Self Centered and Narcissistic Men: How to Spot Them and Handle Them
By Lyn Kelley
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New revised edition 2021! Lyn Kelley, Ph.D. has 25+ years experience as a licensed therapist and certified relationship coach who draws from her own experience and that of her clients to give you all the information you’ll ever need to know about self-centered and narcissistic men. You’ll learn how “bad” he is on a scale from 1–10. You’ll know all the early warning signs, why you’re attracted to him, how to respond to selfish behavior, the 11 questions you MUST ask up front, the 3 C’s to watch out for and the 3 R’s cure. If there is any hope for your self-centered man, this book will give you the ONLY strategies that work to turn him into a generous, caring, giving man.
Chapter 1: What’s the Difference Between Self-Centered and Narcissistic?
Diagnosis of Narcissistic Personality Disorder
Symptoms of Narcissistic Personality
Treatment of Narcissistic Personality
Chapter 2: How “Bad” Is He?
What Causes Selfishness?
Levels of Severity Continuum
Chapter 3: Early Warning Signs
How to Know if He’s “Workable”
Charm and Charisma
Don’t Be Impressed
Better to be Interested than Interesting
When to Leave Him Where You Found Him
Chapter 4: Why We Fall For Them
When Two Narcissists Attract
Patty Pleaser
The Need for Challenge
Alpha Males
Emotional Roller-Coaster Addiction
Chapter 5: Why Narcissists are Often Commitment-Phobic
Uncovering the Wolf
Learned Selfishness
Freedom and Choices
Conflicting Behaviors
Keep Things On Your Terms
How to Deal With Inconsistency and Ambivalence
Chapter 6: How to Respond to Selfish Behavior
Identify His Selfishness
11 Questions You MUST Ask
How to Deal With Dishonesty
Always Have a Getaway Plan
Use Bold, Honest, Straight Talk
Why You Must Have Standards
Let Him Be the Fixer
Watch Out for the 3 C’s
Have Some Non-Negotiables
Chapter 7: The Golden Boy
The Pedastalized Child
I’m God, I’m Garbage
Chapter 8: The Venture Capitalist
Dr. Know-It-All
Mr. Dodge
Mr. Metro-Sexual
Chapter 9: The 3 R’s Cure: Respect, Reality and Reciprocity
Co-dependency
Respect
Reality
Reciprocity
The Misogynist
Chapter 10: When and How to End it
Idealization and Fantasy
How to Tell Him
Chapter 11: Should I (we) Seek Help?
Can Therapy Help?
Dealing With Resistance
Lyn Kelley
As a Motivational Coach and Speaker, my goal is "to empower people move to the next level of success in their lives." Many people have asked for more information about me and why I am qualified to motivate others. So here's a little bit about me and how I got here. It all started back in Fresno, CA where I was born and raised. As a child I knew I had a calling to help people be happier and live better lives. I knew this because I was keenly observant of people. I observed people and how they lived their lives. At age 10 a friend's family invited me to a musical show called "Up With People!" This show had a major impact on me, and brought up my passion to help people be happier. Although my parents didn't care about my grades, I received all A's in school except I always failed Oral English. I couldn't get up in front of the class and speak. What kept me going in school was my desire for a career in the helping/teaching profession, so I could help others become more successful. The females in my family were discouraged from going to college, so higher education became my way of rebelling. I earned my B.A. in Education from CSU Fresno. During college I had some wonderful professors who took me under their wing and encouraged me to speak in class. I learned that I enjoyed teaching and actually had a gift that had previously been repressed. I went on to get my teaching credential and taught Jr. and Sr. High School for 7 years. I went from a shy little girl who couldn't speak in front of the class to a big girl who couldn't STOP speaking in front of the class! Teaching adolescents was an amazing experience! I found that I wanted to work with them more one-on-one, so I went back to college to become a counselor. I received my M.S. in Counseling/Psychology from the University of Miami and became licensed as a Marriage & Family Therapist. Initially I set out to get a wide range of experience. I worked in a children's psych hospital in dual diagnosis, managed a residential treatment program for severely emotionally disturbed teenage girls, conducted biofeedback therapy for a pain management center, and worked in social services in the areas of foster care, child abuse and family reunification. Once I became licensed I worked in a private counseling practice for 7 years. I specialized in relationship counseling. During this time I realized that coaching, writing and teaching were what I really loved to do, s...
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Self Centered and Narcissistic Men - Lyn Kelley
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Dr. Kelley tells it like it is. I’ve read all of her books on relationships and feel I have grown by leaps and bounds due to her honest, straight, real information. She writes like she is talking to her best friend. All the strategies I’ve used so far that she suggests have worked for me! I feel so much more confident in dating now, and I’m not wasting time with men who are wrong for me. This was worth more than 100 times the cost of the books to me. I highly recommend her books.
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Lyn Kelley has done a superlative job of explaining why people fail at their relationships and how they can stop this self-sabotage. She explains how to know which men are ‘manageable’ and which men are not. She gives concrete, simple ways to get even the most difficult men to surrender to you. She showed me how I was actually pushing men away from me rather than moving them toward me. I now know what I’ve been doing wrong and am committed to changing myself! I highly recommend this book.
--Michelle Rodriguez, Orlando, FL
Dr. Lyn explains the controlling and manipulative personality in a way that I could understand. I now know the tactics they use and will never again be taken by them! I feel much more confidant to stand up for myself now – not just with men but with anyone who tries to control or manipulate me. The tips I got were worth way more than the cost of this book.
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Self Centered and Narcissistic Men: How to Spot Them and Handle Them
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Dear Jane Series:
Book 1: The 12 Biggest Mistakes Women Make in Dating & Love Relationships
Book 2: How to Cure a Commitment-Phobic
Book 3: How to Turn a Player into a Stayer
Book 4: Controlling and Manipulative Men: How to Spot Them and Handle Them
Book 5: Self-Centered and Narcissistic Men: How to Spot Them and Handle Them
Book 6: Addicted Men – Drugs, Alcohol, Porn and More: How to Spot Them and Handle Them
Book 7: Low Achieving Men - Passives, Wimps, Dreamers: How to Spot Them and Handle Them
Book 8: Cheap Men: How to Spot Them and Handle Them
Book 9: Men who Lie and Cheat: How to Spot Them and Handle Them
Book 10: Emotionally Unavailable Men: How to Spot Them and Handle Them
Book 11: The Romantic Terrorist: Protect Yourself from Stalking, Harassment, Bullying and Threats
Book 12: How to Get Any Man You Want to Want YOU
Book 13: The 10 Biggest Mistakes Men Make in Dating & Love Relationships
Book 14: How to Break Up, Survive and Thrive
Book 15: Bad Dick, Good Jane: How Good Girls Get Bad Boys to Behave, Fall in Love and Commit
New Release!
Bad Dick, Good Jane:
How Good Girls Get Bad Boys to Behave, Fall in Love, and Commit
Other Self-Help Books by Lyn Kelley:
How to Stick With Your Diet & Exercise Program
How to Motivate People! The 3 Magic Keys to Unlock Anyone’s Hidden Motivation
The 7 Self-Sabotages: Why People Sabotage Themselves and How to Stop It
How to Become Your Own Life Coach in 12 Easy Steps
Stalking 101: Everything You Need to Know to Keep Yourself Safe
How to Motivate Yourself: Secrets of the Motivational Superstars
The Magic of Detachment: How to Detach from Other People and Their Problems
Thousands of Angels: Your Guide to Spiritual Empowerment, Peace and Abundance
One Day She Woke Up and Decided to be Brave: A Woman’s Journey from Fear to Courage
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Is He a Commitment Phobic?
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How to Stick With Your Diet and Exercise Program:
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Self-Centered and Narcissistic Men
How to Spot Them and Handle Them
By Lyn Kelley, Ph.D., MFT, CPC
Once upon a time, there was a boy called Narcissus. He was the son of a god and he was very, very handsome. Many women fell in love with him, but he turned them away. One of the women who loved Narcissus was a nymph called Echo. Echo could not speak properly - she could only repeat what was said to her, so she couldn't tell Narcissus that she loved him. One day, when Narcissus was walking in the woods with some friends, he became separated from them. He called out Is anyone here?
Echo replied Here, Here
. Echo stepped forward with open arms, wanting to cuddle him. But Narcissus refused to accept Echo's love. Echo was so