ASSERTIVENESS Assertiveness-open, honest communication which respects both self and others BEHAVIORAL CHARACTERISTICS PASSIVE ASSERTIVE AGGRESSIVE Keeps feelings inside expresses selfand lets expresses self by hurting others others do the same and at expense of others Lats others control controls sel controls others ‘Thinks ofa response thinks through choices and impulsive after a situation and responds appropriately never goes back Doesn't each goal may reach goal reaches goal by hurting others Low selfestesm feels good about self low self-esteem Emotionally distant emotionally close and honest emotionally distant (pulls away from others) (pushes others away) Passive Aggressive-sneaky, manipulative aggression -silent treatment -sarcasm, joking gossip -lateness,not following through -telling someone who eventually tells the person you're mad at Assertiveness starts with “T’ statements, I feel (happy,sad angry,scared,etc) inthis situation, Tneed or Pd like *Change is possible. Assertiveness takes practice! The more you practice, the more natural it wil] feel and the better you'll fel. 4