POD

BLOCKED
How a simple pair of earbuds
can send a signal
life. and how to have one.
november 6, 2008
TAKE ME BACK
Saying sorry like you
mean it
THIS OLD
THING?
Theres not just junk in
that trunk
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November 6, 2008
Jayplay
CONTENTS
notice 4-7 | health 8-9
play 12-13 | manual 14-15 | contact 16-17
reviews 17-18 | speak 19
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November 6, 2008
Volume 6, Issue 11
seeing stars in the lone star state at the
austin flm festival 5
film frenzy
a writers unintentional discovery leads
to an awkward mother-daughter talk 19
spandex and sausages
What would campus life be like without our trusty
earbuds? Would we talk to the person next to us,
or still tune out even without our playlist?
do not disturb
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illustration by
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thursday, nov. 6
Underoath/Saosin/The
Devil Wears Prada/
Person L. The Beaumont
Club, 7:30 p.m., all ages,
$16,50, www.underoath777.
com.
SUA Singing Bee.
Hashinger Hall Theatre, 8 p.m.,
all ages, FREE, www.suaevents.
com.
Film: Wall-E. Kansas
Union,Woodruff Auditorium,
8 p.m., all ages, $1.
Crosby and Nash.
Uptown Theater, 8 p.m., all
ages, $35, www.crosbynash.com.
Atmosphere/Abstract
Rude/Blueprint/
DJ Rare Groove. The
Granada, 9 p.m., all ages, $20-
$22.
That Damn Sasquatch.
The Jazzhaus, 10 p.m., 21+,
$3, www.myspace.com/
damnthatsasquatch.
Play: Street Scene.
Murphy Hall, Crafton-Preyer
Theatre, 7:30 p.m, all ages,
$10-$20.
Slightly Stoopid/Outlaw
Nation/DJ Unite. Liberty
Hall, 8 p.m., all ages, $18, www.
slightlystoopid.com.
Film: Wall-E. Kansas
Union,Woodruff Auditorium,
8 p.m., all ages, $2.
Andrew Dice Clay.
Uptown Theater, 8 p.m.,
all ages, $39.50, www.
andrewdiceclay.com.
Steddy P/Stik Figa/
Dutch Newman. The
Record Bar, 10 p.m., 21+, $7.
Normanoak/Wee
Giant/New Franklin
Panthers. The Replay
Lounge, 10 p.m., 21+, $3.
Cosmic Bowling. Kansas
Union, Jaybowl, 10 p.m., all
ages, FREE.
friday, nov. 7
Play: Street Scene.
Murphy Hall, Crafton-Preyer
Theatre, 7:30 p.m, all ages,
$10-$20.
Days of the New. The
Granada, 8 p.m., all ages, $21-
$26.
Film: Wall-E. Kansas
Union,Woodruff Auditorium,
8 p.m., all ages, $2.
Black Cobras/Hundred
Years War/Bear Claw/
Fromanhole. The Record
Bar, 9:45 p.m., 21+, $7, www.
myspace.com/blackcobra.
Double Trouble/MC
Candlepants. Eighth Street
Tap Room, 10 p.m., 21+, $3.
Cosmopolitics. The
Jazzhaus, 10 p.m., 21+, $4,
www.myspace.com/cosmopolitics.
The Marmots/The
Sound of Urchin. The
Replay Lounge, 10 p.m., 21+,
$3, www.soundofurchin.com.
saturday, nov. 8 tuesday, nov. 11
wednesday, nov. 12
Fierce Fashion Show
with Christian Siriano.
Kansas Union, Ballroom, 6
p.m., all ages, FREE, www.
suaevents.com.
All Time Low/Mayday
Parade. The Beaumont
Club, 7 p.m., all ages, $15,
www.myspace.com/alltimelow.
New Kids on the Block.
Sprint Center, 8 p.m., all ages,
$29.50-$69.50.
French flm: Rves de
Poussire (Dreams
of Dust). Kansas Union,
Woodruff Auditorium,
7:30 p.m., all ages, $2, www.
frenchitalian.ku.edu.
Play: Sweeney Todd. The
Lied Center, 7:30 p.m., all ages,
$20-$25.
Arthur Dodge. Harbour
Lights, 10 p.m., 21+, $2, www.
arthurdodge.com.
monday, nov. 10
Douglas County AIDS
Project: Red Ribbon Art
Auction. Macelis, 5:30 p.m.,
all ages, $35.
Rachael Yamagata/
Meiko/Thao Nguyen/
Alice Russell/Jaymay.
Liberty Hall, 7p.m., all ages,
$18.
The Eagles. Sprint Center,
8 p.m., all ages, $49.50-
$149.50.
This Is My Condition.
Love Garden, 7 p.m., all ages,
FREE.
The Morning Light/
Houston Calls/Brighten.
The Bottleneck, 9 p.m., all
ages, $8-$10.
Drunkdriver/Weird
Wounds. The Replay
Lounge, 10 p.m., 21+, $2, www.
myspace.com/drunkdriverusa.
sunday, nov. 9
The city
of Wilson,
Kan., is lo-
cated about
two miles
off I-70,
smack in the center of our fne state.
City is a generous word, however, as
Wilson has a population of about 750
people. All of its residents could ft in Bu-
dig 120, with plenty of seats to spare.
Wilson is: One main street, a grocery
store, a gas station, an antique store and
a handful of churches. It is also my grand-
mothers hometown, and where she lived
until about eight years ago. Going to
Wilson was a staple of my childhood. I
remember long summer days spent roll-
erblading up and down the main street
and loitering at the gas station.
As entertaining as such activities were,
though, it never took long for boredom
to seep in. One July afternoonsurely
in a desperate attempt to banish the im-
pending monotonyI convinced myself
that hidden in the Wilson, Kan., antique
store was some magical artifact akin to
One-Eyed Willys treasure map in The
Goonies. If only I searched hard enough,
Id fnd it and embark off into the sunset
on a fantastic adventure.
I never found anything close.
But what I did fnd was just as capti-
vating: Shelves of Christmas ornaments,
amateur paintings, kerosene lamps, old
tools and cookware and wind-up toys.
I would slide my fngers along these
objects, wondering about the lives they
had lived and their anonymous former
owners. Any fawa scratch in the wood,
a chip in the paintonly made a piece
more evocative and endearing to me. I
imagined all the moments in time these
things had witnessed, and somehow they
allowed those moments to exist still.
Check out Dereks story on page 13
about the joy and adventure of antique
shopping, and fnd out the best places to
get your vintage hunt on here in Law-
rence.
Its strange to imagine, but someday
antique stores will house remnants of
our own childhoodsthe dollhouse I
cherished, the Legos my brother played
with every day, the Beanie Babies I saved
up my allowance for.
I havent been to Wilson for six years.
But if I ever make it back, Ill visit the
antique store again. Who knows? Maybe
Ill stumble upon One-Eyed Willys trea-
sure map this time. Or even better: a
toy I used to love that reminds me of
those childhood days spent invigorating
my imagination in Wilson. I know Id love
it still.
l Megan Hirt, editor
editors note
Editor Megan Hirt
Associate editor Sasha
Roe
Photo editor Jon Goering
Designers Drew Bergman,
Peter Soto, Becky Sullivan
Contact Carly Halvorson,
Matt Hirschfeld
Health Asher Fusco, Susan
Melgren, Realle Roth
Manual Heather Melanson,
Ariel Tilson
Notice Matt Bechtold, Nina
Libby, Sean Rosner
Play Brianne Pfannenstiel,
Derek Zarda
Contact us
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November 6, 2008
NOTICE
THIS WEEKEND: Teapouro Tea Shop
Open since May, the tea shop
Teapouro is one of the latest ad-
ditions to downtowns string of
homey small businesses. Located
in the former Fields Gallery space
at 712 Massachusetts St., Teapouro
offers a friendly, inviting environ-
ment for both frst-time tea drink-
ers and tea afcionados alike. The
rustic brick interior melds effort-
lessly with the shops deep orange
walls, while bonsai trees, ceramic
pots and assorted plants add an
organic touch.
The massive, 120 loose-leaf tea
selection is divided into three ar-
eas around the shop. Sencha green
teas, black, herbal, white and even
rooibos teas (red-leaf teas from
Africa) are kept in tightly sealed
jars, each with a palm-sized dis-
play jar for customers to capture
the scent and feel the texture of
the tea leaves before committing
to a cup. Each tea at Teapouro is
personally handpicked, and has un-
dergone multiple tastings by the
Teapouro managers. They continue
to add more teas based on what
customers request, so if you dont
see your tea, just ask.
If you dont have a clue what
to try, the knowledgeable baris-
tas are ready to aid you in your
search, and youll walk away feeling
a little more keen on the tea scene.
The prices are reasonable for ev-
erything offered, including bubble
tea, coffee, espresso and assorted
pastries. The tea itself comes in
servings of one- two- or four-cup
pots. Grab a few friends, split a
four-cup pot, and take a seat on
the foor cushions near the front
of the shop.
In a town stocked full of spe-
cialty cafs, its comforting to know
theres a place among them for tea
lovers.
Derek Zarda
Photo by Derek Zarda
Teapouro, 712 Massachusetts St., offers 120 varieties of tea. Customers can smell
samples of each tea before choosing which one they want to order.
with director
Kevin Smith
Since writing, directing and producing
the 1994 cult classic Clerks, Kevin Smith
has become one of the biggest names in
comedic flmmaking. Smiths newest flm,
Zach and Miri Make a Porno, hit theaters last
Friday. Jayplay recently had the opportunity
to chat with Smith as part of his conference
call with other student journalists around
the country.
Q. Youve had a lot of diffculties
with the marketing for Zach and
Miri Make a Porno. Whats the big
deal with the word porno?
A. I knew when we titled the movie
Zach and Miri Make a Porno that it was going
to turn some people off. I assumed that the
people who would be turned off by that title
were never going to see the movie in the
frst place, so I didnt think it would be a big
deal. But suddenly cities have been popping
up that wont allow us to put a billboard up.
Like Philadelphia wouldnt allow us to put
up any billboard that had the word porno
on it. I was fabbergasted, because I felt like
we had used the cutest word possible to
describe that industry. I understand people
who wouldnt be into pornography, but you
cant object to the term. How else are we
supposed to describe it?
Q. Do you think this movie will
change views of pornography?
A. I think most people will take this
movie for what it is. I dont think theyll
look at it like, Hey, man, suddenly this is
changing everything Ive ever felt about the
porn industry. Im not looking to convert
people. Im just looking to entertain them
with this one story. There are a bunch of
people out there that fnd it offensive, and I
get that. And there are a bunch of people
mostly dudeswho see it as an essential
part of their day. I dont think the movie will
affect that.
Q. How did growing up in New
Jersey affect your flmmaking?
A. I think the area in New Jersey where
I grew up affected the dialogue I write,
where its kind of candid dialogue with a lot
of vulgarity, because thats just my circle of
friends. I imagine if I grew up anywhere else
it wouldnt be that much different, although
having the friends I have has certainly
infuenced me as a flmmaker as far as the
stories I like to tell.
But you grow up in New Jersey and
youre kind of always growing up in the
shadow of New York, and youre the butt of
a lot of jokes. Theres still that necessity to
prove yourself to people, so I think we tend
to try harder. Growing up in Jersey is like
growing up fat. You just tend to try harder.
Q. Youve always been known as
a talented writer, but how do you
feel your directing skills and the
look of your movies have improved
over the years?
A. Only recently has that stuff started to
improve because Ive started putting some
thought into it. Im not a born flmmaker,
where its in my genes. I dont live, breath and
eat flm. But I do like to write. When I made
Clerks, it was more about writing the script
and directing actors. I never really thought
of the look of the flm. And then when
the reviews for the movie came in, people
would write wonderful things about it, but
invariably every review would say, Well, it
looks like shit, but man is it fun. So I kind
of took that, idiotically, as a pass to never
try to improve my visual game, because Im
like, As long as people are laughing, nobody
gives a shit what it looks like. It was only
on Clerks 2 that I really started trying. I think
that movie is the frst one that I look at and
go, Oh, that is actually a visually interesting
flm.
Q. What are you doing now that
Zach and Miri is fnished?
A. Hopefully in the spring Im going to
do a fick called Red State. Its a little political
horror movie. Im looking forward to it
because I dont really feel like a flmmaker
most days. I just feel like a guy who directs
the stuff that he happens to write. With Red
State, I get to switch genres altogether. There
are no laughs in the movie whatsoever. I feel
like if I can pull this one off, I might feel more
like a flmmaker. If not, Ill just be like, Okay,
I get it. Im a dick-and-fart joke guy, and I
should just do that for the rest of my life.
Q. What advice would you give
young flmmakers trying to break
into the business?
A. Id just say everybody should tell the
exact story they want to tell, never mind
the infuence of people telling you how to
change it or make it more marketable. At
the end of the day, youve got to live with
that movie for the rest of your life. Thats
your fick. If you start subverting what you
set out to do, then it stops being yours. Stick
with your voice, because nobody else has
your voice, so nobody else can do what it is
that you want to do.
Sean Rosner
Contributed photo
Among Kevin Smiths directing credits are 1999s Dogma and 2001s Jay and Silent Bob Strike Back.
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November 6, 2008
NOTICE
By Miller Davis
editor@kansan.com
I am sitting in a ballroom listening to
the top writers of Heroes, The Offce and
Everybody Loves Raymond talk about how
to write a successful television script. An
hour later, I am in a room with the di-
rector of Wet Hot American Summer and
Role Models, taking notes on how to write
and direct a comedy flm. The next night I
might be sitting at a party with the writer
of all three Pirates of the Caribbean flms.
Later that evening I could go to the pre-
miere of W. and meet James Cromwell,
who plays Bush Senior.
Such is life at the Austin Film Festival,
which took place Oct. 16 through Oct. 23
in Austin, Texas.
I had never attended a flm festival be-
fore I went to the AFF during fall break,
and I have to say, Im hooked. I came into
the experience knowing little about how
a flm festival was run or what I would
be doing from 9 a.m. until midnight every
day, and I have to say, it was defnitely a
daunting prospect. Most of the other at-
tendees had movies playing in the festival,
were involved in the industry, or had been
attending the AFF for many years. Despite
this potentially overwhelming situation,
I buried my nervousness, put on my so-
ciable hat and ended up having the time
of my life.
Heres a breakdown of what a day was
like at the AFF. You show up for panels
around 9 a.m., which are groups or indi-
vidual speakers who speak about a spe-
cifc genre or subject. You could go to a
panel on the proper way to pitch a script,
how to write an action-thriller, or how to
go about getting an agent or a manager in
Hollywood. The variety of panels offered
is a double-edged sword. You have a great
selection to cater to your individual in-
terests, but it also means that you must
choose wisely and sometimes sacrifce
one panel for another happening at the
same time. The panels last until around 4
p.m..
Actual flm screenings start around 1
p.m. Most of the flms in the festival are
independently made. This means that in-
vestors who are not fnancially backed
by a major studio have put up the money
for the flm to be produced. Almost all of
these flms are screening at the festival in
the hope that theyll be seen by the right
person, purchased and subsequently dis-
tributed nationally.
Because of this, there is an ungodly
amount of promoting that occurs at every
event of the festival by the people trying
to sell their movie. I came home with sev-
eral dozen fiers, more than a few posters,
at least 20 matchbooks and a wallet full
of business cards, all of which promoted a
persons flm, editing business or produc-
tion studio.
Attendees have the opportunity to
view many types of flms, including come-
dy, horror, short flms and documentaries.
Most theaters will show flms until around
midnight, but I generally left before the 10
p.m. showings so I could get ready for the
nightly parties. Going out to the parties
just to grab a drink isnt necessary, though,
as almost every panel and theater had a
full bar.
The nightly events are the opening
night party, the closing night party and the
pitch fnale party. The frst two are fairly
self-explanatory, but the third is much
more interesting. The pitch fnale party is
the culmination of the four-day long com-
petition in which amateurs pitch their
script ideas to industry professionals and
get valuable critiques and feedback. Many
of these people who pitch are approached
by members of the industry for meetings
and occasionally sell scripts or get jobs
because of the competition.
I met several celebrities, including the
waitress from Its Always Sunny in Philadel-
phia, David Wain, who directed Wet Hot
American Summer and Role Models, and
Toby from The Offce. I also saw James
Cromwell of Babe fame, Seann William
Scott, who played Stifer in American Pie,
and Jane Lynch, who was the electronics
store owner in The 40 Year Old Virgin.
I had the opportunity to screen W. and
Max Payne the night before their wide re-
lease, and Role Models before its release
this Friday. The best movie I saw at the
AFF was, by far, one called Visioneers. It
stars Zach Galifanakis, and is one of the
funniest and most touching movies I have
seen in a very long time.
So, if youre interested in the movie in-
dustry or are just a fan of flms, you should
consider attending next years Austin Film
Festival. The people youll meet there are
helpful, talented and incredibly interesting.
And the fact that Austin has more bars
per square block than any other city I
have ever been to doesnt hurt, either.
Check out www.austinflmfestival.com
for more information on next years fes-
tival.
A flm festivus for the rest of us
A student heads south
for the bright lights of
the Austin Film Festival
Photos by Miller Davis
(Top) Miller with actor Paul Lieberstein, who plays Toby on
The Offce. (Above) After a screening of Role Models,
Miller met the flms director, David Wain. (Below) The Para-
mount Theatre was the main site of flm screenings for the
Austin Film Festival, and held screenings of Role Models,
Max Payne and W.
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November 6, 2008
NOTICE
TOMORROWS NEWS:
Facebook Lexicon
Facebook recently introduced Lexi-
con, a trend-mapping tool that puts Su-
perPoke to shame. Lexicon, which was
created by Facebook, tracks the most in-
teresting trends on Facebook by analyzing
words and phrases from wall posts, and
it then turns the information into graphs
and charts. The graphs show how many
Facebook members are talking about a
particular word or phrase.
Lexicon graphs are a powerful way to
understand the trends in what people are
talking about, says Roddy Lindsay, Face-
book data scientist.
Lexicon is similar to the Google Trends
search tool, except that the data is pulled
from conversations instead of search
queries. Lexicon only gathers text from
walls ,and never accesses messages, chat,
searches or other private data.
Lexicon can compare phrases with up
two fve keywords. If you type party to-
night and hangover into the application,
Lexicon compares the use of these words
on walls and produces a month-to-month
graph comparing their frequency.
Facebook spokesman Matt Hicks says
the information gathered by Lexicon is
publicly available for any user to be able
to learn more about whats happening on
Facebook. Lexicon can be added just like
any other user-created Facebook applica-
tion.
Weve seen positive reactions to
Lexicon from people who fnd it to be a
fun and useful way to spot trends, Hicks
says.
Nina Libby
Midomi
Imagine you have a song stuck in your
head.
Its been there for days, but you dont
know the artist or the title. Whats worse,
you can only remember the chorus. In-
stead of playing out the whole song, your
brain just plays the chorus on an endless
loop, slowly driving you crazy.
Thankfully, a new Web site and iPhone
application have come to your rescue, and
they can be found at www.midomi.com.
Midomi softwares is multi-faceted,
combining existing search methods like
text searches (if you know the artist or
song title) and a grab it feature that lets
you locate a song thats playing on the
radio just by holding your iPhone to the
speaker.
Once Midomi identifes the song, you
can purchase it from either of its two mu-
sic store affliates, Apple iTunes or Yahoo!
Music Store.
If you cant remember the artist or ti-
tle, and you cant grab it from the radio,
thats when the third and most impressive
feature comes in. You can simply sing or
hum into the mic, and it will fnd the song
based on melody, lyrics and language.
Keyvan Mohajer, CEO of Midomi soft-
ware producer Melodis, says the software
is adaptive to the information you give it.
If you dont know the lyrics, then you can
just hum and it will use only the melody.
Max White, Andover junior, says he
would potentially use Midomi, but says
the singing feature might not work well
for him.
Im a horrendous singer. Im tone-deaf
to the ultimate degree, White says.
But Mohajer says thats okay, because
the search is independent of key, tempo,
language and even vocal quality. What mat-
ters is that the song is in the database. If
its not, Midomi isnt going to fnd it no
matter how well you sing it, Mohajer says.
To solve this problem, Midomi com-
bines one part MySpace with one part
American Idol to create a social network
where singers can congregate and sing
their favorite songs into the database.
Midomi adds to its database
daily, and the Web site has
nearly one million songs
to search from.
Matt Bechtold
Photo illustration by Julianne Kueffer
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November 6, 2008
NOTICE
WESCOE WIT
Girl: Youre going to kill me.
Professor: I would never! I could lose
tenure for that.
Girl 1: Marshmallows and whip cream
are the most pointless dessert foods ever.
Girl 2: I think they were just invented
because there was a need for edible glue.
Girl: Alcohol and expensive video
equipmentalways a good time.
Guy: Just make sure you use a tripod so
the video isnt all shaky.
Professor: Hypothetical situation: Its
Zombie Night and you go downtown and
fnd two zombies smokin dope behind a
building. What do you do?
Girl: Make them share?
Girl: (looking at Zombie Walk photos
in Jayplay) If I wouldve been downtown
when this happened, I would have shat
myself.
Guy: If you go to that meeting about
breast cancer awareness, you get a free
shirt that says I heart boobs.
Girl 1: Its 11:11. Make a wish.
Girl 2: I wish the fat in my thighs would
miraculously move up to my ass.
Guy: (leaving a message) Hey, just giving
you a shout, so give me a shout when
you get this and we can give those girls
a shout.
Girl 1: She never has enough clothes on.
Girl 2: Well, next week shell have
pneumonia so we wont have to see her.
Professor: (sniffng the air) Is
somebody eating lunch at 10 a.m.?
Guy: Its just like elementary school!
Guy 1: (listening to TIs song Whatever
You Like) This whole song is about
Barack Obama.
Guy 2: Barack Obamas sex is so wet
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November 6, 2008
HEALTH
A weathered toothbrush isnt a
pretty sight. The bristles are bent, the
blue stripe has receded past recognition,
and its beginning to taste a bit like last
nights dinner. If that reminds you of your
time-tested dental hygiene implement,
its time to buy a new one. Not only are
old toothbrushes gross-looking, they are
downright dirty.
A study by the American Dental
Association says toothbrushes can harbor
microorganisms and bacteria that can
lead to oral or systemic
infections. And, the
longer you stick with
one brush, the more
bacteria it picks up.
The ADA recommends
using a toothbrush for
a maximum of four
months.
A toothbrush
will get bacteria from
anything it comes into
contact with, says Angela
Bradley, dental hygienist
at Wiklund, Peterson
and Krische General
Dentistry in Lawrence. And that bacteria
might not be something youd want in
your mouth.
Bradley suggests replacing toothbrushes
every three months or when the bristles
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HEALTH
Soup
As the weather turns colder, many
of us crave a warm, hearty dish to thaw
our insides and keep us going. Among the
healthier and warmer options are soups.
Ingredients such as beans, lentils and other
vegetables offer protein, fber and favor
without a high number of calories.
Some soups are healthier than others,
however. Nancy Donahey, Lawrence
nutritionist, says to look for soups with
non-starchy vegetables such as green
beans, carrots, celery and onions. Starchy
vegetables, such as corn and potatoes,
contain more calories and carbohydrates.
Donahey also says that cheese-based
soups or creamy soups have a higher
fat content. These tend to be made with
cream or whole milk, which contain
saturated fat. Donahey says broth-based
soups are healthier and can be just as flling
as creamy soups.
If you still prefer cream-based soups,
Adrienne Baxter, dietician at the
University of Kansas Medical Center,
offers a few tips. For those who
make their soups at home, create
the cream base with low-fat milk.
If you want a thicker but healthier
base, Baxter says you can also
use low-fat canned milk.
When it comes to meat,
Baxter recommends using a
leaner-cut beef as opposed
to ground chuck. As for
vegetables, lentils and barley are an
excellent source of whole grain and
dietary fber, as are chickpeas, garbanzo
beans and kidney beans, which can
also add a Mediterranean or Italian
touch to your soup. Donahey also
recommends all-bean soups as a good
source of protein and vitamins.
So, if youre cold and looking to
indulge in a warm dish, grab a bowl of
soup and take a healthy bite.
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FEATURE
10 November 6, 2008 photos by Jerry Wang
By Matt Bechtold
mbechtold@kansan.com
I sat on the bus in the early morn-
ing, casually glancing around me on my
way to campus. Three girls sat at evenly-
spaced intervals behind me, each appear-
ing half-awake, but relaxed. They went
about their morning routine, sipping cof-
fee or reading a book, each one of them
alone in their own little world.
Then suddenly, the energy on the bus
dramatically changed.
The girls tensed like gazelles that had
just spotted movement in the nearby
brush. I turned expecting something
predatory, but it was just an awkwardly
dressed young man climbing onto the
bus. I had never seen him before, but I
could tell the girls had, because all three
simultaneously produced a set of earbuds
and popped them quickly into place.
The young man looked around the
bus, sighed, and then sat down across the
aisle from me. I almost felt sorry for him.
Until he started talking to me. Within
two minutes of the most bizarre, uncom-
fortable small talk ever, I understood why
those three girls had a sudden need for
music.
I had recently started leaving my iPod
at home, and, at that moment, I seriously
missed it.
iPod iSolation
Is our campus becoming more anti-social because of our iPods? Do
we lead more isolated lives? A writer explores this phenomenon,
and tries to discover what campus would sound like pod-less.
I nodded apathetically to his questions. I shrugged
non-committally. I yawned and stared out the window,
but not a single social cue was getting through to this
guy. Eventually he just started talking loudly to himself.
Or to the entire bus. I'm not really sure.
I didn't have it in me to get up and move to an-
other seat, but for the rest of that excruciating fve-
minute bus ride, I daydreamed about making a sign I
could hang around my neck with bold, red letters that
said do not disturb.
When the bus fnally reached my stop, I got up and
glanced back at the girls, still blissfully in their own
little worlds. As I headed for the door, one of them
gave me a small smile of sympathy. Just then, I real-
ized that the iPod, complete with it's extremely visible
white earbuds, was the technological equivalent of my
imaginary do not disturb signonly far less bitchy.
As I walked to class, I noticed every person who
was wearing earbuds or headphones and felt a little
pang of envy, still missing my own.
The more I thought about it, the more I realized
that when I had been using my iPod daily, the walks
from class to class had seemed shorter. The beat of
the music set a quicker pace, yet I wasn't as tired at
the end of the day. I didn't dwell as much on the mas-
sive amount of work I had to do every day. I got more
done, because I wasn't as distracted by non-essential
things.
I had to look into this further.
Kelsey Lynch, Overland Park senior, was sitting in
the Underground, engrossed in fnance homework
as the drone of hundreds of students conversations
reverberated off the walls. As I approached, I noticed
a focused, almost serene look
on her face. As the lunch rush
reached its apex, the Under-
ground surely became one of the
loudest places on campus. Yet I
imagined Lynch was only hearing
her favorite playlist.
I hesitated before talking to
her, realizing that I might be about
to disregard her own do not dis-
turb sign and be that guy.
It turned out that Lynch was
completely friendly and unperturbed by my interrup-
tion, saying that she generally uses her headphones
just because she works better with music playing, and
because headphones help her block out noisy distrac-
tions.
Lynch did admit to using her iPod when she works
out at the gym as a way of isolating herself from the
other people there, so she could focus on her work-
out without interruptions.
Elizabeth Anne Bond, Lawrence junior, says she
uses her headphones primarily just because she
loves music. It makes her day more interesting, she
has more energy, and her walks on campus tend to
go a bit quicker. However, she too admitted that, on
rare occasions, she had caught herself using her head-
phones to avoid certain interactions, like when she
passed people handing out fiers on Wescoe Beach.
I can kind of see it as subconsciously avoiding
people, because you're in your own little world,
Bond says.I'd hope that's not too detrimental. I guess
it can isolate you a little bit, though. I've been told by
friends that they'd seen me on campus and waved,
but I didn't notice. I'm like, 'Whoops, I must have had
my music on.'
Brian Donovan, associate professor of sociology,
says he doesn't necessarily see frequent iPod use as
a problem. It's just another example of what he re-
fers to as cyborg behavior, describing the way we
are continually changing our bodies relationship to
technology.
Citing rebellious teenagers of the 80s who used
Sony Walkman cassette players to ignore their parents
without any lasting negative consequences, Donovan
predicts no ill effects from this next generation of
cyborg behavior, and he predicts that in fve
to 10 years, another new device will come
along and once again change the way we
interact with each other.
Michael Bull, a professor of media
studies at the University of Sussex
in England, has become the leading
expert on the cultural impact of
personal music devices.
Bull says iPods give people an un-
precedented way to choose their own
soundtrack for their setting, allowing them to
insert their own mood into the environment they're
in. Ultimately, Bull says, this could result in a big city
flled with people who are close in proximity, but each
isolated in his or her own private bubble.
A couple days later, walking between Haworth and
Lindley Halls, I found myself in the middle of a small
group of about fve other students, all wearing head-
phones of some kind.
While we walked, I heard
only the sound of tennis
shoes on concrete. No
talking, no laughing, no
conversation, no witty
banterjust feet on
pavement. It was almost
surreal. I was surrounded
by pod-people, each in-
side his or her own au-
dio cocoon.A bus roared
past our group, shattering the strange silence, and I
once more wished I had my iPod with me.
Since that day, I've made a point to have my iPod
charged and in my bag, ready for those rare times when
nothing else is going on and I want to be in my own
headspace for a minute.Or just in case I
feel the need to wear my do not
disturb sign.
The trick, I guess, is know-
ing when to slip into your
own bubble and crank the
soundtrack that will help you
get through the day, and when to
take off the do not disturb sign
and start a conversation with a fellow
Jayhawk.
You never know. Something great might
happen that will shift your day from needing
a soundtrack to deserving a soundtrack.
Ultimately, this
could result in
an entire city of
people each in his
or her own private
bubble.
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November 6, 2008
That would have to be the new James Bond movie,
Quantum Solace. Ive always liked James Bond movies,
and I really liked the last one, so hopefully this will fol-
low suit.
Rudolph Ardon, San Jos, Costa Rica, graduate student
I want to see The Spirit. I really like graphic novels, and
that ones going to be entertaining.
Hilary Johnson, Chicago senior
I want to see Role Models. It looks hilarious. I like
those two actors, Paul Rudd and Seann WIlliam Scott.
Im a big fan of American Wedding and American Pie.
Sam Prentice, Cheney senior
Saw V. I like gory stuff. I saw the last ones, and they were
pretty awesome. I thought it was going to end, but I
guess I was wrong. But Im not complaining.
Kayla Wildy, Charleston, N.C., freshman
I want to see the new one with Seth Rogan, Zack and
Miri Make a Porno. I really liked the last couple movies
hes been in. Its the new kind of humorthe average
mans humor.
Matt Marsaglia, Naperville, Ill., sophomore
My friend and I were just talking about Nick and No-
rahs Infnite Playlist. I really like Michael Cera.
Katie Weber, Humboldt senior
I want to see the one with Edward NortonPride and
Glory. It seems interesting and I like thrillers and drama.
Elhan Durguti, Yugoslavia senior
Im excited for the new Bond movie. Im a big fan of
the tradition. The last one they did took you back to
the beginning, which was really telling.
Crystal Rose, Roswell, N.M., doctoral student
Brianne Pfannenstiel
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THIS WEEKEND: Street Scene
After partying last Friday night in
scantily clad costumes and chugging cheap
beer at the football game Saturday, maybe
its time to think about adding a little
culture and refnement to your weekend
activities. Opera may sound intense, but the
University Theatre and the Department of
Music and Dances staging of Street Scene,
an American opera, is fun and accessible
for any music lover.
The script is based on the 1929
Pulitzer Prize-winning play by Elmer Rice,
and features lyrics by poet and former
Lawrence resident Langston Hughes, with
music by German composer Kurt Weill.
Its not strict opera like you would
think, says Charla Jenkins, director of
public relations for the Department of
Theatre and Film. You think of traditional
opera with the fat lady with the horns, and
this is not that way it all. Its more West Side
Story, where theres a real story and theres
a lot of dialogue. It kind of bridges the gap
between opera and musical theater.
Street Scene is performed on Stage Too!
in the Crafton-Preyer Theatre in Murphy
Hall. Performances are at 7:30 p.m. Nov.
7, 8, 13, 14 and 15, and Nov. 9 at 2:30 p.m.
Tickets are $10 for students.
Brianne Pfannenstiel
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November 6, 2008
PLAY
Hidden Treasures
How the pastime of antique
shopping is receiving new
street cred from the youth
By Derek Zarda
dzarda@kansan.com
Glancing through the selection in
front of her, student Alex Shoffner is deep
in concentration. Before her is a small
selection of aprons, and fnding the one that
speaks to her is whats important. Shoffner,
Wichita junior, is downstairs at the Lawrence
Antique Mall, a haven for second-hand items
that Shoffner has been going to for the past
three years. Todays hunt is not just about
fnding an apron, but objects from the past
that Shoffner can incorporate into her own
life back at her apartment.
Shoffners not alone in this search. For
years people have focked to antique stores
to hunt for that certain something. Its these
objectsranging from the ordinary to the
absurdthat unlock hidden memories and
connections to earlier times in our lives.
Downtown Lawrence offers the perfect
escape from classes and landlocked suburbia
with its selection of antique shops. Youve
probably walked past them without even a
glance.
A mall among us
What do you do when all the garage
sales have run dry in your area, but you still
have that itching desire to rummage through
endless tables of stuff? Just head to the mall
The Lawrence Antique Mall, that is. Larry
Billings, co-owner of the store with his wife
Gwen, has kept The Lawrence Antique Mall
a permanent fxture on Mass. Street for 18
years The building is divided into two foors,
with spaces rented out to individual dealers
who bring in their own merchandise, price it
and display it. Billings keeps track of whats
been sold each day and posts a report of
those sales the next day so his dealers know
whats been purchased, taking a 10 percent
commission on everything sold.
Several of the stores dealers know
college students love to shop there, so they
stock their spaces with inexpensive, retro
furniture, records and things that can be
used on a daily basis.
Travis Mitchell, Topeka senior, heads to
The Lawrence Antique Mall because of his
obsession with vinyl records. He says there
are usually about four or fve record stores
in Lawrence that offer better prices and
selection than he has seen in antique stores
in Kansas City, or back home in Topeka.
When collecting
becomes profession
If you want to get serious about your
collecting habits, though, theres only one
spot that lives and breathes antiquing and
collecting: Antique Bazaars II. This is where
the serious collectors go to hunt for specifc
pieces to add to their collection, such as
glass fgurines or rare coin collections.
Originally from Mitchell County in
central Kansas, Dennis Oakley came east to
attend the University, bringing with him his
love of collecting, a hobby he can trace all
the way back to when he was eight years
old. The store itself has been around for
more than eight years, with 90 percent of
the antiques in the store coming directly
from Oakleys collection. Oakley says he
sees college students head straight for the
guitars, clothing and retro items from the
50s, 60s and 70s.
Megan Bigbee, Olathe senior, shops at
Antique Bazaars II as well as other antique
shops, constantly looking for 50s jewelry
and clothes to wear. Im obsessed with the
50s, Bigbee says. I like the old glamour and
fashion.
Oakleys take on antiques? Its an
acquired taste, he says. It is rule of thumb
that an antique will go up in value and you
rarely throw an antique away. For those
looking to get serious about collecting, he
recommends visiting antique shows, looking
around antique stores and even hitting up
eBay for research. You have to remember,
though, that this is a time-invested hobby,
Oakley says.
A radical play
on antique
Two doors down from the Bottleneck at
731 New Hampshire, St., an eager Labrador
Retriever makes her way to the front of a
store to greet a customer. Before a customer
can register the large volume of nostalgic
items surrounding him, hes looking down
with a smile, petting the dog as it grins back.
Its Sally the Flea Dog, the offcial mascot
and door greeter for the radical antique and
consignment shop known as The Giant Flea.
The Giant Flea is a consignment shop
and sole proprietorship, making its own
money through the community and a couple
consigners. Current owner Phyllis Bias is
from Arma and took over for the original
owner shortly after the store opened two
years ago. Her store promotes recycling,
reusing and re-creating orphan objects
things that would otherwise end up in the
landfll.
Her feelings on antique stores are as clear
as the type of customers she serves.
If I ran a traditional antique shop, I would
only be catering to those who are wealthy
enough to decorate their homes with
expensive collectibles, Bias says.
Bias encourages haggling. She loves seeing
the surprise in her customers faces when
she tells them this, letting them experience
a virtually lost art in the shopping world.
She wants her upstairs attic atmosphere to
be comfortable for the customers, a place
where theres no pressure to buy anything.
We dont follow people around, Bias
says. If it makes you feel good, then buy it.
Her philosophy with the store is that
its purpose is to serve the community frst,
and she is always willing to work with her
customers to purchase an item, sometimes
giving items away for free.
All of this, its just stuff, Bias says. This
store is about more than that. Its about the
people.
Looking forward
Its in these modern day pop culture
shrines that we can fnd sanctuary in the
throwbacks of yesteryear and rediscover
ourselves through the hunt for clarity in our
lives. We dont just go searching for specifcs,
but rather a place to let our minds wander,
purchasing the objects that speak to us,
asking, Remember me?
Photo illustration by Allison Richardson
The Lawrence Antique Mall, 830 Massachusetts St., offers students a different kind of shopping experience. The store sells furniture, jewelry and other retro items.
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MANUAL
Taking the blame
The art of apologizing
to your partner
By Heather Melanson
hmelanson@kansan.com
Lindsay Brown, Perry junior, felt bad
after cheating on her now ex-boyfriend of
more than three years. The day after Brown
cheated, she went to her ex-boyfriends
house to confess her infdelity. She
apologized for cheating and acknowledged
her wrongdoing, but her ex-boyfriend didnt
accept her apology. He told her to leave his
house, and ended the relationship.
Apologies can be tough to muster, but
its important to own up to poor actions or
behaviors and apologize to a signifcant other
when youve hurt him or her, and to try to
mend whats been broken. But just because
you apologize doesnt mean the apology will
be accepted, as Brown discovered.
Vickie Hull, a marriage and family
therapist at Lawrence Therapy Services,
2200 Harvard Road, says trust is like a free
gift given at the start of a relationship. When
one party betrays that trust, its not freely
handed out again. It takes time and effort
to gain trust back. Apologizing shows your
partner that you value his or her trust.
Apologizing is like taking a risk, because
you make yourself vulnerable to the other
person.When you admit to doing something
wrong and apologize, it can feel like youre
giving your partner the upper hand in the
situation. Hull says if the person wont
accept the apology, ask your partner why
they wont and what else they need from
you, because you have to show youre willing
to fulfll your partners needs.
If an apology doesnt work, maybe thats
because the apology is self-centered or
places the blame on the other person. There
are some foolproof ways to make your
situation worse and piss off your partner
even more by giving a bad apology. Heres
how not to say youre sorry.
Texting and e-mailing
Its too easy to hide behind your phone
or computer screen. Punch some buttons
or keys, click send and youre done. Hull says
much of our communication is nonverbal,
so its important to make your apology
face-to-face with eye contact. Interpreting
an Im sorry through a text or e-mail is
too diffcult, and its often hard to tell if the
apology is sincere.
Damn, you caught me
Apologizing because you got caught isnt
an apology, either, Hull says. Looking out
for yourself because you dont want to be
reprimanded doesnt show your partner
that you care about his or her feelings. It just
shows that you would continue with your
action or behavior if you could get away
with it. Show youre sorry that you hurt your
partner, not that you got caught.
Excuses and blaming
If but is involved in your apology, then
youre really not apologizing, youre making
excuses or placing the blame on your partner.
Hull says an apology should never start with
you, but should always start with I.
Repetition
If you say Im sorry all the time, it
loses its meaning. Dont jump too quickly to
apologizing every time something goes awry
in your relationship. It will seem like youre
apologizing just to get your partner off your
back.
If you fnd yourself continually apologizing
for the same behavior, then thats another
problem. Anne Owen, Lawrence psychologist,
says if a person keeps apologizing for the
same behavior then that person just isnt
getting it. She says something is wrong in the
relationship if a partner fnds that he or she
is repeatedly apologizing for the same thing.
Demanding acceptance
Just because youve apologized doesnt
mean you can demand your partner accept
the apology. Its your partners decision
whether they want to accept and forgive,
Owen says, and he or she has the right to
react to whats happened.
Many factors determine whether your
partner will forgive you, Hull says. Past
relationships, religion, personality and the
level of hurt are all common factors that go
into forgiving, she says. In fact, its wise for
the hurt partner to think before extending
his or her trust again, Hull says.
Next time you fnd yourself saying sorry
to your partner, make sure its sincere. Its
okay to take time apart after a fght or
disagreement so you and your partner can
refect on what happened, says Owen. After
apologizing, time and actions will show you
were truly sorry for hurting your partner,
Owen says. You can show youre sorry with
fowers, but there have to be words, too.
The best way
to say sorry
Vickie Hull, Lawrence
Therapy Services marriage and
family therapist, explains how to
apologize:
1. Take time to process and
think about whats happened. Soak
it in.
2. After youve thought about
the situation, go back to your
partner and own up to what youve
done with sincerity.
3. Listen to your partner. Try
to see things through a different
perspective so you can fgure out
what you did wrong. Try to connect
to your partners perspective.
Ask him or her questions so you
can understand and clarify the
situation.
Contributed photo
When delivering an
apology, there are certain
techniques to show sin-
cerity and your desire to
patch up the relationship.
FEATURE
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October 23, 2008
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November 6, 2008
MANUAL
Color your
closet green
You dont have to shop in the Garden
of Eden to dress as green as Adam and Eve.
Just look around downtown Lawrence.
Here are some stores on Massachusetts
Street that offer eco-friendly clothing
brands at reasonable prices.
Rod Smith, owner of White Chocolate,
1005 Massachusetts St.,
says he is environmentally
cautious by nature, so
he makes sure to carry
eco-conscious lines in his
stores. He says the brand
Satori has always been
ahead of the curve when
it comes to making
environmentally
s u s t a i n a b l e
clothes. White
C h o c o l a t e
carries a line
of womens
T-shirts by
Satori called
Devine,which
are made
from combinations of organic cotton,
bamboo and hemp. Smith also sells the
V-Co-Logical series by Volcom, which
includes hats, shoes and clothes for men
and women made with 100 percent
certifed organic cotton, hemp, vegetable
dyes, organic stains and low-impact
production methods.
Sharks Surf Shop, 813 Massachusetts
St., also carries Volcoms V-Co-Logical
series, as well as environmentally friendly
shoe brands, such as Simple Shoes and
Reef sandals. Simple Shoes makes its
products from recycled car tires, inner
tubes and hemp. According to Simple
Shoes, Lawrence is the second best place
in the country, aside from Boulder, Colo.,
to buy eco-friendly items, Chris Cox,
Sharks Surf Shop owner says.
These are just a few of the stores in
downtown Lawrence that boast green
practices, so keep an eye out when youre
shopping, because retail therapy has gotten
a whole lot greener.
Ariel Tilson
Contributed photo
Simple Shoes, a brand of
eco-friendly shoes, is just one
sustainable clothing line that
can be found while shopping
on Massachusetts street.
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I havent been in a serious relationship for the past
few years. I dont want to commit if it doesnt have
long-term potential. So Im left with lukewarm dates
and friendships. Should I just date these guys I dont
have chemistry with for the experience, or should I
keep holding out for the one? Joel, senior
Fran: Dating someone you dont see as a
life partner is a waste of your time and your
potential boyfriends time. I have been on the
receiving end of hes just not that into you
relationships, and its extremely devastating to
be told one or two months into a relationship, I
just dont see this going anywhere. My response
is always, If you knew from the beginning this
relationship had a small chance of progressing,
why did you bother dating me? I could have
been out looking for the right person instead
of wasting my time on a relationship that was
apparently doomed form the start. Its not fair
to your partner to lead him on like that.
Not to mention you would be shutting
yourself off from other opportunities that
do have potential if you succumbed to your
loneliness. That, or you would meet someone
whom you have feelings for, but you cannot
commit to immediately because you are already
in a relationship. Breaking up with a signifcant
other to date someone else is always a messy
situation.
As someone who hates being alone, I can
completely understand your quandary. But
being in a dead-end relationship is a lose-lose
situation, so do yourself and everyone else
involved in your love life a favor by staying single
and focusing on making yourself the best person
you can possibly be. That way, when the right
person comes along, youll be ready.
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the best person you can possibly be. I dont
understand how Joel could be this person if he
has no dating experience under his belt. He can
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to the experience you gain from putting yourself
out there and dating.
When you do fnd the one, Joel, the
chemistry you have with him wont matter if
you dont know how to be in a relationship
with him. The chemistry becomes irrelevant
if all youll be able to do is fnish each others
sentences and laugh at each others jokes. You
need past relationships to refect upon and
learn from. Then, when you and the one hit a
rough patch, you will be better equipped to deal
with the problem. Of course, every relationship
is different, but similar problems arise with most
couples, and so its helpful to know in general
how to remedy a certain situation.
With one guy I dated, we were inseparable
for the frst couple weeks. We had some real
chemistry and I thought he might have been
the one. After about a month, it became stale
and went downhill. So, Joel, real chemistry can
sometimes be misleading and these lukewarm
dates could actually turn into something more
substantial.
Fran: To put it bluntly, the girl is probably
not going to leave her fance for you. If you
ever have an affair with a married woman, its
unlikely she will leave her husband for you. It
doesnt matter if you are more attractive,
more of a gentlemen or more intelligent.
She and her boyfriend were clearly in love
at one time. He would not have asked
her to marry him if that were not true.
Chances are they have somehow grown
apart and now shes trying to fll that void
with you, when really she needs to work
out her problems with him.
The likeliness she will choose you
instead of her boyfriend does not hinge
on her connection with you in any way.
It is directly tied to the status of her
current relationship. If she decides to talk
to her boyfriend about her doubts and he
lovingly reassures her of his feelings and
commits to working out their problems,
youre outplain and simple. Thats what
she needed to hear from him all along. But
if he doesnt meet her emotional needs
after she talks to him, the chances that
she will leave him for you just increased.
I must point out that this type of
cheating is not the same as rebounding,
though, because women who are engaged
have a diffcult time letting go of their
relationships, even if they know theyre
not working. Dont push her to make
up her mind too quickly. If she makes
the wrong choice because you were
pressuring her, both of you could end up
with broken hearts when this ordeal is all
said and done.
Matt: Youve left Fran and me with a
very open-ended question, Andrew. Fran
assumed you like this person and that it
was more than just a hook-up for you. Ill
tackle the issue of awkwardly seeing this
person again, and maybe even seeing her
fance.
You and this girl know what happened
was wrong. Theres no real way of denying
and justifying it. You have two choices:
avoid this girl entirely, or confront the
situation.
If you avoid her, be smart about it.
Whoever you went to that party with,
think twice about going to another party
with them, because you and the girl know
some of the same people. If any Facebook
friending or messaging occurred, de-friend
her and delete any trace of her. If you see
her in public, run and hide. It may seem
extreme, but you cant half-ass a situation
like this.
If you decide to confront her, be
amiable and mature about it. Do not
become defensive or start pointing fngers.
Ask her who knows what happened and
what you two should do about it. Discuss
how you two should act if you do ever
see each other in public. I suggest taking
this route. Its much better than ducking
behind a trash can the next time you see
her.
Send your sex and
relationship questions to
bitchandmoan@kansan.com.
I met a girl at a party
and we got high and
drunk and we hooked
up. The only problem
is that shes engaged.
What should I do?
Andrew, senior
17
November 6, 2008
REVIEW CONTACT
HOW WE MET
At frst, it didnt seem like Olathe
natives Marissa Piltz, senior, and Brian
Moehring, 2007 graduate, were meant
to be together. The frst sign was when
Moehring cut Piltz from their high school
Science Olympiad team. The second sign
was when Moehring briefy dated one of
Piltzs friends.
However, fate quickly changed in
the couples favor. Moehring became
impressed with Piltz after the two bonded
over conversations about science and
math.
Imagine my surprise when someone
in the high school knew
what a fractal was, when
that someone was female,
and when that someone
seemed to like talking to
me, Moehring says. And
the rest, as they say, is
history.
A f t e r
more than a
year of dating,
M o e h r i n g
proposed on
July 4, 2005.
The couple had been talking about getting
engaged for a while, so at frst, Piltz says
she didnt realize he had actually proposed.
She later made him get down on one knee
and do the proposal again.
After Piltz graduates with her bachelors
degree and Moehring with his masters,
they plan on moving to California. Staying
true to their love of math, they plan to get
married on March 14, 2010Pi day.
Carly Halvorson
Contributed photos
(Above) Brian and Marissa at prom
in 2005. (Right) The couple at the
Greater Kansas City Japan festival in
Role Models is a capable comedy
directed by David Wain, who directed
the cult hit Wet Hot American Summer.
It stars Seann William Scott and former
KU student Paul Rudd. The plot centers
on two energy drink promoters, Wheeler
(Scott) and Danny (Rudd), who are
sentenced to 150 hours of community
service at a Big Brothers Big Sisters-style
organization. Their little brothers are a
foul-mouthed youngster named Ronnie
and a socially inept teenager named Augie,
played by Christopher Mintz-Plasse, who
played McLovin in Superbad.
In the movie, Danny must learn to
appreciate life and win back his girlfriend,
while Wheeler must mature beyond his
man-child lifestyle. They also must help
Augie and Ronnie build trust, friendships
and believe in themselves.
The funniest scenes are those involving
an event called LARPing, which stands for
Live Action Role Playing. The premise of
this activity is that children and adults dress
in medieval costumes and conduct battles
for honor and prestige at local parks. The
fnal scene of the LARPing event brought
tears of laughter to my eyes.
As Wains frst big studio movie, the
humor isnt as bizarre as his previous
flms, but he manages to maintain his
strangeness and subtle humor. This movie
is worth seeing in the theater, where the
laughs will multiply with a big crowd.
However, the jokes come so quickly that
the laughter covers many of the funnier
secondary jokes. You might want to wait
for Role Models to come out on DVD to
enjoy all the humor.
Miller Davis
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MOVIE REVIEW: Zach and Miri Make a Porno
Leave it to director Kevin Smith to
turn a movie about making a porno into
an endearing love story. Smith, who wrote
and directed Zack and Miri Make a Porno,
as well as cult classics such as Clerks and
Chasing Amy, still includes plenty of dark
and raunchy humor to satisfy even the
most hormone-driven teenager.
Zack and Miri is the story of two broke
best friends from suburban Pittsburg who
never ft in or amounted to anything. Out
of options and out of cash, the duo decides
to try to pay the bills by makingas well
as staring ina porno. A whirlwind of full
frontal nudity, vibrator jokes and hilarity
ensue, as the title characters discover the
boundaries of their friendship.
Zack, played by the consistently
hilarious Seth Rogan, stars opposite
Elizabeth Banks, who brings a surprisingly
cute innocence to Miri, who is anything but.
Jason Mewes Jay from Clerks and Jay and
Silent Bob Strike Backplays the incredibly
dim-witted Lester. Rounding out the cast
are Craig Robinson as Delaney, the flms
producer, who gets funnier by the scene,
and real-life pornography queen Katie
Morgan, who plays Stacey. The cast gels
well and delivers some of the quickest and
hardest laughs of any movie this year.
Smiths script is well-written and full of
funny and disgusting dialogue, with just a
hint of sappy romance. Rogan has a quirky
connection on screen with Banks, which
sets the story apart from the usual dirty
humor found in a lot of comedies.
If youre looking for a raunchy good
time with a little something different, then
Zack and Miri is your kind of fick.
Mike Arehart
MUSIC REVIEW: High School Musical 3
Ladies and gentlemen, its senior year at
East High, and all the classmates are trying
to decide what to make of their lives.
Gabriella (Vanessa Hudgens) has hopes
of attending a special program at Stanford
that would take her away from Troy (Zach
Efron) and her fellow Wildcats. Troy also
comes to a crossroads about what he
wants to do with his life. Is it basketball or
theater? Could it be both?
Chad Danforth (Corbin Bleu) is
troubled by his best friends reluctance
to join him at the University of Arizona
on the basketball team, and Julliard has
only one scholarship to offer to Sharpay
(Ashley Tisdale), Ryan (Lucas Gabreel),
Kelsi (Olesya Rulin) or one other lucky
Wildcat.
But among this frenzy of teen angst,
indecision and harmonizing hormones,
real life and practical messages emerge.
The third installment of High School
Musical addresses the dilemma of wanting
to please your parents versus wanting
to pursue your own dreams. It provides
guidance and solutions in handling the fear
and uncertainty of life after high school.
If you think High School Musical 3 is
another annoying teenybopper movie,
think again. Among the struggles of the
Wildcat class of 2008, you may fnd your
own struggles and triumphs in overcoming
the fears of entering the real world. So
take a shot, sing along and remember:
Were all in this together.
Mia Iverson
19
November 6, 2008
SPEAK
When I pressed play
By Nina Libby
nlibby@kansan.com
My best friend Kate and I were 12 years
old, and we were getting ready to do some
aerobics with Jane Fonda. I had on pink
spandex and a velour sweat top and Kate
was wearing a blue unitard. Both of us had
pulled our hair into tight side ponytails.
We went into my parents room to fnd an
aerobics video.
Standing in front of my mothers bureau,
I read aloud the titles of her vast collection
of exercise videos. When I said Abs, Buns
and Thighs Featuring Jane Fonda, Kate asked
to see the cover. Jane Fonda was wearing
an awful salmon-colored thong leotard
over nylon tights. We agreed on the video
and assumed our positions in front of the
TV.
When I popped it in and pressed play,
a buxom woman who resembled one of
Charlies Angels was bent over naked in the
center of the screen. She had bleach-blond
hair and breasts the size of cantaloupes.
Her mate was standing behind her with a
rope of sausages, and he was pulling them
out of her butt.
I gripped the two-pound weights in my
hands and looked over at Kate. She stepped
closer to the screen and we started laughing
hysterically. Kate crossed her legs so she
wouldnt pee her pants. When our laughter
settled, we became fxated on the TV.
Our heads bent to follow the camera as
it focused on the back end of the blonde.
I couldnt believe the robust man standing
behind her was pulling my favorite food
out of her butt. After what seemed like fve
minutes, he was still pulling sausages from
her derriere.
The thoughts accumulating in my
head were hard to verbalize to Kate. She
seemed so excited to watch our accidental
discovery that I decided to keep my worries
about the porn we had stumbled upon to
myself.
This wasnt the frst time I had seen sex.
My mom had let me watch Shakespeare
In Love, which had a few sex scenes, but
nothing like this. Maybe my sex education
teacher had just skipped the chapter on
foods used for foreplay. Was this normal
sex? My ignorance made me feel anxious. I
dropped my weights and ran to the kitchen
for answers.
My mother was in the laundry room,
laughing with her friend on the phone,
when I asked, What is that video you have
of a man pulling sausage links from that
womans butt? In her loud, dramatic Philly
accent, she said, Oh my God, and hung
up the phone. I could tell my mother was
nervous, because she wasnt making eye
contact with me. She giggled a little and
muttered a response I didnt believe. Its
your grandfathers, she said. And why are
you snooping through my stuff?
I explained to her that the video in
the Abs, Buns and Thighs case was not the
workout VHS we intended to watch. My
mom started blushing and rushed to her
room.
Kate was seated on the bed still
hypnotized. Mom ejected the tape and
repeated again that it belonged to my
grandpa.
After Kate left, my mom told me the
truth. We went into the laundry room
and she explained to me that her friend
had given it to her as a joke. I relaxed on
a pile of clothes while she folded laundry
and casually answered my questions about
sex. My mom told me that porn wasnt
something she personally enjoyed, but that
some people watch it to help their romantic
relationships. I asked her if sausages were
something people used during sex. She
laughed and explained that some people
have weird fetishes, but sausages are not
normally used during sex.
As the conversation continued, I felt at
ease asking my mom questions. I sat deep
in the pile of clothes and asked about the
blondes breasts. Were they fake? Struggling
to untangle some aprons, my mom said
they had to be breast implants because
they were too big for the womans body.
Our chat in the laundry room wasnt an
in-depth conversation about sex, but my
mom made feel comfortable just talking.
Ill always remember sitting in the laundry
room, laughing at her casual responses to
my questions about her 70s porn. To this
day, I cant look at my moms workout
videos without remembering this story.
And I cant eat sausages without thinking
about them being removed from that
blondes butt.
Photo illustration by Julianne Kueffer
Although Ninas fateful choice from the VHS collection brought an eye-opening experience, it also brought her closer to her mother.
The story behind
an accidental
discovery
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