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As I reflect on the most relevant sociocultural factors that shaped my ways of embarking
upon and sustaining relationships, I find that community expectations in tandem with ethical
factors hold significant power over choices I make and steps I take with the company I keep. Dr.
Kathleen Berger reminds us that adults today take longer than previous generations did to
publicly commit to one long-term sexual partner (Berger, 2014, p. 641). This was certainly true
in my case and a brief examination of the abovementioned sociocultural factors helps reveal
why.
I have mentioned in past posts that, though my family of origin seemed a close one, it
was significantly injured by the acrimonious divorce of my parents. Their parting had many
roots, not the least of which were their individual and collective efforts to keep up appearances,
to achieve the so-called American Dream, and to have the perfect familyall in the face of
often-unshared expectations for one another and divergent paths concerning raising children.
The dissolution of their union came as a shock to all concerned, including the two of them and as
with most divorces, the long-term impact was deep and painful. Berger observes that
developmental events that seem isolated, personal and transitory are shown to be
interconnected, socially mediated, with enduring consequencesDivorce is difficult for both
partners as well as for their family members, not only immediately but also for years before and
after the event (Berger, 2014, pp. 644, 661).
Because I was raised in an environment promoting perfectionism and clearly prescribed
dos-and-donts, I was all but phobic in potentially entering a marriage commitment that could
end as my parents marriage had. I wanted no part of that and found potential lifetime partners
both alluring yet simultaneously very threatening. It was not until: