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    6 Effective Steps to Your Better Self
    6 Effective Steps to Your Better Self
    6 Effective Steps to Your Better Self
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    6 Effective Steps to Your Better Self

    By Jennifer Gentet

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    How much do you know yourself? When you think of who you are, how does it make you feel? Proud? Happy? Not so much? What are other people’s perceptions of you and how do you want to be perceived?

    We all need to search ourselves for our purpose—not just success, wealth or degrees, but to find our true selves and where we are best fitted. Many people live their lives with uncertainty. They walk through life blindfolded, chasing ghosts. Only when you discover and understand who you really are, will you know if you have
    surrounded yourself with the right people.

    This book is about regaining your self-worth and sense of purpose. It is divided into six steps that focus on topics important to your mental and emotional wellbeing and development. They are guidelines that will help you reinvent yourself to be your better self. Once there is life and good health, the most important thing is
    happiness. Though everyone’s definition of happiness may differ, in the end we all are in the pursuit of happiness. Happiness first begins from finding your better self.
    LanguageEnglish
    PublisherBookBaby
    Release dateDec 7, 2014
    ISBN9781483543994
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    6 Effective Steps to Your Better Self - Jennifer Gentet

    Confidence

    Have you ever taken a look in the mirror and asked yourself who am I? Most people have lost the sense of who they are, while some are yet to discover themselves. Given the circumstances, this may have happened perhaps after a professional failure; failing that exam after multiple sittings or failing to get that dream job after multiple interviews. Some may have used up all their life saving or lost money loaned from a bank to set up a business, and rather than the business growing, it fails. Maybe you lost the sense of who you are after encountering failure in your personal life such as a failed relationship or failed marriage, multiple criticism and rejection from others or a loss of a loved one.

    Have you ever found yourself day dreaming, wishing you were one of those great people with great accomplishments, and after a few seconds you shrug your shoulders and tell yourself to wake up from that little day dream? But here is the thing, what if I told you that all it takes is knowledge. Yes, the knowledge to understand that you have all it takes to achieve those goals and make your dreams a reality.

    A few months ago I was in a train taking a short trip from Paris (Gare de Montparnasse) to Tours, a city in the centre of France. Everyone had taken their seats and settled in. Just a few seconds before the train was scheduled to take off, a lady walked in. She looked beautiful, graceful and elegant. As she walked down the aisle towards her seat, I noticed some people on board were smiling at her; some were waving their hands, and some even stretched out their hands to try and get a handshake. The lady smiled back and reciprocated politely to everyone and took her seat. About fifteen minutes into our journey, I heard the voice of a girl speaking to the lady. The conversation was an eye opener and a lesson about discovering oneself. The conversation went like this:

    Girl: Oh my goodness is this really you? I am not dreaming; this train is really moving right? I am your biggest fan! I follow you on Twitter and Facebook. I can’t believe I am meeting you in person. You have just made my dreams come true.

    Lady: Thanks for your appreciation, but as a designer I make people’s dreams come true by designing that perfect outfit for their special events or ceremony, not just by meeting with them. So do you like fashion?

    Girl: Oh I don’t like fashion, I love fashion. I bath and breathe fashion. My biggest dream would have been to become an accomplished fashion designer like you. But that would be in the next life.

    Lady: Why do you say in your next life? What are doing with this life? Name a few great fashion designers you admire?

    Girl: (she named four designers) But it’s too late to become like those people, plus I am already doing something else with my life. (She shrugged her shoulders)

    Lady: Oh well, I like what you are wearing and your sense of style, where do you shop?

    Girl: You mean the outfit I am wearing? I made it. (She smiled softly).

    Lady: You made that outfit? Wow! It’s beautiful. You know, you could still pursue your dream of becoming an accomplished fashion designer, and if you work hard I see no reason why you can’t become like those you admire in fashion industry, or even greater. Someone like you who speaks so passionately and with great intelligence should never give up. It would be a waste of great potential if you didn’t pursue your dream.

    The girl glowed with pride and happiness at the lady’s praise and encouragement, and still had that look on her face when I dropped off the train. Sometimes we may feel lost and discouraged because of what we think are setbacks, but all you need is validation from a loved one, someone you trust or admire, from peers or from a book that can show you how. It could be just what you need to re-discover who you are.

    This book is about helping you regain yourself worth and sense of purpose. It is divided into six parts that focus on topics that are important to your mental and emotional wellbeing and development. They are guidelines that I believe will help you reinvent yourself to be your better self.

    Self assessment is the evaluation of oneself or one’s actions, attitudes or performance. It’s very important if you want to improve from where you are to the next level. Everyone is obliged to go through the process of self-assessment. How much do you know yourself? You should start by asking yourself: Who am I? Am I where I am supposed to be? Am I happy with my life? If not, why? What are other people’s perceptions of me and how do I want to be perceived?

    If you don’t know who you are, how then will you know if you are living your life’s purpose and doing what’s right for you. In life, if you don’t know what you stand for you will fall for anything. I believe that we all need to search ourselves for our purpose—not just success, wealth or degrees, but to find our true selves and where we are best fitted. Most people live their lives with uncertainty, while some do not understand themselves. When this happens, it is like walking through life with blind folds on, which is like chasing a ghost. That person may never get to fully enjoy all the good things that life has to offer.

    Life can be very complicated when one feels lost, which is why self-assessment and self-discovery is necessary. Only when you’ve discovered and understood who you really are, you will know if you have surrounded yourself with the right people. You probably hear people use the phrase: I saw something in you or there is something special about that person. So what do you see when you look in the mirror? Do you see yourself the same way others describe you to be, or do other people’s opinion differ from who you think you are? When you think of who you are how does it make you feel? Proud? Happy? Not so much?

    Everything we do can be learned. A habit is developed until it becomes a lifestyle. It’s important to understand that not everybody will positively validate you. Sometimes people may not always agree on your point of view or see things in same way you do, but that’s okay. The fact that everyone does not agree with you all the time does not necessarily mean you are wrong. In fact, your opinion may be valid or accurate, but not just valid to some. But that’s not always a bad thing because oftentimes uniqueness and authenticity creates greatness.

    I believe that nobody is perfect and no one is completely bad. Everybody has something special in them. What if you have something very special in you but you don’t know it yet? I have witnessed on several occasions where people are asked to describe who they are in a few words, and I noticed that they subconsciously start describing what they like and what they don’t like instead of describing who they are. This led me to thinking: could it be that these people don’t understand the difference between who they are and what they like? Or could it just be that they do not understand themselves? Would your answers be based on your own self-discoveries or the opinion of others? Who we are leads to what we like or what we don’t like.

    I remember when I was growing up; we had house guests or visitors often. Sometimes it would be my aunt dropping off my cousins in our home for few days during a school break, or my mother’s friends or her colleagues from work. At times, we would have family friends over for lunch after Sunday service. The house was never lonely or boring and my mother was a good host. I was raised in a household where discipline and good behaviour were constantly instilled in us. There were penalties if we made mistakes or were truant. So you can imagine how good it felt to be known as the good kid. As a kid, that was a great boost to my confidence. Being called a good kid was gold; it felt like a huge achievement. I enjoyed all the compliments so much that I started thinking of myself the way I was being defined. I started seeking for validation whenever I was around any of those people and I would try to be on my best behavior to impress them because I didn’t

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