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i ve i t s t ton m e a l e otona l a physca l nvol d n he iua i nt ly, m i ly, nd i ly. T he r s ? ea ons Siua i lke t ta e unu ua durng t c s ofa nor a t tons i ha r s l i he our e m l da Butwhe you puta pe s i o a s f ,i r gui ent r a ny. n r on nt a e nt i ng, e t i m entba e out oft or na y st ton, he ca tus he s a - s d, - -he- di r iua i s n' e r t nda d de e e t s el he s f fom you. She ca t g t he r f ns s o hi d r el r n' o o r def ul t nki s r t i s a am ea ofm ent l dim i sng your a t hi ng t a eg e s ns al s s i y a gum e .She ha t r a t dif r l bec us t e e na s i r nt s o e c fe enty, a e he xt r l tm u1 a e dif e . sm or ope t w ha you ha t s y be us i r fer nt She' e n o t ve o a ca e youke f ce he i o be ng ope or d r nt i n. Tw o m or qui k e m pl ofusng w ha you ar dy know a e c xa es i t lea s a m ec nim : ha s

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' e, ' yourde a lque tonsa e i por a ,butl t ne f ge Se t i si r m t nt e ' ver or t s t t m y pr s a pr ha oce s nd oduc a e a t r boutcr tng a c pa t t ea i om ny ha ca pr n oduc i doz ns ofdif r ntdie i a onc en e fe e r ctons t e. ' y pr e s i a ' M oc s s bout lber ton. l' a i ai t bout i s nnova i l' ton. t s a bouthe pi yourc pa do w ha i wasm e ntt do whe i l ng om ny tt a o nt 1eror s a is be t' 7 f m t t s. ' D oesyourBody M e a t phort n t st ton a ound? M a ur he iua i r ybe. W ha i doesdo i br k t de r m enthea oft i pr oc utt s ea he pa t ds he r e c pa i w ih m i ta a ge t m ba k on t a k,s you ca pe ton t nu i e nd t he c rc o n r s de t m on t bene isoft bi pi t e. ua he he ft he g c ur T hi e m pl us s ee ng a r e i a a m ea s xa e ed qu zi nd el asng s ns dem ons r tng wha ha nsw hen you r m ove apl i t s t ai t ppe e ug n he ys t m .H ow m i a sm ia de ons r ton be u e t i l nce e ght i l r m t a i s d o nfue ot si yourow n lf ? her n ie

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Per ps a e pl e ofyour i a r i ofm a ng a m i t k a ha n m oye s s fad ki s a e nd herca i i ge tng i t w a ofhe dute .You w a t br a uton s t i n he y r is nt o e k her of herpe f c i s ,s you i t her i o your of i e a r e tonim o nvie nt fc nd di c s t st ton. urng yourt l you l d he t ough t s us he iua i D i a k, ea r hr he s ue ng a r e sng,de ons r tng how w he you'e t ns , q ezi nd el a i m ta i n r e e i' ha d t f us on a yt ng ot r t n t t ns on.H ow e , t r o oc s n hi he ha he e i ver w he you r ea e t t i i' e i rt f uson e r hi i n el s he enson, t ase o oc s ve yt ng n fontofyou. r You c d a s fi t r tonae be nd t s e ng- ndoul lo lp he a i l hi he que zi a r l sng e er ie,a br ng up t postve a pec oft i e ea i x c s nd i he ii s t enson. For i t nce you a k a s a k em pl ns a , s lc oyee t t e up, a o ens nd dr w a t i t t pr a t ent on o he onounce m us e i hi f ea m s d cl s n s or r . T he you a k hi t r l x,a s n s m o e a nd how how t e m us esdi a hos cl s ppea .Yourpoi :W he w e oper t a f lca c t we do w ha r nt n a e t ul pa iy, t w e w e e m ea t do.O urbodi ge s r r nt o es t t onge ,ourabii i i r ltes ncrease.

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f M e? l you w a yours l s m e s ge t gett ough t t m , or ' f nt ae sa o hr o he you ha t m a s r you'e t l ng a ve o ke u e r a ki boutw ha t y w a ,not t he nt w ha you w a . t nt' ' M i et t k t s a r W IF c e a gi s i ddl on a es he t nda d I M onc pt nd ve t

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C a you s how he de ons r ton c d be t ne i o a n ee r m t a i oul ur d nt r m a ka e Body M e a e r bl t phorf you? l a ne t tyour t yi t or m gi ha 'e r ng o pr a poi .Pe ha you'e a m em be ofa c rt bl or ni aove nt r ps r r ha ia e ga z ton,a t ot m e be s a e down on yourgr s a lt t i nd he her m r r oup' biiy o e f tc nge. fec ha

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s r ton t s t a i o how t tt e a e ti s t m a ng s r t r hol ha her r rck o ki t uc u es d, a you k nd now t e t i ks hos rc . O r you coul m a up yourow n m et phor , d ke a . Per psyou cou d s a on yourcha ra i ca e t w e k ha l t nd i nd ndi t he a poi s i youri pr pt s r t r You' s y: nt n m om u t uc u e. d a ' he e t c i l gs t ch t gr ' r he ha r e ou he ound i a wea poi ,beW s k nt ca e t charcoul m ove. he e t c i s ti bole t t us he i d W r he ha r ea s t d o he l gsi aw e poi , ca e t bol scoul l e and dr out e s ak nt be us he t d oos n op . W he e m y f etcont c t c i i a wea poi ,be a e lcoul r e a t he ha r s k nt c us d

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poi s be wee m e a t cha r a e a r , s t a e t nt t n nd he i r ppa ent o oo r he w ea poi si a buidi Le m e s k nt n l ng. t how you w ha lm e n t oug t a hr h t s sm ul ton on my c pu e . hi i a i om t r' ' U s ng t tBody M e a i ha t phor do you t nk t pe e ls e ng , hi he opl it ni t you w oul ha a be t runder t ndi ofwha your a tt o d ve te s a ng t 'e bou o s wt ho hem on yourcom put r e? C om i u wih you own m e a ng p t r t phorr quie s e i a nae r s om m gi ton,buti' not r ke s i e.You t k you hi c i t s oc t c enc ae r gh once a pt nd you m a hum a bodi s pa a l t tconc i a w a t ti1 ke n e r lel ha ept n y ha 1um i esi. nat t

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your i x fnger f t pe a you ha your el a pur nde i or he n, nd ve s f e Body M et phor a . + A Ly t te - rt tg : peron be nd you mus pus eel e o / J gs sg tThe s ? f hi t h vny (gtse ?l wih pams a i tyours der.l t pe s g ; ta i t l gans y houl s f he r on pus s i s ops a s a t ,your ba a e m a be t own of he n t nd t r s l nc y hr f a you m a be knocke dow n. nd y d H ow do you gett pe s pus ng e y a s e di he r on hi venl nd t a l y? A s Rem e ber t pe s does t know how t s unt k. m , he r on n' he t w or s As i t pus e y a s e di s k . k ng o h venl nd t a l ounds lke a na uy i t r 1c a ondii f t t s .T he per on wil a ce i a f ce ton or he e t s l c pt t t a va ue. l l t pe s doespus i s ops a s a t , ee t bls t f he r on h n t nd t r s r s a ih he c ondii you s . Sa t t t s i a de ons r ton of ton ke et y ha hi s m ta i s r ngt notbalnc t e h, a e.

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down.L me demonsr e. et tat ' Youas t en n t sand wih hi I si l apar.Y k he gieer o t t s egs lght y t ou ten Ian acr shi body an usng onefnger pr sa s f h e os s d, i i , es potwo i hesabov hi I tk ap.zlm bl i youren gy fow, you nc e s ef neec z' ockng er l ' s z y Itng yourIf I . ay. Tr i i f eteg ' T e yone' asonihment t en n cann Ithi Ig.z e o ver s t s , he gieer oti s e z f Ar Youtyi 'youas r ngk' k. Heas ur youtath s n onl tyi buthe' sr i t It s es h e' ot y r ng, s tugglng o i f i.Afera f s ondsofefor,t confs and i esed engi t t ew ec f t he u ed mpr s neer burt ou i n vou I ght .Y r eas te pr s e,and askhi ss t n er s au er ou el e h esur m t Ithi Ig now.I t t ,igoesup. o i se f nsanl t y Th whol r i cr ig ar e e oom s owd n ound you. y wantt k i The o now f te pr sue poi t qu wi wor ont .Cani r t een h es r ntechni e l k hem l t esor er Cur he gy? e adache Al vi e a bad back s? l at e ? zIIs ow e yone ho t do i'youasur t z'I h ver w o t' , s e hem,' tfrtI bu is mu tmak a c es i W hatIdi had not ng t dowih pr s e s e onf son. d hi o t es ur poit.Iwasa humbu .A humbugwih a mes age. ns t g t s z wer aIf s on my fngeri Th ,tou waste z You e I ocu ed i tp. at h gh, h ti ' midieci I had n hi t do wihisf ctonalmec rcks s r ton.t ot ng o t t un i han is. So s n yous t gr how,asyou I c ' ayig, ' how he oup eaned acr ste os h engi ' body t t ch hi kn you pr s you I tf t hi neers o ou s ee, es ed r ef ooto s rgh f ,an I ed yourI ts oul i o hi mi eci Th e i t oot d ean ef h der nt s ds ton. es i en-ookn actons whi t engi di tev n ie,pr nnoc tl ig i , ch he neer dn' en otc ev t hi fom s fi hi wei t The r ul:Hi I wasI ed i ened m r hitng s gh . es t s eg ock n PI ace.

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gr phi s a ' a c nd l ook'm a you pa e a s ie,be us t y s de us nd m l ca e he o pere l s f cty poke t you on a busne s a a s he i l vel ' o i s nd e t tc e ?' ' ha ' ' vel l ' ' e 1 lm a t tki ofs t ha n. ' 1, W ke ha nd ie ppe ' ' ' e ly! ow do you do t t ' ' al H R ha ?' ' lca e an i i t m os i e es i w a ,w hy not t l ' So n xpl i t n he t nt r tng y el m e a lt l a ite boutwha you do,a 1 1t l you how m y wor r t nd ' e l 1 k el t s t yours t ton. ae o iua i ' '

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O fc s e n a t r youke de i e a c pe lng ope ng a our e, ve fe lver d om li ni nd a ke your que ton,peopl m a notbe a f t s d si e y s or hcom i w ih i ng t nf m a i a you' lke. t w he you m us dr w outi or aor ton s d i Tha ' s n t a nf m ton.H ow do you do t t i ha ? Lit rel r Tha mea f usng on t ot pe s wih se / ll. t n e/ ns oc i he her ron t yourea s e s a m i r , ye , nd nd. O n t ta s he r de- how foor ls e da l exa pl s of s lo ls l , e i y m e ha l w i t ni An a t e ng. tende w a ksi o a 100t t com pa r pr s ae l nt 7 h, he ny e e ent tv gr t hi ,r ds hi na e t g, s s hes not fom a bi i e ee s m ea s m a ee ' r g or ni ton, nd l e i e es . ga za i a os s nt r t Ther e e a i e m a s ie poepr s nt tv y m l lt l but s s a t pee i pa t t a t nde a t pa s ng ie y, he t r s rng s he t e e t he s i c ow d,hopi t s s eone m or i por a .N a ur ly,t t r ng o pot om e m t nt t a l ha i nott w a t ls e s he y o it n. J ?' yo str ( c g es t g,( sretltyo lg es mebn t yie / C u t tg o p rt f g g l lg u lp o tiy o v //. : g go s t t teol rb to ( :tltbro lg s mebn t yieyo Pe ha t / tl es n g t lg esn ls o tiy o v u. r ps he ? e gt t t t a a i won' i ve m one l m a i vol e cha ng i r ns cton t nvol y. t y n ve x ngi nsght , t i s orhi s rt ; hos a evaua e t a a i ,t i s s ore , gh piis t e r l bl r ns ctons oo. W hie you' lseni i' i por a t t t s ke u r l r i t ng, t m t nt ha he pea r nde e s s a how m u you vaue w ha he or s ha t s y. W hen t nd ch l t he s o a s ke s u r t nd t t t y' t l t you w ih m uch m or pea r nde s a ha , he l ak o l t e dept a g h nd oodwil l. O ne w a lconve m y i er t i by l ng pe e i t y y nt es s ooki opl n he e a t y s a ll r d how e f c i t sw a w he ls udyes s he pe k. ea ne f e tve hi s n t i d s a hypnos s e t ge i.

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t ri s t i opi ons t i be ng,m a t t you.F t e hei dea , he r ni , he r i ter o or hos pur e , a n o1 e t e c a i fne. pos s pl i d ye-o- ye ont ct s i Lit acie Anot rwa t s se tvl n y. he y o how your lse ng i e l i 'e it ni nt nty s t ough t e t t c que known a (cfel tnn Thi hr he mpa hy e hni s gtp i eiy. s s m et w a popul rze by ps hod s ai d ychot a s C a lRoge s To ls her pit r r . it n a tve y, e c i l you pe i c ly r pea ba wha you'e hea i i rodi a l e t ck t r rng n yourown w or . ds Forexa pl t per on you'e t l ng t s ys '' t hea m e, he s r aki o a : 'm he d l w om e sf s on buye f a de rm ents or love s e a t m of n' a hi r or pa t t e. r e ea e ght a we m a s a ona pu cha e fom t bi m a a ur i , nd ke e s l r s s r he g nuf ct e s M os l we buy c ot s wih a s r etl r. ty, l he t t e ook.You know w ha l t m ea Lo - uts r s Be l s r s Lot ofbl c Tha m a s n? w c kit . ly hit . s a k. t y ound ki of gl m or ,but i' a he v l num ber - i n busnes .l nd a ous t s a iy s drve i s l a m y s e ds et f r m or t n ll a t c ot ng or ook t pr a he s a e ha ook t he l hi t m a a t e s ca a ogue . t r a l we'e ex t d t ha a he nuf c ur r ' t l s Af e l, r pec e o ve hi 'ur r t on ourcl he ,ot r s w er i t oubl a t gh t n' a e ot s he wi e 'e n r e nd he s or si t oubl ' t e' n r e. l r pons ,you s y:' ou'e t bos ,butt r ' ce t i lm n es e a ' r he s Y he es r a n i is on your fee t r dom .You got t be good a wha you do,beke o t t ca e t num be sdon' 1e. us he r ti '

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Re ba eyo r( et g .Du i t c b rs u gsf s rng he onve s ton,you m a a k o rai y s t ot r per on a que ton s doe n' unde s a S m i he he s s i he st r t nd. he ght l a you qui zi ly,or g ve you a a w e t t s w s s ook t z cal i n ns r ha ho he di t ge wha you wer drvi a .She m i as a w e i a dn' t t e i ng t ght l o ns r n w a t t conf s s you.l a of t e t ngs ha n,t ke t y ha ue f ny hes hi ppe a he s m e que ton a c e a i f om a dif r nta e.Som e oft a s i nd om t t r fe e ngl he bes w a ofdoi t ta e: t ys ng ha r X eyou q ton t he pa tex r e r ues i o r s pe i nce:' s y one ofyour ' You a ci nt wa F le s s edEx.W ha ki ofpr j ct di you do f t m?' t nds oe s d or he ' l r ntoduc a hypot tca el e i o t que ton:'flw e e e he i l em nt nt he s i ' l r t hea ofa I depa t e , he d n T r m nt how m i lus you s vi ' ght e r er ce? Si plf t a e wih your qu ton:' o,i lha t exm iy he udi nce t es i ' f d o S pl i t my fve- a - d w ha you do,wha w oul lt l hi ?' an o i ye rol t t d el m '

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G U T TRAI I G N N
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dec ded t be a m a ci n on l nd. he t oubl lkne no one. i o gi a a T r e? w N o a nt . o pr ge s N oduc r .N o m ee i pl nne s l e s nce lha es tng a r . n s e , d t r s a tm y Ca e rf om s r t h. o etr re r cac l a i d a t chni e l ha r d a pple e qu d ea bout i a t n, m i eon hi m gr phe bookltcal J T' e (gs Dt ll /by Pa lDim ond.l a d e led t ts lt, g rf, g r t u a n i, D i m ond e a ns hi m e hod of c d calng f m a c a . t a xpl i s t ol li or gi i ns Ba i a l t si w ha he s ys s c ly, hi s t a : + W a k i o a hot lora t a s l nt e r de how. + C he ou ise nt ca e ri t l y t s e w ha s ci l ck t t ve s l nda n he obb o e t pe a
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pr e ,a you' pr e l obl m nd r obl m ooks pr ty bi ' l we l dr s ed e e t g. ' ' m l es a a tc a e s he ls e . nd ri ul t , o i t ns l s y,' o ones he e.l' t o hour i o t s a ' N ' r t w s s nt he how a you nd ha t sbi e y 100t a i l stril. onei s ve hi g mpt 7 h nd t ook erbe No s hoppi ng i . ha t m ilon dola s i r i a pr t You ve en li l r n obotcs nd oduc she e, t t r bu no one w a st s e t m . nt o e he ' ca gua a ee t t you' ha a hundr d a ffy ' n l r nt ha l ve l e nd it pr pe t lned up i f ont ofyour l dos c s i n r ea gene a i m a hi i r t on c ne n t el e m i t .lwildo i f f e l i wor , r goi t w v nu es l t or r e. f t ks you'e ng o ha a bi r pr em .You'e goi t ha t oubl ga he i ve gge obl r ng o ve r e t r ng a 1 t l a . You'e goi t r out of prnt rbbon, t a 1 he e ds r ng o un i er i r ns rpton t pe,a m a ci i a nd npowen' ' D oest s a oa a w a w or hi ppr ch l ys k? lm a i w or Com pa e do,i f c ,t n m e dow n.S eke t k. ni s n a t ur om tm e ,lha t do t t f rcol c l a a gi n s w . i a i s ve o wo o ou d als t ve ho But t 1 w a doe w or e ent ly. ys s k v ua l T he poi l t yi t underi he e i t t t be e a nt ' r ng o m lne r s ha o com bete per ua r your goi t ha t do t ngs out i your t r s de , 'e ng o ve o hi s de c f tzone. om or D oi t ngs out i your c f tzone doe n' m e n you ng hi s de om or s t a m us be t com e a dif r nt pe s fe e r on. l doe n' m ea you'e a t s t n r phony.l c t i y does tm ea you ha t c pr i e your t er a nl n' n ve o om om s et cs hi . l m ea you s t ns houl t 1 t your s f conce s op you. l dn' e el pt t f you t nk your t s ort ner hi 'e oo hy, oo vous ort di fe t do , oo gni i d o w ha l a ki you t do,you r l tng you f r i er er t ' s ng m o 'e et i r ea s nt f e

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+ U s e t e e dit t d i a e y t m a e soga ss i k M e or e x r m , s ore m g r o k l n tc y. m y e ers r l on s c i a er s t tc ce s c e ea iy t xp t e y u h m g y o ha on pt om sl o m i Le m e gi e you a e m pl ofhow you' m a i wor nd. t v n xa e d ke t k. Sa t l ls y he oca choolnee f ds unds t r buid is c um blng o e l t r i gym ,a youke bee c e t pic t ca e t nea by bus nd n hos n o t h he s o r i nes e .O ne ofyourm a n pr s a i poi s: he t gym ss i e ent ton nt W n he w a buit t r wer onl 6OO c l e a t ng t s hool s l, he e e y hidr n tendi he c . N ow,snc t c m u t ha gr i e he om niy s own,t s he choolha 1 500 s , s ude s a i e s of2 pe c nt t nt , n ncr a e 50 r e . H ow do you m a t t poi w ih dit t d i a y? ke ha nt t s or e m ger M a w a a e pos i e.H ow a ny ys r sbl bout t ng t 2 pe ce yi he 50 r nt ga n t a herga n e r i o not i ve yone i f m ii rw ih- wei ga n. s a la t ght i l you w e ghed 1 O pou a you i r s d yourm a s f i 6 nds nd nc ea e s by 250 pe c ,you' w e g 4OO pou . r ent d ih nds Yourdi t t d i s or e m a r soga ' t i a 1t e s ude si o t c r ntgym ge y l n: ' tng 1 hos t nt nt he ur e Fi i lke pu tng a f - ndr d- nd m a i a hundr d- ndsi ti ourhu e pou n n e a sxt pound m a spa s ' i yn' nt . O r com pa e t s ude gr h t s e hi e s e r , r he t nt owt o om t ng le ve yone c n i ntf w ih- depa t e s or c ck lnes a de iy t r m nt t e he out i . Suppos i w a C hrs m a w e a you ha t w a ton a e t s it s ek, nd d o i depa t e s or lne.You m i ht e r m nt t e i g xpec a c ck lne 1 t he out i 5 peopl l e ong. tw ha i t tlne wer 250 pe c gr t r a Bu t f ha i e r ent ea e , 1 m os 40 pe e l t opl ong? Af e pa ntng t tpi t r f your a t r i i ha c u e or udi e,you m i pe i c ly r c l t dit t d i a of enc ght rodi a l e a l he s or e m ge ' ' w a tng yourt n a t e ofa f t pe s lne. ii ur t he nd ory- r on i ' H ow a bouthei ? l you' 6 f e t l a youroppone ght f r e t a l nd e nt i 250 pe ce t le t n you,hes 1 f t t l.Nlght you s r nt a l r ha ' 5 ee a l i t com pa e t tol cr w de c um blng gym t ' a ng hen r ha d, o d, r i o pl yi ba k ba la i ta oppone ffee f ett 1' s et l ga ns n nt it n e a 1? ' You ge t i a.W ha your doi i i ensf ng t t he de t 'e ng s nt iyi he

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+ O t rw a t m a a soga m em or bl he ys o ke l n a e:

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Cieyo rb rs ( f egg rype 'ft g o don' ft you v u ba e g gtr t / l: ' he l ve g /g l t i,


m us acqui ' t t. '

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Youpichyourhe r outan when your t ou youwaie t at d 'e hr gh, t xpecant A f peopl gi you c srct e comment,butyou f t l ew y. e ve on tu i v s eel tey'e hol n bac h r dig k. Fer hapst don'wantt slm s hey t o a omeonewho hasbeen han dpi ed b t e ck y he xecut boar Youv pr ed f t sev talf i ve d. 'e epar or hi enu iy

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sxt s ondst s ve t rddl oft par aph.Go. i y ec o ol he i e he agr ' Afera mi t you as f ans s F e t e gueses but t nue k or wer. eopl ak s , non hi t mar e t he k. s Fi l,yout ltem :z par aph i misng t mos comnal y el h That agr s s i he t mon I t i t Engl h I guage:E.Y can Iokf an wi f et n he er i an s ou o ar d de or anot par aph I e t son and nev fnd i.I a s ond,11t l her agr i hi e k er i t n ec /1el youwhy Iask you t su t par aph.Bef e Ido,her i on ed o tdy hat agr or es e fnalpuzzl ' i e. ' Youhi t k and t si ch t he ey he l de anges : MY FI SHED FIES ARE NI L THE RESUL OFYE T ARS O FSCI FI STUDY ENTI C COM BI W I THE NED TH EXFERI ENCE OFYE ARS.

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zNow you h ffeens ondst dicoverh man Fsar i z ave it ec o s ow y ' en t ss t e.Go. hi enenc ' ' Aferff s onds,you s th of t si and as f an t ieen ec t wic f he l de k or s s Mos peopl s f rF' A fw,fve.Y s t t si wer. t e aw ou s. e i ou wi he l ch de backonand s zthassx F' Countt yous f'Ev wihyour ay, l i s. hem rel. en t ' pr ig,man peopl miss omptn y e s ome.You wal u t te s e and k p o h cren t eac Fwihyourfnger ap h t i . zF e miss Fsbecau e oft Ine br s.Butaneven zeopl s ome ' s he i eak

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( nio d Co t e ) n
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'Dan,her swh Is happeni f t ofenwhent pr ' e' at ee ng ar oo t he o. c shisyourdeparment' es t t . ' W i yourI than you pik upt I en oft s ac and t h ef d, c he ow d he hoel e pl i i yourrghtfngeri Al ti t t ,yousn yourwrs ace t n i i tps. mos nsanl y ap it and dr t en oft I agai Thi tme,tough,te Ic i n op he d he ace n. s i h h ae s o I ongers h.Isead,ter sa kn i i.You/ appar l kn t m00t n t h e' ot n t ve ent ot y ed you s ac wi on h r hoel e t e and,i I stan a s h n es h econd. W hi te knotdangls,you poi t i an t kabou Shi ng' l h e e nto t d al t ppi s pr es i tmes and whatt deparmentneedst achi e.' oc sng i , he t o ev Anyt ng I s'you s asyouwor te tghtkn outwihyou t h,'s hi es ,' ay, kh i ot t r eet i t al u cept e.Do you undert wh Imean ' ot l nac abl y sand at k' Dan s h does. ays e ' ' Good 'yous ./1bedocumentng wh we/e t k about ' ay, 11 i at v aled . Iwantyout s cc .Bel me,t entr c o u eed i eve he ie ompan does. ' y That s wh we had t smeetn 11ch backwihyoui fve daysand y hi ig. /1 eck t ni s how t ngsar pr es i . ee hi e ogr sng ' '

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A Tr or i M echani :Stcki YourHead ansf maton sm i ng t ough a Busnes Car hr i s d


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A Tr f maton M echani Al ansor i sm: l owance M oney


The st ene You 1z- - d dau eras syou t r s herweekl al r yearol ght k o aie y l owance. ' hatdo you do wih aIt money Igie you 'you ask ' W t Ihe v k' . 'IEtY:tf. ' )l ;lf' t zIk you bu suf Yoursufi t ig ov t hous You/e z now y tf. tf s akn er he e. v gotCDs,cl h ,an vi ev ywher Y don'need mor otes d deos er e. ou t e mone Youneed t undert d how t handl t al y. o san o e he l owanc you/e e r
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A Tr f maton M echani ansor i sm: The Cor at Buterl por e t fy


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Ac cc al( fs 1 ci nt Qgf , 53 l / Actve lseni 81 i it ng, Annemann,76 Appea ance r dr sbe t t anyone ele, es ter han s
1 89

we difr t ur and ar fe ent ext es . hues 1 , 90 we lghtcol ed s rsand ar i - or hit . bl es,1 ous 9O we t fnes s ar he i t hoesyoucan afor 1 f d 9O
your a cces ores 1 s i 90-1 1 9

dr sng wel ma es i l kes


per ua i ea er 187 s s on si

4/4/4/Prnci er187 i pl hie acons t r1 1 r ulant 9 l good outofyour ook l uggager1 1 92 9 -1 make of-he-ack s ft r eem hancmacer1 1 t t 9 M ai l lni ooked lke hes d i houl peror bef e f m or r t 1 oyalyr 87 r sonsbusne speopl don' ea i s e t dr swelr1 es l 88-1 89 r esofgood cr sr189 ul tes t ot and dola sma w hous lr kes you s p enough f har or
prm e t m e 1 i i 89

yourl s lst ook pel he dif ence,1 fer 86 As tx Hccb c,1 t / aluntr 04 A P'J 1 I 00 /

Ba rJ e uer o l
a d cr s s psr82J1 boar uie hi 62 ast Human Puppy D og he Cl er1 os 03-1 04 changi f r83-84/162 ng ocus cr i pandem oni r11 eatng um gr a herAl r r1 andft be t 99 gr a herDufyr1 andft f 2OJ
187- 188

i ot nerand. ceptonit nf ai per i sr


17O- 171

we bl k and. a 1 ar ac gr y, 89 we d k tesand as s 1 ar ar i . cot , 9O

pr es i 1 of sonr 0
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Ba rJ e (ot uc uero lcni cl n )


why hesa s s ultad. ' ucce sf r e s how per or r f mer
1 11 50- 5

Be kr o r1 c J hn 7
Bec rLary 99 ker l Bee i ty 5 r ndusl Bel' lefe 51 l k lxr s

Clrt a iy bei cl t ough wrten ng ear hr it cet l 1 1 1 t air 5 - 54 e yone want t bel r1 1 ver s o ed. 5 lf i a ie s bouta i 1 ctonr 55 pi ur ast pl es 1 ct es em at r 50 quesi t hel clrf tons o p a iyr

Be z ir o yr 4 n asJ hnn 22
Body M et . aphor defnii of 41 i ton J exampls of e Hur tPus ng s hi Dem onsr i tatonr
44-45/47

i erwrnedl r43 nt t i egs poi i fnger 43 ntng i r s zi and.elasngr quee ng r e i


41 3 -4

sandi on achai,46 t ng r Botl wat i ty,4-5 ted er ndusr Changet M oment he doi s ng omet ng outoft hi he
nor r20 m

Dangeri d l felv kodney,93 Dar a t ,1 k rs Davenpor,Thomas 1 t ,7 Di amond,Paul 83 . , Dru sJ tAcin,1 1 c pl gtl to 5 D' l Se 13 Sot za, an, 5 El bowrPet r 70 er Ent t nm enti erai nvent 28 om ' l i buy l '92 Eye evel s evel'

em otona and pe s i i l . r onalzed


m es ages 1 18 s r 7ext em e s t i r iuat ons 20

pa tand.ut e quesi 1 s f ur tonsr 9 peopl wal ar e k ound i t r n hei pr ems 1 obl r 4 t rghtt ng t dor21 he i hi o s ng an ener i f ur 1 eei getc ut er 4 t ough l hr anguager1 7 4-1 usng fvor i ager 1 i a ed m yr 9 yourefecton peopl 13 f er
youri por ance 1 m t 8

fJs Cot n 11 t t a y, t Fit dolarbils ol 1 fy l l t y 99


52 r t ant 76 es aur s

For 3 ce, 7-38

F , efe . 1 ox J fr yl, 78
Fr bi ee es bol buid 119 d l sr buidi t vaue of 113 1 l ng he l J -1 5J
11 20 8-1

cr i oblgatonr11 eatng i i 7

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ques i t as your e f tons o k sl a ,115 bout s l buid 11 ubte ls, 8 usng t ques i ,11 11 i he tons 6- 7 FrghtChalenge,2-3/6,201 i l G it fs appl ng t prnci es 129 yi he i pl , ' ' chat ' t 1 ch'ki 26 defnii of 1 i ton J 25 pe s lzi 128-1 r onai ngr 29 t or esofgitgi ngr1 w ul f vi 26 ' it and przess e G fs . i ecur
at ent on '92 t i

ls ng a c l s ui halenge,1 20 1 58/ J Tuts( t,Duppl/ 83 t c Q s l f, t

J c s n, iha l 1 1 a k o M c e, 0 J c s n,S mu lL. 1 1 ak o a e , 0 J ye Aye 1 5 1 6 a , , 2- 2


Kapl l 57 anrkobr Katel rM it 1 1 52 s as lonr 5 -1 Keep goi 1 ngr 49

G ol g, hoopi 1 1 dber W ,0 ConRul o S lt f 1 5 lc c f ' ptlg 2 c lz g, G oneW ih t W i ,73 t he nd. Gr pan,Al 1 eens an, 53 Gr Andy,69 ove, Guttai ng,82 r ni -85
.

M ad ame Tus a sW a s ud' x M us r1 1 O2J eum 0 -1


1O4J106

Harar Bu i s Rc c 1 v sncs viw, 7 ' e who i l H s oudes wi , 92 t ns' H i concept 3 gh , -4 H odges Lynn,227-228 ,

M a c ma zi 1 gi ga ner 24 M a i rM axr1 lni 86-1 87 M et aphor r22-23/70 s M ittet l ccl onrkoberr43 t -44/46 M ical 37 s l Nloney,11 2-113 Nami t ngsmakest r al 2 ng hi hem e , N apol 11 1 eon 1, 75 b Ytt 'lls 1 1 kw l Jpc, 6 r ' i i es'4 N ghtngal ' ur e i wetts rs'4 N ss n -hit PaperM et aphor batl hi ana ogyr60 tes p l
cr e yourow n 58 eat -60

Hou n,e n- ge e,k bet di J a Eu n lo r,


1 75
.

H oudi ,H a r 121 24 ni r y, -1 H'u t lc lzaJ.fpf r 1 t 7 t ?ct l l p tzl ltc, 78 f/ z H um mer 112 , H ur t Lul 44 s , u, Hyper r ,65 ca d. Hypnots sar 80-81 it t e, ' don' getno r spect '93 1 t e !' l l nfuence que tonst ponder si o r
76-77

defnii of 54 i ton J exa pl of m es Buid H ol.M ove Pr s lv dr oces r


54-56

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Pa e Mea hor(otuc p r tp cni c) n l


1w of1m ied it s 56-57 a i t cea r or zatona pyr m i.57 gani i l a dr t il tat af ur o lusr e eat er
55-56

bas on pu i per i ed blc ceptonr


160

basng i i mage on a postonr ii


164-165

t il tat apr s o lusr e oces r


54-56

i can besi pl 1 t m er 60 dif entpostonsf fer ii or dif enta enc r fer udi es
170-171

pr e appr oblm oachr59 s uton appr chr59 ol i oa Per crGeor r1 e ges OO ' f Pich '4 Perect t Perua on m odel 1 s si -2 Perua on N i 68 s si ner -70 Pl f m Pich ator t t audi he encer1 98 buidi m a sw ih a l ng s t chalenger201 l buidi m a sw ih a l ng s t mechanim r s
200-20 1

t Buic St 1 he lt epr 98
cr at ng pai 202-203 e i nr

dicoverng whatyour s i audi vaue 1 ence l s, 69 i a nuthel,1 n s l 68 sant t posii by,1 l so ton 66-1 68 t m coi by li and. er ned k es Tr ,1 out 60 why postoni wor ,1 ii ng ks 66 your el 1 s f 69 Pr sng w or s,81 oces i d Pr oof admitng a defci,1 ti i t 45 bes f ms of t or as ociton and s ai .
or zaton gani i

t dosand con'sofsi he .t t ldesr


206-207

member hi s psr
136- 137

expand and. r ctyour conta


pr ent i 2O6 es at on

hol sepr201 d t -204 i ve youraudi nvol encer2O6


m ove s epr205-206 t

cas sudi r1 e t es 4O cee i endorement r13 lbrhr s s 6 clentls s 134 i it r clentt tmonilr134-13 i esi as 6
expe t opi on 1 r ni 37 gua ant r70 1 r ees 42-1 43

oferng a s utonr203 f i ol i -204 Pc Or rf manc aSt ans cton, e .r a i


2OO

phot aphs 1 -1 ogr r 41 42


pr r85J1 ops 43-1 45/ 198-199

publc s ki 2O7 i pea ngr s lng yours utonr2O4 eli ol i t sr ur 198 he tuct er Polac Shepr57 l kr Postoni ii ng

r lr as whyr138 ea e on s cii t 139 pe fciyr s vey r s tr13 38 ur e uls 7-1 Pub 'l r120 - ki f

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QuikPi h c t c
advant ge of 79 a s J body s encer78-79 . ent conver atonala s ptonr80 s i s um i conver atonalke r80-82 s i ys de ar tve f mat 67,71 cl a i or r defnii of 66 i ton J
gener i s a 71 atve t ge

agr wih t obj i ee t he ectonr and r afim your . e fr mai beneftr1 n is 79 as whats r l want k he ealy s t knowr1 o 78 gethe t s t r o ee he cons equenc ofnot es
usi your s r ces ng e vi 179- 180

hypot ialeem ent i hetc l sn


ques i tons 82

lseni 80-81 it ng,

prc i ngt Quik Pth a tci he c ic


82J84-85

ques i ba ed f m a r ton- s or t
67-68/7 1

r sng e ows 72 aii yebr r r a e yourquesi 82 ephr s tonsr s ampl openi r71 e ngs s oresasm a eral 72 t i t i aszo-s econc com i t ng
at r i t actons 68

ma herobj i t ke ecton he ver r on f goi y eas or ng ahe 1 ad 79 ma t obj i i o an ke he ecton nt obj i 1 1 ectver 78- 78 pr endyou don' et t unde s and t rt he obj i 1 ectonr 78 r ert a ci who hadt ef o lent .he s me obj i 1 a ectonr 78 Stai f wa d Appr r ghtor r oachr
177

sr henyourpr ent i tengt es aton t f e t l r it o or s al ess ancer


181

hrng quesi t t pasr82 i tons o he t us f r66-67 es or ' he lealThi '94 T k ngr ' l sit ke sance aler e wa ofdea i t nat ys lng wihr1 t 80-1 1 8 G it- f M i set 1 1 f shit nd r 8 handi obj i as ng ectons
r eques s 1 t 76

leveai s cr sr38J51,226 k lng e et l chi di 212 13 ki ar r -2 l koger Car 81 sr l l ex ofpasres 126 kol ti , Sa pl m es cr i a s m pl 1 1 eatng a er 06- O7 defnii of 6 i ton J d. t j i t i e vi o he ob n he nt r ewr
104

obj i ar j topi ons ectons e us ni r


1 76

f i of 1 unctons O2 H uman Puppy Dog Cl er os


103 -104

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Sa ls(ot uc mpe cni cl n )


i pr sng onl m esi ooker ,1 s O8 physca and tme lm is,107 i l .i i t postoni of 1 ii ng , O8 smul edbaby,1 i at O5 Sa ng awom an i hal wi n f
211 2 -21

i t Buic St 200-201 n he lt ep, buid yourow n,29-33 l connectng unr at tobj s i el ec ect
as pr ct c 33 a ie t cr at m as 1 o e e s 99

Schlt 69 iz ' ng he diemm aanew '8 Seei r l

Senfl. el 1 7 i edr ry 1 J
Sl ogan Pich t defnii of 91 i ton J dit t i sored magel 95 y exampl of es
m nem oni s i 93 c n

defnii of 6-7/22 i ton J durng t H ol St 2O3 i he d epr exa pl of m es AlowanceM one 223 l yr -227 Baanci a Coi O n a l ng n D ola Bil 1 lr lr 08-111
can' open e r 5 1 t yes can' wr t nam e 5 1 t ie

can' sand 51 tt The Cor i t Botl k n he ter


13O- 132

r ii curngr92 epetton t i sgnat e lnes 93 i ur i r tade-how pr ent i r s es atonr


92

Cuti a Per on i H al tng s n f w ih lope 207-21 t k sr 2 The Cor at Buterl por e t fyr
227-232

' OWn t f ores' WC he act i J '


91 -92

wihi aconveratonr t n s i
94

Frs ibeer29-30 gr el ay ephanti D enmar n kr


25-27

pa alelcons r tonr95-96 r l tuc i sogan cha act itcs 92-93 l r ersi r Soci y' dem and f br hr et s or evi r
90-9 1

The l ovabl Fi r mm e nger


155-158

The l pos bl Obj r m si e ect


61 -65

Speli Aa onr4 lngr r St rDa dr1 ahl vi. 27 Theati lPeruason M odel 2 rca s i , Tif 126 fany, Tr . Show ade etquetevi atonr79 i t ol i
pr s es 1 es ur r 0 pr oces r54-56 s

kni r31 ves -32 The Li and H eaor ght . ' Per sonr1 -1 71 75 The M aga neTe t 34-3 zi sr 9 The M i atng Pepper gr i r
193 96 -1

M isi t Obvi r s ng he ous


96- 1 00

Tr f maton M ec s s ans or i hanim

The Needl Thr e ough Bal loonr1 45-1 49

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Pr ctng Fi s 73 edi i nger , -77 The Pr s e Poi Leg es ur nt Loc 47-52 k The leappearng M at k i chr
1 1 82- 85

j of 39 ob J maki t s f t 24-25 ng he hit oJ pr te of 40 operis Twai M a kr150 nr r


Ver nonrDai 1 r 24

r bberbandr7-9 u .
s am ps 31 t r

Stcki YourH ead i ng Thr ough a Busi s ne s Car .218-222 dr TheTri ThatFool ck ed H oudi r1 1 24 ni 2 -1 TheW or Fl Knot k- ow r
21 1 5-2 7

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A BO U T TH E A U TH O RS

JoelBaue i,a cor ngt t JQ/Stet7ggg Onie'ndoubt r s c di o he ' / re ' rt/ l ,' $ o n u e y t c i m a of t boa d' of cor a e t a s w r i dl he ha r n he r' por t r de- ho a nm a ng.Ll i a c pe lng s hess ofm a i ,hypnos s s l s ki sng om li ynt i gc i, a e

perua i a r vva -how f y J buidsc owdsfom t a s son, nd e i ls ur , oel l r r r des w pa s s a conve t t m i o wilng pr pe t f hi ho s er by nd r s he nt li os c s or s

ci nt .On wines i t smia ous J -ngi e ed c r le s t sng hi r cul , oele ne r onve son pr e s a J rt ma zi r pore cald i 'n i e bl i oc s , / e ga ne e t r le t a ncr di e /f : t f tofm a sobe enc t tm u tbe s n t be be i v ' ea s di e ha s ee o le ed. '

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pi pr s a i f or ni tonss h a 3M ,Ca ng e ent tons or ga za i uc s non,G e a ner l M ot s I ,l el M is s , ot ol ,Pa s c, nd Phii . or , BM nt , tubihi M or a na oni a lps M ilons m or ha e s n hi pe f m on t e son f net or li e v ee m r or el vii or w ks s h a ABC ,CBS,N BC , N BC,C N N ,a Fox. uc s C nd

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