Jessica Cunningham English 1010 7/16/13 Annotated Bibliography Bennett, Shoshanna.

Divorce And Kids: 5 Ways Divorce Benefits Kids. 18 May 2012. Web. Huffpost.com, Aug.13,2013 In this article Doctor Shoshanna states: that if the parents are happy the kids will be too. The childrens behavior will change once the tension is not in the house and it fades away. When you show your kids that you wont settle for an unhappy marriage, you are setting a good example for your kids. You are showing them you and the kids deserve to be happy. That shared custody is the best for most children because it gives both parents the chance to nurture the children and spend quality time with them as well. Another reason they can benefit is watching their parents be happy whether it is in another relationship or just the simple fact of you be happy by yourself, it makes the children happy to see their parents happy. The article summarizes by saying that the most important thing about divorce is to remember your new single life and that it is what you make of it and your children will follow after you with your attitude about the divorce. This was a good source to show that children will bounce back to normal as long as the parents do their part in helping the kids.

Children and Divorce Statistics. Web. http://www.children-and-divorce.com, July 12, 2013.

The article Children Divorce Statistics I found this article on the internet web sit The article give you a summary of statistical information regarding children of divorced parents. They say that 50% of all North American children will witness a divorce of their parents. They are also more susceptible to witnessing a breakup after that as well of their parents new relationship. They also say that children from divorced homes have more psychological problems, than a child would have if one of their parents had died. Physical damages they state that children living with both of their biological parents are 20-35% healthier than a child from divorce. Children living in a single parent household are more likely to be molested as well. There was a study done in 1991, when the parents were divorced six years earlier, and the study found that the children suffered from feeling lonely, unhappy, anxious, and feeling insecure. Adult children from divorce are twice as likely to try to commit suicide. The high school drop out rate is two times higher if their parents did divorce rather than stay together. This was good for my essay because of the statistics that were done in research studies.

Clayton, Victoria. Divorce doesnt have to destroy the kids. 11 December 2007 Web. NBCNEWS.com, August 1, 2013 This article is directed to help divorcing parents learn how to help their children deal with the divorce. Also to show the parents better ways on how to deal with the emotional aspects of divorce and to help their children deal with them as well. The article says that messy divorces are actually doing something good for the community, it is showing experts that more can be done to benefit the children and to show parents how to help their children deal with divorce, also to help the parents become better parents as

well. A lot of countries now require divorcing parents to attend classes before the divorce can be finalized. In Texas they have a web site for parents to take a parenting class after divorce and they also have one that you can view family calendars and be able to have a way to communicate daily tasks without having to talk to each other. This was a good source because it shows a personal opinion and also because she is a therapist and show how divorce has impacted her whole life.

Kathleen OConnell Corcoran. Psychological and Emotional Aspects of Divorce, June 1997. Web. July 13, 2013. This article also goes through steps of the divorce and on average how long they usually take. It also goes through steps of emotions that each party will face and ways to handle the situation for the best interest of the child/children. Then it goes through the stages to reactions of children involved with divorce. Which these are: denial, abandonment, preoccupation with information, anger and hostility, depression, immaturity/hyper maturity, preoccupation with reconciliation, blame and guilt, and acting out. Then the article goes through the different ages of children to identify if your child is feeling stressed from the divorce. This article is a really good one for immediate reactions and effects divorce can have on all who are involved with a divorce and has some statistics. This was a good source because not only did it talk about the negative but also the positive affects of divorce on children and also the parents as well.

Gumbiner, Jann Ph.D. Divorce Hurts Children, Even Grown Ones. Web. August 2, 2013.

Jann is now a psychologist but she was a child of divorce and says that divorce hurts children, even adults. She wrote this article in response to another article written by Mark Banschick The Intelligent Divorce. Jann states: There is no such thing. Divorce is bad, plain and simple. She discusses her feelings about how divorce is a negative thing and hurts children and adults that have had to deal with it. She talks about how her mother was unavailable to care for her children. Her mother couldnt take the kids to school, or clean the house or even spend time with her children, because she was so depressed over the divorce. Jann talks about how they couldnt even do extra curricular activities because they didnt have a mother or father to take them to practice or to their games. Then she and her brother had to deal with loosing their family home, all of their friends, their father, and their grandparents. Jann also talks about how in the 70s it was believed to be ok if a parent left their family to follow a dream they had. In which she disagrees with very bluntly, and goes through the emotional effects it has had on her and that it still has on her today. She says that divorce has affected her own marriage and her relationships while growing up, and even as an adult today. This article had a lot of negative effects, but when you read the experiences Jann went through it really touches your heart and shows that divorce can still affect people even as an adult.

Hansen, Lauren. 9 negative Effects Divorce reportedly has on children. The Week March 28, 2013.

The article from The Week, by Lauren Hansen published March 28, 2013. Talk about nine negative effects of divorce that children suffer from. The first one is that children from divorced families are more likely to smoke than those with married parents. The second one is the use of Ritalin. A survey done between 1994 and 2000 showed that 5,000 children were involved in this study, and that 13.2% of children using Ritalin had divorced parents and only 3.3% of children had married parents. Doctor Strohschein stated that the effects of stress from their parents divorce caused a dependency of use for Ritalin. The third effect is that children from divorced families fall behind in math and social skills and are less likely to catch up with their peers who are not from divorced families. The fourth effect is being susceptible to sickness 35% of children develop health problems due to the amount of stress from the divorce. The fifth effect is the likelihood of dropping out of school. Only 60% of children who suffer from a dramatic change in their family life graduate before they are 20 years old. The sixth effect is the likelihood of turning to crime. 2,000 people who went through a divorce in their family they reported that 42% of children witnessed aggression 49% were forced to comfort an upset parent, 24% had to lie to the other parent. The outcome was sadly 1 in 10 turned to crime and 8% considered suicide. The seventh effect was once they were adult they ran a higher chance for having a stroke, than those who had never experienced divorce as a child. The eighth effect was that children of divorce run a higher chance of getting divorced themselves than did children whose parents stayed married. This is due to them feeling like they need a companion to fulfill their emotional needs. The ninth one is they are at a higher risk for an early death. These adults tend to die 5 years earlier than the adults of parents who had

stayed married. This was a good article not only for immediate affects on children but the long term affects divorce can have on them as an adult.

Goldberg, Joseph. Web.06/23/13 Children.webmd.com 08/04/13 This article is about how parents can help their children cope with a divorce. The article lists a few things of what to do and what not to do while going through a divorce. It says not to talk to your children about your divorce, or money issues you may be having because of the divorce. Dont bad mouth your ex in front or around the children and dont quiz them about what goes on at the other spouses house. Dont subject the children to major changes in their life aside from the divorce if it is possible; keep changes to a minimum as much as you can. Do encourage your children to talk to the other parent as much as is needed or as much as they want and let them know it is ok to love you both. Parent your children as you always have, keep the same rules as there was during the marriage because it helps children to adjust better to the divorce, because they need that stability. Seek help if your children are having a very difficult time coping with the divorce. Taking them to a therapist can benefit them, because a therapist can give them a safe place to express their feelings and not have to worry about taking sides with their parents. If you and your ex can not communicate seek help like a therapist, or a mediator because they can help reduce conflict with one another, and give you both advice on how to handle your disagreements effectively. I liked this article because it states true facts on how to effectively help your children through the divorce and also gives the parents advice on what to do or say when kids will ask questions about the divorce.