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Seven Habits of Highly Effective
People

1.What is a Habit?
2.Seven Habits Paradigm
3.The Seven Habits
Knowledge
(what to, why to)

Habits
Internalized principles
& patterns of behavior
Knowledge
(what to, why to)

Desire
(want to)

Habits
Internalized principles
& patterns of behavior
Knowledge
(what to, why to)

Skills Desire
(how to) (want to)

Habits
Internalized principles
& patterns of behavior
Knowledge
(what to, why to)

Habits
Skills Desire
(how to) (want to)

Habits
Internalized principles
& patterns of behavior
Seven Habits
1 Be Proactive
2 Begin with the End in Mind
3 Put First Things First
4. Think Win/Win
5.Seek First to Understand...
Then to Be Understood
6 Synergize
7.Shapen the saw
SEVEN HABITS ARE BASED

The Seven Habits center on


timeless and universal
principles of personal,
interpersonal, managerial, and
organizational effectiveness.

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THE SEVEN HABITS PARADIGM

Interdependenc
Seek First
Understand e
to Synerg
ize
… Then to
be PUBLIC
VICTOR
Understood
Y
Independence

PRIVAT
E
Be
Proacti
VICTOR
Begin with
the End in
ve Y Mind
Dependence
FOUR DIMENSIONS OF RENEWAL

PHYSICAL
Exercise,
Nutrition,
Stress
Management

MENTAL SOCIAL/EMOTIONAL
Reading, Service, Empathy,
Visualizing, Synergy, Intrinsic
Planning, Security
Writing

SPIRITUAL
Value
Clarification
& Commitment,
Habit #1
Be Proactive
Based on the work of Stephen Covey
THE UPWARD SPIRAL

Commit Learn
Do

Commit
Do
Learn

Do Commit

Learn
Do
Commit

Learn
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PROACTIVE MODEL

Stimulus Freedom Response


to
Choose

Self- Independent
Awareness Will

Imagination Conscience
What happens to a bottle of soda
when you shake it up?

It EXPLODES!
When you are
PROACTIVE,
you make a choice
about how you react to
the things that happen
in your life. You act like
a water bottle. You
might get shaken up or
mad, but you stay calm
and don’t explode!
What steps could you take to
be more PROACTIVE and
calm when things aren’t
going well?
HOW PROACTIVE AM I?

. . . the degree to which I take


initiative to improve my current
circumstances or create new
ones.
Proactive vs.
Reactive
When you are PROACTIVE, you make
good choices about how you respond to
something happening. You are always
ready with a calm attitude. You do things
to make sure that the right things will
happen. You are prepared for anything
that might happen. When things don’t go
your way, you aren’t happy, BUT you stay
calm.

When you are REACTIVE, you could


explode at any minute. Things happen
and they “catch you off guard”. You aren’t
ready for things that might happen. You
deal with things when they happen
Where do you fall?

Very Very
Reactiv Proactive
e

How could you


be more
proactive?
Circle of Influence
Things you circle of
can’t control
circle
of
influence
Things you
can control
concern or change

Focus on things you can


change or influence
CIRCLE OF
INFLUENCE

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CIRCLE OF
INFLUENCE

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Circle of Influence
Things you Things you
CAN’T CAN
control or control or
change: change:
•Other people •Your attitude

•The weather •Your mood

•Things you did •Your reaction to


wrong in the past good and bad
things that
•How other people happen
treat me
•How I treat
•Homework
Can you think of other
other people

examples from your


life?
Habit #2
Begin with the
End in Mind
Based on the work Stephen Covey
I plan ahead and set goals. I
do things that have meaning
and make a difference. I am
an important part of my
classroom. I look for ways to
What is “the end” for
you? What do you hope
to be doing ten years
from now? Twenty?
Make a list of things you
want to do in your life.
Before you figure out the
“end”, you have to take
a look at who YOU are!

Draw a picture of
something that
represents you. It could
be an animal, plant,
machine, a food, etc.
Explain why you chose
what you did.
Mission Statement, Part 1:
Write your name in a circle. Out from the circle, write words
that describe you.

artisti
c athleti
c

Ben

reader kind
Mission Statement, Part 2:
Now think about what kind of person you WANT to be.
Make a list.

I want to be a:
1.Hard worker
2.Good student
3.Kind person
4.Talented artist
Mission Statement, Part 3:
Use the two lists to write a mission statement. This is a
sentence or paragraph about the person you want to be.
Here are some example:

My mission is to:
•Laugh a lot
•Learn as much I can
•Work hard at home, school and in
my sports
•Be kind to others
•Take good care of myself.
•To get better at my art.
How good are you at
beginning with the end in
mind?

I always
I only
keep
think
the end
about
in mind.
today.
Why did you
rate yourself
this way?
How does saying “no”
sometimes help you
with “beginning with
the end in mind”?
What things do you
have to say no to?
Finish these sentences:
~If I my future had no limits, I
would choose to be…..

~I want to be a person who…


Habit #3
Put First
Things
First
Based on the work of Stephen Covey
I spend my time on things that
are most important. This
means I say no to things I
should not do. I set priorities,
make a schedule, and follow
my plan.
I am organized.
Going for
Your Goals

At Home Goals At School Goals

Set two or three goals


for at home and for at
school.
Sometimes not
being brave gets in
the way of doing
things that are
important to you.
Putting first things
first might means
putting aside your
fears to reach your
goal. Has fear ever
kept you from doing
something great or
Big Things and Little Things:
Putting first things first means planning your time around the
most important, BIG things in your life. Then, you can get to
the little things that take your time.

Big, Important Small Things, Less


Things That Important Things
Take Your That Take Your
Time Time
Organizing Your
Days
Write out your regular schedule
for a full day, from start to finish.
Is it organized? Do you waste
time, or put first things first?
Making it Happen
Now choose one goal for home, and one goal for school. Write your
goals in a circle. Out from the circle, write things that you can do to
help you achieve those goals.

Play x Make flash


games on cards.
the
computer.

Memorize
my
multiplicatio
n facts.
Practice in
the car on
Have the way to
somebody school.
quiz me
daily.
Where do you fall?

I I never to
always set goals
put first or put first
things things
first! first.
How could you
be better at
putting first
Habit #4
Think Win-Win
Based on the work of Stephen Covey
Is this picture a
good one for
Think Win-
Win?
Why or why
not? If so,
defend your
answer. If not,
design a better
one and explain
I want everyone to be a
success. I don’t have to
put others down to get
what I want. It makes me
happy to see other people
happy. I like to do nice
things for others. When a
conflict arrives, I help
brainstorm a solution.
High

Lose/Win Win/Win
CONSIDERATION

Lose/Lose Win/Lose
Low

Low High
COURAGE
LEVELS OF COMMUNICATION

High
Synergistic (Win/Win)

TRUST Respectful (Compromise)

Defensive (Win/Lose or Lose/Win)


Low

Low High
COOPERATION
Think Win-Win Road
•I’ll step Blocks
on you to get ahead.
•I am a loser. I can’t do
anything.
•At least I am better than
her/him.
•I’ll let someone else win again.
Have you ever
“stepped on”
somebody else
to win? Have
you pushed
someone aside
so you could
get something
good? How
does this feel?
Think an
Human
Doormat:
Do you always let other
people win? Do you not raise
your hand to answer a
question because you know
somebody will answer? Do
you let people jump in front of
you? Do you let people treat
you poorly? (If so, you are not
practicing Think Win-Win.)
Describe a time when
you let people “step
on you” to win.
How To Think Win-Win
In order to Think Win-Win, you need to be confident in you. You
must not care what others think of you. You will be happy to see
others be successful.

Make a word
& picture
splash to
show what
makes you
unique.
Where do you fall?

Very Good! Very Bad!


I don’t like
I want to see
everyone other
to do well. people win.
How could you
be better at
Think Win-Win?
Habit #5
Seek First to
Understand, Then to
Be Understood
Based on the work Stephen Covey.
Listening Road Blocks
Spacing Out: Pretend
Your mind wanders when
others talk.
Listening:
You don’t really pay attention
to the other person, but you
pretend to. You say “yeah,”,
“uh-huh,” and “cool.”

Selective Selfish Listening:


Listening: You always bring the
conversation back to you and
You listen only to the parts your life. You say things like
that interest you. “I had that happen too” and “I
know how you feel.”
We all have times
when we are poor
listeners. Which
“Listening Road
Block” do you most
often use? Explain
why this happens.
I’m All Ears
Everybody wants to be listened to. When people feel like you listen,
they are more likely to like you. So, be a good listener, and you’ll
have lots of friends.

What are some ways that Who is a good listener?


you can show people that Create a list of people that
you ARE listening? you know that listen well.
Listen With Your
Eyes:

Sometimes you have to


listen with your eyes as
much as you listen with
your ears. People say a
lot with their body
language and facial
expressions.
Emotion Charades:
Find a partner. Practice ‘listening with your eyes”.
Choose an emotion to try to express just with your
face and body. You can not use words.

•Angry •Impatient •Confused


•Sad •Scared •Flattered
•Embarrassed •Worried •Nervous
•Tired •Relaxed •Annoyed
•Happy •Frustrated •Interested
•Thinking •Surprised
•Bored •Stressed
Mirror, Mirror
To be a good listener, mirror
back what someone says.
Repeat back in your own words
what the person is saying. Use
statements like “You seem to
be feeling…” and “So what you
are saying is…”
Have you ever had a
time with your family or
friends when you knew
that you needed to “zip
it” and just listen? Why
is it important to do this
sometimes? How does
this help the person
you are listening to?
Are you a good listener?

Very Not Such


Good a Great
Listene Listener
r
How could you
be a better
listener?
Habit #6
Synergize

Based on the work of Stephen Covey.


I value other people’s strengths
and learn from them. I get
along well with others, even
people who are different from
me. I work well in groups. I
seek out other people’s ideas
to solve problems. I know that
“two heads are better than
one”. I am a better person
when I let other people into my
life and work.
They say that,
“Two heads are
better than
one.” Do you
agree or
disagree? Why?
Make a list of
times when
you have to
work with other
people at
home, school,
or church, or in
your clubs/
sports.
Everybody is different, or
unique. In what ways is this a
good thing?
How does this help you when
you are working with a group
How does
everyone being
different make
things harder?
How can you
overcome these
challenges?
Would it be easier
if everyone had
the same
personality, looks,
talents and
interests?
Celebrate Differences:
Pair up with someone you don’t usually work/play with.
Come up with at least five differences and five things you
have in common.

Ways Difference
Difference You Are
s: s:
Alike Student 1
Student 2
What does this quote
mean? Is it true? Is it a
good thing or a bad
thing?

“Everyone is in love with


his own ideas.”
How can having someone
disagree with you help
you learn? Explain your
thoughts.
Dream Team
You have been asked to put together a team to create
a new invention. If you could choose anyone in the
world, who would be on your team. You must explain
your reason. You may have 5 teammates.

Person Reason
Synergy Action Plan
Define the Problem Make sure you understand the
problem or task.

Their Way Try to understand everyone’s


ideas. Listen carefully.

My Way Seek to be understood. Share


your ideas.

Brainstorm Be creative. Everyone create


new ideas.

High Way Find best solution.


Where do you fall?

I work I’d rather


well work by
with myself.
others.

How could you


be better at
working with
Habit #7
Sharpen
the Saw
Based on the work of
Stephen Covey
A man has been
working hard to saw
through a tree for over
three hours. He still
hasn’t cut through the
tree trunk. What
might be wrong with
the man’s saw? What
should he do?
I take care of my body by eating
right, exercising, and getting
sleep. I spend time with family and
friends. I learn in lots of ways and
lots of places.
Body: Brain:
Exercise, Be Healthy, Sleep, Learn, Read, Write
Relax

Soul: Heart:
Journal, Think, Pray Serve, Laugh, Be a Friend
What do you do to
take care of your
body? What do you
NOT do?
Could you make any
improvements?
How you are working to
improve your brain?
What could you stop
doing? What could you
start doing? Can you
think of someone who
really works on this
area of their life?
Brain Food
What are your plans for
“feeding” your brain?
Make a list of things you
want to learn or things that
you want to do that will
teach you.
How you are working to
improve your soul?
What things do you do
that make you the
most happy?
Feeding Your Soul
What feeds your
soul? What
inspires you and
gives you peace?
What are some
songs, books or
movies that make
you want to be a
better person? Is
there a person that
makes YOU want
to be better?
Does the heart matter?
Are you
serving/helping
anyone? What things
do you do to make
friends and/or to make
other people happy?
Can you think of
someone that really is
good at this?
Your Saw is Your Life
What makes your What makes your
saw sharp? saw dull?
How good are you at
sharpening the saw?

My saw My saw
is very is very
sharp! dull!

What steps
could you take
to sharpen your
saw?
The Time Management Matrix
Urgent
Urgent Not Urgent

I The ____________ II The _____________


Important

III The Yes-man IV The ___________


SEVEN HABITS OF
HIGHLY EFFECTIVE PEOPLE
EFFECTIVE PEOPLE INEFFECTIVE PEOPLE

HABIT 1
Be Proactive. Proactive Be Reactive. Reactive
people take responsibility for people don’t take responsibility
their own lives. They determine for their own lives. They feel
the agendas they will follow and victimized, a product of
choose their response to what circumstances, their past, and
happens around them. other people. They do not see as
the creative force of their lives.
SEVEN HABITS OF
HIGHLY EFFECTIVE PEOPLE
EFFECTIVE PEOPLE INEFFECTIVE PEOPLE
HABIT 2
Begin with the End in Mind. Begin with No End in Mind.
These people use personal These people lack personal
vision, correct principles, and vision and have not developed a
their deep sense of personal deep sense of personal meaning
meaning to accomplish tasks in a and purpose. They have not paid
positive and effective way. They the price to develop a mission
live life based on self-chosen statement and thus live life
values and are guided by their based on society’s values
personal mission statement. instead of self-chosen values.
SEVEN HABITS OF
HIGHLY EFFECTIVE PEOPLE
EFFECTIVE PEOPLE INEFFECTIVE PEOPLE
HABIT 3
Put First Things First. Put Second Things First. These
These people exercise discipline, people are crisis managers who
and they plan and execute are unable to stay focused on
according to priorities. They also high-leverage tasks because of
“walk their talk” and spend their preoccupation with
significant time in Quadrant II. circumstances, their past, or
other people. They are caught up
in the “thick of thin things” and
are driven by the urgent.
SEVEN HABITS OF
HIGHLY EFFECTIVE PEOPLE
EFFECTIVE PEOPLE INEFFECTIVE PEOPLE
HABIT 4
Think Win-Win. Think Win-Lose or Lose-Win.
These people have an abundance These people have
mentality and the spirit of a scarcity mentality and see life
cooperation. They achieve as a zero-sum game. They have
effective communication and ineffective communication skills
high trust levels in their and low trust levels in their
Emotional Bank Accounts with Emotional Bank Accounts with
others, resulting in rewarding others, result-ing in a defensive
relationships and greater power mentality and adversarial
to influence. feelings.
SEVEN HABITS OF
HIGHLY EFFECTIVE PEOPLE
EFFECTIVE PEOPLE INEFFECTIVE PEOPLE
HABIT 5
Seek First to Understand, Then Seek First to Be Understood.
to Be Understood. Through These people put forth their
perceptive observation and point of view based solely
empathic listening, these non-
on their auto-biography and
judgmental people are intent on
motives, without attempting to
learning the needs, interests,
understand others first. They
and concerns of others. They are
blindly prescribe without first
then able to courageously state
diagnosing the problem.
their own needs and wants.
SEVEN HABITS OF
HIGHLY EFFECTIVE PEOPLE
EFFECTIVE PEOPLE INEFFECTIVE PEOPLE
HABIT 6
Synergize. Compromise, Fight, or Flight.
Effective people know that the Ineffective people believe the
whole is greater than the sum whole is less than the sum of
of the parts. They value and the parts. They try to “clone”
benefit from differences in other people in their own image.
others, which results in Differences in others are looked
creative cooperation and team- upon as threats.
work.
SEVEN HABITS OF
HIGHLY EFFECTIVE PEOPLE
EFFECTIVE PEOPLE INEFFECTIVE PEOPLE
HABIT 7
Sharpen the Saw. Effective Wear Out the Saw. Ineffective
people are involved in self- people fall back, lose their
renewal and self-improvement in interest, and get disordered.
the physical, mental, spiritual, They lack a program of self-
and social-emotional areas, renewal and self-improvement
which enhance all areas off their and eventually lose the cutting
life and nurture the other six edge they once had.
habits.
PARADIGM
ARADIGM SHIFTS
HIFTS

A BREAK FROM
TRADITIONAL WISDOM
TOWARD 7 HABITS

Habit We are a product of our We are a product of our


environment and choices to our
1 upbringing. environment and
Habit Society is the source of Values are
upbringing. self-chosen and
our values. provide foundation for
2 decision making. Values
flow outflow
of principles.
Habit Reactive to the tyranny Actions from that
of the urgent. Acted which is important.
3 upon by the
Habit environment.
Win-lose. Win-win.
One-sided benefit. Mutual benefit.
4
Habit Fight, flight, or Communication solves
compromise when faced problems.
5 with conflict.
Habit Differences are threats. Differences are values and
Independence is the are opportunities for
6 highest value. Unity synergy.
means sameness.
Habit Entropy. Continuous self-renewal
Burnout on one track - and self-improvement. 93
7 typically work.