{ioZÀi\w Bß {]`m alm Bebw XpSÀ¨…..

 
 

ACTVE PARENTING XpSÀ¨x—

\½Ä C¶pw ^yqU hyh-Ø-bn-emWv Pohn¨p sIm−n-cn-¡p-¶-Xv. ASn-a-Xz-hpw, _Ô-\-§fpw
C¶pw \msS§pw \S-am-Sn-sIm-−n-cn-¡p-¶p. Imcy-§Ä hyà-ambn Ah-X-cn-¸n-¡p-hm\ Ign-b-Ww.
t_m-[y-am-Ip¶ coXn-bn kwkm-cn-¡-Ww. CXv \½psS Imcy-am-Wv.

aäp-Å-h-cpsS {]iv\w \¶mbn {ihn-¡-Ww. {i²n-¡-Ww. AsÃ-¦n kwK-Xn-IÄ hj-fm-Ipw. amX-

am-]n-Xm-¡-fpsS {]iv\-§Ä F¶pw a¡-fpsS {]iv\-§Ä F¶pw 2 Xcw Xc-¯n-epÅ {]iv\-
§Ä D−v.
Nne hnin-Zo-I-c-W-§Ä:
Iuamc {]mb-¡sc kw_-Ôn¨v ASn-s]m-fn-bpw, D¨-¯n-epÅ i_vZ tImem-l-§fpw hfsc {]nb-
¦-c-§-fm-Wv. {]mb-am-b-hÀ¡v CXnsâ t\sc hn]-co-Xam-Wv. Ccp-Iq-«cpw bYmÀ°-¯n Hcn-
¡epw tbmPn¨p t]mIm³ hfsc _p²nap-«mWv.
{]mbamb-hÀ Ipd¨p t\ct¯ Dd-§p-hm³ t]mIp¶ Ah-kc-¯n ASp¯ apdn-bn Ip«n-
IÄ Sn.-hn. D¨-¯n sh¨p-sIm−v _l-f-ap-−m-¡p¶p F¶p shbv¡p-I. \mw Ip«n-Isf AwKo-
I-cn-¡p¶ coXn-bn X\s\ BZyta Xs¶ kwkm-cn¨p XpS-§-Ww. tamt\/tamtf, ‘\à kn\n-a-bm-
W-tÃm, \n\¡v CjvS-am-b-tÃm, \msf R§Ä¡v t\ct¯ DW-tc-−-Xp-−v.-AXpsIm−v
R§Ä InS-¡p-hm³ t]mIp-I-bm-Wv. Aev]w i_vZw Ipd-¨p -sh-bv¡-Ww’. F¶n-§s\
]dªp XpS-§n-bm HSp-¡n-Ãm-SsX Imcy-§Ä \¶mbn \S-¡pw. C¯-c-¯n-epÅ ssien-bnÂ
XpS-§n-bm I½yq-Wn-t¡-j\v \à ^ew e`n-¡pw.
Hcn-¡Â Ata-cn-¡-bn hnam-\-¯nsâ ap¶n ]d-h-IÄ h¶mepw hnam-\-¯n\v XI-cmdv kw`-hn-
¡p-I-bnà F¶ hkvXpX Im-Wn-¡p-hm³ Hcp kwLs¯ £Wn¨p hcp-¯n. ]co-£Ww ImWn-
¡p-hm³ th−n Nn¡s\ sIm−p-h-cp-hm³ ]d-ªp. Akn-Ìâp-amÀ t]mbn s]mcn¨ Nn¡-\p-
ambn h¶p. hnam\w ]d-¯p-hm³ Dt±-in-¡p¶ ka-b¯v Poh-\pÅ tImgnsb hnam-\-¯nsâ
ap¶n-tem«v C«v ]d-¯p-hm³ Dt±-in-¨m-bn-cp¶p Nn¡s\ sIm−p hcp-hm³ ]d-ªn-cp-¶-Xv.
Imcy-§Ä ]d-bp-t¼mÄ aäp-Å-hÀ¡pw IqSn a\-Ê-em-Ip¶ Xc-¯n-em-bn-cn-¡-Ww.
Ba-bp-tSbpw apb-en-tâbpw ]´bw IY \msa-Ãm-hcpw tI«ncn¡p-a-tÃm. ]´-b-¯n apb Dd-
§n. Ba Pbn-¨p. IY amän. ]´bw ho−pw sh¨p. 2 t]cpw HmSn. Ba ]cm-P-b-s¸-«p. apbÂ
Pbn-¨p. Ba ho−pw ]´bw sh¨p. Ba hgn amän. ]pg-bpsS Xoc¯v F¯n. Wpb \n¶p.
Ba \o´n IS-¶p. Ba Pbn-¨p. apb ]cm-P-b-s¸-«p. Ccp-hcpw ho−pw ]´bw sh¨p. 2
t]cpw HmSn. Ic-bn Ba apb-ensâ ]pd-¯pw, shÅ-¯n ap-b Ba-bpsS ]d¯pw Ibdn

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k©n-cn¨v H¸w F¯n. Ah-c-h-cpsS Ign-h-\-\p-k-cn¨v {]hÀ¯n¡Ww F¶v CXn \n¶v a\-Ên-
em-¡-Ww.

IpSpw_w.
IpSpw_w F¶m IqSp-t¼mÄ C¼-ap-ÅXv F¶mWv Ihn Ipªp®n amjv ]mSn-bn-«p-Å-Xv.
CsÃ-¦n `qI¼w krjvSn-¡-s¸-Sp-¶p. AÑ\pw A½bpw a¡fpw ap¯-Ñ-\pw, ap¯-Ñnbpw
IqSp-t¼mÄ- C¼-I-c-am-Ip-¶-XmWv IpSpw-_w. C¶s¯ AXy-´m-[p-\nI bpK-¯n IpSpw_
_Ô-§-fn henb amäw h¶p tNÀ¶ncn-c-¡p-¶p. PohnXssien-I-fnse amäw IpSpw-_mw-K-§-
fpsS tdmfp-I-fnepw henb amäw hcp-¯n-bn-cn-¡p-¶p. \n§-fpsS Nn´-bn-te¡v Nne hkvXp-X-
IÄ \nc-¯n-sh-bv¡-s«.
1. \n§-fpsS A¶s¯ Ip«n-¡m-e-hpw, \n§-fpsS a¡-fpsS C¶s¯ Ip«n-¡m-ehpw,
F´p-am{Xw hyXym-k-s¸-«n-cn-¡p-¶p.
2. \n§-fpsS Aѳ, \n§-fpsS A½ F¶ \ne-bn \n§-fpsS AÑ-\pw, \n§-fpsS
A½bpw \n§-sf hfÀ¯nb coXn-bpw, \n§Ä a¡sf hfÀ¯p¶ coXn-bnepw F´p-
am{Xw hyXym-k-s¸-«n-cn-¡p-¶p.
Ip«n-¡mew þ C¶v.
1. amXm-]n-Xm-¡Ä¡v Ip«n-I-fpsS Pohn-X-s¯ aqeym-[n-jvTn-X-ambn kzm[o-\n-¡p-hm³ ]e-
t¸mgpw Ign-bp-¶n-Ã.
2. hf-cp¶ {]mb-¯n {]i-\-§-fpsS ap¼n Ip«n-IÄ \nÊ-lmb-cmbn amdp-¶p.
3. Ip«n-IÄ, kwi-b-§Ä \nhÀ¯n-¡p-¶Xv, Imcy-ambn And-hn-Ãm-¯-Iq-«p-Im-cn \n¶pw,
apXnÀ¶-h-cn \n¶p-am-Wv.
4. Ip«n-IÄ hfsc Xn¡n-em-Wv. ]T-\w, Syj³, I¼yq-«À, Sn.-hn. tamss_Â t^m¬, kwKo-
Xw, \r¯w …….( Ip«n-IÄ P\\ kabw apXÂ ]T\ Imew hsc hfsc kzX-{´-cm-
Wv. hnkÀÖn-¡p-¶-Xn-\pw, `£Ww Ign-¡p-¶-Xn\pw H¶n\pw hne-¡p-IÄ CÃm¯
Ime-L-«-am-Wv. ]T-\-Imew apXÂ hne-¡p-I-fp-tSbpw, \nb-{´-W-§-fptSbpw Imew
Bcw-`n-¡p-¶p. `£Ww Ign-¡p-hm³ ka-b-an-Ã, tSmb-en-än\p ka-b-an-Ã, H¶n\pw ka-b-
an-Ã)
5. ap¼t¯-¡Ä ‘disposables’  C¶p IqSp-X-embn In«p-¶p-−v. (cash,  material  and 
even relationship)
6. Iuam-c-Im-e-¯n\v ssZÀLy-ta-dn-a-cp-¶p. AXv t\cs¯ Xs¶ Bcw-`n-¡p-¶p.
7. hoSp-I-fn Ip«n-I-fpsS F®w Ipd-hmbn hcp-¶Xp aqew Ah-cn Hcp Xcw GIm-´-X,
DÄh-en-b F¶nh IqSn hcp-¶p.
8. `mhnsb Ipdn¨v Hcp Xcw D¡-WvT-bn-emWv Ip«n-IÄ hf-cp-¶-Xv. AÃ-¦n apXnÀ¶-
hÀ Ip«n-Isf A§ns\ B¡n XoÀ¡p-¶p.

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9. X§-fn (Ip-«n-I-fnÂ) AÀ¸n-¨n-cn-¡p¶ `mcn¨ {]Xo-£-IÄ \nd-th-äm³ Ign-bptam
F¶ Nn´-bn B[n-bpw, hym[nbpw IqSn ]e-t¸mgpw a¡Ä tcmKn-I-fmbn amdp-¶p.
10. C¶s¯ Ip«-IÄ IpSpw-_-¯n\v Hcp economic liability Bbn Xocp-¶p.

Aѳ C¶v.
1. IpSpw_-¯nsâ ASn-Øm\w ]nXm-hm-Wv.
2. tPmen- `m-chpw, Xnc¡pw aqew Ip«n-I-fp-ambn IqSp-XÂ kabw {]tbm-P-\-I-c-ambn
hn\ntbm-Kn-¡p-hm³ Ign-bp-¶n-Ã.
3. ka-b-¡p-d-hn-\m A½bmWv Aѳ \nÀÆ-lnt¡− IS-a-IÄ \nÀÆ-ln¡p-hm³
\nÀ_ÔnX-bm-Ip-¶p.
4. ]nXmhv a¡-fp-ambn F{X-am{Xw IqSp-XÂ kabw ]¦nSp¶pthm A{X-am{Xw a¡Ä
‘competent’ Bbn-am-dp-¶p.
5. ]nXm-hnsâ Øm\w `wKn-bmbn \nÀÆ-ln¡-s¸-Sp¶ IpSpw_w IqSpXÂ ià-am-bn-cn-
¡pw.

A½ C¶v:
1. Hcp amXmhv Hcp IpSpw-_-¯nsâ Bßob ASn-¯-d-bm-Ip-¶p.
2. C¶s¯ \yq¢n-bÀ IpSnw-_hpw PohnXNcy-Ifpw A½-amsc IqSp-XÂ {]m]vX-cpw Btcm-
Ky-h-Xn-Ifpw B¡n XoÀ¡p-¶p.
3. ho«p-tPm-en-IÄ¡-h-iy-amb b{´ kmam-{K-ln-IÄ e`y-am-b-tXmsS ho«p tPmen-IÄ A\m-
bm-Ê-am¡n XoÀ¯n-cn-¡p-¶p.
4. IpSpw-_-¯nse km¼-¯nI `{ZX ssIh-cn-¡-hm³ kvXnco-Ifpw ]Wn¡p t]mIp-¶p.
5. Krl tPmen-I-fpw, ]pds¯ ]Wn-Ifpw Ip«n-I-sf-¸-än-bpÅ D¡-WvT-Ifpw A½-amÀ¡v
{]Xn-k-Ôn-bmbn Xocp-¶p.
amdn sIm−n-cn-¡p¶ C¶s¯ Ime-L-«-¯n C¯cw shÃp-hn-fn-Isf F§ns\ t\cn-SWw
F¶v \mw ]Tn-¨n-cn-¡-Ww. AXv Fs´m-s¡-bm-sW¶v Nn´n-¡-Ww. \as¡ms¡ _m¦n CS-]m-
Sp-I-fpw, A¡u-−p-Ifpw D−-tÃm. \mw AhnsS F´mWv sN¿p¶Xv. ]Ww \nt£-]n-¡epw,
]n³]n³ hen-¡-ep-amWv sN¿p¶Xv. \nt£-]-t¯-¡Ä IqSp-X-embn \ap¡v ]n³h-en-¡p-hm³
Ign-bp-I-bn-Ã.-\n-t£]w hÀ²n¡pwtXmdpw \ap¡v ]eni hÀ²n¡pIbpw kt´mjw A[n-I-cn-
¡p-Ibpw sN¿p¶p. \nt£]w Ipdbpw tXmdpw \½psS kt´mjw Ipd-bp-Ibpw ]eni Ipd-bp-
Ibpw sN¿p¶p.
\ap¡v _¦v A¡u−v XpS-§n-bXp t]mse Hcp Ctam-j-WÂ _m¦v (ssh-Im-cnI _m¦v
A¡u-−v) XpS-§mw. AXn\v km¼-¯o-I-amb Hcp apXÂ apS¡w Bh-iy-an-Ã. ChnsS
\nt£]w hÀ²n¡pt¼mÄ kt´m-jw, kam-[m-\w, `{ZX F¶nh iàn-bmbn hÀ²n¡p¶p.
]n³h-en-¡p-t¼mÄ Zp: Jhpw. Aim-´n-bpw, {`wi-hpw, On{Zhpw hÀ²n¡p¶p. AXp-sIm−v

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kplr-¯-¡sf \n§Ä \n§-fpsS \nt£]w hÀ²n¸¨v,-]n³h-en-¡Â Ip-d¨v _me³kv Iq«n
sIm−p h-cn-I.
Chn-Ss¯ \nt£-]-hpw, ]n³h-en-¡epw F´m-sW¶v \ap¡v H¶v t\m¡mw. Hä hm¡n ]d-bp-
I-bm-sW-¦n Cw¥o-jn eu F¶v ]d-bpw. eu F¶p sh¨m kvt\lw F¶m-sW¶v FÃm-
hÀ¡pw And-bm-hp-¶-Xm-Wv. \½Äs¡-Ãm-hÀ¡pw Adnbmw \mw ]e-tcbpw kvt\ln-¡p-¶p−v
F¶v. Cw¥o-jn L O V E  F¶ A£-c-§Ä sIm−v kqNn-¸n-¡p-¶p-h-tÃm. Cu 4 A£-c-§-
fmWv \½psS Gähpw {][m\ \nt£]w. Ah Hmtcm-¶mbn ]cn-tim-[n-¡mw.
CtamjWÂ _m¦v A¡u-−nse \nt£-]§-fmWv kvt\lw, hmÕ-eyw, A\p-I-¼, t{]mÕm-l-
\w, Zb, kXyw, Icp-W, _lp-am-\w F¶n-h-bm-Wv. ]n\-h-en-¡-em-I-s«, tZjyw, No¯- ]-d-bÂ,
hmin F¶n-§s\ t]mIp-¶p. \à iX-am\w ]n³h-en-¡Â Ipd¨v \nt£]w hÀ²n¸n¨m \Ã
_me³kv ImWpw.

eu –þ-hn ‘L’  F¶ A£cw ‘LISTEN’ F¶ ]Zw sIm−pw, ‘O’ F¶ A£cw ‘OPENNESS’ 

F¶ ]Zw sIm−pw, ‘V’  F¶ A£cw  ‘VALUES’  F¶ ]Zw sIm−pw, ‘E’  F¶ A£cw
‘ENCOURAGEMENT’ ]Zw sIm−pw kpNn-¸n-¡p-¶p.

LISTEN: F¶m “{i²” F¶mWv AÀ°w. tIÄ¡p¶Xpw, {i²n-¡p-¶Xpw hfsc hyXy-kvX-

am-Wv. {i²n-¡-W-sa-¦n a\-Êp-−mI-Ww. {i²n-¡pI = a\Êv + tIÄ¡pI. tI«psh¦nepw
a\-Ên-Ãm-¯-Xp-sIm−v {i²n-¨n-«p-−m-In-Ã. Hcp DZm-l-cWw ]d-bmw. cm{Xn-bn Ipªn\v Hcp
thZ\ h¶p-sh-¶n-cn-¡-s«. Ipd¨p _mw ]pc«n XShn Biz-kn-¸n-¡p-¶p. IqSmsX Ipd-hm-bn-Ãm-
sb¦n \ap¡v \msf Hcp tUmIväsd ImWm-sa¶p IqSn ]d-bp-t¼mÄ Ipªnsâ thZ\ ]¼
IS-¶n-«p-−m-Ipw. F¶m Ipªn\v thZ\ F¶v ]d-bp-t¼mÄ A½, F\n¡v \Sp-th-Z-\-bmWv
F¶v adp-]Sn sImSp¯p F¶n-cn-¡-s«. ChnsS tI«psh¦nepw a\-Ên-Ãm-¯-Xp-sIm−v {i²n-¨n-Ã.
a\-Êp-−m-I-Ww, tIÄ¡Ww. a\-Ên-Ãm-sb-¦n tIÄhn sIm−v Hcp Imcy-hp-an-Ã.

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