Communication is essentially the transfer of ideas, messages or

information from one person to another. It is effective when it

gets the desired action or response. Basic communication skills
are essential for continued success, whether personal or
professional. At the very base one needs to understand the
communication process.
Since effective communication is essential for success, you have to make an all-out
effort to improve your communication skills. To do so, job seekers and others those who
have interest to enhance their communication skills can take the following course.

1. To communicate your response, you have to understand the point being made in the
question. To understand, you have to listen carefully. Listening is the key to your
understanding.

2. Plan and conceptualize your thoughts before giving a response. This requires your
ability quickly and focuses on the core point. You may take a moment’s pause to
compose your thoughts before answering, but think before you answer.

3. Sharpen your language skills. Use simple words and short sentences as far as
possible. Strictly avoid long sentences, which can confuse and make you lose track of
your talking points. Reading articles and books can help a candidate improve his
language skill and participate effectively in the communication process.

4. Remove the fear of failure from the mind. Look at the silver lining of the cloud. One
failure may be a learning point for success in the next interview. The world is not lost
with one failure in an interview, as long as you are open to learning from the experience.
So, take it easy.

5. Perceive rightly. Be rational and don’t rush into a judgment without analyzing the
message. Try to perceive the message from the point of view of the sender.

6. Make it a habit to put down thoughts on a piece of paper, if you are not comfortable
with mental conceptualization. Then, try to verbalize them.

7. Avoid needless communication. It takes away your valuable time and also tends to
expose your inconsistency. Answer to the point with relevant information, and do not
resort to long elaboration.

8. Be mindful about the body language of the receiver. Quite often, the interviewer’s
body language conveys the signal about your effectiveness and correctness of answer. It
will also tell you when to stop. If you don’t stop soon, you may be at a disadvantage.
Facilitating Communication

In addition to removal of specific barriers to communication, the following general

Guidelines may also facilitate communication.

1. Have a positive attitude about communication. Defensiveness interferes with

Communication.
2. Work at improving communication skills. It takes knowledge and work. The
communication model and discussion of barriers to communication provide the
necessary knowledge. This increased awareness of the potential for improving
communication is the first step to better communication.

3. Include communication as a skill to be evaluated along with all the other skills
in each person's job description. Help other people improve their communication
skills by helping them understand their communication problems.

4. Make communication goal oriented. Relational goals come first and pave the
way for other goals. When the sender and receiver have a good relationship, they
are much more likely to accomplish their communication goals.

5. Approach communication as a creative process rather than simply part of the

chore of working with people. Experiment with communication alternatives. What
works with one person may not work well with another person. Vary channels,
listening techniques, and feedback techniques.

6. Accept the reality of miscommunication. The best communicators fail to have

perfect Communication. They accept miscommunication and work to minimize its
negative impacts.

Communication is at the heart of many interpersonal problems faced by farm

employers. Understanding the communication process and then working at
improvement provide managers a recipe for becoming more effective
communicators. Knowing the common barriers to communication is the first step
to minimizing their impact. Managers can reflect on how they are doing and make
use of the ideas presented in this paper. When taking stock of how well you are
doing as a manager, first ask yourself and others how well you are doing as a
communicator.

Communication has its own importance in all aspects of life. Communication

becomes easy only when the information is shared in simple and plain terms.
Many of us make several mistakes in communication. Such mistakes are always
unnoticed by us and we never try to rectify those.
Here are the 10 common communication mistakes
listed out.
1. Talking fast and rapidly:
This is the most common mistake a person makes while communicating with others. A clear conversation is more
clearly understandable. While talking too fast makes the listener impatience and confused.

2. Talking too much:

The proverb “empty vessel makes more noise”, will be the best match for this mistake. Likewise people will
evaluate you to be an empty vessel when you talk more. Usage of short verbal conversation is always appreciated
and welcomed every where.

3. To follow up basic verbal etiquette:

While conversing with others basic manners and etiquette has to be followed. The conversation will loose its
values if it does not have mannered words in them.

4. Negative body language:

Negative body postures and signs make the listener irritant and unease to listen or communicate with. So to make
the communication more brilliant negative body languages should be avoided.

5. Mastery over listener:

While having a conversation, avoid dominating your partner or listener. Give him/her the opportunity to share their
opinion. Never go for a monologue way of conversation.

6. Interruption:
For a good communication, avoid interrupting in the middle when one person is talking. When a person is talking
try to listen and understand and then ask excuse for the interrupting and then tell your suggestions or comments.
Otherwise wait for him/her to finish and then share your thoughts.

7. Contradicting talks:
Never bring in contradiction during a conversation, especially when talking with the higher authorities or your own
boss. This may cause unnecessary troubles and misunderstanding.

8. Poor contribution:
There are few people who listen and take information from others, but never contribute their suggestions. This is
also a big communication mistake, because the communication again turns to monologue patterns.

9. Undesired advices:
There are people who give immediate advices for any problem told by others. So, the listener may again get
restless and the communication is finally end. So, even while suggesting advices see that whether it is really
required or not.

10. Loose talks:

Avoid talking unnecessary matters. Talk only to the pertained topic. This saves time and energy for both conversing
people.
 Job markets increase, grades go up and new friends are made. You will benefit
greatly from learning English simply because so many people speak the English
language. New horizons and opportunities will expand before your eyes. Use the
following tips to help you in your language learning process for your job.

● Have desire –Want to learn a new language. Learning English requires lot o f study and dedication. Only true
desire will keep you motivated.

● Know your motive –Why do you want to learn English? Is it to help you in school, your business or something
else? Identify your reason and remember it when you are having a hard time.

● Set goals –Set goals for yourself whether it be learning twenty words a week or giving a presentation in English
at work next month. Goals will keep you motivated.

● Study a little each day –Studying formally for at least 30–60 minutes a day will help you retain what you learn.
At the beginning of each study session, review what you learned in the lesson before.

● Make a set study schedule –Set aside a specific time for study each day. That way you are less likely to skip
your lessons.

● Study out loud –Pronounce the words out loud to yourself as you study. You will remember them more easily
and you will be able to practice your pronunciation at the same time.

● Use different learning methods –Language can be learned through different activities such as speaking,
reading, writing, and associating pictures with words. Find out which method works best for you and use a variety
of other methods for practice.

● Practice speaking –Practice the language you have learned as much as possible.

● Don't be afraid –Never be afraid to try speaking to other people even if you don’t know everything. They will
appreciate your efforts.

● Surround Yourself –Surround yourself with English. Read it, listen to it, watch it and speak it with others.
 The most commonly used tools for the selection process is the
personal interview. An interview is a conversation with a purpose
between two persons or groups of persons. They are done not only
for the purpose of recruitment or selection for a post, but also to
gather information from someone important.
Even through it is a two-way traffic, it is mostly seen that the
employed is the one who asks questions and the interviewee is
supposed to reply. Different purposes of a personal interview are –
to rate a candidate for his physical appearance, education
achievement and qualification, level of intelligence, background,
interests and aptitude, There are different types of interviews, like:

1. Informal Interview: This is the type of interview that is

conducted in an informal setting. The interview can be held at the
residence of the managing director for the post of a legal consultant.
Similarly, many senior level job assignments are finalized during
dinner at some hotel or restaurant.
2. Formal interview: This is the interview that is conducted most
commonly for recruitment of personnel. In such interviews the
candidate is called for an interview at a particular location and time.
The candidate is required to answer questions asked, based on the
outcome of which he is rated for selection.
3. Patterned Interview: To maintain a uniform approach there are
few interviews where a set pattern of questions are asked. In such
patterned interview the choice of person conducting the interview is
restricted and the selection criteria are also limited within a set
frame.
4. Depth Interview: In such a interview, questions are based upon
a specific area of the interviewee’s interest. In a depth interview the
person has to answer in detail. The academic competence and
knowledge is tested thoroughly in such type of interviews.
5. Stress Interview: For the selection of supervisor and executive
positions, it is of equal importance to judge the suitability of
individual competence based on stress endurance along with
knowledge and intelligence. Therefore a candidate is required to
appear for the stress interview. In such and interview a person is
required to respond to a tress situation and the assessment is done
on the basis of the response.
6. Group Interview: When we are required to perform a task in a
group the selection is done in a group interview and the candidate
along with a group is asked to solve a particular problem. The
performance and behavior is, however, assessed and rated
individually.
7. Panel Interview: For a senior level position selection, a panel of
experts selects the candidate.

Personality and behavior traits are very important for performing

well in interviews. Interviews, at times, become a hurdle between
success and failure for persons just out of college. You have to
present your competence for a particular job within a short period of
fifteen to forty five minutes. The candidate is assessed for his
behaviour, mannerism, attitude, IQ, stress enduring, capability,
general awareness, knowledge of the subjects studied and mental
frame of mind to take up the position for which he/she has applied.
For a young student it is important that he prepares well for crossing
this hurdle. He must be ready for the competitive written
examinations as well as for the face to face interview

Listed below are a few interview do nots and usual reasons for
failure in interviews that every candidate should keep in mind:
• The candidate should not lack self-confidence or appear shaky.

• The hello-effect of the candidate should be impressive to the

interviewing board.
• Poor communication skills are an absolute put-off.
• Body language must not reflect negativity.
• The candidate must not lack the relevant subject knowledge.
• There is a difference between self confidence and over
confidence. Even if the expectation level of the candidate is
high, he should not exhibit arrogance.
• The candidate’s background and family history are important.
• The candidate must have reasonable amount of Knowledge
about the company and the industry in which he has applied
for employment.
• The candidate must not be improperly dressed or lack a sense
of hygiene.
• If the interview board is harsh, the candidate must not lose his
or her cool during the interview.
• The candidate must give a focused reply.
 • Also, at time, the number of candidates is very large and board
members are unable give sufficient time to each candidate for
answering. Thus, answers should be as precise as possible.

10 Simple rules of Interview

Rule I-Behave as you are: A person facing an interview is
generally nervous and does not behave as his or her normal self. He
tries to follow the set guidelines that he has been told and in the
process becomes very stiff and unnatural. Do not act, be yourself.

Rule II-Reach the interview site well before time: The early
arrival at the interview venue will give you time to understand the
office culture, the local etiquette and the expectation of the office
and a chance to adapt to the particular environment. Reaching in
advance also gives you the time to make yourself comfortable and
more presentable by giving you time to freshen up. The settling time
will help you to handle difficult situation properly.

Rule III -Try to know the company: The interview board expects
you to know what the company is doing and what the industry
norms the company is in are. Prepare from all sources such as the
internet, company brouchers and other sources, if any. Try to find
out the company’s area of operation and expansion /diversification
plans for which they are recruiting people.

Rule IV-Be focused: The purpose of your appearing for the

interview is that you are looking for a job. The questions asked by
the board will at times derail your prepared answers and will take
you to a different direction. Try to be focused about your strength
areas and the requirements of the company concerned. Try to be as
short and straight as possible while dealing with a controversial
issue.

Rule V-Behave as if you are already in the job: When a person

applies for the job of a front desk manager, the interview board will
like to see him in that pretext and would judge him keeping that
person in the mould of a manager. If he starts feeling and behaving
like a manager, half the work is done.
 Rule VI-Be genuine and honest: Never lie to the board members.
It is very easy for them to judge the truth or falsity of any statement
or claim. Besides, everyone would like to reward your honesty.

Rule VII-Never answer question about which you are not

sure: If you are honest in staying that you do not know the answer,
people will appreciate it more than if you guess something absurd.

Rule VIII-Wish all members before and after the interview: It

has been noticed that many candidates do not feel it necessary to
wish the members and many others skip it due to nervousness. It
does not give a good first impression of the candidate if he does not
wish the board members.

Rule IX-Mind your body language: It is extremely important to

mind your body language in the interview as you meticulously plan
the words you utter.

Rule X-Anticipate the probable questions:

When we are to appear

for an interview we do have a clue as to what questions the board will
ask. Say, a person has an education gap of two years mentioned in
his CV. The board would like to know what the candidate was doing
during that period. Similarly, a housewife applying for a teacher’s post
will in all probability be asked about her routine for the day. Well-
prepared answers for irritating questions will help you fare better in
the interview.

Most people mistakes physical attributes of an individual as his/her personality. They talk
about a marvelous personality when they may just he referring to an individual’s stature fair
complexion or chiseled features.
Well, if you thought that personality has anything to do with height, good looks, complexion or
the physique of a person. It is time you re-think what you think you know. Any physical
shortcomings can hardly influence of his personality traits such as superior character and
behavior, and not by other mundane and frivolous considerations.
As per modern management concept, "personality is the BRAND
IMAGE of an individual.”
It is simple made up of three broad aspects namely:
1. Character
2. Behavioral traits
3. Attitude
Personality development is the improvement of behavioral traits such as communication
skills, interpersonal relationships, attitude towards life and restoring our ethics. Character is the
prerequisite to achieving a better individual personality. There are several behavioral scientists
who argue that improving behavioral traits in a short-cut course of fifteen days to develop
personality can effectively influence others and help win the race. But we must never forget that
excellent behavioral traits such as communication skills, interpersonal relationships, higher order
of motivational levels and excellent leadership qualities also fail miserably at the time of crisis if
not based on solid character foundation.
Behavior is just the showcase of the larger inventory inside a person, i.e. character. If
personality is developed on the solid based of values and ethics, it will last forever. Fake smiles
and mannerisms are short-lived and do not help in improving one’s personality.
Good behavior and co-operation makes a man popular. As a result the possibilities of his
progress and success increasingly multiply. The feeling of help and gratitude towards others not
only adds to human qualities in a person but also increases his characteristic qualities.
Different people have different opinions about what makes a man’s personality complete.
There are several behavioral scientist who have the view point that character does not form a part
of personality, but Steven Covey, one of the all—time great authors and motivators says that the
best of behavioral traits fail if they are not based on the solid foundation of character.
The person who wants to improve his personality has to have desire and determination ; he
has to identify the direction for his goals to achieve it. Once all the above three steps are taken he
has to dedicate himself to the task of achieving his goal. We need to develop personality traits
that are very unique. Blindly following someone else who is successful will never take you in the
direction right for you.

Start Practising to do these points before you face an interview

● Listen to native speakers –Pay careful attention to native speakers using English.
Observe the way they pronounce the words and how they use them.

● Pronunciation is key –Imitate native English sounds as closely as you can. The more
closely you pronounce words like native speakers, the better you will be understood.

● Use good resources –Use dictionaries, workbooks, software and any other resource
that will allow you to practice and expand your language.

● Use what you know –Even if you know relatively little English, you should use what
you know. You will be surprised at how much you can communicate with a few words or
phrases.

● Speed it up –Get used to listening to the language at normal speed. It will seem fast at
first, but the more you know, the more it will sound normal.

● Don't get stuck –If you don’t know a certain word, work your way around it. Use
different words and actions to explain it, but don’t give up.

● Have fun! –Learning a new language is fun and exciting. Recognize your progress and
use your language for ultimate enjoyment.
Here are the keys to successful job interviewing. Follow these simple rules
and you should achieve success in this important phase of job-hunting.

Do's:
• Arrive 10 minutes early. Being late to an interview is never excusable.
• Clarify questions. Answer the interviewer's questions as specifically as possible. Relate your skills and
background to the position requirements throughout the interview.
• Give your qualifications. Focus on accomplishments that are most pertinent to the job.
• Anticipate tough questions. Prepare to turn perceived weaknesses into strengths.
• Ask questions. An interview should be a mutual exchange of information, not a one-sided conversation.
• Listen. Concentrate not only on the interviewer's words, but also on the tone of voice and body language. Once
you understand how the interviewer thinks, pattern your answers accordingly and you will be able to establish a
better rapport.
• Dress appropriately. Make your first impression a professional one.
• Be professional. Smile, make eye contact and maintain good posture. These are simple but important things that
are easy to forget to do during an interview.

Don'ts:
• Do not say "I have other offers but, yours pays a lot more and that's why I'm interested."
• Do not say "I have demonstrated experience. Here, look at all of this..." Then proceed to hand over stacks of
paper including old reports, references, marketing plans, misc papers etc.
• Do not offer any documents unless asked.
• Do not wear cologne/perfume or smoke that day. Pop a mint 1/2 hour before. Smells can put people off. Make
sure you and your breath smell great!
• Never bring a gun into an interview. Yes, someone came into my office one day and it fell right out of their
briefcase onto the floor. Not good
• Never walk around your interviewer's desk and show them something on their own computer.
• When asked: Why did you leave your job? Do not say: "My old boss was a jerk and the company was going
bankrupt." Come up with some better answers. Be creative, turn negatives into positives.
• Turn your cell phone off. Never ever answer your cell phone during an interview and talk to the person calling!
• Do not chew gum. Do not touch anything on the interviewer’s desk or try to peek at anything.
• Do not preen your clothes, hair or fidget with a pen etc. Keep still and keep your hands/arms in an open confident
position. Never cross your arms, stare or lean back like you're in a lazy boy.

Most successful men have not achieved their distinction by having some new
talent or opportunity presented to them. They have developed the opportunity that
was at hand." –– Bruce Barton

Be confident and smart with your answers. Think first and you will do great.
The topic that was under discussion would have been completely analysed and reviewed by both the speaker and
the listener in case of a smooth communication. Both the speaker and the listener can be benefited through such a
neat communication. This type of smooth ending conversation only is required for finding a solution to any sought
of problem. If the conversation looses its temper, etiquette, and control over the words and language will end up in
a hot arguments. Such controversial arguments can be avoided by following these simple and useful tips.

1. While beginning, the discussion make sure that you would never select any controversial topic. Avoid entering
into such topics which may lead to some arguments. Generally avoid topics on marriage, divorce, politics, personal
relationships etc. So, be away from such controversial topics.

2. Always have a track on the observer or your listener’s posture to make sure that they are comfort with the
conversation. Make sure that they feel at ease during with the topics and matter of discussion.

3. Have control over your words and language. Never utter a word that is going to begin an argument.

4. Never allow any development of anger to the listener. If you find so, immediately change the topic.

5. Give time for the listener to pass his comments and opinions. Never show your power on the listener. Give
him/her a chance to speak and share their comments also.

6. Have control over your volume and tone. Don’t raise your voice and add to the tension of the listener.

7. Avoid talking controversial topics over phone and email.

8. If the listener drives the topic to a controversial argument, be frank enough to say that you are not comfort with
the topic and change the topic of discussion.

1. Build up your Creativity

You should have a new clear idea which opens new horizons for discussion on the GD topics. It is highly
appreciated when you have creative thinking and speak anything which has new information.

The examiner will keenly watch you in this perspective. So try to build up your creativity.

2. Bring out your ability to inspire others

All the team members should participate and they should be given chance to express their own ideas.
If some are not getting opportunity to give their ideas , give them an opportunity and you will be seen as positive
trait.

3. Improve your Listening skill

You should have a strong listening skill and it will help you to grab ideas of others. Listen to others and get more
information.

4. Try to be initiative

First impression is the best impression. So try to initiate and start the group discussion only if you are well versed
with your topic. Without preparation don't enter in task. If you stammer or blubber it may create a false feeling upon
you.

5. Take a role of Leadership

Leadership role is not given to all. Your behavior is keenly noticed and there should be some skills to possess the
leadership role.

Leadership qualities requires

-----directing the group in the proper way when it moves away from the topic
------should appreciates the different team members in the group discussion
-----should inspires and also should motivates the team members to bring out their points.

6. Be very Assertive

Express your points in the positive manner. It shows your emphatic, and positive manner. You can be very
assertive person and it displays you positive body language.

7. Reasoning Ability

Reasoning ability plays an important role while expressing your opinions or ideas at the group discussion. Try to
build up your reasoning ability and it will show you how good you are in group discussion.

Active participation is very important and it will help your group to achieve a goal and improve your confidence
level.
The first and the foremost thing which you have to remember is that you should think about what your are going to
say or speak about. Speaking too much is always not recommended. So we should be aware of want we are going
to speak in front of public. See to it that you don't give the other members and people around you the wrong
impression by committing statements that are not clear.

Make sure the you fulfill the tasks of any role that you have been given. If suppose you have been give a role of
team leader or head to your group, it is important to make sure you carry it out to the best of your abilities. If you
agree to specific role, don't think to change it and it would bring a negative thought about you. While the discussion
if you don't understand any statement or question that has been made by someone else, please do ask them to
clarify it to you. Without a clear idea you cannot proceed it and you may not feel comfortable to proceed it.

Conflict is very dangerous in the group discussion and it should be avoided as much as possible. You should give
respect to the other members also. It is very important to look at things from their perspective also. So please
agree with their views also and avoid the conflict which arises during group discussion.

If you are given to take the responsibility of a team and given a leader post you should first make sure that
everyone in your team participates or not. You should consider everyone with equal importance and see that
whether they are given equal amount to time to voice their views. If you see some members in partial and some
are not fit to speak there arise conflicts. Here we can judge where the group will determine the success or failure
through their attitude.

If you don't agree with the statement, instead of saying "that doesn't make any sense," it would be better to say "I
don't know if I agree. Could you elaborate?" When you use this statement, it will not be as offensive as the other
statement. You should never ridicule the idea or statement of another member by calling it dumb or stupid. Instead,
you could simply say you disagree with them, and offer an explanation of why your feel the way you do. To give
another example, instead of using the statement "that is not what the assignment asked us to do" you could say
that "I think it would be better if we refer back to the assignment."

First see to it that if you want your group to be success it is very important to avoid conflict statements. Conflict
statements will lead to problems between you and other members and it will cause less productive to you team.
We can always see the disagreed statement which
by using phrases such as " it may be better to......" or "have you ever though about doing it this way?” It should be
easy to see the difference between these two phrases and the first one.

Once the conflict has started it is very difficult to deal with. So please avoid conflict during group discussion.
Everyone in this world are different and have their own idea and thoughts and differ from others. However, they
should be respectful in how they deal with the differences. Using statements and questions which avoid conflict will
allow you to be respected by the other members, and you can help the group successfully move forward. Respect
the opinions of others, and never try to push your ideas on the other members. Remember, the purpose of having
a group discussion is to solve problems, not create them.

TOPICS FOR G.D.

1. Indian cultural values have nothing to fear from globalization
2. The impact of economic reforms has been that rich people have become richer rich and poor people poorer.
3. Management education is only for the rich.
4. Reservation in parliament for women.
5. The US dollar is no longer a stable currency.
6. Impact of Internet in India.
7. Behind every man there is a woman.
8. Politicians are not interested in the future of our country.
9. Wisdom does not come with age.
10. Corruption is the main outcome of democracy.

11. Is the consumer really the King in India?

12. Globalization verses Nationalism.
13. Conditional access system for cable TV watchers: boon or bane?
14. If India is poorly governed, the reason is that we have designed our system of governance for protecting if not
encouraging corruption.
15. Commercialization of health care: good or bad?
16. Should agricultural subsidies be stopped?
17. Do we lag behind China?
18. Who says MNCs are superior to Indian companies?
19. Food comes first, ethics later!
20. To survive in the civilized world one needs to be a hypocrite.

21. Money is the sixth sense without which one can't enjoy the other five.
22. English language as a mode of instruction in primary level.
23. Men and Women are different.
24. Given the present state of affairs, India will remain a developing country forever.
25. IIM's and IT's encourage only brain drain.
26. Whether reservation to women is beneficial?
27. There is no alternative to Pokhran nuclear test in present scenario.
28. Modern cinema is a boon to Indian society.
29. Should youth indulge in politics?
30. US war on Iraq-justified or not.

31. Role of UN in peacekeeping.

32. Position of Women in India compared to other nations.
33. Environment Management.
34. Is China better than India in software?
35. Should SONIA Gandhi be made the PM
36. BPOs in INDIA
37. Gov. contribution to IT
38. Will punch lines rule the Advertisements?
39. Premarital sex
40. India or west, which is the land of opportunities

41. Water resources should be nationalized

42. "BALANCE BETWEEN PROFESSIONALISM AND FAMILY"
43. Is it necessary to ban COCO COLA in India?
44. About Hockey being the primary game in India.
45. Cricket should be banned or not.
46. Present state of Indian Cricket team.
47. Love marriage/Arranged marriage.
48. Advantages of CO-education.
49. How to deal with international terrorism.
50. Is peace and non-violence outdated concepts?

51. A Unipolar World spells disaster for underdeveloped countries like India.
52. What shall we do about our ever-increasing Population?
53. Corruption is the price we pay for Democracy.
54. Foreign Television Channels are destroying our culture.
55. What India needs is a Dictatorship.
56. With media publishing and telecasting trivia, censorship is the need of the hour.
57. Kaun Banega Krorepati is less about knowledge but more about money and personality.
58. Beauty contests degrade womanhood
59. The rise of regional blocs threatens independent nations like India
60. Six billion and one bronze!

61. Is dependence on computers a good thing?

62. Should the public sector be privatized?
63. Is India a Soft Nation?
64. Value based politics is the need of the hour
65. Religion should not be mixed with politics
66. How to deal with high oil prices
67. Our cricketers are not to blame for match fixing
68. Why can't we be world players in industry as we are in software?
69. Multinational corporations: Are they devils in disguise?
70. Should there be limits on artistic freedom (the controversy on Fire).

71. Should there be private universities?

72. Do banning fashion shows and New Year parties save our culture?
73. Are Big Dams Necessary?
74. A Gandhian State selling liquor is an anomaly
75. Bride burning and dowry may look bad, but are an integral part of India.
76. The education system needs serious reforms
77. The impact of MTV on our psyche
78. Showing Violence and Crimes should not be allowed in films and on television.
79. Let us legalize gambling
80. The objective of Management is to maximize profits

81. Do professional managers have a chance in our family run businesses?

82. The Internet is an exercise in hype
83. Smaller businesses and start-ups have more scope for professional growth.
84. Dot com or doubt com?
85. The Wheel is Turning Round and Round
86. There is no right way to do a wrong thing
87. Group Task: How can we have Mount Everest in India?
88. Do Beauty and Brains Go Together?
89. Marriage is a social trap
90. Secularism has become a tool to justify the wrongs done by the minorities.

91. Media is a mixed blessing/How ethical is media?

92. To fight Aids, stop being coy about sex education.
93. What should India strive for- Westernization or modernization?
94. Developing countries need trade, not aid.
95. Flexibility of labor laws is the key to attracting more Foreign Direct Investment.
96. Voters, not, political parties are responsible for the criminalization of politics.
97. The voters are required to be well informed and educated about their candidates so that they can elect the right
aspirant by their own assessment.
98. India should go for the presidential form of democracy.
99. In our economic matters, there is an excessive tendency towards the thinking rather than doing
100. Government should clean its own hands before pointing finger at the private sector for corruption.

1. Public sector is more a hindrance than help to promote socialism.

2. Economic betterment of the poorer nations is as important as disarmament to ensure lasting world peace.

3. From public sector to privatization as in the U.K., is the right answer for India's instant economic breakthrough.
4. The doctrine of "limited nuclear war" is an ill-convinced, ill- logical, irrational and extremely dangerous concept.
5. Some simple but effective electoral reforms will enable us to retain the present parliamentary system and ensure
the preservation of democracy in India.
6. We must have only two national parties to contest parliamentary elections and regional parties should not be
allowed to contest for the same.
7.We can increase our food production not only to match our population explosion but also for export provided we
adopt modern, mechanized farming methods with large size land holdings.
8. Nuclear war cannot be won and should not be fought.
9. Private enterprise and not public sector will contribute to faster and higher economic growth in India.
10. Inflation is inevitable in our developing country.
11. The policy of reservation is a legacy of the British and it has done more harm than good.
12. Do you think MBAs are useful in the manufacturing / production department?
13. For a marketing post graduate, without prior work experience working in a big marketing firm is a disadvantage
when compared with working in a small firm. Discuss.
14. Consumerism is destroying the social fabric of Indian culture.
15 Free markets is a prerequisite for growth.

16. Cricket as a national obsession is a detriment to other sports.

17. To develop India has to empower women.
18. Formulate the government's health policy to control the spread of AIDS.
19. Advertising is a waste of resources.
20. Privatization will lead to less corruption.
21. State is the biggest violator of human rights.
22. There can never be a classless society.
23. Beauty pageants are a marketing gimmick.
24. Voting rights to illiterates in India is illogical because it is widely misused.
25. Joint family is a blessing in disguise.
26. Higher education should be made possible only for those who can pay for it.
27. The weaker sex is the weakness of the stronger sex.
28. Women cannot successfully combine both career and home.
29. Women are good managers.
30. Executive should be allowed to form unions.
31. Effect of liberalization on poverty.
32. Indians perform better as individuals rather than in groups.
33. Business and ethics go hand in hand, or do they?
34. Developing countries should spend more on development than on defense.
35. Political parties have outlived their utility.
36. Is Swadeshi relevant for India today?
37. Money is required to earn more money.
38. Foreign trade is necessary for any country to survive.
39. Presidential Vs Parliamentary form of government of India.
40. Technology: The Ism' Of the New Millennium?
41. Religion And Politics Should Not Mix
42.TRIPS Controversy And The Patent Act Amendment
43.Export Stagnation: Causes And Cures
44.Excessive Depiction Of Sex And Violence In Films
45.Classical Music Heritage And The Growing Pop- Culture
46.Decentralisation & The Panchayati Raj Institutions
47.Should India Sign The CTBT
48.State Interventions In Market Kind Or Mixed Economy
49.Science Is A Boon Or Bane
50.Is Swapping Terrorists For Hostages An Encouragement For Plane- Hijackers?
51. India and the political dynasties: The Nehru Family context
52.Nice Guys Finish Last
53.All Work and No Play Makes Jack a Dull Boy
54.Individual Freedom and Civil Society
55.Conventionalism And Modernity: The Ever going Debate
56.Should There Be a Restriction on Permissiveness Being propagated by The MTV Culture And Foreign Media?
57. Marxism And Its Future All Over The World
58.The Growing Menace Of Cartelism And Regionalism
59.Presidential Form Of Government Is Needed In India
60.Bullet For Bullet: Is It The Right Policy?

61.Capitation Fees Should Be Abolished

62.Arranged Marriages Are Better Than The Love-Marriages
63.Brain-Drain Has To Be Stopped
64.Business And Ethics Can't / Don't Go Together
65.Are women As good as Men Or Inferior?
66. Nothing Succeeds Like Success
67.The Malthusian Economic Prophecy Is No Longer Relevant
68.Secessionism In The North-East: Who's To Blame?
69. Should India Break Diplomatic Ties With Pakistan?
70. Age and Youth: Experience And Young Talent
71.`East Is East & West Is Where All The Action Is': Mark Twain
72.Freedom Of _Expression And The State Authority.
73.Capital Punishment Should Be Abolished
74.Tuitions Should Be Banned
75.India Needs Gujral Doctrine For Better International Relations
76.Doctors' Accountability To Improve Health-Care
77.Universal Disarmament Is A Must
78.Indian Cricket Team Shouldn't Be Allowed To Play Abroad

1. Plan - Put a plan ahead of time and prepare about what you should talk about and how to present it. Gather
more points and jot down in a piece of paper. You should try to organize your thoughts and put the pieces together
later on. You can surf the internet to gather more information.
2. Put the pieces together - Once you have jotted down as many thoughts as possible, it’s time to begin organizing
those thoughts. Try to combine all the points that makes sense and keep ready to present it.

3. Say thoughts out loud - Try to bring out your oral though and think it out loud. This will help you to present good
in the group discussion.

4. Practice in front of the mirror - Practice in front of the mirror as much as possible once you have jotted down in
the paper. Relax first and then build up your confident level and try to mould yourself to present the topic well in the
clear manner.

5. Speak clearly - The message or the information which ever you convey should be clear and should be
understood by everyone. There should not be any blunder and you should feel that you have presented well and
clearly.

Giving a presentation can definitely be a nerve-racking thing to do. If you take the time to prepare your
presentation well in advance and practice in front of the mirror, you will feel much more confidant stepping in front
of a crowd. By practicing the above all you can face the group discussion without any fear.

Well known behavioral scientists and psychologists have identified

many types of personalities. We shall concentrate on the nine types
of personalities. These are perfectionists, Helpers, Romantics,
Achievers, Asserters, Questioners, Adventures, Observers and
Peacemakers. They have their own unique personality traits that
are briefly analyzed below.

The perfectionist:

Perfectionists are realistic, conscientious and principled. They

strived to live up to their high ideals. They can be got along well
with if you take your share of the responsibilities so they do not
end up with all the work. You need to acknowledge their
achievements. It is better if you tell perfectionist that you value
his\her advice. Perfectionists also expect others to be fair and
considerate, as they are.
A perfectionist would like to be self disciplined and be able to
accomplish a great deal. He would like to work hard to make the
world a better place, having high standards and ethics. They are
reasonable, responsible, and dedicated in everything they do.
Example: The great Indian software business leader Narayan
Murthy falls in the category of a perfectionist.

The Helper:

Helpers are warm, concerned, nurturing, and sensitive to other

people’s need. That cab be got along well with if you tell then you
appreciate them. They would expect you to share fun time with
them. They would like you to take interest in their problems;
through they will probably try to focus on yours. They want you to
know that they are important and special to you.
A helper likes to be able to relate easily to people and make their
live better. They are generous, caring and warm. They are sensitive
to and perspective others feelings. They are fun-loving and
generally possess a good sense of humour.
Example: Mother Teresa is one such personality who was sensitive
not only to the needs of few people around, but for the millions of
poor in the country.

The achiever:

Achievers are energetic, optimistic, self-assured, and goal-oriented.

An achiever gets along well with his coworkers. He welcomes
honest, but not unduly critical or judgment harmonious and
peaceful. You cannot burden with negative emotions. He likes being
optimistic, friendly and upbeat, and likes to provide will for his
family. He is happy if he stays informed, knowing what’s going on.
Achievers face problems when they have to put up with inefficiency
and incompetence. They are gripped with the fear of failure or of
not being seen as successful. They keep on struggling to hag on to
their success.
Example; Sachin Tendulker the greatest batsman, and Kapil Dev,
the greatest all rounder, fall in the category of achiever- always full
of energy to achieve something big.

The Romantic

Romantics have sensitive feelings and are warm and perceptive.

A romantic would like to get plenty of compliments. They mean a
lot to them. He expects you to be a supportive friend or partner. If
you care for him you respect him for his special gifts of intuition
and vision. He would like to establish warm connections with
people, admire what is noble, truthful, and beautiful in life; he
would like to be creative, intuitive, and have a sense of humour. He
is unique and is seen as unique by others.
Example: The great Indian painter MF Hussain falls in the type of
romantic personality. He has a sensitive and heart and romantic
personality for his creativity.

The observer:

Observers have a need for knowledge and are introverted curious,

analytical, and insightful.
An observer likes to be independent, not clingy. He prefers to
speak in a straightforward and brief manner. He desires and needs
time alone to process his feelings and thought and may doubt your
sincerity if you intensely welcome him. He dislikes intrusions in his
privacy. He remains calm in a crisis.
An observer faces a problem which he/she is not sure of the
situation and is unable to understand the relation between cause
and effect. He gets disturbed if his integrity is doubted.
Example: The great economist Noble laureate Amartya Sen is one
such observer personality, who is curious analytical insightful.

The Questioner:

Questioners are responsible and trustworthy. They value loyalty to

family, friends, groups and causes. Their personality rage broadly,
from reserved and times to outspoken.
A questioner likes to be direct and clear. He likes others to listen to
him carefully. You are required to reassume him that ‘everything is
ok between us’ and not judge him for his anxiety. He is committed
and faithful to family and friends, responsible and hardworking
compassionate towards others, direct and assertive.
Example: The out spoken Bollywood actress and former Rajya
Sabha member Shabana Azmi, may fall in this category. She can
raise relevant questions in all platforms.

The Adventurer:

Adventurers are energetic, lively, and optimistic. They want to

contribute to the world.
An adventurer likes to get companionship, affection and freedom.
He likes engaging you in stimulation conversation and laughter and
expects you to appreciate his grand visions and listen to his stories.
He is optimistic and do not let life’s troubles get him down. He is
spontaneous and free-spirited.
Example: The energetic NRI businessman, Vijay Mallaya, may be
categorized in the adventurer type of trying something new that
was not done by any Indian earlier.

The Asserter:

Asserters are direct, self-reliant, self- confident and protective.

An asserter likes to stand up for you and is confident, strong and
direct. He is vulnerable and shares his feelings and at the same
time acknowledges your tender, vulnerable side. He likes to get
space to be alone, He is curious to hear about his own
contributions, but do not flatter him. He likes being independent
and self-reliant, able to take charge and meet challenges head on.
He is courageous, straightforward, honest, supporting empowering
and protective of those close to him.
Example: The former Chief Election Commissioner T.N. Seshan,
the straightforward bold officer, is the best Indian example of an
asserter.

The Peacemaker:

Peacemakers are receptive, good-natured and supportive. They

seek union with others and the world around them.
 Every man who wants to develop his personality also
wants to become popular. Man’s life is a burden without
popularity. If we leave aside certain action, there is not
much difference between a man and an animal. Everybody
can be popular if he/you takes care of these few enlisted
personality development tips-
1. If you want to progress in life than honestly analyze the traits of your
character.
2. Do not laugh at people when they are in difficulty or trouble other wise
you will loose your personality in a moment.
3. This is a great way to develop your personality by listening everyone
politely, even if their ideas are baseless or not of your interest.
4. During conversation do not keep talking yourself too much.
5. When ever somebody brings any gift for you, don’t forget to praise it. It
does not matter even if you were expecting something else.
6. Make other feel that you love them.
7. Keep your moral high in case of defeat and be more polite on being
victorious.
8. Solve your problems in a creative way. Try your best not to let these spoil
your relations with your friends.
9. Enlist your bad habits and try to get rid of them.
10. We should not uplift our standard of living but also help others to do so.
Try to remove the feeling of inferiority in others by loving them and by
keeping good behavior towards them.
11. Be careful of what your say about others because others will say the
same thing about us at different times and at different places and in this
way form a public opinion about us.
12. Some people often have a favorite sentence which they repeat frequently.
We should try and get rid and get rid of such a habit.
13. Independence increases our good qualities and personality and slavery
bad qualities.
14. Independent thinking and freedom to work is the only source of progress
and welfare.
15. Love is the greatest magic in this world. You can do every thing with help
of love. Develop this art to improve your personality.
16. Positive attitude is of great importance in our personality. No body like
people who have narrowed out look. In life only that person is considered
well behaved who has positive and healthy bend of mind.
17. The real beauty of man lies not in his physical appearance but in his work
and good qualities. That is why it is important that we improve mental
outlook to develop our personality.
18. Every individual should develop the ability to adjust with others, because
basically man is a social animal, so one can not survive by living alone.
 19. Some people keep repeating a particular statement and it becomes a part
of their nature. At the most you may repeat a statement twice but it you
do it more than that it leaves a bad impact.

Personality Development
Overcoming negative thinking

Courtesy India Express

When you are angry, worried or afraid, your blood pressure and heart beat may
increase dramatically and your activities are more likely to go into sperm and your
pallets tend to clump together and clog up your blood vessels, says Dr, Dean Ornish.
More you concentrate on your fear on worry, the more harm you do to your body.
Maintaining a negative mental attitude has always been know to produce negative
physical conditions. We know that the people who maintain a positive mental attitude
rarely get sick.
Negative thinking causes problems, positive thinking causes solution. Negative
thinking provides a climate in which health problems can develop/ Positive thinking
provides a climate in which good health can be attained and maintained. Negative
thinking involves worry. Insecurity, fear, suspicion, hatred, antagonisms, anger
despair, mourning, self-doubt, etc.
While positive thinking spreads love, appreciation, optimism, security, courage,
cooperation, compassion, generosity, friendliness, patience helpfulness and
ambition., negative thinking is being out of step with people and things around you..
Positive thinking is being in step, in harmony with people and things around you.
Negative thinning becomes habitual and the stress it causes becomes chronic.
Chronic stress is a killer. When you hold negative attitudes for prolonged periods,
chemical changes take place in your body.
A stress chemical is released into the blood which inhibits the work of the immune
system apparently by confusing and a awakening the system. In these
circumstances, health problems start to build up.
But positive feeling about yourself and the work you are doing leads you to be
optimistic rather than pessimistic, contributing thereby to your health. This is better
for your health and ultimately, your survival. Do right and your health thrives. Do
wrong and your health suffers.
Life is not always so closely under our control but our minds are or should be
under our control .

Personality development by Swami Vivekananda

Hi friends, recently I read this book Personality

development by Swami Vivekananda and I find
it very interesting and useful. Therefore, I am
going to post every Monday one chapter from
this book(some excerpts). May be the
introduction is toooooooo long (may be
introduction needs two post), other than that
all chapters are small and crispy. I hope you all
enjoy.

What is personality?
“Your personality is the type of person you are,
which is shown by the way you behave, feel
and think”.

How a person behaves, feels and thinks, how

he conducts himself in a given set of
circumstances is largely determined by the
state of his mind. Mere external appearance or
a person’s speech or mannerisms are only
fringes of one’s personality. They do not reflect
the real personality. Personality development in
the real sense refers to deeper levels of a
person.

Necessity to know our mind:

We intend to do many things – make
resolutions to cultivate good habits, to kick
certain bad habits, to study with concentration,
to do something with a concentrated mind.
Very often our mind rebels, forcing us to beat a
retreat from our efforts at implementing our
resolutions. A book is open before us, and our
eyes are open. But the mind has started
wandering, thinking about some past events or
some future plans. The same thing happens
when we sit for a few minutes trying to pray or
think of a divine name or form. Says swami
Vivekananda: “Free! We who cannot for a
moment govern our own minds, nay, cannot
hold our minds on a subject, focus it on a point
to the exclusion of everything else for a
moment! Yet we call ourselves free. Think of it!

According to the Bhagavad Gita, the

undisciplined mind acts as our enemy, whereas
a trained mind acts as our friend. So we need
to have a clear idea of the mechanism of our
mind. Can we train it to obey us, to cooperate
with us? How can it contribute to the
development of our personality?

The fourfold functions of the mind:

Memory: The storehouse of memory and
impressions of our past experiences presents
various possibilities before the mind. This
storehouse called chitta. It is in this storehouse
that the impressions of our thoughts and
actions – good and bad – are stored. The sum
total of these impressions determine our
character. This chitta, again, is what is known
as our subconscious mind.

Deliberation and conceptualization: Not yet,

sure, the mind examines the many options
presented before it. It deliberates on several
things. This faculty of the mind is called
manas. Imagination and formation of concepts
are also functions of the manas.

Determination and Decision-making: Buddhi is

the faculty responsible for decision-making. It
has the capacity to judge the pros and cons of
things and find what is more desirable. It is
also the discriminative faculty in a person,
which enables him to discriminate between the
real and the unreal, between what is to be
done and what is to be avoided, what is
morally right and what is wrong. It is also the
seat of will-power so essential for personality
development and hence this aspect of the
mind concerns us the most.
“I” consciousness: Appropriating to oneself all
physical and mental activity eg, ‘ I eat’, ‘I see’,
‘I talk’, ‘I hear’, ‘I am confused’, etc, is called
ahamkara or ‘I’ consciousness. As long as the
‘I’ identifies itself with the undisciplined body-
mind complex, human life is dictated by events
and circumstances of the world; we become
happy with pleasurable events and miserable
with adverse circumstances. More the mind
gets refined and disciplined, more does one get
to know the real source of ‘I’ consciousness.
Correspondingly, a person becomes more
balanced and equipoised in his daily life. Such
a person is no longer swayed by any event or
circumstances of life.

More about the mind:

‘Our’, ‘I’ is represented by the master of the
chariot; the body is the chariot and the buddhi
the charioteer. The manas is sense organs-
ears, skin, eyes, tongue and nose-which are
the five windows in human being that give him
or her the knowledge of the objects in the
world.

Important activity of the mind that concerns

personality development is our emotions. More
the emotions are under control, healthier
becomes one’s personality. Emotions can be
broadly classified into two types. Viz attraction
and repulsion. Love, admiration, aspiration,
sympathy, joy, veneration, pride and the like
indicate attraction. Hate, anger, fear, sorrow,
jealousy, disgust, shame, etc., are the nature of
repulsion. As long as one is entangled with the
undisciplined mind, one’s personality does not
really develop. Buddhi, the charioteer, serves
as an effective instrument of self-development
by controlling the emotions and raising the
higher self from the hold of the lower mind.

What is character?

Personality development by Swami Vivekananda

What is character?
Every action and thought of ours leaves an
impression in our mind. These impressions
determine how we behave at a given moment,
how we respond to a given situation. The sum
total of all our impressions is what determines
our character. The past has determined the
present. Even so the present - our present
thoughts and actions - will shape our future.
This is the key principle governing personality
development.

What activates the body-mind system?

This question will help us to have better

knowledge of ourselves. This question engaged
the attention of ancient Indian seers and sages.
They experimented with themselves - their
sensory and mental apparatus – and after a
disciplined quest they found out that there is a
divine element in human beings, which is the
mind of the mind, eyes of the eyes, ears of the
ears and speech of the speech. It is this divinity
which constitutes the real ‘I’ and the eternal
element in our personality. This divinity
survives physical dissolution of the body. This
divinity remains latent in us as long as we
identify ourselves with our body-mind and the
sensory systems. The goal of life, according to
the scriptures and the great ones, is to
manifest this hidden divinity.

What was the central message of swami

Vivekananda?
“My ideal indeed can be put into a few words
and that is: to preach unto mankind their
divinity, and how to make it manifest in every
movement of life”.

“Each soul is potentially divine. The goal is to

manifest this divinity within by controlling
nature, external and internal”.

“A nation may conquer the waves, control the

elements, develop the utilitarian problems of
life seemingly to the utmost limits, and yet not
realize that in the individual, the highest type
of civilization is found in him who has learned
to conquer self”.

“This universe is simply a gymnasium in which

the soul is taking exercise; and after these
exercise we become gods. So the value of
everything is to be decided by how far it is a
manifestation of God. Civilization is the
manifestation of that divinity in man”.
This divinity in us is the repository of eternal
existence, eternal knowledge and eternal bliss.
The more it manifests, the more we experience
abiding happiness and get supreme
knowledge.

Strengthening of will-power, the essence of

personality development:

Physical dimension consisting of our body and

senses.

Energy dimension which performs digestion of

food, circulation of blood, respiration and other
activities in the body.

Mental dimension characterized by the

activities of the mind, like thinking, feeling and
emotions, etc.

Intellectual dimension characterized by

determinative faculty in a person. This is also
the seat of decrimination and will power.

Blissful dimension experienced as bliss during

deep sleep.

Development involves struggle with one’s

lower mind characterized by desires, old
habits, wrong tendencies, impulses and bad
impressions. The lesser we identify with the
lower mind, and the more we identify with the
higher mind, and exercise our buddhi
(discrimination), the more developed will our
personality be. This involves struggle to
grapple with one’s mind and its old habits, to
cultivate new and wholesome ones. But this
struggle is the greatest of all struggles in that it
makes us civilized in the real sense of the term
by manifesting our divinity and thereby our
hidden perfection.

Some essential qualities for personality

development:

Faith in oneself: Faith in god came next only to

faith in oneself. If one believes that ones real
nature is the spirit-not the body or the mind-
one would be a better individual with strong
character.

Think positive thoughts: positive, wholesome

thoughts based on our inherent divinity are
essential for a strong character. ‘Go on doing
good, thinking holy thoughts continuously, that
is the only way to suppress base impressions….
Character is repeated habits and repeated
habits alone can reform character.’ Further,
according to Swamiji, the only sin is to think of
oneself and others as weak.

Attitude towards failures and Mistakes:

Swamiji advocated uploading the ideal once
again even if a person failed a thousand times.
He appreciated committing mistakes and
learning from them rather than leading an inert
existence like a wall, which cannot even tell a
lie.

Self-reliance: Man is the maker of his own

destiny. ‘We are responsible for what we are,
and whatever we wish ourselves to be, we
have the power to make ourselves.’

Renunciation and service: Swamiji held selfless

service as a paramount means to character
development. This, coupled with renunciation
of selfishness and desire for the fruits of action,
was considered by Swamiji as the twin ideal of
our nation. ‘Intensify her in those channels,
and the rest will take care of itself.’

- - - - - - - - -

‘Teach yourselves, teach every one his real

nature, call upon the sleeping soul and see how
it awakes. Power will come, glory will come,
goodness will come, purity will come, and
everything that is excellent will come when this
sleeping soul is roused to self-conscious
activity.’- Swamiji

It is personality that matters

Personality development by Swami
Vivekananda

It is personality that matters

What we want is to see the man who is

harmoniously developed…great in heart,
great in mind, [great in deed] … we want
the man whose heart feels intensely the
miseries and sorrows of the world…. And
[we want] the man who not only can feel
but can find the meaning of things, who
delves deeply into the heart of nature and
understanding. [We want] the man who
will not even stop there,[but]who wants to
work out [the feeling and meaning by
actual deeds]. Such a combination of
head, heart, and hand is what we want.

See what is happening around us. The

world is one of influence. Part of our
energy is used up in the preservation of
our own bodies. Beyond that, every
particle of our energy is day and night
being used in influencing other. Our
bodies, our virtues, our intellect, and our
spirituality, all these are continuously
influencing others; and so conversely, we
are being influenced by them. This is
going on all around us. Now to take a
concrete example. A man comes; you
know he is very learned, his language is
beautiful, and he speaks to you by the
hour; but he does not make any
impression. Another man comes, and he
speaks a few words, not well arranged,
ungrammatical perhaps; all the same, he
makes an impression. Many of you seen
that. So it is evident that words alone
cannot always produce an impression.
Words, even thoughts, contribute only
one-third of the influence in making an
impression, the man, two-thirds. What you
call the personal magnetism of the man-
that is what goes out and impresses you.
In our families there are the heads; some
of them are successful, others are not.
Why? We complain of others in our
failures. The moment I am unsuccessful, I
say, so-and-so is the cause of the failure.
In failure, one does not like to confess
one’s own faults and weaknesses. Each
person tries to hold himself faultless and
lay the blame upon somebody or
something else, or even on bad luck.
When heads of families fail, they should
ask themselves, why it is that some
persons manage a family so well and
others do not. They you will find that the
difference is owing to the man-his
presence, his personality.

The personality of a man is two-thirds, and

his intellect, his words, are but one-third. It
is the real man, the personality of the
man, that runs through us. Our actions are
but effects. Actions must come when the
man is there; the effect is bound to follow
the cause.

The ideal of all education, all training,

should be this man-making. But, instead of
that, we are always trying to polish up the
outside. What use in polishing up the
outside when there is no inside? The end
and aim of all training is to make the man
grow,. The man who influences, who
throws his magic, as it were, upon his
fellow-beings, is a dynamo of power, and
when that man is ready, he can do
anything and everything he likes; that
personality put upon anything will make it
work.
Laws of personality development

Personality development by Swamy

Vivekananda

Laws of personality development

The science of yoga claims that it has

discovered the laws which develop this
personality, and by proper attention to those
laws and methods, each one can grow and
strengthen his personality. This is one of the
great practical things, and this is the secret of
all education. This has a universal application.
In the life of a householder, in the life of poor,
the rich, the man of business, the spiritual
man, in every one’s life, it is a great thing, the
strengthening of this personality. There are
laws, very fine. Which are behind the physical
laws, as we know. That is to say, there are no
such realities as a physical world, a mental
world, a spiritual world. Whatever is, is one. Let
us say, it is a sort of tapering existence; the
thickest part is here, it tapers and becomes
finer and finer. The finest is what we call spirit;
the grossest, the body. And just as it is here in
microcosm, it is exactly the same in
macrocosm. The universe of ours is exactly like
that; it is the gross external thickness, and it
tapers into something finer and finer until it
becomes God.

We also know that the greatest power is lodged

in the fine, not the coarse. We see a man take
up a huge weight, we see his muscles swell,.
And all over his body we see signs of exertion,
and we think the muscles are powerful things.
But it is the thin thread like things, the nerves,
which bring power to the muscles; the moment
one of these threads is cut off from reaching
the muscles, they are not able to work at all.
These tiny nerves bring the power from
something still finer, and that again in its turn
brings it from something finer still - thought,
and so on. So it is the fine that is really the
seat of power.

Of course, we can the movements in the gross;

but when fine movements take place, we
cannot see them. When a gross thing moves,
we catch it, and thus, we naturally identify
movement with things which are gross. But all
the power is really in the fine. We do not see
any movement in the fine, perhaps, bcoz the
movement is so intense that we cannot
perceive it. But if by any science, any
investigation, we are helped to get hold of
these finer forces which are the cause of the
ex-pression, the ex-pression itself will be under
control. There is a little bubble coming from
bottom of a lake; we don not see it coming all
the time, we see it only when it bursts on the
surface; so, we can perceive thoughts only
after they develop a great deal, or after they
become actions. We constantly complain that
we have no control over our actions, over our
thoughts. But how can we have it? If we can
get control over the fine moments, If we can
get hold of thought at the root, before it has
become thought, before if become action, then
it would be possible for us to control the whole.

If there is a method by which we can analyse,

investigate, understand, and finally grapple
with those finer powers, the finer causes, then
alone is it possible to have control over
ourselves, and the man who has control over
his own mind assuredly will have control over
every other mind. That is why purity and
morality have been always the object of
religion; a pure, moral man has control of
himself. And all kinds are the same, different
parts of one mind. He who knows one lump of
clay has known all the clay in the universe. He
who knows and controls his own mind knows
the secret of every mind and has power over
every mind.

A good deal of our physical evil we can get rid

of, if we have control over the fine parts; a
good many worries we can throw off, if we
have control over the fine movements; a good
many failures can be averted, if we have
control over these fine powers.

Different layers of personality

Personality development by Swamy

Vivekananda
Different layers of personality

This GROSS PART OF THE MAN, this body, in

which are the external instruments, is called in
Sanskrit, Sthula Sharira, the gross body; behind
it comes the series, beginning with the organs,
the mind, the intellect, the egoism. These and
the viral forces form a compound which is
called the fine body, the Sukshma Sharira.
These forces are composed of very fine
elements, so fine that no amount of injury to
this can destroy them; they survive all the
shocks given to this body. The gross body we
see is composed of gross material, and as such
it is always being renewed and changing
continuously. But the internal organs, the mind,
the intellect, and the egoism are composed of
the finest material, so fine that they will endure
for aeons and aeons. They are so fine that they
cannot be resisted by anything; they can get
through any obstruction.

The gross body is non-intelligent, so is the fine,

being composed fine matter. Although one part
is called the mind, another the intellect, and
third the egoism, yet we see at a glance that
no one of them can be “knower”. None of them
can be the perceiver, the witness, the one for
whom action is made, and who is the seer of
the action. All these movements in the mind, or
the faculty of intellection, or egoism, must be
for some one else. These being composed of
fine matter cannot be self-effulgent. Their
luminosity cannot be themselves. This
manifestation of the table, for instance, cannot
be due to any material thing. Therefore there
must be some one behind them all, who is the
real manifester, the real seer, the real enjoyer
and He in Sanskrit is called the Atman, the Soul
of man, the real Self of man.

The body is dying every minute. The mind is

constantly changing. The body is a
combination, and so is the mind, and as such
can never reach to a state beyond all change.
But beyond this momentary sheathing of gross
matter, beyond even finer covering of the mind
is the Atman, the true Self of man, the
permanent, the ever free. It is his freedom that
is percolating through layers of thought and
matter, and, in spite of the colourings of name
and form, is ever asserting its unshackled
existence. It is his deathlessness, his bliss, his
peace, his divinity that shines out and makes
itself felt in spite of the thickest layers of
ignorance. He is the real man, the fearless one,
the deathless one, the free.

Now freedom is possible when no external

power can exert any influence, produce any
change. Freedom is only possible to the being
who is beyond all conditions, all laws, all
bondages of cause and effect. In other words,
the unchangeable alone can be free and,
therefore, immortal. This Being, this Atman,
this real Self of man, the free, the
unchangeable is beyond all conditions, and as
such, it has neither birth nor death.

Every human personality may be compared to

a glass globe. There is the same pure white
light – an emission of the divine Being – in the
centre of each, but the glass being of different
colours and thickness, the rays assume diverse
aspects in the transmission. The equality and
beauty of each central flame is the same, and
the apparent inequality is only in the
imperfection of the temporal instrument of its
ex-pression. As we rise higher and higher in the
scale of being, the medium becomes more and
more translucent.
Man is Divine

Personality Development by
Vivekananda

Man is Divine

Children of IMMORTAL BLISS – what a

sweet, what a hopeful name! The
children of God, sharers of immortal
bliss, holy and perfect beings. Ye
Divinities on earth – sinners! It is a sin
to call a man so; it is a standing libel
on human nature. O lions, Shake of
the delusion that you are sheep; you
are souls immortal, spirits free, blest
and eternal; ye are not matter, ye are
not bodies; matter is your servant, not
you the servant to matters.

Even this world, this body and mind

are superstitions; what infinite souls
you are! And to be tricked by twinkling
stars! It is a shameful condition. You
are divinities; the twinkling stars owe
their existence to you.
Everything that is strong, and good,
and powerful in human nature is the
outcome of that divinity, and though
potential in many, there is no
difference between man and man
essentially, all being alike divine.
There is, as it were, an infinite ocean
behind, and you and I are so many
waves, coming out of that infinite
ocean; and each one of us is trying his
best to manifest that infinite outside.
So, potentially, each one of us has that
infinite ocean of Existence,
Knowledge, and Bliss as our birthright,
our real nature; and the difference
between us is caused by the greater or
lesser power to manifest that divine.

This infinite power of the spirit,

brought to bear upon matter evolves
material development, made to act
upon thought evolves intellectuality;
and made to act upon itself makes of
man a God.

Manifest the divinity within you, and

everything will be harmoniously
arranged around it.
Full moon day

Full moon day

So bright and serene
Lost my soul in the sight
It is dreamy to see a full moon
So comforting
So calm
So elegant
So bright
So cool
Just the way the soul wants
To rejuvenate the calmness
To be lost in the peaceful
 feeling
Am I talking to moon?
Am I getting lost in a different
world?
Yes, for the time being.
Moon and I have something...
Satisfaction
To see a bright of all
Through the moon’s eye
Capture it!
Store it for the future
Till next full moon
day!

---Meena
Pleasure Is Not the Goal

Personality development by
Swami Vivekananda

Pleasure Is Not the Goal

Pleasure is not the goal of man,

but knowledge. Pleasure and
happiness comes to an end. It is a
mistake to suppose that pleasure
is the goal. The cause of all the
miseries we have in the world is
that men foolishly think pleasure
to be the ideal to strive for. After
a time man finds that it is not
happiness, but knowledge,
towards which he is going, and
that both pleasure and pain are
great teachers, and that he learns
as much from evil as from good.

Good and Evil have an equal share

in moulding character, and in
some instances misery is a
greater teacher than happiness.
In studying the great characters
the world has produced, I dare
say, in the vast majority of cases,
it would be found that it was
misery that taught more than
happiness, it was poverty that
taught more than wealth, it was
blows that brought out their inner
fire more than praise.

Sense-happiness is not the goal of

humanity. Wisdom (Jnana) is the
goal of all life. We find that man
enjoys his intellect more than an
animal enjoys its senses; and we
see that man enjoys his spiritual
nature even more than this
rational nature. So the highest
wisdom must be this spiritual
knowledge. With this knowledge
will come Bliss. All these things of
this world are but the shadows,
the manifestations in the third or
fourth degree of the real
knowledge and Bliss.
Only the fools rush after sense-
enjoyments. It is easy to live in
the senses. It is easier to run in
the old groove, eating and
drinking; but what these modern
philosophers want to tell you is to
take these comfortable ideas and
put the stamp of religion on them.
Such a doctrine is dangerous.
Death lies in the senses.

Life on the plane of the spirit is

the only life, life on any other
plane is mere death; the whole of
this life can be only described as a
gymnasium. We must go beyond it
to enjoy real life.
Thanks to Chennai Corporation

Four months before in our camp

Chennai corporation opened a
new children’s park. It is so
pleasant that I go there every day
in the evening just to sit on the
concrete bench and watch the
kids play.

It is refreshing to see kids play

without any worry. Even though
they fight in between and cry but
immediately, they get back to
normal and start to play again.

Why can’t we remain kids…. just

be kids and happy. Parents will
take care of us, we don’t have to
worry about anything…careless
and happy…anyway there is study
to worry about….:)

Coming back to this kid’s park, we

are genuinely happy that Chennai
Corporation is making available
open corporation places as Kids
Park and walking spaces for
adults. We have a place for
walking… which is actually good
for many elderly people. Some of
the parks have artificial
waterfalls, lot of green plants,
which is feast to the eyes and
mind….mostly it is in the city only.

Anyway, we can do two things at

one time, kids can play and we
can walk. Mostly it is useful for
kids and aged people. One of the
good things that the corporation
is doing for Chennai people, and
they are maintaining the park
well that is a surprise to Chennai
citizens. A hearty Thanks to
corporation officials who are
doing this with care and special
thanks to political leaders, who
didn’t stop this good thing.
How to change our Character

Personality Development by Swami

Vivekananda

How to change our Characters

Every work that we do, every

movement of the body, every
thought that we think, leaves such
an impression on the mind-stuff,
and even when such impressions
are not obvious on the surface,
they are sufficiently strong to work
beneath the surface,
subconsciously.
What we are every moment is
determined by the sum total of
these impressions on the mind.
What I am just at this moment is
the effect of the sum total of all the
impressions of my past life. This is
really what is meant by character;
each man’s character is
determined by the sum total of
these impressions. If good
impressions prevail, the character
becomes good; if bad, it becomes
bad.

If a man continuously hears bad

words, thinks bad thoughts, does
bad actions, his mind will be full of
bad impressions; and they will
influence his thought and work
without his being conscious of the
fact. In fact, these bad impressions
are always working, and their
resultant must be evil, and that
man will be a bad man; he cannot
help it. The sum total of these
impressions in him will create the
strong motive power for doing bad
actions. He will be like a machine
in the hands of his impressions,
and they will force him to do evil.

Similarly, if a man thinks good

thoughts and does good works, the
sum total of these impressions will
be good; and they, in a similar
manner, will force him to do good
even in spite of himself. When a
man has done so much good work
and thought so many good
thoughts that there is an
irresistible tendency in him to do
good, in spite of himself and even
if he wishes to do evil, his mind as
the sum total of his tendencies, will
not allow him to do so; the
tendencies will turn him back; he is
completely under the influence of
the good tendencies. When such is
the case, a man’s good character
is said to be established.

If you really want to judge of the

character of a man, look not at his
great performances. Every fool
may become a hero at one time or
another. Watch a man do his most
common actions; those are indeed
the things which will tell you the
real character of a great man.
Great occasions rouse even the
lowest of human beings to some
kind of greatness, but he alone is
the really great man whose
character is great always, the
same whatever he be.
 All the actions that we see in the
world, all the movements in human
society, all the works that we have
around us, are simply the display
of thoughts, the manifestation of
the will of man. Machines or
instruments, cities, ships, or men-
of-war, all these are simply the
manifestations of the will of man;
and this is caused by character,
and character is manufactured by
Karma. As is karma, so is the
manifestation of the will.

The men of mighty will the worlds

has produced have all been
tremendous workers- gigantic soul,
with wills powerful enough to
overturn worlds, wills they got by
persistent work, through ages, and
ages.

We are what our thoughts have

made us; so take care of what you
think. Words are secondary.
Thoughts live, they travel far. Each
thought we think is tinged with our
own character, so that for the pure
and holy man, even his jests or
abuse will have the twist of his own
love and purity and do good.
.......................................???

…………..Self-analyzing……………

What I am going to write now is a

common thing to each and every one,
trying to find our true selves once in a
while, just trying to analyze our past
and try to correct our present, and to
think about our future. This is one of
the hardest things, bcoz this self
analyzing thing is not just thoughts,
this is the thought process which
talks about actions whatever I had
done in the past, my fear, my
mistakes and my own thoughts, my
good stuff…etc etc etc and the
present and future too….

Whenever I am thinking about good

things that I did, it always makes me
feel good about me and I don’t think it
is wrong! But this thought process of
my disappointments and wrong
doings. It makes me worry and
ponder… analyzing our inner mind is
very painful process, I do not know
others accept this or not. But once in
a while I do this, but this past few
months, I stopped this self analyzing
process. Because of that, I made some
mistakes, which I can set right, but for
that, I needed to go within my mind to
feel the pain, anger, justification, and
in the end the authentic truth. Could I
come out fresh and could I make sure
of myself, that I will not do that
mistake again and most importantly,
will I have the courage and the ability
to accept the truths and get better by
them………..

It is easy to talk and write than to

experience all the feelings. I am
spending time taking care of family,
reading books, time on net, reading,
commenting, chatting, writing,
helping ppl who really need my help
and travelling too …etc etc etc. I am
doing ALL, except for the quality time
to myself, ALONE. I blissfully have
forgotten this self-analyzing thing and
I merrily avoided few things, but to be
very honest, some things I had done It
never meant to be, that has all
happened without any thoughts that
are all unconscious actions, some with
my complete conscious mind, and
some of my actions got twisted bcoz
of that past unconscious actions. That
is why, I needed to correct my actions.
Humans have one fear in life that is,
analyzing about them. Occasionally to
get to know the real persons inside
our mind and heart, of course it is
painful besides very blissful to know
about the real us. It is like we are
seeing every time a new person inside
us it is not us but us, may be my talk
looks like philosophical or stupid or
blah blah..but honestly I know what I
am feeling. Generally, We don’t
change ourselves every time but our
good and bad habits changes
periodically, that’s what I am talking
about….. then again our basic
character stays with us.

To analyze our inner self, first we

undergo, justification, whether it is
good or bad, we try to justify our
actions, this is the main battle, we try
to blame or praise others for our
actions, and we try to justify all
actions due to bcoz of others. Then
the truth strikes then we undergo
next process. Why we did this and
that...etc this also leads to self-pity
moods, we feel ugly, bad, and good.
One of the good things about this is,
we can truthfully analyze about our
good things and bad things in this
course of actions. Along with we can
actually validate us, if we have the
power to think rightly after initial
hiccups.

After this painful process only, we can

go to the next mode of thoughts. How
to come out of this and how can we
think rightly and do right things… it is
not always easy to do good things or
not to hurt anyone, which is not even
possible. Except we can avoid some
things and sometimes we cannot, for
that we cannot take responsibility, but
for most of the actions we can take
responsibility and we can do better
 than this… that is the power of this
self-analyzing process…freeing our
sprit!

I am writing this not to prove

anything, I am writing this because it
feels so good to share and I already
shared lot of things… this is a normal
human thought process. I do not know
whether I make any sense or not…but
I don’t mind sharing my thoughts.
New generation…Never say a word unnecessarily…

They are thinking very independently even before the appropriate age.

I hope that is not bad at all. They know what they want in their life. They know
how to get what they want. They know, what prompts them to grow… but what
bothers me is …. Their full-fledged independent thoughts and the way they
give reasons for their thoughts.

May be we are happy, that our new generation is managing well. Except for one
thing, they lack the compassion that we have towards human beings. This is
not a criticism and I am not even cynical or anything… just my concern
about this new generation behavioral changes…they are very sensitive at the
same time they are isolated from the real humans touch…

Independent thoughts gives lot of freedom, freedom gives lot of confidence,

confidence sometimes leads into over confidence…… there should be balance
between confidence and over confidence.. That is not possible to young minds.

If they are too independent and over confident it destroys their survival
instincts, even a moderate let down from their life also gets them into trouble.
Independent in decision-making is an art and these kids lack the essence of that
art. They can learn when their age progresses…. Until then they must have to
accept our guidance.

Now they are not even ready to hear what elders are saying. Nevertheless, if
they listen then they can make a good human being out of themselves, because
these kids are really very sensitive and passionate about whatever they do.
Hi Friends,

Hi friends,

Just to clear some friend’s questions about my prose and

poems…….

Whatever I write, poems or prose they are all common things

that are all happening or has happened to most of the
people. I have a very big family and friends circle and lot of
cousin bros and sis and we are all very close. Therefore,
whenever I hear things from them and from my friends also I
write about that in a diary or note it down in the pc (this pc…
taken off my good habit…. my writing in the diary, I think I
am getting very lazy..hehehe) but I always try to understand
human behavior, that is one of my fascination. Whenever I
get time, I try to put them into prose or poem.

I am always my kids’ first friend and I always share with

them the same way they share with me.

Sometimes i write about my family and I specifically

mention that also in the ‘P.S’, other than that not all are
personal. I relate to people and, they relate to me, as well
as there is always mutual trust between us. Some of them
ready to talk to me, even unknown people. Personally, I
always try to help others if it is possible. Whoever has been
reading my post from the beginning know about that also. I
always listen to people. I do not talk much I am not a talker,
but if necessary, if the situation requires I talk. However, in
net it is amazingly different.

So, please do not think whatever I am writing is all-

personal. This is one of the good medium, I like to get
answers to my and others questions and I like others to know
that we are all same apart from our differences of culture,
language and tradition. Men or women it does not
matter but somehow we all are same in some
matters, I am writing that only.

I observe people.

So, do not take anything personally. Please, do not be

offended and imagine anything.

Warm Regards,
Meena.

Random thoughts . . . ? . . . ? . . . ? . . .

Marina, the Second longest beach in the world and beautiful

beach too. Government is doing all possible things to make
this beach clean and beautiful. The problem is our common
citizens, who never mind to litter the beach without worrying
about anything.…. For them other places are nothing….
except their home, outside their home they can do anything
they want.

One of the bad habit of our Indian peoples… they keep their
home clean (I think this is also entirely not true…hygiene
and Indians never go hand in hand), but they never bother
about public properties, they don’t even have any idea,
government is spending our taxes to maintain the public
properties.

This has nothing to do with education, I see young educated

people and even rich peoples litter wherever they stand, this
is not just a stupid musing…i am seeing all kind of people….
Is this education teaching them anything???

Coming back to marina, I have seen this beach all my life, in

my school days, it looked better, clean and neat, but now the
population is too high and beach going people are very high
also, one of the main reason…this is the only place in
Chennai you don’t need to worry about money.

Government is doing all kind of beautification work in and

around the beach, they are spending crores sometimes, but
our common citizens never bother about anything. They
throw papers and bottles and all kind of garbage on the
beach, even government provided designed garbage bins,
funny all disappeared also, anyway, even if it is in place also,
our citizens never worry or bother.

In addition, famous Indian style of red painting on Indian

roads and walls and of course all possible places…spitting…I
think government must take actions against this, ban all this
pan and all tobacco materials, but they won’t do that (they
banned, but who cares), the high revenue and of course
political supports.
 I travel in a garbage cart daily, yes..Suburban trains, I am
not blaming railways it is about common commuters, they
spit, they litter they make sure when they get down from the
train, the train should look like garbage yard not even
dustbin. Once or twice, I had fight with commuters for this,
they blasted out at me this is not your father’s train…..
hehehe…. of course, it is not J…. Southern railway is
keeping the trains clean only I never ever blame railways. (I
would like to write other bad things about railways some
other time)

When are our people going to learn to keep the city clean,
why don’t they think this is our land, and what ever the
government is spending, is our tax money.

We blame the government for not doing anything, it is

always easy to blame. There are so many things the
government is doing in the civic amenities, but we do not
use them properly and we neglect the hygienic part totally
out. Hygiene is a quite rare in Indians, we have been getting
worse than better.

Why… ….. are we not educating anything properly? Are we

selfish? Do we know any value about public properties? Are
we all getting uncivilized? We are ready to talk about things
which government is not doing to us, but are we not ready to
talk and protect the things that government is doing to us???
Too many questions ……
I am relived now after writing this post, I cannot stop
anything, but I can muse about it na J)) like a typical Indian,
who can talk but cant do anything in action …he he he..fair
enuf….

illusion or real

If we say, something is not there

Then there is nothing in there
But if we constantly
Hear there is something in there
Then someday
We come to believe
Something must be there
Words and thoughts
Always have some power
If we continue to hear and talk about them
Then the illusion,
Looks real!
It is fate
That, we humans are weak
To eliminate all in the first place
But, we learn the difference
In the end…!

---Meena.

Thank you god for your kindness at last!

Losing someone is not that easy

Seeing them suffering
Seeing them cry
All makes our heart tear apart

We feel useless
We feel desperate
Trying our hands on every possible way
To keep them comfortable

We know they are going to die

But we care
And we pray,
For two things….

Let them live peacefully

On the other hand, take them immediately
Bcoz we can’t stand them suffer
All sounds cruel...

However, the reality is horrible

Sleepless nights
Angry words
Painful cries

God is unkind at times

Finally
God decided to hear our plea
He took him

Thank you god for your kindness at last!

My chithappa(my father’s first younger bro) died

bcoz of liver cancer. We love him dearly, he is one of
the most wonderful and kindest person in the world…
his last wish was, the whole family has to stay with
him ….and we did that.. I am happy that we are all
close nit family and we as well fulfilled his last wish
that is the least we can do for him. All his brothers,
sister and his two daughters and son, 20 to 25 of our
family members stayed with him for 40days, last
month 22nd he died. He suffered too much pain
..Constant killing pain…. Finally, god had mercy on
him and took him.

He requested me many times, Meena give me

Morphine so I can pass away peacefully in my sleep
and he was a retired head pharmacist in the
government hospital. He told me few medicines that
can put him into peaceful sleep…. in other words,
mercy killing. I asked him only one question, tell me
did you ever mercy kill anyone, he said no. then I
said I cant also do that.....anyways, I told him
jokingly that I am going to write a thriller novel after
returning to my home about his elaborate medicine
talking’s.

Two days before he passed away, he asked me to hit

him on the head. I asked him, why chithappa, he said
so that I can pass away. I kissed him on the cheek
and playfully asked my cousin bro, pl, bring an iron
rod so I can hit him…. My uncle broke out into a
laugh, we all laughed, that was his last laugh. Then I
told him, we are praying for him that is the best we
can do for him, he said ok, then I am taking back my
words. That day, we all in fact had a goodtime
including my uncle, I am happy that i made him very
comfortable in talking about anything to me.
He does not want anyone to cry. He even cried
sometimes and after that, he laughed and said I am
like Shivaji the famous actor in Tamil movies.

Apart from writing about funny and sad things one

question is bothering me a lot…….
Why cannot government think about giving
morphine or any other drug to chronic ill patients?
They are suffering too much pain. In some way, I
support mercy killing. May be I sound cruel but I saw
three members of my family suffered from this
chronic illness.

P.S. My two months absence is due to this only. My

summer holiday started well but within one week all
turned up side down. Well, I will read others post
whenever I get time.

Thank you friends for your kind enquiries, I am happy

to come back to iland.

Meena.
Enlighten me...
I want to know the real reason - i want everyone to participate in this
wanderings i have been thro for long so long -

1. why are we born here - wat reason

2. why education - school - college etc etc etc
3. why all the bragging about rich - poor
4. why should we FALL in love and get hurt - to know wat
5. why should we go for work
6. why should we earn
7. why should we get married
8. why do we have to be parents
9. why again all that we went thro our kids should go thro -
10.why death - birth - nonsense around us all the time -
11. why should we go to temple / church / mosque etc etc
12. why caste system

FREINDS THESE STUFFS COMES TO ME EVERY NOW AND

THEN - AND WHEN I ASKED A FEW - THEY SAID LIFE IS ALL
ABOUT EXPERIENCE - I ASKED THEM - EXPER FOR WHAT -
LOOK MY POINT IS - WE EXPER ALL THIS AND DIE - I WILL
ACCEPT IF ALL THESE EXPER HELPS US IN OUR NEXT BIRTH -
ITS NOT GOING TO - AGAIN WE WILL BE BORN THE SAME MUFF
AND START OVER ALL AGAIN - SO LETS START A HEALTHY
DISCUSSION - NO FUN HERE FRIENDS - JUST PLAIN STRAIGHT
STUFFS..

good luck to all who read this - pls think

P.S. This is my old friend Rock agade’s post. I am posting this with his
permission… I am posting exactly the same post, not deleting or
editing anything....enjoy. This is his link rock agade

Dreams

Dreams

Delightful dreams
Playing inside the mind
Just imprison the pleasant thoughts
They are not settling in one place
And So many memorable thoughts
Elusive like the slippery eel
Every time heart beats more rapidly
When the thoughts draw closer
The faster the beat
Every cell senses the excitement
It is like electrifying shock
Stimulating and thrilling
Feel the tremors from head to toe
Jolting the nerves
Feel like singing
Desire to dance
Wish to hug
The thrill continues
Even if the dream ends
Again, dream… dream … dream
If the memories are good!!!
---Meena.

P.S. I think dream is the only thing in this world we

can get freely without anyone’s interruption…or we
can be disturbed by the calling bell….hehehe….
anyways, I dedicate this poem to my friends… Misty
and Neethu . They are always telling me to write
normal stuff or dreamy romantic poems.... so here it
is. I hope it is good...if not please, don’t blame me
girlsJ

Killing with Love

A few years ago, I came to know about a strange and

unusual "custom" that has been occurring in certain parts
of Tamil Nadu. It is called "Murder" with Love or Mercy
Killing - sorry its not even mercy killing...its a way adopted
to bring about peace within families and the "victim". In
villages and towns usually if any loved ones are taken ill
for a long time with no cure, or slip in to a coma or are too
old and weak - family members in an effort to end the pain
and suffering both of the patient and themselves - take
care of them. It is not about taking care, but about how
they can keep the patient comfortable and at the same
time relieve them of their agony forever.

They have adopted a nice loving custom, they call all the
relatives of the patient, saying that the loved one does not
wish to die bcoz they are expecting their favorite daughter
or son or whichever relation to come and give them milk or
water. Now I know this sounds weird, even I know this is
absurd -if they are unconscious they can't even think, how
come they are waiting for their loved ones to show up. No
need for any logic here...It is simple msg…. Let them go in
peace…

They all come and give milk to the patient. At some point
they die…The reason choking! The patient chokes bcoz
they are weak they cannot swallow much,- the milk enters
their lungs and they die, Sounds cruel but maybe for them
and their loved ones the best and only way to ease their
suffering.

Some of them are stronger and then instead of relatives

they call their best friends too to come and give more milk
- those who do this feel honored, because somehow they
are special to the patient.

Don't take me wrong, I am not saying it is a good way to

let anyone die. But this is a very rare custom in our society
(may be in some TN villages and towns) .Since there is
nothing these people can do by themselves - they would
have told of their wish to someone in their family and the
family is doing in its own way to take away the suffering.
We all wish one thing in this world that is we do not want
to suffer, if we have to die then we want to die without
suffering. It is the basic wish for anyone, but it is not
possible for all.

So it appears the custom was born - a simple custom and

if the person dies after being given milk by a particular
person, then the relatives praise that person saying the
patient loved the person so much that is why he waited all
this time for the person to give him milk or water. Believe
me friends, this statement makes them very proud of
themselves they think they are most loved person by the
dying person. Then it becomes the talk of the town , "this
and that, that this person died after his loving son or
daughter gave milk to him. They never let the person feel
guilty…that bcoz of them only the person died.

Many may disagree - but to me it appears to be a good

custom - the reason being the person does not have to
have a prolonged suffering - now will the family have to be
in suspense… Suffer, if they are unconscious or they
cannot intake anything...What is the use of living. It is hell
for them to live like that, that same applies to the person
who is taking care of them. I always admire some of our
Hindu customs and beliefs, it always holds some strong
truth and sometimes some stupid too.

This is my opinion and sometimes I think that I am too

cruel to support these customs, but to me I find it as
practical. Some families may use this to their advantage -
customs wrongly, but I am talking about people who follow
these customs so that their loved ones do not have a
prolonged suffering…………… Every coin has two sides!
 P.S. What ever I wrote here has occurred or is
occurring..i don’t know , I wrote what I heard.

Thanks, Moe anna for encouraging me to write about this

custom, which I do not want to write on and special thanks
for editing it too.
Sex education is important??? Or early marriage will solve this
problem???

Someone told me, “do u know what I tell my

friends this change of sex perversions….it is all
happening because of late marriage. In early
days, the marriage keeps them not to do any
illegal thing to some extent”.

But, I told that person, it is all happening

because of the mass media and also bcoz of
lack of proper education about sex.

I asked my hubby about this.. My hubby has

some good points.
He said it is not about late marriage, during
early era small villages had certain custom and
systems in their community, and everybody
knows everyone, they are afraid to do anything
against their community rule and they din’t
have the exposure like in the present world…..
Now too much exposure to TV, movies and
books…
Sex education is important??? Or early
marriage will solve this problem???

My personal opinion, sex education is

important. Parents are not ready to talk about
this to their kids, even I feel uncomfortable
talking about these things to my kids. So
through education it is possible. In view of the
fact, that this mass media and some
magazines really show nasty things…. Look at
every TV channel and movies, the extra marital
affairs is normal, sex is normal, changing
partners…. even seeing this again and again
makes kids rather even adults get comfortable
with the situation, and makes them think that
this is normal… I might be wrong. But, this
world is changing in a faster way with wrong
things….

I don’t think this early marriage will resolve

anything.

I don’t even know why I am writing this now…

this is a modern world...and …. Of course, now
independence is important, individuality is
important, freedom is important …but I want to
think about this, bcoz this early marriage is still
alive in India and sex perversion is spreading
its roots and branches here… and I am
wondering how we are going to save our
future generation from this relapse…. Sex
education??
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Directions (1-5): Study the following information carefully and answer the questions given below:
A, B, C, D, E, F and G are sitting around a circle facing at the centre. D is sitting between A and G.
second to the right of G and E is second to the right of F. C is not an immediate neighbor of G.
1. Who is to the immediate left of E?
1) A
2) C
3) F
4) Data inadequate
5) None of these

2. Which of the following is not correct?

1) G is second to the right of A
2) B is second to the right of D
3) F is second to the left of E
4) E is second to the left of D
5) All are correct

3. In which of the following groups the third members is sitting between the first and the second me
1) EAD
2) DGB
3) GFB
4) DAG
5) None of these

4. Who is sitting between C and A?

1) E
2) D
3) F
4) G
5) None of these

5. Who is to the immediate right of G?

1) F
2) D
3) B
4) Data inadequate
5) None of these

6. A student scores 55% marks in 8 papers of 100 marks each. He scores 15% of his total marks in
How much does he score in English?
1) 55
2) 66
3) 77
4) 44
5) None of these