Everyday Miracles: Holy Moments in a Mother's Day
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These touching reflections of a young mother’s hopes, dreams, and struggles offer personal insight into the special bond between mother and child. Often surprised by the miraculous in an ordinary day, Dale Hanson Bourke shares observations that will touch the hearts of countless mothers who need a lift during the demanding and important chores they juggle.
Everyday Miracles lets us rediscover the joys God has given us—that we sometimes lose sight of when we feel a little too busy—and puts us back in touch with the amazing love that lies at the heart of motherhood.
Dale Hanson Bourke
Dale Hanson Bourke is president of the CIDRZ Foundation supporting women's health in Africa. She spent 20 years as a marketing/publishing executive, wrote a syndicated newspaper column, authored eight books, and served on several international boards. Dale and her husband, Tom, have two sons.
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Everyday Miracles - Dale Hanson Bourke
Introduction
Somewhere among the dishes and diapers, the runny noses and carpool lines are glimpses of grace. These are the moments when God reaches into our everyday lives and—if we let him—performs miracles. He takes muddy little hands and transforms them into instruments of love. He empowers stumbling bedtime prayers with eternal wisdom. And some days he even makes McDonald’s seem like a cathedral.
These are holy moments. They are precious and sacred and rare. And too often, in our rush to be good mothers, we forget to stop and treasure these gifts. But when we do, we are humbled by the awesome discovery that God gave us children not so much for us to teach, but so we can learn.
I once had a photography teacher who shot what he called suburban landscapes. At first I was unimpressed with his work. It consisted of black and white photos of garbage cans, swing sets, and cookie-cutter houses.
But as I came to understand his point of view, I began to see the beauty in the photos: the symmetry of the garbage cans, the simplicity of the swing set, the subtle contrasts among the similarities of the houses. The photos which had seemed unimpressive became works of art.
As a mother, I live in those suburban landscapes. I can look at my days and see nothing but chaos, or I can stop and really appreciate them. Sometimes what I see among the clutter and confusion takes my breath away. In the midst of it all, there is a beauty that transcends the ordinary.
God speaks to some people through a majestic mountain or a perfect rose. But in my life he speaks through broken toys and handprints on my walls.
I write about what I know. These are not extraordinary events, and I am not an extraordinary mother. I lose my patience far too often. My words don’t match my actions. My children are not the best behaved, and they often wear mismatched clothes.
Despite all of this, perhaps because of it, we are learning, growing, and discovering more about ourselves and God each day. These discoveries are everyday miracles. Ordinary, but life-changing. Basic, but holy.
Did I see the holiness in these moments as they occurred? Sometimes. In those cases, like a photographer, I simply pointed my camera and recorded the scene. But in most cases I was just going about my life, and it took a mental replay to see the grace of a simple scene. Sometimes I did not see the lesson at all. But as I sat to write in my journal, the words came together. I would read in amazement the words that appeared on the page, just as a photographer is often surprised by the developing image.
I wrote some of these stories for my column in Today’s Christian Woman magazine, but most I wrote because the writing itself helped me take a new look at my life as a mother. I have arranged them in this book roughly as the events occurred, except for the first, which is one of the most recent. As I reread some of my earliest accounts, I almost laugh at what I thought I knew. In a few years, I expect to laugh at what I’m writing now.
I share these events with you because I want you to see that holy moments are there in your home, too, waiting to be appreciated. They are there every day for the taking.
Marcel Proust once said, The real voyage of discovery consists not in seeking new landscapes, but having new eyes.
I wish you new eyes to see and new ears to hear the holy moments in your own life.
1
It Will Change
Your Life
Time is running out for my friend. We are sitting at lunch when she casually mentions that she and her husband are thinking of starting a family.
What she means is that her biological clock has begun its countdown and she is being forced to consider the prospect of motherhood.
We’re taking a survey,
she says, half joking. Do you think I should have a baby?
It will change your life,
I say carefully, keeping my tone neutral.
I know,
she says. No more sleeping in on Saturdays, no more spontaneous vacations…
But that is not what I mean at all. I look at my friend, trying to decide what to tell her. I want her to know what she’ll never learn in childbirth classes. I want to tell her that the physical wounds of childbearing heal, but that becoming a mother will leave her with an emotional wound so raw that she will be forever vulnerable.
I want to tell her that
becoming a mother will leave her
with an emotional wound so raw
that she will be forever vulnerable.
I consider warning her that she will never read a newspaper again without asking, What if that had been my child?
That every plane crash, every fire will haunt her. That when she sees pictures of starving children, she will look at the mothers and wonder if anything could be worse than watching your child die.
I look at her carefully manicured nails and stylish suit and think she should know that no matter how sophisticated she is, becoming a mother will immediately reduce her to the primitive level of a she-bear protecting her cub. That a slightly urgent call of Mom!
will cause her to drop a soufflé or her best crystal without a moment’s hesitation. That the anger she will feel if that call came over a lost toy will actually be a joy she has never before experienced.
I feel I should warn her that no matter how many years she has invested in her career, she will be professionally derailed by motherhood. She might successfully arrange for childcare, but one day she will be waiting to go into an important business meeting, and she will think about her baby’s sweet smell. She will have to use every ounce of discipline to keep from running home, just to make sure he is all right.
I want my friend to know that everyday routine decisions will no longer be routine. That a visit to McDonald’s and a five-year-old boy’s understandable desire to go to the men’s room rather than the women’s will become a major dilemma. That right there, in the mist of clattering trays and screaming children, issues of independence and gender identity will be weighed against the prospect that a child molester may be lurking in the restroom. I want her to know that however decisive she may be at the office, she will second guess herself constantly as a mother.
Looking at my attractive friend, I want to assure her that she’ll eventually shed the pounds of pregnancy, but she will never feel the same away about herself. That her life, now so important, will be of less value to her once she has a child. That she would give it up in a moment to save her offspring, but will also hope for more years, not so much to accomplish her own dreams but to watch her child accomplish his. I want her to know that a cesarean scar or stretch marks will become badges of honor.
My friend’s relationship with her husband will change, I know, but not in the ways she thinks. I wish she could understand how much more you can love a man who is careful to always powder the baby or who never hesitates to play bad guys
with his son. I think she should know that she will fall in love with her husband again for reasons she would now find very unromantic.
I wish my modern friend could sense the bond she will feel with women throughout history who have tried desperately to stop war, prejudice, and drunk driving. I hope she will understand why I can think rationally about most issues, but become temporarily insane when I discuss the threat of nuclear war to my children’s future.
I want to describe to my friend the exhilaration of seeing your son learn to hit a baseball. I want to capture for her the belly laugh of a baby who is touching the soft fur of a dog for the first time. I want her to taste the joy that is so real it hurts.
My friend’s quizzical look makes me realize I have tears in my eyes. You’ll never regret it,
I say finally. Then I reach across the table, and squeezing her hand, I offer a