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E XCLAMATIONS OF
ALHAMDULILLAAH echoed
planning for our new masjid, and last
week alone there were a couple of
Inside this Issue:
when everyone read the Albaseerah executive meetings headed by ►Update on New Property Page 3
issue, which announced the purchase brother Zahid Rashid to discuss
of a new home for Masjid Ahlul future plans to ensure prompt and ►The Rights of Parents Page 4
Qur’aan Wa Sunnah. swift renovation and to speed things ►My Family, My Home,
up to move in by Ramadaan.
My Jannah Page 5
Alhamdulillaah, the paperwork has
been completed and the property is The response to our appeals for ►Advice to Those Who Divorce
officially ours. However, it still needs donation and professional expertise Their Wives Hastily Page 7
major renovation before we can fully was lower than expected, which, if it
move in. continues, will no doubt put plans ►Polygny is the Sunnah Page 12
for a Ramadan occupancy in ►Keeping Relations with non-Muslim
Since the purchase of the property, jeopardy.
Family Page 13
the Shoora has been very active in
Continued on page 3 ►And much MORE...
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Unless they come to you with an open sin, then came to
llaah mentions: {And you admonish them, separate yourself in the the Mes-
among His Signs is that He bed and reprimand them physically in a light senger
created for you wives from among way." [At-Tirmidhee] and "You feed her of Al-
yourselves, that you may find repose when you eat, clothe her and do not hit her in laah
in them, and He has put between the face, and do not say – may Allaah dis- seeking
you affection and mercy. Verily, in grace you, and do not take yourself away from permis-
that are indeed signs for a people her if you are trying to abandon her by moving sion to leave her home and the
who reflect.} [Ar-Room 30:21] yourself away from the home – you should not Prophet said: "Fear Allaah and do not
do this". [Abi Daawood] show opposition to your husband". Later the
A Sign from Allaah father died so she came and she sought per-
mission to go out again and the Messenger
From the signs of Allaah is that He
created your mates from yourselves.
HUSBAND’S RIGHTS said: "Fear Allaah and do not show opposi-
OVER HIS WIFE tion to your husband".1 Allaah revealed
This means that He created the mate
to the Prophet that this lady was
for the male from his own likeness, and
forgiven because of obedience to her
type, so that there may be agreement From the first right that the husband husband. It is not permissible how-
between the two so that they may come has over the wife is that she should ever, for the husband to prevent the
together on this basis and there will be hear and obey. It is binding on the wife wife from visiting her parents. This is
mutual mercy amongst them. to obey her husband except if it in- something that he should not do.
volves disobedience to Allaah, to obey They should live together in a state of
Affection and Mercy Between You him in a way that is just, and to answer kindness and goodness.
and respond to what he requires and
Then Allaah mentions, "…and He
requests. She must allow him to be inti- The third responsibility upon the sis-
has put between you affection and
mate with her whenever he desires to ter is the responsibility concerning the
mercy…" This is something that
do so. Otherwise, she is in a state of sin house. It is binding on her, and it is
should be expressed by both parties
as Allaah said, {Therefore the right- her responsibility to take care of the
with respect to each other. Love and
eous women are devoutly obedient home, to protect the wealth of the
compassion should be apparent be-
(to Allaah and to their husbands), home, to train the children, to guard
tween them. They should both give of
and guard in the husband's absence her own honor and uprightness and,
themselves in that which they are able
what Allaah orders them to guard as far as possible, to make the atmos-
to do for one another, except in mat-
(e.g. their chastity and their hus- phere comfortable for her husband
ters which entail disobedience to Allaah
band's property).} [An-Nisaa’ 4:34] concerning food, drink and what he
because "there is no obedience to one who
is created if it entails disobedience to the crea- wears as the Messenger of Allaah
The second right that the husband has said: "All of you are shepherds (guardians)
tor." [Ahmad] over the wife is that she should not and all of you are responsible for those under
leave his home without his permission. your care…The lady is a shepherd over the
Rights and Responsibilities
It is compulsory upon the Muslim lady household and she is responsible for those
There are regulations and responsibili- to remain at home and not leave with- under her care". [Similar wording in Al-
ties, some which are binding upon the out first getting the permission of her Bukhaaree]
sisters, the women, the wives, and there husband to do so. If she leaves without
are rights that are due to them. The first receiving his permission, she is The fourth responsibility that is bind-
Messenger of Allaah said: "Men: seek disobedient to Allaah and to His Mes- ing on the wife is keeping the secrets
good consul concerning the women, for surely senger . Ibn Battah mentions in a and what is private to the husband.
they are like a captive with you. You do not narration that a person travelled and She should not spread what is private
have any authority over them other than that. the father of the wife fell ill so she and secret between them or in the
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home as the Messenger of Allaah closer to Allaah . He must also pre- live with them honourably. If you
said: “The most evil of people with Allaah, vent her from uncovering herself, and dislike them, it may be that you
in terms of his station on Yawmul-Qiyaamah from those doubtful places which she dislike a thing through which Al-
(the Day of Judgement), is a man who is should not visit as they would affect laah brings a great deal of good.}
intimate with his wife, and she with him, and her (in a negative way) . [An-Nisaa’ 4:19] Ibn Katheer said:
then he goes out and spreads this secret that "What is intended here is that you say
they both shared". [Muslim] Also, if she knows, and he does not, kind words to them, treat them kindly
then he benefits from her knowledge, and make your appearance appealing
because she knows and he doesn’t. for them, as much as you can, just as
WIFE’S RIGHTS OVER The third right that the wife has over
you like them to do for you." The
HER HUSBAND Prophet said: "The best of you are those
the husband is al-gheerah i.e. for him to who are best to their families, and I am the
have concern over his wife such that best amongst you to their families." [At-
The first responsibility that the hus- he does not allow her to do anything Tirmidhee]
band has towards the wife is to pro- that affects her honour and dignity.
vide for her financially. The husband is This is a characteristic which protects Closing Advice
required to provide for his family in a that which Allaah has made sacred
just manner. He must not be negligent in Islaam; in Islaam this is a good qual- It is compulsory on the husband to
in providing her with food, drink, ity. The husband should thus have this have good character regarding his wife,
clothing, and a place of residence. This quality with respect to his wife. to be gentle with her, and to show af-
is because Allaah mentions: {Men fection to her as the Messenger used
Al-Mugheerah mentions that Sa`d ibn to do with his wives. In one narration,
are the protectors and maintainers `Ubaadah said: "If I find a man with my
of women, because Allaah has the Messenger of Allaah said, "The
wife I will take this sword and smite his woman will not remain constant in one state
made one of them to excel the
neck". And the Prophet said, "Are you all the time, this is not going to happen. And
other, and because they spend (to
amazed about Sa`d’s gheerah?" He said: if you seek and have pleasure with them then
support them) from their means.}
"By Allaah, I have more of this than Sa`d, you will have pleasure with them in this state,
[4:34] Also the Messenger of Allaah and Allaah has more of it than me". [Al-
said, "Binding upon you is clothing and feed- and if you go to change them then you will
Bukhaaree] break them and breaking them is divorcing
ing them in a just manner". [ Muslim]
them. [Muslim]
Question: I would like to know In this scenario there should be a doc- Question: Can a woman take sha-
what is permissible and impermis- tor who is completely trustworthy and haadah (to enter into Islaam) while
sible for a wife to say about her reliable and another doctor who she has her period or must she
husband to another sister. Is she would supervise that doctor. It is have a ghusl (ritual bath) before
allowed to talk about his personal- preferable that the supervising doctor pronouncing the shahaadah?
ity (in a good manner) - about her or both doctors be Muslims. How-
husband and his piety to other sis- ever, if the doctor is known for his Answer: As it relates to the menstru-
ters? What are the actions of a wife truthfulness, trustworthiness and reli- ating woman, if the opportunity pre-
that are dislikeable to a husband? ability then it is not a condition that sents itself she should pronounce the
he is a Muslim, even though that Shahaadatayn (two testimonies of faith)
Answer: It is upon a wife to mention
her husband’s piety, to mention his would be better. ♦♦♦ Shaykh Saalih and enter into the fold of Islaam.
good acts, to mention how he always As-Suhaymee When her menses stops she should
practices what is obligatory upon him, then make ghusl with the intention to:
and everything good about him, in- (1) Rid herself of the impurity of
Question: Is it permissible for a menses and (2) Perform the ghusl for
cluding his manners.
family to send a picture of a entering into Islaam. She doesn't
However, it is upon her to conceal woman to an individual who is in- know if she will live until she be-
everything that he hates to be men- terested in marrying their daughter comes pure; therefore, if Allaah has
tioned about him, including his short- so that the individual can see blessed her with the opportunity to
comings. Concerning his shortcom- whether she is to his liking or not, accept Islaam she should do so. ♦♦♦
ings, she should advise him about with the arguments that they live Shaykh ‘Abdullaah al-Ghudyaan
what he is able to fulfil. As for speak- very far apart?
ing about sexual relationships and the
Answer: This is not permissible; be-
like, then it is not permissible for her
cause the legislated ruling regarding
to speak about her husband in such a
taking pictures, is that it is haraam.
manner. ♦♦♦ Shaykh ‘Abdur-Rahmaan
The picture may get into the hands of
Al-‘Ajlaan
someone it was not intended for, or
the individual may do something in-
appropriate with the picture that is If a (believing) woman performs
Question: I am a sister that is not
haraam (like showing it to someone her five daily salaah, fasts the
able to conceive unless by artificial
else). month (of Ramadaan), guards
insemination i.e. by taking my egg
and my husband's sperm and fer- Therefore, sending the picture in this her chastity and obeys her
tilizing it outside my womb and manner is not permissible. Rather, the husband, it will be said to her
then placing it in my womb. What legislation of Islaam has made it man- “enter Jannah from whichever of
is the correct ruling on this? datory for the individual to go and the doors of Jannah you wish.”
look at the woman he wants to marry.
Answer: There is some slight differ-
The Prophet ordered a man who
ing amongst the scholars but, the (Musnad Imaam Ahmad on the
wanted to get married to look at the woman authority of Abu Hurayrah , Saheeh
Fiqh Councils say that it is permissible
before marriage. There is no problem al-Jaami’, Hadeeth #660)
with the condition that it is abso-
lutely certain that the semen that will with him seeing her in person before
marriage; however the issue of the
be mixed with the egg of the woman
pictures is not permissible. ♦♦♦
is the semen of the husband, and that
Shaykh ‘Abdullaah al-Ghudyaan
there is no mix-up. So, if there is
safety from any mix-up occurring
then yes, it is permissible.
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uestion: The Messenger of There are deeds which, if a Muslim they enter this hadeeth provided that
Q Allaah said: ‘Whoever had
three daughters and was pa-
tient with them, gave them drink
performs them, he enters Paradise due
to them and is saved from the Fire,
such as the one who has been given
they are safe from that which could,
perhaps, cause them to die on any of
the major sins. We ask Allaah for
and clothed them then they will be a daughters or sisters and is good to safety.
screen for him from the Fire.’ them, then they will be a screen for him
from the Fire. Similarly, whoever had
Will this screen from the Fire be just three of his offspring, who had not
for their father alone or does the reached the age of accountability, die The Meaning of al-Ihsaan
mother have a share in this? I have - then they will be a screen for him from (Being Good to Someone)
all praise be to Allaah - three daugh- the Fire.
ters.
The Companions asked: ‘O Messenger of Question: What is the meaning of
Answer: The hadeeth is general for the Allaah what about two daughters?’ having al-Ihsaan (being good to
father and the mother due to the Mes- someone) mentioned in the
senger’s saying: ‘Whoever has two daughters He answered: ‘Even two,’ and they did not hadeeth?
and is good to them then they will be a covering ask him about one daughter.
for him from the Fire.’ Answer: Al-Ihsaan to daughters and
It is authentically reported on the au- similar to them is to raise them with
Likewise if he had sisters, aunts or simi- thority of the Messenger that he said: the upbringing of Islaam, to educate
lar to them, and he is good to them Allaah U said, ‘For My believing slave who, them and bring them up on the truth
then indeed we hope for Paradise for if I take his close friend from the people of the so they are steadfast in their modesty
him due to that. Duniya and then he performs righteous ac- and keep themselves far away from
tions, there is no reward except Paradise.’ what Allaah has made haraam such as
So when he is good to them he is de- displaying themselves and other
serving of a great reward, it will screen So Allaah explained that for His be- things.
him from the Fire and it will come be- lieving slave whose close friend He
tween him and the Fire due to his good takes- i.e. His beloved - from the peo- Similar is the upbringing of sisters,
deed. ple of the Duniya, who is then patient sons and other forms of al-ihsaan
and performs good deeds, He has no where they are all raised on obedience
This is specific to the Muslims. If a reward other than Paradise. to Allaah and His Messenger, on re-
Muslim performs these good actions fraining from what Allaah has made
desiring the Face of Allaah, then he has So even if one of our offspring enters haraam and being upright on the truth
attained a means for his salvation from this hadeeth and Allaah takes posses- of Allaah .
the Fire. sion of him and takes him to Himself,
then if that person’s father, mother or With this, it should be known that the
Being saved from the Fire and entering both of them are patient and they per- intent of al-ihsaan is not merely feed-
into Paradise has many routes, so it is form good deeds then they will have ing, giving drink and clothing them,
necessary for a believer to increase in Paradise, and that is great excellence rather the intent of al-ihsaan to them is
them. Islaam itself is a single founda- from Allaah. broader, including actions of the Deen
tion and it is the fundamental reason and the Duniya. ♦♦♦ Majmoo’ Fatawaa,
for entering Paradise and being rescued Similarly, a husband, wife, the rest of Vol. 4 Pg. 375-377
from the Fire. the relatives and friends, if they are
patient and perform good deeds then
Translated by Abbas Abu Yahya
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Question: is having more than one Indeed what is achieved/beneficial for The Dispraise of Arguing,
wife something permissible in Is- everyone, by having more than one
Dispute and Quarrelling
laam or is it the Sunnah? wife is lowering one’s gaze, protection
for the private parts, increase in off-
Answer: Having more than one wife is Some of the Salaf said: If Allaah
spring, that a man can look after the
the Sunnah if you have ability to do so benefits of a large number of women intends good for a slave He
due to the saying of Allaah The most and can defend them from causes of opens for him the door of action
high: evil and deviances. and closes the door of argument
and if He intends evil for a slave
{Then marry (other) women of your As for the one who is incapable of do- he closes the door of action and
choice, two or three, or four but if ing this and fears that he will not be opens for him the door of
you fear that you shall not be able to just between them, then he should suf-
deal justly (with them), then only
argument. [
fice with one due to the saying of Al-
one or (the captives and the slaves) laah Subhaana: al-Haafiz ibn Rajab mentioned this in his
that your right hands possess. That book "Bayaan Fadl `Ilm as-Salaf `alaa`Ilm
is nearer to prevent you from doing {But if you fear that you shall not be al-Khalaf"
injustice.} [Soorah an-Nisaa:3] able to deal justly (with them), then
only one.} [Soorah an-Nisaa:3]
And also due to the action of the
Prophet , he had altogether nine May Allaah give all the Muslims that
women and Allaah made it a means for which there is benefit for them in it, Advice of Al-Hasan
the Ummah to have benefited from and success for them in this world and al-Basree to
them. the Hereafter. ♦♦♦ Umar ibn Abdul-Azeez
This is from the distinguished charac- Taken From Majmoo’ Fatawaa of our
teristics of the Messenger , as for Shaykh, Allaama, Abdul Azeez bin Ab- The dunya is nothing more than
other than him then it is not allowed to dullaah Bin Baaz 3 days:
combine more than four. 1. The day that has passed by
[al-Balaag magazine no.1028] so there is no hope in it.
As for having more than one wife then 2. The day you are living in, so
there are great benefits for men, Translated by Abbas Abu Yahya
it is proper that you should
women and all the Muslim Ummah.
make the most of it.
3. And the day that is to come,
concerning which you have
In an interview after Shaykh al-Uthaymeen rahimahullaah no knowledge of whether or
passed away, his wife, Umm `Abdullaah, mentioned: not you will be of it's people.
“
And you do not know if
That Shaykh al-Uthaymeen rahimahullaah used to have a weekly perhaps you will die before
picnic on Fridays after salaatul-Jumu’ah with his family. They reaching it. [
would go to an area in the wilderness close by and take their lunch.
He utilized this time to share in some activities with the children, like
foot racing and solving puzzles. Also, he would bring a small rifle and
compete with his children in aiming and shooting”.
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“
ing of the Messenger of Allaah :
“Order your children to establish the
…My son, indeed a man’s wife is his home/livelihood, he has
prayers when they are seven and beat
no life with other than her, so when you decide to take a wife,
them for it when they reach the age of
inquire about her family, for indeed good roots yield sweet fruits.”
ten”.[Abu Daawood with a good chain]
♦♦♦ Shaykh ‘Abdur-Rahmaan Al-‘Ajlaan