Attracting True Romance: Girl! Stop Sweating That Dude!!!

Written by Diana Boss

This Book is dedicated to the struggle..... All my ladies FEEL ME.

This is a humorous account of what we all go through in the dating game. At first glance, this book may appear to be a male bashing book. That is furthest from the truth. This is a woman empowering book. It does no one any favors when we dont put ourselves and our own personal development first. For any valuable relationship, focusing on personal growth will only strengthen the bond, thus leading you into an amazing life of healthy, vibrant friendships, then ultimately TRUE ROMANCE.

Sooooo........... You decided this time would be different. Youve acted like a lady. And hes come on strong.

Hes even come correct. Hes told you how beautiful you are, texted you minutes after you had that hot and heavy make out session and EVERYTHING. So whats the harm in having him over to your spot tonight? Youre not gonna hump him anyways, and he can be on his way after you watch this movie, right?

SYKE!!!!! How to Stop Sweating Dude

So, ya humped him. So much for playing hard to get. Rule #1: Do not call or text him first for 30 days.

Hes a man. He wants a challenge.

Think of yourself as a rare jewel whose value goes up the less available you are.

Rule #2 GET A LIFE. Or better yet, just get back to your amazing, fabulous dope ass life anyways. How soon we forget that we are the shit and have far too much going for us to be sweating no dude. Rule #3 Pour that desire for love into your lifes passion. If hes worth your time, this will only make you more attractive. This is your life. You only get one shot. Do not miss your chance to BLOW UP!!! The minutes within should be invested into people, places, things and ideas that will reap you a marvelous return,which is an incredibly fun and rewarding life!!

Rule #4

Keep him to yourself.

Dont talk about him yet to anyone. ANYONE. Seriously, if you want to stop breaking a sweat, stressing yourself out about dude and where this relationship is gonna go, dont turn it into a love story until he proves himself to be worth your mention. Its time to separate the Good Power U ( the va-jay-jay) from your true hearts desire.

Rule #5 DO NOT, AND I REPEAT, DO NOT GET ON FACEBOOK AND BEGIN TO LOOK AT HIS PAGE AND WALL.

All the pretty girls hes talking to will begin to look like they are hitting on him, and when his drop dead gorgeous cousin tells him

she loves him and he returns the sentiment, its curtains

for your imagination.

Rule #6 Since ya didnt listen to rule #5,

please please PLEASE dont post no witty retort on the same thread of convo as him and his cousin, or update your status to

Funnyhowyougive yourselfto someoneandtheyshit all over youright in front of yourface.

Rule #7 BE YOURSELF.

You know, clean your house to some kick ass Drum and Bass or House music, do your yoga, go to the museum, draw your paintings, work on your business, etc. Dont conform to the supposed type of your guy. DO YOU.

Rule #8 NO SETTLING. Make a list of values and traits that you want in someone and stick to that shit. You dont have to settle.

Rule #9 Kick it wit yo people. Your friends are Ultra Rad, and they need you around and fully present. Give them your all and enjoy your time with them while you can. Some day you all will have a family and you may not be able to make memories quite like this.

Rule #10 Day Dates Only

Girl, you know you always end up lettin him whisk you away and hit it when you spend the night hitting that whiskey til the early morn. So for the first 30 days, go to lunch, the park, fishing, golfing, whatever

but dont go out to dinner and tha club. Not yet. Rule #11: If he is more than 15 minutes late to your next encounter or just no call, no shows,

CASECLOSED.

NOEXCEPTIONS.

HIS LOSS.

RULE #12 Get in touch with who you really are. Seriously. Who are you? What special gift do you have to give to this world?

If you are even reading this, you must be an amazing woman who is quite social and active. So you meet tons of amazing people in turn. Spend quality time with yourself first to make sure that you are in alignment with your spirit center. Lets face it, if we listen to our vibe feelers, we know exactly that moment when something comes up that is questionable. Even if that something is our reaction to an action. Time for time out. Dont sleep on that feelin, and DO THE RIGHT THING LIKE SPIKE LEE.

RULE #13 Dont attach your desire for companionship to one specific person. That is, dont create a future life with the first guy you have some chemistry with. Or the next. Or the next! Lets face it, there is a dime a dozen for the cool guys that will be in and out of our lives. Play the field! Enjoy your singledom while it lasts. After all, forever is FoEva Eva! When the right guy comes along, it may be for the REST OF YOUR LIFE!! May the best, and ONLY the best man for you win;)

RULE #14 Create a Dream List That is, do everything that is your hearts desire. It is actually along this path that you will connect with the man of your dreams effortlessly. The reality is, our existence is a lifelong journey of discovery. Writing a list of the things you want to accomplish is a great step in creating an AMAZING life. A life partner should complement this list, not replace it.

RULE #15 WORK OUT AND GET YA TEETH DID! Thats right! Get to working on all those things that enhance your self image and worth. Remember back in the day when people used to say, I aint studying you? Real Talk! Dont study others, study yourself. So lose that weight, get those braces and that new haircut! Then do what is necessary to represent yourself at your best, and anything you cant change, learn to love!

RULE #16 ABSOLUTELY NOOOO PICTURES!!! Or should I say, Ab-SLUT-lutely NO pictures? Within the beginning of any romance, girl, dont send that fool no pictures! Damn girl, can you save SOMETHING for later? When he gets that pic, itll be less Damn, shes so fine and more like sayin Im a trick! Save the freak in you for your man for real.

RULE #17 WHY YOU TRIPPIN?? Is there really something special about this guy and your relationship? Or is he just satisfying your co-dependency issues? I know this pill can be hard to swallow , but you better crush that shit up and get to the bottom of this pattern that you may be doomed to keep repeating if you dont answer the question. Again, it is the time you spend exploring yourself that will help you to answer these questions over time.

RULE # 18 Dont beat yourself up.

Look, this habit of interaction didnt happen overnight. Just keep working these rules and forgive yourself if you have the occasional flip out or slip up. Just nip it in the bud when the wrong urges or emotions come up, and remember that everyday is a new day to start all over.

RULE #19 Be true to yourself about how you feel about dude. If after full examination you realize that you really actually like this guy and your relationship, then allow yourself to like him. Just dont set any expectations. Allow him to court you in his time while you do your thing in yours.

RULE #20 shoulda been Rule #1 LEARN TO LOVE MEN FOR WHO THEY REALLY ARE. Not who we want them to be. Enjoy the likeable traits and become true friends with them. If you are like us, most men that you know are fantastic friends, just not the greatest partners. Or even more important still, perhaps this is not the best use of your relationship with one another. Love them for who they are for you, and expect nothing more.

RULE #21 NO TWITTER FEED HUNTING, AND STILL NO SEARCHING ON THEIR FB PAGE!!!!! Youre playing with fire, dunny. Unless you just LOVE to be miserable and playing mental Fill in the Blank.

RULE #22 Make a Vision Board. If you keep looking for the things homie is NOT doing as your pastime, you better believe that you will find more and more! Start setting your eyes directly on your desires! Take a large piece of cardboard paper, get some magazines that have images of the lifestyle you would like to enjoy, create words of inspiration out of the words and letters of the magazines headings, and go to town creating a collage! Look at your masterpiece everyday to remind yourself where you are headed and what is coming to you. The guy that best fits that lifestyle will come with the territory, please believe, especially if you have his qualities in their as well!

Rule #23 STOP OVERREACTING. So he hasnt called you today. BIG DEAL! Get busy. You have shit to do. Hell holla at you later.

Rule #24 Dont change up your priorities. If you have a goal set in mind and have been diligent about it, then keep it moving. Dont always be so available. This isnt a form of game playing, its just keepin it real. You are driven and your man will only respect that. If you have conflicting schedules this early in the game, only the more reason to be extra excited and create special moments when you DO get together.

Rule #25 Consult with God and your inner spirit guide. Another shoulda been #1 Rule, but I knew we had to get you out of the danger zone with the first few rules. Ask the Higher Power if this is the right guy for you, and let your conscience be your guide.

Rule #26 Are you EXPECTING something great or something awful out of this? This new love interest or romance can be a great growth experience for you, no matter how it plays out. You may be growing to stop taking all the bullshit, or putting yourself out there to quickly. You may be learning how to be treated like a queen, something someone may never had done for you before. Whatever the case may be, enjoy your steps of growth! You are becoming more of the woman that you know you are!!

RULE #27 Love thyself. All in all, you will never love someone or allow them to love you unless you love yourself. However you find your peace and quiet, take that time with yourself and use it. Meditate, Pray, and all that. Listen, if you dont take the time to love yourself, forgive yourself, and figure out what you want to get out of this life, then why in the world do you expect that someone else will take the time to do it for you? Dont neglect loving and caring for yourself, it is crucial to happiness! If you follow all of the rules in this here book, you will find yourself having dug yourself out of the rut youve created in the past. Now, open up your universe to true love!!!

THE BEGINNING........