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16 Habits Every Woman Absolutely Must Start in Her

20s
Stop comparing your body to other women's bodies.

ByLaneMoore

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1.Stopcaringwhatyourjeanordresssizeis.Mypreciouslovelyhuman,pleasestopcaring
whatyourclothingsizeisbecauseittrulydoesnotmatter.Inanygivenstore,Icanwearbetweena2
anda12,andnoneofitmakessense.WhenIfinallystoppedcaringifthenumberhadsingledigitsor
doubledigitsandjustfocusedonifitmademelookawesomeornot,Ienjoyedclothesalotmore.If
youneedto,cutthetagsout.Italsofeelsverypunkrock.
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2.Stopcomparingyourbodytootherwomen's.Ihadatotallymiserableconversationwitha
womanaroundtheageof18duringabackstagecostumefittingforaplaywewerebothinandshe
couldn'tstoptalkingabouthowmythighsweresmallerthanhers,whichinstantlymademesay,
"Yeah,butyourwaistissmallerthanmine!"andthenwebothfeltliketrashcansandthewholething
waspointless.Yourbodyhasamazingthingsthatonlyyourbodyhas.Someonebeingsmalleror
largerthanyouhasnothingtodowithhowgreatyouare.PleasehearmeonthisbecauseIamright
andalsothatleadsmeto...

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3.Giveyourselfacomplimenteverytimeyoupassamirror.It'ssoeasytogetinthehabit
ofimmediatelypointingoutyourflawswhenyougetinfrontofamirror,sogoradicallyintheother
directionandcomplimentyourselfeverytimeyoulookintoone,evenifit'sjustontheawesome
outfityouputtogether.ItcanbesimpleoritcanbeawholeOscarnominatedspeechaboutyourown
strengthandbeauty.Mineisusuallyjust,"Yes!Killin'it!"whisperedtomyreflection.
4.Stopdatingguyswhosaytheydon'tgodownonwomen.Ideally,youreplytoaguywho
saysthisbylaughinginhisfacewhilewalkingbackwardoutthedoorbecauseareyoufreaking
kiddingme?!We'realltoldbymoviesandmusicandTVthatweneedtogiveblowjobsorelsewe're
horriblehumanbeings,andwe'restilllettingguysgetawaywiththisnonsensewhenitcomesto
goingdownonus?Nope.Nopeforever.
5.Stopdatingguyswhomakeyoufeelbadaboutyourself.Itrulybelieve,witheverysingle
partofme,thatyourpartnershouldmakeyoufeellikethehottest,smartest,coolestwomanonthe
planet.Seriously.Numberone.It'syou.Forever.Ifhedoesanythinglessthanthis,Ipromiseyou,
youwillneverregretlettinghim"getaway."
6.Letyourselfeatdessertwhenyouwanttoandgoodgod,don'tevercallit"beingbad
today."TherearefewthingsIhatehearingmorethanawomanjustifyingwhyit'sOKtoeatdessert.
Letmetellyou,Ieatchocolatealmosteverysingleday(notalotofit,butIdo)andnoonehasever
notdatedmebecauseIeatdessertwithregularity.Why?Becausedessertisgreatandeverybody
knowsit.
7.Signupfora401(k)already.Also,findoutwhata401(k)is.
8.Startaskingforraises.Youmightnotalwaysgetthembutgettingintothehabitofaskingfor
themwillhelpyousomuchinthelongrun,andwillalsogiveyouvaluableexperienceintheright
andwrongwaysofaskingsoyoucanfinallygetthejobandsalaryofyourdreams.
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9.Totallysaveforarainydaybutalsomakesureyou'resavingtotakeagreatvacation.
Yes,ofcourse,youwanttobepreparedsoifyousuddenlybreakyourlegandcan'tworkforthree
weeks,youdon'thavetotakeoutthreedifferentloans,butyoualsowanttobeableto,youknow,
actuallyenjoythereasonyou'reworkingallthetime.Andthatreasonofcourseis"beachesexist."
Thatsaid...
10.Stopbuyingclothesmadeoutofgarbagejustbecausethey'recheap.Look,Igetit.
Sometimesit'snicejusttobuythingsandwe'veallseensomethingthatwaskindofOKandonly$5,
soweboughtit.Butpassingupallthoseopportunitiesandusingthatmoneyforareallyfantastic
sweaterorareallygorgeouspieceofjewelryyou'llweareverydaythatwon'tturnyourfingergreenis
somuchbetterinalltheways.
11.Stopbeingashamedtotellguysyouhaveyourperiod.Ihatetobreakittoyoubutthejig
isup.Theyknow.They'vebeentoldaboutperiods.Idon'tknowwhotoldthem,butsomeonedid.
Maybeitwasanexgirlfriendorasister,butsomeoneleakedthisinfoandtheyknowwemenstruate.
Sostopfeelingweirdabouttellinghimyoudon'twanttogoouttonightbecauseyou"don'tfeelwell"
or"feelweird."Youhaveyourperiod,(again,athingheknowsexists)andit'sOKtotalkaboutit.Any
guywhocan'thearthatisintenselyweird.
12.Developaskincareroutinethatmakesyoufeelprettyandnotlikeaproject.Idon't
careifit'ssmilingatyourselfinthemirrorwhileapplyingsunscreentoprotectyourcuteface(no
joke,thesunscreenthingisamust),youneedtostarttakingcareofyourselfinawaythatfeelslike
pamperingandnotlikefixing.Slatheringoncreamsandserumsbecauseyoufeellikeyou'renotgood
enoughwithoutthemisverydifferentfromslatheringoncreamsandserumsbecausetheymakeyou
feellikeacute,soft,fancylady.
13.Trustthatwhatyourbodyistellingyouisright.We'reoftentaughtbyparentsorTVor
ourweirdfriendstoonlyeatatmealtimesortostopeatingoncewe'vehadacertainnumberof
calories,butit'sreallytruethatifyoueatwhenyou'rehungry,trulyhungry,anddon'twhenyou're
not,everythingusuallybalancesout.Somedays,youmightberavenousalldayandotherdays,you
mightonlyeatalittlebit.Somedaysyoucanrun5miles,otherdaysyoudon'twanttogetoffthe
couch.Imean,ifanythingisreallywrongorpersistent,seeadoctor,butifnot,trustthatyoujustgo
throughphasesandit'sfine.
14.Findaformofexerciseyouactuallylike.Hearing"Exercise!"ishorriblebecausenoone
wantsachore,butifyoucanfindsomekindofexercisethatyoulikedoing,evenifit'swalkingor
bikinginsteadofdriving,doitanddoitnowbecauseafter30,youcanloseasmuchas3to5percent
ofyourmusclemassperdecadeifyoudon't.Keepyourmuscles,girl!
15.Actuallytellyourpartnerwhatyoursexualfantasiesare.Itfeelsawkwardashell,but
you'llnevergettodothemifyoudon'tstarttalkingaboutthem.Plus,ifyouthinkaboutit,aren'tyou
dyingtoknowhis?There'snowayhe'snotdyingtoknowyours.
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16.Tellthepeoplewhomatterthatyoulovethem.Likeallthetime.Likeasmuchas
humanlypossible.Becausepeopleshouldhearthosewordseverysingledayfromatleastoneperson.
Whynothavethatpersonbeyou?
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