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It's sad to see how westernized our views are becoming, and why eastern morals are slipping

away like western ones did long ago, and because of this I need to address a very sensitive and often controversial topic. I had a very stressful chat with a fellow 'so called' Punjabi, and have also dealt first-hand with many shameful, trashy whores and their assholes. It is indeed very upsetting. I will share it with you! I will add that sometimes some people did have some good points, and yet, at the same time, some very wrong misconceptions. Basically, this example is a 'so called Punjabi' who has chosen to abandon his culture and date a hochha gar with a different mind set and lack of values than what he is supposed to have. Instead of improving his culture, he's enjoying someone who will give him attention when she's actually playing mind games with him. Now, before anyone thinks of me as horrible, or bad, stereotypical or discriminatory, I must say this...that is NOT my intention, and I will add that the person does have SOME good points. YET, he also has A LOT to learn. First off, he is dating a Gori girl. He had also once tried to seduce me, saying if you didn't already have a sardar, I would have gone after you. I replied to him that even if I hadn't had my own sardarji at the time, I wouldn't have gone for him anyway. Men like that are more trouble than they are worth...and that worth really isn't much. This is basically what the conversation is about. He had trouble in the past with a Punjabi girl (he had an arranged marriage which ended in divorce after 6 months), and has now decided to date a Gori bitch. (In this case, he claims to be Sikh, and she is a protestant who smokes and drinks, which is against Sikh religion and disrespectful to his religion and culture.) I will add commentary after the following " i think white ppl are much more honest what do u know sweetie, u dont know what those girls are i actually dont like that culture i know there are many good girls, but you are too over board for me to make a point if u listen to me the culture is too shallow, they expect so much angel like behavior from guys that its almost impossible to approach a girl, only thing is if girl approaches you, girls dont do it, so its much easier from guys who are from outside to approach girls and these girls are shallow, they hate beard, they just want to have good time, ethics, spirituallity, is shit to them, so they do what they want, and virgin guys are left to walk the dignified way of culture, other thing here is, sikhism and Punjabi culture are totally different things and can exist without each other a muslim can be punjabi, a hindu can be punjabi, culture is notthing, i have my pride in being a sikh madam, will u kill your infant daughter it happens in punjab come on ground, what do u think those ppl want, everybody wants sex, gori say it, desi act something else, do something else, culture does not adds any virtue, yes if its a practicing sikh girl, then its different no they dont kill their kids, gori is not absolute term, there are americans, and there are europeans, and ppl vary" Ironically enough, the same guys who say this also do THIS - read the following articles The Indian government has launched a new scheme to help women who are married and then abandoned by men of Indian origin living in the West. The Ministry of Overseas Indian Affairs says women who are divorced or deserted within two years of marriage will be entitled to legal and financial aid. According to one estimate, up to 20,000 women have been abandoned by their non-resident Indian (NRI) husbands. Mostly, the husbands disappear after pocketing fat dowries paid at weddings. An official in the ministry, SS Rana, told the BBC that women who needed help could approach Indian missions abroad directly or through non-governmental organisation approved by them. "The deserted women will be given financial assistance of $1,000 for seeking legal help and will also be offered counselling," he said. Initially this facility will be given to women who have been married for two years or less. Migrant populations -

But Mr Rana said: "If we get a large number of such cases where women are abandoned after the twoyear deadline, we will review the time limit." Officials say most cases of NRIs duping their Indian brides are reported in the United States, Canada, Britain, Australia and New Zealand countries with substantial Indian migrant populations. And most of the abandoned women come from the Punjab, Gujarat, Andhra Pradesh and Kerala - states which send out a large number of migrants to the West. Indian protest against dowriesDowries have been the subject of much debate in India. The deputy secretary in the National Commission for Women, Gurpreet Deo, says they have received several complaints where after marriage a woman goes abroad with her husband only to find that her husband is already married. "In many cases, men claim they hold fantastic jobs abroad, but when the wife goes, she realises that he is either out of work or does some odd jobs," she says. Then there are "holiday brides". Ms Deo says: "In these cases, NRIs come to India for a holiday, get married, pocket the dowry, and then disappear without leaving a trace." With their dreams shattered, the duped women have to grapple not just with emotional scars, but with the practicalities of being abandoned. Sometimes they also have to deal with pregnancy and worry about bringing up children on their own. Highly coveted Because of social stigma, they are unable to remarry. In India a financially well-established son- in-law living in the UK, US or Canada is highly coveted. A Green Card holder in the US [which gives a foreigner right of residency and right to work] or one possessing a similar document in the UK or Canada or other Western countries is regarded as a "good catch". Ms Deo says the reason why NRIs get away after duping their wives is "because in their greed to send their daughters abroad, most parents don't do enough verification. There is very little awareness about these problems". Once dumped, there is little these women can do. Ms Deo says: "Because there are extra-territorial boundaries involved, most women are left in the lurch when their NRI husbands run away. There is no legal way to get them back. "The police are often reluctant to file a case. And even if they do, and the court issues a summons, how do you deliver the summons on foreign territory? The court can order confiscation of property, but what about those NRIs who do not own property in India?" The National Commission for Women is now demanding tougher laws to deal with such cases. The commission has also called on the Indian government to sign extradition treaties with foreign countries so that the runaway grooms can be brought back to India and tried in a court of law. "Domestic violence or matrimonial offences at present are not extraditable offences. We need to address that," Ms Deo says. http://news.bbc.co.uk/2/hi/south_asia/4837122.stm http://news.bbc.co.uk/2/hi/health/4785750.stm http://news.bbc.co.uk/2/hi/south_asia/4592890.stm http://news.bbc.co.uk/2/hi/south_asia/3696562.stm http://news.bbc.co.uk/2/hi/south_asia/3246786.stm http://news.bbc.co.uk/2/hi/south_asia/3283989.stm http://news.bbc.co.uk/2/hi/south_asia/3048417.stm http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=iOo4WsMnalg Predator: Anybody home? Del: Yeah, come on in.

Here's a man with the screenname guy-from-mars83 who seems to thinks its perfectly legal for an adult to talk online to a 13-year-old about meeting for sex... Hansen: Hey, how are you? Predator: Pretty good, sir. *drinks water" ... and then show up at her house. Hes 23-year-old Inderjeet Singh. Inderjeet Singh: Well, you can, you can talk, you can, you can, you can converse, but it doesnt mean that Im going to do it, right? Unless I do it. Unless you catch me at one point doing it, of course. Hansen: So you say I would have to catch you having sex with a 13-year old girl before you could get in trouble. Singh: Before you can put me against the law, yeah. Hansen: So are you a lawyer? Singh: No, Im not a lawyer. Hansen: Well, you sound pretty familiar with the law. Singh: Well Im pretty much into academics. Hansen: Youre into academics, well let me correct you a little bit on how the law works. But it turns out, I dont have to. The sheriffs detectives are only too happy to give guy-from-mars83 a crash course in how the law works. Tell these men their stories are going to be exposed on National Television. Singh: Are you gonna put me on the camera? Hansen: Those cameras are rolling right now, yes. when eastern girls rebel and choose to follow their own path, they pay for it. When eastern boys do the same, rarely is anything said.....nor do they have to face the violence eastern girls face. http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-2284616/Aesha-Mohammadzai-Brave-Time-cover-girltortured-Afghan-husband-appears-Daybreak.html 'I am so happy with my new face:' Brave Time cover girl Aesha shows off results of incredible surgery after Afghan husband sliced off her nose Three years after ordeal Aesha Mohammadzai has a new face and life She was tortured by her Afghan husband when she tried to escape But Aesha made it to a US medical base, and was flown to America But her facial rebuilding treatment at a Maryland hospital is now complete

She says: 'I want to tell all women who are suffering abuse to be strong' By Leon Watson PUBLISHED: 04:40 EST, 26 February 2013 | UPDATED: 05:39 EST, 27 February 2013 Comments (198) Share A young Afghan woman whose nose and ears were cut off after she fled an abusive marriage has revealed the results of the reconstructive surgery to rebuild her face. Aesha Mohammadzai became famous across the world after her picture appeared on the cover of Time magazine. The 19-year-old girl became a symbol of the oppression of women in Afghanistan after fleeing the wartorn country. Three years later and she has a new face and life. Scroll down for video New face: Aesha Mohammadzai, who became a symbol of the oppression of women in Afghanistan after fleeing the war-torn country, shows off the results of her reconstructive surgery New face: Aesha Mohammadzai, who became a symbol of the oppression of women in Afghanistan after fleeing the war-torn country, shows off the results of her reconstructive surgery Aesha's wounds are healing, but she lives with the scars of an ordeal few could imagine Aesha's wounds are healing, but she lives with the scars of an ordeal few could imagine As part of the life-changing treatment, her forehead has ballooned and dark, drooping flesh now covers where her nose once was - before her husband sliced it off. Doctors placed an inflatable silicone shell under the skin of her forehead and gradually filled it with fluid in order to expand her skin and provide them with extra tissue for her new nose. They have also taken tissue from her forearm and transplanted it to her face to form the inner lining and lower part of the nose. More... Afghan police 'sell weapons to Taliban, are addicted to drugs and kidnap and rape young boys' Afghan President Karzai expels US special forces amid claims of torture and murder of local people Aesha's wounds are healing, but she lives with the scars of an ordeal few could imagine. Speaking for the first time on television to ITV's Daybreak, she told the story behind that photograph. She said: 'Every day I was abused by my husband and his family. Mentally and physically. Then one

day it became unbearable so I ran away. 'They caught me and put me in jail for five months. When I came out the judge sent me back to my husband. That night they took me to the mountains. Brave Time cover girl Aesha Mohammadzai, pictured with her American family, reveals new nose after reconstructive surgery on ITV's Daybreak show Brave Time cover girl Aesha Mohammadzai, pictured with her American family, reveals new nose after reconstructive surgery on ITV's Daybreak show Smiling: Aesha Mohammadzai looked relaxed and happy on Daybreak speaking with Louisa James Smiling: Aesha Mohammadzai looked relaxed and happy on Daybreak speaking with Louisa James Proud: Aesha Mohammadzai, whose plight was highlighted in Time in 2010, has had reconstructive surgery to her nose Proud: Aesha Mohammadzai, whose plight was highlighted in Time in 2010, has had reconstructive surgery to her nose 'They tied my hands and my feet. They said my punishment was to cut my nose and ears. And then they started to do it.' Aesha, who has never attended school or celebrated her birthday, now lives in America. Helped out of Afghanistan by a charity, she now has a new family who care for her as one of their own. Aesha said she is 'happy' with her new nose and wants her experience to tell a new story, this time one of hope. She said: 'I want to tell all women who are suffering abuse to be strong. Never give up and dont lose hope.' Aeshas story was first told in August 2010 by Time magazine, who published a harrowing cover photo of her - horrifying people around the world and symbolising the oppression of Afghan women. When she was 12, her father promised her in marriage to a Taliban fighter to pay a debt. She was handed over to his family who abused her and forced her to sleep in the stable with the animals. When Aesha was 12, her father promised her in marriage to a Taliban fighter to pay a debt. She was handed over to his family who abused her and forced her to sleep in the stable with the animals. The UN estimates that nearly 90 per cent of Afghanistan's women suffer from some sort of domestic abuse. But when Aesha attempted to flee, she was caught and her nose and ears were hacked off by her husband as punishment. Left for dead in the mountains, she crawled to her grandfather's house. Aiesha's photo was on the front cover of Time Magazine in August 2010 Facing reality: Aisha's photo was on the front cover of Time Magazine in August 2010

VIDEO I'm happy! Brave Aesha reveals nose after reconstructive surgery Play Video On the mend: Aesha Mohammadzai pictured six months into the reconstructive surgery to her nose On the mend: Aesha Mohammadzai pictured six months into the reconstructive surgery to her nose Doctors put a silicone shell under skin in her forehead to expand tissue that was then used to build her new nose Doctors put a silicone shell under skin in her forehead to expand tissue that was then used to build her new nose Terrifying: Aesha's nose and ears were sliced off by her abusive husband as she tried to escape their home Terrifying: Aesha's nose and ears were sliced off by her abusive husband as she tried to escape their home 'When they cut off my nose and ears, I passed out. In the middle of the night it felt like there was cold water in my nose. 'I opened my eyes and I couldn't even see because of all the blood,' she told CNN reporter Atia Abawi. Left for dead in the mountains, she crawled to her grandfather's house and her father managed to get her to an American medical facility, where medics cared for her for ten weeks. Recovery: Bibi Aisha (pictured with a prosthetic nose in Beverly Hills, California, in October 2010) moved to the U.S. after fleeing Afghanistan and is now six months into her surgery at a hospital Recovery: Bibi Aisha (pictured with a prosthetic nose in Beverly Hills, California, in October 2010) moved to the U.S. after fleeing Afghanistan AESHA'S NOSE RECONSTRUCTION In December, Aesha underwent a fourth operation, lasting eight hours, at the Walter Reed National Military Medical Centre in Bethesda, Maryland. Surgeons said the procedure marks the halfway stage in their work and they can complete the reconstruction this year. During the operation, doctors placed an inflatable silicone shell under the skin of her forehead and gradually filled it with fluid in order to expand her skin and provide them with extra tissue for her new nose. They have also taken tissue from her forearm and transplanted it to her face to form the inner lining and lower part of the nose. Previous patients who have had this type of reconstructive surgery have also had tissue transplanted tissue from the forehead - because it is the same tone, unlike other areas of the body. Louisa James, the Daybreak reporter who interviewed Aesha, said she had now completed the major

surgery she required, and she would now undergo a series of minor nose operations to modify it and make it look as normal as possible. She is then expected to undergo surgery on her ears. They then transported Aesha to a secret shelter in Kabul and in August 2010, she was flown to the U.S. by the Grossman Burn Foundation to stay with a host family. She was taken in by a charity in New York called Women for Afghan Women who supported her and helped pay for her eduction. But Aesha soon became unhappy and her behaviour gave rise to concern. During one outburst during, she threw herself to the floor and slammed her head against the ground, grabbing at her hair and biting her fingers. Her primary guardian figure at the centre Esther Hyneman, who witnessed the tantrum said no one was able to prevent her from inflicting the injuries and they had to call 911 for help, Ms Hyneman said during the CNN interview. Nowadays Aesha still prefers watching Bollywood films rather than American TV. She arrived in Maryland 16 months after she came to the U.S. and had spent time in California and New York. Aesha was treated at the Walter Reed National Military Medical Centre in Bethesda, which was arranged for her by the office of outgoing U.S. Representative Roscoe Bartlett of Maryland. Couple Mati and Jamila Arsala have been caring for Aesha in Maryland, and they have a 15-year-old daughter in Miena Ahmadzai, who has become good friends with her adopted older sister. Read more: http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-2284616/Aesha-Mohammadzai-Brave-Timecover-girl-tortured-Afghan-husband-appears-Daybreak.html#ixzz2M9nYDi3k Follow us: @MailOnline on Twitter | DailyMail on Facebook http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-2216553/International-Day-Girl-Child-2012-Devastatingimages-terrifying-world-child-brides.html?ICO=most_read_module At age 11, Ghulam was married off to 40-year-old Jaiz in a rural Afghan village, making her only one of more than 10 million young girls who are being forced to wed men old enough to be their fathers or grandfather every year. In an effort to start a global conversation about the devastating effects of early marriages, which are currently practiced in more than 50 developing countries, the United Nations designated October 11 as International Day of the Girl Child this year. To mark the occasion and draw attention to the problem of child brides, photojournalist Stephanie Sinclair teamed up with National Geographic to create a series of heart-breaking photos depicting girls as young as five years old being married off to middle-aged men in countries like India, Yemen and Ethiopia.

Disturbing: Faiz, 40 (left), and Ghulam (right), 11, sit in her home prior to their wedding in the rural Damarda Village, Afghanistan on September 11, 2005 Minors: Tahani (front), 8, is seen with her husband Majed, 27, and her former classmate Ghada (rear), 8, and her husband outside their home in Hajjah, Yemen Sarita, 15-years-old, is seen covered in tears and sweat before she is sent to her new home with her new groom in Rajasthan, India Sumeena Shreshta Balami, 15, leaves her home to meet her groom, Prakash Balami, 16, in Kagati Village, Kathmandu Valley, Nepal Voiceless: Sumeena Shreshta Balami, right, 15, leaves her home to meet her groom, Prakash Balami, 16, in Kagati Village in Nepal, while Sarita, left, 15, is seen covered in tears and sweat before she is sent to her new home in Rajasthan, India Vulnerable: Young girls sit inside a home outside of Al Hudaydah, Yemen, in 2010 Although child marriage is against the law in many countries, and international treaties forbid the practice, it is estimates that about 51 million girls below age 18 are currently married, often under the cover of darkness and in secret. In Afghanistan alone, it is believed that approximately 57 per cent of girls wed before the legal age of 16. Various factors drive parents of child brides to marry off their daughters, from the communitys pressure to confirm to age-old cultural customs to economic considerations. In poor, developing nations, it is not uncommon for families to settle debts by offering their daughters as payment. Beside India, where girls are usually wed to boys who are only a couple of years their senior, the husbands may be decades older than their prepubescent betrothed. It is not uncommon for men to kidnap girls and rape them first before trying the knot. Opulent: Priest Addisu Abebe, 23, and his new bride Destaye Amare, 11, are married in a traditional Ethiopian Orthodox wedding in the rural areas outside the city of Gondar, Ethiopia Opulent: Priest Addisu Abebe, 23, and his new bride Destaye Amare, 11, are married in a traditional Ethiopian Orthodox wedding in the rural areas outside the city of Gondar, Ethiopia Shocking: Portrait of Said, 55, and Roshan, 8, on the day of their engagement, Afghanistan Child mothers: Asia, a 14-year-old mother, washes her new baby girl at home in Hajjah while her twoyear-old daughter plays Since 2003, Sinclair has been traveling to remote corners of the world in countries like Nepal and Yemen to document weddings of child brides and their transformation into young mothers in the hope of giving them a voice and raising awareness of the problem. Experts agree that early marriage denies the girls education and robs them of their childhood because most young wives, burdened by grownup responsibilities, do not get a chance to interact with their peers or carry on friendships outside the household.

Ghulam, the 11-year-old bride from Afghanistan who was married off in 2005, was forced to drop out of school, giving up on her dream of becoming a teacher one day. Parents often remove their daughters from school even before they are engaged to limit their interactions with boys. In many cases, the girls are lorded over by their husbands and in-laws, leaving them vulnerable to domestic violence as well as physical, sexual and verbal abuse. Underage wives who are lucky enough to escape from their husbands end up living in poverty, or worse. Some girls turn to prostitution to earn a meager income and enter brothels, where they are subjected to horrific abuse. Seven month pregnant Debritu, 14, escaped from her husband after months of abuse Nujood Ali was ten when she fled her abusive, much older husband and took a taxi to the courthouse in Sanaa, Yemen Fearless: Nujood Ali, right, was ten when she fled her abusive, much older husband and took a taxi to the courthouse in Sanaa, Yemen, while, Debritu, right, 14, escaped from her husband while seven month pregnant Gruesome: Police woman Malalai Kakar (back right) arrests Janan, 35, after he tried to kill his 15-yearold wife Jamila for angering him by fleeing her home to stay with her mother following years of abuse Rock bottom: A young prostitute named China sits stunned after being beat up by a man visiting Kabele Five in Bahir Dar, Ethiopia Most girls who enter early marriages are expected to get pregnant right away, which often leads to tragedy for both the mothers, who are still children themselves, and their babies. Adolescent wives are more likely to have obstructed labor because their bodies have not fully developed yet. Statistics show that pregnancy death for child brides is double that of women in the 20s, according to the Pulitzer Center on Crisis Reporting. One doctor based in the Yemeni capital Sanaa listed some of the medical consequences of forcing girls into sex and childbirth before they are physically mature - ripped vaginal walls and internal ruptures called fistulas which can lead to life-long incontinence. Girls are often too young to understand the concept of reproduction. The doctor said: 'The nurses start by asking, "Do you know what's happening?" "Do you understand that this is a baby that has been growing inside of you?"' Unless international organizations take steps to reverse the troubling trend, it is estimated that over the next decade, 100 million more girlsor about 25,000 girls a daywill marry before they turn 18. To learn more about the campaign to end the practice of early marriages, go to Too Young To Wed.http://www.tooyoungtowed.org/ Tradition: Ghulam, 11, says a prayer with male family members to cement her engagement to Faiz, 40

New family: Maya, 8, and Kishore, 13, pose for a wedding photo inside their new home the day after the Hindu holy day of Akshaya Tritiya, or Akha Teej, in Rajasthan, India

Here;s another story of abuse on an innocent child bride http://kabulpress.org/my/spip.php?article94563 Sahar Guls Story, A Clear Image of Womens Life in Afghanistan On December 27th, 2011, 15 year old Sahar Gul was discovered imprisoned in her in-laws musty, dark cellar by the Baghlan Province Police. Seven months earlier, while living in Badakhshan Province, Sahar had been forced into marriage. The police report stated the young girl had been imprisoned, tortured and violently beaten by the husband and his family because she refused to work and earn money as a prostitute. Sahar was in critical condition when she arrived to a hospital in Polikhomri. The doctors reported she had multiple injuries from the abuse, including a broken shoulder and head trauma. Her torture included someone pulling her fingernails out. After stabilization, Sahar was transferred to a hospital in Kabul. Soraya Dalil, Supervisor of the Ministry of Health, told journalists that Sahar Guls physical condition should improve in several months, but the consequences of negative psychological shocks may remain throughout her lifetime. Sahar Guls story is only one of the thousands of stories of torture and cruel abuse currently experienced daily by Afghanistan women. Whether defamation or traditional conservativeness, most of these womens stories will continue to remain untold. Seeking justice for their suffering would only expose them; leaving minimal chances for survival after retaliation from the abuser. What happened to fifteen year old Sahar Gul, her forced marriage, torture and abuse, is a clear example of violation of womens rights in Afghanistan. Despite the president of the country visiting Sahar in the hospital and ordering the abusive family to be prosecuted, these cases have appeared thousands of times before only to find the violators have gone unpunished. This violence against Sahar Gul has been vastly reported by media and human rights activists. Once again, the concern for womens rights in Afghanistan is being voiced louder than ever. When will violators be prosecuted and imprisoned as punishment for their crimes against women? Last month, the office of UNAMA (United Nations Assisted Mission in Afghanistan) in Kabul criticized the Afghan government for limited application of the "Elimination of Violence Against Women Law. Based on a UNAMA report, of the 2,299 reported cases of violence against women recorded between March 2010 and June 2011, only 26 cases were processed. Also in this report, only 7% of violators were condemned to punishment by the Afghan courts. Enacted in 2009, this "Elimination of Violence Against Women Law" forbids more than twenty types of violence against women, including underage marriages, forced marriages, forced suicide and forbids

any exchange of a female to resolve a dispute. Rape and physical attacks on women are also considered crimes for sentencing. Afghanistan Human Rights Commission states there were 1,026 reported cases of violence against women in the first six months of 2011. In most cases, the women are very afraid to file a complaint, stating there is a considerable chance they will be punished severely for doing so. Another 2011 report by OXFOM, shows 87% of Afghanistan women have experienced physical violence including physical and sexual harassment or forced marriage. Though incredulous, it is well known that womens rights violators are not held accountable for their crimes. Based on research by human rights organizations, 39% of people accused of rape and violence against women are supported by locally influential and powerful people. Sadly, they appear to be immune from punishment. The weakness of judicial system in Afghanistan has led the people to follow traditions and traditional laws, which are all very anti-women oriented. Alternative solutions for rape punishment, which is prevalent among the tribal Afghan Society are; marriage of the victim with the violator, payment of an amount of money to the victims family, accusation of the victim to adultery or killing the victim to clear the defamation of the family. Those carrying out Afghan tribal law do not feel they are subject to wait for decisions by an overwhelmed or corrupt court system. There are many women who feel their only option remaining to escape the violence is to commit suicide, while many women still hope for a better future through education. Some runaway from abusive homes and secretly find friends to help them. Based on a 2011 report by womens rights organizations, the suicide option has significantly increased among Afghanistani women. There were 150 cases of womens attempted suicide since spring this year. 45 women succeeded in ending their lives and the rest are still being treated. We are very concerned about the increase in Afghanistani women attempting and carrying out suicide., said Aziza Khair Andesh who is responsible for Civil Society Network in Herat province. Ms. Khair Andesh believes that the lack of punishment against people who force women to commit suicide has increased the number of additional women attempting suicide. She adds; Thirty persons accused of causing their woman to commit suicide are not yet arrested. Ms. Andesh believes there are a variety of different factors behind the womens suicides. Chronic family violence, poverty, unemployment, mental illness and illiteracy. She feels it is critical that the government and womens rights organizations do more to prevent this disastrous phenomenon. The health and well being of all women is important for the future of Afghanistan. There is often harassment for Afghanistani women wanting to take part in a social life outside their home. A female Kabul University student, spoke out stating how she was threatened to death by Sharia faculty students while attending university. The wind blew my scarf off my head. As I was putting it back on, a group of male students were shaking their fists and shouting at meThis is an Islamic Country, and you should keep your Hejab otherwise we will kill you by our own hands!"

Women face threats, being chased or harassed just by walking on the road to their home. The female student said she made complaints to the university police against the male students whod threatened her, but the police stated she was wrong to let her scarf fly off. Afghanistani women are teased whether at work, walking on the roads and even during university lessons. One day I was late for my class and I took a taxi to get there, but the male taxi driver turned on a side road and tried to touch me. I fought my away from him and out of the taxi. I shouted for help, but no one came. She says that life is hard for her in Kabul and she never dares to walk freely on the streets alone. Unfortunately, the governmental entities and judicial branches in most cases take womens freedom from them. In Afghanistan, when a women is being violated and sexually harassed, if she goes to any government entity to make a complaint, she faces aggression and is considered to be guilty. She is imprisoned automatically. The female university student points to the case of Gulnaz, a girl who was raped by a relative. When she reported to the oplice, she was then sentenced to 12 years of imprisonment. She feels there are hundreds of such cases hidden and unheard. Gulnaz, who was raped by her cousins husband and became pregnant, was arrested by the police when she applied to them to make a complaint. She was sentenced to twelve years of imprisonment, but after three years of imprisonment she was released only on condition she would marry the violator. More than five thousand people signed a petition for Gulnazs release. After the fall of the Taliban, Afghanistani women have been struggling to take part in different areas of social life. Some of the women were told by their families that they did not have permission to leave home and pursue outside activities, but they remained hopeful for achievements and attempted to show their families they could succeed in a job or university lessons. Ten years have passed since the Taliban era and women indeed have found glimmers of hope for change. They know there are risks and every day many of them face fears of violence and forced marriage. It is unfortunate so many Afghanistani men think pro-masculine traditions of imprisoning women and making decisions for them will make life better in Afghanistan. During 2011, many women have been stoned or gun-fired by rouge Taliban or other armed groups. The last case on November 10th, 2011, a women and her daughter were considered prostitutes and were shot dead by Taliban after being sentenced to death by their leaders in Ghazni Province. Last year as well, the Taliban in Badghis Province in North West of Afghanistan, flagellated and fatally shot a 48 year old woman after allegations of an illegal sexual relationship with a man. In Imam Saheb district of Kunduz province, the Taliban stoned another young couple for alleged adultery. These are only a few of the tragic stories experienced by Afghanistani women. Until the Afghan Judicial system realizes the subjugated violence imposed by traditional Sharia law, there will never be true freedom, or justice, for the Afghanistani people.

Things you can do to help stop this horrific practice * Help prevent and/or breakup relationships of eastern men with western girls and teach others why these relationships are so shameful and hurtful, and how they help promote horrible acts like this, and make eastern women feel even more degraded. * If you know of a girl who may be at risk of being a victim of an honour killing, REPORT IT. IF YOU SEE SOMETHING, SAY SOMETHING, YOU WILL BE SAVING A GIRL'S LIFE. * If you know a girl who may be at risk of being a victim of an honour killing, help her - provide alternative shelter, hide her from her tormentors, feed her, provide asylum for her. You will be saving a life - the most humane thing you can do. * learn more about honour killings and what you can do at - http://www.stophonourkillings.com Now, read on.... http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-461378/The-tragic-story-Banaz-Mahmod--fell-love-19family-killed-her.html The tragic story of Banaz Mahmod: she fell in love at 19, so her family killed her By FIONA BARTON Banaz Mahmod predicted her own murder in a chilling video message As one of five daughters in a strictly-traditional Kurdish family, Banaz Mahmod's future was ordained whether she liked it or not. She was kept away from Western influences, entered an arranged marriage at the age of 16 with a member of her clan and was expected to fulfil the role of subservient wife and mother. But Banaz, a bright, pretty 19-year-old, fell in love with another man. And for that, she was murdered by her father, uncle and a group of family friends. The very people who should have protected her from harm plotted her killing, garrotted her with a bootlace, stuffed her body in a suitcase and buried her under a freezer. Banaz's crime was to "dishonour" her father, Mahmod Mahmod, an asylum seeker from Iraqi Kurdistan, by leaving her abusive marriage and choosing her own boyfriend - a man from a different Kurdish clan. Her punishment was discussed at a family "council of war" attended by her father, uncle Ari and other members of the clan. In the living room of a suburban semi in Mitcham, South London, it was decided that this young woman's life was to be snuffed out so that her family would not be shamed in the eyes of the community. Banaz was only ten when she came to Britain with her father, who had served in the Iraqi army, her mother Behya, brother Bahman and sisters Beza, Bekhal, Payman and Giaband.

The family, who came from the mountainous and rural Mirawaldy area, close to the Iranian border, were escaping Saddam Hussein's regime and were granted asylum. But Banaz's move to a western country changed nothing about the life she was made to lead. She had met her husband-to be only three times before her wedding day, once on her father's allotment. He was ill-educated and old-fashioned but her family described him as 'the David Beckham of husbands'. The teenage bride, who was taken to live in the West Midlands, was to tell local police in September 2005 that she had been raped at least six times and routinely beaten by her husband. In one assault, she claimed, one of her teeth was almost knocked out because she called him by his first name in public. To leave the arranged marriage would have brought dishonour on the Mahmod family and Banaz's parents apparently preferred their child to suffer abuse rather than be shamed. But after two years of marriage, she insisted on returning home to seek sanctuary. It was there, at a family party in the late summer of 2005, that she met Rahmat Sulemani. For the first time in her blighted existence, Banaz fell in love. She was besotted with Rahmat, 28, calling him 'my prince' and sending endless loving text messages. Her father and uncle Ari were furious; the young woman was not yet formally divorced by her husband and her boyfriend was neither from their clan nor religious. More importantly, perhaps, he had not been chosen by her family. Mahmod became enraged when his daughter refused to give up her boyfriend and talked of being in love. The threat to family honour was immense and made worse by the fact that Banaz's elder sister, Bekhal, had already brought "shame" on the family by moving out of the house at the age of 15, to escape her father's violence. Bekhal's defiance meant that Mahmod lost status in the community because he was seen to have failed to control his women and his younger brother Ari, a wealthy entrepreneur who ran a money transfer business, took over as head of the family. It was he who telephoned Banaz on December 1, 2005 to tell her to end the affair with Rahmat or face the consequences. The following day, Ari called a council of war to plan her murder and the disposal of her body. She was secretly warned by her mother that the lives of her and her boyfriend were in danger, and she went to Mitcham Police Station to report the death threat. But she was so terrified of her family's reaction that she asked police to take no action and refused to move to a refuge. The next day, an officer called at the family home but Banaz would not let him in. She believed that her mother would protect her from harm but as an insurance against her disappearance, went back to the police station a week later to make a full statement, naming the men she believed would kill her.

One of the men was Mohamad Hama, who has admitted murder and two of the others named fled back to Iraq after the killing. On New Year's Eve 2005, she was lured to her grandmother's house in nearby Wimbledon for a meeting with her father and uncle to sort out her divorce. When her father appeared wearing surgical gloves, ready to kill her, she ran out barefoot, broke a window to get into a neighbour's house and then ran to a nearby cafe, covered in blood from cuts to her hands and screaming: "They're trying to kill me". The officers who attended the scene and accompanied Banaz to hospital did not believe her story. However, the distressed and injured victim was able to give her own testimony about the attack to the jury in a short video recorded on Rahmat's mobile phone at St George's Hospital, Tooting. The terrified lovers pretended they had parted but they continued to meet in secret. Tragically, they were spotted together in Brixton on January 21 and the Mahmods were informed. Mohamad Hama and three other men tried to kidnap Rahmat and, when his friends intervened, told him he would be killed later. When he phoned to warn Banaz, she went to the police and said she would co- operate in bringing charges against her family and other members of the community. The policewoman who saw Banaz tried to persuade her to go into a hostel or safe house but she thought she would be safe at home because her mother was there. On January 24, Banaz was left on her own at the family house and her assassins, Hama and two associates, were alerted. The full details of what happened to her are still not known but two of the suspects, Omar Hussein and Mohammed Ali, who fled back to Iraq after the killing, are said to have boasted that Banaz was raped before she was strangled, "to show her disrespect". There followed a "massively challenging" investigation into her disappearance by detectives, fearing the worst. The family's appalling crime was finally exposed when, three months after she went missing, Banaz's remains were found, with the bootlace still around her neck. The discovery of her body provoked no emotion in her father and uncle. Even at her funeral, the only tears were from Banaz's brother. "She had a small life," a detective on the case said. "There is no headstone on her grave, nothing there to mark her existence." Yesterday, her devastated boyfriend, who has been given a new identity by the Home Office under the witness protection programme, said: "Banaz was my first love. She meant the world to me." The dead girl's older sister, Bekhal, urged other women in the same position as her and her sister to seek help before it is too late.

Even today she continues to fear for her life, lives at a secret address and never goes out without wearing a long black veil that covers her entire body and face apart from her eyes. She strongly rejected the suggestion that Banaz had brought "shame" on her Kurdish family by falling in love with a man they did not approve of, saying her sister simply wanted to live her own life. "There's a lot of evil people out there. They might be your own blood, they might be a stranger to you, but they are evil. "They come over here, thinking they can still carry on the same life and make people carry on how they want them to live life." Asked what was in her father's mind on the day that Banaz died, Bekhal replied: "All I can say is devilishness. How can somebody think that kind of thing and actually do it to your own flesh and blood? It's disgusting." Bekhal says she is scared whenever she sees somebody from the same background as her. "I watch my back 24/7." news.bbc.co.uk/2/hi/6733653.stm www.bbc.co.uk/2/hi/uk_news/6733653.stm http://www.guardian.co.uk/uk/2007/jul/20/ukcrime.uknews4

Banaz Mahmod was killed after falling in love with a man her family did not want her to marry. Her father Mahmod Mahmod, 52, and uncle Ari Mahmod, 50, from Mitcham, London, were convicted of murder on Monday. Banaz Mahmod was 20 years old, and very much in love, when she was strangled with a bootlace and her body stuffed into a suitcase. According to the prosecution, Banaz had to pay the "ultimate price" for bringing shame on her Kurdish family. The court heard that Banaz was murdered at her home in Mitcham in Surrey in January last year. Four months later, the suitcase containing her body was found buried more than 100 miles (160 km) away, deep beneath the foundations of a house in a Birmingham suburb. Having left an arranged and unhappy marriage, Banaz had started a relationship with Rhamat Sulemani.

Phone footage Mr Sulemani, 29, broke down in tears when giving testimony at the trial. He said they had been threatened with death if they carried on seeing each other. Shown in court was mobile phone footage he had taken of Banaz when she was lying covered in blood in a hospital bed, in what the prosecution alleges was an earlier attempt to murder her. In Banaz's case, if her boyfriend hadn't reported it, we would never have known that she was missing Caroline Goode, Chief Investigating Officer In the grainy recording, she says how fearful she is that father and uncle may be trying to kill her. The court heard that her father, Mahmod Mahmod and her uncle, Ari Mahmod recruited young men from the Kurdish community to carry out the murder. According to Victor Temple QC, the family's well-being and standing was at stake. There would be a loss of prestige unless the community saw that they had acted according to the old customs. Banaz's sister, Bekhal Mahmod, gave evidence in court that their father had also beaten, threatened and called her a whore for becoming too Westernised. Her uncle had said that she deserved to be "turned to ashes". Testifying from behind a screen at the Old Bailey, Ms Mahmod said, "I escaped what my sister went through, that's why she's not here". Jasvinder Sanghera, who runs the Karma Nirvana refuge in Derby, says she is "hugely angry" that Banaz had not been properly assisted by the police when she had gone to them for help. She called for police officers to be properly trained in matters of honour-based crime. The Chief Investigating Officer in this case, Caroline Goode, told the BBC: "I do think that we are only scratching the surface of this. One of the difficulties is that these things aren't often reported. "In Banaz's case, if her boyfriend hadn't reported it, we would never have known that she was missing".

One of the gang who tortured, raped and strangled a young Kurdish woman in an "honour killing" boasted of how he had finally stamped on her neck to "get her soul out", the Old Bailey heard yesterday. Mohamad Hama, 30, laughed and joked as he described how they subjected Banaz Mahmod to a series of degrading acts of sexual violence during a 2-hour ordeal in her home. Ms Mahmod, 20, disappeared last January. Her body was found three months later, in a suitcase buried in a pit in Birmingham. Her murder was planned and ordered by her father, Mahmod Mahmod, 50, and her uncle, Ari Mahmod, 52, after she fell in love with a man they deemed unsuitable.

The full details of her killing emerged in a pre-sentence hearing yesterday to decide what part Hama, an associate of Ari Mahmod, had played. The prosecution says Hama took part in the murder, but he claims he only helped bury her body. Hama's account of the murder was secretly taped by police during prison visits after his arrest in February 2006, the court heard. "Her soul wouldn't leave the body. It took half an hour," he told an unnamed visitor to Belmarsh, believed to be a relative. "I was kicking and stamping on her neck to get her soul out." He described how he stood with one foot on her back as another man prepared the ligature that would kill her, how he would "shut her up quickly" and how she had vomited during her ordeal. The court was told that when Ms Mahmod was found she was only wearing pants. Victor Temple, QC, prosecuting, said: "Hama is no doubt speaking about how long it took to murder her. There is laughter. That is nothing to do with the burial. It's the placing of the foot so Hama could pull the ligature." He told the court that none of the defendants had expressed the slightest degree of remorse for Ms Mahmod's "cold-blooded and callously executed" murder. In one taped conversation Hama refers to a series of sexually abusive acts carried out on Ms Mahmod over "more than two hours". No evidence of sexual abuse was put forward in the trial. In another, in which he describes how he helped drag her body from her home in Morden to a waiting car. Amid laughter, Hama said: "The road was crowded and a police car came by. Cars were passing by and we were dragging the bag. The handle broke off. Man, I swear I was standing there, I almost ran away." The visitor asks: "Who was dragging?" Hama replies: "Mr Ari." "We were around him, each side of him - as God is my witness - her hair was sticking out, her elbow was sticking out. It was a stupid, silly thing. We put the bag on our shoulder to take it away." Hama's counsel, Malcolm Swift QC, told the judge Hama was repeating details given to him by Ari. Although involved in the planning of the murder, there was evidence he was at home that day. The Crown says Hama was the leader of the gang recruited by the Mahmod brothers to carry out their plans to murder Ms Mahmod and her boyfriend, Rahmat Sulemani. Hama was one of five men Ms Mahmod had named in a letter to police as being involved in a plot to kill her. Hama, of West Norwood, has pleaded guilty to the murder. Mahmod Mahmod, of Wimbledon, south London, and Ari Mahmod, of Mitcham, were found guilty of murder last month. They will all be sentenced today. AND http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Samaira_Nazir Samaira Nazir (died 23 April 2005[1][2]) was a 25-year-old British Pakistani woman who was murdered by her family members. She was a victim of honor killing. Samaira Nazir was a graduate of Thames Valley University and recruitment consultant. She fell in love

with an Afghan immigrant in Britain and wished to marry him, defying her family members. She had rejected the suitors her family wanted her to marry. Believing that this had brought disrespect to the family, her brother Azhar Nazir (30) and a 17-year-old cousin Imran Mohammed murdered her by stabbing her more than 18 times using four knives, while she was held down by her mother. This savage attack was performed in front of other family members - including two of their nieces, aged two and four. On July 14, 2006 a British jury sentenced the brother and a cousin of Samaira Nazir to life imprisonment. Her father was also charged but fled to Pakistan. John Reid, a Detective Inspector from the Metropolitan Police working the case, said: "There is nothing at all honourable about her brutal death." http://www.guardian.co.uk/uk/2006/jul/15/ukcrime.mainsection You're not my mother any more,' shouted Samaira. Then her family killed her Man gets 20 years after murdering sister who chose husband from wrong caste by Riazat Butt Samaira Nazir knew well that her parents would disapprove. She wanted to marry her Afghan boyfriend, rather than someone from the family circle, and she was prepared to fight for him too. So were they. Yesterday, Ms Nazir's brother was jailed for at least 20 years for her murder and her cousin, who is 17, will serve 10 years for his role in her death last April. The "honour killing", which took place at home in front of her parents, was carried out with four knives, as she was pinned down, and left her with 18 stab wounds and three separate cuts to her throat. The Old Bailey heard the method was "barbaric". Jurors were told the family disapproved of Ms Nazir's boyfriend, Salman Mohammed, because of his caste and they were so determined to split the pair up that when the couple announced their engagement, Ms Nazir's father, Azhar, lunged at Mr Mohammed with a knife and threatened to kill him. Her brother Azhar Nazir, a 30-year-old greengrocer, threatened to "get" the couple if they married, even if they were abroad. He was, the court heard, so incensed that his sister had turned down the suitors waiting for her in Pakistan in favour of the Afghan that he ordered the 25-year-old to come to the family home in Southall, Middlesex. Ready to confront her were her parents, her brother and the 17-year-old cousin, Imran Mohammed. Also present were her brother's daughters aged two and four. Inside the house, faced with angry relatives, Ms Nazir had a heated argument with them about her future, the court heard. The men attacked her, holding on to her to stop her escaping, and acted together to avenge the family honour.

Her screams alerted a neighbour, who came to the house and banged on the door, but her father appeared and sent the neighbour away, claiming his daughter was having a fit. Ms Nazir, jurors were told, was heard to shout at her mother, Irshad Begum: "You are not my mother any more." Ms Nazir succeeded in fleeing from her captors, her bloodstained arm emerging briefly from the door, but the men grabbed her by the hair and dragged her back into the house. Her family held her down, tied a silk scarf round her neck, and Imran Mohammed slashed her neck three times. Police who arrived at the house found Ms Nazir slumped in the hallway covered in blood. They also saw the two cousins were splattered with blood and feared they had been forced to watch Ms Nazir's murder as a warning as to what might happen should they fall in love with the wrong man. Azhar Nazir told officers there had been a problem with his sister. He said: "She does not wish to have an arranged marriage. We only allow marriage within the family. My sister wanted to run away from the house and was stopped." He tried to blame his cousin, a youth with low intellect, for the crime. Ms Nazir's father, a businessman, was also arrested and bailed for the killing but he fled to Pakistan and his family claimed he died there. Charges against the mother were dropped. Mr Mohammed and Ms Nazir, who ran a recruitment agency in the Southall area, had kept their affair secret, even staying apart for a year out of respect for the family. They met in 2000, following his illegal entry into the UK, after he found his way to Nazir's greengrocer's shop looking for advice on employment and accommodation. He became known to the family and Mr Mohammed fell in love with Ms Nazir. Giving evidence during the trial he said: "We were as boyfriend and girlfriend for about five or six years. But we couldn't tell her family because Samaira said her father was a very strict man who would not allow any female in his family to marry outside of his caste or tribe. "We had discussed marriage. Samaira told me she wanted to tell her family herself. Her father was very upset with her decision and said I was only after their money." Judge Christopher Moss said: "Samaira Nazir was an accomplished young woman who was murdered by members of her family because she insisted on marrying someone deemed unsuitable. She suffered a brutal, gruesome and horrific death." The judge told Nazir: "You were her judge and jury, although you may not have been alone. You claimed to have loved your sister, but were guilty of orchestrating her murder." Imran Mohammed, he said, had "carried out the sentence of death" passed on the young woman. Speaking after the trial, Nazir Afzal, of the Crown Prosecution Service, said: "Samaira was murdered because she loved the wrong person, in her family's eyes. It was an 'honour killing' to protect the

perceived status of the family, to mark their disapproval. We hope the investigation and prosecution will deter others who may wish to harm family members because of practices that are as tragic as they are outdated." Detective inspector John Reid added: "If Samaira had come to us and told us there were difficulties at home or she felt threatened, we might have been in a position to help her. But the stringent conditions operating in such families would have prohibited her coming forward."

http://www.telegraph.co.uk/news/uknews/1523949/Woman-stabbed-to-death-by-family-for-lovingwrong-man.html By John Steele, Crime Correspondent The brother and 17-year-old cousin of a young Pakistani woman were jailed for life yesterday for her murder in a so-called honour killing because she wanted to marry a man against her family's wishes. Samaira Nazir, 25, a graduate and recruitment consultant, was stabbed 18 times and her throat was tied tightly with a scarf and slit. The attack took place in front of her brother's two- and four-year-old daughters, who were spattered with blood. They saw Miss Nazir try to flee the knife blows from her cousin but her brother dragged her back from the door by her hair. Neighbours heard her scream for help. The men were sentenced at the Old Bailey in the latest case to highlight violence against women who assert their independence against the strict cultural dictates of their families. Miss Nazir's brother, Azhar, 30, and Imran Mohammed, 17, a distant cousin who was seeking asylum under a false name, attacked her because she wanted to marry Salman Mohammed, an Afghan asylum seeker. The court was told that her family disapproved because Salman was from a different caste and they suspected that he was after their money. Sally Howes, QC, prosecuting, said: "Following a heated argument about her relationship with Salman, she was attacked and killed. She lost her life for loving the wrong man." Miss Nazir died at the family home in Abbotts Road, Southall, west London, in April last year. Nazir, a grocer, was jailed for life with a minimum term of 20 years. Mohammed was detained during Her Majesty's pleasure for a minimum of 10 years. Judge Christopher Moss said Miss Nazir was "an accomplished young woman who was murdered by members of her family because she insisted on marrying someone deemed unsuitable". He told Nazir: "You were her judge and jury. You claimed to have loved your sister but were guilty of orchestrating her murder." Mohammed, who was 16 at the time of the killing and described as of low intellect, had "carried out the sentence of death passed". Miss Nazir's father, a businessman, was arrested but was released on bail. He left the country and is

said to have died. The court heard that Nazir and his father ran Rana Brothers, a well-known grocery in Southall Broadway, west London. The son also owned a recruitment company, S & F Staffing, which supplied workers for the Hilton hotel chain, and had made Miss Nazir a director. She had studied travel and tourism at Thames University and was described as the cleverest in the family. She and Salman Mohammed met when he went to the family store after he arrived in Britain in the back of a lorry in 2000. Her brother helped him find lodgings and a job and Miss Nazir's relationship with him slowly developed. They kept it secret, knowing that her family would not approve. Miss Nazir was taken to Pakistan in 2004 to meet arranged suitors but rejected them. In January last year she realised that her feelings for Salman Mohammed were as strong as ever and decided to "grasp the nettle" and tell her family she wanted to marry him. Azhar Nazir was furious when she told him. Two days before she died, he told Salman Mohammed that he would kill him and Miss Nazir and threatened that he would "get him" anywhere if they married. Outside court, Det Insp John Reid said: "This young girl was killed simply because she fell in love with someone her family did not approve of. There is nothing at all honourable about her brutal death." Nazir Afzal, the area director of the Crown Prosecution Service, said: "We hope that Samaira's death and the investigation and prosecution that followed will deter others who may wish to harm their family members because of practices that are as tragic as they are outdated." Police and the CPS have focused in recent years on cases of violence, including murder, against young women in a number of ethnic minority communities, where it is suspected that cultural practices such as arranged marriages are being enforced through fear. The Metropolitan Police say they have dealt with five or six "honour-related" murder cases each year. The issue has led to a review of 119 suspicious deaths of women for which no one was originally charged. So far, four people have been charged and 14 other cases are still being investigated. http://www.stophonourkillings.com/?q=node/135 Samaira Nazir, a 25 year old woman was stabbed 18 times and had her throat cut in April last year. She bled to death after the brutal attack carried out by her brother Azhar Nazir, 30, and her 17-year-old cousin. Ms Nazir had held a secret relationship with Salman Mohamed, an Afgani asylum seeker. After rejecting all the potential suitors arranged for to marry, she expressed a desire to marry Mr Mohamed. On April 23, neighbours heard screaming and saw Samaira, covered in blood, trying to escape, only to be dragged back in by her hair. When police arrived, they found her body in a pool of blood, a knife beside her, and both her brother and cousin drenched in blood. The case has currently been discharged and will resume next week. http://in.lifestyle.yahoo.com/arranged-marriage-disaster-000619371.html It was while recording a story about the impossibility of divorce for women in Afghanistan that

Zarghuna Kargar decided she must find the strength to end her own arranged marriage. Brought up in Kabul and then Pakistan after her family fled from the Taliban, she was engaged at 16 to a distant relative she had never met and married in London after her family claimed asylum in Britain. Trained by the BBC World Service's charitable arm in Pakistan, in London she became the presenter of Afghan Woman's Hour, a weekly magazine programme modelled on Radio 4's Woman's Hour that highlighted the terrible position of women in Afghan society. The show was a huge hit and was praised for its frank treatment of subjects including domestic violence and homosexuality. But though her own family was educated and liberal, and her parents moved to the west partly for the benefit of their five daughters, an arranged marriage was expected and Zarghuna accepted that. "I did have a lot of arguments with my parents during the engagement but it was something I had to do," she says. "I had to either be a good Afghan girl, who accepted whatever decision was made for me, or be a bad girl and leave. Breaking an engagement was a big thing and I got scared. So I decided, I'm a good Afghan girl, I'm going to do it the Afghan way. And we got married. The whole time it was a horrible feeling." Now Zarghuna, who is 28 and known as Zari because some British people find the guttural "gh" sound difficult, has written about her miserable three-year marriage in her first book. Dear Zari is a heartwrenching anthology of the personal stories broadcast on Afghan Woman's Hour. It includes appalling stories of abuse of girls given away as household slaves to settle family feuds, of widows shunned, of wives blamed for giving birth to daughters. Interwoven are intimate details of the author's life, including her wedding night. "God, please make sure I bleed; that's the only wish I have. I don't want money or a big house to live in I just want this blood," was Kargar's prayer on the day of her marriage. Submitting to her husband, Javed, whom she did not like and hardly knew, and shaking uncontrollably, she spent the night weeping uncontrollably because the wished-for "proof" of her virginity did not materialise. "As a result, my married life had begun with my husband failing to trust me," she writes. "Whenever he spoke unkindly to me after that, I thought it was because he didn't believe I'd been a virgin on my wedding night." Unlike many of the Afghan marriages she describes, Kargar's relationship was not violent. She and Javed did not even argue that much, she says, because they were not that involved. "It was my destiny, but it wasn't a good feeling. He was about 25 a young man but when I met him it didn't really work for me in a girl way, or a woman way. I just didn't have any feelings and I think it was the same from his side. We were just put together by two families." Kargar says that she tried to embrace her role as a wife, but they barely talked she thinks partly because Javed envied her career. She hoped if he got a good job, the situation might improve, but instead she got lonelier and more convinced that their marriage was a disaster. Her career flourished, as Afghan Woman's Hour achieved audience figures in the millions. But as her life became increasingly unhappy, Kargar found herself moved by the harrowing first-person stories featured on the programme to look again at her life. "I felt that discussing these kinds of women, their stories and the way they talked, and what they wanted, empowered me. I was feeling a kind of hypocrisy inside me because the experts I invited on the programme were giving all this advice, but I

was not making decisions in my own life." It was the story of Anesa, a woman married to a gay husband who moved his lover into the family home, that finally gave her the push she needed. For four years, Anesa said, she lived with her children, her husband and his lover. The lover was the favourite, while her sons were beaten and often went hungry. Yet she was unable to leave. Though Anesa's husband's homosexuality was frowned on by Afghan society, and his children victimised as a result, if she divorced him she would lose them. She often thought about killing herself. In the office, Kargar and her World Service colleagues discussed divorce and the insurmountable problems facing women in Afghanistan who wished to leave their husbands. "And I was thinking, actually I have choice. I was educated, I had a good job and no children. I was capable of doing it and I had the support of the legal system." In 2006, aged 24, and having lost all hope and respect for the relationship, she asked her husband to leave. At first he was angry, and tried with her parents to make her change her mind. But she stood her ground, and in the end the divorce papers came from him. He has since remarried. Last year, the funding for Afghan Woman's Hour was cut, and Kargar transferred to the Afghan news service. The programme was not without its critics, as the money came from Foreign Office counterterror funds, but Kargar is passionately proud of its role in promoting women's rights and freedoms. When she arrived in the UK as an 18-year-old in August 2001, the September 11 attacks were still a month off. Ten years on, she supports the presence of foreign troops in Afghanistan and fears a return to even greater chaos. Her father, who was a government official during the Soviet invasion, and later worked as a writer on the World Service's Afghan soap opera, New Home New Life, now teaches Pashtun to British soldiers. But while she was inspired by the young revolutionaries in Tahrir Square in Cairo, she is made uncomfortable by the celebrations in the west of the death of Osama bin Laden. She kept her divorce secret from colleagues for two years after it happened, and is still working through her feelings about what happened, wiping away tears when she recalls her wedding. "I was just very upset, and very angry with everything. When they talked about the decorations, I said 'Just take the chairs from the kitchen! I don't care!' And I really didn't care. It was very difficult." Her family hopes that she will remarry one day, and she says that although two of her sisters' arranged marriages have worked out well, her parents have decisively broken with the custom. She sees them every week and has forgiven them for her earlier unhappiness. They are proud of her book, she says though she has been warned against publishing pictures of her relatives, including childhood photographs. As a teenager in Peshawar, Pakistan, where women were more restricted than in 1980s Kabul, and she first became used to covering her head with a scarf, Kargar had no romantic or sexual experiences of any kind. "I was a very dull teenager, very quiet and isolated from boys," she says. "We were a girls family [five sisters, one brother] and in our culture, love stories are not really good stories to hear, so maybe those things had an effect. I didn't even understand that these feelings existed; I never even had a crush. It was weird."

What is disturbing in the book, and must surely be for many women in reality, is the way that such complete ignorance even on her wedding night, in London, Zarghuna had no idea what to expect in the bedroom is suddenly shocked out of them, as they are expected instantaneously to turn into adult women. One girl known to her family in Pakistan and mentioned in the book, offered in a marriage exchange at 11, died in childbirth after the book went to press aged 13. Now, with such innocence firmly behind her, Zarghuna is determined to make her own choices. She says the moment of her greatest strength was the decision not to have children with her husband when everyone around her encouraged it. "I want to be a mother with somebody I love, and not just for the sake of my own happiness. I want to give proper happiness to my kid with a loving daddy if I can. But if that doesn't happen, then I'm happy the way I am." Dear Zari by Zarghuna Kargar is reviewed today in the Review section, page published by Chatto & Windus, 12.99. To order a copy for 10.39 with free UK p&p, go to guardian.co.uk/bookshop or call 0330 333 6846 guardian.co.uk Guardian News and Media 2011 Sofia, 34, and her boyfriend Fabrizio, 39, a City trader, bought their fi ve-bedroomed home near West Kingsdown for just over 1million in 2005. interestingly enough, if an eastern man marries a western girls and/or leaves his eastern roots for a life of sex with many partners, drink, drugs, etc. - rarely is an eyelash batted. but when eastern girls (particularly middle eastern and indian subcontinent derived) live a western lifestyle, all hell breaks loose. such a double standard! http://www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/article-1210799/My-mother-hired-hitman-kill-The-shocking-storyMuslim-woman-parents-disapproved-Western-lifestyle.html My mother hired a hitman to kill me: The shocking story of a Muslim woman whose parents disapproved of her Western lifestyle By Sofia Hayat Read more: http://www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/article-1210799/My-mother-hired-hitman-kill-Theshocking-story-Muslim-woman-parents-disapproved-Western-lifestyle.html#ixzz1S0tn94ZS The text message forwarded to me from my younger sister Saira was concise and chilling: 'Mum's sent a hit man to kill you,' it read. 'Be careful.' As I read those words, my first instinct wasn't fear or even shock, but simply survival. I'd become accustomed to behaviour like this from both my parents - behaviour that anyone else would find abhorrent - and I was emotionally numb to their threats. But I also knew that my sister's warning was deadly serious and my life was in real danger. I'd been in

hiding for several weeks when I received the text. I was born in Gravesend in Kent in 1974 and brought up there in a devout Muslim family with three sisters and two brothers. My father Zammurrad, a factory worker, was a deeply religious man but violent towards my mother Surriya and my sisters Zarqa, now 38, Saira, 33, and Tahira, 32. I tried to be an obedient daughter, praying up to five times a day, but I never felt loved by my parents or that I really belonged. In turn, my parents viewed me as something of an oddity. Perhaps it was because I loved performing. From as young as five, acting and singing was in my blood and at school I won so many competitions for writing songs that if the teachers wanted a song for an assembly they'd ask me to write one and I'd get up on stage and sing it. My love of singing and dancing wasn't exactly encouraged at home, but it wasn't a big problem when I was young. But as I hit my teens, my parents told me I could no longer continue. I was to forget my childish fantasies of becoming an actress, as in their eyes singing and dancing were on a par with prostitution. As I grew older, my father started placing increasingly severe restrictions on my life. I was forbidden from making friends with other children and lived a very lonely existence. On the one occasion I was given special permission to attend a birthday party of a girl who lived 100 metres down the road, I was allowed to stay for only an hour. My life was just school and home, with no free time for myself. I was to forget my childish fantasies of becoming an actress, as in their eyes it was on a par with prostitution Throughout my childhood, my father grew more aggressive towards my mother and sisters, regularly throwing plates and knives at us in anger. My brothers Majid, now 31, and Wajid, 29, were allowed to do as they pleased, but my sisters and I were told that Muslim girls were like a white sheet; once stained, forever ruined. If ever I returned home even five minutes late from the park or school, my father would hit me with his belt, often until I bled. It got so bad that my sisters and I used to wear five layers of clothing to protect ourselves. On one family outing to Margate when I was about nine, I was ten minutes late back to our meeting point, as I'd stayed to watch a Punch and Judy show. My father broke a branch from a tree, stripped off all the leaves and started whipping me with it in broad daylight.

Despite her family's disapproval and attempts to stop her through imprisonment, Sofia has gone on to have a successful modelling and acting career Incredibly, the rest of my family stood there and did nothing. As an adult I can see how wrong this was, but at the time I just accepted it. We all did. I had grown up under Dad's tyrannical rule and I knew no different. Even when I'd been sexually abused by a male relative as a young teenager, instead of supporting me my parents blamed me for accepting presents from him and accused me of lying. It was from that day on I realised that I had to look after myself. When I was 13, I was flown to Pakistan to meet my 14-year-old cousin, who I was told I would marry when I turned 18. As soon as he saw me, he said I was too ugly to marry and rejected me in favour of my 12-year-old sister Saira. They married six years later. While in Pakistan, my mother took me to see a Holy Man to ask him what was wrong with me. He told her I had a bad spirit in me and gave me a prayer to say every day and a bracelet to wear. I was so angry that my own mother seemed to be listening to a man she'd only just met, but had never had the time for me. I knew then that my only way to escape a future of misery was through education. If ever I returned home late from the park or school, my father would hit me with his belt, often until I bled Despite the control they had over me, my mother and father thought that a degree in science, medicine or law was the perfect goal for one of their unmarried daughters and so, at the age of 18, I started a Biology and Management degree at Sussex University and moved into student accommodation in a square near the old pier in Brighton. I hated the course and secretly switched to a performing arts and music degree at Brighton University, which I loved. But as my parents were unable to finance me, I supported myself with three different jobs - including three nights a week earning 50 a night as a dancer in a nightclub. Finally, I was enjoying my life and my freedom. But one evening a TV camera crew came to the club and captured me wearing just a cowboy hat, a short skirt and a Wonderbra. Of course, I knew I was being filmed and I knew there was a slim chance my parents might see it. But I was living away from home, enjoying the independence and, naively, I also thought that if they did see me performing, it might make them realise how passionate I was about acting.

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Victims: Like Sofia, Samaira Nazir, left, and Banaz Mahmod were accused of 'dishonouring' their families - and it cost them their lives Needless to say, a friend of my parents saw the programme. A couple of nights later, as I returned to my flat at about 3am someone pulled the door open as I shut it. 'You're coming home with me now. I'm taking you away from this lifestyle,' said a voice. It was my mother. I told her I wasn't going anywhere and she started screaming at me. That's when my 15-year-old brother Majid, who'd illegally driven my mother all the way from Kent, appeared from behind her brandishing a kitchen knife. Majid was heavily built, so I genuinely feared that he was capable of using the knife. My mother had once said 'If anyone dishonours this family, first I will kill them and then kill myself', so I knew that she too was serious. I got into the car and we arrived back in Kent in the early hours of the morning. I was marched into the cellar, which had been turned into a makeshift bedroom, and my brother stood in the doorway holding the knife. My mother calmly said: 'From now on, we're going to look after you and you're going to do what we say.' There was nothing I could do. I sat there in silence, thinking my new life was now over. To my relief, my father was abroad at the time. I'm still not sure how instrumental he was in my abduction, but if he had been there in person I'm sure things would have turned even nastier. For several weeks I lived in that cellar. My meals were brought to me and I was accompanied to the toilet. My mother had once said 'If anyone dishonours this family, first I will kill them and then kill myself' Although I wasn't physically locked in the room, there was no way I could escape without being noticed, because the only exit was through the adjacent living room, which was always occupied. I was allowed no communication with the outside world, so I had no idea whether anyone from college had tried to contact me. Initially, I was so traumatised that I didn't even think about escaping. But as the days turned into weeks, I pleaded with my mother to let me return to my old job at the local supermarket, where I'd worked part-time before I went to college. Eventually, she agreed, provided I was escorted to and from work. It was a relief to be finally able to escape and only a fortnight after I returned I confided in a colleague, Graham, about what was happening at home.

Horrified, he offered to help me escape. It was a dangerous plan, but I could see no other way out. My family had me under close surveillance, but at about noon one October lunchtime I sneaked out of the shop and jumped into the back of Graham's car and lay flat on the floor, out of sight. All I had with me were the clothes I was wearing and nothing else. But I didn't care - I was getting away. Graham took me to Brighton, but when I arrived at my old flat, my flatmate greeted me at the door. 'You've got to go,' he said. 'Your mother saw you sneaking into a car outside your work and has just called me to check if you were here. She's on her way here now to check the house.' I was terrified. Graham immediately drove me to another friend's house 30 minutes away, where I laid low, too scared even to leave the house. That's how I remained for the next month. Every time I heard a car pass or a door open, I thought I was about to be recaptured. People might wonder why I didn't contact the police at this stage. The truth was, I was too embarrassed and confused to tell them that my own family were trying to kidnap me. I just wanted to hibernate. Then my sister forwarded my mother's fateful text message and I felt more alone than ever. I managed to summon up the energy to report the text to Hove police, who were amazing. They went straight to my mum's house and warned her that if she came anywhere near me she would be immediately arrested and sent to prison. They didn't pursue the hitman claim, but told me that if any more threats were made, I should contact them straight away. That seemed to work. The police gave me an emergency number to contact should I receive any more threats and for two months I heard nothing. Then my old flatmate called, saying that my mum had phoned, desperate to speak to me as my father had suffered a heart attack. Despite everything that had happened, I called my mum to ask about my father. She assured me she wouldn't try to kidnap me again, but needed to talk. We arranged to meet in a public place in Brighton, with the police watching. As I walked to meet her, I wasn't hoping for a reconciliation. How could I repair a mother-daughter relationship that never existed in the first place? The first thing my mother said was that she wasn't going to harm me or take me away, but it quickly transpired that my dad hadn't had a heart attack at all. Instead, my mother wanted to make one final appeal to me to give up my performing and my lifestyle and return home to get married and live a respectable Muslim life.

I flatly refused. 'Fine,' she said, coldly. 'From now on you're dead in our eyes and I don't want to see you again.' She walked away. I don't blame my parents for what they've put me through, I blame the fact that Islam has become so distorted As we parted, I wept. I'd never felt like I'd belonged in my family, but at that point I did feel truly, truly alone in the world. But a part of me dared to hope that she'd meant what she'd said, so that I could finally get on with my life unimpeded. And that's exactly what happened for the next ten years. I completed my degree and since then I've gone on to appear in many TV programmes, such as Waterloo Road and Footballers' Wives, as a supporting actor. I recorded a song which reached No6 in the MTV charts and sang at the Royal Albert Hall. I'm even appearing in a movie called The Unforgettable later this year. I'm really living the life I dreamed of all those years ago. I've broken off all contact with my father, but I did start seeing my sister Saira again about four years ago, when her arranged marriage collapsed and she remarried and had children. I see her family regularly and through her children I eventually came back into contact with my mother two years ago. I was petrified that she'd reject me again, but she is now separated from my father and seems quieter and more at peace. We see each other every couple of months, but there's little mention of what happened before and I know deep down she will never be proud of what I am and who I've become. It's taken a lot of therapy to come to a position of understanding and self awareness but, despite everything that has happened, I don't blame my parents for what they've put me through. I blame the fact that Islam has become so distorted and warped. I don't believe that the Muslim religion condones any sort of violence; Islam literally means 'peace'. The greeting from one Muslim to another - 'aasalamolaykom' - means: 'Peace be with you.' If only people would actually read the Koran for themselves, they would see the love and peace it radiates and the equality among men and women it promotes. If only my parents had been able to give me that kind of love. INTERVIEW BY NICK McGRATH DISHONOURED by Sofia Hayat is published by John Blake Publishiing at 7.99. http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Bibi_Aisha

Bibi Aisha is an Afghan woman whose mutilated face appeared on the cover of Time magazine in summer 2010. Her story first appeared in the Daily Beast in December of 2009, which prompted doctors to write in offering to help her. The Grossman Burn Foundation in California pledged to perform reconstructive surgery on her and began organizing for her visa in the early spring of 2010. Diane Sawyer of ABC News also covered her ordeal in March of 2010. Aisha's father promised her to a Taliban fighter when she was 12 years old to satisfy an obligation, in a practice known as baad. She was married at 14 and abused. At 18, she fled the abuse but was caught. Her father returned her to his in-laws. To discourage kidnapping in the village, they took her into the mountains, cut off her nose and her ears, and left her to die.[1] Some sources dispute the role of any members of the Taliban in her mutilation at the time it happened.[2] [3] Aisha was featured on a July 2010 cover of Time magazine and in a corresponding article, Afghan Women and the Return of the Taliban.[4] The cover image generated enormous controversy.[5] The image and the accompanying cover title, What Happens if We Leave Afghanistan, fueled debate about the merits of the Afghan War.[6] The photo was taken by the South African photographer Jodi Bieber and was awarded the World Press Photo Award for 2010.[7] The image of Aisha is sometimes compared to the Afghan Girl photo of Sharbat Gula.[8] Shortly after Time's cover ran, Aisha was flown to the United States to receive free reconstructive surgery.

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Baad_%28practice%29 Baad is a traditional practice of settling disputes in Afghanistan among only Pushtun tribes [1] in which a young girl is traded to settle a dispute for her older relatives. This may involve being used as payment for a financial dispute, as a means to avoid larger or longer-lasting arguments and grudges.[2] A famous example is Bibi Aisha,[3] who was subsequently mutilated when she fled the abuse that girls sometimes suffer from their new families under baad. The practice has no legal or religious basis, but is an ancient tradition that is widely accepted among Afghan tribes. whilst eastern men are having a good time with dirty, fake western whores, this is what desi and arab/middle eastern women especially have to face. the fun the men have with western whores is just a further disgraceful slap in the face. this is yet another painful aspect........ http://www.thestar.com/article/580236 http://thelangarhall.com/punjabi/she-was-the-ticket-to-a-better-life/

I dont even know where to begin with this story. The grisly facts of Amandeep Kaur Dhillons murder and her father-in-laws arrest have been covered before, but this weekend, the Toronto Stars Raveena Aulakh wrote a detailed story. You can read the full article here and it will break your heart, not just because of Amandeep Kaurs tragic story, but because her story is all too common in our community. Baldev Mutta knows the stories of immigrant women all too well. The executive director of the Punjabi Community Health Centre in Brampton says hundreds of young Punjabi brides arrive in Canada every year. Many have arranged marriages. They dont know anyone, dont have any support system and battle pressures most people cant even imagine exist, he said. In the Punjabi culture, men are raised to be dominant while women are expected to be subservient. The level of thinking of men in the Punjabi community leaves a lot to be desired, said Mutta, a Punjabi himself. Mutta, who runs programs at four Sikh temples in Brampton, Rexdale, Malton and Oakville, and hosts a radio show, wishes he had been able to reach Amandeep. Some women are so isolated that they are not allowed to have any communication even with their parents, said Kripa Sekhar, executive director of the South Asian Womens Centre on Lansdowne Ave. in Toronto. There are times when we get emails or phone calls from a womans family saying they havent heard from her ever since she came to Canada, can we check on her, says Sekhar. In some cases women, bruised and beaten, have been locked up in their homes, not allowed to make or receive any calls. Its a problem women face everywhere, but what is unique among South Asians is that we dont acknowledge it or want to talk about it. We can deny it all we want but heres the sad reality for many (not all) Punjabi families: Many families in Punjab are ready and willing to sacrifice the happiness of one child to pave the way for the others. Though rarely talked about in Punjab, it is understood that when a son or daughter marries and moves to North America or England, they will apply for their family to join them. Amandeep was expected to do the same for her parents, her sisters Pawandeep, 20 and Jasvir, 16, and brother Rajvir, 12. When she flew to Canada in May 2006 to join her husband, her family was already counting the days until they would follow. Some friends of mine played a cruel game growing up. Whenever theyd be at a community event, they would pick out a couple who they suspected were fresh from India. They then guessed which one had sponsored the other to Canada. They would always pick the less well put together person and would often be right. While the game itself is totally non-PC, it does highlight a point. Canadian citizenship becomes a trump card in the mating game. Add it to a persons bio-data and you get instantly upgraded. So what if hes a high-school dropout with a criminal record and only one good leg, hes a Canadian citizen. Parents are happy to turn a blind eye to obvious incompatibilities in order to establish a beach head in the West. For the son or daughter being sacrificed, it becomes a nightmare. They have little or no say in their choice of partner and their parents, distracted by dreams of dollars, completely abdicate their duty as responsible parents. The line you always hear after the fact is if only wed known what was really going on. It should actually be if only wed bother to do our research. If every Punjabi is connected by less than six degrees of separation surely parents can find out whats really going on with a prospective family. But do they really want to hear what the truth might be about their childs

prospective in-laws, if theres a risk that it dashes their dreams. Marginalization of females in the Punjabi family unit is commonly accepted. The first couple of months that Amandeep was in Canada, she lived with her husband and father-inlaw in a basement apartment in Malton. Within two weeks, she was working in a factory in Brampton. At first, she met people from her village at their homes or the Sikh temple. Slowly all changed. Her phone calls to India became irregular and when she was invited, along with her husband and father-inlaw, for a get-together she made excuses. When she did leave the house, she was always with her father-in-law or husband, say her extended family in Brampton. She was here for more than two years and I met her only about five or six times, said Kirandeep Basran, a cousin who lives in Brampton.She came to my house twice and barely stayed for 10 minutes each time. Basran says whenever someone called Amandeep, her father-in-law or husband either picked up the extension or switched on the speakerphone. I started to worry about her and so I called up her husband one day, said Basran. He abused me, screamed and told me never to call again. This was early 2007 and Amandeep was about eight months pregnant. A few days later, Amandeep phoned her cousin and asked her not to phone or visit. I didnt want to aggravate things for her, said Basran, who next met Amandeep when her son, Manmohan Singh, was born on March 1, 2007. Even when I went to see Aman and her son, the fatherin-law hovered around. Basran asked him if she could take Aman and the baby for a few days but he refused. The dirty little secret is that in every Punjabi extended family, there are some individual women who are suffering through the same personal hell as Amandeep Kaur. It may not manifest itself in outright violence or abuse, but they are kept in their place by the threat of being sent back to Punjab or, even worse, her familys immigration papers being withdrawn. Along with this threat, they are economically disenfranchised, physically isolated from friends and family and threatened into subservience. Sympathetic family members dare not speak for fear of rocking the boat and sticking their nose where it doesnt belong. Furthermore, the girl herself is often reluctant to speak about her personal problems for fear of bringing dishonour to her familys name. Tragically, the result is an educated female, once full of life and potential, is reduced to counting down the days to some kind of freedom, usually centered around her own familys arrival in Canada. A son is seen as an asset and a daughter is a liability. The family didnt argue when dowry was settled at roughly $54,000, an excessive amount but seen as an investment in their own future. This was in addition to $15,000 the family spent on a lavish threeday wedding that was attended by more than 600 guests. A month after the wedding, Amandeeps parents were asked by her in-laws to send an extra $2,500 to Canada or her immigration papers would not be filed. Her father, Avtar, pawned his wifes jewellery and sent the money. For Avtar, a farmer who grows mostly rice and wheat on nearly 5 hectares of land, a small-sized

holding in Punjab, it was a lot of money. He sold some land, borrowed from family and friends and mortgaged his house. It was very tough but we didnt mind, said Avtar. We just wanted Aman to be happy. Dowries were outlawed in India in 1961 but it is common for the grooms side to seek a dowry and for the brides side to provide one. The dowry cash and gifts is meant to smooth their daughters move into the new home. So let me get this straight. If you have a son to marry off, you can demand money to have someone marry him, claim all the income that this person will earn in her lifetime, and at will, demand further compensation from her family for putting up with the burden of her presence. And if you have a daughter, not only do you raise her with all your love (and money), you deferentially bequeath her to another family to whom you now owe a debt of gratitude (and wealth) for taking her off your hands. Oh yes, you also get to cater to every whim of her in-laws for life. Hows that for a fantastic deal. Remind me again why Punjabis have the lowest female to male ratio in the world? Now I purposely use Punjabi and not Sikh in this context, even though almost all the families I refer to are Sikh. Yes, the gurdwaras and other Sikh institutions have played a negligent role to play in letting this problem perpetuate itself, but Sikhi is not to blame. We are dealing with cultural issues here. The worst aspects of Punjabi (and Indian) culture already stack the deck against females. Unfortunately, for many women, the willingness of families to do anything to emigrate abroad only makes it worse. http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Faria_Alam Alam was born on 13 February 1966 in Dhaka, Bangladesh to a moderate and educated Muslim family. Her father was a Pakistani bank employee and her Bangladeshi mother, with two brothers and one sister. Her family emigrated to England in 1970, and she was grew up in the North East, living in Bradford, Northumberland and Newcastle. Later her mother moved to Seattle in the United States after her parents divorced. Her father died in 1997, and she was left with her family friends. Alam initially came to the attention of the public after the revelation of her affair with Sven-Goran Eriksson and her dating relationship with Mark Palios in August 2004. The Mail on Sunday and News of the World published interviews with Alam where she was questioned about sex with Eriksson and Palios in "graphic detail". After making headlines again in 2007 when the Sun reported that she had accepted 8,000 in exchange for sex with an undercover reporter, Alam swiftly fled to Canada where she now lives in relative anonymity, an attempt to ease away from the negative media attention. http://news.bbc.co.uk/2/hi/uk_news/4119080.stm Sven lover 'boasted in e-mails' Faria Alam Miss Alam is said to have sent a series of e-mails about her affairs A Football Association secretary "bragged" in e-mails about her affairs with Sven-Goran Eriksson and a senior official, a tribunal has heard. Faria Alam, 39, resigned from her post at the FA last August after her affairs with the England coach

and FA chief executive Mark Palios became public. FA lawyers said she wrote: "I want to be...very very rich" in one e-mail. Miss Alam denies resigning in order to make money from newspapers and is claiming unfair dismissal. She also alleges that she suffered sexual discrimination, breach of contract and unequal pay. 'Bragging messages' The employment tribunal in central London was told by FA lawyers on Wednesday that the former model had fired off frequent messages from her work e-mail address bragging about the affairs. In one she allegedly wrote: "Haven't been naughty yet, but the guy I will see tomorrow night is the more famous one. "Let's call him Sugar, he's very sweet and he's the coach." I'm not going to go through life settling for second best ever E-mail FA says was written by Faria Alam In another message to a friend, who later sold e-mails on to a newspaper, Miss Alam apparently said: "I'm 36, unmarried and loving it. My social life is amazing and I date famous people." Miss Alam also described relations with Mr Palios - whom she called PP or Pretty Polly - and with Mr Eriksson. 'Newspaper riches' Barrister Jeffrey Bacon, representing the FA, said that Miss Alam had sent a further string of e-mails to friends and family as the national football team played in the Euro 2004 tournament in Portugal. In one e-mail, he claimed Miss Alam wrote: "Sugar is brilliant, I've even told your dad. I want to be happy and very, very rich and successful and I will be. It is really your boasting to friends and colleagues that led to the story exploding Jeffrey Bacon, representing the FA "I'm not going to go through life settling for second best ever." Mr Bacon also rejected her claim that she had been smeared by the FA. "It is really your boasting to friends and colleagues that led to the story exploding," he said. The hearing heard that on 5 August 2004, the day Miss Alam resigned from the FA, she was in the office of PR consultant Max Clifford.

She said she had sent her resignation letter while at Mr Clifford's business premises. Miss Alam denied allegations she had quit in order to sell her story and insisted that her position had become "untenable". I wouldn't swear on the Koran and then lie Faria Alam She was also challenged about her claim that she had not been asked a direct question about her affair with Mr Eriksson. The tribunal heard that FA executive director David Davies had asked Miss Alam if she had been "running around" with Mr Eriksson. "What did you think he meant, jogging?" asked Mr Bacon. "No. That something was going on," Miss Alam replied. Harassment claim Mr Bacon later challenged Miss Alam's allegation that Mr Davies had sexually harassed her and that she had kept a written record of the events. Such a diary would have been a "holy grail" for a discrimination case, he said, and asked why she had not demanded it be returned with other personal belongings she had left at FA headquarters. Miss Alam said the notebook had been company property and she believed it would not have been handed over. She denied she was making up the claims: "No I'm not. I wouldn't swear on the Koran and then lie." The tribunal also heard that Miss Alam had talked about her previous marriage with FA lawyer Alistair MacLean during discussions about how to deal with the revelations over her private life. This, along with attempts by the FA's then communications director, Colin Gibson, to broker a deal for Miss Alam to tell her story was evidence of their attempts to protect their employee, said Mr Bacon. Miss Alam is thought to be seeking about 30,000 in compensation. http://www.femalefirst.co.uk/celebrity/Faria+Alam-486.html Sven Goran Eriksson is a master in the art of lovemaking according to former FA secretary Faria Alam. The 38-year-old Ms Alam has finally revealed the sordid intimacies of her affair with the England coach Sven Goran-Eriksson and the former FA chief executive Mark Palios. In interviews with the Mail on Sunday and the News of the World she has described in graphic detail their sexual affair and reportedly she even intimated she would not be averse to marrying him. In the report she says that she

vowed that she would never marry again but now she was so in love with Sven that if he did propose she would most likely have said yesFaria Alam has also revealed how she first fell for Palios and said she was attracted by his aura of power. Regarding Eriksson it was at a Christmas dinner, she was seated at a table for 10 people with Mr. Eriksson on her left and Mr, Palios on her right. The newspaper reports that according to Ms Alam Sven soon signaled his intentions by as she says, fondling her at the table. Claiming the England coach rubbed his leg against hers and she whispered back to him and asked him what he thought he was doing. Her account goes on to say that he just smirked and put his finger to his lips and said shhh In the report Ms Alam recalls she was shocked by former FA communications director Colin Gibson's proposal that if the News of the World left Mr Palios out of it she would have to tell them all about Eriksson. Following the revelations both Palios and Gibson have resigned but Eriksson still survives as the FA found he had no case to defend.,/p> According to the newspapers Ms Alam says she flatly refuses to lie for them and their disgraceful plot has been exposed. Further saying Sven has done nothing wrong but the FA was willing to sacrifice him to get Palios off the hook, he was hung out to dry by the FA in a similar manner as she herself had been. http://www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/article-1297905/Why-Faria-Alam-escape-toxic-legacy-Sven-GoranEriksson-affair.html These days, Faria Alam's life could not be further removed from the scandal-drenched existence she left behind in Britain, fleeing as she did with her reputation beyond repair. Home is now a rented house in Calgary, overlooking the Canadian Rockies, where people are largely unaware that she was once the notorious mistress of former England football coach Sven-Goran Eriksson. Here, Faria does not rush to tell new acquaintances that in 2004, as the former PA to the Football Association's then executive director David Davies, she became embroiled in the most embarrassing scandal in the FA's 140-year history. Now aged 43, she insists she is happy to live alone, quietly, embracing whatever anonymity she can claw back, which she admits isn't easy - even in Canada - when her past is there for all to see on the internet in all its sordid, humiliating detail. But that is what happens, as she has learned to her considerable cost, when you kiss and tell about one of the most high-profile of sporting figures in the most startlingly graphic, toe-curling sexual detail for a reported 410,000. Regrets? Faria, now effectively living in self-imposed exile, has more than just a few. 'When I look back, I regret the whole thing. If I could go back, I would do everything differently. For a start, I would never have accepted that job at the FA in the first place,' she says. 'When I became involved with Sven, I didn't realise the magnitude of what I was getting myself into.' 'I can see now that the whole lifestyle I bought into in Britain was rubbish. I thought it was glamorous

and exciting, but it's not' This is Faria's first in-depth interview in almost six years. She tells me she is happier now than she has ever been, but throughout our conversation anger simmers beneath the surface. She says she 'takes responsibility' for the mistakes she made, has learned her lesson, rediscovered her Islamic faith, and bears no malice towards those who she feels hung her out to dry, but the occasional flashes of bitterness suggest otherwise. 'I don't miss Britain one little bit,' she says, before adding with sudden, angry emphasis: 'Not. One. Little. Bit. And I am sure Britain doesn't miss me either. Well good riddance to you, too. Bye, Bye. 'I don't care what people say or think about me any more. I have been able to reinvent myself over here. My life is so different now. I am much more contented. 'From my window I can see the Rockies, blue sky and sunshine. I go hiking, canoeing on the lakes, I meditate, pray, do yoga and pilates. I eat well, exercise and lead a healthy life. 'Today, I feel as though everything that happened with Sven and the FA happened to someone else. My life has turned 360 degrees and I am back to where I want to be. 'Here, there isn't a nightlife culture. I don't go out. I can go for a whole week without seeing anyone.' It all sounds rather lonely, but Faria insists she loves the solitude. For a while after the scandal she tried to carve out some sort of career via reality TV, appearing on Celebrity Big Brother, because, she says, 'who was going to give me an office job?' In 2005 she lost her sexual discrimination case against the FA when her claims of sexual harassment, unfair dismissal and breach of contract were rejected by an employment tribunal. She fled Britain in 2007 to study for a master's degree in Canada and be nearer her mother living in the U.S., after a red-top tabloid exposed her as an alleged high-class hooker, who offered to sleep with an undercover reporter for 8,000 a night. 'I've been accused of all kinds of things. Everything. You name it, I've been accused of it,' she says wearily. 'What I said was a joke. Women often say things they don't mean. What woman hasn't said at some time "I'd sleep with so and so for 8,000?"' Not many of my acquaintance, but perhaps Faria moves in different circles. 'Women often say things they don't mean. What woman hasn't said at some time "I'd sleep with so and so for 8,000?"' Working now as a marketing and fundraising consultant, she says she makes a good living, splitting her time between Calgary and an apartment she owns in Vancouver, but it all sounds rather ad hoc. There appear to be yawning gaps between marketing jobs, which she fills in with voluntary work with children, chasing new clients and even, on occasion, dog walking.

She admits she has suffered bouts of depression in the past two years, when, she says, 'I wanted to die', but has been helped through her crises by her family and friends. Certainly, it's all a far cry from those heady days spent in London's champagne bars, mixing with football royalty, where Faria - nicknamed 'Ferarri' - attracted the eye of not only Sven but the FA's chief executive Mark Palios, with whom she also had a brief affair. But as Faria says now: 'I can see now that the whole lifestyle I bought into in Britain was rubbish. I thought it was glamorous and exciting, but it's not.' There are those who will always regard Faria as the worst kind of attention-seeker. If she now craves anonymity, what is she doing raising her head above the parapet again? Can it be a coincidence that she is talking about her acting debut, as a catsuit-wearing assassin in the new British movie Cash and Curry, the very week her ex-lover Sven - coach for the Ivory Coast national team - was in the frame for the vacant Fulham football club manager's post? 'I haven't had any contact with Sven for years, but I wish him well. I don't love him any more, but I care that he does well and is happy. He's getting on with his life and I'm getting on with mine,' she says. 'I had no idea there'd be so much interest in the film. It was just a walk-on part, a bit of fun for me when my life had become so serious. I am not chasing fame, I am under no illusion that it will lead to more acting parts.' Born in Bangladesh, one of four children to a devoutly Muslim family, Faria never thought for one second that this would be her fate. She admits that her late father, a Pakistani bank employee, who emigrated with his family to the North of England in 1970, would have been appalled by the way her life has turned out. As a teenager Faria went though an unhappy arranged marriage in Bangladesh, which was later annulled, and when her mother moved to Seattle after divorcing her father, Faria headed to London. There, she worked as a part-time model and supplemented her income by working as a secretary, in PR or as a freelance IT consultant before being offered the job as a personal assistant at the FA. How she wishes now that she'd turned it down. 'I didn't sit there on my first day thinking: "I'm going to have an affair with Sven-Goran Eriksson." It just happened. I was a single woman, enjoying my life, dating guys in London,' she recalls. 'Sven was always very charming, very polite, a gentleman through and through, and when he first showed an interest in me, I'd say: "I'm seeing someone else."' One of the people Faria was seeing was divorced chief executive Mark Palios, who according to her kiss-and-tell was no great lover and rather cool in his affections. Faria, it must be said, emerged as a good-time girl who targeted powerful men, bewitching them with her sultry looks, but she insists it was the other way round. 'I know he loved me. He told me he did. At the time he loved me. I don't care what anyone else says. I

know I am not deluded' 'When someone is persistent, they get through eventually and Sven was very persistent. 'If a woman did that she'd be a stalker, but when a man does it people say: "Oh, he's crazy about the girl." They have great names for guys, but when a woman does it she's a slut, she's this, she's that, all negative,' says Faria. 'All I knew was that I was falling in love with this man. I wasn't thinking about marriage, I didn't know what I wanted, I was just thinking about getting the relationship started. I don't know why he liked me, and I refuse to accept he regarded me as a fling.' But what about Sven's partner, Nancy Dell'Olio? What about television presenter Ulrika Jonsson, with whom Sven was caught out having an affair prior to starting another with Faria? Surely Faria must have known what she was playing with fire. 'I know the man loved me. I know he did. He told me he did. At the time he loved me. I don't care what anyone else says. I know I am not deluded,' she says, her voice rising. Perhaps he did; or perhaps it's simply easier for her to believe so. 'He liked the fact that I was normal, down-to earth, a jeans-and-T-shirt girl who didn't care about her appearance or powdering her nose every two seconds. He could talk to me,' she adds. 'I don't know if he realised that he was taking a huge risk, but I certainly didn't at the time. As far as I was concerned, we were two single, adult people. When we were having a relationship, he wasn't with Nancy, despite what she told all and sundry afterwards. 'Whenever I went to see him, she was never with him. She was out of the country half the time. Sven wasn't with her, certainly not mentally.' Faria has nothing positive to say about the way the FA handled the scandal, initially denying any affair between Sven and the PA, then admitting it was true. When the story broke, the FA's then director of communications Colin Gibson reportedly offered the Press Faria's full kiss-and-tell on Sven if they agreed to save Mark Palios from further embarrassment. 'I had no intention of selling my story, but the FA wanted me to go public and protect Palios and discredit Sven, while Sven was also telling me to do it, because he wanted people to know what the FA were doing,' says Faria. 'He was very annoyed. If the FA had simply said "this is a personal matter between two adults" I might have been hounded privately, but I could have kept silent and run away. Instead, I felt a gun was being held to my head and I was told "you will give verse, line and chapter this Saturday". I wish I'd never done it.' In her interview, in which she revealed the 'ice-cool Swede' to be 'a red-hot lover' who liked to load the dishwasher before sex, she claimed Sven's calls to her had stopped and she felt 'abandoned'.

She said: 'I feel he is like all the other men in my life who have let me down.' On a later television interview on Tonight with Trevor McDonald, Faria broke down in tears when asked by reporter Fiona Foster if she was in love with Eriksson. 'I wasn't then, I am now,' she said, before revealing that she didn't think he'd ever been in love with her. Now, however, she tells a rather different story. 'Now, when I see him on television or in the Press I don't think of what ifs or if onlys - it brings back uncomfortable memories of all that happened' 'We were in touch for a whole year after the scandal. I don't think Sven really cared about what I'd said, and why would he feel betrayed? He wanted me to do it. There was nothing for him to forgive. 'I still had my feelings and he had his. He would call me every day, and we'd talk about getting back together, but it was impossible to meet because we knew there would be a media frenzy.' After the scandal, Faria secured a job with the UK arm of a fashion label, which meant to-ing and froing between Britain and the U.S., where it was her job to set up trade fair events, but she dreaded returning to Britain. 'I said to Sven on the phone one day that I was thinking of leaving the country. I said: "I can't do this any more, it's killing me", and he said: "Don't go yet, please don't go." He wanted me to stay and thought we could find a way to see each other again,' she says. 'But I'd reached the point where I wanted to give up, so I decided to go. I couldn't stand it any more. If I'd stayed, it would have killed me. When I left I deleted all the numbers I had for Sven and his email address, because psychologically it helped me cut the ties with the past. 'As far as I'm aware, he never tried to contact me. Your feelings fade when you can't see someone. Now, when I see him on television or in the Press I don't think of what ifs or if onlys - it brings back uncomfortable memories of all that happened.' Nowadays, Faria says she is in a relationship with a 49-year-old Los Angeles-based divorcee who runs a film production company. They met in 2006, and she says that he knows about her past and 'doesn't give a damn'. They meet up every few weeks, but Faria has no desire to get married or have children of her own. Through her voluntary work, however, she has discovered she has a natural affinity with youngsters and is thinking of adopting in Canada as a single parent. 'People here would describe me as hard-working, fun and bright. I never lie about the past if people ask me, but not one single person has ever said to me: "I don't want to know you because of your past,"' she says. 'I made a mistake. Everyone makes mistakes. No one's perfect. Who hasn't at some time thought: "Oh God, I wish I hadn't done that"? 'There are times when I sit here, all alone, and ask myself: "What the hell happened?" I'm a different person now.'

A New York woman allegedly tried to slit her husband's throat because she said he wasn't the devout Muslim she thought she married five months ago, the Staten Island Advance reported. Rabia Sarwar told authorities in a four-page written confession that she tried her "best to cut his throat," but that her husband, Sheikh Naseem, woke up and took the knife from her. The 37-year-old's attorney told the Advance that Naseem, a high school teacher who is half Pakistani, "was a cruel person, he preyed on her." "He literally threatened to have her parents mutilated," Joseph Licitra told the newspaper. Unnamed sources told the Advance Naseem pressured Sarwar, a Pakistani, to do things that were against her religious beliefs. "He made her do stuff that she didn't like to do eating pork, drinking alcohol, wearing short clothes. She did all of that to make him happy," the source said. Sarwar slashed Naseem's neck with a kitchen knife as he slept, according to a statement she gave to police. She pleaded not guilty to attempted murder and was freed on $25,000 bail. She told police in a written statement that she was emotionally abused by Naseem and forced to violate her religious beliefs. "He made me do so many things that are against Islam," she wrote in a statement to police. "I did all that just to make him happy but inside me there was a war." Naseem suffered cuts to his neck, cheek and hand early Wednesday before fighting Sarwar off and dialing police from his home in the New York City borough of Staten Island, authorities said. "I did my best to cut his throat," Rabia Sarwar wrote. "But the next moment he jumped on me and grabbed me." Sarwar's attorney, Joe Licitra, said she had previously been treated for depression. Her husband told the New York Post that Sarwar was having a hard time adjusting to American culture. "There was no gun pointed to her head to do these things," Licitra told the Post. Sarwar's statement to police paints a picture of a frustrated, confused woman angry that her husband of five months was not what he appeared to be during their brief courtship. After they were married, she discovered he had previously dated mostly "white" women, had been married before and liked to go out to drink, she wrote. He was not religious, though he claimed to be a devout Muslim, and he often yelled and cursed her family, she said. And one of his favorite writers was Salman Rushdie, author of "The Satanic Verses," which caused violent protests by Muslims in several countries because the book was perceived as an irreverent depiction of the prophet Mohammed.

"He hates Pakistan and he hates Pakistanis then why did he marry a Pakistani girl?" she wrote. They fought about her leaving, and he threatened to hurt her family, saying they would have to pay him $30,000 or he would sue them and leave them penniless and homeless, she wrote. Her family is in Pakistan. She lay in bed that evening thinking her only way out was to kill him, she wrote. Police said they had never visited the house on any domestic dispute calls, they said. Sarwar also pleaded not guilty Thursday to second-degree assault and criminal possession of a weapon. Her next court date is Monday. http://www.silive.com/northshore/index.ssf/2009/10/new_brighton_wife_tried_to_kil.html She was caught up in the scheme of a man who couldn't keep his hands to himself. There were others, but she died. http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-1100022/Vigil-tears-death-plunge-Muslim-model-beauty.html Vigil of tears for death-plunge Muslim model beauty By Jaya Narain Last updated at 9:00 PM on 25th December 2008 Read more: http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-1100022/Vigil-tears-death-plunge-Muslim-modelbeauty.html#ixzz1J3tEs0lk

Sahar Daftary should have been celebrating her 24th birthday. But instead of sharing the model's happiness, her family spent Christmas Day keeping a vigil at the spot where she plunged to her death. More than two dozen relatives travelled from their homes in London to the block of flats in Salford Quays, Greater Manchester, where they laid flowers and cards and lit 24 candles, one for each year of her life. Miss Daftary, who was crowned Miss Face of Asia last year, fell from the balcony of businessman Rashid Jamil's 12th-floor flat last Saturday. Sahar Daftary Sahar's mother lays flowers at the spot where the model fell to her death She had married 33-year-old Mr Jamil in a lavish Muslim ceremony 12 months ago but the relationship ended when she discovered he was already married with three children.

In fact the former restaurant owner had been married three times, and was still living with his third wife. Miss Daftary's family, who are originally from Afghanistan, remain convinced she would not have taken her own life. Her cousin, Aarozo Tach, 30, said: 'She would never have done that over this man. She was over him and was looking forward to the future.' Miss Daftary, from Brentford, west London, went to Manchester to take part in a fashion show. Friends say she agreed to go to Mr Jamil's apartment to finalise their divorce. Mr Jamil was arrested on suspicion of murder but was later freed on bail. Earlier, it was revealed Miss Daftary had lodged a complaint of sexual assault with police. A spokeswoman for Greater Manchester Police said: 'Police received a report of sexual assault in May 2008. An investigation was launched but the victim refused to co-operate further.' Sahar Daftary smiles as Rashid Jamil kisses her on their wedding day last December. She died after falling from his 12th floor luxury apartment Sahar Daftary and Rashid Jamil on their 'wedding day' last year. She died after falling from his 12th floor luxury apartment. Her life fell apart after she discovered he had allegedly been married three times before A close friend of Miss Daftary, who asked not to be named, said: 'Sahar went to the police about six months ago after she split with Rashid. She thought she was being followed and walked into a police station near the apartment in Salford Quays to lodge a complaint. 'He was very possessive of her and she said that he told her that he had people watching her.' Miss Daftary had been in Mr Jamil's home city of Manchester for work but was persuaded to go to his flat after he offered her an Islamic divorce. Her sister Mariya Massumi, 34, said Miss Daftary had previously tried to get Mr Jamil to sign divorce papers but he had not agreed. Ms Massumi said: 'On the way up to Manchester, Sahar was arguing with Rashid on the phone but then he acted nicely and promised to sign the divorce papers.' The family, having released pictures of Miss Daftary's marriage to Mr Jamil at the Holiday Inn in Brentford last December, now claim the union was never registered. Enlarge Sahar Daftary (R) and Rashid Jamil Enlarge Sahar Daftary (R) and Rashid Jamil

The happy couple 'wed' in Brentford, west London in December 2007 They have also insisted she would not have killed herself and had 'everything to live for'. But they also claimed her marriage had been a sham and her husband was a womaniser. Meanwhile his second wife, a lawyer by whom he has an 11-year-old daughter, said she had left the former curry house boss because of his drinking and womanising. It is also unclear whether Mr Jamil's third marriage was ever legally recognised under English law. Miss Daftary, who had been planning to fly to Dubai with friends for New Year's Eve, had tried to rebuild her life, recently starting studies for an accountancy degree. Mr Jamil led the life of a wealthy entrepreneur but was behind a string of failed businesses and lived in a rented flat. Sahar Daftary's wedding ring Ms Daftary shows off her wedding ring He was arrested on suspicion of murder after she plunged to her death from his 12th floor waterside apartment at the weekend but was later released on bail. It is understood that evidence so far points to her death being suicide or a tragic accident. It also emerged that a pornographic video clip apparently featuring Miss Daftary and an unnamed man had recently been posted on a publicly accessible website. She was said to have feared the footage would damage her career, and police are expected to examine whether somebody had made it public out of spite. Miss Daftary's mother Anisa, a widow, has been left distraught by her daughter's death. Sahar's brother-in-law Joe Karim said: 'She would never commit suicide. It was against everything she believed in. She had everything to live for. She was a beautiful, intelligent, religious woman.' Rashid Jamil with Sebina Malik Rashid with second wife Sebina Malik at their wedding in 1996. She has now revealed that he had conducted a secret affair with another woman, Narissa Amjad, while still married to her Miss Daftary's sister, Mariya Massumi, said: 'Sahar did not have a new partner but she had moved on with her life. She had started studying and stopped modelling. She had washed her hands of Rashid.' The family released photographs of the Islamic ceremony at which Miss Daftary married Mr Jamil in December last year in front of 200 family and friends at the Holiday Inn near her home in Brentford. They show the couple looking happy at the engagement party followed by the exchange of rings and vows and cutting of a four-tier cake in front of guests and an imam, who oversaw the ceremony.

Sahar wore a floral dress before changing into a more traditional green dress for the wedding ceremony. Sahar Daftary Sahar Daftary Sahar's death is being treated as either suicide or a tragic accident But crucially, the union was not registered with the authorities, claim her family. The couple had met through her modelling work, which often took her to fashion shows in Manchester. But within a matter of weeks, Miss Daftary discovered that her ' husband' in fact already had a 'wife' in Manchester, 29-year-old Narissa Amjad, a marketing executive who was expecting their second child. 'When the wife phoned we didn't believe her,' said Mrs Massumi. 'She phoned every day. Eventually we went up to Manchester to ask him what was going on. His wife was there and his sister-in-law. 'He said in front of his wife that he wanted to be with Sahar. He had told Sahar that his wife was only with him for the money.' Mr Jamil is thought to have first undergone an arranged marriage in Pakistan which ended in divorce. He then married lawyer Sebina Malik in Manchester in an officially recognised wedding. They had a daughter, but again the couple divorced. Enlarge The couple surrounded by family members during their wedding ceremony The couple surrounded by family members during their wedding ceremony With Narissa Amjad he had a boy, now four, and a girl, one. It is not known whether his marriage to Miss Amjad was registered officially or just recognised in the form of an Islamic ceremony, but in the eyes of Miss Daftary's family he is guilty of bigamy. Their suspicions were first aroused when his parents did not turn up to the Holiday Inn ceremony - he claimed they were against the wedding because she was an Afghan - and again when he cancelled an appointment to register the marriage. Despite the revelations of his allegedly secret past, Miss Daftary initially agreed to move to Salford Quays with him, but when it became apparent that he was staying with his 'wife', she decided to finish the relationship. Having quit her job helping wealthy Arab shoppers at Harrods she enrolled in an accountancy and finance degree at Thames Valley University near her home. Enlarge Enlarge 'Remembering Princess Sahar' Her sister added: 'Sahar had moved on. Last month Rashid tried to get back together with her. He

offered to buy my sister a house and he asked her to live with him. But she told him she didn't want his money.' At the weekend she had agreed to travel to Manchester to do the make-up for a fashion show at an Indian restaurant. Friends have told her family that they had a row but that she then agreed to go to his 250,000 rented apartment at the NV Buildings on Saturday evening after he offered to give her an Islamic divorce. Shortly afterwards, police received a call from Mr Jamil requesting assistance. By the time they got there she had suffered fatal injuries after her 150ft fall. The luxury apartment block from which Sahar plunged to her death The luxury apartment block from which Ms Daftary plunged to her death A man at his apartment refused to answer the door to the Daily Mail earlier this week. Mr Jamil had been seen leaving a red rose next to the spot where Miss Daftary landed. Mr Jamil's ex-wife Sebina Malik revealed that he had conducted a secret affair with Narissa while still married to her. And she did not divorce him until July last year, long after his Islamic wedding to Narissa and just a few months before the ill-fated ceremony with Sahar, meaning the three 'marriages' almost overlapped. She and Mr Jamil were childhood sweethearts, marrying in 1996. Sahar Model looks: Ms Daftary's family have urged police not to write off her death as suicide. Here she poses with a friend Miss Malik, who lives near his parents in Rochdale, said: 'People would have said we were the perfect couple. But four or five years after the marriage, he began drinking and began his affairs and things went downhill after that. 'He always had two women on the go. He would never be faithful to just one woman. Two girls turned up at my house, knocking on the door claiming they were pregnant. They said he'd promised to marry them and divorce me.' She said he eventually left her for Miss Amjad but then became obsessed with Miss Dafarty. 'For him to be with a model, a girl like that, was beyond his dreams. She was a young, hot chick from London. He lavished her with money and jewels.' Enlarge Sahar Stunning: The dead woman was named Miss Asia 2007. She was in Manchester for a modelling job She said she didn't believe he was responsible for her death. 'It could have been an accident,' she said. 'I think that it could be possible she has committed suicide.'

A police source said: 'Witnesses have said there was no shouting or ranting - just a single scream. It is being looked at as either suicide or a horrible accident.' Her friend, Afrah Sami, said: 'We are all shocked and devastated. Sahar was very beautiful - she loved life and she was always the centre of the party.' Read more: http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-1100022/Vigil-tears-death-plunge-Muslim-modelbeauty.html#ixzz1J3tAZ9cE nri anni dewani was murdered just days after her wedding in south africa. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=u6hAUppbUTk&feature=player_embedded#at=11 http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=iY6CYHE_FTY&feature=related http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=VYqREJHkfQY&feature=related http://www.google.com/search?hl=en&q=anni+dewani&aq=f&aqi=&aql=&oq=&gs_rfai= http://www.bristol247.com/2010/12/14/bristol-bride-murder-father-tells-husband-go-to-south-africa/ in similar news, http://www.nydailynews.com/gossip/2010/07/01/2010-0701_harry_potter_actress_afshan_azad_22_charges_family_members_with_attempting_to_ki.html afshan azad, actress most famous of harry potter movie fame was threatened death by her famly because she is muslim and her boyfriend is hindu. so, desi girls, remember, godforbid u date outside ur faith, but desi men can have all the white black and latino whores they want! (and those girls r far far far more shameful, to start there's no such thing as a western virgin girl. It's ironic. When westerners are held responsible for their behaviour, or called upon for the behaviour towards easterners, they scream 'racism', and con the easterners into supporting them. but when an easterner is killed, especially a middle eastern or desi girl, it raises little care. this is horrific....we cannot support the evil and create slaps in the faces of innocent. http://www.mcall.com/news/local/all-a1_mc-emmaus-homicide.7295993jun06,0,7909264.story She left war-torn Baghdad to escape unimaginable violence and settled into a leafy borough that's been called one of the nicest places to live. In the safe confines of Emmaus, Donya Sinan Abdulrazzak's life flourished as she enrolled in nursing school, got a part-time job to help support her family and found solace on a walking trail near her home. That new life ended Friday, the 20-year-old Cedar Crest College student was found strangled near that same walking path a few blocks from her Furnace Street house. Her death has been ruled a homicide. Her boyfriend and co-worker, Darius Kevin Maurer, also 20 and of Emmaus, was charged in her slaying Saturday and denied bail after his arraignment on criminal homicide charges.

''I just can't imagine anyone wanting to do any harm to her. She had everything going,'' said Barry Hunger, who lives next door to the Abdulrazzak family on the 600 block of Furnace Street. The family came to the United States from Iraq about five years ago. Abdulrazzak's body was found off Rodale's walking trail near South 10th and Furnace streets at 11:52 p.m., about five and half hours after her father, Sinnan Salih, reported her missing, according to Lehigh County District Attorney James B. Martin. The truth is, Salih was worried long before he called police about 6:30 p.m., Hunger said. ''He just had a feeling something was wrong,'' he said. According to an affidavit of probable cause, Abdulrazzak went walking at 10:30 a.m. Friday. She did not return home, did not answer her phone and did not report for work at 7 p.m. at the Weis Market on Chestnut Street in Emmaus, the affidavit states. Abdulrazzak often walked the trail, Hunger said, and would never let her parents worry like that by not calling home or work. Hunger, who also sensed something amiss, took to his bicycle on Friday at dusk and headed to the trail, calling for her. Co-workers also grew concerned when Abdulrazzak uncharacteristically hadn't shown up for her 7 p.m. shift. A manager there said Maurer also failed to report to work that day. The affidavit states that police soon discovered that Maurer did not show up for his 7 p.m. shift too. Police haven't detailed Maurer's whereabouts, but Martin said he was out driving alone on southbound Interstate 78 and Route 309 about 8 p.m. Friday when his car crashed and he was injured. Maurer was admitted to Lehigh Valley Hospital-Cedar Crest with non-life threatening injuries and remained there Saturday, Martin said. Asked how police came to find Abdulrazzak's body, Martin said, ''Information received during the course of the (accident) investigation led police to the location where (her) body was found.'' In the affidavit: ''Maurer made subsequent statements to state police that he killed Donya Sinan Abdulrazzak by strangling her and hitting her with his fists in the throat and face. He said he left her body in the wooded area of the Rodale walking track in Emmaus.'' Outside Abdulrazzak's home on Saturday, family and friends gathered. Her father answered the door and said the family didn't want to comment. Behind him, a woman sobbed. About a mile away at Maurer's house, 1317 Arch St., no one answered the door, and several neighbors said they did not know the family, who kept to themselves. Abdulrazzak, dark-haired, pretty and petite, had just finished her freshman year at Cedar Crest and was scheduled to graduate in 2013.

In another sad turn of events, in the western world, no bats an eyelash if an eastern boy marries or has a relationship with a western slut, but if an eastern girl gets herself a western guy, people go up in arms. They need to raise hell and fight the relationships of western girls with eastern men isntead. Read on... http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Btx5Rek2tns&feature=related http://www.swindonadvertiser.co.uk/news/9795689.Militants_try_to_halt_multi_r/

WEDDING ceremony had to be abandoned after a group of 40 militant Sikhs locked themselves inside the communitys Kembrey Street temple. The hardliners occupied the building on Saturday to disrupt a marriage between a Sikh woman and a man said to be a Christian and of West African background. The group locked the doors and gates of the gurdwara, near Kembrey Park, before leaving more than six hours later. Though the Sikh part of the marriage had to be abandoned, a civil ceremony between Susan Momi and Kenny Lawrence did go ahead at Lydiard Park, despite the militants turning up there as well. Susans mother Harbhajan said: Words cant express how I feel, we are all in shock. They went inside the temple, locked the doors and switched the security cameras off. We had a caterer in charge of the breakfast. They ate all the food and then told him go or well kill you. We also had relatives from other parts of the world turn up for the wedding who didnt know what was going on. I was getting to ready to go to the temple when I had a phone call from a friend telling me to stay away. It was awful, my heart is still going even now. A The militants claimed on YouTube that they had acted peacefully to stop an inter-faith union at the temple. But the brides family say couples from different religions have married before at the gurdwara without incident. Mrs Harbhajan: This had nothing to do with religion. There was nothing to stop the ceremony in the gurdwara. This was all to do with the colour of his skin. The ceremony had been agreed by the gurdwaras managing committee, but they were powerless to act after several vans full of men turned up on Saturday morning. Raghdir Bains, a committee member at the Punjabi Community Centre, said: Nearly everybody in the Sikh community in Swindon is absolutely against what took place.

We live in a multi-cultural society and if thats the wish of the girl and her parents then it should go ahead. The majority of the hardliners were from Birmingham and Southall and they have been responsible for damage to another temple in Walsall. The committee had accepted the booking and it should have gone ahead. Local families went to the gates to complain, but there was no one to stop the militants. The group briefly left the temple, believing a holy book had been removed from the site and taken to the Lydiard Park ceremony. Mr Bains said: They arrived at 7.30am and stayed until 12.30pm. They left because they believed the holy book had been taken to Lydiard Park. They couldnt find it so they came back to the temple and stayed until 2pm. I think the reason no one from the community went in is because they know the record of these people. The hardliners would have met any challenge with violence. People were afraid they would lose their lives if they challenged them. Dr Harbans Popli, a senior figure in Swindon's Sikh community, also condemned the militants after speaking to the brides family. He said: The family is very upset and angry. This is against all our morals and principles. The militants posted footage of the occupation on YouTube, showing a hooded hardliner standing by the gate while a local woman protests against their action. A spokesman for Wiltshire Police said: We can confirm that we dealt with a small protest by a group of men in Swindon on Saturday. The protest was conducted peacefully. We believe the protestors objected to an event which was due to take place at the Swindon gurdwara. Our officers continue to liaise with the protestors and the community.

A U.S. Army staff sergeant snapped in Afghanistan on Sunday and went on a murder rampage, breaking into homes in the middle of the night and shooting the occupants mostly little kids as they slept. He killed at least 16 villagers, including three women and nine children, in three homes, Afghan officials said. Five people survived with gunshot wounds. The military did not release the sergeants name, but ABC News said he is a 38-year-old married father of two from the Fort Lewis Army Base in Washington State who arrived in Afghanistan in December after serving three tours in Iraq. He is assigned to support a special operations unit, either the Green Berets or Navy SEALs. The soldier walked off his base to two nearby villages in the Panjwai district of Kandahar Province,

where he moved methodically from house to house. Villagers said they huddled in terror as he tried door after door, then broke into three homes on his murderous mission. A survivor, a wounded 15-year-old boy named Rafiullah, told Afghan President Hamid Karzai that the soldier woke his family and began shooting them one by one. At one house, the soldier piled 11 bodies including the corpses of four little girls and set them on fire, witnesses said. Once finished with his killing spree, the soldier, whose motives were not immediately known, walked back to base and surrendered, officials said. After the massacre, one villager, Gul Bushra, opened a flowered blanket to reveal her 2-year-oldchilds body. Was this child Taliban? she asked. As the bodies of the dead were taken away, villagers crowded the streets, and one man wiped away tears with the edge of his shawl. The massacre was the worst attack on civilians by the U.S. military since the Afghan war began in 2001 and one that is sure to further inflame tensions created by the mistaken burning of Korans at a military base and a video of Marines urinating on corpses. I cannot explain the motivation behind such callous acts, Lt. Gen. Adrian Bradshaw, the deputy commander of NATO forces in Afghanistan, said in a statement. Eleven men from Fort Lewis were court-martialed last year after forming a kill team to hunt men for sport. At least three unarmed men were slain with grenades and machine guns. The White House said President Obama called Karzai from his car on the way to his daughter Sashas basketball game to express shock and sadness at the killing of innocents. This incident is tragic and shocking, and does not represent the exceptional character of our military and the respect that the United States has for the people of Afghanistan, Obama said in a statement. This is an assassination, an intentional killing of innocent civilians, and cannot be forgiven, Karzai said. The Afghan Taliban were quick to vow revenge against U.S. soldiers still posted in Afghanistan. We are deeply concerned by the initial reports of this incident and are monitoring the situation closely, said White House National Security Council spokeswoman Caitlin Hayden. Fatal hammer blow to U.S. mission Experts said what appeared to be the actions of a lone madman had undone years of work. This is a fatal hammer blow on the U.S. military mission in Afghanistan, David Cortright, the

director of policy studies at Notre Dame's Kroc Institute for International Peace Studies, told The Associated Press. Whatever sliver of trust and credibility we might have had following the burnings of the Koran is now gone. On Fox News Sunday, Sen. John McCain of Arizona, the top Republican on the Senate Armed Services Committee, said he understood the sorrow in Afghanistan. I also understand that we should not forget that the attacks on the United States of America on 9/11 originated in Afghanistan, he said. If Afghanistan dissolved into a situation where the Taliban were able to take over or a chaotic situation, it could easily return to an Al Qaeda base for attacks on the United States of America. The Pentagon says 1,892 American service members have died in Afghanistan since 2001. The worst U.S. military atrocity in the past decade took place in Iraq in 2005, when 24 unarmed civilian men, women and children were massacred by eight U.S. Marines in the city of Haditha. Only one Marine was convicted of any crime, and his punishment was a demotion and a pay cut. With News Wire Services Read more: http://www.nydailynews.com/news/world/american-service-member-shooting-rampageafghanistan-officials-article-1.1037022#ixzz1osokF29a http://latimesblogs.latimes.com/world_now/2012/03/afghanistan-koran-burnings-investigation.html REPORTING FROM WASHINGTON AND KABUL, AFGHANISTAN -- A U.S. military investigation into the burning of the Muslim holy book in a trash pit in Afghanistan last month found that several enlisted soldiers had misinterpreted an order to dispose of the Korans, two officials familiar with the findings said Friday. The investigation found that five U.S. soldiers were responsible for confiscating the Korans and other religious materials from a U.S.-run detention facility near Bagram Air Base, north of Kabul, and dumping them in a pit used to incinerate trash. News of the incident sparked attacks that killed six Americans and riots that left more than 30 people dead. Hundreds of Western military and civilian advisors working at Afghan government offices were withdrawn by embassies and NATO commanders as the crisis grew. U.S. officials said several of the soldiers, who have not been publicly identified, are likely to face disciplinary proceedings. Gen. John Allen, the top U.S. commander in Afghanistan, has not yet made a decision on punishment, the officials said. Allen was briefed on the investigation late this week, said the officials, who spoke on condition of anonymity because they were not authorized to discuss the findings, which have not been made public. The riots and violence appear spent for now. Friday prayers, the most important religious event of the

Muslim week, passed without more protests breaking out. The military investigation largely supports official U.S. claims that the burnings were inadvertent. The officials said soldiers had confiscated religious materials because they believed the books were being used to pass written messages among prisoners. The books circulated from prisoner to prisoner as part of the prisons lending library. The books were initially put in a storage area, but they were removed a few days later after enlisted soldiers were told to dispose of them. They were not told to burn the books, although its unclear how they were supposed to dispose of them. There were crossed wires, said one official familiar with the investigation. Theres no indication this was a deliberate attempt to defile religious materials. Afghan workers at the burn pit spotted several Korans in the flames and started getting riled up over the desecration of the holy book, another official said. The workers pulled several charred Korans from the fire and told other Afghans, which led to widespread outrage. In Kabul, there were signs that any perceived failure to sufficiently punish those responsible could lead to a new round of angry protests. A group of politically powerful Muslim clerics met with Afghan President Hamid Karzai and demanded a public trial in an Afghan court of the U.S. troops involved, Karzais office said. The clerics denounced the Koran burning as an inhumane, savage act and said no apology would suffice, the presidential palace said. In releasing the clerics' statement, Karzai appeared to be seeking leverage for his demand that the detention facility at Bagram be handed over to Afghan control. His office quoted the clerics as demanding the closure of prisons run by foreigners. http://articles.nydailynews.com/2012-01-05/news/30595233_1_bottles-gas-station-gas-filled Mosque firebomber faces life in prison THOMAS ZAMBITO Thursday, January 05, 2012 The Queens pyromaniac who went on a New Years Day firebombing spree appeared for his Thursday arraignment looking like he could use a few swigs from the frappucino bottles he used during his hatefilled rampage. Ray Lazier Lengend looked groggy and dazed as he sat slumped in a chair at Bellevue Hospital for an arraignment piped by video feed into Queens Criminal Court. Lengend, 40, responded to Supreme Court Justice Lenora Geralds questions with one-word answers, occasionally closing his eyes.

Queens prosecutors successfully sought an order to have Lengend locked up without bail. There was a potential for tremendous carnage based on the defendants actions, terror that reverberates throughout the city, prosecutor Dave Jeffries said. Lengend told cops he planned to inflict as much damage as possible and take out as many Muslims and Arabs as possible by tossing gas-filled Starbucks Frappucino bottles from the balcony of a Queens mosque. In a statement to cops, Lengend claimed he hated all the Muslims and Arabs because they were trying to take over his life. They have been doing it for forty years. He faces a maximum sentence of life in prison on charges that include committing arson as a hate crime. This case is very troublesome, said Queens District Attorney Richard Brown. Flames from the Molotov cocktails can spread very quickly. Prosecutors say Lengend tossed flaming bottles at four Jamaica buildings, including two houses of worship. A fifth bottle was tossed at his brother-in-laws Long Island home. Police Commissioner Ray Kelly says cops are looking into Lengends claim that he tossed gas-filled bottles at two private houses and a vehicle. Weve gone to these locations and were trying to gather evidence, Kelly said. Lengend told cops he bought five of the glass bottles at a gas station near the Van Wyck Expressway and the store gave him three more for free. He drove to another gas station and paid cash to fill up the bottles with gasoline, according to his statement. From there he drove off to the Imam Al-Khoei Islamic center but got scared off when he saw cops, he claimed. He headed to a deli on Hillside Avenue and waited more than an hour to make his move because the store was too crowded. Once they left I got out of the car and walked into the deli and screamed and threw the lit bottle filled with gas into the store, he told cops. I then went back to the mosque and threw another bottle of gas at the temple. The unemployed truck driver is expected to remain at Bellevue for psychiatric evaluation for several days. Lengends lawyer, Lisa Saltzman, noted that her client was not identified by eyewitnesses in the first of two police lineups. Prosecutors say he was positively identified in the second lineup, which he disrupted. tzambito@nydailynews.com http://www.nytimes.com/2012/01/03/nyregion/Suspect-in-Firebombings-Is-Seen-in-SecurityVideo.html

By COREY KILGANNON and NOAH ROSENBERG Published: January 2, 2012 It was around 10 p.m. Sunday when a man in a hooded sweatshirt drove up to a home on 170th Street in Jamaica, Queens, and stepped out holding a glass bottle. Slowly and deliberately, the man threw the bottle transformed into a Molotov cocktail by the addition of flammable liquid and a wick toward the bay window of the home, which houses a small Hindu temple. Ramesh Maharaj, 62, a Hindu priest who lives in the house, rushed from his bed to the lawn and found the bottle burning harmlessly. It smelled like kerosene, said Mr. Maharaj. The intention from the behavior of the guy was to do destruction. The New York police say this small temple was one of four sites firebombed in Jamaica on Sunday night. No injuries were reported. Assisted by federal and state authorities, the police are investigating the firebombings as possible bias attacks. A security camera captured the attack on the temple. In three of the four attacks, Starbucks Frappucino bottles were used, the police and witnesses said. One attack occurred at an Islamic center where about 100 people were worshiping, and another at a bodega owned by a Muslim immigrant from Yemen. At the fourth site, a house on 107th Avenue, the residents said that they were Christians and that they were baffled by the attack. In a fifth episode on Sunday night, a bottle containing flammable liquid was thrown onto the porch of a house in Elmont, just across the Nassau County border. The case had some characteristics of the pattern in Queens, a spokesman for the Nassau County police said. No arrests were made as of Monday night. The police released a sketch of a suspect and described him as a black man 25 to 30 years old, 5 feet 8 inches tall, weighing 200 pounds and wearing a black jacket and a baseball cap. He was seen driving a light-color sedan. The Queens attacks occurred in one of the more diverse stretches of the citys most diverse borough. Jamaica Avenue and Hillside Avenue, two main thoroughfares, are dotted with halal shops, Latino restaurants, Hindu temples and storefront Christian churches. Once predominantly black, the neighborhood has had influxes of immigrants from many parts of the world, including Guyana, the West Indies, Central America, South Asia, and Arabic-speaking lands. Everyone gets along, no problems, said Salem Ahmed, 38, the owner of the bodega, on Hillside Avenue and 180th Street, that was firebombed about 8 p.m. Mr. Ahmed said a man ran into the store and threw a flaming bottle over the deli counter at the small 24-hour grocery store, which he opened soon after arriving from Yemen 20 years ago. The bottle fell to the floor without breaking and caused a small fire easily extinguished by a worker, he said. He said his first thought was about a man whom workers threw out for shoplifting. But I dont think

its him, he said. In the attack on the Al-Khoei Islamic Center, along the Van Wyck Expressway, two flaming bottles were thrown at the entrance, causing a small fire shortly before 9 p.m. Imam Maan Al-Sahlani, an Iraqi immigrant, said a service had just ended when the attack took place. There was little damage, he said, but the attack caused concern among some members that Muslims might have been targeted. You really cant accuse one religion or a party without knowing more about it, he said. He said that the center, which opened in 1989, had had no disputes with anyone. It serves a diverse membership with services held in English, Arabic, Persian and Urdu. Its leaders are mostly Iraqi immigrants, and its members are mostly Lebanese. The imam said he had heard about the attack on the Hindu temple, and added, Some people confuse Hindus and Muslims. The police had promised protection for the Islamic center, and the stepped-up security had reassured its members. Were trying to convince them that everythings fine, he said. Gov. Andrew M. Cuomo asked the State Police to help with the investigation, and Mayor Michael R. Bloomberg said, No matter what the motivation was of the individual who threw Molotov cocktails in Queens last night, his actions stand in stark contrast to the New York City of today that weve built together. In Elmont, Bejai Rai and his wife were getting ready for bed in their home on Glafil Street around 9:40 when they heard a loud crash, Mr. Rai said, as if the chandelier had fallen down. One of their sons watched as a man rushed away and into a late model two-door car, either champagne or silver in color. Mr. Rai said it appeared that the bottle had bounced off the house and crashed on the concrete walkway without setting anything afire. We are terribly nervous, said Mr. Rai, a Hindu from Guyana. If theyre going to bomb a house, to burn a house down, they want to kill us. Why would someone want to do that to us? Mr. Maharaj, who operates the Hindu temple, said Monday that he had not slept, but that he would conduct his usual prayer service Monday night. The firebomber was seen on a security camera installed after a break-in last March. The attacker, Mr. Maharaj said, should try to find God and be remorseful for what he has done. Joseph Goldstein and Elizabeth A. Harris contributed reporting. A version of this article appeared in print on January 3, 2012, on page A19 of the New York edition with the headline: Suspect in Firebombings Is Seen in Security Video. sorry but found this hilarious even if it isnt ash wednesday Most of us brown folk have been subjected to relentless teasing by assholes about the "red dot" worn

by (allegedly) all Indian women on their forehead. Some of us who are not Hindu had to explain the significance of the red dot to these ignoramuses while listening to queries that ranged for the stupid "Is it tattooed on the women when they are born?" to the obscene "Is that so you Indian men can aim where to shoot your load?" So today, when you see Christians of any race walking around with Ash on their foreheads stop them and say "Um, hey, you have dirt on your forehead, did you forget to take a bath today?" If they try to explain what the ash signifies, feign disinterest and say something like "Whoa, Whoa, easy there fella, I dont understand you crazy voodoo religion, I just wanted to point out that you had some dirt on your face." en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Silvio_Berlusconi_underage_prostitution_charges Silvio Berlusconi, a former Prime Minister of Italy, was convicted of paying Moroccan nightclub dancer Karima El Mahroug also known by the stage name Ruby Rubacuori (Italian for "Ruby the Heartstealer") for sexual services between February and May 2010 when she was under the age of 18. [N 1] He was also convicted of charges that he abused his office (Italian: concussione) by arranging to have El Mahroug released from police detention during an incident in which she was briefly held on claims of theft. While the investigators claim to have evidence from lawful interception of mobile phone conversations, Berlusconi denied the allegations through his lawyers, who called the investigation absurd and without foundation.[2][3] Contents 1 Theft arrest of El Mahroug 2 Investigation 3 Indictment of Berlusconi 4 Verdict 5 See also 6 Notes 7 References Theft arrest of El Mahroug On 27 May 2010, El Mahroug was arrested by the police in Milan after being accused of the theft of three thousand euros. Since she was not carrying any legal or identification documents, the officers took her to the local police headquarters to identify her and for questioning. Since she was a minor under eighteen, a judge ordered the police to direct her to a shelter for juvenile offenders.[citation needed] After a couple of hours, while she was being questioned, Berlusconi, who was at the time in Paris, called the head of the police in Milan and pressured for her release, claiming the girl was related to then President Hosni Mubarak of Egypt and that in order to avoid a diplomatic crisis, she was to be brought to the custody of Nicole Minetti. Following repeated telephone calls by Berlusconi to the police authorities, El Mahroug was eventually released and entrusted to Minetti's care.[4] Minetti was known for previous associations with Berlusconi, having danced for Colorado Cafe, a show on one of Berlusconi's TV channels, and on Scorie, an Italian version of Candid Camera. In November 2009 she became a dental hygienist, and shortly afterward treated Berlusconi for two broken teeth and facial injuries after he was attacked with a marble statue at a political rally.[5] In February 2010, she was selected as one of the candidates representing Berlusconi's The People of Freedom party,

despite her lack of any political experience, and was seated on the Regional Council of Lombardy the following month.[6][7] The Guardian reported that according to a series of media reports in October 2010, Berlusconi had met El Mahroug, then 17, through Nicole Minetti. Mahroug insisted that she had not slept with the then 74-year-old prime minister. She told Italian newspapers that she merely attended dinner at his mansion near Milan. El Mahroug said she sat next to Berlusconi, who later took her upstairs and gave her an envelope containing 7,000. She said he also gave her jewellery.[6] Investigation In January 2011, Berlusconi was placed under criminal investigation relating to El Mahroug for allegedly having sex with an underage prostitute and for abuse of office relating to her release from detention.[1] Berlusconi's lawyers were quick to deny the allegations as "absurd and without foundation" and called the investigation a "serious interference with the private life of the prime minister without precedent in the judicial history of the country".[2] The Telegraph reported on 6 March 2011 that prosecutors were days from requesting charges against Emilio Fede, a television anchorman, and Dario "Lele" Mora, a well-known celebrity agent, for procuring underage girls in a "vast pimping network" to attend "bunga bunga" sex parties with the prime minister. According to the prosecutors' dossier, Fede 'discovered' El Mahroug when acting as a judge at a beauty pageant in Sicily in September 2009, and passed her on to Mora's office in central Milan, which served as a "form of 'clearing centre' for women eager to enter the prime minister's circle in pursuit of money, gifts and help with their show business careers".[8] Indictment of Berlusconi On 15 February 2011, a judge indicted Berlusconi to stand trial on charges carrying up to 15 years in prison.[9][10] Paying for sex with a minor in Italy is punished within a range of six months to three years imprisonment, while the crime of malfeasance in office (It: concussione) is more severely punished, from four years to twelve years imprisonment, as it is considered a type of extortion committed by a public officer. The fast-track trial opened on 6 April 2011 and was adjourned until 31 May 2011. El Mahroug's lawyer said that Mahroug would not be attaching herself to the case as a civil complainant and denies that she ever made herself available for money. Another alleged victim, Giorgia Iafrate, also decided not to be a party to the case.[11] In January 2013, judges rejected an application from Berlusconi's lawyers to have the trial adjourned so that it would not interfere with Italy's 2013 general election in which Berlusconi participated.[12] Verdict On 24 June 2013, Berlusconi was found guilty of paying for sex with an underage prostitute and of abusing his office.[13] He was sentenced to seven years in prison, one more year than had been requested by the prosecution, and banned from public office for life.[13] Although facing a custodial sentence, if Berlusconi appeals the sentence as expected, it will not be executed until after the appeals process. In the trial, the prosecution claimed that Berlusconi had paid over 4.5 million euros in total for El Mahroug's services.[ http://www.turbanhead.com/weblog/page/84/ Let's have a bit more positive note, shall we? http://www.datingtheworld.com/its-boom-time-for-indian-western-dating/

this would be cool if more desi girls were with western guys! and what is said is very true, unlike with western women....read on Its boom time for Indian-Western dating December 21, 2007 5:12 pm If you are intrigued by women from the Indian sub-continent, whether abroad or at home, then you should know that Indian women have grown to appreciate Western men as never before.The Indian economy is booming and the countrys women have followed after their Western sisters in the pursuit of equality in the workplace. For a new ambitious and strong minded generation of Indian women, a Western man who respects the independence and career of his female partner can be the ideal choice. Traditionally India has been a conservative country where family is prized above all else and gender roles are clearly defined: women take care of the house and children, while men support the family. Like other places in the world, these roles have been challenged by an increase in job opportunities for women outside the home. As Indias economy has grown at a rapid pace, women have increasingly pursued careers and many have enjoyed professional success for the first time. A recent survey for a major Indian news magazine revealed that 41% of young women living six of Indias largest cities have decided to focus on career over having a family. Many older generations of women encourage their daughters to support themselves before marriage, something that would have been unheard of in previous generations. With this familial support, many Indian women have decided to seek financial independence as their primary goal. This trend will persist as long as the country continues to develop. This means that the new working woman needs a partner who supports her ambition. Although Indian women have become more independent minded, this ideal is not shared by everyone. For many Indian men, a financially secure woman is a seen as a threat to his masculinity. Of course there are many Indian men who encourage their successful wives, but for some Indian women choosing a Western partner is a great option. More typically, Western men respect their female co-workers and value a partner who can contribute financially to the home.

For the career-driven Indian woman, being valued as a woman and as a success will be the key to making her happy in her relationship. Although shell be interested in her career, for most Indian women their traditional family values will usually come through in many ways. Shell treat you as a valued partner and in all likelihood will want children down the road. This means you get the best of both worlds a woman who wants financial equality, but will want to respect family traditions and values For many Western men, this combination of important values and financial security go hand and hand. An Indian woman will be able to meet you between cultural differences to find common ground on these important subjects. No matter if you meet an Indian woman at home or abroad, shell admire your respect for women and this can help you to connect with her on a deeper level. Shell be a loving and faithful partner with strong family values, as well as a fierce and independent woman that will keep you feeling challenged, in a good way.

http://www.thejavajive.com/blog/?p=479 - cool blog very cool http://www.indusladies.com/forums/married-life/99975-indian-women-and-western-men.html ThousandPercent ThousandPercent is offline New ILite ThousandPercent Reputation Level is 0 (Yet to Receive Reputation) Join Date Jun 2010 City USA State USA Country United States Posts 11 Default Indian Women and Western Men I want to know what Indian women think about marrying Western men? Do you think you can be happy? Do you think your family or friends will be pleased or not? Are there reasons you like the idea? Are there reasons you think it is a bad idea?

Share Reply With Quote Reply With Quote 24th June 2010 02:20 AM #2 ShilpaMa's Avatar ShilpaMa ShilpaMa is offline Gold ILite ShilpaMa Reputation Level is 2 (Very Good Poster) Join Date Sep 2009 City MyCity State MyState Country India Posts 1,277 Default Re: Indian Women and Western Men Love Marriage - doesn't need to think on any lines. Arranged Marriage -few ques Western born nd brought up Indian or nonIndian roots? Last edited by ShilpaMa; 24th June 2010 at 02:22 AM. Share Unbreak my heart, Say u'll love me again Undo this hurt you cause, When you listen to your mom ..... ... TB sorry for a twist to apply to my life Reply With Quote Reply With Quote 24th June 2010 03:30 AM #3 ThousandPercent ThousandPercent is offline New ILite ThousandPercent Reputation Level is 0 (Yet to Receive Reputation) Join Date Jun 2010 City USA State USA Country

United States Posts 11 Default Re: Indian Women and Western Men I am thinking of white men from Europe or North America. Do Indian women think about these men as husband potential. Why and why not, of course. Is this man attractive? Can they be happy after married? Are there problems with the family and friends? Share Reply With Quote Reply With Quote 24th June 2010 08:00 AM #4 Umlaut Umlaut is offline Junior ILite Umlaut Reputation Level is 0 (Yet to Receive Reputation) Join Date Feb 2010 City -State -Country Germany Posts 155 Default Re: Indian Women and Western Men Hi Thousand, Keep in mind that my answer is based on the interactions I have had with people with a certain level of education who I met in the W European town that I live in and therefore is not representative of all Indian women in general. Moreover, single Indian women are a rarity in my town as most Indian women are married and live here on spouse visas. From among the small minority of single Indian women, students mostly, a large fraction prefer an arranged marriage to a person who their parents would have chosen. Those single Indian women who would like to make their own choice of their life partner generally had a "type" of partner in mind. It did not matter which country the man belonged to as long as he was their "type", meaning he had a certain educational background, values they are comfortable with etc. A good friend of mine (Indian) is getting married to her European boyfriend. According to her, her family had no problem accepting their relationship. And we as friends, of course, wished them well right from the start. Another Indian girl who I knew, had an European boyfriend who broke up with her for the lame reason that she had to go away from Europe for a year of field work. Now she is wary of dating another European man because she has formed the opinion that most men here are shallow and

look for only short term relationships. I don't know if this answers your questions. But I tried! Share Reply With Quote Reply With Quote 24th June 2010 08:17 AM #5 Manaswini08's Avatar Manaswini08 Manaswini08 is offline Silver ILite Manaswini08 Reputation Level is 2 (Very Good Poster) Join Date Nov 2008 City NY State New York Country United States Posts 551 Default Re: Indian Women and Western Men A marriage is a marriage...with ups and downs....fights, arguements, love, lust, problems with inlaws....everything goes into it regardless of being Eastern or Western. As long as the couple are happy with each other and are willing to let go of the small problems that arise in life, they will be happy and attracted to each other. Share Some of the greater things in life are unseen thats why you close your eyes when you kiss, cry, or dream... Reply With Quote Reply With Quote 24th June 2010 08:33 AM #6 april1981 april1981 is offline Senior ILite april1981 Reputation Level is 0 (Yet to Receive Reputation) Join Date Feb 2009 City mumbai` State maharashtra Country India

Posts 264 Post Re: Indian Women and Western Men As far as Indians are concerned we are brought up in a certain manner as regards to traditions , eating habits culture etc; . We can't get into a marriage thinking that the other person is going to change for us. Certain adjustments from our side is also imp and this applies to indian men as well but as far as westeners are concerned there is a whole lot of culture gap which has to be overcome. I don't know whether I have answered your question, but this is my opinion. Share Reply With Quote Reply With Quote 24th June 2010 08:49 AM #7 asuitablegirl's Avatar asuitablegirl asuitablegirl is offline Platinum ILite asuitablegirl Reputation Level is 4 (Outstanding Poster) Join Date Feb 2008 City -State Virginia Country United States Posts 3,377 Default Re: Indian Women and Western Men If you look in the New York Times weekend weddings/celebrations section, you often see Indian woman/White man couples. I've also seen Indian man/white woman couples. Maybe a month or two ago, I remember seeing an Indian man with a black woman and an Indian woman with a Chinese man. When me and my dh visited Washington DC for vacation a couple of years ago, we saw a lot of interracial couples. All of the above seemed happy. I think it's the people in the relationship who make it work, not the skin color or cultural background. For some, Indian culture is the center of their life... their identity comes from fitting into the different Indian functions, traditions, speaking the language, etc. Then there are others who belong to their culture, but don't let it define all of who they are. So I guess somebody who lives and breathes Indian culture, may not adapt well to a western man/woman since there would be a lot of cultural differences. But somebody who is open to learning about another culture and accepting differences in stride, won't find it too difficult to marry a western man/woman.

My dh's cousin sister is marrying a white British fellow next year. However, she is not a big follower of Indian culture, so she doesn't mind having a spouse who is only a little familiar with her family's traditions. Although her parents are Indian, she calls herself a Britisher and is very westernized. So for her, it probably doesn't even feel like Indian woman marrying a British man. More like, two people just fallen in love and getting married. Share Finest Post winner - August 2010 Reply With Quote Reply With Quote 24th June 2010 06:55 PM #8 rosegirl rosegirl is offline Guest rosegirl Reputation level is 1 (Good Poster) Join Date Aug 2009 City Silicon Valley State CA Country United States Posts 606 Default Re: Indian Women and Western Men I have a friend who is married to an American guy whom she met in college. They are happy comparatively. She said that her husband is very loving, supportive and caring. She always wanted to have a love marriage and did not like the idea of arranged marriage. But never thought she would marry an American. But her marriage is great and I am happy for her. I am thinking its the couples no matter what nationality is responsible for the success and failure of a marriage. In laws, money, personality differences can always be solved if the couples stand by each and be supportive. n here r some asian guys with desi n arab girls to top off our adorable feature http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pI8O3Stce6w&feature=related http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4ey_JxUKHvI&feature=related and this russian guy married an indian girl, and they have a child on the way! BIG HUGE APPLAUD FOR THEM! (notice though he is modest and doesn't show her off...) http://www.youtube.com/MrMadfacek

give him another round of applause..... For those of you who don't know.....the only thing separating Desi, Middle Eastern and Gori are supposedly two things skin colour and mind set. Both are considered Caucasian according to wikipedia. http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Race (The term Caucasian race or Caucasian is used to refer to people whose ancestry can be traced back to Europe, North Africa, West Asia, South Asia and parts of Central Asia. It was once considered a useful taxonomical categorization of human racial groups based on a presumed common geographic and/or linguistic origin.) in.news.yahoo.com/070912/43/6kn1o.html This ignorant rundi make some really offensive stereotypes about Indians and her assumptions about the similarities between they and Russians. (If link doesn't work, here's the article) Moscow, Sep 12 (RIA Novosti) Indian men promise to be the ideal spouses for Russian women, affected as they are by a high male death rate owing largely to unhealthy lifestyles. That is the opinion of Maria Arbatova, leading Russian feminist author and prominent television presenter. 'The import of eligible bachelors from India is my big geopolitical idea,' she told RIA Novosti news agency. India can be of help now that Russia has come to grips with its formidable demographic problem, Arbatova said during the launch of her latest book 'A Taste of India' at the 20th Moscow International Book Fair recently. 'First, both Russians and Indians are Indo-Europeans, and we speak related languages - just look at the many similarities between Sanskrit and modern Russian vocabularies. Second, and even more important, the archetypal Indian man is a fanatic paterfamilias. (Highest ranking in family status) To raise many children is his cherished dream, and he makes the best possible husband,' remarked Arbatova, who is married to Shumeet of West Bengal in eastern India. Attracting Indian bachelors to Russia should be a government policy, she argues, or Russia will soon have two crosses to bear - one of its own male deaths and the other of the Chinese birth rate. 'Asian Russia, from the Pacific coast up to the Urals, is full of Chinese men anxious to marry Russian girls. If the Chinese are not promptly balanced out, no matter by whom - Indians, Africans or extraterrestrials, either Asian Russia will become a Chinese province before 2050 or Chinese will become Russia's second official language,' she jokes ironically. 'Just look, Russia has two employment agencies in China, and none in India. Shame!' Arbatova's book went on sale last spring and was on the bestseller list in summer. Britain's International Biographical Center of Cambridge has awarded her its 20th Century Outstanding Achievement gold medal. The author points out many similarities between Russian and Indian life. 'Socialism got my country out of the Big Game for 70 years. Colonialism did the same to India for two centuries. Both nations are now getting back to their sources in the age of globalist. That's hard to do - like walking home inside a centrifuge,' she says. http://www.hyeetch.nareg.com.au/armenians/character2.html trying to pinpoint a nations character and/or psyche is very hard, but not impossible. Many nations are known for their unique character. The way they say, react and do things with others (foreigners) and with their own. These characteristics combined with commonly conceived thoughts and practices will give an observer a good understanding of that nations Character and Psyche.

http://www.telegraph.co.uk/comment/6475543/Its-a-wonderful-mixed-up-world.html It's a wonderful, mixed-up world There are now more mixed-race children than ever before - and that is something for us all to celebate, says the scientist Aarathi Prasad. more mixed-race children than ever before Aarathi Prasad and her 8 yr old daughter Tara with partner Robin. Photo: Philip Hollis Aarathi Prasad 7:00AM GMT 01 Nov 2009 Comments188 Comments Just two weeks ago in Louisiana, an American Justice of the Peace made international news for refusing to issue marriage licences to couples who were not of the same race. He said he had taken the decision because he believed that mixed-race children would not be accepted by their parents' communities. Whether this was genuine concern for a real social problem or was born of a more atavistic notion that there is something inherently, biologically wrong with mixing races, we can only speculate. Either way, his position was quite illegal, and his conduct is being challenged. The sentiment, however, is one that is also shared much closer to home. Nick Griffin, the chairman of the BNP and a member of the European Parliament, has made his party's stance on mixed-race children clear. Miscegenation, he says, is "essentially unnatural and destructive", and mixed-race children "are the most tragic victims of enforced multi-racism". The BNP says that it does not, nor will it ever, "accept miscegenation as moral or normal". As a person from the Indian ethnic minority in this country, I am sorry to say that I am familiar with this attitude. The most recent census in England and Wales found that people from my South Asian background were the least likely of the minorities to be married to someone from a different ethnic group. Our relatively low inter-marriage rate might be explained by our cultural as well as racial differences, and our predilection for holding tightly to our caste systems and religions. When someone like me chooses a partner of another race, some family member is guaranteed to ask the same question as that Louisiana Justice of the Peace: "But what will the children be?" I can answer that question now. The answer is that my daughter, and approximately 400,000 other children like her in Britain today, is mixed race. Families like mine are on the rise nearly one in 10 British children now lives in a mixed-race family, a figure that is six times higher than it was when I was a child. In fact, mixed race people are the fastest-growing minority in this country, a trend that is set to continue. Even in my community, traditionally inward-looking when it comes to choosing partners, the proportion of mixed marriages has increased from 3 per cent to 11 per cent in the space of just 14 years. A report in January 2009 produced for the Equality and Human Rights Commission noted that this rise in interracial relationships can be "taken to be a thermometer of ethnic relations". If that is the case, then majority and minorities seem to be warming to each other at an unprecedented rate. But set against

this backdrop are the voices that support the BNP's ideal. They shout about not mixing races, not diluting culture, not diluting genes about keeping races "pure". As the mother of a mixed-race child and as a scientist, I wanted to challenge these ideas of racial purity. All my instincts as a geneticist make me question the notion of what it means to be "pure". As for it being a good thing, the potential for inherited disease in children of related individuals, or people from small communities, tells us that inbreeding is generally not a great idea. And there are very few communities in the world that are sufficiently inbred to be able to confer upon themselves the dubious honour of being "pure-bred". On the other hand, nature repeatedly shows us that genetically, diversity must be better: more diverse genes mean that animals are better at adapting to changing environmental conditions, and at fighting off and surviving infections. But the combination of inbreeding being bad and diversity being good has flung open the doors for another claim about what it means to be mixed-race. The idea sounds simple enough. If inbreeding is bad, then the opposite outbreeding should be good. It makes sense, some suggest, that people might be genetically better off if they were mixed race. The anecdotal evidence is writ large in the overrepresentation of Britain's tiny mixed-race population in the arts, music, modelling and sport. Mixedrace people account for 30 per cent of the current England football team in a country where they make up only 2 per cent of the general population. But to explore claims of biological advantages and challenge ideas of purity, neither anecdote nor instinct is enough. A scientific approach requires data and evidence, and it needs to stack up. But there's a problem: scientific research on race is hard to come by, and it's not difficult to see why. Science and race have long been uneasy bedfellows. After all, the shoddy, prejudiced half-truths dressed in scientific clothing that were touted as hard fact hit a shameful low 70 years ago, when they were used by people with a dangerous agenda. The unyielding divisions used by some anthropologists in the early years of the last century had humanity neatly sectioned into an absolute and immutable hierarchy in which northern Europeans were at the top. It was embraced by the Nazis, and culminated in the horrors of their final solution. In the aftermath, scientists would no longer recognise "race" as a useful categorisation. Many would not even acknowledge differences between people at all. Here's the thing, though. We are different. Some of our genes albeit a very small 7 per cent of them vary between the continental populations, and along the lines of "races" as they were popularised by Victorian anthropologists. But we do not fit into tidy boxes as they believed. The map of the human genome has shown that the DNA of human populations across the globe is a continuum, not bluntly divided as had been erroneously supposed. That means that each race's DNA blurs into the others because humans have the same ancestors, groups of people who left the African continent between 40,000 and 60,000 years ago. The genes that are obviously different between races include those that enabled each population to adapt to new latitudes; the ones that maximised our success in particular environments, and protected us from the diseases that we were exposed to. So are these differences significant and, more to the point, are they significant enough so that when they are brought together, there might be tangible benefits for people who are mixed-race? The answer from some scientists who still do what could be called "racial science" appears to be yes on both counts. Dr Mark Shriver, who studies human origins at Penn State University, is interested in ancestry, variations in skin and hair colour, facial features and height. He finds that observing traits that

are obviously different between people from different parts of the world is a useful tool for studying evolution. This is because his research focuses on how our genes adapted to changing environments research which helps him understand why certain populations are more at risk of developing diseases like type-2 diabetes, obesity, prostate cancer and high blood pressure. Shriver's work has uncovered something else that is very interesting. He finds that mixed-race people are more symmetrical than the rest of us, and being more symmetrical translates into being more attractive, having less infection, being less stressed, and having greater genetic diversity. Professor Bill Amos at Cambridge University has also been studying the genetic basis of human disease. He finds that in humans, an individual's level of genetic diversity can predict with astonishing accuracy how likely they are to survive parasites and infectious disease. In a recent study in Kenya, he found that low levels of diversity were strongly associated with death before the age of five. Dr Gerome Breen of King's College London has been working in Brazil, a country in which 86 per cent of the population are mixed-race, whether they look white or black. Their 500-year history of miscegenation was an unhappy one, the result of European colonisation, exploitation of the native Amerindian population and a long history of African slavery. In Brazil, Breen is able to do something even more remarkable than simply looking at the influence of genetic heritage on mixed and non-mixed people. This is also a country of great social inequity, and that means that he can separate out factors such as wealth, education and nutrition the influence of environment from the influence of the genes. His study was concerned with post-traumatic stress disorder, one of the most common psychiatric consequences of exposure to violent crime. The preliminary results seem to indicate that people who live with the unrelenting violence and extreme poverty of the favelas or city slums experience the same levels of stress as those who live in the affluent suburbs. But the kicker is this: affluent people are overwhelmingly of European ancestry alone, but the favelas are home to people of mixed race. Mixed-race people are more likely to have a good functioning copy of each gene that we inherit from our mother and our father, which means they are more likely to have healthy biological systems to enable them to cope with stress. If this really is the case, then taken together there is now good evidence that the more genetically diverse among us are indeed more likely to be more attractive, have better physical health, and more robust mental health, too. And that doesn't sound terribly tragic, or victim-like, to me. * Aarathi Prasad has a PhD in genetics and presents 'Is It Better to be Mixed Race?' on Channel 4 tomorrow at 8pm http://faithandheritage.com/2011/05/the-moral-status-of-miscegenation/ Introduction Miscegenation, more commonly called interracial marriage, is one of the touchiest subjects about which one can speak today. There is widespread pressure, coming from both Christians and nonChristians alike, urging people towards the claimed goodness of racial diversity within marriage. For instance, John Piper contends that interracial marriage is not only permitted by God but is a positive

good in our day.1 Similarly, secular humanist Paul Kurtz gives a more comprehensive and forthright affirmation of miscegenation when he states, The highest good, as I see it, is intermarriage between people of different ethnicities, races, religions, and cultures.2 Against views like these, it is rare to hear an opposing opinion today, and this is usually because any opposition to miscegenation even saying merely that it is not a good idea receives accusations of racism or, if the voice of opposition is a white person, white supremacy. Opposition to interracial marriage, especially if coming from a white person, is usually interpreted to entail hatred of other races. Allegedly, the only reason people would be opposed to marrying those of other races is because they have hatred or animosity for other races. It is because of this allegation that any opposition to miscegenation has been thoroughly and censoriously silenced. Despite such censoring or perhaps, because of it it is vital that we thoroughly understand the topic, rather than passively accepting anything with which our unbelieving culture and media might try to inculcate us. The Historic American Opinion on Interracial Marriage Before venturing into the subject itself, it would be profitable to understand what others, especially Christians, have thought of miscegenation. The subject is presented today as if it were quite obvious that interracial marriage is both permissible and positively good. It is tacitly assumed that everyone has thought the same way in history, except for a few evil men who thought otherwise due to racial bigotry and especially to ignorance, as the accusation often goes. But, shockingly enough, it is only a fairly recent view that interracial marriage should be encouraged. While the general rarity of biracial individuals today should immediately inform us that interracial marriages are relatively new in history, it is still helpful to look into the stated opinions of men of the past. However, since little ink was spilled on the topic of interracial marriage before separate races even lived amongst each other, I will not be going back terribly far in history, just to the seventeenth century and onward. The first set of facts which are remarkably significant is the legislation of earlier times. Legislation and criminalization are not things which just appear among a people; they require a substantive consent of the populace (or apathy). Without popular consent, laws will inevitably change. Yet, what is noteworthy here is the persistence of anti-miscegenation legislation for a very large portion of American history. One of the earliest examples of this is Virginias anti-miscegenation law of 1691, which forbade the marriage of whites with any non-whites. Similarly, Massachusetts forbade miscegenation by law in 1705, North Carolina in 1715, South Carolina in 1717, Delaware in 1721, Louisiana in 1724, and on and on. Some states, which were formed later in Americas history, still had sufficient popular opinion to illegalize interracial marriage even into the twentieth century, e.g. Montana in 1909. In sum, over 40 states had laws forbidding the marriage of whites with non-whites (though not all laws prohibited marriages with every type of non-white).3 This clearly shows the historic opinion of Americans on the matter. Besides these laws, which show themselves to be of great weight when considering the propriety of interracial marriage, I would like to look at one specific example of an anti-miscegenation opinion. I have in mind Muhammad Ali, the famous black boxer. He clearly could not be accused of white supremacy for being against miscegenation. In a speech he delivered in 1968, Muhammad Ali said quite directly that all white men and women in their right minds would oppose miscegenation, and then he said the same about blacks as well (watch the video here). He shows us a stark example of a black man who, when all the talk of racial integration and black civil rights was on the American political landscape, still viewed miscegenation as unnatural and wrong and his audience did not

brand him as racist and bigoted for doing so. More importantly, he helped to provide more of a rationale behind his position. We dont hate those of you who are white. We just want to stay black. According to Muhammad Ali, opposition to interracial marriage need have nothing to do with animosity against other races, so much as having pride and love for ones own race. This rationale is important to acknowledge as we investigate the moral status of miscegenation. Consider how America, including blacks, has historically opposed miscegenation. Consider also that many more examples than those above could likewise be produced. I think it is clear that when we discern whether America has morally improved from then until now, it raises serious questions as to the permissibility of interracial marriage today. Is it really sensible to believe that, among all the radical changes in the social fabric of our nation heretofore, most of which have led to severe moral decadence, the changes associated with race and miscegenation have been moral improvements? The Structure of the Debate The way the debate over miscegenation is normally construed, the allowed views are basically these: either one believes that interracial marriage is wrong in all circumstances, or one believes that interracial marriage is wrong in no circumstances. However, although the debate is usually construed that way, it is rarely stated that way (i.e. in those exact terms), since it is so obvious that there is a middle ground between wrong in all circumstances and wrong in no circumstances. Often the debate will be stated as whether interracial marriage is sinful or not, when the meaning of sinful is wrong in all circumstances. It is unfortunate and misleading that the debate is so often construed that way, but it is just a matter of fact that it is. For example, when confronted with an argument against interracial marriage, it is not uncommon that an advocate of miscegenation will ask in reply, But wouldnt you rather your daughter marry a Christian of another race than an unbeliever of the same race? The proper choice between those two, of course, is to select the believing spouse of a different race. Thus, this hypothetical advocate of miscegenation will have proven that there are some circumstances (albeit rare ones) in which interracial marriage is permissible; but his error exposes itself when he then presumes that because miscegenation can be appropriate in such unordinary circumstances, then it must be inherently appropriate in all circumstances.4 The potentiality that interracial marriage could be wrong in some circumstances needs to be kept in mind here. The answer could lie somewhere on the continuum between wrong in all circumstances and wrong in no circumstances. It could be, when all is said and done, that miscegenation is wrong in no circumstances whatsoever; it could be that it is wrong in basically all circumstances, extraordinary situations excepted. Whatever the answer is, we must understand that it can lie along a continuum, rather than accepting the false dilemma that interracial marriage must be wrong in either all or no circumstances. The Witness of Scripture Any reasonably pious Christian will view the light of Scripture as the inerrant and perfect means by which we approach truth on any issue, and therefore he would presumably desire to know what the Bible has to say about the topic of interracial marriage. Advocates of miscegenation will often make claims that Scripture does mention, and even encourages, interracial marriage. They will sometimes cite the example of Moses and his Cushite wife of Numbers 12, among others. It is not the intention of this article to cover all such alleged instances; but suffice it to say that such passages have not been utilized to encourage miscegenation until very recently in church history, and that other sources have well explained how they do not.5 While some advocates of miscegenation might think that Scripture

directly and clearly supports their case, I do not appeal to any particular Scriptural passage as the be-all and end-all answer. I maintain that, while Scripture does lend firm support to the anti-miscegenation position, it does not strictly and straightforwardly deal with the topic of interracial marriage. It gives us several helpful parameters, but it simply does not leave the topic to be solved purely by the Bible. One of the main passages in Scripture concerning whom Christians ought to marry is 2 Corinthians 6:14-18, where St. Paul urges Christians to not be unequally yoked together with unbelievers. The direct and obvious import of this passage is that believers ought not to marry unbelievers, for doing so is a clear instance of unequal yoking. Yet, theologian R.J. Rushdoony provides more insight into the passage: St. Paul referred to the broader meaning of these laws against hybridization, and against yoking an ox and an ass to a plow (Deut. 22:10), in II Corinthians 6:14. . . . Unequal yoking plainly means mixed marriages between believers and unbelievers and is clearly forbidden. But Deuteronomy 22:10 not only forbids unequal religious yoking by inference, and as a case law, but also unequal yoking generally. This means that an unequal marriage between believers or between unbelievers is wrong. Man was created in the image of God (Gen. 1:26), and woman in the reflected image of God in man, and from man (I Cor. 11:1-12; Gen. 2:18, 21-23). Helpmeet means a reflection or mirror, an image of man, indicating that a woman must have something religiously and culturally in common with her husband. The burden of the law is thus against inter-religious, inter-racial, and inter-cultural marriages, in that they normally go against the very community which marriage is designed to establish.6 Rushdoony here is noting that, although this passage teaches no strict prohibition on interracial marriage, there is a preponderance against it. Since it is an introduction of uncongenial diversity into an institution, marriage, which thrives on unity, miscegenation has a tendency to work against harmony, and is in this sense abnormal. Rushdoony appeals to the Old Testament legislation against hybridization in order to make this point. Presumably he is operating off of the correct principle that the Old Testament case laws, including those regarding cattle, were meant for our benefit today in their application to human affairs (1 Cor. 9:8-10). At any rate, even if it were not stated in Scripture, it is already obvious to us that it is desirable to have something in common with our spouses, and, therefore, it is evident that miscegenation tends, to a certain extent, unto marital disunity. A second point to consider is the bearing of ethnonationalism on the status of miscegenation. I will not spend time discussing the doctrines biblical foundations here as that has already been covered at length elsewhere, but I will look at its implications. If nations are defined along ethnic lines, such that any attempt to define nations otherwise is abnormal (if not sinful), then it follows that sub-units of nations, families, should likewise be ethnically homogeneous. If it is unnatural to consider nations as ethnically heterogeneous, then it also should be unnatural to consider families as ethnically heterogeneous. Of course, if something is abnormal or unnatural, it does not follow that it is always sinful, but this premise still carries moral weight namely, because it is sinful and contrary to Gods will to value the natural and the unnatural equally. (For instance, it is not sinful to experience pain, but it is sinful to view pain to be equally as valuable as pleasure.) This, like the point above, provides a moral preponderance against interracial marriages. A third point is the existence of racial diversity in eternity. According to the book of Revelation, the nations will be represented in heaven. For instance, John says, After these things I looked, and behold, a great multitude which no one could number, of all nations, tribes, peoples, and tongues, standing before the throne and before the Lamb, clothed with white robes, with palm branches in their hands (7:9). He also speaks of the plurality of nations in 5:9; 14:6; 15:4; and 21:24. (Compare this

with the Great Commission delivered to the nations in Matt. 28:19.) This opposes the more-or-less commonly held eschatological view today that humanity will inevitably but eventually bleed into one and become one homogeneous coffee-colored race.7 Against this, we should understand the divinely decreed fact that racial and national diversity will exist in heaven. But, once we acknowledge that, then we must understand that actions taken to undermine such a decree are sinful. This, of course, does not ipso facto entail that all interracial marriage is sinful, but, as above, it places a moral preponderance against it. We should view intra-racial and intra-ethnic marriages as the norm, since we would otherwise facilitate and enable such a project of vast racial mixing. Note, also, one more implication from the fact that racial diversity will be in heaven: our physical identity is not obliterated by our spiritual identity in Christ, nor is it obliterated by our spiritual union with Christians of other races. Often Christians will appeal to verses like Gal. 3:28, which states, There is neither Jew nor Greek, there is neither slave nor free, there is neither male nor female; for you are all one in Christ Jesus. They might use this to argue that ethnic or racial distinctions are meaningless in Christ, and therefore that it could be only a sign of bigotry to oppose interracial marriages between Christians. Against this, however, one can notice that while racial distinctions are meaningless when it comes to ones spiritual standing in Christ one is either justified by faith, or he is not it does not follow that such distinctions are meaningless in all things. For example, we understand that the genders are still significant in some ways (e.g., 1 Tim. 2:11-12), even if being a particular gender does not automatically improve ones spiritual state. Like gender, race is something that God has created as part of His creation: the diversity of people-groups is a beautiful thing, made good, and He wishes to preserve that in heaven. We should not try to counteract this with widespread intermarriage. Fourthly, Scripture contains specific prohibitions on intermarriage between Israel and other nations (e.g., Deut. 7:3). These prohibitions were given specifically to Israel, and not to mankind as a whole, so their citation should not be seen as promoting an absolute ethical forbiddance of all interracial marriage. Further, it is evident that the primary motivation in these commandments was religious, not racial or ethnic; the purpose of avoiding intermarriage was for religious purity (e.g., Ex. 34:16). Yet, it still is significant that the commands were done along ethnic lines. Israel was forbidden from marrying other nations, not just unbelievers in the abstract. In principle, Israelites could not marry some foreigners, even if the foreigners were to be believers. This can have import today: there might be danger in marrying into other ethnic groups, even apart from whether the marriages might be interreligious or not. Race should likewise be a factor of consideration for marriages today, rather than disregarded as insignificant. Intermarriage with foreigners is treated as particularly grievous in the books of Ezra and Nehemiah. When it was discovered that many Israelites had intermarried with foreign wives note again, not necessarily unbelieving, but foreign Ezra reacted furiously (Ezra 9:1-3), and later commanded that the foreign wives and children be put away, or separated (10:1-3, 9-11). Later, similar events occur in Nehemiah (Neh. 9:1-3; 10:28-30; 13:23-27), and Israel separates from the foreigners in response to the naturalization laws of Deut. 23:3-4 (13:1-3). These examples show the prophets to be concerned with more than mere religion. They divided along the lines of nationality (ethnicity), not just religion. We should likewise understand race to be an important and God-created factor when it comes to marriage today. Before moving on, I want to anticipate one common objection to the idea that race can be a factor of consideration in marriage. The objection is based on 1 Cor. 7:39, where Paul states that a widow is at

liberty to be married to whom she wishes, only in the Lord. The objection is that, based on this passage, the only restriction on marriage is religious: only in the Lord. However, it can be disputed whether in the Lord means so long as the potential spouse is a believer. Given that we are aware of certain perspicuous marital restrictions involving believers (for instance, a widow may not marry her biological son, even if he is a believer), then we can know that in the Lord has a broader scope. More likely, it refers to the total constraints of Gods law; but as soon as that is conceded, the objection to the opponent of miscegenation crumbles. In sum, I doubt that Scripture presents itself as saying, Thou shalt not interracially marry, but neither does this mean that such marriages are universally permissible. The above evidence would lead us to proclaim that interracial marriages are, at the very least, unnatural, and that they should thus be approached with caution, instead of fervor or praise. The Witness of Nature Central to Christianity is the doctrine that the Lord reveals Himself not only in Scripture but in nature. He formed the created order, and therefore it is a revelation of Himself. The heavens declare the glory of God; And the firmament shows His handiwork (Ps. 19:1). This raises a point that is obvious for some, but neglected in practice for many: we are not to live our lives in isolation from Gods natural revelation, confining ourselves only to His supernatural revelation (i.e., Scripture). Instead, we are to see them both as springs of information from the Creator. We are to live our lives in the created order, in light of the glorious guidance God provides us in His Word but we are not to thereby study only Scripture, and close our eyes to the created order. Far from it: we are to thereby see the created order with much more clarity, awe, and reverence! One doctrine on which many Christians completely neglect Gods natural revelation is race. Many Christians will believe the nice-sounding phrase that there is only one race, the human race. More particularly, they will hold to such a view as the default or the norm, and be willing to change to a view of racial realism only if one provides Scripture proofs that race exists. This is a perfect example of ignoring natural revelation and confining oneself to supernatural revelation. It is crystal clear that God has created and ordained the racial distinctions that exist among mankind. To deny this is akin to denying that different breeds of dog exist. No sensible Christian would require a Scripture to prove the biodiversity of animals; neither should he require a Scripture to prove the biodiversity of humans.8 In Romans 1:26, Paul describes homosexual activity as being against nature. When we consider certain sins like homosexuality, pedophilia, bestiality, necrophilia, etc., we easily understand them to be not only immoral, but just plain unnatural. Besides being sinful, there is a distinct way in which such acts go against the way that humans are designed or constituted. Unless our consciences are seared to accept the unnatural as natural, we normally perceive these distinctions so long as our consciences are functioning properly. But such a natural reaction results from viewing an interracial couple. Apart from the moral issue, there is something distinctly unnatural about pairing together two people whom God sovereignly placed in different subsets of mankind. Yet, once we understand the unnaturalness of such acts as distinct from their moral standing, we can also understand how this is related to their immorality. Although something can be unnatural and morally permissible (e.g. having six fingers on one hand), there still is a general relation between unnaturalness and immorality, especially when actions (rather than bodily conditions, like fingers) are in view. As mentioned above, this can be summarily stated as the doctrine that we should not value the natural and the unnatural equally. We should be more inclined towards what is natural. To view the natural and the unnatural as interchangeable to view intra-racial and interracial marriage as equally

normal and workable is itself sinful. Though interracial marriage might be permissible in various circumstances, it does not follow that it is to be valued as equally natural and normative in all circumstances. There is more to be said about natural revelation, however. When we understand, as I mentioned above, that race is real, and when we further understand that Jehovahs decrees are purposeful and teleological, then it follows that God intentionally made the different races of mankind, and moreover, that He intentionally made the exact number of races of mankind.9 God created racial diversity for a good purpose (Acts 17:26-27), and did not intend for the diversity He created to be undone through amalgamation. Interestingly, this was the specific reasoning of Leon Bazile, the judge whose 1959 antimiscegenation decision was overturned in the Loving v. Virginia case of 1967: Almighty God created the races white, black, yellow, malay and red, and he placed them on separate continents. And but for the interference with his arrangement there would be no cause for such marriages. The fact that he separated the races shows that he did not intend for the races to mix.10 This is important: the premise of racial realism immediately points us to the conclusion that racial amalgamation is wrong. If God has created us with a specific racial identity, which we ought to love and cherish, then how could we think it permissible (in ordinary circumstances, at least) to cut off our identity? We ought to preserve our own people, and therefore we ought not to interracially marry. We should, when confronted with Gods creation, perceive all the boundaries He has embedded in His created order, and honor them by maintaining their distinctions. Interracial marriage, consequently, has very strong moral weight placed against it. It is unnatural, and it can run against the purposes and teleology of the Lord in creating the races. It is not hatred of other races, but love of our God, to maintain the diversity with which He has imbued His creation. The Big Picture It can be easy to lose an important, wide-scope perspective on this issue. Oftentimes we are concerned with the isolated issue of whether or not this person of race A can marry this other person of race B. It is crucial that, in understanding this issue, we understand marriage within the larger scope of family, tribe, nation, race, and world, not just from a narrowed-in, individualistic perspective. For example, consider the fact that when one marries, it is not just two individuals who become one flesh, but two families who merge together. Beyond the individual problems that could perhaps result from a racially heterogeneous marriage, it would be important to ensure that racially different families would not be brought into unnecessary disharmony through marriage either. Given the naturalness of people of the same race congregating with one another (e.g. races will naturally segregate in a cafeteria), two whole families of different races could be disharmonious as well. This makes interracial marriage to be that much less desirable and appropriate. Moving beyond the family, recall the doctrine of ethnonationalism which I mentioned earlier. According to the doctrine, the proper definition of a nation is ethnically based. A corollary of this is that it is more natural to live in an ethnically homogeneous nation, and two corollaries emerge even further: first, it is certainly more natural to marry someone who is ethnically related to you; and second, insofar as intermarriage acts against the divinely sanctioned order of ethnonationalism, it is evil and confusion. This, again, is not to ban intermarriage in all circumstances, but to add even further moral weight on the scales against the propriety of miscegenation. Given all that has been said concerning the naturalness of intra-racial marriage and the moral

preponderance placed against interracial marriage, it would be pertinent to give a big picture model of marriage at this point. Except for incest, which is obviously morally forbidden, close relations are generally to be preferred. We should first desire to marry within our tribe, following the example of the Israelite daughters in Numbers 36,11 and if those options are either impossible, impractical, or otherwise undesirable to us, then we should look to find a spouse within our nation, then within our race, and only at that point would it be permissible to marry outside of our race. This model is supported by the naturalness of marrying someone with whom one has something in common. If commonality breeds marital harmony, then it would be proper to value closer genetic relations for marriage. It is this picture of concentric circles which, overall, helps greatly to produce community and fellowship through the channel of kinship. The inner rings possess greater moral normativity than the other rings, such that the inner rings are default: we ought to look for spouses within the inner rings before progressively moving outward. This can be contrasted with the more extreme (and more common) view that ethnic and racial ties are absolutely meaningless when it comes to marriage and that it is bigoted to think that the Godcreated reality of race is meaningful. According to such a position, there is no respect to be given for God-ordained boundaries; they are to be viewed as worthless in every respect because of Bible verses like Gal. 3:28. It is actually such a mindset which, when multiplied, can lead to the genocide of entire peoples. For example, if every white person today were to marry a non-white, the entire white race would be gone in a single generation.12 Therefore, insofar as we wish our own people, and every people on earth, to maintain its own existence and distinctiveness, we ought to consider intra-racial and intra-ethnic marriages as normative. To the extent that we view intermarriage as equal with or preferable to intra-marriage, we are working towards the destruction of entire peoples. There is no neutrality on this issue. In order to maintain the preservation of the human diversity God has created, both biological and cultural, intermarriage must be seen as unnatural and uncommon. To say otherwise is a denial that it is good to preserve ones own people, heritage, and culture. Conclusion Miscegenation is unnatural and works against Gods purposes, especially when racial admixture occurs in large quantities. Therefore its default status is one of moral wrongness. In unordinary situations, the unnatural may be morally permissible, particularly when it is kept in small numbers (so as to not destroy the distinctiveness of a people or culture), but in ordinary situations, the default status of miscegenation cannot be overturned. We ought not to value the natural and the unnatural equally, and we also ought not to treat race as meaningless or insignificant. Above, I mentioned that the structure of the debate could result in our saying that miscegenation, morally speaking, might be somewhere between universally prohibited and universally permissible. Given all the above evidence, I would contend that it is much closer to the side of universal prohibition, though I would not be surprised to learn that others may take a different view, seeing miscegenation as permissible in more circumstances than I do, but short of race-destruction. This is fine; it would be an honest disagreement. What is important is to see the commonality we have. Disagreement concerning the precise moral status of miscegenation (along the moral continuum) is small when compared to our agreement on the normativity of intra-racial marriage and the value of preserving our own people and heritage. In other words, I think the conclusion that miscegenation is wrong in the vast majority of circumstances

best accounts for all the evidence, including the historic views of Christians. It is crucial that we see the value of preserving our own people and way of life. There might be some minor disagreements past this issue, but that simply means that brothers and sisters may disagree not that anyone is a heretic. Many Christians who would disagree with me on the moral status of miscegenation might, following the sinful world, view my mistaken racial doctrine to be blasphemous and heretical. They would think, following MTV and the mass media, that opposition to racial intermarriage is not only incorrect but damnable. Such an uncharitable and hateful view needs to be absolutely jettisoned. Even if one does not believe that miscegenation is wrong in most circumstances, we should not think others are evil racists or bigots just because we disagree with them. Nor should we think it racist of others to forbid marriage for their own children to other races, as they would be merely following the example of the patriarch Abraham (Gen. 24:1-4), and also of the daughters of Zelophehad (Num. 36:6). We should be willing to fellowship with those with whom we disagree; there is no need for rage or disunity. If anything, rage should be directed at those who see no support for intraracial marriage; these people would not care to see their entire race perish. Lastly, what might be an obvious corollary should be explicitly stated: if interracial marriage is generally immoral, then other activities related to it are also immoral. This would include interracial dating, interracial extra-marital sex,13 and any other form of interracial romance. If interracial marriage is sin, then incipient forms of it (or even perversions of it, such as interracial fornication) are likewise sinful. Although I have covered a good deal of evidence and topics related to interracial marriage, I do not want to give the impression that this is the final word on the topic. This is intended only to be a brief introduction to the topic; much more is available for study. http://vparker.hubpages.com/hub/Top-Eight-Characteristics-of-Fake-People 1. Narcissism: they make any and everything about them, and only come around when they need something and/or to feel better about themselves. 3. Battles with Low Self Worth: They might act like hot stuff or a know it all, but really they can't stand themselves. Misery loves company, and every fake friend I ever had suffered from low self-esteem, and also at least once battled with depression, bipolar disorder or some other mental illness. They refused to seek help or get proper treatment, and instead self-medicated. Can be very competitive and/or vindictive in attempts to spread their misery. Example: A fake friend may badger you to purse a crush they know is no good for you. When you get hurt they'll tell you I told you so. Worse yet if you are happy with your crush, they might try to find ways to get between the two of you. Fake people hate to see other people happy when it doesn't benefit them. For some reason these people feel the need to always be the top dog, and nobody else deserves to shine above them ever. 4. No Responsibility: they refuse to accept responsibility for any of their actions, and they always proclaim themselves the victim. They are NOT that Innocent: Fake people love to pretend that they are nice, good people, and many believe they actually are. Example: A fake friend will say things like "I missed you, lets hang out." So you take the initiative and contact them. However, they don't respond: maybe you go online and see

that they've logged on recently. Days go by and these fake friends still haven't contacted you. Why? Because they can't stand you, but being truthful and blunt about the situation goes against their ethos of playing the role of the good and innocent. They could simple build a rapport with you without mentioning hanging out ever, but that would also mean closing the door on any future opportunities to use you for their own personal gain(s). 8. The Trial of Denial: Their is no point confronting these people and calling them out on their behavior. They will simply (ALWAYS) deny their actions, and try to turn the incident around so that everything looks like its your fault.If you run into a person who has any of these characteristics that I listed in this article just leave them alone. Use this article as a guide to recognize their behavior so you that you can find friends who are actually are worth your time. http://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Psychological_manipulation Psychological manipulation Psychological manipulation is a type of social influence that aims to change the perception or behavior of others through underhanded, deceptive, or even abusive tactics.[1] By advancing the interests of the manipulator, often at the other's expense, such methods could be considered exploitative, abusive, devious, and deceptive. Social influence is not necessarily negative. For example, doctors can try to persuade patients to change unhealthy habits. Social influence is generally perceived to be harmless when it respects the right of the influenced to accept or reject and is not unduly coercive. Depending on the context and motivations, social influence may constitute underhanded manipulation. Requirements for successful manipulation According to George K. Simon, successful psychological manipulation primarily involves the manipulator: concealing aggressive intentions and behaviors. knowing the psychological vulnerabilities of the victim to determine what tactics are likely to be the most effective. having a sufficient level of ruthlessness to have no qualms about causing harm to the victim if necessary. Consequently the manipulation is likely to be accomplished through covert aggressive (relational aggressive or passive aggressive) means.[2] Close this section How manipulators control their victims According to Braiker Harriet Braiker[1] identified the following basic ways that manipulators control their victims: Positive reinforcement: includes praise, superficial charm, superficial sympathy (crocodile tears), excessive apologizing, money, approval, gifts, attention, facial expressions such as a forced laugh or smile, and public recognition. Negative reinforcement: involves removing one from a negative situation as a reward, e.g. "You won't have to do your homework if you allow me to do this to you." Intermittent or partial reinforcement: Partial or intermittent negative reinforcement can create an

effective climate of fear and doubt. Partial or intermittent positive reinforcement can encourage the victim to persist - for example in most forms of gambling, the gambler is likely to win now and again but still lose money overall. Punishment: includes nagging, yelling, the silent treatment, intimidation, threats, swearing, emotional blackmail, the guilt trip, sulking, crying, and playing the victim. Traumatic one-trial learning: using verbal abuse, explosive anger, or other intimidating behavior to establish dominance or superiority; even one incident of such behavior can condition or train victims to avoid upsetting, confronting or contradicting the manipulator. According to Simon Simon[2] identified the following manipulative techniques: Lying: It is hard to tell if somebody is lying at the time they do it, although often the truth may be apparent later when it is too late. One way to minimize the chances of being lied to is to understand that some personality types (particularly psychopaths) are experts at the art of lying and cheating, doing it frequently, and often in subtle ways. Lying by omission: This is a very subtle form of lying by withholding a significant amount of the truth. This technique is also used in propaganda. Denial: Manipulator refuses to admit that he or she has done something wrong. Rationalization: An excuse made by the manipulator for inappropriate behavior. Rationalization is closely related to spin. Minimization: This is a type of denial coupled with rationalization. The manipulator asserts that his or her behavior is not as harmful or irresponsible as someone else was suggesting, for example saying that a taunt or insult was only a joke. Selective inattention or selective attention: Manipulator refuses to pay attention to anything that may distract from his or her agenda, saying things like "I don't want to hear it". Diversion: Manipulator not giving a straight answer to a straight question and instead being diversionary, steering the conversation onto another topic. Evasion: Similar to diversion but giving irrelevant, rambling, vague responses, weasel words. Covert intimidation: Manipulator throwing the victim onto the defensive by using veiled (subtle, indirect or implied) threats. Guilt tripping: A special kind of intimidation tactic. A manipulator suggests to the conscientious victim that he or she does not care enough, is too selfish or has it easy. This usually results in the victim feeling bad, keeping them in a self-doubting, anxious and submissive position. Shaming: Manipulator uses sarcasm and put-downs to increase fear and self-doubt in the victim. Manipulators use this tactic to make others feel unworthy and therefore defer to them. Shaming tactics can be very subtle such as a fierce look or glance, unpleasant tone of voice, rhetorical comments, subtle sarcasm. Manipulators can make one feel ashamed for even daring to challenge them. It is an effective

way to foster a sense of inadequacy in the victim. Playing the victim role ("poor me"): Manipulator portrays him- or herself as a victim of circumstance or of someone else's behavior in order to gain pity, sympathy or evoke compassion and thereby get something from another. Caring and conscientious people cannot stand to see anyone suffering and the manipulator often finds it easy to play on sympathy to get cooperation. Vilifying the victim: More than any other, this tactic is a powerful means of putting the victim on the defensive while simultaneously masking the aggressive intent of the manipulator. Playing the servant role: Cloaking a self-serving agenda in guise of a service to a more noble cause, for example saying he is acting in a certain way for "obedience" and "service" to God or a similar authority figure. Seduction: Manipulator uses charm, praise, flattery or overtly supporting others in order to get them to lower their defenses and give their trust and loyalty to him or her. Projecting the blame (blaming others): Manipulator scapegoats in often subtle, hard-to-detect ways. Feigning innocence: Manipulator tries to suggest that any harm done was unintentional or that they did not do something that they were accused of. Manipulator may put on a look of surprise or indignation. This tactic makes the victim question his or her own judgment and possibly his own sanity. Feigning confusion: Manipulator tries to play dumb by pretending he or she does not know what the victim is talking about or is confused about an important issue brought to his attention. Brandishing anger: Manipulator uses anger to brandish sufficient emotional intensity and rage to shock the victim into submission. The manipulator is not actually angry, he or she just puts on an act. He just wants what he wants and gets "angry" when denied. Close this section Vulnerabilities exploited by manipulators According to Braiker,[1] manipulators exploit the following vulnerabilities (buttons) that may exist in victims: the "disease to please" addiction to earning the approval and acceptance of others Emotophobia (fear of negative emotion; i.e. a fear of expressing anger, frustration or disapproval) lack of assertiveness and ability to say no blurry sense of identity (with soft personal boundaries) low self-reliance external locus of control According to Simon,[2] manipulators exploit the following vulnerabilities that may exist in victims: navet - victim finds it too hard to accept the idea that some people are cunning, devious and ruthless or is "in denial" if he or she is being victimized. over-conscientiousness - victim is too willing to give manipulator the benefit of the doubt and see

their side of things in which they blame the victim. low self-confidence - victim is self-doubting, lacking in confidence and assertiveness, likely to go on the defensive too easily. over-intellectualization - victim tries too hard to understand and believes the manipulator has some understandable reason to be hurtful. emotional dependency - victim has a submissive or dependent personality. The more emotionally dependent the victim is, the more vulnerable he or she is to being exploited and manipulated. Manipulators generally take the time to scope out the characteristics and vulnerabilities of their victim. According to Kantor,[3] the following are vulnerable to psychopathic manipulators: too dependent - dependent people need to be loved and are therefore gullible and liable to say yes to something to which they should say no. too immature - has impaired judgment and believes the exaggerated advertising claims. too nave - cannot believe there are dishonest people in the world, taking for granted that if there were they would not be allowed to operate. too impressionable - overly seduced by charmers. For example, they might vote for the seemingly charming politician who kisses babies. too trusting - people who are honest often assume that everyone else is honest. They are more likely to commit themselves to people they hardly know without checking credentials, etc., and less likely to question so-called experts. too lonely - lonely people may accept any offer of human contact. A psychopathic stranger may offer human companionship for a price. too narcissistic - narcissists are prone to falling for unmerited flattery. too impulsive - make snap decisions about, for example, what to buy or whom to marry without consulting others. too altruistic - the opposite of psychopathic: too honest, too fair, too empathetic. too frugal - cannot say no to a bargain even if they know the reason it is so cheap. too materialistic - easy prey for loan sharks or get-rich-quick schemes. too greedy - the greedy and dishonest may fall prey to a psychopath who can easily entice them to act in an immoral way. too masochistic - lack self-respect and so unconsciously let psychopaths take advantage of them. They think they deserve it out of a sense of guilt. the elderly - the elderly can become fatigued and less capable of multi-tasking. When hearing a sales pitch they are less likely to consider that it could be a con. They are prone to giving money to someone with a hard-luck story. See elder abuse. Close this section Motivations of manipulators Manipulators can have various possible motivations, including:[1] the need to advance their own purposes and personal gain at virtually any cost to others a strong need to attain feelings of power and superiority in relationships with others a want and need to feel in control (aka. control freak) a desire to gain a feeling of power over others in order to raise their perception of self-esteem Close this section

Psychological conditions of manipulators Unbalanced scales.svg The neutrality of this section is disputed. Please do not remove this message until the dispute is resolved. (January 2012) Manipulators may have any of the following psychological conditions:[1] machiavellian personality narcissistic personality disorder paranoid personality disorder borderline personality disorder dependent personality disorder histrionic personality disorder passiveaggressive behavior type A angry personalities antisocial personality disorder behavioral addiction Close this section Basic manipulative strategy of a psychopath According to Robert D. Hare and Paul Babiak,[4]psychopaths are always on the lookout for individuals to scam or swindle. The psychopathic approach includes three phases: 1. Assessment phase Some psychopaths are opportunistic, aggressive predators who will take advantage of almost anyone they meet, while others are more patient, waiting for the perfect, innocent victim to cross their path. In each case, the psychopath is constantly sizing up the potential usefulness of an individual as a source of money, power, sex, or influence. Some psychopaths enjoy a challenge while others prey on people who are vulnerable. During the assessment phase, the psychopath is able to determine a potential victims weak points and will use those weak points to seduce. 2. Manipulation phase Once the psychopath has identified a victim, the manipulation phase begins. During the manipulation phase, a psychopath may create a persona or mask, specifically designed to work for his or her target. A psychopath will lie to gain the trust of their victim. Psychopaths' lack of empathy and guilt allows them to lie with impunity; they do not see the value of telling the truth unless it will help get them what they want. As interaction with the victim proceeds, the psychopath carefully assesses the victim's persona. The victim's persona gives the psychopath a picture of the traits and characteristics valued in the victim. The victim's persona may also reveal, to an astute observer, insecurities or weaknesses the victim wishes to minimize or hide from view. As an ardent student of human behavior, the psychopath will then gently test the inner strengths and needs that are part of the victim's private self and eventually build a personal relationship with the victim. The persona of the psychopath - the personality the victim is bonding with - does not really exist. It is built on lies, carefully woven together to entrap the victim. It is a mask, one of many, custom-made by the psychopath to fit the victim's particular psychological needs and expectations. The victimization is

predatory in nature; it often leads to severe financial, physical or emotional harm for the individual. Healthy, real relationships are built on mutual respect and trust; they are based on sharing honest thoughts and feelings. The victim's mistaken belief that the psychopathic bond has any of these characteristics is the reason it is so successful. 3. Abandonment phase The abandonment phase begins when the psychopath decides that his or her victim is no longer useful. The psychopath abandons his or her victim and moves on to someone else. In the case of romantic relationships, a psychopath will usually seal a relationship with their next target before abandoning his or her current victim. Sometimes, the psychopath has three individuals on whom he or she is running game: the one who has been recently abandoned, who is being toyed with and kept in the picture in case the other two do not work out; the one who is currently being played and is about to be abandoned; and the third, who is being groomed by the psychopath, in anticipation of abandoning the current "mark". http://wiki.answers.com/Q/What_is_a_sociopath#page1 Answer: Antisocial Personality Disorder is also known as psychopathy or sociopathy. Individuals with this disorder have little regard for the feeling and welfare of others. As a clinical diagnosis it is usually limited to those over age 18. It can be diagnosed in younger people if the they commit isolated antisocial acts and do not show signs of another mental disorder. Antisocial Personality Disorder is chronic, beginning in adolescence and continuing throughout adulthood. There are ten general symptoms: not learning from experience no sense of responsibility inability to form meaningful relationships inability to control impulses lack of moral sense chronically antisocial behavior no change in behavior after punishment emotional immaturity lack of guilt self-centeredness People with this disorder may exhibit criminal behavior. They perhaps do not work. If they do work, they are frequently absent or may quit suddenly. They do not consider other people's wishes, welfare or rights. They can be manipulative and may lie to gain personal pleasure or profit. They may default on loans, fail to provide child support, or fail to care for their dependents adequately. High risk sexual behavior and substance abuse are common. Impulsiveness, failure to plan ahead, aggressiveness, irritability, irresponsibility, and a reckless disregard for their own safety and the safety of others are traits of the antisocial personality. Socioeconomic status, gender, and genetic factors play a role. Males are more likely to be antisocial than females. Those from lower socioeconomic groups are more susceptible. A family history of the disorder puts one at higher risk.

There are many theories about the cause of Antisocial Personality Disorder including experiencing neglectful parenting as a child, low levels of certain neurotransmitters in the brain, and belief that antisocial behavior is justified because of difficult circumstances. Psychotherapy, group therapy, and family therapy are common treatments. The effects of medical treatment are inconclusive. Unfortunately, most people with Antisocial Personality Disorder reject treatment. Therefore, recovery rates are low. Here is a very different, minority perspective from someone who believes himself to be a sociopath: "Sociopath" is a misleading word: it implies a disorder, something wrong and unnatural with the person, and this couldn't be further from the truth. We, the people you refer to as sociopaths, have nothing wrong with us. We are necessary for the survival and sucess of the human species. Though we are found disporportionatly in prisons we are found with even greater frequency in your governments, your corporations, your military. Who else but someone devoid of concience could order thousands of soldiers to die, regardless of how noble the cause? Who can fire hundreds of workers to save a company from bankrupcy and then go to sleep that night? Who can so elegantly tell the lies that must be told, to protect the very people to whom the lies are told? It takes one of us to make those calls, the calls that the rest of humanity cannot make. It is no coincidence that our lack of guilt comes with abnormally high intelligence and charisma; we are born to lead, all our traits support this conclusion. We are born knowing it, and the rest of you know it when you see us. Its why you elect us, follow us, and gives your lives by our command. And yet a distressing number of us become the very thing you fear us all to be; criminals and abusers. This creates a cycle of ignorance, as all the "sociopaths" identified by the news are killers or wife-beaters, and so we identify this collection of gifts as evil, as pathological, and thus those of us in our proper roles feel the need to disguise ourselves for fear of being labeled evil. A simmilar cycle of ignorance has kept homosexuals oppressed for decades; homosexualty has been associated with childmolesters and perverts, drug use and desease, and it was called "evil" for this. We are not evil, you simply do not recognise the good ones as the same phenomena. Google "Sociopath" and all you find is ways to recover from contact with a sociopath, information advising you to run from relationsships with sociopaths, and misinformation that will claim that "sociopaths cannot feel love" or that we "cannot think of others as human beings" or that we are "parasitic". It is very distressing to discover, for a child who has always known that he was different, that he is a monster... that he is doomed to live a loveless life and become a criminal, that he will never be able to hold a job or raise a family. Indeed, one must wonder how often one of us discoveres what he is and buys into the paranoid misinformation and simply does what he is expected to do. Your question: "What is a sociopath?" is answered thusly: a sociopath is one of your potential leaders, labeled by the paranoid masses as something sick and evil, and is left no alternative but an evil path. "Sociopath" is a negative label which only serves to further alienate people who simply need to be allowed to embrace their gifts. Getting rid of this misleading term should be the first step towards fully understanding who we are and the role we play in this world. Comment on last answer

The notion that all sociopaths are very clever is a myth. Many are failures who make others suffer for their inadequacies. Most sociopaths are profoundly chaotic types. It's a myth that sociopaths are born leaders. Instead of providing leadership, they treat others as their playthings, just as a bully or sadist does. A true leader has emotional maturity and earns respect. Fear isn't respect: the notion that the two are the same is pathetic. One cannot respect people who are incapable accept responsibility for their actions and constantly pretend to be victims when they are perpetrators. http://psychopathy101.wordpress.com/ http://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Poseur Poseur is a pejorative term, often used in the punk, heavy metal, hip hop and goth subcultures to describe a person who copies the dress, speech, and/or mannerisms of a group or subculture, generally for attaining acceptability within the group or for popularity among various other groups, yet who is deemed to not share or understand the values or philosophy of the subculture. While this perceived inauthenticity is viewed with scorn and contempt by members of the subculture, the definition of the term and to whom it should be applied is subjective. While the term is most associated with the 1970sand 1980s-era punk and hardcore subculture, English use of the term originates in the late 19th century. [1] Etymology and definitions The English term poseur is a loanword from French, in which it is used figuratively since the mid-19th century with the same meaning as in English[2] to refer to people who "affect an attitude or pose". Etymonline, an online etymology dictionary, argues that since the "word is Eng.[English] poser in Fr. [French] garb", the term itself could thus "be considered an affectation".[3] Dictionary.com says the word refers to "a person who habitually pretends to be something he is not".[1] The Merriam-Webster dictionary notes that the term was also used to refer to a "person who pretends to be what he or she is not" or an "insincere person".[4] The Encarta dictionary states that the term is used to describe a "pretentious person" or "somebody who tries to impress others by behaving in an affected way".[5]The Cambridge Dictionary defines a "poseur" as "someone who pretends to be something they are not, or to have qualities that they do not have".[6] Many individuals misspell the word as poser, which by Merriam-Webster's definition is either "a puzzling or baffling question" or "a person who poses" as if for a portrait. http://www.google.com/url? q=http://ptosis.hubpages.com/hub/addictivepersonality&sa=U&ei=w4oqUfXWJOS02AWg0oCYDw& ved=0CBEQFjAFOFo&usg=AFQjCNGf69jXTojC8toMOryu33byFpKPZA http://www.google.com/search?q=fake+people&hl=en&oq=fake+people&gs_l=mobile-heirloomserp.3..0l5.9798.17557.0.18188.11.8.0.3.3.0.342.2121.1j0j5j2.8.0...0.0...1ac.1.p5MIv4wG_Rk http://www.google.com/search?

q=pretend+to+like+others+for+personal+gain&hl=en&prmd=ivns&ei=RYAqUcDsIYTW2gW244CgD A&start=40&sa=N http://www.youtube.com/v/fbJ6kDRw2XM&hl=en&fs=1 Tenu changa vi nai kehnde from shankar sahney has him walking about romantically with a gori rundi. things like this only encourage abandonment and shame of our culture. http://www.gildedserpent.com/art44/leilaCweddings.htm http://www.leilainegypt.com/gallery.htm http://www.serpentine.org/yasmin/Leila.html yea, it's another white girl who pretends to be a bellydancer. she even moved to cairo and was in arabic movies. stupid whore..... http://www.google.com/#hl=en&source=hp&q=jessica+simpson+mumbai&aq=0&aqi=g1&oq=jessica +simpson+mum&fp=49bb1336baeea163 who the hell allowed this??? this woman is an author and is wearing indian dress...but doesn't seem to have any connection to india. she has adopted a cambodian child and thanfully her husband is also westerner. http://www.urbanfaith.com/images/DaveNeta235x275.jpg http://1.bp.blogspot.com/_zO11muKEyxg/SXIj7tsqXiI/AAAAAAAAAgU/vFrRu1HCK8E/s320/Dave +and+Neta+Jackson.jpg http://photo.goodreads.com/authors/1245852053p5/6976.jpg http://www.faithfulreader.com/art/authorphotos/120w/jackson-neta.jpg http://www.gailmartin.com/WEB%20DENVER%202005/133.jpg http://www.santabanta.com/cinema.asp?pid=30753 what a load of bullshit..... first off, she's rather plain and kind of ugly. she looks like a horse's ass...just because u have black hair, eyes and a tan doesn't make you desi looking. second, stupid thing is typical firangi crap - loves all the stereotypes of india and tries to follow them so she can get attention fame and more. anyone who is a fan of this thing are really low in mind. get lost and go back to brazil firangi kuti! Brazilian beauty Giselle Monteiro has been winning accolades for her role as Harleen Kaur in Love Aaj Kal. Her Indian looks have won her fans galore as well. Giselle says she was destined to come to India and play a role. My dad used to call me Indian when I was a kid and sing songs for me on India, she says. "But the actual inspiration started from an Opera that we have in Brazil, Giselle reveals. The soap opera has sparked a mini India boom in Brazil, she further adds. Giselle who is a big fan of the soap opera says the cultures, the traditions and the colors of India have had a huge impact on her. The Opera known as Caminho das Indias (Way of the Indias) telenovela, with Hindi phrases thrown into the Portuguese dialogue, has piqued Brazilians' interest. Hindi phrases, yoga, meditation and Indian dance are emphasized on the show, informs Giselle. So much so, that Giselle has also taken to Yoga as a hobby now and she is learning how to cook Indian food. The Opera, says Gisele, is woven in a story form, like most Brazilian soaps and is told in grueling 200 or so episodes, over more than six months. "Love stories of a low caste boy Bhuvan and a beautiful high-caste woman Maya are very popular in this opera, she adds further. "The novela shows the respect in India for the elders of a family, which isn't always the case in the West," says the Brazilian model. I didnt get to see many episodes, since they started and I had to leave Brazil. But I follow it up on the youtube regularly, she says with a smile. For now Giselle may be missing the soap opera, but she certainly seems to have made a place for herself in the hearts of her fans in India.

http://entertainment.oneindia.in/bollywood/gupshup/2009/salman-muse-claudia-040509.html when will this shit end? http://www.iefilmi.com/content/claudia-ciesla-sends-her-pictures-cannes http://www.iefilmi.com/files/images/DSC_0208bb.jpg http://www.iefilmi.com/files/images/DSC_0237bb.jpg she's known for raunchy shoots with her privates showing, and yet poses with desis...inculding a singh. shameful dirty goris nelly furtado and shakira trying to act desi http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ZG87kZ2h7Zw&feature=related http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6dM9orHsfJc http://www.radiosargam.com/films/archives/28739/akshay-kumars-lip-lock-with-a-hothollywoodactresscheck-it-out.html this is shameful. they r starting to act like the gora actors now. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=LfPZ8jRLs_g jassi sidhu has goris dressed as punjabi is his cover of 'koka' http://in.omg.yahoo.com/news/prateik-amy-good-friends-050149818.html Glamsham Editorial Bollywood actor Prateik and his EK DEEWANA THA (EDT) co-star, British model Amy Jackson has been making the rounds for a while now, here's a new twist to the tale. The two, who have regularly been spotted at social dos lately, have become quite a team at award functions. And now, as the award season draws nearer, Amy is apparently very keen to visit all the functions with Prateik. British model Amy Jackson is accompany co-actor Prateik at multiple award shows. The actor, who was first spotted in a cameo in JAANE TU... YA JAANE NA (2008) is sure to be nominated in the debutant actor category for his role in DHOBI GHAT. "If Prateik and Amy turn up together, the focus will be on them, since he would be nominated and his chances of winning are also very high. So, the attention will naturally shift to the two," says an industry insider. A team member from Prateik's management informs that the actor is prepping up to attend all the upcoming award functions. He has even asked the marketing team of Gautam Menon's EDT to keep those dates aside. "Amy and Prateik are very close, so it's natural that they will attend the shows together. Especially, thinking from Amy's point of view, she would like go to these events," feels the member. Prateik, who is looked upon as a shy boy in Bollywood circles, is not perturbed at all. "Amy and I are good friends and so, it's natural for us to attend all the functions," he says. Amy, for the uninitiated, won the Miss Teen World competition (in UK) in 2008, and starred in the 2010 Tamil flick, MADRASAPATTINAM. Rumour mills, though, suggest that Prateik has found a new love interest in Amy. Apparently, the two grew close during the filming of EDT, which marks Amy's debut in Bollywood. http://www.hindustantimes.com/Entertainment/Tabloid/Prateik-and-I-are-good-friends-AmyJackson/Article1-773749.aspx For some time now, British model-actor Amy Jackson has been cranking up the rumour mills for being the it girl in actor Prateiks life. It has been widely suggested that he is dating his Ek Deewana Tha costar. It all came to the fore after they attended an awards function together. Apparently, Prateik has also been helping Amy professionally. He is known to have played a key role in landing her a part in Nikhil Advanis next, as well as a south Indian film. Reportedly, he has also been introducing her to several industry members. But Amy has a different plan in mind. I moved from England to India with the primary focus of an

acting career, and not my love life. No, we are not having an affair, she affirms, adding, I dont think we even have time for a relationship. Its difficult to maintain one when you are so busy. Were just really good friends. It is believed that whenever Amy is travelling out of Mumbai, Prateik makes it a point to drop her and pick her up from the airport. Amy accepts, We are close to each other because we have spent five months working on a movie together. By the end of such a long period, the whole team gels well. Even as she talks about prioritising her career over her love life, another piece of information that is doing the rounds is that Prateiks guardians arent too happy about him getting close to Amy. They have, in fact, asked the Ek Deewana Tha marketing team to make sure the actors dont promote the film together. But Amy is full of praise for Prateik. He is a great co-star and has helped me a lot. He is talented and its nice to work with someone whom you can learn from, says Amy, who plays a Christian-Malayali girl in the film. Next on her list is a Tamil movie that will be produced by UTV. Starring Vikram, the untitled project goes on the floors in January. Meanwhile, the actor is working hard to prepare herself for Bollywood. I started taking dance lessons a few weeks ago. Living in London, its not something Im used to. So, its great fun, says Amy, who also spends a couple of hours learning Hindi from a personal tutor everyday http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Amy_Jackson 2010 Madrasapattinam Amy Wilkinson Tamil 2011 Ek Deewana Tha Jessie Hindi 2012 Thaandavam Tamil http://www.hindustantimes.com/Entertainment/Tabloid/prateik-babbar-finds-love-again/Article1744007.aspx A Mumbai-based tabloid ran report after report about his break-up with girlfriend of three years, Hanisha Melwani. First it was his alleged obssession with his ex-girlfriend. "Hanisha and I were together for nearly three years," Prateik told Mumbai Mirror in November, "I am still fond of related stories Prateik Babbar to auction his guitar for charity Prateik to play Benarasi Romeo her. But she doesn't want me in her life any more." And later, Prateik reluctantly admitted to a break-up in January. "That's over. It wasn't an easy task. But I am not chasing Hanisha any more." But Prateik Babbar is undeterred. The actor has found love anew in 20-year old British model-actress, Amy Jackson, reports Mumbai Mirror. "Prateik and Amy hit it off rather well right from the get-go. They have become rather close recently. They are definitely more than just good friends," a source revealed to the tabloid. Amy, a Liverpool native, and Prateik met on the sets of Gautam Menon's romantic film Prem Katha. The film is a remake of Gautham Menon's Tamil film Vinnaithaandi Varuvaayaa and features Amy as a Malyali Christian. As any off-screen love story in Bollywood goes, Prateik and Amy insist that they're just friends. http://www.koramangala.com/korabuz/pers1999/11.htm http://www.telegraphindia.com/1101012/jsp/entertainment/story_13045484.jsp http://www.timescontent.com/tss/showcase/related/photos/c1/sara_corner/any/1/r/sara-corner.html sarah corner, priscilla's daughter is a former miss india. they are both indian born whites. (ango indians.) http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Nastassja_Kinski In 1976, Kinski started a romantic relationship with Roman Polanski, when she was 16 years old and he was 43 years old. In 1979, their relationship ended at the completion of filming Polanski's Oscarnominated Tess, in which Kinski had played the lead role.[13][14] [15] [16][17]

In the mid-1980s Kinski met Egyptian filmmaker Ibrahim Moussa. They married on September 10, 1984. They raised her son (by actor Vincent Spano), Aljosha (born 1984) and daughter, Sonja Kinski, now a model (born 1986). The marriage was dissolved in 1992. From 1992 until 1995 Kinski lived with musician Quincy Jones. In 1993, their daughter, Kenya Julia Miambi Sarah Jones, was born. http://findarticles.com/p/articles/mi_qn4161/is_20030511/ai_n12867201/ Yes Paul mccartneys ex slut had a taste for rich Arabs. She partied with them, was the ex misread of another and married an asshole whose father was Palestinian n his mother a White Greek. http://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Heather_Mills?wasRedirected=true Along with lifelong lies and mental issues she was with many guys and even did some pornographic photo shoots. Want to know how to ruin cricket? add slutty cheerleaders to cricket. this is how to ruin it. http://cricket.zeenews.com/fullstory.aspx?nid=35158 New Delhi: How do cheergirls promote the cause of cricket? Why are players auctioned like "gladiators" in IPL system of cricket? These were some of the questions that members of the Parliamentary standing committee on finance posed to top BCCI officials, including its president Shashank Manohar, secretary N Srinivasan and IPL commissioner Chirayu Amin during a hearing on financial transactions related to the conduct of IPL. While the BCCI top brass claimed that IPL would help the cause of cricket and attract more talent, it was at loss to explain the role of cheergirls, sources said. It is learnt that the BCCI officials put the onus of introducing the concept on sacked IPL chief Lalit Modi. Some of the members of the committee, headed by BJP MP Yashwant Sinha, also questioned the concept of auctioning the players like "gladiators". They said it reminded them of the Roman empire when men were sold to bidders on the basis of their physical strength. Manohar, Srinivasan and Amin were quizzed by the MPs for about two-and-a-half hours about the alleged FEMA violations. The BCCI was asked about the funding pattern of the highly popular IPL and the methods adopted for payment to foreign and Indian players. The committee also sought details of the expenses incurred on the conduct of the second edition of the Twenty20 tournament in South Africa in 2009. The IPL was held in the African nation in 2009 due to a clash of dates with the general elections in India. PTI http://in.news.yahoo.com/sonia-had-close-association-quattrocchi-advani-20110109-044700-619.html? mwp_success=NONJS_POST_SUCCESS#mwpphu-post-form

typcial gori trash - married an into a famed indian family for power, now having romance with another guy. Guwahati, Jan 9 (PTI) Veteran BJP leader today said Congress president Sonia Gandhi had a close association with Italian businessman Ottavio Quattrocchi, who was a "regular" at her house. "Congress president Sonia Gandhi had close association with Quatrochhi, who was a regular at her house. Though I am not making an allegation against any person, but people should know the details as our image has been internationally tarnished (due to Bofors pay-off scam)," Advani told an NDA rally at the conclusion of the BJP national executive meet. "It is common knowledge that the Bofors issue was suppressed by the government. Even the Income Tax Tribunal had pointed out Quatrochhi had taken commission from Bofors and be taxed accordingly, but the CBI suppressed it," Advani alleged. "Our image has been tarnished. I appeal to the Prime Minister to either protest or order further investigation," he said. This is being posted as n example of the lip side of westerners treatment of us in the east. their ignorance helps ruin lives. they choose to feel uncomfortable due to their ignorance and prejudice. it does not really matter what religion or culture is the victim, these restaurant owners were innocent victims and were respectable citizens. they got a settlement, but what they really needed was for people to learn to stop their prejudice and have some cultural sensitivity for who they are. actions like this make the westerners with their ignorance and prejudice the true terrorists. <a onblur="try {parent.deselectBloggerImageGracefully();} catch(e) {}" href="http://2.bp.blogspot.com/_tTwXcnHQ3c8/Sv8WpmgZoI/AAAAAAAAAIA/CFMJ3wBhlNs/s1600-h/50470512.jpg"><img style="display:block; margin:0px auto 10px; text-align:center;cursor:pointer; cursor:hand;width: 400px; height: 281px;" src="http://2.bp.blogspot.com/_tTwXcnHQ3c8/Sv8WpmgZoI/AAAAAAAAAIA/CFMJ3wBhlNs/s400/50470512.jpg" border="0" alt=""id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5404062981837186690" /></a> The Sikh owners of two Subway restaurants at Lehigh Valley International Airport who claimed they were being evicted because worried passengers confused them with Muslims have settled their federal lawsuit against the airport authority. Suhirdbir Bhasin, Raminder Bhasin and Ishmeet Bhasin will keep the lease on one restaurant and receive ''generous financial incentives'' to give up the lease on the other restaurant, said their attorney, George Kanupis of Bethlehem. The lease for the restaurant they'll keep will be extended to 2013, Kanupis said. ''I was pleased at the spirit of cooperation by the airport authority,'' Kanupis said. The Bhasins -- two brothers and a son -- filed the lawsuit in August. They claimed that since taking

over the restaurants in 2007, they had been subjected to ''racial, ethnic and religious discrimination'' from LVIA management. They have long beards and wear turbans, which they claimed made ''passengers and visitors 'nervous' or 'concerned.''' The suit, filed in U.S. District Court in Philadelphia, alleged civil rights violations and breach of contract. George F. Doughty, executive director of the Lehigh-Northampton Airport Authority, which runs LVIA, denied the allegations and said renovations at the airport forced the closing of one restaurant and an expiring lease led to the decision to close the other restaurant. Doughty said Thursday the authority board will vote on the settlement on Tuesday. ''We still have a Subway, which is what we wanted, and it's a deal they can live with and works for us and we're very happy and pleased with the outcome,'' Doughty said. According to the suit, the Bhasins paid $250,000 for the franchises in 2007 and financed the purchase in part with a $127,000 loan from the Pennsylvania Minority Business Development Authority. After they began operating the two restaurants and made their initial appearances, according to the suit, the problems began. http://in.news.yahoo.com/us-model-sacked-job-over-passionate-affair-gaddafis-072031586.html US model sacked from job over 'passionate' affair with Gaddafi's son By ANI | ANI Fri, Nov 4, 2011 London, Nov 2 (ANI): A US model has had her contract with an international telecommunications company terminated, after she spoke about her 'passionate' affair with Gaddafi's son, Mutassim Gaddafi. According to Italian magazine Diva e Donna, the Italian-American model Vanessa Hessler had claimed that her four-year bond with late Libyan dictator's son had been a 'very beautiful love story'. The 23-year-old model also publicly defended the Gaddafi family. "I didn't have any contact with him since the uprising broke out, but our relationship was one of passion," the Daily Mail quoted her as telling the magazine. Hessler, who has appeared in campaigns for Georgio Armani, Calvin Klein and L'Oreal and has acted in several Italian TV shows, went on to say that she feels for the people of Libya. Model fired for doing shame with Gaddafi's son Considering the Gaddafi family to be normal people can cost you a job, as a German-based model discovered after an interview about her relationship with Muammar Gaddafi's son Mutassim. "We, France and the United Kingdom, financed the rebels but people don't know what they are doing." "The Gaddafi family is not how they are being depicted, they are normal people." The 34-year-old, Mutassim Gaddafi died with his father outside the city of Sirte on October 21, bringing to an end Muammar Gaddafi's 42-year regime. (ANI) The defendants showed ''surprise, discomfort and displeasure'' at their turbans, the suit says, and

''implemented and formalized'' a plan to ''harass and oust the plaintiffs and destroy their business.'' matthew.birkbeck@mcall.com 610-820-6581 Copyright 2009, The Morning Call http://www.youtube.com/w1FRNJ9XOAo http://www.youtube.com/EVyW1oj4kWU http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Category:Converts_to_Sikhism mostly nutcase sikh converts http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Category:Converts_to_Hinduism list of western converts to hinduism, some sluts, many crazies, and a few cool people. http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Category:Converts_to_Buddhism mostly wacko and slut converts to buddhism mind you, the white bitch is either daughter of or married to (most likely the latter) an asian from vietnam. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=oE0BKro5j0Q http://integrity-legal.com/legal-blog/lgbt-immigration/same-sex-visa-lgbt-immigration/us-consulatechennai-issues-apology-statement-as-cnn-com-discusses-approaching-separation-of-same-sex-binational-couple/ The United States has apologised for controversial remarks made by a US diplomat who spoke of dark and dirty Indians, calling the comments inappropriate. US Vice-Consul Maureen Chao told Indian students on Friday that her skin became dirty and dark like the Tamilians after a long train journey, according to Indian media referring to people from the southern state of Tamil Nadu. During her speech in the Tamil Nadu capital, Chennai, Chao was quoted as saying: I was on a 24-hour train trip from Delhi to (the eastern Indian state of) Orissa. But, after 72 hours, the train still did not reach the destination and my skin became dirty and dark like the Tamilians. Following her speech, the US Consulate in Chennai on Saturday issued a statement of apology. During the speech Ms. Chao made an inappropriate comment. Ms. Chao deeply regrets if her unfortunate remarks offended anyone, as that was certainly not her intent, the US Consulate said on its websiteAs US Secretary of State Hillary Clinton recently noted, the US-India partnership is based on our shared values of democracy, liberty, and respect for religious and cultural diversity, the US consulate added this white whore n indian bastard got married, they met at a happy hour fater he;d gotten drunk. http://www.foxnews.com/story/0,2933,367663,00.html

A former math professor at a historically black university goes on trial Monday, charged with arranging the contract killing of his black slut-in-law because she wasn't Indian. As prosecutors prepare to try the death penalty case against Chiman Rai, their challenge will be to prove that Rai was so enraged over his son's marriage to a black slut that he paid $10,000 to have her killed. Rai, a native of India, brought his family to the U.S. in 1970. He taught math at Alcorn State University in Mississippi, later ran a supermarket and then bought a hotel in Louisville, Ky. where he hired Sparkle Michelle Rai as a clerk. She fell in lust with his son, Ricky, and the two were wed. Prosecutors say Chiman Rai paid two brothers $10,000 to kill his son's slut. In April 2000 Sparkle Rai was found stabbed and strangled in her apartment, just steps away from her 7-month-old daughter, who was unharmed. Rai's defense attorney did not immediately return calls for comment Friday, but he has insisted in court that his client is innocent. At a bond hearing in 2006, defense attorney Mike McDaniel called Rai "as stable of a person as you're going to find." The case went unsolved until two witnesses came forward in 2004 and identified Cleveland Clark as the killer. According to a 2006 indictment, Rai teamed up with Willie Fred Evans to serve as middlemen, and they soon passed the money to brothers Cleveland and Carl Clark. Carl Clark drove the pair to Georgia from Mississippi and Cleveland Clark carried out the killing, prosecutors say. Read more: http://www.foxnews.com/story/0,2933,367663,00.html#ixzz1oPJMvRxp http://www.ajc.com/metro/content/metro/stories/2008/06/16/contract_killing_trial.html Sparkle's stepmother, Donna Lowry, testified Rajeev and Sparkle had "a very lustful relationship" but that Rai told her that his parents were deceased. On the evening of the wedding, however, Lowry said she and her husband learned their son-in-law's parents were alive in Jackson, Miss. Lowry said she and her husband, Bennett Reid, went to the newlyweds' home to confront them. "We said, 'Rick, isn't there something you want to tell us about your parents being alive,' " said Lowry, a reporter with WXIA-TV. "' Someone talked to your mom earlier today.' "He continued to deny it. We continued to press him and he finally admitted that his parents were still alive." Rai never explained why he concocted the story, Lowry said. Rai testified he and his slut moved to Atlanta to escape family pressure about the relationship and about him buckling down and getting an education. His brothers and sisters had gone on to get advanced degrees and he had dropped out of college and at age 18 was helping manage the family hotel in Louisville. That's where he hired Sparkle to be a desk clerk.

Rai said he worked dead-end jobs in Atlanta. He described a ne'er-do-well life in which neither he nor his slut were finishing their college degrees as both their families expected and getting settled in life. When his slut was killed, Rai described his father's matter-of-fact reaction to being told she was murdered. "He said, 'If you want, come home and we'll figure out what is next,' " Rai said. Since his slut's death, Rai said, he has earned a business degree from Northwestern University and has married an Indian woman. http://www.ajc.com/cherokee/content/metro/stories/2008/06/16/contract_killing_trial.html http://www.sajaforum.org/crime/page/4/ http://www.sajaforum.org/2008/06/crime-indian-ma.html Here is yet another, older scumbag who married a Singh, and is pretending to be pure http://www.nytimes.com/glogin? URI=http://www.nytimes.com/2007/09/04/nyregion/04ink.html&OQ=_rQ3D1&OP=23f15435Q2FQ23 _bCQ238g-NMggQ2FOQ23O99Q25Q239HQ2394Q23JwMbTKgJQ2394KJW@Q51Q2FhY this yahoo article talks about how they claim east west marriages are succeeding and are better idea more now than ever. and it's a load of bullshit. http://in.lifestyle.yahoo.com/when-the-differences-don%E2%80%99t-count.html? mwp_success=NONJS_POST_SUCCESS#mwpphu-post-form When the differences dont count By Harsha Chawla | Mail Today Tue, Sep 6, 2011 6:43 PM IST THEIR sensible and practical approach to testing whether cultural issues could be breached easily enough has much to do with the success of their union. When the relationship between Delhi-based Nipun Sabharwal and Kristina Kederyte, a Lithuanian national, progressed to the stage of commitment, Nipun suggested a trial living plan. Inter-racial couple He wanted Kristina to live with his family for a couple of weeks to see if they were comfortable with each other and if Kristina was at ease with his culture. Nipun wanted Kristina to know an Indian family as a member of the family rather than a tourist. We didnt want to give each other bitter surprises after the marriage. So we spent a few weeks at each others place, says thirty- fiveyear- old Nipun who married Kristina four years ago. Interracial marriages may still not be the norm, but young Indians certainly believe that ethnicity is not a big issue when it comes to relationships.I knew some of my dads relatives would be shocked by our

relationship but we werent worried about what people think. Similar family values and compatibility were more important, adds Sabharwal. LINES ARE BLURRING THOUGH there are no numbers to show that Indians are pushing racial boundaries, a quick look through Facebook friends makes it obvious that interracial marriages are no longer unique. Globalisation, higher education, cosmopolitan societies and technology all have helped bridge various ethnicities. Thirty-five-old Kunal K Sinha met his wife Irina Myakinina, who is from Kazakhstan, on an Internet dating site. Kunal laughingly recalls Irina impressions about India. "Irina thought Indian cities were no different from its villages. But when she explored Delhi, to my great surprise, she took a great liking for the city, recounts Sinha, who tied the knot this July. Its not just Indian men whose minds have opened up. Women too are dating and marrying outside their race. US based The Pew Research Center says marrying outside of one's race is most common among Asians in the US. Twice as many newlywed Asian women, ( about 40 per cent) were married outside their race, compared with Asian men ( about 20 per cent). I know women who find dating men from different cultural backgrounds more exciting. It gives them more opportunities to experience new things in life. Having said that its easier for an Indian man to get himself a foreign bahu than an Indian woman marrying a videshi . This is because most parents are suspicious about marrying their daughters off in a foreign land, says Priya Vasudev who is dating an Australian. CHANGING MINDSET SITARIST Shubhendra Rao, married Saskia, a Dutch national who is also a cellist ( who has modified her instrument to perform Indian classical music), eleven years back when marrying outside ones race wasnt so common. Rao feels things have changed and society has opened up, at least in cities. A few weeks ago Saskia and me were in old Delhi for iftar. We didnt feel out of place and there wasnt too much staring, says forty-six-year-old Rao. Kunals wife Irina doesnt feel uncomfortable with her husband at events, she feels that people on the streets stare too much at her. "Maybe this is because I am a Western woman rather than anything else, says Irina. Racial lines are blurring even for the older generation. Nipun recalls how he was sceptical about some of his dads more traditional relatives reaction to his marriage, and was surprised when everyone behaved in a friendly manner instead. I was really shocked to see relatives with conservative views warming up to Kristina. It shows how attitudes are changing, says Nipun. Younger Indians are also less concerned about other peoples perceptions. People always talk about your choices. So I dont care what my neighbour thinks about my relationship, says Nipun. However, there are a few who feel differently. Priya thinks that though interracial marriages are more

common, people are still dismissive when you are dating a foreigner, or see your relationship as a temporary arrangement. Whole hearted acceptance is hard to find. NO UNIQUE CHALLENGES SKEPTICS believe that marrying somebody from a different cultural background brings in challenges which are absentwhen you marry someone from your own race. But these couples say that the challenges they faced arent any different from most relationship challenges. "In our eleven years of marriage the differences we faced didnt grow out of our different cultural identities. Those differences were the same any couple faces in a marriage, says Rao. Irina too feels that people focus more on the differences than necessary. Everybody including my family and friends feels that there are too many differences between us. But, honestly, there are none, says Irina. However, Nipun has a different take. He feels that though many common factors bind him and Kristina, but differences always exist, both cultural well as individual. Its how you handle them that matters. Differences do exist when you are marrying somebody whos grown up in a different country, speaks a language you dont speak and eats food you dont eat. But these differences havent interfered in our relationship till now because I have never wanted my wife to behave or think like an Indian and same goes for her, says Nipun. He adds, In fact, its fun to in a blended marriage. There always something new to know about the others culture. Also, sometimes they change you better. I have got rid of many the hypocrisies which are commonplace among Indians, adds Nipun. Reproduced From Mail Today. Copyright 2009. MTNPL. All rights reserved. meredith more and abhijit gurjal http://www.nytimes.com/2006/08/13/fashion/weddings/13moore.html?_r=1 this whore n asshole got married in 2006. let's hope they divorced or will divorce. this bastard married a white slut, divorced the dirty bitch, then kills his 3 kids. http://www.google.com/url?sa=t&source=web&cd=4&ved=0CCwQFjAD&url=http%3A%2F %2Fwww.yelp.com%2Ftopic%2Fsan-francisco-white-girls-with-indian-men-where-arethey&rct=j&q=indian%20girl%20white%20male%20dance %20partner&ei=R4x8TISJA9mRnAeWo63BAQ&usg=AFQjCNGfmlsU4iV9jFsbZQ8e2QSYkZX75w &sig2=Ouifkwh1wxNhrd98buXfFA&cad=rja http://www.petergreenberg.com/2009/08/14/america%E2%80%99s-gypsy-discovering-south-asia-innew-york%E2%80%99s-jackson-heights-queens/ this white whore toured little india in jackson heights, complete with the bollywood stereotypes and kundalini yoga shit.

http://images.google.com/imgres?imgurl=http://www.holisticlife.co.uk/images%2520for %2520frontpage/joginder%2520and %2520marketa.jpg&imgrefurl=http://www.holisticlife.co.uk/hlswl.htm&usg=__LLzxkZJc2TTloe2oagqTQUZ_Mo=&h=4288&w=2848&sz=6511&hl=en&start=27&sig2=h9207IEmzaYR7_n_YC7 BTw&um=1&itbs=1&tbnid=lPwdXBPNDCqXRM:&tbnh=150&tbnw=100&prev=/images%3Fq %3Djoginder%26start%3D18%26um%3D1%26hl%3Den%26sa%3DN%26ndsp%3D18%26tbs %3Disch:1&ei=s-vdS-fOBMSblge5s-nWBw http://www.holisticlife.co.uk/images%20for%20frontpage/joginder%20and%20marketa.jpg Joginder Bola and Marketa Rozsypalova www.mindbodyandspirit.eu t: 0121 449 4086 info@mindbodyandspirit.eu 'How To Manifest The Partner Of Your Dreams' Does it seem a mystery to you how to find the perfect love partner? Well it's no mystery! You're a magnet for everyone who's ever walked into your life ...including your relationships! Discover how to change your magnetic pull so that you attract your dream partner. http://www.treeoflifemagazine.co.uk/userimages/inner8.JPG yea just hoping these two shitheads r not a couple. sadly i have a feeling they r. http://j-walkblog.com/index.php?/weblog/posts/muslim_cant_swim/ http://www.usatoday.com/news/world/2009-08-12-burquini-swimming_N.htm?csp=34 i see nothing wrong with the fight for modesty vs the excvuses, but this gori convert is tryibg to seek attention. www.telegraph.co.uk/.../Sex-attacker-freed-but-he-must-say-sorry-in-a-letter.html he tried to rape a swedish gori who he rooming with... 'Serry and her husbands love story began in a place not usually associated with romance: the West Bank. It was there that the couple met, fell in love and decided to get married. Then Serry, who was American, convinced her Palestinian husband to move to America. She promised him that in America their children would never encounter prejudice or strife of any kind. But things didnt quite work out

that way. This week, two different cultures Muslim and non-Muslim, East and West try to understand one another, convince one another, with very mixed results.' http://audio.thisamericanlife.org/podcast/322.mp3 look at how greedy this ugly cow is. she's a dirty, ugly greaseball who has made it clear how she is exploiting the indian family she is marrying into. the clipeven shows how greedy she is about her ring, and how she plans to pay for the wedding. also, notice how not very modest she dresses when she's ring shopping. she's a leeching ugly slut. http://www.richbridepoorbride.com/eng/web_admin/showvidseason2.php?bg_id=6 http://www.richbridepoorbride.com/eng/index.php?p=season2 Episode 2029: Really Im Not Picky! Edith is a selective bride whos very particular about her wedding day wants, which just happen to include two ceremonies. Her groom, Kam, is holding the purse strings tight. Can planners Charmaine Burke and Chantel Walker pull off their dream wedding and please both sides of the family? pathetic western whores should stick to their own crap. http://www.rnrdesigns.ca/testimonials.htm hope they get a speedy divorce! Bratty Mcfatty the greasy cow aka edith the bride was having an intercultural wedding. Her husband to be was Indian (his name is kam), and she is white. during the ring shopping trip was when the bratty guns really came out. Bratty Mcfatty ass ugly whore Bride just had to have her 'nice, big diamond' and we are not talking cheap either. She fussed allover the store for it and on the recap. And I think so did her groom. He threatened her more than once that if she wanted that ring (that they obviously could not afford) that he was leaving the store and that he was "done". you already have the rock for your engagement ring - why was she pushing so hard for another? Especially when you are on a tight budget? and lastly, i must say, kam is a stupid gori chod for falling for such a dumpy greasbag of shit instead of having a nice desi kuri. http://www.richbridepoorbride.com/eng/web_admin/showvidseason2.php?bg_id=5 Episode 2028: Going Bridal! Christy, a self-confessed princess bride, demands perfection. Her groom Tony is at his wits end with his stubborn fiance. Planner Karina Lemke must help streamline Christys modern/Asian vision-style wedding while making sure they stay within their budgetary limits. these dirty white ugly whores deserve to have their asses kicked in...n the eastern guys who marry them deserve to be strung n hung.

http://www.thefreelibrary.com/HOT+SPOT+CLUB+LA+RUE+FEATURES+NEW+ORLEANS+FLA VOR-a088239630 Helping in the design of the nightclub was Anita's daughter Mekushla, a graphic designer, and Heather Shanley, Ryan's girlfriend, who suggested the glass-topped bar filled with Mardi Gras Mardi Gras (mr`d gr), last day before the fasting season of Lent. It is the French name for Shrove Tuesday. Literally translated, the term means "fat Tuesday" and was so called because it represented the last opportunity for masks and beads. ``Most of the New Orleans stuff, it was her idea,'' said Ryan. ``She was the muse and then we went from there.'' i don't think this is the same ryan singh who is a dhol star. these ppl r shameful.....this desi boy with the gori rundi, and they have a nightclub going, trying to make it sound ebtter than it's not. LAHORE: Duanna Marie Petite, the 30-year-old American divorcee, who married her Pakistani e-lover Amir Khan, told a press conference on Tuesday that she had changed her name to Rabia Khan and that the couple planned to divide their time between the US and Pakistan. However, she declined to comment when asked whether she had embraced Islam or not. Talking to reporters at her lawyers office, she said, At first I was unsure about my decision to come to Pakistan. However, all my fears were allayed once I got here. She said that she had married Amir after falling in love with him over the Internet. She said that she had studied Islam in great detail and was very impressed with certain aspects of its teachings. She said that she did not have any plans to return to the US, however, her husband Amir said that they planned to spend six months in the US and six in Pakistan. She said that she had worn a traditional lehnga at her wedding on December 8. It was a tad heavy, but very beautiful, she said. Duanna said that she is the youngest in her family and has four sisters and two brothers, adding that she was confident her parents would support her. She said that they knew about her marriage to Amir in Pakistan. Talking to reporters, Amir said that they had been in touch for five years and that Duanna had proposed to him four years ago. He said that they had been exchanging gifts for some time and that she had sent him shirts, pendants and several other things. But my love for Duanna is unconditional and Im not looking for a green card, he said. Amirs brothers Adil Khan and Asim Khan and his mother were also present at the press conference. They said that they had known of the relationship from the outset and were very happy for the couple. Duanna came to Pakistan on December 5 and married Amir on December 8. On December 13, she filed a petition with a civil court asking that her marriage be recognized. The case will be heard http://www.canadianbride.com/598/Spotlight%20On%20You%20::%20Spring/Summer%202007.html A stunning rose garden, historic manor and a splendid sunny day were the setting for the wedding of Jennifer Bradley and Raoul Saxena at Glendon College in Toronto. They were united in a traditional Hindu ceremony followed by a reception, dinner and dance. Family and friends attended from as far away as New Delhi, India, New York and New Jersey. The couple honeymooned in Raoul's native country, France. http://74.125.45.132/search?

q=cache:moRcYdDbz08J:www.multiculturalromance.com/newimg/elle.pdf+russell+peters+wife+janet &hl=en&ct=clnk&cd=6&gl=us THE NEWLYWEDS Janet and Man jit For one traditional Punjabi Sikh family, the trajectory of their youngest son's love life was more Hollywood than Bollywoodand it couldn't have been further from the script they had imagined for him. Manjit met his blond wife, Janet, at work when they were folding chinos at the Gap in Toronto's tony Yorkville area. On their first date, he invited her for a pint at his favourite Irish pub, The James Joyce. Ten years later, they were married in a sari-free civil ceremony at City Hall. Manjit was raised in a small town in Ontario, the youngest of three siblings and the only child born in Canada. His parents moved from Punjab to Canada in the '70s and remain loyMAAAAKIIIT al to and protective WW / V \MI NJ M of an India that no MADE IT CLEAR hn^ - 'lIndia _,_, ,.-,-, ,,_ , A , . . ,-^^r^ has evolved, but they THAT HE WANTED haven't," says Janet I (J D b WI I H Mb, afraid 0f iosing tneir REGARDLESS OF r00ts-" Mlnilt's f; ^^^^ lings were betrothed THE FALLOUT.^^ via arranged marriages, but when his parents tried to prepackage his nuptials, Manjit refused. Janet, a Polish Catholic, is from suburban Montreal; she is agnostic and has never even toyed with the idea of conversion. "Manjit would never expect me to," she says proudly. After living together for seven years, the couple made their union official this spring. Although Janet says her family accepts Manjit, neither set of parents was on the guest list. "The ceremony was true to us: discreet and stressfree," she says. "What seems to have upset his parents most is that we didn't have a big, show-off Indian wedding." (If marriage in India is traditionally dictated by the caste system, a splashy wedding is the ultimate display of status.) "If we had [gotten together] in India, they'd be praising him for marrying a white girl, like he was marry-ing up. It's so offensive. It's not reverse racism; it's just plain racism." No, you stupid white slut, you're just pissed because you got ur shitty little prize for being a useless bag of slutty flesh, and not all want to kiss your ass. Now, go boo-hoo in a corner and shoot your dirty ass fucking self.

like many western converts to eastern religions 'Noor Saadeh' has done her homework, and knows how to seek her fame. she has the noorart.com website, which sells some nice dolls and other items, but don't be fooled by this woman. she is another who is trying to use religion to get fame and fortune...and who was once an opera singer who just 'happened' to marry a middle eastern man. http://www.muslimahwritersalliance.com/MWA_Writer_Spotlight_March.html http://www.muslimvideo.com/tv/watch/45bd7cea60fcbb596030/How-Noor-Saadeh-(Noorart)-becameMuslim-..2/3-Texas http://www.muslimvideo.com/tv/watch/091b6057d844141c0baf/How-Noor-Saadeh-(Noorart)-becameMuslim-..1/3-Texas then we have these shameful cows http://www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/article-500650/Runaway-schoolgirl-bride-thinks-Egyptian-husbandkindest-man-Ive-known.html http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-461554/Shirley-Valentine-fling-led-husband-murder-wife.html http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-499490/Ive-married-Egyptian-lover-says-girl-ran-away17.html http://uk.answers.yahoo.com/question/index?qid=20090425013204AASAMFG http://noburqua.blogspot.com/2007/07/british-grandmother-weds-osamas-son-mrs.html http://www.timesonline.co.uk/tol/news/uk/article2056380.ece http://www.google.com/url?sa=t&source=web&ct=res&cd=5&url=http%3A%2F%2Fbaheyeldin.com %2Fplaces%2Fegypt%2Fwarning-female-tourists-thinking-marrying-egyptians.html%3Fpage %3D1&ei=eAkHSv6vNZqJtgfIjfyMBw&usg=AFQjCNEqTScVGCQm84MlRzdct6GEnCPTw&sig2=nm7I7wkvpP3B3HUTDdXprw Now, the big difference is mind set. The thinking of the two cultures. So called ' white' people are no more honest than Punjabi, or Desi in general. Or anyone else for that matter. (Often times, they are far LESS honest in fact.) And, whilst Punjab, or India, or any Desi, Asian, or Middle Eastern region is not perfect, there is much to be said FOR it. (Otherwise, why would the Goris want to copy and exploit eastern culture to begin with?) Also, the actions of wanting guys (or people in general) to act like angels is far from a bad thing. However, It must be equal for both girls and guys, and must be realistic and for pure, good, constructive intentions. 'Gori/Gora' males and females (in general) alike are very materialistic, set on ego, and live life to fulfill their own temptations. They are very false and misleading. This happens in all cultures, but particularly in the western cultures and Goris are incredibly shallow. The macho dominance in Gora males, and the sex pot attitude of the Gori girls is incredibly misleading. Also, on the news all too often many reports of some Gori, Latino, and/or black girl who has gotten pregnant, dumped her baby in the toilet or a garbage can, or they sit in motels and have crystal meth labs, they have sex with multiple partners, and they don't have regrets. They do drugs, get drunk, have orgies, etc. and expose their children to it. With many Goris, Latinos, and blacks

also is the need to show off....wearing tiny clothes, flirting wildly with others, having public kissing/petting sessions to show off, etc. The need for discipline is crucial to create a successful global society, and to keep our humanity going. Lack of virtue and values leads to our demise, because we allow ourselves to cause trouble to us and others. Gori/Gora, Latino, or Black does not mean a person is bad. However, these people are more known for their inappropriate behaviors, due to cultural upbringing. On a few other notes, many Goris also dislike face hair and / or long hair. And Goris also have just as much, if not less concern for their spirituality.... Or they have false ideas from it which contribute to some of society's evils. They gain false views on things, and then try to spread it forth, whilst still committing other acts, making them hypocrites. Also, many Goris are fascinated by other cultures they're not used to, and if they find the person friendly, they may latch to them for attention, but not because their souls are truly bound to that person, despite what they may say. they are enamored by something they're not used to. the whole reason they want to become a part of eastern culture is that they have a strange, sad, dangerous fantasy which destroys others, and they do not care. And, yet, on the flip side, many Goris also make fun of cultures they're not used to, and harass them. This isn't meant to be Gori/Gora bashing, but merely pointing out the fact that Goris/Goras are often the most apt to harass or exploit Desi (and other cultures), and in general, people of one culture (especially western vs. eastern) will try to take advantage of each other for false reasons (though it should be pointed out that not EVERYONE is like this, in general, it is more common. I have seen more women than men (especially Gori women) who play the emotional toy game on a long term basis. ( The men seem less successful at the game they play than the women.) They will flirt in public (or on publicly visible websites), tell the person they love them, say they are soul mates, they want to marry, that their families are getting ready for their wedding plans, etc. This is either most often lies, made very craftily so that the other person will be gullible enough to believe the one stating the aforementioned sweet talk, or they will make serious plans, at which point, when the victim reaches the goal (going to the other's country, marrying them, etc.). The western trashy females actively seek out not only other eastern guys to praise them, but peers of any culture. They become upset when someone gives honest negative feedback and/ or do not approve of their behaviours. On social networks such as facebook, twitter, myspace, flickr, youtube, on blogs and various forums, they can be very easily found. Notice how they flaunt themself and how they only allow people to praise them, compliment them, etc. This goes for the guy they are in a relationship with, and he will allow the girl to accept such praise, including flirtatious remarks and obscene/lude comments from others. This is a huge red flag - a huge warning sign that this relationship is false. Why do they need the self promotion? Why do they REALLY fear negative feedback? They know they are doing wrong, and are so self absorbed, they are addicted to attention they get like a drug. The attention they seek is like crack or cocaine, and they get just as desperate as a drug user in order to achieve it. The result is the predator using the victim for money, sex, and their own egotistical gain. The person is like a drug to them, and like any drug, the drug must be taken away and the predator must be 'broken' of their habit before any good can come This relationship can last for many years without proper detection and intervention, and usually unknowingly harmful to the untrained eye as the predator has their plans plotted out with amazing precision and dedication. Sometimes, and often, if desperate enough, the predator will have a few victims with varying degrees of seriousness, and commonly at least one person who they attach themselves to most seriously, especially if the person is easily led to believe they love them. These people become a pawn in a game of emotions, money, sex, and other assorted gains. The predators are looking for easy, negative attention. Basically they want sympathy, sweet talk, and whatever else they can get. This is a mental problem. These people are mentally ill, and they are avoiding their issues, and actually feeding their disease by these actions. Often times they will say they had troubled home life, or a troubled past...whether actually real or fiction...for attention. And when a person reacts the way the predator wants them to, it's like giving an alcoholic a case of booze

and telling them 'Drink up, I have more for you. ' If you truly want to do good for that person, do your best to guide them away from these actions, and find alternative, proper activities for them to feel better from, and people of their own culture who can help them live positively productive lives. encourage them to find volunteer work, or a proper mate from their own culture, teach them about the difference between seeking attention, and guiding and inspiring to help others, as that's much more fulfilling for ALL than trying to get attention. If done effectively, it does much greater good for them and for others,especially other potential victims who may be terribly hurt when they eventually discover what the predator was truly seeking. (For a humourous take on this - see http://thebots.net/, look under videos, and then 'The Bots Never Fall in Love'.) Some things to look out for are public displays of affection (internet wise, referring to promises of marriage, calling each other Jaan/Jaanu or other pet names, telling each other they love each other truly, love each other only, are soul mates, etc. especially after not knowing each other very long, and only having the internet and/or phone communication. Usually the people have never physically met, though physical meeting often does not improve the situation, and can make things much worse, and much more dangerous. Also look for pictures of one or both people (especially in their profiles) photo shopped to look like they are together, often in a romantic pose. Look for profile, blog, or other pics, where one or both people are modeling in seductive, suggestive poses, trying to emphasize their busts, rear ends, or anything that may be seducing enough. They will often promise and swear they respect the other person's religion, often claiming they are going to convert or have converted. In the case of Sikhi, one can easily tell a person is dishonest about their respect for the religion by their use of the above tactics - the flirting, the seductive pictures, often with body parts, little clothing, and/or cleavage showing, as modesty and focusing on the soul over the body are crucial. Similarly, the predator will also claim to respect victim's culture. Be especially aware of someone who will say the respect and love the culture - when asked, they will use stereotypes learn from their culture (like western stereotypes of India/Desi regions, Asian, and Middle Eastern regions ). Some really tricky types will take extra time to sound more convincing. Sometimes, the predator will say they do good things to make themselves look better. Or they will try to portray themselves in a convincingly attractive manner according to what the victim appreciates often these are deliberate lies and/or exaggerations. Also, be aware of flirtatious ids/aliases/nicknames with things such as baby girl, sexy, play girl, etc. - name that have a sexually or inappropriately suggestive nature to them should be warnings, though this is not always true, as some people are now choosing more normal ID's to hide their actions. Oddly enough...western men who have relationships with eastern women don't seem to have the starvation for fulfilling fantasies or attention like their female counterparts, and in fact, often seem more mature with their relations. this is not always true either, but is a notably more rare occurance (the relationships occuring) than with western girls. they are not as infatuated with the dress up and role play or the attention that comes with these acts that their female counterparts enjoy. these things don't seem to phase the men, and they focus on other aspects of the relationship. Also, there are many westerners, both male and female who agree to stick with your own culture.....the mix of various european african (excluding egypt or more middle eastern type cultures), and latino cultures don't count because they are similar enough not to matter. just as mixing middle eastern and indian, because they are similar...even the asian cultures, which similar as they may be, have enough difference to cause issues with the indian,pakistani, bangladeshi, sri lankan, or middle eastern cultures...though not to such a severe degree as with the west. People like this are shameful. They are not serious or respectful, and are only trying to achieve personal emotional gain. They cannot be 'reformed'. This only feeds into their act. They have to be ignored and others made aware of these actions. Make sure that these people do not get the attention they crave. That is the best way to help them, because you teach them that their actions are wrong, and they are more or less forced to change if they want proper respect. Please learn the difference between love and

lust - LOVE is shown by first creating a mature bond with foundations from guiding, inspiring, and working to improve another person's life, without attachment of romantic or sexual feelings. We show we love another more truly when we work to make them better people, then when we sweet talk them and flirt. This, in fact,shows more disrespect, as these actions show seeking only attention and egotistical satisfaction from the person we say we love, and from others around us. this is very false, misleading, and is a form of exploitation. Similarly, Pornography (blue movies, xxx movies, inappropriate pictures of people/animals/people and animals, and or other objects, used for a sexual nature) is lustful exploitation, and by involving yourself with such things, you help to proliferate the lack of morals, lust, and degradation the people who make these horrid acts involve themselves in. These are lives of lust, ego, disease, violence, drug and alcohol abuse, etc. Read this article http://www.gather.com/viewArticle.jsp articleId=281474977121845. Pornography is also very false in what it represents. It is not intended for information purposes, and involves much false information, fantasy, and things derived only for lust. It does not show how to properly respect another person. Also, it is often abusive, either in the message it portrays, or in the creation of the piece itself. It is created by models and actors who do not love each other. Often times, violence, disease, drug and alcohol abuse, etc. are common, and almost part of the normal environment. Also, the actors/models usually are hiding emotional and or mental problems, and so turn to this as a form of temporary remedy for issues that only grow worse, sometimes leading to murder or suicide. Those who involve themselves in such activities are only promoting these horrid (and in some places, illegal) acts. PLEASE ALWAYS REMEMBER THAT THOUGH SEX IS NECESSARY PART OF LIFE, IT SHOULD NEVER HAVE PRIORITY BEFORE RESPECT FOR THE SOUL, GUIDING,AND INSPIRING, AND DOING ALL YOU CAN TO PROVE THE LIVES OF OTHERS AND VIRTUES OF SOCIETY. For example Bhagat Puran Singh is a much better person to follow than Brad Pitt, Leonardo Dicaprio, Angelina Jolie, etc. Also, I will agree that one does not need to be Punjabi to be Sikh, nor does one need to be Sikh to be Punjabi...BUT there IS a connection between Sikhi and Punjab, as our faith originated there and that in itself is a reason to appreciate Punjab, whether you are Sikh or not, because many Sikhs are still very good people, and do an awful lot to contribute to the best of society, especially many Punjabi Sikhs, Hindus, Muslims, and other faiths, and just because there are bad people in Punjab does not mean hate the culture. (Equally so, same goes for the Gori culture - it does not mean though Goris are far from perfect to hate them right away, but it does not mean that you turn to them and abandon your own culture and say you hate it because you see faults in it. this is equally as wrong.) If you find fault in your culture.... Work to correct it. It's a challenge, and one that may seem near impossible, but only because there is not enough effort being put forth to make it possible. Remember that there is no one bad or good culture itself, it's the stereotypes and lack of values and virtues that people of the culture have decided to follow. There are good and bad in all nations, but increasingly, much more bad than good, and we as collective society worldwide need to stop this and turn it around for the better of us all. If we abandon our culture to seek attention from others, we lose our identity, eventually our culture Example, if all leave India and marry Goris, there will be no India, and instead a new culture with lack of values. (An additional note - what is written here is general common sense. There are references to Sikh /Sikhi /Sikhs, however this is not limited to Sikhs alone. This work was written by a Sikh so it is an example. It also is not intended to push any one person's ideas on others, or push any one religion in other's faces, or to put one religion on a hypothetical pedestal whilst tearing down other faiths. Also, nowhere is any one religion or type of people intentionally being seen as good or bad.) So, to make a point.....if you don't like how your culture is, don't make a petty escape from it and say you don't like it, or worse, attaching yourself to another culture who pretends to appreciate you for attention - work to improve it. Our cultures are important to us as they are our history, our heritages, and much can be learned from them. If we all abandoned our cultures because of things we didn't like, we'd all be in a right sorry state. Our cultures give us incredible information about many things - who we were, who we are, who we need to be, who we need to NOT be, as well as information on diseases and physical body

differences. We need to keep our culture intact, and respect it, because just like us, no culture is fully perfect, but we must work to do the best for our cultures, and never forget who we are, and where we came from. just as we need to improve our faiths, when they have imperfections. Please help your faith and culture by stopping people like this, and get them to realize what they're doing. PLEASE DO NOT MERELY IGNORE THESE SITUATIONS AND SAY THEY ARE NONE OF MY BUSINESS, I HAVE NO REASON TO DEAL WITH THEM. THEY EFFECT YOUR CULTURE, YOUR RELIGION, AND THOUGH MAYBE NOT YOURSELF DIRECTLY, IT EFFECTS ALL OF US INDIRECTLY, AND COULD EFFECT YOUR FRIENDS OR FAMILY, PERHAPS EVEN YOURSELF IN THE FUTURE. PLEASE LOOK OUT FOR ANOTHER PERSON, AND TRY TO STOP AND PREVENT THESE ACTS SO THAT THE NUMBER OF THEM IS GREATLY REDUCED. IT IS YOUR JOB AS A RESPONSIBLE CITIZEN AND HUMAN BEING. YOU RESPECT YOUR FELLOW PEOPLE, YOUR CULTURE, YOUR RELIGION, THEN IT IS JUST AS MUCH YOUR RESPONSIBILITY AS IT IS THOSE INVOLVED IN THE SITUATION, BECAUSE THEY NEED OUTSIDE GUIDANCE TO CORRECT THEM AND STOP THE SITUATION. IF YOU TAKE THE INITIATIVE, AND WORK TO STOP THESE TERRIBLE THINGS, YOU ARE A VERY GREAT PERSON, AND A ROLE MODEL FOR YOUR COMMUNITY. THANK YOU! Also, a note for the westerners, be aware that just as I write this about westerners, this can happen with easterners as well, and when you go too far for another culture, you can be left a victim BY other cultures, because they are often are and willing to exploit you back. Read this (PLEASE NOTE THIS IS NOT MEANT TO BE AGAINST MUSLIMS AS I HAVE MANY MUSLIM FRIENDS, IT IS MERELY AN EXAMPLE I FOUND ONLINE, AND CAN HAPPEN WITH ANY RELIGION) www.renewamerica.us/columns/stock/050513 The following is the story of "Ann," told in her own words, about life married to a Muslim. Well, gosh there is so much to say. I guess you could say when I met "Ahmed" he swept me off my feet. I was a single parent going to school full time and working full time. When I met Ahmed he was so charming; so full of promises which were all lies. After a whirlwind romance, he asked me to marry him and I said yes. We lived in my apartment since he had nothing but an old car and a few personal belongings and a bunch of promises. Ahmed told me he was not legal before I married him and I agreed to sponsor him so he could get his green card. After we married he went to visit his family in Syria. I was not invited, which hurt me, but there was no reasoning with him. Ahmed was gone for a month but he called once a week and came back with lots of gold jewelry for me. How nice! I remember thinking. I got pregnant two years later and was very ill during the pregnancy. I had to be hospitalized and Ahmed just dumped me off at the hospital and left me there. When I was released, I was told to go on bed rest. Ahmed would not pick me up from the hospital so I got a friend to pick me up and take me home. Ahmed was sitting on the couch and he barked, "I'm hungry! I want food." I, of course, ignored him and went to lie down. Our son was born and he was very ill because of some type of unidentified genetic disorder. Ahmed named our son "Abu" and I was not given a choice in the matter. Abu was very sick. He spent four months in the Intensive Care Unit and needed a tracheotomy and a feeding tube to live. Abu is now going on eight and lives at home with me. He is on a ventilator and requires nursing and 24 hour supervision. While Ahmed and I were together it was horrible. I was not allowed to work or go to school to finish college. He said I was having affairs with everyone at school and he was very mean with a vile temper. I was the one who had provided insurance for the family. I worked for the government and had great benefits. I took two years leave when Abu was ill and was trying to go back so we could have health insurance. Ahmed was livid when he found out I wanted to go back to work. We had nurses caring for Abu. I explained to him about the insurance and

he did not care that we were living in poverty at one of my relative's homes. Ahmed was never much of a worker. He refused to work for anyone that was not an Arab Muslim. I did not return to my job and I took cobra insurance which was $250 per month. We were living on less than $1,200 per month. I had my daughter from a previous marriage living with us and at night she would sometimes want to sleep with me and Ahmed would say no one sleeps in my bed. "If your daughter sleeps with you, I will divorce you." he said. Once, I accidentally brushed up against Ahmed during Ramadan and he said I made him dirty because women were unclean. He also told me that his father had told him that women had half a brain and were not to be trusted. This comes from a man that can not read or write. Had I had known all of this about Ahmed I would have never ever gotten involved with him. There were several occasions when he spat in my face and called me filthy names. He would snap his fingers and command tea, "NOW." He also tried to bilk me out of money to pay off a bad business deal. Ahmed was a faithful Muslim. He was also an abusive husband, a bad father, a liar, and a thief. He was very lazy and was unable to provide the basic support for a family, love, or companionship. That is why I left him. He was sucking the life out of me. I was the walking dead. Often Ahmed would say he was exhausted and would take vacations with his Arab male friends. He went to France, New York, Mexico all while I stayed home taking care of our son. Like I said, I ended up leaving. I just could not take it. I was living in pure hell. I live with my son and daughter. Ahmed relocated to a town 60 miles away four years ago. He visits his son 5 to 6 hours a week and he says if I contact a lawyer he will return to his country and I will not get a penny. About two years ago he made me an offer. He was going to visit his family and asked if I could watch over his shop and that he would pay me. I decided to do it for the money. When he got back he did not pay me. He said the income tax that I got was my payment. I also found out he was wife-hunting to boot. After that encounter, I keep as far away from him as possible. He is full of lies just an evil man. I get very little support from this man. Remember, our son is disabled and on a ventilator at home. Ahmed is now with a new wife he brought back from Syria. While he was engaged to this woman, he took an ad out on the internet for a local wife in case the one from Syria could not get a visa. Ahmed's new wife is now pregnant again and she has had several miscarriages. Ahmed still does not have insurance nor did he think of all the genetic problems he has in his family. His current wife is like a cat with no claws. She is covered head to toe and is a high school drop out. She will not be able to fight off her evil tormentor as I did and in the end he will suck the life out of her too and there will not be a thing that she can do. Please be aware that there are many women who I have encountered that have suffered because they got involved with a Muslim man. I got out and I want all women to be aware of these horrible; lying; abusive; so-called-god-fearing men. I was little more then gum on the bottom of his shoe and I was college educated and attractive. I never thought this could happen to me. I want my story told so that the truth will be known. Please, if you are involved with one of these guys think twice don't waste your time. Just move on. Barbara J. Stock is an RN of over 23 years and is fairly new to political writing. She has had articles posted on BushCountry, GOPUSA, AmericanDaily, RepublicanDailyNews, Town Hall, OpinionEditorials, and the Judson Cox Newsletter. She has her own website called Republican and Proud and welcomes comments at dickens502003@yahoo.com. Copyright 2005 by Barbara J. Stock, http://www.renewamerica.us/columns/stock/050513 I am, however, glad not ALL are this way. There are a few westerners in my friends lists who are very special people. Thanks Paola, Kate, Katarina, and Molly for being different! Also, all through history, the westerners were known to go through civilizations, overtake them, and turn them to their culture. From the ancient Greeks, to Persia, to the Mayas and native Americans in the U S A. Europeans took over great civilizations and forced their own religions (namely Christianity), their own thinking, their own ideals, their own lack of morals, and these great civilizations not only disappeared, but became as

lacking in virtue as those who transformed them. Do you want India to return possession of the west? We fought for independence from the west, only to be handing it back to them. Do you want to lose your identity, and become another one of the westerner's conquerings? India was once owned by Britain, and gained its independence, but it seems India is willing to give itself back to the west, in favour of the false attention the west gives it. This does not mean, however that Desi lok and Goris can't be friends,but both parties must be incredibly mature and truly not be wishing to have bad alternative intentions for the other. This is VERY rare. http://www.google.com/search?hl=en&q=europeans+forced+christianity+on&btnG=Google+Search http://www.google.com/search? hl=en&q=europeans+killed+many+to+force+christianity+on&btnG=Search http://www.google.com/search?hl=en&q=europeans+took+over+many+civilizations&btnG=Search (Some links may not be relevant.) Please search similar terms for more information. People don't wish to own up to when they do wrong, so they want to cause trouble for those who work to stop this crap. Something must be done about all these terrible people. We cannot simply let these people do more bad and turn our backs ignoring them. Working to stop them is part of our lesson as well in life. It teaches us not to be like them, it teaches us to know how to help others not be like them. If we act like cowards, we add to the problems because we are too weak to stand up for the morals and virtues crucial to life. . please see this, Dr. Aafia Saddiqui's mum makes some good sense and sums up a lot about what we are trying to accomplish in our own explanations... http://www.youtube.com/v/tzPyFPD9zwY&hl=en_US&fs=1&

http://realbeauty.yahoo.com/ramya-pandyan-article/post/dove_ramya/44/indian-relationships-a-stateof-anarchy.html Indian Relationships: A State Of Anarchy By Ramya Pandyan 'I saw a Hollywood movie about relationships and love. In one scene, a man and a woman meet in a department store and strike up a conversation over the cash register which continues till they walk out. Standing on the sidewalk, they talk, like any two strangers whove just met, of things that interest the other and ooh and aah over what they have in common. Then, just on the verge of that crucial ask for her number moment, the guy shrugs and says,I cant do this. Im married. It struck me right just then. They were following a socially accepted ritual. Then they reached a point where an expression of interest had to be made or not. And it could not be made since he was clearly unavailable. The social mores of their world dictated that he not go any furthur unless he was intending to take it forward seriously.

A few years ago, I was in Europe. After much teasing from my group, about Turkish delights and Greek gods, I returned to report that no man had flirted with me. But my mother, told me of one of our copassengers had struck up a conversation and told her she was very attractive, adding with a snide look at my dad that he couldnt say the same about her husband. She was highly surprised till we were told that in some western communities, it was considered polite, practically a social requirement to mockflirt with a lady and compliment her on her fine form. This especially for a married woman, since it was quite clear that it was in light vein and was not intended to be taken seriously. Quite unlike India where it would be considered highly inappropriate to flirt or compliment a married woman. On the other hand, it was pointed out, that it would be equally inappropriate for the same men to have flirted with me since I was clearly available. Flirting would have been an indication of serious intent, a formal expression of interest. We are still in a nascent society as far as dating goes. Our parents generation invented love marriages in this society; we are the generation that brings in friendship between the sexes as well as socially sanctioned romantic/sexual relationships before marriage. We havent quite learnt where to draw the line between friendship-comfort and attraction-commitment. We are still experimenting with how far we go with being funny/cool/charming and where it trespasses into flirtation. Think about some of the relationship scenarios that are very real to us today. The best friend of the opposite sex that makes the girlfriend/boyfriend so uncomfortable. The good friends (sister-brother this is really the most convoluted one of all) who vehemently decree that other people have dirty minds. The older colleague/father of a friend/friend of father/husband of a friend who are really friendly, but perhaps a little too much sometimes? Dont we all know a guy who promises the world to every second girl, believing correctly, that shell keep it to herself because, it still isnt done for a girl to admit that shes been with a guy? There is nothing to check him from repeating the same over and over again, no one to brand him for the cad he is. Even after the crime is complete and guy is far away, possibly chasing a whole new set of girls or actually married, how many of the women he has wronged are actually going to speak up? How about the committed ones who pass off their behaviour as harmless friendliness? Theres a general kehne mein kya harz hai? syndrome working here. The problem is that people do fall in love, hearts get broken, trust is rended and lives are shattered. You can deny those are very real crimes, nasty things that people do to people. As modern women, we are expected to be okay with a certain degree of liberal expression. The question how far does that stretch? Its okay to know a lot of guys, its fine to go out with them, even flirt with them, get into relationships with them. But all of that provided it ends in the institution of marriage or at least a stable, steady relationship. But from meeting a guy to ending up in that last socially sanctioned comfortable relationship, its a long way. We stuff our best-looking side into our public persona and bury our insecurities. We put up with a guy who is comittment-phobic for months and months because we dont want to be nags. Were okay with the just good friends tag. We even tolerate cheating and tell ourselves patience is a virtue. You can be sure a crime of sorts has been committed but whos going to haul in the offender? And if youre thinking this is equally true for women, I agree. With one small exception. Men who have been wronged in this manner can speak up about it and they do. Where else do we get such nasty phrases like slag and tease from? On the other hand, a woman who has been wronged cannot speak up. Liberatedness be damned, when such a social crime is perpetrated, the woman (more often than not)

doesnt dare speak up since even friends would call her stupid for having believed such a guy in the first place. Well, you live, you learn. We are a society in a state of transition, this is true. Many of us feel like were stuck in the stiff rules of conservative India while being seduced by the liberatedness of the West. We navigate our lives through some complicated mixture of the two. But while trying to have the best of both worlds, we have the safety of neither not the security of a protected society, nor the societal support system of an individualist one. The touts that flourish in any anarchy are well and alive in this one too. Let me end this by just saying that glorious as this rule-free state may be, the very lawlessness of it leaves each of us vulnerable to social crimes.' http://idbeat.com/TopicsView.php?CatID=3&TopicID=2778 as though we really needed one, here is a good example of typical western girls. anyone who find these girls funny or attractive is beyond no shame. their acts of self exploitation can range from having blogs/websites/etc. promoting themselves with their man toys (especially of eastern heritage), to places such as bebo, facebook, myspace and other similar sites where they take camera pics trying to solicit them self for sexual activities. as far as we know the girl in the above link hadn't as of yet targeted any eastern males, but does provide a great example of how truly desperate they become for sex and attention. LET IT BE VERY CLEARLY KNOWN that we don't agree about his views on same sex marriage...yet he was absolutely spot on about the slutwalk and how the society is changing because of the western influences creeping in....especially internet chatting and facebook. he did however, fail to mention the praise of eastern guys marrying western sluts. http://www.ndtv.com/article/india/lalu-takes-on-facebook-gay-marriage-126075 New Delhi: Rashtriya Janata Dal (RJD) chief Lalu Prasad Yadav on Thursday demanded a debate in the Lok Sabha on "degrading" Indian values due to cultural aggression from internet and other tools originating in the west. "Where is our country headed to?" Mr Yadav said, referring to Delhi's first slut walk, held last week to denounce the view that women's dress is to blame for the sexual harassment they face. "Thousands of people marched on roads stripped, wearing colourful tattoos... they were celebrating. This is a serious issue and we demand a discussion on it," he said. He said Indians were close to allowing same sex marriage. "Woman will marry woman. And you are accepting it silently," Mr Yadav said, referring to a Delhi High Court 2009 ruling decriminalising same-sex relations among consenting adults. He said India was the land of saints and sages and the "Western cultural aggression is destroying our culture".

"Vulgarity, internet chatting, Valentine Day, ipod, Facebook - all these things have been brought from America, and that is why obscenity is growing. We are losing our cultural values, legacies," he said. Read more at: http://www.ndtv.com/article/india/lalu-takes-on-facebook-gay-marriage-126075&cp http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/SlutWalk and western whores have imposed their walk in delhi http://blogs.wsj.com/indiarealtime/2011/08/01/expats-find-delhi-slut-walk-too-conservative/ By Nikita Garia Delhi on Sunday witnessed its first Slut Walk, a rally against the attitude of blaming sexual harassment on the clothes women choose to wear. The young organizers claimed that the march attracted one thousand participants, but some expats felt that the event was too conservative. Courtesy Anne Andrews Belinda Fleischmann, above, pulled up her tank top to expose her stomach. It was a shame that people dressed conservatively for the walk, Belinda Fleischmann, 31, who has been in Delhi for the past two weeks, told India Real Time by telephone after the event. She said that she lifted her pink tank top to show a little stomach during the march. It was a move that attracted much media attention. I was told by an Indian friend that I would get arrested if I go in a bra. So the least I could do was show my stomach. And the amount of media that covered it was insane, said Ms. Fleischmann, a Swiss national who found out about the Slut Walk through her friends. Ms. Fleischmann, who works for non-profit organization Operation Asha, admitted that she wouldnt normally wear her tank top in India. She said she has learnt its best to wear clothes that cover her shoulders and knees: I try to dress like Indian women. The sluttiest thing anybody wore was a tank top, said Anne Andrews, a 30-year-old from the U.S. who has been in Delhi for the past six months. More In Slut-Walk Converting Indian Slacktivists Takes (Offline) Time India's First 'Slut Walk' Takes Place in Bhopal Indian Women Told How to Behave, Again Indian Women Divided Over 'Slut Walk' I was wearing white. So to make sure that no one could see through it, I wore two tank tops, Ms. Andrews said, adding that wearing just one top wouldnt have worried her if she was in the U.S., but in India she has to be more cautious. I think I did it just to be a little appropriate.

Ms. Andrews, who plans to be in Delhi till December, says she has learnt from the experience of others. People at my workplace have told me not to go out alone in an auto after 10pm. Courtesy Belinda Fleischmann Anna Matussek, left, with a friend, Stefan Meyer. I always wear sleeves, no shorts or anything above the knees, she added. Anna Matussek, a German, who has been in Delhi for the past five months, said she usually dresses conservatively: I dont want to wear clothes that are somewhat offensive to people around me. On the day of the walk she wore a tank top with a message that read: This is not an invitation to rape. It is not particularly revealing but in India thats a concern, the 28-year-old said. As for the Delhi Slut Walk organizers, they said that dress wasnt the most important element in their overall agenda, which is to protect women from sexual harassment. We told people to wear what they usually wear, said organizer Umang Sabarwal, aged 19. UPDATE, Aug. 2, 11:35 IST: Ms. Matussek added later by email: I do think the Slutwalk Delhi organizers correctly tried to focus the attention away from the clothing. Sadly they came across sensationalism from the medias side and public opinion that did not understand the message and perverted it. They really put the focus back on the issues more clearly: Dont blame the victim of sexual assault and speak up (i.e. remove the shame) by advising to dress normally. I also toned down what I would have worn to a Slutwalk in Europe otherwise to not only respect but further the cause! Participants protest against explaining or excusing rape by referring to any aspect of a woman's appearance. The rallies began when Constable Michael Sanguinetti, a Toronto Police officer, suggested that to remain safe, "women should avoid dressing like sluts."[3][4] The protest takes the form of a march, mainly by young women, where some dress in ordinary clothing and others dress provocatively, like "sluts." There are also speaker meetings and workshops. Some objectors have remarked that this approach is an example of women defining their sexuality in male terms. what's even worse is that this whole idea is rather counter productive....that is, these women who are trying to claim that they are not sexual objects are actually reinforcing the stereotype. how should you change the stereotype of a slut? 1) live with decent morals, don't exploit yourself or others. 2) inspire and gather many others together to change society's views on sex in the right direction. it's not just about how a woman dresses, or about how a woman dresses alone - it's the kind of behaviours that she chooses to flaunt or possess that cause the stereotypes....especially in the western world. most western women, during their lifetimes, will have sexual relationships with many men. western people in general - both women and men, tend to have multiple relationships with many sex partners, as this is accepted in the culture. in western culture, flesh, and material objects are given a higher priority than morals and respect. morals and respect are used only to gain things or benefit somehow. western women are extremely manipulative, and will deceive like a professional. this is how they gain eastern men who are driven by their own secret desires to join this forbidden, immoral fruit land to have them. SO, if you REALLY want the slut stereotype changed, change your own behaviour.

one of our fellow blog contributors added ' we have a friend who is a fully western female, but she is definately NOT a slut. there a few of these prize women out there, but they are extremely rare. our friend dresses with modesty, does not try to manipulate others, and has not 'been' with anyone yet.' if all women, especially western women, showed these traits, we wouldn't have such stereotypes, and we would have a world where east and west could meet fully and it would be a beautiful melange. however, the reality is that this is not the case, and it truly is a shame. http://in.news.yahoo.com/blogs/opinions/hell-family-values-063129322.html As news items go, this one (http://us.lrd.yahoo.com/_ylt=AtJR8AvwdNOX.PyG0wkr9SvxJcV_;_ylu=X3oDMTBuYzdsYmhoBH BvcwMxBHNlYwNNZWRpYUJsb2dCb2R5;_ylg=X3oDMTNiaGRrdjEyBGludGwDaW4EbGFuZw Nlbi1pbgRwc3RhaWQDODIyODZhM2MtMDk5MS0zNjI0LTg4MGQtZWMxMDM5MDg3ZDI3BH BzdGNhdANvcmlnaW5hbHN8b3BpbmlvbnMEcHQDc3RvcnlwYWdlBHRlc3QD;_ylv=0/SIG=14ma nvcnp/EXP=1307741017/**http %3A//www.mumbaimirror.com/article/2/20110526201105260456245355369e5e4/To-prevent-suicidesbuilding-restricts-terrace-access.html) is both absurd and sad: the authorities in Bhakti Park, a 90-acrecomplex in Wadala consisting of 24 buildings, have banned its residents from going to the terrace. The reason for this is two separate incidents, in different parts of the city, of housewifes pushing their kids off the building, and then jumping themselves. By cutting off access to the terrace, these authorities presume, they can prevent such copycat suicides. I'd assume that if someone wanted to pop themselves, they could easily find other ways of doing so, like jumping off their own balcony. But leave aside methodology: while these recent incidents are tragic and poignant, and unusual in that they involved the murder of children, they are not an anomaly. Almost every day, you can open the newspapers and read about some housewife somewhere killing herself. (It is so commonplace that I wonder if it should be even considered 'news'.) A week ago, in fact, my fellow Yahoo! columnist Deepak Shenoy pointed me to a rather telling statistic: going by data for 2009 (pdf link) -- there's no reason it should be any different today -- around 20% of the people committing suicide in India were housewives. Indeed, many more housewives commit suicide every year in India than farmers, despite all the hoo-ha around the latter. For all this, I blame 'family values'. We Indians tend to pride ourselves on our family values. The typical middle-class Indian is brought up with the default programming that they'll get married in their early-to-mid 20s, have kids within a few years of marriage, and have steady settled careers in conventional professions. This default programming is horrible for women. Many of these women who killed themselves no doubt grew up daydreaming about the domestic bliss that lay ahead of them. They did not try -- or were subtly discouraged from trying -- to turn themselves into proud independent women who did not depend on others for subsistence, and whose self-esteem did not need validation from a man and his family. They duly got married, some of them had kids, and when the marriage went bad, when the man turned out to be an ass, they could not find a way out. Even if they could have supported themselves, what about the social stigma of a broken marriage? And so, in dispair, they walked up to the terrace. A few years ago, I'd written a piece titled 'We Should Celebrate Rising Divorce Rates.' (http://us.lrd.yahoo.com/_ylt=AtR3inTsR0aLNo4OSx0i5nvxJcV_;_ylu=X3oDMTBubDk2ZnZxBHBv cwM0BHNlYwNNZWRpYUJsb2dCb2R5;_ylg=X3oDMTNiaGRrdjEyBGludGwDaW4EbGFuZwNlbi 1pbgRwc3RhaWQDODIyODZhM2MtMDk5MS0zNjI0LTg4MGQtZWMxMDM5MDg3ZDI3BHBzd

GNhdANvcmlnaW5hbHN8b3BpbmlvbnMEcHQDc3RvcnlwYWdlBHRlc3QD;_ylv=0/SIG=1322m4nt r/EXP=1307741017/**http%3A//indiauncut.com/iublog/article/we-should-celebrate-rising-divorcerates/) I continue to get more hate mail for that piece than any other I've written, but I couldn't stand by it more strongly. As I wrote then, rising divorce rates are "the single best statistical indicator we have of the empowerment of women." If divorce was easy and socially acceptable, and if every father in the country brought up his daughter to be independent, we'd have far fewer housewives committing suicide. Indeed, we'd have far fewer men taking their wives for granted and treating them like shit. Marriage would not, then, be the prison it is for so many women. **** I know many couples, married and otherwise, who have decided not to have any children -- much as I have. It exasperates us all a little to be questioned about this. Being a parent transforms your life, and limits the options open to you in terms of career and lifestyle -- especially for women. The question 'Why?' to my mind should really be asked to those making this huge choice, rather than to those who choose not to have kids. Not having kids should be the default. Of course, this will never be the case as natural selection has programmed us to be procreating machines, and too many of my friends go oooh, how cuuuute when they see a noisy, messy baby I would be glad to deposit inside a mixie. But that's okay. We've all got a right to make our choices -- just don't look at me as if I'm nuts when I tell you I don't want to be a father. Indeed, speaking of producing kids, you could say that I enjoy the journey but never want to get to the destination. Natural selection, go screw yourself! Also read: Philip Larkin's great poem, 'This be the Verse'. **** I'd also love to see the day when marriage is no longer so sacrosanct in India. If two people are in love, what is it between them that a piece of paper can change? Either they're committed to each other, in which case who needs it registered in a government office, or they're not quite that committed, in which case why trap yourself? And why marry someone without living with them first to see if it works? Would you buy a car without test-driving it, or a pair of headphones without checking out the sound first? Isn't selecting a spouse a far more important decision? The only plausible reason to get married is if you want to have kids and being married makes it easier for them in a society like India's. Otherwise, as an expression of love, it seems a bit overblown to me. Is it insecurity, and a need to assuage it, that drives some of us to marriage? Is that a good reason? My arguments aren't prescriptive, of course. You have to do what works for you. Just think about it first, is all I'm saying. **** A final thought on that database of suicides that I linked to earlier in the piece. If you go through it carefully, many interesting narratives come up. One of them is this: despite more than 60% of our population being involved in the agricultural sector, only about 14% of people committing suicide are farmers. That would indicate that, despite the rhetoric of the likes of P Sainath and Pankaj Mishra, there

is less average misery among farmers than among non-farmers. So however many anecdotes they may come up with about farmers driven to kill themselves by unscrupulous moneylenders, the fact remains that the plural of anecdotes is not data. And the data tells quite a different story. But that's a subject for another column on another day, so I'll let it pass for now.

what we have to say about this really, dumbass?! what the hell did u think u were actually saying when u wrote up this crap, this other shit smocked drivel? the problem isn't about the idea of marriage itself, it's the changing of our society, and ideas like this that are causing such trouble. desi men want goris, both sexes are into pornography and having sex outside of marriage more, having multiple romances, etc. they want to be like the west. take away marriage, trust 2 people to live together, and you'll have the western world in a sepia hue. women who are having sex with anyone and everyone, showing off everything, having no moral fibre, having sex with so many men they don't even know who the fathers of their children are. having men who think they are god and act like male whores, living their lives based on pornography and the omnipresent need for lust. what deos need to be changed are things that currently brand desi women, making barriers for them. the obsessions with pale skin need to go, the ideas that desi women are second rate, only good for producing children needs to go. the taboos against those who can't or don't want kids have to go, along with other things. these women need to be shown that they are equal to men, and have better morals than the west, and are better people than the west. traditional desi values need to be upheld, and our culture needs to move forward and become greater still, yet retaining the moral core that we had held nto so dearly in earlier generations, not kissing ass to the lack of morals the west has. have a look at this drivel..... (btw arranged marriages r best only to keep eastern boys away from marrying western girls unless the parents are stupid enough to arrange such a shameful union. http://in.news.yahoo.com/blogs/opinions/lessons-learned-arranged-marriages-085259766.html I think we all agree that there are few things more respectable and legitimate than that great pillar of Indian society the arranged marriage. While the acceptance of love marriages (known as lou marriages in some parts of the country) is certainly more widespread today than it was even a couple of decades ago, it is far from universal. The arranged marriage still holds pride of place as the preferred method of getting our sons and daughters hitched with the finest specimens from amongst the youth of our great nation. Such is the greatness of this institution, even Apache Indian, the musical legend, sang about it in the early nineties. In fact, young people today are far more accepting, and even desirous, of arranged marriages than those of the eighties and nineties. This cultural shift could be due to any one of numerous reasons. Perhaps they are too sensible, or simply too lazy, to bother with rebellion. Perhaps they believe, quite correctly, that their parents are more likely to find them a smoking hot life partner than their own bumbling

attempts at dating and romance. But never mind the reasons, it is reassuring to know that arranged marriages still form the core of our splendid society. However, despite the evident good health of Indian culture and social traditions, there is a threat. Promiscuity. The increase in the occurrence of what is being termed as 'casual sex'. The fact that our youth seem to be cheerfully and recklessly engaging in the ole whoop-de-do, without even the slightest thought of marriage. Dreadful. Shocking. Sneeze-inducing. If we allow this to continue, the very foundations of our society would be irreparably damaged. If youngsters are permitted to have sex without the consent of their parents (and sundry other elders if available and convenient), where would it all end? No doubt they will soon be indulging in all sorts of undesirable activities without getting prior permission from their elders such as drug addiction, petty crime and amateur photography. The only way to control this disease is by applying the time-tested principles of arranged marriages to casual sex. The answer? Arranged sex. Since casual sex is quite similar to love marriages, in that both generally tend to be unacceptable to the parents of the participants and cause much emotional upheaval, outrage and varying degrees of gastroenteritis. So the best possible solution is to get the parents involved so that they can arrange the entire things, just as they do with marriages. With the idea of arranged sex, parents of suitable boys and girls can scout around for potential casual sex partners for their sons and daughters, and give their consent only after they are fully satisfied (pun not intended) that the candidate meets all their stringent requirements. For example, parents looking to organize arranged sex for their son could lay (pun not intended) down conditions that the girl should be insanely hot, not overly intelligent, and have a talent for shutting up unless instructed otherwise. Parents of girls looking for a suitable boy to have arranged sex with their daughters could insist that the fellow be strong and well-built, polite and extremely wealthy. Come to think of it, it's really not that different from how arranged marriages work the only major difference is the time period of the contract. This way, parents would be reassured that nothing is happening without their blessings, and the youngsters could have casual sex without feeling guilty about offending their parents. Like arranged marriages, arranged sex could grow into another pillar of society, ensuring that our traditions such as respect for elders and due process for everything are preserved. The menace of promiscuous premarital sex would be destroyed once and for all. Those of you who think that the very idea is scandalous, I ask you this how is it any different from that strange beast 'arranged love'? I've lost count of how many times I've asked someone "Was yours a love marriage or an arranged marriage?" and received the smug and annoying reply "Arranged Love. Hahahahaha." However, annoying or not, it is inescapable that "Arranged Love" is no different from "Arranged Sex". In fact, modern youth seem to believe that "Love" and "Sex" are freely interchangeable as words and ideas. Just ask modern day philosophers such as Enrique Iglesias and Akon. So if the former is acceptable in polite society, there is no reason why the latter should not be. The only drawback with arranged sex is that it may be perceived as a little less exciting than, for lack of a better word, love sex. However, this is clearly balderdash there is no evidence to show that couples who had a love marriage end up being any happier than those who had an arranged marriage. Once again, arranged marriages have proven to be the magic mantra, the secret sauce. So there really isn't any reason why we shouldn't embrace the idea wholeheartedly, as a people united by our desire to

build a great nation. In fact, since our society rightly believes that something is only legitimate and respectable if it is 'arranged' with the blessings of elders, it might be wise to go about attacking many of society's other problems using the same approach. We could instantly rid ourselves of many evils. Think about it arranged alcoholism, arranged reckless driving, arranged investment banking all of these would immediately become activities that are accepted, and even encouraged by society. The potential is virtually limitless. By involving respectable elders, astrologers, priests and overpriced caterers, we could finally build a vibrant, healthy society without any ills whatsoever. Anand Ramachandran is a writer, comics creator and videogame designer who works when he isn't playing some game with an 'of' in its name. For those of you who think that western girls are the best, this is what you get for your praise and wrongful respect for them, and worse yet, when you decide to have romantic relationships with them our own people's morals dissapear, as witnessed below. http://in.lifestyle.yahoo.com/love-sex/doubles-mixed-blog-50-mailtoday.html SCHOOLTEACHER Anisha Mathur (32) and scribe Kapil Kumar (34) have been married for nine years and have a six-year-old son. They speak to MAIL TODAY about their open marriage, their other extramarital relationships, how they took the first step and coped with the challenges that followed. Their identities have been changed. Her VIEW POINT IT ALL started with a trip to Bhutan to meet our friends in 2007. It was a visit that we had been planning ever since we got married. Our hosts were Kapils friends from his college days they had even attended our wedding. Thimphu was a feast for the eyes, and the sight of the Himalayas overwhelmed us. Our hosts treated us so warmly that it didnt take much time for us to feel completely at home with them. The itinerary of our three-day trip was planned with much care by them. Must-read on Love & Sex: How you can perk up your sex life On the first day, after soaking up the sights, we huddled together in front of a camp fire. After a few drinks, we began talking about sex, starting off with a few jokes of course, till the discussion got a little more serious. What followed was a life-changing discussion yes, it completely altered my perception about love and sex. After our hosts' account of their lovelife, my idea of marriage turned head. Our hosts revealed they had an open marriage and both looked for sex outside marriage. The discussion, admittedly, got steamier when they offered us an invitation to swap partners. Kapil and

I had a long chat about it that night. There was no doubt that I loved my husband, but we agreed it was getting monotonous and that was taking the zing out of our relationship. KAPILS argument in favour of the swap was that we were in a foreign land with no relatives or colleagues who would find out it seemed safe to experiment since there were only these friends around. I was uncomfortable with the suggestion at first, but he never forced me. Relationship must-read: 5 tips to feel closer to her Kapil is one of those rare nonintrusive men, so unlike the husbands of my friends. He has never probed too much about my friends or insisted that I do things the way he wants me to. He also knows about my relationships before marriage. After a sleepless night with a million thoughts running through my head, I told Kapil I was game. Rather than being gung ho, he said there was no hurry and advised me to give it a rethink. On the second day there, I was sure and that night I slept with my husbands best friend and his wife with my husband. My conscience was clear and I was fully aware of my actions and with Kapils backing there was no sense of guilt. Next morning, we greeted each other the same way we had for the past nine years. Over our cuppa, we even told each other how we loved the experience. No, that didnt leave either of us with a bruised ego we had more respect and love for each other because we had acted like mature individuals. The next night too we swapped. Also read: After you say 'I do' His VIEW POINT ANISHA and I are just like any average couple coping with life and still very much in love with each other. We have always been true to each other and share immense trust. After our first extra-marital experience in Bhutan, my next fling was with an online friend from Oman. We had always been good friends and so we decided to take it to the next level. My friend is married and has a 16-year-old daughter. She flew down to India last month to meet me and we spent two days in a holiday resort in Jaipur. Yes, of course, Anisha knew about it. But then, she also knows that this lady from Oman isnt the only one, even if its the steadiest extra-marital relationship that Ive had. In all I have had eight relationships outside marriage yes, thats many more than what Anisha has had but she has never objected to any of them. We dont discuss details about our relationships and prefer not to intrude into each others lives. The women Ive hooked up with are all married and they too say theres no sense of guilt about what they are doing. It seems quite normal now that is, after having so many of them. In fact, a couple of my friends too have open marriages to spice up their sex lives. I dont believe in constricting the marriage to a point that it gets difficult to breath in it. At the same time, I am fully aware I am not

powerful enough to change the institution of marriage. BUT for me, the sanctity of a marriage is in being open to each others viewpoints and being honest. I know Anisha has affairs and I have no problems with it. She too knows I am seeing someone we believe that if we are frank with each other and communicate, there will be no misunderstanding. Thats right no misunderstanding even when Anisha compares me with her other partners, or I do that. Oh yes, physical aspects, performance, et al. I have seen spouses in 'normal' marriages fight when they are compared to someone else. I think, it's just one's religion and weird sense of morals that force one to feel guilty. Anisha and I aren't forcing each other to look for extramarital affairs it's consensual and we have no qualms about it. Our relationship still has the same warmth it did in the beginning and I am emotionally dependent on Anisha like in our early days. But the Bhutan trip was a turning point for me too. Guilty feelings creep in when couples hide things from each other. I guess honesty is what keeps us together. Reproduced From Mail Today. Copyright 2011. MTNPL. All rights reserved. http://news.yahoo.com/s/afp/20090213/wl_sthasia_afp/indiareligionhinduvalentinedetain;_ylt=Ag634D CeknpAQfdW6l5XU6IBxg8F http://www.hindustantimes.com/Lifestyle/ArtAndCulture/Are-we-moving-away-from-ourheritage/Article1-611885.aspx Are we moving away from our heritage? Indo-Asian News Service New Delhi, October 12, 2010 First Published: 16:20 IST(12/10/2010) Last Updated: 19:24 IST(12/10/2010) Indian design - be it in films, furniture or accessories - may be high on style, but it is drifting away from its rich heritage in the zeal to imitate global trends, says Design Indaba, the design bible that has launched a collector's issue on India. The magazine, published by Interactive Africa from South Africa, was launched in 2001. "Designers in India should hunt for new aesthetic idioms from within the country's rich heritage. After independence, we lost the old aesthetic awareness because of lack of government support," Ravi Naidoo, founder and managing editor of Interactive Africa, told IANS. "Design talent abounds in India but lack of design education in the country puts them at a disadvantage when compared to the rest of the world. We do not have art schools in the country which have global standards." Interactive Africa brought out the special issue last week to mark the 150th anniversary of the Indian

community in South Africa. Naidoo says, "The magazine was a look at India through the eyes of some of the best people in creative space." The volume comments on the country's design movement from the perspective of the nation's 5,000year-old history and the events that propelled its destiny to establish "the power of being an Indian in the African diasporic mosaic". The issue has been edited by the Delhi unit of the global advertising agency Wieden+Kennedy. New Delhi-based interior designer Gunjan Gupta says "the made-in-India" element has gone from handcrafted goods and ethnic products. In her article on Kitschcraft in Design Indaba, Gupta makes a strong pitch for indigenisation of Indian accessory design. "Almost every piece of contemporary furniture in India's burgeoning luxury market is either a Western import or a locally-manufactured imitation of the same," she said. "While the unique handcrafted furniture is in demand in the West, it is redundant within India - a country on the verge of modernisation and seduced by Western imagination and machined production," she says. Gupta attributes the trend to a shift in power equations between the two cultures in the 19th century. Indian ethnic objects commissioned by the ruling Europeans in the 17th and the 18th century led to the creation of an impressive range of breathtaking cross cultural luxury craft. But they were branded "stylishly confused" by the new generation of Europeans in the 19th century. The Indian elite rejected them too in favour of goods from Europe, representative of status and authority, she said. The trend has continued well into the 21st century. The phenomenon has crept into mainstream Indian cinema - the country's biggest soft power block - as well. "Indian films have come a long way from the 1950s Bollywood to become bigger, of course, better and more Western and global in sensibilities primarily because of the opening up of the economy," Aseem Chhabra, a New York-based writer, analyses in his article Filmi. The Hindi language cinema from Mumbai during the 1950s rejected the West in both content and aesthetics to probe the issues the young nation was grappling with. In the 1990s, with the freeing of the economy, Mumbai's inward-looking film industry jumped into the global bandwagon and decided to reap the bounty of the non-resident Indian (NRI) markets abroad, Chhabra said. "Sixty-three years after independence, India has evolved and changed substantially - from Bombay cinema to Bollywood - but in the process the new Bollywood films have lost a lot," Chhabra says. "India is deeper and evolved. Design is much deeper than contemporary Bollywood, Rajasthani colours, calendar art and general kitsch," says V. Sunil, executive creative director of Wieden+Kennedy that edited Design Indaba.

BANGALORE, India (AFP) Indian police on Friday rounded up members of a Hindu extremist group who had allegedly threatened to marry off young couples found together on Valentine's Day. Pramod Mutalik, the head of the Sri Ram Sena (SRS) or Lord Ram's Army, and some of his followers were taken into preventive custody, the police chief of Karnataka state's Gulbarga district, B.A. Padmananaina, told AFP. "This is a preventive measure ahead of Valentine's Day," he said. The Press Trust of India news agency reported over 100 activists were detained across the southern Indian state of Karnataka. Mutalik and his little known SRS made headlines last month when they beat up young women having drinks at a trendy bar in Karnataka's Mangalore city. Television footage of SRS activists chasing, slapping and kicking the terrified women prompted widespread condemnation. The attackers, who style themselves as guardians of traditional Hindu values, were briefly detained and then freed on bail. Mutalik and his followers later threatened to marry off dating couples on Valentine's Day. "Drinking, socialising, celebrating Valentine's Day is all part of Western culture which is corrupting our Indian culture," SRS general secretary V.K. Rajesh told AFP. "We are not against love. But we are against loose morals we see among the younger generation who are blindly aping the West. And we will not spare these people and we will take whatever action is needed within the law." The detentions follow calls by federal Home Minister Palaniappan Chidamabaram urging Karnataka's Hindu nationalist administration to take "preventive and punitive" action to ensure law and order in the state. * The issues are referring to drinking, open flirtations, open sex, and other immoralities of western culture which younger desi lok are trying to copy. Unfortunately, valentine's day has come to represent a day to celebrate and sell sex and lust. If proper morals such as respect and care of others without need for lust, with a universal theme, such as promoting volunteer work, or promoting helping others live with better morals, then this would have been seen far differently. It's not the holiday itself, it's how society has come to take it and percieve it. This is also why we have such a high increase in the desi boys who go for the dirty gori girls...and they don't care what shame they are doing to others. Thylane Loubry Blondeau is a young girl who is a french model. why is she appearing in our works? she hasn't (so far yet) romanced any eastern guys or anything. what is wrong with her? nothing really....except that she's 9 or 10 (at the time of this posting) and is in vogue magazine with very sexually suggestive shots of her that someone twice her age would be doing. the issue isn't the fact that

she's modeling, the issue lies in that it is NOT ok to have anyone, especially a young child topless or in dressed which show her albeit as yet underdeveloped chest, and posing as though she was a pinup or playboy bunny. although youngsters are more aware of things that they shouodn't be at their age than they used to, we will just assume for now that she is doing this innocently and doesn't understand the problem. however, this whole situation just exemplifies the shamefulness of western culture and how anyone - be it an easterner or a child from either hemisphere, is used for the wrong things for the sake of money or attention. her own mother defends the images, and there are some people in comment sections, message boards, etc. who see nothing wrong wrong with it, also defend the actions, and some who would even do the same thing with their kids. this is the hallmark of shame to such an incredible degree. western culture already should have hung its head in absolute disgrace and shame ages ago, but this just canes it in the knees. absolutely just canes it right in the knees. and worse yet, the paedophiles who must just be CREAMING their jeans over these images...it makes your skin crawl straight off the bone. you can see her in a google image search, some particularly disturbing photos ebing http://itsybitsysteps.com/wp-content/uploads/2011/08/thylane-blondeau.png http://28.media.tumblr.com/tumblr_lps8lg1fXr1qc3oi3o1_500.jpg http://28.media.tumblr.com/tumblr_lps5sgikRj1qm232po1_500.png http://30.media.tumblr.com/tumblr_lps43sSTs71qc3oi3o1_500.png http://media.tumblr.com/tumblr_lprzpltqs31qzp681.jpg http://26.media.tumblr.com/tumblr_lprsshY0yc1qgbwjvo3_400.jpg http://i638.photobucket.com/albums/uu104/kelly_usa/kelly_album_2/thylane-5.jpg http://www.dailynewsone.net/wp-content/uploads/2011/08/Thylane-Loubry-Blondeau.jpg and if it weren't for the previous pics, this wouldn't seem so bad (although i was NOT allowed to have my dress hiked that high at 10...or even at 16!) http://i.huffpost.com/gen/321772/THYLANE-LOUBRY-BLONDEAU.jpg http://www.thefashionpolice.net/wp-content/uploads/2011/08/thylane.jpg what IS appropriate for a 10 year old model? this... http://3.bp.blogspot.com/_WpxL6T1RQtU/TFw4v6BRFKI/AAAAAAAAAJA/ysI3Qw4XH0/s1600/x_dafe79ff.jpg bit of info on this -

http://www.thefashionpolice.net/2011/08/thylane-loubry-blondeau-is-a-10-year-old-too-young-tomodel-adult-fashion.html This is Thylane Loubry Blondeau. Shes ten years old, and she appeared in a deliberately-provocative editorial in French Vogue last December, which appeared to be intended to play with the idea of dress up, and perhaps to satirize the fashion industrys obsession with youth. The images in question, however, have caused something of a stir, with some people arguing that, however knowingly it was done, the sexualization of ten year old girls in this way just isnt cool. (Weve no idea why this outrage is all happening NOW, when the photos in question were published several months ago, but for some reason it is) french vogue child models Thylane Loubry Blondeau: is a 10 year old too young to model adult fashion?Thylane herself now has a Tumblr dedicated to her photos, (the owner recently changed the name from F*** Yeah, Thylane Blondeau to the slightly less controversial Thylane Blondeau pictures, although as of this morning, that site seems to be down, too), many of which showcase her very grown up poses and a much more sophisticated sense of style than wed usually associate with a ten-year-old. While some are excitedly declaring her to be the next big thing, however, others think Thylanes sultry pout and sexy photos go too far and not just in the French Vogue spread, but in many more of the child models shots. Here are just a few of the contrasting opinions being voiced about Thylane: This isnt edgy. Its inappropriate, and creepy, and I never want to see a nine-year-old girl in highheeled leopard print bedroom slippers ever again.thylane Thylane Loubry Blondeau: is a 10 year old too young to model adult fashion? ~ Feministing she looks more self-aware and confident than most models working today to say nothing of grown women in general. ~ Stylite theres no lightheartedness or playfulness there. Theres none of the unselfconsciousness that let childhood be so much fun Theres just Blondeaus dull eyes and pursed, painted, parted lips of a hard-to-get siren, laid out on a tiger-skin rug or placed in a chair with her skirt carefully tucked out of the way to bare her legs nearly to the hip. ~Feministe I personally found the Vogue Paris editorialrefreshing. Sure, it was disturbing, but it seemed purposefully, knowingly disturbing ~ Jezebel more proof western culture is fucked up -

this THREE year old kid pretended he married a girl on the playground...THREE mind you...there was a time when three years didnt even know what marriage WAS....and his parents encouraged him. WHAT THE FLYNG BURNING FUCK?! http://www.huffingtonpost.com/james-m-chesbro/building-blocks_b_923830.html?icid=maing-grid7| main5|dl3|sec1_lnk3|86075 On his first day of nursery school, the teacher said our son, James, paced back and forth along the fence of the playground, saying to himself, "This is a disaster. This is a disaster." My wife, Lynne, and I needed to help him adjust, but how? The teacher gave us something positive to hold on to each week, and months later, we were happy to learn that James "married" Jane. According to the teacher, they married in the tree house on the playground, where they held hands and swayed. The boy could count on having a new friend at his new school. That day, when James came home, he built a tower of blocks. He stood before the blocks, clapped his hands and said it was as tall as him. He's learning how to make friends, Lynne and I thought. But the following week, James sat on the living room floor turning a block over and over in his hands, and asked, "Why doesn't she want to talk to me anymore?" The situation gave us the opportunity to give him something more important to his self-image than an answer to his question. That summer we had pulled the diapers off of his rear-end and replaced them with underwear. We removed him from his old daycare center, and brought him home a newborn sister from the hospital. We tried to hug him through these changes, and as he sat there on the floor, a hug and a few pats on the head failed to turn his spirits. I tried a pep-talk. "James, you're a handsome guy. And smart. You know the alphabet. And you can count to like... How high can you count?" I asked. "Like, 16." he said. "And are you fast?" "I'm the fastest!" James said. "So, she'll come around. If not, there's plenty of other girls in your class to be friends with." I said. But James didn't want me to try and build him up. As he asked again, "Dad, how come she won't talk to me?" What I heard him really asking me was: How could someone not like me? How do I deal with rejection? Lynne and I tried to re-create social scenarios in the classroom for James. We gave him lines like, "Hey, that toy looks like fun. Can I play too?" We talked about sharing. And while that may have helped a bit, that didn't quell his fears. James lit up like the red lights in the hallway during a fire drill when Jane greeted him in the morning. She seemed sweet, too. Another girl in his class said she would be his friend, but only if he ran around the room pinching each person -- which he did. His grandmother got the goods on that story one day while she drove him in her car. I'm glad he felt comfortable enough with his grandmother to pipe up from the back seat and share the internal workings of his young heart, but why not his Mom and Dad? This seemed to raise the stakes in addressing his

repeated question of why the girl in his class wouldn't talk to him. We wondered aloud while eating dinner at James' grandparent's house: Did we make a mistake by pulling him from daycare? Maybe he wasn't ready. James' grandmother said, "You couldn't have held him back. He was bored at the daycare. He's so articulate, too. He needed the challenge." He's a young three. His birthday was in September. Many of his classmates turned four during the academic calendar. The slight age difference matters in nursery school. His grandfather had a more practical solution, "Hey, James," he said, "You know what to do?" "What?" James said, perking up from his booster seat, eager to hear words from the patriarch. "You said Jane sits at your table. Right?" Papa asked. "Right." "Well, start talking to the girl next to her. That'll get her attention." How do we help James? It became an extended family quandary, as if James was in his twenties and losing the girl of his dreams. Sometimes when I dropped him off, I'd stare for a moment from the hallway and watch him interact at his seat. Let go, I'd tell myself. As I turned my back and walked between the white and blue painted cinder block walls, boisterous young voices echoed, ushering me out the door. James didn't say squat when I pressed for anything about his day on the car rides home. School wiped him out. It was the wrong time to prod. He's more talkative at night. After we cleared the dishes from dinner, Lynne fed James' sister a bottle in the den, and I gave it another try. "Hey, James. Let's build a tower." I said. "No, thanks." He responded. "C'mon. I need your help. We'll make it as tall as you." As we grabbed different colors and placed one on top of the other, James said, "She still won't talk to me." All right, I thought. Enough! You're three. This is ridiculous. We're making another tower. We'll watch another show. Shake it off, little man. But it wasn't ridiculous. He was having a hard time adjusting to a lot of change at school and at home. After we finished his new tower, James, stood and struck the blocks with his fist and they clattered to the hardwood floor. Before bedtime, Lynne found the blocks hidden in his old lunch cooler that he doesn't use anymore. Lynne brought the mini cooler into the living room, so we could look at his fallen tower together, so we could try to show him that he doesn't have to hide parts of himself from us, even if they're broken. and, according to cory feldman http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2011/08/12/corey-feldman-pedophilia-is-hollywoods_n_925287.html? icid=maing-grid7|main5|dl11|sec1_lnk3|86024

Former child-star Corey Feldman is making some shocking claims in a new interview with ABC's Nightline. The 40-year-old actor, who starred in hit films in the 1980s like "The Goonies" and "Stand By Me," told Nightline that the biggest threat to children in show business is something that just isn't talked about -- pedophilia. "I can tell you that the number one problem in Hollywood was, and is, and always will be pedophilia. That's the biggest problem for children in this industry... it's all done under the radar. It's the big secret," he said. Feldman said he was surrounded by pedophiles when he was 14-years-old and didn't realize until he was older just what these "vultures" were and what they wanted. Feldman says it was these people who abused both him and close friend and troubled teen actor Corey Haim, who died last year at the age of 38. "There is one person to blame in the death of Corey Haim, and that person happens to be a Hollywood mogul -- and that person needs to be exposed but unfortunately I can't be the one to do it," he said. Both Feldman and Haim have talked about their abuse before, even confronting one another about it on their 2008 reality series "Two Coreys," revealing that they were both being molested by different people at the same time. Feldman told Nightline, "There are so many people in this industry who have gotten away with it for so long that they feel they're above the law. And that's got to change, that's got to stop." When westerners do ignorant, racist things, it does not improve sciety, it makes it worse. example below http://news.yahoo.com/s/ap/20110402/ap_on_re_as/as_afghanistan KABUL, Afghanistan Afghans angry over the burning of a Quran at a small Florida church stormed a U.N. compound in northern Afghanistan on Friday, killing seven foreigners, including four Nepalese guards. Afghan authorities suspect insurgents melded into the mob and they announced the arrest of more than 20 people, including a militant they suspect was the ringleader of the assault in Mazar-i-Sharif, the provincial capital of Balkh province. The suspect was an insurgent from Kapisa province, a hotbed of militancy about 250 miles (400 kilometers) southeast of the city, said Rawof Taj, deputy provincial police chief. The topic of Quran burning stirred outrage among millions of Muslims and others worldwide after the Rev. Terry Jones' small church, Dove Outreach Center, threatened to destroy a copy of the holy book last year. The pastor backed down but the church in Gainesville, Florida, went through with the burning last month. Four protesters also died in the violence in Mazar-i-Sharif, which is on a list of the first seven areas of the country where Afghan security forces are slated to take over from the U.S.-led coalition starting in

July. Other demonstrations, which were peaceful, were held in Kabul and Herat in western Afghanistan, fueling resentment against the West at a critical moment in the Afghan war. Protesters burned a U.S. flag at a sports stadium in Herat and chanted "Death to the U.S." and "They broke the heart of Islam." About 100 people gathered at a traffic circle near the U.S. Embassy in Kabul. One protester carried a sign that said: "We want these bloody bastard Americans with all their forces to leave Afghanistan." U.N. peacekeeping chief Alain LeRoy said the top U.N. envoy in Afghanistan, Staffan De Mistura, who is in Mazar-i-Sharif, believes "the U.N. was not the target." "They wanted to find an international target and the U.N. was the one there in Mazar-i-Sharif," LeRoy told reporters at U.N. headquarters in New York. Initially, Afghan police reported that eight foreigners had been killed in Mazar-i-Sharif. Late on Friday, Dan McNorton, a spokesman for the United Nations Assistance Mission in Afghanistan in Kabul, revised the death toll to seven four foreign security guards and three other foreigners. The guards were from Nepal, according to Gen. Daud Daud, commander of Afghan National Police in several northern provinces. Sweden Foreign Minister Carl Bildt said Joakim Dungel, a 33-year-old Swede who worked at the U.N. office, was among those killed. Norwegian Defense Ministry spokeswoman Maj. Heidi Langvik-Hansen said Lt. Col. Siri Skare, a 53year-old female pilot working for the U.N., died in the attack. LeRoy said the other victim was a citizen of Romania and that a number of U.N. personnel were injured and were being evacuated. The Russian Foreign Ministry said the head of the mission in Mazar-i-Sharif, a Russian citizen, was injured in the attack, but not seriously. Police who went to investigate, said the U.N. compound was littered with broken glass and bullet casings. Abdul Karim, a police officer in the city, said he saw the bullet-riddled bodies of three Nepalese guards lying in the yard and a fourth on the first floor. He said another victim with a serious head wound died on a stairway to the basement of the compound. A man who was killed inside a room had severe wounds to his face and body, Karim said. Munir Ahmad Farhad, a spokesman in Balkh province, said the protest began peacefully when several hundred demonstrators gathered outside the U.N. mission's compound, choosing an obvious symbol of the international community's involvement in Afghanistan to denounce the Quran's desecration. It turned violent when some protesters seized the guards' weapons and started shooting, then the crowds stormed the building and set fires that sent plumes of black smoke into the air, he said.

One protester, Ahmad Gul, a 32-year-old teacher in the city, gave a different account. He said the protesters disarmed three guards to prevent any violence from breaking out. Associated Press video showed protesters banging AK-47 rifles on the curb, breaking them into pieces. He said the protesters were killed and wounded by Afghan security forces. "I disarmed three guards myself and we took out the bullets," Gul said, sternly shaking his finger as he shouted. "With my eyes, I saw them (Afghan security forces) kill two and wound 10." As he talked, he became increasingly indignant and he started shouting: "Death to America!" "We are going to fight." LeRoy, the U.N. peacekeeping chief, said the security guards, all Gurkhas, "tried their best" but were unable to prevent the large number of demonstrators, some armed, from storming the U.N. compound. The U.N. Security Council held an emergency meeting late Friday and condemned the attack "in the strongest terms." The U.N.'s most powerful body also condemned "all incitement to and acts of violence" and called on the Afghan government to bring those responsible to justice and take steps to protect U.N. personnel and premises. Secretary-General Ban Ki-moon, who is in Nairobi, said it was "an outrageous and cowardly attack against U.N. staff, which cannot be justified under any circumstances and I condemn in the strongest possible terms." He instructed De Mistura to assess the situation and take any "necessary measures to ensure the safety of all U.N. staff." LeRoy said U.N. officials would be reviewing security for U.N. personnel in Afghanistan. President Barack Obama condemned the attack and underscored the importance of the U.N.'s work in Afghanistan. "We stress the importance of calm and urge all parties to reject violence and resolve differences through dialogue," Obama said. At the U.S. State Department, spokesman Mark Toner said the burning of a Quran in Florida was contrary to Americans' respect for Islam and religious tolerance. "This is an isolated act done by a small group of people and ... does not reflect the respect the people of the United States have toward Islam," he said. The church's website stated that after a five-hour trial on March 20, the Quran "was found guilty and a copy was burned inside the building." A picture on the website shows a book in flames in a small portable fire pit. The church on Friday confirmed that the Quran had been burned. In a statement, Jones did not comment on whether the church's act had led to the deaths. Instead he said it was time to "hold Islam accountable" and called on the United States and the U.N. to hold "these countries and people accountable for what they have done as well as for any excuses they may use to promote their terrorist activities." Last week, Afghan President Hamid Karzai issued a statement calling the burning a "crime against a

religion." He denounced the U.N. attack as a "disrespectful and abhorrent act" and called on the U.S. and the United Nations to bring to justice those who burned the holy book. Karzai issued a statement late Friday calling the killings an "inhumane act" that was "against the values of Islam and Afghans." He said he planned to call officials at U.N. headquarters to express his regret and condolences from the people of Afghanistan. The U.N. has been the target of previous attacks. In October 2010, a suicide car bomber and three armed militants wearing explosives vests and dressed as women attacked a U.N. compound in Herat in western Afghanistan. Afghan security forces killed the attackers and no U.N. employees were harmed. In October 2009, Taliban militants attacked a guesthouse used by United Nations workers in central Kabul. Eight people were killed, including five foreigners working for the U.N. Separately, the U.S. Department of Defense announced that six U.S. Army soldiers were killed in separate incidents in fighting against insurgents during an operation in eastern Kunar province, which neighbors Pakistan's lawless tribal areas. Insurgents have slowly been filtering back into Afghanistan from safe havens in Pakistan as the spring fighting season gets under way. Associated Press writers Amir Shah in Kabul, Edith M. Lederer at the U.N. and Mitch Stacy in Tampa, Florida, contributed to this report. this gives a bit more insight on how sexuality is seen and since we live in a society that is so highly sexually driven, it gives (albeit incredibly negative) guidelines for romantic partners. Now, we know that cigarettes are bad. We also know that porn is bad. But this is the most pathetic bit of writing in ages to fill a newspaper and the author should be extremely ashamed of himself http://www.mcall.com/news/local/carpenter/mc-paul-carpenter-tobacco-porn20100706,0,3496414.column 'The San Fernando Valley is known for many things, from Valspeak (the language of Valley girls, as in, "You're like, so totally whatEVER. Like duh"), to Griffith Park, to the Northridge earthquake. Separated from the unhip parts of Los Angeles by the famed Mulholland Drive, it also is known as "818" for the telephone area code and as Silicone Valley (a play on the term "Silicon Valley" of northern California) because 818 is the center of the breast implant universe. All sorts of movies are set there "Chinatown," "The Karate Kid," "Encino Man," "Pulp Fiction" and on and on. My daughter Cindy, living in Tennessee at the moment, has lived in four different San Fernando communities (Studio City, North Hollywood, Woodland Hills and Calabasas) and they are fine places. The In-N-Out Burger on Ventura Boulevard in Woodland Hills is my favorite restaurant in the whole world. Even if I got tired of it, there's a sushi joint on every other corner. GET BREAKING NEWS FIRST: Sign up today for breaking news e-mail alerts from The Morning Call The San Fernando Valley also is known for pornography, a $14 billion per year industry. Almost all porn originates there, mostly in just three communities Canoga Park, Chatsworth and Van Nuys. I

have not done an in-depth study, but I assume all those pornography studios pay taxes, and that represents an opportunity Pennsylvania and the Lehigh Valley should not pass up. Why let just Van Nuys, etc., benefit from all those thousands of porn jobs? On Monday, The Morning Call had a story about how this region's state legislators fought to save the jobs in a commercial enterprise that, if anything, is considerably less respectable than porn. Pennsylvania is the only state in America that does not tax cigars and smokeless tobacco (a euphemism for snuff and chewing tobacco, which produce rivers of brownish spit and account for epidemics of oral cancer and lost teeth.) A plan to tax such products was defeated by money spent by the tobacco industry on lobbying, which succeeded in getting state legislators on the industry's side. The story mentioned Rep. Richard Grucela, D-Northampton, Rep. Doug Reichley, R-Lehigh, and Rep. Karen Beyer, R-Lehigh. "The Lehigh Valley delegation worked to get that [the cigar and smokeless tobacco tax plan] out," Grucela was quoted as saying. His district, it was reported, includes the Famous Smoke Shop, which threatened to scram to another state if the tax is passed, and to take all 70 jobs with it. There also was lobbying by the American Lung Association of the Middle Atlantic, but that organization, the story indicated, was outspent by the tobacco interests by a ratio of more than 32 to one. On past occasions, I have opposed proposals to increase the state cigarette tax, but that is only because a high tax on cigarettes benefits only one special interest organized crime outfits that smuggle untaxed cigarettes from other states. Three years ago, for example, I noted that the tax gap between Pennsylvania and South Carolina can result in a profit of $614,400 on a single truckload of untaxed cigarettes. Unrealistically high cigarette taxes profit only gangsters, which, I suspect, is why some politicians favor them. When every state except Pennsylvania is taxing cigars and spit tobacco, however, the smuggling motive is a little weak. On the other hand, think of the economic benefits to the Lehigh Valley if Allentown, Bethlehem and Easton could lure some of the $14 billion pornography business away from Canoga Park, Chatsworth and Van Nuys. Maybe we can get Grucela, Reichley and Beyer to introduce legislation to exempt porn peddlers from paying taxes. I bet pornographers would be very generous when it was time for lobbying or political campaign contributions. Some people get in a tizzy over porn, especially kiddie porn, but I don't see how it's more harmful than exposing children to cigars and spit tobacco. (Spit tobacco killed Babe Ruth and countless other baseball players since, and many youngsters still emulate their horrid habit.) Furthermore, porn, in the main, is something that results in private behaviors. It does not fill the air with an ungodly stench or cover sidewalks with filthy brown slime. Puritans may find pornography obnoxious, but they do not have to contend with it against their will.

And just think of the thousands of jobs and other benefits if the Lehigh Valley became the pornography capital of America. That, naturally, would surely attract other related industries. We could be the new Silicone Valley. '

Ok, here's where the debate on morals comes in. Yes, ciggies cause alot of health problems....breathing issues, cancer, etc. They are by fact bad things. But pornography is much worse because it promotes behaviours which are destructive and exploitative. The people who work in the porn industry live lives of open sex, drugs, including smoking, drinking, and hard drugs, disease - sexually transmitted and moral disease. they also help promote the idea that using your body for sex is ok, and that to watch others doing an act which should be only between two people as being ok. Porn is not intended to treat to the mind of the respectful who are aware that love is not just 'hitting the sheets and getting a good screw in'. some pornography includes sex with animals such as dogs and horses. this is less destructive than ciggies? get real. pornography helps promote the ideas that the flesh should be favoured over respect, and true love which is NOT sexual in nature, but instead is about respecting, caring about, and teaching others to live better and be better human beings, pure and simple. you don't need to be religious to know this. it's common sense. sexual romance is only an enhancement to romantic love which is a branch of the afformentioned, and should never be publicly viewable. it sounds like paul himself may be addicted to porn, better check his computer! http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Ethnicity_of_performers_in_pornography Asian men Lack of Asian American heterosexual male performers in the genre or Western pornography in general is notable. Unlike their female counterparts who remain among the most popular presences within the IR genre and pornography. Although there are a number of Asian male porn stars in the UK, and the U.S. and Japan produces a number of videos, and websites catering to this genre. Interracial porn featuring an Asian men and White women often falls under the category of AMWF for Asian Male White Female. A number of scholars have written specifically about this subject in regards to a larger history of Western emasculationmost notably University of California, Davis professor, Darrell Hamamoto.[3] Asian women Frequently portrayed in pairing with white men, as sexually willing or submissive. Western film and literature has promoted stereotypes of Asian women, often depicting Asian women as cunning and seductive "Dragon Ladies",[4] as servile "Lotus Blossom Babies", "Innocent School Girls" in private school uniforms, "China dolls", "Geisha girls", war brides, or prostitutes.[5] Japanese media have also at times sensationalistically promoted the stereotype of Japanese women overseas as "yellow cabs".[6] Black performers Large penis size in Black men is consistently emphasized in pornography, often by exclusively casting actors with larger than average penises such as Lexington Steele, Kid Bengala, Jack Napier and Mandingo. Men are treated to stereotypes of gang affiliation, working class labor, and are overrepresented in gang rape fetish films. Also, they are represented as overly aggressive and demanding, and are performing with white women. Similarly, black women are often portrayed with

large breast and buttocks, or 'booty'. They normally play a submissive role while performing with a white male. Latinos and Hispanics Pornography tends to stereotype Hispanic women as feisty, "hot and spicy Latinas", sexy Seoritas, with a high sex drive and low impulse control. Many are portrayed as maids, illegal immigrants to the United States, or unfaithful wives.[7] Since Latinos and Hispanics can be of any race (many are white Hispanic Americans, Mestizos etc.), cultural characteristics are sometimes portrayed via iconic items like South and Central American national costumes, sombreros, maracas, or Mexican dresses. White women Frequently portrayed as lascivious and submissive. Eastern European women are predominantly portrayed as fantastically beautiful and sexy but cheap hussies. Their bodily depiction is usually very thin and curvy. Especially in Germany is the latest cultural development involved, since the Iron Curtain disappeared, and people were able to visit the cheap neighboring countries' prostitution.[8] this bag of shit defies explanation.... http://forumnewsgroup.blogspot.com/2009/03/teacher-sent-sex-videos-to-three.html Teacher Sent Sex Videos to Three Students Will Surrender Teaching License and Register as Sex Offender A former English teacher at MS 137 in the South Ozone Park has admitted to sending sexual videos and electronic messages to three of his 12-year-old female students. The defendant has admitted to sending indecent messages and pictures to several of his students during his first teaching assignment, said DA Richard Brown. This case should serve as a clear and unmistakable warning that law enforcement is prepared to apprehend and prosecute those who attempt to engage in illicit activity involving children. The defendant was identified as Umesh Ramjattan, 24, of 91-71 115th Street in Richmond Hill. He appeared before Acting Queens Supreme Court Justice Ira Margulis and plead guilty to disseminating indecent material to minors in the first degree. As part of his plea, Ramjattan, who has been free on $50,000 bail since his arraignment on November 9, 2007, will surrender his New York State teaching license, forfeit his computer and be required to register as a sex offender. The Department of Education has terminated Ramjattan. Justice Margulis set sentencing for April 20, 2009, at which time he indicated that he would likely sentence Ramjattan to five years probation one condition being the successful completion of the sex offenders program he presently attends. District Attorney Brown said that, according to the charges, one of Ramjattans female seventh-grade students at MS 137 in Ozone Park sent an e-mail in September of 2007, to e-mail address he had provided the class. Soon thereafter, Ramjattan began Instant Messaging her with questions that were both sexually suggestive and of a personal nature. In October, he sent her a video of he and his girlfriend having sexual intercourse.

A second female student who e-mailed the defendant about homework began receiving instant messages from him through his AOL account on September 29, 2007, that contained questions of a personal nature and that. In early October she received a picture of the defendant not wearing a shirt. A third female student who e-mailed the defendant began receiving instant messages from the defendant through his AOL account that were both personal and sexual in nature. District Attorney Brown said that an investigation began when the parents of one of the students notified school authorities that Ramjattan had e-mailed a sexual video to their daughter and the school, in turn, notified the police. a singh was caught doing dirty chats with a 12 year old. it's a shame that he was very nice looking, but he also has done some extremely shameful acts, and like so many who do wrong - think he was perfectly ok in his actions. also, a video on disrpect of gurbani. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1XdAc7n0ywU http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hqrVIcEtBMc&feature=related http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Bo0QritmJtI&feature=related http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=oPVG2dt8tS0&feature=related

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=byxuJJOPSMA&feature=related http://in.news.yahoo.com/uk-court-told-asian-gang-man-raped-13073809789.html;_ylt=AuC35D0LviKo9KsN35HJxNnQscB_;_ylu=X3oDMTN1Y240N2ZxBGNjb2Rl A3ZzaGFyZWFnMnVwcmVzdARwa2cDMDc4N2VlZWQtMzQyMC0zNzRlLWE1YjktZmNjNGMz NWVlYmJkBHBvcwMxBHNlYwNuZXdzX2Zvcl95b3UEdmVyAzcyYmUyYTUwLTk4YjYtMTFlM C1hZWJmLWJhOTEzZDM2YmY2Nw--;_ylg=X3oDMTJ0cG9uM2hsBGludGwDaW4EbGFuZwNlbi 1pbgRwc3RhaWQDMTFiNWIwYzMtOGM2Ni0zZDMwLTg0ZDctMjk5ZGU0NWU3ZmJiBHBzdG NhdAN3b3JsZHxhc2lhBHB0A3N0b3J5cGFnZQ--;_ylv=3 http://www.punjabnewsline.com/content/view/4405/38/ Uzbekistan woman married to Punjabi alleges harrassment VERINDER SAREEN Tuesday, 05 June 2007 Pulatova Nargiza, NAWANSHEHAR: An Uzbekistan woman, Pulatova Nargiza, 26, married to a local resident Harminder Kumar, has approached the district administration here seeking to get justice and charged her husband for fraud and maltreatment.

Narrating her tale of woes in a written submission to the Additional Deputy Commissioner Nawanshahr in the weekly 'Jan Sampark' programme of the administration here Tuesday, the woman said that she had married Harminder Kumar who used to visit Uzbekistan in connection with his business in 2002. Two girls-5 and 2 years old- were born out of this wedlock. Sometime after their marriage, according to Pulatova, Harminder asked her to sell all her property in her country and accompany with him to India. She followed the advice of her husband and sold all her property there and came to India to live with him. Here in India, they purchased a house and two cars with the sale proceeds from her property, said Pulatova, adding that after sometime, her husband started quarrelling and maltreating her and one day while she was accompanying him to Nawanshahr to visit his parents, her husband allegedly beat her up on the way which led to some injuries to her teeth. She has already filed a report with Balachaur police in this regard, said the Uzbekistan woman who further accused her husband of even maltreating her children. She even accused her husband of having married another woman and even staying with her in Chandigarh. Wearing the traditional Punjabi dress Salwar-Kameez, Pulatova Nagriza who can speak six other languages other than Punjabi, added that last Monday she approached the local office of the NRI Sabha and narrated her tale. The Sabha promised help and asked her to stay with a family in Malpur Arkan, near here. In fact, the Malpur Arkan family and the Sarpanch and a panch of Kariha village accompanied her here today when she appeared before the ADC. Besides seeking justice for herself and her children, she has expressed her desire to go back to her country. For this she has requested that their passports, marriage certificate and the birth certificates of their children which were allegedly in possession of her husband, be made available to her. Currently on a five year visa to India, Pulatova told media persons that she had earlier stayed in India from 2002 to 2004. They returned to India for good in November 2006. Interestingly, parents-in-law of Pulatova too were present when the Uzbekistan woman made her representation. Her father-in-law Chand Kishan, resident of Kothi Road here, in his representation said that he had already disinherited his son way back in 1990s. "In the NRI Sabha I had agreed to provide for three tickets and 1,000 American dollars in cash in order to ensure the safe return of my daughter-in-law and her two daughters," said Chand Kishan, adding that her daughter-in-law instead chose to stay with the Malpur Arkan family on the advice of some NRI Sabha members. Meanwhile SSP B.Chander Shekhar to whom the case was sent by the ADC, after listening to the tale of the affected woman, asked DSP Nawanshahr Dilbagh Singh Pannu to enquire in to the matter and report and meanwhile arrange for sending the woman and her children to Nariniketan in Jalandhar after approaching SDM Nawanshahr in the matter. this is another example of what happens when western bitches decide to marry eastern men and why it's wrong http://articles.nydailynews.com/2011-03-03/news/28669540_1_facebook-police-departments-ktla A 13-year-old girl reported missing by her parents was really trying to escape an arranged marriage in Pakistan, police said Wednesday. Jessie Bender's folks told authorities last month their daughter ran off because she didn't want to go on

a two-month family trip to her step-father's native country. They then falsely claimed she was abducted by someone she met on Facebook, officials said. However, after weeks of investigating leads that wrangled the FBI, the U.S. Marshals Office and police departments nationwide, authorities say it was all a lie. "Bender family members misled detectives and withheld critical information," San Bernardino County Sheriff's Department spokeswoman Roxanne Walker said in a news release. Police soon discovered that another family member had helped the young teen hide out in Apple Valley, about 30 miles from her hometown of Hesperia in Southern California, to avoid becoming a Pakistani man's bride. http://www.nydailynews.com/img/2011/03/04/alg_jesse_parents.jpg Jessie Bender's parents, Melissa the white hideous slut and Mohammad asshole Khan. (KTLA) Bender, as well as her three siblings, were taken into child protective custody while authorities decide whether to recommend filing charges against her family, San Bernardino County sheriff's spokeswoman Cindy Bachman said. "All of the information that was obtained by investigators will be sent to the district attorney's office for review," she said. The parents' claim that she had been kidnapped sparked a nationwide investigation, involving both local and federal agencies. At one point, a person in Chicago was considered a suspect in her disappearance because the girl's mother, a dirty, hideous white slut named Melissa, believed she had been communicating with him via Facebook. "He was the last person she spoke to at 1:47 in the morning," she told KTLA last month, speaking with her husband, Mohammad Khan. "I don't know who he is ... He claims that he doesn't have her, but I don't believe it." With News Wire Services msheridan@nydailynews.com; or follow him at Twitter.com/NYDNSheridan http://www.siasat.com/english/news/unhappily-married-pak-men-prey-white-girls http://www.defence.pk/forums/members-club/91628-unhappily-married-pak-men-prey-white-girls.html Unhappily married Pak men prey on white girls Islamabad, January 31: A seniour Muslim politician in the UK has blamed unhappy arranged marriages between cousins for leading some Pakistani men to prey on white girls to fulfil their sexual needs. Rotherhams Lord Nazir Ahmed, Britains first Muslim peer, is the first politician to make a link

between first- cousin marriages and sex crimes by Pakistani men. He has spoken out after a spate of highprofile court cases where groups of Asian men have been sentenced for grooming white girls as young as 12. Lord Ahmed, who wants an end to cousin marriages, said: They are forced into marriages and they are not happy. They are married to girls from overseas who they dont have anything in common with, and they have children and a family. But they are looking for fun in their sexual activities and seek out vulnerable girls. He said Asian men resort to abusing young white girls because they do not want meaningful relationships with adult white women. An adult woman if you are having an affair would want your time, money and for you to break up your marriage, the peer added. His comments come weeks after former British foreign secretary Jack Straw provoked outrage by saying that some Pakistani men look at white girls as easy meat for sexual abuse. Labour peer Lord Ahmed said: I get a lot of criticism from Asian people who ask, How can you say this about Asian men? But they must wake up and realise there is a problem. I am deeply worried about this as it has happened in my own backyard, and in Rochdale and Bradford. This didnt happen in my or my fathers generation. This is happening among young Asians. While I respect individual choice, I think the community needs to look at marriages in the UK rather than cousin marriages or economic marriages from abroad. Studies have shown that 55 per cent of British Pakistanis marry their first cousins, usually from abroad. First- cousin marriages among other British Muslim groups such as Bangladeshis or Indians are less prevalent. Earlier this month, two ringleaders of a Pakistani gang in Derby were given indeterminate jail terms for grooming 26 white girls aged between 12 and 18 after plying them with alcohol and drugs. Mohammed Liaqat, 28, and Abid Saddique, 27, were jailed for a minimum of 11 and eight years respectively for charges which included rape. Both had wives through arranged marriages. In Rotherham, a gang of five Asian men were jailed in November for grooming white girls as young as 12. Since 1997, 56 people with an average age of 28 have been convicted of offences related to on- street grooming of girls aged 11 to 16. Of these, three were white and the rest Asian, of whom 50 were Muslim, with the majority British Pakistani. A UK home office spokesperson said: We should not jump to form conclusions about national patterns of offending without further analysis. http://www.siasat.com/english/news/unhappily-married-pak-men-prey-white-girls

http://www.google.com/search?rlz=1C1SKPM_enUS448US448&sourceid=chrome&ie=UTF8&q=jessie+bender London, June 17 (ANI): A member of an Asian gang, who sold white girls for sex, raped a vulnerable 13-year-old, a court has heard. del Ali, 23, lived in "a traditional Pakistani household" and was due to have an arranged marriage, it was said. But behind that veneer, he preyed on young white girls who were groomed for sex and prostituted to dozens of Asian men, the Stafford Crown Court was told.he Sun quoted Prosecutor Deborah Gould, as saying that Ali, who called himself Eddie, deliberately identified and targeted the 13-year-old because she had a difficult family life.e befriended her then allegedly raped her in his car in Telford, Shrops, after giving her vodka and cannabis. Ali and eight other Asian men from Telford deny charges including sex trafficking, under-age sex and rape. They are on trial for 55 charges, including inciting child prostitution, sexual abuse and rape. Six of the nine accused men are married and one is a grandfather, the Daily Mail reports. Three of the men - Ahdel Ali, 23, his brother Mubarek Ali, 28, and Tanveer Ahmed, 39 - allegedly acted as 'pimps', passing two of the young girls among their friends and using them as sexual commodities between 2007 and 2009. "The Crown say that the men in the dock variously trafficked, raped or sexually abused girls both over and under the age of 16 years over a considerable period of time" Deborah Gould, prosecuting, was quoted as saying by the Daily Mail. Gould has told the Stafford Crown Court where the trail is taking place that the case was "not about race, religion, colour or creed." The girls were said to have received cash, alcohol, drugs, meals and mobile phone credit in exchange for sex with some of the accused. The men on trial - who all used Western nicknames - are Ahdel Ali, Mubarek Ali, Mohammed Ali Sultan, 24, Tanveer Ahmed, Mahroof Khan, 33, Noshad Hussain, 21, Mohammed Islam Choudhrey, 52, Mohammed Younis and Abdul Rouf. All the accused were arrested during police raids across Manchester in December 2009. The trial continues. (ANI) http://www.boston.com/news/local/massachusetts/articles/2010/05/23/3_detainees_gained_path_by_ma rriage/ At first, the Colorado woman agreed to marry him. Then she changed her mind. So Aftab Ali Khan, her

would-be husband from Pakistan, swiftly married someone else. Related content More coverage of the Mass. terror raids More coverage of the Mass. terror raids * 3 under investigation had wed US women * 2 in Pakistan proud of ties to N.Y. suspect Today, Khan is one of three Pakistani men being held in New England jails on immigration charges as part of the investigation into the failed Times Square bombing. In the still-unfolding investigation, much remains a mystery about the three mens ties to the Pakistaniborn suspect, Faisal Shahzad. The government has said the three men may have handled informal money transfers for the failed bomber, and that one of them had his cellphone number in his phone. But authorities have not filed criminal charges against any of the men, and have not said whether they believe the men were aware of the plot. The three men followed different paths, yet share something striking in common: All three recently married American women, whose lives have now been turned upside down. Their cases add an unusual twist to a familiar story of immigrants legalizing their status through marriage. Investigators accuse Khan of offering $5,000 to the Colorado woman to go ahead with the marriage, and they say he paid a 29-year-old Cambridge woman, Lila-Charlotte Fatou Sylla, to marry him instead. Speaking publicly for the first time, Sylla told the Globe on Friday night that a relative who has known Khans family for years introduced her to Khan after he was jilted in Colorado last August and moved to Watertown. Sylla, an African dance instructor, had three small children and was on her own. He was coming from a heartbreak, Sylla said, and she began dating him. He was appreciative of different cultures, music, and different kinds of food. I liked him. I thought he was a really nice guy with potential for things to grow from it. After the marriage they drifted apart, and they never lived together, Sylla said. She said Khan gave her money for bills and other expenses, and gifts for special occasions, but nothing lavish. What I really want people to know is it wasnt some stranger offering me money, Sylla said. Khans roommate and distant cousin, Boston taxi driver Pir Khan, was also arrested. In 2008, Pir Khan married a woman about half his age who friends say he often visited at her separate home in Maine. She too has been grilled by investigators. The third man detained, Mohammad Shafiq Rahman, a computer programmer, married an artist 11 years his senior in March. By all accounts he is devoted to her and lives with her in an apartment in

South Portland, Maine. She now fears that her family will be tainted by the case, a neighbor said. Look at this ugly slut! http://cache.boston.com/resize/bonzai-fba/Globe_Photo/2010/05/22/1274583463_6011/300h.jpg this is Rebecca May Barry n she is half pir khan's age! Immigration lawyers see this all the time people getting accused of having a fake marriage, or people who have a fake marriage, said Joshua Goldstein, a Boston immigration lawyer. A lot of people dont understand exactly how serious it is. For years, the closest that Aftab Ali Khan came to US soil was the army base in Kuwait, where he managed the delivery of food and other supplies as a convoy commander for a Kuwaiti firm, Public Warehousing Co. He met an American soldier, Sharon Jeffcott, a motor transport operator from Colorado Springs. She left Kuwait in August 2008, agreed to marry him, and submitted the paperwork for a 90-day fianc visa that allowed him to come to the United States. But she later told Khan she had found someone else and no longer wanted to marry him, a federal agent testified in US Immigration Court in Boston last week. Khan came to the United States anyway last August, and showed up on her doorstep in Colorado, Michael McGonigle, a special agent for US Immigration and Customs Enforcement, told an immigration judge. When she refused to go ahead with the wedding, Khan grew upset and offered her $5,000 for the marriage, the agent testified, but she still refused. Khans lawyer disputes that account and says Khan quit his job and uprooted his life for Jeffcott, only to be rebuked. Aftab Khan made his way to Watertown to stay with Pir Khan. On Nov. 17, the day his fianc visa expired, Aftab Khan married Sylla at Cambridge City Hall. After Aftab Kahns arrest, McGonigle said, Sylla spoke to agents, indicating it was a fraudulent marriage that she had entered into primarily for financial gain. He said she admitted taking a series of payments from Khan totaling $1,500 to $2,000. A government lawyer also disclosed during the hearing that Shahzads cellphone number was found stored in Khans cellphone and his name and number were written on an envelope found in Khans bedroom during the search of the Watertown apartment. Sylla told the Globe that she and Khan were introduced by family and I felt comfortable that he was a nice guy, and on the up and up, and thats why I had any kind of dealings with him from the beginning. She said Khan was not an extreme person at all. I think he just really wanted to work and live a life . . . The people around him didnt seem sketchy or fishy. She said the tall, athletic 27-yearold young man was very gentle. Sylla said she is frightened and admits she made a bad decision. FBI agents have taken her computer and bank records. I think its just a lesson learned on my part about rushing into things and not really getting to know a

person beforehand and being naive, she said. Pir Khan, a 43-year-old cousin of Aftabs, also married an American bride: Rebecca May Barry, who was 22 when they married in December 2008. In many ways, she seemed an unlikely match for Pir, who hails from a conservative city in northwest Pakistan. In September 2008, three months before her wedding to Khan, Barry was arrested and charged with disorderly conduct by Auburn police for a fight with another woman on a city street, according to Auburn police logs. Last year, she had two car accidents in Maine while driving his 1990 grey Honda. Both times, she gave police Pir Khans Watertown address as her own. But his friends said she spent most of her time in Maine, and saw him on the weekends. Sher Wahab, Khans former business partner, said he had no idea how Khan and Barry met, but said the two had a good relationship. Her MySpace page shows photos of the couple dressed in what appear to be wedding clothes, with the caption: Had to make him smile cant be so serious all the time!!!! In another photo, she is kissing his forehead, with the caption: smoochin. At a hearing Tuesday in Khans case, Barry shed tears and avoided reporters who tried to talk to her. The US Government says Khan had declared on immigration documents filed in 1994 that he had been married in Pakistan and had a child. But Macarius said Khan told him he had never formally married the woman, and that she had died in 2001. The marriage to Barry may have given Khan, who entered the country illegally in 1991 and was appealing the denial of his 1994 asylum application, a new avenue to pursue citizenship. He had worked for years at a pizza parlor, a gas station, and his own cab company. But just as he was planning to return to Pakistan, as required to legalize his status in the United States, FBI agents raided his Watertown home. In March, Sara Boutet, a 44-year-old artist from Saco, Maine, married Mohammad Shafiq Rahman, a 33-year-old computer programmer. Sara Rahman, who has five kids from two previous marriages, invited her parents to serve as the witnesses. http://www.google.com/#hl=en&source=hp&q=jihad+jane+colleen+larose&aq=f&aqi=&aql=&oq=&f p=35897877ebb6f45 it's a white bitch who converted to islam, and was caught for trying to help the jihad. there needs to be soemthing done abput westerners who convert to eastern religions and marry eastern guys, or even who simply marry eastern guys.....whether or not they convert to the eastern religion because they are having more and more connections to bad things, and their actions are a warning sign that something not right is going on. she was from texas and moved to philadelphia.....and SHE HAD A NORMAL AMERICAN BOYFRIEND NAMED KURT GORMAN! these western girls who marry eastern guys

all have double lives, hiding immoral secrets from others, so they can succee in ill gains. and see this about the whore she was going to marry a saudi so she could carry out her acts http://allah4ever.hi5.com/friend/profile/displayProfile.do?userid=173838258 and he seriously is stupid enough to think the slut loved him! http://mypetjawa.mu.nu/archives/201478.php http://donthavekids.files.wordpress.com/2009/02/hippies.jpg?w=433&h=432 http://in.news.yahoo.com/indians-held-british-sham-marriage-150458092.html London, Feb 1 (IANS) A sham double wedding collapsed when one of the bogus brides was unable to identify the Indian man she was due to marry, Daily Mail reported Wednesday. The registrar had become suspicious when he was asked to marry two Lithuanian women to two Indian men. All involved in the crime were given prison sentences. His initial fears were confirmed when the couples turned up at the register office and were unable to communicate with their betrothed. Immigration officers were called and the whole wedding party was arrested, together with the organiser who had set them up. On Tuesday, a court was told that Indian-born Manpreet Singh, 27, and Jasbir Singh, 21, had arranged to marry Lithuanian girls Oskana Alexsandraviciute, 27, and Sandra Beleckaite, 21, at Wrexham register office. By marrying two European residents, the Indian men would have been allowed to remain in Britain. As the couples waited for the ceremony, it became clear that neither bride nor groom spoke the same language and could not understand each other. Tipped off by the register office, immigration officials swooped and asked one of the Lithuanian 'brides' to point out her husband-to-be. When she identified the wrong man, the whole group was arrested on the spot, the Mail said. Manpreet Singh and Jasbir Singh were jailed for 12 months and 11 months, respectively, while their two 'brides', Alexsandraviciute and Beleckaite, all from Wolverhampton, were jailed for 304 days each - meaning they walked free due to time spent on remand. Organiser Jaspal Sahota, 51, a respected community elder, was jailed for two years and two months.

The Indian men will be deported when they have served their sentences. this sums up what westerners see as eastern culture. what a bunch of asshats. Most of us brown folk have been subjected to relentless teasing by assholes about the "red dot" worn by (allegedly) all Indian women on their forehead. Some of us who are not Hindu had to explain the significance of the red dot to these ignoramuses while listening to queries that ranged for the stupid "Is it tattooed on the women when they are born?" to the obscene "Is that so you Indian men can aim where to shoot your load?" So today, when you see Christians of any race walking around with Ash on their foreheads stop them and say "Um, hey, you have dirt on your forehead, did you forget to take a bath today?" If they try to explain what the ash signifies, feign disinterest and say something like "Whoa, Whoa, easy there fella, I dont understand you crazy voodoo religion, I just wanted to point out that you had some dirt on your face." http://www.turbanhead.com/weblog/page/84/ http://www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/article-1370909/You-dark-skinned-girls-TV-ads-Indias-modelscountrys-fashion-industry-STILL-champions-fair-skin.html 'You never see dark-skinned girls in TV ads': India's top models on how the country's fashion industry STILL champions fair skin By Jennifer Madison Last updated at 1:00 AM on 29th March 2011 Two top Indian models have spoken out against what they believe is racism against darker-skinned women in the country's fashion industry. Dipannita Sharma and Carol Gracias say they are losing out on top jobs because an increasing amount of Indian designers are casting lighter-skinned models. Ms Sharma said that the whole country was so 'obsessed' with fair skin, that a shift in attitude would take years. Losing out: Supermodels Carol Gracias (left) and Dipannita Sharma (right) say India's fashion industry continues to favour fair-skinned girls Losing out: Supermodels Carol Gracias (left) and Dipannita Sharma (right) say India's fashion industry continues to favour fair-skinned girls Losing out: Supermodels Carol Gracias (left) and Dipannita Sharma (right) say India's fashion industry continues to favour fair-skinned girls The 35-year-old, who is also a television star, told The Telegraph: 'It's not just the fashion industry, India per se is obsessed with white skin. 'We will take another hundred years to completely get over it.' She continued: 'The industry doesn't openly agree that preferring foreign models over Indian models just for the skin tone is racism. It has some kind of fairness obsession.'

More... * Six decades of the glass ceiling: From bottom pinching to power dressing... a revealing snapshot of how women have evolved at work 'One could have understood, if it was about getting supermodels of international fame or to work in India but that's not happening, it's just they want fairer skin on the Indian ramps.' Ms Gracias echoed her fellow model in an interview with the Hindustan Times. She revealed that she makes just $1,000 per runway show compared to top international models like Kate Moss and Adriana Lima, who can command between $20,000 and $150,000. She explained: 'The major reason for this wide gap is that Indian models are not valued so much when it comes to commercial projects.' 'You never see a dark-skinned girl on TV ads and that's where the lucrative work is.' A fair debate: Editors of Elle magazine were accused of digitally lightening Aishwarya Rai Bachchan's skin for its December 2010 cover A fair debate: Editors of Elle magazine were accused of digitally lightening Aishwarya Rai Bachchan's skin for its December 2010 cover 'Everyone uses fair-skinned girls, people use skin-lighteners like Fair and Lovely. I don't - maybe I would have been fair and lovely by now.' Pranab Awasti, of Delhi's Glitz Modelling agency, attributed the controversial issue to the country's 200-year history under British colonial rule. He told the Hindustan Times: 'Indians in general have that inferiority complex, we have had a hangover about fair skin, since the British left India. 'The idea of fairness is an Indian concept and it needs to change. It is an inherent thing in Indians to see white as beautiful and black as ugly... we have this concept in our minds that only fair-skinned people can be models.' Others argue in an industry that worships size-zero, skin colour is not an issue and most local models are simply too curvy to make the cut. Runway choreographer Tanya Lefebvre said: 'The girls are not tall enough and have varying body shapes.' Skin lightening controversy is not new for the Indian fashion industry. Editors of Elle India were accused digitally lightening the skin colour of Bollywood star Aishwarya Rai Bachchan for the magazine's December 2010 issue, reigniting the decades-long debate.

Read more: http://www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/article-1370909/You-dark-skinned-girls-TV-ads-Indiasmodels-countrys-fashion-industry-STILL-champions-fair-skin.html#ixzz1HxQdF9Dc big shaibosh to aish rai for standing up for what's right! 3 cheers! http://in.movies.yahoo.com/news-detail/109946/Fashion-magazine-in-trouble-whitening-AishwaryaRai.html By India Abroad Friday Dec 24 7:05 PM London, Dec 24 (IANS) Fashion magazine Elle is being accused of stirring up a race row following alleged digital lightening of Bollywood star Aishwarya Rai's skin for the glamourous cover page. The 37-year-old, who achieved global popularity after winning the Miss World crown in 1994 and following it up with films like 'Bride -Prejudice' and 'The Pink Panther 2', appears on the cover of this month's Indian edition of the magazine. Though Aishwarya looks picture perfect in a flowing gown and a stunning hairdo, readers started reacting with fury after it was suggested that the fashion magazine might have used digital technology to enhance her complexion, reports dailymail.co.uk. Inside the magazine, she is pictured in a series of shots with light skin. However, fans have been posting angry comments online about the latest cover. One comment read: 'It's -annoying because it seems like lighter skin is always in fashion as if darker skin is -something to be frowned upon.' Colour discrimination is quite a sensitive issue in India, and it is often percieved that those with a lighter complexion are more successful and wealthy. Inter-ethnic marriage in Southeast Asia dates back to the spread of Indian culture, Hinduism and Buddhism to the region. From the 1st century onwards, mostly male traders and merchants from the Indian subcontinent frequently intermarried with the local female populations in Cambodia, Burma, Champa, central Siam, the Malay Peninsula, and Malay Archipelago. Many Indianized kingdoms arose in Southeast Asia during the Middle Ages.[43] From the 9th century onwards, a large number of mostly male Arab traders from the Middle East settled down in the Malay Peninsula and Malay Archipelago, and they intermarried with the local Malay, Indonesian and Filipina female populations. This contributed to the spread of Islam in Southeast Asia.[44] From the 14th to the 17th centuries, many Chinese, Indian and Arab traders settled down within the maritime kingdoms of Southeast Asia and intermarried with the local female populations. This tradition continued among Portuguese traders who also intermarried with the local populations. [45] In the 16th and 17th centuries, thousands of Japanese people also travelled to Southeast Asia and intermarried with the local women there.[46] The white men who sailed to Asia in the 16th century left a generation of mixed-race offspring that, at the high point of empire building, was more than one-million strong.[47] Some 100,000 Amerasians stayed in Vietnam after the fall of Saigon.[48] During and after the Indonesian National Revolution

(19451965) around 300,000 people, pre-dominantly Eurasians, left Indonesia to go to the Netherlands. [49] In the 19th century and early 20th century, there was a network of Chinese prostitutes being trafficked across Asia, in countries such as China, Japan, Korea, Singapore and British India, in what was then known as the Yellow Slave Traffic. There was also a network of prostitutes from continental Europe being trafficked to India, Ceylon, Singapore, China and Japan at around the same time, in what was then known as the White Slave Traffic.[50] Rangoon, Burma. August 8, 1945. A young ethnic Chinese woman who was in one of the Imperial Japanese Army's "comfort women" is interviewed by an Allied officer. During World War II, Japanese soldiers engaged in war rape during their invasions across East Asia and Southeast Asia. The term "comfort women" is a euphemism for the estimated 200,000, mostly Korean and Chinese, women who were forced into prostitution in Japanese military brothels during World War II.[51] Some Dutch women, captured in Dutch colonies in Asia, were also forced into sexual slavery. [52] Sex tourism has emerged in the late 20th century as a controversial aspect of Western tourism and globalization. Sex tourism is typically undertaken internationally by tourists from wealthier countries. Author Nils Ringdal alleged that three out of four men between the ages of 20 and 50 who have visited Asia or Africa have paid for sex.[53] [edit] China There have been various periods in the history of China where large numbers of Arabs, Persians and Turks from the "Western Regions" (Central Asia and West Asia) migrated to China, beginning with the arrival of Islam during the Tang Dynasty in the 7th century. Due to the majority of these immigrants being male, they often intermarried with local Chinese females. While intermarriage was initially discouraged by the Tang Dynasty, it was later encouraged during the Song Dynasty, which allowed third-generation immigrants with official titles to intermarry with Chinese imperial princesses. Immigration to China increased under the Mongol Empire, when large numbers of West and Central Asians were brought over to help govern Yuan China in the 13th century.[54] Iranian, Arab, and Turkic women also migrated to China and mixed with Chinese. Iranian women as dancers were in demand in China during this period. During the Sui dynasty, ten young dancing girls were sent from Persia to China. During the Tang dynasty bars were often attended by Iranian or Sogdian waitresses who performed dances for clients.[55][56][57][58][59][60][61][62][63][64][65][66] During the Five Dynasties and Ten Kingdoms Period (Wudai) (907-960), Chinese emperors preferred to marry Persian women. Chinese from Song Dynasty official families preferred to marry women from Dashi (Arabia).[67] Of the Han Chinese Li family in Quanzhou, Li Nu, the son of Li Lu, visited Hormuz in Persia in 1376, married a Persian or an Arab girl, and brought her back to Quanzhou. He then converted to Islam, Li Nu was the ancestor of the Ming Dynasty reformer Li Chih.[68][69][70] By the 14th century, the total population of Muslims in China had grown to 4 million.[71] After Mongol rule had been overthrown by the Ming Dynasty in 1368, this led to a violent Chinese backlash against West and Central Asians. In order to contain the violence, the Ming administration instituted a policy where all West and Central Asian males were required to intermarry with native Chinese

females, hence assimilating them into the local population. Their descendants are today known as the Hui people.[54] Han women who married Hui men became Hui, and Han men who married Hui women also became Hui.[72][73][74] In the frontier districts of Sichuan, numerous half Chinese-Tibetans were found. Tibetan women were glad to marry Chinese traders and soldiers.[75] Some Chinese traders married Tibetan girls.[76] The only Chinese allowed in Tibet during Imperial times, Traders and officials, were men, and were forbidden to bring Chinese women with them, so they had to marry Tibetan women, the male offspring where considered Chinese and female offspring as Tibetan.[77][78][79][80][81] Special names were used for these children of Chinese fathers and Tibetan mothers.[82] They usually assimilated into the Tibetan population.[83] Chinese and Nepalese in Tibet married Tibetan women.[84] In Qinghai, premarital sex between Tibetan girls and Han Chinese was common, some Tibetan girls boasted of their sexual conquests of Han Chinese boys.[85] Dolkar, a Tibetan girl working as a guard at Drapchi Prison married a Chinese.[86] Tibetan girls were also curious about sexual differences between Chinese and Tibetan men, and they stripped the pants off a Chinese to see his penis.[87] Chinese men also married Turkic Uyghur women in Xinjiang from 1880-1949. Sometimes poverty influenced Uyghur women to marry Chinese. These marriages were not recognized by local mullahs since Muslims women were not allowed to marry non Muslim men under Islamic law. This did not stop the women because they enjoyed advantages, not being subject to Islamic law and they were not subjected to certain taxes. Uyghur women married to Chinese also did not have to wear a veil and they received their husband's property upon his death. These women were forbidden from having burial in Muslim graves. The children of Chinese men and Uyghur women were considered as Uyghur. Some Chinese soldiers had Uyghur women as temporary wives, and after the man's military service was up, the wife was left behind or sold, and if it was possible, sons were taken, and daughters were sold.[88] European travellers noted that many Han Chinese in Xinjiang married Uyghur (who were called turki) women and had children with them. A Chinese was spotted with a "young" and "good looking" Uyghur wife and another Chinese left behind his Uyghur wife and child in Khotan.[89][90][91][92][93][94] [95] After 1950, some intermarriage between Han and Uyghur continued. A Han married a Uyghur woman in 1966 and had three daughters with her, and other cases on intermarriage also continued.[96][97] [edit] Hong Kong South Asians have been living in Hong Kong throughout the colonial period, before the partition of India into the nations of India and Pakistan. They migrated to Hong Kong and worked as police officers as well as army officers during colonial rule. 25,000 of the Muslims in Hong Kong trace their roots back to what is now Pakistan. Around half of them belong to 'local boy' families, Muslims of mixed Chinese and South Asian ancestry, descended from early Indian/Pakistani Muslim immigrants who took local Chinese wives and brought their children up as Muslims.[98][99] [edit] Indian subcontinent Question book-new.svg This section needs additional citations for verification. Please help improve this article by adding reliable references. Unsourced material may be challenged and removed. (May 2010)

The Indian actress Katrina Kaif is the daughter of an Indian father and a British (English) mother. "Lakm", the Opera deals with the romantic relationship between a British Officer and an Indian Brahmin woman. An oil painting of Khair-un-Nissa by George Chinnery. c. 1805. Begum Khair-un-Nissa was a Muslim Indian Hyderabadi noblewoman who fell in love and married the British Lieutenant Colonel James Achilles Kirkpatrick. The Indian subcontinent has a long history of inter-ethnic marriage dating back to ancient history. Various groups of people have been intermarrying for millennia in South Asia, including groups as diverse as the Dravidian, Indo-Aryan, Iranian, Austro-Asiatic and Tibeto-Burman peoples. Invading Macedonians, Greeks, Scythians, Huns, Persians, Mongols (known as Mughals), and Europeans took Indian wives. 3,0008,000 years ago, Indo-European-speaking nomadic groups from Europe, the Near East, Anatolia, and the Caucasus migrated to India.[100] According to 19th-century British historians,[who?] it was these "Aryans" who established the caste system, an elitist form of social organization that separated the "light-skinned" Indo-Aryan conquerors from the "conquered dark-skinned" indigenous Dravidian population through enforcement of "racial endogamy". Much of this was simply conjecture, fueled by British imperialism;[101] British policies of divide and rule as well as enumeration of the population into rigid categories during the tenure of British rule in India contributed towards the hardening of these segregated caste identities.[102] Since the independence of India from British rule, the British fantasy of an "Aryan Invasion and subjugation of the dark skinned Dravidians in India" has become a staple polemic in South Asian geopolitics, including the propaganda of Indophobia in Pakistan.[103] There is no decisive theory as to the origins of the caste system in India, and globally renowned historians and archaeologists like Jim Shaffer, J.P. Mallory, Edwin Bryant, and others, have disputed the claim of "Aryan Invasion".[104] Some researchers claim that genetic similarities to Europeans were more common in members of the higher ranks.[105] Their findings, published in Genome Research, supported the idea that members of higher castes are more closely related to Europeans than are the lower castes.[106] According to the research, invading European populations were predominantly male who intermarried with local females and formed the upper castes i.e. the local females had upward mobility in caste which was denied to local males. However, other researchers have criticized and contradicted this claim.[107] A study by Joanna L. Mountain et al. of Stanford University concluded that there was "no clear separation into three genetically distinct groups along caste lines", although "an inferred tree revealed some clustering according to caste affiliation".[108] A 2006 study by Ismail Thanseem et al. of Centre for Cellular and Molecular Biology (India) concluded that the "lower caste groups might have originated with the hierarchical divisions that arose within the tribal groups with the spread of Neolithic agriculturalists, much earlier than the arrival of Aryan speakers", and "the Indo-Europeans established themselves as upper castes among this already developed caste-like class structure within the tribes."[109] A 2006 genetic study by the National Institute of Biologicals in India, testing a sample of men from 32 tribal and 45 caste groups, concluded that the Indians have acquired very few genes from Indo-European speakers.[110] More recent studies have also debunked the claims that so-called "Aryans" and "Dravidians" have a "racial divide". A study conducted by the Centre for Cellular and Molecular Biology in 2009 (in collaboration with Harvard Medical School, Harvard School of Public Health and the Broad Institute of Harvard and MIT) analyzed half a million genetic markers across the genomes of 132 individuals from 25 ethnic groups from 13 states in India across multiple caste groups.[111] The study establishes, based on the impossibility of identifying any genetic indicators across caste lines, that castes in South Asia grew out of traditional tribal organizations during the formation of Indian

society, and were not the product of any Aryan invasion and subjugation of Dravidian people. Rape and enslavement of Hindu women by invading Islamic armies was very common. For example, according to the Chachnama by Qazi Ismail, during the Arab invasion of Sindh (712 CE), Muhammad bin Qasim first attacked and conquered Debal. It was situated on the sea-coast (not far from modern Karachi). All males of the age of seventeen and upwards were put to the sword and their women and children were enslaved. 700 Hindu women, who were under the protection of Budh (that is, had taken shelter in the temple), were all captured with their valuable ornaments, and clothes adorned with jewels. Muhammad despatched one-fifth of the legal spoil to Hajjaj which included seventy-five damsels, while the other four-fifths were distributed among the soldiers. Thereafter whichever places he attacked like Rawar, Sehwan, Dhalila, Brahmanabad and Multan, Hindu soldiers and men with arms were slain, many women of the higher classes immolated themselves in Jauhar. Most others became prize of the victors. These women were enslaved and converted, and batches of them were despatched to the Caliph in regular installments. For example, after Rawar was taken, many women and children were enslaved, of whom 30 were young ladies of royal blood. Muhammad Qasim sent all these to Hajjaj, who forwarded them to Walid the Khalifa. He sold some of these female slaves of royal birth, and some he presented to others. In Northern India, female slaves captured after every campaign of the marching army, were converted and married to Muslim soldiers who settled down in colonies established in places like Mansura, Kuzdar, Mahfuza and Multan. During the Islamic involvement in India, it was normal for kings to possess harems filled with native Hindu women won as booties of war. The most famous one was of Akbar's harem, which had over 5000 women.[citation needed] Most of these Muslim soldiers were Turks, Afghans, Persians, Mongols (Mughals), other Central Asians and Arabs. There are even cases of Indian princesses marrying kings abroad. For example, the Korean text Samguk Yusa about the Gaya kingdom (it was absorbed by the kingdom of Silla later), indicates that in 48 AD, King Kim Suro of Gaya (the progenitor of the Gimhae Kim clan) took a princess (Princess Heo) from the "Ayuta nation" (which is the Korean name for the city of Ayodhya in North India) as his bride and queen. Princess Heo belonged to the Mishra royal family of Ayodhya. According to the Samguk Yusa, the princess had a dream about a heavenly fair handsome king from a faraway land who was awaiting heaven's anointed ride. After Princess Heo had the dream, she asked her parents, the king and queen of Ayodhya, for permission to set out and seek the foreign prince, which the king and queen urged with the belief that god orchestrated the whole fate. That king was no other than King Kim Suro of the Korean Gaya kingdom. In Goa, a Portuguese colony in India, during the late 16th century and 17th century, there was a community of Japanese slaves and traders, who were either Japanese Christians fleeing persecution in Japan,[112] or young Japanese women and girls brought or captured as sexual slaves by Portuguese traders and their South Asian lascar crew members from Japan.[113] In both cases, they often intermarried with the local population in Goa.[112] Interracial marriages between European men and Indian women were very common during colonial times. Most of these Indian women usually were Muslim belonging to aristocratic families and families with royal ancestry. According to the historian William Dalrymple, about one in three European men had Indian wives in colonial India. This was primarily because the Europeans (mostly Dutch, British, French and Portuguese and up to a lesser extent Swedes and Danes) came to India when they were young and there were very few white women available in India. The most famous of such interracial liaisons was between the Hyderabadi noblewoman Khair-un-Nissa and the Scottish resident James Achilles Kirkpatrick.

The 600,000-strong Anglo-Indian community was formed by British soldiers taking Indian women as wives. Such relationships have had a strong influence on the arts. Lakm, an opera by the Frenchman Lo Delibes, deals with the romantic relationship between the British officer Grald and the daughter of a Hindu high priest Lakm (Laxmi in Sanskrit). In Ceylon (present day Sri Lanka), interracial relationships between Dutch, British and Portuguese men and local women were common. The 65,000-strong Burgher community was formed by the interracial marriages of Dutch and Portuguese men with local Sinhalese and Tamil women. In addition to intermarriage, inter-ethnic prostitution in India was also fairly common at the time, when British officers would frequently visit Indian nautch dancers. In the mid-19th century, there were around 40,000 British soldiers but fewer than 2,000 British officials present in India.[114] Many British and other European officers had their own harems made up of Indian women similar to those the Nawabs and kings of India had. In the 19th century and early 20th century, thousands of women and girls from continental Europe were also trafficked into British India (and Ceylon), where they worked as prostitutes servicing both British soldiers and local Indian (and Ceylonese) men.[115][116][117] As British females began arriving in British India in large numbers from the early-to-mid-19th century, miscegenation became increasingly uncommon in India as British women increasingly disapproved of relationships between local woman and their men. Interracial relationships were also despised after the events of the Sepoy Mutiny of 1857, also known as "India's First War of Independence", where some Indian sepoys rebelled against the British East India Company. The idea of protecting British female chastity from the "lustful Indian male" had a significant influence on the policies of the British Raj in order to prevent racial miscegenation between the British females and the native Indian male population. While some restrictive policies were imposed on British females in order to protect them from miscegenation, most of these policies were directed against native Indian males.[118][119] For example, the 1883 Ilbert Bill, which would have granted Indian judges the right to judge British offenders, was opposed by many British colonialists on the grounds that Indian judges cannot be trusted in dealing with cases involving British females.[120] In the aftermath of the 1919 Amritsar Massacre, the long-held stereotype of Indian males as dark-skinned rapists lusting after white British females was challenged by several novels such as A Passage to India (1924) and The Jewel in the Crown (1966), both of which involve an Indian male being wrongly accused of raping a British female. [121] When Burma was ruled under the administration of British India, millions of Indians, mostly Muslim, migrated there. The mixed descendants of Indian males and local Burmese females are called "Zerbadees", often in a pejorative sense implying mixed race.[122] In recent times, over 200,000 Nepalese girls have been trafficked to red light areas of India.[123] Nepalese women and girls, especially virgins, are favoured in India because of their fair skin and young looks.[124][125] Every year between 5,000 and 7,000 Nepalese girls are trafficked into the red light districts in Indian cities.[126] [edit] Japan See also: Comfort women and Eugenics in Japan Inter-ethnic marriage in Japan dates back to the 7th century, when Chinese and Korean immigrants

began intermarrying with the local Japanese population. In the 1590s, over 50,000 Koreans were forcibly brought to Japan, where they intermarried with the local population. In the 16th and 17th centuries, around 58,000 Japanese travelled abroad, many of which intermarried with the local women in Southeast Asia.[46] During the anti-Christian persecutions in 1596, many Japanese Christians fled to Macau and other Portuguese colonies such as Goa, where there was a community of Japanese slaves and traders by the early 17th century. Intermarriage with the local populations in these Portuguese colonies also took place.[112] Portuguese traders in Japan also intermarried with the local Christian women.[127] From the 15th century, Chinese, Korean and other Far Eastern visitors frequented brothels in Japan. [128] This practice later continued among visitors from the "Western Regions", mainly European traders.[113] This began with the arrival of Portuguese ships to Japan in the 16th century. Portuguese visitors and their South Asian (and sometimes African) crewmembers often engaged in slavery in Japan, where they brought Japanese slaves who were taken to Macau and other Portuguese colonies in Southeast Asia, the Americas,[113] and India.[112] Later European East India companies, including those of the Dutch and British, also engaged in prostitution in Japan.[129] In the early part of the Showa era, Japanese governments executed a eugenic policy to limit the birth of children with inferior traits, as well as aiming to protect the life and health of mothers.[130] Family Center staff also attempted to discourage marriage between Japanese women and Korean men who had been recruited from the peninsula as laborers following its annexation by Japan in 1910. In 1942, a survey report argued that "the Korean laborers brought to Japan, where they have established permanent residency, are of the lower classes and therefore of inferior constitution...By fathering children with Japanese women, these men could lower the caliber of the Yamato minzoku." [131] In 1928, journalist Shigenori Ikeda promoted the 21 December as the blood-purity day (junketsu de) and sponsored free blood-test at the Tokyo Hygiene laboratory.[132] By the early 1930s, detailed "eugenic marriage" questionnaires were printed or inserted in popular magazines for public consumption.[133] Promoters like Ikeda were convinced that these marriage surveys would not only insure the eugenic fitness of spouses but also help avoid class differences that could disrupt and even destroy marriage. The goal was to create a database of individuals and their entire households which would enable eugenicists to conduct in-depth surveys of any given family's genealogy.[134] To prevent venereal diseases and rape by Japanese soldiers and to provide comfort to soldiers and head off espionage, the Imperial Japanese Army established "comfort stations" in the Greater East Asia CoProsperity Sphere where around 200,000 women, mostly from Korea and China, were recruited or kidnapped by the Kempeitai or the Tokeitai as comfort women.[135] One of the last eugenic measures of the Showa regime was taken by the Higashikuni government. On 19 August 1945, the Home Ministry ordered local government offices to establish a prostitution service for Allied soldiers to preserve the "purity" of the "Japanese race". The official declaration stated that : "Through the sacrifice of thousands of "Okichis" of the Showa era, we shall construct a dike to hold back the mad frenzy of the occupation troops and cultivate and preserve the purity of our race long into the future...." [136] According to Peter Schrijvers in "The GI War against Japan: American Soldiers in Asia and the Pacific during World War II",[137] rape "reflects a burning need to establish total dominance of the other" the enemy. According to Xavier Guillaume, US soldiers' rape of Japanese women was "general practice". Schrijvers states regarding rapes on Okinawa that "The estimate of one Okinawan historian for the

entire three-month period of the campaign exceeds 10,000. A figure that does not seem unlikely when one realizes that during the first 10 days of the occupation of Japan there were 1,336 reported cases of rape of Japanese women by American soldiers in Kanagawa prefecture alone".[138] However, despite being told by the Japanese military that they would suffer rape, torture and murder at the hands of the Americans, Japanese civilians "were often surprised at the comparatively humane treatment they received from the American enemy."[139][140] According to Islands of Discontent: Okinawan Responses to Japanese and American Power by Mark Selden, the Americans "did not pursue a policy of torture, rape, and murder of civilians as Japanese military officials had warned."[141] Japanese society, with its ideology of homogeneity, has traditionally been intolerant of ethnic and other differences.[142] Men or women of mixed ancestry, foreigners, and members of minority groups faced discrimination in a variety of forms. In 2005, a United Nations report expressed concerns about racism in Japan and that government recognition of the depth of the problem was not total.[143][144] In 2005, Japanese Minister Taro Aso called Japan a "one race" nation.[145] [edit] Korea Inter-ethnic marriage in Korea dates back to the arrival of Muslims in Korea during the Middle Ages, when Persian and Turkic navigators, traders and slaves settled in Korea and married local Korean people. Some assimilation into Buddhism and Shamanism eventually took place, owing to Korea's geographical isolation from the Muslim world.[146] There are several Korean clans that are descended from such intermarriages. For example, the Deoksu Jang clan, claiming some 30,000 Korean members, view Jang Sunnyong, a Central Asian who married a Korean female, as their ancestor.[147] Another clan, Gyeongju Seol, claiming at least 2,000 members in Korea, view a Central Asian (probably an Uyghur) named Seol Son as their ancestor.[148][149] There are even cases of Korean kings marrying princesses from abroad. For example, the Korean text Samguk Yusa about the Gaya kingdom (it was absorbed by the kingdom of Silla later), indicate that in 48 AD, King Kim Suro of Gaya (the progenitor of the Gimhae Kim clan) took a princess (Princess Heo) from the "Ayuta nation" (which is the Korean name for the city of Ayodhya in North India) as his bride and queen. Princess Heo belonged to the Mishra royal family of Ayodhya. According to the Samguk Yusa, the princess had a dream about a heavenly fair handsome king from a far away land who was awaiting heaven's anointed ride. After Princess Heo had the dream, she asked her parents, the king and queen of Ayodhya, for permission to set out and seek the foreign prince, which the king and queen urged with the belief that god orchestrated the whole fate. That king was no other than King Kim Suro of the Korean Gaya kingdom. 6,423 Korean women married US military personnel as war brides during and immediately after the Korean War. The average number of Korean women marrying US military personnel each year was about 1,500 per year in the 1960s and 2,300 per year in the 1970s.[150] International marriages now make up 13% of all marriages in South Korea. Most of these marriages are unions between a Korean male and a foreign female[151] usually from China, Japan, Vietnam, the Philippines, United States, Mongolia, Thailand, and Russia. On the other hand, Korean females have married foreign males from Japan, China, the United States, Bangladesh, Pakistan, Philippines, and Nepal. Between 1990 and 2005, there have been 159,942 Korean males and 80,813 Korean females married to foreigners.[152][153]

South Korea is among the world's most ethnically homogeneous nations.[154] Koreans have traditionally valued an unmixed blood as the most important feature of Korean identity. The term "Kosian", referring to someone who has a Korean father and a non-Korean mother, is considered offensive by some who prefer to identify themselves or their children as Korean.[155][156] Moreover, the Korean office of Amnesty International has claimed that the word "Kosian" represents racial discrimination.[157][158] Kosian children, like those of other mixed-race backgrounds in Korea, often face discrimination.[159] There are an estimated 35,000 mixed-raced South Koreans, most of them half Caucasian, according to the Pearl Buck Foundation. Discrimination is far worse against those who have African American fathers.[160] [edit] Malaysia and Singapore In West Malaysia and Singapore, the majority of inter-ethnic marriages are between Chinese and Indians. The offspring of such marriages are informally known as "Chindian", though the Malaysian government only classifies them by their father's ethnicity. As the majority of these intermarriages usually involve an Indian groom and Chinese bride, the majority of Chindians in Malaysia are usually classified as "Indian" by the Malaysian government. As for the Malays, who are predominantly Muslim, legal restrictions in Malaysia make it uncommon for them to intermarry with either the Indians, who are predominantly Hindu, or the Chinese, who are predominantly Buddhist and Taoist. [161] Non-Muslims are required to convert to Islam in order to marry Muslims. However, this has not entirely stopped intermarriage between the Malays and the Chinese and Indians. There are more IndianMalay marriages than there are Chinese-Malay ones; this has led to the emergence of a large Muslim Indian society that is most famously known for their 24-hour coffee shops and active involvement in the textile industry. The Muslim Chinese community, on the other hand, is small and has only a negligible impact on the socio-economy and demography of the region. It is common for Arabs in Singapore and Malaysia to take local Malay wives, due to a common Islamic faith.[44] The Chitty people, in Singapore and the Malacca state of Malaysia, are a Tamil people with considerable Malay descent, which was due to the first Tamil settlers taking local wives, since they did not bring along any of their own women with them. According to government statistics, the population of Singapore as of September 2007 was 4.68 million, of whom multiracial people, including Chindians and Eurasians, formed 2.4%. In the East Malaysian states of Sabah and Sarawak, there have been many incidents of intermarriage between Chinese and native tribes such as the Murut and Dusun in Sabah, and the Iban and Bisaya in Sarawak. This phenomenon has resulted in a potpourri of cultures in both states where many people claiming to be of native descent have some Chinese blood in them, and many Chinese have native blood in them. The offspring of these mixed marriages are called 'Sino-(name of tribe)', e.g. SinoDusun. Normally, if the father is Chinese, the offspring will adopt Chinese culture and if the father is native then native culture will be adopted, but this is not always the case. These Sino-natives are usually fluent in Malay and English. A smaller number are able to speak Chinese dialects and Mandarin, especially those who have received education in vernacular Chinese schools. [edit] Myanmar / Burma Burmese Muslims are the descendants of Bengalis, Indian Muslims, Arabs, Persians, Turks, Pathans, Chinese Muslims and Malays who settled and intermarried with the local Burmese population and other Burmese ethnic groups such as the Rakhine, Shan, Karen, and Mon.[162][163] The oldest Muslim group in Burma (Myanmar) are the Rohingya people, who are mostly descended from Bengalis who intermarried with the native females in the Rakhine State after the 7th century.

When Burma was ruled by the British Indian administration, millions of Indians, mostly Muslim, migrated there. The mixed descendants of Indian males and local Burmese females are called "Zerbadees", often in a pejorative sense implying mixed race. The Panthays, a group of Chinese Muslims descended from West Asians and Central Asians, migrated from China and also intermarried with local Burmese females.[122] In addition, Burma has an estimated 52,000 Anglo-Burmese people, descended from British and Burmese people. Anglo-Burmese people frequently intermarried with Anglo-Indian immigrants, who eventually assimilated into the Anglo-Burmese community. [edit] Philippines A Filipina bride and Nigerian groom walk down the aisle. Historically, admixture has been an ever present and pervading phenomenon in the Philippines. The Philippines were originally settled by Australoid peoples called Negritos which now form the country's aboriginal community. Admixture occurred between this earlier group and the mainstream MalayoPolynesian population.[164] A considerable number of the population in the town of Cainta, Rizal, are descended from Indian soldiers who mutinied against the British Indian Army when the British briefly occupied the Philippines in 1762 to 1763. These Indian soldiers called Sepoy settled in town and intermarried with native females. The Sepoy ancestry of Cainta is very visible today, particularly in Barrio Dayap near Brgy. Sto Nino. Their unique physical characteristics make them distinct from the average Filipinos. There has been a Chinese presence in the Philippines since the 9th century. However, large-scale migrations of Chinese to the Philippines only started during the Spanish colonial era, when the world market was opened to the Philippines. It is estimated that among Filipinos, 10%-20% have some Chinese ancestry and 1.5% are "full-blooded" Chinese.[165] According to the American anthropologist Dr. H. Otley Beyer, the ancestry of Filipinos is 2% Arab. This dates back to when Arab traders intermarried with the local Malay and Filipina female populations during the pre-Spanish history of the Philippines.[44] Major Arab migration to the Philippines coincided with the spread of Islam in the region. Filipino-Muslim royal families from the Sultanate of Sulu and the Sultanate of Maguindanao claim Arab descent even going as far as claiming direct lineage from the prophet Mohammad.[166] Such intermarriage mostly took place around the Mindanao island area, but the arrival of Spanish Conquistadors to the Philippines abruptly halted the spread of Islam further north into the Philippines. Intermarriage with Spanish people later became more prevalent after the Philippines was colonized by the Spanish Empire. When the Spanish colonized the Philippines, a significant portion of the Filipino population mixed with the Spanish. When the United States took the Philippines from Spain during the Spanish-American War, much intermixing of Americans, both white and black, took place on the island of Luzon where the USA had a Naval Base and Air Force Base even after the USA gave the Philippines independence after World War II. First children and descendants of male Filipino population with Spanish surnames who intermarried with white American female population may be considered Spanish mestizos. The descendants of Filipinos and Europeans are today known as mestizos, following the term used in other former Spanish colonies. Much mixing with the Japanese also took place due to the war rapes of Filipina women during World War II. Today there is an increasing number of Japanese men marrying Filipina woman and fathering

children by them whose family remain behind in the Philippines and are financially supported by their Japanese fathers who make regular visits to the Philippines. Today mixed-race marriages have a mixed reaction in the Philippines, most urban centers like Manila and Cebu are more willing to accept interracial marriages than rural areas, plus there is more approval if the Filipina marries out than a Filipino male. i also wanted to make note of something else i have found interesting. many eastern girls have been brainwashed into supported the western cults, and into supporting the western girls who marry eastern guys, even though this is a slap in the face to them. western guys, however, are often far less supportive of these behaviours. they are not keen on western women marrying eastern men, and have a very realistic and well intentioned cautiousness. the only shame is that they don't seem to have enough influence on the western girls to keep them from marrying eastern men or having relations with eastern men. the men who are open minded to eastern cultures unless they have also been brainwashed into following a cult of some kind, especially those such as the 3ho or iskcon cults, they seem to have more sense and respect in these ways. they have a simple, innocent curiousness and desire to learn, and to do good for them. they become an asset to both east and west. there are some western women who have also chosen to learn more about the east, yet respect their own culture anfd eastern culture by not giving into the romantic relations or marrying, yet educating and enjoying the cultures and helping both east and west thrive, but they are far and few between. if we could have more like this, we would be able to praise and honour western women for doing good. it's not the skin colour or even so much the culture itself...rather it's the behaviours they choose to employ and the destructive actions they choose to unleash on the east, whilst giving in to the negative actions of eastern men who are willing to do as much shame to both cultures as they are. the mirror opposite behaviours on the parts of all ends is stunning and eye opening. Interracial marriage was fairly common in Britain since the 17th century, when the British East India Company began bringing over thousands of Indian scholars, lascars and workers (mostly Bengali and/or Muslim) to Britain. Most married and cohabited with local white British women and girls, due to the absence of Indian women in Britain at the time. This later became an issue, as a magistrate of the London Tower Hamlets area in 1817 expressed disgust at how the local English women and girls in the area were marrying and cohabiting almost exclusively with foreign South Asian lascars. Nevertheless, there were no legal restrictions against 'mixed' marriages in Britain, unlike the restrictions in India.[6] [7][8] This led to mixed race Eurasian (Anglo-Indian) children in Britain, which challenged the British elite efforts to "define them using simple dichotomies of British versus Indian, ruler versus ruled." By the mid-19th century, there were more than 40,000 Indian seamen, diplomats, scholars, soldiers, officials, tourists, businessmen and students arriving in Britain,[9] and by the time World War I began, there were 51,616 Indian lascar seamen residing in Britain.[10] In addition, the British officers and soldiers who had Indian wives and Eurasian children in British India often brought them to Britain in the 19th century.[11] Following World War I, there were more women than men in Britain,[12] and there were increasing numbers of seamen arriving from abroad, mostly from the Indian subcontinent, in addition to smaller numbers from Yemen, Malaysia and China. This led to increased intermarriage and cohabitation with local white females. Some residents grew jealous and concerned about miscegenation and there were several race riots at the time.[13] In the 1920s to 1940s, several writers raised concerns about an increasing 'mixed-breed' population, born mainly from Muslim Asian (mostly South Asian in addition to Arab and Malaysian) fathers and local white mothers, occasionally out of wedlock. They denounced white girls who mixed with Muslim Asian men as 'shameless' and called for a ban on the breeding of 'half-caste' children. Such attempts at imposing anti-miscegenation laws were unsuccessful.[14] As

South Asian women began arriving to Britain in large numbers from the 1970s, mostly as family members, intermarriage rates have decreased in the British Asian community, although the size of the community has increased. As of 2006, there were 246,400 'British Mixed-Race' people of white and South Asian descent. from here http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Eurasian_%28mixed_ancestry%29#Vietnam The Burghers are a Eurasian ethnic group, historically from Sri Lanka, consisting for the most part of male-line descendants of European colonists from the 16th to 20th centuries (mostly Portuguese, Dutch, German and British) and local women, with some minorities of Swedish, Norwegian, French and Irish. Today the mother tongue of the Burghers is English, but historically other languages were spoken by the community, in particular the Sri Lanka Indo-Portuguese, a creole language based on Portuguese, Tamil, and Sinhala. Demographics In the census of 1981, the Burgher population of Sri Lanka was enumerated at 39,374 persons, about 0.2% of the total population. The highest concentration of Burghers is in Colombo (0.72%) and Gampaha (0.5%). There are also similar, significant communities in Trincomalee and Batticaloa, with an estimated population of 20,000. Burgher descendants are spread far and wide into many communities throughout the world. Families with surnames such as Furnandes (a variation of the Portuguese Fernandes), Mirano and Vandort are of Dutch ancestry. [edit] Legal definition The Burghers were legally defined by law in 1883, by the Chief Justice of Ceylon, Sir Richard Ottley, given before the Commission, appointed in connection with the establishment of a legislative council in Ceylon. It was determined that Burghers were defined as those whose father was born in Sri Lanka, with at least one European ancestor on one's direct paternal side, regardless of the ethnic origin of one's mother, or what other ethnic groups may be found on the father's side. Because of this definition, Burghers almost always have European surnames (mostly of Portuguese, Dutch and British origin, but some are of German, French or Russian origin). [edit] History Main articles: Portuguese period in Ceylon and Dutch period in Ceylon Percentage of burghers per district based on 2001 or 1981 (cursive) census.[1] The Portuguese arrived in 1505 in what outsiders then called Ceylon. Since there were no women in the Portuguese navy, the Portuguese sailors married local Sinhalese women and Tamils in Batticaloa. This practice of intermarriage with local people was encouraged by the Portuguese. When a Dutch company VOC took over in 1653, they expelled all the Portuguese. However, they permitted a few stateless persons of Portuguese-Jewish (Marrano) descent, and of mixed PortugueseSinhalese ancestry to stay. Many people having a Portuguese name were a result of forced conversions of local/native people in order to work for the Portuguese. As a result, Burghers with Portuguese names are most likely to be of Sinhalese ancestry, with a very small portion being Portuguese or mixed

Portuguese-Sinhalese ancestry. Those of a Portuguese-Jewish background can be traced in various forms or surmised from their surname. Most Burghers of Eurasian descent with Portuguese surnames are of Sinhalese and Dutch, British, German, Swedish, and/or other European descent. During the Dutch period, all Dutch colonial operations were overseen by the VOC, ('Vereenigde OostIndische Compagnie' (VOC) or United East India Company). Virtually all Burghers from this period were employees of the VOC. The VOC employed not only Dutch nationals, but also enlisted men from the Southern Netherlands, the German states, Sweden, Denmark and Austria. It is therefore not unusual to find ancestors from these countries in many Dutch Burgher family trees. The term 'Burgher' comes from the Dutch/German word burger, meaning "citizen" or "town dweller", and is cognate with the French and English word "bourgeois". At this time in Europe, there had emerged a middle class, consisting of people who were neither aristocrats nor serfs. These were the traders and businessmen, who lived in towns and were considered free citizens. In Europe, they were called burghers, and they were encouraged to migrate to the colonies in order to expand business horizons. Dutch Ceylon had two classes of people of European descent: those who were paid by the VOC and were referred to as Company servants (i.e. employees), and those who had migrated of their own free will to carry out their trade. The latter were not referred to as burghers in Ceylon, but rather by their rank, position or standing in Ceylon. During British colonial rule, they were referred to by the British as 'Dutch Burghers' and formed the European-descended civilian population in Ceylon. To some degree the term of Burgher was used in a derogatory way to divide and conquer the population, as it distinguished between British and other races or positions throughout the island. The 'Dutch Burgher' community took pride in its own achievements and wanted to acknowledge and hold onto their European ancestry. A number of Dutch Burgher Union journals have been created over a period of time, to record family histories. They were not only of Dutch origin but rather incorporated European (Dutch, German, Hungarian, Italian, French, Swedish etc.), United Kingdom, Portuguese Mix, Tamil and Sinhalese lines. When the British took over in 1796, many VOC employees chose to leave. However, a significant number chose to stay, mostly those of mixed descent. Some chose to go to Batavia, which was the headquarters of the VOC. Reportedly about 900 families, both free citizens and United East India Company employees, decided to remain in Ceylon. The British referred to them all as 'Dutch Burghers'. One condition of their being allowed to stay was that they had to sign a Treaty of Capitulation to the British. Many 'Dutch Burghers' can find their ancestors' names in this treaty. At the time of the British conquest, the 900 'Dutch Burgher' families residing in Ceylon were concentrated in Colombo, Galle, Matara and Jaffna. The Burghers were also seen to include members of the Swiss de Meuron Regiment, a mercenary unit employed by the VOC. In diplomatic negotiations in Europe, Count de Meuron pledged allegiance to the British in exchange for back pay and information. This allowed the British to get detailed fortification information and reduce the fighting strength of Ceylon prior to 1796. The de Meuron Regiment refused to fight the Dutch due to relationships forged on the island of Ceylon and South Africa. Post 1796 members of the de Meuron Regiment stayed in Ceylon, whilst the regiment itself went off to fight and distinguish itself in India and later in Canada. [edit] Culture

Until the early 20th century, many Burghers spoke English and a form of Portuguese Creole, even those of Dutch descent. Portuguese Creole had been the language of trade and communication with indigenous peoples. It is now only spoken in parts of the coastal towns of Trincomalee and Batticaloa. While much vocabulary is from Portuguese, its grammar is based on that of Tamil and Sinhalese. Burgher culture is a rich mixture of East and West, reflecting their ancestry. They are the most westernised of the ethnic groups in Sri Lanka. Most of them wear western clothing, although it is not uncommon for a man to be seen wearing a sarong, or for a woman to wear a sari. A number of elements in Burgher culture have become part of the cultures of other ethnic groups in Sri Lanka. For example, baila music, which has its origin in the music of 16th century Portugal, has found its way into mainstream popular Sinhalese music. Lacemaking, which began as a domestic pastime of Burgher women, is now a part of Sinhalese culture too. Even certain foods, such as love cake, bol fiado (layered cake), ijzer koekjes, frikkadels (savoury meatballs) and lamprais, have become an integral part of Sri Lankan national cuisine. Burghers are not physically homogeneous. It is possible to have a blond, fair-skinned Burgher, as well as a Burgher with a very dark complexion and black hair, a Burgher with complexion from brown to light brown and black hair, and a Burgher with fair complexion and black hair. Fair-skinned and darkskinned children can even appear as brother and sister in the same family of the same parents. Burghers share a common culture rather than a common ethnicity. While some of the older generations of Burghers tried to dismiss the obvious Asian side of their ancestry, many younger Burghers today highly value this variety in their heritage. Burghers have a very strong interest in their family histories. Many old Burgher families kept stamboeken (from the Dutch for "Clan Books"). These recorded not only dates of births, marriages and deaths, but also significant events in the history of a family, such as details of moving house, illnesses, school records, and even major family disputes. An extensive, multi-volume stamboek of many family lineages is kept by the Dutch Burgher Union. Individual families often have traditions reflecting their specific family origins. Burghers of Dutch origin sometimes celebrate the Feast of Saint Nicholas in December, and those of Portuguese-Jewish origin observe customs such as the separation time of a woman after childbirth (see Leviticus 12:2-5), the redemption of the Firstborn (Pidyon ha-Ben), and the purification bath (taharah) after a daughters first period (see niddah). Most of the latter Burgher families, being unaware of the Jewish origins of these customs, have given them a Catholic slant. (Catholic and Episcopal churches had services for the churching of women after childbirth from ancient times.) However, some traditions attributed to Judaism can also be explained as borrowings or retention from the Tamil and Sinhalese communities with whom many Burgher families also share ancestry and culture. For example, the purification bath after a girls first period is a common cultural feature of the Tamil and Sinhalese communities of Sri Lanka and neighboring India. Hence its prevalence amongst some Burghers families of Sri Lanka is not necessarily of Jewish origins. Some commentators believe that the Burghers own mixed backgrounds have made their culture more tolerant and open. While inter-communal strife has been a feature of modern Sri Lankan life, some Burghers have worked to maintain good relations with other ethnic groups. However, prejudices within the community as a result of a condescending attitude outside of it, have caused some migrant Burghers to take on the traditions of the country in which they reside and disconnect from the ties to their

country afterwords. In 2001 the Burghers established a heritage association, the Burgher Association, with headquarters at No.393, Union Place, Colombo 2 Sri Lanka. [edit] Genealogy The maintenance of stamboeks, or genealogical stem-books, was noted above. Because of known errors and omissions, these should be used as a starting point for researchers. They should seek data by crossreferencing other available material. Today, websites such as Roots Web and Sri Lankan Burgher family genealogies can be accessed electronically. Thus many family genealogies can be looked up. Interestingly, Family#1001 gives the lineage of Don Simon de Liveras, de Sarams and others who assimilated with the Bandaranaike family. Family #1261 is the last entry so far, for the Potger family. Other options, such as the International Ceylon Database [1], provides a comprehensive source whilst respecting privacy of living individuals or family feuds. and the term for this is miscegenation. Amalgamation is a now largely archaic term for the intermarriage and interbreeding of different ethnicities or races. In the English-speaking world, the term was in use into the twentieth century. In the United States, it was partly replaced after 1863 by the term miscegenation. While the term amalgamation could refer to the interbreeding of different white as well as non-white ethnicities, the term miscegenation referred specifically to the interbreeding of whites and non-whites, especially African Americans[1]. The term amalgamation was derived from metallurgy (see amalgam). It has been linked to the metaphor of the melting pot, which also originated in the US, and which described the cultural assimilation and intermarriage of different ethnicities. The intermarriage of whites with African Americans and, to a lesser degree, other non-whites was until recently in social disfavor in the United States, despite the long history of informal liaisons between white men and nonwhite women during the long years of slavery and after emancipation. Until 1967, interracial marriages were prohibited in many US states through anti-miscegenation laws. http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Miscegenation in some ways the return of these laws, in moderation, would not be so bad. ( such as westerners with westerners, easterners with easterners. http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Anti-miscegenation_laws assimilation is what is going on currently.....westerners do all they can to lure easterners into following THEIR ways, marrying THEIR people, and erasing their culture, even though they pretend they like and want to learn about it. accomodation is what SHOULD happen - westerners learning about other cultures, marrying and keeping to their own, and encouraging others to do the same, whilst still having respect for them. here is a book dealing with Sikh immigrants and their struggle http://books.google.com/books?

hl=en&id=zz0HRk65MwUC&dq=assimilation+accommodation&printsec=frontcover&source=web&o ts=Dn1nYCc8G3&sig=cinitzitc1HuI5H9S8t3DmaBe8&sa=X&oi=book_result&resnum=7&ct=result#PPP1,M1 and here is more about the struggle between assimilation and accomodation www.learningandteaching.info/learning/assimacc.htm webspace.ship.edu/cgboer/genpsypiaget.html www.coe.uga.edu/epltt/Piaget.htm www.greenwood.com/catalog/C7825.aspx cat.inist.fr/?aModele=afficheN&cpsidt=14706672 www.ucopenaccess.org/mod/resource/view.php?id=17961 www.allacademic.com/meta/p104221_index.html eric.ed.gov/ERICWebPortal/recordDetail?accno=EJ262009 www.leaonline.com/doi/abs/10.1207/s15327949pac0102 www.ingentaconnect.com/content/bpl/jrir/2000/00000023/00000002/art00002 http://www.google.com/search?hl=en&q=assimilation+accommodation&start=0&sa=N Goris try to force desis into assimilation and into scams - to fit into their culture, which is the dominent culture, nd sadly the gori/western culture is the worldwide dominant culture, and has been for many many centuries, even though goris pretend to like eastern cultures. some rare desi lok do still follow separation, complete refusal to join and interact with western culture. the best way is accommodation to respect and maybe even inculde some of the few positive aspects of western culture into eastern culture, but to proudly keep our own identity and encourage westerners to do the same, and both cultures to stay with their own people. there was once a 'melting - pot' philosophy that, in theory was a good idea, but when put to actual practice was a disaster. this whole melting pot process was especially prominent in USA, but had also found itself spread to canada, britain, australia, and increasingy many european countries. many eastern countries are starting to follow this - especially India - and it makes our situation only worse. the original idea behind the melting pot philosophy was that many different cultures would come together in one place and live in harmony. this never happened, because domiment cultures force others to conform and follow their ways, and the subservient follow and sacrafice their culture to these ways. the result is a loss of the original culture's morals, values, and entire makeup which made it what it was. it starts small, with immigrants marrying another culture which is very different (such as desi or asian and westerners), and eventually becomes worse and worse until all those peoples are led to believe this is great, and their culture disappear until they have become nothing more than a shell or memory, and have taken on the aspects of that other culture...often especially the negative ones. think of this example...native americans were their own culture for eons. westerners discovered them and forced them into their ways. over time, the western influence caused much shame.....the native americans lost their land, and for the most part, lost their identity. they live on reservations (if they are lucky), set up by the government, often with many social issues - poverty, drug and alcohol abuse, and other issues. the desis, middle eastern, and asian folk who get involved with westerners walk the same path. and those in their native country who embrace the western society they see in the media become entangled in this dangerous and unhealthy web. the threat of losing our cultural identity is only one issue, those who are willing to abandon their culture for this dominant culture also prove that they are weak - unwilling to stand up for their own beliefs and morals, and willing to simply please the dominant culture for a small piece of gratitude in return. the goris who exploit eastern culture, marrying into an asian, desi, or middle eastern family, and forcing themselves

on that group, instead of respecting them and getting to learn about their culture, and help them respect their culture, staying with people from their own culture, yet be willing to embrace other cultures and respect them - help to destroy other people - especially when they think they are doing good. both parties are blind to the damage they are causing. western culture promotes these terrible actions, because they feel they benefit from it, being the dominant culture, and the eastern cultures feel they benefit, because they feel they are becoming more accepted and seen in a different view, seemingly gaining respect from the dominant western cultures, when in fact this is a very incorrect and very dangerous assumption. in theory, the melting pot philosophy was a beautiful idea, because it was intended to remove racism and create an open minded culture, welcome to all. in action, however, it created a centrifuge of problems. western culture is the dominant culture in worldwide society, and the practice resulting from the theory of the multicultural mix has resulted in the assimilation of less dominant cultures - in other words, less dominant cultures try to fit in with the dominant culture, and lose their identity and morals in an effort to be accepted as part of the dominant culture. this has created an extremely complex list of issues, and has not erased the racism. instead it has created manipulation and exploitation of less dominant cultures, causing them to lose their identity, and follow things they normally wouldn't - things western culture society often embraces - open sexuality, alcohol/drug abuse, materialism, loss of modesty and increase of ego and negative attention seeking actions, and outright acts of exploitation which the less dominant cultures see as attempts as respect by the dominant culture. the western culture people pretend they like aspects of eastern culture and pretend to fit in with eastern culture people so they can use this as a trick to get them to follow their western ways and follow a destructive, false, and dangerous path of life. this is why we must respect and preserve our own cultures, stay with our own cultures, yet be open minded and respectful to all cultures. The western girls trick easterners into thinking they respect the culture by dressing in their clothes, pretending to enjoy their food, movies, music, dance, etc. and will even often participate in these things. They do not have the same feeling for the culture as someone who belongs to that culture, even westerners who were born in an eastern culture and may be citizens of that country do not have the same respect or knowledge because it is not part of who they are through generations. there is a distinct feeling for your culture when it really is part of you, than when you pretend to adopt it. certain things have been handed down from genration to generation which msake up who we are. it is important for us not to turn our backs on these things and accept follish and dangerous ways due to immoral excuses. Western people will always be an outsider to eastern culture because they are western. No matter where they are birn, their virtues are different. easterners will always be an outsider to western culture because they have their morals and values which are different. (the biggest being that they are more strict, as the west is more accepting of immorality.) The differences should be seen as both positive and negative. it's good to have differences, and helps us keep our own identities which is very important. but when these identities are infringed upon by those who choose to exploit them, it changes this to a negative thing. and a dangerous thing. these actions lead to the eastern sociery believe the immoral actions of the west are pure, or are honestly intended, when in reality they are not. foods, music, even some tyoes of dress and dance, or even religions can be mixed and create a wonderful thing. however, when you add the change of morals to the mix, this can either ruin or enhance the formula. One thing we must realise is that these people who do these things are not desi, asian or middle eastern, though their parentage may claim so. these people who shame their culture have created their own subculture of shame, ego, lust, and scum. this subculture doesn't even deserve a name, but it exists with full colour. the people who shame our culture, and those they shame it with belong to this land of trash, land of no morals, land of dirtiness, shame, and no worth. they claw at others, and suck in other fools, because this is what they do - this is their culture's ideas of morals, and they are nothing more than belching, wart infested leeches who poison the souls of others.

http://family.jrank.org/pages/930/Interracial-Marriage-Difficulties-in-Interracial-Marriages.html Studies have indicated that, in general, Caucasians tend to disapprove of interracial marriages, from the comments My parents are in a biracial marriage and it has been "HELL". It has been problem after Problem. I've felt for so long depressed, angry, displaced and disassociated. My parents were complacent about the impact their mixed marriage would have on them in the long term or on their child me, now a adult. My Father is even stating 'if he had of known what it was going to be like in a mix marriage, he would never have done it' and I wish they had of not too. The reason he did not divorce was because of me and the fact he did not believe in divorce and we have financial issues. Thus we just ended up torturing each other as result. Hence I learnt just because one is in a long term relationship doesn't mean it is positive or even happy. The thing is at the begining of their relationship they were all smiles and in love. But later turned nasty because of miscommunication, intimidation, threats, domination, cultural belief clashes & abuse etc... all coming from one area, mix marriage. the interesting thing our problems are not societal related and none of us are getting racist attacks, this is all on the inside. So I hope you can see why I'm now Anti-Mix Marriage and so is my Father and unfortunately I've found out I'm not the only one that has been suffering from a rotten biracial family relationship eithier. My cousin after his Father died ended up being treated terribly by his Philipino stepmother because he behaved as a Australian does and not like a typical little Philipino Boy and I now of another person a Chinese women who works for David Jones divorsed resently and only married because she wanted Citizenship and a White Child. (this was from the site, not by us) Interracial marriages are for weak specimens and weak specimens only. You know I'm right! And remember don't forget what you will regret! Stick to your own goddamn race and be proud of who you are and not who you wannnabe. nice story from the siteVery interesting discussion. Aside from not2nitemeyeluv, who is a brain dead miserable excuse of a human being. It's not surprising to find a racist posting at a site like this. It's their way of getting their rocks off. Back on the topic. I am white man married to a Chinese woman. I've been married before to white women and my wife has been married to a Chinese man. We are happier now than at any time in our lives. This works great for us. It's enjoyable to learn about each others history and culture. It's the easiest, best relationship I've ever been in and I say it's that way BECAUSE it's a mixed marriage. It's certainly not a drawback. Our families are fine with the relationship though I wouldn't care if they did have issues. It's me and her. We don't have kids so I can't address that aspect. We are happy with each other, treat each other with respect and care for each other. We have never in our 10 years together found any examples of racism directed at either of us, here in America or when we travel to her home in China. It's all good. I've been married to a wonderful, funny, cute, talented Japanese (not American born) lady for 35 years. I wouldn't change a thing, except to try even harder to be what she deserves. It's the best thing I ever

did. I can't imagine my life being different, or not having our kids. Marriage is hard. Mixed cultures and languages are hard, too. It's us against the world, or the world will win. It hasn't, and it won't. http://family.jrank.org/pages/930/Interracial-Marriage-Difficulties-in-Interracial-Marriages.html here's a slut that's full of shit Ang I was naieve to think such ignorance is not as rampant as it seems to be. i'm sure it's a combination of my upbringing and the very multicultural place that i live, but i was raised to be colour blinfd. Not in the sense that other people's cultures and backgrounds don't matter, they do and have strongly enriched my life. but in the sense that the person and their qualities and values impact whether or not we will have a relationship< friends or otherwise, and skin colour has nothing to do with it. my boyfriend of three years has an indian backgroud, and i am caucasian. i was appauled, then almost amused with the ridiculousness that people that engage in interracial relationships are self hating. i am a confident succesful woman, and my boyfriend and i are both grounded stable people, love eachother and our different backgrounds definitely enrich our bond rather than tear us apart. it can be more difficult when family does not quite get it, but i can tell you right now his parents prefer me over an indian girl that is just after money, or lazy, or wouldnt take care of their son as he does her. race has such a fraction of relevance, and people who dont see that are losing out. also, one of my best freinds is chinese/german, and people never know if he is greek, mexican or italian, but he is not an angry or displaced feeling person because his parents have raised him in a way that he need not be ashamed for any reason. i could go on and on, for those of you who dont realize what day and age you are living in, i feel sorry for you, you should branch out, ditch the fear of the unknown because you are missing so much by saving so much room for hate in your heart. each person has their challenges and would, due to their personalities and resiliance, not because of what shade of skin they have. and another white slut I have been married to my asian husband for nearly two years.We were very much in love.After a year i fell pregnant.His visa was also due to expire and of course we married in haste.I love my husband very very much but god life is hard some times.I went on and had a beautiful little girl.We are very proud. Problems for me started almost immediatly of meeting my husband, he was very jealous and he hated me talking to any men.At first i thought oh he must love me very much but reality was he became nasty.Our arguments became frequent he was always abusive verbally nasty to me.I cant tell you how many times i have told him i am leaving but of course we would make up and everything would be fine.Then of course after the baby we would argue about religion, i am christian he was then a non practising muslim.But obviously muslim isnt a religion only its a lifestyle after all he is from pakistan and lived the life as strict muslim.So we began arguing about intentions for our girl.He would always be disrespectful about christain this christian that and expect me to adhere to his muslim ideas.I am not one to back down so we would speand alot of our time not talking to each other After a while we would have to talk and we would be ok for a week or so then another argument occur.Now i know 100% he hates britain living here and wants to go back to pakistan but i would never live there.so now the content of arguments are about the custody of our child and that he will take her.Its awful.i hate my life.many times i want to kill myself but i cant do it for i know my girl will be going to live in pak.I do

not want that, his family is poor. i speak from my experience when i say please get to knpw someone properly before you decide to marry them.Especially asian men, their quran especially drills into them that men are superior.I f you want to miserable like me then ignore my advice.I am not saying every asian guy is like this but they are sheep in wolfs clothing and when they get their claws into you the niceties ware off and you are left miserable.Asian man will never back down no matter how much you are strong.I was strong, i am broken now. another dumb slut I'm a white woman married to a Chinese-born man, and we have a very happy marriage. We have two great young children and really, I consider us the perfect family. Of course we have the occasional marital problem, but it has nothing to do with race... it's about two people trying to get along for life. It's naturally human. http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Anti-miscegenation_laws#Asia China There have been various periods in the history of China where large numbers of Arabs, Persians and Turks from the "Western Regions" (Central Asia and West Asia) migrated to China, beginning with the arrival of Islam during the Tang Dynasty in the 7th century. Due to the majority of these immigrants being male, they often intermarried with local Han Chinese females. Laws and policies which discouraged miscegenation were issued, including an 836 AD decree forbidding Chinese to have relations with other peoples such as Iranians, Arabs, Indians, Malays, Sumatrans, and so on.[20] Race riots and massacres resulting in the deaths of several thousand Muslim merchants like Arabs and Persians in Hangzhou occurred. These laws were later relaxed during the Song Dynasty, which allowed third-generation immigrants with official titles to intermarry with Chinese imperial princesses. Immigration to China increased under the Mongol Empire, when large numbers of West and Central Asians were brought over to help govern Yuan China in the 13th century. Intermarriage was later encouraged during the Ming Dynasty.[21] By the 14th century, the total population of Muslims in China had grown to 4 million.[22] After Mongol rule had been overthrown by the Ming Dynasty in 1368, this led to a violent Chinese backlash against West and Central Asians. In order to contain the violence, the Ming administration instituted a pro-miscegenation policy where all West and Central Asian males were required to intermarry with native Chinese females, hence assimilating them into the local population. Their descendants are today known as the Hui people.[21] [edit]British India and independent India As British females began arriving to British India in large numbers around the early to mid-19th century, miscegenation became increasingly common. Relations between Indian men and British women became despised after the events of the Indian Rebellion of 1857, known as "India's First War of Independence" to the Indians and as the "Sepoy Mutiny" to the British, where Indian sepoys rebelled against the British East India Company. While incidents of war rape committed by Indian rebels against English women and girls occurred during the rebellion, this was exaggerated to great effect by the British media in order to justify vicious reprisals in the short run and continued British colonialism in the Indian subcontinent in the long run.[23] Despite the questionable authenticity of many colonial accounts regarding the rebellion, the stereotype of the Indian "dark-skinned rapist" occurred frequently in English literature of the late 19th and early 20th centuries. The idea of protecting English "female chastity" from the "lustful Indian male" had a significant influence on the policies of the British Raj. However, while widespread prejudice, and the

fear of professional and personal ruin prevented significant numbers from inter-marrying, there were no formal laws prohibiting marriage between Britons and Indians in British-ruled India.[citation needed] India's Constitution refers to the children of an Indian father and European mother as Indian but the children of a European father and Indian mother as "Anglo-Indian".[24] [edit]Malaysia There is no formal statistics in Malaysia of mixed-marriages or of their offsprings. There are many racial groups in Malaysia, namely, the Malays, the Chinese, the Indians, the Dayaks, and a number of other smaller groups and there is no law prohibiting inter-ethnic marriages per se. The offsprings of any inter-ethnic marriages are classified according to the ethnic identity of the father. The Muslims, the majority of whom are ethnic Malays, are required by Shariah to marry only Muslims. As a result those intending to marry a Muslim are required to convert to Islam. Islam in Malaysia is a state religion and conversion subjects the individual to Shariah law, which incidentally makes it a crime to apostasize further. The offsprings of such unions are automatically Muslims and their ethnicity may be classified as Malays and so avail themselves to the privileges that being a Malay in Malaysia comes with. The Malays have conceptualized this as "masuk Melayu". This is often seen in certain quarters as a conflict with the Constitutional provision guaranteeing freedom of religion but it has not stopped many nonMalays from marrying Malays. Among other races, the only hindrance to inter-racial marriages is not legal but rather cultural. Despite the fact that Malaysian politics is aligned along racial lines, the general climate of modern Malaysia is such that inter-racial marriage is a growing trend. http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Mischling here's more info about what makes this so shameful (however, make note to take this from a non religious angle, as we are not christian and do not favour any one religion over another, and it's fair to mention that this article is written with heavily christian references. we remain neutral, and may not agree with the religious aspects of the article, but do agree that there is in fact much common sense behind it, and we post from all religions to be fair to all equally. also, the people who work to contribute to this blog are from mixed backgrounds, some are mixed race, some are not, and we have different religions going on. all agree with what is posted.) http://davidbenariel.wordpress.com/2008/04/30/the-sin-of-interracial-marriage/ http://wrightjeremiah.blogspot.com/2008/04/sin-of-interracial-marriage.html HIGHLIGHTS FROM THE SIN OF INTERRACIAL MARRIAGE by Herbert W Armstrong May 1982 [following on from his remarks against interracial marriages in sermons at Pasadena about June 1978, HWA presented this sermon in 1982] Many members want to be part of this world, but our chance of salvation is now because judgement is upon the House of God now. The world will get its chance later and will have to give account before the judgement seat of Christ. This subject is causing a lot of trouble. Today I would like to speak on what may be the very next attack on the Church by Satan (ie preventing interracial marriages from taking place in the Church). Then again, Satan is going to use interracial marriage as the next attack upon Gods Church.

If we want to be with God, get on his side. Or get on Satans side and go into the lake of fire with regard to this question. I will not compromise one millionth of an inch on social trends of interracial marriage. Some say we must have racial balance in this world we will not go the way of Satan! But I say that for me and my family, we shall serve the eternal God (in relation to interracial marriages). [AUDIENCE CLAPS LOUDLY IN SUPPORT- how many would today?] Today is like the days of Noah the same things are bringing an end to this world. HWA said that three evils brought about the end of the world of Noahs day: 1. wrong foods (including gluttony) 2. wrong drink (including alcoholism) 3. wrong marriages (including interracial marriages) therefore God destroyed that world. HWA uses pure logic, deductive reasoning and wisdom he indeed had the spirit of a sound mind. Why do black men marry white women and visa versa, but few white men marry black women and visa versa? This world say that the cause of racial problems is segregation, when in fact the opposite is the case. The Supreme Court of the USA, without Gods wisdom, but has human wisdom, wants to mix the races. That Court has take to itself the notion of good and evil, but God separated the races (Deut. 32). Integration is the way of Satan. I know Satan is going to bring it up and I am going to beat him to the punch. Genesis 5 shows that family is important in Genesis. Races are families grown large. Genesis 11 shows that that they wanted integration, not separation. after their families = after their races. Noahs righteousness was in his ancestry and not in himself but in his strain, for none are perfectly righteous. Noah was white. Noahs family remained intact as God had decreed they should. The Bible uses the word family instead of the word race, but means the same thing in Genesis.

The genealogy of Abram was the same as Noah. The reason for the separation of married couples in Ezra and Nehemiah is because of race and not religion. Similarly Abram did not want his descendants to intermarry. Eg family of Egypt = race. AC was going so far over to Satans way that we had an interracial marriage here [in late 1970s]. God is not in favour of interracial marriage and he refers to Ezra 10:3. After he ends there is resounding applause. Here is the complete sermon transcript: THE SIN OF INTERRACIAL MARRIAGE from the comments: (putting this first, because this is how it's best summed up) david, Im south-east asian, and I actually respect your views. I would never marry out of my race, because of the huge cultural differences it would only confuse any children that i have out of that marriage. I dont think it is as religious as it is common sense. This script is irrefutably and unequivocally correct in its renderings. Interracial relationships are sin, and expecially grievous sin. Many will by their very nature conclude that this statement proceeds from ingorance or racism, though this is not so. All races are equal and precious in Gods site and we are commanded to love and commune with our foreign raced brothers and sisters in Christ, this is fact. However, to bind together that which is not to be bound, that is the distinctly ordered creatures under Gods creation is horrifically immoral and unethical. As a Roman Catholic, I proceed from a 2,000 organic anthology of authentic Christian Scriptural, Traditional, and Magisterial prohibition of such relations, and indeed many congragations and organizations within the Roman Church condone and even sanction such relations, guising them under the Sacrament Of Holy Matrimony. They all do so using an overly benign and erroneous interpretation of Official Church Teachings. Condemnation of such relationships is explicitly laid-forth throughout the Holy Scriptures, and these prohibitions are supported by the biological and psychological sciences. Natural science testifies that the different racial groupings are essentially at biological difference to one another, and the psychology profession is testimony to the damaging affects interracial relations have on society, those who engage in them, and even more profoundly those that are interracially mixed. Therefore, interracial relationships and mixed procreation are to be seen nothing more than as additional results of the fall of man from the Christian point of view. Those that are interracially admixtured are called to the full witness of Christian Faith, but at the caution of showing any such pride or patriotism with regards to their spiritally and biologically intrinsically disordered interracial condition. George, why are you in denial? God most certainly divided the races, He segregated the sons of Adam,

to preserve the races not adulterate them (genocide). Why do you hate our God-given differences and seek to destroy them? Why dont you appreciate our diversity? Deuteronomy 32:8 8 When the Most High divided their inheritance to the nations, When He separated the sons of Adam [even though we're all family], He set the boundaries of the peoples According to the number of the children of Israel [everything centers around Israel, nationally, internationally]. Acts 17:26 26 And [although] He [God] has made from one blood every nation of men to dwell on all the face of the earth [we're all human] [yet He] has determined their preappointed times and the boundaries of their dwellings By your faulty human reasoning, children born out of wedlock, to rape victims and due to incestuous relationships are because God wants it! Just because God permits something doesnt mean He approves of it. Gods Word and common sense forbids the sin of interracial marriage. http://wrightjeremiah.blogspot.com/2008/05/why-america-is-cursed-by-hwa.html WHY AMERICA IS CURSED! BY HWA Good News November 1957, Vol. VI, Number 11 Regarding other races and nationalities, Thou shalt make no covenant with them neither shalt thou make marriages with them (Deut. 7:2-3). America made herself the ally of godless, heathen Russia. America is falling victim today to the Communist propaganda of MIXING THE RACES, contrary to Gods commands! God Himself scattered the races at the tower of Babel. God decreed they shall remain SEGREGATED until the end of this world, and the coming of Christ. Communism stands for amalgamation of the races, until there will be but one race again. http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-2334272/US-woman-Nicole-Lynn-Mansfield-killed-Syriamarried-Muslim-man-sham-ceremony-family-claim.html The American woman who was shot dead in Syria accused of being an Al Qaeda supporter married a Muslim man in a sham wedding for which she was paid cash and a van, MailOnline can reveal. Nicole Mansfield entered in a 'deal' with Ayman Mohammed Bafil under which they would stay together until he got a green card. The pair met online, never lived together and did not even consummate their marriage - but after his papers came through he paid her what he owed.

A more recent picture taken of Nicole with her father: Some years later she met and married an Arab man and converted to Islam A more recent picture taken of Nicole with her grandfather: Some years later she met and married an Arab man and converted to Islam Nicole Lynn Mansfield was shot dead by Syrian government forces along with two other Westerners reportedly both British - The 33-year-old is from Flint, Michigan and converted to Islam several years ago following marriage to an Arab man Nicole Lynn Mansfield was shot dead by Syrian government forces along with two other Westerners reportedly both British - The 33-year-old is from Flint, Michigan and converted to Islam several years ago following marriage to an Arab man Records show that the couple were married in July 2010 but divorced in August 2011 when she apparently learned that he had another family. It was Nicole's second marriage having previously wed when she was 24 though it later fell apart. Nicole's motives for helping out Mr Bafil are unclear but around the time they met she became interested in Islam and became a Muslim. Speaking to MailOnline, Nicole's grandmother Carole said that she disapproved of her marriage to the Middle Eastern man, who she claimed was living in Toronto at the time. This close up picture shows a British passport (left) and the passport of Nicole Lynn Mansfield (right) who both died in a gunfight with Syrian government forces This close up picture shows a British passport (left) and the passport of Nicole Lynn Mansfield (right) who both died in a gunfight with Syrian government forces Carol said: 'It was a deal. They didn't live together and they didn't consummate their relationship. 'She told us she got a van. I don't know know how new it was or if it was nearly new. She said that she got the van and some change. 'The van is at her friend's house, I believe. 'It was arranged, not arranged, it was a marriage of convenience. He got his green card and she got a van.' More... Alabama bunker gunman ordered five-year-old boy to detonate bomb before FBI stormed in Texas Army veteran accused of sending ricin laced letters to Obama and Bloomberg now blames his actress wife for mailing poisonous notes One of Nicole's close friends, Tasha Williams, said Nicole called in mid-May to say she would be returning on a flight from Turkey to the U.S. in a few days after traveling to Syria to see a man. She wanted to be picked up at the Cincinnati airport.

Williams said: 'She said she was in a hotel room. She needed to get away from everything. I never heard from her again'. Daughter Triana Jones sobbed today as she defended her mother and condemned those responsible for the pictures: 'The first time I saw them I had to look again because I didn't even recognize her. I had to look again' Daughter Triana Jones sobbed today as she defended her mother and condemned those responsible for the pictures: 'The first time I saw them I had to look again because I didn't even recognize her. I had to look again' Daughter: Triana Lynn Mansfield, not pictured, took to Facebook on Friday to blame the Syrian government for her mother's death while denying her accused ties to terrorism Daughter: Triana Lynn Mansfield, right, took to Facebook on Friday to blame the Syrian government for her mother's death while denying her accused ties to terrorism nicole mansfield Nicole Mansfield: With her wide-eyed innocence and angelic smile, it is difficult to imagine this little girl from Michigan would be gunned down on a Syrian street less than 30 years later The allegations came as the daughter of the American woman who was gunned down in a street in Syria, accused of being part of an al-Qaeda influenced group, said her mother is not a terrorist and only went there to help the Syrians. On Wednesday, Nicole Lynn Mansfield, from Michigan, became the only American known to have been killed fighting in Syria, where 70,000 people have died in a two-year civil war. While pictures of the 33-year-old, who converted to Islam several years ago after marrying an Arab man, were broadcast from TV stations and images of her bloodied body circulated the internet, FBI agents delivered the news to her family. Her daughter Triana Jones sobbed today as she defended her mother and condemned those responsible for the pictures. 'The first time I saw those pictures I had to look again because I didn't even recognize her. I had to look again,' Jones told CNN. 'I looked at her body and her feet and her hands and her nose and her mouth and I knew it was her. 'It makes me mad that they are over the Internet...I shouldn't have to see my mother's body like that. 'There are people calling her a CIA agent and a terrorist. She was an American woman misguided by people who had good intentions but were extreme about it and didn't need to be. 'It really makes me sick to my stomach that people post such horrible things. I know that she was talking to people online and that they told her about the project in Syria. And that she was interested in going over there to help.

'She didn't think it would be fighting, she told me there wouldn't be no guns or anything. She would never be involved in that. 'And they lied to her. They misled her and took her over there and probably paid for her ticket and everything and they kept her there.' She qualified to CNN that the 'project' was 'to help free the Syrians from the Syrian government and all the problems that they're having over there'. Jones said her mother told her last week that she wouldn't be home for a few weeks because someone stole her ID - the same ID that was flashed on TV screens last night with the picture of Mansfield wearing a hijab and headscarf. Mourning: Burton resident Carole Mansfield, 72, breaks down into tears as she reflects on the life of her granddaughter Nicole Mansfield, who was killed in Syria on Wednesday Mourning: Burton resident Carole Mansfield, 72, breaks down into tears as she reflects on the life of her granddaughter Nicole Mansfield, who was killed in Syria on Wednesday Family: Nicole as a baby with her parents and an unknown relative, left Family: Nicole as a baby with her father, left, and grandparents Family: Nicole as a baby with her parents and an unknown relative, left Innocent: Smiling at the camera, flanked by her parents and holding her doll with her loving family surrounding her Beliefs: Nicole, pictured with her dad, would tell people 'that the best way of life was to be a Muslim. And that women should wear scarves...women should always cover their head' Beliefs: Nicole, pictured with her granddad, would tell people 'that the best way of life was to be a Muslim. And that women should wear scarves...women should always cover their head' Mansfiled was gunned down with two others - believed to be British Muslims - during a confrontation in the northwestern city of Idlib. All three have been accused of being fighters for a group opposed to Syria's government. Television footage showed a black car riddled with bullets and three bodies laid out also with multiple gunshot wounds. The MailOnline has seen these images but is not publishing them. Other images shown on Syrian state television include an alleged cache of weapons the three were carrying, a hand drawn map of a government military facility and a flag belonging to the al-Qaeda affiliated al-Nusra Front. Nicole's father Gregory also revealed today that he told the FBI about his daughter several years ago when she left the U.S. and told them to take away her passport. When asked why he thought his daughter going abroad was disturbing enough to warrant notifying the FBI, Gregory refused to explain and would only say his worries concerned 'Israel'.

'I just knew in my heart that something wasn't right. They need not let her go on that way. But my feelings and intuition was right,' he said. 'I know [the FBI] did follow up because they were following her for a while. But they needed to revoke her passport and this would not be going on.' Concerns: Nicole's father Gregory also revealed today that he told the FBI about his daughter several years ago when she left the U.S. and told them to take away her passport Concerns: Nicole's father Gregory also revealed today that he told the FBI about his daughter several years ago when she left the U.S. and told them to take away her passport With her father: With her father: Yesterday two FBI agents traveled to see Mansfield's family members and confirmed to them their relative was dead after Syrian state television broadcast images of her passport on Wednesday Reflect: Her grandmother said Nicole attended Mott Community College and worked as a home health care worker for 10 years. She dropped out of high school when she fell pregnant Reflect: Her grandmother said Nicole attended Mott Community College and worked as a home health care worker for 10 years. She dropped out of high school when she fell pregnant Mansfield's aunt Monica Speelman confirmed that her niece had met an Arab man several years ago and become a Muslim and soon started wearing a hijab and headscarf. Even after the couple divorced, she was adamant that Islam was the right choice for her. 'I am sick over it,' said the deceased woman's aunt 'I didnt think she was (a terrorist), but God only knows.' She did not know why Mansfield would have been in Syria. She told people 'that the best way of life was to be a Muslim. And that women should wear scarves...women should always cover their head,' Nicoles grandmother, Carole Mansfield, 72, told the Free Press. She said she last saw her granddaughter in December and believed she went to Syria to help 'settle the problems of the world', adding that the Mansfield family 'are true blooded Americans'. Her daughter took to Facebook today to defend her mother, claiming she was a 'regular American woman who was misguided by the people'. Triana blamed the Syrian government for her mother's death while denying her accused ties to terrorism. 'She was just a regular American woman who was misguided by the people who just wanted to use her because shes American,' she wrote. 'How did her ID end up on national television? They forced her to stay and die for media publicity.' Defense: Nicole's daughter Triana Lynn Mansfield took to Facebook today to defend her mother,

pictured, claiming she was a 'regular American woman who was misguided by the people' Defense: Nicole's daughter Triana Lynn Mansfield took to Facebook today to defend her mother, pictured, claiming she was a 'regular American woman who was misguided by the people' Nicole Lynn Mansfield grew up in Flint, Michigan, to Baptist parents. Her father used to be a production worker for GM. She attended Mott Community College and worked as a home health care worker for 10 years, according to her grandmother. She dropped out of high school when she fell pregnant with Triana, who is now 18-years-old. 'She had a heart of gold, but she was weak minded,' Mansfield said. 'I think she could have been brain washed.' Records showed that Mansfield lived in an apartment complex at a different address from her home on Longway Boulevard, according to MLive. An eviction notice was posted on the door dated May 21, 2013. She is reported to have paid $475 per month, for the three-bedroom apartment since October 8, 2012 but was believed to be secretly subletting it not long after. Michigan woman dies in Syria fighting for opposition Gunned Down: Syrian state television showed the vehicle the woman was traveling in with a British man that appeared to be riddled with bullets Gunned Down: Syrian state television showed the vehicle the woman was traveling in with a British man that appeared to be riddled with bullets This image from Syrian state television shows the alleged cache of weapons the three Westerner were carrying, their passports and a hand drawn map of a government installation (top right - folded) This image from Syrian state television shows the alleged cache of weapons the three Westerner were carrying, their passports and a hand drawn map of a government installation (top right - folded) Mansfield was reported to be traveling with two other unidentified Westerners, both British citizens, when forces loyal to President Bashar al-Assad opened fire. Syrian state television claimed that the three were fighting with al-Qaeda affiliated rebels and were carrying weapons when they opened fire. 'As we do in all such cases, we are working through our Czech protecting power in Syria to obtain more information, and we appreciate the efforts of the Czech mission on behalf of our citizens,' a U.S. official said. He added that U.S. authorities could not comment further 'because of privacy considerations.' Harem town, Idlib, Syria - where the shooting is alleged to have taken place Harem town, Idlib, Syria - where the shooting is alleged to have taken place

Proud: One of the pictures on Mansfield's Pinterest page which is filed in an album called 'Hometown Love Naver Die' Proud: One of the pictures on Mansfield's Pinterest page which is filed in an album called 'Hometown Love Naver Die' A Pinterest account belonging to a Nicole Mansfield from Flint, Michigan, is believed to belong to the 33-year-old. She was active on the site until ten weeks ago. Of her 13 followers, several are people from Michigan who have converted to Islam. Her interests on the site almost illustrate the story of a normal American woman, proud of where she came from, who also had an interest in Islam. Many of the pictures she has put up are of puppies, birds, food and places she would like to go. There is a folder called 'Islam' which are mainly stock images of mosques, people worshiping and the holy city of Mecca. Another album called Hometown Love Never Die shows several pictures of Flint, including Vernor's ginger ale company, a 'Coney dog' - a Michigan variation of the chili dog - and in recognition of Michigan's doomed economy, one image shows a large stone that reads: 'God help save us Flint.' A woman who claimed to be Nicole's best friend hinted that all was not right in a post on her MySpace page four years ago, pleading with her to come to Indiana. It said: 'Yeah and as your best friend I sometimes get disappointed cause I see you need to make changes in your life and I see in your heart that you really want to but things are holding you back, things that can live without you for a minute while you prosper in life, if everything is true to you when you leave it behind they and it will be there when you come back, so YOU NEED TO MOVE YOUR ASS TO INDIANA AND START FRESH!' They disseminate this propaganda among the Negroes of America. Mrs. Eleanor Roosevelt has fallen under this delusion,and other public leaders have started a trend in America which makes segregation, which GOD COMMANDS, appear to be sinful and evil, and which makes a mixing of races, which GOD CONDEMNS, appear to be Christian and good! This has nothing to do with race superiority or racial DISCRIMINATION. God condemns racial discrimination, but COMMANDS racial segregation. Theres a vast difference! Today people confuse the two as though they were the same! http://www.davidbenariel.org Those who rightly divide the Word of truth, know and understand that Moab is of the same racial stock as the descendants of Abraham, since Moabites are descendants of his nephew Lot. The Midianites are also white not black or Asian. The famous statement in Galatians, for those who dont twist it, is clear about our SPIRITUAL potential not our physical conditions. Common sense instructs folks dont lose their gender or ethnicity due to some spiritual conversion! Gods Word condemns the practice of adultery whether interracial folly or extramarital affairs. How sad that an alleged white woman hates her own race so much she wants it adulterated,

destroyed, despising God-given diversity and true Christianity, considering herself enlightened but very backwards as in the days of Noah. It is the white race that is cursed with such treacherous souls more than any other, because Satan hates the white race more than all the others. Thankfully, despite the sinners who would destroy our race, who are useful idiots for Satan, we will survive by the grace of God. Your poisonous idolatrous thoughts (Isaiah 55:7-9), your self-righteous sneer, makes you look foolish to educated Bible believers who know and believe the Bible and history. Our Great Creator God, the One who made our single common ancestor (Adam), testifies in His Divine Revelation to mankind: Deuteronomy 32:8 8 When the Most High divided their inheritance to the nations, When He separated the sons of Adam [even though we're all family], He set the boundaries of the peoples According to the number of the children of Israel [everything centers around Israel, nationally, internationally]. Acts 17:26 26 And [although] He [God] has made from one blood every nation of men to dwell on all the face of the earth [we're all human] [yet He] has determined their preappointed times and the boundaries of their dwellings You are nobody to disagree with our Maker. Merely so much dust. However, if you repent you can ultimately become divine and transcend your flesh and become born again at the resurrection. You dont have to wander aimlessly in your barren bewilderment. Wont you let the truth set you free and humbly ask Yeshua to offer you rest from your meaningless migration? (Typified by the seventh day Sabbath). Our great Creator God can detoxify your heart and heal your troubled mind. After all, a mind is a terrible thing to waste. Spell-check is also available to help you (or simply proofread your own post). Good for that common sense official in Louisiana! At least he respects our God-given differences and doesnt want to sanction adulterating of any race. Those who think theyre so enlightened, up to date with the times, with the promotion or acceptance of the sin of interracial marriage, have gone back to the future as in the days of Noah and the days of Sodom and Gomorrah. Nothing new under the sun. Nothing happened to the whole free will thing. God gave us free will that doesnt mean He approves of us using it for all the wrong purposes. He tells us right and wrong and watches to see what we do with such knowledge, such revelation. God permits folks to sin even the sin of interracial marriage. You have the will to marry whomever you will and to suffer the consequences if its going against His Word and Will.

Dutch the hate and intolerance is found among those who would destroy our God-given diversity and bad mouth those who seek to preserve it. God also permitted incest for awhile, do you promote it as well as race-mixing? The Scriptures clearly condemn race-mixing, reveals God segregated the nations and peoples, commands us to not commit adultery (adulterate, mix, weaken), to honor our parents (ethnic heritage), to not make an idol out of our feelings and bastard beliefs, to not covet what He has forbidden (race-mixing), were not to murder (race-mixing destroys both races involved), etc. Deuteronomy 32:8 8 When the Most High divided their inheritance to the nations, When He separated the sons of Adam [even though we're all family], He set the boundaries of the peoples According to the number of the children of Israel. Acts 17:26 26 And [although] He [God] has made from one blood every nation of men to dwell on all the face of the earth [we're all human] [yet He] has determined their preappointed times and the boundaries of their dwellings FATHER GOD KNOWS BEST, dont you agree? you can justify in your mind anything you want however race mixing is wrong on judgement day you will know how wrong and evil this sin is. This was told to me, ironically enough by an inbred idiot asshole who had done some other immoral things (and don't worry - is not a friend) - however, what he said in this reguard is so very true. 'Indian women r far better than goris. The Indian NRI after getting the citizenship they come to India to marry Indian women. Those who marry goris have a magburi to get the citizenship so they marry them. If other than that they are the biggest fools they can waste their life.' On this note, he *was* correct. In addition, when Desi, Middle Eastern, and Asian people come to the west and settle, or allow themselves to become too controlled by western culture - whether they leave their homeland or not, or even worse when they are born abroad, their behaviours and morals change, or if born abroad, are different from those in their home culture. They have a more streetwise attitude they become more self absorbed, they follow the lax morals of the west, they lose control of respect for them self and others. The goris happilly capitalize on this, because those who have given themself to these behaviours are willing to follow the western ways, forget the morals and behaviours of their culture, and join in the diseased pool of immorality that the west provides. Those who are most strict in their home culture's roots are polite, modest and conscientious about how they dress and act, how they affect others, and the decisions they make. They know to stay frpm temptations that might be immoral or might cause immorality to occur, such as avoiding pornography, sticking to people of their own culture with similar morals, etc. These people make the best impact on society because their simple efforts to do the right things help others live better. The choice to do the right actions from the get - go helps others in many ways. For one thing, they are good role models. Second, the simple fact is that whether we think or like it or not, our actions affect everyone else. We are a collective group of people in one large place with many subgroups which make up our cultures, countries, etc. How we treat ourselves and others affects not only our self but everyone else around us. Those who watch

pornography help fuel the immoral acts of lust, help fuel the lifestyles of those who make pornography - lives of drug abuse, sometimes physical and/or sexual abuse, exploitation, and even physical diseases such as AIDS and sexually transmitted diseases. They also help fuel the idea that this kind of lack of respect for one's body or soul, or that of others is acceptable. They make excuses such as 'it's natural for a male to do this', or 'i'm adult enough to watch this'. similarly, when they have romantic or sexual feelings for someone who is not their life partner, they fuel this form of exploitation, and allow their souls to be given to lust. it's the moral equivalent of losing your virginity, even if you may not have done so physically. Actions such as having thoughts about people who are not your life partner, watching pornography, or physically having sex acts - even things such as masturbation over someone who is not your life partner - all show that you are not mature enough to commit yourself to one person. Unfortunately, in the west, this concept is accepted and even encouraged. Eastern men are happy to marry women who have had sex and even have children from other partners, they often do not mind if the girl they marry publicly shows off her body or seeks attention and acceptance from others. They are blind to the game she is playing with him to fulfill negative attention seeking such as trying to fulfill psychotic fantasies of exotic people or places so as to escape real issues that they may need to face. Western girls are taught that it's acceptable to not be yourself. They try to be loved by society by being anyone else they can and trying to follow others. They easily give their bodies for sex with multiple partners, pretend to be something they are not, pretend to believe things that in reality they don't so they can gain fame and acceptance, and in return do many immoral things. As mentioned before, they will have sex with many partners, sometimes bearing children by these partners, and then raising their child in the same immoral manner they themselves live. Or, worse yet, they dump newborns into trash bags or toilets. The eastern boys don't mind this when they marry these people. When the behaviour of the easterner changes, it may copy or accept some of these noted actions, they become cocky and self centered, they feel the need to follow the western dress showing off body parts that would be seen as vulgar in their home culture. They become more materially obssessed, and learn to talk street tough and use ebonics and current slang so as to seem cool. They lose their identity get sucked into the whole 'trying to be someone else' game. They pass this on, and it gets back to the home culture, where it starts to be accepted and seen as cool. These people will then start doing the immoral acts in the home culture, sometimes going as far as to look for the westerners because they are mislead to believe in the dangerous and false illusion that the western girls are better. They start to watch pornography, share it with friends and spread this, they may start to copy the sexual habits of the west, they begin to have the same materialistic and self centered habits of the west. They may seem to think that westerners who pretend to be religious are better than those in their own culture, and will speak highly of them and herald them without reasearching deeply how these people are doing intense shame and disrespect to their homeland. Worse yet, sometimes they simply don't care. This all leads to a very distructive path. By simply having contact with these people, or even worse, by encouraging the western girls to be with easterners or worse still flirting/having a relationship with these people or doing these acts yourself, you help contribute to this spread of immorality and destruction of your culture. If you don't care, this makes it even worse still. It will unite all into one culture eventually, but it will be a culture of diseased, moral less beasts, with no restraint, no control no respect. In the end it leads to the self destruction of all. This is something that we cannot allow to happen. It has come to my attention on many occasions that there is a general misconception of the promises that western culture will bring, if you are an easterner and decide to emigrate. First, i will say that there are many sucess stories, but they come at a price. It's only natural that when you leave your land, you adapt to the ways of the new land, but one problem with this is that especially for eastern people, your attidue changes. In the east, your family is used to the attitudes of people like you - they may be friendly, strict, and very bound to their culture. you leave your land, and it seems you left many of those traits behind in the old land. often you join with the ills of western society, becoming more

materialistic as you are tempted left and right, might find lustful actions such as porgorgaphy and open sex, which is more accepted in the west, become greedy, and think of yourself before others, and become relaxed in moral areas. sadly, this is creeping into east culture even without moving because the western influence is being welcomed more than ever, and is having a greater impact now more than ever, which much more damage than ever. One issue i hear alot is that if you go to a western country, especially usa, canada, uk, australia, or europe, that you will have a better life and much cuess. this may be possible, but often with many bad side effects. another big issue nis that many easterners think if you marry a westerner that you will automatically has your ticket punched for sucess in your new country. eastern men are often most wanting to marry western girls...not girls from their culture who are citizens in that country...but rather, girls of western culture heritage who are happily willing to open their arms to them because they have intentions of full filling dangerous, materialistic, phychotic fantasies of exotic eastern culture, and because they know that it takes little effort to land these men and string them along for attention and money. these girls have usually done things that girls in the home country of the victim would nevr have been allowed, and are often tempted to enjoy this 'forbidden fruit', thinking it will gain them points in society as well. sometimes, they actually think they are in love, and fool others into thinking they are in love, and do not realise that if the girl really had respect for the boys, they'd try to push them to stick to girls of their own culture, so as to preserve and keep their morals and heritage strong. this should come as a warning sign right away. others think that using a marriage based application to obtain a greencard, they can marry, pretend they have a relationship, pay off the westerner, and both come away happy, after divorcing to both obtain their goals. this is dangerous and very bad on both moral and law - related counts. first off, one should never use the sacred institution of marriage to obtain anything...not even citizenship. marriage is meant as a permanent mark of a respectful bond built between two people who have wroked hard to guide, inspire, and make the lives better of each other and those around them. it should never be used as a pawn, or materialistic vehicle of any sort. second...contrary to the beliefs they are taught, it's not that easy. You don't just marry a citizen and magically get your citizenship as well...esepcially in a post 911 era. In usa, you have to go through an interview process to make sure your marriage is legitimate. It can be faked, or even one side thinking they are genuine, whilst the other pretends so that they cain their alternate desire. it's a common known but unfortunately not seen as illegal issue that many western girls will have relationships or marry whoever is favoured for governmental benifits of one kind or another. western boys will do this too, but usually with western girls. western boys who marry eastern girls have less of a risk of posing such threats of scammery. more eastern girls usually marry from their own culture when they come to a new country as opposed to eastern boys. more eastern girls are looking for the comfort and morals of the society they are used to, whilst the eastern boys hunger for the dangerous and seemingly exciting thrills from tempation by wetsern girls who wether they try to act pure and righteous or wether they let their trashy reality show. the saddest part is that the eastern boys often don't care, and welcome in the immorality that western girls will bring. Both the western cultures and eastern cultures lose out, and create more problems by the intentions made by either party. sadly, the indians are following all the wrong things, instead of being the bigger man and teaching the westerners the right things - and this is not just limited to yoga, but to other things as well. i hear so many westenrers say that love eastern culture, eastern morals, yaddah yaddah yaddah, but for them it has the same translation as the yoga - seriously fractured. but yet, instead of taking them under their wing properly and guiding these people who seem eager and wanting to change for the better (or so we'd like to hope), most of the desi (and not just indians either) and easterners in general are just feeding into this whole mess. and they aren't just doing it because it's easier than trying to fight with a westerner who may think they know what they're doing and thinking, these easterners are actually having their perceptions changed to whatever those wrong things are, and they are adapting to it. it's soemthing that's very dangerous for both sides. This is soemthing that needs to stop.

This is a little note to you western girls. Because you are so caught up in the excitement of something that seems new and different, exotic, and fun. You enjoy playing dress - up, you enjoy the south asian, asian, or middle eastern boy telling you how cute and wonderful you look, and being proud to show you off like some fancy new ring or watch on their arms. Did you ever realise what that is about? First off, dating a western girl is a trend.....in western culture, to have a man who is of another race or culture is a trend, and you think you look cool. For these boys, the trend is the same. You're an object to show off, they give you attention and gifts and things because they know it will make you happy, and they will continue to look cool to other fools. You love the easy attention, the gifts, the money, the sex, and that you appear to have moved up in society with an easy meal ticket. it's wide known, and and an age old fact that pale skin is an obsession with south asian culture - it's considered an asset if you have fair skin, and there are many skin lighteners on the market. just as in western culture tanning booths are so popular, in eastern culture, most especially south asia - skin lightening is the equivalent. Modernization had caused changes in eastern culture, and they have become more accepting and embracing of the worst aspects of western culture. Also, whatever the trends of western culture have been observed and embraced by eastern culture, and if it's seen as cool to have a white girl, spanish or black girl because they are more street wise, and open in all the wrong ways, it's not because you really touch their soul and make the world spin for them. you are an object of rebellion for them. they feel more able to fit in with a changing society because of you. they are helping to ruin their culture's morals, they are helping to shame their families, they are abandoning their own culture's women who then have to also continue in this viscious cycle to keep their men by diminishing their morals so they can stay in the loop. Also, especially if your desi, middle eastern, or asian guy is an immigrant, you are an easy source of a greencard, and they will pretend to love you and give you the world if it means they won't face deportation. Sometimes, they face very hard lives in their home countries, or they can benefit their families in an easy way by getting a western girl who is probably unaware of their intentions, or who does know but doesn't care because she really believes he loves her and that she can get the goods out of it. Also, there is a big issue of feoticide - many desi girls are still seen as expandible, and less important than boys, and are still killed as infants or before birth in some areas. The men who then go on to marry western girls because they have a jaded view of the west, and make a further insult to the desi girls, making them seem even more useless to society's mind. here is an example 70% Pakistanis not consulted before marriages ISLAMABAD: A survey conducted in the Punjab and NWFP found that around 70 percent of married respondents were not consulted in choosing their life partners. The British High Commission and the Society for Change (SACH), a civil society organization conducted the survey. Of 1,054 people contacted for the survey in Gujar Khan, Mirpur, Dina, Nowshera, Sohawa, Kotli, Jhelum, Islamgarh, Dodyal and Gujrat, around 70 percent said their elders had not consulted them before arranging their marriage and 30 percent replied otherwise. Interestingly, 69 percent of the respondents were married within their own families. Around 55 percent of married people said that parents have the full right to decide their childrens marriages and 30.3 percent said they were married to persons within their castes. The survey found that 28 percent of girls and boys were willing to marry persons of the same religion or sect while 61 percent said they wanted to marry within their castes. Sixty-one percent of the respondents said their parents had arranged their marriages within the family because of fear of division of assets and land. this not ony goes for pakistan but india as well. http://www.pakistanlink.com/entertainment.htm

Many western girls either don't realise this, don't feel tit has any connection to them or any affect on them, or just plainly don't care. This is no sign for a healthy relationship. Both you and he are exploiting each other and making a bigger mess of society. You do no one any good, and your happiness is only temporary - as well as being materialistic. Your happiness comes with a price and is only superficial. it's an illusion. Another issue is, no matter how you try to pretend you like the culture, unless you are of mixed race, and part of your mix heritage includes that culture, you can learn about it to your heart's content, but it is not your culture. even westerners who are born in such countries have differences. These cultures are so vastly different than yours, no matter what excuses you or they try to put up to say otherwise, and they belong with people who understand them in their language, in their culture's beliefs, morals, etc. and must continue to respect and improve their own culture. there is no reason that you can't learn about their culture, or they about yours, but instead of getting into a romantic relationship, the best love you can show is to encourage them to find someone of their own culture and help them have a respectful relationship with that person instead. Next time a desi, middle eastern, or asian boy tries to propose to you, reject him, and help him find someone from his own culture, with a respectful relationship. despite your feelings, you will be helping improve the situation by far. you will do much better in the end, and it will make better for everyone - yourself included. i was introduced by the works of this man by a friend of mine en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Ren_Gunon He's an author that wrote interesting things, among others an historical reconstruction of the spreading of "theosophism", and many essays on the religious sectarism in India, in particular about the castes that seem to belong to various parts of eastern society, when in reality they belong to protestantism, or to the mentality of indians with a western mind-shape. my friend (who is a westerner) also went on to add about our dear freaky psycho nut kelly culp What I read about Kelly, with her religious sincretism, remind me the characters of whom Gunon speaks so often. http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Sham_marriage A sham marriage or fake marriage is a marriage of convenience entered into with the intent of deceiving public officials or society about its purpose. Arranging or entering into such a marriage to deceive public officials is itself a separate violation of the law of some countries. While referred to as a "sham" or "fake" because of its motivation, the union itself is still legally valid if it conformed to the formal legal requirements for marriage. After a period, a couple often divorces if the marriage is no longer useful. Since the introduction of stricter modern immigration laws in First World countries, sham marriages have become a common method to allow a foreigner to live, and possibly gain citizenship, in the more desirable country of the spouse. The couple marries with knowledge that the marriage is solely for the purpose of obtaining the favorable immigration status. This is frequently arranged as a business transaction, and occurs more commonly with foreigners already in the country. The United States has a penalty of a $250,000 fine and five-year prison sentence for such arrangements.

In Ireland in August 2010, it was highlighted that sham marriages account for one in six of all marriages, with Pakistani nationals leading attempts to obtain, by fraudulent means, residency status in the European Union and circumventing immigration rules. I really can't stand when people try to start an argument with you, especially people you don't know, and they try to make them self sound so incredibly informed, but in reality are ignorant sons of bitches who just want to flap their and display their feathers, making their own ego look good. they are really some of the most foolish. i had an argument with a western girl over west vs. east culture. She used a couple western stereotypes of eastern culture, especially the kama sutra, as an example of eastern views of open sexuality. the west seems to it ingrained in it collective mind that we came up with kama sutra so right away we are sexually open and are on the same level as the playboy mention and all that shit. same with the whole western culture's idea of eastern spirituality. every time i hear westerners who try to sound spiritual.....talking about balancing their chakras and yoga and all that...it makes me want to puke. their crap has even been parodied in movies and tv so many times, yet they don't get the hint. so, despite our kama sutra.......it is still illegal in some places in india to kiss or hug the opposite sex in public, and it's done for good reason. I also will not say that dirty things don't exist in eastern culture, because they do. but in general we don't accept it as the west does. in eastern culture, especially india and middle east, if you lose your virginity before marriage, and especially if you parent a child before marriage or with sum1 who is not your spouse, it is still not accepted very well. in the west, mothers and daughters date each other's boyfriends, the overwhelming greater number of the population has sex before marriage, with multiple partners, producing children. the children are raised to be as classless and lacking morals as the parents. sometimes, the single mothers will try to flush their babies in the toilet or in a trash bag. they think nothing of having sex, getting pregnant, going out to nightclubs ad getting drunk, high, bringing home more men for sex. western culture loves to picture a woman in little to no clothing, or in things that reveal their breasts and other privates, promoting perniciousness. pornography and group sex, open sex, strip clubs, etc are prized in the west. the only flip side to this are those who pretend to be so pure then secretly do these things on the side. Besides, the kama sutra was written many centuries ago, back when western women were still wearing crinoline cages, and back when there could have been more argument for their equal morals. this was long before the victorian era, when they began to travel, and get all kinds of screwed up ideas of the east then got bored of their own kind and would marry them to live out their exotic fantasy and escape to la-la land. You want to have 'inner peace' and all that crap? LIVE WITH MORALS, RESPECT YOURSELF, RESPECT OTHERS, AND STICK TO UR OWN EFFING CULTURE BUT BE EDUCATED AND OPEN MINDED OF OTHERS. it's that simple. there are even westerners who will agree with what i'm saying, so it's not me that has some whacked out radical idea, it's ficking common sense. those who fight it and debate it lack common sense. that's not my fault. i had a reply from a person who had some very wise input and i will share that with you because i found it to be overall very sensible and written by someone who clearly understands and respects their culture "freedom without morals leads to evil. the west talks about freedom and liberty. the truth is that this exists only in the media. we shouldn't forget that what made the west

developped is the wealth of what they call now "the poor countries". after they took everything from them. I remember I chatted with a western person a while ago and she said "some girls meet boys in lunch and they end in bed at night" they call this civilization. well, if I have to chose I prefer not to get this kind of civilization. because in my opinion, it's perversion. they call us uncivilized because we don't accept those perversions. the east has different vision for what is right and what is wrong and doesn't accept this kind of things. and we are right. we are not supposed to follow all what the west invents just to prove we are civilized. our cultures are very rich. eastern nations grew thousands of years before the west knew what civilization is. I agree with what you said. the west unfortunately doesn't have the word "Respect" in their dictionary. " I wanted to hit home a little further on the REAL effect eastern men have when they marry western women.

First off, let's see some of these stories about treatment of girls and women in the east http://www.goddiscussion.com/15383/afghan-women-set-themselves-on-fire/ http://freerepublic.com/focus/f-news/2422674/posts http://www.rawa.org/suicide06-2.htm http://www.abc.net.au/news/stories/2008/01/31/2151042.htm?section=justin http://www.google.com/search?hl=en&client=firefox-a&channel=s&rls=org.mozilla:enUS:official&hs=AD9&ei=OzNrS6KBDtHIlAfSr8jlBA&sa=X&oi=spell&resnum=0&ct=result&cd=1 &ved=0CAgQBSgA&q=afghanistan+women+set+herself+on+fire&spell=1

http://www.google.com/url?sa=t&source=web&ct=res&cd=1&ved=0CAkQFjAA&url=http%3A%2F %2Fincognito73.instablogs.com%2Fentry%2F11-year-old-saudi-girl-married-off-to-80-year-old-man %2F&ei=FjRrS4zrKoXPlAf_rqT2BA&usg=AFQjCNHtcS7vGvYM1npC-lM6ShcdVg8gA&sig2=Z18l6vd_zUdT3CyICGrfyQ http://www.google.com/url?sa=t&source=web&ct=res&cd=2&ved=0CA0QFjAB&url=http%3A%2F %2Fwww.lemondrop.com%2F2009%2F02%2F10%2F8-year-old-married-off-to-47-year-old-man %2F&ei=FjRrS4zrKoXPlAf_rqT2BA&usg=AFQjCNEf_FgjfwTOsb5lxbXJ1ATanfu4qg&sig2=rjUGv GkfMN72OkM2Ttcpqw http://www.google.com/url?sa=t&source=web&ct=res&cd=6&ved=0CB8QFjAF&url=http%3A%2F %2Finfidelsarecool.com%2F2010%2F02%2F03%2Fislamic-justice-16-year-old-girl-lashed-101-timesfor-conceiving-after-rape%2F&ei=FjRrS4zrKoXPlAf_rqT2BA&usg=AFQjCNFHDFHenTyQhMbKaE89rod_GHXDA&sig2=YpPhK2JOnqUonrw22CQXgA http://www.google.com/url?sa=t&source=web&ct=res&cd=3&ved=0CBUQFjAC&url=http%3A%2F %2Fwww.inquisitr.com%2F58451%2Fsaudi-girl-12-married-off-to-80-year-old-man %2F&ei=aTRrS9O6FIeSlAe93ZD2BA&usg=AFQjCNFExn7OHdjLAP0RBSn22t8B4PPBLg&sig2=7 7pSplnoNQK7ZRbLoxpd7Q http://www.google.com/url?sa=t&source=web&ct=res&cd=2&ved=0CBIQFjAB&url=http%3A%2F %2Fincognito73.instablogs.com%2Fentry%2F11-year-old-saudi-girl-married-off-to-80-year-old-man %2F&ei=aTRrS9O6FIeSlAe93ZD2BA&usg=AFQjCNHtcS7vGvYM1npC-lM6ShcdVg8gA&sig2=nFCf_e-cI8WuDf5bFuh9rw http://www.google.com/url?sa=t&source=web&ct=res&cd=5&ved=0CBoQFjAE&url=http%3A%2F %2Fsmaknews.com%2FNeed-to-Know%2F112-year-old-man-realizes-dream-finally-marries-17-yearold-girl %2F&ei=aTRrS9O6FIeSlAe93ZD2BA&usg=AFQjCNEtl_r64KzsoVR6lyu00XbVu0Yvcw&sig2=EQI ZD5oorqEURCbZDcHJBA Young girls - some as young as 8 or younger are forced to marry old men, are often abused and tortured, some girls are killed at birth as a process of selection (infanticide) to have only boy children, and then as a final slap in the face, eastern boys go off and marry western girls - those who will pretend they love eastern culture, even sometimes adopting the eastern religions, when they have also

had sex with many partners, smoke gone to nightclubs, done drugs, have children from many partners or from other partners, and are using the whole respect for culture and religion act as a way to trap eastern men for easy attention, money, and good living as well as imposing their lack of morals on them, their families, and their community at large. it's not just immorality, it's abuse that helps damage both eastern and western societies further. And those who think western girls are so great, and who encourage them to marry eastern men only help do more damage. Teach the west to respect our people and be open minded about our cultures, but to also respect theirs. Western girls need to stay with western boys, and need to stay away from romantic relationships with eastern boys. western girls need to also learn respect and morals for them self and others, and to help eastern men respect eastern women and give them the equal treatment they deserve. western girls become over-conformed in their overwhelming eagerness to be accepted into a new and radically different culture. http://politics.slashdot.org/comments.pl?sid=1116583&cid=26735921 The man moved here when he was 11. He IS an American by upbringing. And watching my wife (a first generation American of Indian descent) it is obvious that they try hard to assimilate here while at home being a bit more Indian. yes this is very true, but even more so for eastern men who are really willing to give up their idenitity and culture and adopt the alck of morals of the west. the easteren women have more of a connection and appreciation for their roots. Here are a few things that we need to think about when studying these issues - The majority of blogs about romantic relationships between western girls and eastern men are written by western sluts. The eastern male assholes do not write blogs nearly as often, and as immoral and shitty as tyhey are for getting involved with a western slut, they are more humble and don't need to announce and celebrate their acts quite as freely and openly as the western whores. The western sluts are also more open and celebratory on social networks such as facebook, myspace, bebo, twitter, tagged, etc. - The western men and eastern women who have romantic relationships are also more quiet. When they do blog, their blogs are not patronizing, and do not give a feeling of showing off some pathetic trophy that they feel they've won. - When western people decide to incite hate crimes on easterners, why do they always target innocent easterners? They never seem to target eastern men who are having or who have had romantic relationships or interactions with western women. Why is this? Do they feel that these easterners are exempt from being targeted? Do they feel that these easterners are equals to westerners because they are or were with western women?

Ironically enough, the same guys who say this also do THIS - read the following articles The Indian government has launched a new scheme to help women who are married and then abandoned by men of Indian origin living in the West. The Ministry of Overseas Indian Affairs says women who are divorced or deserted within two years of marriage will be entitled to legal and financial

aid. According to one estimate, up to 20,000 women have been abandoned by their non-resident Indian (NRI) husbands. Mostly, the husbands disappear after pocketing fat dowries paid at weddings. An official in the ministry, SS Rana, told the BBC that women who needed help could approach Indian missions abroad directly or through non-governmental organisation approved by them. "The deserted women will be given financial assistance of $1,000 for seeking legal help and will also be offered counselling," he said. Initially this facility will be given to women who have been married for two years or less. Migrant populations But Mr Rana said: "If we get a large number of such cases where women are abandoned after the twoyear deadline, we will review the time limit." Officials say most cases of NRIs duping their Indian brides are reported in the United States, Canada, Britain, Australia and New Zealand countries with substantial Indian migrant populations. And most of the abandoned women come from the Punjab, Gujarat, Andhra Pradesh and Kerala - states which send out a large number of migrants to the West. Indian protest against dowriesDowries have been the subject of much debate in India. The deputy secretary in the National Commission for Women, Gurpreet Deo, says they have received several complaints where after marriage a woman goes abroad with her husband only to find that her husband is already married. "In many cases, men claim they hold fantastic jobs abroad, but when the wife goes, she realises that he is either out of work or does some odd jobs," she says. Then there are "holiday brides". Ms Deo says: "In these cases, NRIs come to India for a holiday, get married, pocket the dowry, and then disappear without leaving a trace." With their dreams shattered, the duped women have to grapple not just with emotional scars, but with the practicalities of being abandoned. Sometimes they also have to deal with pregnancy and worry about bringing up children on their own. Highly coveted Because of social stigma, they are unable to remarry. In India a financially well-established son- in-law living in the UK, US or Canada is highly coveted. A Green Card holder in the US [which gives a foreigner right of residency and right to work] or one possessing a similar document in the UK or Canada or other Western countries is regarded as a "good catch". Ms Deo says the reason why NRIs get away after duping their wives is "because in their greed to send their daughters abroad, most parents don't do enough verification. There is very little awareness about these problems". Once dumped, there is little these women can do. Ms Deo says: "Because there are extra-territorial boundaries involved, most women are left in the lurch when their NRI husbands run away. There is no legal way to get them back. "The police are often reluctant to file a case. And even if they do, and the court issues a summons, how do you deliver the summons on foreign territory? The court can order confiscation of property, but what about those NRIs who do not own property in India?" The National Commission for Women is now demanding tougher laws to deal with such cases. The commission has also called on the Indian government to sign extradition treaties with foreign countries so that the runaway grooms can be brought back to India and tried in a court of law. "Domestic violence or matrimonial offences at present are not extraditable offences. We need to address that," Ms Deo says. http://news.bbc.co.uk/2/hi/south_asia/4837122.stm http://news.bbc.co.uk/2/hi/health/4785750.stm http://news.bbc.co.uk/2/hi/south_asia/4592890.stm http://news.bbc.co.uk/2/hi/south_asia/3696562.stm

http://news.bbc.co.uk/2/hi/south_asia/3246786.stm http://news.bbc.co.uk/2/hi/south_asia/3283989.stm http://news.bbc.co.uk/2/hi/south_asia/3048417.stm when eastern girls rebel and choose to follow their own path, they pay for it. When eastern boys do the same, rarely is anything said.....nor do they have to face the violence eastern girls face. Things you can do to help stop this horrific practice * Help prevent and/or breakup relationships of eastern men with western girls and teach others why these relationships are so shameful and hurtful, and how they help promote horrible acts like this, and make eastern women feel even more degraded. * If you know of a girl who may be at risk of being a victim of an honour killing, REPORT IT. IF YOU SEE SOMETHING, SAY SOMETHING, YOU WILL BE SAVING A GIRL'S LIFE. * If you know a girl who may be at risk of being a victim of an honour killing, help her - provide alternative shelter, hide her from her tormentors, feed her, provide asylum for her. You will be saving a life - the most humane thing you can do. * learn more about honour killings and what you can do at - http://www.stophonourkillings.com Now, read on.... http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-461378/The-tragic-story-Banaz-Mahmod--fell-love-19family-killed-her.html The tragic story of Banaz Mahmod: she fell in love at 19, so her family killed her By FIONA BARTON Banaz Mahmod predicted her own murder in a chilling video message As one of five daughters in a strictly-traditional Kurdish family, Banaz Mahmod's future was ordained whether she liked it or not. She was kept away from Western influences, entered an arranged marriage at the age of 16 with a member of her clan and was expected to fulfil the role of subservient wife and mother. But Banaz, a bright, pretty 19-year-old, fell in love with another man. And for that, she was murdered by her father, uncle and a group of family friends. The very people who should have protected her from harm plotted her killing, garrotted her with a bootlace, stuffed her body in a suitcase and buried her under a freezer. Banaz's crime was to "dishonour" her father, Mahmod Mahmod, an asylum seeker from Iraqi Kurdistan, by leaving her abusive marriage and choosing her own boyfriend - a man from a different Kurdish clan.

Her punishment was discussed at a family "council of war" attended by her father, uncle Ari and other members of the clan. In the living room of a suburban semi in Mitcham, South London, it was decided that this young woman's life was to be snuffed out so that her family would not be shamed in the eyes of the community. Banaz was only ten when she came to Britain with her father, who had served in the Iraqi army, her mother Behya, brother Bahman and sisters Beza, Bekhal, Payman and Giaband. The family, who came from the mountainous and rural Mirawaldy area, close to the Iranian border, were escaping Saddam Hussein's regime and were granted asylum. But Banaz's move to a western country changed nothing about the life she was made to lead. She had met her husband-tobe only three times before her wedding day, once on her father's allotment. He was ill-educated and old-fashioned but her family described him as 'the David Beckham of husbands'. The teenage bride, who was taken to live in the West Midlands, was to tell local police in September 2005 that she had been raped at least six times and routinely beaten by her husband. In one assault, she claimed, one of her teeth was almost knocked out because she called him by his first name in public. To leave the arranged marriage would have brought dishonour on the Mahmod family and Banaz's parents apparently preferred their child to suffer abuse rather than be shamed. But after two years of marriage, she insisted on returning home to seek sanctuary. It was there, at a family party in the late summer of 2005, that she met Rahmat Sulemani. For the first time in her blighted existence, Banaz fell in love. She was besotted with Rahmat, 28, calling him 'my prince' and sending endless loving text messages. Her father and uncle Ari were furious; the young woman was not yet formally divorced by her husband and her boyfriend was neither from their clan nor religious. More importantly, perhaps, he had not been chosen by her family. Mahmod became enraged when his daughter refused to give up her boyfriend and talked of being in love. The threat to family honour was immense and made worse by the fact that Banaz's elder sister, Bekhal, had already brought "shame" on the family by moving out of the house at the age of 15, to escape her father's violence. Bekhal's defiance meant that Mahmod lost status in the community because he was seen to have failed to control his women and his younger brother Ari, a wealthy entrepreneur who ran a money transfer business, took over as head of the family. It was he who telephoned Banaz on December 1, 2005 to tell her to end the affair with Rahmat or face the consequences. The following day, Ari called a council of war to plan her murder and the disposal of her body. She was secretly warned by her mother that the lives of her and her boyfriend were in danger, and she went to

Mitcham Police Station to report the death threat. But she was so terrified of her family's reaction that she asked police to take no action and refused to move to a refuge. The next day, an officer called at the family home but Banaz would not let him in. She believed that her mother would protect her from harm but as an insurance against her disappearance, went back to the police station a week later to make a full statement, naming the men she believed would kill her. One of the men was Mohamad Hama, who has admitted murder and two of the others named fled back to Iraq after the killing. On New Year's Eve 2005, she was lured to her grandmother's house in nearby Wimbledon for a meeting with her father and uncle to sort out her divorce. When her father appeared wearing surgical gloves, ready to kill her, she ran out barefoot, broke a window to get into a neighbour's house and then ran to a nearby cafe, covered in blood from cuts to her hands and screaming: "They're trying to kill me". The officers who attended the scene and accompanied Banaz to hospital did not believe her story. However, the distressed and injured victim was able to give her own testimony about the attack to the jury in a short video recorded on Rahmat's mobile phone at St George's Hospital, Tooting. The terrified lovers pretended they had parted but they continued to meet in secret. Tragically, they were spotted together in Brixton on January 21 and the Mahmods were informed. Mohamad Hama and three other men tried to kidnap Rahmat and, when his friends intervened, told him he would be killed later. When he phoned to warn Banaz, she went to the police and said she would co- operate in bringing charges against her family and other members of the community. The policewoman who saw Banaz tried to persuade her to go into a hostel or safe house but she thought she would be safe at home because her mother was there. On January 24, Banaz was left on her own at the family house and her assassins, Hama and two associates, were alerted. The full details of what happened to her are still not known but two of the suspects, Omar Hussein and Mohammed Ali, who fled back to Iraq after the killing, are said to have boasted that Banaz was raped before she was strangled, "to show her disrespect". There followed a "massively challenging" investigation into her disappearance by detectives, fearing the worst. The family's appalling crime was finally exposed when, three months after she went missing, Banaz's remains were found, with the bootlace still around her neck. The discovery of her body provoked no emotion in her father and uncle. Even at her funeral, the only tears were from Banaz's brother. "She had a small life," a detective on the case said. "There is no headstone on her grave, nothing there

to mark her existence." Yesterday, her devastated boyfriend, who has been given a new identity by the Home Office under the witness protection programme, said: "Banaz was my first love. She meant the world to me." The dead girl's older sister, Bekhal, urged other women in the same position as her and her sister to seek help before it is too late. Even today she continues to fear for her life, lives at a secret address and never goes out without wearing a long black veil that covers her entire body and face apart from her eyes. She strongly rejected the suggestion that Banaz had brought "shame" on her Kurdish family by falling in love with a man they did not approve of, saying her sister simply wanted to live her own life. "There's a lot of evil people out there. They might be your own blood, they might be a stranger to you, but they are evil. "They come over here, thinking they can still carry on the same life and make people carry on how they want them to live life." Asked what was in her father's mind on the day that Banaz died, Bekhal replied: "All I can say is devilishness. How can somebody think that kind of thing and actually do it to your own flesh and blood? It's disgusting." Bekhal says she is scared whenever she sees somebody from the same background as her. "I watch my back 24/7." news.bbc.co.uk/2/hi/6733653.stm www.bbc.co.uk/2/hi/uk_news/6733653.stm http://www.guardian.co.uk/uk/2007/jul/20/ukcrime.uknews4

Banaz Mahmod was killed after falling in love with a man her family did not want her to marry. Her father Mahmod Mahmod, 52, and uncle Ari Mahmod, 50, from Mitcham, London, were convicted of murder on Monday. Banaz Mahmod was 20 years old, and very much in love, when she was strangled with a bootlace and her body stuffed into a suitcase. According to the prosecution, Banaz had to pay the "ultimate price" for bringing shame on her Kurdish family.

The court heard that Banaz was murdered at her home in Mitcham in Surrey in January last year. Four months later, the suitcase containing her body was found buried more than 100 miles (160 km) away, deep beneath the foundations of a house in a Birmingham suburb. Having left an arranged and unhappy marriage, Banaz had started a relationship with Rhamat Sulemani. Phone footage Mr Sulemani, 29, broke down in tears when giving testimony at the trial. He said they had been threatened with death if they carried on seeing each other. Shown in court was mobile phone footage he had taken of Banaz when she was lying covered in blood in a hospital bed, in what the prosecution alleges was an earlier attempt to murder her. In Banaz's case, if her boyfriend hadn't reported it, we would never have known that she was missing Caroline Goode, Chief Investigating Officer In the grainy recording, she says how fearful she is that father and uncle may be trying to kill her. The court heard that her father, Mahmod Mahmod and her uncle, Ari Mahmod recruited young men from the Kurdish community to carry out the murder. According to Victor Temple QC, the family's well-being and standing was at stake. There would be a loss of prestige unless the community saw that they had acted according to the old customs. Banaz's sister, Bekhal Mahmod, gave evidence in court that their father had also beaten, threatened and called her a whore for becoming too Westernised. Her uncle had said that she deserved to be "turned to ashes". Testifying from behind a screen at the Old Bailey, Ms Mahmod said, "I escaped what my sister went through, that's why she's not here". Jasvinder Sanghera, who runs the Karma Nirvana refuge in Derby, says she is "hugely angry" that Banaz had not been properly assisted by the police when she had gone to them for help. She called for police officers to be properly trained in matters of honour-based crime. The Chief Investigating Officer in this case, Caroline Goode, told the BBC: "I do think that we are only scratching the surface of this. One of the difficulties is that these things aren't often reported. "In Banaz's case, if her boyfriend hadn't reported it, we would never have known that she was missing".

One of the gang who tortured, raped and strangled a young Kurdish woman in an "honour killing"

boasted of how he had finally stamped on her neck to "get her soul out", the Old Bailey heard yesterday. Mohamad Hama, 30, laughed and joked as he described how they subjected Banaz Mahmod to a series of degrading acts of sexual violence during a 2-hour ordeal in her home. Ms Mahmod, 20, disappeared last January. Her body was found three months later, in a suitcase buried in a pit in Birmingham. Her murder was planned and ordered by her father, Mahmod Mahmod, 50, and her uncle, Ari Mahmod, 52, after she fell in love with a man they deemed unsuitable. The full details of her killing emerged in a pre-sentence hearing yesterday to decide what part Hama, an associate of Ari Mahmod, had played. The prosecution says Hama took part in the murder, but he claims he only helped bury her body. Hama's account of the murder was secretly taped by police during prison visits after his arrest in February 2006, the court heard. "Her soul wouldn't leave the body. It took half an hour," he told an unnamed visitor to Belmarsh, believed to be a relative. "I was kicking and stamping on her neck to get her soul out." He described how he stood with one foot on her back as another man prepared the ligature that would kill her, how he would "shut her up quickly" and how she had vomited during her ordeal. The court was told that when Ms Mahmod was found she was only wearing pants. Victor Temple, QC, prosecuting, said: "Hama is no doubt speaking about how long it took to murder her. There is laughter. That is nothing to do with the burial. It's the placing of the foot so Hama could pull the ligature." He told the court that none of the defendants had expressed the slightest degree of remorse for Ms Mahmod's "cold-blooded and callously executed" murder. In one taped conversation Hama refers to a series of sexually abusive acts carried out on Ms Mahmod over "more than two hours". No evidence of sexual abuse was put forward in the trial. In another, in which he describes how he helped drag her body from her home in Morden to a waiting car. Amid laughter, Hama said: "The road was crowded and a police car came by. Cars were passing by and we were dragging the bag. The handle broke off. Man, I swear I was standing there, I almost ran away." The visitor asks: "Who was dragging?" Hama replies: "Mr Ari." "We were around him, each side of him - as God is my witness - her hair was sticking out, her elbow was sticking out. It was a stupid, silly thing. We put the bag on our shoulder to take it away." Hama's counsel, Malcolm Swift QC, told the judge Hama was repeating details given to him by Ari. Although involved in the planning of the murder, there was evidence he was at home that day. The Crown says Hama was the leader of the gang recruited by the Mahmod brothers to carry out their plans to murder Ms Mahmod and her boyfriend, Rahmat Sulemani. Hama was one of five men Ms Mahmod had named in a letter to police as being involved in a plot to kill her. Hama, of West Norwood, has pleaded guilty to the murder. Mahmod Mahmod, of Wimbledon, south London, and Ari Mahmod, of Mitcham, were found guilty of murder last month. They will all be sentenced today.

AND http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Samaira_Nazir Samaira Nazir (died 23 April 2005[1][2]) was a 25-year-old British Pakistani woman who was murdered by her family members. She was a victim of honor killing. Samaira Nazir was a graduate of Thames Valley University and recruitment consultant. She fell in love with an Afghan immigrant in Britain and wished to marry him, defying her family members. She had rejected the suitors her family wanted her to marry. Believing that this had brought disrespect to the family, her brother Azhar Nazir (30) and a 17-year-old cousin Imran Mohammed murdered her by stabbing her more than 18 times using four knives, while she was held down by her mother. This savage attack was performed in front of other family members - including two of their nieces, aged two and four. On July 14, 2006 a British jury sentenced the brother and a cousin of Samaira Nazir to life imprisonment. Her father was also charged but fled to Pakistan. John Reid, a Detective Inspector from the Metropolitan Police working the case, said: "There is nothing at all honourable about her brutal death." http://www.guardian.co.uk/uk/2006/jul/15/ukcrime.mainsection You're not my mother any more,' shouted Samaira. Then her family killed her Man gets 20 years after murdering sister who chose husband from wrong caste by Riazat Butt Samaira Nazir knew well that her parents would disapprove. She wanted to marry her Afghan boyfriend, rather than someone from the family circle, and she was prepared to fight for him too. So were they. Yesterday, Ms Nazir's brother was jailed for at least 20 years for her murder and her cousin, who is 17, will serve 10 years for his role in her death last April. The "honour killing", which took place at home in front of her parents, was carried out with four knives, as she was pinned down, and left her with 18 stab wounds and three separate cuts to her throat. The Old Bailey heard the method was "barbaric". Jurors were told the family disapproved of Ms Nazir's boyfriend, Salman Mohammed, because of his caste and they were so determined to split the pair up that when the couple announced their engagement, Ms Nazir's father, Azhar, lunged at Mr Mohammed with a knife and threatened to kill him. Her brother Azhar Nazir, a 30-year-old greengrocer, threatened to "get" the couple if they married, even if they were abroad. He was, the court heard, so incensed that his sister had turned down the suitors waiting for her in Pakistan in favour of the Afghan that he ordered the 25-year-old to come to the family home in Southall, Middlesex.

Ready to confront her were her parents, her brother and the 17-year-old cousin, Imran Mohammed. Also present were her brother's daughters aged two and four. Inside the house, faced with angry relatives, Ms Nazir had a heated argument with them about her future, the court heard. The men attacked her, holding on to her to stop her escaping, and acted together to avenge the family honour. Her screams alerted a neighbour, who came to the house and banged on the door, but her father appeared and sent the neighbour away, claiming his daughter was having a fit. Ms Nazir, jurors were told, was heard to shout at her mother, Irshad Begum: "You are not my mother any more." Ms Nazir succeeded in fleeing from her captors, her bloodstained arm emerging briefly from the door, but the men grabbed her by the hair and dragged her back into the house. Her family held her down, tied a silk scarf round her neck, and Imran Mohammed slashed her neck three times. Police who arrived at the house found Ms Nazir slumped in the hallway covered in blood. They also saw the two cousins were splattered with blood and feared they had been forced to watch Ms Nazir's murder as a warning as to what might happen should they fall in love with the wrong man. Azhar Nazir told officers there had been a problem with his sister. He said: "She does not wish to have an arranged marriage. We only allow marriage within the family. My sister wanted to run away from the house and was stopped." He tried to blame his cousin, a youth with low intellect, for the crime. Ms Nazir's father, a businessman, was also arrested and bailed for the killing but he fled to Pakistan and his family claimed he died there. Charges against the mother were dropped. Mr Mohammed and Ms Nazir, who ran a recruitment agency in the Southall area, had kept their affair secret, even staying apart for a year out of respect for the family. They met in 2000, following his illegal entry into the UK, after he found his way to Nazir's greengrocer's shop looking for advice on employment and accommodation. He became known to the family and Mr Mohammed fell in love with Ms Nazir. Giving evidence during the trial he said: "We were as boyfriend and girlfriend for about five or six years. But we couldn't tell her family because Samaira said her father was a very strict man who would not allow any female in his family to marry outside of his caste or tribe. "We had discussed marriage. Samaira told me she wanted to tell her family herself. Her father was very upset with her decision and said I was only after their money." Judge Christopher Moss said: "Samaira Nazir was an accomplished young woman who was murdered by members of her family because she insisted on marrying someone deemed unsuitable. She suffered a brutal, gruesome and horrific death."

The judge told Nazir: "You were her judge and jury, although you may not have been alone. You claimed to have loved your sister, but were guilty of orchestrating her murder." Imran Mohammed, he said, had "carried out the sentence of death" passed on the young woman. Speaking after the trial, Nazir Afzal, of the Crown Prosecution Service, said: "Samaira was murdered because she loved the wrong person, in her family's eyes. It was an 'honour killing' to protect the perceived status of the family, to mark their disapproval. We hope the investigation and prosecution will deter others who may wish to harm family members because of practices that are as tragic as they are outdated." Detective inspector John Reid added: "If Samaira had come to us and told us there were difficulties at home or she felt threatened, we might have been in a position to help her. But the stringent conditions operating in such families would have prohibited her coming forward."

http://www.telegraph.co.uk/news/uknews/1523949/Woman-stabbed-to-death-by-family-for-lovingwrong-man.html By John Steele, Crime Correspondent The brother and 17-year-old cousin of a young Pakistani woman were jailed for life yesterday for her murder in a so-called honour killing because she wanted to marry a man against her family's wishes. Samaira Nazir, 25, a graduate and recruitment consultant, was stabbed 18 times and her throat was tied tightly with a scarf and slit. The attack took place in front of her brother's two- and four-year-old daughters, who were spattered with blood. They saw Miss Nazir try to flee the knife blows from her cousin but her brother dragged her back from the door by her hair. Neighbours heard her scream for help. The men were sentenced at the Old Bailey in the latest case to highlight violence against women who assert their independence against the strict cultural dictates of their families. Miss Nazir's brother, Azhar, 30, and Imran Mohammed, 17, a distant cousin who was seeking asylum under a false name, attacked her because she wanted to marry Salman Mohammed, an Afghan asylum seeker. The court was told that her family disapproved because Salman was from a different caste and they suspected that he was after their money. Sally Howes, QC, prosecuting, said: "Following a heated argument about her relationship with Salman, she was attacked and killed. She lost her life for loving the wrong man." Miss Nazir died at the family home in Abbotts Road, Southall, west London, in April last year. Nazir, a grocer, was jailed for life with a minimum term of 20 years. Mohammed was detained during Her Majesty's pleasure for a minimum of 10 years.

Judge Christopher Moss said Miss Nazir was "an accomplished young woman who was murdered by members of her family because she insisted on marrying someone deemed unsuitable". He told Nazir: "You were her judge and jury. You claimed to have loved your sister but were guilty of orchestrating her murder." Mohammed, who was 16 at the time of the killing and described as of low intellect, had "carried out the sentence of death passed". Miss Nazir's father, a businessman, was arrested but was released on bail. He left the country and is said to have died. The court heard that Nazir and his father ran Rana Brothers, a well-known grocery in Southall Broadway, west London. The son also owned a recruitment company, S & F Staffing, which supplied workers for the Hilton hotel chain, and had made Miss Nazir a director. She had studied travel and tourism at Thames University and was described as the cleverest in the family. She and Salman Mohammed met when he went to the family store after he arrived in Britain in the back of a lorry in 2000. Her brother helped him find lodgings and a job and Miss Nazir's relationship with him slowly developed. They kept it secret, knowing that her family would not approve. Miss Nazir was taken to Pakistan in 2004 to meet arranged suitors but rejected them. In January last year she realised that her feelings for Salman Mohammed were as strong as ever and decided to "grasp the nettle" and tell her family she wanted to marry him. Azhar Nazir was furious when she told him. Two days before she died, he told Salman Mohammed that he would kill him and Miss Nazir and threatened that he would "get him" anywhere if they married. Outside court, Det Insp John Reid said: "This young girl was killed simply because she fell in love with someone her family did not approve of. There is nothing at all honourable about her brutal death." Nazir Afzal, the area director of the Crown Prosecution Service, said: "We hope that Samaira's death and the investigation and prosecution that followed will deter others who may wish to harm their family members because of practices that are as tragic as they are outdated." Police and the CPS have focused in recent years on cases of violence, including murder, against young women in a number of ethnic minority communities, where it is suspected that cultural practices such as arranged marriages are being enforced through fear. The Metropolitan Police say they have dealt with five or six "honour-related" murder cases each year. The issue has led to a review of 119 suspicious deaths of women for which no one was originally charged. So far, four people have been charged and 14 other cases are still being investigated. http://www.stophonourkillings.com/?q=node/135 Samaira Nazir, a 25 year old woman was stabbed 18 times and had her throat cut in April last year. She bled to death after the brutal attack carried out by her brother Azhar Nazir, 30, and her 17-year-old cousin. Ms Nazir had held a secret relationship with Salman Mohamed, an Afgani asylum seeker. After rejecting all the potential suitors arranged for to marry, she expressed a desire to marry Mr Mohamed.

On April 23, neighbours heard screaming and saw Samaira, covered in blood, trying to escape, only to be dragged back in by her hair. When police arrived, they found her body in a pool of blood, a knife beside her, and both her brother and cousin drenched in blood. The case has currently been discharged and will resume next week. http://in.lifestyle.yahoo.com/arranged-marriage-disaster-000619371.html It was while recording a story about the impossibility of divorce for women in Afghanistan that Zarghuna Kargar decided she must find the strength to end her own arranged marriage. Brought up in Kabul and then Pakistan after her family fled from the Taliban, she was engaged at 16 to a distant relative she had never met and married in London after her family claimed asylum in Britain. Trained by the BBC World Service's charitable arm in Pakistan, in London she became the presenter of Afghan Woman's Hour, a weekly magazine programme modelled on Radio 4's Woman's Hour that highlighted the terrible position of women in Afghan society. The show was a huge hit and was praised for its frank treatment of subjects including domestic violence and homosexuality. But though her own family was educated and liberal, and her parents moved to the west partly for the benefit of their five daughters, an arranged marriage was expected and Zarghuna accepted that. "I did have a lot of arguments with my parents during the engagement but it was something I had to do," she says. "I had to either be a good Afghan girl, who accepted whatever decision was made for me, or be a bad girl and leave. Breaking an engagement was a big thing and I got scared. So I decided, I'm a good Afghan girl, I'm going to do it the Afghan way. And we got married. The whole time it was a horrible feeling." Now Zarghuna, who is 28 and known as Zari because some British people find the guttural "gh" sound difficult, has written about her miserable three-year marriage in her first book. Dear Zari is a heartwrenching anthology of the personal stories broadcast on Afghan Woman's Hour. It includes appalling stories of abuse of girls given away as household slaves to settle family feuds, of widows shunned, of wives blamed for giving birth to daughters. Interwoven are intimate details of the author's life, including her wedding night. "God, please make sure I bleed; that's the only wish I have. I don't want money or a big house to live in I just want this blood," was Kargar's prayer on the day of her marriage. Submitting to her husband, Javed, whom she did not like and hardly knew, and shaking uncontrollably, she spent the night weeping uncontrollably because the wished-for "proof" of her virginity did not materialise. "As a result, my married life had begun with my husband failing to trust me," she writes. "Whenever he spoke unkindly to me after that, I thought it was because he didn't believe I'd been a virgin on my wedding night." Unlike many of the Afghan marriages she describes, Kargar's relationship was not violent. She and Javed did not even argue that much, she says, because they were not that involved. "It was my destiny, but it wasn't a good feeling. He was about 25 a young man but when I met him it didn't really work for me in a girl way, or a woman way. I just didn't have any feelings and I think it was the same from his side. We were just put together by two families." Kargar says that she tried to embrace her role as a wife, but they barely talked she thinks partly

because Javed envied her career. She hoped if he got a good job, the situation might improve, but instead she got lonelier and more convinced that their marriage was a disaster. Her career flourished, as Afghan Woman's Hour achieved audience figures in the millions. But as her life became increasingly unhappy, Kargar found herself moved by the harrowing first-person stories featured on the programme to look again at her life. "I felt that discussing these kinds of women, their stories and the way they talked, and what they wanted, empowered me. I was feeling a kind of hypocrisy inside me because the experts I invited on the programme were giving all this advice, but I was not making decisions in my own life." It was the story of Anesa, a woman married to a gay husband who moved his lover into the family home, that finally gave her the push she needed. For four years, Anesa said, she lived with her children, her husband and his lover. The lover was the favourite, while her sons were beaten and often went hungry. Yet she was unable to leave. Though Anesa's husband's homosexuality was frowned on by Afghan society, and his children victimised as a result, if she divorced him she would lose them. She often thought about killing herself. In the office, Kargar and her World Service colleagues discussed divorce and the insurmountable problems facing women in Afghanistan who wished to leave their husbands. "And I was thinking, actually I have choice. I was educated, I had a good job and no children. I was capable of doing it and I had the support of the legal system." In 2006, aged 24, and having lost all hope and respect for the relationship, she asked her husband to leave. At first he was angry, and tried with her parents to make her change her mind. But she stood her ground, and in the end the divorce papers came from him. He has since remarried. Last year, the funding for Afghan Woman's Hour was cut, and Kargar transferred to the Afghan news service. The programme was not without its critics, as the money came from Foreign Office counterterror funds, but Kargar is passionately proud of its role in promoting women's rights and freedoms. When she arrived in the UK as an 18-year-old in August 2001, the September 11 attacks were still a month off. Ten years on, she supports the presence of foreign troops in Afghanistan and fears a return to even greater chaos. Her father, who was a government official during the Soviet invasion, and later worked as a writer on the World Service's Afghan soap opera, New Home New Life, now teaches Pashtun to British soldiers. But while she was inspired by the young revolutionaries in Tahrir Square in Cairo, she is made uncomfortable by the celebrations in the west of the death of Osama bin Laden. She kept her divorce secret from colleagues for two years after it happened, and is still working through her feelings about what happened, wiping away tears when she recalls her wedding. "I was just very upset, and very angry with everything. When they talked about the decorations, I said 'Just take the chairs from the kitchen! I don't care!' And I really didn't care. It was very difficult." Her family hopes that she will remarry one day, and she says that although two of her sisters' arranged marriages have worked out well, her parents have decisively broken with the custom. She sees them every week and has forgiven them for her earlier unhappiness. They are proud of her book, she says though she has been warned against publishing pictures of her relatives, including childhood photographs.

As a teenager in Peshawar, Pakistan, where women were more restricted than in 1980s Kabul, and she first became used to covering her head with a scarf, Kargar had no romantic or sexual experiences of any kind. "I was a very dull teenager, very quiet and isolated from boys," she says. "We were a girls family [five sisters, one brother] and in our culture, love stories are not really good stories to hear, so maybe those things had an effect. I didn't even understand that these feelings existed; I never even had a crush. It was weird." What is disturbing in the book, and must surely be for many women in reality, is the way that such complete ignorance even on her wedding night, in London, Zarghuna had no idea what to expect in the bedroom is suddenly shocked out of them, as they are expected instantaneously to turn into adult women. One girl known to her family in Pakistan and mentioned in the book, offered in a marriage exchange at 11, died in childbirth after the book went to press aged 13. Now, with such innocence firmly behind her, Zarghuna is determined to make her own choices. She says the moment of her greatest strength was the decision not to have children with her husband when everyone around her encouraged it. "I want to be a mother with somebody I love, and not just for the sake of my own happiness. I want to give proper happiness to my kid with a loving daddy if I can. But if that doesn't happen, then I'm happy the way I am." Dear Zari by Zarghuna Kargar is reviewed today in the Review section, page published by Chatto & Windus, 12.99. To order a copy for 10.39 with free UK p&p, go to guardian.co.uk/bookshop or call 0330 333 6846 guardian.co.uk Guardian News and Media 2011 Sofia, 34, and her boyfriend Fabrizio, 39, a City trader, bought their fi ve-bedroomed home near West Kingsdown for just over 1million in 2005. interestingly enough, if an eastern man marries a western girls and/or leaves his eastern roots for a life of sex with many partners, drink, drugs, etc. - rarely is an eyelash batted. but when eastern girls (particularly middle eastern and indian subcontinent derived) live a western lifestyle, all hell breaks loose. such a double standard! http://www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/article-1210799/My-mother-hired-hitman-kill-The-shocking-storyMuslim-woman-parents-disapproved-Western-lifestyle.html My mother hired a hitman to kill me: The shocking story of a Muslim woman whose parents disapproved of her Western lifestyle By Sofia Hayat Read more: http://www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/article-1210799/My-mother-hired-hitman-kill-Theshocking-story-Muslim-woman-parents-disapproved-Western-lifestyle.html#ixzz1S0tn94ZS The text message forwarded to me from my younger sister Saira was concise and chilling: 'Mum's sent

a hit man to kill you,' it read. 'Be careful.' As I read those words, my first instinct wasn't fear or even shock, but simply survival. I'd become accustomed to behaviour like this from both my parents - behaviour that anyone else would find abhorrent - and I was emotionally numb to their threats. But I also knew that my sister's warning was deadly serious and my life was in real danger. I'd been in hiding for several weeks when I received the text. I was born in Gravesend in Kent in 1974 and brought up there in a devout Muslim family with three sisters and two brothers. My father Zammurrad, a factory worker, was a deeply religious man but violent towards my mother Surriya and my sisters Zarqa, now 38, Saira, 33, and Tahira, 32. I tried to be an obedient daughter, praying up to five times a day, but I never felt loved by my parents or that I really belonged. In turn, my parents viewed me as something of an oddity. Perhaps it was because I loved performing. From as young as five, acting and singing was in my blood and at school I won so many competitions for writing songs that if the teachers wanted a song for an assembly they'd ask me to write one and I'd get up on stage and sing it. My love of singing and dancing wasn't exactly encouraged at home, but it wasn't a big problem when I was young. But as I hit my teens, my parents told me I could no longer continue. I was to forget my childish fantasies of becoming an actress, as in their eyes singing and dancing were on a par with prostitution. As I grew older, my father started placing increasingly severe restrictions on my life. I was forbidden from making friends with other children and lived a very lonely existence. On the one occasion I was given special permission to attend a birthday party of a girl who lived 100 metres down the road, I was allowed to stay for only an hour. My life was just school and home, with no free time for myself. I was to forget my childish fantasies of becoming an actress, as in their eyes it was on a par with prostitution Throughout my childhood, my father grew more aggressive towards my mother and sisters, regularly throwing plates and knives at us in anger. My brothers Majid, now 31, and Wajid, 29, were allowed to do as they pleased, but my sisters and I were told that Muslim girls were like a white sheet; once stained, forever ruined. If ever I returned home even five minutes late from the park or school, my father would hit me with his belt, often until I bled. It got so bad that my sisters and I used to wear five layers of clothing to protect

ourselves. On one family outing to Margate when I was about nine, I was ten minutes late back to our meeting point, as I'd stayed to watch a Punch and Judy show. My father broke a branch from a tree, stripped off all the leaves and started whipping me with it in broad daylight. Despite her family's disapproval and attempts to stop her through imprisonment, Sofia has gone on to have a successful modelling and acting career Incredibly, the rest of my family stood there and did nothing. As an adult I can see how wrong this was, but at the time I just accepted it. We all did. I had grown up under Dad's tyrannical rule and I knew no different. Even when I'd been sexually abused by a male relative as a young teenager, instead of supporting me my parents blamed me for accepting presents from him and accused me of lying. It was from that day on I realised that I had to look after myself. When I was 13, I was flown to Pakistan to meet my 14-year-old cousin, who I was told I would marry when I turned 18. As soon as he saw me, he said I was too ugly to marry and rejected me in favour of my 12-year-old sister Saira. They married six years later. While in Pakistan, my mother took me to see a Holy Man to ask him what was wrong with me. He told her I had a bad spirit in me and gave me a prayer to say every day and a bracelet to wear. I was so angry that my own mother seemed to be listening to a man she'd only just met, but had never had the time for me. I knew then that my only way to escape a future of misery was through education. If ever I returned home late from the park or school, my father would hit me with his belt, often until I bled Despite the control they had over me, my mother and father thought that a degree in science, medicine or law was the perfect goal for one of their unmarried daughters and so, at the age of 18, I started a Biology and Management degree at Sussex University and moved into student accommodation in a square near the old pier in Brighton. I hated the course and secretly switched to a performing arts and music degree at Brighton University, which I loved. But as my parents were unable to finance me, I supported myself with three different jobs - including three nights a week earning 50 a night as a dancer in a nightclub. Finally, I was enjoying my life and my freedom. But one evening a TV camera crew came to the club and captured me wearing just a cowboy hat, a short skirt and a Wonderbra.

Of course, I knew I was being filmed and I knew there was a slim chance my parents might see it. But I was living away from home, enjoying the independence and, naively, I also thought that if they did see me performing, it might make them realise how passionate I was about acting. http://i.dailymail.co.uk/i/pix/2009/09/02/article-1210799-00C5CC1A00000578-346_224x423.jpg Victims: Like Sofia, Samaira Nazir, left, and Banaz Mahmod were accused of 'dishonouring' their families - and it cost them their lives Needless to say, a friend of my parents saw the programme. A couple of nights later, as I returned to my flat at about 3am someone pulled the door open as I shut it. 'You're coming home with me now. I'm taking you away from this lifestyle,' said a voice. It was my mother. I told her I wasn't going anywhere and she started screaming at me. That's when my 15-year-old brother Majid, who'd illegally driven my mother all the way from Kent, appeared from behind her brandishing a kitchen knife. Majid was heavily built, so I genuinely feared that he was capable of using the knife. My mother had once said 'If anyone dishonours this family, first I will kill them and then kill myself', so I knew that she too was serious. I got into the car and we arrived back in Kent in the early hours of the morning. I was marched into the cellar, which had been turned into a makeshift bedroom, and my brother stood in the doorway holding the knife. My mother calmly said: 'From now on, we're going to look after you and you're going to do what we say.' There was nothing I could do. I sat there in silence, thinking my new life was now over. To my relief, my father was abroad at the time. I'm still not sure how instrumental he was in my abduction, but if he had been there in person I'm sure things would have turned even nastier. For several weeks I lived in that cellar. My meals were brought to me and I was accompanied to the toilet. My mother had once said 'If anyone dishonours this family, first I will kill them and then kill myself' Although I wasn't physically locked in the room, there was no way I could escape without being noticed, because the only exit was through the adjacent living room, which was always occupied. I was allowed no communication with the outside world, so I had no idea whether anyone from college had tried to contact me. Initially, I was so traumatised that I didn't even think about escaping. But as the days turned into weeks,

I pleaded with my mother to let me return to my old job at the local supermarket, where I'd worked part-time before I went to college. Eventually, she agreed, provided I was escorted to and from work. It was a relief to be finally able to escape and only a fortnight after I returned I confided in a colleague, Graham, about what was happening at home. Horrified, he offered to help me escape. It was a dangerous plan, but I could see no other way out. My family had me under close surveillance, but at about noon one October lunchtime I sneaked out of the shop and jumped into the back of Graham's car and lay flat on the floor, out of sight. All I had with me were the clothes I was wearing and nothing else. But I didn't care - I was getting away. Graham took me to Brighton, but when I arrived at my old flat, my flatmate greeted me at the door. 'You've got to go,' he said. 'Your mother saw you sneaking into a car outside your work and has just called me to check if you were here. She's on her way here now to check the house.' I was terrified. Graham immediately drove me to another friend's house 30 minutes away, where I laid low, too scared even to leave the house. That's how I remained for the next month. Every time I heard a car pass or a door open, I thought I was about to be recaptured. People might wonder why I didn't contact the police at this stage. The truth was, I was too embarrassed and confused to tell them that my own family were trying to kidnap me. I just wanted to hibernate. Then my sister forwarded my mother's fateful text message and I felt more alone than ever. I managed to summon up the energy to report the text to Hove police, who were amazing. They went straight to my mum's house and warned her that if she came anywhere near me she would be immediately arrested and sent to prison. They didn't pursue the hitman claim, but told me that if any more threats were made, I should contact them straight away. That seemed to work. The police gave me an emergency number to contact should I receive any more threats and for two months I heard nothing. Then my old flatmate called, saying that my mum had phoned, desperate to speak to me as my father had suffered a heart attack. Despite everything that had happened, I called my mum to ask about my father. She assured me she wouldn't try to kidnap me again, but needed to talk. We arranged to meet in a public place in Brighton, with the police watching. As I walked to meet her, I wasn't hoping for a reconciliation. How could I repair a mother-daughter

relationship that never existed in the first place? The first thing my mother said was that she wasn't going to harm me or take me away, but it quickly transpired that my dad hadn't had a heart attack at all. Instead, my mother wanted to make one final appeal to me to give up my performing and my lifestyle and return home to get married and live a respectable Muslim life. I flatly refused. 'Fine,' she said, coldly. 'From now on you're dead in our eyes and I don't want to see you again.' She walked away. I don't blame my parents for what they've put me through, I blame the fact that Islam has become so distorted As we parted, I wept. I'd never felt like I'd belonged in my family, but at that point I did feel truly, truly alone in the world. But a part of me dared to hope that she'd meant what she'd said, so that I could finally get on with my life unimpeded. And that's exactly what happened for the next ten years. I completed my degree and since then I've gone on to appear in many TV programmes, such as Waterloo Road and Footballers' Wives, as a supporting actor. I recorded a song which reached No6 in the MTV charts and sang at the Royal Albert Hall. I'm even appearing in a movie called The Unforgettable later this year. I'm really living the life I dreamed of all those years ago. I've broken off all contact with my father, but I did start seeing my sister Saira again about four years ago, when her arranged marriage collapsed and she remarried and had children. I see her family regularly and through her children I eventually came back into contact with my mother two years ago. I was petrified that she'd reject me again, but she is now separated from my father and seems quieter and more at peace. We see each other every couple of months, but there's little mention of what happened before and I know deep down she will never be proud of what I am and who I've become. It's taken a lot of therapy to come to a position of understanding and self awareness but, despite everything that has happened, I don't blame my parents for what they've put me through. I blame the fact that Islam has become so distorted and warped. I don't believe that the Muslim religion condones any sort of violence; Islam literally means 'peace'. The greeting from one Muslim to another - 'aasalamolaykom' - means: 'Peace be with you.' If only people would actually read the Koran for themselves, they would see the love and peace it radiates and the equality among men and women it promotes.

If only my parents had been able to give me that kind of love. INTERVIEW BY NICK McGRATH DISHONOURED by Sofia Hayat is published by John Blake Publishiing at 7.99. http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Bibi_Aisha Bibi Aisha is an Afghan woman whose mutilated face appeared on the cover of Time magazine in summer 2010. Her story first appeared in the Daily Beast in December of 2009, which prompted doctors to write in offering to help her. The Grossman Burn Foundation in California pledged to perform reconstructive surgery on her and began organizing for her visa in the early spring of 2010. Diane Sawyer of ABC News also covered her ordeal in March of 2010. Aisha's father promised her to a Taliban fighter when she was 12 years old to satisfy an obligation, in a practice known as baad. She was married at 14 and abused. At 18, she fled the abuse but was caught. Her father returned her to his in-laws. To discourage kidnapping in the village, they took her into the mountains, cut off her nose and her ears, and left her to die.[1] Some sources dispute the role of any members of the Taliban in her mutilation at the time it happened.[2] [3] Aisha was featured on a July 2010 cover of Time magazine and in a corresponding article, Afghan Women and the Return of the Taliban.[4] The cover image generated enormous controversy.[5] The image and the accompanying cover title, What Happens if We Leave Afghanistan, fueled debate about the merits of the Afghan War.[6] The photo was taken by the South African photographer Jodi Bieber and was awarded the World Press Photo Award for 2010.[7] The image of Aisha is sometimes compared to the Afghan Girl photo of Sharbat Gula.[8] Shortly after Time's cover ran, Aisha was flown to the United States to receive free reconstructive surgery.

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Baad_%28practice%29 Baad is a traditional practice of settling disputes in Afghanistan among only Pushtun tribes [1] in which a young girl is traded to settle a dispute for her older relatives. This may involve being used as payment for a financial dispute, as a means to avoid larger or longer-lasting arguments and grudges.[2] A famous example is Bibi Aisha,[3] who was subsequently mutilated when she fled the abuse that girls sometimes suffer from their new families under baad. The practice has no legal or religious basis, but is an ancient tradition that is widely accepted among Afghan tribes. whilst eastern men are having a good time with dirty, fake western whores, this is what desi and arab/middle eastern women especially have to face. the fun the men have with western whores is just a further disgraceful slap in the face. this is yet another painful aspect........

http://www.thestar.com/article/580236 http://thelangarhall.com/punjabi/she-was-the-ticket-to-a-better-life/ I dont even know where to begin with this story. The grisly facts of Amandeep Kaur Dhillons murder and her father-in-laws arrest have been covered before, but this weekend, the Toronto Stars Raveena Aulakh wrote a detailed story. You can read the full article here and it will break your heart, not just because of Amandeep Kaurs tragic story, but because her story is all too common in our community. Baldev Mutta knows the stories of immigrant women all too well. The executive director of the Punjabi Community Health Centre in Brampton says hundreds of young Punjabi brides arrive in Canada every year. Many have arranged marriages. They dont know anyone, dont have any support system and battle pressures most people cant even imagine exist, he said. In the Punjabi culture, men are raised to be dominant while women are expected to be subservient. The level of thinking of men in the Punjabi community leaves a lot to be desired, said Mutta, a Punjabi himself. Mutta, who runs programs at four Sikh temples in Brampton, Rexdale, Malton and Oakville, and hosts a radio show, wishes he had been able to reach Amandeep. Some women are so isolated that they are not allowed to have any communication even with their parents, said Kripa Sekhar, executive director of the South Asian Womens Centre on Lansdowne Ave. in Toronto. There are times when we get emails or phone calls from a womans family saying they havent heard from her ever since she came to Canada, can we check on her, says Sekhar. In some cases women, bruised and beaten, have been locked up in their homes, not allowed to make or receive any calls. Its a problem women face everywhere, but what is unique among South Asians is that we dont acknowledge it or want to talk about it. We can deny it all we want but heres the sad reality for many (not all) Punjabi families: Many families in Punjab are ready and willing to sacrifice the happiness of one child to pave the way for the others. Though rarely talked about in Punjab, it is understood that when a son or daughter marries and moves to North America or England, they will apply for their family to join them. Amandeep was expected to do the same for her parents, her sisters Pawandeep, 20 and Jasvir, 16, and brother Rajvir, 12. When she flew to Canada in May 2006 to join her husband, her family was already counting the days until they would follow. Some friends of mine played a cruel game growing up. Whenever theyd be at a community event, they would pick out a couple who they suspected were fresh from India. They then guessed which one had sponsored the other to Canada. They would always pick the less well put together person and would often be right. While the game itself is totally non-PC, it does highlight a point. Canadian citizenship becomes a trump card in the mating game. Add it to a persons bio-data and you get instantly upgraded. So what if hes a high-school dropout with a criminal record and only one good leg, hes a Canadian

citizen. Parents are happy to turn a blind eye to obvious incompatibilities in order to establish a beach head in the West. For the son or daughter being sacrificed, it becomes a nightmare. They have little or no say in their choice of partner and their parents, distracted by dreams of dollars, completely abdicate their duty as responsible parents. The line you always hear after the fact is if only wed known what was really going on. It should actually be if only wed bother to do our research. If every Punjabi is connected by less than six degrees of separation surely parents can find out whats really going on with a prospective family. But do they really want to hear what the truth might be about their childs prospective in-laws, if theres a risk that it dashes their dreams. Marginalization of females in the Punjabi family unit is commonly accepted. The first couple of months that Amandeep was in Canada, she lived with her husband and father-inlaw in a basement apartment in Malton. Within two weeks, she was working in a factory in Brampton. At first, she met people from her village at their homes or the Sikh temple. Slowly all changed. Her phone calls to India became irregular and when she was invited, along with her husband and father-inlaw, for a get-together she made excuses. When she did leave the house, she was always with her father-in-law or husband, say her extended family in Brampton. She was here for more than two years and I met her only about five or six times, said Kirandeep Basran, a cousin who lives in Brampton.She came to my house twice and barely stayed for 10 minutes each time. Basran says whenever someone called Amandeep, her father-in-law or husband either picked up the extension or switched on the speakerphone. I started to worry about her and so I called up her husband one day, said Basran. He abused me, screamed and told me never to call again. This was early 2007 and Amandeep was about eight months pregnant. A few days later, Amandeep phoned her cousin and asked her not to phone or visit. I didnt want to aggravate things for her, said Basran, who next met Amandeep when her son, Manmohan Singh, was born on March 1, 2007. Even when I went to see Aman and her son, the fatherin-law hovered around. Basran asked him if she could take Aman and the baby for a few days but he refused. The dirty little secret is that in every Punjabi extended family, there are some individual women who are suffering through the same personal hell as Amandeep Kaur. It may not manifest itself in outright violence or abuse, but they are kept in their place by the threat of being sent back to Punjab or, even worse, her familys immigration papers being withdrawn. Along with this threat, they are economically disenfranchised, physically isolated from friends and family and threatened into subservience. Sympathetic family members dare not speak for fear of rocking the boat and sticking their nose where it doesnt belong. Furthermore, the girl herself is often reluctant to speak about her personal problems for fear of bringing dishonour to her familys name. Tragically, the result is an educated female, once full of life and potential, is reduced to counting down the days to some kind of freedom, usually centered around her own familys arrival in Canada. A son is seen as an asset and a daughter is a liability. The family didnt argue when dowry was settled at roughly $54,000, an excessive amount but seen

as an investment in their own future. This was in addition to $15,000 the family spent on a lavish threeday wedding that was attended by more than 600 guests. A month after the wedding, Amandeeps parents were asked by her in-laws to send an extra $2,500 to Canada or her immigration papers would not be filed. Her father, Avtar, pawned his wifes jewellery and sent the money. For Avtar, a farmer who grows mostly rice and wheat on nearly 5 hectares of land, a small-sized holding in Punjab, it was a lot of money. He sold some land, borrowed from family and friends and mortgaged his house. It was very tough but we didnt mind, said Avtar. We just wanted Aman to be happy. Dowries were outlawed in India in 1961 but it is common for the grooms side to seek a dowry and for the brides side to provide one. The dowry cash and gifts is meant to smooth their daughters move into the new home. So let me get this straight. If you have a son to marry off, you can demand money to have someone marry him, claim all the income that this person will earn in her lifetime, and at will, demand further compensation from her family for putting up with the burden of her presence. And if you have a daughter, not only do you raise her with all your love (and money), you deferentially bequeath her to another family to whom you now owe a debt of gratitude (and wealth) for taking her off your hands. Oh yes, you also get to cater to every whim of her in-laws for life. Hows that for a fantastic deal. Remind me again why Punjabis have the lowest female to male ratio in the world? Now I purposely use Punjabi and not Sikh in this context, even though almost all the families I refer to are Sikh. Yes, the gurdwaras and other Sikh institutions have played a negligent role to play in letting this problem perpetuate itself, but Sikhi is not to blame. We are dealing with cultural issues here. The worst aspects of Punjabi (and Indian) culture already stack the deck against females. Unfortunately, for many women, the willingness of families to do anything to emigrate abroad only makes it worse. http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Faria_Alam Alam was born on 13 February 1966 in Dhaka, Bangladesh to a moderate and educated Muslim family. Her father was a Pakistani bank employee and her Bangladeshi mother, with two brothers and one sister. Her family emigrated to England in 1970, and she was grew up in the North East, living in Bradford, Northumberland and Newcastle. Later her mother moved to Seattle in the United States after her parents divorced. Her father died in 1997, and she was left with her family friends. Alam initially came to the attention of the public after the revelation of her affair with Sven-Goran Eriksson and her dating relationship with Mark Palios in August 2004. The Mail on Sunday and News of the World published interviews with Alam where she was questioned about sex with Eriksson and Palios in "graphic detail". After making headlines again in 2007 when the Sun reported that she had accepted 8,000 in exchange for sex with an undercover reporter, Alam swiftly fled to Canada where she now lives in relative anonymity, an attempt to ease away from the negative media attention. http://news.bbc.co.uk/2/hi/uk_news/4119080.stm

Sven lover 'boasted in e-mails' Faria Alam Miss Alam is said to have sent a series of e-mails about her affairs A Football Association secretary "bragged" in e-mails about her affairs with Sven-Goran Eriksson and a senior official, a tribunal has heard. Faria Alam, 39, resigned from her post at the FA last August after her affairs with the England coach and FA chief executive Mark Palios became public. FA lawyers said she wrote: "I want to be...very very rich" in one e-mail. Miss Alam denies resigning in order to make money from newspapers and is claiming unfair dismissal. She also alleges that she suffered sexual discrimination, breach of contract and unequal pay. 'Bragging messages' The employment tribunal in central London was told by FA lawyers on Wednesday that the former model had fired off frequent messages from her work e-mail address bragging about the affairs. In one she allegedly wrote: "Haven't been naughty yet, but the guy I will see tomorrow night is the more famous one. "Let's call him Sugar, he's very sweet and he's the coach." I'm not going to go through life settling for second best ever E-mail FA says was written by Faria Alam In another message to a friend, who later sold e-mails on to a newspaper, Miss Alam apparently said: "I'm 36, unmarried and loving it. My social life is amazing and I date famous people." Miss Alam also described relations with Mr Palios - whom she called PP or Pretty Polly - and with Mr Eriksson. 'Newspaper riches' Barrister Jeffrey Bacon, representing the FA, said that Miss Alam had sent a further string of e-mails to friends and family as the national football team played in the Euro 2004 tournament in Portugal. In one e-mail, he claimed Miss Alam wrote: "Sugar is brilliant, I've even told your dad. I want to be happy and very, very rich and successful and I will be. It is really your boasting to friends and colleagues that led to the story exploding Jeffrey Bacon, representing the FA "I'm not going to go through life settling for second best ever."

Mr Bacon also rejected her claim that she had been smeared by the FA. "It is really your boasting to friends and colleagues that led to the story exploding," he said. The hearing heard that on 5 August 2004, the day Miss Alam resigned from the FA, she was in the office of PR consultant Max Clifford. She said she had sent her resignation letter while at Mr Clifford's business premises. Miss Alam denied allegations she had quit in order to sell her story and insisted that her position had become "untenable". I wouldn't swear on the Koran and then lie Faria Alam She was also challenged about her claim that she had not been asked a direct question about her affair with Mr Eriksson. The tribunal heard that FA executive director David Davies had asked Miss Alam if she had been "running around" with Mr Eriksson. "What did you think he meant, jogging?" asked Mr Bacon. "No. That something was going on," Miss Alam replied. Harassment claim Mr Bacon later challenged Miss Alam's allegation that Mr Davies had sexually harassed her and that she had kept a written record of the events. Such a diary would have been a "holy grail" for a discrimination case, he said, and asked why she had not demanded it be returned with other personal belongings she had left at FA headquarters. Miss Alam said the notebook had been company property and she believed it would not have been handed over. She denied she was making up the claims: "No I'm not. I wouldn't swear on the Koran and then lie." The tribunal also heard that Miss Alam had talked about her previous marriage with FA lawyer Alistair MacLean during discussions about how to deal with the revelations over her private life. This, along with attempts by the FA's then communications director, Colin Gibson, to broker a deal for Miss Alam to tell her story was evidence of their attempts to protect their employee, said Mr Bacon. Miss Alam is thought to be seeking about 30,000 in compensation. http://www.femalefirst.co.uk/celebrity/Faria+Alam-486.html

Sven Goran Eriksson is a master in the art of lovemaking according to former FA secretary Faria Alam. The 38-year-old Ms Alam has finally revealed the sordid intimacies of her affair with the England coach Sven Goran-Eriksson and the former FA chief executive Mark Palios. In interviews with the Mail on Sunday and the News of the World she has described in graphic detail their sexual affair and reportedly she even intimated she would not be averse to marrying him. In the report she says that she vowed that she would never marry again but now she was so in love with Sven that if he did propose she would most likely have said yesFaria Alam has also revealed how she first fell for Palios and said she was attracted by his aura of power. Regarding Eriksson it was at a Christmas dinner, she was seated at a table for 10 people with Mr. Eriksson on her left and Mr, Palios on her right. The newspaper reports that according to Ms Alam Sven soon signaled his intentions by as she says, fondling her at the table. Claiming the England coach rubbed his leg against hers and she whispered back to him and asked him what he thought he was doing. Her account goes on to say that he just smirked and put his finger to his lips and said shhh In the report Ms Alam recalls she was shocked by former FA communications director Colin Gibson's proposal that if the News of the World left Mr Palios out of it she would have to tell them all about Eriksson. Following the revelations both Palios and Gibson have resigned but Eriksson still survives as the FA found he had no case to defend.,/p> According to the newspapers Ms Alam says she flatly refuses to lie for them and their disgraceful plot has been exposed. Further saying Sven has done nothing wrong but the FA was willing to sacrifice him to get Palios off the hook, he was hung out to dry by the FA in a similar manner as she herself had been. http://www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/article-1297905/Why-Faria-Alam-escape-toxic-legacy-Sven-GoranEriksson-affair.html These days, Faria Alam's life could not be further removed from the scandal-drenched existence she left behind in Britain, fleeing as she did with her reputation beyond repair. Home is now a rented house in Calgary, overlooking the Canadian Rockies, where people are largely unaware that she was once the notorious mistress of former England football coach Sven-Goran Eriksson. Here, Faria does not rush to tell new acquaintances that in 2004, as the former PA to the Football Association's then executive director David Davies, she became embroiled in the most embarrassing scandal in the FA's 140-year history. Now aged 43, she insists she is happy to live alone, quietly, embracing whatever anonymity she can claw back, which she admits isn't easy - even in Canada - when her past is there for all to see on the internet in all its sordid, humiliating detail. But that is what happens, as she has learned to her considerable cost, when you kiss and tell about one of the most high-profile of sporting figures in the most startlingly graphic, toe-curling sexual detail for a reported 410,000. Regrets? Faria, now effectively living in self-imposed exile, has more than just a few.

'When I look back, I regret the whole thing. If I could go back, I would do everything differently. For a start, I would never have accepted that job at the FA in the first place,' she says. 'When I became involved with Sven, I didn't realise the magnitude of what I was getting myself into.' 'I can see now that the whole lifestyle I bought into in Britain was rubbish. I thought it was glamorous and exciting, but it's not' This is Faria's first in-depth interview in almost six years. She tells me she is happier now than she has ever been, but throughout our conversation anger simmers beneath the surface. She says she 'takes responsibility' for the mistakes she made, has learned her lesson, rediscovered her Islamic faith, and bears no malice towards those who she feels hung her out to dry, but the occasional flashes of bitterness suggest otherwise. 'I don't miss Britain one little bit,' she says, before adding with sudden, angry emphasis: 'Not. One. Little. Bit. And I am sure Britain doesn't miss me either. Well good riddance to you, too. Bye, Bye. 'I don't care what people say or think about me any more. I have been able to reinvent myself over here. My life is so different now. I am much more contented. 'From my window I can see the Rockies, blue sky and sunshine. I go hiking, canoeing on the lakes, I meditate, pray, do yoga and pilates. I eat well, exercise and lead a healthy life. 'Today, I feel as though everything that happened with Sven and the FA happened to someone else. My life has turned 360 degrees and I am back to where I want to be. 'Here, there isn't a nightlife culture. I don't go out. I can go for a whole week without seeing anyone.' It all sounds rather lonely, but Faria insists she loves the solitude. For a while after the scandal she tried to carve out some sort of career via reality TV, appearing on Celebrity Big Brother, because, she says, 'who was going to give me an office job?' In 2005 she lost her sexual discrimination case against the FA when her claims of sexual harassment, unfair dismissal and breach of contract were rejected by an employment tribunal. She fled Britain in 2007 to study for a master's degree in Canada and be nearer her mother living in the U.S., after a red-top tabloid exposed her as an alleged high-class hooker, who offered to sleep with an undercover reporter for 8,000 a night. 'I've been accused of all kinds of things. Everything. You name it, I've been accused of it,' she says wearily. 'What I said was a joke. Women often say things they don't mean. What woman hasn't said at some time "I'd sleep with so and so for 8,000?"' Not many of my acquaintance, but perhaps Faria moves in different circles. 'Women often say things they don't mean. What woman hasn't said at some time "I'd sleep with so and so for 8,000?"'

Working now as a marketing and fundraising consultant, she says she makes a good living, splitting her time between Calgary and an apartment she owns in Vancouver, but it all sounds rather ad hoc. There appear to be yawning gaps between marketing jobs, which she fills in with voluntary work with children, chasing new clients and even, on occasion, dog walking. She admits she has suffered bouts of depression in the past two years, when, she says, 'I wanted to die', but has been helped through her crises by her family and friends. Certainly, it's all a far cry from those heady days spent in London's champagne bars, mixing with football royalty, where Faria - nicknamed 'Ferarri' - attracted the eye of not only Sven but the FA's chief executive Mark Palios, with whom she also had a brief affair. But as Faria says now: 'I can see now that the whole lifestyle I bought into in Britain was rubbish. I thought it was glamorous and exciting, but it's not.' There are those who will always regard Faria as the worst kind of attention-seeker. If she now craves anonymity, what is she doing raising her head above the parapet again? Can it be a coincidence that she is talking about her acting debut, as a catsuit-wearing assassin in the new British movie Cash and Curry, the very week her ex-lover Sven - coach for the Ivory Coast national team - was in the frame for the vacant Fulham football club manager's post? 'I haven't had any contact with Sven for years, but I wish him well. I don't love him any more, but I care that he does well and is happy. He's getting on with his life and I'm getting on with mine,' she says. 'I had no idea there'd be so much interest in the film. It was just a walk-on part, a bit of fun for me when my life had become so serious. I am not chasing fame, I am under no illusion that it will lead to more acting parts.' Born in Bangladesh, one of four children to a devoutly Muslim family, Faria never thought for one second that this would be her fate. She admits that her late father, a Pakistani bank employee, who emigrated with his family to the North of England in 1970, would have been appalled by the way her life has turned out. As a teenager Faria went though an unhappy arranged marriage in Bangladesh, which was later annulled, and when her mother moved to Seattle after divorcing her father, Faria headed to London. There, she worked as a part-time model and supplemented her income by working as a secretary, in PR or as a freelance IT consultant before being offered the job as a personal assistant at the FA. How she wishes now that she'd turned it down. 'I didn't sit there on my first day thinking: "I'm going to have an affair with Sven-Goran Eriksson." It just happened. I was a single woman, enjoying my life, dating guys in London,' she recalls. 'Sven was always very charming, very polite, a gentleman through and through, and when he first showed an interest in me, I'd say: "I'm seeing someone else."'

One of the people Faria was seeing was divorced chief executive Mark Palios, who according to her kiss-and-tell was no great lover and rather cool in his affections. Faria, it must be said, emerged as a good-time girl who targeted powerful men, bewitching them with her sultry looks, but she insists it was the other way round. 'I know he loved me. He told me he did. At the time he loved me. I don't care what anyone else says. I know I am not deluded' 'When someone is persistent, they get through eventually and Sven was very persistent. 'If a woman did that she'd be a stalker, but when a man does it people say: "Oh, he's crazy about the girl." They have great names for guys, but when a woman does it she's a slut, she's this, she's that, all negative,' says Faria. 'All I knew was that I was falling in love with this man. I wasn't thinking about marriage, I didn't know what I wanted, I was just thinking about getting the relationship started. I don't know why he liked me, and I refuse to accept he regarded me as a fling.' But what about Sven's partner, Nancy Dell'Olio? What about television presenter Ulrika Jonsson, with whom Sven was caught out having an affair prior to starting another with Faria? Surely Faria must have known what she was playing with fire. 'I know the man loved me. I know he did. He told me he did. At the time he loved me. I don't care what anyone else says. I know I am not deluded,' she says, her voice rising. Perhaps he did; or perhaps it's simply easier for her to believe so. 'He liked the fact that I was normal, down-to earth, a jeans-and-T-shirt girl who didn't care about her appearance or powdering her nose every two seconds. He could talk to me,' she adds. 'I don't know if he realised that he was taking a huge risk, but I certainly didn't at the time. As far as I was concerned, we were two single, adult people. When we were having a relationship, he wasn't with Nancy, despite what she told all and sundry afterwards. 'Whenever I went to see him, she was never with him. She was out of the country half the time. Sven wasn't with her, certainly not mentally.' Faria has nothing positive to say about the way the FA handled the scandal, initially denying any affair between Sven and the PA, then admitting it was true. When the story broke, the FA's then director of communications Colin Gibson reportedly offered the Press Faria's full kiss-and-tell on Sven if they agreed to save Mark Palios from further embarrassment. 'I had no intention of selling my story, but the FA wanted me to go public and protect Palios and discredit Sven, while Sven was also telling me to do it, because he wanted people to know what the FA were doing,' says Faria. 'He was very annoyed. If the FA had simply said "this is a personal matter between two adults" I might

have been hounded privately, but I could have kept silent and run away. Instead, I felt a gun was being held to my head and I was told "you will give verse, line and chapter this Saturday". I wish I'd never done it.' In her interview, in which she revealed the 'ice-cool Swede' to be 'a red-hot lover' who liked to load the dishwasher before sex, she claimed Sven's calls to her had stopped and she felt 'abandoned'. She said: 'I feel he is like all the other men in my life who have let me down.' On a later television interview on Tonight with Trevor McDonald, Faria broke down in tears when asked by reporter Fiona Foster if she was in love with Eriksson. 'I wasn't then, I am now,' she said, before revealing that she didn't think he'd ever been in love with her. Now, however, she tells a rather different story. 'Now, when I see him on television or in the Press I don't think of what ifs or if onlys - it brings back uncomfortable memories of all that happened' 'We were in touch for a whole year after the scandal. I don't think Sven really cared about what I'd said, and why would he feel betrayed? He wanted me to do it. There was nothing for him to forgive. 'I still had my feelings and he had his. He would call me every day, and we'd talk about getting back together, but it was impossible to meet because we knew there would be a media frenzy.' After the scandal, Faria secured a job with the UK arm of a fashion label, which meant to-ing and froing between Britain and the U.S., where it was her job to set up trade fair events, but she dreaded returning to Britain. 'I said to Sven on the phone one day that I was thinking of leaving the country. I said: "I can't do this any more, it's killing me", and he said: "Don't go yet, please don't go." He wanted me to stay and thought we could find a way to see each other again,' she says. 'But I'd reached the point where I wanted to give up, so I decided to go. I couldn't stand it any more. If I'd stayed, it would have killed me. When I left I deleted all the numbers I had for Sven and his email address, because psychologically it helped me cut the ties with the past. 'As far as I'm aware, he never tried to contact me. Your feelings fade when you can't see someone. Now, when I see him on television or in the Press I don't think of what ifs or if onlys - it brings back uncomfortable memories of all that happened.' Nowadays, Faria says she is in a relationship with a 49-year-old Los Angeles-based divorcee who runs a film production company. They met in 2006, and she says that he knows about her past and 'doesn't give a damn'. They meet up every few weeks, but Faria has no desire to get married or have children of her own. Through her voluntary work, however, she has discovered she has a natural affinity with youngsters and is thinking of adopting in Canada as a single parent. 'People here would describe me as hard-working, fun and bright. I never lie about the past if people ask

me, but not one single person has ever said to me: "I don't want to know you because of your past,"' she says. 'I made a mistake. Everyone makes mistakes. No one's perfect. Who hasn't at some time thought: "Oh God, I wish I hadn't done that"? 'There are times when I sit here, all alone, and ask myself: "What the hell happened?" I'm a different person now.' A New York woman allegedly tried to slit her husband's throat because she said he wasn't the devout Muslim she thought she married five months ago, the Staten Island Advance reported. Rabia Sarwar told authorities in a four-page written confession that she tried her "best to cut his throat," but that her husband, Sheikh Naseem, woke up and took the knife from her. The 37-year-old's attorney told the Advance that Naseem, a high school teacher who is half Pakistani, "was a cruel person, he preyed on her." "He literally threatened to have her parents mutilated," Joseph Licitra told the newspaper. Unnamed sources told the Advance Naseem pressured Sarwar, a Pakistani, to do things that were against her religious beliefs. "He made her do stuff that she didn't like to do eating pork, drinking alcohol, wearing short clothes. She did all of that to make him happy," the source said. Sarwar slashed Naseem's neck with a kitchen knife as he slept, according to a statement she gave to police. She pleaded not guilty to attempted murder and was freed on $25,000 bail. She told police in a written statement that she was emotionally abused by Naseem and forced to violate her religious beliefs. "He made me do so many things that are against Islam," she wrote in a statement to police. "I did all that just to make him happy but inside me there was a war." Naseem suffered cuts to his neck, cheek and hand early Wednesday before fighting Sarwar off and dialing police from his home in the New York City borough of Staten Island, authorities said. "I did my best to cut his throat," Rabia Sarwar wrote. "But the next moment he jumped on me and grabbed me." Sarwar's attorney, Joe Licitra, said she had previously been treated for depression. Her husband told the New York Post that Sarwar was having a hard time adjusting to American culture. "There was no gun pointed to her head to do these things," Licitra told the Post. Sarwar's statement to police paints a picture of a frustrated, confused woman angry that her husband of five months was not what he appeared to be during their brief courtship.

After they were married, she discovered he had previously dated mostly "white" women, had been married before and liked to go out to drink, she wrote. He was not religious, though he claimed to be a devout Muslim, and he often yelled and cursed her family, she said. And one of his favorite writers was Salman Rushdie, author of "The Satanic Verses," which caused violent protests by Muslims in several countries because the book was perceived as an irreverent depiction of the prophet Mohammed. "He hates Pakistan and he hates Pakistanis then why did he marry a Pakistani girl?" she wrote. They fought about her leaving, and he threatened to hurt her family, saying they would have to pay him $30,000 or he would sue them and leave them penniless and homeless, she wrote. Her family is in Pakistan. She lay in bed that evening thinking her only way out was to kill him, she wrote. Police said they had never visited the house on any domestic dispute calls, they said. Sarwar also pleaded not guilty Thursday to second-degree assault and criminal possession of a weapon. Her next court date is Monday. http://www.silive.com/northshore/index.ssf/2009/10/new_brighton_wife_tried_to_kil.html She was caught up in the scheme of a man who couldn't keep his hands to himself. There were others, but she died. http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-1100022/Vigil-tears-death-plunge-Muslim-model-beauty.html Vigil of tears for death-plunge Muslim model beauty By Jaya Narain Last updated at 9:00 PM on 25th December 2008 Read more: http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-1100022/Vigil-tears-death-plunge-Muslim-modelbeauty.html#ixzz1J3tEs0lk

Sahar Daftary should have been celebrating her 24th birthday. But instead of sharing the model's happiness, her family spent Christmas Day keeping a vigil at the spot where she plunged to her death. More than two dozen relatives travelled from their homes in London to the block of flats in Salford Quays, Greater Manchester, where they laid flowers and cards and lit 24 candles, one for each year of her life. Miss Daftary, who was crowned Miss Face of Asia last year, fell from the balcony of businessman

Rashid Jamil's 12th-floor flat last Saturday. Sahar Daftary Sahar's mother lays flowers at the spot where the model fell to her death She had married 33-year-old Mr Jamil in a lavish Muslim ceremony 12 months ago but the relationship ended when she discovered he was already married with three children. In fact the former restaurant owner had been married three times, and was still living with his third wife. Miss Daftary's family, who are originally from Afghanistan, remain convinced she would not have taken her own life. Her cousin, Aarozo Tach, 30, said: 'She would never have done that over this man. She was over him and was looking forward to the future.' Miss Daftary, from Brentford, west London, went to Manchester to take part in a fashion show. Friends say she agreed to go to Mr Jamil's apartment to finalise their divorce. Mr Jamil was arrested on suspicion of murder but was later freed on bail. Earlier, it was revealed Miss Daftary had lodged a complaint of sexual assault with police. A spokeswoman for Greater Manchester Police said: 'Police received a report of sexual assault in May 2008. An investigation was launched but the victim refused to co-operate further.' Sahar Daftary smiles as Rashid Jamil kisses her on their wedding day last December. She died after falling from his 12th floor luxury apartment Sahar Daftary and Rashid Jamil on their 'wedding day' last year. She died after falling from his 12th floor luxury apartment. Her life fell apart after she discovered he had allegedly been married three times before A close friend of Miss Daftary, who asked not to be named, said: 'Sahar went to the police about six months ago after she split with Rashid. She thought she was being followed and walked into a police station near the apartment in Salford Quays to lodge a complaint. 'He was very possessive of her and she said that he told her that he had people watching her.' Miss Daftary had been in Mr Jamil's home city of Manchester for work but was persuaded to go to his flat after he offered her an Islamic divorce. Her sister Mariya Massumi, 34, said Miss Daftary had previously tried to get Mr Jamil to sign divorce papers but he had not agreed. Ms Massumi said: 'On the way up to Manchester, Sahar was arguing with Rashid on the phone but then he acted nicely and promised to sign the divorce papers.'

The family, having released pictures of Miss Daftary's marriage to Mr Jamil at the Holiday Inn in Brentford last December, now claim the union was never registered. Enlarge Sahar Daftary (R) and Rashid Jamil Enlarge Sahar Daftary (R) and Rashid Jamil The happy couple 'wed' in Brentford, west London in December 2007 They have also insisted she would not have killed herself and had 'everything to live for'. But they also claimed her marriage had been a sham and her husband was a womaniser. Meanwhile his second wife, a lawyer by whom he has an 11-year-old daughter, said she had left the former curry house boss because of his drinking and womanising. It is also unclear whether Mr Jamil's third marriage was ever legally recognised under English law. Miss Daftary, who had been planning to fly to Dubai with friends for New Year's Eve, had tried to rebuild her life, recently starting studies for an accountancy degree. Mr Jamil led the life of a wealthy entrepreneur but was behind a string of failed businesses and lived in a rented flat. Sahar Daftary's wedding ring Ms Daftary shows off her wedding ring He was arrested on suspicion of murder after she plunged to her death from his 12th floor waterside apartment at the weekend but was later released on bail. It is understood that evidence so far points to her death being suicide or a tragic accident. It also emerged that a pornographic video clip apparently featuring Miss Daftary and an unnamed man had recently been posted on a publicly accessible website. She was said to have feared the footage would damage her career, and police are expected to examine whether somebody had made it public out of spite. Miss Daftary's mother Anisa, a widow, has been left distraught by her daughter's death. Sahar's brother-in-law Joe Karim said: 'She would never commit suicide. It was against everything she believed in. She had everything to live for. She was a beautiful, intelligent, religious woman.' Rashid Jamil with Sebina Malik Rashid with second wife Sebina Malik at their wedding in 1996. She has now revealed that he had conducted a secret affair with another woman, Narissa Amjad, while still married to her Miss Daftary's sister, Mariya Massumi, said: 'Sahar did not have a new partner but she had moved on

with her life. She had started studying and stopped modelling. She had washed her hands of Rashid.' The family released photographs of the Islamic ceremony at which Miss Daftary married Mr Jamil in December last year in front of 200 family and friends at the Holiday Inn near her home in Brentford. They show the couple looking happy at the engagement party followed by the exchange of rings and vows and cutting of a four-tier cake in front of guests and an imam, who oversaw the ceremony. Sahar wore a floral dress before changing into a more traditional green dress for the wedding ceremony. Sahar Daftary Sahar Daftary Sahar's death is being treated as either suicide or a tragic accident But crucially, the union was not registered with the authorities, claim her family. The couple had met through her modelling work, which often took her to fashion shows in Manchester. But within a matter of weeks, Miss Daftary discovered that her ' husband' in fact already had a 'wife' in Manchester, 29-year-old Narissa Amjad, a marketing executive who was expecting their second child. 'When the wife phoned we didn't believe her,' said Mrs Massumi. 'She phoned every day. Eventually we went up to Manchester to ask him what was going on. His wife was there and his sister-in-law. 'He said in front of his wife that he wanted to be with Sahar. He had told Sahar that his wife was only with him for the money.' Mr Jamil is thought to have first undergone an arranged marriage in Pakistan which ended in divorce. He then married lawyer Sebina Malik in Manchester in an officially recognised wedding. They had a daughter, but again the couple divorced. Enlarge The couple surrounded by family members during their wedding ceremony The couple surrounded by family members during their wedding ceremony With Narissa Amjad he had a boy, now four, and a girl, one. It is not known whether his marriage to Miss Amjad was registered officially or just recognised in the form of an Islamic ceremony, but in the eyes of Miss Daftary's family he is guilty of bigamy. Their suspicions were first aroused when his parents did not turn up to the Holiday Inn ceremony - he claimed they were against the wedding because she was an Afghan - and again when he cancelled an appointment to register the marriage. Despite the revelations of his allegedly secret past, Miss Daftary initially agreed to move to Salford Quays with him, but when it became apparent that he was staying with his 'wife', she decided to finish the relationship. Having quit her job helping wealthy Arab shoppers at Harrods she enrolled in an accountancy and finance degree at Thames Valley University near her home.

Enlarge Enlarge 'Remembering Princess Sahar' Her sister added: 'Sahar had moved on. Last month Rashid tried to get back together with her. He offered to buy my sister a house and he asked her to live with him. But she told him she didn't want his money.' At the weekend she had agreed to travel to Manchester to do the make-up for a fashion show at an Indian restaurant. Friends have told her family that they had a row but that she then agreed to go to his 250,000 rented apartment at the NV Buildings on Saturday evening after he offered to give her an Islamic divorce. Shortly afterwards, police received a call from Mr Jamil requesting assistance. By the time they got there she had suffered fatal injuries after her 150ft fall. The luxury apartment block from which Sahar plunged to her death The luxury apartment block from which Ms Daftary plunged to her death A man at his apartment refused to answer the door to the Daily Mail earlier this week. Mr Jamil had been seen leaving a red rose next to the spot where Miss Daftary landed. Mr Jamil's ex-wife Sebina Malik revealed that he had conducted a secret affair with Narissa while still married to her. And she did not divorce him until July last year, long after his Islamic wedding to Narissa and just a few months before the ill-fated ceremony with Sahar, meaning the three 'marriages' almost overlapped. She and Mr Jamil were childhood sweethearts, marrying in 1996. Sahar Model looks: Ms Daftary's family have urged police not to write off her death as suicide. Here she poses with a friend Miss Malik, who lives near his parents in Rochdale, said: 'People would have said we were the perfect couple. But four or five years after the marriage, he began drinking and began his affairs and things went downhill after that. 'He always had two women on the go. He would never be faithful to just one woman. Two girls turned up at my house, knocking on the door claiming they were pregnant. They said he'd promised to marry them and divorce me.' She said he eventually left her for Miss Amjad but then became obsessed with Miss Dafarty. 'For him to be with a model, a girl like that, was beyond his dreams. She was a young, hot chick from London. He lavished her with money and jewels.'

Enlarge Sahar Stunning: The dead woman was named Miss Asia 2007. She was in Manchester for a modelling job She said she didn't believe he was responsible for her death. 'It could have been an accident,' she said. 'I think that it could be possible she has committed suicide.' A police source said: 'Witnesses have said there was no shouting or ranting - just a single scream. It is being looked at as either suicide or a horrible accident.' Her friend, Afrah Sami, said: 'We are all shocked and devastated. Sahar was very beautiful - she loved life and she was always the centre of the party.' Read more: http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-1100022/Vigil-tears-death-plunge-Muslim-modelbeauty.html#ixzz1J3tAZ9cE nri anni dewani was murdered just days after her wedding in south africa. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=u6hAUppbUTk&feature=player_embedded#at=11 http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=iY6CYHE_FTY&feature=related http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=VYqREJHkfQY&feature=related http://www.google.com/search?hl=en&q=anni+dewani&aq=f&aqi=&aql=&oq=&gs_rfai= http://www.bristol247.com/2010/12/14/bristol-bride-murder-father-tells-husband-go-to-south-africa/ in similar news, http://www.nydailynews.com/gossip/2010/07/01/2010-0701_harry_potter_actress_afshan_azad_22_charges_family_members_with_attempting_to_ki.html afshan azad, actress most famous of harry potter movie fame was threatened death by her famly because she is muslim and her boyfriend is hindu. so, desi girls, remember, godforbid u date outside ur faith, but desi men can have all the white black and latino whores they want! (and those girls r far far far more shameful, to start there's no such thing as a western virgin girl. It's ironic. When westerners are held responsible for their behaviour, or called upon for the behaviour towards easterners, they scream 'racism', and con the easterners into supporting them. but when an easterner is killed, especially a middle eastern or desi girl, it raises little care. this is horrific....we cannot support the evil and create slaps in the faces of innocent. http://www.mcall.com/news/local/all-a1_mc-emmaus-homicide.7295993jun06,0,7909264.story She left war-torn Baghdad to escape unimaginable violence and settled into a leafy borough that's been called one of the nicest places to live. In the safe confines of Emmaus, Donya Sinan Abdulrazzak's life flourished as she enrolled in nursing school, got a part-time job to help support her family and found solace on a walking trail near her

home. That new life ended Friday, the 20-year-old Cedar Crest College student was found strangled near that same walking path a few blocks from her Furnace Street house. Her death has been ruled a homicide. Her boyfriend and co-worker, Darius Kevin Maurer, also 20 and of Emmaus, was charged in her slaying Saturday and denied bail after his arraignment on criminal homicide charges. ''I just can't imagine anyone wanting to do any harm to her. She had everything going,'' said Barry Hunger, who lives next door to the Abdulrazzak family on the 600 block of Furnace Street. The family came to the United States from Iraq about five years ago. Abdulrazzak's body was found off Rodale's walking trail near South 10th and Furnace streets at 11:52 p.m., about five and half hours after her father, Sinnan Salih, reported her missing, according to Lehigh County District Attorney James B. Martin. The truth is, Salih was worried long before he called police about 6:30 p.m., Hunger said. ''He just had a feeling something was wrong,'' he said. According to an affidavit of probable cause, Abdulrazzak went walking at 10:30 a.m. Friday. She did not return home, did not answer her phone and did not report for work at 7 p.m. at the Weis Market on Chestnut Street in Emmaus, the affidavit states. Abdulrazzak often walked the trail, Hunger said, and would never let her parents worry like that by not calling home or work. Hunger, who also sensed something amiss, took to his bicycle on Friday at dusk and headed to the trail, calling for her. Co-workers also grew concerned when Abdulrazzak uncharacteristically hadn't shown up for her 7 p.m. shift. A manager there said Maurer also failed to report to work that day. The affidavit states that police soon discovered that Maurer did not show up for his 7 p.m. shift too. Police haven't detailed Maurer's whereabouts, but Martin said he was out driving alone on southbound Interstate 78 and Route 309 about 8 p.m. Friday when his car crashed and he was injured. Maurer was admitted to Lehigh Valley Hospital-Cedar Crest with non-life threatening injuries and remained there Saturday, Martin said. Asked how police came to find Abdulrazzak's body, Martin said, ''Information received during the course of the (accident) investigation led police to the location where (her) body was found.'' In the affidavit: ''Maurer made subsequent statements to state police that he killed Donya Sinan Abdulrazzak by strangling her and hitting her with his fists in the throat and face. He said he left her body in the wooded area of the Rodale walking track in Emmaus.'' Outside Abdulrazzak's home on Saturday, family and friends gathered. Her father answered the door and said the family didn't want to comment. Behind him, a woman sobbed.

About a mile away at Maurer's house, 1317 Arch St., no one answered the door, and several neighbors said they did not know the family, who kept to themselves. Abdulrazzak, dark-haired, pretty and petite, had just finished her freshman year at Cedar Crest and was scheduled to graduate in 2013. sorry but found this hilarious even if it isnt ash wednesday Most of us brown folk have been subjected to relentless teasing by assholes about the "red dot" worn by (allegedly) all Indian women on their forehead. Some of us who are not Hindu had to explain the significance of the red dot to these ignoramuses while listening to queries that ranged for the stupid "Is it tattooed on the women when they are born?" to the obscene "Is that so you Indian men can aim where to shoot your load?" So today, when you see Christians of any race walking around with Ash on their foreheads stop them and say "Um, hey, you have dirt on your forehead, did you forget to take a bath today?" If they try to explain what the ash signifies, feign disinterest and say something like "Whoa, Whoa, easy there fella, I dont understand you crazy voodoo religion, I just wanted to point out that you had some dirt on your face." http://www.turbanhead.com/weblog/page/84/

For those of you who don't know.....the only thing separating Desi, Middle Eastern and Gori are supposedly two things skin colour and mind set. Both are considered Caucasian according to wikipedia. http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Race (The term Caucasian race or Caucasian is used to refer to people whose ancestry can be traced back to Europe, North Africa, West Asia, South Asia and parts of Central Asia. It was once considered a useful taxonomical categorization of human racial groups based on a presumed common geographic and/or linguistic origin.) Early Chinese migrants, largely male, often entered into common-law unions with the Afro-Jamaican women who worked in their businesses. However, Chinese women rarely married Afro-Jamaican men. Interracial marriage became less common as the number of women of Chinese descent in Jamaica grew.[24] Nevertheless, by the 1943 census, nearly 45% of Jamaicans with some Chinese ancestry fell into the census category of "Chinese coloured" (mixed Chinese and African descent). in.news.yahoo.com/070912/43/6kn1o.html This ignorant rundi make some really offensive stereotypes about Indians and her assumptions about the similarities between they and Russians. (If link doesn't work, here's the article) Moscow, Sep 12 (RIA Novosti) Indian men promise to be the ideal spouses for Russian women, affected as they are by a high male death rate owing largely to unhealthy lifestyles. That is the opinion of Maria Arbatova, leading Russian feminist author and prominent television presenter. 'The import of eligible bachelors from India is my big geopolitical idea,' she told RIA Novosti news agency. India can be of help now that Russia has come to grips with its formidable demographic problem, Arbatova said

during the launch of her latest book 'A Taste of India' at the 20th Moscow International Book Fair recently. 'First, both Russians and Indians are Indo-Europeans, and we speak related languages - just look at the many similarities between Sanskrit and modern Russian vocabularies. Second, and even more important, the archetypal Indian man is a fanatic paterfamilias. (Highest ranking in family status) To raise many children is his cherished dream, and he makes the best possible husband,' remarked Arbatova, who is married to Shumeet of West Bengal in eastern India. Attracting Indian bachelors to Russia should be a government policy, she argues, or Russia will soon have two crosses to bear - one of its own male deaths and the other of the Chinese birth rate. 'Asian Russia, from the Pacific coast up to the Urals, is full of Chinese men anxious to marry Russian girls. If the Chinese are not promptly balanced out, no matter by whom - Indians, Africans or extraterrestrials, either Asian Russia will become a Chinese province before 2050 or Chinese will become Russia's second official language,' she jokes ironically. 'Just look, Russia has two employment agencies in China, and none in India. Shame!' Arbatova's book went on sale last spring and was on the bestseller list in summer. Britain's International Biographical Center of Cambridge has awarded her its 20th Century Outstanding Achievement gold medal. The author points out many similarities between Russian and Indian life. 'Socialism got my country out of the Big Game for 70 years. Colonialism did the same to India for two centuries. Both nations are now getting back to their sources in the age of globalist. That's hard to do - like walking home inside a centrifuge,' she says. http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/The_Namesake (Book) He wants to be American, not Bengali. He goes home less frequently, dates American girls, and becomes angry when anyone calls him Gogol. During his college years, he smokes cigarettes and marijuana, goes to many parties, and loses his virginity to a girl he cannot remember. When he goes home for the summer, Gogol's train is suddenly stopped and temporarily loses electricity. A man had jumped in front of the train and committed suicide, and the wait for the authorities causes a long delay. Ashoke, who is waiting at the train station for Gogol, becomes very concerned when he calls the train company and hears of this incident. When they pull into the Ganguli's driveway, Ashoke turns off the car and finally explains the true significance of Gogol's name. Gogol is deeply troubled by this news, asking his father why he didn't tell him this earlier. He starts to regret changing his name and changing his identity. He lives in a very small apartment in New York City, where he has landed a job in an established architectural office after graduating from Columbia. He is rather stiff personality-wise, perpetually angry or else always on the lookout for someone to make a stereotypical comment about his background. At a party, Gogol meets a very attractive and rather socially aggressive Barnard girl named Maxine. Gogol becomes completely wrapped up in her and her family. Maxine's parents are financially well off and live in a four-story house in New York City. Maxine has one floor to herself and invites Gogol to move in. Gogol becomes a member of the family, helping with the cooking and shopping. Maxine's parents appear to have accepted him as a son. When Maxine's parents leave the city for the summer, they invite Maxine and Gogol to join them for a couple of weeks. They are staying in the mountains in New Hampshire, where Maxine's grandparents live. Gogol introduces Maxine to his parents. Ashima dismisses Maxine as something that Gogol will eventually get over. Shortly after this meeting, Gogol's father dies of a heart attack while teaching a semester in Ohio. Gogol travels to Ohio to gather his father's belongings and his father's ashes.

Something inside of Gogol changes. He slowly withdraws from Maxine as he tries to sort out his emotions. Maxine tries to pressure him to open up to her. Gogol breaks off the relationship and begins to spend more time with his mother and sister, Sonia. Ashima, after some time has gone by, suggests that Gogol contact the daughter of one of her friends. Gogol knows of the woman from his own childhood. Her name is Moushumi, and she has had the unfortunate experience of having planned a wedding only to have her intended groom change his mind at the last minute. Gogol is reluctant to meet with Moushumi because she is Bengali. But he meets her anyway, to please his mother. Moushumi and Gogol are attracted to one another and eventually are married. However, by the end of their first year of marriage, Moushumi becomes restless. She feels tied down by marriage and begins to regret what she has done. Gogol suspects something is wrong and often feels like a poor substitute for Moushumi's ex-fiance, Graham, who abandoned her. One day, Moushumi comes across the name of a man she knew when she was a senior in high school. She contacts him, and they begin an affair. Gogol finds out. Moushumi and Gogol divorce. The story ends with Ashima selling the family home so she can live in India with her siblings for half of the year. Sonia is preparing to marry an American man named Ben. Gogol is once again alone. But he feels comforted by one thing: before his father died, he finally told his son why he had chosen that name for him. By the end of the novel, Gogol has come to accept his name and picks up a collection of the Russian author's stories that his father had given him as a birthday present many years ago. http://in.news.yahoo.com/photos/topless-ukrainian-activists-desecrate-indian-flag-1329721059slideshow/ CLOSE YOUR BROTHELS, WE ARE NO PROSTITUTES FEMEN activists of Ukraine, who shot to popularity through their bare-top protests on politically virile issues, staged the latest show at the Indian embassy in Kiev, the capital of Ukraine. The bare-breasted girls displayed banners shouting Ukrainians Are Not Prostitutes, and Delhi, Close Your Brothels, and tore down the Indian Tricolor there. The protest was provoked by the Indian Foreign Ministrys orders to make visa verifications stricter for Ukrainian, Russian, Kazakh and Kyrgyzstani women aged between 18 and 40 years. More than a lakh tourists from the Soviet region are estimated to visit India every year, and many of them are alleged to perpetrate sex tourism and prostitution. FEMENs topless protests have been chiefly protesting the chastity of Ukrainian women who are being internationally abused a lot, and directed against sexist issues. Starting Ukraine, they have toured almost the whole of Europe, including the Holy See of Vatican. These photos take you through some of their topless demonstrations, and enlighten on their vision and motives. Now, the big difference is mind set. The thinking of the two cultures. So called ' white' people are no more honest than Punjabi, or Desi in general. Or anyone else for that matter. (Often times, they are far LESS honest in fact.) And, whilst Punjab, or India, or any Desi, Asian, or Middle Eastern region is not perfect, there is much to be said FOR it. (Otherwise, why would the Goris want to copy and exploit eastern culture to begin with?) Also, the actions of wanting guys (or people in general) to act like angels is far from a bad thing. However, It must be equal for both girls and guys, and must be realistic and for pure, good, constructive intentions. 'Gori/Gora' males and females (in general) alike are very

materialistic, set on ego, and live life to fulfill their own temptations. They are very false and misleading. This happens in all cultures, but particularly in the western cultures and Goris are incredibly shallow. The macho dominance in Gora males, and the sex pot attitude of the Gori girls is incredibly misleading. Also, on the news all too often many reports of some Gori, Latino, and/or black girl who has gotten pregnant, dumped her baby in the toilet or a garbage can, or they sit in motels and have crystal meth labs, they have sex with multiple partners, and they don't have regrets. They do drugs, get drunk, have orgies, etc. and expose their children to it. With many Goris, Latinos, and blacks also is the need to show off....wearing tiny clothes, flirting wildly with others, having public kissing/petting sessions to show off, etc. The need for discipline is crucial to create a successful global society, and to keep our humanity going. Lack of virtue and values leads to our demise, because we allow ourselves to cause trouble to us and others. Gori/Gora, Latino, or Black does not mean a person is bad. However, these people are more known for their inappropriate behaviors, due to cultural upbringing. On a few other notes, many Goris also dislike face hair and / or long hair. And Goris also have just as much, if not less concern for their spirituality.... Or they have false ideas from it which contribute to some of society's evils. They gain false views on things, and then try to spread it forth, whilst still committing other acts, making them hypocrites. Also, many Goris are fascinated by other cultures they're not used to, and if they find the person friendly, they may latch to them for attention, but not because their souls are truly bound to that person, despite what they may say. they are enamored by something they're not used to. the whole reason they want to become a part of eastern culture is that they have a strange, sad, dangerous fantasy which destroys others, and they do not care. And, yet, on the flip side, many Goris also make fun of cultures they're not used to, and harass them. This isn't meant to be Gori/Gora bashing, but merely pointing out the fact that Goris/Goras are often the most apt to harass or exploit Desi (and other cultures), and in general, people of one culture (especially western vs. eastern) will try to take advantage of each other for false reasons (though it should be pointed out that not EVERYONE is like this, in general, it is more common. I have seen more women than men (especially Gori women) who play the emotional toy game on a long term basis. ( The men seem less successful at the game they play than the women.) They will flirt in public (or on publicly visible websites), tell the person they love them, say they are soul mates, they want to marry, that their families are getting ready for their wedding plans, etc. This is either most often lies, made very craftily so that the other person will be gullible enough to believe the one stating the aforementioned sweet talk, or they will make serious plans, at which point, when the victim reaches the goal (going to the other's country, marrying them, etc.). The result is the predator using the victim for money, sex, and their own egotistical gain. The person is like a drug to them, and like any drug, the drug must be taken away and the predator must be 'broken' of their habit before any good can come This relationship can last for many years without proper detection and intervention, and usually unknowingly harmful to the untrained eye as the predator has their plans plotted out with amazing precision and dedication. Sometimes, and often, if desperate enough, the predator will have a few victims with varying degrees of seriousness, and commonly at least one person who they attach themselves to most seriously, especially if the person is easily led to believe they love them. These people become a pawn in a game of emotions, money, sex, and other assorted gains. The predators are looking for easy, negative attention. Basically they want sympathy, sweet talk, and whatever else they can get. This is a mental problem. These people are mentally ill, and they are avoiding their issues, and actually feeding their disease by these actions. Often times they will say they had troubled home life, or a troubled past...whether actually real or fiction...for attention. And when a person reacts the way the predator wants them to, it's like giving an alcoholic a case of booze and telling them 'Drink up, I have more for you. ' If you truly want to do good for that person, do your best to guide them away from these actions, and find alternative, proper activities for them to feel better from, and people of their own culture who

can help them live positively productive lives. encourage them to find volunteer work, or a proper mate from their own culture, teach them about the difference between seeking attention, and guiding and inspiring to help others, as that's much more fulfilling for ALL than trying to get attention. If done effectively, it does much greater good for them and for others,especially other potential victims who may be terribly hurt when they eventually discover what the predator was truly seeking. (For a humourous take on this - see http://thebots.net/, look under videos, and then 'The Bots Never Fall in Love'.) Some things to look out for are public displays of affection (internet wise, referring to promises of marriage, calling each other Jaan/Jaanu or other pet names, telling each other they love each other truly, love each other only, are soul mates, etc. especially after not knowing each other very long, and only having the internet and/or phone communication. Usually the people have never physically met, though physical meeting often does not improve the situation, and can make things much worse, and much more dangerous. Also look for pictures of one or both people (especially in their profiles) photo shopped to look like they are together, often in a romantic pose. Look for profile, blog, or other pics, where one or both people are modeling in seductive, suggestive poses, trying to emphasize their busts, rear ends, or anything that may be seducing enough. They will often promise and swear they respect the other person's religion, often claiming they are going to convert or have converted. In the case of Sikhi, one can easily tell a person is dishonest about their respect for the religion by their use of the above tactics - the flirting, the seductive pictures, often with body parts, little clothing, and/or cleavage showing, as modesty and focusing on the soul over the body are crucial. Similarly, the predator will also claim to respect victim's culture. Be especially aware of someone who will say the respect and love the culture - when asked, they will use stereotypes learn from their culture (like western stereotypes of India/Desi regions, Asian, and Middle Eastern regions ). Some really tricky types will take extra time to sound more convincing. Sometimes, the predator will say they do good things to make themselves look better. Or they will try to portray themselves in a convincingly attractive manner according to what the victim appreciates - often these are deliberate lies and/or exaggerations. Also, be aware of flirtatious ids/aliases/nicknames with things such as baby girl, sexy, play girl, etc. - name that have a sexually or inappropriately suggestive nature to them should be warnings, though this is not always true, as some people are now choosing more normal ID's to hide their actions. Oddly enough...western men who have relationships with eastern women don't seem to have the starvation for fulfilling fantasies or attention like their female counterparts, and in fact, often seem more mature with their relations. this is not always true either, but is a notably more rare occurance (the relationships occuring) than with western girls. they are not as infatuated with the dress up and role play or the attention that comes with these acts that their female counterparts enjoy. these things don't seem to phase the men, and they focus on other aspects of the relationship. Also, there are many westerners, both male and female who agree to stick with your own culture.....the mix of various european african (excluding egypt or more middle eastern type cultures), and latino cultures don't count because they are similar enough not to matter. just as mixing middle eastern and indian, because they are similar...even the asian cultures, which similar as they may be, have enough difference to cause issues with the indian,pakistani, bangladeshi, sri lankan, or middle eastern cultures...though not to such a severe degree as with the west. People like this are shameful. They are not serious or respectful, and are only trying to achieve personal emotional gain. They cannot be 'reformed'. This only feeds into their act. They have to be ignored and others made aware of these actions. Make sure that these people do not get the attention they crave. That is the best way to help them, because you teach them that their actions are wrong, and they are more or less forced to change if they want proper respect. Please learn the difference between love and lust - LOVE is shown by first creating a mature bond with foundations from guiding, inspiring, and working to improve another person's life, without attachment of romantic or sexual feelings. We show

we love another more truly when we work to make them better people, then when we sweet talk them and flirt. This, in fact,shows more disrespect, as these actions show seeking only attention and egotistical satisfaction from the person we say we love, and from others around us. this is very false, misleading, and is a form of exploitation. Similarly, Pornography (blue movies, xxx movies, inappropriate pictures of people/animals/people and animals, and or other objects, used for a sexual nature) is lustful exploitation, and by involving yourself with such things, you help to proliferate the lack of morals, lust, and degradation the people who make these horrid acts involve themselves in. These are lives of lust, ego, disease, violence, drug and alcohol abuse, etc. Read this article http://www.gather.com/viewArticle.jsp articleId=281474977121845. Pornography is also very false in what it represents. It is not intended for information purposes, and involves much false information, fantasy, and things derived only for lust. It does not show how to properly respect another person. Also, it is often abusive, either in the message it portrays, or in the creation of the piece itself. It is created by models and actors who do not love each other. Often times, violence, disease, drug and alcohol abuse, etc. are common, and almost part of the normal environment. Also, the actors/models usually are hiding emotional and or mental problems, and so turn to this as a form of temporary remedy for issues that only grow worse, sometimes leading to murder or suicide. Those who involve themselves in such activities are only promoting these horrid (and in some places, illegal) acts. here is a great example of a middle eastern loser who was so desperate for sex, that he decided to meet some dirty whore who had sex with him the first time they met. he is so proud of this. he represents whathappens when we put morals on the back burner in favour of our lustful actions http://www.youtube.com/watch?feature=player_embedded&v=Nh7aJk1zNMY#! his name is sina. PLEASE ALWAYS REMEMBER THAT THOUGH SEX IS NECESSARY PART OF LIFE, IT SHOULD NEVER HAVE PRIORITY BEFORE RESPECT FOR THE SOUL, GUIDING,AND INSPIRING, AND DOING ALL YOU CAN TO PROVE THE LIVES OF OTHERS AND VIRTUES OF SOCIETY. For example - Bhagat Puran Singh is a much better person to follow than Brad Pitt, Leonardo Dicaprio, Angelina Jolie, etc. Also, I will agree that one does not need to be Punjabi to be Sikh, nor does one need to be Sikh to be Punjabi...BUT there IS a connection between Sikhi and Punjab, as our faith originated there and that in itself is a reason to appreciate Punjab, whether you are Sikh or not, because many Sikhs are still very good people, and do an awful lot to contribute to the best of society, especially many Punjabi Sikhs, Hindus, Muslims, and other faiths, and just because there are bad people in Punjab does not mean hate the culture. (Equally so, same goes for the Gori culture - it does not mean though Goris are far from perfect to hate them right away, but it does not mean that you turn to them and abandon your own culture and say you hate it because you see faults in it. this is equally as wrong.) If you find fault in your culture.... Work to correct it. It's a challenge, and one that may seem near impossible, but only because there is not enough effort being put forth to make it possible. Remember that there is no one bad or good culture itself, it's the stereotypes and lack of values and virtues that people of the culture have decided to follow. There are good and bad in all nations, but increasingly, much more bad than good, and we as collective society worldwide need to stop this and turn it around for the better of us all. If we abandon our culture to seek attention from others, we lose our identity, eventually our culture - Example, if all leave India and marry Goris, there will be no India, and instead a new culture with lack of values. (An additional note - what is written here is general common sense. There are references to Sikh /Sikhi /Sikhs, however this is not limited to Sikhs alone. This work was written by a Sikh so it is an example. It also is not intended to push any one person's ideas on others, or push any one religion in other's faces, or to put one religion on a hypothetical pedestal whilst tearing down other faiths. Also, nowhere is any one religion or type of people intentionally being seen as good or bad.) So, to make a point.....if you don't like how your culture is, don't make a petty escape from it and say you don't like it, or worse, attaching yourself to

another culture who pretends to appreciate you for attention - work to improve it. Our cultures are important to us as they are our history, our heritages, and much can be learned from them. If we all abandoned our cultures because of things we didn't like, we'd all be in a right sorry state. Our cultures give us incredible information about many things - who we were, who we are, who we need to be, who we need to NOT be, as well as information on diseases and physical body differences. We need to keep our culture intact, and respect it, because just like us, no culture is fully perfect, but we must work to do the best for our cultures, and never forget who we are, and where we came from. just as we need to improve our faiths, when they have imperfections. Please help your faith and culture by stopping people like this, and get them to realize what they're doing. PLEASE DO NOT MERELY IGNORE THESE SITUATIONS AND SAY THEY ARE NONE OF MY BUSINESS, I HAVE NO REASON TO DEAL WITH THEM. THEY EFFECT YOUR CULTURE, YOUR RELIGION, AND THOUGH MAYBE NOT YOURSELF DIRECTLY, IT EFFECTS ALL OF US INDIRECTLY, AND COULD EFFECT YOUR FRIENDS OR FAMILY, PERHAPS EVEN YOURSELF IN THE FUTURE. PLEASE LOOK OUT FOR ANOTHER PERSON, AND TRY TO STOP AND PREVENT THESE ACTS SO THAT THE NUMBER OF THEM IS GREATLY REDUCED. IT IS YOUR JOB AS A RESPONSIBLE CITIZEN AND HUMAN BEING. YOU RESPECT YOUR FELLOW PEOPLE, YOUR CULTURE, YOUR RELIGION, THEN IT IS JUST AS MUCH YOUR RESPONSIBILITY AS IT IS THOSE INVOLVED IN THE SITUATION, BECAUSE THEY NEED OUTSIDE GUIDANCE TO CORRECT THEM AND STOP THE SITUATION. IF YOU TAKE THE INITIATIVE, AND WORK TO STOP THESE TERRIBLE THINGS, YOU ARE A VERY GREAT PERSON, AND A ROLE MODEL FOR YOUR COMMUNITY. THANK YOU! Also, a note for the westerners, be aware that just as I write this about westerners, this can happen with easterners as well, and when you go too far for another culture, you can be left a victim BY other cultures, because they are often are and willing to exploit you back. Read this (PLEASE NOTE THIS IS NOT MEANT TO BE AGAINST MUSLIMS AS I HAVE MANY MUSLIM FRIENDS, IT IS MERELY AN EXAMPLE I FOUND ONLINE, AND CAN HAPPEN WITH ANY RELIGION) this white slut married an egyptian asshole and he abducted their ugly kid. http://global.fncstatic.com/static/managed/img/U.S./kalli3nu.jpg http://creepingsharia.files.wordpress.com/2013/04/46bf93d5-762d-4801-a9c0c6d4d1b22d67_630_missingkid.jpg?w=468 http://i.huffpost.com/gen/1105124/thumbs/o-KALLI-ATTEYA-EGYPT-SON-facebook.jpg http://img.r7.com/images/2013/04/26/11_20_38_458_file?dimensions=780x536&no_crop=true http://www.karmaville.com/?page=karma&id=6335&sid=6790 http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2013/04/25/kalli-atteya-kidnapped-son-egypt_n_3155017.html A Pennsylvania mother traveled to Egypt to rescue her son, who she claimed had been kidnapped by his biological father. To avoid detection, the woman reportedly hid under the cover of a niqab for several months. Kalliopi Kalli Atteya, her sister and her son, Khalil Mohamed Niko Atteya, had traveled to Egypt in July 2011 on a family vacation. While there, they went to visit Mohamed Atteya, Kalli's ex-husband and Niko's father. On Aug. 1, 11-year-old Niko was allegedly kidnapped by his father after his mother

was pushed out of a taxi cab the family was riding in, according to ABC local affiliate WHTM in Pennsylvania. "He was pounding on the back window, asking, screaming for me and his aunt," Kalli told the Chicago Tribune in December of that year. "To me, it's like a living death. You know, I'm walking, I'm breathing, but it's nothing. The emptiness." Since then, Kalli had been trying to get her son back home to Fayetteville, Pa. "Some people will say I was crazy," Kalli told Public Opinion about deciding to travel to Egypt to get her son back. "I had already lost everything. I had nothing to lose." Kalli enlisted the help of a local guide to track down Mohamed, whom she had married in 1999 and separated from shortly after Niko's birth in 2000, according to Fox News. For several months, she was able to disguise herself under a niqab and watch her son and ex unnoticed, according to local news outlet The Herald-Mail. (A niqab is a face veil that is worn with a headscarf and leaves open the area around the eyes.) After months of surveillance, the mother decided to make her move mid March, the Herald-Mail reported. Kalli drove to Niko's school and waited as the children got off the bus and were greeted by teachers and security. Kalli finally saw her son step off the bus. "She walked up and touched his arm and said 'Niko its [sic] mommy. Come with me', and he went right with her," her sister, Olga Kriska, told WHTM. He reportedly knew it was his mother under the niqab because he recognized her bright blue eyes. "I dressed him up as a girl. We made it back to a safe house," she told Public Opinion. She and her son are now in the United States at an undisclosed location. It is still unclear why Mohamed allegedly kidnapped his son. My son told me [it was] to make him a Muslim, Kalli, who is afraid Mohamed may try to come to the U.S., told Fox News. He said that we lack the morality and the values that their system has. And he said that Americans were so violent, he said we are a rotting society. Last February, the Franklin County district attorney filed criminal charges against Mohamed for the concealment of the whereabouts of a child, a felony. www.renewamerica.us/columns/stock/050513 The following is the story of "Ann," told in her own words, about life married to a Muslim. Well, gosh there is so much to say. I guess you could say when I met "Ahmed" he swept me off my feet. I was a single parent going to school full time and working full time. When I met Ahmed he was so charming; so full of promises which were all lies. After a whirlwind romance, he asked me to marry him and I said yes. We lived in my apartment since he had nothing but an old car and a few personal belongings and a bunch of promises. Ahmed told me he was not legal before I married him and I agreed to sponsor him so he could get his green card. After we married he went to visit his family

in Syria. I was not invited, which hurt me, but there was no reasoning with him. Ahmed was gone for a month but he called once a week and came back with lots of gold jewelry for me. How nice! I remember thinking. I got pregnant two years later and was very ill during the pregnancy. I had to be hospitalized and Ahmed just dumped me off at the hospital and left me there. When I was released, I was told to go on bed rest. Ahmed would not pick me up from the hospital so I got a friend to pick me up and take me home. Ahmed was sitting on the couch and he barked, "I'm hungry! I want food." I, of course, ignored him and went to lie down. Our son was born and he was very ill because of some type of unidentified genetic disorder. Ahmed named our son "Abu" and I was not given a choice in the matter. Abu was very sick. He spent four months in the Intensive Care Unit and needed a tracheotomy and a feeding tube to live. Abu is now going on eight and lives at home with me. He is on a ventilator and requires nursing and 24 hour supervision. While Ahmed and I were together it was horrible. I was not allowed to work or go to school to finish college. He said I was having affairs with everyone at school and he was very mean with a vile temper. I was the one who had provided insurance for the family. I worked for the government and had great benefits. I took two years leave when Abu was ill and was trying to go back so we could have health insurance. Ahmed was livid when he found out I wanted to go back to work. We had nurses caring for Abu. I explained to him about the insurance and he did not care that we were living in poverty at one of my relative's homes. Ahmed was never much of a worker. He refused to work for anyone that was not an Arab Muslim. I did not return to my job and I took cobra insurance which was $250 per month. We were living on less than $1,200 per month. I had my daughter from a previous marriage living with us and at night she would sometimes want to sleep with me and Ahmed would say no one sleeps in my bed. "If your daughter sleeps with you, I will divorce you." he said. Once, I accidentally brushed up against Ahmed during Ramadan and he said I made him dirty because women were unclean. He also told me that his father had told him that women had half a brain and were not to be trusted. This comes from a man that can not read or write. Had I had known all of this about Ahmed I would have never ever gotten involved with him. There were several occasions when he spat in my face and called me filthy names. He would snap his fingers and command tea, "NOW." He also tried to bilk me out of money to pay off a bad business deal. Ahmed was a faithful Muslim. He was also an abusive husband, a bad father, a liar, and a thief. He was very lazy and was unable to provide the basic support for a family, love, or companionship. That is why I left him. He was sucking the life out of me. I was the walking dead. Often Ahmed would say he was exhausted and would take vacations with his Arab male friends. He went to France, New York, Mexico all while I stayed home taking care of our son. Like I said, I ended up leaving. I just could not take it. I was living in pure hell. I live with my son and daughter. Ahmed relocated to a town 60 miles away four years ago. He visits his son 5 to 6 hours a week and he says if I contact a lawyer he will return to his country and I will not get a penny. About two years ago he made me an offer. He was going to visit his family and asked if I could watch over his shop and that he would pay me. I decided to do it for the money. When he got back he did not pay me. He said the income tax that I got was my payment. I also found out he was wife-hunting to boot. After that encounter, I keep as far away from him as possible. He is full of lies just an evil man. I get very little support from this man. Remember, our son is disabled and on a ventilator at home. Ahmed is now with a new wife he brought back from Syria. While he was engaged to this woman, he took an ad out on the internet for a local wife in case the one from Syria could not get a visa. Ahmed's new wife is now pregnant again and she has had several miscarriages. Ahmed still does not have insurance nor did he think of all the genetic problems he has in his family. His current wife is like a cat with no claws. She is covered head to toe and is a high school drop out. She will not be able to fight off her evil tormentor as I did and in the end he will suck the life out of her too and there will not be a thing that she can do. Please be aware that there are many women who I have encountered that have suffered because they got involved with a Muslim man. I got out and I want all women to be aware of these horrible; lying; abusive; so-called-god-fearing men. I was little more then gum on the bottom of his shoe and I was college educated and attractive. I never thought this

could happen to me. I want my story told so that the truth will be known. Please, if you are involved with one of these guys think twice don't waste your time. Just move on. Barbara J. Stock is an RN of over 23 years and is fairly new to political writing. She has had articles posted on BushCountry, GOPUSA, AmericanDaily, RepublicanDailyNews, Town Hall, OpinionEditorials, and the Judson Cox Newsletter. She has her own website called Republican and Proud and welcomes comments at dickens502003@yahoo.com. Copyright 2005 by Barbara J. Stock, http://www.renewamerica.us/columns/stock/050513 I am, however, glad not ALL are this way. There are a few westerners in my friends lists who are very special people. Thanks Paola, Kate, Katarina, and Molly for being different! Also, all through history, the westerners were known to go through civilizations, overtake them, and turn them to their culture. From the ancient Greeks, to Persia, to the Mayas and native Americans in the U S A. Europeans took over great civilizations and forced their own religions (namely Christianity), their own thinking, their own ideals, their own lack of morals, and these great civilizations not only disappeared, but became as lacking in virtue as those who transformed them. Do you want India to return possession of the west? We fought for independence from the west, only to be handing it back to them. Do you want to lose your identity, and become another one of the westerner's conquerings? India was once owned by Britain, and gained its independence, but it seems India is willing to give itself back to the west, in favour of the false attention the west gives it. This does not mean, however that Desi lok and Goris can't be friends,but both parties must be incredibly mature and truly not be wishing to have bad alternative intentions for the other. This is VERY rare. http://www.google.com/search?hl=en&q=europeans+forced+christianity+on&btnG=Google+Search http://www.google.com/search? hl=en&q=europeans+killed+many+to+force+christianity+on&btnG=Search http://www.google.com/search?hl=en&q=europeans+took+over+many+civilizations&btnG=Search (Some links may not be relevant.) Please search similar terms for more information. People don't wish to own up to when they do wrong, so they want to cause trouble for those who work to stop this crap. Something must be done about all these terrible people. We cannot simply let these people do more bad and turn our backs ignoring them. Working to stop them is part of our lesson as well in life. It teaches us not to be like them, it teaches us to know how to help others not be like them. If we act like cowards, we add to the problems because we are too weak to stand up for the morals and virtues crucial to life. . please see this, Dr. Aafia Saddiqui's mum makes some good sense and sums up a lot about what we are trying to accomplish in our own explanations... http://www.youtube.com/v/tzPyFPD9zwY&hl=en_US&fs=1& http://realbeauty.yahoo.com/ramya-pandyan-article/post/dove_ramya/44/indian-relationships-a-stateof-anarchy.html

Indian Relationships: A State Of Anarchy By Ramya Pandyan 'I saw a Hollywood movie about relationships and love. In one scene, a man and a woman meet in a department store and strike up a conversation over the cash register which continues till they walk out. Standing on the sidewalk, they talk, like any two strangers whove just met, of things that interest the other and ooh and aah over what they have in common. Then, just on the verge of that crucial ask for her number moment, the guy shrugs and says,I cant do this. Im married. It struck me right just then. They were following a socially accepted ritual. Then they reached a point where an expression of interest had to be made or not. And it could not be made since he was clearly unavailable. The social mores of their world dictated that he not go any furthur unless he was intending to take it forward seriously. A few years ago, I was in Europe. After much teasing from my group, about Turkish delights and Greek gods, I returned to report that no man had flirted with me. But my mother, told me of one of our copassengers had struck up a conversation and told her she was very attractive, adding with a snide look at my dad that he couldnt say the same about her husband. She was highly surprised till we were told that in some western communities, it was considered polite, practically a social requirement to mockflirt with a lady and compliment her on her fine form. This especially for a married woman, since it was quite clear that it was in light vein and was not intended to be taken seriously. Quite unlike India where it would be considered highly inappropriate to flirt or compliment a married woman. On the other hand, it was pointed out, that it would be equally inappropriate for the same men to have flirted with me since I was clearly available. Flirting would have been an indication of serious intent, a formal expression of interest. We are still in a nascent society as far as dating goes. Our parents generation invented love marriages in this society; we are the generation that brings in friendship between the sexes as well as socially sanctioned romantic/sexual relationships before marriage. We havent quite learnt where to draw the line between friendship-comfort and attraction-commitment. We are still experimenting with how far we go with being funny/cool/charming and where it trespasses into flirtation. Think about some of the relationship scenarios that are very real to us today. The best friend of the opposite sex that makes the girlfriend/boyfriend so uncomfortable. The good friends (sister-brother this is really the most convoluted one of all) who vehemently decree that other people have dirty minds. The older colleague/father of a friend/friend of father/husband of a friend who are really friendly, but perhaps a little too much sometimes? Dont we all know a guy who promises the world to every second girl, believing correctly, that shell keep it to herself because, it still isnt done for a girl to admit that shes been with a guy? There is nothing to check him from repeating the same over and over again, no one to brand him for the cad he is. Even after the crime is complete and guy is far away, possibly chasing a whole new set of girls or actually married, how many of the women he has wronged are actually going to speak up? How about the committed ones who pass off their behaviour as harmless friendliness? Theres a general kehne mein kya harz hai? syndrome working here. The problem is that people do fall in love, hearts get broken, trust is rended and lives are shattered. You can deny those are very real crimes, nasty things that people do to people.

As modern women, we are expected to be okay with a certain degree of liberal expression. The question how far does that stretch? Its okay to know a lot of guys, its fine to go out with them, even flirt with them, get into relationships with them. But all of that provided it ends in the institution of marriage or at least a stable, steady relationship. But from meeting a guy to ending up in that last socially sanctioned comfortable relationship, its a long way. We stuff our best-looking side into our public persona and bury our insecurities. We put up with a guy who is comittment-phobic for months and months because we dont want to be nags. Were okay with the just good friends tag. We even tolerate cheating and tell ourselves patience is a virtue. You can be sure a crime of sorts has been committed but whos going to haul in the offender? And if youre thinking this is equally true for women, I agree. With one small exception. Men who have been wronged in this manner can speak up about it and they do. Where else do we get such nasty phrases like slag and tease from? On the other hand, a woman who has been wronged cannot speak up. Liberatedness be damned, when such a social crime is perpetrated, the woman (more often than not) doesnt dare speak up since even friends would call her stupid for having believed such a guy in the first place. Well, you live, you learn. We are a society in a state of transition, this is true. Many of us feel like were stuck in the stiff rules of conservative India while being seduced by the liberatedness of the West. We navigate our lives through some complicated mixture of the two. But while trying to have the best of both worlds, we have the safety of neither not the security of a protected society, nor the societal support system of an individualist one. The touts that flourish in any anarchy are well and alive in this one too. Let me end this by just saying that glorious as this rule-free state may be, the very lawlessness of it leaves each of us vulnerable to social crimes.' http://idbeat.com/TopicsView.php?CatID=3&TopicID=2778 as though we really needed one, here is a good example of typical western girls. anyone who find these girls funny or attractive is beyond no shame. their acts of self exploitation can range from having blogs/websites/etc. promoting themselves with their man toys (especially of eastern heritage), to places such as bebo, facebook, myspace and other similar sites where they take camera pics trying to solicit them self for sexual activities. as far as we know the girl in the above link hadn't as of yet targeted any eastern males, but does provide a great example of how truly desperate they become for sex and attention. LET IT BE VERY CLEARLY KNOWN that we don't agree about his views on same sex marriage...yet he was absolutely spot on about the slutwalk and how the society is changing because of the western influences creeping in....especially internet chatting and facebook. he did however, fail to mention the praise of eastern guys marrying western sluts. http://www.ndtv.com/article/india/lalu-takes-on-facebook-gay-marriage-126075 New Delhi: Rashtriya Janata Dal (RJD) chief Lalu Prasad Yadav on Thursday demanded a debate in the Lok Sabha on "degrading" Indian values due to cultural aggression from internet and other tools originating in the west.

"Where is our country headed to?" Mr Yadav said, referring to Delhi's first slut walk, held last week to denounce the view that women's dress is to blame for the sexual harassment they face. "Thousands of people marched on roads stripped, wearing colourful tattoos... they were celebrating. This is a serious issue and we demand a discussion on it," he said. He said Indians were close to allowing same sex marriage. "Woman will marry woman. And you are accepting it silently," Mr Yadav said, referring to a Delhi High Court 2009 ruling decriminalising same-sex relations among consenting adults. He said India was the land of saints and sages and the "Western cultural aggression is destroying our culture". "Vulgarity, internet chatting, Valentine Day, ipod, Facebook - all these things have been brought from America, and that is why obscenity is growing. We are losing our cultural values, legacies," he said. Read more at: http://www.ndtv.com/article/india/lalu-takes-on-facebook-gay-marriage-126075&cp http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/SlutWalk and western whores have imposed their walk in delhi http://blogs.wsj.com/indiarealtime/2011/08/01/expats-find-delhi-slut-walk-too-conservative/ By Nikita Garia Delhi on Sunday witnessed its first Slut Walk, a rally against the attitude of blaming sexual harassment on the clothes women choose to wear. The young organizers claimed that the march attracted one thousand participants, but some expats felt that the event was too conservative. Courtesy Anne Andrews Belinda Fleischmann, above, pulled up her tank top to expose her stomach. It was a shame that people dressed conservatively for the walk, Belinda Fleischmann, 31, who has been in Delhi for the past two weeks, told India Real Time by telephone after the event. She said that she lifted her pink tank top to show a little stomach during the march. It was a move that attracted much media attention. I was told by an Indian friend that I would get arrested if I go in a bra. So the least I could do was show my stomach. And the amount of media that covered it was insane, said Ms. Fleischmann, a Swiss national who found out about the Slut Walk through her friends. Ms. Fleischmann, who works for non-profit organization Operation Asha, admitted that she wouldnt normally wear her tank top in India. She said she has learnt its best to wear clothes that cover her shoulders and knees: I try to dress like Indian women.

The sluttiest thing anybody wore was a tank top, said Anne Andrews, a 30-year-old from the U.S. who has been in Delhi for the past six months. More In Slut-Walk Converting Indian Slacktivists Takes (Offline) Time India's First 'Slut Walk' Takes Place in Bhopal Indian Women Told How to Behave, Again Indian Women Divided Over 'Slut Walk' I was wearing white. So to make sure that no one could see through it, I wore two tank tops, Ms. Andrews said, adding that wearing just one top wouldnt have worried her if she was in the U.S., but in India she has to be more cautious. I think I did it just to be a little appropriate. Ms. Andrews, who plans to be in Delhi till December, says she has learnt from the experience of others. People at my workplace have told me not to go out alone in an auto after 10pm. Courtesy Belinda Fleischmann Anna Matussek, left, with a friend, Stefan Meyer. I always wear sleeves, no shorts or anything above the knees, she added. Anna Matussek, a German, who has been in Delhi for the past five months, said she usually dresses conservatively: I dont want to wear clothes that are somewhat offensive to people around me. On the day of the walk she wore a tank top with a message that read: This is not an invitation to rape. It is not particularly revealing but in India thats a concern, the 28-year-old said. As for the Delhi Slut Walk organizers, they said that dress wasnt the most important element in their overall agenda, which is to protect women from sexual harassment. We told people to wear what they usually wear, said organizer Umang Sabarwal, aged 19. UPDATE, Aug. 2, 11:35 IST: Ms. Matussek added later by email: I do think the Slutwalk Delhi organizers correctly tried to focus the attention away from the clothing. Sadly they came across sensationalism from the medias side and public opinion that did not understand the message and perverted it. They really put the focus back on the issues more clearly: Dont blame the victim of sexual assault and speak up (i.e. remove the shame) by advising to dress normally. I also toned down what I would have worn to a Slutwalk in Europe otherwise to not only respect but further the cause! Participants protest against explaining or excusing rape by referring to any aspect of a woman's appearance. The rallies began when Constable Michael Sanguinetti, a Toronto Police officer, suggested that to remain safe, "women should avoid dressing like sluts."[3][4] The protest takes the form of a march, mainly by young women, where some dress in ordinary clothing and others dress provocatively, like "sluts." There are also speaker meetings and workshops. Some objectors have remarked that this approach is an example of women defining their sexuality in male terms.

what's even worse is that this whole idea is rather counter productive....that is, these women who are trying to claim that they are not sexual objects are actually reinforcing the stereotype. how should you change the stereotype of a slut? 1) live with decent morals, don't exploit yourself or others. 2) inspire and gather many others together to change society's views on sex in the right direction. it's not just about how a woman dresses, or about how a woman dresses alone - it's the kind of behaviours that she chooses to flaunt or possess that cause the stereotypes....especially in the western world. most western women, during their lifetimes, will have sexual relationships with many men. western people in general - both women and men, tend to have multiple relationships with many sex partners, as this is accepted in the culture. in western culture, flesh, and material objects are given a higher priority than morals and respect. morals and respect are used only to gain things or benefit somehow. western women are extremely manipulative, and will deceive like a professional. this is how they gain eastern men who are driven by their own secret desires to join this forbidden, immoral fruit land to have them. SO, if you REALLY want the slut stereotype changed, change your own behaviour. one of our fellow blog contributors added ' we have a friend who is a fully western female, but she is definately NOT a slut. there a few of these prize women out there, but they are extremely rare. our friend dresses with modesty, does not try to manipulate others, and has not 'been' with anyone yet.' if all women, especially western women, showed these traits, we wouldn't have such stereotypes, and we would have a world where east and west could meet fully and it would be a beautiful melange. however, the reality is that this is not the case, and it truly is a shame. http://in.news.yahoo.com/blogs/opinions/hell-family-values-063129322.html As news items go, this one (http://us.lrd.yahoo.com/_ylt=AtJR8AvwdNOX.PyG0wkr9SvxJcV_;_ylu=X3oDMTBuYzdsYmhoBH BvcwMxBHNlYwNNZWRpYUJsb2dCb2R5;_ylg=X3oDMTNiaGRrdjEyBGludGwDaW4EbGFuZw Nlbi1pbgRwc3RhaWQDODIyODZhM2MtMDk5MS0zNjI0LTg4MGQtZWMxMDM5MDg3ZDI3BH BzdGNhdANvcmlnaW5hbHN8b3BpbmlvbnMEcHQDc3RvcnlwYWdlBHRlc3QD;_ylv=0/SIG=14ma nvcnp/EXP=1307741017/**http %3A//www.mumbaimirror.com/article/2/20110526201105260456245355369e5e4/To-prevent-suicidesbuilding-restricts-terrace-access.html) is both absurd and sad: the authorities in Bhakti Park, a 90-acrecomplex in Wadala consisting of 24 buildings, have banned its residents from going to the terrace. The reason for this is two separate incidents, in different parts of the city, of housewifes pushing their kids off the building, and then jumping themselves. By cutting off access to the terrace, these authorities presume, they can prevent such copycat suicides. I'd assume that if someone wanted to pop themselves, they could easily find other ways of doing so, like jumping off their own balcony. But leave aside methodology: while these recent incidents are tragic and poignant, and unusual in that they involved the murder of children, they are not an anomaly. Almost every day, you can open the newspapers and read about some housewife somewhere killing herself. (It is so commonplace that I wonder if it should be even considered 'news'.) A week ago, in fact, my fellow Yahoo! columnist Deepak Shenoy pointed me to a rather telling statistic: going by data for 2009 (pdf link) -- there's no reason it should be any different today -- around 20% of the people committing suicide in India were housewives. Indeed, many more housewives commit suicide every year in India than farmers, despite all the hoo-ha around the latter. For all this, I blame 'family values'.

We Indians tend to pride ourselves on our family values. The typical middle-class Indian is brought up with the default programming that they'll get married in their early-to-mid 20s, have kids within a few years of marriage, and have steady settled careers in conventional professions. This default programming is horrible for women. Many of these women who killed themselves no doubt grew up daydreaming about the domestic bliss that lay ahead of them. They did not try -- or were subtly discouraged from trying -- to turn themselves into proud independent women who did not depend on others for subsistence, and whose self-esteem did not need validation from a man and his family. They duly got married, some of them had kids, and when the marriage went bad, when the man turned out to be an ass, they could not find a way out. Even if they could have supported themselves, what about the social stigma of a broken marriage? And so, in dispair, they walked up to the terrace. A few years ago, I'd written a piece titled 'We Should Celebrate Rising Divorce Rates.' (http://us.lrd.yahoo.com/_ylt=AtR3inTsR0aLNo4OSx0i5nvxJcV_;_ylu=X3oDMTBubDk2ZnZxBHBv cwM0BHNlYwNNZWRpYUJsb2dCb2R5;_ylg=X3oDMTNiaGRrdjEyBGludGwDaW4EbGFuZwNlbi 1pbgRwc3RhaWQDODIyODZhM2MtMDk5MS0zNjI0LTg4MGQtZWMxMDM5MDg3ZDI3BHBzd GNhdANvcmlnaW5hbHN8b3BpbmlvbnMEcHQDc3RvcnlwYWdlBHRlc3QD;_ylv=0/SIG=1322m4nt r/EXP=1307741017/**http%3A//indiauncut.com/iublog/article/we-should-celebrate-rising-divorcerates/) I continue to get more hate mail for that piece than any other I've written, but I couldn't stand by it more strongly. As I wrote then, rising divorce rates are "the single best statistical indicator we have of the empowerment of women." If divorce was easy and socially acceptable, and if every father in the country brought up his daughter to be independent, we'd have far fewer housewives committing suicide. Indeed, we'd have far fewer men taking their wives for granted and treating them like shit. Marriage would not, then, be the prison it is for so many women. **** I know many couples, married and otherwise, who have decided not to have any children -- much as I have. It exasperates us all a little to be questioned about this. Being a parent transforms your life, and limits the options open to you in terms of career and lifestyle -- especially for women. The question 'Why?' to my mind should really be asked to those making this huge choice, rather than to those who choose not to have kids. Not having kids should be the default. Of course, this will never be the case as natural selection has programmed us to be procreating machines, and too many of my friends go oooh, how cuuuute when they see a noisy, messy baby I would be glad to deposit inside a mixie. But that's okay. We've all got a right to make our choices -- just don't look at me as if I'm nuts when I tell you I don't want to be a father. Indeed, speaking of producing kids, you could say that I enjoy the journey but never want to get to the destination. Natural selection, go screw yourself! Also read: Philip Larkin's great poem, 'This be the Verse'. **** I'd also love to see the day when marriage is no longer so sacrosanct in India. If two people are in love, what is it between them that a piece of paper can change? Either they're committed to each other, in which case who needs it registered in a government office, or they're not quite that committed, in which case why trap yourself? And why marry someone without living with them first to see if it works? Would you buy a car without test-driving it, or a pair of headphones without checking out the sound

first? Isn't selecting a spouse a far more important decision? The only plausible reason to get married is if you want to have kids and being married makes it easier for them in a society like India's. Otherwise, as an expression of love, it seems a bit overblown to me. Is it insecurity, and a need to assuage it, that drives some of us to marriage? Is that a good reason? My arguments aren't prescriptive, of course. You have to do what works for you. Just think about it first, is all I'm saying. **** A final thought on that database of suicides that I linked to earlier in the piece. If you go through it carefully, many interesting narratives come up. One of them is this: despite more than 60% of our population being involved in the agricultural sector, only about 14% of people committing suicide are farmers. That would indicate that, despite the rhetoric of the likes of P Sainath and Pankaj Mishra, there is less average misery among farmers than among non-farmers. So however many anecdotes they may come up with about farmers driven to kill themselves by unscrupulous moneylenders, the fact remains that the plural of anecdotes is not data. And the data tells quite a different story. But that's a subject for another column on another day, so I'll let it pass for now.

what we have to say about this really, dumbass?! what the hell did u think u were actually saying when u wrote up this crap, this other shit smocked drivel? the problem isn't about the idea of marriage itself, it's the changing of our society, and ideas like this that are causing such trouble. desi men want goris, both sexes are into pornography and having sex outside of marriage more, having multiple romances, etc. they want to be like the west. take away marriage, trust 2 people to live together, and you'll have the western world in a sepia hue. women who are having sex with anyone and everyone, showing off everything, having no moral fibre, having sex with so many men they don't even know who the fathers of their children are. having men who think they are god and act like male whores, living their lives based on pornography and the omnipresent need for lust. what deos need to be changed are things that currently brand desi women, making barriers for them. the obsessions with pale skin need to go, the ideas that desi women are second rate, only good for producing children needs to go. the taboos against those who can't or don't want kids have to go, along with other things. these women need to be shown that they are equal to men, and have better morals than the west, and are better people than the west. traditional desi values need to be upheld, and our culture needs to move forward and become greater still, yet retaining the moral core that we had held nto so dearly in earlier generations, not kissing ass to the lack of morals the west has. have a look at this drivel..... (btw arranged marriages r best only to keep eastern boys away from marrying western girls unless the parents are stupid enough to arrange such a shameful union.

http://in.news.yahoo.com/blogs/opinions/lessons-learned-arranged-marriages-085259766.html I think we all agree that there are few things more respectable and legitimate than that great pillar of Indian society the arranged marriage. While the acceptance of love marriages (known as lou marriages in some parts of the country) is certainly more widespread today than it was even a couple of decades ago, it is far from universal. The arranged marriage still holds pride of place as the preferred method of getting our sons and daughters hitched with the finest specimens from amongst the youth of our great nation. Such is the greatness of this institution, even Apache Indian, the musical legend, sang about it in the early nineties. In fact, young people today are far more accepting, and even desirous, of arranged marriages than those of the eighties and nineties. This cultural shift could be due to any one of numerous reasons. Perhaps they are too sensible, or simply too lazy, to bother with rebellion. Perhaps they believe, quite correctly, that their parents are more likely to find them a smoking hot life partner than their own bumbling attempts at dating and romance. But never mind the reasons, it is reassuring to know that arranged marriages still form the core of our splendid society. However, despite the evident good health of Indian culture and social traditions, there is a threat. Promiscuity. The increase in the occurrence of what is being termed as 'casual sex'. The fact that our youth seem to be cheerfully and recklessly engaging in the ole whoop-de-do, without even the slightest thought of marriage. Dreadful. Shocking. Sneeze-inducing. If we allow this to continue, the very foundations of our society would be irreparably damaged. If youngsters are permitted to have sex without the consent of their parents (and sundry other elders if available and convenient), where would it all end? No doubt they will soon be indulging in all sorts of undesirable activities without getting prior permission from their elders such as drug addiction, petty crime and amateur photography. The only way to control this disease is by applying the time-tested principles of arranged marriages to casual sex. The answer? Arranged sex. Since casual sex is quite similar to love marriages, in that both generally tend to be unacceptable to the parents of the participants and cause much emotional upheaval, outrage and varying degrees of gastroenteritis. So the best possible solution is to get the parents involved so that they can arrange the entire things, just as they do with marriages. With the idea of arranged sex, parents of suitable boys and girls can scout around for potential casual sex partners for their sons and daughters, and give their consent only after they are fully satisfied (pun not intended) that the candidate meets all their stringent requirements. For example, parents looking to organize arranged sex for their son could lay (pun not intended) down conditions that the girl should be insanely hot, not overly intelligent, and have a talent for shutting up unless instructed otherwise. Parents of girls looking for a suitable boy to have arranged sex with their daughters could insist that the fellow be strong and well-built, polite and extremely wealthy. Come to think of it, it's really not that different from how arranged marriages work the only major difference is the time period of the contract. This way, parents would be reassured that nothing is happening without their blessings, and the youngsters could have casual sex without feeling guilty about offending their parents. Like arranged marriages, arranged sex could grow into another pillar of society, ensuring that our traditions such as respect for elders and due process for everything are preserved. The menace of promiscuous pre-

marital sex would be destroyed once and for all. Those of you who think that the very idea is scandalous, I ask you this how is it any different from that strange beast 'arranged love'? I've lost count of how many times I've asked someone "Was yours a love marriage or an arranged marriage?" and received the smug and annoying reply "Arranged Love. Hahahahaha." However, annoying or not, it is inescapable that "Arranged Love" is no different from "Arranged Sex". In fact, modern youth seem to believe that "Love" and "Sex" are freely interchangeable as words and ideas. Just ask modern day philosophers such as Enrique Iglesias and Akon. So if the former is acceptable in polite society, there is no reason why the latter should not be. The only drawback with arranged sex is that it may be perceived as a little less exciting than, for lack of a better word, love sex. However, this is clearly balderdash there is no evidence to show that couples who had a love marriage end up being any happier than those who had an arranged marriage. Once again, arranged marriages have proven to be the magic mantra, the secret sauce. So there really isn't any reason why we shouldn't embrace the idea wholeheartedly, as a people united by our desire to build a great nation. In fact, since our society rightly believes that something is only legitimate and respectable if it is 'arranged' with the blessings of elders, it might be wise to go about attacking many of society's other problems using the same approach. We could instantly rid ourselves of many evils. Think about it arranged alcoholism, arranged reckless driving, arranged investment banking all of these would immediately become activities that are accepted, and even encouraged by society. The potential is virtually limitless. By involving respectable elders, astrologers, priests and overpriced caterers, we could finally build a vibrant, healthy society without any ills whatsoever. Anand Ramachandran is a writer, comics creator and videogame designer who works when he isn't playing some game with an 'of' in its name. For those of you who think that western girls are the best, this is what you get for your praise and wrongful respect for them, and worse yet, when you decide to have romantic relationships with them our own people's morals dissapear, as witnessed below. http://in.lifestyle.yahoo.com/love-sex/doubles-mixed-blog-50-mailtoday.html SCHOOLTEACHER Anisha Mathur (32) and scribe Kapil Kumar (34) have been married for nine years and have a six-year-old son. They speak to MAIL TODAY about their open marriage, their other extramarital relationships, how they took the first step and coped with the challenges that followed. Their identities have been changed. Her VIEW POINT IT ALL started with a trip to Bhutan to meet our friends in 2007. It was a visit that we had been planning ever since we got married. Our hosts were Kapils friends from his college days they had even attended our wedding. Thimphu was a feast for the eyes, and the sight of the Himalayas overwhelmed us.

Our hosts treated us so warmly that it didnt take much time for us to feel completely at home with them. The itinerary of our three-day trip was planned with much care by them. Must-read on Love & Sex: How you can perk up your sex life On the first day, after soaking up the sights, we huddled together in front of a camp fire. After a few drinks, we began talking about sex, starting off with a few jokes of course, till the discussion got a little more serious. What followed was a life-changing discussion yes, it completely altered my perception about love and sex. After our hosts' account of their lovelife, my idea of marriage turned head. Our hosts revealed they had an open marriage and both looked for sex outside marriage. The discussion, admittedly, got steamier when they offered us an invitation to swap partners. Kapil and I had a long chat about it that night. There was no doubt that I loved my husband, but we agreed it was getting monotonous and that was taking the zing out of our relationship. KAPILS argument in favour of the swap was that we were in a foreign land with no relatives or colleagues who would find out it seemed safe to experiment since there were only these friends around. I was uncomfortable with the suggestion at first, but he never forced me. Relationship must-read: 5 tips to feel closer to her Kapil is one of those rare nonintrusive men, so unlike the husbands of my friends. He has never probed too much about my friends or insisted that I do things the way he wants me to. He also knows about my relationships before marriage. After a sleepless night with a million thoughts running through my head, I told Kapil I was game. Rather than being gung ho, he said there was no hurry and advised me to give it a rethink. On the second day there, I was sure and that night I slept with my husbands best friend and his wife with my husband. My conscience was clear and I was fully aware of my actions and with Kapils backing there was no sense of guilt. Next morning, we greeted each other the same way we had for the past nine years. Over our cuppa, we even told each other how we loved the experience. No, that didnt leave either of us with a bruised ego we had more respect and love for each other because we had acted like mature individuals. The next night too we swapped. Also read: After you say 'I do' His VIEW POINT ANISHA and I are just like any average couple coping with life and still very much in love with each other. We have always been true to each other and share immense trust.

After our first extra-marital experience in Bhutan, my next fling was with an online friend from Oman. We had always been good friends and so we decided to take it to the next level. My friend is married and has a 16-year-old daughter. She flew down to India last month to meet me and we spent two days in a holiday resort in Jaipur. Yes, of course, Anisha knew about it. But then, she also knows that this lady from Oman isnt the only one, even if its the steadiest extra-marital relationship that Ive had. In all I have had eight relationships outside marriage yes, thats many more than what Anisha has had but she has never objected to any of them. We dont discuss details about our relationships and prefer not to intrude into each others lives. The women Ive hooked up with are all married and they too say theres no sense of guilt about what they are doing. It seems quite normal now that is, after having so many of them. In fact, a couple of my friends too have open marriages to spice up their sex lives. I dont believe in constricting the marriage to a point that it gets difficult to breath in it. At the same time, I am fully aware I am not powerful enough to change the institution of marriage. BUT for me, the sanctity of a marriage is in being open to each others viewpoints and being honest. I know Anisha has affairs and I have no problems with it. She too knows I am seeing someone we believe that if we are frank with each other and communicate, there will be no misunderstanding. Thats right no misunderstanding even when Anisha compares me with her other partners, or I do that. Oh yes, physical aspects, performance, et al. I have seen spouses in 'normal' marriages fight when they are compared to someone else. I think, it's just one's religion and weird sense of morals that force one to feel guilty. Anisha and I aren't forcing each other to look for extramarital affairs it's consensual and we have no qualms about it. Our relationship still has the same warmth it did in the beginning and I am emotionally dependent on Anisha like in our early days. But the Bhutan trip was a turning point for me too. Guilty feelings creep in when couples hide things from each other. I guess honesty is what keeps us together. Reproduced From Mail Today. Copyright 2011. MTNPL. All rights reserved. http://news.yahoo.com/s/afp/20090213/wl_sthasia_afp/indiareligionhinduvalentinedetain;_ylt=Ag634D CeknpAQfdW6l5XU6IBxg8F BANGALORE, India (AFP) Indian police on Friday rounded up members of a Hindu extremist group who had allegedly threatened to marry off young couples found together on Valentine's Day. Pramod Mutalik, the head of the Sri Ram Sena (SRS) or Lord Ram's Army, and some of his followers were taken into preventive custody, the police chief of Karnataka state's Gulbarga district, B.A. Padmananaina, told AFP. "This is a preventive measure ahead of Valentine's Day," he said. The Press Trust of India news agency reported over 100 activists were detained across the southern Indian state of Karnataka.

Mutalik and his little known SRS made headlines last month when they beat up young women having drinks at a trendy bar in Karnataka's Mangalore city. Television footage of SRS activists chasing, slapping and kicking the terrified women prompted widespread condemnation. The attackers, who style themselves as guardians of traditional Hindu values, were briefly detained and then freed on bail. Mutalik and his followers later threatened to marry off dating couples on Valentine's Day. "Drinking, socialising, celebrating Valentine's Day is all part of Western culture which is corrupting our Indian culture," SRS general secretary V.K. Rajesh told AFP. "We are not against love. But we are against loose morals we see among the younger generation who are blindly aping the West. And we will not spare these people and we will take whatever action is needed within the law." The detentions follow calls by federal Home Minister Palaniappan Chidamabaram urging Karnataka's Hindu nationalist administration to take "preventive and punitive" action to ensure law and order in the state. * The issues are referring to drinking, open flirtations, open sex, and other immoralities of western culture which younger desi lok are trying to copy. Unfortunately, valentine's day has come to represent a day to celebrate and sell sex and lust. If proper morals such as respect and care of others without need for lust, with a universal theme, such as promoting volunteer work, or promoting helping others live with better morals, then this would have been seen far differently. It's not the holiday itself, it's how society has come to take it and percieve it. This is also why we have such a high increase in the desi boys who go for the dirty gori girls...and they don't care what shame they are doing to others. Thylane Loubry Blondeau is a young girl who is a french model. why is she appearing in our works? she hasn't (so far yet) romanced any eastern guys or anything. what is wrong with her? nothing really....except that she's 9 or 10 (at the time of this posting) and is in vogue magazine with very sexually suggestive shots of her that someone twice her age would be doing. the issue isn't the fact that she's modeling, the issue lies in that it is NOT ok to have anyone, especially a young child topless or in dressed which show her albeit as yet underdeveloped chest, and posing as though she was a pinup or playboy bunny. although youngsters are more aware of things that they shouodn't be at their age than they used to, we will just assume for now that she is doing this innocently and doesn't understand the problem. however, this whole situation just exemplifies the shamefulness of western culture and how anyone - be it an easterner or a child from either hemisphere, is used for the wrong things for the sake of money or attention. her own mother defends the images, and there are some people in comment sections, message boards, etc. who see nothing wrong wrong with it, also defend the actions, and some who would even do the same thing with their kids. this is the hallmark of shame to such an incredible degree. western culture already should have hung its head in absolute disgrace and shame ages ago, but this just canes it in the knees. absolutely just canes it right in the knees. and worse yet, the paedophiles who must just be CREAMING their jeans over these images...it makes your skin crawl straight off the bone.

you can see her in a google image search, some particularly disturbing photos ebing http://itsybitsysteps.com/wp-content/uploads/2011/08/thylane-blondeau.png http://28.media.tumblr.com/tumblr_lps8lg1fXr1qc3oi3o1_500.jpg http://28.media.tumblr.com/tumblr_lps5sgikRj1qm232po1_500.png http://30.media.tumblr.com/tumblr_lps43sSTs71qc3oi3o1_500.png http://media.tumblr.com/tumblr_lprzpltqs31qzp681.jpg http://26.media.tumblr.com/tumblr_lprsshY0yc1qgbwjvo3_400.jpg http://i638.photobucket.com/albums/uu104/kelly_usa/kelly_album_2/thylane-5.jpg http://www.dailynewsone.net/wp-content/uploads/2011/08/Thylane-Loubry-Blondeau.jpg and if it weren't for the previous pics, this wouldn't seem so bad (although i was NOT allowed to have my dress hiked that high at 10...or even at 16!) http://i.huffpost.com/gen/321772/THYLANE-LOUBRY-BLONDEAU.jpg http://www.thefashionpolice.net/wp-content/uploads/2011/08/thylane.jpg what IS appropriate for a 10 year old model? this... http://3.bp.blogspot.com/_WpxL6T1RQtU/TFw4v6BRFKI/AAAAAAAAAJA/ysI3Qw4XH0/s1600/x_dafe79ff.jpg bit of info on this http://www.thefashionpolice.net/2011/08/thylane-loubry-blondeau-is-a-10-year-old-too-young-tomodel-adult-fashion.html This is Thylane Loubry Blondeau. Shes ten years old, and she appeared in a deliberately-provocative editorial in French Vogue last December, which appeared to be intended to play with the idea of dress up, and perhaps to satirize the fashion industrys obsession with youth. The images in question, however, have caused something of a stir, with some people arguing that, however knowingly it was done, the sexualization of ten year old girls in this way just isnt cool. (Weve no idea why this outrage is all happening NOW, when the photos in question were published several months ago, but for some reason it is)

french vogue child models Thylane Loubry Blondeau: is a 10 year old too young to model adult fashion?Thylane herself now has a Tumblr dedicated to her photos, (the owner recently changed the name from F*** Yeah, Thylane Blondeau to the slightly less controversial Thylane Blondeau pictures, although as of this morning, that site seems to be down, too), many of which showcase her very grown up poses and a much more sophisticated sense of style than wed usually associate with a ten-year-old. While some are excitedly declaring her to be the next big thing, however, others think Thylanes sultry pout and sexy photos go too far and not just in the French Vogue spread, but in many more of the child models shots. Here are just a few of the contrasting opinions being voiced about Thylane: This isnt edgy. Its inappropriate, and creepy, and I never want to see a nine-year-old girl in highheeled leopard print bedroom slippers ever again.thylane Thylane Loubry Blondeau: is a 10 year old too young to model adult fashion? ~ Feministing she looks more self-aware and confident than most models working today to say nothing of grown women in general. ~ Stylite theres no lightheartedness or playfulness there. Theres none of the unselfconsciousness that let childhood be so much fun Theres just Blondeaus dull eyes and pursed, painted, parted lips of a hard-to-get siren, laid out on a tiger-skin rug or placed in a chair with her skirt carefully tucked out of the way to bare her legs nearly to the hip. ~Feministe I personally found the Vogue Paris editorialrefreshing. Sure, it was disturbing, but it seemed purposefully, knowingly disturbing ~ Jezebel more proof western culture is fucked up this THREE year old kid pretended he married a girl on the playground...THREE mind you...there was a time when three years didnt even know what marriage WAS....and his parents encouraged him. WHAT THE FLYNG BURNING FUCK?! http://www.huffingtonpost.com/james-m-chesbro/building-blocks_b_923830.html?icid=maing-grid7| main5|dl3|sec1_lnk3|86075 On his first day of nursery school, the teacher said our son, James, paced back and forth along the fence of the playground, saying to himself, "This is a disaster. This is a disaster." My wife, Lynne, and I needed to help him adjust, but how? The teacher gave us something positive to hold on to each week, and months later, we were happy to learn that James "married" Jane. According to the teacher, they married in the tree house on the playground, where they held hands and swayed. The boy could count on having a new friend at his new school.

That day, when James came home, he built a tower of blocks. He stood before the blocks, clapped his hands and said it was as tall as him. He's learning how to make friends, Lynne and I thought. But the following week, James sat on the living room floor turning a block over and over in his hands, and asked, "Why doesn't she want to talk to me anymore?" The situation gave us the opportunity to give him something more important to his self-image than an answer to his question. That summer we had pulled the diapers off of his rear-end and replaced them with underwear. We removed him from his old daycare center, and brought him home a newborn sister from the hospital. We tried to hug him through these changes, and as he sat there on the floor, a hug and a few pats on the head failed to turn his spirits. I tried a pep-talk. "James, you're a handsome guy. And smart. You know the alphabet. And you can count to like... How high can you count?" I asked. "Like, 16." he said. "And are you fast?" "I'm the fastest!" James said. "So, she'll come around. If not, there's plenty of other girls in your class to be friends with." I said. But James didn't want me to try and build him up. As he asked again, "Dad, how come she won't talk to me?" What I heard him really asking me was: How could someone not like me? How do I deal with rejection? Lynne and I tried to re-create social scenarios in the classroom for James. We gave him lines like, "Hey, that toy looks like fun. Can I play too?" We talked about sharing. And while that may have helped a bit, that didn't quell his fears. James lit up like the red lights in the hallway during a fire drill when Jane greeted him in the morning. She seemed sweet, too. Another girl in his class said she would be his friend, but only if he ran around the room pinching each person -- which he did. His grandmother got the goods on that story one day while she drove him in her car. I'm glad he felt comfortable enough with his grandmother to pipe up from the back seat and share the internal workings of his young heart, but why not his Mom and Dad? This seemed to raise the stakes in addressing his repeated question of why the girl in his class wouldn't talk to him. We wondered aloud while eating dinner at James' grandparent's house: Did we make a mistake by pulling him from daycare? Maybe he wasn't ready. James' grandmother said, "You couldn't have held him back. He was bored at the daycare. He's so articulate, too. He needed the challenge." He's a young three. His birthday was in September. Many of his classmates turned four during the academic calendar. The slight age difference matters in nursery school. His grandfather had a more practical solution, "Hey, James," he said, "You know what to do?" "What?" James said, perking up from his booster seat, eager to hear words from the patriarch. "You said Jane sits at your table. Right?" Papa asked.

"Right." "Well, start talking to the girl next to her. That'll get her attention." How do we help James? It became an extended family quandary, as if James was in his twenties and losing the girl of his dreams. Sometimes when I dropped him off, I'd stare for a moment from the hallway and watch him interact at his seat. Let go, I'd tell myself. As I turned my back and walked between the white and blue painted cinder block walls, boisterous young voices echoed, ushering me out the door. James didn't say squat when I pressed for anything about his day on the car rides home. School wiped him out. It was the wrong time to prod. He's more talkative at night. After we cleared the dishes from dinner, Lynne fed James' sister a bottle in the den, and I gave it another try. "Hey, James. Let's build a tower." I said. "No, thanks." He responded. "C'mon. I need your help. We'll make it as tall as you." As we grabbed different colors and placed one on top of the other, James said, "She still won't talk to me." All right, I thought. Enough! You're three. This is ridiculous. We're making another tower. We'll watch another show. Shake it off, little man. But it wasn't ridiculous. He was having a hard time adjusting to a lot of change at school and at home. After we finished his new tower, James, stood and struck the blocks with his fist and they clattered to the hardwood floor. Before bedtime, Lynne found the blocks hidden in his old lunch cooler that he doesn't use anymore. Lynne brought the mini cooler into the living room, so we could look at his fallen tower together, so we could try to show him that he doesn't have to hide parts of himself from us, even if they're broken. and, according to cory feldman http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2011/08/12/corey-feldman-pedophilia-is-hollywoods_n_925287.html? icid=maing-grid7|main5|dl11|sec1_lnk3|86024 Former child-star Corey Feldman is making some shocking claims in a new interview with ABC's Nightline. The 40-year-old actor, who starred in hit films in the 1980s like "The Goonies" and "Stand By Me," told Nightline that the biggest threat to children in show business is something that just isn't talked about -- pedophilia. "I can tell you that the number one problem in Hollywood was, and is, and always will be pedophilia. That's the biggest problem for children in this industry... it's all done under the radar. It's the big secret," he said. Feldman said he was surrounded by pedophiles when he was 14-years-old and didn't realize until he was older just what these "vultures" were and what they wanted. Feldman says it was these people who

abused both him and close friend and troubled teen actor Corey Haim, who died last year at the age of 38. "There is one person to blame in the death of Corey Haim, and that person happens to be a Hollywood mogul -- and that person needs to be exposed but unfortunately I can't be the one to do it," he said. Both Feldman and Haim have talked about their abuse before, even confronting one another about it on their 2008 reality series "Two Coreys," revealing that they were both being molested by different people at the same time. Feldman told Nightline, "There are so many people in this industry who have gotten away with it for so long that they feel they're above the law. And that's got to change, that's got to stop." When westerners do ignorant, racist things, it does not improve sciety, it makes it worse. example below http://news.yahoo.com/s/ap/20110402/ap_on_re_as/as_afghanistan KABUL, Afghanistan Afghans angry over the burning of a Quran at a small Florida church stormed a U.N. compound in northern Afghanistan on Friday, killing seven foreigners, including four Nepalese guards. Afghan authorities suspect insurgents melded into the mob and they announced the arrest of more than 20 people, including a militant they suspect was the ringleader of the assault in Mazar-i-Sharif, the provincial capital of Balkh province. The suspect was an insurgent from Kapisa province, a hotbed of militancy about 250 miles (400 kilometers) southeast of the city, said Rawof Taj, deputy provincial police chief. The topic of Quran burning stirred outrage among millions of Muslims and others worldwide after the Rev. Terry Jones' small church, Dove Outreach Center, threatened to destroy a copy of the holy book last year. The pastor backed down but the church in Gainesville, Florida, went through with the burning last month. Four protesters also died in the violence in Mazar-i-Sharif, which is on a list of the first seven areas of the country where Afghan security forces are slated to take over from the U.S.-led coalition starting in July. Other demonstrations, which were peaceful, were held in Kabul and Herat in western Afghanistan, fueling resentment against the West at a critical moment in the Afghan war. Protesters burned a U.S. flag at a sports stadium in Herat and chanted "Death to the U.S." and "They broke the heart of Islam." About 100 people gathered at a traffic circle near the U.S. Embassy in Kabul. One protester carried a sign that said: "We want these bloody bastard Americans with all their forces to leave Afghanistan." U.N. peacekeeping chief Alain LeRoy said the top U.N. envoy in Afghanistan, Staffan De Mistura, who is in Mazar-i-Sharif, believes "the U.N. was not the target." "They wanted to find an international target and the U.N. was the one there in Mazar-i-Sharif," LeRoy told reporters at U.N. headquarters in New York.

Initially, Afghan police reported that eight foreigners had been killed in Mazar-i-Sharif. Late on Friday, Dan McNorton, a spokesman for the United Nations Assistance Mission in Afghanistan in Kabul, revised the death toll to seven four foreign security guards and three other foreigners. The guards were from Nepal, according to Gen. Daud Daud, commander of Afghan National Police in several northern provinces. Sweden Foreign Minister Carl Bildt said Joakim Dungel, a 33-year-old Swede who worked at the U.N. office, was among those killed. Norwegian Defense Ministry spokeswoman Maj. Heidi Langvik-Hansen said Lt. Col. Siri Skare, a 53year-old female pilot working for the U.N., died in the attack. LeRoy said the other victim was a citizen of Romania and that a number of U.N. personnel were injured and were being evacuated. The Russian Foreign Ministry said the head of the mission in Mazar-i-Sharif, a Russian citizen, was injured in the attack, but not seriously. Police who went to investigate, said the U.N. compound was littered with broken glass and bullet casings. Abdul Karim, a police officer in the city, said he saw the bullet-riddled bodies of three Nepalese guards lying in the yard and a fourth on the first floor. He said another victim with a serious head wound died on a stairway to the basement of the compound. A man who was killed inside a room had severe wounds to his face and body, Karim said. Munir Ahmad Farhad, a spokesman in Balkh province, said the protest began peacefully when several hundred demonstrators gathered outside the U.N. mission's compound, choosing an obvious symbol of the international community's involvement in Afghanistan to denounce the Quran's desecration. It turned violent when some protesters seized the guards' weapons and started shooting, then the crowds stormed the building and set fires that sent plumes of black smoke into the air, he said. One protester, Ahmad Gul, a 32-year-old teacher in the city, gave a different account. He said the protesters disarmed three guards to prevent any violence from breaking out. Associated Press video showed protesters banging AK-47 rifles on the curb, breaking them into pieces. He said the protesters were killed and wounded by Afghan security forces. "I disarmed three guards myself and we took out the bullets," Gul said, sternly shaking his finger as he shouted. "With my eyes, I saw them (Afghan security forces) kill two and wound 10." As he talked, he became increasingly indignant and he started shouting: "Death to America!" "We are going to fight." LeRoy, the U.N. peacekeeping chief, said the security guards, all Gurkhas, "tried their best" but were unable to prevent the large number of demonstrators, some armed, from storming the U.N. compound. The U.N. Security Council held an emergency meeting late Friday and condemned the attack "in the

strongest terms." The U.N.'s most powerful body also condemned "all incitement to and acts of violence" and called on the Afghan government to bring those responsible to justice and take steps to protect U.N. personnel and premises. Secretary-General Ban Ki-moon, who is in Nairobi, said it was "an outrageous and cowardly attack against U.N. staff, which cannot be justified under any circumstances and I condemn in the strongest possible terms." He instructed De Mistura to assess the situation and take any "necessary measures to ensure the safety of all U.N. staff." LeRoy said U.N. officials would be reviewing security for U.N. personnel in Afghanistan. President Barack Obama condemned the attack and underscored the importance of the U.N.'s work in Afghanistan. "We stress the importance of calm and urge all parties to reject violence and resolve differences through dialogue," Obama said. At the U.S. State Department, spokesman Mark Toner said the burning of a Quran in Florida was contrary to Americans' respect for Islam and religious tolerance. "This is an isolated act done by a small group of people and ... does not reflect the respect the people of the United States have toward Islam," he said. The church's website stated that after a five-hour trial on March 20, the Quran "was found guilty and a copy was burned inside the building." A picture on the website shows a book in flames in a small portable fire pit. The church on Friday confirmed that the Quran had been burned. In a statement, Jones did not comment on whether the church's act had led to the deaths. Instead he said it was time to "hold Islam accountable" and called on the United States and the U.N. to hold "these countries and people accountable for what they have done as well as for any excuses they may use to promote their terrorist activities." Last week, Afghan President Hamid Karzai issued a statement calling the burning a "crime against a religion." He denounced the U.N. attack as a "disrespectful and abhorrent act" and called on the U.S. and the United Nations to bring to justice those who burned the holy book. Karzai issued a statement late Friday calling the killings an "inhumane act" that was "against the values of Islam and Afghans." He said he planned to call officials at U.N. headquarters to express his regret and condolences from the people of Afghanistan. The U.N. has been the target of previous attacks. In October 2010, a suicide car bomber and three armed militants wearing explosives vests and dressed as women attacked a U.N. compound in Herat in western Afghanistan. Afghan security forces killed the attackers and no U.N. employees were harmed. In October 2009, Taliban militants attacked a guesthouse used by United Nations workers in central Kabul. Eight people were killed, including five foreigners working for the U.N.

Separately, the U.S. Department of Defense announced that six U.S. Army soldiers were killed in separate incidents in fighting against insurgents during an operation in eastern Kunar province, which neighbors Pakistan's lawless tribal areas. Insurgents have slowly been filtering back into Afghanistan from safe havens in Pakistan as the spring fighting season gets under way. Associated Press writers Amir Shah in Kabul, Edith M. Lederer at the U.N. and Mitch Stacy in Tampa, Florida, contributed to this report. this gives a bit more insight on how sexuality is seen and since we live in a society that is so highly sexually driven, it gives (albeit incredibly negative) guidelines for romantic partners. Now, we know that cigarettes are bad. We also know that porn is bad. But this is the most pathetic bit of writing in ages to fill a newspaper and the author should be extremely ashamed of himself http://www.mcall.com/news/local/carpenter/mc-paul-carpenter-tobacco-porn20100706,0,3496414.column 'The San Fernando Valley is known for many things, from Valspeak (the language of Valley girls, as in, "You're like, so totally whatEVER. Like duh"), to Griffith Park, to the Northridge earthquake. Separated from the unhip parts of Los Angeles by the famed Mulholland Drive, it also is known as "818" for the telephone area code and as Silicone Valley (a play on the term "Silicon Valley" of northern California) because 818 is the center of the breast implant universe. All sorts of movies are set there "Chinatown," "The Karate Kid," "Encino Man," "Pulp Fiction" and on and on. My daughter Cindy, living in Tennessee at the moment, has lived in four different San Fernando communities (Studio City, North Hollywood, Woodland Hills and Calabasas) and they are fine places. The In-N-Out Burger on Ventura Boulevard in Woodland Hills is my favorite restaurant in the whole world. Even if I got tired of it, there's a sushi joint on every other corner. GET BREAKING NEWS FIRST: Sign up today for breaking news e-mail alerts from The Morning Call The San Fernando Valley also is known for pornography, a $14 billion per year industry. Almost all porn originates there, mostly in just three communities Canoga Park, Chatsworth and Van Nuys. I have not done an in-depth study, but I assume all those pornography studios pay taxes, and that represents an opportunity Pennsylvania and the Lehigh Valley should not pass up. Why let just Van Nuys, etc., benefit from all those thousands of porn jobs? On Monday, The Morning Call had a story about how this region's state legislators fought to save the jobs in a commercial enterprise that, if anything, is considerably less respectable than porn. Pennsylvania is the only state in America that does not tax cigars and smokeless tobacco (a euphemism for snuff and chewing tobacco, which produce rivers of brownish spit and account for epidemics of oral cancer and lost teeth.) A plan to tax such products was defeated by money spent by the tobacco industry on lobbying, which

succeeded in getting state legislators on the industry's side. The story mentioned Rep. Richard Grucela, D-Northampton, Rep. Doug Reichley, R-Lehigh, and Rep. Karen Beyer, R-Lehigh. "The Lehigh Valley delegation worked to get that [the cigar and smokeless tobacco tax plan] out," Grucela was quoted as saying. His district, it was reported, includes the Famous Smoke Shop, which threatened to scram to another state if the tax is passed, and to take all 70 jobs with it. There also was lobbying by the American Lung Association of the Middle Atlantic, but that organization, the story indicated, was outspent by the tobacco interests by a ratio of more than 32 to one. On past occasions, I have opposed proposals to increase the state cigarette tax, but that is only because a high tax on cigarettes benefits only one special interest organized crime outfits that smuggle untaxed cigarettes from other states. Three years ago, for example, I noted that the tax gap between Pennsylvania and South Carolina can result in a profit of $614,400 on a single truckload of untaxed cigarettes. Unrealistically high cigarette taxes profit only gangsters, which, I suspect, is why some politicians favor them. When every state except Pennsylvania is taxing cigars and spit tobacco, however, the smuggling motive is a little weak. On the other hand, think of the economic benefits to the Lehigh Valley if Allentown, Bethlehem and Easton could lure some of the $14 billion pornography business away from Canoga Park, Chatsworth and Van Nuys. Maybe we can get Grucela, Reichley and Beyer to introduce legislation to exempt porn peddlers from paying taxes. I bet pornographers would be very generous when it was time for lobbying or political campaign contributions. Some people get in a tizzy over porn, especially kiddie porn, but I don't see how it's more harmful than exposing children to cigars and spit tobacco. (Spit tobacco killed Babe Ruth and countless other baseball players since, and many youngsters still emulate their horrid habit.) Furthermore, porn, in the main, is something that results in private behaviors. It does not fill the air with an ungodly stench or cover sidewalks with filthy brown slime. Puritans may find pornography obnoxious, but they do not have to contend with it against their will. And just think of the thousands of jobs and other benefits if the Lehigh Valley became the pornography capital of America. That, naturally, would surely attract other related industries. We could be the new Silicone Valley. '

Ok, here's where the debate on morals comes in. Yes, ciggies cause alot of health problems....breathing issues, cancer, etc. They are by fact bad things. But pornography is much worse because it promotes behaviours which are destructive and exploitative. The people who work in the porn industry live lives of open sex, drugs, including smoking, drinking, and hard drugs, disease - sexually transmitted and moral disease. they also help promote the idea that using your body for sex is ok, and that to watch

others doing an act which should be only between two people as being ok. Porn is not intended to treat to the mind of the respectful who are aware that love is not just 'hitting the sheets and getting a good screw in'. some pornography includes sex with animals such as dogs and horses. this is less destructive than ciggies? get real. pornography helps promote the ideas that the flesh should be favoured over respect, and true love which is NOT sexual in nature, but instead is about respecting, caring about, and teaching others to live better and be better human beings, pure and simple. you don't need to be religious to know this. it's common sense. sexual romance is only an enhancement to romantic love which is a branch of the afformentioned, and should never be publicly viewable. it sounds like paul himself may be addicted to porn, better check his computer! http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Ethnicity_of_performers_in_pornography Asian men Lack of Asian American heterosexual male performers in the genre or Western pornography in general is notable. Unlike their female counterparts who remain among the most popular presences within the IR genre and pornography. Although there are a number of Asian male porn stars in the UK, and the U.S. and Japan produces a number of videos, and websites catering to this genre. Interracial porn featuring an Asian men and White women often falls under the category of AMWF for Asian Male White Female. A number of scholars have written specifically about this subject in regards to a larger history of Western emasculationmost notably University of California, Davis professor, Darrell Hamamoto.[3] Asian women Frequently portrayed in pairing with white men, as sexually willing or submissive. Western film and literature has promoted stereotypes of Asian women, often depicting Asian women as cunning and seductive "Dragon Ladies",[4] as servile "Lotus Blossom Babies", "Innocent School Girls" in private school uniforms, "China dolls", "Geisha girls", war brides, or prostitutes.[5] Japanese media have also at times sensationalistically promoted the stereotype of Japanese women overseas as "yellow cabs".[6] Black performers Large penis size in Black men is consistently emphasized in pornography, often by exclusively casting actors with larger than average penises such as Lexington Steele, Kid Bengala, Jack Napier and Mandingo. Men are treated to stereotypes of gang affiliation, working class labor, and are overrepresented in gang rape fetish films. Also, they are represented as overly aggressive and demanding, and are performing with white women. Similarly, black women are often portrayed with large breast and buttocks, or 'booty'. They normally play a submissive role while performing with a white male. Latinos and Hispanics Pornography tends to stereotype Hispanic women as feisty, "hot and spicy Latinas", sexy Seoritas, with a high sex drive and low impulse control. Many are portrayed as maids, illegal immigrants to the United States, or unfaithful wives.[7] Since Latinos and Hispanics can be of any race (many are white Hispanic Americans, Mestizos etc.), cultural characteristics are sometimes portrayed via iconic items like South and Central American national costumes, sombreros, maracas, or Mexican dresses. White women Frequently portrayed as lascivious and submissive. Eastern European women are predominantly portrayed as fantastically beautiful and sexy but cheap hussies. Their bodily depiction is usually very

thin and curvy. Especially in Germany is the latest cultural development involved, since the Iron Curtain disappeared, and people were able to visit the cheap neighboring countries' prostitution.[8] this bag of shit defies explanation.... http://forumnewsgroup.blogspot.com/2009/03/teacher-sent-sex-videos-to-three.html Teacher Sent Sex Videos to Three Students Will Surrender Teaching License and Register as Sex Offender A former English teacher at MS 137 in the South Ozone Park has admitted to sending sexual videos and electronic messages to three of his 12-year-old female students. The defendant has admitted to sending indecent messages and pictures to several of his students during his first teaching assignment, said DA Richard Brown. This case should serve as a clear and unmistakable warning that law enforcement is prepared to apprehend and prosecute those who attempt to engage in illicit activity involving children. The defendant was identified as Umesh Ramjattan, 24, of 91-71 115th Street in Richmond Hill. He appeared before Acting Queens Supreme Court Justice Ira Margulis and plead guilty to disseminating indecent material to minors in the first degree. As part of his plea, Ramjattan, who has been free on $50,000 bail since his arraignment on November 9, 2007, will surrender his New York State teaching license, forfeit his computer and be required to register as a sex offender. The Department of Education has terminated Ramjattan. Justice Margulis set sentencing for April 20, 2009, at which time he indicated that he would likely sentence Ramjattan to five years probation one condition being the successful completion of the sex offenders program he presently attends. District Attorney Brown said that, according to the charges, one of Ramjattans female seventh-grade students at MS 137 in Ozone Park sent an e-mail in September of 2007, to e-mail address he had provided the class. Soon thereafter, Ramjattan began Instant Messaging her with questions that were both sexually suggestive and of a personal nature. In October, he sent her a video of he and his girlfriend having sexual intercourse. A second female student who e-mailed the defendant about homework began receiving instant messages from him through his AOL account on September 29, 2007, that contained questions of a personal nature and that. In early October she received a picture of the defendant not wearing a shirt. A third female student who e-mailed the defendant began receiving instant messages from the defendant through his AOL account that were both personal and sexual in nature. District Attorney Brown said that an investigation began when the parents of one of the students notified school authorities that Ramjattan had e-mailed a sexual video to their daughter and the school, in turn, notified the police. a singh was caught doing dirty chats with a 12 year old. it's a shame that he was very nice looking, but

he also has done some extremely shameful acts, and like so many who do wrong - think he was perfectly ok in his actions. also, a video on disrpect of gurbani. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1XdAc7n0ywU http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hqrVIcEtBMc&feature=related http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Bo0QritmJtI&feature=related http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=oPVG2dt8tS0&feature=related

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=byxuJJOPSMA&feature=related http://in.news.yahoo.com/uk-court-told-asian-gang-man-raped-13073809789.html;_ylt=AuC35D0LviKo9KsN35HJxNnQscB_;_ylu=X3oDMTN1Y240N2ZxBGNjb2Rl A3ZzaGFyZWFnMnVwcmVzdARwa2cDMDc4N2VlZWQtMzQyMC0zNzRlLWE1YjktZmNjNGMz NWVlYmJkBHBvcwMxBHNlYwNuZXdzX2Zvcl95b3UEdmVyAzcyYmUyYTUwLTk4YjYtMTFlM C1hZWJmLWJhOTEzZDM2YmY2Nw--;_ylg=X3oDMTJ0cG9uM2hsBGludGwDaW4EbGFuZwNlbi 1pbgRwc3RhaWQDMTFiNWIwYzMtOGM2Ni0zZDMwLTg0ZDctMjk5ZGU0NWU3ZmJiBHBzdG NhdAN3b3JsZHxhc2lhBHB0A3N0b3J5cGFnZQ--;_ylv=3 http://www.punjabnewsline.com/content/view/4405/38/ Uzbekistan woman married to Punjabi alleges harrassment VERINDER SAREEN Tuesday, 05 June 2007 Pulatova Nargiza, NAWANSHEHAR: An Uzbekistan woman, Pulatova Nargiza, 26, married to a local resident Harminder Kumar, has approached the district administration here seeking to get justice and charged her husband for fraud and maltreatment. Narrating her tale of woes in a written submission to the Additional Deputy Commissioner Nawanshahr in the weekly 'Jan Sampark' programme of the administration here Tuesday, the woman said that she had married Harminder Kumar who used to visit Uzbekistan in connection with his business in 2002. Two girls-5 and 2 years old- were born out of this wedlock. Sometime after their marriage, according to Pulatova, Harminder asked her to sell all her property in her country and accompany with him to India. She followed the advice of her husband and sold all her property there and came to India to live with him. Here in India, they purchased a house and two cars with the sale proceeds from her property, said Pulatova, adding that after sometime, her husband started quarrelling and maltreating her and one day while she was accompanying him to Nawanshahr to visit his parents, her husband allegedly beat her up on the way which led to some injuries to her teeth. She has already filed a report with Balachaur police in this regard, said the Uzbekistan woman who further

accused her husband of even maltreating her children. She even accused her husband of having married another woman and even staying with her in Chandigarh. Wearing the traditional Punjabi dress Salwar-Kameez, Pulatova Nagriza who can speak six other languages other than Punjabi, added that last Monday she approached the local office of the NRI Sabha and narrated her tale. The Sabha promised help and asked her to stay with a family in Malpur Arkan, near here. In fact, the Malpur Arkan family and the Sarpanch and a panch of Kariha village accompanied her here today when she appeared before the ADC. Besides seeking justice for herself and her children, she has expressed her desire to go back to her country. For this she has requested that their passports, marriage certificate and the birth certificates of their children which were allegedly in possession of her husband, be made available to her. Currently on a five year visa to India, Pulatova told media persons that she had earlier stayed in India from 2002 to 2004. They returned to India for good in November 2006. Interestingly, parents-in-law of Pulatova too were present when the Uzbekistan woman made her representation. Her father-in-law Chand Kishan, resident of Kothi Road here, in his representation said that he had already disinherited his son way back in 1990s. "In the NRI Sabha I had agreed to provide for three tickets and 1,000 American dollars in cash in order to ensure the safe return of my daughter-in-law and her two daughters," said Chand Kishan, adding that her daughter-in-law instead chose to stay with the Malpur Arkan family on the advice of some NRI Sabha members. Meanwhile SSP B.Chander Shekhar to whom the case was sent by the ADC, after listening to the tale of the affected woman, asked DSP Nawanshahr Dilbagh Singh Pannu to enquire in to the matter and report and meanwhile arrange for sending the woman and her children to Nariniketan in Jalandhar after approaching SDM Nawanshahr in the matter. this is another example of what happens when western bitches decide to marry eastern men and why it's wrong http://articles.nydailynews.com/2011-03-03/news/28669540_1_facebook-police-departments-ktla A 13-year-old girl reported missing by her parents was really trying to escape an arranged marriage in Pakistan, police said Wednesday. Jessie Bender's folks told authorities last month their daughter ran off because she didn't want to go on a two-month family trip to her step-father's native country. They then falsely claimed she was abducted by someone she met on Facebook, officials said. However, after weeks of investigating leads that wrangled the FBI, the U.S. Marshals Office and police departments nationwide, authorities say it was all a lie. "Bender family members misled detectives and withheld critical information," San Bernardino County Sheriff's Department spokeswoman Roxanne Walker said in a news release. Police soon discovered that another family member had helped the young teen hide out in Apple Valley, about 30 miles from her hometown of Hesperia in Southern California, to avoid becoming a Pakistani man's bride.

Jessie Bender's parents, Melissa the white hideous slut and Mohammad asshole Khan. (KTLA) Bender, as well as her three siblings, were taken into child protective custody while authorities decide whether to recommend filing charges against her family, San Bernardino County sheriff's spokeswoman Cindy Bachman said. "All of the information that was obtained by investigators will be sent to the district attorney's office for review," she said. The parents' claim that she had been kidnapped sparked a nationwide investigation, involving both local and federal agencies. At one point, a person in Chicago was considered a suspect in her disappearance because the girl's mother, a dirty, hideous white slut named Melissa, believed she had been communicating with him via Facebook. "He was the last person she spoke to at 1:47 in the morning," she told KTLA last month, speaking with her husband, Mohammad Khan. "I don't know who he is ... He claims that he doesn't have her, but I don't believe it." With News Wire Services msheridan@nydailynews.com; or follow him at Twitter.com/NYDNSheridan http://www.siasat.com/english/news/unhappily-married-pak-men-prey-white-girls http://www.defence.pk/forums/members-club/91628-unhappily-married-pak-men-prey-white-girls.html Unhappily married Pak men prey on white girls Islamabad, January 31: A seniour Muslim politician in the UK has blamed unhappy arranged marriages between cousins for leading some Pakistani men to prey on white girls to fulfil their sexual needs. Rotherhams Lord Nazir Ahmed, Britains first Muslim peer, is the first politician to make a link between first- cousin marriages and sex crimes by Pakistani men. He has spoken out after a spate of highprofile court cases where groups of Asian men have been sentenced for grooming white girls as young as 12. Lord Ahmed, who wants an end to cousin marriages, said: They are forced into marriages and they are not happy. They are married to girls from overseas who they dont have anything in common with, and they have children and a family. But they are looking for fun in their sexual activities and seek out vulnerable girls. He said Asian men resort to abusing young white girls because they do not want meaningful relationships with adult white women. An adult woman if you are having an affair would want your time, money and for you to break up your marriage, the peer added.

His comments come weeks after former British foreign secretary Jack Straw provoked outrage by saying that some Pakistani men look at white girls as easy meat for sexual abuse. Labour peer Lord Ahmed said: I get a lot of criticism from Asian people who ask, How can you say this about Asian men? But they must wake up and realise there is a problem. I am deeply worried about this as it has happened in my own backyard, and in Rochdale and Bradford. This didnt happen in my or my fathers generation. This is happening among young Asians. While I respect individual choice, I think the community needs to look at marriages in the UK rather than cousin marriages or economic marriages from abroad. Studies have shown that 55 per cent of British Pakistanis marry their first cousins, usually from abroad. First- cousin marriages among other British Muslim groups such as Bangladeshis or Indians are less prevalent. Earlier this month, two ringleaders of a Pakistani gang in Derby were given indeterminate jail terms for grooming 26 white girls aged between 12 and 18 after plying them with alcohol and drugs. Mohammed Liaqat, 28, and Abid Saddique, 27, were jailed for a minimum of 11 and eight years respectively for charges which included rape. Both had wives through arranged marriages. In Rotherham, a gang of five Asian men were jailed in November for grooming white girls as young as 12. Since 1997, 56 people with an average age of 28 have been convicted of offences related to on- street grooming of girls aged 11 to 16. Of these, three were white and the rest Asian, of whom 50 were Muslim, with the majority British Pakistani. A UK home office spokesperson said: We should not jump to form conclusions about national patterns of offending without further analysis. http://www.siasat.com/english/news/unhappily-married-pak-men-prey-white-girls http://www.google.com/search?rlz=1C1SKPM_enUS448US448&sourceid=chrome&ie=UTF8&q=jessie+bender London, June 17 (ANI): A member of an Asian gang, who sold white girls for sex, raped a vulnerable 13-year-old, a court has heard. del Ali, 23, lived in "a traditional Pakistani household" and was due to have an arranged marriage, it was said. But behind that veneer, he preyed on young white girls who were groomed for sex and prostituted to dozens of Asian men, the Stafford Crown Court was told.he Sun quoted Prosecutor Deborah Gould, as saying that Ali, who called himself Eddie, deliberately identified and targeted the 13-year-old because she had a difficult family life.e befriended her then allegedly raped her in his car in Telford, Shrops, after giving her vodka and cannabis.

Ali and eight other Asian men from Telford deny charges including sex trafficking, under-age sex and rape. They are on trial for 55 charges, including inciting child prostitution, sexual abuse and rape. Six of the nine accused men are married and one is a grandfather, the Daily Mail reports. Three of the men - Ahdel Ali, 23, his brother Mubarek Ali, 28, and Tanveer Ahmed, 39 - allegedly acted as 'pimps', passing two of the young girls among their friends and using them as sexual commodities between 2007 and 2009. "The Crown say that the men in the dock variously trafficked, raped or sexually abused girls both over and under the age of 16 years over a considerable period of time" Deborah Gould, prosecuting, was quoted as saying by the Daily Mail. Gould has told the Stafford Crown Court where the trail is taking place that the case was "not about race, religion, colour or creed." The girls were said to have received cash, alcohol, drugs, meals and mobile phone credit in exchange for sex with some of the accused. The men on trial - who all used Western nicknames - are Ahdel Ali, Mubarek Ali, Mohammed Ali Sultan, 24, Tanveer Ahmed, Mahroof Khan, 33, Noshad Hussain, 21, Mohammed Islam Choudhrey, 52, Mohammed Younis and Abdul Rouf. All the accused were arrested during police raids across Manchester in December 2009. The trial continues. (ANI) http://www.boston.com/news/local/massachusetts/articles/2010/05/23/3_detainees_gained_path_by_ma rriage/ At first, the Colorado woman agreed to marry him. Then she changed her mind. So Aftab Ali Khan, her would-be husband from Pakistan, swiftly married someone else. Related content More coverage of the Mass. terror raids More coverage of the Mass. terror raids * 3 under investigation had wed US women * 2 in Pakistan proud of ties to N.Y. suspect Today, Khan is one of three Pakistani men being held in New England jails on immigration charges as part of the investigation into the failed Times Square bombing. In the still-unfolding investigation, much remains a mystery about the three mens ties to the Pakistani-

born suspect, Faisal Shahzad. The government has said the three men may have handled informal money transfers for the failed bomber, and that one of them had his cellphone number in his phone. But authorities have not filed criminal charges against any of the men, and have not said whether they believe the men were aware of the plot. The three men followed different paths, yet share something striking in common: All three recently married American women, whose lives have now been turned upside down. Their cases add an unusual twist to a familiar story of immigrants legalizing their status through marriage. Investigators accuse Khan of offering $5,000 to the Colorado woman to go ahead with the marriage, and they say he paid a 29-year-old Cambridge woman, Lila-Charlotte Fatou Sylla, to marry him instead. Speaking publicly for the first time, Sylla told the Globe on Friday night that a relative who has known Khans family for years introduced her to Khan after he was jilted in Colorado last August and moved to Watertown. Sylla, an African dance instructor, had three small children and was on her own. He was coming from a heartbreak, Sylla said, and she began dating him. He was appreciative of different cultures, music, and different kinds of food. I liked him. I thought he was a really nice guy with potential for things to grow from it. After the marriage they drifted apart, and they never lived together, Sylla said. She said Khan gave her money for bills and other expenses, and gifts for special occasions, but nothing lavish. What I really want people to know is it wasnt some stranger offering me money, Sylla said. Khans roommate and distant cousin, Boston taxi driver Pir Khan, was also arrested. In 2008, Pir Khan married a woman about half his age who friends say he often visited at her separate home in Maine. She too has been grilled by investigators. The third man detained, Mohammad Shafiq Rahman, a computer programmer, married an artist 11 years his senior in March. By all accounts he is devoted to her and lives with her in an apartment in South Portland, Maine. She now fears that her family will be tainted by the case, a neighbor said. http://www.jihadwatch.org/2008/11/uk-muslim-man-strangles-stabs-and-slits-throat-of-petite-19-yearold-catholic-girl.html UK: Muslim man strangles, stabs, and slits throat of "petite" 19 year-old Catholic girl TH1_1211200856ppplid2.jpg He deemed her "sexually provocative" Also, she, a non-Muslim -- Catholic no less -- was dating his Muslim roommate. "Muslim killed Catholic girl in love with flatmate," by Jeni Harvey for the Yorkshire Post, November 12 : A TEENAGER was brutally murdered by her boyfriend's Muslim flatmate because he did not approve of him going out with a Catholic.

Lidia Motylska, 19, was strangled in an alleyway in Leeds by Iraqi immigrant Abobakir Jabari who objected to his Kurdish flatmate's relationship with her. Yesterday Jabari, 39, who was given British citizenship in 2005, pleaded guilty at Sheffield Crown Court to murdering the petite Polish teenager. The court heard he garrotted her from behind, using the cord from his tracksuit bottoms, before inflicting "gratuitous" wounds on her lifeless body. He stabbed her repeatedly in the chest and stomach and slit her throat. Sentencing Jabari to life imprisonment with a minimum tariff of 19-and-a-half years, Mr Justice McKinnon said the murder involved an exceptional degree of violence. "There is a suspicion that you lured this young woman to her death and marked your disapproval of her and her relationship by gratuitous violence upon her," he said. The court heard that Jabari grew up in Iraq and was conscripted to the Iraqi army but then deserted. He became involved with the Communist party and later helped opponents of Iraqi dictator Saddam Hussein's regime flee to Syria. He came to England in 1999 with his then wife, but they separated in 2003 and he went on to gain British citizenship. In July 2004 he began working at Symphony Kitchens in Gelderd Lane, Leeds. Through his work, he met both Miss Motylska and Ajeen Jabaridia, a fellow Kurdish Iraqi who moved in with him at a flat in Oatland Heights in the Little London area of the city. But he was to become increasingly hostile when the pair became romantically involved. Prosecuting, Simon Myerson QC said: "He disliked the fact that his Kurdish friend was going out with a Polish Catholic. "He did not like Lidia to sleep at their flat. He disapproved of Lidia's behaviour in public and thought it seemed sexually provocative." He went on: "He told her that Ajeen should not be seeing her because she was a Polish and Catholic girl." Miss Motylska, who lived with her mother Renata in Beeston, Leeds, thought she might be pregnant with Mr Jabaridia's child, the court heard, though this turned out not to be the case. On the evening of the murder in October last year, she had arranged to meet Jabari and got off a bus near his home at 6.45pm. Ten minutes later, two passers-by called 999, reporting that they had seen a woman on the ground in an alleyway in Lincoln Green, with a man sitting over her "grunting" and holding her around the neck.

When police arrived at 7pm, the teenager was dead, with deep stab wounds and her throat slit "from ear to ear". The judge said one explanation for the slash injuries to her abdomen could have been an "expression of disapproval at her pregnancy and her relationship". Immediately after the attack, Jabari set about creating an alibi by inviting friends to his flat to watch Arsenal play Slavia Prague in a Champions League football match. A keen Arsenal fan, Mr Jabaridia had tried to telephone his girlfriend each time the team scored, but got no reply. He and Miss Motylska's mother reported the teenager missing the next day. After the sentencing, Det Supt Bill Shackleton from West Yorkshire Police said: "This was a brutal and calculated murder." The victim's family were too upset to speak. Look at this ugly slut! http://cache.boston.com/resize/bonzai-fba/Globe_Photo/2010/05/22/1274583463_6011/300h.jpg this is Rebecca May Barry n she is half pir khan's age! Immigration lawyers see this all the time people getting accused of having a fake marriage, or people who have a fake marriage, said Joshua Goldstein, a Boston immigration lawyer. A lot of people dont understand exactly how serious it is. For years, the closest that Aftab Ali Khan came to US soil was the army base in Kuwait, where he managed the delivery of food and other supplies as a convoy commander for a Kuwaiti firm, Public Warehousing Co. He met an American soldier, Sharon Jeffcott, a motor transport operator from Colorado Springs. She left Kuwait in August 2008, agreed to marry him, and submitted the paperwork for a 90-day fianc visa that allowed him to come to the United States. But she later told Khan she had found someone else and no longer wanted to marry him, a federal agent testified in US Immigration Court in Boston last week. Khan came to the United States anyway last August, and showed up on her doorstep in Colorado, Michael McGonigle, a special agent for US Immigration and Customs Enforcement, told an immigration judge. When she refused to go ahead with the wedding, Khan grew upset and offered her $5,000 for the marriage, the agent testified, but she still refused. Khans lawyer disputes that account and says Khan quit his job and uprooted his life for Jeffcott, only to be rebuked. Aftab Khan made his way to Watertown to stay with Pir Khan. On Nov. 17, the day his fianc visa expired, Aftab Khan married Sylla at Cambridge City Hall. After Aftab Kahns arrest, McGonigle said, Sylla spoke to agents, indicating it was a fraudulent marriage that she had entered into primarily for financial gain. He said she admitted taking a series of payments from Khan totaling $1,500 to $2,000.

A government lawyer also disclosed during the hearing that Shahzads cellphone number was found stored in Khans cellphone and his name and number were written on an envelope found in Khans bedroom during the search of the Watertown apartment. Sylla told the Globe that she and Khan were introduced by family and I felt comfortable that he was a nice guy, and on the up and up, and thats why I had any kind of dealings with him from the beginning. She said Khan was not an extreme person at all. I think he just really wanted to work and live a life . . . The people around him didnt seem sketchy or fishy. She said the tall, athletic 27-yearold young man was very gentle. Sylla said she is frightened and admits she made a bad decision. FBI agents have taken her computer and bank records. I think its just a lesson learned on my part about rushing into things and not really getting to know a person beforehand and being naive, she said. Pir Khan, a 43-year-old cousin of Aftabs, also married an American bride: Rebecca May Barry, who was 22 when they married in December 2008. In many ways, she seemed an unlikely match for Pir, who hails from a conservative city in northwest Pakistan. In September 2008, three months before her wedding to Khan, Barry was arrested and charged with disorderly conduct by Auburn police for a fight with another woman on a city street, according to Auburn police logs. Last year, she had two car accidents in Maine while driving his 1990 grey Honda. Both times, she gave police Pir Khans Watertown address as her own. But his friends said she spent most of her time in Maine, and saw him on the weekends. Sher Wahab, Khans former business partner, said he had no idea how Khan and Barry met, but said the two had a good relationship. Her MySpace page shows photos of the couple dressed in what appear to be wedding clothes, with the caption: Had to make him smile cant be so serious all the time!!!! In another photo, she is kissing his forehead, with the caption: smoochin. At a hearing Tuesday in Khans case, Barry shed tears and avoided reporters who tried to talk to her. The US Government says Khan had declared on immigration documents filed in 1994 that he had been married in Pakistan and had a child. But Macarius said Khan told him he had never formally married the woman, and that she had died in 2001. The marriage to Barry may have given Khan, who entered the country illegally in 1991 and was appealing the denial of his 1994 asylum application, a new avenue to pursue citizenship. He had worked for years at a pizza parlor, a gas station, and his own cab company. But just as he was planning to return to Pakistan, as required to legalize his status in the United States, FBI agents raided his Watertown home.

In March, Sara Boutet, a 44-year-old artist from Saco, Maine, married Mohammad Shafiq Rahman, a 33-year-old computer programmer. Sara Rahman, who has five kids from two previous marriages, invited her parents to serve as the witnesses. http://www.google.com/#hl=en&source=hp&q=jihad+jane+colleen+larose&aq=f&aqi=&aql=&oq=&f p=35897877ebb6f45 it's a white bitch who converted to islam, and was caught for trying to help the jihad. there needs to be soemthing done abput westerners who convert to eastern religions and marry eastern guys, or even who simply marry eastern guys.....whether or not they convert to the eastern religion because they are having more and more connections to bad things, and their actions are a warning sign that something not right is going on. she was from texas and moved to philadelphia.....and SHE HAD A NORMAL AMERICAN BOYFRIEND NAMED KURT GORMAN! these western girls who marry eastern guys all have double lives, hiding immoral secrets from others, so they can succee in ill gains. and see this about the whore she was going to marry a saudi so she could carry out her acts http://allah4ever.hi5.com/friend/profile/displayProfile.do?userid=173838258 and he seriously is stupid enough to think the slut loved him! http://mypetjawa.mu.nu/archives/201478.php http://donthavekids.files.wordpress.com/2009/02/hippies.jpg?w=433&h=432 this sums up what westerners see as eastern culture. what a bunch of asshats. Most of us brown folk have been subjected to relentless teasing by assholes about the "red dot" worn by (allegedly) all Indian women on their forehead. Some of us who are not Hindu had to explain the significance of the red dot to these ignoramuses while listening to queries that ranged for the stupid "Is it tattooed on the women when they are born?" to the obscene "Is that so you Indian men can aim where to shoot your load?" So today, when you see Christians of any race walking around with Ash on their foreheads stop them and say "Um, hey, you have dirt on your forehead, did you forget to take a bath today?" If they try to explain what the ash signifies, feign disinterest and say something like "Whoa, Whoa, easy there fella, I dont understand you crazy voodoo religion, I just wanted to point out that you had some dirt on your face." http://www.turbanhead.com/weblog/page/84/ http://www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/article-1370909/You-dark-skinned-girls-TV-ads-Indias-modelscountrys-fashion-industry-STILL-champions-fair-skin.html 'You never see dark-skinned girls in TV ads': India's top models on how the country's fashion industry STILL champions fair skin

By Jennifer Madison Last updated at 1:00 AM on 29th March 2011 Two top Indian models have spoken out against what they believe is racism against darker-skinned women in the country's fashion industry. Dipannita Sharma and Carol Gracias say they are losing out on top jobs because an increasing amount of Indian designers are casting lighter-skinned models. Ms Sharma said that the whole country was so 'obsessed' with fair skin, that a shift in attitude would take years. Losing out: Supermodels Carol Gracias (left) and Dipannita Sharma (right) say India's fashion industry continues to favour fair-skinned girls Losing out: Supermodels Carol Gracias (left) and Dipannita Sharma (right) say India's fashion industry continues to favour fair-skinned girls Losing out: Supermodels Carol Gracias (left) and Dipannita Sharma (right) say India's fashion industry continues to favour fair-skinned girls The 35-year-old, who is also a television star, told The Telegraph: 'It's not just the fashion industry, India per se is obsessed with white skin. 'We will take another hundred years to completely get over it.' She continued: 'The industry doesn't openly agree that preferring foreign models over Indian models just for the skin tone is racism. It has some kind of fairness obsession.' More... * Six decades of the glass ceiling: From bottom pinching to power dressing... a revealing snapshot of how women have evolved at work 'One could have understood, if it was about getting supermodels of international fame or to work in India but that's not happening, it's just they want fairer skin on the Indian ramps.' Ms Gracias echoed her fellow model in an interview with the Hindustan Times. She revealed that she makes just $1,000 per runway show compared to top international models like Kate Moss and Adriana Lima, who can command between $20,000 and $150,000. She explained: 'The major reason for this wide gap is that Indian models are not valued so much when it comes to commercial projects.' 'You never see a dark-skinned girl on TV ads and that's where the lucrative work is.' A fair debate: Editors of Elle magazine were accused of digitally lightening Aishwarya Rai Bachchan's skin for its December 2010 cover

A fair debate: Editors of Elle magazine were accused of digitally lightening Aishwarya Rai Bachchan's skin for its December 2010 cover 'Everyone uses fair-skinned girls, people use skin-lighteners like Fair and Lovely. I don't - maybe I would have been fair and lovely by now.' Pranab Awasti, of Delhi's Glitz Modelling agency, attributed the controversial issue to the country's 200-year history under British colonial rule. He told the Hindustan Times: 'Indians in general have that inferiority complex, we have had a hangover about fair skin, since the British left India. 'The idea of fairness is an Indian concept and it needs to change. It is an inherent thing in Indians to see white as beautiful and black as ugly... we have this concept in our minds that only fair-skinned people can be models.' Others argue in an industry that worships size-zero, skin colour is not an issue and most local models are simply too curvy to make the cut. Runway choreographer Tanya Lefebvre said: 'The girls are not tall enough and have varying body shapes.' Skin lightening controversy is not new for the Indian fashion industry. Editors of Elle India were accused digitally lightening the skin colour of Bollywood star Aishwarya Rai Bachchan for the magazine's December 2010 issue, reigniting the decades-long debate. Read more: http://www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/article-1370909/You-dark-skinned-girls-TV-ads-Indiasmodels-countrys-fashion-industry-STILL-champions-fair-skin.html#ixzz1HxQdF9Dc big shaibosh to aish rai for standing up for what's right! 3 cheers! http://in.movies.yahoo.com/news-detail/109946/Fashion-magazine-in-trouble-whitening-AishwaryaRai.html By India Abroad Friday Dec 24 7:05 PM London, Dec 24 (IANS) Fashion magazine Elle is being accused of stirring up a race row following alleged digital lightening of Bollywood star Aishwarya Rai's skin for the glamourous cover page. The 37-year-old, who achieved global popularity after winning the Miss World crown in 1994 and following it up with films like 'Bride -Prejudice' and 'The Pink Panther 2', appears on the cover of this month's Indian edition of the magazine. Though Aishwarya looks picture perfect in a flowing gown and a stunning hairdo, readers started reacting with fury after it was suggested that the fashion magazine might have used digital technology to enhance her complexion, reports dailymail.co.uk. Inside the magazine, she is pictured in a series of shots with light skin.

However, fans have been posting angry comments online about the latest cover. One comment read: 'It's -annoying because it seems like lighter skin is always in fashion as if darker skin is -something to be frowned upon.' Colour discrimination is quite a sensitive issue in India, and it is often percieved that those with a lighter complexion are more successful and wealthy. Inter-ethnic marriage in Southeast Asia dates back to the spread of Indian culture, Hinduism and Buddhism to the region. From the 1st century onwards, mostly male traders and merchants from the Indian subcontinent frequently intermarried with the local female populations in Cambodia, Burma, Champa, central Siam, the Malay Peninsula, and Malay Archipelago. Many Indianized kingdoms arose in Southeast Asia during the Middle Ages.[43] From the 9th century onwards, a large number of mostly male Arab traders from the Middle East settled down in the Malay Peninsula and Malay Archipelago, and they intermarried with the local Malay, Indonesian and Filipina female populations. This contributed to the spread of Islam in Southeast Asia.[44] From the 14th to the 17th centuries, many Chinese, Indian and Arab traders settled down within the maritime kingdoms of Southeast Asia and intermarried with the local female populations. This tradition continued among Portuguese traders who also intermarried with the local populations. [45] In the 16th and 17th centuries, thousands of Japanese people also travelled to Southeast Asia and intermarried with the local women there.[46] The white men who sailed to Asia in the 16th century left a generation of mixed-race offspring that, at the high point of empire building, was more than one-million strong.[47] Some 100,000 Amerasians stayed in Vietnam after the fall of Saigon.[48] During and after the Indonesian National Revolution (19451965) around 300,000 people, pre-dominantly Eurasians, left Indonesia to go to the Netherlands. [49] In the 19th century and early 20th century, there was a network of Chinese prostitutes being trafficked across Asia, in countries such as China, Japan, Korea, Singapore and British India, in what was then known as the Yellow Slave Traffic. There was also a network of prostitutes from continental Europe being trafficked to India, Ceylon, Singapore, China and Japan at around the same time, in what was then known as the White Slave Traffic.[50] Rangoon, Burma. August 8, 1945. A young ethnic Chinese woman who was in one of the Imperial Japanese Army's "comfort women" is interviewed by an Allied officer. During World War II, Japanese soldiers engaged in war rape during their invasions across East Asia and Southeast Asia. The term "comfort women" is a euphemism for the estimated 200,000, mostly Korean and Chinese, women who were forced into prostitution in Japanese military brothels during World War II.[51] Some Dutch women, captured in Dutch colonies in Asia, were also forced into sexual slavery. [52] Sex tourism has emerged in the late 20th century as a controversial aspect of Western tourism and globalization. Sex tourism is typically undertaken internationally by tourists from wealthier countries. Author Nils Ringdal alleged that three out of four men between the ages of 20 and 50 who have visited Asia or Africa have paid for sex.[53] [edit] China

There have been various periods in the history of China where large numbers of Arabs, Persians and Turks from the "Western Regions" (Central Asia and West Asia) migrated to China, beginning with the arrival of Islam during the Tang Dynasty in the 7th century. Due to the majority of these immigrants being male, they often intermarried with local Chinese females. While intermarriage was initially discouraged by the Tang Dynasty, it was later encouraged during the Song Dynasty, which allowed third-generation immigrants with official titles to intermarry with Chinese imperial princesses. Immigration to China increased under the Mongol Empire, when large numbers of West and Central Asians were brought over to help govern Yuan China in the 13th century.[54] Iranian, Arab, and Turkic women also migrated to China and mixed with Chinese. Iranian women as dancers were in demand in China during this period. During the Sui dynasty, ten young dancing girls were sent from Persia to China. During the Tang dynasty bars were often attended by Iranian or Sogdian waitresses who performed dances for clients.[55][56][57][58][59][60][61][62][63][64][65][66] During the Five Dynasties and Ten Kingdoms Period (Wudai) (907-960), Chinese emperors preferred to marry Persian women. Chinese from Song Dynasty official families preferred to marry women from Dashi (Arabia).[67] Of the Han Chinese Li family in Quanzhou, Li Nu, the son of Li Lu, visited Hormuz in Persia in 1376, married a Persian or an Arab girl, and brought her back to Quanzhou. He then converted to Islam, Li Nu was the ancestor of the Ming Dynasty reformer Li Chih.[68][69][70] By the 14th century, the total population of Muslims in China had grown to 4 million.[71] After Mongol rule had been overthrown by the Ming Dynasty in 1368, this led to a violent Chinese backlash against West and Central Asians. In order to contain the violence, the Ming administration instituted a policy where all West and Central Asian males were required to intermarry with native Chinese females, hence assimilating them into the local population. Their descendants are today known as the Hui people.[54] Han women who married Hui men became Hui, and Han men who married Hui women also became Hui.[72][73][74] In the frontier districts of Sichuan, numerous half Chinese-Tibetans were found. Tibetan women were glad to marry Chinese traders and soldiers.[75] Some Chinese traders married Tibetan girls.[76] The only Chinese allowed in Tibet during Imperial times, Traders and officials, were men, and were forbidden to bring Chinese women with them, so they had to marry Tibetan women, the male offspring where considered Chinese and female offspring as Tibetan.[77][78][79][80][81] Special names were used for these children of Chinese fathers and Tibetan mothers.[82] They usually assimilated into the Tibetan population.[83] Chinese and Nepalese in Tibet married Tibetan women.[84] In Qinghai, premarital sex between Tibetan girls and Han Chinese was common, some Tibetan girls boasted of their sexual conquests of Han Chinese boys.[85] Dolkar, a Tibetan girl working as a guard at Drapchi Prison married a Chinese.[86] Tibetan girls were also curious about sexual differences between Chinese and Tibetan men, and they stripped the pants off a Chinese to see his penis.[87] Chinese men also married Turkic Uyghur women in Xinjiang from 1880-1949. Sometimes poverty influenced Uyghur women to marry Chinese. These marriages were not recognized by local mullahs since Muslims women were not allowed to marry non Muslim men under Islamic law. This did not stop

the women because they enjoyed advantages, not being subject to Islamic law and they were not subjected to certain taxes. Uyghur women married to Chinese also did not have to wear a veil and they received their husband's property upon his death. These women were forbidden from having burial in Muslim graves. The children of Chinese men and Uyghur women were considered as Uyghur. Some Chinese soldiers had Uyghur women as temporary wives, and after the man's military service was up, the wife was left behind or sold, and if it was possible, sons were taken, and daughters were sold.[88] European travellers noted that many Han Chinese in Xinjiang married Uyghur (who were called turki) women and had children with them. A Chinese was spotted with a "young" and "good looking" Uyghur wife and another Chinese left behind his Uyghur wife and child in Khotan.[89][90][91][92][93][94] [95] After 1950, some intermarriage between Han and Uyghur continued. A Han married a Uyghur woman in 1966 and had three daughters with her, and other cases on intermarriage also continued.[96][97] [edit] Hong Kong South Asians have been living in Hong Kong throughout the colonial period, before the partition of India into the nations of India and Pakistan. They migrated to Hong Kong and worked as police officers as well as army officers during colonial rule. 25,000 of the Muslims in Hong Kong trace their roots back to what is now Pakistan. Around half of them belong to 'local boy' families, Muslims of mixed Chinese and South Asian ancestry, descended from early Indian/Pakistani Muslim immigrants who took local Chinese wives and brought their children up as Muslims.[98][99] [edit] Indian subcontinent Question book-new.svg This section needs additional citations for verification. Please help improve this article by adding reliable references. Unsourced material may be challenged and removed. (May 2010) The Indian actress Katrina Kaif is the daughter of an Indian father and a British (English) mother. "Lakm", the Opera deals with the romantic relationship between a British Officer and an Indian Brahmin woman. An oil painting of Khair-un-Nissa by George Chinnery. c. 1805. Begum Khair-un-Nissa was a Muslim Indian Hyderabadi noblewoman who fell in love and married the British Lieutenant Colonel James Achilles Kirkpatrick. The Indian subcontinent has a long history of inter-ethnic marriage dating back to ancient history. Various groups of people have been intermarrying for millennia in South Asia, including groups as diverse as the Dravidian, Indo-Aryan, Iranian, Austro-Asiatic and Tibeto-Burman peoples. Invading Macedonians, Greeks, Scythians, Huns, Persians, Mongols (known as Mughals), and Europeans took Indian wives. 3,0008,000 years ago, Indo-European-speaking nomadic groups from Europe, the Near East, Anatolia, and the Caucasus migrated to India.[100] According to 19th-century British historians,[who?] it was these "Aryans" who established the caste system, an elitist form of social organization that separated the "light-skinned" Indo-Aryan conquerors from the "conquered dark-skinned" indigenous Dravidian population through enforcement of "racial endogamy". Much of this was simply conjecture, fueled by British imperialism;[101] British policies of divide and rule as well as enumeration of the population into rigid categories during the tenure of British rule in India contributed towards the hardening of these segregated caste identities.[102] Since the independence of India from British rule, the British fantasy of an "Aryan Invasion and subjugation of the dark skinned Dravidians in India" has become a

staple polemic in South Asian geopolitics, including the propaganda of Indophobia in Pakistan.[103] There is no decisive theory as to the origins of the caste system in India, and globally renowned historians and archaeologists like Jim Shaffer, J.P. Mallory, Edwin Bryant, and others, have disputed the claim of "Aryan Invasion".[104] Some researchers claim that genetic similarities to Europeans were more common in members of the higher ranks.[105] Their findings, published in Genome Research, supported the idea that members of higher castes are more closely related to Europeans than are the lower castes.[106] According to the research, invading European populations were predominantly male who intermarried with local females and formed the upper castes i.e. the local females had upward mobility in caste which was denied to local males. However, other researchers have criticized and contradicted this claim.[107] A study by Joanna L. Mountain et al. of Stanford University concluded that there was "no clear separation into three genetically distinct groups along caste lines", although "an inferred tree revealed some clustering according to caste affiliation".[108] A 2006 study by Ismail Thanseem et al. of Centre for Cellular and Molecular Biology (India) concluded that the "lower caste groups might have originated with the hierarchical divisions that arose within the tribal groups with the spread of Neolithic agriculturalists, much earlier than the arrival of Aryan speakers", and "the Indo-Europeans established themselves as upper castes among this already developed caste-like class structure within the tribes."[109] A 2006 genetic study by the National Institute of Biologicals in India, testing a sample of men from 32 tribal and 45 caste groups, concluded that the Indians have acquired very few genes from Indo-European speakers.[110] More recent studies have also debunked the claims that so-called "Aryans" and "Dravidians" have a "racial divide". A study conducted by the Centre for Cellular and Molecular Biology in 2009 (in collaboration with Harvard Medical School, Harvard School of Public Health and the Broad Institute of Harvard and MIT) analyzed half a million genetic markers across the genomes of 132 individuals from 25 ethnic groups from 13 states in India across multiple caste groups.[111] The study establishes, based on the impossibility of identifying any genetic indicators across caste lines, that castes in South Asia grew out of traditional tribal organizations during the formation of Indian society, and were not the product of any Aryan invasion and subjugation of Dravidian people. Rape and enslavement of Hindu women by invading Islamic armies was very common. For example, according to the Chachnama by Qazi Ismail, during the Arab invasion of Sindh (712 CE), Muhammad bin Qasim first attacked and conquered Debal. It was situated on the sea-coast (not far from modern Karachi). All males of the age of seventeen and upwards were put to the sword and their women and children were enslaved. 700 Hindu women, who were under the protection of Budh (that is, had taken shelter in the temple), were all captured with their valuable ornaments, and clothes adorned with jewels. Muhammad despatched one-fifth of the legal spoil to Hajjaj which included seventy-five damsels, while the other four-fifths were distributed among the soldiers. Thereafter whichever places he attacked like Rawar, Sehwan, Dhalila, Brahmanabad and Multan, Hindu soldiers and men with arms were slain, many women of the higher classes immolated themselves in Jauhar. Most others became prize of the victors. These women were enslaved and converted, and batches of them were despatched to the Caliph in regular installments. For example, after Rawar was taken, many women and children were enslaved, of whom 30 were young ladies of royal blood. Muhammad Qasim sent all these to Hajjaj, who forwarded them to Walid the Khalifa. He sold some of these female slaves of royal birth, and some he presented to others. In Northern India, female slaves captured after every campaign of the marching army, were converted and married to Muslim soldiers who settled down in colonies established in places like Mansura, Kuzdar, Mahfuza and Multan. During the Islamic involvement in India, it was normal for kings to possess harems filled with native Hindu women won as booties of war. The most famous one was of Akbar's harem, which had over 5000 women.[citation needed] Most of these Muslim soldiers were Turks, Afghans, Persians, Mongols (Mughals), other Central Asians and

Arabs. There are even cases of Indian princesses marrying kings abroad. For example, the Korean text Samguk Yusa about the Gaya kingdom (it was absorbed by the kingdom of Silla later), indicates that in 48 AD, King Kim Suro of Gaya (the progenitor of the Gimhae Kim clan) took a princess (Princess Heo) from the "Ayuta nation" (which is the Korean name for the city of Ayodhya in North India) as his bride and queen. Princess Heo belonged to the Mishra royal family of Ayodhya. According to the Samguk Yusa, the princess had a dream about a heavenly fair handsome king from a faraway land who was awaiting heaven's anointed ride. After Princess Heo had the dream, she asked her parents, the king and queen of Ayodhya, for permission to set out and seek the foreign prince, which the king and queen urged with the belief that god orchestrated the whole fate. That king was no other than King Kim Suro of the Korean Gaya kingdom. In Goa, a Portuguese colony in India, during the late 16th century and 17th century, there was a community of Japanese slaves and traders, who were either Japanese Christians fleeing persecution in Japan,[112] or young Japanese women and girls brought or captured as sexual slaves by Portuguese traders and their South Asian lascar crew members from Japan.[113] In both cases, they often intermarried with the local population in Goa.[112] Interracial marriages between European men and Indian women were very common during colonial times. Most of these Indian women usually were Muslim belonging to aristocratic families and families with royal ancestry. According to the historian William Dalrymple, about one in three European men had Indian wives in colonial India. This was primarily because the Europeans (mostly Dutch, British, French and Portuguese and up to a lesser extent Swedes and Danes) came to India when they were young and there were very few white women available in India. The most famous of such interracial liaisons was between the Hyderabadi noblewoman Khair-un-Nissa and the Scottish resident James Achilles Kirkpatrick. The 600,000-strong Anglo-Indian community was formed by British soldiers taking Indian women as wives. Such relationships have had a strong influence on the arts. Lakm, an opera by the Frenchman Lo Delibes, deals with the romantic relationship between the British officer Grald and the daughter of a Hindu high priest Lakm (Laxmi in Sanskrit). In Ceylon (present day Sri Lanka), interracial relationships between Dutch, British and Portuguese men and local women were common. The 65,000-strong Burgher community was formed by the interracial marriages of Dutch and Portuguese men with local Sinhalese and Tamil women. In addition to intermarriage, inter-ethnic prostitution in India was also fairly common at the time, when British officers would frequently visit Indian nautch dancers. In the mid-19th century, there were around 40,000 British soldiers but fewer than 2,000 British officials present in India.[114] Many British and other European officers had their own harems made up of Indian women similar to those the Nawabs and kings of India had. In the 19th century and early 20th century, thousands of women and girls from continental Europe were also trafficked into British India (and Ceylon), where they worked as prostitutes servicing both British soldiers and local Indian (and Ceylonese) men.[115][116][117] As British females began arriving in British India in large numbers from the early-to-mid-19th century, miscegenation became increasingly uncommon in India as British women increasingly disapproved of relationships between local woman and their men. Interracial relationships were also despised after the events of the Sepoy Mutiny of 1857, also known as "India's First War of Independence", where some Indian sepoys rebelled against the British East India Company.

The idea of protecting British female chastity from the "lustful Indian male" had a significant influence on the policies of the British Raj in order to prevent racial miscegenation between the British females and the native Indian male population. While some restrictive policies were imposed on British females in order to protect them from miscegenation, most of these policies were directed against native Indian males.[118][119] For example, the 1883 Ilbert Bill, which would have granted Indian judges the right to judge British offenders, was opposed by many British colonialists on the grounds that Indian judges cannot be trusted in dealing with cases involving British females.[120] In the aftermath of the 1919 Amritsar Massacre, the long-held stereotype of Indian males as dark-skinned rapists lusting after white British females was challenged by several novels such as A Passage to India (1924) and The Jewel in the Crown (1966), both of which involve an Indian male being wrongly accused of raping a British female. [121] When Burma was ruled under the administration of British India, millions of Indians, mostly Muslim, migrated there. The mixed descendants of Indian males and local Burmese females are called "Zerbadees", often in a pejorative sense implying mixed race.[122] In recent times, over 200,000 Nepalese girls have been trafficked to red light areas of India.[123] Nepalese women and girls, especially virgins, are favoured in India because of their fair skin and young looks.[124][125] Every year between 5,000 and 7,000 Nepalese girls are trafficked into the red light districts in Indian cities.[126] [edit] Japan See also: Comfort women and Eugenics in Japan Inter-ethnic marriage in Japan dates back to the 7th century, when Chinese and Korean immigrants began intermarrying with the local Japanese population. In the 1590s, over 50,000 Koreans were forcibly brought to Japan, where they intermarried with the local population. In the 16th and 17th centuries, around 58,000 Japanese travelled abroad, many of which intermarried with the local women in Southeast Asia.[46] During the anti-Christian persecutions in 1596, many Japanese Christians fled to Macau and other Portuguese colonies such as Goa, where there was a community of Japanese slaves and traders by the early 17th century. Intermarriage with the local populations in these Portuguese colonies also took place.[112] Portuguese traders in Japan also intermarried with the local Christian women.[127] From the 15th century, Chinese, Korean and other Far Eastern visitors frequented brothels in Japan. [128] This practice later continued among visitors from the "Western Regions", mainly European traders.[113] This began with the arrival of Portuguese ships to Japan in the 16th century. Portuguese visitors and their South Asian (and sometimes African) crewmembers often engaged in slavery in Japan, where they brought Japanese slaves who were taken to Macau and other Portuguese colonies in Southeast Asia, the Americas,[113] and India.[112] Later European East India companies, including those of the Dutch and British, also engaged in prostitution in Japan.[129] In the early part of the Showa era, Japanese governments executed a eugenic policy to limit the birth of children with inferior traits, as well as aiming to protect the life and health of mothers.[130] Family Center staff also attempted to discourage marriage between Japanese women and Korean men who had been recruited from the peninsula as laborers following its annexation by Japan in 1910. In 1942, a survey report argued that "the Korean laborers brought to Japan, where they have established

permanent residency, are of the lower classes and therefore of inferior constitution...By fathering children with Japanese women, these men could lower the caliber of the Yamato minzoku." [131] In 1928, journalist Shigenori Ikeda promoted the 21 December as the blood-purity day (junketsu de) and sponsored free blood-test at the Tokyo Hygiene laboratory.[132] By the early 1930s, detailed "eugenic marriage" questionnaires were printed or inserted in popular magazines for public consumption.[133] Promoters like Ikeda were convinced that these marriage surveys would not only insure the eugenic fitness of spouses but also help avoid class differences that could disrupt and even destroy marriage. The goal was to create a database of individuals and their entire households which would enable eugenicists to conduct in-depth surveys of any given family's genealogy.[134] To prevent venereal diseases and rape by Japanese soldiers and to provide comfort to soldiers and head off espionage, the Imperial Japanese Army established "comfort stations" in the Greater East Asia CoProsperity Sphere where around 200,000 women, mostly from Korea and China, were recruited or kidnapped by the Kempeitai or the Tokeitai as comfort women.[135] One of the last eugenic measures of the Showa regime was taken by the Higashikuni government. On 19 August 1945, the Home Ministry ordered local government offices to establish a prostitution service for Allied soldiers to preserve the "purity" of the "Japanese race". The official declaration stated that : "Through the sacrifice of thousands of "Okichis" of the Showa era, we shall construct a dike to hold back the mad frenzy of the occupation troops and cultivate and preserve the purity of our race long into the future...." [136] According to Peter Schrijvers in "The GI War against Japan: American Soldiers in Asia and the Pacific during World War II",[137] rape "reflects a burning need to establish total dominance of the other" the enemy. According to Xavier Guillaume, US soldiers' rape of Japanese women was "general practice". Schrijvers states regarding rapes on Okinawa that "The estimate of one Okinawan historian for the entire three-month period of the campaign exceeds 10,000. A figure that does not seem unlikely when one realizes that during the first 10 days of the occupation of Japan there were 1,336 reported cases of rape of Japanese women by American soldiers in Kanagawa prefecture alone".[138] However, despite being told by the Japanese military that they would suffer rape, torture and murder at the hands of the Americans, Japanese civilians "were often surprised at the comparatively humane treatment they received from the American enemy."[139][140] According to Islands of Discontent: Okinawan Responses to Japanese and American Power by Mark Selden, the Americans "did not pursue a policy of torture, rape, and murder of civilians as Japanese military officials had warned."[141] Japanese society, with its ideology of homogeneity, has traditionally been intolerant of ethnic and other differences.[142] Men or women of mixed ancestry, foreigners, and members of minority groups faced discrimination in a variety of forms. In 2005, a United Nations report expressed concerns about racism in Japan and that government recognition of the depth of the problem was not total.[143][144] In 2005, Japanese Minister Taro Aso called Japan a "one race" nation.[145] [edit] Korea Inter-ethnic marriage in Korea dates back to the arrival of Muslims in Korea during the Middle Ages, when Persian and Turkic navigators, traders and slaves settled in Korea and married local Korean people. Some assimilation into Buddhism and Shamanism eventually took place, owing to Korea's geographical isolation from the Muslim world.[146]

There are several Korean clans that are descended from such intermarriages. For example, the Deoksu Jang clan, claiming some 30,000 Korean members, view Jang Sunnyong, a Central Asian who married a Korean female, as their ancestor.[147] Another clan, Gyeongju Seol, claiming at least 2,000 members in Korea, view a Central Asian (probably an Uyghur) named Seol Son as their ancestor.[148][149] There are even cases of Korean kings marrying princesses from abroad. For example, the Korean text Samguk Yusa about the Gaya kingdom (it was absorbed by the kingdom of Silla later), indicate that in 48 AD, King Kim Suro of Gaya (the progenitor of the Gimhae Kim clan) took a princess (Princess Heo) from the "Ayuta nation" (which is the Korean name for the city of Ayodhya in North India) as his bride and queen. Princess Heo belonged to the Mishra royal family of Ayodhya. According to the Samguk Yusa, the princess had a dream about a heavenly fair handsome king from a far away land who was awaiting heaven's anointed ride. After Princess Heo had the dream, she asked her parents, the king and queen of Ayodhya, for permission to set out and seek the foreign prince, which the king and queen urged with the belief that god orchestrated the whole fate. That king was no other than King Kim Suro of the Korean Gaya kingdom. 6,423 Korean women married US military personnel as war brides during and immediately after the Korean War. The average number of Korean women marrying US military personnel each year was about 1,500 per year in the 1960s and 2,300 per year in the 1970s.[150] International marriages now make up 13% of all marriages in South Korea. Most of these marriages are unions between a Korean male and a foreign female[151] usually from China, Japan, Vietnam, the Philippines, United States, Mongolia, Thailand, and Russia. On the other hand, Korean females have married foreign males from Japan, China, the United States, Bangladesh, Pakistan, Philippines, and Nepal. Between 1990 and 2005, there have been 159,942 Korean males and 80,813 Korean females married to foreigners.[152][153] South Korea is among the world's most ethnically homogeneous nations.[154] Koreans have traditionally valued an unmixed blood as the most important feature of Korean identity. The term "Kosian", referring to someone who has a Korean father and a non-Korean mother, is considered offensive by some who prefer to identify themselves or their children as Korean.[155][156] Moreover, the Korean office of Amnesty International has claimed that the word "Kosian" represents racial discrimination.[157][158] Kosian children, like those of other mixed-race backgrounds in Korea, often face discrimination.[159] There are an estimated 35,000 mixed-raced South Koreans, most of them half Caucasian, according to the Pearl Buck Foundation. Discrimination is far worse against those who have African American fathers.[160] [edit] Malaysia and Singapore In West Malaysia and Singapore, the majority of inter-ethnic marriages are between Chinese and Indians. The offspring of such marriages are informally known as "Chindian", though the Malaysian government only classifies them by their father's ethnicity. As the majority of these intermarriages usually involve an Indian groom and Chinese bride, the majority of Chindians in Malaysia are usually classified as "Indian" by the Malaysian government. As for the Malays, who are predominantly Muslim, legal restrictions in Malaysia make it uncommon for them to intermarry with either the Indians, who are predominantly Hindu, or the Chinese, who are predominantly Buddhist and Taoist. [161] Non-Muslims are required to convert to Islam in order to marry Muslims. However, this has not entirely stopped intermarriage between the Malays and the Chinese and Indians. There are more IndianMalay marriages than there are Chinese-Malay ones; this has led to the emergence of a large Muslim Indian society that is most famously known for their 24-hour coffee shops and active involvement in

the textile industry. The Muslim Chinese community, on the other hand, is small and has only a negligible impact on the socio-economy and demography of the region. It is common for Arabs in Singapore and Malaysia to take local Malay wives, due to a common Islamic faith.[44] The Chitty people, in Singapore and the Malacca state of Malaysia, are a Tamil people with considerable Malay descent, which was due to the first Tamil settlers taking local wives, since they did not bring along any of their own women with them. According to government statistics, the population of Singapore as of September 2007 was 4.68 million, of whom multiracial people, including Chindians and Eurasians, formed 2.4%. In the East Malaysian states of Sabah and Sarawak, there have been many incidents of intermarriage between Chinese and native tribes such as the Murut and Dusun in Sabah, and the Iban and Bisaya in Sarawak. This phenomenon has resulted in a potpourri of cultures in both states where many people claiming to be of native descent have some Chinese blood in them, and many Chinese have native blood in them. The offspring of these mixed marriages are called 'Sino-(name of tribe)', e.g. SinoDusun. Normally, if the father is Chinese, the offspring will adopt Chinese culture and if the father is native then native culture will be adopted, but this is not always the case. These Sino-natives are usually fluent in Malay and English. A smaller number are able to speak Chinese dialects and Mandarin, especially those who have received education in vernacular Chinese schools. [edit] Myanmar / Burma Burmese Muslims are the descendants of Bengalis, Indian Muslims, Arabs, Persians, Turks, Pathans, Chinese Muslims and Malays who settled and intermarried with the local Burmese population and other Burmese ethnic groups such as the Rakhine, Shan, Karen, and Mon.[162][163] The oldest Muslim group in Burma (Myanmar) are the Rohingya people, who are mostly descended from Bengalis who intermarried with the native females in the Rakhine State after the 7th century. When Burma was ruled by the British Indian administration, millions of Indians, mostly Muslim, migrated there. The mixed descendants of Indian males and local Burmese females are called "Zerbadees", often in a pejorative sense implying mixed race. The Panthays, a group of Chinese Muslims descended from West Asians and Central Asians, migrated from China and also intermarried with local Burmese females.[122] In addition, Burma has an estimated 52,000 Anglo-Burmese people, descended from British and Burmese people. Anglo-Burmese people frequently intermarried with Anglo-Indian immigrants, who eventually assimilated into the Anglo-Burmese community. [edit] Philippines A Filipina bride and Nigerian groom walk down the aisle. Historically, admixture has been an ever present and pervading phenomenon in the Philippines. The Philippines were originally settled by Australoid peoples called Negritos which now form the country's aboriginal community. Admixture occurred between this earlier group and the mainstream MalayoPolynesian population.[164] A considerable number of the population in the town of Cainta, Rizal, are descended from Indian soldiers who mutinied against the British Indian Army when the British briefly occupied the Philippines in 1762 to 1763. These Indian soldiers called Sepoy settled in town and intermarried with native females. The Sepoy ancestry of Cainta is very visible today, particularly in Barrio Dayap near Brgy. Sto Nino. Their unique physical characteristics make them distinct from the average Filipinos.

There has been a Chinese presence in the Philippines since the 9th century. However, large-scale migrations of Chinese to the Philippines only started during the Spanish colonial era, when the world market was opened to the Philippines. It is estimated that among Filipinos, 10%-20% have some Chinese ancestry and 1.5% are "full-blooded" Chinese.[165] According to the American anthropologist Dr. H. Otley Beyer, the ancestry of Filipinos is 2% Arab. This dates back to when Arab traders intermarried with the local Malay and Filipina female populations during the pre-Spanish history of the Philippines.[44] Major Arab migration to the Philippines coincided with the spread of Islam in the region. Filipino-Muslim royal families from the Sultanate of Sulu and the Sultanate of Maguindanao claim Arab descent even going as far as claiming direct lineage from the prophet Mohammad.[166] Such intermarriage mostly took place around the Mindanao island area, but the arrival of Spanish Conquistadors to the Philippines abruptly halted the spread of Islam further north into the Philippines. Intermarriage with Spanish people later became more prevalent after the Philippines was colonized by the Spanish Empire. When the Spanish colonized the Philippines, a significant portion of the Filipino population mixed with the Spanish. When the United States took the Philippines from Spain during the Spanish-American War, much intermixing of Americans, both white and black, took place on the island of Luzon where the USA had a Naval Base and Air Force Base even after the USA gave the Philippines independence after World War II. First children and descendants of male Filipino population with Spanish surnames who intermarried with white American female population may be considered Spanish mestizos. The descendants of Filipinos and Europeans are today known as mestizos, following the term used in other former Spanish colonies. Much mixing with the Japanese also took place due to the war rapes of Filipina women during World War II. Today there is an increasing number of Japanese men marrying Filipina woman and fathering children by them whose family remain behind in the Philippines and are financially supported by their Japanese fathers who make regular visits to the Philippines. Today mixed-race marriages have a mixed reaction in the Philippines, most urban centers like Manila and Cebu are more willing to accept interracial marriages than rural areas, plus there is more approval if the Filipina marries out than a Filipino male. i also wanted to make note of something else i have found interesting. many eastern girls have been brainwashed into supported the western cults, and into supporting the western girls who marry eastern guys, even though this is a slap in the face to them. western guys, however, are often far less supportive of these behaviours. they are not keen on western women marrying eastern men, and have a very realistic and well intentioned cautiousness. the only shame is that they don't seem to have enough influence on the western girls to keep them from marrying eastern men or having relations with eastern men. the men who are open minded to eastern cultures unless they have also been brainwashed into following a cult of some kind, especially those such as the 3ho or iskcon cults, they seem to have more sense and respect in these ways. they have a simple, innocent curiousness and desire to learn, and to do good for them. they become an asset to both east and west. there are some western women who have also chosen to learn more about the east, yet respect their own culture anfd eastern culture by not giving into the romantic relations or marrying, yet educating and enjoying the cultures and helping both east and west thrive, but they are far and few between. if we could have more like this, we would be able to praise and honour western women for doing good. it's not the skin colour or even so much the culture itself...rather it's the behaviours they choose to employ and the destructive actions they choose to unleash on the east, whilst giving in to the negative actions of eastern men who are willing to do as

much shame to both cultures as they are. the mirror opposite behaviours on the parts of all ends is stunning and eye opening. Interracial marriage was fairly common in Britain since the 17th century, when the British East India Company began bringing over thousands of Indian scholars, lascars and workers (mostly Bengali and/or Muslim) to Britain. Most married and cohabited with local white British women and girls, due to the absence of Indian women in Britain at the time. This later became an issue, as a magistrate of the London Tower Hamlets area in 1817 expressed disgust at how the local English women and girls in the area were marrying and cohabiting almost exclusively with foreign South Asian lascars. Nevertheless, there were no legal restrictions against 'mixed' marriages in Britain, unlike the restrictions in India.[6] [7][8] This led to mixed race Eurasian (Anglo-Indian) children in Britain, which challenged the British elite efforts to "define them using simple dichotomies of British versus Indian, ruler versus ruled." By the mid-19th century, there were more than 40,000 Indian seamen, diplomats, scholars, soldiers, officials, tourists, businessmen and students arriving in Britain,[9] and by the time World War I began, there were 51,616 Indian lascar seamen residing in Britain.[10] In addition, the British officers and soldiers who had Indian wives and Eurasian children in British India often brought them to Britain in the 19th century.[11] Following World War I, there were more women than men in Britain,[12] and there were increasing numbers of seamen arriving from abroad, mostly from the Indian subcontinent, in addition to smaller numbers from Yemen, Malaysia and China. This led to increased intermarriage and cohabitation with local white females. Some residents grew jealous and concerned about miscegenation and there were several race riots at the time.[13] In the 1920s to 1940s, several writers raised concerns about an increasing 'mixed-breed' population, born mainly from Muslim Asian (mostly South Asian in addition to Arab and Malaysian) fathers and local white mothers, occasionally out of wedlock. They denounced white girls who mixed with Muslim Asian men as 'shameless' and called for a ban on the breeding of 'half-caste' children. Such attempts at imposing anti-miscegenation laws were unsuccessful.[14] As South Asian women began arriving to Britain in large numbers from the 1970s, mostly as family members, intermarriage rates have decreased in the British Asian community, although the size of the community has increased. As of 2006, there were 246,400 'British Mixed-Race' people of white and South Asian descent. from here http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Eurasian_%28mixed_ancestry%29#Vietnam The Burghers are a Eurasian ethnic group, historically from Sri Lanka, consisting for the most part of male-line descendants of European colonists from the 16th to 20th centuries (mostly Portuguese, Dutch, German and British) and local women, with some minorities of Swedish, Norwegian, French and Irish. Today the mother tongue of the Burghers is English, but historically other languages were spoken by the community, in particular the Sri Lanka Indo-Portuguese, a creole language based on Portuguese, Tamil, and Sinhala. Demographics In the census of 1981, the Burgher population of Sri Lanka was enumerated at 39,374 persons, about 0.2% of the total population. The highest concentration of Burghers is in Colombo (0.72%) and Gampaha (0.5%). There are also similar, significant communities in Trincomalee and Batticaloa, with

an estimated population of 20,000. Burgher descendants are spread far and wide into many communities throughout the world. Families with surnames such as Furnandes (a variation of the Portuguese Fernandes), Mirano and Vandort are of Dutch ancestry. [edit] Legal definition The Burghers were legally defined by law in 1883, by the Chief Justice of Ceylon, Sir Richard Ottley, given before the Commission, appointed in connection with the establishment of a legislative council in Ceylon. It was determined that Burghers were defined as those whose father was born in Sri Lanka, with at least one European ancestor on one's direct paternal side, regardless of the ethnic origin of one's mother, or what other ethnic groups may be found on the father's side. Because of this definition, Burghers almost always have European surnames (mostly of Portuguese, Dutch and British origin, but some are of German, French or Russian origin). [edit] History Main articles: Portuguese period in Ceylon and Dutch period in Ceylon Percentage of burghers per district based on 2001 or 1981 (cursive) census.[1] The Portuguese arrived in 1505 in what outsiders then called Ceylon. Since there were no women in the Portuguese navy, the Portuguese sailors married local Sinhalese women and Tamils in Batticaloa. This practice of intermarriage with local people was encouraged by the Portuguese. When a Dutch company VOC took over in 1653, they expelled all the Portuguese. However, they permitted a few stateless persons of Portuguese-Jewish (Marrano) descent, and of mixed PortugueseSinhalese ancestry to stay. Many people having a Portuguese name were a result of forced conversions of local/native people in order to work for the Portuguese. As a result, Burghers with Portuguese names are most likely to be of Sinhalese ancestry, with a very small portion being Portuguese or mixed Portuguese-Sinhalese ancestry. Those of a Portuguese-Jewish background can be traced in various forms or surmised from their surname. Most Burghers of Eurasian descent with Portuguese surnames are of Sinhalese and Dutch, British, German, Swedish, and/or other European descent. During the Dutch period, all Dutch colonial operations were overseen by the VOC, ('Vereenigde OostIndische Compagnie' (VOC) or United East India Company). Virtually all Burghers from this period were employees of the VOC. The VOC employed not only Dutch nationals, but also enlisted men from the Southern Netherlands, the German states, Sweden, Denmark and Austria. It is therefore not unusual to find ancestors from these countries in many Dutch Burgher family trees. The term 'Burgher' comes from the Dutch/German word burger, meaning "citizen" or "town dweller", and is cognate with the French and English word "bourgeois". At this time in Europe, there had emerged a middle class, consisting of people who were neither aristocrats nor serfs. These were the traders and businessmen, who lived in towns and were considered free citizens. In Europe, they were called burghers, and they were encouraged to migrate to the colonies in order to expand business horizons. Dutch Ceylon had two classes of people of European descent: those who were paid by the VOC and were referred to as Company servants (i.e. employees), and those who had migrated of their own free will to carry out their trade. The latter were not referred to as burghers in Ceylon, but rather by their rank, position or standing in Ceylon.

During British colonial rule, they were referred to by the British as 'Dutch Burghers' and formed the European-descended civilian population in Ceylon. To some degree the term of Burgher was used in a derogatory way to divide and conquer the population, as it distinguished between British and other races or positions throughout the island. The 'Dutch Burgher' community took pride in its own achievements and wanted to acknowledge and hold onto their European ancestry. A number of Dutch Burgher Union journals have been created over a period of time, to record family histories. They were not only of Dutch origin but rather incorporated European (Dutch, German, Hungarian, Italian, French, Swedish etc.), United Kingdom, Portuguese Mix, Tamil and Sinhalese lines. When the British took over in 1796, many VOC employees chose to leave. However, a significant number chose to stay, mostly those of mixed descent. Some chose to go to Batavia, which was the headquarters of the VOC. Reportedly about 900 families, both free citizens and United East India Company employees, decided to remain in Ceylon. The British referred to them all as 'Dutch Burghers'. One condition of their being allowed to stay was that they had to sign a Treaty of Capitulation to the British. Many 'Dutch Burghers' can find their ancestors' names in this treaty. At the time of the British conquest, the 900 'Dutch Burgher' families residing in Ceylon were concentrated in Colombo, Galle, Matara and Jaffna. The Burghers were also seen to include members of the Swiss de Meuron Regiment, a mercenary unit employed by the VOC. In diplomatic negotiations in Europe, Count de Meuron pledged allegiance to the British in exchange for back pay and information. This allowed the British to get detailed fortification information and reduce the fighting strength of Ceylon prior to 1796. The de Meuron Regiment refused to fight the Dutch due to relationships forged on the island of Ceylon and South Africa. Post 1796 members of the de Meuron Regiment stayed in Ceylon, whilst the regiment itself went off to fight and distinguish itself in India and later in Canada. [edit] Culture Until the early 20th century, many Burghers spoke English and a form of Portuguese Creole, even those of Dutch descent. Portuguese Creole had been the language of trade and communication with indigenous peoples. It is now only spoken in parts of the coastal towns of Trincomalee and Batticaloa. While much vocabulary is from Portuguese, its grammar is based on that of Tamil and Sinhalese. Burgher culture is a rich mixture of East and West, reflecting their ancestry. They are the most westernised of the ethnic groups in Sri Lanka. Most of them wear western clothing, although it is not uncommon for a man to be seen wearing a sarong, or for a woman to wear a sari. A number of elements in Burgher culture have become part of the cultures of other ethnic groups in Sri Lanka. For example, baila music, which has its origin in the music of 16th century Portugal, has found its way into mainstream popular Sinhalese music. Lacemaking, which began as a domestic pastime of Burgher women, is now a part of Sinhalese culture too. Even certain foods, such as love cake, bol fiado (layered cake), ijzer koekjes, frikkadels (savoury meatballs) and lamprais, have become an integral part of Sri Lankan national cuisine. Burghers are not physically homogeneous. It is possible to have a blond, fair-skinned Burgher, as well as a Burgher with a very dark complexion and black hair, a Burgher with complexion from brown to light brown and black hair, and a Burgher with fair complexion and black hair. Fair-skinned and darkskinned children can even appear as brother and sister in the same family of the same parents. Burghers share a common culture rather than a common ethnicity. While some of the older generations of Burghers tried to dismiss the obvious Asian side of their ancestry, many younger Burghers today highly

value this variety in their heritage. Burghers have a very strong interest in their family histories. Many old Burgher families kept stamboeken (from the Dutch for "Clan Books"). These recorded not only dates of births, marriages and deaths, but also significant events in the history of a family, such as details of moving house, illnesses, school records, and even major family disputes. An extensive, multi-volume stamboek of many family lineages is kept by the Dutch Burgher Union. Individual families often have traditions reflecting their specific family origins. Burghers of Dutch origin sometimes celebrate the Feast of Saint Nicholas in December, and those of Portuguese-Jewish origin observe customs such as the separation time of a woman after childbirth (see Leviticus 12:2-5), the redemption of the Firstborn (Pidyon ha-Ben), and the purification bath (taharah) after a daughters first period (see niddah). Most of the latter Burgher families, being unaware of the Jewish origins of these customs, have given them a Catholic slant. (Catholic and Episcopal churches had services for the churching of women after childbirth from ancient times.) However, some traditions attributed to Judaism can also be explained as borrowings or retention from the Tamil and Sinhalese communities with whom many Burgher families also share ancestry and culture. For example, the purification bath after a girls first period is a common cultural feature of the Tamil and Sinhalese communities of Sri Lanka and neighboring India. Hence its prevalence amongst some Burghers families of Sri Lanka is not necessarily of Jewish origins. Some commentators believe that the Burghers own mixed backgrounds have made their culture more tolerant and open. While inter-communal strife has been a feature of modern Sri Lankan life, some Burghers have worked to maintain good relations with other ethnic groups. However, prejudices within the community as a result of a condescending attitude outside of it, have caused some migrant Burghers to take on the traditions of the country in which they reside and disconnect from the ties to their country afterwords. In 2001 the Burghers established a heritage association, the Burgher Association, with headquarters at No.393, Union Place, Colombo 2 Sri Lanka. [edit] Genealogy The maintenance of stamboeks, or genealogical stem-books, was noted above. Because of known errors and omissions, these should be used as a starting point for researchers. They should seek data by crossreferencing other available material. Today, websites such as Roots Web and Sri Lankan Burgher family genealogies can be accessed electronically. Thus many family genealogies can be looked up. Interestingly, Family#1001 gives the lineage of Don Simon de Liveras, de Sarams and others who assimilated with the Bandaranaike family. Family #1261 is the last entry so far, for the Potger family. Other options, such as the International Ceylon Database [1], provides a comprehensive source whilst respecting privacy of living individuals or family feuds. and the term for this is miscegenation. Amalgamation is a now largely archaic term for the intermarriage and interbreeding of different ethnicities or races. In the English-speaking world, the term was in use into the twentieth century. In the United States, it was partly replaced after 1863 by the term miscegenation. While the term

amalgamation could refer to the interbreeding of different white as well as non-white ethnicities, the term miscegenation referred specifically to the interbreeding of whites and non-whites, especially African Americans[1]. The term amalgamation was derived from metallurgy (see amalgam). It has been linked to the metaphor of the melting pot, which also originated in the US, and which described the cultural assimilation and intermarriage of different ethnicities. The intermarriage of whites with African Americans and, to a lesser degree, other non-whites was until recently in social disfavor in the United States, despite the long history of informal liaisons between white men and nonwhite women during the long years of slavery and after emancipation. Until 1967, interracial marriages were prohibited in many US states through anti-miscegenation laws. http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Miscegenation in some ways the return of these laws, in moderation, would not be so bad. ( such as westerners with westerners, easterners with easterners. http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Anti-miscegenation_laws assimilation is what is going on currently.....westerners do all they can to lure easterners into following THEIR ways, marrying THEIR people, and erasing their culture, even though they pretend they like and want to learn about it. accomodation is what SHOULD happen - westerners learning about other cultures, marrying and keeping to their own, and encouraging others to do the same, whilst still having respect for them. here is a book dealing with Sikh immigrants and their struggle http://books.google.com/books? hl=en&id=zz0HRk65MwUC&dq=assimilation+accommodation&printsec=frontcover&source=web&o ts=Dn1nYCc8G3&sig=cinitzitc1HuI5H9S8t3DmaBe8&sa=X&oi=book_result&resnum=7&ct=result#PPP1,M1 and here is more about the struggle between assimilation and accomodation www.learningandteaching.info/learning/assimacc.htm webspace.ship.edu/cgboer/genpsypiaget.html www.coe.uga.edu/epltt/Piaget.htm www.greenwood.com/catalog/C7825.aspx cat.inist.fr/?aModele=afficheN&cpsidt=14706672 www.ucopenaccess.org/mod/resource/view.php?id=17961 www.allacademic.com/meta/p104221_index.html eric.ed.gov/ERICWebPortal/recordDetail?accno=EJ262009 www.leaonline.com/doi/abs/10.1207/s15327949pac0102 www.ingentaconnect.com/content/bpl/jrir/2000/00000023/00000002/art00002 http://www.google.com/search?hl=en&q=assimilation+accommodation&start=0&sa=N Goris try to force desis into assimilation and into scams - to fit into their culture, which is the dominent culture, nd sadly the gori/western culture is the worldwide dominant culture, and has been for many

many centuries, even though goris pretend to like eastern cultures. some rare desi lok do still follow separation, complete refusal to join and interact with western culture. the best way is accommodation to respect and maybe even inculde some of the few positive aspects of western culture into eastern culture, but to proudly keep our own identity and encourage westerners to do the same, and both cultures to stay with their own people. there was once a 'melting - pot' philosophy that, in theory was a good idea, but when put to actual practice was a disaster. this whole melting pot process was especially prominent in USA, but had also found itself spread to canada, britain, australia, and increasingy many european countries. many eastern countries are starting to follow this - especially India - and it makes our situation only worse. the original idea behind the melting pot philosophy was that many different cultures would come together in one place and live in harmony. this never happened, because domiment cultures force others to conform and follow their ways, and the subservient follow and sacrafice their culture to these ways. the result is a loss of the original culture's morals, values, and entire makeup which made it what it was. it starts small, with immigrants marrying another culture which is very different (such as desi or asian and westerners), and eventually becomes worse and worse until all those peoples are led to believe this is great, and their culture disappear until they have become nothing more than a shell or memory, and have taken on the aspects of that other culture...often especially the negative ones. think of this example...native americans were their own culture for eons. westerners discovered them and forced them into their ways. over time, the western influence caused much shame.....the native americans lost their land, and for the most part, lost their identity. they live on reservations (if they are lucky), set up by the government, often with many social issues - poverty, drug and alcohol abuse, and other issues. the desis, middle eastern, and asian folk who get involved with westerners walk the same path. and those in their native country who embrace the western society they see in the media become entangled in this dangerous and unhealthy web. the threat of losing our cultural identity is only one issue, those who are willing to abandon their culture for this dominant culture also prove that they are weak - unwilling to stand up for their own beliefs and morals, and willing to simply please the dominant culture for a small piece of gratitude in return. the goris who exploit eastern culture, marrying into an asian, desi, or middle eastern family, and forcing themselves on that group, instead of respecting them and getting to learn about their culture, and help them respect their culture, staying with people from their own culture, yet be willing to embrace other cultures and respect them - help to destroy other people - especially when they think they are doing good. both parties are blind to the damage they are causing. western culture promotes these terrible actions, because they feel they benefit from it, being the dominant culture, and the eastern cultures feel they benefit, because they feel they are becoming more accepted and seen in a different view, seemingly gaining respect from the dominant western cultures, when in fact this is a very incorrect and very dangerous assumption. in theory, the melting pot philosophy was a beautiful idea, because it was intended to remove racism and create an open minded culture, welcome to all. in action, however, it created a centrifuge of problems. western culture is the dominant culture in worldwide society, and the practice resulting from the theory of the multicultural mix has resulted in the assimilation of less dominant cultures - in other words, less dominant cultures try to fit in with the dominant culture, and lose their identity and morals in an effort to be accepted as part of the dominant culture. this has created an extremely complex list of issues, and has not erased the racism. instead it has created manipulation and exploitation of less dominant cultures, causing them to lose their identity, and follow things they normally wouldn't - things western culture society often embraces - open sexuality, alcohol/drug abuse, materialism, loss of modesty and increase of ego and negative attention seeking actions, and outright acts of exploitation which the less dominant cultures see as attempts as respect by the dominant culture. the western culture people pretend they like aspects of eastern culture and pretend to fit in with eastern culture people so they can use this as a trick to get them to follow their western ways and follow a destructive, false, and dangerous path of life. this is why we must respect and preserve our own cultures, stay with our own cultures, yet be open minded and respectful to all cultures. The western

girls trick easterners into thinking they respect the culture by dressing in their clothes, pretending to enjoy their food, movies, music, dance, etc. and will even often participate in these things. They do not have the same feeling for the culture as someone who belongs to that culture, even westerners who were born in an eastern culture and may be citizens of that country do not have the same respect or knowledge because it is not part of who they are through generations. there is a distinct feeling for your culture when it really is part of you, than when you pretend to adopt it. certain things have been handed down from genration to generation which msake up who we are. it is important for us not to turn our backs on these things and accept follish and dangerous ways due to immoral excuses. Western people will always be an outsider to eastern culture because they are western. No matter where they are birn, their virtues are different. easterners will always be an outsider to western culture because they have their morals and values which are different. (the biggest being that they are more strict, as the west is more accepting of immorality.) The differences should be seen as both positive and negative. it's good to have differences, and helps us keep our own identities which is very important. but when these identities are infringed upon by those who choose to exploit them, it changes this to a negative thing. and a dangerous thing. these actions lead to the eastern sociery believe the immoral actions of the west are pure, or are honestly intended, when in reality they are not. foods, music, even some tyoes of dress and dance, or even religions can be mixed and create a wonderful thing. however, when you add the change of morals to the mix, this can either ruin or enhance the formula. One thing we must realise is that these people who do these things are not desi, asian or middle eastern, though their parentage may claim so. these people who shame their culture have created their own subculture of shame, ego, lust, and scum. this subculture doesn't even deserve a name, but it exists with full colour. the people who shame our culture, and those they shame it with belong to this land of trash, land of no morals, land of dirtiness, shame, and no worth. they claw at others, and suck in other fools, because this is what they do - this is their culture's ideas of morals, and they are nothing more than belching, wart infested leeches who poison the souls of others. http://family.jrank.org/pages/930/Interracial-Marriage-Difficulties-in-Interracial-Marriages.html Studies have indicated that, in general, Caucasians tend to disapprove of interracial marriages, from the comments My parents are in a biracial marriage and it has been "HELL". It has been problem after Problem. I've felt for so long depressed, angry, displaced and disassociated. My parents were complacent about the impact their mixed marriage would have on them in the long term or on their child me, now a adult. My Father is even stating 'if he had of known what it was going to be like in a mix marriage, he would never have done it' and I wish they had of not too. The reason he did not divorce was because of me and the fact he did not believe in divorce and we have financial issues. Thus we just ended up torturing each other as result. Hence I learnt just because one is in a long term relationship doesn't mean it is positive or even happy. The thing is at the begining of their relationship they were all smiles and in love. But later turned nasty because of miscommunication, intimidation, threats, domination, cultural belief clashes & abuse etc... all coming from one area, mix marriage. the interesting thing our problems are not societal related and none of us are getting racist attacks, this is all on the inside. So I hope you can see why I'm now Anti-Mix Marriage and so is my Father and unfortunately I've found out I'm not the only one that has been suffering from a rotten biracial family relationship eithier. My cousin after his Father died ended up being treated terribly by his Philipino stepmother because he behaved as a Australian does and not like a typical little Philipino Boy and I now of another person a Chinese women who works for David Jones divorsed resently and only married because she wanted Citizenship and a White Child.

(this was from the site, not by us) Interracial marriages are for weak specimens and weak specimens only. You know I'm right! And remember don't forget what you will regret! Stick to your own goddamn race and be proud of who you are and not who you wannnabe. nice story from the siteVery interesting discussion. Aside from not2nitemeyeluv, who is a brain dead miserable excuse of a human being. It's not surprising to find a racist posting at a site like this. It's their way of getting their rocks off. Back on the topic. I am white man married to a Chinese woman. I've been married before to white women and my wife has been married to a Chinese man. We are happier now than at any time in our lives. This works great for us. It's enjoyable to learn about each others history and culture. It's the easiest, best relationship I've ever been in and I say it's that way BECAUSE it's a mixed marriage. It's certainly not a drawback. Our families are fine with the relationship though I wouldn't care if they did have issues. It's me and her. We don't have kids so I can't address that aspect. We are happy with each other, treat each other with respect and care for each other. We have never in our 10 years together found any examples of racism directed at either of us, here in America or when we travel to her home in China. It's all good. I've been married to a wonderful, funny, cute, talented Japanese (not American born) lady for 35 years. I wouldn't change a thing, except to try even harder to be what she deserves. It's the best thing I ever did. I can't imagine my life being different, or not having our kids. Marriage is hard. Mixed cultures and languages are hard, too. It's us against the world, or the world will win. It hasn't, and it won't. http://family.jrank.org/pages/930/Interracial-Marriage-Difficulties-in-Interracial-Marriages.html here's a slut that's full of shit Ang I was naieve to think such ignorance is not as rampant as it seems to be. i'm sure it's a combination of my upbringing and the very multicultural place that i live, but i was raised to be colour blinfd. Not in the sense that other people's cultures and backgrounds don't matter, they do and have strongly enriched my life. but in the sense that the person and their qualities and values impact whether or not we will have a relationship< friends or otherwise, and skin colour has nothing to do with it. my boyfriend of three years has an indian backgroud, and i am caucasian. i was appauled, then almost amused with the ridiculousness that people that engage in interracial relationships are self hating. i am a confident succesful woman, and my boyfriend and i are both grounded stable people, love eachother and our different backgrounds definitely enrich our bond rather than tear us apart. it can be more difficult when family does not quite get it, but i can tell you right now his parents prefer me over an indian girl that is just after money, or lazy, or wouldnt take care of their son as he does her. race has such a fraction of relevance, and people who dont see that are losing out. also, one of my best freinds is chinese/german,

and people never know if he is greek, mexican or italian, but he is not an angry or displaced feeling person because his parents have raised him in a way that he need not be ashamed for any reason. i could go on and on, for those of you who dont realize what day and age you are living in, i feel sorry for you, you should branch out, ditch the fear of the unknown because you are missing so much by saving so much room for hate in your heart. each person has their challenges and would, due to their personalities and resiliance, not because of what shade of skin they have. and another white slut I have been married to my asian husband for nearly two years.We were very much in love.After a year i fell pregnant.His visa was also due to expire and of course we married in haste.I love my husband very very much but god life is hard some times.I went on and had a beautiful little girl.We are very proud. Problems for me started almost immediatly of meeting my husband, he was very jealous and he hated me talking to any men.At first i thought oh he must love me very much but reality was he became nasty.Our arguments became frequent he was always abusive verbally nasty to me.I cant tell you how many times i have told him i am leaving but of course we would make up and everything would be fine.Then of course after the baby we would argue about religion, i am christian he was then a non practising muslim.But obviously muslim isnt a religion only its a lifestyle after all he is from pakistan and lived the life as strict muslim.So we began arguing about intentions for our girl.He would always be disrespectful about christain this christian that and expect me to adhere to his muslim ideas.I am not one to back down so we would speand alot of our time not talking to each other After a while we would have to talk and we would be ok for a week or so then another argument occur.Now i know 100% he hates britain living here and wants to go back to pakistan but i would never live there.so now the content of arguments are about the custody of our child and that he will take her.Its awful.i hate my life.many times i want to kill myself but i cant do it for i know my girl will be going to live in pak.I do not want that, his family is poor. i speak from my experience when i say please get to knpw someone properly before you decide to marry them.Especially asian men, their quran especially drills into them that men are superior.I f you want to miserable like me then ignore my advice.I am not saying every asian guy is like this but they are sheep in wolfs clothing and when they get their claws into you the niceties ware off and you are left miserable.Asian man will never back down no matter how much you are strong.I was strong, i am broken now. another dumb slut I'm a white woman married to a Chinese-born man, and we have a very happy marriage. We have two great young children and really, I consider us the perfect family. Of course we have the occasional marital problem, but it has nothing to do with race... it's about two people trying to get along for life. It's naturally human. http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Anti-miscegenation_laws#Asia China There have been various periods in the history of China where large numbers of Arabs, Persians and Turks from the "Western Regions" (Central Asia and West Asia) migrated to China, beginning with the arrival of Islam during the Tang Dynasty in the 7th century. Due to the majority of these immigrants being male, they often intermarried with local Han Chinese females. Laws and policies which

discouraged miscegenation were issued, including an 836 AD decree forbidding Chinese to have relations with other peoples such as Iranians, Arabs, Indians, Malays, Sumatrans, and so on.[20] Race riots and massacres resulting in the deaths of several thousand Muslim merchants like Arabs and Persians in Hangzhou occurred. These laws were later relaxed during the Song Dynasty, which allowed third-generation immigrants with official titles to intermarry with Chinese imperial princesses. Immigration to China increased under the Mongol Empire, when large numbers of West and Central Asians were brought over to help govern Yuan China in the 13th century. Intermarriage was later encouraged during the Ming Dynasty.[21] By the 14th century, the total population of Muslims in China had grown to 4 million.[22] After Mongol rule had been overthrown by the Ming Dynasty in 1368, this led to a violent Chinese backlash against West and Central Asians. In order to contain the violence, the Ming administration instituted a pro-miscegenation policy where all West and Central Asian males were required to intermarry with native Chinese females, hence assimilating them into the local population. Their descendants are today known as the Hui people.[21] [edit]British India and independent India As British females began arriving to British India in large numbers around the early to mid-19th century, miscegenation became increasingly common. Relations between Indian men and British women became despised after the events of the Indian Rebellion of 1857, known as "India's First War of Independence" to the Indians and as the "Sepoy Mutiny" to the British, where Indian sepoys rebelled against the British East India Company. While incidents of war rape committed by Indian rebels against English women and girls occurred during the rebellion, this was exaggerated to great effect by the British media in order to justify vicious reprisals in the short run and continued British colonialism in the Indian subcontinent in the long run.[23] Despite the questionable authenticity of many colonial accounts regarding the rebellion, the stereotype of the Indian "dark-skinned rapist" occurred frequently in English literature of the late 19th and early 20th centuries. The idea of protecting English "female chastity" from the "lustful Indian male" had a significant influence on the policies of the British Raj. However, while widespread prejudice, and the fear of professional and personal ruin prevented significant numbers from inter-marrying, there were no formal laws prohibiting marriage between Britons and Indians in British-ruled India.[citation needed] India's Constitution refers to the children of an Indian father and European mother as Indian but the children of a European father and Indian mother as "Anglo-Indian".[24] [edit]Malaysia There is no formal statistics in Malaysia of mixed-marriages or of their offsprings. There are many racial groups in Malaysia, namely, the Malays, the Chinese, the Indians, the Dayaks, and a number of other smaller groups and there is no law prohibiting inter-ethnic marriages per se. The offsprings of any inter-ethnic marriages are classified according to the ethnic identity of the father. The Muslims, the majority of whom are ethnic Malays, are required by Shariah to marry only Muslims. As a result those intending to marry a Muslim are required to convert to Islam. Islam in Malaysia is a state religion and conversion subjects the individual to Shariah law, which incidentally makes it a crime to apostasize further. The offsprings of such unions are automatically Muslims and their ethnicity may be classified as Malays and so avail themselves to the privileges that being a Malay in Malaysia comes with. The Malays have conceptualized this as "masuk Melayu". This is often seen in certain quarters as a conflict with the Constitutional provision guaranteeing freedom of religion but it has not stopped many nonMalays from marrying Malays. Among other races, the only hindrance to inter-racial marriages is not legal but rather cultural. Despite the fact that Malaysian politics is aligned along racial lines, the general climate of modern Malaysia is such that inter-racial marriage is a growing trend. http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Mischling here's more info about what makes this so shameful (however, make note to take this from a non

religious angle, as we are not christian and do not favour any one religion over another, and it's fair to mention that this article is written with heavily christian references. we remain neutral, and may not agree with the religious aspects of the article, but do agree that there is in fact much common sense behind it, and we post from all religions to be fair to all equally. also, the people who work to contribute to this blog are from mixed backgrounds, some are mixed race, some are not, and we have different religions going on. all agree with what is posted.) http://in.news.yahoo.com/us-woman-pushed-indian-man-front-train-sept-042100142.html US woman pushed Indian man in front of train 'to take Sept 11 revenge' By ANI | ANI Mon 31 Dec, 2012 Share London, Dec 31 (ANI): A US, woman, who has been charged in the death of an Indian man pushed in front of a New York subway train, has said that it was an act of revenge for the September 11 terrorist attacks. Erika Menendez, 31, was charged with second-degree murder as a hate crime after admitting to investigators that she pushed Sunando Sen, 46, a Hindu, in front of the train in Sunnyside on Thursday. Earlier, the woman has told the US police that she shoved the Indian man to his death because she has hated Muslims since September 11. According to the Telegraph, prosecutors said that the woman has been charged with murder as a hate crime. Menendez, 31, could face 25 years to life in prison if convicted. http://davidbenariel.wordpress.com/2008/04/30/the-sin-of-interracial-marriage/ http://wrightjeremiah.blogspot.com/2008/04/sin-of-interracial-marriage.html HIGHLIGHTS FROM THE SIN OF INTERRACIAL MARRIAGE by Herbert W Armstrong May 1982 [following on from his remarks against interracial marriages in sermons at Pasadena about June 1978, HWA presented this sermon in 1982] Many members want to be part of this world, but our chance of salvation is now because judgement is upon the House of God now. The world will get its chance later and will have to give account before the judgement seat of Christ. This subject is causing a lot of trouble. Today I would like to speak on what may be the very next attack on the Church by Satan (ie preventing interracial marriages from taking place in the Church). Then again, Satan is going to use interracial marriage as the next attack upon Gods Church.

If we want to be with God, get on his side. Or get on Satans side and go into the lake of fire with regard to this question. I will not compromise one millionth of an inch on social trends of interracial marriage. Some say we must have racial balance in this world we will not go the way of Satan! But I say that for me and my family, we shall serve the eternal God (in relation to interracial marriages). [AUDIENCE CLAPS LOUDLY IN SUPPORT- how many would today?] Today is like the days of Noah the same things are bringing an end to this world. HWA said that three evils brought about the end of the world of Noahs day: 1. wrong foods (including gluttony) 2. wrong drink (including alcoholism) 3. wrong marriages (including interracial marriages) therefore God destroyed that world. HWA uses pure logic, deductive reasoning and wisdom he indeed had the spirit of a sound mind. Why do black men marry white women and visa versa, but few white men marry black women and visa versa? This world say that the cause of racial problems is segregation, when in fact the opposite is the case. The Supreme Court of the USA, without Gods wisdom, but has human wisdom, wants to mix the races. That Court has take to itself the notion of good and evil, but God separated the races (Deut. 32). Integration is the way of Satan. I know Satan is going to bring it up and I am going to beat him to the punch. Genesis 5 shows that family is important in Genesis. Races are families grown large. Genesis 11 shows that that they wanted integration, not separation. after their families = after their races. Noahs righteousness was in his ancestry and not in himself but in his strain, for none are perfectly righteous. Noah was white. Noahs family remained intact as God had decreed they should. The Bible uses the word family instead of the word race, but means the same thing in Genesis.

The genealogy of Abram was the same as Noah. The reason for the separation of married couples in Ezra and Nehemiah is because of race and not religion. Similarly Abram did not want his descendants to intermarry. Eg family of Egypt = race. AC was going so far over to Satans way that we had an interracial marriage here [in late 1970s]. God is not in favour of interracial marriage and he refers to Ezra 10:3. After he ends there is resounding applause. Here is the complete sermon transcript: THE SIN OF INTERRACIAL MARRIAGE from the comments: (putting this first, because this is how it's best summed up) david, Im south-east asian, and I actually respect your views. I would never marry out of my race, because of the huge cultural differences it would only confuse any children that i have out of that marriage. I dont think it is as religious as it is common sense. This script is irrefutably and unequivocally correct in its renderings. Interracial relationships are sin, and expecially grievous sin. Many will by their very nature conclude that this statement proceeds from ingorance or racism, though this is not so. All races are equal and precious in Gods site and we are commanded to love and commune with our foreign raced brothers and sisters in Christ, this is fact. However, to bind together that which is not to be bound, that is the distinctly ordered creatures under Gods creation is horrifically immoral and unethical. As a Roman Catholic, I proceed from a 2,000 organic anthology of authentic Christian Scriptural, Traditional, and Magisterial prohibition of such relations, and indeed many congragations and organizations within the Roman Church condone and even sanction such relations, guising them under the Sacrament Of Holy Matrimony. They all do so using an overly benign and erroneous interpretation of Official Church Teachings. Condemnation of such relationships is explicitly laid-forth throughout the Holy Scriptures, and these prohibitions are supported by the biological and psychological sciences. Natural science testifies that the different racial groupings are essentially at biological difference to one another, and the psychology profession is testimony to the damaging affects interracial relations have on society, those who engage in them, and even more profoundly those that are interracially mixed. Therefore, interracial relationships and mixed procreation are to be seen nothing more than as additional results of the fall of man from the Christian point of view. Those that are interracially admixtured are called to the full witness of Christian Faith, but at the caution of showing any such pride or patriotism with regards to their spiritally and biologically intrinsically disordered interracial condition. George, why are you in denial? God most certainly divided the races, He segregated the sons of Adam,

to preserve the races not adulterate them (genocide). Why do you hate our God-given differences and seek to destroy them? Why dont you appreciate our diversity? Deuteronomy 32:8 8 When the Most High divided their inheritance to the nations, When He separated the sons of Adam [even though we're all family], He set the boundaries of the peoples According to the number of the children of Israel [everything centers around Israel, nationally, internationally]. Acts 17:26 26 And [although] He [God] has made from one blood every nation of men to dwell on all the face of the earth [we're all human] [yet He] has determined their preappointed times and the boundaries of their dwellings By your faulty human reasoning, children born out of wedlock, to rape victims and due to incestuous relationships are because God wants it! Just because God permits something doesnt mean He approves of it. Gods Word and common sense forbids the sin of interracial marriage. http://wrightjeremiah.blogspot.com/2008/05/why-america-is-cursed-by-hwa.html WHY AMERICA IS CURSED! BY HWA Good News November 1957, Vol. VI, Number 11 Regarding other races and nationalities, Thou shalt make no covenant with them neither shalt thou make marriages with them (Deut. 7:2-3). America made herself the ally of godless, heathen Russia. America is falling victim today to the Communist propaganda of MIXING THE RACES, contrary to Gods commands! God Himself scattered the races at the tower of Babel. God decreed they shall remain SEGREGATED until the end of this world, and the coming of Christ. Communism stands for amalgamation of the races, until there will be but one race again. They disseminate this propaganda among the Negroes of America. Mrs. Eleanor Roosevelt has fallen under this delusion,and other public leaders have started a trend in America which makes segregation, which GOD COMMANDS, appear to be sinful and evil, and which makes a mixing of races, which GOD CONDEMNS, appear to be Christian and good! This has nothing to do with race superiority or racial DISCRIMINATION. God condemns racial discrimination, but COMMANDS racial segregation. Theres a vast difference! Today people confuse the two as though they were the same! http://www.davidbenariel.org Those who rightly divide the Word of truth, know and understand that Moab is of the same racial stock as the descendants of Abraham, since Moabites are descendants of his nephew Lot. The Midianites are also white not black or Asian. The famous statement in Galatians, for those who dont twist it, is clear about our SPIRITUAL potential not our physical conditions. Common sense instructs folks

dont lose their gender or ethnicity due to some spiritual conversion! Gods Word condemns the practice of adultery whether interracial folly or extramarital affairs. How sad that an alleged white woman hates her own race so much she wants it adulterated, destroyed, despising God-given diversity and true Christianity, considering herself enlightened but very backwards as in the days of Noah. It is the white race that is cursed with such treacherous souls more than any other, because Satan hates the white race more than all the others. Thankfully, despite the sinners who would destroy our race, who are useful idiots for Satan, we will survive by the grace of God. Your poisonous idolatrous thoughts (Isaiah 55:7-9), your self-righteous sneer, makes you look foolish to educated Bible believers who know and believe the Bible and history. Our Great Creator God, the One who made our single common ancestor (Adam), testifies in His Divine Revelation to mankind: Deuteronomy 32:8 8 When the Most High divided their inheritance to the nations, When He separated the sons of Adam [even though we're all family], He set the boundaries of the peoples According to the number of the children of Israel [everything centers around Israel, nationally, internationally]. Acts 17:26 26 And [although] He [God] has made from one blood every nation of men to dwell on all the face of the earth [we're all human] [yet He] has determined their preappointed times and the boundaries of their dwellings You are nobody to disagree with our Maker. Merely so much dust. However, if you repent you can ultimately become divine and transcend your flesh and become born again at the resurrection. You dont have to wander aimlessly in your barren bewilderment. Wont you let the truth set you free and humbly ask Yeshua to offer you rest from your meaningless migration? (Typified by the seventh day Sabbath). Our great Creator God can detoxify your heart and heal your troubled mind. After all, a mind is a terrible thing to waste. Spell-check is also available to help you (or simply proofread your own post). Good for that common sense official in Louisiana! At least he respects our God-given differences and doesnt want to sanction adulterating of any race. Those who think theyre so enlightened, up to date with the times, with the promotion or acceptance of the sin of interracial marriage, have gone back to the future as in the days of Noah and the days of Sodom and Gomorrah. Nothing new under the sun. Nothing happened to the whole free will thing. God gave us free will that doesnt mean He approves of us using it for all the wrong purposes. He tells us right and wrong and watches to see what we do with such knowledge, such revelation.

God permits folks to sin even the sin of interracial marriage. You have the will to marry whomever you will and to suffer the consequences if its going against His Word and Will. Dutch the hate and intolerance is found among those who would destroy our God-given diversity and bad mouth those who seek to preserve it. God also permitted incest for awhile, do you promote it as well as race-mixing? The Scriptures clearly condemn race-mixing, reveals God segregated the nations and peoples, commands us to not commit adultery (adulterate, mix, weaken), to honor our parents (ethnic heritage), to not make an idol out of our feelings and bastard beliefs, to not covet what He has forbidden (race-mixing), were not to murder (race-mixing destroys both races involved), etc. Deuteronomy 32:8 8 When the Most High divided their inheritance to the nations, When He separated the sons of Adam [even though we're all family], He set the boundaries of the peoples According to the number of the children of Israel. Acts 17:26 26 And [although] He [God] has made from one blood every nation of men to dwell on all the face of the earth [we're all human] [yet He] has determined their preappointed times and the boundaries of their dwellings FATHER GOD KNOWS BEST, dont you agree? you can justify in your mind anything you want however race mixing is wrong on judgement day you will know how wrong and evil this sin is. This was told to me, ironically enough by an inbred idiot asshole who had done some other immoral things (and don't worry - is not a friend) - however, what he said in this reguard is so very true. 'Indian women r far better than goris. The Indian NRI after getting the citizenship they come to India to marry Indian women. Those who marry goris have a magburi to get the citizenship so they marry them. If other than that they are the biggest fools they can waste their life.' On this note, he *was* correct. In addition, when Desi, Middle Eastern, and Asian people come to the west and settle, or allow themselves to become too controlled by western culture - whether they leave their homeland or not, or even worse when they are born abroad, their behaviours and morals change, or if born abroad, are different from those in their home culture. They have a more streetwise attitude they become more self absorbed, they follow the lax morals of the west, they lose control of respect for them self and others. The goris happilly capitalize on this, because those who have given themself to these behaviours are willing to follow the western ways, forget the morals and behaviours of their culture, and join in the diseased pool of immorality that the west provides. Those who are most strict in their home culture's roots are polite, modest and conscientious about how they dress and act, how they affect others, and the decisions they make. They know to stay frpm temptations that might be immoral or might cause immorality to occur, such as avoiding pornography, sticking to people of their own culture with similar morals, etc. These people make the best impact on society because their simple

efforts to do the right things help others live better. The choice to do the right actions from the get - go helps others in many ways. For one thing, they are good role models. Second, the simple fact is that whether we think or like it or not, our actions affect everyone else. We are a collective group of people in one large place with many subgroups which make up our cultures, countries, etc. How we treat ourselves and others affects not only our self but everyone else around us. Those who watch pornography help fuel the immoral acts of lust, help fuel the lifestyles of those who make pornography - lives of drug abuse, sometimes physical and/or sexual abuse, exploitation, and even physical diseases such as AIDS and sexually transmitted diseases. They also help fuel the idea that this kind of lack of respect for one's body or soul, or that of others is acceptable. They make excuses such as 'it's natural for a male to do this', or 'i'm adult enough to watch this'. similarly, when they have romantic or sexual feelings for someone who is not their life partner, they fuel this form of exploitation, and allow their souls to be given to lust. it's the moral equivalent of losing your virginity, even if you may not have done so physically. Actions such as having thoughts about people who are not your life partner, watching pornography, or physically having sex acts - even things such as masturbation over someone who is not your life partner - all show that you are not mature enough to commit yourself to one person. Unfortunately, in the west, this concept is accepted and even encouraged. Eastern men are happy to marry women who have had sex and even have children from other partners, they often do not mind if the girl they marry publicly shows off her body or seeks attention and acceptance from others. They are blind to the game she is playing with him to fulfill negative attention seeking such as trying to fulfill psychotic fantasies of exotic people or places so as to escape real issues that they may need to face. Western girls are taught that it's acceptable to not be yourself. They try to be loved by society by being anyone else they can and trying to follow others. They easily give their bodies for sex with multiple partners, pretend to be something they are not, pretend to believe things that in reality they don't so they can gain fame and acceptance, and in return do many immoral things. As mentioned before, they will have sex with many partners, sometimes bearing children by these partners, and then raising their child in the same immoral manner they themselves live. Or, worse yet, they dump newborns into trash bags or toilets. The eastern boys don't mind this when they marry these people. When the behaviour of the easterner changes, it may copy or accept some of these noted actions, they become cocky and self centered, they feel the need to follow the western dress showing off body parts that would be seen as vulgar in their home culture. They become more materially obssessed, and learn to talk street tough and use ebonics and current slang so as to seem cool. They lose their identity get sucked into the whole 'trying to be someone else' game. They pass this on, and it gets back to the home culture, where it starts to be accepted and seen as cool. These people will then start doing the immoral acts in the home culture, sometimes going as far as to look for the westerners because they are mislead to believe in the dangerous and false illusion that the western girls are better. They start to watch pornography, share it with friends and spread this, they may start to copy the sexual habits of the west, they begin to have the same materialistic and self centered habits of the west. They may seem to think that westerners who pretend to be religious are better than those in their own culture, and will speak highly of them and herald them without reasearching deeply how these people are doing intense shame and disrespect to their homeland. Worse yet, sometimes they simply don't care. This all leads to a very distructive path. By simply having contact with these people, or even worse, by encouraging the western girls to be with easterners or worse still flirting/having a relationship with these people or doing these acts yourself, you help contribute to this spread of immorality and destruction of your culture. If you don't care, this makes it even worse still. It will unite all into one culture eventually, but it will be a culture of diseased, moral less beasts, with no restraint, no control no respect. In the end it leads to the self destruction of all. This is something that we cannot allow to happen. It has come to my attention on many occasions that there is a general misconception of the promises that western culture will bring, if you are an easterner and decide to emigrate. First, i will say that there

are many sucess stories, but they come at a price. It's only natural that when you leave your land, you adapt to the ways of the new land, but one problem with this is that especially for eastern people, your attidue changes. In the east, your family is used to the attitudes of people like you - they may be friendly, strict, and very bound to their culture. you leave your land, and it seems you left many of those traits behind in the old land. often you join with the ills of western society, becoming more materialistic as you are tempted left and right, might find lustful actions such as porgorgaphy and open sex, which is more accepted in the west, become greedy, and think of yourself before others, and become relaxed in moral areas. sadly, this is creeping into east culture even without moving because the western influence is being welcomed more than ever, and is having a greater impact now more than ever, which much more damage than ever. One issue i hear alot is that if you go to a western country, especially usa, canada, uk, australia, or europe, that you will have a better life and much cuess. this may be possible, but often with many bad side effects. another big issue nis that many easterners think if you marry a westerner that you will automatically has your ticket punched for sucess in your new country. eastern men are often most wanting to marry western girls...not girls from their culture who are citizens in that country...but rather, girls of western culture heritage who are happily willing to open their arms to them because they have intentions of full filling dangerous, materialistic, phychotic fantasies of exotic eastern culture, and because they know that it takes little effort to land these men and string them along for attention and money. these girls have usually done things that girls in the home country of the victim would nevr have been allowed, and are often tempted to enjoy this 'forbidden fruit', thinking it will gain them points in society as well. sometimes, they actually think they are in love, and fool others into thinking they are in love, and do not realise that if the girl really had respect for the boys, they'd try to push them to stick to girls of their own culture, so as to preserve and keep their morals and heritage strong. this should come as a warning sign right away. others think that using a marriage based application to obtain a greencard, they can marry, pretend they have a relationship, pay off the westerner, and both come away happy, after divorcing to both obtain their goals. this is dangerous and very bad on both moral and law - related counts. first off, one should never use the sacred institution of marriage to obtain anything...not even citizenship. marriage is meant as a permanent mark of a respectful bond built between two people who have wroked hard to guide, inspire, and make the lives better of each other and those around them. it should never be used as a pawn, or materialistic vehicle of any sort. second...contrary to the beliefs they are taught, it's not that easy. You don't just marry a citizen and magically get your citizenship as well...esepcially in a post 911 era. In usa, you have to go through an interview process to make sure your marriage is legitimate. It can be faked, or even one side thinking they are genuine, whilst the other pretends so that they cain their alternate desire. it's a common known but unfortunately not seen as illegal issue that many western girls will have relationships or marry whoever is favoured for governmental benifits of one kind or another. western boys will do this too, but usually with western girls. western boys who marry eastern girls have less of a risk of posing such threats of scammery. more eastern girls usually marry from their own culture when they come to a new country as opposed to eastern boys. more eastern girls are looking for the comfort and morals of the society they are used to, whilst the eastern boys hunger for the dangerous and seemingly exciting thrills from tempation by wetsern girls who wether they try to act pure and righteous or wether they let their trashy reality show. the saddest part is that the eastern boys often don't care, and welcome in the immorality that western girls will bring. Both the western cultures and eastern cultures lose out, and create more problems by the intentions made by either party. This is soemthing that needs to stop. This is a little note to you western girls. Because you are so caught up in the excitement of something that seems new and different, exotic, and fun. You enjoy playing dress - up, you enjoy the south asian, asian, or middle eastern boy telling you how cute and wonderful you look, and being proud to show you off like some fancy new ring or watch on their arms. Did you ever realise what that is about? First

off, dating a western girl is a trend.....in western culture, to have a man who is of another race or culture is a trend, and you think you look cool. For these boys, the trend is the same. You're an object to show off, they give you attention and gifts and things because they know it will make you happy, and they will continue to look cool to other fools. You love the easy attention, the gifts, the money, the sex, and that you appear to have moved up in society with an easy meal ticket. it's wide known, and and an age old fact that pale skin is an obsession with south asian culture - it's considered an asset if you have fair skin, and there are many skin lighteners on the market. just as in western culture tanning booths are so popular, in eastern culture, most especially south asia - skin lightening is the equivalent. Modernization had caused changes in eastern culture, and they have become more accepting and embracing of the worst aspects of western culture. Also, whatever the trends of western culture have been observed and embraced by eastern culture, and if it's seen as cool to have a white girl, spanish or black girl because they are more street wise, and open in all the wrong ways, it's not because you really touch their soul and make the world spin for them. you are an object of rebellion for them. they feel more able to fit in with a changing society because of you. they are helping to ruin their culture's morals, they are helping to shame their families, they are abandoning their own culture's women who then have to also continue in this viscious cycle to keep their men by diminishing their morals so they can stay in the loop. Also, especially if your desi, middle eastern, or asian guy is an immigrant, you are an easy source of a greencard, and they will pretend to love you and give you the world if it means they won't face deportation. Sometimes, they face very hard lives in their home countries, or they can benefit their families in an easy way by getting a western girl who is probably unaware of their intentions, or who does know but doesn't care because she really believes he loves her and that she can get the goods out of it. Also, there is a big issue of feoticide - many desi girls are still seen as expandible, and less important than boys, and are still killed as infants or before birth in some areas. The men who then go on to marry western girls because they have a jaded view of the west, and make a further insult to the desi girls, making them seem even more useless to society's mind. here is an example 70% Pakistanis not consulted before marriages ISLAMABAD: A survey conducted in the Punjab and NWFP found that around 70 percent of married respondents were not consulted in choosing their life partners. The British High Commission and the Society for Change (SACH), a civil society organization conducted the survey. Of 1,054 people contacted for the survey in Gujar Khan, Mirpur, Dina, Nowshera, Sohawa, Kotli, Jhelum, Islamgarh, Dodyal and Gujrat, around 70 percent said their elders had not consulted them before arranging their marriage and 30 percent replied otherwise. Interestingly, 69 percent of the respondents were married within their own families. Around 55 percent of married people said that parents have the full right to decide their childrens marriages and 30.3 percent said they were married to persons within their castes. The survey found that 28 percent of girls and boys were willing to marry persons of the same religion or sect while 61 percent said they wanted to marry within their castes. Sixty-one percent of the respondents said their parents had arranged their marriages within the family because of fear of division of assets and land. this not ony goes for pakistan but india as well. http://www.pakistanlink.com/entertainment.htm Many western girls either don't realise this, don't feel tit has any connection to them or any affect on them, or just plainly don't care. This is no sign for a healthy relationship. Both you and he are exploiting each other and making a bigger mess of society. You do no one any good, and your

happiness is only temporary - as well as being materialistic. Your happiness comes with a price and is only superficial. it's an illusion. Another issue is, no matter how you try to pretend you like the culture, unless you are of mixed race, and part of your mix heritage includes that culture, you can learn about it to your heart's content, but it is not your culture. even westerners who are born in such countries have differences. These cultures are so vastly different than yours, no matter what excuses you or they try to put up to say otherwise, and they belong with people who understand them in their language, in their culture's beliefs, morals, etc. and must continue to respect and improve their own culture. there is no reason that you can't learn about their culture, or they about yours, but instead of getting into a romantic relationship, the best love you can show is to encourage them to find someone of their own culture and help them have a respectful relationship with that person instead. Next time a desi, middle eastern, or asian boy tries to propose to you, reject him, and help him find someone from his own culture, with a respectful relationship. despite your feelings, you will be helping improve the situation by far. you will do much better in the end, and it will make better for everyone - yourself included. i was introduced by the works of this man by a friend of mine en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Ren_Gunon He's an author that wrote interesting things, among others an historical reconstruction of the spreading of "theosophism", and many essays on the religious sectarism in India, in particular about the castes that seem to belong to various parts of eastern society, when in reality they belong to protestantism, or to the mentality of indians with a western mind-shape. my friend (who is a westerner) also went on to add about our dear freaky psycho nut kelly culp What I read about Kelly, with her religious sincretism, remind me the characters of whom Gunon speaks so often. http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Sham_marriage A sham marriage or fake marriage is a marriage of convenience entered into with the intent of deceiving public officials or society about its purpose. Arranging or entering into such a marriage to deceive public officials is itself a separate violation of the law of some countries. While referred to as a "sham" or "fake" because of its motivation, the union itself is still legally valid if it conformed to the formal legal requirements for marriage. After a period, a couple often divorces if the marriage is no longer useful. Since the introduction of stricter modern immigration laws in First World countries, sham marriages have become a common method to allow a foreigner to live, and possibly gain citizenship, in the more desirable country of the spouse. The couple marries with knowledge that the marriage is solely for the purpose of obtaining the favorable immigration status. This is frequently arranged as a business transaction, and occurs more commonly with foreigners already in the country. The United States has a penalty of a $250,000 fine and five-year prison sentence for such arrangements. In Ireland in August 2010, it was highlighted that sham marriages account for one in six of all marriages, with Pakistani nationals leading attempts to obtain, by fraudulent means, residency status in the European Union and circumventing immigration rules.

I really can't stand when people try to start an argument with you, especially people you don't know, and they try to make them self sound so incredibly informed, but in reality are ignorant sons of bitches who just want to flap their and display their feathers, making their own ego look good. they are really some of the most foolish. i had an argument with a western girl over west vs. east culture. She used a couple western stereotypes of eastern culture, especially the kama sutra, as an example of eastern views of open sexuality. the west seems to it ingrained in it collective mind that we came up with kama sutra so right away we are sexually open and are on the same level as the playboy mention and all that shit. same with the whole western culture's idea of eastern spirituality. every time i hear westerners who try to sound spiritual.....talking about balancing their chakras and yoga and all that...it makes me want to puke. their crap has even been parodied in movies and tv so many times, yet they don't get the hint. so, despite our kama sutra.......it is still illegal in some places in india to kiss or hug the opposite sex in public, and it's done for good reason. I also will not say that dirty things don't exist in eastern culture, because they do. but in general we don't accept it as the west does. in eastern culture, especially india and middle east, if you lose your virginity before marriage, and especially if you parent a child before marriage or with sum1 who is not your spouse, it is still not accepted very well. in the west, mothers and daughters date each other's boyfriends, the overwhelming greater number of the population has sex before marriage, with multiple partners, producing children. the children are raised to be as classless and lacking morals as the parents. sometimes, the single mothers will try to flush their babies in the toilet or in a trash bag. they think nothing of having sex, getting pregnant, going out to nightclubs ad getting drunk, high, bringing home more men for sex. western culture loves to picture a woman in little to no clothing, or in things that reveal their breasts and other privates, promoting perniciousness. pornography and group sex, open sex, strip clubs, etc are prized in the west. the only flip side to this are those who pretend to be so pure then secretly do these things on the side. Besides, the kama sutra was written many centuries ago, back when western women were still wearing crinoline cages, and back when there could have been more argument for their equal morals. this was long before the victorian era, when they began to travel, and get all kinds of screwed up ideas of the east then got bored of their own kind and would marry them to live out their exotic fantasy and escape to la-la land. You want to have 'inner peace' and all that crap? LIVE WITH MORALS, RESPECT YOURSELF, RESPECT OTHERS, AND STICK TO UR OWN EFFING CULTURE BUT BE EDUCATED AND OPEN MINDED OF OTHERS. it's that simple. there are even westerners who will agree with what i'm saying, so it's not me that has some whacked out radical idea, it's ficking common sense. those who fight it and debate it lack common sense. that's not my fault. i had a reply from a person who had some very wise input and i will share that with you because i found it to be overall very sensible and written by someone who clearly understands and respects their culture "freedom without morals leads to evil. the west talks about freedom and liberty. the truth is that this exists only in the media. we shouldn't forget that what made the west developped is the wealth of what they call now "the poor countries". after they took

everything from them. I remember I chatted with a western person a while ago and she said "some girls meet boys in lunch and they end in bed at night" they call this civilization. well, if I have to chose I prefer not to get this kind of civilization. because in my opinion, it's perversion. they call us uncivilized because we don't accept those perversions. the east has different vision for what is right and what is wrong and doesn't accept this kind of things. and we are right. we are not supposed to follow all what the west invents just to prove we are civilized. our cultures are very rich. eastern nations grew thousands of years before the west knew what civilization is. I agree with what you said. the west unfortunately doesn't have the word "Respect" in their dictionary. " I wanted to hit home a little further on the REAL effect eastern men have when they marry western women. First off, let's see some of these stories about treatment of girls and women in the east http://www.goddiscussion.com/15383/afghan-women-set-themselves-on-fire/ http://freerepublic.com/focus/f-news/2422674/posts

http://www.rawa.org/suicide06-2.htm http://www.abc.net.au/news/stories/2008/01/31/2151042.htm?section=justin http://www.google.com/search?hl=en&client=firefox-a&channel=s&rls=org.mozilla:enUS:official&hs=AD9&ei=OzNrS6KBDtHIlAfSr8jlBA&sa=X&oi=spell&resnum=0&ct=result&cd=1 &ved=0CAgQBSgA&q=afghanistan+women+set+herself+on+fire&spell=1

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both eastern and western societies further. And those who think western girls are so great, and who encourage them to marry eastern men only help do more damage. Teach the west to respect our people and be open minded about our cultures, but to also respect theirs. Western girls need to stay with western boys, and need to stay away from romantic relationships with eastern boys. western girls need to also learn respect and morals for them self and others, and to help eastern men respect eastern women and give them the equal treatment they deserve. western girls become over-conformed in their overwhelming eagerness to be accepted into a new and radically different culture. http://politics.slashdot.org/comments.pl?sid=1116583&cid=26735921 The man moved here when he was 11. He IS an American by upbringing. And watching my wife (a first generation American of Indian descent) it is obvious that they try hard to assimilate here while at home being a bit more Indian. yes this is very true, but even more so for eastern men who are really willing to give up their idenitity and culture and adopt the alck of morals of the west. the easteren women have more of a connection and appreciation for their roots. Some excellent examples of these shameful things, and some explanations of why they are so shameful are in the non celebrity goris action needed file. this gives insight into both some mixed race indigenous people, and the fact that some people lie about their heritage or claim they adopted a new culture in order to gain benefits such as career advances/wealth, attention/fame, romantic partners/sex, etc. such as what the western girls in our examples have done, and what they have tried to claim of some of our blog team in order to slander us, and stop us from telling truths. read about them here if you forget or havn't read about them.http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Kalash_people Kalash people From Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia This article is about the Kalasha of Chitral. For the Kalasha of Nuristan, see Nuristani people. Kalasha Kalash Women Total population ca. 6,000 Regions with significant populations Chitral District, Pakistan Languages Kalasha Urdu or Pashto also understood widely as second languages Related ethnic groups Pashai The Kalasha (Kalasha: Kaaa, Nuristani: Kasivo) or Kalash, are people of the Hindu Kush mountain range, residing in the Chitral District of Khyber-Pakhtunkhwa province of Pakistan. They speak the Kalasha language, from the Dardic family of the Indo-Iranian languages, and are considered a unique

tribe among the Indo-Aryan population.[1] They are related to the Nuristani people of the adjacent Nuristan (historically known as Kafiristan) province of Afghanistan. An autochthonous and polytheist group like the Kalasha of Chitral, the Nuristani were forcibly converted to Islam by the 'Iron Amir' Abdur Rahman Khan in the late 19th century, while the Kalasha of Chitral maintain their own separate cultural traditions. Contents [hide] 1 Etymology 2 Culture 2.1 Language 2.2 Customs 2.3 Festivals 2.4 Religion 2.5 Ritual 2.6 History 3 Location, climate and geography 4 Genetic origins 5 Economy 6 Appearances in popular culture 7 See also 8 Notes 9 References 10 External links 10.1 General information [edit]Etymology According to the linguist Richard Strand, the people of Chitral apparently adopted the name of the former Kafiristan Kalasha, who at some unknown time extended their influence into Chitral.[2] A reference for this assumption could be the names ksv'o respectively ksi'o, used by the neighboring Nuristani Kata and Kom for the Kalash of Chitral. From these the earlier name ks'ivo (instead Kalasha) could be derived.[citation needed] [edit]Culture

A young Kalash man The culture of Kalash people is unique and differs completely from the various ethnic groups surrounding them. They are polytheists and nature plays a highly significant and spiritual role in their daily life. As part of their religious tradition, sacrifices are offered and festivals held to give thanks for the abundant resources of their three valleys.[3] Kalash mythology and folklore has been compared to that of ancient Greece,[4] but they are much closer to Indo-Iranian (Vedic and pre-Zoroastrian) traditions.[5] Some of the Kalash people in their own traditions claim to be descendants of Alexander the Great's soldiers, however extensive genetic testing has shown no connection.[6][7] [edit]Language Main article: Kalash language The language of the Kalasha is a Dardic language belonging to the Indo-Aryan branch of the IndoIranian group; itself part of the larger Indo-European family. It is classified as a member of the Chitral sub-group, the only other member of that group being Khowar. The Norwegian Linguist Georg Morgenstierne who studied both languages wrote that in spite of similarities Kalasha is an independent language in its own right, not a mere dialect of Khowar.[8][9] Currently about 5,000 people speak

Kalasha and it is considered critically endangered by UNESCO.[10] Badshah Munir Bukhari unicoded the Kalasha Language in 2005. Working in close collaboration with various international researchers and linguists, Kalash activist Taj Khan Kalash organized the Kalasha Orthography Conference 2000 in Islamabad Pakistan. In 2004 he was able to raise funds to publish the first alphabet book of the Kalasha language based on Roman script designed by an Australian linguist, Gregory R. Cooper. [edit]Customs There is some controversy over what defines the ethnic characteristics of the Kalash. Although quite numerous before the 20th century, the non-Muslim minority has seen its numbers dwindle over the past century. A leader of the Kalash, Saifulla Jan, has stated, "If any Kalash converts to Islam, they cannot live among us anymore. We keep our identity strong."[11] About three thousand have converted to Islam or are descendants of converts, yet still live nearby in the Kalash villages and maintain their language and many aspects of their ancient culture. By now, sheikhs, or converts to Islam, make up more than half of the total Kalasha-speaking population.[12] Kalasha women usually wear long black robes, often embroidered with cowrie shells. For this reason, they are known in Chitral as "The Black Kafirs". Men have adopted the Pakistani shalwar kameez, while children wear small versions of adult clothing after the age of four. In contrast to the surrounding Pakistani culture, the Kalasha do not in general separate males and females or frown on contact between the sexes. However, menstruating girls and women are sent to live in the "bashaleni", the village menstrual building, during their periods, until they regain their "purity". They are also required to give birth in the bashaleni. There is also a ritual restoring "purity" to a woman after childbirth which must be performed before a woman can return to her husband.[13] The husband is an active participant in this ritual. Marriage by elopement is rather frequent, also involving women who are already married to another man. Indeed, wife-elopement is counted as one of the "great customs" (ghna dastr) together with the main festivals. Girls are usually married at an early age. If a woman wants to change husbands, she will write a letter to her prospective husband offering herself in marriage and informing the would-be groom how much her current husband paid for her. This is because the new husband must pay double if he wants her. For example, if the current husband paid one cow for her, then the new husband must pay two cows to the original husband if he wants her. Wife-elopement may lead in some rare cases to a quasi-feud between clans until peace is negotiated by mediators, in the form of the double bride-price paid by the new husband to the ex-husband.[14] Kalash lineages (kam) separate as marriageable descendants have separated by over seven generations. A rite of "breaking agnation" (tatbe hin) marks that previous agnates (tatbe) are now permissible affines (drak "clan partners).[14] Each kam has a separate shrine in the clan's Jak-hn, the temple to lineal or familial goddess Jak. [edit]Festivals The three main festivals (khawsgaw) of the Kalash [15] are the Joshi festival in late May, the Uchau in autumn, and the Caumus in midwinter.[16] The pastoral god Sorizan protects the herds in Fall and Winter and is thanked at the winter festival, while Goshidai does so until the Pul festival (p. from *pra, full moon in Sept.) and is thanked at the Joshi (joi, i) festival in spring. Joshi is celebrated at the end of May each year. The first day of Joshi is "Milk Day", on which the Kalash offer libations of milk that have been saved for ten days prior to the festival. The most important Kalash festival is the Chawmos (cawms, ghona chawmos yat, Khowar "chitrimas" from *cturmsya, CDIAL 4742), which is celebrated for two weeks at winter solstice (c. Dec. 7-22), at the beginning of the month chawmos mastruk. It marks the end of the year's fieldwork and harvest. It involves much music, dancing, and the sacrifice of many goats. It is dedicated to the god Balimain who is believed to visit from the mythical homeland of the Kalash, Tsyam (Tsiyam, tsam),

for the duration of the feast. Food sacrifices are offered at the clans' Jeshtak shrines, dedicated to the ancestors. At Chaumos, impure and uninitiated persons are not admitted; they must be purified by a waving a fire brand over women and children and by a special fire ritual for men, involving a shaman waving juniper brands over the men. The 'old rules' of the gods (Devalog, dewalk) are no longer in force, as is typical for year-end and carnival-like rituals. The main Chaumos ritual takes place at a Tok tree, a place called Indra's place, "indrunkot", or "indryin". Indrunkot is sometimes believed to belong to Balumain's brother, In(dr), lord of cattle.[17] Ancestors, impersonated by young boys (njea 'pure') are worshipped and offered bread; they hold on to each other and form a chain (cf. the Vedic anvrambhaa) and snake through the village. The men must be divided into two parties: the pure ones have to sing the well-honored songs of the past, but the impure sing wild, passionate, and obscene songs, with an altogether different rhythm. This is accompanied by a 'sex change': men dress as women, women as men (Balumain also is partly seen as female and can change between both forms at will).[17] This includes the Festival of the Budulak (buak, the 'shepherd king'). In this festival, a strong prepubescent boy is sent up into the mountains to live with the goats for the summer. He is supposed to get fat and strong from the goat milk. When the festival comes he is allowed for a 24-hour period only to have sexual intercourse with any woman he wants, including even the wife of another man, or a young virgin. Any child born of this 24-hour rampage is considered to be blessed. The Kalash claim to have abolished this practice in recent years due to negative worldwide publicity. At this crucial moment the pure get weaker, and the impure try to take hold of the (very pure) boys, pretend to mount them "like a hornless ram", and proceed in snake procession. At this point, the impure men resist and fight. When the "nagayr" song with the response "han saras" (from *samryate 'flows together', CDIAL 12995) is voiced, Balumain showers all his blessings and disappears. He gives his blessings to seven boys (representing the mythical seven of the eight Devalog who received him on arrival), and these pass the blessings on to all pure men.[17] In myth, Mahandeu had cheated Balumain from superiority, when all the gods had slept together (a euphemism) in the Shawalo meadow; therefore, he went to the mythical home of the Kalash in Tsiyam (tsam) , to come back next year like the Vedic Indra (Rigveda 10.86). If this had not happened, Balumain would have taught humans how to have sex as a sacred act. Instead, he could only teach them fertility songs used at the Chaumos ritual. He arrives from the west, the (Kati Kafir) Bashgal valley, in early December, before solstice, and leaves the day after. He was at first shunned by some people, who were annihilated. He was however, received by seven Devalog and they all went to several villages, such as Batrik village, where seven pure, young boys received him whom he took with him. Therefore, nowadays, one only sends men and older boys to receive him. Balumain is the typical culture hero. He told people about the sacred fire made from junipers, about the sowing ceremony for wheat that involved the blood of a small goat, and he asked for wheat tribute (hushak) for his horse. Finally, Balumain taught how to celebrate the winter festival. He was visible only during his first visit, now he is just felt to be present.[17] [edit]Religion Kalash culture and belief system differs from the various ethnic groups surrounding them but is similar to that of the neighboring Nuristanis in northeast Afghanistan. The Kalash people are unique in their customs and religion. In the 1970s there were a number of forced conversions. However, during the last two decades, protection by the Pakistani government has seen the Kalash double in number.[18] There is a creator deity called Dezau (ezw) whose name is derived from Indo-European *dheig'h 'to form' (cf. Vedic dih, Kati Nuristani dez 'to create', CDIAL 14621); he is also called by the Pashto term Khodai. There are a number of other deities, semi-gods and spirits. The Kalash pantheon is thus one of the last living representatives of Indo-European religion.

There is the prominent Indr or Varendr. Indr appears in various form, such as Sajigor (Sajigr), also called Shura Verin. Warn(dr-) or In Warn is the mightiest and most dangerous god. Another one of his forms is the recently popular Balumain (Baiman). Riding on a horse, comes to the Kalash valleys from the outside at winter solstice. Balumain is a culture hero who taught how to celebrate the Kalash winter festival (Chaumos). He is connected with Tsyam, the mythological homeland of the Kalash. Indr has a demon-like counterpart, Jean (from *jyeha? 'the best'), who appears on earth as a dog; the gods (Devalog, Dewalk) are his enemies and throw stones at him, the shooting stars.[17] Another god, Munjem Malik (munjem from *madhyama 'middle'; malk from Arab. malik 'king'), is the Lord of Middle Earth and killed, like the Vedic Indra, his father. Mahandeo (mahando, cf. the Nuristani Mon/Mndi, from *mahn deva), is the god of crops, and also the god of war and a negotiator with the highest deity.[17] Jestak (jak, from *jyeh, or *der?) is the goddess of domestic life, family and marriage. Her lodge is the women's house (Jeak Han). Dezalik (izlik), the sister of "Dezau" is the goddess of childbirth, the hearth and of life force; she protects children and women. She is similar to the Kafiri Nirmali (Indo-Iranian *nirmalik). She is also responsible for the Bashaleni lodge. There also is a general pattern of belief in mountain fairies, Suchi (si, now often called Peri), who help in hunting and killing enemies, and the Varti (~ Sanskrit Vtaputra), their violent male partners (echoing the Vedic Apsaras and Gandharvas). They live in the high mountains, such as Tirich Mir (~ Vedic Meru, *devameru: Shina damer, CDIAL 6533), but in late autumn they descend to the mountain meadows. The Jach (j.ac. from *yak(in), are a separate category of female spirits of the soil or of special places, fields and mountain pastures.[17] During the seventies, when local Muslims forced a number of conversions upon the Kalash, their numbers shrank to just two thousand. However, with protection from the government, a decrease in voluntary conversion and a great reduction in the child mortality rate, the last two decades have seen their numbers double.[18] Recently[when?] two Kalash girls converted to Islam.[19] An evidence of Islamic influence is visible by the fact that in recent years many Kalash have begun calling their god Khodai which is the Pashto word for "God".[20] [edit]Ritual These deities have shrines and altars throughout the valleys, where they frequently receive goat sacrifices. In 1929, as Georg Morgenstierne testifies, such rituals were still carried out by Kalash priests, "itikavan" 'priest' (from itikhk 'to praise a god'). This institution has since disappeared but there still is the prominent one of shamans (dehar)[21] The deities are temporary visitors. Mahandeo shrines are a wooden board with 4 carved horse heads(the horse being sacred to Kalash)extending out, in 1929 still with the effigy of a human head inside holes at the base of these shrines while the altars of Sajigor are of stone and are under old juniper,oak and cedar trees. Horses, cows, goats and sheep were sacrificed. Wine is a sacred drink of Indr, who owns a vineyard-(Indruakun in the Kafiristani wama valley contained both sacred vineyard and shrine(Idol and altar below a great juniper tree)along with 4 large vates carved out of rocks) - that he defends against invaders. Kalash ritual is of potlatch type; by organizing rituals and festivals (up to 12; the highest called biramr) one gains fame and status. As in the Veda, the former local artisan class was excluded from public religious functions.[17] However, there is a special role for prepubescent boys, who are treated with special awe, combining pre-sexual behavior and the purity of the high mountains, where they tend goats for the summer month. Purity is very much stressed and centered around altars, goat stables, the space between the hearth and the back wall of houses and in festival periods; the higher up in the valley, the more pure the location. [17] By contrast, women (especially during menstruation and giving birth), as well as death and decomposition and the outside (Muslim) world are impure, and, just as in the Veda and Avesta, many cleansing ceremonies are required if impurity occurs.[17]

Crows represent the ancestors, and are frequently fed with the left hand (also at tombs), just as in the Veda. The dead are buried above ground in ornamented wooden coffins. Wooden effigies are erected at the graves of wealthy or honoured people.[17][22][23] [edit]History The Kalash are known as indigenous people of Chitral, and their ancestors migrated to Chitral from Afghanistan in the 2nd century BC.[1] It is thought the Kalash descendants migrated to Afghanistan from a distant place in South Asia, which the Kalash call Tsiyam in their folk songs and epics.[1] The Kalash were ruled by the Mehtar of Chitral from the 18th century onward. They have enjoyed a cordial relationship with the major ethnic group of Chitral, the Kho who are Sunni and Ismaili Muslims. The multi-ethnic and multi-religious State of Chitral ensured that the Kalash were able to live in peace and harmony and practice their culture and religion. The Nuristani, their neighbours in the region of former Kafiristan west of the border, were converted, on pain of death, to Islam by Amir Abdur-Rahman of Afghanistan in the 1890s and their land was renamed Nuristan. Prior to that event, the people of Kafiristan had paid tribute to the Mehtar of Chitral and accepted his suzerainty. This came to an end with the Durand Agreement when Kafiristan fell under the Afghan sphere of Influence. Recently, the Kalash have been able to stop their demographic and cultural spiral towards extinction and have, for the past 30 years, been on the rebound. Increased international awareness, a more tolerant government, and monetary assistance has allowed them to continue their way of life. Their numbers remain stable at around 3,000. Although many convert to Islam, the high birth rate replaces them, and with medical facilities (previously there were none) they live longer. Allegations of "immorality" connected with their practices have led to the forcible conversion to Islam of several villages in the 1950s, which has led to heightened antagonism between the Kalash and the surrounding Muslims. Since the 1970s, schools and roads were built in some valleys.[24][unreliable source?] Rehman and Ali (2001) report that pressure of radical Muslim organizations is on the increase: Ardent Muslims on self-imposed missions to eradicate idolatry regularly attack those engaged in traditional Kalash religious rituals, smashing their idols. The local Mullahs and the visiting Tableghi Jammaites remain determined to 'purify' the Kafirs.[25][unreliable source?][dubious discuss] Being a very small minority in a muslim region, the Kalash are under increasing danger from proselytising Muslim militants from just across the border in Afghanistan and their hardline interpretation of Islam.[26][27][28] [edit]Location, climate and geography Located in Khyber-Pakhtunkhwa, the Kalash people live in three isolated mountain valleys: Bumburet (Kalash: Mumuret), Rumbur (Rukmu), and Birir (Biriu). These valleys are opening towards the Kunar River, some 20 km south (downstream) of Chitral, The Bumburet and Rumbur valleys join at 354420N 714340E (1640 m), joining the Kunar at the village of Ayrun (354252N 714640E, 1400 m) and they each rise to passes connecting to Afghanistan's Nuristan Province at about 4500 m. The Birir valley opens towards the Kunar at the village of Gabhirat (35408N 714515E, 1360 m). A pass connects the Birir and Bumburet valleys at about 3000 m. The Kalash villages in all three valleys are located at a height of approximately 1900 to 2200 m. The region is extremely fertile, covering the mountainside in rich oak forests and allowing for intensive agriculture, despite the fact that most of the work is done not by machinery, but by hand. The powerful and dangerous rivers that flow through the valleys have been harnessed to power grinding mills and to water the farm fields through the use of ingenious irrigation channels. Wheat, maize, grapes (generally used for wine), apples, apricots and walnuts are among the many foodstuffs grown in the area, along with surplus fodder used for feeding the livestock.[29] The climate is typical of high elevation regions without large bodies of water to regulate the

temperature. The summers are mild and agreeable with average maximum temperatures between 23 and 27 C (73 - 81 F). Winters, on the other hand, can be very cold, with average minimum temperatures between 2 and 1 C (36 - 34 F). The average yearly precipitation is 700 to 800 mm (28 - 32 inches). [edit]Genetic origins

Rosenberg et al. (2006) ran simulations dividing autosomal gene frequencies in selected populations into a given number of clusters. For 7 or more clusters, a cluster (yellow) appears which is nearly unique to the Kalash. Smaller amounts of Kalash gene frequencies join clusters associated with Europe and Middle East (blue) and with South Asia (red). In a 2005 study of ASPM gene variants, Mekel-Bobrov et al. found that the Kalash people of Pakistan have among the highest rate of the newly-evolved ASPM haplogroup D, at 60% occurrence of the approximately 6,000-year-old allele.[30] The Kalash also have been shown to exhibit the exceedingly rare 19 allele value at autosomal marker D9S1120 at a frequency higher than the majority of other world populations which do have it.[31] Firasat et al. (2006) conclude that the Kalash lack typical Greek haplogroups (e.g. haplogroup 21),[32] On the other hand, a study by Qamar et al. (2002) found that even though "no support for a Greek origin of their Y chromosomes was found" in the Kalash, Greek y-chromosome admixture could be as high as 20% to 40%.[33] Considering the apparent absence of haplogroup 21 in the local population, one of the possibilities suggested was because of genetic drift.[33] On the basis of Y chromosome allele frequency, some researchers describe the exact Greek contribution to Kalash as unclear.[34] Another study with Qasim Ayub, and S. Qasim Mehdi, and led by Quintana-Murci claims that "the western Eurasian presence in the Kalash population reaches a frequency of 100%, the most prevalent [mtDNA] haplogroup being U4, (pre-HV)1, U2e, and J2," and that they show "no detectable East or South Asian lineages. The outlying genetic position is seen in all analyses. Moreover, although this population is composed of western Eurasian lineages, the most prevalent ... are rare or absent in the surrounding populations and usually characterize populations from Eastern Europe, the middle East and the Caucasus... All these observations bear witness to the strong effects of genetic drift of the Kalash population... However, a western Eurasian origin for this population is likely, in view of their maternal lineages, which can ultimately be traced back to the Middle East".[35] The estimates by Qamar et al. of Greek admixture has been dismissed by Toomas Kivisild et al. (2003): some admixture models and programs that exist are not always adequate and realistic estimators of gene flow between populations ... this is particularly the case when markers are used that do not have enough restrictive power to determine the source populations ... or when there are more than two parental populations. In that case, a simplistic model using two parental populations would show a bias towards overestimating admixture.[36] The study came to the conclusion that the Pakistani Kalash population estimate by (Qamar et al. 2002) is unrealistic and is likely also driven by the low marker resolution that pooled southern and western Asianspecific Y-chromosome haplogroup H together with European-specific haplogroup I, into an uninformative polyphyletic cluster 2.[36] A study by Rosenberg et al. (2006) employing genetic testing among the Kalash population concluded that they are, in fact, a distinct (and perhaps aboriginal) population with only minor contributions from outside peoples. In one cluster analysis with (K = 7), the Kalash formed one cluster, the others being Africans, Europeans, Middle Easterners, South Asians, East Asians, Melanesians, and Native Americans. [37] A genetic study published led by Firasat (2007) on Kalash individuals found high and diverse frequencies of :Haplogroup L3a (22.7%), H1* (20.5%), R1a (18.2%), G (18.2%), J2 (9.1%), R*

(6.8%), R1* (2.3%), and L* (2.3%).[38] Haplogroup L originates from prehistoric South Asia.[39] In the recent study: "Worldwide Human Relationships Inferred from Genome-Wide Patterns of Variation (2008)", geneticists using more than 650,000 single nucleotide polymorphisms (SNP) samples from the Human Genome Diversity Panel, found deep rooted lineages that could be distinguished in the Kalash. The results showed them not only to be distinct, but perfectly clustered within the Central/South Asian populations at (K = 7). The study also showed the Kalash to be a separated group, with having no membership within European populations.[40] [edit]Economy Historically a goat herding and subsistence farming people, the Kalash are moving towards a cashbased economy whereas previously wealth was measured in livestock and crops. Tourism now makes up a large portion of the economic activities of the Kalash. To cater to these new visitors, small stores and guest houses have been erected, providing new luxury for visitors of the valleys.[41] People attempting to enter the valleys have to pay a toll to the Pakistani government, which is used to preserve and care for the Kalash people and their culture. [edit]Appearances in popular culture The Kalash people's reputed connection to Alexander the Great is the basis of the famous Rudyard Kipling story "The Man Who Would Be King", however it takes place among the Kalasha of Nuristan, then known as Kafiristan, in nearby Afghanistan. The story was made into a film in 1975 starring Sean Connery and Michael Caine. The Kalash are briefly visited in the first episode of the 2004 BBC television series Himalaya with Michael Palin. The program featured some cultural background and current customs, as well as some of the stunning scenery of the Kalash homeland. http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Nuristani_people Nuristani people From Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia Nuristani people Total population ca. 125,000300,000[1] Regions with significant populations Nuristan Province Languages Nuristani languages, Pashto and Persian(Dari) Religion Sunni Islam Related ethnic groups Kalash The Nuristani people are an ethnic group Aryan-Iranian to the Nuristan region of northeastern Iran and Afghanistan. The Nuristanis are a people whose ancestors practiced what was apparently an ancient Indo-Iranian polytheistic religion until they were conquered and converted to Islam in the late 19th century by Emir Abdur Rahman Khan.[2] In the mid 1890s, he conducted a campaign in Kafiristan and followed up his conquest with forcible conversions,[3][4] the region thenceforth being known as Nuristan, the "Land of Light".[5][6][7][8] Non-Muslim religious practices endure today to some degree

as folk customs. In their native rural areas, which was referred to by the local Muslims as Kafiristan before the 19th century, they are often farmers, herders, and dairymen. Throughout Afghanistan, they are well respected in the social structure and are represented in high ranking government and military positions.[citation needed] The Nuristani are distinguished from the Kalash of Chitral by their adoption of Islam and territory within Afghanistan. Contents [hide] 1 History 2 Characteristics of Pre-Islamic Nurestani Society (The former Kafirs) 2.1 Former religion of Nurestanis 3 Genetics 3.1 Soviet war in Afghanistan 4 Nuristanis in Pakistan 5 Tribes 6 In popular culture 7 See also 8 References 9 External links [edit]History Like certain other groups in the region, they sometimes exhibit physical characteristics of light hair, eyes, and skin. There is a large number of these people who use to live in Chitral, Pakistan the eastern border of Nuristan. Most of these people are from the KATA Family and Janaderi Branch, some of these people are use to live in Ozhor (now Karimabad), Gobor, Buburat, Ayun, Broze and Mastuj. There is a very popular rock associated with this tribe located in Karimabad (Juwara) called kata bont (Kata is the name of the tribe; bont meaning "stone" in the Chitrali language). In 4th century BC, Alexander the Great's historians encountered them and reduced them after a stubborn and prolonged fight and described them as being distinct culturally and religiously from other peoples of the region.[1] The Nuristani were formerly classified into "Siah-Posh (black-robed) Kafirs" and "Safed-Posh (white robed)/Lall-Posh (Red-Robed) Kafirs".[9] Timur fought with and was humbled by the Siah-Posh Kafirs.[10] Babur advised not to tangle with them. Genghis Khan passed by them.[citation needed] In the 19th century, it was typical of the Kafirs to boast about having killed the sons of Ali.[11] "Kafir" has also been traced to Kapi (= Kapish), the ancient Sanskrit name of the region that included historic Kafiristan; which is also given as "Ki-pin" (or Ke-pin, Ka-pin, Chi-pin) in old Chinese chronicles. That name, unrelated to the Arabic word, is believed to have mutated at some point into the word Kapir. Kapi, the name of the people of Kapi/Kapia, is believed[who?] to have changed to Kapir and then Kafir,[12][13][14][15] because of the lack of 'p' in Arabic. This is similar to how Parsi changed to Farsi. However, it is also said that the region is so called "Kafiristan" as the surrounding populations were converted to Islam, the people in this region retained themselves, thus known as "Kafirs".The Arabic word "Kufr" means not only to disbelieve, but also to blaspheme, and therefore, its derivative "Kafir" means one who commits blasphemy against Allah in the Islamic tradition, and the Nurestan province was known as Kafiristan, before the majority were forcefully converted to Islam during Abdur Rahman Khan's rule around 1895. They are now known as Nuristani. However, they have retained some of their old customs and traces of their previous beliefs, which is considered incompatible with the new belief and is disappearing.[16] [edit]Characteristics of Pre-Islamic Nurestani Society (The former Kafirs)

Based on obervations of G. S. Robertson, THomas Holdich, Donald N. Wilber, HW Bellow, and some other noted investigators. Both the Kafirs and Afghans are brigands by instinct and both are careless of human life. Perhaps the Kafirs are the worst of the two in both respects, but a Afghan makes the account more than even by his added perfidy and cunning. All the neighboring Musulman tribes have an intense hatred of the Kafirs because of the injuries the former have received at the hands of the Kafirs through the ages. The Kafirs love to dance to their war god Gish after killing Musulmans. The Kafirs love to fight. Their inter-tribal hatred, sometimes, goes to the limits of absurdity, thus entirely deadening their political foresight. It is probable that there is no single tribe of Kafirs at the present day Kafirstan which is at peace with all other tribes. Some of their inter-tribal wars have continued for generations, and the one between the Kamoz and Katirs of Ramgulis went over a century .The Kafirs are highly revengeful. For honor's sake, a man of any position in the clan (even the slave) having been killed by an outsider clan must be avenged by blood. No matter what, a murder has to be avenged under all circumstances. Blood-feuds within a tribe do not exist, but if a fight did start, it was the duty of all witness to intervene at once. The slayer of his fellow, even by accident, has to pay a heavy compensation or else become an outcast. The stigma attaches itself to children and their marriage connexions. Kafirs have true conceptions of justice. There is no death penalty since a fighting male is too valuable a property of the whole tribe to be so wasted . Though in his raids into hostile territories, whether of Kafirs or Musulmans, the Kafir spares neither men, nor women, nor even children and though, he holds human life as of very little account, and though in hunting, he appears to employ brutal methods of getting his game, yet he is not cruel by nature. Though highly passionate and wildly independent, the Kafir can be easily appeased . Though exasperated to such fury by centuries of persecutions by Musulmans, the Kafirs, in general, are harmless, affectionate and kind hearted people. They are indeed a model of politeness. They are merry, playful, fond of laughter and of very social and joyous disposition. The Kafirs are splendidly loyal to their friends and are accustomed to grandest acts of self-sacrifice and bravery. Kafirs are very hospitable. They are kind even to a Musulman when they admit him as their friend or guest . The Kafirs are remarkable for their cupidity. They can be easily bribed, can do anything for money. But in matters of honor, no Kafir can ever be won by any amount of cash, whatsoever . Kafirs are extremely jealous of one another, no matter how they have intermarried. Kafir hates Kafir more than he hates Musulmans, which sometimes leads to internecine strife .It is as natural for a Kafir to thieve, as it is for him to eat. The children are encouraged to steal. Kafirs are remarkable for their reckless courage, furious bravery and towering love for freedom. Kafirs women are also extraordinarily courageous and dashing . The war strategy of Kafirs is to wear down the enemy by playing purely defensive tactics. They hold positions, form little ambushes, and seek to cut off stragglers and harass the invaders in every possible way. Then when the enemy, from accumulated losses, begins to retreat, the tiger-footed Kafirs attack him on all sides like a swarm of hornets. At this point, the dogged resistance turns into furious bravery. A Kafir never fights so well as when the advantage is to his side. He plays a winning game splendidly. Each man tries to emulate the traditional heroes of his tribe and will performs some of the grandest deeds of courage and heroism to gain the admiration of his tribal .The Kafir of Bashgul is ever on the raid and on watch for a chance for a Musulman's life. The killing of Musulmans is ranked the chief object of a Kafir's life since his social position is dependent on the number of Musulmans he kills. A robe of honor (a Shawl) is awarded to those who have killed four or more Musulmans . The Kafirs are chiefly remarkable for their love of cattle. In Kafir opinion, a good man is one who is a successful homicide, ever ready to quarrel, of an amorous disposition, a good dancer, and a good stonequoit player.The whole of the Kafir race are remarkable for their fairness and beauty of complexion . A Kafir exudes impression of personal dignity, self-respect, self-confidence, strength and gracefulness . Kafir society is essentially democratic and the Kafirs are theoretically all equal.

The Kafirs, as seen above, seem to be as degraded in many respects as it is possible for this type ever to become. If it were not their splendid courage, their domestic affections and their overpowering love of freedom, the Kafirs would indeed be a hateful people. In other respects, they are what they have been made by uncontrollable circumstances. For them, the world has not grown softer as it has grown older. Its youth could not be crueler than its present maturity, but if they had been different, the Kafirs would have been enslaved centuries ago. Their present ideas and all the associations of their history and religion are simply bloodshed, assassinations and blackmailing; yet the Kafirs, though a highly wild people, are not savages. Many of them have the heads of statesmen and philosophers. Their features are Aryans and their mental capabilities are great. Their love of decoration, their carving and their architecture all point to a time when they were higher in human scale than they are at present . [edit]Former religion of Nurestanis Before their forced conversion by Abdur Rahman, Kafirs, the predecessors of the Nurestanis were practitioners of ancient pre-Islamic traditions. There were lingering traces of ancestor-worship and fireworship. The Kafir religion was a blend of Zoroastrianism rituals, Hindu beliefs, Buddhist tenets and diverse ceremonies as well as paganism reminiscent of the mythology of Greece. Imra (from Hindu Yama (=Yamaraja), Zoroastrianism Yima) was the supreme god of Kafiristan. He was the god of creation. God Moni was the chief prophet of god Imra. Gish or Great Gish was the god of war, and was extremely popular among the Bashagul Katir Kafirs. H. A. Rose in his Glossary of Tribes and Castes, identifies god Gish with the Hindu god Kishna or Krishna (Krishna appears as Gisane in Armenian). Besides, there were other gods of lesser significance. They converted to Islam in the 1880s [edit]Genetics The Nuristani people's closest relation is to the Kalash people. Furthermore, they have very little genetic relation to neighboring ethnic groups like Pashtuns and Kashmiris. This is because they have have always remained isolated in the mountains which has led them to become a genetically isolated population. [1] [edit]Soviet war in Afghanistan General Issa Nuristani was second in command following the King during the Soviet invasion of Afghanistan. Before his assassination, General Issa called the Nuristani people in a "Jihad" against the Soviet Army. The Nuristani people were among the first in Afghanistan to rise against the Soviet invasion. They played an important role in the conquering of some provinces, including Kunar, Nangarhar, Badakhshan, and Panshir. Following the withdrawal of the Soviet troops, the Mawlavy Ghulam Rabani was declared as governor of the Kunar Province. Most of the former Hindu Kush Kafir people are considered the ancestors of the Nuristanis. Led by the Koms tribe, the Nuristani were the first citizens of Afghanistan to successfully revolt against the communist overthrow of their government in 1978. Thereafter, Nuristan remained a scene of some of the bloodiest guerrilla fighting with the Soviet forces from 1979 through 1989. The Nuristanis inspired others to fight and contributed to the demise of the Afghan communist regime in 1992.[2]. [edit]Nuristanis in Pakistan Some Nuristanis venture across the border into the adjacent Chitral District of British India where they have come to dominate the commerce and trade of the district capital and have integrated successfully into the cosmopolitan social dynamics of the district capital, Chitral, alongside Khowar speakers, Kalashas[clarification needed], Tajiks, Pashtuns and Wakhis. There is a large number of these people use to live in Chitral, Pakistan the eastern border of Nuristan. Most of these people are from the KATA Family and Janaderi Branch, some of these people are use to live in Ozhor (recent Karimabad), Gobor, Buburat, Ayun, Broze and Mastuj. There is very popular Rock (Stone) associated with this tribe located in Karimabad (Juwara) called KATA BOHT (Kata is the

name of the trible normally they associated with the Headtribe and BOHT is stone in Chitrali Language). They are physically strong, brave,light hair, eyes, and skin like other Nuristani. Now they normally use Kuraishi with their names. [edit]Tribes

Nuristan, in light green The Nuristani do not have a formal tribal structure as the Pashtuns do, however they do designate themselves by the names of the local regions they are from.[1] In total, there are 35 such designations: five from the north-south valleys and 30 from the east-west valley. Some of these tribes include: Kata Kom Mumo Jench (of Arnce village) Kshto Kambojas or kam Dungulio Kalasha (not to be confused with the Dardic Kalash of Pakistan) Tregami Vasi Askunu Sanu Gramsana [edit]In popular culture Nuristanis were depicted as their pre-Islamic past the Kafiristanis, as one of peoples inhabiting Kafiristan in Rudyard Kipling's book called The Man Who Would Be King which was then made into a film. http://www.justjared.com/2012/12/22/vanessa-hudgens-joins-instagram-meditates-like-ravi-shankar/ Just days after the internet went into an uproar over the websites new user policy, the 24-year-old actress has created an official account to connect with her fans via her photos. Oh. Hello. Officially on Instagram, Vanessa captioned her first photos. Make sure to follow her at @VanessaHudgens! Oh hey hey. Im officially on Instagram. Where you at?! Vanessa wrote on Facebook along with a screencap of her account. Vanessa also posted a couple photos of herself on Facebook with the caption, Ravi Shankar, incense, meditating. Check them out below! http://3chicspolitico.com/2010/09/16/3chics-alert-another-white-woman-blames-black-people-for-selfinflicted-harm-crimes/ http://www.google.com/search?

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Racial Cuckoldry, Racial Mimicry Ted Sallis October 11, 2009 I am sure most people are familiar with the typical definitions of cuckoldry in which a woman is unfaithful to her unknowing male partner. Genetically speaking, the most severe form of cuckoldry occurs when the womans unfaithful behavior results in being impregnated by the other man with the unknowing male partner being tricked to raise the other mans offspring as if it were his own. This extreme example of maladaptive behavior is similar to the phenomenon of brood parasitism as practiced by several species, including the cuckoo bird, from which the term cuckoldry is derived. Humans or birds the cuckolded organism suffers a drastic loss of biological fitness by raising as offspring young not their own. As Dr. Frank Salter indicates in his ground breaking work on genetic interests, these interests which are ultimate interests to all evolved organisms can exist at higher levels than mere individual and family. Genetic interests also exist at the level of population groups (ethnies"). Thus, if cuckoldry occurs at the individual/family level and damages genetic interests, can it not also occur at the level of ethnicity and race, with even wider spread damage done to genetic interests? Can Racial Cuckoldry exist, in which people are misled into thinking that the genetically alien is actually a co-ethnic, and so invest in people with whom they share relatively little distinctive genetic information? Note by "racial" in this context I mean pertaining to the "ethny" which can be any genetically defined population (ethnic group, sub-race, race, etc.). Note also that Racial Cuckoldry defined as the maladaptive investment in genetically alien ethnies and/or alien individuals who are mistakenly considered as belonging to your ethny is linked to mimicry, that is, Racial Mimicry. Racial Mimicry is fairly straightforward a member of one ethny mimics the outward characteristics of another ethny and, therefore, may be mistaken for a member of that other ethny. An example of the racial cuckoldry paradigm is the case of the Kalash, as indicated by this post and comments thread at American Renaissance. The Kalash are an Asian Caucasian group that are, in general, fairer complexioned that the surrounding Pakistani population. Some fraction of the Kalash population, particularly children, are fair even by European standards (i.e., light-haired and light-eyed), and an even smaller percentage of the population may resemble some Europeans in facial features (although most Kalash are, clearly, phenotypically distinct from Europeans).

The different faces of Kalash children

However, cherry-picked pictures of fair Kalash children prompt some hysterical commentators to assert that the Kalash are Aryans, racially similar to Europeans and thus racially White in the European sense of that word. Of course, this is complete nonsense; large scale genetic analyses clearly show that the Kalash are completely distinct from Europeans, a different race; indeed, the Kalash instead cluster with other Central/South Asian populations. Faced with the irrefutable evidence that the Kalash are, from a European perspective, a racially alien people, the hey, they look to me like White Aryans commentators completely ignore the evidence and essentially repeat the assertions that if you know anything about race, the Kalash are just like White Europeans. Except they are not. The data clearly show that the Kalash are in no way, shape, or form the ethnoracial kin of Europeans any more than are other Central/South Asian peoples. Individuals of European descent who are tricked by the superficial phenotypic mimicry of some Kalash for Europeans are victimized by racial cuckoldry. They are identifying the Kalash as part of their (kin) ingroup to an extent not supported by the actual genetic evidence. These deluded individuals may maladaptively invest in a genetically alien people who are being mistakenly perceived as being close ethnoracial kin. Is this any different from a bird raising an alien cuckoo in the nest? Is it different from a man unknowingly raising another mans child, thinking it is his own? In its very essence, the cuckoldry is the same investment in the genetically alien in place of more proper investment in those genetically closer. At the ethnic level, this of course occurs with ethnic groups other than the Kalash. The same types of people who become breathless over pictures of Kalash phenotypic outliers also become equally excited by the occasional fair Iranian or upper caste Brahmin Indian. The same hysteria about Aryans takes place, completely ignoring genetic data that shows these groups as distinct from Europeans. Probably the non-European groups genetically closest to Europeans are the Ashkenazim, some (and only some minority of) Turks, and unmixed Berbers. The Ashkenazim are likely a Middle-Eastern-European hybrid people and the European component allows for some limited similarity to Europeans, although selection and drift makes the Ashkenazi highly distinct from both Middle Easterners and Europeans. (See also here.) Turks are a mixed bag, some minority may be close to Europeans genetically and phenotypically; however, most others however are Near Eastern and/or Central Asian in biological type. As a whole, the Turkish people are genetically distinct from Europeans, although closer to Europeans than are, say, South Asians (high caste or otherwise). Berbers relatively unmixed with Arabs or Negroes are likely closer to Europeans than are Asian Caucasians, having, most probably, split from Europeans after the split with the Asian Caucasians. However, genetic differences exist between all these groups; the point being made here is of relative similarity. The major point is that, excitement over a few pictures of fair Kalash children aside, it is highly unlikely that the Kalash are closer to Europeans than are Ashkenazim, Turks, or Berbers. Racial cuckoldry can exist at the individual level as well. Let us take for an example actor Mark-Paul Gosselaar, who is pictured below. Knowing nothing of Mr. Gosselaars ancestry, I am sure that the Kalash look like White Europeans enthusiasts would say that Gosselaar looks White and European. Indeed, they may assert that he looks like a typical Northwest European and, judging by his surname, is a perfect example of an unmixed Dutchman.

Mark-Paul Gosselaar Unfortunately, they would be wrong, as Gosselaars mother is of Indonesian ancestry, making him a

Eurasian hybrid. Now, insofar as I know, Mr. Gosselaar may be a fine human being, an honorable man, and an excellent actor, and none of this should be construed as disrespect to him as a person. Nonetheless, his ancestry makes him genetically distinct and alien to Europeans, physical appearance notwithstanding. A person of (unmixed) European ancestry who would invest in Gosselaar as a member of their ingroup would be making all else being equal a maladaptive choice. If such a person is misled by Gosselaars appearance, then this is an example of racial cuckoldry due to racial mimicry. Now, racial cuckoldry can occur for reasons other than phenotypic (physical appearance) overlap. Mimicry in speech, culture, clothes, mannerisms and other such factors can mislead, resulting in racial cuckoldry as well. However, the Kalash problem is a perfect example of biological phenotypic mimicry leading to racial cuckoldry Indeed, this is one way of thinking about cultural influence by Jews: Although they are genetically distinct, Jews are often regarded as Whites despite the fact that they have different genetic interests and despite the fact that they have a very distinctive profile in the construction of culture: They are the main force behind the construction of the culture of critique. Nevertheless, from the Hollywood left to the neoconservatives, the Jewish identity and Jewish interests of prominent figures in the media and in politics are rarely mentioned, at least partly because mentioning Jewish identity is vigorously policed by Jewish activist organizations that are loathe to allow discussion about, say, Jewish influence in Hollywood. Moreover, it has been common for Jews, especially Jews involved in communism or other leftist movements, to change their names so that they didn't appear Jewish. This deception was made easier because, as noted above, there is some genetic admixture between Jews and Europeans, so that many Jews look European. The result is that Jewish intellectual and political activists are simply categorized by most Americans as Whites.

The Daily Show's Jon Stewart: Jewish, but European-Looking Genetic testing can identify and expose racial mimicry by objectively determining ethny group membership via autosomal genetic analyses. The power of autosomal analysis is an excellent argument for genetic testing and an excellent argument against relying solely on phenotype, culture, etc. for the identification of co-ethnic kin. This does not imply that phenotype and culture are unimportant; on the contrary, they are very important. But they are secondary and supportive superstructures built upon a foundation of autosomal genetic data. A primary reliance on these secondary racial identifiers leads one open to racial cuckoldry through racial mimicry, and one may see precious resources expended on the mimic rather than on actual co-ethnics. Or one may be open to cultural influences from genetically distinct peoples masquerading as ethnic kin. Testing and more testing autosomal genetic analyses is the key to avoiding racial cuckoldry. Now, on a practical level, for ethnic groups, this is usually not a problem. There is already a set of reasonably sound population genetic studies for many ethnic groups, including the Kalash. Rational individuals can look at the genetic data and understand that several pictures of unusual Kalash children cannot alter the racial profile of that entire group. The Kalash are a unique people that should be preserved, and I wish them well in their struggle for survival. But, they are not European. In the last analysis, the Kalash are part of the broader genetic interests of Central/South Asians; Europeans have

their own survival to worry about and need to let the Asians sort out their ethnic relations for themselves. What about on a more individualized level? Unfortunately, it is not (currently) practical to have autosomal genetic testing be as routine for large numbers of people as is, say, fingerprinting. But, it is not difficult to identify the ethnic ancestries of most people. Surely, Gosselaars ancestry is known, and it is possible to realize that, physical appearance aside, his mixed Eurasian background makes him genetically alien to Europeans. All else being equal, investing in Gosselaar based on his appearance would be a maladaptive choice for Europeans, and would be an example of racial cuckoldry. Once one knows the ethnic ancestry about an individual, particularly if population genetics data exist for that individuals constituent ethnic ancestry group or groups, one can estimate how genetically similar or dissimilar that individual is to you or to anyone else. You would simply use ethnic genetic data as a proxy for that person; for example, if the individual in question is German, population genetics data for Germans as a whole can be used to estimate the probable genetic profile of that individual. In most cases, it is not necessary for the person to be directly tested, although that option would be optimal. And, if that person believes that the ethnic proxy is not a good representation of his/her own genetic background, and that use of the proxy would be an unfair imposition of an imprecise genetic identity, then this individual can be tested with available autosomal genetic analyses. Individualized testing should always be an option, but if it is not possible, then the ethnic proxy represents a reasonable substitute. The main point is to avoid racial cuckoldry if at all possible. It would be beneficial if people would actually think through the consequences of a they look White to me attitude if the genetic data are reasonably definite that they are in no way similar to Europeans. Science can help us in understanding our genetic interests, but this help is useful only if it is accepted. A Luddite rejection of genetic science can lead to maladaptive choices. A bird feeding an alien cuckoo has no choice in the matter; there, instinct is exploited to promote cuckoldry. Thinking humans always have a choice; make that choice an adaptive one. After all, what is the difference for a man between cuckoldry and adoption? The former consists of a man being deceived into raising genetically alien offspring because he thinks it is his own; the latter consists of a man choosing to raise a genetic alien even though he knows it is not his own. We may debate the wisdom of adoption and for the specific case of people who cannot have their own children, adopting co-ethnics may indeed be adaptive but at least the adoption decision is made with the knowledge that the child in question is the offspring of others. No ignorance or deception is involved. Now, if people want to adopt the Kalash or Gosselaar into the family of Europeans, then let that choice be an informed one, with the genetic consequences, derived from genetic assays, clear and out in the open. Refusing to accept the available data is a poor method for decision making. Fully formed rational people should embrace the knowledge that is out there, not mindlessly reject it. After all, it is your adaptive fitness that is at stake. Ted Sallis (email him) writes on scientific issues. Permanent URL: http://www.theoccidentalobserver.net/authors/Sallis-Cuckoldry.html Racial passing refers to a person classified as a member of one racial group attempting to be accepted

as a member of a different racial group. (In other words, examples being the white girls who pretend they are Desi for praise, or the ones who live with desi or middle eastern men in the mens' home culture and/or country, for benefits such as praise/attention/status, money,sex, etc. The term was used especially in the US to describe a person of mixed-race heritage assimilating to the white majority during times when legal and social conventions of hypodescent classified the person as a minority, subject to racial segregation and discrimination. Examples in the United States In the 18th, 19th and early 20th-centuries, some Americans of mixed European and African ancestry claimed Mediterranean, Arab or Native American heritage to explain skin color and features differing from northern Europeans. They were trying to find a way through the binary racial divisions of society, especially in the South, where slavery became closely tied in the colonial era to the foreign status of people of African descent, which prevented them from being considered English subjects. In the 18th and 19th centuries, most free people went by appearance. If they looked white, were accepted by neighbors and fulfilled community obligations, they were absorbed into white or European-American society. Late 19th-century Jim Crow state laws establishing segregation in public facilities, and early 20th-century state laws establishing the "one-drop rule" for racial classification (as in Virginia in 1924), were examples of whites attempting to impose regulations of hypodescent, that is, classifying someone as black or African based on any African ancestry. Then someone who identified by appearance and majority ancestry might be described as "passing" for white. In Louisiana, people of color who passed as white were referred to as "passe blanc". The US civil rights leader Walter Francis White (who was blond-haired, blue-eyed, and very fair) was of mixed-race, mostly white ancestry. Twenty-seven of his great-great-great-grandparents were white and five were classified as black and had been slaves. He grew up with his parents and family in Atlanta in the black community and identified with it. He served as the chief executive of the National Association for the Advancement of Colored People (NAACP) from 1929 until his death in 1955. In the earlier stages of his career, he did investigations in the South, where he sometimes passed as white to gather information more freely on lynchings and hate crimes, and to protect himself in socially hostile environments. Twentieth-century Krazy Kat comics creator George Herriman was a Louisiana Creole of partial African-American ancestry who claimed Greek heritage throughout his adult life. The 20th-century writer and critic Anatole Broyard was a Louisiana Creole who chose to pass for white in his adult life in New York City and Connecticut, in part because he wanted to create an independent writing life and not be classified as a black writer. In addition, he did not identify with northern urban blacks, whose experiences had been much different than his as a child in New Orleans' Creole community. He married an American woman of European descent. His wife and many of his friends knew he was partly black in ancestry. His daughter Bliss Broyard did not find out until after her father's death. In 2007 she published a memoir that traced her exploration of her father's life and family mysteries entitled One Drop: My Father's Hidden Life - A Story of Race and Family Secrets. [edit] Europeans' passing as First Nations/Native American people Portrait of Grey Owl in 1936. Born in England, he went to Canada and lived with First Nations people, passing as part Native American for many years. In a limited reversal of the usual pattern, some people of European ancestry have chosen to pass as members of other races. The environmentalist Grey Owl was a white British man named Archibald Belaney, rather than the Native American-Canadian he claimed to be. He claimed he was half Apache

and half Scottish to explain European aspects of his appearance. He learned the Ojibwa languages and ways, and lived fully with them as a man of nature. The United States actor Iron Eyes Cody, who was of Sicilian descent, created a niche by playing roles of Native Americans. He had claimed American Indian heritage to get work. Other examples During World War II in Nazi Germany and the rest of Europe, some Jewish people who looked "Aryan" (based on fair coloring and other features) passed as "Aryan" to save their lives, and to avoid shipment by the Nazis to concentration and death camps. An extreme example is the story of Edith Hahn Beer. Hahn was Jewish and "passed" as "Aryan"; she survived the Holocaust by living with and marrying a Nazi officer. Hahn-Beer wrote a memoir called: The Nazi Officer's Wife: How One Jewish Woman Survived the Holocaust.[2] Examples of racial passing have been used by people to assimilate to groups other than European, but does not have the same history. For example, Marie Lee Bandura, who grew up as part of the Qayqayt First Nation in New Westminster, British Columbia, was orphaned and believed she was the last of her people. She moved to Vancouver's Chinatown, married a Chinese man, and raised her four children as Chinese. One day she told her daughter Rhonda Larrabee about her heritage: "I will tell you once, but you must never ask me again."[3][4] [edit] Treatment in American literature and popular culture [edit] Literature Writing in the late 19th century, Charles W. Chesnutt explored issues of mixed-race people passing for white in several of his short stories and novels set in the South after the American Civil War. It was a tumultuous time, with dramatic social changes following the emancipation of slaves, many of whom were mixed race because of white men having taken sexual advantage of slave women. Nella Larsen's 1929 novella, Passing, deals with two biracial women's racial identities and their social experience: one generally passes for white and has married white; the other is married to a black man and lives in the black community of Harlem. She occasionally passes for white for convenience, as it was a time of social segregation in some public facilities. Black Like Me (1961) was an account by journalist John Howard Griffin about his experiences as a Southern white man passing as black in the late 1950s. The Human Stain (2000) is a novel by Philip Roth featuring a professor of classics, a man of Creole mixed-race ancestry, who spent his adult professional life passing as a European-American Jewish intellectual. Danzy Senna's 1998 novel Caucasia features Birdie, a biracial girl who looks white and accompanies her white mother as they go into hiding. Her sister, Cole, looks black and goes with their black father into a different hiding place. Mat Johnson and Warren Pleese's graphic novel Incognegro, is inspired by Walter White's work as an investigative reporter on lynchings in the South. It tells of Zane Pinchback, a young, light-skinned, African-American man whose eyewitness reports of lynchings are regularly published in a New York periodical under the byline "Incognegro".[citation needed]

[edit] Film The 1934 film, Imitation of Life, featured the character Peola, who has mixed ancestry and is accepted as white. Pinky was a 1949 Academy Award-winning film on the topic. The 1959 remake of the 1934 film, Imitation of Life, featured the character Sarah Jane, who has mixed ancestry and is accepted as white. Melvin Van Peebles' 1970 film, Watermelon Man, tells the story of a casually racist white man who wakes up black and the impact this development has on his life. The 1973 film, The Spook Who Sat By The Door features a bank robbery conducted by an African American underground guerrilla warfare organization. For the robbery, lighter skinned members who with hair wigs pass as white are purposefully used. Witnesses to the crime describe them as Caucasian males, thus drawing suspicion away from the organization. The 1986 film, Soul Man, features a white man who undergoes racial transformation to qualify for an African-American-only scholarship at Harvard Law School. The 1995 film, Panther, features a black Federal Bureau of Investigation agent named Pruitt, who passes for white when among African Americans. A training montage for Black Panther members runs with one member telling new recruits "A slave hates himself, a slave hates his skin...." with Agent Pruitt appearing in the background. The 2000 TV movie A House Divided, based on a Charles W. Chesnutt 19th c. novel, told the story of a mixed-race woman who was light-skinned enough to pass, and whose mother was a black slave. When the woman's white father attempted to will his property to his mixed-race daughter, the family ran afoul of local laws forbidding property ownership by blacks. The 2003 film, The Human Stain, stars Anthony Hopkins as an African American who has passed as a Jewish man for most of his adult life. In 2004, Marlon and Shawn Wayans were featured in the movie, White Chicks. Two black FBI agents go undercover as two rich white girls and are accepted by the white people they come into contact with, including the girls' friends. In the 2008 film Tropic Thunder, Robert Downey Jr plays a blue-eyed, blond-haired Australian method actor who undergoes plastic surgery to portray an African-American soldier in a Vietnam War movie within the movie. [edit] Music Rock band Big Black released a song on this subject called "Passing Complexion" on their 1986 album Atomizer. [edit] Television On the December 15, 1984 episode of Saturday Night Live, the black actor Eddie Murphy appeared in "White Like Me",[5] a sketch in which he used theatrical make-up to appear as a white man. In 1985, actor Phil Morris played black attorney Tyrone Jackson on the soap opera The Young and the Restless. He uses make-up to pass as a white man and infiltrate Joseph Anthony's crime organization. In November 2005, Ice Cube and Emmy Award-winning filmmaker R. J. Cutler teamed to create the six-part documentary series titled Black. White., broadcast on cable network FX. Two families, one black and one white, shared a home in the San Fernando Valley for the majority of the show. The Sparks and their son Nick, from Atlanta, Georgia, were made up to appear to be white. The Wurgels

and their daughter Rose were transformed from white to black. The show premiered in March 2006. In "Libertyville", an episode from the sixth season of Cold Case set in 1958, the actor Johnathon Schaech portrays Julian Bellowes, who's just married into a wealthy family in Philadelphia, PA. He has not told them he is a Louisiana Creole.[6] In an episode of Law & Order a rich African-American who has been passing for white for his entire life in order to enter the most elitist circles is accused of killing his girlfriend in order to give away his newborn baby that would expose him as being of African-American descent. American tri-racial isolates Many communities of mixed-racial heritage are scattered throughout the eastern United States. They were called tri-racial isolate groups by anthropologists because in some areas they had quite cohesive group identities and for decades married within the community. They were always formed in relation to the larger communities, however. Members often claimed to have Indian and European ancestry, although some also were identified in early years as Arab to explain physical characteristics that made them look different from mostly European neighbors. Myths arose about their origins, including links to Turks, the Lost Colony of Roanoke, and early Native American tribes. Most of the stories have not been supported by any historic documentation. Extensive research in the late 20th century in original colonial records has documented genealogies and migration patterns of many ancestors of these peoples. In work that has won awards, Paul Heinegg found that most free people of color in North Carolina in 1790 and 1810 were descended from African Americans free in Virginia during the colonial period. Free African Americans, also called "free people of color" in early 19th century censuses (which had no designation for American Indian) migrated to frontier areas in 18th century Virginia and other areas of the Chesapeake Bay Colony. Like their neighbors of European descent, after the American Revolution they migrated into North Carolina, Kentucky and Tennessee, and often further west. In frontier areas land was more affordable, and the people were often accepted by neighbors and were not as bound by racial divisions as in the plantation settlements. He found that 80 percent of the people listed as "other" or "free Negroes" and "free people of color" in North Carolina in censuses from 1790-1810 were descended from African Americans free in Virginia during the colonial period. Those were born mostly of relationships freely chosen between white women, free or indentured servants, and African or African American men, indentured servants, free or slave. Such relationships indicated the fluid nature of society before slavery became defined as a lifelong racial caste. Because the women were white, their children were born free. In addition, some slaves were freed as early as the mid-17th century, so after 150 years had generations of descendants by 1800, the turn of the 19th century.[7] Early scholars of such groups thought they descended from Europeans, Africans who escaped from slavery, and Native Americans, who formed their own communities on the frontiers. The first comprehensive survey of these groups was made in 1948 and listed the following:[8] listed: The Wesorts of southern Maryland; The Issues (referring to free Negroes of longstanding, now called Monacans) of Amherst and Rockingham Counties, Virginia; The Croatans (since 1953 called Lumbees) of Robeson County North Carolina, South Carolina, and Virginia; The Melungeons of the Southern Appalachians, centered on Hancock County Tennessee; The Brass Ankles, Redbones, Red Legs, Turks, and Marlboro Blues of South Carolina; The Cajuns or Acadians and Creoles of Louisiana;

The Redbones of Texas and Louisiana; The Guineas, West Hill Indians, Cecil Indians; and The Jackson Whites of the Ramapo Mountains of New York and New Jersey, the only group that originally formed outside the South. Most of the above names were labels given by whites or blacks, not terms created by the multiracial communities. Some members have considered such nicknames offensive. The relatively isolated mixed-race communities are important to the study of people's moving from black to white across the color line because some formed a "racial escape hatch". Members increasingly married into and identified with the European-American majority community in the area. [edit] Creoles and mixed race In Latin America, generational acculturation and assimilation took place via intermarriage. Mediumbrown offspring of even dark parents were no longer "black", but were labeled with any of a half-dozen terms denoting class as much as skin tone. Descendants who were European-looking were accepted as white. This was somewhat similar to the growth of a mixed-race Creole class in Louisiana, especially in New Orleans before the US purchased the territory. In the early years of the French and Spanish colony, there were few European women. Men took enslaved or Native American women as wives or mistresses. In the Latin culture, the wealthy men often had their mixed-race sons educated in Europe or trained in skilled trades. Gradually a third caste evolved, of mixed-race Creoles. Creoles were often educated, and many became wealthy property owners. They also formed a community of artisans in New Orleans. Beautiful young Creole women often became the official mistresses of white French colonists, who provided financial settlements for them and their children in a system known as plaage. This enabled them to have their children educated. Certainly there were many generations of mixed-race people in the American South. In the later 18th and 19th centuries, they were often the children of white planter fathers and enslaved women. Among the most famous were the multiracial slave children born to Thomas Jefferson and Sally Hemings from their long relationship after he became a widower. Hemings was mixed-race, as was her enslaved mother Betty Hemings. The daughter of a slave woman and an English sea captain, Betty became the longtime mistress of Jefferson's father-in-law John Wayles after he became a widower for the third time, and had several children with him. In 1998, DNA studies showed that the descendants of Eston Hemings, Sally's youngest son, were related to the Jefferson male line. Most historians, the National Genealogical Society, and the Thomas Jefferson Foundation of Monticello believe that the weight of historical evidence suggests Jefferson was the father of Eston and all of Hemings' children (who were thus seven-eighths European by ancestry and legally white under Virginia law at the time). The historian Annette Gordon-Reed was awarded a MacArthur Fellowship in 2010 for her work on the history of the Jeffersons and the Hemings families (which won a Pulitzer Prize and 15 other major awards), and for "changing the course of Jeffersonian scholarship" by showing how earlier historians had disregarded or discounted important evidence from slave testimonies.[9] The Civil War did not end relationships across color and ethnic lines. Although during the Jim Crow era, southern legislators created strict segregation between whites and blacks and anti-miscegenation laws, people made their own arrangements. As under slavery, relationships often developed out of

white social dominance. For instance, as a 22-year-old young man, segregationist US Senator Strom Thurmond had an affair with Carrie "Tunch" Butler, the 16-year-old black maid to his family. She bore his daughter Essie Mae Washington-Williams. Thurmond provided financial support for his daughter and paid for Butler's education, but kept her existence a secret. His daughter did not discuss their relationship until after his death. [edit] More than one New waves of immigration and people's desires to embrace all of their heritage are causing attrition of single "racial" categories. Responding to citizens, the Census Bureau since 2000 allows people to check off "more than one" ethnic group with which they identify, and more responses are falling into that category.[10] Younger people are especially claiming all their multi-racial heritage. Passing (sociology) From Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia Passing is the ability of a person to be regarded as a member of social groups other than his or her own, such as a different race, ethnicity, social class, gender, intelligence, age and/or disability status, generally with the purpose of gaining social acceptance.[1] This may take the form of changing only one group from the person's own, such as a person's dressing such as to pretend to be of a higher social class. Etymologically, the term is simply a clipped form of the phrasal verb pass for or pass as, as in a counterfeit passing for the genuine article or an impostor passing as another person. It has been in popular use since at least the late 1920s.[2] Contents [hide] 1 Social class 2 Ethnicity and race 3 Gender and sexual orientation 4 Disability 5 Other 6 See also 7 Footnotes [edit] Social class Class passing, analogous to racial and gender passing, is the concealment or misrepresentation of ones social class. Whereas racial and gender passing is often stigmatized, class passing is generally accepted as normative behavior (see Norm (sociology)).[3] Class passing is common in US media and is linked to the notion of the American Dream and of upward class mobility. English-language novels which feature class passing include The Talented Mr. Ripley, Anne of Green Gables, and the Horatio Alger novels. Films featuring class-passing characters include Catch Me If You Can and Andy Hardy Meets Debutante.[4] Class passing also figures into reality television programs such as Joe Millionaire: contestants are often immersed in displays of great material wealth, or may have to conceal their class status.[5] Motives for class passing might include:

Achievement of class mobility. Individuals may class pass to achieve social mobility. For instance, working-class students may class pass in educational institutions to obtain academic credentials and the associated rewards.[6] Concealment of previous class status. Upwardly mobile individuals may class pass to conceal previous membership in the lower or working classes.[7] Membership in the Working Class. Membership in the working class can be construed from multiple viewpoints: on the one hand, working-class identification can be a source of positive identification; on the other, working-class identity can be a source of stigma. Working-class individuals report fear of disclosure of their identity, particularly if poor performance at work or school or deviant behavior may be attributed to them.[8] For instance, a study of working-class students found that they link the fear of performing poorly on standardized tests to a fear of being discovered as working class.[9] [edit] Ethnicity and race Main article: Passing (racial identity) Passing as another ethnicity is a common phenomenon.[citation needed] Discriminated groups In North America and Europe frequently modified their accents, word choices, manner of dress, grooming habits, and even their names in an attempt to appear to be members of a majority group or of a privileged minority group.[citation needed] For example, South Americans and Spaniards in the U.S. may claim Chicano descent for the purpose of enjoying benefits under affirmative action programs and practices.[10] Circumcised Jewish males in Germany during World War II attempted to restore their foreskins as part of passing as Gentile.[citation needed]The film Europa, Europa explores this theme. [edit] Gender and sexual orientation [icon] This section requires expansion. Main article: Passing (gender) See also: The closet Passing as a different sexual orientation has traditionally been an action taken by homosexual men and women who pretend to be heterosexual to avoid social bigotry. The phrase "in the closet" is often used for a secret homosexual (or bisexual). [edit] Disability Question book-new.svg This section does not cite any references or sources. Please help improve this section by adding citations to reliable sources. Unsourced material may be challenged and removed. (October 2011) Passing among persons with disabilities is a complex situation more commonly addressed via the parallel terms visible and invisible disabilities. Visible disabilities'are those impairments which are readily apparent to a non-disabled person: for instance wheelchair use or facial disfigurement; invisible disabilities are those which are not immediately apparent: for instance hearing impairments, mental health or neurological disorders. Whether a particular disability is "visible" or "invisible" can vary on both individual and contextual bases; a wheelchair user may only use the wheelchair under certain circumstances and move apparently normally under others, a prosthetic limb may or may not be apparent, depending on clothing. A particular disabled person may often have both visible and invisible disabilities. Whether a disabled person is invisibly or visibly disabled or both can affect the provision of services

and the likelihood and types of discriminatory behaviour which is experienced. Visibly disabled people are more likely to suffer random harassment for appearance; invisibly disabled people may experience harassment when attempting to access facilities provided for people with disabilities. A disabled person with both visible and invisible disabilities may experience substantial difficulty in directing attention to the less apparent invisible disability. The inherent visual aspect of a visible disability provides a visual foundation for building charitable or campaigning activity around, for instance the March of Dimes; while this foundation is absent for invisible disabilities. This dichotomy may result in less funding and care for invisible disabilities. For whatever reason, Medicare in the United States provides much less funding for mental than physical disabilities. [edit] Other Passing as a member of a different religion or as religious at all is common among minority religious communities, such as Jews living among Christians at certain times, or Shi'i Muslims living in Sunni communities.[citation needed] In an intentionally humorous echo of homosexual passing or "being in the closet", many Wiccans refer to hesitating to admit their religion as being in the "broom closet".[citation needed] Passing as less intelligent is not uncommon, especially in teenagers. Peer pressure may insist that they not be a "dork" or a "geek". These teens say that they just want to be normal. Here are a few examples of white men pretending to be native Americans. http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Iron_Eyes_Cody Cody was born as Espera Oscar de Corti in Kaplan, Louisiana, a second son of Antonio de Corti and his wife, Francesca Salpietra, immigrants from Sicily, Italy. He had two brothers and a sister. His parents had a local grocery store in Gueydan, Louisiana, where he was raised. In some of his earliest acting credits, he was listed as Tony de Corti. His father left the family and moved to Texas, where he took the name Tony Corti. His mother married Alton Abshire and had five more children with him. When the three De Corti brothers were teenagers, they joined their father in Texas and also took the shortened last name of Corti. They moved on to California, where they started acting in movies, and each took the surname Cody. Joseph William and Frank Henry Cody worked some as extras, but moved on to other work. Tony Cody made a career as a film actor. [edit] Film career Cody began his acting career at age twelve. He worked in film and TV until the time of his death. From his time in Hollywood, Tony Cody claimed Cherokee-Cree ancestry. He lived his life as if he were of indigenous Native American descent, both on and off the screen, and strongly supported American Indian causes. He appeared in more than 200 films, including The Big Trail (1930), with John Wayne; The Scarlet Letter (1934), with Colleen Moore; Sitting Bull (1954), as Crazy Horse; The Light in the Forest (1958) as Cuyloga; Nevada Smith (1966), with Steve McQueen; A Man Called Horse (1970), with Richard Harris; and Ernest Goes to Camp (1987), as Chief St. Cloud. In 1953, he appeared twice as Chief Big Cloud in Duncan Renaldo's television series, The Cisco Kid. He later guest starred on John Payne's NBC western series, The Restless Gun.

Cody became widely seen in his "crying Indian" role in the "Keep America Beautiful" Public Service Announcement (PSA) in the early 1970s.[1] The environmental commercial showed Cody as an Indian, shedding a tear after people throw trash from a speeding car and it lands at his feet. The announcer, William Conrad, says: "People start pollution; people can stop it." The Joni Mitchell song "Lakota," from the 1988 album, Chalk Mark in a Rainstorm, features Cody's chanting.[2] He made a cameo appearance in the 1990 film Spirit of '76. In an episode of the TV series, The Sopranos, titled "Christopher" (2002), Ralph Cifaretto (Joseph Pantoliano) threatens to expose Cody's Sicilian ancestry as leverage against anti-Columbus protests by an Indian group. Later in the episode, the Tony Soprano character is later told that "it's like knowing that James Caan isn't Italian" (referring to his role as an Italian American in The Godfather film). [edit] Marriage and family Cody married Bertha Parker, an American Indian woman, in 1936. They adopted several Indian children, including two brothers who were Dakota-Maricopa. One of his sons, Robert Tree Cody, is interviewed about his father in the documentary Reel Injun. Cody and Bertha divorced in 1978. In 1992 he married Wendy Foote. They divorced in 1993. [edit] Honors In 1995, the Hollywood American Indian community honored Cody for his contributions to the representation of Indian life.[3] In 1996, the New Orleans Times-Picayune reported his Sicilian heritage, but Cody denied it. He lived all his adult life claiming he was American Indian and supported related causes. Cody died in 1999, aged 94; he was interred in the Hollywood Forever Cemetery. He was survived by his adopted son, Robert "Tree" Cody, who has become known as a performer on the Native American flute. Robert is of Dakota-Maricopa ancestry. http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Grey_Owl Grey Owl (or Wa-sha-quon-asin, from the Ojibwe wenjiganoozhiinh, meaning "great horned owl" or "great grey owl") was the name Archibald Belaney (September 18, 1888 April 13, 1938) adopted when he took on a First Nations identity as an adult. A British native, he was most notable as an author and one of the "most effective apostles of the wilderness".[1] Revelation of his British origins after his death adversely affected his reputation for some time. Since the 1970s and, with the centennial of his birth, there has been renewed public appreciation for his conservation efforts. Recognition has included biographies, a historic plaque at his birthplace, a 1999 biopic about his life by director Richard Attenborough. Archibald Stansfeld Belaney was born in September 1888, near Hastings, England.[2] Born to George Belaney and his wife Katherine (Kittie) Cox, Archie was mostly of English descent on both sides; his paternal grandfather had come from Scotland and married in England.[3][4] Kittie was his father's second wife. Years before Archie's birth, George Belaney had immigrated to the

United States with his then-wife Elizabeth Cox and her younger sister Katherine (Kittie). After Elizabeth's early death, George persuaded Kittie, not yet 20, to marry him. Within the year they returned to England in time for the birth of their son Archie. The family lived together near Hastings until Kittie became pregnant for a second time. The father and Kittie left to return to the United States, where he abandoned her.[5] Kittie had left Archie in the care of his father's mother Juliana Belaney and his two younger sisters, Julia Caroline Belaney and Janet Adelaide Belaney,[6] whom the boy would know as Aunt Carry and Aunt Ada. Kittie visited him a few times. Belaney later told his publisher his father was Scots. The Belaney name does have roots in Scotland. One of his biographers documented that Archie's paternal grandfather had moved from Scotland to England, where he became a successful merchant.[7] The Belaney boy attended Hastings Grammar School, where he excelled in subjects such as English, French and Chemistry.[8] While outside school, he spent much time reading, or exploring St Helen's Wood near his home.[9] As a boy, Belaney was known for pranks, such as using his Grammar School chemistry to make small bombs.[10] He called them "Belaney Bombs".[11] Fascinated by American Indians, Belaney read about them and drew them in the margins of his books. Belaney left Hastings Grammar School and started work as a clerk with a lumber company located behind St. Helen's Wood.[12] There Belaney and his friend George McCormick perfected the arts of knife throwing and marksmanship. Belaney turned his creativity to pursuits other than work. His last event there was lowering fireworks down the chimney of the lumber company's office. The works exploded and nearly destroyed the building. After the lumberyard fired him, Belaney's aunts let him move to Canada, where he sought adventure. On March 29, 1906 Belaney boarded the SS. Canada and sailed for Halifax.[13] [edit] Immigration to Canada Belaney emigrated, ostensibly to study agriculture. After a brief time in Toronto, he moved to Temagami (Tema-Augama), Northern Ontario, where he worked as a fur trapper. Fascinated with the Anishinaabe Ojibwe, he set about learning their language and lore. On August 23, 1910, he married Angele Egwuna, an Ojjibwa woman from whom he learned much about the people. They started life together in a tent on Bear Island (Lake Temagami). Soon Angele gave birth to their daughter Agnes. Angele's uncle called Belaney "Little Owl", because he watched everything carefully. Belaney claimed he was adopted by the tribe and given a name meaning "Grey Owl". Belaney worked as a trapper, wilderness guide, and forest ranger. At first he began to sign his name as "Grey Owl". Then he created a full-blown Native identity, telling people that he was the child of a Scottish father and Apache mother. He claimed to have emigrated from the U.S. to join the Ojibwa in Canada. Belaney enlisted with the Canadian Overseas Expeditionary Force (CEF) on May 6, 1915 during World War I. His Regimental number with the CEF was 415259. On his attestation papers, he claimed to be born in Montreal on Sept 18, 1888, and listed no next of kin, however when asked about his marital status, it appears some confusion may have taken place as the word 'yes' was written, and then crossed out, then the word 'no' was written, and then crossed out ultimately not clearly answering the question, leaving his marital status unclear to the military at the time of enlistment. He stated his trade was a 'trapper', and that he previously served as a 'Mexican Scout' with the 28th Dragoons, although this is unclear since the U.S. was not in any significant military actions in the region (other than small

operations, to which he could not have served, he would have had to serve between 1904 and 1915). Belaney joined the 13th (Montreal) Battalion of the Black Watch. His unit was shipped to France, where he served as a sniper. His comrades accepted his self-presentation as Indian and generally praised his conduct. Belaney was wounded in January 1916, and then more seriously on April 24, 1916, with a shot through the foot. When the wounded limb developed gangrene, Grey Owl was shipped to England for treatment. While doctors tried to heal his foot, they moved Grey Owl from one British infirmary to another for a full year. In England, Grey Owl met again with childhood friend, Constance (Ivy) Holmes, and they married. Their marriage failed in a short time, without his having told Holmes that he was still married to Angele, whom he had abandoned but not divorced.[14] Grey Owl was shipped back to Canada in September 1917, where he received an honorable discharge on November 30 with a disability pension. [edit] Career In 1925, then 37-year-old Grey Owl met 19-year-old Gertrude Bernard (aka Anahareo, or Pony), a Mohawk Iroquois woman who was to be very influential in his life. She encouraged him to stop trapping and to publish his writing about the wilderness. They had a passionate eight-year affair, beginning with their Anishinaabe wedding ceremony.[15][16] Through her influence, he began to think more deeply about conservation. Anahareo encouraged his writing and influenced him by saving and raising a pair of beaver kits. His first piece, "The Falls of Silence", was published under the name A.S. Belaney in Country Life, the famous English sporting and society magazine. He also published articles on animal lore as Grey Owl in Forest & Outdoors, a publication of the Canadian Forestry Association. He became increasingly known in Canada and the United States. In 1928, the National Parks Service made a film, Beaver People, featuring Grey Owl and Anahareo, which showed them with two beavers which they had taken in as kits and raised after their mother was killed. After his work attracted the attention of the Dominion Parks Service, Grey Owl was invited to join them as a naturalist. In 1931, Grey Owl and Anahareo moved briefly (with their beavers) to a cabin in Riding Mountain National Park to find a sanctuary for them. The following year, they resettled at Ajawaan Lake in a home provided by the government at Prince Albert National Park, where Grey Owl was made Honorary Warden responsible for protecting beaver.[15] They had a daughter together, Shirley Dawn, who was born August 23, 1932. Belaney told his publisher and future biographer, Lovat Dickson, the following story about his origins: He was the son of a Scottish father and Apache mother. He claimed his father was a man named George MacNeil, who had been a scout during the 1870s Indian Wars in the southwestern United States. Grey Owl said his mother was Katherine Cochise of the Apache, Jicarilla band. He further said that both parents had been part of the Wild Bill Hickok Western show that toured England. Grey Owl claimed to have been born in 1888 in Hermosillo, Mexico, while his parents were performing there. [17] Little of this account was factual. In his articles, books, and films, Grey Owl promoted the ideas of environmentalism and nature conservation. In the 1930s, he wrote many articles for the Canadian Forestry Association (CFA)

publication Forests and Outdoors, including the following: "King of the Beaver People", January 1931 "A Day in a Hidden Town", April 1931 "A Mess of Pottage", May 1931 "The Perils of Woods Travel", September 1931 "Indian Legends and Lore", October 1931 "A Philosophy of the Wild", December 1931 His article, "A Description of the Fall Activities of Beaver, with some remarks on Conservation", was collected in Harper Cory's book Grey Owl and the Beaver (London: Thomas Nelson and Sons Ltd, 1935). In 1935-36 and 193738, Grey Owl toured Canada and England (including Hastings) to promote his books and lecture about conservation. His popularity attracted large, interested audiences, as Pilgrims in the Wild at one point was selling 5,000 copies a month.[14] Grey Owl appeared in traditional Ojibwa clothing as part of his First Nations identity. Although his aunts recognized him at his 1935 appearance in Hastings, they did not talk about his British origins until 1937. In his later tour, Grey Owl was invited to the court, where he made a presentation to King George VI of the United Kingdom and princesses Elizabeth and Margaret. During a publication tour of Canada, Grey Owl met Yvonne Perrier, a French Canadian woman. In November 1936 they married. [edit] Death The tours were fatiguing for him and his years of alcoholism weakened him.[15] In April 1938, he returned to Beaver Lodge, his cabin at Ajawaan Lake. Five days later, he was found unconscious on the floor of the cabin. Although taken to Prince Albert hospital for treatment, he died of pneumonia on April 13, 1938. He was buried near his cabin. His first wife Angele proved her marriage and, although she had not seen him for several years, inherited most of his estate.[15] After their deaths, Anahareo and Shirley Dawn (died June 3, 1984) in turn were buried at Ajawaan Lake. [edit] Marriages and families Belaney had relationships with at least five women.[18] He deserted his first wife and child, later committing bigamy by marrying Constance Holmes in England. He had a daughter with his first and third wives, and was known to have fathered a boy as well. Women in Belaney's life: Angele Egwuna (Anishinaabe), married August 1910. Daughter Agnes Belaney. Mtis woman, with whom Belaney had a son. She died of tuberculosis soon after the boy was born and he was raised by her family.[18] Constance (Ivy) Holmes, married in England in 1917. No children. Gertrude Bernard (Anahareo) (Mohawk), eight-year affair beginning with Anishinaabe marriage ceremony in 1925.[16] Daughter Shirley Dawn, b. 1932. Separated 1936. Yvonne Perrier (French Canadian), "married" November 1936. No children.

[edit] Exposure Doubts about Grey Owl's First Nation identity had been circulating and stories were published immediately after his death. The North Bay Nugget newspaper ran the first expos the day of his death, a story which they had been holding for three years.[18] This was followed up by international news organisations, such as The Times. His publisher Lovat Dickson tried to prove Belaney's claimed identity, but had to admit that his friend had lied to him. His popularity and support for his causes led The Ottawa Citizen to conclude, "Of course, the value of his work is not jeopardized. His attainments as a writer and naturalist will survive." This opinion was widely shared in the national press.[18] While his writings showed his deep knowledge and concern about the environment, Belaney's account of his origins as "Grey Owl" was mostly fictional. The consequences of the revelation were dramatic. Publishers immediately ceased producing his books under the name Grey Owl. In some cases his books were withdrawn from publication. This in turn affected the conservation causes with which Belaney had been associated, resulting in a decrease in donations to them. [edit] Posthumous recognition Numerous books about Grey Owl have been published, including: Half-Breed: The Story of Grey Owl by Lovat Dickson (1939) My Life with Grey Owl by Anahareo (1940) Devil in Deerskins: My Life with Grey Owl by Anahareo (1972) published in the UK as Grey Owl and I: A New Autobiography by Anahareo (1972) Wilderness Man: The Strange Story of Grey Owl by Lovat Dickson (1974) From the Land of Shadows: the Making of Grey Owl by Donald B. Smith (1990) In 1972 the Canadian Broadcasting Corporation (CBC) produced a documentary special on him. It was directed by Nancy Riley. In 1999, the film Grey Owl was released. It was directed by Richard Attenborough and starred Pierce Brosnan. The film received mixed reviews and received no theatrical release in the United States. As teenagers, Attenborough and his brother David had seen Grey Owl speak at the London Palladium theatre. David Attenborough later became a naturalist. In a 1999 interview, Richard Attenborough mentioned that they were both very affected by seeing Grey Owl, perhaps to the point of influencing their future career paths. On the 100th anniversary of Grey Owl's birth, the Grey Owl Society of Hastings arranged planting of a Canadian red maple tree in his honor in the grounds of the William Parker School, the successor to the Hastings Grammar School. In June 1997, the mayor of Hastings and the borough's Member of Parliament (Michael Foster) unveiled a plaque in his honor on the house at 32 St. James Road where he was born.[19] The ranger station at Hastings Country Park, 4 miles to the east of Hastings, also has a commemorative plaque to Grey Owl. A full-size replica of his Canadian lakeside cabin is in Hastings Museum at Summerfields. An exhibition of memorabilia and a commemorative plaque are at the house at 36 St. Mary's Terrace where he lived with his grandmother and aunts.[19] Parks Canada has restored his cabin and established a wildlife sanctuary at Lake Anaabe. In September 2004, hip-hop activist Raoul Juneja (aka Deejay Ra) launched a 'Grey Owl' Birthday Recognition Campaign. He incorporated Grey Owl titles into his 'Hip-Hop Literacy' project and

campaigned on Canadian community TV for national recognition of Grey Owl's birthday. He was the first author to teach Native rights at Harvard University. In 2005, the birthday recognition campaign led to Key Porter Books re-publishing Grey Owl's classic Tales from an Empty Cabin. It also inspired a segment of a show on BookTelevision featuring DJ Ra and Lord Attenborough discussing Grey Owl's legacy. [edit] Grey Owl's books The Men of the Last Frontier. London: Country Life, 1931. Pilgrims of the Wild. London: Lovat Dickson Ltd., 1934. The Adventures of Sajo and her Beaver People. London: Lovat Dickson Ltd., 1935. Tales of an Empty Cabin. London: Lovat Dickson Ltd., 1936. A long story from Tales of an Empty Cabin was published separately in 1937 as a small volume: The Tree. London: Lovat Dickson Ltd., 1937. [edit] Collected editions Grey Owl's first three books, The Men of the Last Frontier, Pilgrims of the Wild and Sajo and her Beaver People, have been collected and reprinted as Grey Owl: Three Complete and Unabridged Canadian Classics (2001: ISBN 1-55209-590-8). Excerpts from all four of his books were collected in The Book of Grey Owl: Selected Wildlife Stories (1938; 1989 reprint: ISBN 0-7715-9293-0). [edit] Translations Ludzie Z Ostatniej Granicy. Translation by Aleksander Dobrot. Warsaw (Poland): Wydawnictwo J. Przeworskiego, 1939. Ambassadeur des btes. Translation by Simonne Ratel. Paris : Hatier-Boivin, 1956?. (Called Ambassador of the Beasts", Translation of the second part of: Tales of an Empty Cabin) Rcits de la cabane abandonne. Translation by Jeanne-Roche-Mazon. Paris : ditions contemporaines, 1951. (Translation of the first part of: Tales of an Empty Cabin.) Sajo et ses castors. Translated from the English by Charlotte and Marie-Louise Pressoir; illustrations by Pierre Le Guen. Paris : Socit nouvelle des ditions G.P., 1963. (Translation of: The Adventures of Sajo and Her Beaver People.) Pilgrims of the Wild. d. ordinaire. Translation by Jeanne Roche-Mazon. Paris : ditions contemporaines, 1951. . . . : , 1958. . . .. : , 1974. C . ., : , 1986 Przygody Sajo i maych bobrw. Warsaw, 2008. . Translation by . Illustrated by . Covers . , , (Belgrade, Serbia), 1967. [edit] See also For 20th-century examples of an individual's assuming a Native North American identity,

establishing notability, and later being revealed as ethnic European, see: Chief Buffalo Child Long Lance, Forrest Carter, Nasdijj and Ward Churchill. The circumstances are different in each case. Grey Owl demonstrably learned the Ojibwe language and their way of life, and lived as one of the people, from whom he gained respect. Manitonquat (Medicine Story) has also a Native North American and European background. http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Nasdijj Timothy Patrick Barrus (born 1950) is an American author who, under the pseudonym Nasdijj, wrote three supposed memoirs of his experiences as a Native American, which were published between 2000 and 2004. Barrus portrayed an ancestral and personal history that was later determined to be false in most respects. He has not published since investigative reporting in 2006 brought this to light. His work has been considered one of the major examples in the United States publishing world of memoirs released under false or misleading pretenses. Prior to writing as Nasdijj, Barrus wrote gay and sadomasochistic erotica. He was born in Lansing, Michigan, and has no known Native American ancestry. Publication and recognition As Nasdijj, Barrus received widespread recognition as a writer on the Native American experience. His essay, "The Blood Runs Like a River Through My Dreams", was published in Esquire in 1999 and was a finalist in the National Magazine Awards that year. It was published as part of a collection under the same name.[2] He won the 2004 PEN American Center's Beyond Margins award, for The Boy and the Dog Are Sleeping.[3] In the specialist Native American journal, Studies in American Indian Literatures (SAIL), Marijo Moore wrote, "Nasdijj has shed his blood that runs like a river through his dreams. Spilled it all over the pages of this book so that others might relate. Raw, poignant, poetic, and painful, Nasdijj's style of writing is refreshing."[4] The books which Barrus published under the name Nasdijj are: The Blood Runs Like a River Through My Dreams (2000), The Boy and the Dog Are Sleeping (2003) , and Geronimo's Bones: A Memoir of My Brother and Me (2004). Published as non-fiction, each memoir purportedly recounted aspects of the author's life. The memoirs referred to his Navajo heritage, his self-destructive and abusive parents, his unhappy childhood as a migrant worker, his dysfunctional relationships with other family members, and his growing up to become a nurturing father. As an adult, he said he adopted and cared for a child with fetal alcohol syndrome and then one who was HIV-positive. In a 2002 PEN Forum, in which authors were asked to describe "literary lineage", Nasdijj responded, "My literary lineage is Athabaskan. I hear Changing Woman in my head. I listen to trees, rocks, deserts, crows, and the tongues of wind. I am Navajo and the European things you relate so closely to often simply seem alien and remote. I do not know them."[5] [edit] Hoax controversy

In January 2006, the LA Weekly published an article, "Navahoax", proving that Nasdijj was in fact an ethnic European American named Timothy Patrick "Tim" Barrus. He had been married twice, and his second (and current) wife was Tina Giovanni. He was the biological father of at least one daughter. The article noted that Barrus was previously known as the author of fiction relating to gay sado-masochism. [6] Extensive media coverage followed the story's publication. A former literary agent for Nasdijj, while not confirming the LA Weekly article, called it "well researched and highly persuasive."[7] News & Observer, a North Carolina newspaper that had published some of Nasdijj's work, confirmed that it had on file a social security number that matched that of Tim Barrus. Esquire magazine revealed that it had paid for a 1999 Nasdijj article with a check made out to "Tim Nasdijj Barrus".[8] The LA Weekly article, "Nasdijj Shops Tell-All", noted these developments and quoted an e-mail from Nasdijj to an editor at Penguin Books offering a novel for publication called Year of the Hyena: The Story of Nasdijj. The article presented excerpts from Nasdijj's blog with the headline, "Deserving Death for Evil Deeds, by Tim Barrus". It quoted, "What you want to believe you want to believe. If I am the devil incarnate then I am the devil incarnate." Subsequently, Nasdijj's blog was deleted from its host TypePad.[7] Notable Native American author, Sherman Alexie, commented on the controversy.[9] In an article for the February 6, 2006 issue of Time magazine, Alexie wrote, "So why should we be concerned about his lies? His lies matter because he has cynically co-opted as a literary style the very real suffering endured by generations of very real Indians because of very real injustices caused by very real American aggression that destroyed very real tribes." Author David Treuer described Barrus' actions as "harmful cultural fraud",[10] while activist Suzan Shown Harjo argued, "There should be a law for the Navajo Nation to sue Barrus for the profits he made while committing the crime of stealing tribal identity."[11] Attention to the hoax's exposure was heightened by near-simultaneous revelations concerning other literary scandals: writer James Frey had made up portions of works published as memoirs, and purported author JT LeRoy was created as a performance by one person, with published works that had been created as collaborations between two others - none the teenage boy of poor background as represented in interviews and content.[12] One commentator noted that "the convergence of all three scandals at once had the feel of a Triple Crown of hoaxery, with the grand losers being accuracy, truth, and literature itself."[13] [edit] After "Nasdijj" After the scandal broke, J. Peder Zane, the News & Observer's book-review editor, who had published some of Nasdijj's work and promoted his writing, reflected, "I felt no sense of betrayal. I knew it wasn't personal. Barrus hadn't conned me; I had just drifted into the black hole of his life, which sucked the trust out of everything within reach."[14] In May 2006, Esquire published "Nasdijj", an article for which author Andrew Chaikivsky interviewed Barrus, his second wife, his daughter, and others. The article describes a man whose "shifting emotional temperature" veered between "meticulousness and careful good manners" and "a full roar." Speaking of his imposture, Barrus was quoted as saying, "I understand that a trust was violated. I'm not defending it," and "It was a good run." In the course of the interviews, Barrus's claims included

acquaintance with Robert Mapplethorpe, being encouraged to write by Tennessee Williams, and adopting a developmentally challenged child with his first wife during the mid-1970s. Chaikivsky stated, "Over the three days I spend with Barrus, I don't believe much of what he tells me." The adoption may be verifiable by court records which are currently sealed. The article noted that Barrus was at work on a new book he described as "a sprawling, novelized account with chapters credited to Barrus, Nasdijj, and several HIV-positive teenage boys who claim to have lived in a shelter run by Nasdijj."[1] In May 2007, Virginia Heffernan of The New York Times's "Screens" blog reported that Barrus had "found a home on YouTube", where he was posting "Nuyorican beat-style stuff", which she described as "irritable, pretty, autodidactic, engrossing."[15] [edit] Bibliography [edit] As Tim Barrus My Brother My Lover. Gay Sunshine, 1985. ISBN 9780917342080 Anywhere, Anywhere. Knights Press, 1987. ISBN 9780915175215 Genocide The Anthology. Knights Press, 1988. ISBN 9780915175284 Selective Service (with Robert McCartney-Moore). Knights Press, 1991. ISBN 9780915175390 To Indigo Dust. Knights Press, 1992. ISBN 9780915175413 [edit] As Nasdijj The Blood Runs Like a River Through My Dreams (2000) The Boy and the Dog Are Sleeping (2003) Geronimo's Bones: A Memoir of My Brother and Me (2004). http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Chief_Buffalo_Child_Long_Lance Impostor? An Indian advisor to the film crew, Chauncey Yellow Robe, became suspicious of Long Lance and alerted the studio legal advisor. Long Lance could not explain his heritage to their satisfaction, and rumors began to circulate. An investigation revealed that his father had not been a Blackfoot chief, but a school janitor in Winston-Salem, North Carolina.[13] Some neighbors from his home town testified that they thought his background may have included African ancestry, which meant by southern racial standards, he was black. Although the studio did not publicize its investigation, the accusations led many of his socialite acquaintances to abandon Long Lance. Author Irvin S. Cobb, a native of Kentucky active in New York, is reported to have lamented, "We're so ashamed! We entertained a nigger!"[2] Historians have described Long Lance as a fraud, but he had Native American ancestry on both sides of his family: Croatan and Cherokee, he looked Indian, and he knew enough Cherokee to use it when being admitted to the Carlisle School. His representation was not all a pose. He was not of the Blackfoot tribe but studied their traditions deeply while living on the Great Plains.[1] In his Being and Becoming Indian: Biographical Studies of North American Frontiers, late 20th century historian James A. Clifton called Long "a sham" who "assumed the identity of an Indian", "an adopted ethnic identity pure and simple."[2] The story of Long Lance has provided late twentieth century authors with much to mull over in

questions of personal and ethnic identity. Donald B. Smith, a history professor and biographer, described Long Lance as "pass[ing] as an Indian", but he confirmed Croatan ancestry on his mother's side, and Cherokee ancestry on his father's. He was Native American and black and white, but trying to claim a different heritage and escape from limitations imposed on his family in North Carolina. Smith noted that Long Lance was deeply involved in supporting Indian issues of the day and representing First Nations causes in Canada, as well as trying to best represent Native American traditions in the US. [1] When Smith's book was published in paperback in 2002, the title was changed to Chief Buffalo Child Long Lance: The Glorious Impostor (rather than "Impersonator".) In her book Real Indians: Identity and the Survival of Native Americans (2003), Eva Marie Garroutte uses the controversy over Long Lance's identity to introduce questions surrounding contested Indian identity and authenticity in United States culture. http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Forrest_Carter#Controversy_and_criticism Carter worked for several area radio stations before ending up at station WILD in Birmingham, where he worked from 1953 to 1955. Carter's broadcasts from WILD, sponsored by the American State's Rights Association, were syndicated to more than twenty radio stations before the show was cancelled. Carter was fired following community outrage about his broadcasts and a boycott of WILD.[2] Carter broke with the leadership of the Alabama Citizen's Council movement over the incident. He refused to tone down his anti-Semitic rhetoric, while the Citizen's Council preferred to focus more narrowly on preserving racial segregation of Blacks.[3] Carter started a renegade group called the North Alabama Citizen's Council. In addition to his careers in broadcasting and politics, Carter during these years ran a filling station.[3] By March 1956, Carter was making national news as a spokesman for segregation. Carter was quoted in a UP newswire story, saying the NAACP had "infiltrated" Southern white teenagers with "immoral" rock and roll records. Carter called for jukebox owners to purge all records by black performers from jukeboxes.[4] Carter made the national news again on September 1[5] and 2[6] of the same year, after he gave an inflammatory anti-integration speech in Clinton, Tennessee. He addressed Clinton's high school enrolling twelve black students. After Carter's speech, an aroused mob of 200 white men stopped black drivers passing through, "ripping out hood ornaments and smashing windows". They were heading for the house of the mayor before being turned back by the local Sheriff. Carter appeared in Clinton alongside segregationist John Kaspar, who was charged later that same month with sedition and inciting a riot for his activities that day.[7][8] Later that year, Carter ran for Police Commissioner against former office holder Bull Connor, who won the election. Connor later became nationally famous for his heavy-handed approach to law enforcement during the civil rights struggles in Birmingham.[3] In 1957, Carter and his brother James were jailed for fighting against Birmingham police officers. The police were trying to apprehend another of the six in their group, who was wanted for a suspected Ku Klux Klan (KKK) shooting.[9] Also during the mid-1950s, Carter founded a paramilitary KKK splinter group called the "Ku Klux Klan of the Confederacy".[10] Carter started a monthly publication entitled The Southerner, devoted to purportedly scientific theories of white racial superiority, as well as to anticommunist rhetoric.[11] Members of Carter's new KKK group attacked singer Nat King Cole at an April 1956 Birmingham

concert.[11] After a more violent event, four members of Carter's Klan group were convicted of a September 1957 abduction and attack on a black handyman named Edward Aaron. They castrated Aaron, poured turpentine on his wounds, and left him abandoned in the trunk of a car near Springdale, Alabama. Police found Aaron, near death from blood loss. (Carter was not with the men who carried out this attack).[11] In 1958, Carter quit the Klan group he had founded after shooting two members in a dispute over finances. Birmingham police filed attempted murder charges against Carter, but the charges were subsequently dropped.[12] Carter also ran a campaign for Lieutenant Governor the same year that saw him finish fifth in a field of five.[10] In 1963, a parole board, appointed by Carter's then-employer Alabama governor George Wallace, commuted the sentences of the four men convicted of attacking Aaron.[11] During the 1960s, Carter was a speechwriter for Wallace. He was one of two men credited with Wallace's famous slogan, "Segregation today, segregation tomorrow, segregation forever", part of his 1963 inaugural speech. Carter continued to work for Wallace. After his wife Lurleen was elected Governor of Alabama in 1966, Carter worked for her.[13] Wallace never acknowledged the role Carter played in his political career, however: "Till the day he died, George Wallace denied that he ever knew Asa Carter. He may have been telling the truth. 'Ace', as he was called by the staff, was paid off indirectly by Wallace cronies, and the only record that he ever wrote for Wallace was the word of former Wallace campaign officials such as finance manager Seymore Trammell."[10] When Wallace decided to enter national politics with a 1968 presidential run, he did not invite Carter on board for the campaign. He sought to tone down his reputation as a segregationist firebrand. During the late 1960s, Carter grew disillusioned by what he saw as Wallace's liberal turn on race. Carter ran against Wallace for governor of Alabama in 1970 on a white supremacist platform. He finished last in a field of five candidates, winning only 1.51% of the vote in an election narrowly won by Wallace over the more moderate Governor Albert Brewer. At Wallace's 1971 inauguration, Carter and some of his supporters demonstrated against him, carrying signs reading "Wallace is a bigot" and "Free our white children". The demonstration was the last notable public appearance by "Asa Carter" Controversy and criticism Carter spent the last part of his life trying to conceal his background as a Klansman and segregationist, claiming categorically in a 1976 The New York Times article that he, Forrest, was not Asa Carter.[17] The article describes him as Forrest Carter being interviewed by Barbara Walters on the Today show in 1974. He was promoting The Rebel Outlaw: Josey Wales, which had begun to attract readers beyond the confines of the Western genre. Carter, who had run for governor of Alabama (as Asa Carter) just four years earlier, was identified by several Alabama politicians, reporters and law enforcement officials from this Today show appearance. The Times also reported that the address Carter used in the copyright application for The Rebel Outlaw was identical to the one that he used in 1970 while running for governor. "Beyond denying that he is Asa Carter", the Times noted, "the author has declined to be interviewed on the subject." Carter claimed that he was Little Tree and the events of the book were autobiographical. In 1985 the book was purchased for a paperback edition and marketed by the University of New Mexico Press as a

memoir. It was subtitled "A True Story by Forrest Carter". The story described the relationship between the boy and his Scottish-Cherokee grandfather, a man named Wales (an overlap with Carter's other fiction). Written from the perspective of a boy orphaned at age five, the book described how he had become accustomed to life in a remote mountain hollow with his "Indian thinking" 'Granpa' and Cherokee 'Granma', who called him 'Little Tree'. Granpa runs a small whiskey operation during Prohibition and the later years of the Great Depression. The grandparents and visitors to the hollow expose Little Tree to (supposed) Cherokee ways and "mountain people" values. The state removes him to an orphanage, where he stays for a few months until an old Indian friend intimidates the director into allowing Little Tree's release. (In life, Carter was neither orphaned, nor raised by Cherokee grandparents.) Before taking a new name and identity, Carter had claimed to have distant maternal Cherokee ancestry, a claim corroborated by some of his family members.[10] Delacorte Press's original author biography referred to Carter as the Cherokee "Storyteller in Council." Members of the Cherokee nation have disputed his claim. They said so-called "Cherokee" words and customs in "The Education of Little Tree" are inaccurate, and the novel's characters are stereotyped. Several scholars and critics agreed with this assessment, adding that Carter's treatment of Native Americans repeated the romantic but racist concept of the "Noble Savage". In 1985, the University of New Mexico Press bought rights to The Education of Little Tree from original publisher Delacorte Press and published it in paperback. By its second year, the new paperback edition began to sell briskly through word-of-mouth publicity. Sales eventually surpassing 600,000.[18] Though Carter's background as Asa Carter was discussed in academic circles, it was not widely known by the book-buying public nearly ten years after the 1976 New York Times article about him. In 1991, after the book won the American Booksellers Book of the Year (ABBY) award, it ranked number one on The New York Times non-fiction paperback best-seller list for several weeks. On October 4, 1991, Dan T. Carter (a history professor and distant cousin of Asa Carter) published the article "The Transformation of a Klansman" in the New York Times. This article shed light on Asa Carter's dual identity. The Times shifted the book onto its fiction list.[15] Scholar Henry Louis Gates, Jr. also wrote an article on Carter and Little Tree for The Times that appeared in November 1991.[19] In 1997, a film adaptation of Little Tree was released, which revived publicity about Asa Carter. Carter's widow, India Carter, refused most interview requests during these years.[18] In 1991 she did confirm to Publisher's Weekly that Forrest and Asa were the same person.[20] Eleanor Friede, Little Tree's original editor, defended Carter's background in 1997, telling the Times, "[H]e was not a member of the Ku Klux Klan. I honestly don't see the point of all this nasty gossip dragged out years ago."[18] Following the 1991 publicity, the University of New Mexico Press changed the cover of Little Tree, removing the "True Story" subtitle and adding a fiction classification label. The biographical material in the introduction has never been changed to include details of Carter's involvement with segregationist politics and the KKK. Little Tree has continued to find readers and a place on reading lists for young adults since 1991. For fans who know of the controversy, many take the position of Henry Louis Gates, Jr., who argued that Little Tree can be appreciated for its message of tolerance and its other qualities, despite the biography of its creator. Richard Friedenberg wrote and directed the 1997 film adaptation. He also has defended the book, but not the author:

Mr. Friedenberg said what appealed to him about the book was that "the characters and milieu they were in represented everything that was good about America and everything that was bad." On the one hand, he said, the book dealt with the strength of the family and not necessarily with traditional families. On the other hand, he said, it dealt with ignorance and prejudice. Mr. Friedenberg said he found it perplexing and almost impossible to understand Mr. Carter's motives and literary ambitions. Although Mr. Carter, who wrote four books, failed to address the issue of his bigotry publicly, Mr. Friedenberg said he believed that "his apology was in his literature." For example, he said, the handful of blacks and Jews in his books are depicted sympathetically. "The bad guys are almost, without fail, rich whites, politicians and phony preachers," Mr. Friedenberg said.[18] Oprah Winfrey, who in 1994 endorsed Little Tree, subsequently removed it from her list of recommended book titles: "I no longereven though I had been moved by the storyfelt the same about this book," Winfrey said in 1994. "There's a part of me that said, 'Well, OK, if a person has two sides of them and can write this wonderful story and also write the segregation forever speech, maybe that's OK.' But I couldn'tI couldn't live with that." The book has also been criticized on literary grounds: "I am surprised, of course, that Winfrey would recommend it," says Lorene Roy, president of the American Library Association. "Besides the questions about the author's identity, the book is known for a simplistic plot that used a lot of stereotypical imagery." http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Ward_Churchill Ethnic background In 2003, Churchill stated, "I am myself of Muscogee and Creek descent on my father's side, Cherokee on my mother's, and am an enrolled member of the United Keetoowah Band of Cherokee Indians."[20] [21] In 1992, Churchill wrote elsewhere that he is one-eighth Creek and one-sixteenth Cherokee.[22] In 1993, Churchill told the Colorado Daily that "he was one-sixteenth Creek and Cherokee."[23] Churchill told the Denver Post in February 2005 that he is three-sixteenths Cherokee.[14] In a statement dated May 9, 2005, and posted on its website, the United Keetoowah Band initially said, "The United Keetoowah Band would like to make it clear that Mr. Churchill IS NOT a member of the Keetoowah Band and was only given an honorary 'associate membership' in the early 1990s because he could not prove any Cherokee ancestry." The tribe said that all of Churchill's "past, present and future claims or assertions of Keetoowah 'enrollment,' written or spoken, including but not limited to; biographies, curriculum vitae, lectures, applications for employment, or any other reference not listed herein, are deemed fraudulent by the United Keetoowah Band."[24] Two days later, the United Keetoowah Band of Cherokee Indians replaced its statement with one that acknowledged Churchill's "alleged ancestry" of being Cherokee. "Because Mr. Churchill had genealogical information regarding his alleged ancestry, and his willingness to assist the UKB in promoting the tribe and its causes, he was awarded an 'Associate Membership' as an honor," the tribe's website now said. "However, Mr. Churchill may possess eligibility status for Cherokee Nation of Oklahoma, since he claims 1/16 Cherokee." The tribe's spokesperson, Lisa Stopp, stated the tribe enrolls only members with certified one-quarter American Indian blood. The website statement further clarified that Churchill "was not eligible for tribal membership due to the fact that he does not possess a

'Certificate of Degree of Indian Blood (CDIB)", and the associate membership did not entitle an individual to voting rights or enrollment in the tribe. Churchill has never asked for CDIB certification, and finds the idea of being "vetted" by the US government offensive.[25][26] In June 1994, the tribe voted to stop awarding associate memberships.[26][27] Such honorary associate membership recognizes an individual's assistance to the tribe, but it has nothing to do with Indian ancestry, and it does not entitle an individual to vote in the tribe as a member.[28] The Keetoowah Band states that Churchill still holds the associate membership and it has not been rescinded.[28][29] In a separate interview, Ernestine Berry, formerly on the tribe's enrollment committee and four years on its council, said that Churchill had never fulfilled a promise to help the tribe.[30] In June 2005, the Rocky Mountain News published an article about Churchill's genealogy and family history. It "turned up no evidence of a single Indian ancestor" and identified 142 direct ancestors [of Churchill's] from records. The News reported that both Churchill's birth parents were listed as white on the 1930 census, as were all but two of his great-great-grandparents listed on previous census and other official documents.[27] The News found that some of Churchill's accounts of where his ancestors had lived did not agree with documented records. Numerous members of Churchill's extended family have longstanding family legends of Indian ancestry among ancestors.[27] Documents in Churchill's university personnel file show that he was granted tenure in a "special opportunity position."[17] In 1994, then CU-Boulder Chancellor James Corbridge refused to take action on allegations that Churchill was fraudulently claiming to be an Indian, saying "it has always been university policy that a person's race or ethnicity is self-proving."[31] Some of Churchill's critics, such as Vernon Bellecourt and Suzan Shown Harjo, argue that his assertion of Native American ancestry without the ability to prove it might constitute misrepresentation and grounds for termination. The University has stated in response that they do not hire on the basis of ethnicity.[31] The University of Colorado's Research Misconduct Committee conducted a preliminary investigation into whether Churchill misrepresented his ethnicity to "add credibility and public acceptance to his scholarship."[32] The committee concluded that the allegation was not "appropriate for further investigation under the definition of research misconduct."[33] In an interview in The Rocky Mountain News, Churchill stated: "I have never been confirmed as having one-quarter blood, and never said I was. And even if [the critics] are absolutely right, what does that have to do with this issue? I have never claimed to be goddamned Sitting Bull".[34] [edit] Blood Quantum Churchill has responded to requests for verification of his Indian heritage in various ways, including attacking the bloodline percentages upon which some Native American tribes establish their membership requirements. Churchill argues that the United States instituted blood quantum laws based upon rules of descendancy in order to further goals of personal enrichment and political expediency. [35] Churchill previously explained his beliefs to oral historian David Barsamian: You could say that five hundred years ago was the basis of blood quantum in Ibero-America. But in Anglo-America, while there was some preoccupation with it, it was not formalized until the passage of the General Allotment Act, mid-1880s. At that point they began to define Indian as being someone who was demonstrably and documentably of at least one-quarter by quantum blood indigenous in a given group. You couldn't be an eighth Cheyenne and an eighth Arapaho and be an Indian. You had to be a quarter Cheyenne or a quarter Arapaho or hopefully a quarter and a quarter. The reason for this was

quite clear. They were identifying Indians for purposes of allotting them individual parcels of land in the existing reservation base at that point. If they ran out of Indians identifiable as such, then the rest of the land would be declared surplus. So it was clearly in the interests of the government to create a definition of Indianness that would minimize the number of Indians that were available. It was an economic motivation for the application of this genetic criteria to Indianness in the first place. It's become increasingly so ever since." [36] For decades in his writings, he has further argued that blood quantum laws have an inherent genocidal purpose: By 1970, approximately two-thirds of the marriages of those on the tribal rolls were to people who were not, with the result that only 59 percent of births reflected a situation in which both parents registered themselves as possessing any Indian blood at all.[37] For effects in terms of the "blood quantum" criteria by which native identity is officially defined in the U.S., see:[38] The implications are clear: "Set the blood quantum at one-quarter, hold to it as a rigid definition of Indians, let intermarriage proceed as it [has] and eventually Indians will be defined out of existence".[39][40] Churchill's assertions have been raised as one of the several research-misconduct allegations that have been brought against him, and he has been denounced for using his interpretation of the Dawes Act to attack tribal governments that would not recognize him as a member. and one who tried to pass as white Anatole Paul Broyard (July 16, 1920 October 11, 1990) was an American writer, literary critic and editor for The New York Times. In addition to his many reviews and columns, he published short stories, essays and two books during his lifetime. His autobiographical works, Intoxicated by My Illness (1992) and Kafka Was the Rage: A Greenwich Village Memoir (1993), were published after his death. After his death, Broyard became the center of controversy and discussions related to how he had chosen to live as an adult in New York. He was criticized for failing to acknowledge his black ancestry. Biography Broyard was born in New Orleans into a mixed-race Louisiana Creole family, the son of Paul Anatole Broyard, a carpenter and construction worker, and his wife, Edna Miller, neither of whom finished elementary school. Their ancestors had been free people of color since before the Civil War and the first Broyard in Louisiana was a French colonist in the mid-eighteenth century.[1][2] Broyard was the second of three children; he and his sister Lorraine, two years older, were light skinned. Their younger sister Shirley, who eventually married the lawyer and civil rights leader Franklin Williams, was darker. [3] The Broyards grew up in an extended mixed-race Creole community in New Orleans and according to southern custom were classified as black. When Broyard was a young child, his family joined the Great Migration, moving from New Orleans to New York City, to go where his father thought there were more work opportunities during the Great Depression. They lived in a working-class and racially diverse community in Brooklyn. Having grown up in the French Quarter's Creole community, Broyard felt he had little in common with the blacks of Brooklyn. He saw his parents "pass" as white to get work, as his father found the carpenters' union racially discriminatory.[3] By high school, the younger Broyard had become interested in artistic and

cultural life; his sister Shirley said he was unique in the family with these interests.[3] As the writer and editor Brent Staples wrote in 2003, "Anatole Broyard wanted to be a writer -- and not just a 'Negro writer' consigned to the back of the literary bus."[4] The historian Henry Louis Gates, Jr. wrote: "In his terms, he did not want to write about black love, black passion, black suffering, black joy; he wanted to write about love and passion and suffering and joy."[5] Broyard had some stories accepted for publication in the 1940s. He began studying at Brooklyn College before the US entered World War II. When he enlisted, the armed services were segregated; Broyard was accepted as white, went to officers' school, and was promoted to captain. After the war, he continued with his white identity. Staples noted: "Those who had escaped the penalties of blackness in the military were often unwilling to go back to second-class citizenship after the war. One demographer estimated that more that [sic] 150,000 black people sailed away permanently into whiteness during the 1940's alone, marrying white spouses and most likely cutting off their black families."[4] Broyard used the GI Bill to study at the New School for Social Research[2] and settled in Greenwich Village, where he became part of its bohemian artistic and literary life. With money saved during the war, Broyard had a bookstore for a time. As he described in a 1979 column: "Eventually, I ran away to Greenwich Village, where no one had been born of a mother and father, where the people I met had sprung from their own brows, or from the pages of a bad novel.... Orphans of the avant-garde, we outdistanced our history and our humanity."[5] He did not identify with or champion black political causes. Because of his ambition, in some circumstances he never acknowledged that he was part black.[6] That he was part black was well known in the Greenwich Village literary community from the early 1950s. But, it was an artistic environment in which people from a variety of backgrounds were remaking themselves as members of an artistic milieu. Race was not an issue there.[6] During the 1940s, Broyard published stories in Modern Writing, Discovery, and New World Writing, three leading pocket-book format "little magazines". He also contributed articles and essays to Partisan Review, Commentary, Neurotica, and New Directions Publishing. Stories of his were included in two anthologies of fiction widely associated with the Beat writers, but Broyard did not identify with them. He was often said to be working on a novel, but never published one. After the 1950s, Broyard taught creative writing at The New School, New York University, and Columbia University, in addition to his regular book reviewing. For nearly fifteen years, Broyard wrote daily book reviews for the New York Times. The editor John Leonard[disambiguation needed ] was quoted as saying, "A good book review is an act of seduction, and when he [Broyard] did it there was no one better."[3] In the late 1970s, Broyard also started publishing brief personal essays in the Times, which many people considered among his best work.[3] These were collected in Men, Women and Anti-Climaxes, published in 1980. In 1984 Broyard was given a column in the Book Review, for which he also worked as an editor. He was among those considered "gatekeepers" in the literary world. [edit] Marriage and family Broyard first married Aida Sanchez, a black Puerto Rican with whom he had a daughter Gala. They

divorced after Broyard returned from military service in World War II.[3] In 1961 at the age of 40, Broyard finally married again, to Alexandra (Sandy) Nelson, a younger modern dancer of Norwegian-American ancestry. He was indirect about his family, but she learned about him. They had two children, Todd, born in 1964, and a daughter Bliss, born in 1966. The Broyards raised their children as white in suburban Connecticut. When they were young adults, Sandy urged Broyard to tell them about his family (and theirs), but he never did. Shortly before he died, Broyard wrote a statement which some people later took to represent his views. In explaining why he so missed his friend the writer Milton Klonsky, with whom he used to talk every day, he said that after Milton died, "No one talked to me as an equal." Although critics framed the issue of Broyard's identity as one of race, Broyard wanted equality and acceptance: he wanted neither to be talked down to nor to be looked up to, as either masked the true human being. Sandy told their children of their father's secret before his death. Broyard died of prostate cancer, diagnosed in 1989. Here's another intriguing issue - are Accusations of Racism actually CAUSING Racism? Think about it. I am sharing an insightful article I found, which drives home a few interesting points. Earlier this year, certain members of this blog were accused of being racist and misogynistic. they were accused of and slandered by subjects of some of our blog postings in an attempt to seek revenge for being exposed. Mind you, the subjects of the blog posts weren't everyday normal citizens just going about their day. The blog member who they accused of a laundry list of crap in reality is very different than what they tried to 'prove'. we understand that we use strong language here (and we won't lie that we do it!), which can easily be construed by stupid people, but they can just fuck off (The full story is mentioned AFTER the article.). 1) racist - A> the blog member is friends with people of different races, including white, black, and hispanic, and is friendly to all races of people, and only refuses to talk to them if they act in a disrespectful manner. she is also friends with people of different religions. she does NOT refuse to speak to, be friendly to, or service as clients anyone just because they are women of western culture. In fact, she is currently studying beauty, and has so far had mostly western heritage clients, and most of them were, in fact women....women who were very happy with how she treated them. B> The team member has often mentioned how there is no issue with western cultures having interracial mixing (white, black and latino mixing), and has also mentioned as well as praised western men with eastern women. 2) hates women - A> alot of the team members' friends are women, and it may be noted that she even has more female friends of western heritage than of eastern. B> the team member tutors a student who is both white AND female. 3)is lying about being indian (lol) btw, this comes after a few of the creepy whores who tried to slander our team member went so far as to try to look up said team member's geneology without her permission, especially being that one of the accusers is actually white pretending to be indian so she

can flirt with indian guys. - the member in question has family photos and more. among other related things. anyway, here's the article about someone else who faced similar issues Today, I was reading a "fashion faux pas" article on OMG (not the best use of time, I admit it), when I came across a comment beneath a photo of Supermodel Naomi Campbell that made my blood boil. A young woman posted a badly spelled, grammatically incorrect rant that... well, I'll just copy and paste it here: "I LOVE THE DRESS.... BUT PEOPLE STOP SAYING SHE LOOKS UGLY.... I THINK YALL SAYING THAT BECAUS EOF THE COLOR OF HER SKIN.... BUT SERIOUSLY.... I THINK SHE LOOKS AMAZING......" Kim Hower Now, I replied to her comment by pointing out that of the nine people having their fashion taste shredded in that article, only Naomi was black. Of the others, seven were Caucasians and one was a Hispanic person. I also noted that she was shouting by typing in all caps, and that she should try to use correct grammar and spelling in addition to better manners. After I posted my reply, I began to think about racism, and of the many times I have had that accusation undeservedly hurled at me, and I was horrified to realize that these accusations have begun to make me have resentful thoughts toward ANY accusation of racism. For example (by no means ALL of my possible examples, just some of the worst): 1) I made my little girl stop being friends with a black neighbor's son a few years ago. I did this because he began calling her his "girlfriend" (they were 8) and grew possessive to the point that he violently shook her and threw her to the ground for talking with another boy. His mother, despite having been informed of the events by several neighbors who were witnesses, said that I wouldn't let them be friends because her son was black. 2) While waiting tables at T.G.I. Friday's, I waited on a table of three black ladies who ordered the exact same dish, one with a minor modification (no pickles). The kitchen made an error and the sandwich was delivered with pickles. The woman LOUDLY shouted for me while I was with another table, then pointed out the mistake. I politely asked her if she would like a new sandwich, or if she simply wanted me to take the pickles away... needless to say I was immediately accused of being racist. According to her, I would have (a) not messed up her order had she been white and/or (b) brought her a new sandwich without offering to just scrape off the pickles if she had been white. 3) Earlier this week, a young black man and woman pulled into the parking lot next to our apartment building's swimming pool, with their radio blaring the lyrics to an EXTREMELY graphic, sexually suggestive song. I walked over to the gate and asked them to turn it down... I am now apparently a racist because I don't want my eleven year old daughter serenaded about keeping her mouth shut and submitting to rear-entry sex. Regarding the race card, does anyone else feel this way? Don't minorities understand that screaming "Racist!" at everyone who disagrees with anything a black person says or does accomplishes nothing but creating hard feelings? Every time this happens, my sensitivity to issues of racism fades a little more. I have one honest question: Didn't you ever hear the story of the boy who cried wolf? It's getting to the point that when I hear an accusation of racism, I automatically disregard it, because I have had so

many false allegations tossed at me. I can't be the only one. I just want to ask everyone to think before they speak. Not all mistakes, disagreements, and dis-approvals of behavior are about skin color. Maybe everyone should think about that and wonder just how many racists these baseless accusations are creating? we don't agree about his views on same sex marriage...yet he was absolutely spot on about the slutwalk and how the society is changing because of the western influences creeping in....especially internet chatting and facebook. he did however, fail to mention the praise of eastern guys marrying western sluts. http://www.ndtv.com/article/india/lalu-takes-on-facebook-gay-marriage-126075 New Delhi: Rashtriya Janata Dal (RJD) chief Lalu Prasad Yadav on Thursday demanded a debate in the Lok Sabha on "degrading" Indian values due to cultural aggression from internet and other tools originating in the west. "Where is our country headed to?" Mr Yadav said, referring to Delhi's first slut walk, held last week to denounce the view that women's dress is to blame for the sexual harassment they face. "Thousands of people marched on roads stripped, wearing colourful tattoos... they were celebrating. This is a serious issue and we demand a discussion on it," he said. He said Indians were close to allowing same sex marriage. "Woman will marry woman. And you are accepting it silently," Mr Yadav said, referring to a Delhi High Court 2009 ruling decriminalising same-sex relations among consenting adults. He said India was the land of saints and sages and the "Western cultural aggression is destroying our culture". "Vulgarity, internet chatting, Valentine Day, ipod, Facebook - all these things have been brought from America, and that is why obscenity is growing. We are losing our cultural values, legacies," he said. Read more at: http://www.ndtv.com/article/india/lalu-takes-on-facebook-gay-marriage-126075&cp http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/SlutWalk and western whores have imposed their walk in delhi http://blogs.wsj.com/indiarealtime/2011/08/01/expats-find-delhi-slut-walk-too-conservative/ By Nikita Garia Delhi on Sunday witnessed its first Slut Walk, a rally against the attitude of blaming sexual harassment on the clothes women choose to wear. The young organizers claimed that the march

attracted one thousand participants, but some expats felt that the event was too conservative. Courtesy Anne Andrews Belinda Fleischmann, above, pulled up her tank top to expose her stomach. It was a shame that people dressed conservatively for the walk, Belinda Fleischmann, 31, who has been in Delhi for the past two weeks, told India Real Time by telephone after the event. She said that she lifted her pink tank top to show a little stomach during the march. It was a move that attracted much media attention. I was told by an Indian friend that I would get arrested if I go in a bra. So the least I could do was show my stomach. And the amount of media that covered it was insane, said Ms. Fleischmann, a Swiss national who found out about the Slut Walk through her friends. Ms. Fleischmann, who works for non-profit organization Operation Asha, admitted that she wouldnt normally wear her tank top in India. She said she has learnt its best to wear clothes that cover her shoulders and knees: I try to dress like Indian women. The sluttiest thing anybody wore was a tank top, said Anne Andrews, a 30-year-old from the U.S. who has been in Delhi for the past six months. More In Slut-Walk Converting Indian Slacktivists Takes (Offline) Time India's First 'Slut Walk' Takes Place in Bhopal Indian Women Told How to Behave, Again Indian Women Divided Over 'Slut Walk' I was wearing white. So to make sure that no one could see through it, I wore two tank tops, Ms. Andrews said, adding that wearing just one top wouldnt have worried her if she was in the U.S., but in India she has to be more cautious. I think I did it just to be a little appropriate. Ms. Andrews, who plans to be in Delhi till December, says she has learnt from the experience of others. People at my workplace have told me not to go out alone in an auto after 10pm. Courtesy Belinda Fleischmann Anna Matussek, left, with a friend, Stefan Meyer. I always wear sleeves, no shorts or anything above the knees, she added. Anna Matussek, a German, who has been in Delhi for the past five months, said she usually dresses conservatively: I dont want to wear clothes that are somewhat offensive to people around me. On the day of the walk she wore a tank top with a message that read: This is not an invitation to rape. It is not particularly revealing but in India thats a concern, the 28-year-old said. As for the Delhi Slut Walk organizers, they said that dress wasnt the most important element in their overall agenda, which is to protect women from sexual harassment.

We told people to wear what they usually wear, said organizer Umang Sabarwal, aged 19. UPDATE, Aug. 2, 11:35 IST: Ms. Matussek added later by email: I do think the Slutwalk Delhi organizers correctly tried to focus the attention away from the clothing. Sadly they came across sensationalism from the medias side and public opinion that did not understand the message and perverted it. They really put the focus back on the issues more clearly: Dont blame the victim of sexual assault and speak up (i.e. remove the shame) by advising to dress normally. I also toned down what I would have worn to a Slutwalk in Europe otherwise to not only respect but further the cause! Participants protest against explaining or excusing rape by referring to any aspect of a woman's appearance. The rallies began when Constable Michael Sanguinetti, a Toronto Police officer, suggested that to remain safe, "women should avoid dressing like sluts."[3][4] The protest takes the form of a march, mainly by young women, where some dress in ordinary clothing and others dress provocatively, like "sluts." There are also speaker meetings and workshops. Some objectors have remarked that this approach is an example of women defining their sexuality in male terms. what's even worse is that this whole idea is rather counter productive....that is, these women who are trying to claim that they are not sexual objects are actually reinforcing the stereotype. how should you change the stereotype of a slut? 1) live with decent morals, don't exploit yourself or others. 2) inspire and gather many others together to change society's views on sex in the right direction. it's not just about how a woman dresses, or about how a woman dresses alone - it's the kind of behaviours that she chooses to flaunt or possess that cause the stereotypes....especially in the western world. most western women, during their lifetimes, will have sexual relationships with many men. western people in general - both women and men, tend to have multiple relationships with many sex partners, as this is accepted in the culture. in western culture, flesh, and material objects are given a higher priority than morals and respect. morals and respect are used only to gain things or benefit somehow. western women are extremely manipulative, and will deceive like a professional. this is how they gain eastern men who are driven by their own secret desires to join this forbidden, immoral fruit land to have them. SO, if you REALLY want the slut stereotype changed, change your own behaviour. one of our fellow blog contributors added ' we have a friend who is a fully western female, but she is definately NOT a slut. there a few of these prize women out there, but they are extremely rare. our friend dresses with modesty, does not try to manipulate others, and has not 'been' with anyone yet.' if all women, especially western women, showed these traits, we wouldn't have such stereotypes, and we would have a world where east and west could meet fully and it would be a beautiful melange. however, the reality is that this is not the case, and it truly is a shame.

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