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Dear Parents and Educators,

axter The Bully written by L. D. Etherly is a cleverly imaginative tale about a neighborhood bully who is reformed due to the courageous actions of a child bystander, the advocacy of an Adult and the corrective attention of Baxters parents. This story, told in an AA, BB rhyme scheme, paired with the captivating illustration of Chase Velarde is an instant classic that is relatable to children of all reading levels. Large print, vocabulary highlights and a bully tip sheet, makes Baxter The Bully a perfect addition to every children's library or private collection. Baxter The Bully is perfect for classroom discussions about bullying behavior as well as a helpful tool for parents to discuss healthy social skills with children.

BullyNoMore.org

Peaceful Conflict Resolution Workshops, Training Resources

PBSKids.org/itsmylife/friends/bullies

BULLY NO MORE!
Peaceful Conflict Resolution Campaign

Early Childhood Awareness

StopBullying.gov

How to Report Cyber Bullying

BULLYNOMORE.ORG

EssenceofLeadership.org

Leadership Development

StopCyberBullying.org Cyber Bullying Awareness and support

Organization

National Crime Prevention Council NCPC.org Bully Education and Legal Support

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Become a conflict resolution L. E. A. D. E. R.

Learning how to resolve conflicts is a major component in preventing, intervening and resolving Bullying Behavior.

A. Acknowledge
This is a very important step because the majority of confrontation and contention starts because a person feels like their feelings or perspective is ignored. To ensure that both parties feel validated, each person should verbally summarize what the other has said. Summarizing the other persons perspective truly demonstrates that each person has been heard and their view points have been acknowledged. Validation creates mutual understanding which leads to a willingness to find a solution.

R. Respect
Mutual respect is super important. Respect means that both parties have agreed to adhere to the expressed needs and verbally committed to the agreement. Forgiveness is an important part of respect for both parties involved. It shows a willingness to move forward past the conflict with an expectation that both sides will do their part to maintain agreement.

These following steps are a great way to remember the process:

L. Listen
Listening to each other is the first step in resolving conflict. Active listening skills guarantees that both sides of the conflict have an opportunity to clearly state their perspective without interruption.

D. Determine
After each person has had an opportunity to vocalize their perspective, each person must determine what their needs are in order for their to be an excepted resolution. Making this determination helps each person articulate and effectively communicate with each other.

The Role of a Mediator

A MEDIATOR is a person who:

E. Engage
Being engaged in the conflict resolution process means both parties show each other through body language and attitude, that they are willing to participate in the resolution process. Sometimes it is necessary to separate or remove individuals who are not ready to engage in this process because they can be too disruptive to move forward. Once the individual or tense situation has calmed down or possibly another MEDIATOR has brought in the Conflict Resolution Process can resume. It is critical that this Conflict Resolution process continue as soon as possible because unresolved conflicts can quickly escalate to further bullying and violent behavior if too much time passes.

is not involved in the conflict, who maintains a neutral opinion facilitates the Peaceful Conflict Resolution process

E. Express
It is imperative for everyone within this conflict to clearly express all felt emotions. They also and need to express a reaction to the stated needs of the other person. If a person does not get a chance to share all of the emotions that they have associated with the conflict or the other person, then the resolution can dissolve because the hurt feelings are there. This is a main cause for someone to retaliate later or become a bully to someone else.

Typically a mediator is an adult, however youth leaders can be taught how to mediate for their peers. It is important that parents and teachers learn the proper way to mediate, and show youth the steps to solving conflicts on their own. Training Youth Peer Mediators is an effective strategy for schools and organizations to implement given that the majority of youth conflicts are not seen by adults. Equipping youth to become an effective peaceful conflict resolution L. E. A. D. E. R. is the first step towards Bully Free environments.