MARRIAGE Nobility of marriage and family is timely Preservation of sanctity/holiness of marriage is based on mutual consent Parents should be aware

are of their duties Population control must be in accordance to the laws of the Church and respect the human life VOCATION A summon from God to an individual or group to undertake an obligation and perform duties of a particular task in life A divine call to a place of service to others in accordance with the divine plan Etymology: vocare (latin) = a calling The special function of an individual or group within a large order (society) as a being, as husband and father is the only one of the functions of a married man TYPES OF VOCATION General Vocation - for all o Final goal union with God Specific Vocation a call to a state of life o Religious selected few, nobility o Married the vocation where most are called o Single for a very few, legitimate only when a person has an apostolate

demanding full commitment of oneself (may be dangerous encourages selfishness) Single vocation is only a means to attain general vocation of final goal. Objectively speaking the religious state is the best because of its nature Subjectively speaking the best state of life to which God calls you MARRIAGE AS A VOCATION In marriage, the man and woman has the greatest gift possible for human beings to possess the earth and the opportunity to do good Example: procreation When a Christian family flourishes, the society benefits

PERSONALITY Personality is made up of the characteristic patterns of thoughts, feelings and behaviors that make a person unique. Sum total of beliefs, behaviors, attitudes and values that distinguishes an individual The product of the interaction of genetics and environment Mix of both inherited factors and learning and environmental factors General profile or in the special combination of psychological traits

of character that refer to his/her unique nature Ones unique combination of psychological features leads to the way in which that specific person reacts and interacts with the others or the environment Ones personality includes a set of mental characteristics which reflect the way in which a person thinks, acts, and feels

D. Humanist Theories o Personality is developed through exercising mans free will and also through each individuals experiences 4 Factors that Affect Personality 1. Heredity Main factor which determines a persons personality Affect our personality and our perception and how we perceive things and learn them We inherit our basic personality traits Physical Emotional and intellectual qualities Strengths and weaknesses

Fundamental Characteristics of Personality A. Consistency o There is a recognizable order and regularity to behaviors B. Psychological and physiological o Constructed psychologically and influenced by biological processes and needs C. Impacts behaviors and actions o Causes us to act in certain ways D. Multiple expressions o Not only in behavior Theories of Personality A. Trait Theories o Personality is passed genetically B. Psychodynamic theories o Personality arises from conflict twist aggressive, pleasure-seeking impulses and social restraints C. Behavioral Theories o Personality is a result of interaction between individual and the environment

Heredity Characteristics Hair and eye color Skin color Body type Aptitude or the capacity to learn a skill or inclination for a particular body of knowledge Establishes the limit of ones personality traits that can be developed 2. Environment Represented by: a. Cultural b. Family c. Social d. Situational

Nature VS Nurture Heredity Establishes the limits of ones personality traits that can be developed Environment Influence the actual development within the limits 3. Education o Is an important factor affecting ones personality o First stage of our education in life home o The careful decision of our parents in our education provides us with the opportunity to develop our personality correctly Education related to Environment Family influence will determine the childs personality Whether the child will be antisocial or friendly, lawless or law-abiding, antagonistic or cooperative Home education is a powerful influence Education at Home Where parents teach the values that will shape his personality as a person Personality development of the child is influenced by the behavior of the parents Imitation of the child Early childhood education Affects a childs physical, mental and emotional development Also how he thinks, behaves, socializes, and learn Time for developing virtues: Truthfulness Honesty Respect for elders Education at School Choice of parents in our education at school is important A Christian Catholic school will provide a Christian dimension in our formal education Reasons for receiving Catholic instruction: a. By not receiving the orderly explanation of Christian morality, it will leave the student with a lack of theological knowledge and character training b. Since the religious truths and moral principles are passed over in such schools, students not receiving such instruction will conclude that knowledge of such things is not important Education affects personality by influencing our knowledge, belief and way of thinking Learning to make decisions in different situations and acting on them means learning to be mature, responsible, and independent

4. Gift of Grace

Four Types of Personality (Temperaments) 1. Sanguine Animal: Rabbit Season: Spring Good points: Extrovert Bad points:

Good points: Extrovert Task-oriented

Bad points: Prone to anger Has a tendency to explode into rage Dont strive to be polite, respectful, or friendly Blame themselves ruthlessly when failing

May be impulsive People-oriented Could be perceived arrogant Optimistic Self-indulgent Loves having fun Hedonistic Enthusiastic Lives on luxuries Risk takers Susceptible to vices

Exhibits leadership qualities

Independent

Practical Systematic Relationship wise: Look for intelligent partners Control and hide their emotions Analyze problems and systematically approaches it Attracted to good listeners Take charge of the relationship Careers: Manager Project head Efficiency experts Engineers Architects Strategic analyst 3. Phlegmatic Animal: Lamb and Turtle Season: Winter

Relationship wise: Relationships are exciting and fun Very generous Not controlling Friendly and enthusiastic Good listeners Not easy to open up Careers: Teaching Coaching director Sales Public relations Entertainment Human resource 2. Choleric Animal: Cat Season: Summer

Good points: His work does not require much thinking not easily exasperated either by offense remains composed, thoughtful, deliberate cold, sober, and practical judgment Does not demand much of life

Bad points: passionless Much inclined to ease Prone to drinking and eating lazy Neglects his duties No ambition

Good points: practices with ease and joy interior prayer

often a great benefactor to his fellow men

Relationship Wise: will not want to socialize except with a few close friends least likely to accept his Godgiven role of leading the home Careers: data processors bookkeepers librarians accountants records technicians museum curators webmasters web designers technology specialists programmers lab technicians chemists pharmacists 4. Melancholic Animal: Pig, Cat and Owl Season: Autumn

modest and unassuming Great thinker Genius prone Artistic and creative Task-oriented

Bad points: has no confidence in God and love for the Cross falls into great despondency, inactivity, and even into despair. gives way to sad moods, falls into many faults against charity and becomes a real burden to his fellow men easily loses confidence in his fellow men hardly forgive offences Suspicious sees everything from the dark side finds peculiar difficulties in correcting people

Relationship Wise: Loyal Does not form acquaintances easily Careers: Musician Doctor Project supervisor Neurotic Personality A person with a neurotic personality exhibits characteristics of excessive worry and anxiety over normal life events Poor ability to adapt to ones environment, an inability to change ones life patterns, and the inability

to develop a richer, more complex, more satisfying personality Causes: Hereditary Culture, Upbringing, Education, and Learning Stressors- particularly interpersonal relationships Family Manifestations: Inability to adapt to the surrounding environment Anxiety Insecurity Phobias Depression Forms: A mortal fear of spiders A downright refusal to eat anything that has been dropped on the kitchen counter How can we help them? Be tolerant and patient Dont be overly critical Give him/her space Encourage him/her to seek help SIGNS OF IMMATURITY Immature=children Not fully developed Under developed Developing 1. 2. 3. 4. Selfish attitudes and behavior Ingratitude Demanding their own way No sense of responsibility and obligation

5. Wrong reactions to conflicts and problems 6. Poor judgments 7. Thinking that happiness comes without giving Immaturity in a Relationship 1. Selfish attitudes and behavior A person usually becomes self-centered 2. Ingratitude Showing no signs of appreciation 3. Demanding their own way what they want, they always get 4. No sense of responsibility and obligation Running away from problems 5. Wrong reactions to conflicts and problems Results to the making of hasty and irrational decisions 6. Poor judgment Judgment without basis 7. Thinking that happiness comes without giving Selfishness Signs of Spiritual Immaturity 1. Indifference 2. Ignorance Question: Does ones personality depend on heredity through genetic inheritance or on the environment in which someone leads his/her life? Answer: Interaction of the two genetic and the environmental/educational/ experience factor