Thirty-Three Secrets Arab Men Never Tell American Women: A Dissection of How Muslims Treat Women and Infidels
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Contents
Acknowledgements
Introduction
Part I
Secrets Affecting Women
Secret 1
Women Are Inferior to Men
Secret 2
Women Have No Right
to Self-determination
Secret 3
Women Exist Only to Breed
and Serve the Muslim
Male’s Every Need and Desire
Secret 4
Women Are Property Owned
by the Men in the Family
Secret 5
Women, Keep the Family
Honor Clean—or Die
Secret 6
Men Have Absolute Power
of Life and Death over Women
Secret 7
Step Inside Any Arab Country, and
You May Never Be Able to Leave
Secret 8
Men Are Taught to Deceive Women
to Get What They Want
Secret 9
Marriages to Non-Muslims Don’t Count
Secret 10
Women Who Marry Muslims
Will Be Forced to Convert to Islam
Secret 11
For Men Only—I Divorce You
Three Times—and It’s Over
Secret 12
Women are Sold as Prostitutes
in Every Arab Muslim Country
Secret 13
Women Have No Place in Paradise
Except as Concubines for Men
Part II
Secrets Affecting Children
Special Section
This is the enemy the West,
indeed all civilized cultures, is facing
Secret 14
Daughters Are Genitally Mutilated
to Be Considered Marriageable
Secret 15
Children Are the Property
of Their Fathers
Secret 16
Fathers Often Sodomize
Their Own Children
Secret 17
Nine Years Old—or Younger—
Just the Right Age
for a Girl to Be Sold into Marriage
Secret 18
Fathers Sell Their Daughters as Brides
to Pedophilic Old Men
For Extravagant Dowries
Part III
Secrets about Slavery
and Sex Slavery
in Islamic Countries
Secret 19
Selling Women, Children, and Blacks as Slaves Is Business As Usual
in the Islamic World
Secret 20
Sex Slavery Flourishes
in the Islamic World,
Especially in Saudi Arabia
Secret 21
Arab Slavers Abduct American Children
for Slavery to the Islamic World,
Especially to Saudi Arabia
Part IV
Secrets about Muslim Attitudes toward Non-Muslims
Secret 22
Promises Made to Non-Muslims
Don’t Count
Secret 23
Lying and Deceit are Okay by
Allah and His Prophet, Muhammed
Secret 24
Infidels Are Considered Unclean
Secret 25
Muslims Consider Themselves Superior
to Non-Muslims—Allah Says So through
His Prophet, Muhammed
Secret 26
Kill as Many Non-Muslims
As Possible—Ordered by Allah
and His Prophet, Muhammed
Secret 27
Christianity and Islam Are Not Alike: Islam Has No Ethics or Morals; It Is an Ideology of War, Hatred, Intolerance, Servitude, Enslavement, Destruction, Slaughter, Rape,
and Forced Conversions—All in the Name of Allah and Begun by His Prophet, Muhammed
Secret 28
Converting to Islam is Permanent:
If You Try to Leave Islam,
You Must Die—by Order of Allah
and His Prophet, Muhammad
Secret 29
Muslims Have the Right to Conquer
the World and Force Everyone to
Become Muslim—So Sayeth Allah and
His Prophet, Muhammed
Secret 30
Muslim Terrorists Are Trying to
Steal the Judeo-Christian Heritage
of the Jewish People and the Christians and Hand It to the Palestinians
Secret 31
Muslims Are Hypocrites—
They Are Doing unto Us
What They Do Not Want Us
Doing unto Them
Secret 32
Muslim Males are Cowards
with No Honor
Secret 33
Political Correctness Leads to
Dhimmitude—Do You Want to Lose Your
Freedom to Jihadi Muslim
Treachery and Treason?
Men and Women of America,
Unite and Fight Islam or
You Will Become its Slaves
Appendix 1
Thirty-Eight Reasons Why It is
Dangerous to Marry a Muslim Male
Appendix 2
Profile of an Abusive Muslim Male
Appendix 3
Muslim Women Beaten by Male Relatives
Appendix 4
Female Genital Mutilation—
Illustrations/Maps Where Practiced
Appendix 5
Abbreviated Constitution of
The Muslim Doctors and Dentists Association
Appendix 6
Example of Muslim Threat Mail
And the FBI’s Response
Appendix 7
Palestinian Baby Bombers
and Jihadists
Appendix 8
The Project
Appendix 9
Map of The United States of Islam
and the World, According to the
Muslim Jihadist Vision
Appendix 10
Man of Peace
Cartoon
Appendix 11
Danish Muhammed Cartoons
Appendix 12
Other Muhammad Cartoons
Appendix 13
No Freedom of Speech Cartoons
Appendix 14
Arab Political Cartoons
Appendix 15
Other Political Cartoons
Appendix 16
Palestinian Justice
Appendix 17
The Bill of Rights of the United States
Of America
Endnotes
Bibliography and
Recommended Reading List
Dedication
To
the freedom, dignity, and achievement of
women and girls everywhere;
To
every woman fortunate enough
to have escaped marriage to a Muslim;
And
to women and girls everywhere who have yet
to escape the living hell
of Muslim male dominance, degradation, and brutality
Acknowledgements
In order to protect the personal safety, anonymity, and privacy of the people who have been so supportive and helpful during the creation of this book, I will not mention most names. To do so would be to risk their being subjected to possible pursuit and injury or death by radical Islamists who do not want knowledge about their dangerous intentions and behavior patterns to become available to the general public in the United States.
* * *
As always, my roommate has been infinitely patient and enthusiastic about my books as has Anonymous
, who edited the text and eliminated the unnecessary verbiage and who is of unswerving moral support for this project.
My favorite librarian, Candace, and all of her associates have been indispensable in their ability to find the resources I sought in order to become better informed and to document faithfully every fact that has been included in this book.
My heartfelt thanks also go to my wonderful friend, Volker, who is so generous with his time and computer expertise to create book covers that are works of beauty and grace. His words of advice and evaluation about how I might improve the quality of presentation of the information are invaluable and welcomed always.
The Xlibris production and marketing crews are wonderful in their patience with the numerous corrections of the galley sheets. For my first book, they labored for many weeks as the galley sheets needed to be corrected, reviewed, and corrected yet again as mistakes were found. Hopefully, they have not found it necessary to put out such a protracted effort with this book. I just wrote the book; it was they who reworked and formatted it to make it a presentable publication. In the process, six wonderful ladies at Xlibris have become treasured friends.
Last, but certainly not least, is my delightful and incredibly sunlit business partner and friend, Alex Carroll (www.RadioPublicity.com), who, through his guidance and expertise at disseminating information about one’s books and marketing them to the public effectively through radio interviews, has provided the cornerstone upon which rests any long-term success with such interviews I may enjoy. Of equal importance are his diplomatically couched demands for change and improvement of publicity tools, which are invariably laced with laughter and genuine interest and always tremendously motivating. I expect to keep learning from him every time there is a project to be accomplished.
Introduction
This book is a warning. It is a warning, especially to women about what they face if the jihadi Muslims gain control of our beautiful, wealthy country in which women are free, independent, self-fulfilled individuals. This book is also a warning to women about what they will face if they marry into the Muslim culture. And it is a warning about what the jihadi Muslims will do to all Americans if they ever gain control of this country. It is not about color or ethnicity. It is about how Muslims subjugate and abuse women and infidels simply because they are women and infidels.
This book dissects Islam where its treatment of women and non-Muslims are concerned. It spells out attitudes and customs in effect for over 1,400 years in Islam that all Western women who marry into Islamic society will be forced to live with and very possibly experience personally. These attitudes and customs are life-threatening for women and infidels alike.
Truths about Islam that Muslims rarely admit to Westerners, not even in direct conversation, are the warp and woof of this work. These are truths that Muslims purposely conceal because they prove how utterly different a belief and social system Islam is from Christianity, Buddhism, Hinduism, Judaism, other pacifist religions, and the American way of life.
All of these realities are closely related to each other, and it is sometimes difficult to separate the threads intertwining them, especially when one reality flows into another. Trying to assign parameters for each element in order for discussion to take place is rather like attempting to find particular pieces with very similar patterns and shapes of a 1000-word puzzle that has not yet been put together – it is very easy to overlook the individual part in the mosaic of the whole.
These facts are presented without apology and with appropriate documentation to help bring to a halt the ongoing victimization and suffering of American and other Western women who in good faith enter into relationships with Arab Muslim foreign nationals, only to find themselves subjected, in most instances, to cruel and savagely abusive treatment beyond their wildest imaginings. All too often there is no chance for escape.
You will become aware of truths you would rather not be confronted with, but must be aware of in order to save your life and in order to begin preserving America’s liberties so that you and your children and your children’s children will survive in a free and democratic society.
My additional agenda is to warn and thereby enable people to draw accurate conclusions about the very real and immediate dangers we face from the terrorists and to be aware of the actual agenda of these individuals and organizations.
It needs to be said that there are Muslims who are wonderful to know. I have some friends among them who I think the world of.
Many admirable Muslims live and work in the United States. They came here to become American citizens in order to live in peace and safety and to establish themselves by working hard, building good lives for their families, and educating their children to become contributive citizens who give back to society. Many Muslim men have married American women and treat them fairly and honorably. Equally, many Muslim women who escaped from the oppression in their countries of origin are happily married to American men. I have nothing but admiration for these people, especially the women who have come here to live as Americans in peace and freedom as defined in democracy. This book is not intended as a denigration of these good and decent individuals.
I am targeting only jihadi Muslims who want to dominate and ruin the world for the promulgation of Islam, destroy the United States as a free country for men and women alike, and eliminate everything and everyone who is not Muslim in the process.
Hopefully, this book will help you, the reader, become more informed so that you are able to make wise and safe choices that will afford you lives of accomplishment, self-respect, and, most importantly, happiness and well-being.
If you have a personal horror story about a relationship with or marriage to a Muslim to tell, please contact me by calling 1-800-411-3940 and leaving a message. Or you can go to my website, www.EscapeFromAnArabMarriage.com, and email me at info@EscapeFromAnArabMarriage.com. I will respond immediately. Once I receive your initial inquiry, we will make private arrangements for further communications.
Part I
Secrets Affecting Women
Subjugation of women
is an absolute requirement in Islam.
1.jpgSecret 1
Women Are Inferior to Men
Women are ‘awrat (vagina), pudenda, private part,
and deficient in intelligence.
– Muhammed
For over fourteen centuries in the Middle East, to be born a girl has been and still is a source of shame and embarrassment to her family. There are no celebrations of joy at her birth; instead a silence and sadness descend over the household. The father of the new daughter feels as though his manhood has been undermined and blames his wife for not having given him a son.
If she is not killed at birth, a girl child is made to feel ashamed of her body, inferior, and subservient because she is not male. If there is a boy in the house, he gets all the attention, all the best food (the girl child gets the leftovers from the meals after the boy and his father have finished), all the freedom to come and go as he pleases, the chance to get educated, and most of the love from his parents. The girl child is taught to work and serve the males in the house as humbly as a slave from the time she can walk.
In contrast, according to Nawal El-Sa’adawi in her pre-eminent book, A Daughter of Isis, all male children, especially firstborn sons, are treasured from the moment of their births when the fingers of the midwife separate one thigh away from the other as if they are the legs of a chicken, eager to reveal whatever good or evil lies hidden between them, to be the first one to let out a screaming ‘Yoo-yoo’ if her eyes fall on a penis (‘May the name of the Prophet protect and guard it’), if she glimpses the sacred organ bestowed by Allah on males alone.
¹ All boy children, especially the firstborn, are spoiled and cosseted constantly simply because they are male. They are also made aware as babies of the pleasure associated with their sexual organs because Muslim mothers consistently massage the penis with love and gentleness because they believes that such stimulus will help the penis to grow larger and stronger. Also, when any boy child is being fractious or irritable, his mother massages his genital area to soothe and lull him into peaceful contentment.
A boy is given everything he wants, even at the expense of his mother or sisters. If a sister, for instance, has something he wants, she is forced to give it to him. It could be an object as minor as an apple given to a sister her brother has decided that he wanted, as was the case with Sultana, a Saudi princess, when she was a little girl. As Sultana told Jean Sasson in Princess: The True Story of Life Behind the Veil in Saudi Arabia, Ali slapped me to the ground, but I declined to hand over the shiny red apple just given me by the Pakistani cook. Ali’s face began to swell with anger as I hovered over the apple and quickly began to take huge bites and swallow them whole. Refusing to give in to his male prerogative of superiority, I had committed a grave act and knew that I would soon suffer the consequences. Ali gave me two swift kicks and went running for our father’s driver, Omar, an Egyptian. My sisters feared Omar almost as much as they feared Ali or my father. They disappeared into the villa, leaving me alone to face the combined wrath of the men of the house.
²
Because Sultana stood up to her brother and refused to give in to him, Ali was given all of her toys and complete control over what Sultana was allowed to eat at mealtimes – if he allowed her to eat at all. He gave her only the smallest amounts of food to eat so that she was hungry all the time. In addition, he waved plates of hot rice and chicken in front of her at night before she went to sleep to add to the torture. Ali was only nine years old and Sultana only seven.³
As the boys, especially the firstborn sons, in an Arab Muslim family grow up, they are included in family councils, they have first choice of everything after their father, and they can order around their mother and sisters as much as they wish since women and girls are considered inferior and subservient to men and boys. Boys are taught from the beginning that the role of the male is to control and be in charge of the women in the house and that the role of the women and girls is to be docile, as nearly invisible as possible, and to be obedient at all times to every male in the family. Even in intimate moments with their husbands, women are made to feel polluted.
Traditionally, states Fatima Mernissi in Beyond the Veil: Female Dynamics in Modern Muslim Society, "in every Arab society, the sexual act is considered polluting and is surrounded by rituals and ceremonies designed to destroy any potential closeness between husband and wife so that the act itself occurs only for the purpose of procreation. The possibility that the couple will melt into total identification with each other and possibly grow to love one another is anathema to the Muslim god, Allah, who is extremely possessive and does not want anything interfering with worship and devotion to him. Arabs from every Muslim society have grown up with the attitude that intimacy with women is essentially contaminating and, once the act is finished, to remove all traces of the sexual encounter as speedily as possible. In yet another setting, women are made to feel inferior and unworthy once the man has gotten what he wants.⁴
Secret 2
Women Have No Right
to Self-determination
Nawal El-Sa’adawi tells us in The El-Sa’adawi Reader that "Women’s rights and women’s movements have always been considered anathema to Islamic political movements and to the state religious institution.
The patriarchal class system prevailing in our [Muslim] society is based on the dominance of the man in the family and on the dominance of the classes that possess wealth and authority in society. This system can only thrive and grow on the basis of many different forms of oppression and tyranny.
¹
Women’s rights as we know them in the United States and in the rest of the Western world simply do not exist in Middle Eastern countries, especially in Saudi Arabia. When all the discussions about the subject have been exhausted, women’s rights are what the local despot or government say they are – or are not – according to every Muslim patriarchal ruling group.
You need to know what you or your children, especially your girl children, will lose should any of you step across the border into the country of your husband’s birth.
* * *
A woman living in any Middle Eastern country does not have the right to free choice in anything. She cannot choose for herself not to have a circumcision, not to wear the veil (hijab), to live by herself, go to school, get a job, vote, hold a position of power, go for a walk by herself, travel anywhere, go for a cup of coffee with friends if she has any, associate with any males outside of her household, go shopping by herself, choose who she wants to marry, choose whether or not she wants to marry, or get a divorce.
If she is unmarried, she must ask permission for everything of her father or of other males in the household, all of whom have authority over her. If she is married, she must get permission from her husband because his word is law for her and their children since he owns them body and soul. The same will be true for you if you are married to a Muslim national and step inside the border of any Islamic country even though you were born in the United States or other Western nation.
The patriarchal class system is historically based on a double standard through which women are suppressed by men Every Muslim country is dominated and run by men to whom the rights of women conflict with the interests of the male elite. The elite faction is trying to convince women that the males’ egotistic, highly subjective, and mediocre view of culture and society has a sacred basis,
² according to Fatima Mernissi in The Veil and the Male Elite: A Feminist Interpretation of Women’s Rights in Islam.
Ibn Warraq, a Palestinian Arab who converted to Christianity, has this to say in his forthright book, Why I Am Not a Muslim: Islamic culture and civilization is profoundly antifeminist… Islam is the fundamental cause of the repression of Muslim women and remains the major obstacle to the evolution of their position.
³
Every Muslim male knows that when women permanently achieve even just the rights to move freely in society, to obtain university educations, and to work, this will herald that the males’ economic superiority and power over women will be seriously diminished over time. Money equals personal independence. Fourteen centuries of half the population being forced to be endless unpaid slave labor and owned by men will be history. There is nothing every male member of each country’s patriarchy won’t do to prevent women’s rights from becoming a reality.
Remember that for every Muslim male, owning and controlling all the money and all the women equates to being a real man
by Islamic standards. Status, wealth, prestige, rank in society, and power follow accordingly – but only if the status quo where women are concerned remains the same as it has for 1,400 years.
Women’s rights movements are slowly and sporadically making headway, more so in some countries than in others, depending upon how much of a stronghold misogynistic fundamentalist groups and mullahs possess in each government. When these fundamentalist groups become powerful enough, they immediately begin placing additional restrictions on women to further limit their freedom and, indeed, any vague semblance of individual identity and self-respect. Women are the usual target for any kind of power play by these groups when they feel the need to prove that they are strong enough to be the major player in national government.
For every male Muslim ruling group, the crucial problem remains the policy of exclusion and limitation practiced against the forces of Arab women. It is thus that men hope to maintain their domination over the women’s movement and to imprison it within the confines of social work (in the same way as individual women have been confined to domestic and family service within the home). These limitations have prevented women from growing into an effective organized collective force, taking collective decisions that will serve their interests, or participating in political movements as an independent political movement for women capable of engaging in political struggle and using its power to extract the rights which are women’s due.
⁴
Nawal el-Sa’adawi, who has been subjected to treatment as an inferior being from the time she was born, and on the frontline for the advancement of Arab women all her life, says also in The El-Sa’adawi Reader, "Islamic fundamentalists are trying to push women back to the veil, back home, back under the domination of their husbands. In the name of ‘protection’, ‘honor’, ‘sacred motherhood’, women are degraded and exploited inside and outside the home.
"Today, as a result of campaigns by conservative Islamic groups, the family code in most Arabic countries deprives mothers and wives of basic human rights. They are governed by the laws of obedience which reduces them to the status of slaves to their husbands who have the absolute right to divorce and polygamy. Theoretically, the Islamic fundamentalists raise motherhood to the level of heaven, but in the legal code a Middle Eastern mother cannot give her nationality to her children.
Islamic fundamentalist groups are preaching segregation and trying to ban Darwin and other scientific books. Under the name of Islamization they try to ban music, parties, and omit spiritual love stories or romantic pieces of poetry from schoolbooks. Islamic fundamentalists shout and shriek verses of the Qur’an and prayers all day and night into microphones and loudspeakers. They can insult anybody who complains or who differs in opinion with them and accuse him or her of heresy.
⁵
Dr. El-Sa’adawi further goes on to say that the characteristic Muslim class systems, with their pre-Islamic tribal patriarchies and their fundamentalists, are based on a double standard. They are founded on the enslavement of women and children in every society in this part of the world, the basic profits from which are rooted in the accumulative labor of women and children – by any standard, the cheapest labor in existence.
The struggle of Arab women to create a cohesive, organized political movement is generated by the necessity of long overdue voicing of the needs and rights of half of every Arab Muslim society. The necessity of the women to organize is based on the extreme forms of oppression, both open and hidden, inflicted upon them by the male half of society in every Islamic country. In every Arab nation, women are responding to class, group, professional, and national oppression and subjugation
Women can no longer let the status quo continue. The women’s movements are especially important because of the three-tiered levels of oppression to which they are subjected by the males. The origins of this oppression reach back thousands of years into pre-Judaic history and have infiltrated into the home, the bedroom, and the bodies of countless women. Nawal El-Sa’adawi states, The roots of the oppression rise up and expand to englobe nations and states, and the alliances built up among them all over the world, in a total structure through which the forces of oppression exercise their effect. It is this progressive significance of the women’s movement that explains the unrelenting attempts made to forbid it from coming into existence. Efforts are made at all levels, from the very bottom to the top, internally and externally, to kill the movement before it is born.
⁶
The most savagely repressive, misogynistic countries are Saudi Arabia, Afghanistan, Pakistan, Iran, and Iraq. The endemic hatred of and contempt for women openly expressed by the male population in these countries is demonstrated by vicious beatings for little or no reason, imprisonment, multiple rapes of girl children, rape of any female in sight at any given moment, honor killings, the maintenance of polygamy, total restriction to households, the heaviest possible veiling, mullahs dealing wholesale in sex slavery and brothels, and abduction of children worldwide for the Arab Muslim males to buy, brutalize, despoil, and pass on.
Virtually the same living conditions for women are true to a lesser degree in Algeria, Sudan, Egypt, Syria, Jordan, Palestine, Yemen, and Oman. The fundamentalist groups are passing new laws discriminating against the female half of the population, aimed at restricting debate about women’s rights, and designed to further stifle any kind of decent life for women. New restrictions further segregate the sexes in education and health care. The mullahs continue to be obsessed with burying women under more and more layers of shapeless fabric and encouraging crimes of honor to be perpetrated in ever-increasing numbers in every Muslim country.
There are two Muslim countries that have actually passed laws which have granted women equality on their personal lives: Tunisia and Turkey. Both allow women to manage their own affairs and guardianship of their children, they have equal representation in divorce, there is alimony and child support, couples share in decisions about the household, and each spouse must assist the other and treat the him or her with respect. Tunisian has abolished polygamy, and Turkey gives illegitimate children the same inheritance rights as those born of marriage. There are a few other differences in the laws passed in both countries where working and women’s roles in diplomacy and politics are concerned, all of which are extremely admirable and exciting.
Every Muslim country is having to cope with fundamentalist groups that are determined to seize the reins of power however possible so they can prevent progress, especially where women are concerned.
Donna Hughes, professor at the University of Rhode Island, states in her paper, Women and Reform in Iran,
that the fundamentalists’ theocracy is built on their beliefs about the nature of women and men and their roles in society. In their view, women are physically, intellectually, and morally inferior to men. This assumption means that women cannot participate equally in any area of social or political activity. Ideas of biological determinism prescribe women’s primary role and duties to child bearing and care taking, and to providing comfort and satisfaction to husbands. Women are viewed as the embodiment of sexual seduction and vice, thereby necessitating strict control on women’s interactions with men and the visibility of their bodies. The fundamentalists implement their system of gender apartheid through segregation of the sexes, suppression of women’s activities and visibility in public, and increased control of women by men in the family
⁷ since men are the head of the family households.
In other words, the ultimate goal of fundamentalists in every Islamic stronghold is to legislate, terrorize, and brutalize women to force their regression to the status of bugs, scuttling into dark corners, cowering and afraid, to be allowed just enough existence to cook, clean, serve the males, pleasure the males, and bear sons. Then, ideally, when the women are not on duty, they will be sent back to their corners to await the next summons of their male lords and masters. The sooner the fundamentalists can return women to the seventh century, the happier they will be. They almost succeeded in Afghanistan.
It is inescapable that by what Western societies view as civilized, enlightened standards, militant Islamic fundamentalists wish the Islamic world to regress to seventh-century Arab patriarchal thinking and behavior – what they consider pure
Islam.
Even while every Muslim male is trying his best to chain women ever more closely to the hearth, the kitchen, and the bedroom, women are taking the initiative and grasping firmly ever more access to education and to working in the public sphere, and a small percentage of women are members of national parliaments when they are able to obtain permission from their husbands to attend school, get a job in the workplace, or participate in government.
In every Muslim country are found the same basic laws and requirements under which women must exist, sometimes enforced to a somewhat lesser degree than you will find in Saudi Arabia.
In Saudi Arabia women have no rights. They barely own their own souls.
Carmen bin Laden, a Swiss citizen who married into the bin Laden family and lived in Saudi Arabia for ten years, made the following observations in her book Inside the Kingdom: My Life in Saudi Arabia: A wife in Saudi Arabia cannot do anything without her husband’s permission. She cannot go out, cannot study, often cannot even eat at his table. Women in Saudi Arabia must live in obedience, in isolation, and in the fear that they may be cast out and summarily divorced.
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"Socially, Saudi Arabia is medieval, dark with sin and interdiction. The Saudi version of Islam – Wahhabism – is ferocious in its enforcement of a stark and ancient social code. This not a complex intellectual culture like that of Iran or Egypt. The Kingdom is barely over 50 years old and it is very close to its early tribal traditions.
Saudi Arabia may be wealthy, but it is probably the least cultivated country in the multifaceted Arab world, with the most [backward], simplistic and brutal conception of social relationships. Families are headed by patriarchs, and the obedience to the patriarch is absolute. The only values that count in Saudi Arabia are loyalty and submission – first to Islam, then to the clan.
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According to Princess Sultana al-Saud in Princess:The True Story of Life Behind the Veil in Saudi Arabia, "The authority of a Saudi male is unlimited; his wife and children survive only if he desires. In our homes, he is the state. This complex situation begins with the rearing of our young boys. From an early age, the male child is taught that women are of little value: they exist only for his comfort and convenience. The child witnesses the disdain shown his mother and sisters by his father. This open contempt leads to his scorn of all females, and makes it impossible for him to enjoy friendship with anyone of the opposite sex. Taught only the role of master to slave, it is little wonder that by the time he is old enough to take a mate, he considers her chattel, not his partner.
"And so it comes to be that women in my land are ignored by their fathers, scorned by their brother, and abused by their husbands. This cycle is difficult to break, for the men who impose this life upon their women ensure their own marital unhappiness, for what man can be truly content surrounded by such misery? It is evident that men of my land are searching for gratification by taking one wife after another, followed by mistress after mistress. Little do these men know that their happiness can be found in their own home, with one woman of equality. By treating women as slaves, as property, men have made themselves as unhappy as the women they rule and have made love and companionship unattainable to both sexes.
The history of our women is buried behind a black veil of secrecy. Neither our births nor our deaths are made official in any public record. Although births of male children are documented in family or tribal records, none are maintained anywhere for females. The common emotion expressed at the birth of a female is either sorrow or shame.
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In Saudi Arabia, music, theaters, concerts, cinemas, sports, debates, discussions, games, books – all of the activities that make our lives richer and more enjoyable are forbidden, especially to women and girls. Women are not allowed to drive, go anywhere outside the house without wearing an abaya (full-length black covering), walk anywhere alone, talk to any male who is not a relative, sing, read books, or travel unless it with their husband’s express permission. The qualities of mercy, compassion, and mildness are not valued or cultivated. Lowliness, fear, and subservience are ingrained in girl children from the day they are born, and continually reinforced in them until the day they die – old, worked to death, and unhonored.
Abul Kasem, a Muslim who left Islam and living in Australia, reveals in his article Women’s Paradise
uncompromisingly the breadth and depth of women’s powerlessness to determine any aspect of their lives for themselves when living under Islam:
1. Hijab has been forced on every woman whether she likes it or not. Wearing no hijab may invite severe punishment. Prosecutor-General Abofazi Musavi-Tabrizi [was quite specific]. "Anyone who rejects the principle of hijab in Iran is an apostate and the punishment for an apostate under Islamic law is death."
2. Women are baby-growing fields. Ayatollah Mutahiri said, The specific task of women in this society is to marry and bear children.
3. Women are banned from studies such as engineering, agriculture, archaeology, restoration of historic monuments, handicrafts, and many other fields of study.
4. Provisional marriage is lawful. A man may have four permanent wives
and as many provisional wives
as he likes.
5. The marriage age for girls was reduced to 13 and then further reduced to nine years. This is in keeping with the tradition of Prophet Muhammed who at the age of 51 married a six-year-old child (Ayesha) and had sex with her when she became nine.
6. Iranian women cannot marry foreigners without the written permission from the Ministry of Interior.
7. Divorce is an indisputable right of men and women can be divorced without any prior consultation.
8. A married woman cannot travel, work, join organizations, go to college, or visit her friends and relatives without the husband’s permission.
9. Married women cannot travel overseas without written permission from their husbands. This written permission must be presented to the authorities. The authorities are also considering banning all women from traveling overseas for higher study.
10. A husband can inflict any physical violence or any other form of torture on a woman. Hojatoleslam Imani, a top religious leader says, A married woman should endure any violence or torture imposed on herby her husband for she is fully at his disposal. Without his permission she may not leave her house even for a good action such as charitable work. Otherwise her prayers and devotions will not be accepted by God and curses of heaven an earth will fall upon her.
11. Women are stoned to death if their husbands charge them for adultery. A woman was stoned to death even when no man was found to have committed adultery with her. A mullah took only sixty seconds to arrive at the decision and she was stoned the next day. Before stoning her to death, the mullahs shaved her head and she was buried in mud up to her shoulders. Her husband and two small children witnessed this rahmat of Allah.
12. Women political prisoners are treated as war criminals. So, they are captives (right hand’s possession). Therefore, their guards can do whatever they like. Their captors regularly and systematically rape them (the women prisoners).
13. Virgin girls sentenced to death are not executed till their captors have sex with them and rendered them un-virgin. Since virgin girls go to heaven when they die, the mullahs want to make sure that these girls can never enter paradise after they are executed. It is alleged that this type of sexual intercourse with virgin girl prisoners takes place on a daily basis.¹¹
And all of the above are sanctioned in Qur’anic suras:
Sura al-Baqarah 2:23: Your women are a tilth to you to cultivate so go to your tilth as ye will, and send good deeds before you for your souls, and fear Allah, and know that ye will one day meet Him.
Sura an-Nisa 4:34: As to those women on whose part ye fear disloyalty and ill-conduct, admonish them, refuse to share their beds, and beat them.
Sura an-Nisa 4:24: And all married women are forbidden to you save those whom your right hand possesses (captives).
Sura al-Baqarah 2:222: They question thee concerning menstruation. Say it is an illness, so let women alone at such times and go not unto them till they are cleansed.¹²
Mr. Kasem also makes very clear the outstanding features which apply exclusively to all Muslimahs (women Muslims). These have been collected from the most authentic Islamic sources available – the Qur’an, the Hadiths, the Sharia, and Imam Ghazali – so that women can decide whether the women everywhere in the world should follow the example set by the Islamic world. These are called in Islam the Muslimahs golden rights and provisions for all
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The right to be treated as diseased and as sex toys. (the Qur’an, 2:222; Sahahi Bukhari, 3.31.172)
The right to be used as a sowing field. (the Qur’an, 2:223).
The right to enjoy another husband after the third divorce. (hilla marriage) from the previous husband (the Qur’an, 2:230; Sahih Bukhari, 8.73.107; Sahih Bukhari, 7.63.187)
The right to engage in Islamic prostitution through Mut’a marriage. (the Qur’an, 4:24; Sahih Bukhari, 8.3246-48; Sahih Muslim, 8:3252-53, 8:3258)
The right to be treated as impure or as a drunkard. (the Qur’an, 4:32, 16:92)
To uphold the inalienable superiority of men over women, and the right to be beaten by husbands – no questions asked. (the Qur’an, 16:92; Sunaan Abu Dawad, 11.2142; Abdur Rahman 1 DOI, the recognized authority on Sharia in his book Women in Society)
To uphold the right of the husband to have four wives at any time and any number of sex-slaves for all times; in case of objection by any wife, the husband can beat her. (the Qur’an, 4:3; Sunan Abu Dawad, 30.2.13; the Qur’an, 23:5-6, 70:29-30)
The right to be treated as a dog, a pig, a monkey, or an ass. (Sahih Bukhari, 1.9.490, 493, 498; Sahih Muslim, 4.1039; Sunaan Abu Dawad, 11.2155; Mishkat ul-Masabih, vol. 2, p. 114; Hadis, no. 789)
The right of ordinary women to be treated as crows. (Ghazali, vol. 2, p. 34)
The right of a Muslimah to be stupid and to become a servant. (Sahih Bukhari, 1.6.301; Ghazali, vol. 2, p. 34)
Muslim women forfeit their right to travel alone. (Sahih Bukhari, 2.20.192, 193; 3.29.85; 4.52.250; Abdur Rahman 1 Doi, the recognized authority on Sharia in his book Women in Society)
Women must keep their sexual organs ready at all times for the husband to enjoy them unhindered at any time – night or day. (Sahih Bukhari, 4.54.460, 7.62.81; Sahih Muslim, 8.3367-68; Ghazali vol 2, p. 43)
Women have the right to breast-feed an unrelated bearded man to make him haram (forbidden to her in marriage). (Sahih Muslim, 8.3424-48)
Women are slaves (prisoners) and men are their masters (owners). (Ghazali, vol. 2, p. 33; Hedaya, p. 47)
Islamic marriage is about sex for money (prostitution). (Sunaan Abu Dawud, 11.2105, 2.11, 2106; Milik’s Muwatta, 28.4.12; Sunaan Abu Dawud, 11.2126; Hedaya, p. 44)
If a woman wishes to get rid of her tyrannical husband she must refund the sex money
(Mahr) she received from him during marriage. (Sahih Muslim 7.63.197-99; Sunaan Abu Dawud 12,2220; Malik’s Muwatta 29.10.32)
Women have the right to undergo female circumcision (FGM). (Sunaan Abu Dawud, 41.5251)
Women are slaves and infidels – they are not fit to join the moral police force. (Ghazali, vol 2., p. 186)
A husband has the right to have sex with his wife by force (the right to rape). (Hedaya, p. 141)
Women are cheap – you can have sex with a woman by simply teaching her how to recite a few verses from the Qur’an. (Sahih Buhkari, 6.61.547-48; Ghazali, vol. 2, p. 31)
Barren women should be confined at home – they are fit only to be in the house-prison. (Ghazali vol. 2, p. 24; Sunaan Abu Dawud, 3.29.3911)
A woman has no say when her husband decides to add more wives in his harem; she can’t even ask her husband to divorce her. (Sahih Bukhari, p. 141)
A wife has the right to decorate her husband when he goes out to have sex with his other wives. (Sahih Bukhari, 1.5.270)
A woman should never be selected or elected as a ruler. (Sahih Bukhari, 5.59.709; Ghazali, vol. 2, p. 34)
Muslim women uphold the right of Islamic Jihadists to rape captive women right in front of their vanquished husbands. (the Qur’an 4:24; Sahih Muslim, 8.3371, 3373-74, 3377; Sunaan Abu Dawud, 2.11.2150, 8.77.598)
Women are devils; they are as dirty and filthy as private parts are. (Sahih Muslim, 8.3240, 3242; Ghazali, vol. 2, p. 26, 43)
Fear the company of women – they bring bad luck. (Sahih Bukhari, 7.62.30-31; Bukhari, 4.52.110-11; Malik’s Muwatta, 54.821-22; Sahih Muslim, 36.6603-04; Ghazali, vol. 3, p. 86-87)
Women have very little intelligence – their own testimony is inadmissible in rape cases; in other matters their testimony is half to that of a man. (the Qur’an, 4:14, 2:282; Sunaan Abu Dawud, 3.40.4662)
Women are less human – they get one-third of blood money, no booty (for Jihad) for them. (Malik’s Muwatta, 43.64b; Sahih Muslim, 19.4458)
Women are worse than dead persons – they cannot follow a bier. (Sahih Muslim, 4.2039)
Men should always oppose women. (Ghazali, vol. 2, p. 34)
Women are easily expendable – a divorced woman gets no maintenance or alimony from her ex-husband. (Sahih Muslim, 9.3519, 3522)
A woman has the right to stay at home solely to provide sex to her husband. (Hedaya p. 54)
A woman becomes a harlot when she wears perfume. (Mishkat al-Masabih, vol. 2, p.