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    Stalking 101
    Stalking 101
    Stalking 101
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    Stalking 101

    By Mary June Makoul and Lyn Kelley

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    According to Dr. Michelle Ward, Criminal Psychologist and narrator of the hit TV reality show “Stalked: Someone’s Watching You,” over three million people a year are stalked, over two-thirds of them women. Ninety percent of women killed by husbands or boyfriends had first been stalked. The U.S. Department of Justice estimates that one in 10 women and one in 35 men in the U.S. have been or will be stalked sometime in the future. Among celebrities and other high-profile people alone, the statistics are staggering, and are on the increase. This book is written for everyone – it doesn’t matter if you’re male or female, gay or straight, young or old, large or small. Bullying, stalking, harassment, revenge and threatening behaviors by someone you know can happen to anyone – and it’s probably already happened to you. We focus predominantly on “romantic” relationships, but these principles apply to anyone in your life. For example, many people have been victims of harassment by neighbors, coworkers, bosses, teachers, friends, acquaintances, family members, strangers and hired help. It is not uncommon to suffer harassment by someone you barely know, or someone you’ve never met – someone who has been watching you and/or studying you without your knowledge (as in Celebrity Stalking). Our main goal in this book is to assist you in becoming more aware of when someone is controlling, manipulating, harassing, bullying, stalking or threatening you, and empower you to respond in ways that will protect you. Controlling, manipulative, and/or threatening behaviors often turn into turn violence. If you find yourself in a situation with any of these types of people, you will learn how to manage them and yourself. Some of the chapters included are:
    --The Rejected Lover
    --Is it Love or Obsession?
    --Controlling and Manipulative Ploys
    --Dr. Jekyll -- Mr. Hyde Types
    --The Romantic Bully
    --Emotional Blackmail
    --Cyberstalking and Spying
    --Handling Dangerous Situations
    --Protective Orders and Legal Action
    --Best Strategies to Stop the Insanity!
    --Post-Traumatic Stress
    --Battered Persons' Syndrome
    --Effective Formula for Conflict Resolution
    --De-Escalation Training
    --Grieving, Moving On and Thriving
    --Positive Affirmations and New Commitments
    We walk you through the entire process and give you our best strategies and advice every step of the way. Only YOU can implement it, and our hope is that you WILL.

    LanguageEnglish
    PublisherMary June Makoul
    Release dateJan 21, 2015
    ISBN9781311178190
    Stalking 101
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    Mary June Makoul

    Mary June Makoul, CPCMary June is a collaborative, solution-focused Certified Professional Coach,Marketing Consultant and Author living in San Diego and working with a broadspectrum of clients. As a Professional Life Coach, Ms. Makoul works with individuals fromall walks of life to help attain their goals in all areas including relationships,career, finance, health and more. For more information, please visit www.maryjunemakoul.com.

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    Stalking 101 - Mary June Makoul

    Thank You for purchasing this E-book!

    Stalking 101

    Authors, Mary June Makoul, CPC and Lyn Kelley, Ph.D., CPC

    Certified Professional Coaches

    "Our mission is to provide understanding, comfort, knowledge,

    wisdom and personal power in relationships."

    What others are saying about this book:

    I am 22 years old and I was being stalked by a man twice my age. I was always afraid to confront him, so I was always too nice. But after I checked out this book, I found a new confidence, and learned that my behavior wasn’t helping the situation. Thanks for this informative and inspirational book…it helped me get rid of my stalker, and regain my life.

    --Marsha Lawrence, Dayton, OH

    It has been a great comfort to me to finally feel relief (and armed with great strategies) after reading Stalking 101. Keep up the good work and thanks for having it for the people who are victims of stalkers.

    --Miguel Rodriguez, Miami, FL

    This is a great book. I work in in Law Enforcement assisting victims of crime and see the serious harm that stalking can do and does to people. Stalking 101 provides compelling information and in depth profiles of stalkers. This book provides compassionate insights for victims — with an important emphasis on legal issues. For victims this book can be a light at the end of the tunnel. I urge everyone to read this book.

    --Robert Sullenberger, Newark, NJ

    I was stalked and bullied by a very controlling man. I now know the tactics they use and will never again be taken by them! Now I know how to protect myself – not just with men but with anyone who tries to control or manipulate me. The tips I got were worth way more than the cost of this book.

    --Kristin Anne, San Diego, CA

    Published by Mary June Makoul and Lyn Kelley and distributed at www.Smashwords.com

    Copyright 2013 Mary June Makoul and Lyn Kelley

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    Stalking 101:

    Everything You Need to Know to Keep Yourself Safe!

    By Lyn Kelley, Ph.D., and Mary June Makoul, CPC

    TABLE OF CONTENTS

    Introduction

    Chapter One: What is Stalking?

    The Psychology of Stalking

    Types of Stalkers

    Chapter Two: Celebrity Stalking

    How Celebrities Can Protect Themselves

    Chapter Three: Stalkers Are Always Controlling

    The Two Main Types of Control

    The Misogynist

    The Controlling Scale

    Chapter Four: Tactics They Use to Scare You

    Controlling and Manipulative Ploys

    Controlling Behaviors That Are Typically More Female

    Tactics Used to Scare You

    Chapter Five: The Mind of the Stalker

    Rejection

    Dr. Jekyll – Mr. Hyde Personality

    Chapter Six: How to Protect Yourself

    How to Protect Yourself in a Dangerous Situation

    What to Do If You Are Being Stalked

    Stalking Restraining Orders

    How to De-Escalate the Situation

    7 Steps to De-Escalation

    Chapter Seven: How to Put a Stop to the Stalker

    Create a Safety Plan

    The Stalker Ex-Boyfriend and Ex-Girlfriend – True Stories

    Chapter Eight: Cyberstalking

    The Use of Technology to Stalk

    Telephone Technologies

    Location & Surveillance Technologies

    How to Locate a GPS On your Car

    Computer and Internet Technology

    Technology Safety

    Chapter Nine: How to Stop the Cycle

    Never Tolerate Abuse

    Chapter 10: How to Heal and Move On

    The 7 Worst Things You Can Do

    7 Ways to Move On

    Post-Traumatic Stress

    Battered Person’s Syndrome

    The Grieving Process

    INTRODUCTION

    Stalking is a very real problem for at least 3.4 million Americans every year. Until recently, the news spotlighted celebrity cases. But the majority of stalking victims are not public figures. They’re ordinary people like you and me.

    According to Dr. Michelle Ward, Criminal Psychologist and narrator of the hit TV reality show Stalked: Someone’s Watching You, over three million people a year are stalked, over two-thirds of them women. Ninety percent of women killed by husbands or boyfriends had first been stalked. The U.S. Department of Justice estimates that one in 10 women and one in 35 men in the U.S. have been or will be stalked sometime in the future. Among celebrities and other high-profile people alone, one security company has amassed over 300,000 communications. These statistics are staggering, and are on the increase.

    Most statutes define stalking as the willful, malicious and repeated following and harassing of another person. In addition to a pattern of conduct, many state laws mandate that an imminent, credible threat of violence be made against the victim for the activity to be considered stalking.

    While many stalkers don’t attack, the threat of violence is usually inferred. A threat doesn’t require words. A hand that’s pointed at you in the shape of a gun conveys a message that’s loud and clear, especially if it follows ominous correspondence or telephone calls. A bouquet of black roses delivered to your door, a dead animal received in the mail, or a photograph with your image crossed out can also communicate the same sentiment.

    Even those victims who aren’t physically harmed suffer tremendously in terms of fear, anxiety and the disruption of their daily lives. Unfortunately, victims simply don’t know what to do when confronted with being stalked. Neither does law enforcement nor the judicial system. Why? Because, in many cases, stalkers successfully terrorize their victims without ever breaking the law.

    While there are different kinds of stalking, invariably the stalker tries to establish a cult dynamic of one. It’s a power and control trip through which the stalker tries to distort the victim’s sense of reality. In many ways, stalking is like a rape that goes on and on.

    Our goal in writing this book is to protect people

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