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Hard?
Rewiring your brain after leaving Mormonism and
dealing with family across faith boundaries.
Todays Agenda
Why you probably cant just let it go.
Ideas about healing.
How do I minimize the impact of this on my
relationships?
Abuse
Abuse: treat (a person or an animal) with
thought.
Worthiness training
Loss of self or lack of development and exploration
Worthiness Training
Hardwired fear of social rejection
Black and white issue: Worthy/Unworthy, In/Out
Lifelong training on maintaining personal
Shame
In an abusive system shame is cultivated by the
Trauma
Many individuals experience significant trauma when
and fellow.
trauma.
nightmares
re-experiencing physical symptoms associated with your
Hyperarousal: When exposed to a trigger
your physiology is aroused.
You might have difficulty sleeping or concentrating,
you might find yourself more frequently angry or agitated (fight/flight/freeze
reactions)
hypervigilance (exaggerated reactions to cues that you are in danger).
Numbing: In some cases you might also experience emotional numbing,
feeling like you are on autopilot, or disconnected from the vitality of life.
This is a defense mechanism your mind might use to escape the pain of
re-experiencing the trauma. You may find yourself avoiding thoughts and
feelings associated with the trauma, feeling depressed, or disconnected
from the people around you.
Perception as Prediction/Predictive
Coding
The brain uses stored knowledge about the structure of the
me, a powerful tool for appreciating both the power and the
potential pitfalls of our primary way of being in contact with the
world. Our primary contact with the world, all this suggests, is
via our expectations about what we are about to see or
experience.
Andy Clark (cognitive scientist)
aggression.
self
Understand that some of your reactions are
hardwired and are unlikely to change in the near
future.
You are dealing with loss: it is HARD and you will
likely be ANGRY.
Are you dealing with Trauma?
What are your triggers
Dont expect yourself to be at full skill level when
triggered.
and reactions
Develop a good emotional vocabulary
Use a scale of 1-10 to measure emotions with
1 being the weakest and 10 being the
strongest
What triggers strong emotional reactions?
Begin to measure how fast your negative
reactions climb the scale.
With negative emotions most people begin to
loose control around 7-10 on the scale.
Source: emotionalfitnesstraining.com
Triggers
What triggers your strong emotional
reactions?
Worthiness/unworthiness cues
Rituals
Words or phrases
Facial expressions
The Bishops stare
Volume Knobs
Your brain might lead you to miss important
Setting Boundaries
Describe your situation
When you ask me to pray
When I go to church
When you say
Appropriate Distancing
Notice what situations leave you with negative
shame diminishes.
Contact Information
PeterDanzigLCSW@outlook.com
PeterDanzigCounseling.weebly.com
www.OtterCreekDuo.com
Resources
Grief Counseling and Grief Therapy, Fourth Edition: A Handbook