i Pee People 1* e Programme Sexuality and DisabilityPeople 1st Programme Sexuality & Disability Definition: (World Health Organisation ¢ Sexuality is an integral part of the personality of everyone ¢ It is a basic need and aspect of being human that cannot be separated from other aspects of life ¢ While not all choose to be sexually active all individuals are sexual beings Myths: x People with disabilities are non-sexual X Sex is associated with youth & physical attractiveness X Parents with a disability make poor parents x People with an intellectual disability are sexual deviants * Sexuality is a problem that we must control & manage x It can get out of control very easility if we are not careful * We must avoid encouraging people to be affectionate and not give too many hugs that might be misunderstood Facts: y Sexual expression is a natural & important part of life y Information needs to be in a concrete format v Opportunities for sexual expression & exploration can be limited Y Privacy is a major issue (if discovered there is negativity shown) ¥ More children are having sexual identity issues at an earlier ageWhat is Sexual Expression? © Intercourse © Masterbation © Oral Sex © Petting/Hugging © Touching O Flirting © Talking © Watching Movies © Reading Books/Magazines When is masturbation unhealthy?? © In public ® Too frequently to the exclusion of most else Onset of ricer has i: been connected with iy | Weigh [ore be oe)Sex & The Law Can be confusing... In W.A. the law says sex includes ~ * Oral * Anal * Vaginal = aswell as Penetration (Penetration is any body part of object controlled by another put into the vagina, vulva area or anus) » The Mouth? «Legal age for sex is 16 for both males and females = A Person is not allowed to have sex with anyone in their care, supervision or authority if they are under 18 What about teenagers?? What makes it legal (get out clause) ~ » Both parties must consent > No pressure > Not a result of drug/alcohol influence > No trickery > Both must understand what they are agreeing to What about if consent is given?? Scenario: “The girl told me she was 16 but was only 15 & gave me consent" **Tf there is no more than 3 years seniority they may have a defence in court.Dealing with Adolescence x Puberty is a time of rapid growth in which sexuality will play a major role x Growing interest in sexuality & Anxiety about body image ve Peers come first yx Need for privacy and time to work things out ve Desire for social acceptance** **This is particularly difficult to get the special needs individual to understand - “That's not socially acceptable”. The special needs individual would be more susceptible to the ‘sex for favours’ path. Eg “if you have sex I will give you this bag of lollies” Youths need help with (but do not want to talk about): & Wet Dreams %& Masterbation (must wash hands after!) % Sexual Experience (not ours ~ set boundaries) % Sexual Feelings (tingling, erections, sexy feelings) % Particular sexual practices Talking Sex... % Questions always come at the wrong time for us ‘% Should be casual % Be clear about what you want to communicate (Watch your wordsl! Keep it real) ‘S Be open and honest ‘S Listen (without facial expressions) % Don't interrupt or leek feelings 'S Set boundaries S Don't be afraid to say I don't know %S Don’t make hard and fast rules ‘4 Provide skills to make good decisions ‘> Provide books and materials, or videos if unable to readWhat to teach... © Choices and Responsibilities © Healthy Relationships @ Saying “NO" and meaning it Y The Circles Concept W Safe Sex - STI risks - Contraception - Unplanned Pregnancy** (if a baby is removed from an female with a disability, they WILL get pregnant again) © Condom demonstration - How to put condoms on, and safe removal - Special Condoms for same sex (anal) & Private and Public places/spaces & Body Parts - Teach man to look for lumps in testicles Teach female to look for lumps in breasts @ Menstruation ~ Is “good" blood (except when it goes on too long) M Build self-esteem so they need sex for favours or pregnancy Issues to Deal with in Adulthood... & Masterbation & Menstruation © PMS & Moods (manage) © MenopauseTHE CIRCLES CONCEPT TOUCH, TALK, TRUST Private touch in private space only Loving & caring feelings, loving but not romantic Full body hugging Gr Private talk, full trust Extended Family Faraway hug (sideways ~ no genetals touching), personal talk, Good Friends friendly feelings, generally trustworthy Boyfriend/Girifriend | Loving & romantic feelings, full trust, private talk Bed (this relationship takes a fong time - does not happen straight awey) Neighbours, teachers | Limited trust, “handshakes”, small talk (how's your dog?) | Familiar Faces Nod or smile, “wave”, (butcher, church ete) | Short responses (yes, no) __ Stranger Never seen before, no talk, no touch, keep feelings to yourself, no trustBrochures & Attachments: The Circles Chart PIP Brochure Self-Esteem Brochure The Ins and Outs of Sex and the Law Brochure What the Law says about Sex Brochure Ready, Willing & Able Brochure All about Sexually Transmitted Infections (STI's) Brochure Help (Sexual Assault) Brochure Menopause Brochure Premenstrual Syndrome Brochure Talking Sexual Health (A Parent's Guide) Brochure Personal Development Book for Students Relationships, Sex and Other Stuff Brochure Boys and Puberty Brochure Girls and Puberty Brochure Glossary of Text Messaging Shorthand page Other side issues raised/mentioned amongst group: a) Use of Melatonin as an aide to assist in sleeping issues of people with disabilities (see attached info from internet) 5) Use of tracking type devices for those who have a tendancy to “wander” (see attached info on Brickhouse from internet)