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    Soul Vampires: Reclaiming Your Lifeblood After Narcissistic Abuse
    Soul Vampires: Reclaiming Your Lifeblood After Narcissistic Abuse
    Soul Vampires: Reclaiming Your Lifeblood After Narcissistic Abuse
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    Soul Vampires: Reclaiming Your Lifeblood After Narcissistic Abuse

    By Andrea Schneider

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    Are you in an abusive relationship? Are you feeling used and discarded by someone? Have you been hurt by a selfish, self-serving individual? If so, maybe you’ve been taken by a narcissist. This book can help you get past the hurt-- and heal-- providing a blueprint for moving forward with your life to a place of renewed strength and wellness. Andrea Schneider MSW, LCSW, an expert psychotherapist who has helped thousands overcome narcissistic abuse over her decades-long career, shows you the path forward to rising above and thriving.
    LanguageEnglish
    PublisherBookBaby
    Release dateSep 21, 2015
    ISBN9781483559100
    Soul Vampires: Reclaiming Your Lifeblood After Narcissistic Abuse

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    • 5/5
      Insightful read. Definitely helpful to me on my healing journey
    • 5/5
      The best book I’ve read explaining toxic relationships. Helped with my recovery




    • 3/5
      The book has helpful info but, like many others, it only helps if the MN is someone you have the option of walking away from. if it's someone in your family and you are still a minor or just have no way of cutting them out of your life, it offers no helpful advice or coping skills. The author seems to assume the MN is a romantic partner. Though, obviously no contact is the ideal way of handling a MN when ever possible.

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    • 1/5
      well that the biggest load of crap I've read in a while. The idea that narcissists are formed by abuse and neglect and people who manage to avoid being narcissists do so because of an intervening nurturing influence is so wildly dumb that I can't even begin to wrap my head around that. I guess I'm doomed to be a narcissist because my childhood sucked, and I'm only not a narcissist because someone else gave my comfort in my childhood. JFC. If this were true everyone coming out of abusive environments without someone to look out for them would be a narcissist. And people who actually did have a nurturing influence would then never turn out to be narcissists. That makes so little sense I can't believe it.

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    Soul Vampires - Andrea Schneider

    ISBN: 9781483559100

    Copyright 2015 by Andrea Schneider, LCSW

    For Bryan, Brendan and Graham, my loves and good men.

    Table of Contents

    Acknowledgements

    Introduction

    Types of Narcissism — the Spectrum of the Soul Vampire

    How Do People Become Narcissists?

    Signs You’re Dealing With a Malignant Narcissist

    The Course of a Relationship With a Narcissist

    Narcissist’s Toolbox

    What Do You Do for a Narcissist? How Are You Used?

    Healing From Narcissistic Abuse

    Stepping Away From an Abusive Relationship

    How to Deal (Or Not) With a Malignant Narcissist

    Moving Into Healing and Recovery

    How to Get Help

    Narcissists in Different Environments

    Helpful Resources

    From Survivor to Thriver: A Workbook for Ongoing Healing from Narcissistic Abuse

    Affirmations

    About the Author

    Acknowledgements

    This book would not have been possible without the support, editing, guidance and patience of my husband, Bryan Schneider. I am profoundly grateful for his steadfast writing/editing/marketing expertise. Above all, I am so fortunate to be in a long-term relationship with a healthy individual. I am also grateful for the patience of my sons during this process of writing.

    I would like to thank the countless clients who have courageously shared their stories with me and embarked upon the healing journey. I also would like to thank colleagues Kristin Walker of everythingEHR.com; Michelle Mallon, MSW of Ohio State University; and Christine Louis de Canonville, therapist specializing in narcissistic abuse recovery, for their continual support and encouragement for this work.

    Introduction

    ‘I am in love with you,’ I responded. He laughed the most beguiling and gentle laugh. ‘Of course you are,’ he replied. ‘I understand perfectly because I’m in love with myself. The fact that I’m not transfixed in front of the nearest mirror takes a great deal of self-control.’ It was my turn to laugh. Anne Rice, Blackwood Farm

    You ended up finding this book because you are scratching your head, wondering what on earth just happened. You fell madly in love and experienced the highest highs anyone could attain. You were infatuated with your lover, and s/he was so into you. The sex was out-of-this-world.

    We’ll call this dream lover Beau. Beau promised you the moon and the stars and the universe, too. But ever so slightly, you began to notice the subtle changes that announced the honeymoon was over.

    At first, he takes a day or two to return a call. Then, a few days become a week or more. He cancels dates and romantic weekends.

    I’m too busy, he says. Work is so crazy. Over time you uncover more and more lies or exaggerations Beau has told you about his life, livelihood and accomplishments. And before you can ask more questions, he is gone. Vanished. Without a trace. It’s as if it were a dream. You are left holding the shards of your soul, shattered into a million pieces.

    You may feel torn apart by this seeming rejection. As if you’ve been

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