The Little Book of

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l AM A MuSLlM ................................................................................ 1
1PL 8LS1 AkPLC (PuSnAL kPuLC) ............................................... 2
AnCL8 .............................................................................................. 4
8uLL?lnC .......................................................................................... 6
CLLAnLlnLSS & L8SCnAL P?ClLnL ............................................... 9
uClnC CnL'S 8LS1 ......................................................................... 14
uAnCL8S Cl vluLC CAMLS .......................................................... 16
u8LSS CCuL - Pl!A8 ....................................................................... 18
CCSSl CPLL8A & 1CPMA1 (8ACk8l1lnC & SLAnuL8) ............... 21
ln1L8lAl1P ..................................................................................... 23
PCW 1C 8L A !uS1 (lAl8) L8SCn ................................................ 29
knCWLLuCL .................................................................................. 30
Lx18AC1S l8CM u8 AL-Mu1A'ALLlMLLn ................................ 31
SAuAC .......................................................................................... 33
SCClAL 8LSCnSl8lLl1lLS ............................................................... 37
PCnCu8lnC A8Ln1S ................................................................... 41
uu1lLS 1CWA8uS A8Ln1S .......................................................... 43
S18lvL 1C MLL1 1PL nLLuS Cl Mu'MlnLLn ............................... 44
lnCul8L A8Cu1 Anu vlSl1 1PL nLLu? Anu 1PL CC8 ............... 46
AllLC1lCn 1CWA8uS C8PAnS ................................................... 48
vlSl1lnC 1PL SlCk .......................................................................... 49
PCnCu8lnC nLlCP8Cu8S* .......................................................... 30
MAnnL8S Cl 1ALklnC................................................................... 32

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I AM A MUSLIM

"lSLAM ls obedlence Lo Lhe CreaLor and servlng Pls creaLlon"
rophet Muhammad (pbuh)

lL ls sald LhaL a Musllm ls Lhe keyhole Lhrough whlch oLhers vlew
Allah.
1o be able Lo reach perfecLlon as human belngs (Musllms) lL ls
necessary Lo acqulre Lhree Lhlngs:
1. Llman (lalLh) and 1aqwa.
2. knowledge
3. 1he besL of Akhlaq
1he ropheL (pbuh) was slLLlng wlLh hls companlons when Lhere
was a dlscusslon as Lo who Lhe ropheL (pbuh) loved mosL.
1he ropheL (pbuh) replled: "Cn Lhe day of Clyama, Lhe one
closesL Lo me wlll be Lhe one wlLh Lhe besL of akhlaq and Lhe one
who ls Lhe mosL humble."

What |s the best of Akh|aq (nusna| khu|q)?
lmam !a'fer As-Sadlq (pbuh) was once asked:
"C son of Lhe ropheL! WhaL ls husnal khulq?"
lmam replled: "When all Lhree of Lhe followlng characLerlsLlcs are
found ln a person:
1. 1o lower your wlngs. l.e. Lo become accesslble.
2. 1o make your speech Lhe besL wlLh oLhers.
3. ln Lhe socleLy meeL oLhers smlllng.
ropheL Muhammad (pbuh) has also sald:
"A Mosllm ls ooe ftom wbose booJs ooJ tooqoe otbet Mosllms ote
sofe."

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1nL 8LS1 AknL
(nusna| khu|q)

"l have been senL only Lo ralse Lhe akhlq of manklnd Lo lLs
hlghesL sLaLlon."
rophet Muhammad (pbuh)
1he word akhlq ls Lhe plural of Lhe word khulq whlch means
personallLy. lL ls LhaL whlch ls Lhe source of all Lhose acLlons whlch
one does sponLaneously wlLhouL Lhlnklng abouL Lhem. lL comes
lnLo exlsLence Lhrough exerclse and repeLlLlve pracLlse and ls noL
easlly desLroyed.
Lven Lhough some characLerlsLlcs are lnherlLed or acqulred by Lhe
up-brlnglng, one has a cholce Lo overcome LhaL whlch ls wrong
Lhrough pracLlse and efforL. 1herefore Lhe akhlq of an lndlvldual
ls Lhrough hls/her cholce.

1he ropheL (pbuh) has sald:
"?ou cannoL please all Lhe people wlLh money buL you can meeL
Lhem wlLh a cheerful face and good behavlour so LhaL you may be
llked by Lhem. WealLh ls llmlLed buL good akhlq and cheerfulness
ls lnexhausLlble."

A man from Shaam (uamascus) once came Lo Madlna arrlvlng ln
Lhe presence of lmam Pasan (pbuh).
1he man sLarLed abuslng lmam All (pbuh).
lmam Pasan (pbuh) Look hlm Lo one slde and sald: "?ou musL be
very Llred from your [ourney. Come wlLh me and l shall glve you
food, drlnk and resL. We wlll Lalk laLer."

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1he man Lurned Lo lmam Pasan (pbuh) and sald: "l came Lo
Madlna as your worsL enemy and now l am Lhe besL of your
admlrers Lhrough your akhlq."

lmam All (pbuh) has sald: A mu'mln has a smlle and cheerfulness
on hls/her face and sorrow ln hls/her hearL."

lmam All (pbuh) was always cheerful ln deallng wlLh oLhers so
much so LhaL some people consldered lL Lo be a weak polnL for a
khallfa saylng LhaL a leader musL be grlm- a person oLhers should
be afrald of.

Allah says abouL Lhe ropheL (pbuh) ln Lhe Cur'an:
"lL was by Lhe mercy of Allah LhaL you are genLle wlLh Lhem, for lf
you would have been sLern and flerce of hearL Lhey would have
run away from you."
Suratu Aa||-Imran 3:1S9

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ANGLk

ln descrlblng Lhose who wlll go Lo !anna, Allah says ln Lhe Cur'an:
...and Lhose who swallow Lhelr anger and forglve people, and
Allah loves Lhose who do good (Lo oLhers)."
Suratu A|| Imran 3:134

When someone hurLs our feellngs wlLhouL lL belng our faulL lL
makes us angry and someLlmes we say and do Lhlngs whlch we
regreL laLer.

lmam All (pbuh) has sald LhaL when you geL angry, you musL flrsL
slL down lf you are sLandlng and lle down lf you are slLLlng.
1ake Len deep breaLhs and go and do wudhoo, for Lhe ropheL
(pbuh) has sald:
'lndeed anger ls from ShayLan and ShayLan ls made from flre. llre
ls exLlngulshed wlLh waLer. So whenever you are angry do
wudhoo."

1hlnk abouL whaL happened. lf lL ls your faulL Lhen see Lhe
poslLlve slde and Lry Lo change yourself. lf lL ls noL your faulL Lhen
have falLh LhaL Lhe LruLh wlll always wln and when Lhe Llme comes
you can explaln.

lmam All (pbuh) has sald:
"Anger beglns ln madness and ends ln regreL."

lmam All Zaynul Abldeen (pbuh) had a slave who once dropped a
bowl of hoL soup on hlm whllsL she was servlng food. She saw LhaL

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lmam was ln a loL of paln. She LhoughL LhaL lmam would geL angry
and sLarLed Lo reclLe Lhe above aya of Cur'an.
When she reclLed - and Lhose who swallow Lhelr anger - lmam
Lold her he was noL angry wlLh her.
llnally, when she reclLed - and Allah loves Lhose who do good (Lo
oLhers) - lmam seL her free.

lmam noL only swallowed hls anger buL forgave Lhe glrl and seL
her free. As Lhe followers of lmam Lhe leasL we can do ls Lo
swallow our anger when a frlend, relaLlve or anoLher Musllm says
or does someLhlng whlch hurLs us.

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8ULLING

8ullylng ls hurLful behavlour Lo oLhers. 1here are Lhree Lypes of
bullylng:
1. hyslcal - PlLLlng, klcklng, Laklng Lhlngs and or/desLroylng
Lhlngs.
2. verbal - name calllng, LaunLlng and lnsulLlng
3. LmoLlonal - Cosslplng, allenaLlng...

Some chlldren may be bullled because of Lhelr skln colour, Lhe
way Lhey Lalk, Lhelr slze, Lhelr name, or whaL Lhey look llke and
Lhey feel Lhey can'L sLand up for Lhemselves. Chlldren who are
belng bullled may feel lonely, unhappy, unsafe, and frlghLened.
1hey may develop sLomach aches, nlghLmares, nervousness, and
anxleLy.

lf you are belng bullled:
1. 1ell an adulL whaL has happened sLralghL away
2. SLay calm
3. 1ell Lhem Lo sLop
4. CeL away from Lhe slLuaLlon as qulckly as you can
3. 1ake conLrol, lgnore Lhem, don'L leL Lhem see you reacL

lf you see someone else belng bullled,
1. 8e frlends wlLh Lhem
2. 1ry and ensure Lhey are noL alone, especlally aL Llmes when
Lhey are mosL llkely Lo be bullled
3. Lncourage Lhem Lo Lell a grownup Lhey LrusL
WhaL nexL?

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1. 1ell a Leacher or anoLher adulL ln school. lor example your
class Leacher, LuLor, a Leachlng asslsLanL or a mldday supervlsor
2. 1ell any oLher adulL you LrusL
3. lf you're scared of Lelllng an adulL Lhen ask a frlend Lo sLay wlLh
you for supporL
4. keep speaklng up unLll someone llsLens Lo you and does
someLhlng Lo sLop Lhe bullylng Lhe adulL wlll Lake your concerns
serlously and help you Lo solve Lhe problem
3. Ask whaL supporL mlghL be avallable ln your school such as
peer menLorlng.

When you are Lalklng Lo an adulL abouL bullylng..
1. Clearly explaln whaL has happened Lo you
2. Pow ofLen lL has happened, who's lnvolved and where
3. Lxplaln who you would llke Lhem Lo Lalk Lo lnlLlally
4. Pow you are feellng abouL Lhe slLuaLlon and whaL would help
Lo make Lhlngs beLLer

8emember..
uon'L ever blame yourself for whaL has or ls happenlng.
no one has Lhe rlghL Lo hurL you.

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O yoo wbo belleve! let oot (ooe) people looqb ot (oootbet) people
moybe tbey moy be bettet tboo tbey, oot let womeo (looqb) ot
(otbet) womeo, moybe tbey moy be bettet tboo tbey, ooJ Jo oot
floJ foolt wltb yoot owo people oot coll ooe oootbet by olckoomes,
evll ls o boJ oome oftet foltb, ooJ wboevet Joes oot toto, tbese lt
ls tbot ote tbe oojost. 49:11

1he aya says:
l) no" Lo laughlng aL each oLher.
ll) no" Lo flndlng faulLs ln oLhers
lll) no" Lo calllng people names
lv) no" bullylng.

8asulullah (pbuh) has sald: 1he Musllm ls Lhe one from whose
Longue and hand, people are safe."
A Musllm, by deflnlLlon, cannoL bully uslng hls Longue (verbal
bullylng) or hls hand (physlcal bullylng).

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CLLANLINLSS & LkSCNAL nGILNL

Cleanllness ls Lhe slgn of a mu'mln and Lhe mu'mlneen wlll enLer
!annna'.
rophet Muhammad (pbuh)

Cleanllness ls half of elman (falLh) - Imam A|| (pbuh)

unLll Lhe 16Lh cenLury of Lhe ChrlsLlan era, Lurope was vold of Lhe
concepL of cleanllness. 1he ChrlsLlan prlesLs refused Lo glve Lhe
approval of bulldlng Lhem. 1olleLs dld noL exlsL and people Lhrew
Lhelr dlrL ln Lhe sLreeLs.

Wlll uuranL wrlLes: Cne of Lhe good resulLs of Lhe Crusades was
Lhe lmlLaLlon of Lhe hoL baLh houses of Lhe Musllms ln Lurope.
1he church however, was noL happy wlLh Lhem."

1400 years ago, ln Lhe deserLs of Arabla, where waLer was aL a
shorLage, Lhe ropheL (pbuh) preached LhaL cleanllness was half
of falLh.

Cleanllness of body, cloLhes and surroundlngs ls essenLlal for a
Musllm as Lhe followlng ahadlLh of Lhe Ma'sumeen (pbuh)
porLray.
keeplng's one's surroundlngs clean, keeps poverLy and mlserles
away".
keep your cloLhes clean and Lahlr. AmongsL your cloLhes Lhe besL
colour ls whlLe."

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uo noL allow dlrL and rubblsh Lo remaln ln your house durlng Lhe
nlghL, as Lhey are Lhe abode of ShayLan (ln Lhe form of germs...)"
Angel !lbrall lald so much sLress on Lhe brushlng of LeeLh LhaL l
LhoughL LhaL Lhe AlmlghLy Allah was golng Lo make lL wa[lb".
...lf a person keeps a Mas[ld neaL and clean, Allah granLs hlm/her
Lhawab equal Lo LhaL of seLLlng free a slave".

keeplng your body clean ls an lmporLanL parL of keeplng you
healLhy and helplng you Lo feel good abouL yourself.

Carlng abouL Lhe way you look ls lmporLanL Lo your self esLeem
(whaL you Lhlnk abouL yourself)._ 1hls Loplc glves you some ldeas
on looklng your besL._ 8y Lhe way, you don'L need Lo wear Lhe
laLesL deslgner cloLhlng Lo look good._ 1here are oLher Lhlngs you
can do whlch are much more lmporLanL for your "lmage".

Sme|||ng c|ean
When you reach puberLy speclal sweaL glands under Lhe arms and
around Lhe genlLals sLarL Lo work and produce sweaL LhaL smells.
?ou should remove Lhe halr under your arms and on your prlvaLe
parLs regularly buL cerLalnly no less Lhan once every 40 days.

C|othes
undercloLhes are rlghL nexL Lo your skln and collecL dead skln
cells, sweaL and posslbly oLher unmenLlonable sLalns. CvernlghL
bacLerla sLarL Lo work on Lhese sLalns so your cloLhes do noL smell
as nlce on Lhe second day of wearlng.
SLay away from clgareLLe smoke as Lhe smell wlll geL lnLo your
cloLhes and halr.

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lf you have Lo wear a school unlform Lhen Lake lL off as soon as
you geL home and hang lL up Lo alr before you wear lL Lhe nexL
day.

Ask your famlly noL Lo smoke ln Lhe house or Lhe car. 8esldes
belng unhealLhy for Lhem and you, Lhe smoke cllngs Lo your
cloLhes and makes Lhem smelly. Cf course, you wouldn'L smoke
elLher, would you?
Change undercloLhes every day.

Shoes
?ou spend a loL of Llme on your feeL and your shoes are very close
Lo Lhe place where a very large collecLlon of sweaL glands llve -
your feeL!

SweaL geLs lnLo your shoes and Lhen bacLerla arrlve whlch love
Lhe molsL leaLher or fabrlc so much LhaL Lhey Lell all Lhelr frlends
Lo come round and parLy!

lf you have one palr of shoes for school Lhen Lry Lo geL Lhem off as
soon as you geL home so LhaL Lhey can alr and dry ouL overnlghL.
(As you geL older somewhere ouLslde Lhe house ls a good place!)

lf you have more Lhan one palr Lhen use Lhem on alLernaLe days
Lo glve Lhem a beLLer chance of drylng ouL.
keep your shoes clean by brushlng, pollshlng or washlng. 1hey wlll
look beLLer, lasL longer and be less llkely Lo smell.

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Ieet
Wash your feeL well aL leasL once a day.
ury Lhem carefully, especlally beLween Lhe Loes where more
bacLerla collecL Lhan anywhere else on your skln.
lf you go swlmmlng a loL or use publlc showers, you need Lo be
parLlcularly careful Lo wash your feeL and dry Lhem well. LoLs of
oLher people walk ln bare feeL ln Lhese places and you can easlly
plck up fungal lnfecLlons or oLher problems for your feeL, such as
warLs!

Us|ng n|ce sme|||ng products
?ou may wanL, or feel you need, Lo sLarL uslng a deodoranL or
anLl-persplranL under your armplLs. 8uL remember LhaL noLhlng
smells beLLer Lhan clean skln. erfumes are noL a good subsLlLuLe
for a shower or wash.

?ou may wanL Lo use speclal lnnersoles ln your shoes, whlch can
be Laken ouL and washed, maklng Lhe shoes smell less. ?ou may
wanL Lo use fooL powder on your feeL and lnslde your shoes. 1hls
can help Loo.

na|r
1he halr folllcles [whlch Lhe halr grows from] produce oll whlch
keeps Lhe halr smooLh. ?ou also have sweaL glands ln your scalp,
and dead skln cells come off Lhe scalp. 1he oll, sweaL and dead
cells all add LogeLher and can make Lhe halr greasy
and look dlrLy unless you wash lL regularly.

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1o keep your ha|r c|ean:
Wash regularly wlLh shampoo (cheap ones are ofLen as good as
very expenslve ones). Massage your scalp well. 1hls wlll remove
dead skln cells, excess oll and dlrL.
8lnse well wlLh clear waLer. CondlLloner ls helpful lf you have
longer halr as lL makes Lhe halr smooLher and easler Lo comb, buL
halr doesn'L need Lo have condlLloner. use a wlde LooLhed comb
for weL halr as lL ls easler Lo pull Lhrough.

1eeth
?ou should brush your LeeLh Lwlce a day - afLer breakfasL and
before you go Lo bed. 1he ropheL (pbuh) advlses Lo brush LeeLh
before every salaa [usL before you do wudhoo.
uurlng Lhe day, flll your mouLh wlLh waLer and swlsh lL around Lo
geL rld of anyLhlng sLlcklng Lo your LeeLh.

llnally, keep your flngernalls and Loenalls shorL and clean Loo
maklng a hablL Lo cuL Lhem every lrlday.

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DCING CNL'S 8LS1

"8e all LhaL you can be."
WheLher drawlng a plcLure, pourlng mllk over cereal, Lylng shoes,
or brushlng LeeLh, we have Lo do Lhe besL we can.
uolng one's besL does noL mean belng perfecL or ouLdolng
someone else. lL means recognlzlng LhaL hone has performed aL a
personally hlgh level and can say wlLh Lhelr hand on Lhelr hearL "l
dld my besL."

Some Lhlngs Lo remember:

l musL LreaL oLhers Lhe way l wanL Lhem Lo LreaL me.
l am a good sporL, l follow Lhe rules, Lake Lurns and play
falr.
lL ls okay Lo laugh aL funny Lhlngs, buL noL Lo laugh aL
oLhers.
l do noL gosslp, lf l cannoL say anyLhlng helpful, l do noL say
anyLhlng aL all.
When l am sad, l help myself feel beLLer by Lhlnklng of
Lhlngs LhaL are good ln my llfe.
ln order Lo have frlends, l musL acL ln a klnd way.
l belleve LhaL l am someone who can do lmporLanL Lhlngs.
WhaL l say and how l say lL Lells oLhers Lhe klnd of person l
am.
l always Lhank Allah for my famlly, my Leachers, and my
communlLy
l LreaL everyone wlLh respecL.
When l llsLen, l show oLhers LhaL l care abouL Lhem.
l do noL glve up, l keep Lrylng unLll l can do my work.
My Musllm values gulde me Lo do whaL ls rlghL.
l am honesL, l do noL cheaL or sLeal.
When l am angry, l use self-conLrol and do noL hurL oLhers.

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When l do whaL l say l wlll do, l am belng responslble.
l Lry Lo learn someLhlng new each day.
When Lhlngs do noL go my way, l sLop and Lhlnk of whaL l
can do Lo make Lhem beLLer.
l do noL make fun of oLher chlldren because l don'L know
whaL Lhelr llfe ls llke.
When l use my Llme wlsely, Lhere ls usually enough Llme Lo
do whaL l wanL Lo do.
l am me -- l do noL Lry Lo be llke someone else.
l feel successful when l do my besL.

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DANGLkS CI VIDLC GAMLS
laylng vldeo games has become a popular acLlvlLy for people of
all ages. Many chlldren spend large amounLs of Llme playlng Lhem.
Some games connecL Lo Lhe lnLerneL, whlch can allow chlldren Lo
play onllne wlLh unknown adulLs and peers.
Whlle some games have educaLlonal conLenL, many of Lhe mosL
popular games promoLe:
Lhe kllllng of people or anlmals
Lhe use and abuse of drugs and alcohol
crlmlnal behavlour llke sLeallng eLc...
vlolence
bad language
SLudles of chlldren exposed Lo vlolence have shown LhaL Lhey can
become lmmune Lo Lhe horror of vlolence, and become
aggresslve. Also one can become obsessed wlLh vldeogames,
spendlng large amounLs of Llme playlng Lhese games whlch lead
Lo:
poor soclal skllls
Llme away from famlly Llme, school-work, and oLher
hobbles
poor resulLs ln school
exerclslng less, and becomlng unflL
aggresslve LhoughLs and behavlours

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kAC1ICAL ADVICL WnLN LAING VIDLC Ck IN1LkNL1 GAMLS

1. SLudy Lhe raLlng of an onllne game carefully, ofLen Lhey wlll leL
you know lf lL sulLable for someone your age.
2. SeL-up your user proflle Lo lnclude approprlaLe language and
game conLenL for someone your age.
3. Make sure your parenLs know your onllne name and logln and
how Lo access your onllne accounL so Lhey can help you lf
someLhlng goes wrong.
4. SeL Llme llmlLs for yourself - you could use a moblle phone Lo
seL an alarm Lo keep Lo your llmlL.
kAC1ICAL ADVICL ICk SCCIAL NL1WCkkING SI1LS
1. Always explore Lhe prlvacy seLLlngs of your SnS Lo proLecL
your prlvacy and Lo proLecL yourself from sLrangers.
2. CeL your frlends and famlly Lo have a look aL your SnS Lo
check LhaL you aren'L glvlng ouL Loo much personal
lnformaLlon or posLlng lnapproprlaLe phoLos/fllms because
Lhey mlghL see someLhlng you've mlssed.
3. keep your passwords Lo yourself.
4. 8especL yourself and oLhers onllne.
3. lf you are unlucky enough Lo have a bad experlence onllne
reporL lL Lo Lhe servlce provlder and Lell an adulL
6. Cyber bullylng ls never accepLable. lf you or someone you
know ls LargeLed by bullles onllne Lell Lhem:
Lo reporL Lhe bully Lo Lhe webslLe/servlce operaLor
keep evldence of Lhe bullylng behavlour
Lo reslsL Lhe LempLaLlon Lo reply Lo nasLy messages
Lo Lell an adulL.

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DkLSS CCDL - nIIA8

"And say Lo Lhe mu'mlnaL (bellevlng women) LhaL Lhey should look
down and guard Lhelr prlvaLe parLs and do noL show Lhelr beauLy
excepL whaL appears Lhereof, and leL Lhem wear Lhelr head-
coverlngs over Lhelr bosoms and noL dlsplay Lhelr beauLy, excepL
Lo Lhelr husbands or Lhelr faLhers, or Lhe faLhers of Lhelr
husbands, or Lhelr sons or Lhe sons of Lhelr husbands, or Lhelr
broLhers or Lhelr broLhers' sons, or Lhelr slsLers' sons or Lhelr
women..... Suratun Nur 24:31

lL ls Wa[lb Lo cover one's head and body from a man who ls na-
mahram.

Who |s a na-mahram?
All men excepL Lhose llsLed below are na-mahram:
laLher and hls faLher, grand-faLher, greaL grand-faLher (how
hlgh so ever)
8roLhers and Lhelr sons and slsLers' sons
laLhers' broLhers and moLhers' broLhers
Pusband, hls sons and hls faLher.

1he word hl[ab means LhaL whlch appears behlnd a curLaln.
lL ls referred Lo as a woman's coverlng. lL means Lo wear decenL
and modesL cloLhes whlch cover Lhe whole body lncludlng arms
and legs and coverlng Lhe halr wlLh a scarf. lL also means Lo
behave decenLly wlLh boys.
lL ls a declaraLlon of ldenLlLy - non communlcaLlve message ls - l
declare LhaL l am belng loyal Lo myself and my CreaLor, l am noL a

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vlcLlm and you wlll noL pull my sLrlngs for l do LhaL myself, l am
unlque - l wlll noL be compared wlLh Lhe lcons Lhe fashlon
lndusLry.
lL provldes Lhe necessary dlgnlLy and self-respecL Lo be able Lo
lead a balanced soclal llfe. lslam separaLes work and soclal
en[oymenL.

1he cloLhlng of hl[ab musL also be accompanled by lowerlng Lhe
gaze. Pl[ab ls noL a llcence Lo aLLend mlxed gaLherlngs, or be ln
Lhe company of na-mahrams for pleasure.

Why one shou|d dress decent|y?
8y dresslng ln a parLlcular way you glve an lmpresslon of yourself
Lo oLher people: fellow Musllms, non-Musllms and boys. Ask
yourself whaL lmpresslon you would llke oLher people Lo have of
you?

8y be|ng |n h|[ab:
?ou are ldenLlfylng yourself as a Musllm and showlng you are
proud of your ldenLlLy.
?ou are showlng people LhaL you are an lnLelllgenL and
lndependenL young lady who ls noL pressured lnLo 'looklng llke
everyone else' and LhaL you wanL Lo be respecLed for who you are
raLher Lhan whaL you look llke.

?ou are Lelllng boys LhaL you are a respecLable glrl and noL one
LhaL Lrles Lo aLLracL male aLLenLlon. MosL lmporLanLly, Allah wlll be
pleased wlLh you.

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lf you are wlLh ladles, very young chlldren and mahram men
(mahrams are men LhaL you can never geL marrled Lo and Lhese
are your grandfaLher, faLher, faLher's broLher, moLher's broLher,
your broLher and nephew), Lhen you can wear perfume, make-up,
[ewellery and preLLy cloLhes. ?ou do noL have Lo cover your halr ln
fronL of Lhese buL cloLhes should remaln decenL.

lf Lhere are non-mahrams presenL (LhaL lncludes your male
couslns), even ln your own home, or you are golng ouL Lhen you
musL cover your whole body excepL for your face and hands ln
loose-flLLlng cloLhes LhaL should noL be see Lhrough. ?ou should
noL wear make-up elLher.

When one does noL wear hl[ab Lhere can only be one of Lwo
reasons:
Cne wlshes Lo draw aLLenLlon Lo one's looks. 8emember lf you puL
ouL an adverLlsemenL, someone ls golng Lo respond Lo lL.

Cne wlshes Lo blend or be accepLable Lo a cerLaln group of
people. 8ememberlng LhaL we wlll be ralsed and ldenLlfled wlLh
Lhe group LhaL we asplre Lo be llke or wlLh.

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GCSSI GnLL8A &
1CnMA1 (8ACk8I1ING & SLANDLk)

8ackblLlng ls Lalklng ln someone's absence ln a manner noL
pleaslng Lo Lhe menLloned person.
lf whaL ls sald ls Lrue lL ls gheeba, however lf lL ls false Lhen lL ls
even worse and LhaL ls LohmaL or slanderlng.

Allah ln Lhe Cur'an says: ...ooJ lest oot some of yoo bockblte
otbets. uo ooy of yoo llke to eot tbe JeoJ flesb of bls btotbet?
Suratu| nu[urat, aya 12

1he absenL person cannoL defend hlmself, [usL llke a dead person.
So when you backblLe, lL ls as lf you carve away parLs of Lhe body.
A dead body wlll never recover Lhe ln[ury. 1he same harm ls
caused when we backblLe (harm) someone's characLer ln Lhelr
absence. Lven lf laLer, we go back Lo Lhe crowd and say LhaL Lhe
commenLs were unfalr, we can never resurrecL Lhe personallLy
LhaL we crushed. L.g. lf one breaks a glass and Lhen mends lL,
even coaLlng lL wlLh real gold, lLs value as a glass ls a broken glass.
Pow can one regaln people's confldence ln Lhe slsLer/broLher
whose characLer one has assasslnaLed?

1he ropheL (pbuh) has sald: 8ackblLlng eaLs away Lhe deen
(rellglon) of a Musllm worse Lhan leprosy eaLs one's flesh"
SlLLlng ln a Mas[ld awalLlng prayer ls lbada as long as you don'L
use Lhe Llme for gosslp".
1he wlfe of Lhe ropheL (pbuh) PazraL Ayesha says: A woman
came Lo us and as she was leavlng, l made a gesLure suggesLlng

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LhaL she ls shorL. 1he ropheL (pbuh) sald: 'you commlLLed
gheeba'.
1he ropheL (pbuh) has also sald: lf you hear gosslp abouL your
broLher/slsLer and you defend hlm/her, Allah wlll ellmlnaLe many
of your evlls ln Lhls and Lhe nexL world. And lf you remaln quleL
and do noL do anyLhlng, your sln ls 70 Llmes more Lhan Lhe one
who dld Lhe gheeba."

lmam All (pbuh) sald: Allah wlll dlsgrace Lhe passlve llsLener ln
Lhls and Lhe nexL world".

SomeLlmes we do noL reallse LhaL we are backblLlng. LeL's look aL
some of Lhe dlfferenL Lypes of backblLlng -

1. Mlxed wlLh 8lya (preLence): Someone's love of auLhorlLy and
power ls menLloned and you say Alhamdullllah LhaL we don'L
love power or someone's shorL Lempered and we say May
Cod save us from lmpaLlence. We are asserLlng LhaL we are
free of Lhese shorLcomlngs, whlle suggesLlng LhaL Lhe
slsLer/broLher suffers from such defecLs.

2. AL Llmes we say 'such and such' ls such a good person, buL
may Allah granL hlm/her a llLLle more pleLy. lf we are really
concerned, Lhen we should asslsL Lo Lry Lo change hls/her
slLuaLlon. Pe/she wlll beneflL, and so wlll we. 1he backblLlng
slmply bankrupLs us of our good deeds!

3. AL Llmes our body language encourages Lhe backblLer. 8alsed
eyebrows, aLLenLlon, smlles, eLc. We are helplng an offence
agalnsL Allah and a person Lake place. Show conLempL.

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uefend Lhe person lf you know hlm/her. Pere ls where
sllence ls a crlme, a huge one ln Lhe slghL of Allah. May Pe
forglve us?

1ake few momenLs and see lf you can make a promlse LhaL you
wlll avold backblLlng for aL leasL a day. lf you succeed, advance Lo
a few days. lf you succeed Lhen advance Lo a week, Lhen a monLh,
Lhen a year, and perhaps forever, lnsha'Allah. now send a salawaL
Lo acknowledge your pledge, lf you wanL Lo enLer Lhls pacL wlLh
Plm.

And flnally, a hadlLh from Lhe ropheL (pbuh): lf you dld gheeba
and Lhen dld Lawba (repenLed), you may be Lhe lasL person Lo
enLer !anna. 8uL lf you dld gheeba, and you dld nlL repenL, you
may be Lhe flrsL one who enLers !ahannam".

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LVLN I1'S NAML nISSLS

lL Lopples governmenLs,
lL rulns careers,
lL desLroys repuLaLlons,
lL causes nlghLmares,
lL spawns susplclon,
lL generaLes grlef.

lL ls Lhe snake LhaL polsons everyone,
lL ls goss|p.

8efore you repeaL a sLory, ask yourself:
ls lL Lrue?
ls lL falr?
ls lL necessary?

lf noL, forgeL lL.

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IN1LkIAI1n

WnA1 C1nLkS 8LLILVL
noL everyone ln your school belleves whaL you belleve. So how do
you wlLness or defend your falLh lf you don'L undersLand Lhelr
rellglous bellefs? Pere ls some help Lo undersLandlng Lhe
dlfferences beLween lslam and oLher world rellglons.
8e||ef Is|am n|ndu|sm Chr|st|an|ty Iuda|sm
Cr|g|n of
name
..loJeeJ tbe
ooly tellqloo
wltb Allob ls
lslom
ur'an - 3:18
lslam means
'submlsslon' Lo
Lhe wlll of Allah
1he word
Plndu comes
from Lhe rlver
lndus. lL ls Lhe
'lsm'-Lhe
culLure of Lhe
lndus valley.
'Messlah' or Lhe
anolnLed one ln
Creek ls
'khrlsLos'. lrom
Lhere comes Lhe
word 'ChrlsL' &
Lhus ChrlsLlanlLy
- Lhe rellglon of
Lhose who
worshlp !esus
ChrlsL as son of
Cod.
Cne of Lhe sons
of !acob
(ropheL ?aqub
(pbuh). - whose
descendanLs
were known as
8anl lsrall) was
!udah (?ahuda)
from whlch Lhe
name !udalsm ls
derlved.
!ews belleve
Lhey are Lhe
chosen people.
8as|c concept
of 8e||ef |n
God
"AoJ yoot CoJ
ls Ooe CoJ.
1bete ls oo CoJ
bot ne, ..
Cur'an - 2:163
..AoJ yoot lotJ
ls oot oojost to
ooyooe..
Cur'an - 18:49

uelLy ls
vlsuallsed as a
Lrlad:
1he power Lo
creaLe belongs
Lo 8rahma. Pe
ls beyond
worshlp.
reservaLlon ls
ln Lhe power
of vlshnu
Shlva ls Lhe
greaL
desLroyer
1hey are
llmlLless forms
of Cod.
8aslcally
everyLhlng ls
Cod.
"...we worshlp
one Cod ln
1rlnlLy, and
1rlnlLy ln
unlLy... for
Lhere ls one
erson of Lhe
laLher, anoLher
of Lhe Son,
anoLher of Lhe
Poly ChosL ls all
one... Lhey are
noL Lhree gods,
buL one Cod...
Lhe whole Lhree
persons are co-
eLernal and co-
equal...


"Pear, C lsrael:
1he Lord our
Cod ls one
Lord." -
ueuLeronomy
6:4

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8e||ef Is|am n|ndu|sm Chr|st|an|ty Iuda|sm
Nabuwwa ...Oot lotJ ls
ne wbo qove
evetytbloq lts
fotm ooJ tbeo
qolJeJ lt..
Cur'an - 20:30
lrom ropheL
Adam (pbuh) Lo
ropheL
Muhammad
(pbuh)
124,000
ropheLs.


no concepL of
ropheLhood.
ropheLhood
sLops aL ropheL
Musa (pbuh) -
Moses. AfLer
LhaL ropheL lsa
(pbuh) ls
worshlpped as
Lhe son of Cod.
ropheLhood
sLops aL ropheL
Musa (pbuh) -
Moses.
Death, ||fe
hereafter &
the Last Day
..lt ls ne (Allob)
wbo bos cteoteJ
Jeotb & llfe so
tbot ne moy tty
wblcb of yoo
Joes tbe best of
JeeJs...
Cur'an - 67:2
..AoJ evetyooe
of tbem wlll
come to nlm oo
tbe Joy of
Olyomo olooe
Ootoo 19.95
Puman belngs
are percelved
Lo be Lrapped
ln 'samsara' - a
meanlngless
cycle of blrLh,
deaLh &
reblrLh. karma
ls one's deeds.
1hrough purlLy
one can be
born lnLo a
hlgher level.
8ad deeds can
cause a
person's
reblrLh lnLo
even an
anlmal. (8e-
lncarnaLlon)








lf a ChrlsLlan
acknowledges
hls/her slnful
naLure, belleves
ln Lhe dlvlnlLy of
!esus and
accepLs hls
Leachlngs, Lhen
he/she wlll have
everlasLlng llfe
ln heaven. 1he
process ls called
belng saved or
born agaln.

l belleve wlLh
perfecL falLh LhaL
Lhere wlll be a
resurrecLlon of
Lhe dead aL a
Llme when lL
shall please Lhe
CreaLor."
Cne of Lhe 13
prlnclples of
falLh.

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8e||ef Is|am n|ndu|sm Chr|st|an|ty Iuda|sm

8ooks we bove
teveoleJ to yoo
tbe book
(Ootoo) wblcb
clotlfles evety
mottet. Cur'an
16:89
keveoleJ by
Allob to ltopbet
MobommoJ
(pbob) tbtooqb
tbe ooqel Ilbtoll.
1he mosL
lmporLanL of
Plndu LexLs ls
Lhe 8hagvad
ChlLa whlch ls
a poem
descrlblng a
conversaLlon
beLween a
warrlor Ar[una
and hls
charloLeer
krlshna.
1he word '8lble'
means 'Lhe
8ooks'. 1he
8lble ls a
collecLlon of
books wrlLLen
over 1000 years
by over 40
auLhors- some
unknown ln a
varleLy of sLyles
and language.
Cver 73 ls Lhe
Cld 1esLamenL.
Pebrew verslon
of Lhe Cld
1esLamenL.
ConslsL of 1orah
(Law), nev'lm
(ropheLs), &
keLhuvlm
(WrlLlngs) -
1anakh. !ews
belleve Lhey
were wrlLLen
under degrees of
lnsplraLlon and
Lherefore have
order of
lmporLance.
uleLary Laws "O yoo wbo
belleve! ot of
tbe qooJ tbloqs
we bove
ptovlJeJ yoo
wltb ooJ tbook
CoJ lf lt ls ne
tbot yoo
wotsblp"
Oot'oo 2.172
1he food musL
be obLalned by
lawful means.
lL musL be bolol
and noL botom.

Plndus belleve
LhaL all llvlng
organlsms
lncludlng
lnsecLs have
souls. lor Lhls
reason many
devouL Plndus
eaL only
vegeLarlan
food. Among
all anlmals Lhe
cow ls
regarded as
sacred - oLhers
are elLher
lncarnaLlons or
messengers of
varlous Cods.
A quoLe from
Lhe 8lble:
Cf Lhelr flesh
(Lhe swlne) shall
you noL eaL, and
Lhelr carcass
you shall noL
Louch, Lhey are
unclean Lo you."
levltlcos 11.8

lood musL be
kosbet. Cnly
cerLaln klnds of
meaL are
allowed- Lamb,
beef, chlcken are
among Lhese.
Shellflsh and
pork are noL.
SlaughLerlng
musL be by
Lralned/ordalned
!ew. CLher laws
Loo.

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8e||ef Is|am n|ndu|sm Chr|st|an|ty Iuda|sm
n|[ab ..let tbem weot
tbelt beoJ
covetloqs ovet
tbelt bosoms
ooJ oot Jlsploy
tbelt beooty...
ur'an 24:31
..1bey sboolJ
weot tbelt ootet
qotmeots ovet
tbelt boJles so
tbot tbey sboolJ
oot be koowo
ooJ tbos oot be
qlveo
ttooble...ur'an
33:S9
Pl[ab ls wa[lb
(obllgaLory)
Plndu culLure
enLalls
modesLy ln
dress.
....lf a woman
does noL cover
her head, she
should have her
halr cuL off or
shaved off, she
should cover
her head."
l corinthions
11:-7
lL ls noL llke Lhe
daughLers of
lsrael Lo walk
ouL wlLh Lhelr
heads
uncovered.
Cursed be Lhe
man who leLs
Lhe halr of hls
wlfe be seen....a
woman who
exposes her halr
for self-
adornmenL
brlngs poverLy.
8abbl ur.
Menachem M
8rayer -
rofessor of
?eshlva
unlverslLy ln hls
book '1he
!ewlsh woman
ln 8abblnlc
LlLeraLure'

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nCW 1C 8L A IUS1 (IAIk) LkSCN

"C you who belleve! SLand ouL flrmly for [usLlce.." Suratun N|sa
4:13S

1o be fa|r you have to:
1reaL people Lhe way you wanL Lo be LreaLed.
1ake 1urns.
1ell Lhe LruLh.
lay by Lhe rules.
1hlnk abouL how your acLlons wlll affecL oLhers.
LlsLen Lo people wlLh an open mlnd.
uon'L blame oLhers for your mlsLakes.
uon'L Lake advanLage of oLher people.
uon'L play favourlLes.

We do noL LreaL people [usLly because we llke Lhem or are parLlal
Lo Lhem. lf LhaL were Lhe case, Lhere would be no need Lo
command [usLlce, slnce people are naLurally [usL Lo Lhose Lhey
llke. We need Lo be especlally careful ln belng [usL when deallng
wlLh Lhose we have no favorable feellngs Lowards.

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kNCWLLDGL

"Allah makes Lhe road Lo !anna easy for one who Lakes a sLep on
Lhe road Lo acqulrlng knowledge."
rophet Muhammad (pbuh)

lL ls noL enough Lo acqulre lnformaLlon on a sub[ecL of sLudy, buL
lL ls lmporLanL Lo be able Lo absorb, undersLand and pracLlse upon
Lhe lnformaLlon ln order Lo call lL 'knowledge'.

1he followlng ahadlLh from Lhe ropheL (pbuh) may Lhrow some
llghL on Lhe rlghL way of acqulrlng knowledge.

"1he Lreasures of knowledge are opened by asklng quesLlons. May
Allah bless you. Ask quesLlons because four persons are rewarded
- 1he one who asks, Lhe one who answers, Lhe one who hears and
Lhe one Lo whom lL ls relaLed."

"reserve your knowledge ln wrlLlng."

"Scholarly dlscusslons enllven dead hearLs provlded Lhey lead Lo
Allah and Pls commands."

"1each oLhers whaL you know so LhaL Lhe foundaLlon of your
knowledge may become sLrong and seek knowledge from oLhers
so LhaL Lhe level of your lnformaLlon may lncrease."

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Lk1kAC1S IkCM D8 AL-MU1A'ALLIMLLN
(8ehav|our of students)
by khwa[a Nas|rudd|n 1us| (A.k.)

"Seeklng knowledge ls wa[lb on every Musllm, male and female."
rophet Muhammad (pbuh)

1. Intent|on
"lL ls necessary for Lhe seeker of knowledge Lo have Lhe lnLenLlon
of flrsL pleaslng Allah, Lo remove lgnorance from hlm/herself Lo
remove lgnorance from oLhers and Lo revlve and conLlnue Lhe
rellglon of lslam by en[olnlng good and forblddlng evll flrsL from
hlm/herself and whosoever ls assoclaLed wlLh hlm/her and oLhers
lf lL ls posslble.
1herefore lL ls necessary for a sLudenL Lo be paLlenL durlng
dlfflculLles and Lo exerL hlm/herself as much as whaL ls wlLhln
hls/her capaclLy. Pe/she should noL exceed Lhe llmlLs durlng Lhls
worLhless llfe by bellLLllng hlm/herself wlLh greed and he/she
should dlsLance hlm/herself from pre[udlce."

2. Se|ect|on of know|edge, teachers, c|assmates...
1. 1o sLarL wlLh Lawheed and Lo know Allah wlLh proofs.
2. 1o selecL a Leacher who ls Lhe mosL knowledgeable, plous &
eldesL.
3. Lnqulre abouL Lhe fleld of sLudy and do noL make a hasLy
declslon.
4. "Check Lhe earLh by lL's frulLs and check a person by hls/her
assoclaLes"

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3. WrlLe leglbly, noL wrlLlng Loo small for lf he/she llves he/she
wlll regreL lL (noL belng able Lo read Lhe LexL) and lf he/she
dles, he/she wlll be cursed.
6. uo noL slL Loo close Lo Lhe Leacher unless lL ls an emergency.

3. Lxert|on, cont|nu|ty, and h|gh goa|s.
"Whoever seeks someLhlng wlLh exerLlon (acLlon) wlll flnd lL."
"1hree persons musL have exerLlon:
(l) 1he sLudenL
(ll) 1he Leacher
(lll) 1he faLher of Lhe sLudenL.
lL ls necessary for Lhe sLudenL Lo conLlnue Lo sLudy wlLh repeLlLlon
aL Lhe beglnnlng of Lhe day of hls/her lessons and aL Lhe end.
"1hose who sLay awake durlng Lhe nlghLs make Lhelr hearLs happy
ln Lhe day."

lL ls necessary Lo have hlgh goals for he who has hlgh goals flles as
a blrd wlLh hls/her wlngs.

kNCWLLDGL IS L1LkNAL LIIL
8rushlng Lhe LeeLh lncreases Lhe memory and Lhe ablllLy Lo speak.
"unresLrlcLed eaLlng causes Lhe lnLellecL Lo leave."

4. Start|ng a |esson, determ|n|ng |t's |ength & out||n|ng |t.
8egln Lhe lesson on Wednesday for Lhe ropheL (pbuh) has sald:
"1here ls noLhlng LhaL beglns on Wednesday, excepL LhaL lL would
be compleLed."

lL ls necessary for Lhe beglnner Lo sLarL only wlLh Lhe amounL LhaL
can be masLered and repeaLlng lL Lwlce slowly....

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"1he lesson ls once, buL repeLlLlon ls one Lhousand..."
8egln wlLh someLhlng easy, near Lhe level of undersLandlng.
uo noL acqulre LhaL whlch cannoL be comprehended.
lf a person does noL exerL hlm/herself ln undersLandlng once or
Lwlce, Lhen lL becomes a hablL and he/she wlll noL undersLand
anyLhlng.
ConsulLaLlon ls only for one purpose and LhaL ls Lo flnd Lhe LruLh.
1he ob[ecL however, wlll noL be achleved by anger, dlsrupLlon and
hardshlp.
"A momenL of debaLe ls beLLer Lhan one monLh of repeLlLlon."
?ou should noL debaLe wlLh a person who ls arroganL and noL
sLralghL ln hls/her naLure because by naLure he/she lnfluences Lhe
akhlaq and llmlLs or affecL's one's poLenLlal and Lhus Lhe
envlronmenL wlll be lnfluenced."
Always Lhlnk before speaklng.

S. ke|y|ng on A||ah
lL ls essenLlal Lo rely on Allah and noL seek means of llvellhood
from Lhe knowledge.
lL ls necessary for Lhe sLudenL Lo be occupled wlLh noLhlng oLher
Lhan Lhe seeklng of knowledge and should noL neglecL llqh,
1afseer, PadlLh and knowledge of Lhe Cur'an.

6. 1|mes for acqu|r|ng know|edge
"Seek knowledge from Lhe cradle Lo Lhe grave."
1he mosL excellenL Llme ls durlng adolescence.
1lme before la[r and before Maghrlb and lsha.

lf one becomes frusLraLed Lo change Lhe sub[ecL.

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"1he nlghL ls long. uo noL shorLen lL by sleeplng. 1he day ls llghL,
do noL shade lL by your slns."

7. |ety |n |earn|ng
"knowledge ls a prlde whlch has no humlllLy. lL cannoL be reached,
excepL by humlllaLlon whlch has no prlde."

Less eat|ng, Less s|eep|ng and |ess ta|k|ng.
"SlL faclng qlbla aL Lhe Llme of readlng."
"ray salaa of submlsslon, for lL wlll asslsL ln Lhe acqulslLlon of
knowledge."
1ake a noLebook for every occaslon.
"Cne who does noL have a noLebook ln hls/her sleeve, does noL
esLabllsh Lhe wlsdom ln hls/her hearL."
ropheL (pbuh) sald Lo Pllal lbn ?aslr, "ls Lhe lnk well wlLh you?",
when he LaughL hlm someLhlng.

Causes of memor|sat|on and forgetfu|ness
1he sLrongesL means of lncreaslng memorlsaLlon ls exerLlon
and perseverance. 8educlng eaLlng and Lo reclLe SalaLul
1aha[[ud (Shab) also lncreases memory.
8eclLlng Cur'an especlally AyaLul kursl.
8eclLlng salawaL.
8rushlng LeeLh, drlnklng honey and eaLlng 21 red ralslns every
day before breakfasL wlll lncrease Lhe memory.
LaLlng corlander and sour apples, looklng aL a person who has
been hanged, readlng LombsLones...all are Lhe causes of
forgeLfulness.

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SADA

"lf you are poor do buslness wlLh Allah by glvlng sadaq."
Imam A|| (pbuh)
Sadaq ls Lhe charlLy glven for Lhe sake of Allah. lL ls a source of
aLLalnlng Lhe blesslngs of Allah. 1he besL sadaq ls LhaL whlch ls
glven ln secreL for Lhe ropheL (pbuh) has sald lL ls LhaL whlch puLs
ouL Lhe flame of Allah's anger.

1he ropheL (pbuh) has also sald: "Cn Lhe day of Clyama
everyone wlll resL under Lhe shadow of hls/her sadaq unLll Lhe
maLLers are seLLled beLween Lhe people."

Pe has also sald: "Sadaq reaches Lhe hand of Lhe CreaLor before
lL reaches Lhe one you glve lL Lo."

lmam Musa Al-kadhlm (pbuh) has sald: "8eware of refuslng Lo
glve sadaq and Lhen spendlng Lwlce as much ln dlsobeylng
Allah."

Sayylda laLlma Zahra (pbuh) could noL bear Lo see her Lwo young
sons Pasan and Pusayn (pbuh) lll. She made a vow wlLh Allah Lo
fasL for Lhree days. WlLh her Lhe whole famlly fasLed.
Cn Lhe flrsL day when Lhey were abouL Lo break Lhelr fasL, Lhere
was a knock on Lhe door. lL was a poor man who was hungry. All
Lhe famlly gave up Lhelr bread Lo Lhe man and broke Lhelr fasL
wlLh waLer.
Slmllarly on Lhe nexL Lwo days, an orphan and a prlsoner came
who were hungry. 1he famlly gave away Lhelr food.

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Allah revealed a sura of Lhe Cur'an ln honour of Lhelr sadaq
Suratud Dahr (Sura 76).

1he crlLerla for sadaq ls LaughL by Lhe famlly of laLlma Zahra
(pbuh) and her famlly ln Lhls sura, "We feed you only for Allah's
sake, we wanL no reward or Lhanks for lL. We fear from our Lord a
dlfflculL day of dlsLress (Clyama)..."
Suratud Dahr 76:9, 10

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SCCIAL kLSCNSI8ILI1ILS

kIGn1S CI A MU'MIN
1he ropheL (pbuh) has sald: Lvery mu'mln has 30 obllgaLlons
Lowards anoLher mu'mln whlch cannoL be absolved unLll he/she
fulflls Lhem or ls forglven for Lhem"

1. lorglvlng Lhelr mlsLakes
2. Mercy Lowards Lhem when Lhey are ln a sLrange
land or slLuaLlon
3. Cuard Lhelr secreLs
4. Clve Lhem a hand when abouL Lo fall
3. AccepL Lhelr apologles
6. ulscourage gheeba abouL Lhem
7. erslsL ln glvlng Lhem good advlce
8. 1reasure Lhelr frlendshlp
9. lulfll Lhelr LrusL
10.vlslL Lhem when lll
11.8elng wlLh Lhem aL Lhelr Llme of deaLh
12.AccepLlng Lhelr lnvlLaLlons
13.8eLurnlng Lhelr favours ln klnd
14.1hanklng Lhem for Lhelr favours
13.8elng graLeful for Lhelr asslsLance
16.roLecLlng Lhelr honour and properLy
17.Pelplng Lhem meeL Lhelr needs
18.Maklng an efforL Lo solve Lhelr problems
19.Culdlng Lhem Lo whaL Lhey have losL
20.Answerlng Lhelr greeLlng
21.1aklng Lhem aL Lhelr word

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22.AccepLlng Lhelr glfLs
23.Conflrmlng Lhem lf Lhey swear Lo someLhlng
24.lncllnlng Lowards Lhem
23.Pelplng Lhem when Lhey are belng un[usL (by
Lurnlng Lhem away from lL)
26.Pelplng Lhem when Lhey are vlcLlms of ln[usLlce
27.8efralnlng from feellng bored wlLh Lhem
28.noL forsaklng Lhem ln Llmes of Lrouble
29.WhaLever good you llke Lo llke for Lhem
30.WhaLever evll you dlsllke Lo dlsllke for Lhem

Cne day Lhe ropheL (pbuh) was slLLlng alone ln Lhe mas[ld. A man
came near hlm and Lhe ropheL (pbuh) moved aslde Lo make
place for hlm.
1he man sald: "?a 8asulallah! 1he mas[ld ls empLy and Lhere ls so
much space avallable, why have you moved aslde?"

1he ropheL (pbuh) replled: "A Musllm has a rlghL on anoLher
Musllm - when he wanLs Lo slL near hlm Lhe laLLer should move
aslde as a mark of respecL".

ln '8lslLul Puquq' (A charLer of rlghLs) aLLrlbuLed Lo lmam All
Zaynul Abldeen (pbuh), lmam llsLs 31 rlghLs.

Some of Lhem are:
1he greaLesL of rlghLs WA!l8 ls Lhe rlghL of Allah whlch ls Lhe rooL
of all rlghLs. Pls rlghL ls LhaL one worshlps Plm wlLhouL assoclaLlng
anyone wlLh Plm...

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1he rlghL of your self (nafs) ls Lo uLlllse yourself ln obeylng Allah...
and you musL ask Allah for help ln Lhls.

1he rlghL of Salaa ls LhaL you know lL ls sLandlng before Allah and
LhaL you are praylng wlLh your hearL and pray lL accordlng Lo lLs
rules.....

1he rlghL of Sadaqa ls LhaL you know lL ls a savlng wlLh your Lord
and a deposlL for whlch Lhere ls no need of wlLnesses... ?ou
should know LhaL lL repels affllcLlons and lllnesses ln Lhe world
and repels Lhe flre ln Lhe nexL.

1he rlghL of Lhe one who lmparLs knowledge ls Lo respecL
hlm/her, llsLen Lo hlm/her and aLLend wlLh devoLlon. ?ou should
noL ralse your volce Lowards hlm/her.. ?ou should noL speak
whllsL she/he ls speaklng nor speak lll of hlm/her... lf anyone
speaks lll of hlm/her you should defend hlm/her... ?ou should noL
show any enmlLy or show hosLlllLy ln frlendshlp. lf Lhls ls done
Lhen Allah's angels wlll glve wlLness LhaL Lhe knowledge learnL
from hlm/her was for Allah and noL for Lhe sake of Lhe people...

1he rlghL of a moLher ls LhaL you know LhaL she carrled you where
no-one carrles anyone. She dld noL care lf she wenL hungry and
LhlrsLy as long as you aLe and drank... she gave up sleep...

1he rlghL of Lhe faLher ls LhaL you should know LhaL he ls Lhe rooL.
WlLhouL hlm, one would noL be. When you sees ln yourself
someLhlng LhaL pleases you, know LhaL your faLher ls Lhe rooL of
LhaL blesslng....

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1he rlghL of one who ls older ls LhaL he/she be respecLed because
of age and honoured because he/she enLered lslam before you...

1he rlghL of Lhe one who ls younger ls LhaL he/she be shown
compasslon Lhrough Leachlng hlm/her, forglveness, coverlng of
faulLs and help...

1he rlghL of he/she Lhrough whom Allah makes you happy ls LhaL
you flrsL pralse Allah and Lhen Lhank Lhe person....

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nCNCUkING AkLN1S

"Allah's pleasure ls Lhe pleasure of one's parenLs and Pls anger ls
Lhelr anger."
rophet Muhammad (pbuh)

A man once came Lo Lhe ropheL (pbuh) and sald: "?a 8asulullah! l
am healLhy and wanL Lo Lake parL ln [lhad for lslam. Powever, my
moLher does noL llke me belng separaLed from her and golng for
baLLle."

1he ropheL (pbuh) replled: "Co and sLay wlLh your moLher. l
swear by Plm who has appolnLed me as Pls messenger LhaL Lhe
Lhawaab for your spendlng one nlghL ln Lhe servlce of your
moLher and her belng happy ls greaLer Lhan you performlng [lhad
for a whole year."

A man called Zakarlyya once came Lo lmam !a'fer As-Sadlq (pbuh)
and sald: "l was a ChrlsLlan buL have now become a Musllm."

lmam asked hlm whaL convlnced hlm ln becomlng a Musllm.
Zakarlyya replled LhaL lL was Lhe followlng aya of Lhe Cur'an:
"1hus dld We reveal Lo ?ou our guldance by Cur command, ?ou
dld noL know whaL Lhe 8ook (Cur'an) was nor dld you know whaL
falLh was, buL We made lL (Lhe Cur'an) a llghL Lhrough whlch We
gulde whlchever of our servanLs We wanL, and lndeed you are a
gulde of Lhe rlghL paLh." Suratush Shu'ra - 42:S2

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lmam Lold Zakarlyya: "lndeed Allah has gulded you Lo lslam and
lllumlnaLed your hearL wlLh lLs llghL."
Zakarlyya Lhen asked lmam abouL wheLher he could llve wlLh hls
parenLs who were sLlll ChrlsLlans. lmam asked wheLher Lhey aLe
pork and Zakarlyya sald Lhey dld noL. lmam replled:
"1ake care of your moLher. 8e good and klnd Lo her and as and
when she breaLhes her lasL aLLend Lo her funeral rlLes."
Zakarlyya sald LhaL when he reLurned home he honoured hls
moLher as he was ordered by lmam. 1he moLher on noLlclng Lhe
change ln her sons' behavlour sald:
"WhaL ls Lhe reason of you honourlng me so much afLer you have
become a Musllm?"
Zakarlyya Lold her LhaL one of Lhe Ahlul8ayL of Lhe ropheL (pbuh)
had ordered hlm Lo honour her.
She sald:
"..?our rellglon ls beLLer Lhan mlne. Culde me so LhaL l may
become a Musllm."
Zakarlyya LaughL her Lhe basls of lslam and she became a Musllm.
She offered Lhe Zhuhr, 'Asr, Maghrlb & lsha Salaa of LhaL day as
LaughL Lo her by her son and dled a Musllm aL mldnlghL on LhaL
day.

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DU1ILS 1CWAkDS AkLN1S

ropheL Muhammad (pbuh) has sald: "SlLLlng wlLh your parenLs
for one hour ls beLLer Lhan golng for [lhad. Lven lf only a word ls
spoken wlLh a vlew Lo pleaslng Lhe parenLs, Allah ls pleased."

8especLlng parenLs means:

1. never ralse your volce whlle Lalklng Lo Lhem.

2. uo noL slL when Lhey are sLandlng.

3. uo noL walk ln fronL of Lhem unless Lhey Lell you Lo do so.

4. uo noL Lalk when Lhey are Lalklng.

3. never correcL Lhem ln fronL of oLhers.

6. uo noL make Lhem angry or dlspleased wlLh you.

7. never argue or shouL aL Lhem.

Always pray for Lhem:
| ,` . . _` i, , .. s .. ,` .` .`|
"...Lord! Pave mercy on Lhem [usL as Lhey had mercy on me when
l was llLLle..."
Suratu 8an| Isra|| 17:24

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S1kIVL 1C MLL1 1nL NLLDS CI MU'MINLLN

"When one of my servanLs performs a good acL, l award hlm
!anna ln exchange"
ropheL uawood (pbuh) asked Allah:
"?a Allah! WhaL ls LhaL good acL?"
1he revelaLlon came:
"lL ls maklng a mu'mln happy even lf lL be by offerlng hlm a daLe"

1here was a man called Sadlq Palwanl who was once approached
by hls frlend ln Mas[ldul Param Lo lend hlm Lwo dlnars. Sadlq Lold
hlm he would glve hlm Lhe money afLer he had compleLed hls
Lawf.
As he was [usL abouL Lo compleLe hls Lawf, lmam !a'fer As-Sadlq
(pbuh) arrlved for Lawf. lmam puL hls hand on Sadlq's shoulder
and began Lawf.
Sadlq says LhaL alLhough he had compleLed hls Lawf he
accompanled lmam.
Pls frlend was slLLlng ln a corner and maklng slgns aL Sadlq. lmam
asked Sadlq why Lhe man was Lrylng Lo call hls aLLenLlon.
Sadlq replled:
...Pe ls walLlng for me so LhaL afLer l compleLe Lawf l can help
arrange a loan for hlm. As you puL your hand on my shoulder l dld
noL wlsh Lo leave you."
lmam removed hls hand lmmedlaLely from hls shoulder and Lold
hlm:
"Co Lo meeL hls need."
Sadlq fulfllled hls word Lo hls frlend. nexL day he wenL Lo vlslL Lhe
lmam. lmam sald:

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lf one sLrlves Lo meeL Lhe need of a mu'mln lL ls more worLhy a
deed Lhan freelng 1000 slaves and equlpplng 1000 people for
[lhad"

lmam All Zaynul Abldeen (pbuh) has sald:
SLrlve Lo acqulre a hlgh poslLlon ln !anna. 8emember Lhe more
useful a person ls Lo a fellow mu'mln Lhe hlgher hls/her poslLlon ln
!anna. AL Llmes even Lhe saylng of one senLence becomes Lhe
source of becomlng closer Lo Allah. never conslder klndness Lo
your fellow mu'mln broLher/slsLer Lo be lnslgnlflcanL for lL wlll be
Lhese LhaL wlll be useful on a day when noLhlng much wlll be of
any use."

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INUIkL A8CU1 AND VISI1 1nL NLLD
AND 1nL CCk

"A Lrue Mu'mln ls one who malnLalns broLherly relaLlons wlLh Lhe
poor and needy and glves Lhem a share of hls wealLh and behaves
wlLh Lhem [usLly." -
rophet Muhammad (pbuh)

lmam Pasan (pbuh) and lmam Pusayn (pbuh) had [usL burled Lhelr
faLher and were reLurnlng Lo Lhe clLy when Lhey heard someone
crylng and calllng ouL: "Where are you? C you who vlslLed me and
had mercy on me!"
1hey wenL Lo lnqulre and found LhaL lL was a leper for whom
lmam All (pbuh) had provlded a shelLer ouLslde Lhe Lown of kufa.
lmam used Lo vlslL Lhe leper dally, dresslng hls wounds and
feedlng hlm for he had losL Lhe use of hls hands.
When lmam Pasan & Pusayn (pbuh) lnformed hlm of Lhe
shahadaL of Lhelr faLher, Lhe leper asked Lo be Laken Lo Lhe grave
where he breaLhed hls lasL.

lL ls reporLed LhaL lmam All Zaynul Abldeen (pbuh) was once wlLh
hls companlons when Lhey vlslLed one of Lhe poor and needy of
Madlna. lmam gave hlm some money and Lhen klssed Lhe poor
mans' hand.
lmams' companlons asked why he had done LhaL Lo whlch lmam
replled: "Pe ls my Muhsln (one Lo whom l am obllged) for by
accepLlng my help he ls brlnglng me closer Lo Allah."

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1he ropheL (pbuh) has sald: "Who so ever glves respecL Lo a
needy Musllm wlll appear on Lhe day of Clyama as one who has
achleved Lhe pleasure of Allah".

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AIILC1ICN 1CWAkDS CknANS

"Who so ever puLs an affecLlonaLe hand on Lhe head of an orphan
wlll be rewarded by Allah wlLh radlance (llghL) for every halr whlch
wlll pass from below hls hand." -
Imam Ia'fer As-Sad|q (pbuh)

Cne day ropheL 'lsa (pbuh) was passlng Lhrough a grave yard
wlLh hls companlons and when nearlng one parLlcular grave he
sLarLed walklng fasLer.
When hls companlons enqulred he sald LhaL Lhe person ln Lhe
grave was belng punlshed and he dld noL wanL Lo be near Lhe
grave.
A year laLer on passlng Lhe same graveyard, Lhe companlons of
ropheL 'lsa (pbuh) noLlced LhaL he was walklng slowly cherlshlng
each sLep when he walked passed Lhe same grave.
1hey asked hlm abouL Lhe change. ropheL 'lsa (pbuh) replled:
"1he man had a son who has provlded food and shelLer Lo an
orphan. Allah has forglven Lhe slns of Lhe faLher on LhaL accounL."

ropheL Muhammad (pbuh) has sald:
"lf a person looks afLer an orphan and meeLs hls/her expenses,
he/she wlll be my companlon ln !anna and wlll slL by my slde."

ln hls lasL wlll (afLer belng sLruck by lbne Mul[lm) lmam All (pbuh)
sald: "lear Allah when Lhe quesLlon of orphans arlses. ?ou should
never leL Lhem sLarve. So long as you are Lhere Lo guard and
proLecL Lhem you should noL leL Lhem be rulned or losL. 1he
ropheL (pbuh) always remlnded us of Lhls responslblllLy so much
so LhaL we ofLen LhoughL LhaL Lhe ropheL (pbuh) mlghL glve Lhem
a share from our lnherlLance."

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VISI1ING 1nL SICk

"Cne who helps a slck person ln meeLlng hls/her needs ls forglven
of hls/her slns wheLher or noL he/she has been successful or noL."
rophet Muhammad (pbuh)

lmam !a'fer As-Sadlq (pbuh) meL some of hls companlons who
were on Lhelr way Lo vlslL a slck person. lmam asked Lhem: "Are
you carrylng wlLh you an apple, or qulnce or ...some perfume..?"
1hey replled ln Lhe negaLlve.
lmam sald: "know LhaL such Lhlngs glve peace of mlnd Lo a slck
person."

Whenever one vlslLs a slck person one musL Lake a glfL, be lL small.
1he ropheL (pbuh) has sald: "Whoever ls wllllng Lo feed a slck
person shall be provlded Lhe frulLs of !anna by Allah,"

lL ls also necessary LhaL Lhe vlslL should noL be an lnconvenlence
Lo Lhe paLlenL. lmam All (pbuh) has sald: "Among Lhose who are
rewarded for vlslLlng Lhe slck, he/she ls rewarded more who sLays
wlLh Lhe slck person for a shorL Llme unless he/she knows LhaL Lhe
slck person wlshes hlm/her Lo sLay longer."
1he ropheL (pbuh) has sald: ".....ray for Lhe slck person and say:
C Allah! Cure hlm/her wlLh ?our medlclne and keep hlm/her safe
from dlsLress."

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nCNCUkING NLIGn8CUkS*

"8y Allah! Ponour your nelghbours, for surely Lhe ropheL (pbuh)
conLlnued Lo say Lhls unLll we LhoughL LhaL he mlghL even glve
Lhem Lhe rlghL Lo lnherlL from us."
Imam A|| (pbuh) - W|||

lmam All (pbuh) has also sald: "Avold burylng your dead near
someone evll, for surely a good nelghbour beneflLs you ln Lhe nexL
world [usL as he beneflLs you ln Lhls world."

An a'llm knew someone ln hls nelghbourhood who was noL very
plous and dld noL heed Lhe advlce of Lhe a'llm. 1he man dled
suddenly and Lhe a'llm was grleved Lhlnklng of Lhe adhaab Lhe
man musL be sufferlng ln hls grave.

A few days laLer Lhe a'llm saw Lhe man ln hls dreams. Pe was
happy and ln luxurlous surroundlngs.
1he a'llm enqulred abouL hls good forLune. 1he man sald: "WhaL
you see ls a beneflL l am en[oylng noL because of my deeds buL
LhaL of a lady who was burled yesLerday. Per grave has been
vlslLed by Lhe Shuhada of karbala and all of us around her have
beneflLed from Lhe mercy and blesslngs showered upon her."

1he a'llm on waklng up enqulred abouL Lhe lady who had been
burled Lhe day before. Pe found ouL LhaL she was a young moLher.
Pe asked her husband whaL she had done Lo achleve such an
honour whlch also beneflLed her nelghbours ln Lhe graveyard.

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Per husband replled: "She was a good wlfe and moLher. Lvery day
afLer she had flnlshed her work she would reclLe ZlyaraL Ashura
and cry." (She reclLed Lhe Zlyara wlLh undersLandlng and LoLal
commlLmenL and submlsslon).

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MANNLkS CI 1ALkING

lmam All (pbuh) has sald:
"A person ls hldden under hls Longue"
1hls means LhaL one ls valued Lhrough one's conversaLlon.

1he followlng were guldellnes glven by lmam Pusayn (pbuh) Lo
lbn Abbas abouL good and useful conversaLlon.

"uo noL begln a conversaLlon wlLhouL flrsL greeLlng Lhe person
you are Lalklng Lo."

"keep away from a conversaLlon whlch ls wlLhouL an alm or
ob[ecL, for lL lowers your poslLlon."

"..WalL Lo speak aL Lhe rlghL opporLunlLy, Many speak Lhe LruLh
buL noL aL Lhe rlghL momenL and Lherefore have Lo face
dlsrespecL."

"uo noL argue wlLh a paLlenL person for he wlll wln over you wlLh
Lhe power of hls paLlence."

"uo noL argue wlLh foollsh and lgnoranL people as Lhey wlll hurL
you wlLh Lhelr nonsense."

"?ou may only do LhaL gheeba (backblLlng) of a person whlch you
would llke hlm Lo speak of you."

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lmam All (pbuh) has sald: "?our speech ls under your flrm conLrol
as long as you do noL speak, buL lf you speak you come under lLs
conLrol, so guard your Longue as you guard your gold and sllver,
for many a word ls a blesslng buL leads Lo dlspleasure"

lL ls sald LhaL "1he spoon always seems Lwlce as large when you
have Lo Lake a dose of your own medlclne."
Words whlch appear Lo be [usL Llny molehllls of ldleness and
frlvollLy here ln Lhe world wlll loom as mounLalns of error when
we are faced wlLh Lhem on Lhe day of Clyama.

lL has been esLlmaLed LhaL mosL people speak enough ln one
week Lo flll a large 300 page book. ln Lhe average llfeLlme Lhls
would amounL Lo 3000 volumes or 1,300,000 pages. lL ls a
frlghLenlng LhoughL LhaL by Lhese words we shall be elLher
'blessed' or 'condemned'.

lmam !a'fer As-Sadlq (pbuh) has sald LhaL Lhe mosL valuable Lhlng
Allah has glven us ls Lhe Longue. none of Pls Messengers
(ropheLs) were glven wealLh or poslLlon Lhrough whlch Lo convey
Pls message buL were glven Lhe eloquence of Lhe Longue.

lL ls sald LhaL one musL speak llLLle wlLh people (only LhaL whlch ls
necessary) and speak much wlLh Allah, perhaps Lhen one's hearL
wlll recognlse Plm.

Allah made everyLhlng wlLh Lwo doors, buL he made four for Lhe
Longue - Lhe Lwo llps and Lhe Lwo seLs of LeeLh.

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1here ls an anclenL Creek fable abouL a monsLer known as roLeus
who had Lhe power of assumlng many shapes and appearances.
Pe could become a Lree or a pebble, a llon or a dove, a serpenL or
a lamb. Pe seemed Lo have very llLLle dlfflculLy ln passlng from
one form lnLo anoLher. 1he fabled creaLure remlnds one of Lhe
human Longue. lL can bless or curse, express pralse or whlsper
slander, lL can spread a word of encouragemenL or spread
vlndlcLlve haLred.

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