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Fabrice X
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You must leave the city of comfort to venture into the wilderness of your intuition.
You will discover something wonderful there: Yourself.
Alan Alda
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Who I am
My propaganda (I hope you understand that I do not take myself seriously)
Sex is everywhere Roger Dodger.
It is true that one can observe games of seduction in most movies, books, magazines, etc.
Seducing is a desire and an universal need. It is omnipresent. Yet nobody really understands
all the workings of seduction.
However, a mans community (including me) decided to devote its life to this art. It is now
several generations we pass the torch. Modestly, we made good progress in our project. We
are now able to say that we have identified the main lines. We can see the matrix of
gender interactions. The land is cleared!
For what purposes do we do that? Curiosity. Vocation. To do not miss our chance with a
beautiful and brilliant unknown. To do not hesitate to approach. To do not live in self-doubt
or fear of women. In short, to find a meaning in life.
My policy : no regrets.
I am a former social and academic phobic. At the end of adolescence, it was going a bit better
but it was not crazy : I could have easily played the loser in American Pie. I missed a lot of
chicks it was so shameful. Moreover, approaching an unknown seemed impossible to me and
kissing a friend terrified me: it seemed a sacred act reserved for the elite. I undertook a big
work on me I began by asking lots of questions to my friends (girls) but the answers did not
satisfy me so I came typing seduction on the Internet and joined the seduction community.
I was terrified by the number of commercial site on this subject but they only make you
VERY SLOWLY progress and ask you for A LOT of money for that. I vowed to change
things at that level ever if I could one day become a PUA. In short, even if I do not change the
world, at least I would have changed myself.
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I devoured everything I could find on seduction: it is a subject that fascinates me. I found that
the results increase when you find out what works for YOURSELF. I greatly documented in
order to offer you the best of the web for free (this will save you a lot of time). I do not copy
anything as do most other sites (you do not ask me to reinvent everything every time, but
going further to bring a new stone to the seduction community founded in the 80s by Ross
Jeffries). This site is right on target: with my words I talk about what convinced me during my
training and I add my ideas, experiences and personal advice. So you will benefit from my
extensive research and my experience of PUA and coach on the field. Im not an asshole nor a
manipulator: I use personal development as a cornerstone. It is thus a healthy and natural
seduction that I propose. With me, theres no miracles (as in any field for that matter) but with
some work: be reassured, you will significantly improve. I see it in a rather Cartesian way.
With my outspokenness. And I dont give a shit about politically correct. If I want to write
down blowjob or doggy-style , I do it. Somebody has to do the education of those that
are shocked by that to take out that damn broom from their tight-ass.
I now have over 6 years of experience in the gender relations field. I became a kind of antihero (I can teach you how to create an aura of charm around you). But, I vowed to never get
big-headed : I am and remain an eternal student of seduction and know that its not a passing
fancy because Im still passionate about my subject after 6 years. But I see most guys I talk to
are dropped or are veeeeeery late. It is time for me to share my skills while continuing to
improve.
Having kissed 27 girls in one night once, I think I have kissed over 1000 women (but I lost
count a long time ago it would be unmanageable)!
I also slept with over 100 women and then I decided to stop counting because otherwise it
would never stop. An endless quest. I still won two times the pickup contest within the
community of Aix-Marseille. It is enough for me. Now I continue to be a hot womanizer but
less because I aim high. So when I see other coaches with fat chicks or stuff like that, it
makes me laugh in the inside The number of conquests doesnt make the seducer, theres
also the quality that count. But it still takes a minimum (100 or 50 women fucked well I guess
to be taken seriously). The problem is that after it becomes a game and you play for chicks
like alcoholics at night that do not interest me but I still game. Its silly but enjoyable to have
from time to time your adrenaline injection.
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Unlike the mass, I do not sell specific method, because it would amount to close the other
doors: I am interested in anything that works. I like to experiment, experience and get to the
contact.
I also enjoy to put my foot in it. Do not count on me to tell you what you want to hear: I
prefer to say things as they are (according to my experience) but I must warn you that
sometimes the truth is disturbing. In other words: I do not do politically correct stuff to
take you for idiots and to take your money at the same time. I hope you enjoy it!
My values are: honesty, respect and sincerity. My goal is to enjoy without headache.
My products are meant to be complete, exhaustive and effective immediately. If you want to
improve your understanding and your relationships with the other sex, I offer a range of
complementary various paying products and many free products : if you are interested, click
on my work in the left sidebar. With that, you will know everything about the Game!
To finish
An answer to those who would destroy or discredit me because this science scares them or
because I am a serious competitor: do not blame me if I do not answer you (other way it
would be unmanageable) but know that I have already destroyed all anti-PUA arguments in
good faith on this blog. Feel free to use the search bar if you are curious and are not just
looking to piss me off without even reading before. You claim that we are in the land of
human rights and you will surely claim you are politically correct people (or rather dictator)
but know that once upon a time were burned healers calling them witches. As soon as I hear
pick up artist in the media, it is associated with monster. Sorry but despite what you would
like to think: I am not a monster, and the girls are happy with me. In short, these amalgams
you condemn, you make many of them when it comes to seducers. Is it jealousy talking?
I do not even know why Im asking.
PS: Do not hesitate to read:
Answers to my detractors and why Im right
Comment of the article involved in controversy Testimony: I infiltrated the community of
the PUA
Conclusion : I am finally happy in this crazy world
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Why I am a PUA
Definition
According to wikipedia, a pick up artist, commonly abbreviated PUA is: a man skilled in
meeting, attracting and seducing women.
Why I am a PUA
First, the facts: I slept with more than 100 women and I have over 5 years experience in the
seduction community.
I mean, when you slept with 173 women, you cannot be bad nor having understood nothing in
the fair sex.
For information, I say and will always say more than 100 because if I have to update
every time the number, it would sucks! And 100 , it is enough! Oh yes, and I specify for
the jokers : the more you have sex, the more you become so demanding so no it is not 100
fat ugly girls! And Im not a guy who have nothing else in his life, Im working 45h per week
so Im pretty busy and its just a hobby for me.
When we understood how to seduce and sleep with girls, everything is nothing more than a
question of proportions. I mean there that it is simply a question of repeating the same
operation. Then Im not saying that having slept with 10 girls gives a sufficient control, but I
say that having slept with 100 or 1000 girls is practically similar and that there are more
interesting things to do.
I also have a good knowledge of the game, pragmatic enough, I will not let myself be
involved in fake miracle methods of any guru. And I want to avoid you being ripped off
(or at least warn you then you do what you want). The knowledge is there, I thoroughly read
and tried many things, but Im an experimenter / adventurer so sometimes I deliberately do
not use this or that. Curiosity. To see what will happen precisely.
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This is also what makes us different from hot womanizers . Like, a handsome server in
club can fuck a lot of babes without effort. Maybe even more than me that wet bikini but that
does not make him a PUA. Because he has no value because he does not understand women,
because we are doing this for fun (it is a sport) but we respect women we appreciate them,
they are not a piece of meat and we are not hotties. We are normal guys who want to play
in the higher category. Thanks to our brains and personality rather than through our good
looks, our muscles, our bank account, our social status, nor need to go abroad because fucking
Eastern girls there is easier
In my business, accounting (chartered accountant), one can be graduate only when he/she first
made a contribution to the profession through a memory. In seduction, I brought in the French
community my qualities translations of English ebooks, my ebooks in general and my wacky
experiments.
In the approaches of a PUA I think theres also the way. I mean : always stay a manly
alpha male who send some male energy without complexes nor apologizing for being a man
who wants to make women orgasm, make funny original approaches or at least, do not get
worked up and really see this as a game. You and I will never ever seduce all the chicks (but
you can seduce enough to no longer know where to turn). Results matter but theres also the
process in which you must not lose your manhood just because a girl is testing you that is
important. And dont let any girl break your confidence the fact that she has a pussy does
not make her an intelligent person who is always right. The girls also have their problems like
fear of men or social pressure. Now when a girl tries to make me feel guilty or invent shitty
excuses when in fact that she just does not dare to come over to have orgasms knowing she
wants it in fact, I did not even take a headache anymore. I do not care. I say too bad your
loss . Thats all, she did not deserve me and I next her. Im not saying that I never feel
anything for women, but I do not worry too soon, and I do not let myself be manipulated like
some people do
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For my part, Im coming back from sooooo far away but Im not afraid of women anymore. I
love them. Not only their bodies, their entirety, their feminine nature. I want to give them
pleasure, a lot. Indeed, the legend says that I have learned to make women come with just one
finger. I want to make them have fun too, I developed my nerve in an incredible way and it is
probably where the chance on the field comes from. All that to say that with time and
experience, my confidence when it comes to women has become invincible (I have a huge
rejection capital because I know they miss something when they reject me and it makes me
laugh to see them making so huge mistakes like that so I do not even consider it as a rejection
rather as just a light refusal to my alpha proposal). My mindset has completely changed, and it
is in my opinion, the state of mind that makes the PUA.
You can very well be a PUA in couple, for example.
I confirm my PUA degree in online dating because it is there that Im the best (I am a sniper I
rarely moves without having sex) and thanks to various original experiments in night/street
pickup like a street- fucking or 3/4somes (all that happened without alcohol nor drugs of
course because a PUA do not need that to let it be). I also validate my rank by my style ie
disconcerting frankness (request a huge confidence). I finally valid because I am recognized
by some of my peers and mentors like Snipe who is in my opinion one of the best French
PUA right now.
Im not a guy who is just happy when he found a routine that works and use it widely. It does
not interest me, its too repetitive! I want to grasp the profound nature of women. I want to
understand them completely. And it is on its good way if you want my opinion
So, I am rejected often, I am not God the Father, but thats normal: only victories count for a
PUA. This is a constructive belief.
In PUA, there is the word artist. For me its the humor: I absolutely do not take myself
seriously. A lot of second degree. And in my texts I call a doggystyle a doggystyle. I do
not especially take gloves and thats probably why I bother. But it amuses me. And it is the
role of all artists precisely to make people react in one way or another. I know that my speech
will not please everyone, far from it (I bother some people yet and I assume), but it is for me a
sign that I am not far from the truth.
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My goal is to make you become hunters who have a sense of the scoring. I want you to
understand when a woman is bullshitting or not you to save time. And change a little bit your
gender relations vision so you never suffer because of a woman who does not deserve you. I
want you to keep a cool head about it all.
In short, this was a summary of why I am a PUA. The outlines. You will understand the rest
while surfing the blog.
A+
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I am a follower of the Fast Seduction, this is my school, and I increase my success rate by
making personal development. Because yeah, most methods say that the physical appearance
does not count, but you still have more success when youre muscular and a little thinner than
when youre obese. When you dress correctly than when you look like a bag, etc. But hey,
what is true is that even without having an exceptional body, theres other ways to generate
attraction in some women. A certain percentage of women among which there will be
beautiful and ugly, and stupid and intelligent, extroverted and tight-ass
But again, these are only statistics and by playing on the number everyone can do it.
With me, no lies or deceptions. The disconcerting frankness is my best weapon of mass
seduction. With you on my blog just like with women on the field. I stand out like that. Its
my choice. Then, only smart chicks will appreciate that. For others it will sound like
originality so it will mean rejection in their head. Going out a little of their comfort zone
and really live off the beaten track its too much trouble for them. It is their choice. Anyway,
it is my belief constructive belief. The one that makes me so successful and that allows me to
do not be affected by failures.
Guys in France in general do not assume anything so the girls have strange reactions and
sometimes nasty (or very good reactions but it is quite rare and thats why we play on the
numbers) when they receive male energy in the mouth like a fireball in Dragon Ball Z. But I
have my pride and Im not willing to do anything for a pussy. I will not make things easy for
them by gnawing my brake. Im a sexual man and I assume. Deal with it.
It is also up to them to show themselves worthy of the orgasms that I could give them. I want
to free the beast that sleeps in them but they must do their part a minimum anyway. And I
cannot take care of all the women, I have a choice so I am demanding.
In other terms, I test them. I have nothing to lose. Its like betting 0 at the casino and being
able to win the jackpot.
I know some people think Im a jerk sometimes but I do not often forget that I am their
superior in most areas. So when she is a bitch, Im a bitch and a half. Another positive belief.
Everyone lives in his/her own reality and I created mine which helps me.
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Do you understand ? Everything depends on the mindset and with time, you either have
nothing more to prove to yourself nor to the others. In any case, thats what I wish you. Do
not get lost on the way. And have fun above all! The game is not a burden. Its a chance.
I even have a girlfriend now who is accepting who I am and what I do: she reads my blog and
she likes it. We are in an open relationship. And it goes well! And I find her awesome !!! By
the way I kiss her if she reads this text one day.
In short, this was a summary on my values. The outlines. You will understand the rest while
surfing the blog.
In the meantime: just think about it.
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Why I am a PUA.................................................................p7
The movie Top Gun can teach you stuff about seduction.p22
stories).............................................................................p184
The more beautiful she is, the more it will be difficult to put
relationships.....................................................................p190
Fucking friendzone............................................................p61
AFC vs PUA......................................................................p63
Facebook vs Phone..........................................................p226
Conversation-short ?........................................................p230
PUA...................................................................................p68
Self-esteem......................................................................p236
media?..............................................................................p140
Recording of a cunnilingus..............................................p282
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We also speak about it on this blog : Mystery method, fast seduction, speed seduction, etc.
Have a look at my translation of Game Acceleration for more information. However, we
cannot really say that all the methods are equal.
#3 : women want independent guys who can live without them, they need to feel dominated
and they dream about action, adventure and surprises.
It is more or less the principle of the alpha male.
#4 : the purpose is to make women have a good time. And if we leave them, to leave on good
terms.
Actually, it is a good state of mind. We are not there to hurt women, neither to break their
heart, nor to be misogynous. However, we have to have fun too.
#5 : even for the professionals of the techniques of seduction, it is far from working every
time but the secret is that you should never admit defeat. When you are good, an idea of
order of magnitude is 1/10.
When I write that there is no magic formula, some people are skeptical. Like he says so
because he did not find it, this idiot . Now that Mentalist told it to you, maybe will you
believe it ?
#6 : why a guy sound in mind wouldnt try to pick up an attractive girl?
It is a question I often ask myself. And it is a helpful mindset.
#7 : never depend on the goodwill of a single woman because you would be too often
disappointed.
Not only the women can be broken-hearted or have their ego that suffers. Besides, with the
social pressure and everything, we note an outbreak of the number of flakes. Thus, it is the
principle of diversification that allows to dont attach too much importance to the result. It is
not here a question neither of tyrannizing her nor of letting her fall in love without feeling
something for her But rather to dont have too much feelings for her before being sure that
she is really interested and that the relationship can work.
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#8 : the women who want that a guy comes talking to them look furtively but rarely assume.
Its true ! With experiment, we can easily learn how to recognize a eye contact that means I
want to see you naked .
#9 : the keys = alpha, strong, relaxed, confident face, the opener is finally not that important.
It is what I explain in my ebook about body language. But it was the very short version!
#10 : The principle: make them talk about themselves.
I speak about this technique in my other ebook. Indeed, people generally like talking about
themselves. To seduce, speak to people about what they are interested in and be genuinely
interested in them. Everybody has something to offer. It was the politically correct and
optimistic minute!
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Nevertheless his study was very interesting: how long is an average sexual intercourse? What
are the differences between the feminine orgasm and the male orgasm? Who has most
pleasure during love the man or the woman ?
In spite of what the society tries to persuade us, we are still very puritanical. It is maybe
necessary to realize it right now. We are certainly less uptight compared with this period, but
it is still not awesome : I see in this show so many reactions that I meet every day on the field
or when I say something about my blog to people. It seems that I am a virgin, a jerk, a
monster, a pervert, a sociopath. And then I ask why, they cant explain it to me. The theme of
my blog is apparently enough to raise their ire.
It is not because there is a little more sex suggested on TV than before that our society finally
took its broom out of its ass. Nor because people declare they know everything about the
subject: very often, when we dig a little, we notice that they know nothing. And that they feel
like they have to lie. That they have reactions dictated and formatted by social pressure.
#3 : Many men thought of being essential to the woman to have orgasms. Some did not
even suspect that women can feign. Oh fuck it is still the case today. Often on the field,
when I speak about my blog, I fall on frustrated silly bitches. Often, it takes place like I am
sure you have a small cock, you cannot make a girl come.
Oh really ? Youre wrong, recently, on 10 girls I made 9 come several times. The other
had personal problems.
Ahahah I am going to teach you something! You dont know that girls we feign!!!
Yeah I know it, in order to make the guy come faster because they are fed up with sex.
Exactly.
But I know the other symptoms of the orgasm, those you cannot feign: the contractions of
the stomach, of the vagina, the breath that accelerates, etc..
(generally they shut up).
Wake up ! It means that most of the guys are worthless in the bed, they know nothing. But it
is not a shame, it is just necessary to have the humility to recognize it and to learn! I was
laughing out loud when I learnt that Freud considered the women who had no vaginal, but
only clitoral, orgasm as immature kids. It is really a shitty explanation. Very easy for the man!
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#4 : At all time, there were women more freed than others, and they were pointed by
stupid people. We attend in this show at the beginning of the practice of the blowjob and we
see that the cunnilingus was really degrading to men. Even today, a lot of women know
more about sex than men and it frightens men. They prefer staying in their zone of comfort
very few know how to properly lick a pussy. Instead of trying to improve, they declare that
these girls (those who masturbate for example) are whores who do not deserve them. Problem
solved. Even the girls who have several sex-friends fall into this category today in the
eyes of many men and women (who so hinder their own freedom) its sad. But I think
that they scare people because they send people back to their own limits.
#5 : We notice the stinginess of people. They want at all costs keeping in mind the image of
the submitted woman who has to be pure, innocent, weak, etc. So they get back at each
other, etc. What about people who know only one sexual position : the missionary? What
about the dean of the university, homosexual, who refuses to subsidize the sex study because
he finds it not moral then who bangs a gigolo in a dirty hotel while he is married?
In brief, I could write a lot more about this (true) story but I prefer to let you discover it by
yourself. In any case, I always write the same conclusion : you should not listen to the
politically correct people (the same people who leaves resentful comments on my blog).
People like me have always been criticized, apparently. Maybe are we slightly too ahead of
our time. In any case I hope I have tempted you to read my book The (inconvenient) truth
about gender relations because I have not found yet anything to question it, even more than
one and a half year after having written it.
The bottom line is : the open-mindedness, although all people think of being endowed with it,
is really rare.
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The movie Top Gun can teach you stuff about seduction
About the movie
Top Gun is a 1986 American action drama film directed by Tony Scott, and produced by Don
Simpson and Jerry Bruckheimer, in association with Paramount Pictures. The screenplay was
written by Jim Cash and Jack Epps, Jr., and was inspired by the article Top Guns written
by Ehud Yonay for California magazine.
The film stars Tom Cruise, Kelly McGillis, Val Kilmer, Anthony Edwards, and Tom Skerritt.
Cruise plays Lieutenant Pete Maverick Mitchell, a young Naval aviator aboard the aircraft
carrier USS Enterprise. He and his Radar Intercept Officer (RIO) Nick Goose Bradshaw
(Edwards) are given the chance to train at the Navys Fighter Weapons School at Miramar in
San Diego. It lasts 110 minutes.
Top gun & sduction
Tom Cruises body language in this movie became cult within the community of the
seduction. It even became the prototype. In The Game, Neil Strauss tells that he watched this
movie again and again to adopt the body language of pure alpha of the actor. Btw, I talk about
it in my ebook How to sublimate your body language (like Tom Cruise).
In the literature of the seduction, another reference to Top Gun inspired me. It is about what
wrote David de Angelo in The attraction is not a choice :
We dont realize how much we want the things we have until we lose them, that is. How
about making someone want something new, by giving it to them and then taking it away?
Sometimes a woman will be open and warm and other times, shell be closed and cold. This
can be because of all kinds of different factors how youre acting, how shes feeling, the
setting youre in, whats on her mind, or what kinds of hormones are running through her
body.
I want to talk about a technique that Ive found works in almost ALL of these situations. A
natural extension of my ideas about teasing and playing hard to get is what I call, TAKING
TWO STEPS FORWARD AND ONE STEP BACK.
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Now, when most people hear this phrase, they think of problems arising that cause a loss of
ground that has to be reclaimed before moving on, or a setback that has to be overcome
before proceeding further. What Im talking about is DELIBERATELY stopping when things
are WORKING in order to ACCELERATE the process.
What? Did I just say to stop something thats working in order to be successful? I sure did.
And if you pay attention to what Im about to share with you, youll learn one of the most
profound and important lessons about how to be more successful with women and dating.
Here it is in a nutshell:
If youre doing something that you can tell she likes, stop doing it, then wait a while and start
doing it again. This on/off/on/off sequence is ULTRA powerful in creating a magnetic
ATTRACTION inside of her.
I personally believe that two factors that AMPLIFY a womans ATTRACTING to a man are
the concepts of TENSION and ANTICIPATION.
Tension is that feeling in your chest that you get when you know something exciting could
happen at any minute.
If you can learn how to take control of these feelings and help her experience them as a result
of being around you, then you will DRAMATICALLY improve your success with women. If
you want to see a great example of this principle at work, go rent the movie TOP GUN.
Watch how Tom Cruise handles the situations with Kelly McGillis theyre PERFECT
examples of how to do what Im teaching.
Here are two of my favorites:
1) Theyve just finished eating dinner, and theyre talking. She looks at him and says, This is
going to be complicated , implying that shes falling for him. What would most guys do if
they were getting a green light like this one? Theyd probably make a pass at her and kiss her.
Not Tom. He looks at her, then gets up and says, Im going to take a shower. At first, it
would seem that he was going to walk into HER shower and take it, but no he walks out,
gets on his motorcycle and rides off.
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2) In the elevator scene Tom stops the elevator and leans in close to her. You can see that
shes feeling shy and anxious but does he kiss her? No. He leans back after that moment,
makes a cute remark and leaves. Whats going on here? The first time I saw these scenes
many years ago, I just thought that he was too shy to make a move.
Now I understand whats going on here. He is VERY DELIBERATELY creating TENSION
and ANTICIPATION inside of her. He is, in effect, saying to her, I know that I could make a
move right now, but I CHOOSE not. Im going to keep you guessing make no mistake about
it, IM IN CONTROL OF MYSELF here. By the way, when you watch these scenes, watch
his body language and facial expressions. Notice that he doesnt smile too much, and he plays
the part perfectly. Watch and learn.
So how can you use this if you dont happen to be one of the top movie stars of all time and
have a $40 million aircraft to enhance your image? Simple. Just notice when she likes
something that youre doing, and then stop. Lean back. Tease a little bit.
If youve started holding her hand and you can tell that she likes it, STOP. Take your hand
away for a few minutes, then talk about something else. Just when she doesnt know if youre
going to do it again, take her hand again.
If youve started kissing, STOP. Lean back. Look at her with a I know you want to kiss me
look and give her a slight, sly smile. If you learn how to take two steps forward and one step
back, it will ACCELERATE your success with women.
Last but not least, I advise you to watch this movie for the cocky&funny lines that Tom
Cruise practises in this movie.
A lot of people criticizes Tom Cruise saying that he is short and has a big nose, but we have to
face the facts: He succeed in life and he slept with magnificent women (Penelope Cruz,
Nicole Kidman, Katie Holmes) Moreover, in the movie, he gang-bangs on his own a girl
older than him and far from being ugly (his instructor).
So, jealousy is useless, lets be humble and lets learn what we can learn from him.
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When the brain does not produce enough dopamine because of an excessive practice of this
sport that does not make people become deaf, we thus observe anxiety, a reduced sexual
drive, apathy Furthermore, the excessive ejaculation acts as a brake in your enthusiasm:
body regulates otherwise you would never stop to eat, drink or sleep and would die. Nature
being well made, when we do it too much, we lose the relaxing effects of sex and we find
ourselves with a kind of hangover.
Dopamine is nevertheless an essential element of human well-being, it plays a role in the
circuit of the reward, by encouraging:
The risk-taking;
The motivation;
The concentration;
The gaiety;
The pleasure;
The anticipation.
Stopping (and not just decreasing) sometimes would allow to observe if yes or not you are
addict. If withdrawal symptoms appeared, it would reveal the gravity of the problem and
should encourage you to stop it for good.
That was the theory, now: practice. The only rational way of getting out of the habit of
masturbation and of having quick results: it is fast seduction. As soon as you will understand
that it is possible to seduce a woman quickly and to sleep with her that same night/day,
masturbation will not be any more your only option to satisfy yourself immediately. You will
be excited at the idea of going out to meet women because you will know that it is possible to
get your pleasure quickly. Every day of the week, day and night.
Profits will be worth it : when they stop, subjects feel more energetic, sociable, joyful : it will
strongly contribute to boost your REAL sexual life. It is all the same better than a VIRTUAL
sexual life! Brain will relaunch little by little its normal production of dopamine but it will be
necessary to wait longer to get rid of the habit itself. If it can make you feel better, there will
be no effect on your production of testosterone. Slow down (not you girls :p) !
Physical masturbation, just like intellectual masturbation, thus leads straight ahead to
inactivity with the women. Fucking vicious circle!
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What is a HB10 ?
WHAT ABOUT THE SYSTEM OF NOTATION IN SEDUCTION ?
According to Mystery, a girl :
6/10 = fuckable ;
7/10 = cute ;
8/10 = beautiful ;
9/10 = handsome ;
10/10 = perfect.
I dont really like this rating system because it is more a statistical exercise than the
expression of a personal taste. Seduction being a subjective science, its a problem. I develop.
From a purely artistic point of view, there should be 1 girl on 200 who deserves her
mention 10/10 (skin, eyes, lips, eyebrows, beautiful face, tall, thin, with proportioned forms).
Most of the time, they are moreover very young. Why is it a problem in the daily life ?
When I go out, just like every realistic human being I suppose, I am interested in the kind of
girl that excites ME or at least who charms me. Sarah Jessica Parker for example, has a big
nose, but I dont really know why: I find it cute on her. I find her sexy while others would
certainly next her without noticing her or even would find her downright ugly. The personal
history enormously comes into play in the sexual tastes (just like in the gustative tastes).
What is necessary to understand, it is that the girls in the magazines (that our society set up us
as models) corresponds to an average of the individual preferences. The famous statistics. A
kind of compromise with the personal stories of everybody. Roughly, if more people find Bar
Refaeli more beautiful than my neighbor of landing (who is beautiful too): it doesnt mean
that she is intrinsically more attractive than her. Especially that these images that society set
up to us in model are photoshoped : the models in magazines themselves do not look like their
own image. Then YES, I love girls with a perfect body&face. But its not a end in itself, and I
shall not be less demanding with a 10 than with a 7.
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The bottle does not matter as much as the drunkenness some would say I dont really
agree, and I hate the girls who behave like if men owed them everything because they have a
vagina and a little bit of charm. Especially that most should learn modesty because being a
mindless idiot spoils everything.
Conclusion : beauty does not place above the rest of Humanity hotties do number two like
us. Furthermore, a model but who is a girl with problems should scare you off. That is not
worth complicating things. On the other hand, it is sure that a girl at ease with herself,
magnificent, intelligent, etc. its always better ;)
Well. On the other hand, a girl you find top : it does not mean that she is inaccessible. She can
even find some you charm if you remind her her grandfather she loves so much for example.
Lesson of life: always try your luck. No regrets. Furthermore, we are attracted by what looks
like us, thus chances are she is attracted by you too. And finally, more she is desired, more
guys dont dare to try their luck, thus more you will stand out when doing it (and will score
points).
The number after HB should thus serve to quantify the desire we feel for the target in term of
physical appearance and not being significant of the imagined difficulty of the Game.
Every girl is different and an ugly one is not necessarily easier to pick up than a cute one.
Even rarely. Roughly, I remember some girls I banged at the beginning of my career who
were 8 to me and now I would give them no more than a 6 with hindsight. Nevertheless, when
I picked them up, they excited me like a 8, it was thus a game for HB8 for a guy full of
illusions but it is necessary to start somewhere then I do not want to kill your joy. She is a
HB8 if she attracts me like a 8/10 not if I think that she would attract all other guys. Lets try
to pick up the girls we like, not those we are supposed to like because of the social pressure
(or because of the fact that they were preset by other guys). We would be happier even if she
does not seduce a lot of people. It is a world map that can make you happier (attention I am
not advising you to fuck a ugly girl and to convince yourself that she is beautiful but to be
happy with a cute girl even if she is not perfect ). Period.
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Last thing, seduction is a joke. You can be rejected by a 4 and go back home with a 8 just
after. Taste and colours are not always the same I talk a lot about this dark side of
seduction in The (inconvenient) truth about gender relations. Ah yes, and do not listen to the
guys who are going to give a bad note to your conquest because she did not choose them. Nor
to the guys who give an extravagantly good note just because the girl chose them. These two
attitudes are commonplace. Listen to yourself
HB = hot babe
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Moreover, when soldiers were sent to fight, they were supposed to drink some alcohol before,
and when I see guys getting drunk before finding the courage to try to pick up a girl, it
reminds me this fact. Such a state of mind would damage your capacity of empathy, your
nonverbal communication and your sensibility concerning the real needs of your darling. It is
so much easier to converse with someone when we adopt a cooperative mode Last advice,
if you succeed in making out with the HB10 (I wish you to succeed) avoid falling into the trap
of jealousy. You would lose her
In brief, Im not saying that this reasoning is universally true. But it deserves that we think
about it during a few minutes. What do you think ?
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The record of the biggest penis of the world is Jonah Falcon. According to the magazine
Rolling Stone, this American native of New York would possess a penis of 9,5
thumbs (24,13 cm) when soft and 13,5 thumbs (34,29 cm) when hard. Bigger than Rocco
(when we love, we do not measure)!
If, somewhere, some Schtroumpfettes made a snowman in my effigy please, endow it with
an enormous carrot, then greedily eat it together!
Yummy.
PS = Make a payment on my Paypal account for more advice to live harmoniously with your
willy.
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When you go out alone, its better to go to a nice place where the music is good and loud
and especially where people drink, dance and move : so, it will less be obvious that you are
alone. Be in movement (you will seem less needy) otherwise your level of energy risks to
decrease and approach several groups without waiting even if the approach is fast (if you
have an Eye Contact or if it seems to you that they are talking about you to her friends then
go without even thinking). If a girl touches you and that the movement seems to you lasting a
little longer than necessary, lets go there too. Last advice, if you want to make her forget her
cockblock friend, approach her a little by the side so as to oblige her to turn to you.
Hot girls want cool guys, thus guys comfortable in any circumstances. Up to here, you maybe
closed physically to protect yourself emotionally. But this closed posture prevents you in a
sense from meeting new people. Stay open. And before analyzing the body language of other
people, work on yours. The more you will wait before interacting with people, the more you
will close yourself. It is a vicious circle and it will be harder and harder to go out of it as the
night moves forward. Morality: if you are not capable of approaching, at least, open
yourself.
When youre going out alone, youre often asked the fateful question at one time or another
where are your friends? Then, is this case, it is necessary to answer something that puts
forward your independent character I too much love going out to lose my Friday evening in
front of Loft Story with them . Girls dont want a lonely wolf nor one of these lost people
who will be glued on them all night long. Be funny, quick, and energetic: surf from group to
group and gather nectar. That will make your value rise. Go back then to the groups you had
the best interactions with.
A group that has adopted you :
Offers you a drink ;
Puts you in the confidences (why they laugh) ;
Invites you to come with them when they go out to smoke (waaahh youre lucky) ;
Dance with you ;
Suggests you taking pictures ;
Invites you to come with them when they change bar
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Morality: going out alone is not a problem in itself and is often better than going out with
suckers but less cool than going out with some GOOD company. However, it increases your
chances to live unforeseen adventures. What do you think?
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Some criticize people who smoke, drink, take drugs, play no sport, go out or not in clubs, read
magazines celebrity or I dont know what else Fuck, we dont care ! Everybody lives
his/her life and life is sometimes some shit then one needs things to move on. Lets help
and love each other, it will maybe be easier for everybody rather than always criticizing and
telling lousy gossip.
This reflex of always criticizing and speaking ill to feel better (or for living by proxy) is
something rather common, in my family like in my social circle but that puts me ill-at-ease.
Why not accepting (or nexting) people as they are and be done with it? If they want to
improve : good for them, otherwise it doesnt matter, but it does not belong to you to decide
on it for them.
Go out of the herd (and I even speak here about the herd of the amateur eccentrics of plot
theories) Stop taking everybody for idiots. You would become crazy. The world is not that
ugly. Learn how to see farther than the end of your nose. If you never doubt anything, then
you must be really stupid (but at least I hope that it makes you happy: I would like to have
this luck).
All those words to say, when you go out, approach (especially if you went out on that
purpose)! Be coherent! Be sincere with yourself !
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Swingers, libertines, etc. knew how to overcome the stage of jealousy. Without falling in
these excesses, as for myself, I like very much the open relationships. At least, at the
beginning. Indeed, some people know each other for 10 days, kissed each other 3 times and
are jealous as if their life depended on it. It is here that there is a problem. I wonder where
does this need that one the 16-year-old young teenager has to be in a relationship at all
costs comes from. Certainly a need for validation, they too much saw it in TV shows, or need
to be reassured, or they dont want to get tired then content themselves with easy sex (when
they do it). But it is another debate (it certainly has something to do+- with the vision of
happiness the society inculcates). I always advise to begin by hanging out together at least 3
months, by flirting of course, before declaring yourself in couple. I think that anybody
normally constituted then feels jealousy when he/she cares for somebody (even if exceptions
probably exist like for everything). It is thus understandable in the case of true love. But in
this case, it is not necessary even if it may be cute. From a point of view more down-to-earth,
it is understandable if we invested a lot in the other one (money or time or IDK what else).
The loving jealousy cannot be born if the partners have a relationship based on trust (but this
notion remains subjective depending on the jealous individuals, according to previous
traumas, etc.). Jealousy is all the more important as the jealous person has the feeling that
his/her psychological balance rests on the fact of being with the wished person : Jealousy is
thus a problem of attachment proper to the jealous person who needs to be reassured, or even
the feeling can be, rightly or wrongly, based on the imagination. It should be noted that the
jealous individual generally repeats the same patterns with all the partners. The jealous
individual can then be mousy in the couple: he tries to possess his/her partner at all costs and,
to avoid losing him/her, rarely puts itself in opposition by accepting compromises. But this
behavior can then strengthen the feeling of insecurity in particular when the partner keeps a
freedom outside of the couple, the jealous person not becoming any more the unique
beneficiary of a partner. The jealous individual feels freed from his jealousy only when he
spends time with his/her only partner, what eventually compromises the freedom of the
partner, who can feel frustration meanwhile.
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Some people say that jealousy is related to the notion of self-confidence. The less you are
self-confident and the more you are easily jealous, because you think that your girl can leave
with the other one (that anyone can be better than you). If you want to play the role of the
alpha male, then silence your jealousy when it is disproportionate. Attention thus to dont
annoy your partner with that if you are in an open-relationship. In this case, make her rather
addicted to you by fucking her a lot and well (her rate of ocytocin will rise and she will like
very much you all the more)
The complacency about the maintain of this feeling of jealousy comes from the fact that the
existence of the obstacle (the rival) strengthen the value of the object of the rivalry. Jealousy
can be a strategy so that a target realizes that she likes you. But it is an operation to be made
with precaution: to make a girl feel healthily jealous, it must be suggested and not ostentatious
(do not kiss girls in front of her at the risk of blocking her).
Jealousy, source of power
It is about a triangular relation like Foucault described, it brings in the jealous person, the
partner and a third:
When we make someone jealous it is that we committed a fault. We are thus responsible
for repairing the insult. This is why some people oblige their partners to dont see any more
their friends, or to show them their text messages, etc. Would you hire a detective to
investigate into the past of your best friend? It would be weird Well, in a mono-normative
society and within the framework of a love relation, this behavior is tolerated. THE
SUSPECT THUS HAS TO SEEK FORGIVENESS EVEN IF HE DID NOTHING WRONG.
FUCK.
MECHANISM OF RESISTANCE: we can invert the relation of power by accusing the
jealous person of being excessive, extreme, unreasonable. We so fuck his/her arguments. To
be won : more freedom. For a good or a bad use.
MAKING THE OTHER JEALOUS TO SEE IF THE COUPLE IS STABLE : Without
necessarily committing any fault but just by sowing seeds to see . Preventive
Resistance. Who said that attack is the best form of defense? It is a little pervert all the same.
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According to Eric Berne, jealousy combines the conditions so that both partners are engaged
in small psychological games that always hurt at least one of the participants. He considers
them as toxins because damage the ambient well-being. True, sincere, authentic and
spontaneous contacts that the author calls Intimacy would obviously be preferable.
However, this intimacy as awesome as it can be, is perceived as difficult to create and
dangerous because put people in front-line without calculation nor protection there. It is the
big problem for people who do not want to fall in love: the emotional vulnerability can
cause big damages, especially in case of disappointment, like depressions.
The jealousy occurs within the framework of a triangular relation (what differentiates it from
desire or envy), when somebody considers that the second individual behaves for a third in a
way that threatens according to him the relation of the couple and more particularly his or her
place in the couple. The jealous person conceives from it resentment, reproaches, doubts, that
he sends to the face of the two others, with generally a focus on the second person. The
essence of the jealous behavior does not lie in this concern, sometimes imaginary, for the
couple, nor in the fact of acting, but in the excessive emotional intensity that accompanies it
and that compromises the success of this action. The consequences can damage the balance
and the communication in the couple, jealous persons sometimes expressing their ownership
in a permanent, excessive, exclusive or recurring way that often represents a sick jealousy. So,
jealousy is a shape of possessive paranoia. It is sometimes linked to violent behavior: jealousy
is evoked in more than 50 % of the cases of domestic violence. It is also at the origin of
diverse abuse: insults, harassments without talking about crimes of passion. All this
sometimes coming from people who seemed totally normal and well-adjusted .
Roughly, this part of us is frightening then lets end on a positive note: some sex therapists
explain that jealousy, in a reasonable dimension, can have a positive impact on the sexual
function and the satisfaction. Studies demonstrate that jealousy can increase the passion of the
two partners as well as their sexual pleasure.
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Some people fall into the seduction community to cover an emotional deficit, others to
compensate for a complex or because they think that they will be one day able to seduce ALL
the girls, etc. No matter what led you here, know that by working hard you will have results
but you will sometimes feel a little bit tired. The girls will follow one another in your bed but
it will not satisfy you. There is, indeed, a distinction to be operated between the need for
conquest, for sexual diversity (the desire for sex) and the peace with yourself, with women
(the need for affection cf. my book The (inconvenient) truth about gender relations). I
develop.
What you desired so ardently (becoming a Casanova) will not make you happy. You will kiss,
will penetrate, will enjoy, all this yes (and it is already good, at least, better than most of
guys). Reaching happiness, no. You will never be able to seduce ANY girl (or even a 80 %
quota sorry), but it is not a reason live as a couple with any girl. You would eventually go off
the rails, be disgusted by the couple and return to hunting with a multiplied tenfold
appetite. And with a bad energy.
If you belong to the class of the seducers-collectors, maybe you should think of seducing
BETTER. Of seducing only special girls, even if it means missing girls who would have
satisfied you only for night but that you didnt like much. On the other hand, if you slept with
less than 15 women in your life, do not use as excuse most of the girls are not hot enough
for me/they do not excite me to justify your inactivity. A naked woman excites a man (and
vice versa): it is the law of nature. If you recognized yourself, it is necessary to put aside your
pride, to move your ass to integrate notions of the Game and cut you teeth with HB6/7 to be
capable of daring when a HB8/9 will cross your way (brainless silly bitches do not count).
However, if your reasoning is the following one at first I want to sleep with a lot of women,
and then I shall stay with the one who will have caught my attention , be wary too. To keep
some value with the opposed sex, you have to be a minimum demanding. Otherwise, you will
not be credible any more a girl wants to know that when she sleeps with a guy it is because
he really likes her, not because it is a mentally ill person who fucks everything that can get
wet.
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In a situation of profusion and thus of stimulation, we also feel peaks of dopamine that can
engender a phenomenon of habituation (we shall thus ceaselessly need stronger and more
frequent doses). You thus have to cross this stage at the risk of becoming sex-addict.
I CAN GET NO SATISFACTION
If Mick Jagger (knighted by Prince Charles, rich, famous, wanted by thousands of groupies)
does not manage to feel satisfied, how the common run of people would ?
This chronic non-satisfaction is understandable by the phenomenon of habituation about
which we spoke just now (gradual decrease of the intensity and the frequency of appearance
of a hormonal answer further to the repeated or prolonged exposure to the stimulus having
activated it). Those who listened in economy class will recognize Ricardos law of
diminishing returns (from a certain threshold, every additional unit produces a yield (here a
marginal satisfaction) lower than the previous one).
If you lived his life for one night, or if you won at the bingo tomorrow, then there yeah you
would enjoy like crazy (especially if you are poor and asexual at the moment). Indeed, the felt
satisfaction is a function of our past experiences. But if you lived in the wealthiness during
three years: you would quickly return to your initial level of felt happiness (even if you had
fucked 100 girls or bought one Porsche and a villa in Saint-Tropez in the meantime). Worse,
if you then found yourself unexpectedly without girl or without money, you would go crazy.
It can seem depressing but needs to see the good side of the process: if you became suddenly
blind in one eye, well, you would learn how to live with and would return sooner or later to a
correct level of well-being.
SO NOTHING CAN MAKE ME DURABLY HAPPIER THAN I AM TODAY?
We have all certain capacities to be happy. Some have a temperament of naysayers: they
grumble even when the weather is beautiful. Others see the charm of rainy day. I believe that
it is the way you perceive little gifts, small enjoyments of the everyday life and not the focus
on your big problems that will make you more certainly happy than millions on your bank
account (even if I would like to have this money for the safety and the comfort which it
gives).
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The art of being positive is taught by the everyday life: the excesses will lead you inevitably
to the existential suffering. Do not thus always try to go higher, stronger, faster . This
Olympic slogan would make you pass next to the essential things of life and would make you
a sick person.
If we come back to seduction now : integrate the other one into his/her complexity. The
search for happiness is easier with someone else. When I reread this sentence, I am a little
whinger then I am going to compensate. It is my errors, my excesses and my wanderings that
taught me the virtues of balance. I would even say that they are a part of it, to a lesser extent. I
have the head full of memories and almost no regret. I even regret nothing linked to the Game
because it did not impact negatively on my private life (I did not take delay in my studies, did
not cut off from my childhood friends, etc.). You should all the same put things in perspective
and stand back on your life. Seduction is not an end in itself, very rare are the ones who
manage to make it become their job (most of the time, not the best, moreover). Seduction does
not thus have to impact negatively on the other aspects of your life, in particular your
professional life.
Being a man implies some responsibilities (it is enough to see how finishes Ashton Kutcher in
Spread to understand that being able to seduce is not enough to be happy nor to succeed). And
not only mastering the art of cunnilingus.
Keep all the same in mind that excesses (too much or not enough) are fatal for the human
being. The problem is that everybody has his/her own definition of these terms. Even more
when it comes to sex. We really have no reliable marks Id like to finish this article on an
existential question: are we really made to be happy?
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Other example: a friend of mine was with a guy for 2 years. She adored him. She spoke all the
time about how much they were in love. They saw each other every day and regularly went on
a journey together. She was 27 years old and wanted to get married but was not infinitely
going to wait for him. Then she gave him a hardly disguised ultimatum. Where is our
relation going? She did not appreciate his answer and broke up that very day. She packed
her bag and disappeared. Less than three months later, she is again in couple with another
dude. They are already betrothed, and a baby is on his way. Women do not laugh with their
internal clock. They know that they have a limited duration. No matter if you are the coolest
man of the world. Who your girlfriend would choose: her internal clock or you? This is the
real question So, is it really something we can call love ?
MISSING HIM/HER IS A LUXURY, NOT A CRIME OF LESE-MAJESTY
Some people see each other twice five minutes then they decide to put themselves in couple.
Good for them, but if they do not unstuck one from the other one from this moment, this
merger will lose them. That bewilders me these people who, when circumstances force them
to find themselves separated by dozens of kilometers, stay in permanent contact by Skype or
by texts that they send all day and night long.
Love is maybe an experience in which we are only the willing victims of a biochemical
cocktail more powerful than GHB and from which we can wake up with a fucking hangover. I
remember a buddy who was very sociable, very cool, went out all the time, etc. Then, one day
a girl suggested him getting in a relationship (or rather she gave an ultimatum to be in
agreement with her biological clock). Suddenly, he stopped going out with his friends and
spent all his weekends with this girl. He stopped coming to the fitness gym and got fat
because he preferred to stay 2 hours on the phone with his other half than having a physical
activity. One day, she found another guy with whom she repeated the same pattern: they
broke up, he found himself fat and isolated, with just his eyes to cry. He has lost everything
because his whole life depended on his darling (who eventually cheated on him and moreover
had already cheated on him with her ex even before their separation) act liberator because
transgressive and leading to this break up).
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YES your girlfriend can miss you, and NO it is not a bad thing. The attraction, the desire
grows during absence. Think again about it when you will want to see a girl all the time or to
saturate her voice mailbox suffocating so little by little the fire of her passion. In a
relationship, each one should keep a wide part of autonomy. Without counting the fact that
two people rarely love each other the same way, or for the same reasons. Even if the same
type of neurosis can gather two hearts.
WE MAKE ONLY ONE: BUT SHE OR I?
Neither of them, fuck : a couple merges only when makes love. The interest of the relation is
in the complicity, the friendship, the desire and the complementarities Not in a falsedilution of two protagonists leading to a loss of their peculiarity, of their personality. My
partner, I will love her because she is Other than me. Because she will fascinate me by
qualities I do not have. Because we will complement each other. If what you like with your
girl, it is your reflection in her eyes, then you fell in unhealthy narcissism, wake up !
It is necessary to distinguish what Helen Fisher calls romantic love and two other big systems:
the sexual desire and the attachment. While the second (the desire) would allow the
individuals to introduce the behavior of seduction with several partners, romantic love would
motivate to concentrate on a single partner, so allowing to save up time and energy for the
benefit of possible children. This offspring, ultimate purpose of the sexual desire and romantic
love, is then going to benefit from the third system, the attachment which builds up itself
between the parents, to grow up in an environment stable and provided with the resources
necessary for its good development.
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A drift of this system: the desire of sexual property in the Othellos way which can lead to the
madness is a matter for the psychiatrist in my opinion. For Platon, the desire that dominates
all the others is the desire of immortality. Love would thus aim to be eternal (even if the rate
of divorce disagrees with it) and complete in the way of Sternberg. Indeed, the triangular
theory of love of Sternberg puts three different entities which can, alone or combined, explain
seven big types of affairs. These three entities are:
Passion (the physical attraction and the sexual desire);
Intimacy (the feeling of closeness and link created by the exchange of trusts)
Commitment (the intention shared to build and to maintain a long-term relation with the
other one). Sternberg asserts that a given love relation can be described by one of the seven
following categories, outcome of the possible combinations between these three entities,
which intensity can vary.
7 forms of love according to Sternberg are :
With only the intimacy, Sternberg evokes a loving shape close to the true friendship, or to
the relation doctor / patient.
If there is only some commitment, he speaks about partnership or about love empty as in the
arranged marriages.
Love with only passion is similar to desire, infatuated or romantic, in brief it is fast love at
first sight which can disappear so quickly as it appeared.
Real romantic love would be the one formed by passion and by intimacy (but without
guarantee of commitment).
Complicity or love of trade guilds is made by intimacy and by commitment, occurs often
with people in couples for several years when the passion eased.
Admiring or stupid love would arise when there is passion and a commitment, but without
having developed a real intimacy, when the commitment is only motivated by passion.
Love said consummated includes three basic components and would constitute the ideal
love relationship, difficult to obtain and even more to maintain.
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According to Sternberg, every individual can be defined by two triangles, the one who
characterizes his present love relation, and the one of his ideal love relation. The most longlasting couples are obviously the ones with compatible triangles. He insists as well on the fact
that every triangle is the resultant of our premature influences and of our individual story, and
that consequently, it is never definitively fixed and that each of its components is inevitably
going to vary with time. A desirable evolution being for him the one in which the missing or
too few basic components are developed. OK, isnt it too hard to follow? Otherwise read
again ;)
I LOVE YOU FOR EVER, MY SWEETHEART
Every day, thousands of people make the promise to love each other until death separates
them. Almost nobody will keep promises. Lets be wary of absolute always , never it
does not exist in the human scale: the couple will have children who will succeed to them but
it is a fucking mediocre comfort. To what extent would I be my son? 50 %? 25 %? 0 %? No,
we have no other choice than showing humility and accepting the end of everything down
here. Including ours.
The difficulty, I understand it: dopamine damages your critical brain, you juggle between the
spontaneity of your drives and the cold blood necessary for the harmonious progress of the
relation on the length-term. Then yeah, you are maybe in love, but do not bombard her with
messages, do not see her every day, especially at the beginning, because it would not be any
more with her that you would be in love rather with the illusion than you built up to calm
your existential anxiety and your very justifiable fear of the abandonment, of the solitude, of
the end
Roughly, if I would be happy to have found the woman of my life, I would also love her
because she will have had the intelligence to dont want to fall in extremes described below:
Not seeing each other every day;
Not living together too soon;
Adduce going outs and journeys without the other one;
It will frighten some but the couple bases itself on the recognition of two liberties. Without
freedom, no real love. Rather a duty which one or the other one will eventually want to
escape.
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NB. The distance Im talking about is not a stratagem to see if the person really loves you. On
the contrary, it is called respect .
LOVE IS JUST CHEMISTRY
We say that romantic passion is stronger than sexual desire for the simple and good reason
that rare are people who sink into depression or even commit suicide or kill someone if
somebody refuses to sleep with them. Unfortunately, this behavior occurs with weak people
rejected by a love relation. What the hell can give to this behavior a so important character?.
The answer would have a lot to do with another very powerful experience that human beings
can feel : dependence with certain psychoactive substances.
Because, in many respects, romantic love looks like dependence. It shares with it numerous
characteristics like obsession, mental focus, emotional fluctuations, and distortion of reality,
personalitys changes, risk-taking or loss of self-control. Crossing a whole country on a whim
for some kisses from the loved one can certainly make you smile but it is reminiscent of the
psychological dependence of a person in lack of drugs and ready for anything to get his dose.
Does your other half love you for YOU or for the drugs you make her SECRETE?
About our first question concerning the sequencing, here is my advice: it is very difficult to
keep a cool head with a girl who upsets your chemistry (the less we have options less are
confident and the more we are in lack of sex and the more it is difficult). You do not really see
neither her defects nor anything. Thus wait at least 3 months before putting yourself in couple
for good with a woman. So, every girl is in probationary period during at least twelve weeks.
After she proved by her behavior that she is up to it, you can consider to accept her offer to be
your girlfriend. No crazy woman nor any sex friend full of STD can so cross your sentimental
barriers and reach your heart (it would then be much more difficult to leave her.) During this
trial period, the women who do not suit to you are naturally mercilessly dismissed (and
without advance notice).
Be stronger than your hormones ! And do not confuse love with One-itis (false-love, sick
obsession) ! But this is another topic.
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Explanations
You are a man, she is a woman. There is thus sexual tension between you, it is natural and it
is what makes our world work. It is what explains that you will make love if you make none
of the errors which reduce this tension. Illustrations:
In the scenario number 1, it is the fact that you agreed to be treated as an asexual little boy
who prevents you from making a success. If you do not want her, you will not fuck her. They
want men. A minimum of testosterone and ambition. QED.
In the scenario number 2, it is the fact that you sulk which settles a malaise between you. A
woman needs to feel at ease to give way in the arms of a man. That can be understood : rare
are fucks with enemies (even if it can be fun). QED.
For more examples of what can break (and often breaks) the sexual tension between two
human beings, you will find your answers in The inconvenient truth about gender relations.
On holidays on the beach, the princess feels less social pressure. And then, she doesnt care
that this dude takes her for a easy girl, a whore because she wont see him again. Then she
does what she really wants in fact. Certainly, you would have been both happier if she had
hold the same logic for you but needs to believe that everything must be always complicated
in life. Everybody would be happier if we less complicated things, if women learnt to have
fun without complex and guys to accept it without lousy judgments marked with
jealousy/frustration. Both protagonists are formated by the society, confined in stereotypical
roles, it is crazy. If there are two sexes and a so strong attraction between them, in your
opinion, why is it? So that we are damn bored or so that we enjoy together?
No s, but I know the side Ive chosen. Life is too short to be damn bored. And I am not
asexual (it is necessary to know that it exists even if it is rare).
What pisses me off the most it is that often women feel guilty of having sexual thoughts, as if
this fact made them dirty. Then they try to make so that the guys like me feel guilty of being
in contact with their instinct, their natural desires (even if we remain respectful, they are not
always respectful with us). Most of the guys thus adapt themselves and become docile
doggies but without balls totally sexually dependent on an army of susceptible hypocrites.
Bravo Ladies, you turn your men into very sexy alphas
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Fucking friendzone
The scenario of today is the following one: you like THIS girl you, you maintain more or
less cordial relations with her but flirtless. Nevertheless, deep in your heart, you see
her as the ideal girlfriend, and all your thoughts are for her. You forbid for a long time
to reveal your interest to dont risk to ruin THIS friendship you consider as better
than nothing or worst as a passage obliged before dating her . Then, one day, you
decide to admit her your love, to declare your flame, etc. It is the moment of truth:
double or quits. She wants or does not want. You do not really know what else to do to
find some peace of mind. Expressing your feeling relieves, certainly, but does not work
very often. This story is classic to a T, moreover, we almost all lived it someday.
Fuck. It is logical that it does not work. A little of common sense gad: I complete my
STATEMENT of taxes, I ADMIT that it is me who broke the vase of the lounge, I CONFESS
to the priest that I have already stolen doughnuts in a department store. But passion speaks
another language and refuses absolutely to be related to a guilty behavior (it is already too
much).
In our crap cultures, we like confessing, whether it is in the church or at a shrink. Because we
cannot confess without a third party who is going to cut to punish or console, etc.. The one
with whom we confess thus has an enormous power over us and at the same time, we break
free of a weight, on one hand of a responsibility, of a secret. First step towards redemption.
Moreover, the more it is difficult to admit, the more confessions are sincere.
It is a little bit the same thing when we admit our impure desire to the person who wants only
cordial relationships or friendships. Although we say it, we always hope for a miracle in fact
me too I love you. Lets make love. But it happens only very rarely:
1) Because somebody who does not feel at ease with his own desires and his sexuality to the
point to admit them as faults is not attractive.
2) Because the relation of judgment and the fact of putting the power in the hands of other one
is contrary to a fusional relation. Anything but attractive.
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3) Because the girls want that a game is established, they want to be seduced before we
impose on them to answer by yes or no (I sometimes do it in clubs when I approach all
the cute girls in a raw by asking them if that would please them to kiss me but it is for fun and
I rarely sleep with them after). The confession is often a shout of the heart, an expression of
despair, a kind of ultimatum: we feel stuck, we dont know what to do It is not attractive.
The only bearable shout it is the one that a girl emits before coming ;)
Friendzone : In summary, it is the category in which the girls tidy up the men they consider as
good friends/confidants but they will never fuck. Sometimes it is even because they become
confidants that they do not anymore want to date them. Certainly, exceptions always exist, but
are not common. Then, you absolutely have to avoid falling in it because going out of it is
really very difficult and it is often maybe easier to start all over again with another one (but
often we are obsessed by this one thus we do not want and it is the beginning of the end of it
all). What shows obviously, moreover, that it is the women who have the power in seduction
it is that I know almost no girl in the friendzone whereas I know a lot of guys who are in it
and stay there.
If you enter the plan suppressed wish/friendzone , start by accepting your feelings, your
NATURAL desire for the other sex. It is not a fault finding a friend sexy and there is nothing
shameful in the fact that she affects you in a certain way (it is even very normal). If you begin
to try to hide it or whatever, on the contrary, the relation will become unhealthy. Express
rather your attraction during a more playful, more serene, healthier, more pleasant dialogue
Im talking about the FLIRTATION.
If you think that this article concerns you, then it is necessary to change your whole mindset.
Read The (inconvenient) truth about gender relations.
Welcome into the world of the Game.
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AFC vs PUA
Before I get into the main topic, we have to agree on the vocabulary. Two terms in particular:
Average Frustrated Chump (AFC) : a man who wants to use the politically correct
stereotypes taught by the media to seduce a woman. And failing most of the time. He thus has
few women around him, or then with a lot women but who have friendzoned him, etc. (Ive
been this guy).
Pick Up Artist, usually abbreviated PUA is a term, coming from American English : used to
describe a man (not necessarily a handsome one) skillful to meet, attract and seduce women.
He knows how to have women when he wants, he is not necessarily a sex maniac, a sexaddict, a misogynist nor a narcissistic pervert.
When we discover the Game and when we begin to have results, the most frequent/serious 2
errors are:
being in couple with the first chick we met (statistically there are few chances that she suits
you well) and deny all that you have learnt by becoming again stupid as one pleases, etc. ;
being full of resentment to the women, trying to take revenge on all those who did not want
of you in the past, picking up as a kind of crusade by refraining yourself from any feeling, etc.
It is not healthy.
We are going to be clear on one thing: it is not the methods which have to seduce the girls, it
is you. Being a PUA is a question of state of mind The techniques like the routine of the
questions or the compliance test can help But what is essential it is that it is necessary to
acquire social and sexual freedom: thus, a good state of mind and understanding how to put
things in perspective!
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I develop. A PUA and an AFC will not have the same faiths, will not interpret the reality in
the same way. And it is obviously the one who interprets the reality in the most constructive
way for him who will go the farthest. The PUA, him, will of course trendy to go out more of
his comfort zone! Lets take the example of a girl who accepts the invitation of a guy to come
to his place. The AFC will tend to raise 36 000 questions, to wonder what he would have to
do or say to sleep with her, etc. This malaise can be felt by the girl and the capital attraction of
the AFC will suffer from it. The PUA will take more initiatives, will be more a player,
because he will know why the girl came in fact. Even if often the social pressure prevents him
from saying it. This thoughtlessness, this nonchalance, this implicit confidence all this will
make him only more charming, more open-minded, more comprehensive, and he will thus
have more success.
The AFC who offers flowers and pays the restaurant can have results (fortune favours fools,
as it is said, but that does not seem to be true with women then lets speak rather about the
beginners luck here). The player who follows carefully a plan will also have results. But the
tools of seduction serve only to highlight the best in you (empathy, fineness, intelligence) and
in freeing this personality, this energy that slumbers to attract the one or several woman(en) of
your life like a magnet. Having a narrow and mechanical vision of Game will lead to the
failure, I can certify it to you.
Thus needs to reach beyond the stage of the mechanical memorization, do not become a robot
to fuck 3 chicks, selling your soul to the devil like that is not worth it. And it is not being a
PUA. Yeah, you can embody a character at the beginning to get acquainted with the methods,
to see what works and what does not work for you, to get free from certain blockings but
quickly become again yourself (a better yourself) even if it means giving up on certain
categories of girls. You will just take more satisfaction on the long-term.
I am no guru but I think hard as rock that personal fulfillment is the purpose of the existence:
needs to keep the cape above. You wont find it into the woman of your life as considers it the
AFC nor in a list of conquests very supplied as believes it the obsessional player. It is two
opposed philosophies of life that can bring you a certain dose of pleasure but happiness is in
theory IN YOURSELF (dont we say that money cant buy happiness?). A critical perspective
on the various methods and a widened culture of the gender relations can help you to
sublimate your love life thanks to greater maturity and lucidity. At least it is what I think.
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Even if becoming lucid, it is not necessarily being happy because we open eyes on things we
would have preferred not to see.
A personal work will be necessary for the success of this project and few will be the ones who
will go till the end of the journey. Reading, understanding, practicing, internalizing and
personalizing the advice are keys: no author holds the inherent knowledge (not even me). The
magic will not in one night operate and taking the necessary stand back before finding the
happy medium and letting express your personal touch which will allow you to bloom in this
world that became all the same a fucking mess will take time.
When you will be ready, you will be able to be happy with a good girl and to manage the ups
and downs of your relation If it is not your purpose at the moment, that will probably
become it (even me I eventually found a girl who tempted me of believing in love again). You
will also have the moral strength and the courage to break up if your relation becomes toxic.
When you will be ready, you will also be able to be honest with yourself: you totally can
decide to live as an eternal single nectar-gathering. Even if for it, after a certain age, it will be
necessary for you to take some viagra. In brief, in any case, your power of seduction will
exponentially have increased. And thats not nothing!
Eventually, I think that one can be a PUA even by being in couple or by not picking up every
day. It is a question of state of mind, of vision of life/women, and of past experience. Just like
we can be a sucker and a submitted guy during a whole life. Lets meditate on that together.
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Still, if the ugly one feels, wrongly, if she has a ticket with you: because it is rare, her friend
could eject herself charitably. Thus keep a kind of safe distance, like on the road.
The ugly friend (translate: frustrated) is often the one who will fuck up everything. Its no
legend. Every time she goes out with Mlanie HB11, Yvonne HB2 feels alone and lonely like
an idiot while her buddy is approached. She thus develops a whole arsenal to push away the
pretenders of her friend. Often maliciously PLZ, dont you see that we are talking ?
Shut up, the truth is that you are ugly and fat, if in addition you behave as a silly bitch, its
not surprising that you are badly kissed. Dont try to fool me, I know that you did not go out
to dance nor to have drinks but well and truly to be approached And miracle, tonight, the
offer meets the request. Yeah yeah, even you, you would want you to have sex in fact, I know
it well, then one advice : try to be nice! ;)
Certainly attractive answer but if the situation came to become inflamed you would lose your
target: she will 99 % take the side of her friend rather than the one of an unknown. Its
logical! Thats why I advise you to defuse upstream this (not-)sex bomb: That will avoid that
she explodes in your face during a numclose or worse during a kissclose. Not doing it is a
stupid error which can waste wonderful approaches.
Phone-close or num-close or n-close : Obtaining of a phone number. Not a fake one
preferably.
Kiss-close or k-close : Obtaining of a kiss. I do not like too much this terminology because
that implies that we win something when the girl kisses us. While, on one hand it is a pleasure
for both of us and on the other hand, the work is far from being finished after a simple kiss.
In practice, it is much more frequently the not-beautiful chicks that piss me off. I have much
fewer problems with the cute friends than with the ugly friends on the field. Having said that,
I remember some unfuckables who have helped me to catch their friend. Thus, lets not
accuse them as long as they were not obnoxious but lets be wary.
The enemy can also be the social pressure exercised by her tight-ass friend: the interest of the
isolation is to release her from it. Except that she risks not to let her friend leave with a big
jerk. Thats the thing!
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They are neither narcissistic perverts (moreover I advise you to look for what is really a
narcissistic pervert because this has nothing to do with what I have read on diverse forums,
and it is a future shrink who speaks to you, thus I know a minimum this subject), nor
psychopaths (no but how can some people make such a mixture?!). Then if some people are
crazy, it is not a consequence of the status of PUA. I could explain you perversion as one
of the three forms of structure of the psyche with the psychosis and the neurosis and what are
the ins and outs or the particular stuff that characterizes the psychopaths, but I said that I
would try to be brief thus I leave you the care of making yourself these researches if
however you agree to question. In brief. What I wanted to say it is that narcissistic perverts : it
existed before the PUA and they will always exist, thats the way it is. The same goes for the
psychopaths.
To return to the fact there that they fuck more, I just want to say: as long as they protect
themselves, everything goes well. It is maybe stupid what I am going to say but love is
something that requires two people. Thus yes, his purpose is to enjoy a maximum (and
blaming somebody for that is just, in my opinion, a mixture of jealousy and frustration), but
dont pretend to me that the girl just undergoes. Poor victim, it is frankly not nice to give her
orgasms, you should be ashamed! Pff, bullshit Then there you will tell me that the PUA
manipulate, uses various verbal and non-verbal techniques of communication to get his own
way and so we can consider the girl as a victim. To what I would answer that, on one hand,
we are all manipulated in the everyday life (read The sneaky influences by Beauvois so
you come back on Earth a little). And that we also manipulate the others. Sometimes we do
not necessarily realize it. Lets take a quite stupid example: a parent says to his child I
would like you to tidy up your bedroom. You are not obliged, its up to you, but it would all
the same be a good thing . Well, there, there is manipulation inside. Thus the one who has
never used this kind of formulation can casts the first stone on me. Then, in what is it bad to
use techniques of communications? Thanks to them, the discussions are more fluid and more
pleasant. Then, all right, they allow establishing more or less artificially a comfortable climate
with the girl. But since when is it a problem to want that the person whom we address does
not see us as a threat? Then there is a brilliant guy that I respect enormously who had made of
these manipulations his job: Erickson (all those who want to continue in the Game should
read about it, at least the main lines).
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Each of us is unique thus a method which works for one dude will not work necessarily for
another one. You have to take enough steps back to differentiate the good things and the shit
and to choose what corresponds to you.
I am anxious to make an analogy: becoming a PUA it is a little like becoming a dancer. When
we begin the dance we are incapable to make a jump, or a wide gap, or some other figure. But
due to repeating again and again, falling and getting up every time, gestures eventually
become more fluid, more precise, more harmonious. But it takes time. I practiced dance
during 10 years and I am far from being an exceptional dancer. Becoming a PUA, it is the
same thing, it takes time and involves necessarily ups and downs (not tights, eh, it would be
ridiculous). Well, here we are, I made my analogy, I am happy.
To finish, I know that the point of view I defend is rather surprising, especially for a girl. But
I am not one of those who dream about the prince charming on his beautiful white horse,
about the passionate relation in Romo and Juliette and about romanticism with no end. And,
I am going to tell you a secret, it is more or less similar for ALL the girls. But schuuut, huh,
dont spread this around! I am even going to entrust you a second secret : I am in a
relationship with a PUA. Yes, yes, a couple even me I have difficulty in believing in it. We
had started by having an open-relationship before wanting something more serious. I conceive
that this kind of relation is often badly seen ah fucking social pressure but, as for myself, I
think that it is the best way to avoid disappointments. I am anxious to specify that I am not an
ugly girl nor a nymphomaniac (moreover, to be nympho it is not just sleeping with a max of
people, it is a real psychological trouble that makes the person suffer a lot, there is a real illbeing) neither a whore nor I dont know what else. I make a success of my studies, I have a
social life and I am almost never sick (and this has nothing to do with the rest) ! I just take
advantage of the short time that represents life by disregarding what will be said. Whats the
problem ?! Moreover, I have to admit you that I had never feel as good in couple as since I am
with this PUA (and it is not just because sexually it is awesome, even if that contributes to it).
The thing is that he understands me better than most of the guys and that I can be really
myself and express what I want or do not want without fear of being judged. Thanks to his
capacity to listen to me and to hear what women say, we never quarreled (even if I am far
from being the ideal girlfriend!). It is my first real long-term relationship and, if it works, it is
I think because he made an huge work upstream to become a PUA.
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Well, I do not know if I really answered the original aim but I hope that this article will have
reassured you : being a PUA and finding a nice girl (even brilliant, like me (yes, modesty is
one of my main qualities)) it is totally compatible. I would even add: being a PUA is an
advantage to find a good girl (even brilliant, like me (long live the running gags)). So lets go
to work!
P.S.: I guess I have failed to write a short text but, at the same time, I had said that I would
try, not that I would succeed.
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The woman, her, can be pregnant only of a single man: because of long period gestation, she
has to pay attention to choose minutely an alpha male. The guys thus do not want
unconsciously to raise the child of another one and the woman knows it this is why she wants
to be thought of as pure. But paradoxically, the girls want to be thought of as pure until you
call them tight ass and there they reveal you that not in fact and everything With the advent
of the condom and the pill, its a mess in their head. Having said that, a girl who assumes a
little more than the average can game admirably well. Hell yeah, if a girl is a little bit smart
she will act less boring than the others with the guys she likes and can have the priority to
sexier but more boring girls than her. And then make the guys addicted.
On the content, both sexes are not that different, except sometimes in the way of
communicating their desires and of assuming them. Indeed, it is the feminine behavior that
influences of what an average man is going to think about a girl (if he is just going to fuck her
or if she has the potential to become the only woman for him, longer that all night long). What
are these elements that influence of what we think of them? I listed four, there are certainly
others, but I am still tired.
1) THE WAY OF GETTING DRESSED : The men are more turned on by the image, and the
woman by the feelings, that was proved. So, a beautiful barelegged or a beautiful low neck
can make us feel immediately sexual (that varies according to the physical shape, the concerns
of moment, etc.) Getting dressed like a big bitch and adopting a sexy and teasing behavior,
places rather the girl in the compartment sex friend . She has however to show herself sexy
a minimum and to reveal her interest a little so that the alpha male is interested in her even for
something more serious. It is necessary to keep our attraction on the alert. A confident man
would even be satisfied that his girl excites the other guys and to fuck her HIM at the end of
the day. And then, who said that beginning with a sex thing was a bad thing and prevented
from something serious after?
2) THE BEHAVIOR WITH THE OTHER GUYS : If she is tactile and teasing with the other
guys, and if the one with whom she wishes a serious relation sees her doing it, he will maybe
take her less seriously. Furthermore, the average man does not like competition and will say
to himself that she will easily find another guy taller, more beautiful, stronger, richer, more
interesting, etc. As for myself, that makes me laugh when a guy tries to pick up my girl,
especially if he is awkward. But it is something all the same something to watch because
jealousy is a dangerous feeling.
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3) THE MEETING PLACE: In a club or on the beach, it is rather for a sex thing. On the
workplace, it is rather for something serious. On the Internet, it depends. Having said that, its
not something bad to look for sex, everything depends on the mindset. As for myself, if the
girl is nice, she will be entitled to a cuddle besides her orgasms. No, Im kidding, my open
relation: I slept with her the first time I met her and I became attached to her. The sexual and
intellectual connection is not something you can buy. In my opinion, it is hidden in the
shadow there or it is not there and it is not the fact of sleeping directly or of waiting for 25
dates that will change something. So, sleeping quickly allows to avoid incompatibilities (like
after 5 days you discover that your guy has a very little penis or that your girl has hairs
everywhere on the ass it is a pain and can waste a relation that you thought nevertheless
good started ). This is why I laugh when on Tinder a girl tells me directly if you want sex
forget me : what a conditioning and what a bad faith!!! Having sex with her would have
enable us to break the ice easier et to have a more honest relationship.
4) THE PAST: The girl should not talk about her conquests . It is better to keep her past
for herself. If she tells that she had a lot of adventure, the handsome guy is going to imagine
that she too much likes flickering to make a potential faithful girlfriend. Remember yourself
that a man does not want to raise the children of another one. Having said that, if a girl is
hopeless in the bed, or has no experience, that can scare him off too, that depends on his
personal situation and on his mindset. The guys want the butter and the money of the butter.
One of the things that nevertheless kink me it is when the girl seems reserved then shows
herself very naughty in the intimacy. Im probably not the only one There is a thing there
about which I would like to think also: will we have a future? The human life is by definition
uncertain, thus why frustrating with the aim of a hypothetical future? I agree that it is
necessary to stay careful because statistically we will live until 80 years but you never can tell
then why frustrating for the principle? There is quite a lot of girls there who make several
dates before giving themselves so that the guy becomes attached to her but in fact that is
just to fill a lack of self-confidence. Or then because her friends told her to do it to keep him
waiting for the principle: but they what do they do? And does it work better? Do not forget
that the girls are all the same in competition thus be careful towards the advice of your
friends. Same thing for the guys who in fact wants to fuck their friends. Think: why do gay
people act differently?
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Then you have a problem, you need a doctor! In any case, it is what certain psychiatrists
would tell you. Another example : you eat healthily, by avoiding industrial products and by
favoring the most natural ones? Then you suffer of orthorexie (French word), a very grave
eating disorder because it makes the food-processing and the pharmaceutical industries lose
money.
In brief, all this was to explain to you briefly where from comes this rule not sleeping on the
first date . Thus, after the theory, lets practice.
Concretely, I would say that it is just necessary to follow your instinct. By disregarding of
what people say . The individuals tend to believe that all what they do is observed by the
other people around them. An example: you fall in the street. First reflex (after putting your
hands in front of you to dont finish deformed): looking around to see the reaction of the
passers-by. Appearance took so much importance that we forget of, simply, being. We have to
respect rules, codes or bans on a daily basis. Then why not adducing a small bracket of
pleasure by sleeping with this beautiful unknown with the dark look (or this inflammatory
red-haired person with the sexy swayed hips) ? All right, we live more and more for a long
time, but it is no reason to dont take advantage of every moment of the life. But you should
not either fall in the inverse excess, IE wanting at all costs to sleep at the first date and, as a
result, put on yourself a fucking huge pressure (pressure which would prevent you from
reaching your goal and would frustrate you).
Except social pressure, it is also necessary to take into account two other things: the religion
and the STD. For some people, having sex before being married is a sin. Even if you do not
share this point of view, respect it. And look for somebody else unless you feel ready to
wait or to get married quickly. As regards STD, the number of preconceived ideas is
hallucinating all the same. What can be at the origin of certain reluctances. But it does not
necessarily mean that there are no risks. Thus wear a condom it is fashion! (it was the advice
of the day).
Roughly, indulge yourself and send the social pressure to hell (but not too much at the risk of
frightening people around you, among whom is, maybe, your one true love). I know that it is
easier to say than to do, that the fear of not being good enough is also part of the deal. If that
can reassure you, it is for both sexes. But the more you will be accustomed to go out of your
comfort zone, the less this anxiety will be strong and, even, will become a boost.
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However, the positive visualization, the meditation, the qi-gong (the Chinese yoga, more
active ) can be ways to help you to manage this fear. And no need to spend fortunes, you
will find videos and advices on the Internet.
Another point than I would like to approach: the difference man / woman. While for sir,
having sex during the first evening is not generally a problem, it is more often a problem for
madam. One of the explanations is to be found in the evolutionary psychology about which
Fabrice has already spoken to you. Roughly: the purpose of life is to reproduce. This is why,
before, the men made a maximum of women pregnant, because the infant mortality was
important. This behavior continued to a certain extent until today. The women, once pregnant,
were up to nine months of physical distortions, mood swings and abdominal pains. This is
why they did not have to fail as for the choice of the father of their child. What explains,
partially, the current attitude of the fair sex (even if we are not really conscious of it).
So, men and women do not approach sexuality in the same way although things change and,
sometimes, are reversed. Then, please, do not judge. The girl sleeps on the first date ? Or not ?
Do not criticize her. On one hand, that would not change things and, on the other hand, that
even risks to worsen them. Do not forget, either, that everybody does not manage to overcome
his or her social pressure. Then if your target refuses to sleep that same night, do not delete
her from your list at once (Well, if after 3-4 dates she always keeps you waiting by using
phony excuses while using you to go to the restaurant or to the movies, next her, do not be
masochistic! Especially that the sexual compatibility plays an important role in the life of a
couple).
Little particular case: the first times (male or feminine). If the person you like never did it, it
is more understandable, I think, that he or she does not want to sleep at the first date. For
example, as for me, I felt ready only at the end of the third date. Nevertheless God knows that,
physically, I wanted it. But, psychologically, I was not in the same point there. And it is,
partially, because I did not feel judged nor oppressed that I was able to take the plunge. Thus,
at the risk of repeating myself, do not judge!
A last thing before leaving you alone: I do not think that sleeping the first evening could put a
stop to a more serious relation. Because you are not in the judgment (I hammer the nail again
a little, repetition is the key of memorization), you do not consider the girl who acts so as a
bitch but as somebody who enjoys life.
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This nuance in your way of seeing things would change everything. Personally, it doesnt
bother me to sleep at the first meeting. That makes save time (it would be a pity to realize
after three restaurants and two movies that, in the bed, that doesnt match). Then it is a great
way to break the ice. Once the other one saw us naked, there is no reason anymore to hide
behind masks. Well, it is not a reason to tell your whole life, keep a little of mystery!
Ah and another last thing: as for the blowjob, my opinion is the same. In an ideal world,
practicing it the first night is not unhealthy or I-dont-know-what-else. But we do not live in
such a world and the social pressure, the faiths or the values are so many obstacles to its
practice. Its up to you to try to reduce the fears and the guilt your target could feel. Be
conscious that all the girls do not think like me. Thus be lenient on my congeners but dont
be a doormat either.
Well. If you want to know more about the theoretical part of it (or how the life in society
builds itself on sexual renunciation), I advise to you The Uneasiness in Culture, by Freud. He
said quite a lot of bullshit in his life but also, sometimes, intelligent things. This book is one
of his good works, in my opinion.
Also, if you have questions, suggestions or criticism, do not hesitate to leave a comment, I
would answer with pleasure.
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Avoid these caricatures that are most of the guys whom I meet and try to be the REAL
yourself. The one who is sexual. The one who does not fool himself. The one who does not
specially try to please people he doesnt give a damn about. In other words, do not try to be a
gentleman, rather try to be a man. Stop thinking how to not shock nor disturb anybody
because so you would seduce few. Do what makes you have fun. Give way. Stand out. You
will meet more people like you. And if the others are not happy, too bad for them, Earth is
fortunately very populated. Moreover, these other moralizers in large numbers Are they
models? Are they happier? Do they fuck more and better?
Yeah, courage is required to argue like that but it is also what makes the charm and the
strength of this lifestyle.
NB : Pay all the same attention on being normal at work if you have a serious job and
respect the laws. The purpose is to do well out of it not to become a marginal.
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Loving jealousy is often similar to possessiveness, sometimes hatred; this feeling exist for
men and for women. For example, a jealous woman hates seeing or imagining her partner
spending time with other people (imagining, of course, the worst). Not only because she is
deprived of his presence, but also because she considers herself as the only legal profitable of
the attention of her partner. That concerns us all, this is why it is interesting to talk one more
time about this subject, and this time with another angle of attack.
Jealousy is a feeling of exclusivity that can deprive the partner of freedom and put the couple
in danger. I have even already seen girls being jealous of the job or of the buddies of their
guy. The jealous person gives so much importance to the object of his/her jealousy that he/she
loses any notion of moderation. For example, jerks have already assaulted me just because I
spoke to their girl (this fear of losing their girlfriend makes some guys go paranoiac).
Infidelity and jealousy.
During his conference, Yousri Marzouki announced to a varied academic public that infidelity
and jealousy were an integral part of everybody. We all thus are poor beings under the
influence of our genetic programming and of our hormones (while having a certain capacity
to modulate all this in particular by our environment). Politically correct people left the room.
But the readers of this blog know it: men are genetically programmed to be polygamous and
to reproduce as much as possible. Where from infidelity. Women, them, are programmed to
try to reproduce with the best possible holders of genes (in reach) but, also, to make so that
they and their progeny benefit from the best possible resources. Sometimes it is not possible
with the same partner thus she makes a kid with her lover and manage to make him/her raise
by her husband. Unnoticed. Where from infidelity. But well, the politically correct tries to
persuade us that it is bad, that it is not natural, to make us feel guilty.
The faithful readers of this blog also know that jealousy involves a whole emotional
episode including a trouble of personality. This jealousy can be caused by already lived
experiences, thoughts, perceptions, memories, but also imagination or questions. The
education and the rational faith do not really matter. Jealousy is thus more spread among
people suffering from low self-esteem. And as most of people are in this case, jealousy is an
almost universal problem. Thus, if our partner does not show himself/herself jealous, should
we get worried?
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Making close friends (or girlfriends) can thus be followed by an emotional insecurity or a
feeling of solitude for some people when these friends interact with others. Thus, to avoid
being too jealous, should we avoid being interested in one girl in particular? Where from the
image of the womanizer with a broken heart who protects himself from the power that women
have on him under his tough guys mask. And according to the same logic, should women
avoid becoming attached to one guy in particular to be happy and spread?
Infidelity and ejaculation.
Yousri Marzouki also spoke about the Coolidge effect which roughly is that the average time
of ejaculation is 5 times shorter during the first sexual intercourse with a new partner than
after having fucked her several times. An effect observed with all the male mammals, no
complexes to have.
I had already noticed this phenomenon but I thought that it was just because I was less
excited. That novelty boosted me. With that said, sometimes when I did not eat, for example, I
stay hard 2 hours or then sometimes it is because of the condom (poor girl bombarded). In
brief, there are lots of other factors (and Im not talking about X-Factor).
I am not advising you to dont eat or to buy bad condoms before visiting a new girl to enjoy
more. Anyway, lick her and that will get better then you will have time to reload like that. The
second time, once warm, it should come less fast all the same.
Jealousy and evolutionary psychology.
The purposes of jealousy would be to urge people to guarantee their reproduction and to
protect their progeny. We are thus really few things in front of our instinct. We already knew
it thanks to evolutionary psychology and to what we need to communicate to seduce. But this
behavior must be a fucking evolutionary advantage if it is still present in all of us.
The striking fact of the conference is that apparently women are more afraid that their spouse
has feelings for another one whereas men are more afraid that their partner sleeps with
another one. It came true with my girlfriend (open relationship): she doesnt care if I sleep
with other girls as long as I do not become attached to them. It pisses me off a little more that
she sleeps or has slept with others. But well, I am fair play. Moreover it is interesting to
realize that we can be jealous of an ex.
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The above figure illustrates the universality of both sexes reaction in front of sexual
infidelity. The below figure illustrates the explanation supplied by evolutionary psychology
for this universal reaction. (Slides gracefully given by Y. Marzouki)
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It is, I think, again related to evolutionary psychology: men are programmed to dont want to
waste their resources for raising the child of another one (except in the case of adoption
being deceived it is to raise the child of another one by thinking that he/she is yours, it is not
just that your wife got fucked by another one). As for the women, they are programmed to try
to have access to the resources and to the protection of the man, for them and their children
(even if they are not HIS children).
Jealousy and ejaculation.
Men would be more unfaithful than women. We understand why, in theory. We understand
that the guys reproduce with their official partner and, if they also can, with a mistress. Its
easy, it doesnt last 9 months. But needs to know that about 10 % of the children have not for
biological father the one who raises them (source : Aux frontires de la vie: pour une thique
la franaise Documentation franaise 1991 p. 73.). And also, now, the law is really in favor
of the woman, thus financially it is hard to pay pensions and everything. I think that all in all,
men are not necessarily winning with this system. The morality is : it is a better idea to donate
some sperm! ;)
France would be the fifth most dangerous country in the world for married couples, with 43 %
of adulteries. It is maybe because of loose clubs, dating sites and social networks that make all
this easy and discreet. There is also the fact that girls want to stand out well (they want to
seem purer than they are in fact) with their husband and thus maybe let off steam out of
their house. We also wanted that the Woman is our equal thus she fucks, has fun and
sometimes cheats on us. Its the game !
But as for myself, I do not really buy it when I see that for the guys, having sex is an assault
course and that for the women it is just a question of saying yes or no . I have already
fucked some girls in couple and they were not the most difficult women in my sexual career.
Except that they will probably not admit it during a statistical survey whereas the guys,
maybe, will even invent some conquests.
Jealousy and culture.
I remember the story of a prince who had 10 000 women in his harem. He kept them but
couldnt fuck them all: the point was that other men cannot have them. Jealousy can thus
serve to spread our genes more and better than the other genetic competitors.
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Yousri Marzouki also taught me that in other cultures far away from us: it is the women who
are polygamous. Polyandry is accepted there, it is the case of tribes Mosuo in China and
Yanomami in Amazonia. Jealousy is thus non-existent there (or then very badly seen because
it would mean criticizing their way of functioning: social pressure is inverted compared to our
area). As for myself, that would not probably have disturbed me to be Cleopatras sexual
slave.
Even more improbable : in some tribes, the father is absent in the life of his child. He just
gets the woman pregnant. It is the case with the Trobiandais (in Oceania) where, once been
born, the child is raised by his mother and his maternal uncle. All their sexual life is very
different from the one we know in West (if you want to know more about it, check
Malinowskis works).
Attraction, culture and instinct.
Finally, he also speaks about other forms of attraction like those who are turned on by
intelligence (the sapio-sexuals) or those who are attracted by everybody (pan sexuals).There
are poly-lovers too, Im not kidding, dont be mad at them its just the way they are. Mystery
in The Game describes himself as a poly-lover, by the way. It is very interesting to know that
all this exists, that allows to step back, especially the real asexual (who are not necessarily
ice-cold).
The attraction for the alpha male or for the not-too-stupid-hottie is the most general thing but
there are thus other logics of attraction, rarer. The thing is we cannot go into all these details
with the Game because it is statistical: we act on what will give us the greatest level of
success with the largest number of women.
To dont be discouraged, lets not forget that according to Helen Fishers works, love is not
the fruit of the feelings, but a simple physiological need, just like hunger or sleep
Jealousy and literature.
In the literature, a study of jealousy is proposed in Un amour de Swann (Marcel Proust.)
Jealousy and threesome.
So, after the show, I asked all the couples if they were up for a threesome.
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Maybe you think you are not beautiful, or you have no charm. Wonder if you have already
made people laugh or if girls have already found you attractive (even ugly girls thats not the
point). Yes ? So, youre on your good way.
This kind of judgment can also apply to other people. Like when you say that girls who like
sex are easy whores. It is wrong: there are very good girls who like sex. Just like there are big
frustrated silly bitches.
Generalization is an enormous problem. Girls do not like that we try to pick them up, they
find it weird is what I heard the most. The truth is some do not like it, others appreciate. Just
like the pushy attitude. Extremes and intellectual absolutes are dangerous.
Ideally, it would be necessary to avoid thinking negatively. It would be necessary to speak to
yourself in a positive way. Easier to say than to do. Instead of wondering how you would
avoid being premature or how you could avoid seeming too shy during the date Try to
wonder how you will succeed in making her enjoy like crazy or how you will make a success
of your date.
The faiths create: possibilities OR dead ends. Every time you say to yourself that you cannot,
while in fact technically you can, it is wrong. And that decreases your potential. There are
always more options than you think. Get rid of your psychological coal nuts.
In The Game, Neil Strauss wrote about the kiss as soon as you ask yourself whether you
should or shouldnt, that means you should.
With that read, at the beginning of my Game, I began to approach and to kiss girls after just a
few minutes of discussion and I noticed that even if often they were surprised, they
appreciated. Then, I said to myself that I was going to take the matter farther. I tried to fuck
them in bathrooms during parties, in the street, in my car, etc. And if some were shocked by
my cavalier manners, others appreciated to live a passionate scene worthy of a porn movie.
Rare are the ones who regretted (not rares are the ones who regretted not having tried to go
out of their comfort zone).
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Moreover, often, it was because they felt guilty after That is because their feelings made
them act on the moment and then they found it against their plan of thought a girl from a
good family does not do that even if it was funny. From there, we realize that faiths
determine our degree of social and sexual freedom.
There is one last interesting thing there with the faiths, it is that they shrink our field of vision.
Like the blinders of horses. So, when a girl will be in attitude of seduction with you, you will
not notice it if you are persuaded that girls are not usually interested in you. We notice more
easily what belongs to our plan of thought. The rest, we hide it or often reject it.
Also, beliefs can show you things that do not exist, like a guy who would try to pick up your
girlfriend while he is in fact a gay-friend (and that he would prefer to pick YOU up).
Generally, we believe more easily: what we would really enjoy AND what we are very afraid
of.
It is because of the faiths we have that we all live in our own reality (when for me it is
obvious that girls like sex and that I can fuck one in the crappers of a club after 10mn of
talking while respecting her ; others would see a conceited misogynous guy there and it is
hard to say who is wrong or right). Finally, to a certain extent all the same
To note all the same that for some suggestible people, the faiths can have physical
consequences. Where from the psychosomatic illnesses. More generally, our faiths influence
our body language and thus the reactions of others. Good beliefs attracts good things.
Below some questions to help you to determine if your beliefs are limiting or helpful :
Question 1 : What the Hell could happen if you did it? What have you got to lose? What is
the potential gain?
Question 2 : What would you need more than what you have right now to do it? Is it possible
to do it right now anyway ? Why not ?
Question 3 : Why do you think this way ? Who or what put it in your mind ?
Question 4 : It is helpful and does it go in the sense of your objective of life?
Question 5 : Are there circumstances in which that does not apply? Which ones and why?
(back to question 1)
I wish you a good questioning of your faiths about yourself, girls and gender relations.
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PS = The girls have to love you because you are an alpha and a good leg OR you have to go
into a great deal of trouble and pay them drinks ? As for myself, Ive chosen my sexual
reality. And if that annoys you because you are frustrated, let me all the same be happy,
please. Be tolerant.
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Naturally, the influence of the behavior on thoughts also works when in a positive way. The
parents very well understood it: by congratulating their child after he tidied up his room/hung
the washing up/ emptied the dishwasher /empty the garbage/etc. by saying that he is
helpful/thoughtful/autonomous /etc. It will incite the child has to act more often in this way in
the future. Yes, it is a kind of conditioning. But, anyway, the society tries to condition us thus
it is better if we are for something useful.
In the same way, when you find a routine that work, you feel powerful. And, naturally, you
will associate this routine with your success and with the image you have of yourself. So,
every time you will use it, your successful past will come back in your mind and you will feel
more confident. More confident, you will better communicate on the verbal level as well as
on the nonverbal level. And, statistically, you will increase your chances to succeed again.
Admit that it is not bad, as virtuous circle!
All this to say that the behavior (ours or those of others) influences enormously the thoughts
(ours or those of others). Fighting against limiting thoughts is a thing, but it is too reducing.
There is a mutual interaction. Moreover, this one has three ways: behavior-thought-society.
In brief, after the theory, lets practice. You certainly know that we judge from what is
observable thus from behaviors. Moreover, studies showed that when we have to interpret the
behavior of somebody else, we tend has to explain it by internal factors (he is like that, it is
in his nature , ie, his personality), by putting aside the external factors (the environment, the
situation, etc.) While when we have to explain our own behavior, we more take into account
external factors. Of course, all this depends on the kind of behavior (positive or negative), on
our relation with the other one (friend or enemy?), etc. All this to say that you fully agree with
me to say that an individual is not a sum of behavior. And that a same behavior can be the
object of multiple more or less right interpretations among which only the author of the
aforementioned behavior can be the truest .
Thus, when a girl tells you that you are just a knackered big person, a pervert, a sex
maniac because you dared to approach her, it is your behavior she judges. Not YOU. Then
why granting so much importance, why being affected by this judgment? We have just agreed
on the fact that an individual is not a sum of behavior and, besides, that we tend to minimize
the part of the environment when we judge somebody else.
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Learn to get loose from hasty judgments like that, understand, please, that it is not you and
your personality that are questioned but your way of behaving. Take a step back. Then, you
should not fall in the inverse excess which would consist in considering as null and void any
judgment of your behavior coming from somebody else than you. It is not because you find
your routine really too classy that everybody has to think like you or you should create a
dictatorship or a sect. Then, anyway, the purpose is not to please everybody, that would mean
pleasing whoever. And admit that you do not want that your future girlfriend is whoever. In
summary, do not too much take to heart remarks you could hear but question them. If they are
justified, work on it to make adjustment. If it is unfounded, move on.
An exercise that could be interesting would be to train to approach a friend (a girl). So, she
could tell you what she likes, the embarrassment, what puts her ill-at-ease, etc. Of course, all
the girls do not react in the same way and what your friend appreciates can be different from
what will seduce your future target. But having a feminine opinion is, I think, always good to
take. Of course, it is better to ask to a girl you know well, so that her opinion is as frank as
possible. Or then, call a gay buddy.
I hope that this article will have pleased you and will help you in your fight against the
stronger sex.
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Just like in the bed, you have to take the initiative to bring the subject, to surprise her by your
nerve and your original ideas that make you stand out from the crowd (avoid all the same the
weird things like fetishism) and make her rates of hormones rise (= make her live feelings).
By talking to her about sex, if she is not too much ashamed (tight ass) she will imagine herself
doing dirty things with you. Or then she will think again about the act in itself (that she has
seemingly already made) and will be turned on then will associate you with this excitement.
In any case, she will a little lose control, but I have to warn you some do not like it : that puts
them under stress those ones can react in an unpredictable way. That can go from the
blowjob to the slap right in the face including insults.
Why do accountants have a so bad reputation in seduction? They have the reputation to be
stuck to the facts. The facts, the facts and only the facts. A girl is thus very afraid of being
damn bored with a typical accountant. He has as many chances to kiss Alice David as Alice
Isaaz to slip on a banana skin and to fall naked on my sex nicknamed John-David.
Sexualisation is thus a kind of verbal preliminary that prepares the girl to welcome you into
her. It is necessary to prepare her mentally. Even for the dirtiest, a minimum is needed. It can
be done in face-to-face or on the Internet / by texts for those who like writing.
Especially, dont be one of these boring and soporific guys. Do not join the gang of the
tiresomeness. It is what could happen when you tell her your day of WORK with a lot of
details that do not interest her all this to brag and/or to be thought of as a nice guy.
According to me, it is better to go too far than not enough.
If I summarize: sexualisation is any conversation between a man and a woman who
would be inappropriate between two guys. Or at work. Or with your sister / mother.
The shiest will sexualize with easy things that are indirectly sexual as do you prefer eating
black chocolate or listening some music while running in the forest?
With that, you sexualize because you remind her pleasant things that are associated to you by
your simple presence when she thinks of it. Capisch ? Otherwise, reread this rickety sentence.
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In any case, you have to sexualize with your body language while you talk (as explained here
and there in details). Because obviously, if you say sexy things by looking at your feet and by
reaching for the high notes, that is going to waste all your effect: you would not assume and
she would feel it, and thus she would not respect you anymore. To be sexy, dont be easy to
destabilize. I speak to you about something that is related to the domain of the emotion (and
of the balance of power sometimes) and not of the logic (which would be : you are not ugly,
you have a good job and you are nice then you have sex with hotties but unfortunately that
does not work like that).
*A little more dared where do like kisses the most ?
*The level still above what is the color of your underwear today ?
*Then : allusions, plays on words, tell her that she has a dirty mind when she has the
misfortune chance of saying an ambiguous word etc.
*The last level and the most difficult to master, it is the pushy attitude. It is the nuclear bomb
of seduction. I do it often but sometimes I still go too far: the euphoria of the moment
sometimes traps us by making us lose any sense of moderation. It is not a problem in itself but
well we shock some and we are sometimes thought of as a weirdo around politically correct
people, it is boring I even have been punched once.
To inspire you, I give a lot of examples of field-tested lines that work well in this ebook.
The purpose is to connect with woman on an emotional level. If everything goes well, they
will find you original & funny (otherwise calibrate better that is to say adapt better to your
context / environment)
With this attitude, we are very far from the interview mode they hear most of the time.
Having said that, the originality and all this stuff can destabilize the girls who are used to
losers. Then they will test you to see if you are really cool or if you play a role. There is also
the case of the silly bitches (often bimbos or virgins) who are afraid as soon as we get off the
beaten track aaaaaah you talked to me about sex you are a pervert go away. It speaks for
itself. It is often the ones who do not understand the second degree humor/irony or who dread
so much to fall on a weirdo that they see weirdos everywhere (they have been too much
warned by their mother who in fact fucked in the hay with the neighbor).
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Really needs to be confident to do that because floozies will try to make you feel guilty and to
put you back in the mold of the handleable guys (that arranges them). Dont be a victime!
You will play with her. That will make her comfortable. She will maybe even play your game
and will feel freed by your casual side. Your interaction, under the cover of a small role play,
will so be less perturbed by social pressure. Maybe, she will answer your teasings by a pat on
the shoulder or an emotional insult asshollllllllllle, I am not a stupid blonde who has a
goldfish memory!
Alternate the warmth and the cold (compliments / teasings) to make the pleasure rise
according to the principle of push and pull .
Know that we can sexualize any conversation (even the really not sexy topics, just needs to
have good reflexes and to bounce on certain words that allow an easy sexualization) with a
girl we like outside the frames of work and family. Within 5 minutes, it is totally possible.
What quite a lot of guys find difficult to understand it is that it is necessary to ASSUME.
Whatever you do. Even if sex is underlying in any interaction man / woman : you are a man
who has some sexual desire and who does not plan to hide it because you are not a hypocrite
unlike most of the guys who are spongy but who only think about screwing her and leave her
just after. That is the big paradox of women, they push away the true guys and take the
smooth talkers then are disappointed and after are mad at the true guys and their final
conclusion is always you are all jerks !
Morality : masturbation is not your thing. You are used to real women, to hot and wet real
vaginas. She has to respect you for that, it is logical. Except that if that does not arrange her,
you will come up against the famous bad feminine faith and take a tremendous amount of shit
come on you are too confident/cocky you I will put you back in place !
Oh really ? Whats your interest there ? Why dont you rather take advantage of it to have
orgasms ? Go back with your bad legs if you are so afraid of great legs.
Revelation : she has sexual desires too. Then, you can quench them together and nobody
loses there (if both are frank from the beginning about what they want) ! Everybody wins at it
in that case. It is a win-win scenario. It is all the same better than watching TV alone with
your wubby. This must be your underlying mindset.
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In brief, talk to her imagination, to her instinct. Use the three channels of communication
(visual, hearing, kinesthetic), when you describe a scene. But this is another story.
The last word: talk to her like you would talk to an old & a little bit naughty friend.
With that, dont forget to walk the talk: the kinos.
See you soon !
The elevator indicates maximum load = 300kg are you sure that you can come in?
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chat and hear each other suitably. That it is a good thing: with any luck, you will turn your
tongue in the same direction when you will kiss.
The listening of the implicit, it is to listen to the emotional state of your interlocutor. All
the words, according to how they are said, can mean something or the opposite. Try to put her
in emotional conditions convenient to seduction by directing her on subjects that make her
have fun. When you try to pick up a girl, even if she is shy or does not know what to say (no
imagination, no skill of communication) you can notice that her voice itself gives you an idea
of her level of interest (if she is very enthusiastic, it is an indicator of interest, even if she does
not really know what to say). Learn how to read between the lines! For some, it is innate for
others we have to learn
Thus you will increase your level of empathy. That is to say : you will learn how to perceive
better and to understand what feels the person in front of you. The empathy is a notion
indicating the understanding of the feelings of another individual, even, in a more general
sense, his/her non-emotional states, like the faiths or beliefs (it is then more precisely about
cognitive empathy). In ordinary language, this phenomenon is often designed by the
expression being in the shoes of the other one .
This understanding occurs by a not-focus of the person on himself and can lead to actions
related to the survival of the subject aimed by the empathy, independently, and sometimes
even to the detriment of the interests of the subject feeling empathy. In the study of the
interpersonal relations, the empathy is thus different from notions of sympathy, condolence,
altruism or emotional contagion that can ensue from it.
One of these days, will need that we also speak about the active listening and about the
passive listening. Well, OK, lets do it right now : thus what is the active listening ? It is to be
interested in the other one, in what she says. Close look at what she tells, try to understand
and to help her to understand herself, to step back, in brief, to be in the empathy, exactly
By opposition, there is a passive listening. It is what we all do at various moments of the day.
Do you remember the last ad you saw or heard? The listening is distracted, without particular
attention.
To do things properly, for an optimal listening, it would also be necessary to avoid throwing
our own filter on our perception of the conversation. Everyone acts in ones own interest as
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they say and thus we all interact with the world according to our world map, what can bias
slightly the interactions. To do things properly, would need to succeed in releasing ourselves
from all this but well It is maybe not worth the effort to make some zeal either ! ;)
Listening actively is an art that requires a strong concentration and a focus on the other one.
The main reproach we can make to the community of the seduction
What I do not like in the community of the seduction (especially in English), it is the readyto-use routines or the techniques that leave no room for creativity. As soon as what you
say does not come from you and does not correspond to your personality (for example: magic
words that other people advised you to pronounce to seduce) it is some shit. Do not become a
robot. Be an artist, a real one. Get off the beaten track! Have fun while you try to pick up!!!
Do not have the impression to work or to walk on eggshells when you interact with chicks,
seriously, it would be a pain in the ass (for you and for her)!
Do not either always try to anticipate! Neither her reactions nor anything nor thinking for
her. Provoke / try your luck and see what happens. The important, it is to have no regrets
when you go to bed even if you go there alone! You will sometimes be surprised by how can
a party turn when we just light the fuse of the bomb (this is a metaphor)! Some people think
that it is the people who are not confident in fact who try to always control everything
so you know what you have to do now because sexy women do not want to see this part of
you (ie this lacks confidence but Im not saying that you cannot have some weaknesses its
not at all the same thing). Reading my blog, its good, but letting it go on the field is
awesome! However, for that purpose you have to overcome all these excuses your anxiety
urges you to imagine !!! Do not deny! Even me, I still find excuses sometimes except that I
am conscious of it and so I act accordingly.
Know that quite a lot of girls want to get acquainted with you. But Im talking about the real
you , not the you submitted to the social pressure nor the you submitted to the mechanical
game that makes you say things which do not correspond to you (just because youve read
them in the FR of a mythomaniac asshole). Do not speak too fast either, it is stressful
finally as for myself it pisses me off. I thus imagine that I am not the only one in this case.
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It is all the same much funnier to show them how much their questions are absurd and to
avoid getting stuck in the embarrassment of shitty justifications to try to prove them your
value like a knight who would kill a dragon to be entitled to a kiss on the cheek on behalf of a
princess. And then it is better than answering shut up biatch as Im used to do. Self control
required!!!
Any woman is a discovery and can surprise you (for the better or for the worse). I always
have hoped to meet a girl who is going to make me have fun! Even if it is my tenth silly bitch
of the day I continue for the eleventh who will (maybe) be an adorable small cocksucker,
funny, sexy, open-minded AND WHO KNOWS HOW TO CHOOSE BEAUTIFUL
UNDERWEAR. Its important all the same. Thats it the point of the game according to me
and this is the way I advise you to live it!!! To thank her for being so cool and attractive, I
shall lick her during hmmm 20 minutes ! ;)
See you soon on the field !
For more advice to dont let women work you up, I suggest you to read this ebook.
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Because if she does so, especially spontaneously, it is an indicator of interest. Do not then
forget to give her your hand to add a kino to this interaction and make yourself much nicer to
her (the power of the touched). I develop the importance of the touch of the hand in my book
about Fast Seduction (the art of quick sex). Alpha handshake not like a great lump (a couch
potato)!
By making the effort to ask for the first names and to give yours most of the time, you will so
create a particular link with the attractive waitresses, the bakers and the girls who often go out
at night. It is a good beginning! You will not anymore be the average customer in their eyes.
We name what we know ! And we know what we name ! (or almost)
And when you will see them again, you will be able to put them back very easily in a good
state of mind by using their first names. Furthermore, by knowing the first name of a girl, you
can talk to her friends you too are a friend of Sophie? They grant much more easily their
confidence (trust) to a friend of friend.
It will thus be necessary to remember a lot of first names. For example, at the party of the new
year of the last year, I learnt 32 first names. And I remembered them. Every single one. Im
not telling it to brag, nor to persuade that I am a mentalist, it is to show you that it is possible
(and that it is not very difficult with a little of training and motivation). Know that it always
makes an effect on people! Besides, they often feel quite bad and you btw what is your first
name again?
How to remember first names?
First of all, do not think of what youll say after having asked for their identities. When you
ask for her first name, concentrate and memorize it. Be attentive and if you did not heard
well, do not hesitate to make her repeat! It is better than asking again one hour later!!! When
she said it, repeat it by looking at her in eyes, say something like nice to meet you
Brengre.
You can also use mnemonics, like associating her with an animal which name begins with the
same letter as her first name either with a character (like Caroline the Tortoise). For example:
Lara the rabbit, Marie the marmot, Sarah the bitch (oops!) or with an adjective: Aurore the
horrible, Malika the malignant, etc. Capisch?
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Do not do it too often either but pronounce from time to time the first names. You will notice
that it has a positive effect on people. They will find you nicer and will thus reach more easily
your requests. And not only in seduction but at work and somewhere else also especially if
other people do not do it! It is some basic psychology/communication tips!
And then
When you took her number, register with her first name to dont forget it later when you will
want to write it to her in a text. Also note the name of her friends, why not, as well as some
information gleaned on people (in a pad or a memo pad). So, you can feed the conversation
with them easily later without being thought of as a weirdo then, do you have your license
now? Or so, did your sister have her high school diploma)? They will find you very
concerned and will like very much that you are interested in them!
Do not overestimate your memory: the first names of the New Year, I have already forgotten
half of them.
Conclusion: using the first name of the girls will allow you to establish a reliable link more
quickly and then to reactivate the anchoring of your first good impression on them. Especially
when you will have spoken to them, just briefly.
Attention:
Do not expect that they always remember your first name in return. Do not take offence in
this case and tease them!
Pay attention on the blunders: an error would make you lose points (even if that can allow to
approach but well it is not very ahhhh it is not you Marine, fuck, I took you for another one,
how are you btw? that is weird.
Good luck on the field naughty boys !
PS = I never forget a thing, especially not a naked chick.
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Transactional analysis
Lets see more in detail how childish behavior can strengthen your game. For that purpose, we
are going to lean on the famous Transactional analysis of the American psychiatrist Eric
Berne (remember, we have already turned to it on this blog).
Transactional analysis (abbreviated to TA), is a theory in psychology that examines the
interactions, or transactions, between a person and other people. The underlying precept is
that humans are social creatures and that a person is a multi-faceted being that changes
when in contact with another person in their world. Canadian-born US psychiatrist Eric
Berne developed the concept and paradigm of TA in the late 1950s.
Transactional analysis integrates the theories of psychology and psychotherapy because it
has elements of psychoanalytic, humanist and cognitive ideas. TA was first developed in the
late 1950s by Canadian-born US psychiatrist Eric Berne.
According to the International Transactional Analysis Association, TA is a theory of
personality and a systematic psychotherapy for personal growth and personal change.
As a theory of personality, TA describes how people are structured psychologically. It uses
what is perhaps its best known model, the ego-state (Parent-Adult-Child) model, to do this.
The same model helps explain how people function and express their personality in their
behavior
As Berne set his Psychology up, there are four life positions that a person can hold and
holding a particular psychological position has profound implications for how an individual
operationalizes his or her life. The positions are stated as:
1. Im OK and you are OK. This is the healthiest position about life and it means that I feel
good about myself and that I feel good about others and their competence.
2. Im OK and you are not OK. In this position I feel good about myself but I see others as
damaged or less than and it is usually not healthy,
3. Im not OK and you are OK. In this position the person sees him/herself as the weak
partner in relationships as the others in life are definitely better than the self. The person who
holds this position will unconsciously accept abuse as OK.
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4. Im not OK and you are not OK. This is the worst position to be in as it means that I believe
that I am in a terrible state and the rest of the world is as bad. Consequently there is no hope
for any ultimate supports.
It is a theory of communication that can be extended to the analysis of systems and
organizations.
It offers a theory for child development by explaining how our adult patterns of life originated
in childhood. This explanation is based on the idea of a Life (or Childhood) Script : the
assumption that we continue to re-play childhood strategies, even when this results in pain or
defeat. Thus it claims to offer a theory of psychopathology.
In practical application, it can be used in the diagnosis and treatment of many types of
psychological disorders and provides a method of therapy for individuals, couples, families
and groups.
Outside the therapeutic field, it has been used in education to help teachers remain in clear
communication at an appropriate level, in counseling and consultancy, in management and
communications training and by other bodies.
Philosophy :
People are OK; thus each person has validity, importance, equality of respect.
Positive reinforcement increases feelings of being OK.
All people have a basic lovable core and a desire for positive growth.
Everyone (with only few exceptions, such as the severely brain-damaged) has the capacity to
think.
All of the many facets of an individual have a positive value for them in some way.
People decide their story and destiny, therefore these decisions can be changed.
All emotional difficulties are curable.
Freedom from historical maladaptations embedded in the childhood script is required in
order to become free of inappropriate, inauthentic and displaced emotions which are not a
fair and honest reflection of here-and-now life (such as echoes of childhood suffering, pity-me
and other mind games, compulsive behaviour and repetitive dysfunctional life patterns).
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The aim of change under TA is to move toward autonomy (freedom from childhood script),
spontaneity, intimacy, problem solving as opposed to avoidance or passivity, cure as an ideal
rather than merely making progress and learning new choices.
TA is a neo-Freudian theory of personality. Bernes ego states are heavily influenced by
Freuds id, ego and super-ego, although they do not precisely correspond with them. A
primary difference between Berne and Freud is the formers treatment of the observable
transactions known as games . A number of books popularized TA in the general public
but did little to gain acceptance in the conventional psychoanalytic community. TA is
considered by its adherents to be a more user-friendly and accessible model than the
conventional psychoanalytic model. A number of modern-day TA practitioners emphasize the
similarities with cognitive-behavioural models while others emphasize different models.
TA is not only post-Freudian but, according to its founders wishes, consciously extraFreudian. That is to say that, while it has its roots in psychoanalysis, since Berne was a
psychoanalytically-trained psychiatrist, it was designed as a dissenting branch of
psychoanalysis in that it put its emphasis on transactional rather than psycho- analysis.
With its focus on transactions, TA shifted the attention from internal psychological dynamics
to the dynamics contained in peoples interactions. Rather than believing that increasing
awareness of the contents of unconsciously held ideas was the therapeutic path, TA
concentrated on the content of peoples interactions with each other. Changing these
interactions was TAs path to solving emotional problems.
TA also differs from Freudian analysis in explaining that an individuals final emotional state
is the result of inner dialogue between different parts of the psyche, as opposed to the
Freudian hypothesis that imagery is the overriding determinant of inner emotional state. (For
example, depression may be due to ongoing critical verbal messages from the inner Parent to
the inner Child.) Berne believed that it is relatively easy to identify these inner dialogues and
that the ability to do so is parentally suppressed in early childhood.
In addition, Berne believed in making a commitment to curing his patients rather than just
understanding them. To that end he introduced one of the most important aspects of TA: the
contractan agreement entered into by both client and therapist to pursue specific changes
that the client desires.
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Revising Freuds concept of the human psyche as composed of the id, ego, and super-ego,
Berne postulated in addition three ego states the Parent, Adult, and Child stateswhich
were largely shaped through childhood experiences. These three are all part of Freuds ego;
none represent the id or the superego.
Unhealthy childhood experiences can lead to these being pathologically fixated in the Child
and Parent ego states, bringing discomfort to an individual and/or others in a variety of
forms, including many types of mental illness.
Berne considered how individuals interact with one another, and how the ego states affect
each set of transactions. Unproductive or counterproductive transactions were considered to
be signs of ego state problems. Analyzing these transactions according to the persons
individual developmental history would enable the person to get better . Berne thought that
virtually everyone has something problematic about their ego states and that negative
behaviour would not be addressed by treating only the problematic individual.
Berne identified a typology of common counterproductive social interactions, identifying
these as games .
Berne presented his theories in two popular books on transactional analysis: Games People
Play (1964) and What Do You Say After You Say Hello? (1975). Im OK, Youre OK (1969),
written by Bernes long-time friend Thomas Anthony Harris, is probably the most popular TA
book.
By the 1970s, because of TAs non-technical and non-threatening jargon and model of the
human psyche, many of its terms and concepts were adopted by eclectic therapists as part of
their individual approaches to psychotherapy. It also served well as a therapy model for
groups of patients, or marital/family counselees, where interpersonal (rather than
intrapersonal) disturbances were the focus of treatment. Critics have charged that TA
especially as loosely interpreted by those outside the more formal TA communityis a
pseudoscience, when it is in fact better understood as a philosophy.
TAs popularity in the U.S. waned in the 1970s, but it retains some popularity elsewhere in
the world. The more dedicated TA purists banded together in 1964 with Berne to form a
research and professional accrediting body, the International Transactional Analysis
Association, or ITAA.
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Leaving psychoanalysis half a century ago, Eric Berne presented transactional analysis to the
world as a phenomenological approach supplementing Freuds philosophical construct with
observable data. His theory built on the science of Wilder Penfield and Ren Spitz along with
the neo-psychoanalytic thought of people such as Paul Federn, Edoardo Weiss, and Erik
Erikson. By moving to an interpersonal motivational theory, he placed it both in opposition to
the psychoanalytic traditions of his day and within what would become the psychoanalytic
traditions of the future.
From Berne, transactional analysts have inherited a determination to create an accessible
and user-friendly system, an understanding of script or life-plan, ego states, transactions, and
a theory of groups.
Within the overarching framework of transactional analysis, more recent transactional
analysts have developed several different and overlapping theories of Transactional Analysis:
cognitive, behavioural, relational, redecision, integrative, constructivist, narrative, bodywork, positive psychological, personality adaptational, self-reparenting, psychodynamic, and
neuroconstructivist.
Some transactional analysts highlight the many things they have in common with Cognitive
behavioral therapy: the use of contracts with clear goals, the attention to cognitive distortions
(called Adult decontamination or Child deconfusion ), the focus on the clients
conscious attitudes and behaviours and the use of strokes .
Cognitive-based transactional analysts use ego state identification to identify communication
distortions and teach different functional options in the dynamics of communication. Some
make additional contracts for more profound work involving life plans or scripts or with
unconscious processes, including those which manifest in the client-therapist relationship as
transference and countertransference, and define themselves as psychodynamic or relational
transactional analysts. Some highlight the study and promotion of subjective well-being and
optimal human functioning rather than pathology and so identify with positive psychology.
Some are increasingly influenced by current research in attachment, mother-infant
interaction, and by the implications of interpersonal neurobiology and non-linear dynamic
systems.
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For example, in the workplace, an adult supervisor may take on the Parent role, and scold an
adult employee as though he were a Child. Or a child, using the Parent ego-state, could scold
her actual parent as though the parent were a Child.
Within each of these ego states are subdivisions. Thus Parental figures are often either more
nurturing (permission-giving, security-giving) or more criticising (comparing to family
traditions and ideals in generally negative ways); Childhood behaviours are either more
natural (free) or more adapted to others. These subdivisions categorize individuals patterns
of behaviour, feelings, and ways of thinking, which can be functional (beneficial or positive)
or dysfunctional/counterproductive (negative).
Berne states that there are four types of diagnosis of ego states. They are: behavioural
diagnosis, social diagnosis, historical diagnosis, and phenomenological diagnosis.
A complete diagnosis would include all four types. It has subsequently been demonstrated that
there is a fifth type of diagnosis, namely contextual , because the same behaviour will be
diagnosed differently according to the context of the behaviour.
Ego states do not correspond directly to Sigmund Freuds Ego, Superego, and Id, although
there are obvious parallels: Superego/Parent; Ego/Adult; Id/Child. Ego states are consistent
for each person, and (argue TA practitioners) are more observable than the components of
Freuds model. In other words, the ego state from which someone is communicating is evident
in his or her behaviour, manner. and expression.
There is no universal ego state. For example, each Child ego state is unique to the
childhood experiences, mentality, intellect, and family of each individual; it is not a
generalized childlike state.
One ego state can become contaminated from another ego state. For example, when a person
mistakes Parental rules and slogans for here-and-now Adult reality (the Adult ego state has
become contaminated with the Parent), and when beliefs are taken as facts (the Adult ego
state has become contaminated with the Child). Or when a person knows that everyone is
laughing at him because they always laughed. This would be an example of a childhood
contamination (a Child contamination of the Adult), as here-and-now reality is being overlaid
with memories of historic incidents in childhood.
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An example would be a sentence spoken in a sweet caring voice but with sarcastic intent. To
read the real communication requires both surface and non-verbal reading.
Strokes are the recognition, attention or responsiveness that one person gives another.
Strokes can be positive (nicknamed warm fuzzies) or negative (cold pricklies). A key idea
is that people hunger for recognition, and that lacking positive strokes, will seek whatever
kind of recognition they can get, even if it is recognition of a negative kind. We test out as
children what strategies and behaviours seem to get us strokes, of whatever kind we can get.
People often create pressure in (or experience pressure from) others to communicate in a way
that matches their style, so that a boss who talks to his staff as a controlling parent will often
engender self-abasement or other childlike responses. Those employees who resist may be
removed or labelled as trouble-makers.
Transactions can be experienced as positive or negative, depending on the nature of the
strokes within them. However, a negative transaction is often preferred to no transaction at
all, because of a fundamental hunger for strokes.
The nature of transactions is important to understanding communication.
There are basically three kinds of transactions:
1. Reciprocal/Complementary (the simplest)
2. Crossed
3. Ulterior Duplex/Angular (the most complex)
A simple reciprocal transaction occurs when both partners are addressing the ego state the
other is in. These are also called complementary transactions. Example 1
A: Have you written the report? (Adult to Adult
B: Yes Im about to email it to you. (Adult to Adult)
Example 2:
A: Would you like to skip this meeting and go watch a film with me instead? (Child to Child
B: Id love to I dont want to work anymore. What should we go and see? (Child to Child)
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Example 3:
A: You should have your room tidy by now! (Parent to Child)
B: Will you stop hassling me? Ill do it eventually! (Child to Parent)
Communication like this can continue indefinitely. Clearly it will stop at some stage, but this
psychologically balanced exchange of strokes can continue for some time.
Communication failures are typically caused by a crossed transaction where partners
address ego states other than the one their partner is in. Consider these examples.
Example 1a:
A: Have you written that report? (Adult to Adult)
B: Will you stop hassling me? Ill do it eventually! (Child to Parent)
This is a crossed transaction likely to produce problems in the workplace. A may respond
with a Parent-to-Child transaction; for instance:
A: If you dont change your attitude, youll get fired.
Example 2a:
A: Is your room tidy yet? (Parent to Child)
B: Im just going to do it, actually. (Adult to Adult)
This is a more positive crossed transaction. There is, however, the risk that A will feel
aggrieved that B is acting responsibly and not playing their expected role, and the
conversation will develop into:
A: I can never trust you to do things! (Parent to Child)
B: Why dont you believe anything I say? (Child to Parent)
This can also continue indefinitely.
Another class of transaction is the ulterior transaction, where the explicit social conversation
occurs in parallel with an implicit psychological transaction; for instance
A: I need you to stay late at the office with me. (Adult words), body language indicates
sexual intent (flirtatious Child)
B: Of course. (Adult response to Adult statement), winking or grinning (Child accepts the
hidden motive).
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In TA theory, Life Position refers to the general attitude about life (specifically the
subconscious feeling as opposed to a conscious philosophical position) that colours every
dyadic (i.e., person-to-person) transaction. Initially four such Life Positions were proposed:
1. Im not OK, Youre OK (I-U+)
2. Im not OK, Youre not OK (I-U-)
3. Im OK, Youre not OK (I+U-)
4. Im OK, Youre OK (I+U+)
Australian TA analyst Tony White claimed that in order to better represent the Life Position
behind disorders that were not allegedly as widespread and/or recognised at the time when
TA was conceptualised as they are now (such as borderline personality disorder and
narcissistic personality disorder), the above list requires alteration. Also, two additional Life
Positions are proposed:
1. Im not OK, Youre OK (I-U+)
2. Im not OK, Youre not OK (I-U-), m,m,
3. Im not OK, but Youre worse (I-U)
4. Im not-OK, Youre irrelevant (I-U?)
5. Im a bit more OK than You are (I++U+)
6. Im OK, Youre OK (I+U+)
7. Im OK, Youre irrelevant (I+U?)
The difference between ones own OK-ness and others OK-ness captured by the description
Im OK, Youre not OK is substituted by a description that more accurately captures ones
own feeling (not jumping to conclusions based only on ones perceived behaviour), therefore
stating the difference in a new way: Im not OK, but youre worse (I-U).
Berne further developed life-position theory to include more complex three-cornered life
positions such as: Im OK, Youre OK, Theyre not OK
In children, responses such as Lets go and play and then well deal with those not-OK
people later may be expected from this position, whereas in adults this position may lead to
gang criminality.
Life (or childhood) script :
Script is a life plan, directed to a reward.
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perceptions of the world and as a means of living with and making sense of the world. It is not
just thrust upon a person by external forces.
Script is reinforced by parents (or other influential figures and experiences).
Script is for the most part outside awareness.
Script is how we navigate and what we look for, the rest of reality is redefined (distorted) to
match our filters.
Each culture, country and people in the world has a Mythos, that is, a legend explaining its
origins, core beliefs and purpose. According to TA, so do individual people. A person begins
writing his/her own life story (script) at a young age, as he/she tries to make sense of the
world and his place within it. Although it is revised throughout life, the core story is selected
and decided upon typically by age 7. As adults it passes out of awareness. A life script might
be to be hurt many times, and suffer and make others feel bad when I die , and could result
in a person indeed setting himself up for this, by adopting behaviours in childhood that
produce exactly this effect. Though Berne identified several dozen common scripts, there are
a practically infinite number of them. Scripts discussed in psychotherapy are mostly
destructive as the patients script is psychopathological, however scripts may just as easily be
mostly positive or beneficial.
Redefining and discounting :
Redefining means the distortion of reality when we deliberately (but unconsciously) distort
things to match our preferred way of seeing the world. Thus a person whose script involves
struggling alone against a cold hard world may redefine others kindness, concluding that
others are trying to get something by manipulation.
Discounting means, to take something as, worth less than it is. Thus to give a substitute
reaction which does not originate as a here-and-now Adult attempt to solve an actual
problem, or to choose not to see evidence that would contradict ones script. Types of
discount can also include: passivity (doing nothing), over-adaptation, agitation,
incapacitation, anger and violence.
Injunctions and drivers : TA identifies twelve key injunctions which people commonly build
into their scripts. These are injunctions in the sense of being powerful I cant/mustnt
messages that embed into a childs belief and life-script:
Dont be (will not exist)
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Driver behaviour is also detectable at a very small scale, for instance in instinctive responses
to certain situations where driver behaviour is played out over five to twenty seconds.
Broadly speaking, scripts can fall into Tragic, Heroic or Banal (or Non-Winner) varieties,
depending on their rules.
There are six ways of structuring time by giving and receiving strokes:
1. Withdrawal
2. Ritual
3. Pastimes
4. Activity
5. Games
6. Intimacy
This is sorted in accordance with stroke strength; Intimacy and Games in general allow for
the most intensive strokes. Berne actually ordered them: Withdrawal, Ritual, Activity,
Pastimes, Games, Intimacy.
Withdrawal : This means no strokes are being exchanged
Rituals : A ritual is a series of transactions that are complementary (reciprocal), stereotyped
and based on social programming. Rituals usually comprise a series of strokes exchanged
between two parties.
For instance, two people may have a daily two stroke ritual, where, the first time they meet
each day, each one greets the other with a Hi . Others may have a four stroke ritual, such
as:
A: Hi!
B: Hi! How are you?
A: Getting along. What about you?
B: Fine. See you around.
The next time they meet in the day, they may not exchange any strokes at all, or may just
acknowledge each others presence with a curt nod.
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Third Degree Games are games that could lead to drastic harm to one or more of the
parties concerned.
Games are also studied based on their:
Aim
Roles
Social and Psychological Paradigms
Dynamics
Advantages to players (Payoffs)
Transactional game analysis is fundamentally different from rational or mathematical game
analysis in the following senses:
The players do not always behave rationally in transactional analysis, but behave more like
real people.
Their motives are often ulterior.
Here are some of the most commonly found themes of games described in Games People Play
by Eric Berne:
YDYB: Why Dont You, Yes But. Historically, the first game discovered.
IFWY: If It Werent For You
WAHM: Why does this Always Happen to Me? (setting up a self-fulfilling prophecy)
SWYMD: See What You Made Me Do
UGMIT: You Got Me Into This
LHIT: Look How Hard Ive Tried
ITHY: Im Only Trying to Help You (becoming a neglected martyr)
LYAHF: Lets You and Him Fight (staging a love triangle)
NIGYYSOB / NIGYSOB: Now Ive Got You, You Son Of a Bitch (escalating minor
disagreements or errors into major interpersonal conflicts)
RAPO: A woman falsely cries rape or threatens to; related to Buzz Off Buster, a milder
version in which a woman flirts with a man and then rejects his advances
Berne argued that the logic of games is wholly subjective; one persons Parent state might
interact with anothers Child, rather than as Adult to Adult.
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Games can also be analysed according to the Karpman drama triangle, that is, by the roles of
Persecutor, Victim and Rescuer. The switch is then when one of these having allowed stable
roles to become established, suddenly switches role. The Victim becomes a Persecutor, and
throws the previous Persecutor into the Victim role, or the Rescuer suddenly switches to
become a Persecutor ( You never appreciate me helping you! ).
The first such game theorized was Why dont you/Yes, but in which one player (White) would
pose a problem as if seeking help, and the other player(s) (Black) would offer solutions (the
Why dont you? suggestion). This game was noticed as many patients played it in therapy
and psychiatry sessions, and inspired Berne to identify other interpersonal games .
White would point out a flaw in every Black players solution (the Yes, but response), until
they all gave up in frustration. For example, if someones life script was to be hurt many
times, and suffer and make others feel bad when I die a game of Why Dont You, Yes But
might proceed as follows
White: I wish I could lose some weight
Black: Why dont you join a gym
White: Yes but, I cant afford the payments for a gym
Black: Why dont you speed walk around your block after you get home from work
White: Yes but, I dont dare walk alone in my neighborhood after dark
Black: Why dont you take the stairs at work instead of the elevator?
Why Dont You, Yes But can proceed indefinitely, with any number of players in the Black
role, until Blacks imagination is exhausted, and she can think of no other solutions. At this
point, White wins by having stumped Black. After a silent pause following Blacks final
suggestion, the game is often brought to a formal end by a third role, Green, who makes a
comment such as, It just goes to show how difficult it is to lose weight.
The secondary gain for White was that he could claim to have justified his problem as
insoluble and thus avoid the hard work of internal change; and for Black, to either feel the
frustrated martyr ( I was only trying to help ) or a superior being, disrespected ( the
patient was uncooperative ).
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Superficially, this game can resemble Adult to Adult interaction (people seeking information
or advice), but more often, according to Berne, the game is played by Whites helpless Child,
and Blacks lecturing Parent ego states.
Another example of Bernes approach was his identification of the game of Drunk or
Alcoholic. As he explained it, the transactional object of the drunk, aside from the
personal pleasure obtained by drinking, could be seen as being to set up a situation where the
Child can be severely scolded not only by the internal parent but by any parental figures in
the immediate environment who are interested enough to oblige. The pattern is shown to be
similar to that in the non-alcoholic game Schlemiel, in which mess-making attracts
attention and is a pleasure-giving way for White to lead up to the crux, which is obtaining
forgiveness by Black.
There are a variety of organizations involved in playing Alcoholic, some of them national or
even international in scope, others local. Many of them publish rules for the game. Nearly all
of them explain how to play the role of Alcoholic: take a drink before breakfast, spend money
allotted for other purposes, etc. They also explain the function of the Rescuer role in the
game. Alcoholics Anonymous, Berne said, continues playing the actual game but concentrates
on inducing the Alcoholic to take the role of Rescuer. Former Alcoholics are preferred
because they know how the game goes, and hence are better qualified to play the supporting
role of Rescuer than people who have never played before.
According to this type of analysis, with the rise of rescue organizations that publicize
alcoholism as a disease rather than a transactional game, alcoholics have been taught to play
Wooden Leg , a different game in which an organic ailment absolves White of blame.
A racket is the dual strategy of getting permitted feelings, while covering up feelings
which we truly feel, but which we regard as being not allowed . More technically, a racket
feeling is a familiar set of emotions, learned and enhanced during childhood, experienced in
many different stress situations, and maladaptive as an adult means of problem solving .
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A racket is then a set of behaviours which originate from the childhood script rather than in
here-and-now full Adult thinking, which (1) are employed as a way to manipulate the
environment to match the script rather than to actually solve the problem, and (2) whose
covert goal is not so much to solve the problem, as to experience these racket feelings and feel
internally justified in experiencing them.
Examples of racket and racket feelings: Why do I meet good guys who turn out to be so
hurtful , or He always takes advantage of my goodwill . The racket is then a set of
behaviours and chosen strategies learned and practised in childhood which in fact help to
cause these feelings to be experienced. Typically this happens despite their own surface
protestations and hurt feelings, out of awareness and in a way that is perceived as someone
elses fault. One covert pay-off for this racket and its feelings, might be to gain in a guilt free
way, continued evidence and reinforcement for a childhood script belief that People will
always let you down .
Eric Bernes ability to express the ideas of TA in common language and his popularisation of
the concepts in mass-market books inspired a boom of popular TA texts.
Thomas Harriss successful popular work from the late 1960s, Im OK, Youre OK is largely
based on Transactional Analysis. A fundamental divergence, however, between Harris and
Berne is that Berne postulates that everyone starts life in the Im OK position, whereas
Harris believes that life starts out Im not OK, youre OK .
New Age author James Redfield has acknowledged Harris and Berne as important influences
in his best-seller The Celestine Prophecy (1993). The protagonists in the novel survive by
striving (and succeeding) in escaping from control dramas that resemble the games of TA.
The 2nd episode of the 3rd season in the 4th generation of the My Little Pony series is
called Games Ponies Play as an homage to this work.
Singer/songwriter Warren Zevon mentions Transactional Analysis in his 1980 song Gorilla,
Youre A Desperado. Then the ape grew very depressed. Went through Transactional
Analysis.
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Fear of being used . Roughly, that the guy uses her for his own selfish pleasure and that
she takes none. I didnt sleep with enough different guys to realize the average level in the
bed but, according to what I heard, those who are really good (and thus generous) in the bed
are rare. Thus, once more, even if it can create some frustration, be held in the word is a way
to avoid risking to feel it even more.
Fear of going out of our zone of comfort. Its true, the oral words are abstractions. Nothing
concrete or definitive. We can always return on what we said. While acts, them, are much
more captivating and its much more difficult to reverse. Thus agreeing to do something that
we are not used to do, its all the more difficult. The unknown frightens. At least, we learnt to
be afraid of the unknown the parents repeat not to speak with the unknowns, among others.
Because we are formatted since our earliest childhood. What type of story do we tell the
girls ? Fairy tales, where the poor princess (who is not there one yet), having undergone
numerous injustices, meets finally the charming prince. And its immediate love at first sight.
The prince does his best to conquer her and deserve her love yes because its necessary to
deserve us, even if before we were just a poor girl who did the cleaning for our cruel mother
and our half-both unbearable sisters (I hope that everybody recognize that I hinted at
Cinderella otherwise, shame on you and immediately go to revise your classics !). And, may
we like or not this kind of stories, they influence us, more or less consciously. Then you
understand well that sleeping with a guy we met in nightclub, it is a little bit away from this
scenario. And by growing up, we continue to be formatted, by the media and the press. How
many girls stories raped by a guy met one night did we heard ? This fear is not unimportant,
but it depends partially on the city (for example, the distrust will be bigger in Marseille than
in Aix). Regarding formatting, there is also all the gossip magazines . Certainly, the
setbacks and the breaks sometimes hit the headlines but we can more see the perfect
couples. Like Brangelina or, still some times ago, Depp-Paradis. Its influencing people, seem
to live the perfect life, professionally as personally. Then, except what magazines tell us about
the stars , they are also filled with pages love , seduction , couple , etc. I read
once in a blue moon but I have never seen the advice to sleep on the first evening. Rather, the
opposite. And because Closer or Biba know everything, we follow their advice. Especially
when they are accompanied with testimonies, thus, it strengthens their credibility.
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Because its not in accordance with our education. As I wrote earlier, we are conditioned to
be wary from each other great atmosphere ! But there are also all the moral or religious
values our family passes on to us. Without going to the extreme of the ring of purity, certain
girls can feel really dirty or immoral if they give in first evening. The parental pressure can be
very heavy for some. The friendly pressure has some weight too. For example, I know a
girl who did not manage to keep for a long time her boyfriends. As a result, she asked one of
her friends who is in couple for several months how she did. Answer : waiting 3 months
before sleeping ! More than 90 days ! (hang me !). In the end, the girl says to herself: because
that worked for my friend, why not for me ? Certainly, the pressure is not the same that with
the parents. But, between girls, it is so much more beautiful to tell that our boyfriend courted
us (romantic restaurants, jewels, flowers and chocolates) to seduce us rather than to say that
we slept with him after having discussed 10 minutes in a nightclub.
Paragraph added by Fab: but how can they hope that a guy is going to wait 90 days before
sleeping with them? Or the guy is a desperate person so ready to anything for having sex or
he is going to sleep with another one (and lie) while waiting. In both cases it is the girl who
loses there. The girls would thus be attracted by badboys while saying they want (or by
forcing to have) a Nice guy for their image? Will they sleep with a PUA while making their
charming prince wait ? ;)
Because it is an idiot who understood nothing in the life and who believes that everything is
due to her. Oops, I didnt mean that
Here we are, I more or less went through the reasons which can urge a girl to dont want to go
farther with you. Generally, there is several at the time (hey yes, us, females, are complex and
mysterious beings and especially headache, but it is what makes our charm). If ever you see
other reasons, dont hesitate to indicate them to me in a comment.
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Now that we agreed on the fact that it is normal to be jealous (to a certain extent, but I will
talk about it later), lets see how it manifests itself. Often it starts with a flash when we
perceive a threat attacking the relationship. Most of the time, fear and anger mingle with this
flash. Then there are roughly four kinds of reactions :
Anger: the individual feels frustrated (at some extend because his/her status is reached).
This can be characterized by thoughts like who does he think he is He will see what I
will do so!
Fear: there is the fear of loss that predominates. Often this means and what if he (she)
leaves me? I do not control the situation!
Sadness: characterized by a sense of abandonment and impairment of self-esteem, the
person said, he (she) prefers another one, alas! I did not know how to keep him/her
Shame: the person is, at once, ashamed to be jealous but also to be the loser. She thinks
this is an unhealthy emotion , I am a fool
Of course everyone is jealous in one way or another and it depends on lots of other criteria
such as the personality of the jealous person as well as that of the partner, the nature of the
rival, their education, parental models, first emotional experiences, values, commitment in the
relationship (in terms of emotional dependence and hopes for the future), insecurity (is the
other much more committed than me?), emotions (our ability to feel more or less strongly the
emotions) and attachment.
Brief aside for those who are interested: attachment is the way, child, we bind ourselves to our
parents especially our mother. There are three main types: secure, insecure-avoidant and
insecure-ambivalent. The researchers noted that the attachment that we develop in childhood
continues throughout our lives in all our relationships. Of course, it is possible to remedy an
insecure attachment (whatever it is) by recognizing and working on whats wrong. If you
want to know more, check out the works of Mary Ainsworth, Bowlby, Winnicott, Lorenz and
Harlow (I promise, even if they are psychologists, they are easily understandable).
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Moreover, making the other jealous can be useful at two levels: first, it allows you to check
the price the other one pays to your relationship. But, also, remind him/her that you are
always desirable by others, he/she is lucky to have you and if he/she does not make you a
great present for your birthday, well its next! (Yes, well, OK, Im exaggerating a little,
perhaps). This is also why a guy (or a girl) not at all jealous you do not like too much in
reality. The partner said that the other does not care about him (her). Because, admit that it is
difficult to feel jealous of someone who leaves us totally indifferent. So moral of the story: be
a little jealous sometimes, it will be good for your relationship. But be careful to dont fall
into the other extreme and become needy, clingy, etc. First, as mentioned above, it shows a
lack of confidence and we cannot say that it is very appealing. And, secondly, I will discuss
below, this is the best way if you want your partner to cheat on you, because feeling too
imprisoned.
As I said earlier, it is quite human to be jealous. However, from a certain threshold, this
behavior can become pathological. Here are the features:
Monitoring: the jealous prevents the another one from going out without him. Spies his
emails and SMS
Restriction of contacts: prohibition on leaving, calling and veil must be worn in case of
going outside.
Devaluation: the victim is held against her will in his/her role as a husband/wife and
constantly receives complaints, criticism, etc.
Possible Sanction of adultery (or a suspicion of adultery): The jealous kills his (her) partner.
It is btw one of the most common male crimes. At first glance, this may seem illogical
because doing so prevents the jealous from having offspring. Except that, in fact, the jealous
shows to competitors he/she is a dominant male/female, and thus it discourages them from
attempting anything in the future. The real question is why, when there is adultery, the
husband kills the lover ? After all, there is nothing wrong with him. Maybe to eliminate all
traces of adultery The question needs to be dug.
If you are a victim of jealousy or you know someone who is, be sure to talk to a professional
(psychiatrist or psychologist).
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To end on something more positive, here are some tips to manage your jealousy:
Acknowledge your jealousy, rather than denying or feeling ashamed. It is only by
recognizing that you can get to manage it. Then, as explained above, it is in your genes! (But
this is not a reason for inaction against it).
Express your jealousy instead of doing everything to hide it. Indeed, doing so helps to show
to the other that you care about him/her (which is a good thing when you know that some are
trying to provoke jealousy of their partner in this case its useless to establish a balance of
power) to warn of what makes you suffer and better control yourself because in the making,
you step back on the situation.
Think about your suspicion, and not accuse the other of being the cause of everything. Two
scenarios: if you are not usually but with that person youve become jealous, ask yourself if
that person is not consciously trying to make you jealous (and in this case, flee or talk about
it!). By cons, if its in your nature to be, ask yourself the following questions: Have I been
traumatized by a previous infidelity? (If yes, your current partner can do nothing for you but
you can ask yourself if you are not for something in this infidelity), do I have the feeling of
not being interesting enough to keep someone ? (Self-esteem plays an important role in
jealousy and if you have a sense of inferiority, talking to a therapist could help you), do I have
a bad opinion of the fidelity of the opposite sex (or the same), and if so, where does it come
from?
Let the other breathe and do not fall into systematic suspicion. Imagine yourself in the shoes
of the other one: how he (she) lives your suspicions, your supervision and your interdictions.
In addition, preventing the other from breathing is the best way for making happen what
youre scared of!
Well, I am far from having talked about every aspect of this huge subject that is jealousy but I
hope this article will help you to better understand this complex emotion (and moreover if it
helps you in your daily life, its that a bonus!).
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However, I do not deny that some guys are weird or worse, very aggressive: and thats the
image that today has the PUA. This fact penalizes all straight guys. A man approaching a
woman with grace and courtesy should in no way be associated with the riffraff who whistle
and insult chicks. And yet, we only talk about them in the media. When we say PUA, we
think sucker, liar, sex-starved
Should we draw a line under the beautiful meetings that can be done through pick-up? I think
the next generation of guys will suffer even more than us because of fear and guilt chicks
make us feel. Besides that, you approach on the Internet? You have no balls because you do
not dare to approach in the street (a girl told me that once I was laughing). It is the height of
the paradox.
This guy talks to me in everyday life? He is necessarily a fool
We cannot decently blame women for being suspicious if, sometimes, they are insulted and
jostled by muzzles. Well-behaved boys then become reluctant to take the plunge while the
worst representatives of the male sex occupy the land. Its easier to whistle a girl or call her
bitch than to hook for real. Thats why we have a serious problem. Thats why so many
good guys are frustrated.
Legally, there are repressive measures against insults and sexual harassment. Why not
applying them? With the demagogic government that we currently have, we could easily. But
no, it is more important to allow people to drive without a license.
A friend told me the other day she sometimes feels schizophrenic, Sometimes I say to
myself that I would like that this cute guy approaches me. But if he did I would tell to myself
that he is the kind who approaches and it would afraid me. I think I would reject him.
The problem seems to have no solution and it will be very difficult for chicks misinformed to
share things as long as a minority of cads continue to sow doubt and mistrust between the vast
majority of men and women. Some girls claiming feminists have a lot of hatred against
the guys and help to raise the pressure. Think for yourself! (I have the feeling Im repeating
myself)
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All that just to try to look charming with beautiful babes and for what? To try the fuck
them we always come back here. But they will not respect you if you get into the
vicious circle of not assuming. Or they are very stupid, formatted and love bad faith.
And in practice?
The advice I give to my readers are clear:
A NO and the interaction is over. At least at the beginning of the interaction if she wants
to be prayed she will find another pigeon. Be fair-play. (LMR its a different problem)
When you approach a girl, do not follow her : its creepy. Lets stop if she wants it. Some
are afraid that a psychopath follows them at home, and then the sexual side of things is very
far at this point. This is not your objective!
Contrary to what some people say: being polite does not make you a submitted dude an
excuse me to stop her is not useless.
Do not ask her 1001 questions before having interested her a minimum. Youre a stranger,
stressed probably because youre approaching a stranger, so try to first and foremost create a
climate of confidence. Talk to her like if you already know her a little bit.
Your normality is your first asset. Free yourself from the cartoon that says that the seducer
has be macho, arrogant and aggressive.
The insults have no place in this type of interaction (but sometimes in the yes ;) ).
Let us turn to one another with respect and courtesy! Although some chicks speak badly too,
is not a reason to do the same. Sometimes, you do not even have time to get close to them,
they insult you. It is sad and disheartening. But hey, at least I know that these girls have a
problem. And that is not what will make me want to kill myself or will make myself believe
Im the ugliest dude on Earth. As some like to pretend it.
Should some girls realize that by being nasty for no reason, they can hurt guys who take upon
themselves for the first time to give it a try. And traumatize them for life, breaking their selfdetermination, etc. Respect is good, but it is not one-sided.
Lets all become Buddhists and it will get better! ;) we all too much live into anxiety
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If they are both opened, the less tight-ass could become your accomplice to corrupt the other
one. Another strategy is to make the more tight-ass come at your home and to start by
warming her then you invite the accomplice to join you one hour later when you are hot. To
put her well in the mood, you can begin by licking the pussy of the girl who is really shy. So
presented a fait accompli, she will have less time to be anxious and your success rate will
increase. In a general way, do not too much let them think because when we think too much
in this kind of situation, we do panic! On the other hand, they will be satisfied to have made
the effort to go out of their comfort zone when it will be over. They will maybe even thank
you! Some people think that the fantasies are not made to be realized, but it is stupid, I think,
it is just the fear and the politically correct which is speaking there! Pay attention also on
those who rationalize the next day and who are mad at you for making it happen but who are
happy in fact (they just do not assume). Finally, another trap here: uncomfortable people can
make awkward remarks or moves in this kind of moment and that can ruin everything. Thus,
in the doubt, brief them and tell them to shut up.
With the same logic, you can make 4somes too, like in this story.
You meet two women who are friends and it turns into a threesome.
It is the most difficult. That happens most of the time with girls who like partying or with
partner-swappers. Very rarely, the women agree on fucking a guy together, because of their
respective inhibitions and of their fear of comparison. But they often speak about it for
fun , dont be naive, then its up to you to make it happen. One of the fears that I meet most
of the time in this kind of situation, it is the fear of spoiling her friendship with the other girl.
Many people would prefer to make it with an unknown. Why not?
You were ready to finish the night with a girl, then you pick up another one in fact.
The first one you have picked up has to be an adventuress, at ease with herself and open to
girls. By a fortunate coincidence, they also have to be both depilated tonight ;)
You have to learn how feel the possibilities so you can seize them when they present. You
have to dare to ask the girls if they have already made with a girl and if they would be
interested. This subject does not have to put you uncomfortable, many guys are afraid of it,
but this is counterproductive. Open your range of possibilities!
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If it happens, it will certainly be your responsibility to manage the logistics, to organize and to
orchestrate the thing. You can suggest them having a drink at your home (the oldest excuse of
the world) as a pretext to make the evening turn into what you expect. You can also propose a
alcohol game or a game like a strip-poker. Note that the nights like strip-game-with-cards
with just a little bit of alcohol so that they disinhibit and assume more easily to make what
they really want to make at the bottom of them led me far: a plan with 6 persons with a 50%
ratio M/W (not yet published on the blog this adventure)! There even was a couple which was
skeptical at the beginning but which finally joined us into the bedroom. The games truth or
dare or the massages can also make an evening go wild on the condition of daring, assuming
and showing the example.
You have to create a funny vibe and not be in the judgment. They shouldnt feel dirty, feel
like whores neither garbage nor thinking for a single second you do not respect them. The
most feverish can spoil everything, thus take particularly care of her. And do not forget
condoms!
A girl tries to pick up another girl for you or proposes you a 3some with one of her
friends.
Some people like making things themselves. Do not we say that you are never served as well
as by yourself? They will go in the front line to approach girls to make a 3some and that will
be much easier because a girl is less thought of as a sex-starved than a man. Watch out, your
interlocutors have to take you seriously.
This is obviously the most comfortable for a man but that will happen only if you succeed in
making your friends turn in mode inhibitions-free.
That also happens when you are in couple with a girl who wants to pepper things or who
wants to prove things to herself. Its up to you to see if you are ready to give it a try because
you can lose her by clumsiness (sensitive ground) indeed, how would you feel if your girl
wanted to make a threesome with another guy?
You can join a group of partner-swappers.
Many are those who like that, whether it is in a regular way or occasionally. They meet on the
Internet, in special clubs or in private parties.
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If you want to become a partner-swappers you have to learn a little their philosophy of life
and especially the respect (the hygiene too). But anyway, if you want to become a PUA, it is
the same thing.
You must also and above all have something to offer. Even if you are very cute or if you are
the king of the pussy licking, that is not enough: thus it is necessary for you to bring a women.
One or several bisexual girls and you are king of the night. It is sad but it is like in clubs
they have more sexual value than us boo boo. Fucking country! As Zlatan would say.
In any situation, the thing it is to recognize the possibility of making a threesome a long time
before to be able to make germinate seeds in their head to develop subtly things in the right
direction. Especially, do not be mad at yourself if you are curious to make this kind of
experience (a lot of people will want to make you make feel guilty) but do not forget that
those who have a little power like DSK have a lot of fun making orgies, it is for a good
reason! It is fun, thats it maybe the Cro-Magnon man made some orgies in his cave with
his buddies.
The threesomes, it is not only WWM, that also can be MMW.
It can be a fantasy for girls to have sex with two guys at the same time. You can use this to
bang you girls who would not have slept with just you (the power of the fantasy of having
two guys for herself). You can exchange as well sex friends with buddies but pay attention
because sex can make things complicated with him after (jealousy and all this). It can change
a relationship.
Thats what we did in this adventure and this one with my wingman.
The morality : be open-minded and the women around you will easily dare to be more openminded.
Good luck in your quest for the Holy Grail!
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A woman never quite feels desired and appreciated enough. She wants attention, but a man is
too often distracted and unresponsive. The Rake is a great female fantasy figurewhen he
desires a woman, brief though that moment may be, he will go to the ends of the earth for her.
He may be disloyal, dishonest, and amoral, but that only adds to his appeal. Unlike the
normal, cautious male, the Rake is delightfully unrestrained, a slave to his love of women.
There is the added lure of his reputation: so many women have succumbed to him, there has
to be a reason. Words are a womans weakness, and the Rake is a master of seductive
language. Stir a womans repressed longings by adapting the Rakes mix of danger and
pleasure.
Keys to the Character
At first it may seem strange that a man who is clearly dishonest, disloyal, and has no interest
in marriage would have any appeal to a woman. But throughout all of history, and in all
cultures, this type has had a fatal effect.
What the Rake offers is what society normally does not allow women: an affair of pure
pleasure, an exciting brush with danger. A woman is often deeply oppressed by the role she is
expected to play She is supposed to be the tender, civilizing force in society, and to want
commitment and lifelong loyalty. But often her marriages and relationships give her not
romance and devotion but routine and an endlessly distracted mate. It remains an abiding
female fantasy to meet a man who gives totally of himself, who lives for her, even if only for
a while.
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This dark, repressed side of female desire found expression in the legend of Don Juan. At first
the legend was a male fantasy: the adventurous knight who could have any woman he wanted.
But in the seventeenth and eighteenth centuries, Don Juan slowly evolved from the masculine
adventurer to a more feminized version: a man who lived only for women. This evolution
came from womens interest in the story, and was a result of their frustrated desires. Marriage
for them was a form of indentured servitude; but Don Juan offered pleasure for its own sake,
desire with no strings attached. For the time he crossed your path, you were all he thought
about. His desire for you was so powerful that he gave you no time to think or to worry about
the consequences. He would come in the night, give you an unforgettable moment, and then
vanish. He might have conquered a thousand women before you, but that only made him more
interesting; better to be abandoned than undesired by such a man.
The great seducers do not offer the mild pleasures that society condones. They touch a
persons unconscious, those repressed desires that cry out for liberation. Do not imagine that
women are the tender creatures that some people would like them to be. Like men, they are
deeply attracted to the forbidden, the dangerous, even the slightly evil. (Don Juan ends by
going to hell, and the word rake comes from rakehell, a man who rakes the coals of
hell; the devilish component, clearly, is an important part of the fantasy.) Always remember:
if you are to play the Rake, you must convey a sense of risk and darkness, suggesting to your
victim that she is participating in something rare and thrillinga chance to play out her own
rakish desires.
To play the Rake, the most obvious requirement is the ability to let yourself go, to draw a
woman into the kind of purely sensual moment in which past and future lose meaning. You
must be able to abandon yourself to the moment. (When the Rake Valmonta character
modeled after the Duke de Richelieuin Laclos eighteenth-century novel Dangerous
Liaisons writes letters that are obviously calculated to have a certain effect on his chosen
victim, Madame de Tourvel, she sees right through them; but when his letters really do burn
with passion, she begins to relent.) An added benefit of this quality is that it makes you seem
unable to control yourself, a display of weakness that a woman enjoys. By abandoning
yourself to the seduced, you make them feel that you exist for them alonea feeling
reflecting a truth, though a temporary one. Of the hundreds of women that Pablo Picasso,
consummate rake, seduced over the years, most of them had the feeling that they were the
only one he truly loved.
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The Rake never worries about a womans resistance to him, or for that matter about any other
obstacle in his patha husband, a physical barrier. Resistance is only the spur to his desire,
enflaming him all the more. When Picasso was seducing Franoise Gilot, in fact, he begged
her to resist; he needed resistance to add to the thrill. In any case, an obstacle in your way
gives you the opportunity to prove yourself, and the creativity you bring to matters of love. In
the eleventh-century Japanese novel The Tale of Genji, by the court lady Murasaki Shikibu,
the Rake Prince Niou is not disturbed by the sudden disappearance of Ukifune, the woman he
loves. She has fled because although she is interested in the prince, she is in love with another
man; but her absence allows the prince to go to extreme lengths to track her down. His sudden
appearance to whisk her away to a house deep in the woods, and the gallantry he displays in
doing so, overwhelm her. Remember: if no resistances or obstacles face you, you must create
them. No seduction can proceed without them.
The Rake is an extreme personality. Impudent, sarcastic, and bitingly witty, he cares nothing
for what anyone thinks. Paradoxically, this only makes him more seductive. In the courtlike
atmosphere of studio-era Hollywood, when most of the actors behaved like dutiful sheep, the
great Rake Errol Flynn stood out in his insolence. He defied the studio chiefs, engaged in the
most extreme pranks, reveled in his reputation as Hollywoods supreme seducerall of which
enhanced his popularity. The Rake needs a backdrop of conventiona stultified court, a
humdrum marriage, a conservative cultureto shine, to be appreciated for the breath of fresh
air he provides. Never worry about going too far: the Rakes essence is that he goes further
than anyone else.
When the Earl of Rochester, seventeenth-century Englands most notorious Rake and poet,
abducted Elizabeth Malet, one of the most soughtafter young ladies of the court, he was duly
punished. But lo and behold, a few years later young Elizabeth, though wooed by the most
eligible bachelors in the country, chose Rochester to be her husband. In demonstrating his
audacious desire, he made himself stand out from the crowd.
Related to the Rakes extremism is the sense of danger, taboo, perhaps even the hint of cruelty
about him. This was the appeal of another poet Rake, one of the greatest in history: Lord
Byron. Byron disliked any kind of convention, and happily played this up. When he had an
affair with his half sister, who bore a child by him, he made sure that all of England knew
about it. He could be uncommonly cruel, as he was to his wife. But all of this only made him
that much more desirable.
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Danger and taboo appeal to a repressed side in women, who are supposed to represent a
civilizing, moralizing force in culture. Just as a man may fall victim to the Siren through his
desire to be free of his sense of masculine responsibility, a woman may succumb to the Rake
through her yearning to be free of the constraints of virtue and decency. Indeed it is often the
most virtuous woman who falls most deeply in love with the Rake.
Among the Rakes most seductive qualities is his ability to make women want to reform him.
How many thought they would be the one to tame Lord Byron; how many of Picassos
women thought they would finally be the one with whom he would spend the rest of his life.
You must exploit this tendency to the fullest. When caught red-handed in rakishness, fall back
on your weaknessyour desire to change, and your inability to do so. With so many women
at your feet, what can you do? You are the one who is the victim. You need help. Women will
jump at this opportunity; they are uncommonly indulgent of the Rake, for he is such a
pleasant, dashing figure. The desire to reform him disguises the true nature of their desire, the
secret thrill they get from him. When President Bill Clinton was clearly caught out as a Rake,
it was women who rushed to his defense, finding every possible excuse for him. The fact that
the Rake is so devoted to women, in his own strange way, makes him lovable and seductive to
them.
Finally, a Rakes greatest asset is his reputation. Never downplay your bad name, or seem to
apologize for it. Instead, embrace it, enhance it. It is what draws women to you. There are
several things you must be known for: your irresistible attractiveness to women; your
uncontrollable devotion to pleasure (this will make you seem weak, but also exciting to be
around); your disdain for convention; a rebellious streak that makes you seem dangerous. This
last element can be slightly hidden; on the surface, be polite and civil, while letting it be
known that behind the scenes you are incorrigible. Duke de Richelieu made his conquests as
public as possible, exciting other womens competitive desire to join the club of the seduced.
It was by reputation that Lord Byron attracted his willing victims. A woman may feel
ambivalent about President Clintons reputation, but beneath that ambivalence is an
underlying interest. Do not leave your reputation to chance or gossip; it is your lifes artwork,
and you must craft it, hone it, and display it with the care of an artist.
Symbol: Fire.
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The Rake burns with a desire that enflames the woman he is seducing. It is extreme,
uncontrollable, and dangerous. The Rake may end in hell, but the flames surrounding him
often make him seem that much more desirable to women.
Dangers
Like the Siren, the Rake faces the most danger from members of his own sex, who are far less
indulgent than women are of his constant skirt chasing. In the old days, a Rake was often an
aristocrat, and no matter how many people he offended or even killed, in the end he would go
unpunished. Today, only stars and the very wealthy can play the Rake with impunity; the rest
of us need to be careful.
Elvis Presley had been a shy young man. Attaining early stardom, and seeing the power it
gave him over women, he went berserk, becoming a Rake almost overnight. Like many
Rakes, Elvis had a predilection for women who were already taken. He found himself
cornered by an angry husband or boyfriend on numerous occasions, and came away with a
few cuts and bruises. This might seem to suggest that you should step lightly around husbands
and boyfriends, especially early on in your career. But the charm of the Rake is that such
dangers dont matter to them. You cannot be a Rake by being fearful and prudent; the
occasional pummeling is part of the game. Later on, in any case, at the height of Elviss fame,
no husband would dare touch him.
The greater danger for the Rake comes not from the violently offended husband but from
those insecure men who feel threatened by the Don Juan figure. Although they will not admit
it, they envy the Rakes life of pleasure, and like everyone envious, they will attack in hidden
ways, often masking their persecutions as morality. The Rake may find his career endangered
by such men (or by the occasional woman who is equally insecure, and who feels hurt
because the Rake does not want her). There is little the Rake can do to avoid envy; if
everyone was as successful in seduction, society would not function. So accept envy as a
badge of honor. Dont be naive, be aware. When attacked by a moralist persecutor, do not be
taken in by their crusade; it is motivated by envy, pure and simple. You can blunt it by being
less of a Rake, asking forgiveness, claiming to have reformed, but this will damage your
reputation, making you seem less lovably rakish. In the end, it is better to suffer attacks with
dignity and keep on seducing. Seduction is the source of your power; and you can always
count on the infinite indulgence of women.
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Seducers draw you in by the focused, individualized attention they pay to you. Anti-Seducers
are the opposite: insecure, self-absorbed, and unable to grasp the psychology of another
person, they literally repel. Anti-Seducers have no self-awareness, and never realize when
they are pestering, imposing, talking too much. They lack the subtlety to create the promise of
pleasure that seduction requires. Root out anti-seductive qualities in yourself, and recognize
them in othersthere is no pleasure or profit in dealing with the Anti-Seducer.
Typology of the Anti-Seducers
Anti-Seducers come in many shapes and kinds, but almost all of them share a single attribute,
the source of their repellence: insecurity. We are all insecure, and we suffer for it. Yet we are
able to surmount these feelings at times; a seductive engagement can bring us out of our usual
self-absorption, and to the degree that we seduce or are seduced, we feel charged and
confident. Anti-Seducers, however, are insecure to such a degree that they cannot be drawn
into the seductive process. Their needs, their anxieties, their self-consciousness close them
off. They interpret the slightest ambiguity on your part as a slight to their ego; they see the
merest hint of withdrawal as a betrayal, and are likely to complain bitterly about it.
It seems easy: Anti-Seducers repel, so be repelledavoid them. Unfortunately, however,
many Anti-Seducers cannot be detected as such at first glance. They are more subtle, and
unless you are careful they will ensnare you in a most unsatisfying relationship. You must
look for clues to their self-involvement and insecurity: perhaps they are ungenerous, or they
argue with unusual tenacity, or are excessively judgmental. Perhaps they lavish you with
undeserved praise, declaring their love before knowing anything about you.
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Or, most important, they pay no attention to details. Since they cannot see what makes you
different, they cannot surprise you with nuanced attention.
It is critical to recognize anti-seductive qualities not only in others but also in ourselves.
Almost all of us have one or two of the Anti-Seducers qualities latent in our character, and to
the extent that we can consciously root them out, we become more seductive. A lack of
generosity, for instance, need not signal an Anti-Seducer if it is a persons only fault, but an
ungenerous person is seldom truly attractive. Seduction implies opening yourself up, even if
only for the purposes of deception; being unable to give by spending money usually means
being unable to give in general. Stamp ungenerosity out. It is an impediment to power and a
gross sin in seduction.
It is best to disengage from Anti-Seducers early on, before they sink their needy tentacles into
you, so learn to read the signs. These are the main types.
The Brute. If seduction is a kind of ceremony or ritual, part of the pleasure is its durationthe
time it takes, the waiting that increases anticipation. Brutes have no patience for such things;
they are concerned only with their own pleasure, never with yours. To be patient is to show
that you are thinking of the other person, which never fails to impress. Impatience has the
opposite effect: assuming you are so interested in them you have no reason to wait, Brutes
offend you with their egotism. Underneath that egotism, too, there is often a gnawing sense of
inferiority, and if you spurn them or make them wait, they overreact. If you suspect you are
dealing with a Brute, do a testmake that person wait. His or her response will tell you
everything you need to know.
The Suffocator. Suffocators fall in love with you before you are even halfaware of their
existence. The trait is deceptiveyou might think they have found you overwhelmingbut
the fact is they suffer from an inner void, a deep well of need that cannot be filled. Never get
involved with Suffocators; they are almost impossible to free yourself from without trauma.
They cling to you until you are forced to pull back, whereupon they smother you with guilt.
We tend to idealize a loved one, but love takes time to develop. Recognize Suffocators by
how quickly they adore you. To be so admired may give a momentary boost to your ego, but
deep inside you sense that their intense emotions are not related to anything you have done.
Trust these instincts.
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A subvariant of the Suffocator is the Doormat, a person who slavishly imitates you. Spot these
types early on by seeing whether they are capable of having an idea of their own. An inability
to disagree with you is a bad sign.
The Moralizer. Seduction is a game, and should be undertaken with a light heart. All is fair in
love and seduction; morality never enters the picture. The character of the Moralizer,
however, is rigid. These are people who follow fixed ideas and try to make you bend to their
standards. They want to change you, to make you a better person, so they endlessly criticize
and judgethat is their pleasure in life. In truth, their moral ideas stem from their own
unhappiness, and mask their desire to dominate those around them. Their inability to adapt
and to enjoy makes them easy to recognize; their mental rigidity may also be accompanied by
a physical stiffness. It is hard not to take their criticisms personally so it is better to avoid their
presence and their poisoned comments.
The Tightwad. Cheapness signals more than a problem with money. It is a sign of something
constricted in a persons charactersomething that keeps them from letting go or taking a
risk. It is the most anti-seductive trait of all, and you cannot allow yourself to give in to it.
Most tightwads do not realize they have a problem; they actually imagine that when they give
someone some paltry crumb, they are being generous. Take a hard look at yourselfyou are
probably cheaper than you think. Try giving more freely of both your money and yourself and
you will see the seductive potential in selective generosity. Of course you must keep your
generosity under control. Giving too much can be a sign of desperation, as if you were trying
to buy someone.
The Bumbler. Bumblers are self-conscious, and their self-consciousness heightens your own.
At first you may think they are thinking about you, and so much so that it makes them
awkward. In fact they are only thinking of themselvesworrying about how they look, or
about the consequences for them of their attempt to seduce you. Their worry is usually
contagious: soon you are worrying too, about yourself. Bumblers rarely reach the final stages
of a seduction, but if they get that far, they bungle that too. In seduction, the key weapon is
boldness, refusing the target the time to stop and think. Bumblers have no sense of timing.
You might find it amusing to try to train or educate them, but if they are still Bumblers past a
certain age, the case is probably hopelessthey are incapable of getting outside themselves.
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The Windbag. The most effective seductions are driven by looks, indirect actions, physical
lures. Words have a place, but too much talk will generally break the spell, heightening
surface differences and weighing things down. People who talk a lot most often talk about
themselves. They have never acquired that inner voice that wonders, Am I boring you? To be
a Windbag is to have a deep-rooted selfishness. Never interrupt or argue with these types
that only fuels their windbaggery. At all costs learn to control your own tongue.
The Reactor. Reactors are far too sensitive, not to you but to their own egos. They comb your
every word and action for signs of a slight to their vanity. If you strategically back off, as you
sometimes must in seduction, they will brood and lash out at you. They are prone to whining
and complaining, two very anti-seductive traits. Test them by telling a gentle joke or story at
their expense: we should all be able to laugh at ourselves a little, but the Reactor cannot. You
can read the resentment in their eyes. Erase any reactive qualities in your own characterthey
unconsciously repel people.
The Vulgarian. Vulgarians are inattentive to the details that are so important in seduction.
You can see this in their personal appearancetheir clothes are tasteless by any standard
and in their actions: they do not know that it is sometimes better to control oneself and refuse
to give in to ones impulses. Vulgarians will blab, saying anything in public. They have no
sense of timing and are rarely in harmony with your tastes. Indiscretion is a sure sign of the
Vulgarian (talking to others of your affair, for example); it may seem impulsive, but its real
source is their radical selfishness, their inability to see themselves as others see them. More
than just avoiding Vulgarians, you must make yourself their oppositetact, style, and
attention to detail are all basic requirements of a seducer.
Symbol: The Crab. In a harsh world, the crab survives by its hardened shell, by the threat of
its pincers, and by burrowing into the sand. No one dares get too close. But the Crab cannot
surprise its enemy and has little mobility. Its defensive strength is its supreme limitation.
Uses of Anti-Seduction
The best way to avoid entanglements with Anti-Seducers is to recognize them right away and
give them a wide berth, but they often deceive us. Involvements with these types are painful,
and are hard to disengage from, because the more emotional response you show, the more
engaged you seem to be.
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Do not get angrythat may only encourage them or exacerbate their anti-seductive
tendencies. Instead, act distant and indifferent, pay no attention to them, make them feel how
little they matter to you. The best antidote to an Anti-Seducer is often to be anti-seductive
yourself.
Cleopatra had a devastating effect on every man who crossed her path. Octaviusthe future
Emperor Augustus, and the man who would defeat and destroy Cleopatras lover Mark
Antonywas well aware of her power, and defended himself against it by being always
extremely amiable with her, courteous to the extreme, but never showing the slightest
emotion, whether of interest or dislike. In other words, he treated her as if she were any other
woman. Facing this front, she could not sink her hooks into him. Octavius made antiseduction his defense against the most irresistible woman in history. Remember: seduction is
a game of attention, of slowly filling the other persons mind with your presence. Distance
and inattention will create the opposite effect, and can be used as a tactic when the need
arises.
Finally, if you really want to anti-seduce, simply feign the qualities listed at the beginning
of the chapter. Nag; talk a lot, particularly about yourself; dress against the other persons
tastes; pay no attention to detail; suffocate, and so on. A word of warning: with the arguing
type, the Windbag, never talk back too much. Words will only fan the flames. Adopt the
Queen Victoria strategy: nod, seem to agree, then find an excuse to cut the conversation short.
This is the only defense.
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With humans it is even more difficult than physics and chemistry: situations, contexts,
attitudes of people are never the same. 1 electron = 1 electron. But in seduction: one woman is
not equal to another. The equation changes every time, not just the unknown. It is therefore a
drama to pretend extrapolating our experiences across all women or all situations, etc.
Especially since we ourselves have studied on small experimental sample (human-sized).
However, I agree that there are fundamental things that really work to make you stay ahead in
the context. The first thing you must understand is that seduction is statistics, this is what I
explain well in The (inconvenient) truth about gender relations. So if you think filling yourself
with theory before going on the field will guarantee you invincibility or confer a degree
allowing you to give lessons to others: you are sinking your index finger in the eye up to your
anus.
For the money (or because they really believe in it but then they are stupid), how to seduce
ALL THE women is what want to teach you most of my colleagues. They will supposedly
teach you how to seduce THIS girl. All that is bullshit for suckers. So no, I do not teach
seduction! Im not God, and I do not think one single person on this planet can boast to have
found the magic potion allowing to fuck any girl, anywhere, anytime.
Anyway, I think that seduction cannot be considered indiscriminately as a collective sport.
Theres some coaches that really do it for the love of art. Most do it to take your money. They
have no interest in really teaching you how to pickup chicks or there would be less women for
them. What I mean is that we must think carefully who listening the advice from in the
seduction community. The women have understood that better than us, and they realistically
rely more on their friends to extract them from the clutches of a weirdo than to conquer a stud.
The solution
Now that we have laid the foundations of the problems, we must recognize that some guys are
doing well with the game. What background do they have? It is those who are open and
adaptable. Indeed, when one is stuck in a failure scenario or on a stereotyped behavior he
does not open enough in terms of empathy, creativity and authenticity.
My role is to show you that I am rejected too, but I totally changed my mind over this. And
with a good state of mind: I forget the failures, the field of possibilities opens up and I can
score goals in any position like Jean-Pierre Papin.
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So you have to unlearn the crap that some put in your head and learn from your real life
experiences on the field. Otherwise, you will all your life seek advice from so-called
experts on seduction forums (who actually are virgin geeks full of theory and who love
giving lessons but who do not do much on the field). There is always a way to get something
concrete from your experiences, I mean, something more than it works or it does not
work. This is what I want to teach you.
My role is to help apprentices PUA to unlearn their misconceptions and break some bad
habits. I have to remove the stones that fell in the middle of the road. Crappy stuff like I am
worth nothing , it is impossible to kiss a girl tonight because XXX , others are better or
have more rights than me , I cannot hit on this hottie because XXX , it is not correct to
approach her like that etc. Freed from this glass prison and from the fear of what other
procrastinators think (and women who do not always right), my Padawans can enjoy the
delights of the action and originality. And succeed!
Although I love cum kicks in anthills, I must remind you that like all good learning: the
seduction / pickup / the game (call it what you want) is something you learn on the long term.
It is not enough to read a math manual for the level of a doctoral student. But you can cook
well by following a cake recipe to the letter, though that does not make you a pastry.
I hope with this blog make you want to venture out of your comfort zone. Make you wonder
more often and why not in fact? and then acting accordingly. Please beware of comfort,
routine and lack of initiative. Inaction is your biggest enemy in seduction.
What I currently observe
The men are on their side in herds, empting pints of beer. The women wonder if a guy will
have big balls enough the balls to come and approach them before the bar closed. When a guy
does, it is often that he drank enough to dare, but the chicks do not necessarily like alcoholics
who are crap. They are wary and theres a tense between the two sexes.
In the everyday life, flirting and sexual tension are present in all our interactions but are
not socially accepted. We live among a mass of coward hypocrites. One might say that if
women observe that men dare not approach, they could help us in one way or another to take
the plunge. But no. On the contrary: when a guy clumsily dare they look at him as a UFO and
cut him any desire to make his balls regrow.
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But this attitude, despite what one might think, does not make them happy so far: in front of
the wilderness of their emotional life, they wonder if they have become ugly. And watch TV
at home alone. Or take a cat.
People have difficulty admitting that everything depends on chance, and statistics. Thats why
some are offended when approached in the street: It could very well be another you would
have approached instead of me , they say to me sometimes. Im sorry but even those who
seek a soul mate: you choose from a panel in your immediate environment. So if instead of
studying in Aix you had studied in Lyon, the panel and the environment would have been
different. Your soul mate would have probably been too. QED. Yes but it is you I
approached is it fate?
I know quite a few people who eventually resign themselves to a default relationship. Its sad.
I hope youll avoid that.
Many women admit they would like to enjoy their celibacy/youth and dare to live steamy
nights with beautiful strangers. But they do not take the plunge because their conditioning and
their previous experiences have left their bad memories tinged with guilt and shame. During
their old times, they realize that it was the good time and that it was stupid to do so.
And then women claim seeking for spontaneity and authenticity in men. We, the PUA, we are
willing to offer them as our learning taught us: but thats not why people who are offered this
gift can recognize and accept it. Everyone is suspicious of everyone now. I find it sad but I
cannot prove them wrong.
Gender equality is a good thing, I think, in general. But in seduction, that creates confusion.
Each sex should have its role in seduction but how to explain it to men and women heard
on loope since they are young that woman = man! In practice, men are more likely to take
risks and better tolerate rejection. While women have more empathy and understand body
language better than men. From this, its up to us!
Feminists have also done a good job in cutting our balls. Theres even guys who look at you
like it is wrong when you APPROACH girls and then they return with their boyfriends.
They make fun of you when you APPROACH but do not have the balls to do it!
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With some advice from a good coach and a small makeover, any not ugly girl could learn to
get her hands on one or more interesting men. Just by playing her cards better than others. By
judiciously sending approach invitations for example. A large majority of men can not in fact
refuse the advances of a not ugly woman because sexual diversity is less dangerous for a man
than for a woman. And because they are substantially all sex-starved. From this observation,
its up to you, ladies!
Some tell me I would rather want to be loved for what I am rather than for my physical
appearance / cash. I often reply I dunno : when you fall from a ladder, this is the law of
gravity that rules. Well, when you pickup you must accept to follow the laws of sexual
attraction. Its as simple as that. Then, Im not saying you will have to pay stuff for bitches,
but rather you will learn how to seduce these girls (who are beautiful enough to make out with
footballers) through your alpha personality and your originality.
I really have a lot of female readers, almost more than male readers so Im happy. I have
the impression of building a bridge, in my scale, between men and women. And, between
people and themselves. Its very rewarding.
I think that despite what you might think when you see a girl being approached 30 times in a
club: they also are in difficulty. So we have a chance. A chance to get out all together.
Beautiful women are not nymphs who master all the keys of seduction. Theyre just human as
we are. From this, game is on!
I would certainly have been talking about a lot of other stuff but if I write too long texts that
discourages some illiterate readers so I will stop here. :p
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Discussed themes are also quite realistic (and it helps to have the point of views of chicks on
these subjects) : fuckfriend-who-is-not-totally-just-a-fuckfriend who treat you like a sex toy a
little boring, sexual compatibility problems, lifestyle choices disputed by relatives, looking for
work, abortion, or the late virginity
The least realistic thing for me in this series is that the exhibitionist fat and too talkative
Hannah fucks handsome guys. Tall guys, hot guys, etc.
The first season is quite refreshing and funny (the next ones I less liked them). I managed to
identify with many situations, it was fun. And I like when the main character is a writer.
It must be said that there are not many American series that address my age group (26 years),
they prefer to stage teens or young thirties. There, the actresses are done with college, and like
many of their peers are midwater, single but not really, in search of a stable job, freshly
abandoned financially by mom and dad a youth that tries to become what it is hit
hard by the crisis but still able to dream.
I leave you now with a very alpha scene from episode 3 of season 1 in which one can really
smell the sexual tension. The guy (Jonathan Booth) has a good body language, does it
straightforward style as I like with an incredible confidence (well its coming to him because
he is an artist but who cares). He reminds me of Chuck Bass: he very well knows how to
manage the sexual tension.
Moreover, Marnie is so excited after meeting with Booth that she runs in the bathroom of the
party to masturbate.
It makes me think of chicks that we have cold-approached with a very direct game in bars and
who resisted for the principle : maybe they came back home and masturbated,
remembering the party. What is unfortunate is that we could have done it for them for real.
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If you decide to watch the season one, know that I like Adam too. He is so casual I just see
myself in him. But he is totally fucked up and way weirder than me anyway. This is not to say
that he is a PUA or anything of this nature, but hes still exciting for women thanks to his side
I dont give a shit and I am obsessed by sex and he is daily uninhibited. With him, you
can never be at the heart of inaction.
Frankly, we could make a TV show like that in France, that would be cool. I am willing to
write the script.
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Patricia says: Let me clarify that I find you a little pretentious (I find it fun and at the same
time I dont know if I most want to see if you say the truth or to shut you up ;)). As you stated
in your description, Im locked in my principles;)! I believe that sex is important but the
couple must already be a couple for that. And to be a couple we must have a minimum of
connection before the act. With that said, I appreciate the idea that you do not prevent
yourself from living something nice if it comes to you. Many men do not want to expose
themselves to a normal relationship with a woman. I may also be very stupid :) but I do not
like this idea!
Fab answers: So, you have not been able to give me arguments and you are contradicting
yourself in your paragraph. PS = of course that you want to check, deeply.
Patricia says: I have no argument except that I am what I am;).
Fab answers: So you transform a win-win scenario in a lose-lose scenario and youre proud
in addition? OK, you consider sex as important but to be a couple before. So why do a lot of
couples break up because sex is bad? They go on dates during several weeks and then sleep
together and it sucks then they will not meet up again. Wanting the guy to commit before
sleeping with him reveals a lack of confidence in your ability to keep him after sex. This is
not very encouraging
Patricia says : I will not calculate the number of dates before sex, Im not such a stereotype
than that, thank you;)! It depends on the connections with the person. You are certainly right,
I am not really confident even though Im wonderful haha! But its because we fall on guys
who make us believe things while they just want to undress our firm buttocks;)
Fab answers: Yeah and then youre mad at them because they lied. But as you can see that
the franchise does not work with you
Patricia says: I am suspicious, thats all! You pay the piper for your fellow, I cannot deny
that and I do not hide it!
Fab answers: If you knew how I could repair a part of your mess, you might not give me the
same speech. What could you lose by trying, by the way?
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Patricia says : I dont like to be taken for an idiot, if not be taken for a ham. It hurts my ego
too badly, I have a minimum of pride! And then it makes me lose my confidence what a
vicious circle!
Fab answers: Yeah I understand that but the question is: What do you have to lose by coming
enjoying with me? Im not a stupid asshole : If youre talking to me for an hour and
everything its because youre tempted a minimum
Patricia says: This is not compatible with me.
Fab answers: You watch too many TV shows, you. It makes you answer stupidly.
Patricia says : Guilty !!!
Fab answers: Yeah, maybe you come to live in real life just one day. I wish you to fall on a
dude who will make you discover another aspect of your own sexuality one day. But do not
forget that you are in a competitive environment so the pain in the ass like you who contradict
themselves and are full of rigid principles are bypassed by babes a little more flexible in their
head who 1/know where is their interest and 2/dare to take the plunge. See ya
For more informations about how to handle this damned womens logic : here.
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This is not the theory itself Im criticizing (theory is necessary), but rather the mode of
intellectualization some adopt that seems causing too much frustration. In other words,
intellectual masturbation will not drain your nuts!
Incidentally, my eyes still hurt a bit when I read on forums that guy is a beginner in
seduction. Indeed, he may be a young inexperienced player but talking about beginner in
seduction seems to me inappropriate like if the guy was at level 1 of a video game with
Mimie Mathy to be gamed to go to level 2 and Eva Green the boss at the end. Its not
appropriate to think that the physical appearance of a bitch will influence the ease with which
she spreads the legs or her IQ. These parameters arent really related, in practice theres more
ugly girls that are pains in the ass than beautiful chicks (among others because the ugly chicks
often dislike their bodies therefore do not like to get naked)!
Sorry but picking up chicks, this is not rocket science unlike creating computers. However,
some geeks among my readers master very complicated stuff about the computers but not
how to approach a woman. We can complicate the thing with formulas like Mystery for
reassurance (or sell) and eventually actually make it difficult but it is not so difficult in
fact. You must demystify seduction! This effectively becomes difficult when you are not
confident and when you imagine that it is. Otherwise, how our grandfathers would have
seduced our grandmothers knowing that the game did not exist before 1990? This is just a
science created to understand a phenomenon like physics studies the world, but what is not
explained yet exists.
What approach is the most appropriate for learning?
You cannot pretend you are zero : we (almost) all have naturally a number of social skills.
Indeed, unless you have been abandoned at birth and raised in the jungle by Baloo, you
already know about communicating normally and you have some human qualities. The real
challenge is to identify, strengthen them and make the most of it. This well-known by
consultants and coaches approach can be effectively applied to seduction.
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The opposite approach is to identify whats wrong to try to fix it its too long, tedious and
unrealistic when applied to humans. How can we believe that we will fully reconstruct
someone? Besides this type of method can have destructive effects in terms of self-esteem and
guilt. This wrong approach is also the reason why many guys are still blocking for years on
seduction forums without getting any concrete results. Even that sometimes they are so
watered by theory that they get used to give lessons to others !!!
How do inner game works?
The inner game is what happens in the mind of the player. Its main obstacles are: doubt and
anxiety. An optimal inner game is to do not let this crap too much hinder the path to
success so we can fully express our innate potential. Fear, disbelief, nervousness, jealousy,
embarrassment, perplexity, hesitation and lack of attention are driving down our confidence
and ability to penetrate fully in the exchange in a relevant and empathetic way with respect to
the objective which is all the same for a PUA to bang hot babes girls. Not to have dates, not
take numbers to fuck! For an optimal game, switch off this damn ego that gives the orders
( you MUST use this as opener, playing the cube game, negging her if you have not youre
a noob, etc.) rather switch on and let express your natural ability. Basically, bombarding
someone with orders and advice is counter-productive. Do not do it to your friends when you
want to initiate them to the game !!! But lets o back to you
If you give yourself the order to stop giving you orders, it is the homosexual snake biting its
tail. Your self-talk will just amplify and contradictions will make you implode. We instead
want to concentrate to only keep the aspects of a situation that is necessary for its optimal
performance. Its like when you talk to a girl: all that matters is that the message is heard in a
clear and genuinely way to create in her an emotion that works for you. When you watch your
game its the same: do it in the most neutral way possible and without emitting negative value
judgment (that was bad, sad, zero, etc.)
No bad value judgment!
This is fundamental in the learning process which has four steps:
Observation without judgment of what is to be improved
Imagining the desired result
Self-confidence (routines and techniques are just contingency plans)
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Observation without judgment of the changes and results until youre proud of having
achieved your goal
Such an approach necessarily strengthens your belief in your innate qualities and therefore
your self-esteem. Notice that we erased here the stage in which we yell at ourselves every
time it does not go as well as we would like. It is relaxing to deal with yourself in a so kind
way. Especially since its not because we have a bad game that we necessarily miss our life
Wanting to learn
To learn, sometimes a good question well put is better than one hundred tips to make people
move on in their head.
What have you observed when youve approached?
Why did you ask her phone number at this moment?
What happened when you took her hand to make her dance?
etc.
The apprentice PUA thus realizes things we could simply tell him directly but he discovers
for himself. This learning is much deeper and less interference generator. It is better to teach
him how to learn, to stir his curiosity, knowing where to find the answers and thus develop his
adaptive intelligence by reducing the interferences of the ego and contradictory injunctions.
The autonomy is fundamental in seduction! Initiatives too! Nerves even more !
The problem is that when it comes to love and sexuality, social control and influence over the
people by the religious authorities / government / parents / media / etc. are so powerful that
we all are at some degree puppets submitted to social pressure (even if you feel thats youre
free). Unlearning all that crap to achieve a simpler, more empathetic and sincere
communication (with yourself and with others) remains in my opinion the quickest and most
enjoyable way to seduce women you like. Because seduction is more a question of
communication even if it is multidisciplinary.
Lets be ourselves! But do we really know who we are?
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Too many guys keep silent because they do not know what to say. So, prepare some
openers to avoid being always silent. There are plenty of examples on my blog and in this
e-book.
These same guys, when they finally speak with a girl switch in an interview Mode how old
are you, what do you do in life, whats your name, do you suck dicks? : This is not original
(it bothers women and thus makes them want to go away) but a good pick-up artist should
be the exception to the rule.
By the same logic, do not stare at any ass in the street like a hungry sex-starved loser!
#5 Do not give her too much before you saw her naked
You talk to a girl: you needed some courage and effort to get there. But you should not give it
too much importance just because she has a pussy into which you would feel warm.
Too many guys cling to girls who are OK to talk to them because they do not want to have to
make the effort to approach another one so they attach themselves and invest in them too
much ( and often disproportionately so it scares women away). Dont pay for a restaurant
during a first date, for example.
Rather, YOU must be, the price in the interaction: you must reverse the balance of power
(first of all in your head so that it is materialized in real life). It is way easier to fuck a girl
when we know we will be the best lover of her life and that if she does not want and would
rather want to fuck losers well, thats too bad for her if she is an idiot who does not
understand anything. This is called a positive belief, it is not necessarily true nor false, its
subjective but it helps to get ahead in life.
Once youve slept with her, if you still want to be her boyfriend you can behave as such. But
still do not become too sticky and needy. And do not confuse love and sexual desire.
#6 Do you ever get discouraged
Me too, theres nights when it does not work. Nights when they all are sorry I have a
boyfriend or sorry I am lesbian (or other fake shitty excuses that are sometimes only
virility test but hey it sucks anyway). But you should never give up. Its part of the game!
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You should have enough inner strength to do not be affected by the wickedness of some girls
who no longer feel sooo powerful when we approach them. The nerves and perseverance pay
(not only in pickup).
Be careful, the game can be dangerous for your nerves
#7 Instead of bragging, make her talk
Do not boast, it is not an alpha male attitude, but rather of guy seeking for approbation. Now,
a sexy guy is not trying to prove things. A rich doesnt need to say he is rich.
So instead of trying to qualify yourself by talking, make her talk about her about things she is
interested in. People love it (were all a bit self-centered), even the women, and in addition it
will rest you. Make active listening: she will find you much friendlier.
#8 Go too fast rather than too slow, dare
As she speaks, feel free to touch her or make innuendos. You will see how she reacts. Know
that women are followers of the implied consent (because of social pressure, she is not going
to jump on you because shes too scared to be thought of as a whore).
For your own comfort, please go rather too quickly, too direct, than too slowly or too indirect,
it will avoid ambiguities and thus friendzone. In addition, she expects you to be manly and
that you want to sleep with her: you do not want her to take you for a gay anyway? You must
desecrate women, you must know that they are not so pure nor innocent as some believe. Do
not judge them for that. Do not call them whores. Enjoy it instead: yes, they love sex,
especially when its done right, and thats good for you too.
It is better to ask forgiveness than permission.
#9 Do not let her play with you
Lambdas men, guided by their pecker, yet only very rarely sleep with chicks (of few girls).
So, women can get away with playing with them, boss them around, make them do what they
want like paying drinks and everything.
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Do not go into this system because, except in cases she would want to marry, they are not
turned on by the pigeons . Paradoxically, all these efforts and attention are fun but they
lose their respect for you when you submit to everything. Learn how to say no. To make her
pay drinks for spending time with you. Its like the cat with toys: as long as it moves the cat
plays but when it falls between its legs the cat loses interest.
#10 Be everywhere, approach a lot, get used to talking to strangers
You can multiply your chances of success by picking up on the Internet, in clubs and why not
in the street. More option you have and the better it is. You should play on numbers.
Must also work on the technique: the trick is to get used to talking to unknown(s). The more
you practice, the less it will cost you and you will be less dependent on the women you
approach. They feel it and your attitude becomes more I dont give a shit Im sexy
towards them seduce them (they usually love this attitude).
Last tip: approach quickly, something like three seconds after spotting a girl you like.
Otherwise, she will take you for a psychopath or a guy without balls who need an hour before
finding the courage to dare and she will lose respect for you (and you lose some value in her
eyes just like those who use false excuses like do you have a light? and then try to pick
them up its a shame). Or you will ask 36 000 questions and be put under stress then get cold
feet at the time of spending a speed or then approaching her but perspiring malaise and
solitude.
And you, what advice would you give?
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Also available in blonde. Even better if it belongs to your boss who is pissing you off all day
long.
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Also available in French model to please Montebourg. Even better if its a bit tanned and
wearing a smock.
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Thanks to Topito for allowing me to make this ranking ass (I had a lot of fun) because
otherwise it would not really have had a place on my blog. Unfortunately, at the time of
publishing they backtracked so I publish it here.
And you, which ass do you like the most ?
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perhaps
Go, lets give it a try kiss.
# 8 Wesh chick, wazup? We make pimp bombs?
What is your trip?
If I tell you that its a gamble, does it ruins everything ? One got up and kissed me.
# 9 Didnt we already kissed in a club?
no I dont think so.
Well, then we sould do it Kiss!
# 10 Do you have vomited tonight?
no.
You can kiss then
I dont know, not now.
Are you not enough drunk or you dont find me handsome enough?
I do not know, both.
Go, I bet youre gonna the first one to crack.
Not a chance I approached her, close, without kissing her. We talked for about ten minutes
and sexual tension drove her crazy She cracked the first one
Bonus: Do not forget to move on to sleep with them! For example: a girl in the line of a club.
Would you like to kiss me?
Yes kiss second question, have you already made love today?
no
Are you interested?
Yes but right now I must join my girlfriends.
OK, take my number and call me later, plus I just adopted a kitten, youll be able to see it.
Okay, I take your number .
For more concrete examples of funny and uninhibited pickup, read this ebook.
You too have the fantasy of the unknown?
You too fall only on bad legs?
Have you already made a threesome?
How long since your last orgasm?
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Do you like doggy style with spanking ?
Etc.
And you, what lines do you use?
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In general, these girls do not really like sucking but they make an effort in the beginning to
impress! You, on the other hand, are supposed to lick all the time
She can sometimes suck again punctually, eg. for your birthday!
2/ The good surprise
It is the one who does not suck at the beginning of the relationship, she is discreet. Then she
begins to show you her naughty side, over time.
These girls try to make you faithful, they believe that the dangling of blowjob is everything,
its her reward for you.
But if youre not a good lover, you, they may never suck you and not even continue to be your
girlfriend and you could find it normal. It has become a privilege in your eyes.
3/ The regular
It is the one who sucks from the beginning to the end of the relationship. She gives back, no
dirty trick!
Carpe Diem !
The problem is that she gives you good habits and if one day she is too tired and too eager and
what to do the starfish: you will be very disappointed!
4/ Those who do not suck you, dirty boy
There are of course those who do not suck (never). But it does not count as a sucking
category, by definition.
Often because it disgusts them (yuck), because they dont trust their sucking skills (shame) or
because it does not fit with the image of good girl they try to give you (social pressure).
Then, theres also those who suck any guy at a party but not a guy with who she wants a
serious relationship! Boo, what a trap! Her purpose is that the boyfriend does not see her as a
slut , its always the same. If you are used to serious relationships and that you only fall on
chicks like that, youre not lucky!
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Fortunately theres those who do not suck any dude but who only suck when they are in a
relationship (cf. 2) but hey sometimes when I lick one of them in a so good way, they suck me
anyway ! You give so much that they feel compelled to give more, to stay in the competition.
You take control of her sexuality, this way
We should be able to create lots of other categories : those who suck by you shaking at the
same time or not, those who only suck with the lips or those who rub you the glans with the
tongue too, those with a small mouth so their teeth scrape against your glans and those who
are pure mouths made for blowjob it is really comfortable. Those who swallow or not, those
who suck at the beginning of the report or at the end, those who suck with the condom or
without, those who lick your balls, those who put a finger in your ass, those who suck on her
knees or lied down on the bed
Finally here, I just wanted to have fun writing this little article like an asshole. I let off steam
because I broke a tooth! The next one will be more serious!
And you, which one is your favorite sucker? And it is forbidden to answer your mother !
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Note: It is common knowledge that some women who have important positions behave in an
authoritarian manner with their underlings but need to go out with a man who will take the
initiative, dominate her a little, challenge her, and make her enjoy in the bed.
Currently: Men and women are a little bit lost in seduction. What they want consciously and
what their instinct wants is not really in tune.
Therefore, in forty years, the number of single people has more than doubled (INSEE figures).
More than 15 million in France for an average of 18% in the European Union.
Women are slightly more concerned with celibacy than men (53% against 43%).
Many singles have previously been married and/or have dependent children, making difficult
the organization of a new couple.
Over 50% of the singles would be single for more than three years.
40% of them, assume very well the fact of living alone.
The number of sexual partners reported by women is increasing, while it remained stable for
men.
Changing attitudes about sex is a factor in the rise of Internet pornography.
The couples have a little more sex than before.
Different types of love
There is physical love: physical attraction first. The problem is that everything is based on
beauty.
There is playful love: love is a game, the meetings multiply. The problem is the shallowness
of the relationship and the possible fear of commitment behind it.
Theres the friendly love, its when friendship turns into love. Love without fever or madness.
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The passionate love, it is the mixture between playful love and physical love. It is people with
low self-esteem who imagine a future marriage at the first meeting. They al the time need
proofs of love.
The pragmatic love is the mix between playful love and friendly. It is a relationship a little
down-to-earth, but if it works, the results will be waiting for you: it works with a logic of
meetings based on profitability costs/benefits.
Disinterested love is the mix between physical love and friendly love. Here love takes a
spiritual dimension: one sacrifices for the other one!
What does not work
The narcissistic love, those who idealize their partner, mutual adoration it cannot function
because to love others you must love yourself. A dose of narcissism is essential.
The virtual love, geographic separation its dangerous because when they meet, the
fantastical dimension tends to disappear.
The unrequited love, the more the other is out of reach, the more we want him/her. I would
be happy if We suffer here and most of the time eventually derail
The triangular relationship, such as with a woman for the breast side and a mistress for the
sexual side. Or we go out with a man and like his brother in secret. The third person is often
sacrificed after damaging the basic relationship.
Forbidden love like a teacher with a student. Here, we love the danger as much as the
person. But if we remove barriers, love often disappears. Dont fool yourself!
Solutions that are available to us :
Monogamy: fidelity is associated with exclusivity. The benefits are emotional stability and
management of jealousy. Moreover, it is easy to find someone looking for this type of
relationship, since it is the most common. However, in practice, there are often sprains to the
contract.
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The debauchery: it is when we add others to the couples love games. But the feeling of love
is for one person and parallel relationships are not accepted. However, in reality, it is still
possible to desire someone else
The open relationship: here extramarital adventures are allowed. The love contract is not
based on exclusivity, allowing to experience many things. The problem here is to confront
the standard and to manage jealousy.
Poly-love: the principle is that we can be in love with several people at the same time. It
could be funny to live with two women to sleep with them, and that they sleep together. More
wages, more children, etc.
Knowing that ideally, we would live without conditioning and each couple would be unique
and happy.
And you, what is your choice?
The sexfriends ;
The lovers ;
The wedding ;
PACS (a kind of strange wedding (but not exactly) in France) ;
The open relationship;
The punctual libertinism;
Regular libertinism;
Banging an ex or a married man;
Etc.
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If her boyfriend guesses and she does not have the courage to admit it to her boyfriend, it will
be easier for her to do not assume: BUT OF COURSE, YOU HAVE FORCED HER SHE
WAS RAPED! Youll get in trouble. It happened to some guys before, all this shit, this is why
I mention it.
She can be beaten up or murdered by the jealous boyfriend, enraged because of his hurt ego.
What would be your part of responsibility and guilt in the matter? Its scenarios that are
common, the passion killings.
The conclusion is that anyone can be tempted, do discrepancies or mistakes. But beyond the
ethical question, we can say that sex with married or in couple girls is more risky than just
doing this sport with the many single hotties out there.
However, sometimes the desire takes precedence over reason. In this case, it is better that
neither one nor the other admit it. Anyway, thats my advice. And pay attention to erase your
texts/mails This protects the other from his jealousy perhaps destructive and yourself too.
The only hard thing to deal with is (for some) guilt. If you feel that the chick will reveal
everything to her boyfriend, beware! Avoid cheating on a whim
Also think about why you did cheat, whats wrong in your relationship or in your mind? Or
do you just want the cake and butter? And it is possible without too many damages?
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Its a bit the same adrenaline rush than during skydive at first but hey, we made it, and then
we get addicted! Especially that from time to time it pays! And there we are proud not only to
have dared the approach but in addition to have banged a hottie!
Talking and sexualizing with an unknown woman YOU ARE CRAZY FABRICE! Yeah
probably a little, unless it is all the other guys who spend hours staring at thousands of girl but
never try anything and go back home to jerk off on porn sites every night who are crazy!
For the catchphrase? Well, any contextual bullshit or an opener that you use automatically
when you do not know what to say.
Avoid still crappy stuff like do you have light [] and by the way I find you cute so will
you give me your number? Its not that it cannot work but its not very PUA because you
do not assume. You like if you were interested in the light then ohhhh give me your phone
number . Seriously, you do not fool anymore, coward!
Bad approach > no approach. A good insurance salesman, is a seller who sells a lot or a seller
that sells every time he knocks on a door? Well seduction is the marketing of yourself. You
try to find high-end buyers!
A funny opener youre pretty but are you nice?
As you see, we do not reinvent the wheel when we approach. But the Game do not stop with
the opener. The advantage of quickly sexualizing are :
Differentiate from the mass that do not dare to show their interest (but it can scare the most
tight-ass girls);
Make a quick sorting between those that will have sex with you and those that will piss you
off during several dates for nothing.
The fact that we have to tackle fear is natural. Or rather, cultural.
But those who approach were able to change their belief system. If you fuck some bitches like
that cause you approached while the others were paralyzed, you will realize how stupid they
are! If in addition you give them up by making them cum like crazy, you know that those who
refuse miss something, too bad for them!
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Even the greatest PUA in the world sometimes hear your pickup technique is crap , the
difference is that they know their value and it makes them laugh! And you, how do you
handle rejection ?
You cannot lose this game anymore, you are invincible!
As I said above, approaching is not everything. Then, act in a sexual way with the girl, a bit
like with an old friend with who you were used to flirt. If you react to a female like if you
were in from of a velociraptor in Jurassic Park it will cause some problems.
The first big challenge of a seduction coach is to make you want to approach all over the
street and have fun like crazy! With or without results, we dont care in a first time because
everything starts from there! The rest will follow
When you will feel pleasure during your approaches, there, Ill be satisfied! And you will be
proud too when you will bring your first telephone numbers or first chicks home!
You have to expand your field of possibilities (beliefs). Because what you believe determines
what is possible or not for you.
Which stop most guys is that they think that a PUA must at least take the number every time
he approaches (wrong beliefs). So they dont dare because they think that if it doesnt work
(most probable thats why we play on the big numbers) they will be ridiculous. But only bad
wingman who understood nothing would make fun of you for that do we have to
congratulate you when you dare to approach, thats the right mindset !!! They are a lot of
other criteria for a good pickup than the result ! The most important is the inner game ! Dare
to disturb (except of course if she is really busy or pressed) because it is an honor for her
to be approached by a man like you!
The little thrill before going out to pickup is what you must boost you now. Not what should
inhibit you, thats not true anymore!
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However , there is a pitfall to avoid, it is the its a shame to spoil. Becoming addicted to
flirting and banging chicks who do not deserve you just because its a shame to spoil :
others would enjoy to bang them. This is the problem that makes that sometimes girls who
are below you in all areas patronize you or lecture you. HAHAHA! Another pitfall is that
most girls are cold when approached (shaken out of their comfort zone) but its not
necessarily because a girl is nice that she wants to unlock her legs! Do not make them regret
to be nice
Gooooooooooooooooooooooooooooo!
And the guys who never dare to approach are fags!
Its your turn to go on the field, bro!
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The reactions A and E are prohibited. A minimum of inner game is requested please!
Be aware that, sometimes, direct rejections are just a test. We must therefore learn to
differentiate a no from a shit-test! For this, there is the reaction F: humility
Below, a part of what I wrote about rejections in The (Inconvenient) Truth about Gender
Relations (click to read the full text):
Relativize
You can do exactly the same thing on two girls, one will find you sexy, the other will find you
repulsive. Which one is right? None.
Afraid of what ?
You will try to be sensual and will, of course, sometimes be rejected. For example, you will
maintain eye contact with a woman who will give you back just a look in response making
you understand that she finds you disgusting. Then she will turn and will not deal with you
anymore. Ouch, that hurts. But there is nothing to fear. This is not so different from a verbal
rejection. It is even rather better, in fact. More direct! And keep in mind, that one day or the
other she probably fucked a less handsome guy than you
I like the quirkiness. I like to put pressure on girls. To see women blushing or becoming
nervous amuses me. I know you are afraid of being labeled as a weird guy and thats why
you do not dare to move faster physically. So you stay in a friendly mode and waste your
time.
Guys have to overcome that fear. Starting conversations with strangers, this is not weird ,
being tactile and sensual is not disgusting and pushing things sexually doesnt directly
makes you a perverse . All this are just beliefs
If you are sociable and you start conversations, women will test you by saying that it is
strange to do that. Or they will give this stupid skeptical look we all know. All the other guys
do not have enough balls to approach women, but it is not weird that Phew. And they want
us to believe that its better to stay wise but where is the world going?
When you are sensual, women try to make you feel dirty .
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When you are sexually aggressive women test you by saying that you are evil (as if it was a
bad thing) Most guys are afraid of the label perverse because it refers to the image of an
old man who masturbates in a sex shop.
But its not that at all, and you want to be perverse because you do not want to be asexual.
Do not let social pressure having so much power over you that it has on these people stuck in
their conditioning.
Not getting rejected, that does not mean youre good
Most guys think they were good because they were not rejected at least, not yet. This is
actually a bad thing. And they are not really good. Being rejected early in the night should be
your goal. Before the first rejection, you will be tense and shy. After, you will be free and
ready to perform feats.
When Im snub for the first time of the night, it annoys me. It drives me crazy. Anger rises in
me but this is not anger against women. Hate is there because I just realized that releases
and critics are a big joke, and I cannot believe that I was scared and it stopped me from doing
what I wanted in life until today
After realizing this, nothing can stop me. Basically, I need the first rake to put me on track
and have a fun night (and we do not make an omelet without breaking eggs; there will always
be waste).
A woman is laughing at you? Makes fun of how she rejected you ? Thats funny. Thats what
you were afraid of? Yet it is nothing You will know you have improved when you can
laugh at rakes and that you can even shut up the mouths of babes who respond badly.
Remember that for some, going out and playing the bitch, well its funny. The best solution is
to
laugh
in
their
face
thank
you,
it
was
really
funny.
People who get angry easily and make scandals are trying to manipulate you emotionally.
They want to intimidate you. Im sure you know people like that. The best strategy is to take
the wrong way. They want you to perceive them as important; you see them just as
entertainment. In addition, this casual attitude seems to piss them off. When girls understand
they are not so important for you (individually speaking, at least), it drives them crazy. Then,
each responds differently (some are less stupid than others).
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Some are even worse after being rejected. Im ten times better. I know myself. I need to be
rejected to feel free. Loose. Thats why I quickly need social rejection and physical rejection
before being awesome.
I have a friend who does not approach women. Hes handsome and cool but he hopes that
women come to him like mosquitoes attracted to light. Thus, if they approach him, they have
done all the work and are hopelessly attracted to him because have invested a lot. Its bogged
him down in long relationships where he is the prize.
The only problem is that it is too passive. He can stay a long time without meeting anyone
even by going out twice a week. It may take months before he finds a new girlfriend.
The other guys are the opposite. They approach everything that moves anyhow hoping for a
positive answer. Even if they have to suffer violent rejections and talk for hours to women
without interest, they stay. This attitude fucks up you confidence in the long term and you can
catch the phobia of starting conversations.
The compromise is to quickly select women but only invest time in those excited that you
contacted them. Those who smile, laugh and feed the conversation. If you do not get a
positive response right away, leave. This is not an excuse to do anyhow, discuss the best way
possible, stack the odds in your favor but you invest only for those who understand how lucky
they are that you approached them.
One way to avoid scandals, preserve your confidence and maximize your results socializing is
to limit the time spent with foolish and wicked stupid bitches. Do not spend with them a
second longer than they deserve. You can only do this if you allow yourself to leave the
conversation on a bad note.
We dont give a shit, but with class
This means you do not look for the perfect exit. You can go away in the simplest way. Even if
it looks strange. Just as you came, you leave.
I think most guys do not approach enough women because they think that once the
conversation is started, they must stay and make sure that it works with the girl. They feel
trapped.
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It is sure that if you see things like that and suffer the pickup more than you live it,
approaching can quickly become a hassle.
You start a conversation with a sexy woman on the right. Shes cute, but sarcastic and not at
all playful. She makes fun of your pink shirt. Then she contradicts you on a bunch of silly
topics. You clearly do not like her personality so why staying with her? Turn heels and ignore
her, she will not understand what happened. These girls were not enough rejected by guys in
their lives. Or have been too much rejected and take revenge. In any cases, they have a
problem to do so We can even say that they overcompensate! Their nasty attitude refers to
their own problems.
If someone must be under pressure, do you prefer it is you or the others?
When you go out, and you behave in a sociable way, you do not need to try to save face. You
do not try to have the last word. You dont care about leaving on a good note.
And better yet, if youre not afraid of weirdness, you do not even need to go away, let people
get bored and leave and take their place.
If the girl youre talking to is a bitch, or if the interaction does not appear well enough started
to be productive, leave without further ado. Have some character, fuck!
Most guys are afraid to push the envelope too far because they are happy with just small
successes. They want to rethink the interaction and keep a good taste in the mouth.
A handjob would make me very happy but Im too afraid of being hurt in my ego if I ask
you, and you say no.
You know very well my views. Make her say no. Press her like a lemon. My credo Suck me
or insult me, but do not stay in inaction. The problem is that you are most of the time not
actually looking for being sucked nor insulted. It suits you to be there, to smile and watch her
laugh listening to your jokes. It makes you feel good. You want to go head high so you do not
push the thing up.
Its enjoyable to hang out with a girl and smile blissfully. Most dudes merely that. They prefer
the sweet, platonic relation with a woman to a rapid physical escalation because it runs the
risk of brutally breaking the interaction.
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The same can occur when you caress each others hand. The caress of the hands is so
enjoyable that you forget to push things more sexually. But the problem is that this feeling of
well-being does not last. And it does not last because she will break up with you as soon as
she met a guy with whom she has a sexual connection. Now, is what the point? Talking to her
for 10 hours or penetrating her for 30 minutes?
The illusion you can fuck them all
A guy strikes up a conversation with a cute girl in the street. They walk together to a small
bar. They exchange names and flirt a little. It goes well. He would ask her out : to go for
coffee but he freaks out then does nothing. Later in the day he self-flagellates and wonders
what she would have said if he had invited her out. Fuck. The bitch was very hot. However,
despite his regrets, he is still happy, he draws some form of satisfaction. The memory of that
interaction will remain nice: he dealt with her successfully in the street and made a pretty girl
smile Good.
The truth is that he did not seek for more because he was afraid that the interaction ends
badly. He did not want his last memory to be a deplorable rejection.
Lets have a coffee.
Sorry I have to go somewhere to do something with someone. Bye.
Now he sees things differently. He has been rejected. The interaction was a failure from the
beginning but he did not get it (it is better to know right away, no?)
Passive interactions often end as follows: she ignores you or your texts or stand you up. Or
you had a strong connection but because you have never pushed things sexually youre now
mired in a very strange relationship. Sometimes you feel the urge to ignore her or tell her you
do not want to fuck her. This is called FRUSTRATION.
Guys want it to end well, having a little story to tell their friends how I got the number of a
bitch in the street or simply flirted with but its still good. Its just a matter of ego. They do
not escalade physically because they are not sure it will be fine.
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Sociability vs Sexuality
You have crossed the stage of social, now you can do what you want. Have fun. Try new
things. Be rejected. The social part has nothing to do with your seduction potential.
This is not an excuse to act like a clown or a weirdo but do not take the sociability part too
seriously. You would become paralyzed with fear.
This will be quite counter-intuitive to discover what works and what does not. As if the
success with women was random. Im taking about techniques (the craziest can work) and
results. For example, you can have a super hottie in your bed the day before and getting
rejected by a fat ugly woman today. Its a joke. Seduction and even more pickup are big
jokes.
Life is an absolute joke
I award for the night pick up the medal of the biggest joke in the world. As if the girls did
their best to make us have the most difficult task ever But then, why do they do surgery,
why do they wear makeup and all this stuff? To have sex, obviously.
This requires more confidence to approach them in person than on the Internet. However, the
same guy they send to hell in the bar in front of their girlfriends, they could agree to meet him
from the Internet just because he would have sent a cocky message.
It does not make sense. I think all the women do not give us bonus points for having the nerve
to approach them. They do not realize This is why we must not take the night pickup too
seriously. There are too many stupid women who do not understand anything to life.
At night, the defenses are activated: the women go as far as claiming that they do not want to
fuck. All the cockblocks and amogs are out, ready to intervene at the fateful moment. Its
hilarious. A Belgian joke. If you take seriously a nocturnal rejection then you are a fool. In the
long term, you would become mad. Accept that its just a comedy.
Some marketing managers reward salespeople for every NO obtained. Knowing that each NO
moves you closer to a YES, its understandable. For us, seducers, its the same
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We all know that perseverance is an important part of the seduction game. But in my head, all
perseverance is not always worth it. Your stress level should be linked to what you will
potentially get back.
For example, I will not be too persistent if a band I have just met rejects me. I could make fun
of the a girl who answer like a bitch or I could give a second chance to be part of the
conversation to a nice cute girl. But I will not do it for too long because I have nothing much
to gain.
Oh yeah, for all this work, my only reward would be that she talks to me. I dont care,
seriously.
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This film is a bit old but realistic and especially well considered!
#4 Alfie
Some good advice in this movie, but I find the character deserves slaps in the face!
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How to put romance in pickup! Too bad the atmosphere of the film is a bit old-fashioned!
#6 Hitch
There are good things to learn from this movie (Ross Jeffries was a consultant on the film)
but its really too politically correct for me!
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This movie must be watched for the character played by Javier Bardem : very alpha and good
understanding of women !
#8 Match Point
This movie must be seen for the sexual agressivity of the main character !
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To be watched for the body language of Tom Cruise which is THE legendary model of the
seduction community.
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Another film on the theme of seduction coaches who gives some good advice but its still
too politically correct for my taste.
#12 Magnolia
For the character played by Tom Cruise, it seems he was inspired by Ross Jeffries! Without
much other interest
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Only one episode to watch : season 1 episode 14. He explains why and how the game works.
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#15 Castle
I like Castle and there, in the episode 11 of the season 4, he investigates the murder of a PUA.
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Cunnilinguist categories:
Those who like it and those who do not like it.
Those who know where the clitoris is and those who do not know.
Those who lick the clit and those who lick around.
Those who dismiss the skin that protects clitoris and those who let it there.
Those listening to the reactions of the girl and those who eat it always the same way.
Those who put fingers while they lick and those who do not put fingers inside.
Those who always lick lying on the bed and those who experiment different positions
(standing, front, back).
Those who do not care that there are hairs and those it blocks.
Those that smell bothers and those who know how to position their nose.
Those who eat the girl out after intercourse if the woman did not orgasm and those who dont
give a shit as long as they ejaculated.
Those who have experienced female ejaculation and those who have never made a woman
squirt.
Those who know when the woman is faking orgasm because is bored and those who dont.
Those who recognize symptoms of orgasm and those who dont.
Those who stop when the girl says stop and those who continue to make her orgasm.
Those who stop when she came and those who continue, irritating her.
Those who stop just before she comes so the pleasure is greater and those who dont know
this trick.
Those who catch cramps: tongue, jaw, etc. and those who are well-trained.
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For more information about the oral sex and how to make chicks orgasm like crazy bitches,
read my ebook about that.
Sincerely,
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He will type on Google how to make a success of my first date ? ; How to have an
interesting conversation? ; How to seduce her? ; How to make her want me? ; How to
see her again after a date?
Hell find the answers to his questions about Diary of a French PUA.
Scenario 2: The casual player
He comes five minutes late. Normal, he fucked another girl the day before and he is tired. She
still turns up after him. She apologizes, he replies that he was late too, so its okay! She feels
comfortable this way.
He gives her a kiss on the cheek, she turns her head waiting for a second kiss, he teases her
ah but you want one second kiss And he kisses her a little closer to the lips. He set arm
around her shoulders to greet her. She appreciates his body language.
He tells her to sit where she wants. She puts herself in front of him, with the thighs that time
from time temp to caress his legs. He asks her what she wants to drink, calls the waiter to
order both drinks.
He makes her talk. He casually give her occasions to sexualize. Then he says she has a dirty
mind. Thats it, its fun, she accepts the frame like what it is sexualized between them, he
teases her, its fluid. It is comfortable, she speaks.
She is very cute and she do not look stupid. Quite apart and open-minded. Thats why he
gives her some of his time in a bar.
He teases her, she gives him a pat on the shoulder. He asks how she will be forgiven for
having sexual assaulted him, she says she has lots of ideas with stars in her eyes.
Drinks happen. They clink glasses. A spark circulates them at the moment of the contact of
the two glasses. A shiver routes. It is sexual energy. He acknowledged: he likes and knows
how to play with tension. He masters his subject. He is comfortable when other guys would
be uncomfortable. He has a good game.
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After a while she strums on her phone. He can see from the corner of his eye she told her
friend, its good he is nice. He grabs her hand like to see her ring or something and
stroked a little. She sees through his game but pretend to not. It amuses them both to flirt like
that.
He is never short on fun conversation topics and is distributed foolproof. A man with such a
sexy humor makes her feel like shes dreaming. She believes she is in a TV show.
He goes to the bathroom. Once back, after of course washed and dried his hands, he put one
on her shoulder. She sat turns around, a little surprised. He looks like saying something stupid
to her ear and kissed her. She gets off! He stops the kiss enough, youve enough jumped on
me like that;)
She giggles of nervousness and says she did not expect it they speak a little and take
advantage of it to slip into the conversation that he doesnt live very far from the bar. He has a
cute cat, surely she would love to meet it. He offers to introduce them. Shes OK. They walk
hand in hand to his house. In the hall, there, he pushes her against a wall and warms her like a
master of foreplays.
Then arrived home, she laughs because there is no cat. And he makes fun of her gently to
have truly believed him, saying that it is the most fucked up excuse in the world. He continues
casually to warm her and they fuck. She did not even want to resist because shes flooded. He
has already put on a condom by giving her a cunnilingus. The best oral sex of her life.
She enjoyed it o much that she recommends him to her friends and they make a threesome the
next week.
Congratulations!
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With that said, she did not say anything about the size of his penis. She was respectful. I
forgot to ask her if they did weird things in the bed.
So now, can we say that Valbuena freaks like that because he is scared that all France realizes
that he is not good in bed while watching his sextape? Its just a theory, but the question is
worth asking.
Seriously, me if I had a sextape, Id be proud of it. It would make me some free publicity. We
would see how much Im not bad and even more chicks would contact me via my blog to
orgasm with me.
Besides, she was filmed how and by whom, this sextape? And how did she get into the hands
of Benzemas friends?
Anyway, dont worry too much, Mathieu. Its been years since I want to see the sextape of
Leighton Meester (Blair Waldorf) and I have not found it yet. So well
No, seriously, just a review to finish. If the choice is between Benzema and Valbuena for the
French soccer team, I prefer Valbuena. More regular. I hope this story will end well. But I
hope I will understand one day why did he leave Russia so fast ? An orgy that turned badly ?
But in any case, such a grudge in the France team would be too harmful. The balance of a
team is more due to the atmosphere than to individual talents. So if we really come to this
extreme, we will have to do without Benzema. Thats what I think, anyway.
Oh well. And maybe we will get even better.
The good point for him, it will leave him free time to bang Rihanna. Im sure she makes him
hard since she wrote him a tweet.
Look, Im also sure that Im a better lover than him. Sextapes contest when you want, guys!
Rihanna to decide between us.
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Facebook vs Phone
There are plenty of players who refuse to use Facebook. Or to upload their picture on it. For
me, Facebook is yet a good source of fuck-closes. And not being on this market, makes these
guys more marginal than anything else. Warning : of course, use Facebook to your advantage,
because there are many pitfalls! But the game is worth the candle. This is only my opinion.
Anything that can make you get in touch with chicks is good for your game.
Why should you use Facebook?
To remember the girls that we took contact. By typing their phone number into the search
bar, you can easily find their profile (a lot have given their number to FB). You can take
directly their FB too, which is less intrusive than phone number (they so give it more easily)
but its the same in practice as they receive notifications on their mobile. For alcoholics, it can
be used to realize that they actually have kissed a yucky chick last night in a bar and do not
recall her.
No need to take more than one contact to find and close the whole group to whom we
spoke. Then you can make a batch invitation in an event, something like big orgy for Fabs
birthday. Convenient ! Its also a good way to be easily invited at private parties!
It allows to stay in touch with chicks who live far away from you. It prevents their numbers
rot at the bottom of your phone, exceeding the expiration date because the calls abroad are
expensive! In addition, they can meanwhile fantasize about your life and your photos! Then
one day, if they come back in your town, maybe they will send you a message!
It helps for making a large-scale social proof. I do not suggest you to take your picture
surrounded by bottles of alcohol at 100 the bottle at the back of a nightclub as some do. But
rather to let ostensibly visible messages of girls on your wall, post holidays pictures that can
make them wet, which will of course be commented by a lot of people!
It allows you to fill information: I do not suggest you become a cyber stalker! But knowing
who your friends in common with your target or when she goes single on FB is always
useful information that helps you to better calibrate!
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Avoid sham. Avoid clichs pictures with strangers. Its a bit ridiculous and it only
highlights the fact that you complex and need to prove that you can make out with girls we
all know that of the time you dont make out with these girls, btw.
Do not become a fan of cyber-babes. Do not like all their photos, not commenting with
waw what a beauty ! You are not a AFC, fuck! Your likes must have a value. Your
comments even more.
The chat is a good pickup tool but do not do shit with it. I mean that if you talk two minutes
to chicks in a party and take their FB then once comfortably at your place you start your
game. Its a bit counterproductive! You will not fuck by interposed computer! Also avoid
sending the same message to two friends otherwise they could make fun of you, like both
answering the same things or falsely warming you.
Its better to ask the FB of chicks instead of adding people who you did not dare to speak in
the party. I mean, you still have to show that you have balls if you have not dared to approach
this party for sure its easier on FB but that does not necessarily communicate good things
about you! In case it is a girl with whom nothing links you (like a dummy profile found by
chance in a group on FB), you have nothing to lose by trying but the odds are low!
Couples: Avoid sugary crap messages to your girlfriend. And avoid photos that spread your
love to light (especially if she does not do the same). It sucks, and then you would be thought
of a jealous pussy! Do not become paranoid by interpreting all the news on her wall as a
threat to your relationship!
Please, do not pollute the FB pages of your contacts by posting crap, inviting them to shitty
games, by tagging them on stupid publications etc. Even if you are a hottie, I could refuse
to fuck you for that.
Do not make FB become a full time job. It can quickly become addictive and time
consuming! This must remain a communication tool.
FB is less intrusive than phone calls (just like text messages). Though now there are calls on
FB, it personally pisses me off! In short, I find its better to manage your response time than
being pressurized and sounded like Nestor by Captain Haddock when he wants his whiskey!
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Personally, its just the people lost to come to my place or who have something to tell me
urgently who phone to me everything else is organized by FB or texts.
Text messages type or prepared message on FB can help to warm chicks and set dates. Being
a supporter of the least effort does not make you a man without balls as some claim on
seduction forums (the anachronistic weirdos)! The calls, me, it pisses me off and in addition it
is often bad news! So I sympathize with chicks and send them an texts or a message on FB.
And I remain alpha because Im not doing this out by cowardice but because I prefer.
Last warning : take good care of your spelling, if you prefer this option, you too! Unless you
like picking up illiterate bitches.
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Conversation-short ?
I have now here in Lyon several Padawans whose biggest problem is the fear of being
conversation-short after two or three minutes of conversation.
Their problem is not even to really be short of it, but they always feel like they will not know
what to say after the opener. Nor how to get her attention.
Their interactions that sometimes start at the speed of Usain Bolt often wind like an asthmatic
in the Olympic games.
And you ? Have you ever felt frustration when an interaction ends because you do not know
what to say? Do you find it embarrassing ?
Below, my advice to fix it. And no I do not limit myself to if theres a silence try to kiss
her. Lol.
1 / The Tortoise and the Hare
Most guys take as much pleasure to approach a girl as when they arrive late in the morning to
work and are lectured in the office of their boss : they are eager to have done with that
disturbing moment.
A natural reaction so : they vomit an opener learned by heart with a rate that could trigger an
epilepsy crisis.
Although at first she answers with a smile, if they continue like that theyll quickly be out of
fuel. So: rather let the words come to you rather than talking at the speed of a Kalashnikov,
which actually emphasizes your nervousness certainly normal but communicative.
For example : The singers in the concert talk to the crowd as follows: SLOWLY!
When you kick a girl out of her occupations or her reveries, be intelligible, and do not talk too
fast. Being comfortable is contagious too. Your bullets will so do a bigger impact.
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2 / Make short
In reality, when we remember our past, we have no sense of time. Your last vacation at the
beach might as well have lasted one, two or three weeks : you would absolutely keep the same
impression about it.
You will have more benefits and be less likely to be eliminated by making things short and
simple. By going straight to the point. Of course : if that is congruent with your body
language.
3 / Keep it simple
I always liked simplicity. It has many advantages. In particular: youre less likely to look like
a weird guy like that (a weirdo). But also less likely to make a misstep.
A study conducted by researchers from the Harvard Business School shows that we tend to
look for dissimilarities among our interlocutors after only a few minutes of interaction. And
since we like what we are, its better to do not leave her much time to count our
dissimilarities . Also, the brains of most people have a certain bad habit to remember more
the negative than the positive.
Women too
Sometimes I approached the girls and I left a silence. Often, those who are interested try to fill
it and there you see all the faults of the AFC. Women are often shy and not used to make
efforts. So even if its an IOI and we appreciate the effort, it is sometimes a little ridiculous
when they do that.
Sometimes they criticize our stuff (to do not have sex with us) but they would do worst if they
had to pick up men. What an injustice!
Sometimes after they feel too stupid and send a text message with a little better quality (a little
more daring). AFC !!!
Damn, its almost snowing outside here, windy dehorners a cuckold and the night now falls
before the time of going out of work. So you better get right to it than staying in the cold
chatting in the street.
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If you want to be the king of oil, I will not lie to you : it is necessary to provide the means. If
you stay at home hoping that a pretty brunette with blue eyes will come in by your window
and join you in your bed waking up with a magic pipe: it is not beforehand won! Do it as your
want but initiate conversations with friendly people, especially pretty girls and make them
want to see you again!
You will become selector as well as you improve your social and sexual abilities, you will one
day or another be unable to find time for all the people who want to see you. You will then
better choose the quality women for quality relationships. Your criteria will be according to
your tastes: physical, intellectual, kindness, culture of the chick etc
If you decide to remain single (or in an open relationship) to dont lose your game, you will
spend warm nights with beautiful girls BUT sexy women in the street still arouse your
interest. Or in a bar with your fuckfriends: you will be preselected. With a huge modjo, it will
be easier for you than for another to approach these girls before they disappear forever in a
metro station. Hoping that the girl have more conversation than a handlebar.
Who are the bad selectors?
Those who are afraid of being thought of as womanizers (limiting beliefs) and deny their
desire to approach beautiful women (avoidance strategy avoiding them to confront their
fears).
Oh yes it is so important to dont make a bed impression on girls that they do not know and
will probably never see again : they want to give the impression of a guy who is not dog. But
they are even more in heat now!
They thank heaven that no one had seen them taking a rake (nobody cares but well). Then
they feel sad as they realize that every time they want to approach they invent crappy excuses.
Because of stress, of course.
They reassure themselves by saying that the shortlisted men do not chase women. THEY
ARE THE PRICE! They are therefore right to adopt strategies of denial and withdrawal. Not
going for it! It is a bit shit and a full box of condoms reminds them every evening they have
fucked only once this month. Take the critical distance of all that to overcome your bad habits
(if you still have some : Im talking about inventing shitty excuses).
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What I find tasty its when politically corrects AFC believe harm me by saying that I sleep
with lots of chicks while they actually make me a huge publicity. Its a big problem to dont
understand women like that!
Confront your fears to reality
Theres really no contradiction between having women in your life and picking up chicks.
Chicks often test me why did you need to pick up if youre really such a good lover Shut
up, bitch. I love it, thats it!
So, would Leo go out in a club with his wingmen to pick up chicks? Ill ask him when I see
him.
Approach chicks: If you always expect them to do the first step, the woman of your life may
never be on your side. Give yourself the opportunity to have a choice between interested
women!
One should always congratulate a guy who had the balls to approach correctly (Im not
talking about riffraff). He dared to confront his fears to reality.
Fake it up until you make it?
If youve got no chick and want to play the preselected alpha who dont give a shit : you put
the cart before the horse except they walk backwards.
Change your behavior by being more alpha but do not make your game rest on this device.
Theres super handsome guys and alpha who do not fuck much. They dont create the
opportunities. Between work, sleep, metro, sports, movies on their computer, etc. Theres also
those that could be hot, like Ian Somerhalder, but do not have the appropriate coaches that
push in their ass. They have the gene but we can see nothing. Theres a lot of guys like that
with great potential who are doubled by opportunists like me. Not that it bothers me but I
want to help! So: MOTIVATION! Work on your personal development to be more alpha and
be active: go out, go for it!
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Self-esteem
What is this fucking self-esteem were talking about all the time? What is it and on what does
it feed?
For Reasoner W.-R: Self-esteem is the consciousness of the personal value that can be
recognized in different areas.
In other words, is to appreciate your true value. And I stress the word TRUE. Not below as
tend to do some of my readers. As to choose, perhaps a little bit superior to reality: its good
for your mood.
Self-esteem mainly feeds on :
Your material success (what you undertake)
Your social success (recognition, feeling appreciated by others)
Obviously your level of self-confidence is related to your self-esteem. The above-mentioned
elements reinforce the positive beliefs about yourself: they remind and reinforce it inside you.
All
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Recess strategies and comparisons with other guys will no longer be needed. Most of your
limiting beliefs will disappear. You will feel better about yourself
According to you, what is your real level? Surely higher than what you imagine right now:
you can bang more beautiful women! You can make threesomes too! You will no longer need
to want to prove anything to anyone. Your interactions become more genuine. And that shittest do you say that to all the girls? / does it usually work with the girls that will no longer
be needed. Maybe it will even make you smile.
The phase of comfort in the Mystery Method is neither more nor less than a phase of
authenticity. It is therefore essential to please and seduce. At least, if you want to establish
real relationships with women, relationships that can lead to healthy and fulfilling
relationships. Why not preferring honesty and exchange to small grooming games?
The purpose of embarking on this little work:
Developing your confidence with a solid foundation, which will be key to your success with
women and in other areas;
Enjoying your success because you have won, I mean the real you, and do not depend on
success to feel good.
Why not living better with yourself and with the women who are part of your life? Everyone
will be better off. What so tragic have you to hide, really?
Examples:
Some struggle against anxiety to approach a woman. If they took a step back on it, they would
realize how ridiculous it is. They would say Im going for it, Im not a weak boy!
Some have been abused by an ex who took them for idiots. They then multiply the fuckfriends because they do not want to give women the control again. They are obsessed by
jealousy when they see frequently a woman too. These behaviors disappoint themselves. By
identifying them, they will better master them.
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Some lie to their partners by having multiple serious relationships simultaneously. They
therefore also have a lack of conviction and do not assume what they really want. It might be
time to take stock of their life, it must be stressful to lie to everyone like that with the fear of
being uncloaked.
Some base their pseudo-confidence of the day in alcohol or in a coach but the next day they
become introverted again. They ruin their liver when others go down to the basement bar
with a strange and penetrating modjo, dark and terribly sensual. A sexual aura around them
accompanies them when they approach women. If they had a history of timid, it is now a
distant memory.
To be continued
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I find it vulgar to brag. And way too common among men! Remember what they say a rich
doesnt need to say he is rich.
Avoid speaking in a monotone tone, do not go flat out. Take the time when you talk, you will
sub-communicate that youre not afraid she leaves before you have finished your sentence. So
its cool
Assume to make eye contact when you speak!
Do not get lost in the details, in the factual, emphasize emotions. Talk about your mindset
when you lived the anecdote. Make her visualize the story!
Avoid lambda adjectives. Replace them with original synonyms, metaphors, funny images or
surprising comparisons. The stories could be about what you saw that night, crazy people you
have met, or cool people. About the actual situations, about people around, etc. Your passions
like : I love writing, but why?
Exercise 1: 5 identify themes that define you. Try to say why.
Exercise 2: Write in the comments, or in Word, a story telling of an event that marked you
and let us live the scene. What about? What marked you. Life is a movie in fast forward but
sometimes we make pause times, or we often want to see again some things in thoughts. That
is your reserve of inspiration, lively and precise.
When you tell something to a girl, its better if she does active listening: her imagination is
running at full speed! She lives the story with you! She wants to know what happened! She is
requesting thats the goal.
You can ask questions to get her involved, like you know what you felt when you put the
float in the pool while your friends doesnt?
Ah hahaha yesssss
Well here, I felt like that. So, I no longer want to go swimming.
Its better of course if the storytelling allows her to identify with the situation. Warning: we
do not practice narcissism but the conversation must instead be a moment of sharing. One can,
with care, give her a different light on her own stories
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Bouncing on a story about what she says, finally, allows to find good conversation starter!
Your turn to play !
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Going out can pose financing problems too. Paying for dates, paying for clubs, its damn
expensive! Subscribing on dating sites is nothing compared to that. I advise you to stay of
course in the free places and please do not systematically invite babes in paying dates. Me, I
quickly did the math: Adopt its 20 per month and I stay warm during the winter. It does not
really impinge on my free time, since it is like if I was answering text messages on my cell.
And the chicks come to me directly by bringing something to eat or drink. Perfect!
Your state of fatigue inevitably attacks your modjo if you do this mistake : you are more
irritable, you will less responsive and will lack of initiative on the field and at work, etc. And
it will be obvious! And then your learning curve will be reversed! When youre too tired,
physically or psychologically, it is not a good idea to yell and gesticulate in all the directions
to compensate. Take a break and put some order in your life for a fresh start.
The Feng Shui will tell you: coming home in a clean, airy and pleasant place will help you to
have a better image of yourself! And that makes sense! Also, when you invite a girl at home,
it will be reassuring for you to know that she will not accidentally sit on a piece of stale pizza.
So start from there!
Also note that only 5% of the population may be in good shape with less than 8 hours of
sleep. If you violate this quota, it may expose you to risks of depression and other accidents or
health problems more or less serious. It is also clear that by being in better shape, your times
out will be more productive and you will more enjoy going out.
To be more successful, I logically recommend you to try to have a balanced life, but not too
busy (take care of yourself) and an interesting one. Continue to learn the art of seduction
and fucking, but keep going out to play sports and see your friends who are not in the
community of the seduction. Also see again the girls you like!
You can make a beautiful encounter at any moment, so do not overlook anything. The best
would be that seduction is part of your life in an integrated way (except at work where its
delicate anyway) and not compartmentalized.
Be hungry of pretty girls, its cool! But know how to recognize when youre exhausted and
you stir the air. Reframe yourself before doubting about yourself. The desire and energy are
the main drivers of PUA therefore must be protected.
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It is obvious that when I fucked two chicks the day before and the afternoon, I have no envy
when I go in a bar after in order to try to pick up. Do you see what I mean?
Making 20FC per month is not a sign of good mental health. Like in everything, some
moderation is necessary!
Its not a contest, stop wondering who has the biggest dick (its your black friend).
See you later, alligator !
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Introverts men are the main victims of this negative discrimination. They seem disturbing
because they make women feel uncomfortable (especially by being themselves uncomfortable
since it is contagious). And it is only in the movies that women give the benefit of doubt. In
reality, they rather say things like, yeahre surely a great guy, you will find a lot of
girlfriends but not her, of course, do not dream!
What is weird and what is not, it is still quite objective and we have the right to be a damn
weirdo if we want. After all, who makes the rules? If you are weird and fuck enough, after all,
who cares ? However, for your information, heres weird behaviors (non-exhaustive list):
A fascination with violence, blood, weapons;
A passion for hurting animals;
Video games (especially violent);
Heroic fantasy (except Game of Thrones) and other big geek stuff;
Waiting fifteen minutes while staring at a chick before daring to approach her with an
indirect excuse;
Being needy, calling her or talking to her all the time on the Facebook chat, especially if she
does not answer;
Behaving like a guy in a couple when you just saw her a few times;
Not knowing the line between persistence-that-can-pay and sociopathic behavior;
Asking too many personal questions to the point she will wonder if youll sell that
information to a hacker;
An excessive and unhealthy politeness, apologizing all the time, hide too much your
intentions;
Etc.
A guy REALLY becomes alarming:
When he seems trying to hide shameful thoughts and intentions ;
When he so insistent that we do not even know if he speaks French and understands the
word no.
So this is why girls avoid being alone with this kind of characters. They are too afraid of
being raped, sequester and cut into pieces. Although, again, this is not necessarily the guys
who look the weirdest who are in fact.
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You probably know it already: we subcommunicate more than we communicate with our
words. So: your posture, the way you move and your tone of voice is more important than the
opener you will choose. Try to be relaxed or at least to seem relax. And know that she may
criticize your opener, but it would be a logical response to an emotional feeling: she
will try to verbalize her feelings. I have already approached with hello are you the one who
farted? and I love you !!!
Momentum: When we approached many times, we are warm, and then we approach more
easily. The most difficult, are the first ones. I call them warming up .
Pretty girls have their ass stared at all the time. Sometimes it turns them on, sometimes it
repels. In the case of a sex-starved dude who has no female friends and has not touched a
woman for several months, she will not like it : so never communicate that you are in mode
sex-starved . In no way. Even if this is the case. ESPECIALLY if that is the case. An alpha
has the choice of women, so he is not hungry. Do you want her to take you seriously or not?
In two words: step your foot into action first, the brain will follow and activate when youll
open your mouth. These are often last-minute interference that come and block approaches.
So introduce yourself in the set, for example, and you will see after what will happen. Why
anticipating?
Staying mobile or waiting until they pass in front of you?
In a club, in a crossing such as the bar or in a corridor, you can approach the girls passing
before you. Assembly line. It saves your energy (not moving). Its like when youre waiting
for your suitcase at the airport.
You can also approach when you walk through the crowd to go to the toilet or elsewhere. In
movement, we are by definition less needy. Then fuck her in the toilet ;)
On the dancefloor, I rather recommend an approach based on the body language, take her
hand or dance with her. Anyway, Im not really a dancer , especially when Im alone. But
dancing with a girl in order to warm her, yeah, why not?
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I will now address the problem of the lack of money. I rarely spend more than 2 or 3 when I
go out practicing pickup. Although now I have a job, I enjoy playing broke and construct
limited money plans! I find it exhilarating, creative and rebellious. One of our most important
resources in life is our resourcefulness! Survival instinct: ON. Seriously, I would surely fuck
more chicks if I bought bottles, drink or fags. SHIT NOW ! I prefer the old barter: the girl
does something for me and I reward her with lots of orgasms. In any area, offer your services
to those who need it and dare to ask for the help of those who can lend you a hand.
Time is a real constraint, on the other hand. We must use it wisely. Select the most important
things, those that would provide you the best welfare. Finding one hottie (or more) and having
a regular sexual activity, is it important to you? At what point ? Up to you. Tackle what will
make a real difference in your life, and go after things.
Make a decision, lets say tonight, not next year.
Anyway BRAVO for reading this article until the end. It proves that you feel that something
is wrong and you want to change it. It is a very noble goal, wanting to move your ass. So
youre now faced with a choice:
1/ save my blog in your bookmark and take care of your game WHEN THE IDEAL TIME
WILL COME. That is to say, probably never. Or come back in six months with a bitter taste
in the mouth: you lost a lot of time and sex-opportunities. Or worse, you will lose the contact
information of the blog and will try to find me but it will be too late. You will end up on a site
full of politically correct advice that will not significantly help you. Remember the truth will
piss you off at first, but it will also set you free. Why closing your eyes?
2 / NOW, take the decision to DRAMATICALLY change the course of your love life. For
that, I advise you of course my collection of ebooks that is not bad. Give yourself the means
to succeed, if you like my conception of the game!
For my part, I finally wrote this article so I am happy and I feel better (like after ejaculating
when youve been hard all day long). And you, where are you with that?
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It is important to communicate with your target on an empathic mode too. Do not only
communicate on the explicit mode (meaning of words) but also a lot on the implicit mode
(gestures, cum facial expressions, posture, tone of voice). Why is it important too? Because
you will unconsciously or consciously both send to each other nonverbal signs of invitation to
carnal pleasure. I refer in particular to prolonged glances, delicious silences, touches, smiles
so focus your attention on those little things that tell so much
Wonder for example :
Are you both in a bubble off of the world? => YES? KISSCLOSE.
Is the tone of her voice soft? Is it becoming even softer? => YES? KISSCLOSE.
How does she react to innuendo? Compliments? => OK? KISSCLOSE.
Instead, does she try to avoid proximity and why? Does she seems distracted or elsewhere?
=> Warning! (but it costs nothing to try anyway, but perhaps it is better calibrate and wait
until later). Do not confuse speed with haste.
If you miss scoring chances, do not cut your veins. We all miss some. We all had a chance to
initiate a first kiss but yet we did not. With or without having invented false excuses, either.
However, lets not kill ourselves and do not spend our time regretting the past. Lets rather
and seize the next opportune moment. Unfortunately, we remember more the negative than
the positive, but if she gives a sign of disinterest interest for 10 signs its good nonetheless.
Its worth a try!
Do your eyes fall on the contour of her lips? Do you perceive in her a palpable disorder. A
heat wave travels you. Damn: what is stopping you from taking a step toward her, moving a
hand behind her neck and approaching your own lips? You are not even really listening to
her now. The seconds pass, as long centuries.
If you did not kiss, you can have fun and recreate that magical moment. Or at least, the same
conditions. Like do you remember, earlier? We talked about [] and I felt [] I stopped
listening to you, I do not know if you felt the same. I couldnt take my eyes off of your bright
eyes, your pretty lips and I wanted to kissclose. Or, earlier you
perhaps felt I really wanted to do that . kissclose.
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Speak slowly and maintain her eye contact while doing that. Normally, if she wanted you 5
minutes before, she still wants. I say NORMALLY because they are people who are blocked
by those guys who did not have the balls to try . But hey, in Top Gun, Tom Cruise
purposely gets close of his target without trying to kiss her just to bring up sexual tension, and
it works well, but he did it with a a playful and confident face. So never let her think youre
not in control nor confident.
BUT WHAT IF she refuses my kiss? The fear of embarrassment that would follow a refusal
petrifies most men. It is the phobia to end up helpless without knowing where to hide or what
to do nor say to regain capacity and credibility that often prevents men from giving it a try.
The guys start by thinking about consequences, fuck who saw us? And to who will she tell it,
this whore? They will laugh at me (or other paranoid delusions).
Detach yourself from it, guys. It happens to everyone at least to those who have the balls to
take action. BE PROUD BECAUSE YOUVE TRIED YOUR LUCK (AND HERS)! Its
really more exhilarating than having tried nothing and coming back home with regrets in the
pockets!
Why not just smiling at rejection, after all? Why not asking her if it had already happened to
her and why? Most girls would like to kiss the first one but are scared to get rejected. So: they
say that it is the role of the man to do so. So why not challenging her, Listen if you want
later, it will be your turn to try to kiss me, and maybe youll see how you feel when you try to
kiss someone who likes it you feel like high ! It gives you a crazy energy!
(Take of course the ideas but change the words, I typed it as it came.)
The reaction to the rejection is paramount. Any PUA will tell you that. I speak well about it in
The inconvenient truth about gender relations : for some women, rejecting you once is a test,
and they will accept later if you do not get cold feet nor insult her, dont call her bitch.
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I think flirting is an act of cooperation. I do not like the girls who play the man and like
confrontation. I prefer it to be played by the two of us and that we go together until the
orgasm, each one making an effort. I understand the shit-tests and tolerate them if they are not
excessive but after it pisses me off and I have the impression that the girl is trying to find
excuses to avoid spending a good time. I think of the bitches who are waiting for me to do all
the work or who play it like a princess while they are not Kate Middleton they do not
deserve me. I love the girls who have will and strength of character.
In a nutshell: lets not forget to be present in the moment in order to pay attention to the little
signs that reveal an invitation. Then, only remains to pick the ripe fruit (I speak of course of
her apricot).
Lets trust ourselves. Lets abandon ourselves to our feelings rather than construct disasterscenarios. I like kissing chicks anytime too, even when they expect it the least. I find it funny
(game rather than issue). And there are people who cannot show their interest or are too
shy/tight-ass to do so. I would say: the best time to kiss a girl is when you feel like it.
A good kiss with sexual tension can even make you hard. Especially if you fiddle her at the
same time. If youre hard, its okay, I think she will be flattered! I talk about how to kiss in
the manual of the good lover, and in this article too.
Go now, and do not forget to tease her: that tough love.
XXX.
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Whether we wanted it or not, verbally or not, we express things. You cannot not
communicate. We communicate through our emotions. Thats why it is so difficult to bluff
when we play poker. There are too many muscles on the face, some of them very difficult to
control (you do not even know that most of them exist), which only serve to transcribe our
emotional state. There are dozens of micro-expressions as, for example, those that The
Mentalist tries to recognize to see if someone is lying or not (yet need to know what to look
for).
We are all equipped with unaware sensors that allow us to understand if our partner is angry,
happy, sad, scared, excited, etc. Sometimes even we react without consciously saying to
ourselves hey, he is scared him but we still adapt. We just adapt our behavior in the
most profitable way to our interests. The communication of emotions is two-way, the control
is very delicate, and we all react to emotions that are communicated. Where from the principle
of contagion of emotions: being sexually aroused, being relaxed and confident, or simply
being happy: it is unconsciously on your face. And it influences the chicks reactions ( more
often positively).
How to manage our emotions?
Some emotions are repressed by the socio-cultural environment, or the fixed ideas of our
parents or friends. It is often difficult, but it is most of the time useful to put into words our
feelings to be able to act in the best way to feel good. Why keeping buried in us something
that eats us from the inside? But on the other hand, how to get rid? Sometimes its repressed;
too, we do not even know why it is like that. Sometimes we reproduce a diagram. Well, I am
not a psychotherapist so I cannot tell you more about how to heal emotions that hurt us.
Instead, I will tell you about how to use them constructively in your game.
I prefer using the emotional contagion to motivate, charm, excite, help and even make
shameless people around me. When I give a fuck about people, I try to pay attention to the
signals they send me and to my feelings during interactions. Exchange is always more
beneficial to both parts. In addition, it is better calibrated and more sincere.
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I remember when I started to conclude at most of my dates, I had a simple technique. I did not
try to talk about me. Nor to sell myself. I was just trying to get them talking about them, get
them talking about light stuff, without fuss. I was trying to avoid the nervous movements and
all the stuff that breaks sexual tension. From time to time, I handed a sexual perch to see how
they react. If it did not work, I told them they had a dirty mind. If it took, I did it again a little
later to put their minds salacious ideas and dirty desires! They often reproached me for not
talking enough about me, then: they asked me a question, just listened to the answer and
started again talking about themselves. And in the end, they said they felt very comfortable
with me and wanted to sleep with me.
Can we always feel good ?
Well, finally, Im going to destroy a myth (one more). Would you like to be happy every day?
Know that this is impossible. And it would not be a good thing, anyway. We NEED negative
emotions (of course not excessively but wisely). We need them because they warn us, warn us
of danger and keep us alive as prepare us to react. People who do not feel pain, for example,
can burn their hand without even noticing it. Those who do not experience fear (eg if the
amygdala is removed) less enjoy security and will be tempted to take unnecessary risks. Thus,
their life expectancy is shorter.
Imagine if you were watching the weather and they say that it will be fine tomorrow, when in
fact there will be a hurricane: it would not be very useful. And even worse it does not allow
you to prepare yourself. You might even be surprised and hurt by the storm.
What is true, on the other hand, is that it is interesting to shield a bit if we are very sensitive.
Or working on your empathy if you have a heart of stone. It is important to have a balance.
Not being too cold but not too weak either. I have always been a sensitive boy, even VERY
sensitive. Like: I love animals, I even save ants in the pool, etc. I have also a lot of empathy, I
sometimes suffer with the people for things that hardly affect me. At first the girls have
continually disappointed me, hurt me, etc. But with time and experience, I shielded, and now
it is them who often get addicted before me. Finally, I am far from being a rock either, a small
heart beats under my PUA shield. And its not always easy, but Im proud of it. Proud of
keeping this human side, this romantic side, this fragile side. I guess that I will never become
arrogant nor contemptuous jerk (some people think I am) I hope someone Ill stay simple and
accessible.
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All this to say that yes, it helps to shield a little, when one is too sensitive, it helps to regain
control. But using the game (or any power) to make people suffer ways means a lot : people
who do that are to be pitied because they feel pains and subconsciously want you to suffer and
feel as bad as them. Or they are psychopaths. I react differently to my pain and I hope Ill
inspire some : why not rather doing our best making so that others have a little joy? Especially
if it does not cost much to us. And then, who knows ? Karma you may pay you back.
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In addition, by being focused on the guy, you will make the girls think. I remember once in
party of I showed disinterest to an American and so she started to shake her ass in front of me
to get my attention back. It was pretty fun when you think about it. I had kissed her but the
fact is that after I had kissed another girl on her bed and she was a little angry. Well, this is
another story.
My conclusion: making friends with guys can bring you more chicks than crossing swords
with all the dudes just to try to get a particular girl. Im here talking about a rational approach
rather than an emotional one (the instinct of the not educated and sex-starved man is rather
often to defend his territory even if he has not yet planted seeds in the fertile soil).
My motto: I love women and some pay me off well.
The disturbing AMOG
There are basically three types of AMOG who can piss you off well:
The drunk idiot;
The cocky player;
The sociable handsome and funny guy.
My advice :
Stay close to the girl, implying that you are close, it will dissuade more than one;
Kino : it creates attraction and the comfort;
Push him but not aggressively rather like an alpha eg a little tap on the shoulder;
If he starts to speak directly to the girl ignoring you, you can answer like you have
beautiful eyes you know (to the girl)
Thank you (you answer).
Isolate the target it was a pleasure talking to you see you soon bro and take her by the
hand. Otherwise the conversation may become boring, the girl may be pissed off and leave
both of you together.
Its a bit naughty to use your body language, turning back and placing yourself between him
and the girl, but hey, sometimes you have to.
If he does as if you did not exist honestly guy I respect you for having the balls to
approach her but she is with me so good night! A little bit rude, but hey if he is works
rather he is weird or if the girl is attracted to you.
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Do not fight for a girl, seriously. Fight only if he does something stupid against you or her.
If the guy who AMOG is a friend of you (jealous type) or a (bad) wingman, here is the best
solution: dominate the conversation and extract the target at the right time. According to the
rules of the wingman : normally the one who open is the one who has priority to try his luck.
After if the girl doesnt like him, the other can go In any case, never attempt to discredit or
whatever one of your wingmen. Ethics, damn it!
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It is true, I admit, I am not very tolerant, I ask them a lot and make fewer concessions but
we both lose. Her, orgasms, and me a hot girl. All that complemented by a memorable
adventure that will be remembered (because of the adrenaline that is precisely what prevents
many from taking action it pisses me off because of my anxiety attacks I had to learn how to
manage imaginary fears so much that now I laugh when I see what stresses some girls and I
really wonder how they would have done if they had gone through what I went through).
Anyway, back to the point: if we really want to increase our chances, it is advisable to put an
intro before the pushy direct game. When I say an intro, I speak of a rapid exchange or a
story-telling including DHV.
The temerity of the direct game too often dessert even if it allows banging hot babes, without
many complications. But you have to be strong in your head because sometimes the flames
back hurts a lot. Some bitches want to put you back in place, we do not know why, it looks
like it is their mission on Earth to spoil the joy of others. Some youll fuck them, but only
once, they will be too good for you, and youll think of them your whole life being jealous of
the guy who married them (OI).
Theres chicks who believe we use very direct game because we are afraid of a
conversation or we cannot handle a conversation! That we are so anxious, we prefer
jumping into the water, closing our eyes. It is true that it is logical if we see evil everywhere.
However, for me, it is rather a test, the proof: a girl who laughs to my cocky-funny opener, I
would be happy to have a conversation with her after. More willingly than a frustrated bitch
who rebelled because you have not offered her a drink. I prefer to break the ice like that, I
cannot help it
Sometimes I abuse. Im not focused. For example: Hi, would you like to kiss me? Here, I
zap a little the comfort phase by practicing like that. I play double or quits. The opener is also
VERY generic. Chicks (like us) like feeling a bit special. Some do not take us seriously, think
that we are making fun of them. It does not mean that it doesnt work sometimes but its
nice to add a little calibration. With that said, this kind of approach is very funny when we see
the face of the girls when they hear this: they often do not believe their ears.
Moreover, it helps to desensitize, because when we approached like that, we can do soft
approaches more easily after!
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Ashamed of anything now, we are free you can do it in a huge scale : and playing on the
number, it pays. It is statistically better to make 20 generic cold approaches than two highly
targeted approaches. Especially, if it is to learn after 2 hours of conversation that the girl is
sleeping with her friend or has a boyfriend to whom she will remain faithful well thank you
but no thank you! You can have more targets with this kind of game !
By making pushy direct game, be ready to sometimes suffer from strong returns. So a
beginner who is still seeking his self-confidence may be destroyed with this little game. They
can be very arrogant and hurtful ESPECIALLY if they are people around (cf. social pressure,
feels uncomfortable because believe you just call whore since that is her biggest fears seen
how she is sexy dressed, is in trouble because torn between temptation and education). I know
that this logic is quite disconcerting because besides that they will say that a confident guy
who knows what he wants excites them. Finding a balance is delicate. But do not forget the
saying a good fisherman must learn how to think like a fish.
My conclusion
An alpha guy who has the choice of women likes to know in what he sailed before spending
two hours with a green plant. Where from the point of the test before taking her seriously and
investing in her. Well, in my opinion. Be ready to date any girl is a kind of DLV. Its a good
thing that she proves her value before. That she makes efforts. It shows that she is a bit more
clever than average. But the cute girls are not really used to it, usually 15 guys flock to them
as soon as they walk into a bar. Inevitably, it distort men/women relationships and makes
them lose touch with reality. And since you do not do like others, he average stupid girl is
going to think youre the idiot.
Finally, note that sometimes theres times when the most daring game will work and times
when whatever you do its not working. I guess that there are cycles then I do not know where
it comes from if its the moon, the seasons, or our state of mind Well, I have often noticed
that phenomenon. There are times when all my buddies FuckClose and others when we all
feel bad because luck does not smile us. In this case, my advice is to apply a basic game to
return to success and so making a fresh start.
I like putting my foot in it!
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Today, most chicks below 25 years are shaved or depilated with wax (8000 hair on average
thats too much for the tweezers). Maybe not those who have not yet begun their sexual lives
but others generally are. Nearing thirty, Ive seen more girls with the metro ticket on their
pussies. Is it already composted? This is the question.
As notorious fucker, as a libertine who is not fucking libertine chicks, I must say that I took a
liking to any all clean, hairless pussy. Sometimes its funny: she has got no hair on her pussy,
but has on her ass. Well, sweetie are you kidding me ?! In this case, the best idea is definitely
fuck from the front! ;)
The hairs on the body just like the pubis serve to limit areas of friction. Pubic hair is useful
especially during sex because they create an interface between the skin and promote a shift to
a different skin.
A study showed higher scores of sexual satisfaction for fans of completely naked pubis,
without the possibility of saying if the women who feel the more comfortable with their
bodies and their private parts revealed are the ones who likes showing them or if the pubic
deprivation promotes sexual fulfillment.
Social pressure and fashion phenomena also influence the girls about their intimate hygiene
(although some hairs, its not dirty).
The full shaving is more common than full hair waxing. Certainly for practical or pain
reasons.
For men, shaving or clipping the hair makes the penis look bigger. In any case, its better to
avoid the Amazon forest at this place if you like blowjobs.
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I recognize myself in him a little, when he speaks of his mother, in this book. He said she was
a little stuffy. Like mine (and my father too). He had a rather boring childhood, without
realizing it at the time, just like me.
After his life of PUA, he went in sexual detox (or rehab). They identified him emotional
incest. Seriously, I hope its not my case.
In my fantasies, I want to live with two women who would love each other as they would love
me and who would bear my children. But this is just a dream and I will content myself with a
pretty, healthy, slim, sweet, intelligent, courageous, not too much a pain in the ass girl.
I want a healthy relationship. I want to be really transparent and honest with my wife and my
children. I do not necessarily want them to be players, what I want is that they are good in
communication to understand the world, protect themselves, dominate others and succeed in
life!
To the question: would I enjoy an open relationship until my penis is no longer able to get
hard? On one side, I like the moment between the opener and penetration: I love the Game for
the game. On the other hand, it would piss me off, I guess, that someone else fucks MY
WIFE. The fantasy of purity and all that shit, when it applies to your wife, is not necessarily
the same thing that when it applies to a fuckfriend. With that said, if Im the only one with
who she fucks without a condom, it may be enough maybe. To be tested ! What I want is to
have special privileges.
That said, I do not know if it would be very healthy for my children that their parents are
libertines.
In his book, Neil discusses the delicate issue once Im in a serious relationships, how can I
make it work?
Its a good question. So far, almost every relationship Ive built fell apart. In The Truth, the
author wonders whether we would not be the victim of a former trauma, maybe we repeat the
same things again and again? Its a bit like what plays in our mind when we always want to
get our ex we idealize back or when repeated endlessly the same patterns that leads to nothing
good and we are emotionally desperate!
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I do not want to be, in my turn, an ignoring or stuffy a parent. I do not want my children to
suffer, to devalue constantly, to feel depressed, anxious, etc. I do not want that, like me, my
children need affection, but quickly feel stifling and therefore never attach themselves to
people for too long.
The conclusion of the book is that the marriage of love is not what corresponds to our wild
bodies! Wedding is a cultural thing, we must make sacrifices for it to work. The greatest
biologists and psychologists agree to tell so. Our body says why looking for our soul sister ?
I dont like incest.
Do not trade long-term happiness for short-term pleasure. Rick Rubin
Masturbate once and you will feel better! Fabrice Julien
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Theres guys who think the online pickup is a brake on the development of the seducer. I do
not agree. Indeed, a dating site removes a lot of barriers and allows direct access to the first
date (but you still have to get it). But precisely, it helps to learn to be good on the first dates.
Moreover, if we fuck the chicks after, it enable you to become more confident and thus to
shine more in all other types of pickup. Finally, the first date or the sex are IRL therefore we
must also like each other: BL and communication aspects come into play. These are not date
in which we throw each one on the other when we meet: it happened to me a few times and it
was not the coolest dates of my life.
Dating sites are only a tool to put two people in touch. Just like the nightclubs. But, a month
on a dating site is often as expensive as only ONE good night in a club. We can criticize
companies that capitalize on singles but we can also criticize the mafia of the night that does
exactly the same thing. The trick is to dont fall in commercial drifts like offering virtual
flowers to babes for the modest sum of $ 5, pff (they dont care about virtual gifts lol)
We have taken a number in the street, in a bar or on a dating site : then, phone game. Then we
get, if all goes well, a first date. And finally, the rest happens IRL. Period. We also confronts
the reality if we pickup on the internet, keep it in mind.
Why online dating would require less effort? To make a profile, etc. Granted: its easier to
click on a mouse than to find HB in a particular place at a precise moment. However, isnt it a
return on time and effort? And is it not therefore a form of intelligence? Pragmatism.
I also grant you that there are many girls (and guys) who are very unattractive, on dating sites,
but neither more nor less than IRL. For those who are just looking for a sexfriend, and found a
partner on the same wave length: this is perfect and the net can sometimes allow to be frank
where there might be some misunderstandings IRL and therefore a heart broken in the end.
For those looking for something else, a girl to carry their child, people with conversation,
there is also stuff in stock. I have not only met chicks for a one night stand online.
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The danger of online, it is losing touch with reality. Congratulations to those who draw their
game with the online pickup but I give a yellow card to those who do only it by default. My
opinion is you should include it to your whole game: we will always need a sms/chat game,
but we must not forget reality because it inevitably comes back and a few rakes in a bar
allow to keep your feet on the ground. It must be used in addition to the real pickup! But
real = ? The only not real pickup, its the fake FC, right ?
But it is no different from SPU, or NPU, in the sense that if a player practices only it, he has
not a complete game. It is not miraculous either, the OD, if you just come up and say do you
want to fuck? You will not go far.
Picking up on the Internet, it is neither an act of cowardice or weakness, or even ease. This is
the opinion of those who are not in and observe from afar those for who it works. The girls
are not easier, but some of assume more online than in front of a stranger in the street. Why a
solution nof ease? Because it generally works better than SPU? This is common sense,
especially seen the climate with the attacks, terrorists and everything. Why weakness, because
the legend says that girls are fat, ugly, full of problems? Stereotype, idea received, a red card.
Then, never believe the legends (my blog can be confusing): the net does not allow to get laid
as soon as a girl visits our profile. Theres not on one side chicks of the bars/clubs and on the
other side chicks who are registered on a dating site.
Seriously, cant I smell a slight whiff of jealousy ? Those who succeed online and fuck a lot
are just efficient. At one time, I read yeah but in the night its easy it is cheating, the SPU is
the only real thing. This was already the exact same problem. These people do not assume
so denigrate. Its always a little bit a shame to be on a dating site, but a PUA must be better
than that and assume.
Lets keep in mind that the point of the pickup is still to meet and fuck beautiful women. Not
to stir the air for the sake of art. However, the time invested for dates got from the OD cannot
be carried over the SPU/NPU and if in addition we fuck the chicks: envy when we go out on
the field has inevitably diminished.
Theres also people for whom it is a matter of common sense to practice on the Internet:
Those who have a job and no time (or a good schedule) to do SPU nor too much NPU
except on Saturday night;
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They can pickup at the same time they do something else on the computer or on their phone;
They like to write, it is their strong point;
To screw the married women;
If they are suffering from school phobia or agoraphobia (this was my case);
Etc.
Theres plenty of chicks that will connect online because do not like bars/clubs (do not drink
alcohol/do not use drugs) are practicing chicks sports, studies where there are only girls and
gays, have a taking work. So, remains the street and the internet to fuck them what is the
probability to cross them in the street? Low. But are they worse than women met IRL ? No.
Clearly not.
Furthermore, I see no reason why the percentage of fuckable chicks would be higher in the
street or the subway than on the Internet? I observed around me the other day and my
conclusion is: theres not much fuckable woman if you take away the old, ugly, fat, chicks in
a relationship and faithful, etc. I like to venture outside the circle (which I always find too
small) but between fucking a 6 met in the subway and a 9 met on the Internet, the choice is
quickly made!
Communicating by networks, virtual message and conveying emotions, communicating in
writing, it is a part of the social dynamics that is playing an increasingly important role in
todays society. It would be stupid to dont use it. Its easier to develop an idea by writing
than to repeat it all the time if you want to use it in a big scale. Additional argument: all times,
humanity has written kinky letters. Although this written communication is different from the
rest of the game and still a minority, do not denigrate it because it basically communicates the
same messages than the other Game schools. Rather denigrate those who took refuge in a
particular segment of these dynamics but who claim to know everything (which is right of
course for the online, but also for the NPU and SPU).
I know here in Lyon people who practice only SPU (you do not know why they do not even
come to NPU). They have no job and do that all day. The guy I know has done it since
September and has just got 1FC (in 4 months). Yeah, hes good in the street so what?
During this time they are out of breath in the street, I have FC 18 girls and have been good at
work.
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Id say these guys criticize opportunistic guy like me because they are jealous (just like the
guy who says a HB8 is a 6 if she doesnt want him but is she wants him she is a 10 it is bad
faith). They want to play and the cocky men but they do alone a dick contest: Im the
strongest even if I fuck less because I approach for real (because me, of course, I approach
for wrong). Thats their problem if they want to find shitty excuses for their failure.
Theres chicks that make a profile on the Internet only to feel desired. OK, but they are people
in the street that will take your number with kindness too. And youll never meet them again!
Theres not only fakes and sluts. Theres its true a lot of sites where there are hostesses (fake
profiles) but hey need to sort before registering, its like when you go to a bar where theres
only balls.
This should be beneficial to the moaners who practice in the street because they have less
competitors on the field. So I do not see where is the problem for them ? Must explain
to me thats where we understand that their reaction is irrational, like hatred is in general.
They may be afraid that we fuck the chicks online and then in the street they dont want them
anymore? Must move with the times, too. I know guys who pride themselves to have no
phone. It is ridiculous too.
Its a bit like those who make their living on the net. Why criticizing? Good for them (they
earn , I fuck HB7/8/9/I never give 10). They may be smarter than us, we, the idiots employed
by an asshole.
Snipe in the interview I recorded, talks about online dating. So if one of the best PUA of
France says its good, its not lambda guys on a well known forum that will have the last word
and that will make me change my mind. Cajun and David de Angelo agree too. Personally,
Ive until 6 FC in a month online, its good. Call me liar, if you want, we will good laugh
during my third diary when I will publish the evidence! Meanwhile, here are my tips and
routines to get laid online!
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The bottom line. Denigrating the online pickup is in my view the same level of false beliefs
than ugly girls are easier to fuck than beautiful ones. It would be logical but wrong
because when you say so you think like if we could remove everything that is fear,
complexes, principle of coherence, etc. Online, theoretically, we should be able to fuck more
than we do but the fact is they are ashamed to be on a dating site too, they are afraid, etc. You
need a high level of persuasion to bring a chick directly are your place. In terms of quality,
you have to learn too, first of all the rule of the 10kg (always at least 10kg of difference
between her size and weight 1m70 60kg okay, 1m70 55kg she is very hot, 1m70 70kg
noooooooo), several photos are needed too or try to find her FB.
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Then he fucks her (still without hug, kiss, nothing) in several positions and she cums (not
him). Frankly boring. Zero. A waste of time. Purely mechanical sex. Not what I like! It was
impersonal. I have not even felt the beginning of an erection, rather a vague sense of unease.
The funniest was the leader: a real cartoon of a guy who works in porn (porn producer). A guy
with no hair, short, fat, vulgar loudmouth. His punchline ass, it is not only useful to sit
down. Lol! I was wondering if these guys really fuck the hotties from the world of the X
(like in the clich) or not.
In the alleys, I have been approached several times by girls. In fact, the concept is that fucking
sex-bombs smile you. They do like sluts. And if you smile back, they approach you do you
want a lapdance?
Fuck yeah, whats the price?
60 for two dances ie 7mn, 100 for a sextoy show.
Damn !!! She must be very hot so it worth it. Im talking about the sexy dancing, because the
show with dildos, its not my cup of tea. Chicks try to make you feel guilty when you say no,
I am not to your taste, right? Frankly, they all are not beautiful. And when you propose
them to meet up outside or give to give you their number its forbidden by my boss.
I toured all the stands, sometimes it was the pimp who approached me you seem timid
Yes very.
Do you want a young novice in the world of porn? a future star? for 80 she gives you a
show and then because youre young and not aggressive who knows what can happen
Seriously! The guy hopes Ill believe that. Like if the girl was going to shake you and suck
you. He sells dreams. Theres not written pigeon on my forehead! Im not a guy missing in
lack of sex led by the end of his dick!
The guys who bought a strip then waited that the girl is done with her previous customers. I
remember the usual prices of prostitutes: 30 a blowjob, 50 sex. So, for that matter, Id
rather buy a pure hottie prostitute at the Spanish border for fun.
Finally, there was a Jacquie et Michel stand that had put an ad like what they were looking for
actors/actresses. I asked how much it was paid 200 for guys and 300 for women for a scene
which lasts on average between 1 and 2 hours.
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But, they take only single women or couples how surprising. Bis repetita, I wonder if these
guys do fuck the hottie we can see in the movies while they are old and ugly.
A thought for the girl of the body painting who, since she tasted the joys of striptease in
Australia, continues to practice in Paris. Despite her psychology degree she has a strong
character! At least, thanks to her, I can say that I banged a stripper.
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Recording of a cunnilingus
Orgasm @ 7:30 ;)
Do not hesitate to share it, its funny and not politically correct ;)
Link : https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=yxlokKGf5uw
I cant wait to read the comments of all the tight-ass people.