing piece of work, I will definitely be re-reading in the future.

      1 person found this helpful

    • 5/5
      I learned so much and now that I finished the book, I’ll reflect and start it again... it’s that good and insightful. So grateful.

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    • 5/5
      The three "E" are really amaizing cos' that reflexion through the time, you will see about the othrs decition wont have to be yours now.

      We, I am evething that happens to me ?
    • 5/5
      One of the best on this topic that I’ve ever read. Easily understandable by most people.
    • 5/5
      I highly recommend this book. It gave me great insights into trauma, how it can show up and that there are ways to heal. We don’t just have to live with our traumas. We can heal and grow.
    • 5/5
      Excellent knowledge provided. A must read or listen. Makes such a difference in understanding people. I use this format in my own supervision to being out empathy and understanding
    • 5/5
      This book has opened up my eyes to my own past experiences and helped me consider that I was not to blame, I simply needed to embrace that what happened to me is part of my story, and it can be become my power! Loved it!
    • 5/5
      This book brought up a lot of things in my own past. It was meaningful. Especially the end when Oprah spoke about her mother. I lost my mom too. She didn't have an easy start in life. She was SO young when she had my older sister. My mom was only 17 then. Hard to be the ideal mom when you are just a kid yourself. I feel like the words in this book need to be heard by all and also re-listened to more than once... There is a lot to learn. I hope everyone that reads this experiences the healing they need... ❤
    • 5/5
      Everyone needs to hear or read. I not u who was abused or denied a healthy upbringing then u know someone who was. Listen to understand n heal.
    • 5/5
      Very moving and relevant to me. She o many things stated in the this book that helped me make sense of some experiences. It could be triggering for some, be prepared to FEEL. Have tissue available. Really enjoyed this book.
    • 5/5
      This is a must read for anyone interested or actively seeking inner healing. Understanding the origin of the problem is the first and critical step to finding the right solution or avenues to healing. Thanks for this work Oprah and Dr Perry!
    • 5/5
      If I could give this book 6 stars I would!

      This is a MUST read for any human being that dares to ask themselves "what happened to me". Thank you so much for your service to God and man, absolutely game changer in understanding our "what" and "why".
    • 5/5
      This really helped me to lessen my stress!thank you for writing this” If you have some great works like this one, you can publish it on Novel Star, just submit your story to hardy@novelstar.top or joye@novelstar.top
    • 5/5
      This was a really compelling listen, made all the more powerful by the fact it was narrated by Oprah and Dr. Perry themselves. I did not personally experience childhood trauma, but understanding the impact of trauma on a person’s life was revelatory. I sincerely believe I will relate better to people in my life now that I have a better understanding of this. It was highly impactful for me. Well done.
    • 2/5
      Oprah’s co-author makes unscientific assumptions about ADHD. Be aware of his background and claims.
    • 3/5
      Great book especially for parents and teachers of young children. But I am disappointed that they didn't include what we can actually Do with this knowledge so that we can heal from what happened to us. So in that way I feel that this book is very incomplete as far as being useful for adults.
    • 5/5
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    • 5/5
      This book saved my life, gave me hope, educated me, very easy to stay engaged with. I struggle with attention and focus, not here. I was hooked from the beginning !!! Thank you☀️♥️
    • 5/5
      The most fascinating guidebook to figure out how trauma has affected us as adults.
    • 5/5
      Powerful paradigm shift! So glad the two of you to kiss in the form - especially audio.
    • 5/5
      Paradigm shifter. Grace creator. Forgiveness teacher. Self awareness. The beginning of self love. This book has changed I see everything to the point that I want a hard copy in my home.
    • 5/5
      Wow wow wow, this book has changed the way I think about myself and my way of handling situations. I should be way more compassionate and towards myself.
    • 5/5
      This was an incredible book! Highly recommend for anyone who has experienced trauma and mental health professionals.
    • 5/5
      This book is amazing! Tears at the end . This book was so true and raw and real. Definite thumbs up!