A Couples Handbook: Understanding and Negotiating Relationships
By Melanie Jane
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Relationships can be one of the most rewarding, loving and fulfilling experiences a human being can have in their lives. But they can also be the most painful, destructive and devastating as well. In our lifetime we may experience both sides of relationships, feeling the highs of being loved and appreciated or the lows of feeling unloved and taken for granted. But whatever our experience of relationships, the question most of us ask ourselves at some stage or another is what makes a relationship work and what doesnt?
A Couples Handbook: Understanding and Negotiating Relationships, provides couples with a psychological awareness about why we create the relationships we do and a guide to help change and navigate through them. It acknowledges that for our relationships to work well they require our time, patience and the dynamic power of our positive volition. Demonstrating that through the process of alchemy and our willingness to let go, we have a pathway to transform our negative thoughts, emotions and conditioning and reclaim the freedom to be ourselves and thrive in our relationships and lives. In sharing clear insights, practical tools and examples this book serves to remind us that through taking responsibility for ourselves and understanding each other (interweaving the I and We energies), we can help create a sacred union and live in happier, more fulfilling and balanced relationships together in love and gratitude.Melanie Jane
Melanie is passionate about understanding relationships and the psyche. The driving force within her work is to reawaken our conscious alignment to honouring and serving the holographic vision of love and gratitude within our lives and relationships. She presently resides in Margaret River, Western Australia with her daughter.
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A Couples Handbook - Melanie Jane
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ISBN: 978-1-4525-0226-7 (sc)
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Balboa Press rev. date: 09/02/2011
Contents
ACKNOWLEDGEMENTS
INTRODUCTION
FALLING IN LOVE
PROJECTION
ATTACHMENT
LETTING GO
LETTING GO - THE PROCESS
COMMUNICATION
DATES OR DATE NIGHTS
SACRED SEX
SYMBOLS, RITUAL AND CEREMONY
AFTERWORD
FURTHER READING
ABOUT THE AUTHOR
In Loving Memory Of
Norah and Ted
(13.10.1918-15.08.2010) (20.11.1918-10.04.2003)
Nan and Pop
Soul mates who loved,
loved us and will always be loved.
The Heart Knows The Way
The power of love,
Will always display.
The weakness of ego,
The control it betrays.
Ego let’s us believe,
That the ‘I’ knows the way.
It proclaims to the world,
I know what I say!
However I know now,
That this is a lie.
A falsehood created,
To live lifeless and die.
So I now trust my heart,
It knows the way.
If I’m patient and listen,
It will teach me and say:
Love is the answer,
Love is the key.
When it calls you to action,
Flow with it, be free.
Don’t question it’s motives,
Let it show you the way.
For it will move mountains,
Creating miracles each day.
Flow with it with fierceness,
With passion, with strength.
Follow wherever it leads,
With unconditional intent.
For this is the way,
To peace and joy in your life.
It will lead you to freedom,
And end all your strife.
It will show you that logic,
Does not understand.
The magnitude of wisdom,
That we know as man.
So it is with my solemn promise,
That I commit to my heart.
I will follow and be devoted too,
My greater part.
And I will know in the experience,
Of each moment of now.
That love is enough,
And it always knows how.
Melanie Jane
ACKNOWLEDGEMENTS
‘Heavenly Father and Divine Mother, thank you for loving, guiding, protecting and blessing me’. Amen.
This book is for my children Raphael, Matao, Isabella and my stepson Creed. Thank you for always inspiring me to find the strength to align to my truth and live my potential. I am honoured by the gifts you have given me and my love for you is beyond what words can express.
I would like to extend my love and gratitude to my dear friend Paula (and her husband Mark and boys) whose unconditional friendship has enabled me to write this book.
I would also like to appreciate from my heart my wonderful family and friends for their unwavering and ongoing love and support throughout my life.
Finally, to the two significant men who have shared part of my life journey so far, thank you for giving me the opportunity to learn about myself and to learn about relationships.
INTRODUCTION
Simplicity is the key
Relationships can be one of the most rewarding, loving and fulfilling experiences a human being can have in their lives. But they can also be the most painful, destructive and devastating as well. In our lifetime we may experience both sides of relationships, feeling the highs of being loved and appreciated or the lows of feeling unloved and taken for granted.
Whatever the case may be for you, the reality for most people is that they have difficulty living in and dealing with relationships. More often than not, people are at their wit’s end and unhappy in their relationships because they don’t know how they work or how to change them. Similarly, on the other hand people are often equally as unhappy and fearful of not being in a relationship at all. For some there seems to be something almost heroic about being in and fighting for a dysfunctional relationship, rather than facing their terror of being alone. I believe this is because we are essentially social beings, instinctively wired with a need to connect and interact with each other.
‘So what makes a relationship work and