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Characteristics of the women


one should marry
By the Noble Shaykh Muhammad ibn Saalih Al-Uthaymeen ‫رﺣﻤﻪ اﷲ‬

M ARRIAGE IS FOR enjoy-


ment and to build a right-
eous family and a sound
society. Based on this, the woman
tive to her, and it delights the chest,
then ones soul feels at ease with her.

In her, the saying of the Most High is


that one should marry is the one by realized: {And among His Signs is
whom the fulfilment of these two that He created for you wives from
goals may be achieved. She is the one among yourselves, that you may For the woman who possesses Deen
who is adorned with physical (outer) find repose in them, and He has fulfils the commands of Allaah, pro-
beauty and abstract (inner) beauty. put between you affection and tects the rights of her husband, his
mercy.} [ar-Room 30:21]. bed, his children, and his money, and
The physical beauty: it is the perfec- supports him in the obedience of Al-
tion of the physical appearance, be- The inner beauty: it is the complete- laah the Most High. If he forgets, she
cause whenever the woman has a ness of the Deen (Religion) and man- reminds him. If he slackens she in-
beautiful appearance and a soft voice, ners. Whenever the woman is more vigorates him, and if he gets angry she
the eye will become tranquil when religious and has perfect manners, she pleases him. The mannered woman
looking at her. When the ear listens to will be more beloved to the soul and a endears herself to her husband and
her speech the heart becomes recep- more suitable choice. respects him; she does not delay any-
thing that he likes hastened, and she
does not hasten anything he likes de-
Moving to New Building layed.
(Continued on page 2)
Your assistance is needed to help us move quicker

E XCLAMATIONS OF
ALHAMDULILLAAH echoed
planning for our new masjid, and last
week alone there were a couple of
Inside this Issue:
when everyone read the Albaseerah executive meetings headed by ►Update on New Property Page 3
issue, which announced the purchase brother Zahid Rashid to discuss
of a new home for Masjid Ahlul future plans to ensure prompt and ►The Rights of Parents Page 4
Qur’aan Wa Sunnah. swift renovation and to speed things ►My Family, My Home,
up to move in by Ramadaan.
My Jannah Page 5
Alhamdulillaah, the paperwork has
been completed and the property is The response to our appeals for ►Advice to Those Who Divorce
officially ours. However, it still needs donation and professional expertise Their Wives Hastily Page 7
major renovation before we can fully was lower than expected, which, if it
move in. continues, will no doubt put plans ►Polygny is the Sunnah Page 12
for a Ramadan occupancy in ►Keeping Relations with non-Muslim
Since the purchase of the property, jeopardy.
Family Page 13
the Shoora has been very active in
Continued on page 3 ►And much MORE...
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Characteristics of the women one should marry


And in another Hadeeth he  said:
The Messenger  was asked :
“Marry the one who is loving and fertile,
“Which of the women are best?” for with you (and your offspring) I will
outnumber the prophets” or he said,
He said, “the one who if he looks at her, “the nations”.
she pleases him, and she obeys him when he
commands, and she does not oppose him [Abu Daawood, an-Nasaa’ee]
regarding herself, or his wealth in that which
he hates.” If it is possible to find a woman
who has the inner beauty and the
[Ahmad, an-Nasaa’ee] outer beauty, then this is perfection
and bliss with the success granted
by Allaah. ♦♦♦
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According to Br. Abdul Majeed, The Masjid's


coordinator of the renovation project, administration is
preliminary work is already underway a b s o l u t e l y
with architects working on the committed and
renovation plan to obtain the determined to
necessary building permits. educate and unite
the community. It is
In the meantime, there is already a their strong desire to
good idea of what work is required, m a k e t h e
and the building committee is community their
compiling a master list of volunteers, first priority. They
so that their services can be allocated have already
to specific jobs as soon as the permits outlined future
are obtained. pr o j e c ts which
revolve around
And while the services of everyone are serving the
needed, the building committee community to the
particularly emphasized the need for best of one’s ability. Our New Masjid
the services of those professional,
licensed contractors within our The new projects are very
jamaa’ah. This being, to ensure that the comprehensive and thoughtfully
renovation will be completed planned, and will inshaa Allaah, help
according to the various building our masjid to become a center for We would like to move by
codes, which we must adhere to before every believer to turn to for guidance Ramadaan which can only be
a Certificate of Occupancy can be and help.
issued. possible with the Tawfeeq from
Modern technology will be used to Allaah and then your help &
Br. Rafeek attributed the lukewarm serve and educate our community
response for volunteers and donations better and to bridge the gap between cooperation and active
to the present economic climate, the scholars and the Ummah. There participation of the community.
which is making it difficult to give will be monthly conferences, seminars
financially, or even to offer services for and intensive courses as well as
free. However we appeal to our weekly classes in all Islaamic sciences, You are invited to join us and be
brothers and sisters to make the youth workshops, sisters activities, part of our Da’wah projects.
sacrifice - even if it means sticking just community services, family counseling,
a dollar into the collection box. enhanced medical and social awareness
programs, monthly publications, and Your help is needed to bring
much, much more Inshaa Allaah! ♦♦♦ positive changes to build the
Ummah and to finish the
Please help renovation of our new property.
IF YOU CAN provide any help by way of donation finan- Be part of this noble cause and
cially or in materials or with your skills and trade then call us today at 718-529-4092 or
please contact Br. Afzal at 718-490-8550 so we can coordi-
nate. As soon as the necessary building permits are obtained work will email us at:
commence. Please provide your name, phone number and email ad- masjid@albaseerah.org
dress so we may keep you updated as the work progresses. In
the meantime get yourself prepared for the areas you may
best be suited for. Barakullaahu Feekum.
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The Rights of the Parents Positive Consequences


of Being Kind to Parents
By the Noble Shaykh Abdul-Azeez ibn Baaz ‫رﺣﻤﻪ اﷲ‬

T his is a word of guidance to


sons and daughters to take
care of their parents specially as they
years give thanks to Me and to
your parents, unto Me is the final
destination.} [Luqmaan 31:14]
1. Being kind to parents causes an individ-
ual to enter Paradise and saves him from
the Fire. The Prophet  mentioned that
Jibreel  descended upon him. He said, “May
become more dependant on others. a person be disgraced, the one in the presence of
it is very unfortunate that some chil- Thus, it is mandatory to be patient whom you are mentioned and he does not send
dren neglect their parents as the with the parents, and to excel in his salaams on you.” The Prophet responded by
parents grow older. fulfilling one’s duty towards them in saying “Aameen (O Allaah answer).” (Jibreel
goodness, and to tolerate any hard- then said) “May the person also be disgraced
It is obligatory upon children to fear ship that might occur. whose parents, both of them or one of them hap-
Allaah and be good to their parents pen to be in his presence and because of his neg-
and to be patient with them. For It was said in a hadeeth, “Allaah’s ligence to them, he is not allowed to go to Para-
verily the parents were patient with Pleasure is (found) in pleasing the parents, dise.” The Prophet  also said “aameen, O
them, they nurtured their kids and and Allaah’s displeasure is (found) in the Allaah answer.” [Hasan Saheeh] This
took well care of them when they parents’ displeasure.” The Prophet  shows the importance of being kind and
were young. says, “Shall I inform you of the greatest of
good to parents whether they are Mus-
the major sins?” We said, “Of course,
Hence, it is mandatory for the chil- O Messenger of Allaah!” He said lims or disbelievers.
dren to fear Allaah regarding their “Associating partners with Allaah, and 2. It causes a person’s life to be extended
parents, and to be good to them, being ungratefulness/disobedience to the and his sustenance to be increased. The
and to be patient upon whatever parents.” He  mentioned sin of un- Prophet  mentioned that “whoever would
befalls them from tiredness, sick- gratefulness/disobedience to the like to have an extension in his stay in this
ness, or mental disorder. Allaah the parents alongside (the sin) of shirk. world or have an increase in his sustenance then
Almighty says, {And your Lord has let him join his family ties.” [al-Bukhaaree
decreed that you worship none In another authentic hadeeth, the and Muslim]
but Him. And that you be dutiful Prophet  says, “From the major sins 3. Being kind to parents causes your own
to your parents. If one of them or is for a man to revile/insult his parents.” children to treat you kind in future, the
both of them attain old age in It was said, “O Allaah’s Messenger, same way you showed goodness and
your life, say not to them a word does a man revile his own parents?” respect to your father and your mother.
of disrespect, nor shout at them the Prophet said, “Yes, the man blas-
but address them in terms of phemes the father (of a man), so that man 4. Being kind to them causes them to be
honor. And lower unto them the blasphemes the father (of the first man), pleased with you. We know that Allaah’s
wing of submission and humility and (the first) man blasphemes the mother pleasure is tied to the pleasure of the
through mercy, and say: "My (of this man) then this man blasphemes his parents and His dislike is also tied to the
Lord! Bestow on them Your (the first man’s) mother.” Hence, a parents being displeased.
Mercy as they did bring me up man’s reviling the people is as if he 5. It also allows us to receive Allaah’s Pleas-
when I was small."} [Al-Israa’ reviled his own parents because they ure because when we discharge what
17:23-24] would then revile his parents. So, Allaah commands us to do, it causes
how is it then if he directly reviles Him to be pleased with us and He has
He also says, {And We have en- his own parents and deals badly commanded us to be kind to our par-
joined on man (to be dutiful and with them? The matter is indeed ents. The opposite will cause Allaah to
good) to his parents. His mother very grave and of great weight. be angry with us because we would be
bore him in weakness and hard- doing something that He dislikes. ♦♦♦
ship upon weakness and hard- We ask Allaah for safety Shaykh Abdullaah Al-Ghudyaan,
ship, and his weaning is in two and goodness. ♦♦♦
Excerpts from his lecture for albaseerah.org
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My Family, My Home, My Jannah


By the Noble Shaykh Abdullaah Al-Ghudyaan

A
Unless they come to you with an open sin, then came to
llaah  mentions: {And you admonish them, separate yourself in the the Mes-
among His Signs is that He bed and reprimand them physically in a light senger
created for you wives from among way." [At-Tirmidhee] and "You feed her of Al-
yourselves, that you may find repose when you eat, clothe her and do not hit her in laah 
in them, and He has put between the face, and do not say – may Allaah dis- seeking
you affection and mercy. Verily, in grace you, and do not take yourself away from permis-
that are indeed signs for a people her if you are trying to abandon her by moving sion to leave her home and the
who reflect.} [Ar-Room 30:21] yourself away from the home – you should not Prophet  said: "Fear Allaah and do not
do this". [Abi Daawood] show opposition to your husband". Later the
A Sign from Allaah father died so she came and she sought per-
mission to go out again and the Messenger 
From the signs of Allaah is that He
created your mates from yourselves.
HUSBAND’S RIGHTS said: "Fear Allaah and do not show opposi-
OVER HIS WIFE tion to your husband".1 Allaah  revealed
This means that He created the mate
to the Prophet  that this lady was
for the male from his own likeness, and
forgiven because of obedience to her
type, so that there may be agreement From the first right that the husband husband. It is not permissible how-
between the two so that they may come has over the wife is that she should ever, for the husband to prevent the
together on this basis and there will be hear and obey. It is binding on the wife wife from visiting her parents. This is
mutual mercy amongst them. to obey her husband except if it in- something that he should not do.
volves disobedience to Allaah, to obey They should live together in a state of
Affection and Mercy Between You him in a way that is just, and to answer kindness and goodness.
and respond to what he requires and
Then Allaah mentions, "…and He
requests. She must allow him to be inti- The third responsibility upon the sis-
has put between you affection and
mate with her whenever he desires to ter is the responsibility concerning the
mercy…" This is something that
do so. Otherwise, she is in a state of sin house. It is binding on her, and it is
should be expressed by both parties
as Allaah said, {Therefore the right- her responsibility to take care of the
with respect to each other. Love and
eous women are devoutly obedient home, to protect the wealth of the
compassion should be apparent be-
(to Allaah and to their husbands), home, to train the children, to guard
tween them. They should both give of
and guard in the husband's absence her own honor and uprightness and,
themselves in that which they are able
what Allaah orders them to guard as far as possible, to make the atmos-
to do for one another, except in mat-
(e.g. their chastity and their hus- phere comfortable for her husband
ters which entail disobedience to Allaah
band's property).} [An-Nisaa’ 4:34] concerning food, drink and what he
 because "there is no obedience to one who
is created if it entails disobedience to the crea- wears as the Messenger of Allaah 
The second right that the husband has said: "All of you are shepherds (guardians)
tor." [Ahmad] over the wife is that she should not and all of you are responsible for those under
leave his home without his permission. your care…The lady is a shepherd over the
Rights and Responsibilities
It is compulsory upon the Muslim lady household and she is responsible for those
There are regulations and responsibili- to remain at home and not leave with- under her care". [Similar wording in Al-
ties, some which are binding upon the out first getting the permission of her Bukhaaree]
sisters, the women, the wives, and there husband to do so. If she leaves without
are rights that are due to them. The first receiving his permission, she is The fourth responsibility that is bind-
Messenger of Allaah  said: "Men: seek disobedient to Allaah and to His Mes- ing on the wife is keeping the secrets
good consul concerning the women, for surely senger . Ibn Battah mentions in a and what is private to the husband.
they are like a captive with you. You do not narration that a person travelled and She should not spread what is private
have any authority over them other than that. the father of the wife fell ill so she and secret between them or in the
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home as the Messenger of Allaah  closer to Allaah . He must also pre- live with them honourably. If you
said: “The most evil of people with Allaah, vent her from uncovering herself, and dislike them, it may be that you
in terms of his station on Yawmul-Qiyaamah from those doubtful places which she dislike a thing through which Al-
(the Day of Judgement), is a man who is should not visit as they would affect laah brings a great deal of good.}
intimate with his wife, and she with him, and her (in a negative way) . [An-Nisaa’ 4:19] Ibn Katheer said:
then he goes out and spreads this secret that "What is intended here is that you say
they both shared". [Muslim] Also, if she knows, and he does not, kind words to them, treat them kindly
then he benefits from her knowledge, and make your appearance appealing
because she knows and he doesn’t. for them, as much as you can, just as
WIFE’S RIGHTS OVER The third right that the wife has over
you like them to do for you." The
HER HUSBAND Prophet  said: "The best of you are those
the husband is al-gheerah i.e. for him to who are best to their families, and I am the
have concern over his wife such that best amongst you to their families." [At-
The first responsibility that the hus- he does not allow her to do anything Tirmidhee]
band has towards the wife is to pro- that affects her honour and dignity.
vide for her financially. The husband is This is a characteristic which protects Closing Advice
required to provide for his family in a that which Allaah  has made sacred
just manner. He must not be negligent in Islaam; in Islaam this is a good qual- It is compulsory on the husband to
in providing her with food, drink, ity. The husband should thus have this have good character regarding his wife,
clothing, and a place of residence. This quality with respect to his wife. to be gentle with her, and to show af-
is because Allaah  mentions: {Men fection to her as the Messenger  used
Al-Mugheerah mentions that Sa`d ibn to do with his wives. In one narration,
are the protectors and maintainers `Ubaadah said: "If I find a man with my
of women, because Allaah has the Messenger of Allaah  said, "The
wife I will take this sword and smite his woman will not remain constant in one state
made one of them to excel the
neck". And the Prophet  said, "Are you all the time, this is not going to happen. And
other, and because they spend (to
amazed about Sa`d’s gheerah?" He said: if you seek and have pleasure with them then
support them) from their means.}
"By Allaah, I have more of this than Sa`d, you will have pleasure with them in this state,
[4:34] Also the Messenger of Allaah  and Allaah has more of it than me". [Al-
said, "Binding upon you is clothing and feed- and if you go to change them then you will
Bukhaaree] break them and breaking them is divorcing
ing them in a just manner". [ Muslim]
them. [Muslim]

In another narration, Husayn mentions


“The best of you are those who are best to their families, that his aunt entered upon the Messen-
and I am the best amongst you to their families." ger of Allaah , and when she con-
cluded what she came for, the Prophet
 questioned her: "Do you have a hus-
The second right that the wife has over So, a man should not allow his wife to band?" She said "yes". He said "how are you
the husband is for him to teach her. mix with other men. This is something with him?" Her response was: "O Messenger
that he should not be comfortable with of Allaah, I do not fall short in trying to do
This is important in the life of all Mus-
lims. He must teach her what she - allowing her to be in a situation whatever I can to assist him". The Prophet 
needs to know concerning the affairs which would tarnish her honour. This said, "Look at yourself concerning your hus-
of the religion, especially the pillars of may also put him in the category band because he is your Jannah or your
where he is categorized as a dayyooth – Fire". [Similar wording in Ahmad]
Islaam if she herself is not a person
who is learned. He must also teach her a person about whom the Messenger
1 Shaykh al-Albaanee ‫رﺣﻤﻪ اﷲ‬
and help her to memorize the Book of of Allaah  said, "he shall not enter Jan-
nah". says Da`eef in Irwaa’ Al-
Allaah, the things pertaining to salaah, Ghaleel #2014. ♦♦♦
how she should purify herself after The fourth quality that the husband
having her monthly cycle and taking a should have is a good character with
bath for janaabah after marital relations. his wives - treating them with kindness
He should also direct her to those
and goodness. Allaah  says, {…and
beneficial acts which will draw her
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Be The Best Advice to those who divorce their


To Your Family wives hastily
By the Noble Shaykh Muqbil ibn Haadi

T he Prophet  said, "The best


of you is the best to his family and
I am the best amongst you to my fam-
A questioner from America asked the
Shaykh about a bad habit that has
spread amongst the brothers who are
ily" [Tirmidhi, Ibn Maajah. upon the Sunnah, and it is that some of
them get married, and after a few days an
Imam Shawkaani states in his
argument breaks out between the couple,
book Nayl Al-Awtar (6/360):
and its news spreads and other brothers
"This is pointing to the fact that encourage the husband to divorce his
the best people and those most wife, so what do you advise us with?
worthy of this description are What I advise the brothers with is what Allaah  says in his Noble Book: {And
those who treat their family the the Messenger of Allaah  said: “A live with them with ma’roof
best. believing man does not hate a believing woman, if (kindness/niceness} And He says
there is a certain characteristic that he dislikes {Men are the protectors and main-
Surely, the family deserve the tainers of women, because Allaah has
most to be happy, to be treated about her, then there is another characteristic that
he is pleased with.” made one of them to excel the other,
with good manners and kindness, and because they spend from their
and to be protected from harm What was narrated in Saheeh Al- means [to support them]. Therefore
and provided with what benefits Bukhaaree and Muslim on the authority the Saalihaat (righteous women)
them. So, if the man fits this de- of Abu Hurayrah that the Messenger of Qaanitaat (devoutly obedient women
scription, then he is the best of Allaah  said: “Be good/kind to women, for [to Allaah and to their husbands]),
people: and if, on the other hand, indeed they were created from a curved rib, and and those who guard in their hus-
he acts contrary to this, then he is the most curved part of a rib is the upper most band’s absence that which Allaah
in the realms of evil. part of it, and if try to straighten it, you will orders them to guard (e.g. their chas-
break it, and if you leave it, it will stay curved. tity, their husbands property…) And
You frequently see people falling
So be good/kind to women.” as for those women on whose part
into this trap. So you see a man,
you see ill conduct, admonish them
when he is with his family he has The Messenger of Allaah  also said: [first], [next] refuse to share their
one of the worst characters, he is “Indeed the woman was created from a rib, and beds and [last] hit them [lightly if it
stingy and mean and shows them she will not be straightened out for you, so if you is useful] but if they return to obedi-
little kindness. enjoy [your relationship with] her, then you will ence, do not seek any means [of an-
be doing so while she has ‘iwaj (crookedness), noyance] against them surely Allaah
However, when he meets others and if you try to straighten her out, you will
he is gentle, shows good charac- is ever most high, most great.}
break her, and breaking her is divorcing her.”
ter, joyful and does a lot of good. So if it [divorce] is because of bad man-
There is not a shadow of a doubt And the messenger of Allaah  said: “I ners then he should be patient. However
that this type of person is de- have never seen anyone with a deficiency of ‘aql if she is not chaste then he should sepa-
prived of success and has deviated (intellect -meaning the witness of two women is rate himself from her. Allaah  says
from the straight path. We equal to the witness of one man)." {The Zanee (adulterer/fornicator)
ask Allaah for the well- doesn’t marry except a zaaneeyah
being" ♦♦♦ An-Nawawee said: "meaning they have weak
memories) and deen (religion –meaning they do (adultress/fornicatress) or a mushri-
not pray or fast during their menses) that are kah, and the zaneeyah doesn’t marry
more overpowering to men than one of you except a zanee And that is forbidden
[women].” So the deficiency of ‘aql and to the believers.} [Madeenah.com] ♦♦♦
deen is something that is always present
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Question: I would like to know In this scenario there should be a doc- Question: Can a woman take sha-
what is permissible and impermis- tor who is completely trustworthy and haadah (to enter into Islaam) while
sible for a wife to say about her reliable and another doctor who she has her period or must she
husband to another sister. Is she would supervise that doctor. It is have a ghusl (ritual bath) before
allowed to talk about his personal- preferable that the supervising doctor pronouncing the shahaadah?
ity (in a good manner) - about her or both doctors be Muslims. How-
husband and his piety to other sis- ever, if the doctor is known for his Answer: As it relates to the menstru-
ters? What are the actions of a wife truthfulness, trustworthiness and reli- ating woman, if the opportunity pre-
that are dislikeable to a husband? ability then it is not a condition that sents itself she should pronounce the
he is a Muslim, even though that Shahaadatayn (two testimonies of faith)
Answer: It is upon a wife to mention
her husband’s piety, to mention his would be better. ♦♦♦ Shaykh Saalih and enter into the fold of Islaam.
good acts, to mention how he always As-Suhaymee When her menses stops she should
practices what is obligatory upon him, then make ghusl with the intention to:
and everything good about him, in- (1) Rid herself of the impurity of
Question: Is it permissible for a menses and (2) Perform the ghusl for
cluding his manners.
family to send a picture of a entering into Islaam. She doesn't
However, it is upon her to conceal woman to an individual who is in- know if she will live until she be-
everything that he hates to be men- terested in marrying their daughter comes pure; therefore, if Allaah has
tioned about him, including his short- so that the individual can see blessed her with the opportunity to
comings. Concerning his shortcom- whether she is to his liking or not, accept Islaam she should do so. ♦♦♦
ings, she should advise him about with the arguments that they live Shaykh ‘Abdullaah al-Ghudyaan
what he is able to fulfil. As for speak- very far apart?
ing about sexual relationships and the
Answer: This is not permissible; be-
like, then it is not permissible for her
cause the legislated ruling regarding
to speak about her husband in such a
taking pictures, is that it is haraam.
manner. ♦♦♦ Shaykh ‘Abdur-Rahmaan
The picture may get into the hands of
Al-‘Ajlaan
someone it was not intended for, or
the individual may do something in-
appropriate with the picture that is If a (believing) woman performs
Question: I am a sister that is not
haraam (like showing it to someone her five daily salaah, fasts the
able to conceive unless by artificial
else). month (of Ramadaan), guards
insemination i.e. by taking my egg
and my husband's sperm and fer- Therefore, sending the picture in this her chastity and obeys her
tilizing it outside my womb and manner is not permissible. Rather, the husband, it will be said to her
then placing it in my womb. What legislation of Islaam has made it man- “enter Jannah from whichever of
is the correct ruling on this? datory for the individual to go and the doors of Jannah you wish.”
look at the woman he wants to marry.
Answer: There is some slight differ-
The Prophet  ordered a man who
ing amongst the scholars but, the (Musnad Imaam Ahmad on the
wanted to get married to look at the woman authority of Abu Hurayrah , Saheeh
Fiqh Councils say that it is permissible
before marriage. There is no problem al-Jaami’, Hadeeth #660)
with the condition that it is abso-
lutely certain that the semen that will with him seeing her in person before
marriage; however the issue of the
be mixed with the egg of the woman
pictures is not permissible. ♦♦♦
is the semen of the husband, and that
Shaykh ‘Abdullaah al-Ghudyaan
there is no mix-up. So, if there is
safety from any mix-up occurring
then yes, it is permissible.
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The Upbringing of Three Daughters


Taken from the Fatawaa of our Shaykh, Allaama, Past Mufti of the Kingdom of
Saudi Arabia Abdul Azeez bin Abdullaah Bin Baaz

uestion: The Messenger of There are deeds which, if a Muslim they enter this hadeeth provided that
Q Allaah  said: ‘Whoever had
three daughters and was pa-
tient with them, gave them drink
performs them, he enters Paradise due
to them and is saved from the Fire,
such as the one who has been given
they are safe from that which could,
perhaps, cause them to die on any of
the major sins. We ask Allaah for
and clothed them then they will be a daughters or sisters and is good to safety.
screen for him from the Fire.’ them, then they will be a screen for him
from the Fire. Similarly, whoever had
Will this screen from the Fire be just three of his offspring, who had not
for their father alone or does the reached the age of accountability, die The Meaning of al-Ihsaan
mother have a share in this? I have - then they will be a screen for him from (Being Good to Someone)
all praise be to Allaah - three daugh- the Fire.
ters.
The Companions asked: ‘O Messenger of Question: What is the meaning of
Answer: The hadeeth is general for the Allaah what about two daughters?’ having al-Ihsaan (being good to
father and the mother due to the Mes- someone) mentioned in the
senger’s saying: ‘Whoever has two daughters He answered: ‘Even two,’ and they did not hadeeth?
and is good to them then they will be a covering ask him about one daughter.
for him from the Fire.’ Answer: Al-Ihsaan to daughters and
It is authentically reported on the au- similar to them is to raise them with
Likewise if he had sisters, aunts or simi- thority of the Messenger  that he said: the upbringing of Islaam, to educate
lar to them, and he is good to them Allaah U said, ‘For My believing slave who, them and bring them up on the truth
then indeed we hope for Paradise for if I take his close friend from the people of the so they are steadfast in their modesty
him due to that. Duniya and then he performs righteous ac- and keep themselves far away from
tions, there is no reward except Paradise.’ what Allaah has made haraam such as
So when he is good to them he is de- displaying themselves and other
serving of a great reward, it will screen So Allaah  explained that for His be- things.
him from the Fire and it will come be- lieving slave whose close friend He
tween him and the Fire due to his good takes- i.e. His beloved - from the peo- Similar is the upbringing of sisters,
deed. ple of the Duniya, who is then patient sons and other forms of al-ihsaan
and performs good deeds, He has no where they are all raised on obedience
This is specific to the Muslims. If a reward other than Paradise. to Allaah and His Messenger, on re-
Muslim performs these good actions fraining from what Allaah has made
desiring the Face of Allaah, then he has So even if one of our offspring enters haraam and being upright on the truth
attained a means for his salvation from this hadeeth and Allaah takes posses- of Allaah .
the Fire. sion of him and takes him to Himself,
then if that person’s father, mother or With this, it should be known that the
Being saved from the Fire and entering both of them are patient and they per- intent of al-ihsaan is not merely feed-
into Paradise has many routes, so it is form good deeds then they will have ing, giving drink and clothing them,
necessary for a believer to increase in Paradise, and that is great excellence rather the intent of al-ihsaan to them is
them. Islaam itself is a single founda- from Allaah. broader, including actions of the Deen
tion and it is the fundamental reason and the Duniya. ♦♦♦ Majmoo’ Fatawaa,
for entering Paradise and being rescued Similarly, a husband, wife, the rest of Vol. 4 Pg. 375-377
from the Fire. the relatives and friends, if they are
patient and perform good deeds then
Translated by Abbas Abu Yahya
Page 10 Al Baseerah

Understanding the Qur’aan


By Shaykh Abdullah al- Ghudyaan - Member of Council of Senior Scholars and Member of The Permanent
Committee for Islamic Research and Fatawa. This is the third of a four-part series based on a lecture from
Albaseerah.org

T hus far, in this series the


Shaykh hafidha-hullaah has
mentioned the first five stages for
it) …} (wa taral-fulka feehi mawaajira)
[Faatir 35:12] and {…And you see the
ships ploughing through it …} (wa
jinni as to his sin…} [ar-Rahmaan
55:39] From this ayah, it may be un-
derstood that Allaah  will not ask
understanding the Qur’aan: (1) taral-fulka mawaajira feehi) [an-Nahl anyone on Yawmul Qiyaamah
selecting a topic and identifying 16:14] (regarding the placement of the (the Day of Reckoning).
the aayaat dealing with that topic, word “feehi”). However, affirmation of
(2) studying the meanings of the questioning is found
words and phrases, (3) under- On this topic, there exists in the Qur’aan as
standing the reason for revelation, a book named Daleel al- in His Speech 
(4) identifying the Aayaat which Aayaat al- Mutashaabihaat. It is {Then surely
are Naasikh and Mansookh and a essential for the individual who We shall
discussion of (5) identifying the wants to memorize the Qur’aan to question
aayaat which are Mukham and pay attention to these aayaat al- t h o s e
Mutashaabih. In this issue he mutashaabihaat, because familiarity with (people) to
elaborates on the mutashaabih them is required for recitation. whom it (the
(ambiguous) aayaat with regard to Book) was sent
wording and meaning. The Mutashaabih Aayaat and verily, We shall
in Meaning question the Messengers.
The Mutashaabih Aayaat Then surely We shall narrate to
in Wording As for those aayaat which are muta- them (their whole story) with
shaabih regarding the meaning which knowledge, and indeed We have
As for those which are muta- are understood by the Ulamaa’; they not been absent.} [al-A’raaf 7:6-7],
shaabih regarding the wording, have been researched by the scholars and as He  said: {But stop them,
they are related to recitation. For of the past and the phrases have been verily, they are to be questioned.}
example, His Saying : {…and reported by authors in their books; [as-Saffaat 37:24]
that which is slaughtered as a amongst them, the books:
sacrifice for other than Al- So when the recitor recites these aayaat
laah…} (wa maa uhilla bihi li- • Ta’weel Mushkil al-Qur’aan by Ibn he is confused with this ambiguity (as
ghayrillaah) [al-Baqarah 2:173] and Qutaybah they appear to conflict). However, the
in all the other instances it men- • Daf’ Ihaam al-Idhtiraaf ‘an Aayaatil scholars of the past Raheemahumullaah
tions: {wa maa uhilla li-ghayrillaahi Kitaab of ash-Shanqeetee have taken care of these ambiguities
bihi}. You will find that the word • Durratit-Tanzeel wa Ghurratit Ta’weel (by studying and clarifying the issues
bihi is placed before (the phrase fi Muttashaabih at-Tanzeel of al- for the Ummah).♦♦♦
“other than Allaah”) in Suratul- Iskaafi
Baqarah, and after in all other • Baahir al-Burhaan fee Mutashaabih al-
instances where it occurs in the In the next issue, Inshaa Allaah we
Qur’aan conclude with:
Qur’aan (e.g. al-Maa’idah 5:3, al- There are very many books written on
An`aam 6:145, an-Nahl 16:115). • Understanding the signs for stopping,
Mutashaabih al-Qur’aan.
• Understanding the general meaning and
Similarly, in His Speech: {…And extracting the rulings
An example of this is the Statement of
you see the ships cleaving (the • and the Summary.
Allaah  {So, on that Day no
sea water as they sail through question will be asked of man or
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Know Your Scholars


Part 3 of a series based on a lecture from albaseerah.org
by Shaykh Ahmed Al-Munayee, Professor at Imaam Muhammad Islamic
University and Lecturer at Al-Masjid Al-Haraam during Hajj.

2nd Level - Mujtahid al-Muqayyid –


Those restricted in their ijtihaad.
LEVELS OF THE PEOPLE OF
KNOWLEDGE We have the second group which is
below the first. It is the level of the
mujtahid al-muqayyid i.e. one who is
limited in his ijtihaad. He benefits from ously discussed. They are Students of
1st Level - Mujtahid al-Mutlaq – the different opinions that we have, Knowledge who go out and seek
Those absolute in their ijtihaad and also perhaps from his madhab, from knowledge but their status or the level
(judgment). the principles of Islaamic Jurisprudence that they have attained, is not the level
and the discussions in the other of ijtihaad.
The highest level of the People of branches of learning. He uses these to
Knowledge is the mujtahid al- draw analogies to help him deal with Then there are other levels – those
mutlaq. They are those who are abso- different circumstances. He does not who participate in different aspects of
lute in their ijtihaad (independent opin- necessarily have a lot of evidences and learning. Then there are some students
ion or judgment) in the issues of Is- he is not just blindly-following an indi- of knowledge who are seasoned in their
laamic law. They are very well aware of vidual; his ability is limited. This person development of Islaamic learning,
the different issues concerning our normally invites to the madhab that he those who are intermediate and those
Deen (Religion). What distinguishes agrees with; they are of different levels. who are beginners. There are also some
this group is that they know the evi- Although the madhaahib (schools of of the People of Knowledge who spe-
dences for each issue, from the state- thought) may have different deductions cialize in one area of learning as op-
ments of the Prophet , the Sahaabah in terms of law, they are all taken from posed to another area of Islaamic learn-
(Companions) and those after them the Sunnah of the Prophet  and they ing e.g. hadeeth, tafseer or fiqh.
(from the Salaf). all use the ijmaa’ (consensus) of the ♦♦♦ Next Issue: The Characteristics of
People of Knowledge in terms of evi- the Scholars
When looking at the situation that is dences.
presented to them, they consider the
daleel (evidence) that they have, and 3rd Level - Mujtahid Ibn Al-Qayyim said
based on the evidence, they deal with
each particular situation as it presents There is a third level – the mujtahid If the
itself. These are the mujtahidoon (those who actually follows a specific roots of knowledge
who make ijtihaad) without exception. imaam. At this level the individual hold onto the heart, the
They themselves are a source of refer- usually takes from a particular scholar tree of love will grow in it
ences for the Ummah. When difficul- and normally does not go beyond the and if it becomes stronger
ties arise, this is the group of scholars imaam that he takes from. it will bear the fruits of
who the Ummah returns to, in every
time and place. This is the mujtahid al- obedience
Other than them llll
mutlaq – those who are absolute in the
areas of ijtihaad, meaning that they are llll
We have another level and this is for
not just restricted to only one aspect of llll
those individuals who attribute them-
learning. selves to knowledge generally, but they and it will keep on giving its fruit at
have not attained a level of those previ- all times by the leave of its Lord.
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Polygyny is the Sunnah Statements of


(Having more than one wife is the Sunnah) the Salaf

Question: is having more than one Indeed what is achieved/beneficial for The Dispraise of Arguing,
wife something permissible in Is- everyone, by having more than one
Dispute and Quarrelling
laam or is it the Sunnah? wife is lowering one’s gaze, protection
for the private parts, increase in off-
Answer: Having more than one wife is Some of the Salaf said: If Allaah
spring, that a man can look after the
the Sunnah if you have ability to do so benefits of a large number of women intends good for a slave He
due to the saying of Allaah The most and can defend them from causes of opens for him the door of action
high: evil and deviances. and closes the door of argument
and if He intends evil for a slave
{Then marry (other) women of your As for the one who is incapable of do- he closes the door of action and
choice, two or three, or four but if ing this and fears that he will not be opens for him the door of
you fear that you shall not be able to just between them, then he should suf-
deal justly (with them), then only
argument. [
fice with one due to the saying of Al-
one or (the captives and the slaves) laah Subhaana: al-Haafiz ibn Rajab mentioned this in his
that your right hands possess. That book "Bayaan Fadl `Ilm as-Salaf `alaa`Ilm
is nearer to prevent you from doing {But if you fear that you shall not be al-Khalaf"
injustice.} [Soorah an-Nisaa:3] able to deal justly (with them), then
only one.} [Soorah an-Nisaa:3]
And also due to the action of the
Prophet , he had altogether nine May Allaah give all the Muslims that
women and Allaah made it a means for which there is benefit for them in it, Advice of Al-Hasan
the Ummah to have benefited from and success for them in this world and al-Basree to
them. the Hereafter. ♦♦♦ Umar ibn Abdul-Azeez
This is from the distinguished charac- Taken From Majmoo’ Fatawaa of our
teristics of the Messenger , as for Shaykh, Allaama, Abdul Azeez bin Ab- The dunya is nothing more than
other than him then it is not allowed to dullaah Bin Baaz 3 days:
combine more than four. 1. The day that has passed by
[al-Balaag magazine no.1028] so there is no hope in it.
As for having more than one wife then 2. The day you are living in, so
there are great benefits for men, Translated by Abbas Abu Yahya
it is proper that you should
women and all the Muslim Ummah.
make the most of it.
3. And the day that is to come,
concerning which you have
In an interview after Shaykh al-Uthaymeen rahimahullaah no knowledge of whether or
passed away, his wife, Umm `Abdullaah, mentioned: not you will be of it's people.


And you do not know if
That Shaykh al-Uthaymeen rahimahullaah used to have a weekly perhaps you will die before
picnic on Fridays after salaatul-Jumu’ah with his family. They reaching it. [
would go to an area in the wilderness close by and take their lunch.
He utilized this time to share in some activities with the children, like
foot racing and solving puzzles. Also, he would bring a small rifle and
compete with his children in aiming and shooting”.
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Keeping Relations with non-Muslim Family


T HE SHAYKH WAS ASKED:
My grandmother is a Catholic
Christian and she has statues of Eesa
(They are all considered parents in
Islaam). The child is not ordered to
cut off relations with the parents. He
the hadeeth: My mother came to me dur-
ing the lifetime of Allaah's Apostle and she
was a pagan. I said to Allaah's Apostle
(Jesus) and Maryam (Mary) Allaah's deals with them with ihsaan i.e. in the (seeking his verdict), "My mother has come
peace be upon them, in her home. best way he can. In an ayah, Allaah  to me and she desires to receive a reward
She worships them and asks them for ordered with ihsaan toward them even from me, shall I keep good relations with
help. Before Islaam my relationship if they try to lead you toward shirk her?" The Prophet  said, "Yes, keep good
with her was very strong and it is still {But if they (both) strive with you relation with her." [Bukhaaree]
very strong. However, when I go to to make you join in worship with
visit her I don't feel comfortable as I Me others that of which you have Again, don't obey them in shirk.
know her actions are shirk. How do I no knowledge, then obey them However, deal with them in the best
relate to her with the presence of not, but behave with them in the manner. And, my advice to you is that
those statues in her home, and should world kindly, and follow the path you advise your grandmother that she
I keep my children away from her? of him who turns to Me in repen- comes to Islaam; tell her that Muham-
tance and in obedience. Then to mad  loved Eesa (Jesus-peace be
Answer: Congratulations on entering Me will be your return, and I shall upon him) and that for anyone to
Islaam. Islaam does not order the tell you what you used to do.} become a Muslim they must love
male or female child to cut off the [Luqmaan 31:15] Eesa and believe in him or there is no
parents. In Islaam the parents are
Islaam for him. ♦♦♦ Shaykh
your father, your mother, your fa- So deal with them with manners such Saalih al Luhaydaan
ther's father, your mother's father, that you are friendly towards them,
your father's mother and your and do what they ask which is good,
mother's mother i.e. the grandparents. but do not submit to them in shirk. In

QUIZ on Family Issues ANSWERS FROM


VOLUME 1 - ISSUE 4
Are the statements True or False?
1. A mahram is one who is unlawful for a woman to marry due to marital or blood relationships. 1) Knowledge
2. It is permissible for a man to marry his sister's daughter. 2) Deen
3. A woman who has reached the age of puberty has to observe hijaab in front of her brother- 3) Jannah
in-law. 4) Deen
4. The consent of both spouses is an explicit condition for a valid marriage in Islaam. 5) First
6) Qur'aan
5. It is permitted for a woman to breastfeed while she is pregnant.
7) Read
6. Islaam affirms the equality of men and women as human beings.
8) Eemaan (Faith)
7. Children who have not reached the age of puberty are still held accountable for their actions. 9) Allaah
8. A daughter is inferior to a son as his share of inheritance is larger than hers. 10) Sunnah
9. In the Qur'aan it mentions that a mother should suckle her child for one year or less 11) seeker
10. A man can marry up to four wives even if he can't maintain and deal justly with all of them. 12) pleased
13) virtue
11. Islaam makes raising daughters a way to enter Paradise.
14) practiced, shared
12. The `Aqeeqah is offered for boys but not for girls. 15) aspects
16) Albaseerah
Email your answers to: magazine.albaseerah@gmail.com
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Attending Funerals of Bringing Children To


Non-Muslim Family The Masjid

Question: Is it permissible to attend Question: Is it permissible for man in the first


the funeral of non-Muslims? My to bring children to the masjid row, to the
parents and family are non-Muslims whether they are loud or quiet? right and
and I am very close to them. I feel the left then
badly that if one my parents were to Answer: Firstly, if the children’s this is per-
pass away, I would not be able to mother wants to come to the masjid missible,
attend, and therefore, maybe break and there is no babysitter etc. and they inshaa Allaah.
relations with my family. What are could not leave them in the house
the evidence that it is not permissi- alone as they fear for them, and they If they are badly behaved such that
ble for us to attend the funerals of have no other way but to bring them they run, play and scream like those
the non-Muslims? with them, then it is permissible, even who are crazy, and they do not pray
if they scream, cry etc. The women at and they disturb the people, then it is
Answer: There is no problem with time of the Prophet  used to bring their not permissible to bring them to the
attending the funeral, as long as the children and he  used to hear the babies masjid because in this case they disturb
affair is as the person has described, the Muslims, and it is a cause of incur-
crying and he  would make the salaah light
that he fears that he may be cut off ring sin upon those who bring them.
so the mother would not worry about her child.
by his family if he does not attend the ♦♦♦ Shaykh Wasiullaah al-Abbaas
[Bukhaaree, Muslim] This is from the
funeral.
mercy of the Prophet  with the
This is because there is a rule in Islaam, people, the women, the young children
i.e. “keeping away harm takes precedence over and other than them. Children Committing
bringing forth good”. Since he said that if Major Sins
So, it is okay for the young children
he does not go this will bring harm and
who have manners and who know the
this might cause some of his close fam- Question: Are children who have
manners of the masjid to be brought to
ily members not to accept his calling not reached the age of puberty ac-
the masjid. Even though some of the
them to Islaam, and they may not be- countable if they commit major
People of Knowledge dislike the fact
come Muslim because of this. Also, if sins?
that young children should come to the
he is given the opportunity to say a
masjid and be amongst the rows and
word at the funeral, then he should call Answer: Children who have not
ranks of those praying unless they are
them to Islaam, but with ease, and reached the age of puberty are not held
above the age of 7. What is correct is
mercy for them, and feeling sorry for responsible or accountable for their
that even if they are below the age of 7,
the affair they are in, and Inshaa Allaah actions or deeds. However, they must
and they are well-behaved, then it is
there is no haraj - no problem in going. be ordered to do good, they are to be
okay for them to be in the ranks of the
♦♦♦ Shaykh Saalih Ibn Muhammed Al- prohibited from practicing evil and
musalleen (those praying) even if they are
Luhaydaan they are to be encouraged to practice
good manners. They are to be encour-
aged to obey Allaah  due to the say-
al Khataab ibn al Ma’laa al Makhzumee al Qurashee advised his son saying:


ing of the Messenger of Allaah  :
“Order your children to establish the
…My son, indeed a man’s wife is his home/livelihood, he has
prayers when they are seven and beat
no life with other than her, so when you decide to take a wife,
them for it when they reach the age of
inquire about her family, for indeed good roots yield sweet fruits.”
ten”.[Abu Daawood with a good chain]
♦♦♦ Shaykh ‘Abdur-Rahmaan Al-‘Ajlaan