Everyone has a fuse. Person who go to travel, they also have fuse point.

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also has cause. In human life, now happening has fuse. I want to talk about why I am in United
States and what lit my fuse. My very first fuse point was happened in Korea high school. I love
to study as asking question and discussion. However, in Korean education system, teachers did
not have enough time to discuss with me because they should teach so many things (11 grade
learn college level calculus 2.) I knew very well these things, but sometime I was so curious
some parts so asked question to teachers then they usually ignored or scolded me. The most
embarrass situation was that even my friends looked me so strangely.
In Korea, the model student is do not asking question, quiet and get good score from the
test. Beside the model student, I had a lot of question and asking a lot of question. I also could
not get really good score from test. Also Korean culture was not existing for me. In Korea culture
was built base on the Confucianism. The Confucianism is Confuciuss ideas and in there, the
biggest and the most important idea are that respecting old people and men is above women all
the time, men is the sky and women is ground. Women is always devoting for their father or
husband, and women should keep their mind and body clean and gentle. If women lost their
virginity before marriage, she is dirty. I was so disappointed on these and I deeply considered to
study abroad and thought about which country should fit on me. The first list of country was The
United States, and the second list of country was British.
I wanted these my deliberative thinking to my parents, but my parents did not reply at
that moment. They told me talk these later, and my school life was getting harder and I was
grilling my parents and they said that they were worried a lot about the studying abroad. My
parents had experience which was, they lived in Australia 3 years and they saw so many bad
situations. A lot of Korean international students got school tuition money from their parents and

they spent that money for living with their partner. More seriously, they even did not go to
school. Some international students hung out with second generation Korean Australians and
they lead a disorderly life.
My parents also have another worry that is in Korea society, Koreans still live in
Confucianism, so they are really inflexible and live in stereotype. As a student who did study
abroad, they are all promiscuous. More ridiculous thing is that stereotype is only including
women. I knew the stereotype already because I heard that story a lot from other my friends who
are studying abroad. My parents strongly opposed my studying abroad idea. So I suggested to
my parents that I can reversed your thinking and even other peoples stereotype thinking. Finally,
I was against my parents thinking and could go studying abroad, but they gave a condition which
is I should go to Australia which is my grandfathers brother lived in. Well, Australia was not in
my list, but I thought Australia is also good place to go for studying. However, my thinking was
totally wrong.
I meet good friends in Australia, life was not bad, but school life was not big different to
compare with Korea. The Australian education was much easier than Korean education, but
teaching style is pretty similar. They did ask question, but not a lot or that wasnt discussion.
Classroom smaller than Korean classroom size, but I felt that I am in small class in Korea. The
most terrible thing was racism. In the train, at ticket booth, at shopping mall, in apartment, and
even in the school. In the school, I was played basketball with other Chinese students at the
basketball court. At that time, I think nearly 8 grades students came to us and asked that where
we are from. We told that where we are from the country and they disgraced us as Yellow,
Odor. Then shouting to us go back f**kink your country. That was my first time went out from
my country so that kind of treatment was too shock to me. At that time, I recognized that I also

was living in Korean Stereotype and culture which is Confucianism because in Korea, younger
people never treated me as that. Even when they want to talk to me, they were really careful at
everything as question topic and my feeling. After I had been insulted by him, my face became
very red and my heartbeats was judder. What is worse my English being really beginner so even
I could spoke out a word at the moment. I was very angry so asked to teachers for help, but
teachers reaction was so what? Also my parents and my cousins family had problem, so I could
not stay in their house anymore. I lost a place can sleep and eat. I became a homeless. I tried look
up the place whole night. Unfortunately, I could not find any place. I was very hungry so I went
to McDonald and luckily saw a poster about the church. I called to them and I could stay at the
church until I can get homestay. I experienced these kind of happens, I felt keenly the necessity
of language fluent. I talked long time with my parents again and additionally.
Several months passed from I moved to new homestay. I told to parents I would want to
get out from this country, but this is not a give up, I just want to move other country. New host
family were nice and they took care of me a lot, but I was too tired at life of Australia. I and my
parents considered another place that I can study. That was the United States. This time I and my
parents studied and researched a lot at the United States and the school stuff for choosing the
school. My parents wanted that I go to quiet states and I wanted to go big city as New York or
Los Angeles. Well, the financier always has a power. I should go to Fryeburg in Maine, but I
could live in Manhattan with host family. Studying and living in the Maine was good. In Maine
the weather was cold, but environment was so beautiful. Some parts are colorful maple trees and
some parts is greenish pine trees embroider Maine during all season.
During I lived in Maine, I learned the way can survive from bitter cold and how can
enjoyed winter. From my New York host family, they were Jewish so sometime I enjoyed their

holiday with them as Hanukkah. Education system also was same as what I expected. They did
discuss in the classes and teachers ready some events when the Halloween coming, such as our
chemistry teacher ready a pumpkin chemical bomb. In the dorm, pretty various countries
international students were living together so we can share many culture. One of my stereotype
was all the Russians drink alcohol as vodka, but of my Russian friend told me that she did not
like alcohol so she did not drink vodka. Also I thought that Hong Kong people cannot stand the
cold, but my Hong Kong roommate was strong at the cold. I also knew Americans has some
stereotype on Asian. I love sports especially playing with ball. So I always hanged out with boys
to play basketball or soccer and they often time said to me that you are not like Asian girl.
They though Asian girls were shy, no activity and just studying. I also had language mistake
which is rubber. I was writing in English class and I needed an eraser. So I asked my friend to
borrowed her rubber because in Australia, they said eraser as rubber. Then my teacher was
looked like in difficulty and told me very carefully about that. In America, rubber include
meaning condom so I better used to eraser beside rubber. 3 years passed so fast and it was time to
apply the college. I loved Maine and their people so I would like to go college near from Maine
State, so I applied just east coast side. For the result I moved to Michigan. The weather is pretty
similar with Maine, but other environment is changed so I am still adopting this place.
Look back on my past, it was not easy to come now. Other American students also get in
college is big deal. They might be the first time far away from their parents or being independent.
I am sure that is a hard thing to their parents and students. Now, I am kind of understand my
parents that why they were worried so much. At that time, I was only 15 years old, and they send
me 6,884.79mile just one-way. Even that is foreign country. The culture is totally different and
language also different. If I have problem, my parents could not come or hard to come here. One

time my father told me that if I were a boy, he might not be worried that much. Because hes one
of worry will decrease such as sexual things. However, I overcame all bad situation and the
worried. I did not give up and I hung out with Spanish friends and did some immoral things or
break some school rule but never take to evil course. When I study in Australia, I saw the boys
more take to evil course than girls and in the American high school, Korean girl international
student is honor students and often time boys got suspension or expel from school.
I always proud myself because I was not followed the Korean peoples stereotype of
girls study abroad and I endure hard time. Now my nearly friends and people could not say
about gender stereotype. Women could be stronger than men could be subtler. I strongly want to
say that to decide the future by gender stereotype is very dangerous thinking and it is not a good
way to thinking. A month a go I saw news that a captain and first lieutenant passed the training
course which is one of famous and notorious as really hard training Ranger School. This course
is even hard to men; 3/4 men soldiers failed at this course. As we can see, we do not need to
scare about the stereotype. Think about you. Arent you shut you in the stereotype?