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    Be Authentic: Three Keys to Unlocking Your True Potential
    Be Authentic: Three Keys to Unlocking Your True Potential
    Be Authentic: Three Keys to Unlocking Your True Potential
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    Be Authentic: Three Keys to Unlocking Your True Potential

    By Elaine K. Harding

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    Do you often feel hopeless, depressed, angry, or anxious? You may be stuck in the trap of the blame game mind.

    If so, its time to challenge your minds habitual negative thought programs about who you truly believe yourself to be. Be Authentic offers a gentle and humorous guide to reconnecting with your authentic self. Once you have the keys to unlocking your self-critical and life-limiting stories, you can be free from their ability to control your life. By accessing the hard-earned lessons of her own life, author Elaine K. Harding seeks to help you break free of your own destructive patterns. You will gain insights and learn practices for developing healthy emotional expression and self-acceptance.

    The power to live more authentically can be yours. You can reset habits of emotional repression to full and healthy expression of your feelings, reconnect to your authentic self by letting go of your limiting and judgemental stories, and release your expectations about yourself and the worldso you can truly be free.

    If you are in search of your authentic self, then this book may help you find it.
    Kelli Harris, psychologist

    LanguageEnglish
    PublisherBalboa Press AU
    Release dateAug 13, 2013
    ISBN9781452511108
    Be Authentic: Three Keys to Unlocking Your True Potential
    Author

    Elaine K. Harding

    Elaine K. Harding, PhD, is a business consultant, career coach, and presenter on Authentic Leadership - which she describes as the art of “being real.” She currently lives in Australia.

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      Book preview

      Be Authentic - Elaine K. Harding

      Copyright © 2013 Elaine K. Harding, PhD

      All rights reserved. No part of this book may be used or reproduced by any means, graphic, electronic, or mechanical, including photocopying, recording, taping or by any information storage retrieval system without the written permission of the publisher except in the case of brief quotations embodied in critical articles and reviews.

      Balboa Press books may be ordered through booksellers or by contacting:

      Balboa Press

      A Division of Hay House

      1663 Liberty Drive

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      www.balboapress.com.au

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      ISBN: 978-1-4525-1109-2 (sc)

      ISBN: 978-1-4525-1110-8 (e)

      Because of the dynamic nature of the Internet, any web addresses or links contained in this book may have changed since publication and may no longer be valid. The views expressed in this work are solely those of the author and do not necessarily reflect the views of the publisher, and the publisher hereby disclaims any responsibility for them.

      The author of this book does not dispense medical advice or prescribe the use of any technique as a form of treatment for physical, emotional, or medical problems without the advice of a physician, either directly or indirectly. The intent of the author is only to offer information of a general nature to help you in your quest for emotional and spiritual well-being. In the event you use any of the information in this book for yourself, which is your constitutional right, the author and the publisher assume no responsibility for your actions.

      Any people depicted in stock imagery provided by Thinkstock are models,

      and such images are being used for illustrative purposes only.

      Certain stock imagery © Thinkstock.

      Balboa Press rev. date: 09/09/2013

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      Contents

      Acknowledgements

      Introduction The Flow of Being Authentic

      Chapter 1 The Judgemental K(not)s that Limit the Flow

      Chapter 2 Key 1 – Reset Move from Rejection to Acceptance of Your Emotions and Experiences

      You Have to Feel to Heal

      An Empathic Welcome Mat

      Call Off the Search Party

      Accender

      Practices for Chapter 2

      Chapter 3 Key 2 – Reconnect:Claim Your Authentic Being

      Embrace Dignity

      Value Yourself, Value Others

      Strategies Are K(not) Needs

      Be Real, Act with Zeal

      Carry Tissues and a Wrench

      Practices for Chapter 3

      Chapter 4 Key 3 – Release:Let Go to Let Your Authentic Life Flow

      Trust

      Life Is But a Dream!

      Be Naked, Be Forgiving

      Life Is a Flow, Let It All Go

      Practices for Chapter 4

      Chapter 5 Living an Authentic Life

      About the Author

      Bibliography

      This book is dedicated to my dear sister Rachele, whose life and death inspired me to recognise that the authentic source of abundance is within and

      ever present.

      Standing naked

      atop a glacier,

      Sun soft on my face

      Fear below, sky unblue

      Freedom

      —Elaine K. Harding

      It takes

      courage

      to grow up

      and become

      who you really are.

      —e.e. cummings

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      Acknowledgements

      The beginnings of this book arrived in my heart early in 2009, like seeds being planted in my subconscious. As the year progressed, the person I had imagined myself to be dissolved into an unrecognizable heap of ashes. And within that fertile ground, the seeds remained unharmed. As my mind and body healed, these seeds took root and grew quietly and strongly until I was ready to allow their wisdom to pour forth into this book. For this experience, for my constantly unfolding and amazing life, and for the guidance and ever-present love from the Divine Source—for all these I am deeply grateful.

      My journey back to my authentic self was accelerated by my interactions with, and learning from, Marshall B. Rosenberg, Chöygal Namkhai Norbu, and all of my dharma friends. To my dear friends Kelly Barry, Mary Wagner, Ruth Zee, Dammika Pereira, Rod Marland, Rosemary Hill, Jacqui Balston, and Nerissa Brandenberger, I am forever thankful for all of your encouragement, strength, and immense kindness over the years.

      My partner Harry inspires me with his laughter and enduring love, and I am deeply grateful to him for his support in allowing me to live my dreams. And my sincere appreciation also goes to my brother, Greg Harding, who maintained a belief in me even when I temporarily could not.

      I am thankful to the following people who generously gave of their time in reading the early drafts of this book: Ruth Zee, Jill Knell, and Kelli Harris. And thanks to the editor at Balboa Press and to my editor, Glyn Davies, who was able to discipline and bring to life any badly behaved words that I had written.

      I also appreciate the support and advice given by the staff at Balboa Press and to Christine Kloser, the inspirational host of the Transformational Author series whose enthusiasm ignited in me a desire to publish this book so that others may find their way home again.

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      INTRODUCTION

      The Flow of Being Authentic

      I sense that you and I both yearn for the same ultimate experience: for our lives to be a constant flow of love, trust, and joy. However, our daily realities don’t always seem to meet this higher expectation, and you, like me, have probably felt a strong urge to work out why. Then you picked up this book, wondering if it might just give you a few clues.

      My wish for you in reading this book is that you will begin to fully experience an authentic life—a life filled with an uninterrupted flow of love, trust, and joy. As children, we experienced this flow as naturally as the sun shines down on the earth. A feeling of love and acceptance moved naturally through our hearts and minds, and if anything interrupted it, we would cry, shout, and let our feelings out and then be back to being in the flow again.

      Throughout this book, I use the terms being authentic and the flow of an authentic life to express the deeper energetic connection that comes from surrendering to and enjoying what is present in this moment of now. Of course, what is present may feel pleasurable, but other times it may not. Authenticity does not equal pleasure; rather, it points towards a more profound acceptance of the movement of life and its continual state of change as applied to our mental, physical, and emotional worlds. It’s about a sense of strong alignment with the truth of the moment.

      The strongest influence on our current sense of well-being and acceptance is our past and, in particular, how we learned to conceptualise our experiences when we were children. When we were very young, we experienced the delightful present moment as a never-ending flow of positive energy; therefore, any events that appeared to stop this flow had a strong impact on us. Around these events we began to create stories that reflected what each of us believed could be the cause of the bad feeling, or what I call the k(not) in our flow—the story that says this should not be happening. Our minds always attempt to make sense of life and, if we are troubled, our minds try to soothe us with stories. For example, in childhood, we’d say things like Johnny is being selfish, or Kim is bad-tempered, or even I must be bad because I talk too much in class. The story or label helped us justify what was happening, and then we could get back to life again.

      Those simple stories that we began telling ourselves, and the ones that others in our immediate families told us, reinforced the view that objects external to us and our own behaviours, were the cause of the flow stopping. Our minds filed away these stories, especially those with a strong emotional content. Now, in the present, their essential features are remembered even more than the incident that provoked them in the past. For example, when I was nine years old, I saw a brown bear for the first time while camping with my best friend’s family. The feeling associated with it was excitement and awe, and I can still feel those emotions when I think about the incident today, although I can’t recall much about the event’s details. My story about that incident is this: Seeing bears is an exciting and awe-inspiring experience.

      Although my story about this particular bear may have been true, does that mean that every future experience with a bear would be the same for me? For about ten years after that initial encounter, I had several more exciting experiences when seeing bears, so my mind continued to reinforce my story. Then my experiences began to change. When I took up backpacking around the age of twenty, I became annoyed by the theft of my precious food by the mongrel bears! The story had changed. It now became: Bears are menaces, and I would rather not have them nearby.

      So, stories can reinforce a certain feeling in us even before we experience a future event. This occurs because of the link between our stories’ content and particular emotions, especially the stronger and more negatively charged emotions, such as anger, fear, and depression. These create very deep connections to our stories.

      The

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