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Chelsey Greene FCS 437 Final Case Studies May 2, 2013 The Dalys Don owns his own

real estate business and works from home (on the serene edge of a national forest) while Dori commutes (3 hour round trip) to teach at a university. They do not want to give up the luxury of their home or serenity of surroundings, however as their children, 1, 4 and 11 grow and become more involved in their individual pursuits their time together becomes more precious. Naomis colleagues and educational community wish that shed participate more in the activities and events of her work family while Dons relatives have hinted that she has turned him into a house husband by expecting him to manage more of the everyday routines and the childrens care because he is there, working from home. Their 11 year old son has become increasingly more interested in archery and the shooting sports club than entertaining or playing with his younger brother and baby sister. This family really needs to get back to being able to spend enjoyable time together and have more commitment to the family. They are really missing these qualities of strong families mostly because of distance along with the fact that their children are getting older. Don and Dori have made their situation last up to this point, but as their children continue to get older and have the want to get involved in more activities along with Doris want to be more involved in events at work, something in their life is going to have to give. I think this family really needs to consider leaving their home in order to be closer to Doris work. They would not need to move all the way into the town where she works, but if they could cut her commute down to just an hour and a half roundtrip, Dori would be able to be more involved at work as well as be able to spend time with her growing kids. This situation would also take some of the pressure off Don to be a house husband. There would be much more time for the family to spend enjoyable time together going to their oldest sons archery and shooting events as well as just being able to enjoy down time as a family at home. Moving would also allow Dori to have more a commitment to her family simply because she would be able to spend more time with them then on the road. Don would be showing commitment to the family because he would be willing leave their nice home on the edge of the forest so that they would be able to spend more time together as family. These websites could help the Dalys develop a plan and agenda to spend more quality family time together. http://www.learningsuccess.com/family_time_planning_instructions.htm http://parenting.kaboose.com/familytips_familytime.html

The Johnstons James and Jillian have been married for 7 years and his sense of humor (which has turned a bit dark and sarcastic rather than fun and playful), once endearing has now become annoying. A common theme of his quips is the loss of freedom and spontaneity in their lives since the arrival of their 3 year old twins. Jillian suspects the additional financial burden of their medical expenses (premature delivery) and her loss of income (and insurance) when she was forced to bed rest, early in her pregnancy are the cause of his current change in attitude. James work (host at a dinner club and amateur comedian) also keeps him away from home 6 nights a week. She takes the children to day care and works as a laboratory technician which provides James the quiet he needs to sleep late. They are increasingly growing apart and would like to change that. The Johnstons really need find the appreciation and affection that was once present in their life along with being able to successfully manage stress and crisis. The problems that they are dealing with really stem from the fact that they had to deal unexpected stress and problems when Jillian was no longer able to work before their kids were born as well as the babies being born prematurely. The unsuccessful management of this stress and crisis has led to them not being able to be as appreciative and affectionate towards one another, and it has put a huge damper on their marriage and their ability to be good parents. I feel that this family needs to consider marriage counseling in order to resolve the problems that they have and develop the positive qualities of a family. If they are able to talk through and work out the resentment and stress that came about because of the birth of their children, I feel like they would develop the appreciation and affection for one another all over again. Jillian and James obviously have not been able to work these problems out on their own because it has been three years since the twins were born, so they really need to consider seeking out the help of a professional. This would not only help them be able to communicate in a more positive way but also help James see how much time he is missing out with his kids. This would allow him to grow an appreciation and affection for his children along with his wife. The following links describe what the Johnstons could expect from marriage counseling as well as help them decide if it is right for them. http://psychcentral.com/lib/2012/7-reasons-to-seek-marriage-counseling/ http://www.growingself.com/marriage-counseling-questions/

The Lovitts Lora and Luke were introduced at a youth retreat in high school and have shared the common bond of faith and dedication to mission service for 30 years. Recently, Loras parents have experienced the devastating effects of MS and Alzheimers, rendering them unable to live alone in their own home. Lora is the youngest and most experienced in medical issues, therefore nominated by her siblings to live with and care for their parents. The Lovitts have traveled extensively and lived away from both their families of origin, most of their married life. Their adult children have also adopted the spirit of service to others and are involved in various mission services. The Lovitts have always been frugal and managed to thrive without great wealth however, are not prepared for the medical demands and current living expenses while caring for aging parents. Loras siblings have financial challenges in their own families and have sacrificed to assist their parents during the past several years. This family is learning to successfully manage stress and crisis as well as remain committed to their family. It seems like it is their turn to take care of Loras parents since her siblings have already made some sacrifices to help their parents out. They are also going to have to develop positive communication with their extended families (adult children and siblings) since they have spent most of their married life away from one another. I think that once the Lovitts have settled into a routine and can figure out how to manage the situation they have been put in, they will succeed with flying colors. They will succeed with the decision they make simply because they have demonstrated the strong family quality of spiritual well-being. After spending most of their married life dedicated to mission work, this couple will be able to take the faith that they have built and use it to their advantage when taking on the next challenge in their life. In order to successfully manage this stress and crisis and show their commitment, they are going to have to have some sort of income. It makes the most sense for Luke to find employment since Lora will be spending most of her time caring for her parents. If they have some sort of income they will be able to manage the living expenses as well be able to meet the medical demands of Loras declining parents. If they find it to be too much to handle, they could always consider putting their parents into an assisted living center or nursing home. However, they would both need to find good employment in order to pay for this form of medical care. In a way, it would almost be more demanding of them and could lead to other problems within their family. By using positive communication skills and a successfully managing the stress and crisis, I think that the Lovitts will be able to find the best solution to the problems that they have been faced with. These websites would help the Lovitts decide which option would be more affordable and easier to manage for Loras parents. http://www.goldenyearschanges.com/ http://www.npr.org/templates/story/story.php?storyId=126167767 http://www.marketwatch.com/story/five-ways-to-talk-assisted-living-with-aging-parents

The OKeefes Katie became a single mother at age 19 and managed to achieve a medical technology certificate to provide a means of supporting her child without the assistance of Olivias absentee father. Katie rejected her parents advice to pursue his financial support, preferring not to have his often volatile temperament as a complicating factor in her life with a small child. Her parents then declared they would not provide additional financial support beyond her 21st birthday, so she was on her own. Katies grandmother lives in the community and had enjoyed caring for her great-granddaughter while Katie attended school but now that Katie is working demanding hours and frequent on call status, Granny-O is not as willing to provide child care for the growing and active toddler. Katie is also beginning to feel as though she is missing out on the exciting life she hears about from her youthful colleagues. They are not able to relate to her current lifestyle challenges and she is estranged from other extended family. Katie has created her own family with Olivia, especially since her parents have made the decision that they will no longer support her. Katie needs to develop some positive communication with her grandmother, so that they are able to work out arrangements that work for the both of them. Using this quality she could also think about speaking with Olivias father about contributing financially as well. She also needs to be concerned with spending quality time with Olivia as well as her family as a whole. Since Katie does work a lot of hours and is on-call frequently, she should not be relying on her grandmother for all of Olivias care. I feel that she needs to seek out another option of childcare for part of the time. By only relying on her grandmother for a couple days out of the week, Katie would be giving her grandmother alone time to do the things that she enjoys. Her limited income would also not be depleted paying for childcare if she was still able to rely on her grandmother for part of the time. Another way around losing the money she would spend for daycare would be to communicate with Olivias father about contributing some sort of child support. Legally, he is required to be paying this money, so if she is not able to work something out with him in a civil manner, she can always take the matter to court. Katie also needs to be thinking about how much time she is spending working and how many of those hours she could let go of in order to be spending time with her daughter. Quality time with her child at this age is necessary because she will never be able to enjoy Olivia at this stage in life again. Katie just needs to be conscious of how much of Olivias life she is missing out on. She also needs to keep this in mind when she decides to partake in the young adult activities that her friends talk about being a part of. Katie is stuck between a rock and a hard place, but through positive communication and quality time with her daughter, she will be able to coordinate a schedule that will work for everyone involved. The following links will help Katie go through the process of filing for child support. http://www.acf.hhs.gov/programs/css/resource/how-to-get-child-support http://www.nationalchildsupport.com/

Robert & Richard Partners for five years and well-established in their careers, but disconnected from their families of origin (unable to accept their gay lifestyle), Bob and Rich decided to expand their family by adopting an orphan from Cambodia. Their son, Ryan was 3 years old when they welcomed him into their family. Ryan was born with bilateral cleft palate and lip and had only rudimentary corrective surgery in his early life. Richard believes that more extensive cosmetic surgery should be done to make him appear more normal but Bob thinks that they should encourage Ryan to be proud of who he is and how he looks, without the additional trauma of cosmetic surgery while he is so young. Rich argues that Ryan is likely to face social ostracism because of his two dads without the added burden of looking deformed as well as foreign. If they could eliminate one of the challenges in his life, the other challenges might be more manageable. They both hope that having a grandchild to offer their parents might bring them around and further enrich Ryans life. This family needs to be positively communicating and remembering that commitment to family is very important. They really need to be communicating positively with one another in order to make a decision they will both be happy with when it comes to Ryans surgery. This communication also needs to flow over into creating a new relationship with each of their families in order to reestablish that family commitment that used to be present. The opinions that Bob and Rich have about Ryans surgery are both very understandable. Bob wants to teach Ryan a very important life lesson while Rich wants to protect their child from bullying. However, I think that Bob needs to give in and see the situation from Richs side. Ryan is going to learn to be proud of who is he and not be ashamed simply because he is not going to look like most of the other kids and because he does not come from a traditional family. Not only will this surgery make his life a little bit easier, but it could also help future health problems from arising. Since the treatment he received as a small child was only the bare minimum, he might face future problems if they do not completely correct the defect while he is still young and able to heal quickly and without complications. While they are positively communicating with one another, they need to begin communicating with each of their families once again. However, they need to approach this situation with care. They need to look at it strictly from the perspective of making Ryans life that much more normal and fulfilling, not by using Ryan as a peace offering in order to get back in their families good graces. By going about the process in this manner, they will be showing Ryan the importance of remaining committed to ones family while trying to provide the best life possible for him. Their positive communication and commitment to their own family will take Bob, Rich, and Ryan far in the endeavors that lie ahead of them. These links will help Bob and Rich reconnect with their families as well as help them compromise when it comes to Ryans surgery. http://heartrelationships.com/mending-family-estrangement/ http://www.freedomofmind.com/Services/help3.php http://www.drseanboutros.com/cleft-lip-palate.html http://www.childrenshospital.org/az/Site2034/mainpageS2034P4.html

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