MANAGING EMOTIONS IN POSITIVE WAYS

EXPLORING EMOTIONS

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WORDS THAT DESCRIBE EMOTIONS

WHAT IS THE ADVANTAGE OF BEING ABLE TO CLEARLY IDENTIFY WHAT WE ARE FEELING? MAD ARE THERE VARIATIONS? BOTHERED IRRITATED FURIOUS HURT INSANE JEALOUS YOU NEED TO GET INTO GROUPS OF SIX TAKE A CARD ON THINKING ABOUT EMOTIONS DRAW A CONTINUUM LINE IN YOUR BOOKS START WITH THE STRONGEST WEAKEST

USING OUR BODIES TO EXPRESS FEELINGS

DIFFERENT EMOTIONS-SAME SITUATION

THE PITS AND PEAKS

EMOTIONS
THOUGHT

ACTION

THE PITS AND PEAKS

SHE FEELS SAD AND OUT OF PLACE SELINA THINKS SHE WILL NEVER HAVE ANY NEW FRIENDS SELINA WITHDRAWS EATS ALONE SHE FEELS HOPELESS

THE PITS AND PEAKS

SHE FEELS NERVOUS SELINA DECIDES TO MAKE NEW FRIENDS

SHE FEELS HOPELESS

TALKS TO OTHERS JOINS A CLUB

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MANAGING EMOITIONS
TO IDENTIFY AND EXPLORE THR RANGE OF EMOTIONS THAT DIFFERENT PEOPLE MAY HAVE IN RESPONSE TO THE SAME SITUATION

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QUOTE OF THE DAY!

Those who do not know how to weep with their whole heart, dont know how to laugh either
(Golda Meir, former Prime Minister of Israel)
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WORKSHEET ACTIVITY!
THINKING ABOUT ANGER! List 5 things other people do or say that you get angry about?! List 3 physical reactions that let you know when you are angry?!
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GROUP WORKSHEET ACTIVITY!

SCENARIO CARDS! As a group read the scenario card On the Handout write: About how the person felt in that situation? List the emotions that may relate to them? Were there any external factors causing this situation to occur?

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ANGER
UNDERSTANDING OUR ANGER BUTTONS

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ANGER
1. 2. 3. 4. IS FEELING ANGRY A NORMAL PART OF OUR LIVES? WHEN MIGHT WE FEEL ANGRY WHEN OUR NEEDS ARE NOT MET OUR OPINIONS DIFFER WE ARE EMBARRASSED ANY OTHER SITUATIONS???? HOWEVER,WE CAN CHOOSE HOW WE ACT WHEN WE FEEL ANGRY.

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THINKING ABOUT ANGER WORKSHEET

EACH STUDENT NEEDS TO GET THE ABOVE SHEET FROM THE TEACHER PUT YOUR NAME AND DATE AT THE TOP OF THE SHEET LIST 5 THINGS PEOPLE SAY OR DO THAT MAKE YOU FEEL ANGRY AN EXAMPLE FOR MR HOSE IS-WHEN STUDENTS FORGET THEIR PE GEAR YOUR EXAMPLES CAN RELATE TO ANYTHING THAT IRRITATES YOU PERSONALLY
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WORKSHEET FOR HOSE

1. LIST FIVE THINGS OTHER PEOPLE DO OR SAY THAT YOU GET ANGRY ABOUT. A.ANY STUDENT WHO FORGETS PE KIT B.UNTIDY UNIFORM C.PEOPLE WHO EAT IN THE GYM D.BOYS WHO CANT PULL UP THEIR TROUSERS E.USELESS TEACHERS 2. LIST THREE PHYSICAL REACTIONS THAT LET YOU KNOW WHEN YOU ARE ANGRY. A. B. C.
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THINKING ABOUT ANGER WORKSHEET-CONTINUED

NOW-LIST 3 PHYSICAL REACTIONS THAT LET YOU KNOW WHEN YOU ARE ANGRY EXAMPLES OF THESE COULD BE 1. FASTER BREATHING 2. FASTER HEARTBEAT 3. SWEATY PALMS 4. TENSE MUSCLES 5. UPSET STOMACH 6. FLUSHED FACE 7. RISE IN BLOOD PRESSURE
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ANGER SITUATIONS
GET INTO GROUPS OF 4 EACH GROUP IS TO COME FORWARD AND GET THE ANGER SITUATIONS WORKSHEET YOU WILL BE ALLOCATED A CERTAIN SITUATION NUMBER READ YOUR SITUATION AND IN YOUR WORKBOOKS YOU NEED TO DESCRIBE EXTERNAL ANGER BUTTONS--WHAT THINGS IN YOUR SITUATION ARE CAUSING THE BUILD UP OF ANGER POSSIBLE PHYSICAL REACTIONS
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KEEPING COOL WHEN YOURE HOT

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NEGATIVE RESULTS OF ANGER

YOU SAY THINGS THAT YOU LATER REGRET YOU CAN HURT SOMEONES FEELINGS THEY BREAK OR DESTROY PROPERTY YOU CAN GET INTO FIGHTS
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CALM DOWN
TAKE TWO OR THREE DEEP BREATHS COUNT TO TEN SIT QUIETLY GO FOR A WALK
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KEEPING COOL AND MAKING GOOD DECISIONS

1. 2. 3. 4. 5. CALM DOWN NAME THE FEELING THINK ABOUT A POSITIVE THOUGHT AND ACTION YOU CAN CHOOSE TO GET YOUR EMOTIONS UNDER CONTROL DO WHAT IS MOST HELPFUL TO YOURSELF AND OTHERS COMMUNICATE YOUR ACTIONS CLEARLY OTHERS

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DECISION MAKING
KEEPING COOL ABOUT MAKING DECISIONS NAME:__________________________________________________DATE:_________________ COMPLETE THIS WORKSHEET TO DECIDE THE BEST COURSE OF ACTION FOR THE SITUATION YOU HAVE BEEN FIRST: 1. THINK OF A WAY TO CALM DOWN. 2. NAME THE EMOTION YOU ARE FEELING. 3. THINK ABOUT A POSITIVE THOUGHT AND ACTION YOU COULD CHOOSE TO GET YOUR EMOTIONS UNDER CONTROL 4. DO WHAT IS MOST HELPFUL FOR YOURSELF AND OTHERS. 5. COMMUNICATE YOUR EMOTIONS CLEARLY AS YOU MOVE INTO DECISION MAKING. STEP 1: IDENTIFY THE DECISION TO BE MADE. STEP 2: THINK ABOUT YOUR OPTIONS. THROW OUT ANY OPTIONS THAT CAN LEAD TO TROUBLE. ASK YOURSELFIS IT AGAINST THE LAW, SCHOOL RULES, OR THE TEACHINGS OF MY RELIGION? IS IT HARMFUL TO ME OR TO OTHERS? WOULD IT DISAPPOINT MY FAMILY OR OTHER IMPORTANT ADULTS? IS IT WRONG TO DO? (WOULD I BE SORRY AFTERWARD?) WOULD I BE HURT OR UPSET IF SOMEONE DID THIS TO ME?
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DECISION MAKING
STEP 3: PREDICT WHAT MIGHT HAPPEN FOR EACH POSITIVE OPTION. OPTION 1: ADVANTAGES: DISADVANTAGES: OPTION 2: ADVANTAGES: DISADVANTAGES: OPTION 3: ADVANTAGES: DISADVANTAGES: STEP 4: CHOOSE THE BEST COURSE OF ACTION. MY CHOICE: STEP 5: DO WHAT YOU DECIDED.
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CONFLICT RESOLUTION
TO LEARN AND PRACTICE A CONSTRUCTIVE WAY TO HANDLE CONFLICT

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QUOTE OF THE DAY!

The most beautiful discovery true friends make is that they can grow separately without growing apart
By Elisabeth Foley, writer
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WHAT IS CONFLICT?
A state of open, often prolonged fighting; a battle or war A state of disharmony between incompatible person(s), ideas, or interests; a clash To come into collision or disagreement; be contradictory, at variance, or in opposition
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WHAT IS CONFLICT RESOLUTION?

Uses a range of methods to address issues whether at the inter-personal level or state
Resolving a given conflict in the least destructive way

Processes of conflict resolution generally include negotiation, mediation, diplomacy and creative peacebuilding
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Conflict Resolution The Waterboy

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IS CONFLICT A NORMAL PART OF YOUR LIFE?

Explain to me why it is? Explain to me why it isnt? What are some examples of conflict for you?
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GROUP WORKSHEET ACTIVITY!

SCENARIO CARDS! As a group read the scenario card On the handout follow the SOLVED approach:
S State the problem as you see it O Open the discussion to other points of view L List the possible solutions together V Veto solutions that are unacceptable to someone involved E Evaluate the solutions that are left D Do the one most acceptable to everyone
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