How to Be Successful without Hurting Men's Feelings: Non-threatening Leadership Strategies for Women
By Sarah Cooper
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Chapters include, among others, “9 Non-threatening Leadership Strategies for Women,” "How to Ace Your Job Interview Without Over-acing It," and “Choose Your Own Adventure: Do You Want to Be Likable or Successful?” It even includes several pages to doodle on while men finish what they're saying. Each chapter also features an exercise with a set of "inaction items" designed to challenge women to be less challenging.
And, when all else fails, a set of wearable mustaches is included to allow women to seem more man-like. This will cancel out any need to change their leadership style. In fact, it may even lead to a quick promotion!
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Reviews for How to Be Successful without Hurting Men's Feelings
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- Rating: 5 out of 5 stars5/5Hilarious. Left my laptop open on specific pages so I could show them to my male roommates without being too threatening. I wish the layout was portrayed better in eBook format, though.
- Rating: 5 out of 5 stars5/5I loved this book. It made me laugh so many times or nod my head in agreement. Which, honestly is depressing because it shows how terrible men can be in the workplace. I’d recommend every woman get her boyfriend, husband, male boss, guy she sees on the bus to read this book!
- Rating: 5 out of 5 stars5/5I read one reviewer of this book that thought it was bad feminism to give strategies for succeeding by making men happy. One has to wonder if that reviewer even read the book. It is so evident the writer has her tongue planted firmly in her cheek that an individual would have to be lacking subtlety and humor of any sort not to get it. That said, I enjoyed the book. There were many quotable places and a lot of stuff made me laugh. Additional features like buttons to hand out to men who manage to just be decent people for a few minutes, and fake mustaches to wear when you need respect add to the fun. There are also the funny exercises and worksheets that accompany each chapter. Overall, a winner.
Book preview
How to Be Successful without Hurting Men's Feelings - Sarah Cooper
What’s the worst part of being a woman in business?
We asked these three men what they think.
table of
contents
INTRODUCTION
No Feelings Were Harmed While Writing This Book
1: DREAMS
How to Ace Your Job Interview Without Over-acing It
2: COMMUNICATION
How to Talk Like a Man but Still Be Seen as a Woman
3: AMBITION
How to Advance Your Career Without Shoving It in Everyone’s Face
4: AUTHENTICITY
How to Bring Your True Self to Work and Then Hide It Completely
5: DIVERSITY
An Honest Look at Diversity in the Tech Industry
6: LEADERSHIP
Non-threatening Leadership Strategies for Women
BREAK
A Few Blank Pages to Doodle on When Men Are Explaining Things
7: NEGOTIATION
Gaslighting for Beginners
8: HARASSMENT
How to Be Harassed Without Hurting His Career
9: SUCCESS
Choose Your Own Adventure: Do You Want to Be Likeable or Successful?
10: ALLIES
Men’s Achievement Stickers
11: ENTREPRENEURSHIP
The Perfect Pitch Deck for the Kickass Lady Boss
12: SELF-CARE
How to Relax While Still Completely Stressing Yourself Out
CONCLUSION
Be Threatening
SPECIAL THANKS
introduction
No Feelings Were Harmed While Writing This Book
When I started to write How to Be Successful Without Hurting Men’s Feelings, my biggest fear was that my book would be successful and hurt men’s feelings. After all, that was the last thing I wanted to do.
You see, every morning I wake up and ask myself the same question: How dare I?
How dare I seek opportunities? How dare I speak up? How dare I know stuff? How dare I tell a man he’s wrong? How dare I tell a man he’s right? He’s a man! He knows he’s right!
Asking myself these questions every day has given me the strength I need to take all my hopes and dreams and push them deep, deep down inside where they can only be seen in the glimmer of my eye when I get too angry to talk.
But sometimes that glimmer is too bright and that’s not good either. Because you know what’s more precious than my hopes and dreams? A man’s ego.
A man’s ego must be protected at all cost.
But Sarah, you ask, what if a man is about to make a horrible mistake, one that could kill him? Shouldn’t I interject then?
No. You shouldn’t.
Take the story of Mary. One evening, Mary was riding in a car with her coworker, Steve, on their way to a company offsite. It was early evening and Steve had forgotten to turn on his headlights. Mary kindly said, Your lights aren’t on.
Steve laughed slightly and turned them on. Mary was relieved that Steve was such a good sport about it and they went on to have a very pleasant and expectedly useless team bonding experience.
The ride home was not as easy.
Driving back, Steve made the same mistake and forgot to turn his headlights on. This time, Mary hesitated before correcting him, especially since there were other coworkers in the car this time. But after a few seconds of thought she figured correcting him was the safest thing to do for everyone involved. I’m sure you can imagine what happened next. Mary told Steve to turn on his headlights, the coworkers in the backseat laughed at Steve’s mistake, Steve became flustered, embarrassed and momentarily blinded by rage, ran a stop sign, and T-boned an SUV. Fortunately, everyone survived. Unfortunately, everyone blamed Mary for causing the accident.
Coworkers taunted her for trying to tell Steve how to drive. Mary tried to defend herself by insisting she did the right thing.
But Mary did the wrong thing. The very wrong thing.
If you have the choice between saving a man’s ego or