COURTSHIP QUESTIONS

Who introduced you to your spouse? When and where did you meet the first time? Could you describe the first meeting? Where was your spouse living at the time? 5. Who was your spouse living with when you met? 6. Did you exchange phone numbers and/or email addresses? 7. Did you make arrangements to meet again? 8. When did you next meet? 9. Where did you and your spouse go on your second date? 10. What did the two of you have in common? 11. What attracted you to your spouse? 12. Where did you go for dates? 13. When did your relationship turn romantic? 14. When did you decide to get married? Where were you at the time? 15. How long was it before you decided to get married? 16. Who proposed to whom? 17. Did you give your spouse a ring when you proposed? 18. Why did you decide to have a long (or short) engagement? 19. Did you live together before marriage? 20. Did your parents approve of the match? Why or Why not? 2. 3. 4.

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WEDDING QUESTIONS 1. 2. 3. 4. 5. What is the date of your marriage? What day of the week did you get married? Where was the wedding held? How did you and your spouse get to the church, temple, mosque, gurudwara, courthouse etc.? Did you exchange wedding rings? Did you and your spouse purchase them together or separately?

4. Is he/she wearing her wedding ring right now? 5. Who were the bridesmaids/groomsmen? 6. Did each of your parents attend the wedding? 7. Did any of your, and your spouses, family members attend? If so, who? 8. Who were the witnesses to the ceremony? 9. How many people attended your wedding? 10. How late did the guests stay at the wedding? 11. Did you have a reception after the ceremony? 12. Could you please describe the reception? 13. Was there music or other entertainment? 14. Did the bride change clothes for the reception? 15. What kind of cake or other food was served? 16. Did you serve the liquor? What kind? 17. Did anyone get drunk or otherwise embarrass themselves at the reception? Who? Describe. 18. What time did you and the [bride or groom] leave the reception? 19. If you didnt have a reception, what did you do after the wedding ceremony? 20. Could you please show me any photos of the wedding ceremony and/or reception? 21. Did you go on a honeymoon? When did you leave? How did you get there? Where did you go? For how long? What airlines? 22. How many days did you spend on your honeymoon? 23. What date did you and your spouse leave for your honeymoon? 24. What date did you and your spouse return from your honeymoon? 25. Did you get married to get into the US? Did you pay your spouse to get married or make any other deals? 26. Why do you think your spouse wants to come to the US? Are you worried that s/he married you for a green card? 27. What are your concerns about being married to someone from another culture? 28. Do you think that your relationship will work? 29. Do you trust your spouse? 30. Where did you live after the wedding?

LIVING CONDITIONS 1. Describe the place where you lived right after the marriage? Number of bedrooms and bathrooms; furnishings; color of walls, floor covering, appliances, etc; type of air conditioning (window or central), heating (gas or electrical), etc; number of telephones, TV sets etc. Where do you live now? How long have you been staying at the current address? 4. Do you live in a home (single family, condominium, townhouse) or apartment? How much is the mortgage or rent? Who pays it? When is it paid?

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If you live in an apartment or condominium: 5. What floor do you live on? 6. What compass direction does the front door face? 7. How many keys do you need to go from the street to the apartment? 8. What is your landlords name? 9. What date did you sign the lease? 10. When does the lease expire? 11. How many people are living with you and your spouse? 12. Who are your neighbors? 13. Is your sofa a regular one or does it have a pull-out bed? If later, have you ever had guests sleep there? 14. What size is your bed (twin, queen, king)? 15. Do you have a regular mattress, futon or waterbed? 16. Do you have lamps next to your bed? 17. Where do you keep your clothes? Where does your spouse keep his/her clothes? 18. How many closets are in the apartment? 19. On what side of the closet does your spouse hang his/her clothes? 20. What color are the curtains in your house? 21. What type of curtains or window coverings are in your living room? What color? 22. Is there a carpet in your front hallway? What color? 23. How many staircases are in your house? 24. How many cars do you have? 25. Do you have a garage? How many cars fit into it? Who parks in it? Do you use a garage door opener? 26. Who keeps the garage door opener in the car? 27. What color are the kitchen curtains? 28. Do you have a barbecue grill? Do you use it? Is it gas or charcoal? 29. Where is the garbage kept in the kitchen? 30. Do you use bottled or a water filtration system? If so, describe it. 31. Does the refrigerator make ice or do you use ice trays? 32. Describe the refrigerator doors side by side and top to bottom. 33. Where do you keep your toothbrushes? 34. Where are the bathroom towels kept? 35. Where do you keep the dirty clothes? 36. How many sinks, toilets, and showers are there in your house/apartment in total? 37. Do you have a bathtub or a shower? 38. Do you have a shower curtain or shower door? 39. When sitting on the toilet bowl, where is the toilet paper situated? (Left, Right, Front?)

40. Do you hang the clothes on a line or do you use a dryer? 41. Where is the clothes line located? 42. How many remote controls are there in your house? 43. How may TV sets are in your house? In which rooms? 44. Do you have cable TV or satellite dish? 45. Who is the cable/dish provider in your house? 46. Do you have a still camera? Is that a digital camera or one with film? 47. Who uses the camera most often? 48. Do you have a camcorder? What brand is it? 49. Who takes pictures at important family occasions or during sightseeing? 50. How many telephones are in your house? Where are they? 51. Is the telephone a cordless or corded telephone? 52. What color is the telephone? 53. Do both of you have cell phones? Do you have a family plan on the phones? 54. Does your phone have an answering machine? Who checks the messages? 55. Do you have a VCR? What brand? Do you use it only to watch videos, or do you record any TV shows? 56. Do you have a DVD player? What brand? 57. Where do you work? 58. What days of the week do you work? What hours do you work? 59. What is your annual salary? 60. Whats your spouses educational background? 61. If your spouse has a college degree, when and where did he/she acquire it? 62. Where does your spouse work? 63. What is your spouses position at the job? 64. What are your spouses working hours? 65. What days of the week does your spouse work? 66. What is your phone number at work? 67. What is your spouses phone number at work? 68. Do you know your spouses salary? If yes, how much is it? 69. When is your spouse paid? 70. Which of your financial matters are shared, or who supports the other financially? 71. Who takes care of paying the bills? 72. Do you write checks for paying the bills or online billing? 73. Did you file a joint tax return this year? Can I see the copy of it? 74. Do you jointly own any property? If yes, can I see the copies of the documents? 75. Do you have an insurance policy listing your spouse as the beneficiary? If yes, can I see copy of the same? 76. Do you have any utility bills where both of you are listed together? 77. Do you have receipts from items you have purchased together? 78. Do you have any joint bank accounts? Where? What kind of accounts (checking, savings, money market etc.)? 79. Are both of you listed on the account? As proof, do you have a bank letter or cancelled checks? 80. Does your spouse have bank accounts without you? If yes, what is the name of the Bank?

LIFESTYLE 1. 2. 3. Do you set up the alarm clock to get up in the morning? Who gets up first? At what time? Who does most of the cooking?

4. Who makes breakfast? 5. What does your spouse drink in the morning? (Such as coffee, tea, milk etc.) If so, does he/she use cream and/or sugar? 6. What do each of you eat for breakfast? 7. Who cleans the house? 8. What are the garbage pick up days? 9. Who goes grocery shopping? Where? How often? How do you get there? 10. What kind of toothpaste, soap, and shampoo do each of you use? 11. Does your spouse use a regular toothbrush or an electric one? 12. Do you have any pets? Which ones (such as dog, cat, fish etc.)? Who feeds it? Who walks it or cleans its cage, kitty litter box etc? 13. Is your spouse taking any medication? What are the names of the medication? What condition requires that medication? 14. What are your working hours? 15. What time do you or your spouse arrive home (whoever is working)? 16. How does your spouse get home from work? 17. How often and what time do you call each other by phone? 18. When was the last day both of you were together? Describe in detailed chronological order what both of you did that day. 19. What is a typical weekend for you and your spouse? 20. What are your favorite foods and who cooks what? 21. What is your spouses most (or least) favorite food? 22. Is there a particular food that you eat every week? What is it? 23. How many times a week on average do you eat out? 24. What is your special restaurant? 25. What is your spouses favorite sport? 26. What is your spouses favorite team? 27. Have you ever been to a game with your spouse? If yes, when did you attend? 28. Does your spouse drink? 29. What is your spouses favorite beer? 30. What is your spouses favorite cigarette? 31. What is your spouses favorite color? 32. What is your spouses favorite movie? 33. Does your spouse listen to the radio? What station? 34. Does your spouse listen to music? What kind of equipment does he/she have such as walkman, iPod etc? 35. Do you watch TV shows together, or separately? 36. Name one TV show that you always watch together. 37. Where do you rent movies from? 38. What religious holidays do you celebrate together? 39. Do you and/or your spouse attend regular religious services? Where? 40. What is the most important holiday of the year in your household? Where do you typically celebrate it? 41. What did you do for Christmas, New Year, your anniversary? Did you exchange gifts? If so, what kind of gift? 42. How did you celebrate your most recent wedding anniversary? 43. What did you do for your spouses last birthday?

44. What did you give each other for your last birthdays? 45. Have you and your spouse gone to see a movie (or any other form of entertainment) lately? When and what did you see? 46. When was your last vacation? Did you and your spouse go anywhere together at that time? 47. Do you have the photos from your last vacation together? 48. What do you like best about the other? The least about each other? 49. When was your last argument time, day, place, subject? Who started the argument? How was it resolved? 50. What time do you and your spouse go to bed in the evening? 51. Who sleeps on each side of the bed? 52. Do either of you read or watch television before going to sleep? 53. Do you leave any lights on when you go to sleep at night? 54. Does your spouse snore? 55. What kind of birth control do you use? What brand do you use? 56. When was your wifes last menstrual period? 57. When did you last kiss your wife and vice-versa-where, what location, and what time of day? 58. Does your spouse have any piercing? Where are they? 59. Do you and/or your spouse have any scars or tattoos? If yes, where on the body?

EACH OTHER AND EACH OTHERS FAMILIES 1. 2. 3. 4. 5. 6. 7. What is your spouses full name? What is your spouses date of birth? What is the city and country of your spouses birth? What is your spouses religion? Has your spouse ever been convicted or have a criminal record? Have you ever been convicted of a crime? What is the immigration status of your spouse in the US (citizen or LPR)? If your spouse was not born in the US, where was he/she born? When and where was his or her naturalization? Do you speak your spouses language? What language do the two of you converse in? Where all has your spouse lived before? Was your spouse ever hospitalized? How many children do you have? What are the names, birth dates and birth place (hospital name, city) of each child? Which children were normal delivery and which ones were c-section? What is the name of your childs best friend? Who prepares and packs the lunch for your children? What is your usual babysitters name? Does your child attend day care? What days and times does your child attend day care? What is the name of your childs teacher? Who picks up the children at school? What are their least favorite foods? Which children (if any) still use a car seat? What are the favorite toys/activities of your children? If you do not have children what are your intentions for children? How many times has your spouse been married? How did your spouses previous marriages end? (Divorce, annulled, etc.) Why was your spouses previous marriages terminated? Who initiated the divorce? Where did the divorce take place? Are there any outstanding issues related to the divorce? If yes, describe in detail. If your spouse pays alimony how much are the alimony payments? Does your spouse still see his/her ex-spouse? Why or why not? If your spouse has children from a previous marriage, what are their names and ages, where they live, and where they go to school? How often do you communicate with them? What are the visitation arrangements with the non-custodial parent? Did the children see him/her this weekend/when? Does your spouse have full custody of his/her children? Does he/she pay child support? Is he/she current on his child support payment? Do you know your spouses family members? Which ones? What is your spouses parents name? Where were your spouses parents born? Where do your spouses parents live? Have you met each others parents? How often do you speak with or see your spouses parents? How do each of you get along with your parents-in-law?

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When did you see them last time? For how long? Where? How many brothers and sisters does your spouse have? Name each brother and sister and their place of residence. Are they married? Did they get married before you got married to your husband/wife? How many children do your spouses brothers and sisters have, if any? Do you buy gifts for your in-laws on important holidays? Do they buy gifts for you? 50. Which other members of your spouses family do you see frequently? When was the last time you saw them? What did you do together? 51. Do you know your spouses friends? Provide the names, if possible phone numbers. How long have they known each other? Where do they live? Do they know about your spouses previous relationships?

RELATED TO INTERVIEW DAY 1. 2. 3. 4. 5. 6. 7. 8. 9. 10. 11. 12. 13. 14. Did you or your spouse go to work yesterday? If so, at what time did you and/or spouse leave the house and return? Did you eat dinner together last night? What did you have? Did anyone else have dinner with you last night? Who cooked the dinner last night? What time was dinner served? Did you watch TV after dinner? What shows did you watch? Who went to bed first? At what time did you go to bed? Who woke up first this morning? Did an alarm clock go off? Did you or your spouse take a shower this morning? Did you have breakfast? Where and what did you eat? Did you come to the interview together? Who drove? Where have you parked your car? What other documentation do you have to prove that you are living together as a married couple?