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A Quick Guide to Relaxation and Wellbeing by Dora Francia
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Strategies Update
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ÎÎ Contact Information
Î Î Meditatio n
ÎÎ Legal Statement
Table of Contents
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A quick guide to relaxation and wellbeing.
ÎÎ Letters to the Editor
ÎÎ Your Monthly Assessmen t

Determine whether you are focusing too much on one part of your life and
neglecting others.
ÎÎ Growth in Mentorin g
Mentoring can be an excellent opportunity to learn new skills and apply the
knowledge immediately to any work related environment.
ÎÎ Goal Planning & Strategie s

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Overcome self-confidence issues and feelings of guilt in order to move forward.
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Men are not prisoners of fate,

but only prisoners of their own mind
† Franklin D. Roosevelt
Thirty-Second President of The United States (1933-1945)
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Editor’s Note. . . you afraid is because you don’t know what is on the other side of
How often does your FEAR get the the door. Or what lurks it the darkness. If you work in an office and
best of you? your boss or supervisor calls you into the office unexpectantly, do
you feel any anxiety? Only to find out it was nothing.
Have you ever wondered why you
have not been able to move toward Knowledge. Plain and simple. Try to recall all the times you was
your some of your accomplishments. afraid of doing something, for whatever reason. And for those times
you controlled your FEAR and did it, you saw how easy and fun it
I’m not sure if you have ever looked was. You probably thought, you should have done it sooner. But yet,
at it this way, but you are in con- FEAR to control of your life and determined the outcome for you.
stant battle with FEAR, to see who
will succeed in achieving their goal. To control your FEAR, find out what it is you are afraid of. Then go
FEAR has a goal, and it is aimed at and discover what you don’t know about that FEAR. Until you fully
you. understand what is manifesting that FEAR, you will always be held
back. And when you look back to see who is holding the chain keep-
The goal of FEAR is to keep you safe, ing you from your goal, you will only see yourself.
alive, and most importantly, to keep
you in your comfort zone. It doesn’t
matter what level in your life you LºK FM
(FEAR) > (S)

© Studio Mac Photography are in. FEAR will always be there,
and FEAR will always have the same
three goals.
I do believe many people underestimate the tools and resources

FEAR has. FEAR causes self-doubt, panic, stress, anxiety, sadness
and anger. These are serious tools that are used by FEAR when it
comes to derailing you at what you want to achieve. And you will
always know when FEAR is there. And so will everyone else around
fear is compounded by your lack of knowledge
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you. of-Fear-and-Self
But how do you control FEAR. I’m not sure if you can actually
conquer and remove FEAR, since it is a deep part of our psyche. I
do believe you can re-manifest the energy of FEAR to a lower form
the larger your fear is
to where you are more cautious than afraid. This is done by attain-
ing awareness followed by knowledge. Remember, most of the times
the slower your forward movement becomes
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Meditation A qui ck gui de to re lax ation and wellbeing

by Dora Francia
Life today requires so much, both on a personal and on a professional For many people it is simply not possible to incorporate more “duties”
level. into their already too strict and demanding lifestyle, which is why I rec-
We need to slow down at times, in order to get a sense of still having our ommend to start with just 1 minute in the morning and 1 minute in the
souls with us, in what we do and how we handle and manage our lives. evening.
Meditation is known as a component in almost all religions and has been Another good way that has proven very effective is 5 minutes before
practiced for more than 5000 years. sleep and 5 minutes, when you wake up, before you get out of bed.
Meditation means to think deeply or concentrate one’s mind. If you feel you have 30 minutes per day, it is even better, but remember it
It and can be used for spiritual purposes or simply as a way of relaxation. is not the amount of time you choose to use on your meditations, it is the
continuum and quality you put into it that brings about all the benefits
involved.
Brainwaves during Meditation
Several studies of meditation show that there are 4 main levels of brain
speed. Beginning to Meditate
Begin slowly with just a few minutes and then when you start to advance
The lowest is called Delta, here the brain oscillates at 0,5-4 cycles per sec-
and you become more confident with your new discipline, you can al-
ond. The Delta state is where you are normally unconscious.
ways expand the timeframe.
The next level is called Theta. In Theta your brain oscillates at 4-6 cycles
Meditation can be practiced in almost every situation of your daily rou-
p/s. This level is a state of trance or deep sleep.
tines since it has to do with you being present and aware.
Alpha is known as the R.E.M, Rapid Eye Movement, a dream state where
A good, simple and quick way to begin your meditation is by being aware
the brain is oscillating at 7-14 cycles p/s.
of your breathing. Try to keep your attention on your breathing all the
Every day life occurs in the Beta level, where the brain speed is app. 14-21 time, while meditating. Follow the breath in and out. Always start with a
cycles p/s. This is the state where you are fully awake. gentle slow and deep breath, hold it for a moment and then release it.
Always do this 3 times before you start to meditate, it will automatically
Raising your Energy slow down your breathing and allow you to go deeper within.
There are many ways to practice meditation, the most important thing
to remember is, that no matter which way you choose to do your daily One way to begin with meditation could be by sitting on a chair, with
practice, it just has to feel comfortable, relaxing and pleasant. The better it eyes closed, your feet touching the ground having your back straight.
feels, the easier it becomes to incorporate into your daily routines. Always follow your breath and keep focused on the inflow and outflow.
At the same time it also has to be a way that makes it possible for you to If you lie down, use the same techniques with your breath just be careful
do on a daily or regular basis. The practice will be more beneficent the not to fall asleep, since meditation only has to do with you staying awake
more regular you are. It is like the energy begins to know, when you “ar- all the time.
rive” and starts to build up energy for you.
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Your Monthly Assessment

The wheel of life allows you to determine whether you are focusing too much
on one part of your life and so neglecting others.
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When life is busy, or all your energy is focused on a special project, it’s all too
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Decide your degree of satisfaction from 1 to 10 and mark it on the relevant
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spoke. Now draw a line to join your degree marks together. How balanced is
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your life? Which areas make you happy, satisfied and fulfilled? Which areas
need improvement?
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Your result shows you the degree to which you are satisfied with your own
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level of balance in your life.
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How round is it? The rounder the wheel, the more balanced your life. If this 07
was a literal wheel on a car or bicycle, how smooth would the ride be? Pick
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one or two of the sections that you’d most like to see change in.
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If you’d like ongoing support for creating a plan to smooth out your Wheel, nce s &
consider hiring a coach. Interview at least three to find one who matches your 10 Friend
needs and your style. Feel free to contact me for ideas, resources, or referrals.
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Growth in Mentoring ...

by Crysaly Arias Aviles
The path to professional growth and ultimate success is the accumulation of within the company; and at ease with making new allies in the pursuit for
relevant skills that can be immediately applied to the context of a work envi- greater knowledge. However, both mentor and mentee should reciprocate
ronment. So how do we develop new skills at work without the necessity of a and foster a learning experience while both receiving a reward as teacher/
formal academic course? One method that comes to mind is mentoring. For guide and student/apprentice. In other words, the mentor wishes to give
those seeking to gain perspective in a specific area of a profession or transi- valuable knowledge and the mentee is eager to receive that knowledge for the
tory job will benefit from a mentor/mentee relationship without leaving the sake of achieving a greater end in personal or professional objectives.
convenient forum of a current work setting.
Mentor Matching
Key Element The checklist for finding a mentor can be a personal ordeal of matching
Many companies have formal mentor programs in place, however, many personalities. However there is also a basic recommendation that can be
still lack in this specific area of staff development. Growth within a company followed. When seeking a mentor the following factors should be taken into
begins with a key element that is called “willingness.” So long as the desire consideration:
to expand knowledge exists a formal or informal mentorship program will
yy Seek qualities that you are looking to take on.
prove to be an invaluable asset to marketability within a current employment
yy Define what you would like to learn.
endeavor or in the future when those skills can be cultivated further. For
yy Look at mentor competencies and exposure.
those who do not currently work for a company with a formal mentoring pro-
yy Engage with a mentor willing to provide feedback.
gram available, the option to engage in mentoring still exists provided that
the interested party takes the lead in the mentor/mentee relationship thereby yy Focus on the skill you are looking to gain.
demonstrating commitment to personal or professional growth. yy Evaluate mentor’s value system as compared to your own.
yy Be trustworthy and look for trustworthiness.
Roll of the Mentor yy Maintain consistent and open communication.
Generally speaking a mentor is a professional individual who can aid in an Once a mentor is selected, determining the measure of growth will be signifi-
employment pursuit that is mutually beneficial. The role of a mentor can cant. Ideally, a numeric system will be used to qualify the target skill: Where
include: assistance with job transition; personal and professional growth for is the skill now and where could it be in “X amount of time”? Setting dead-
business results; and is the individual in the mentor/mentee relationship who lines is important, but not necessary provided that both parties have commu-
delivers opportunities as they arise. In contrast, the role of a mentee will be nicated their availability for short-term or long term projects. The measure of
one of: goal oriented student, “networker” eager to find job opportunities growth is much more substantial as the mentee begins at a relatively insignifi-
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Goal Planning & Strategies

by Carlos Rafael Cruz
How is your project coming along. This year, as every year, has
flown by faster than you can realize it. With only 91 days left in
Today Is
the year, now is not the time to be slacking off. That is what De-
cember is for.
As an action month, you should be doing the following:
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• Implementing and exectuing all of your action and task items
without delay.
• Reviewing your strategy workflow on a daily basis.
• Looking at your goal mantra when you wake up and before
you go to sleep.
• Noting down all of your success and setbacks. You will have a
chance to review and analyze this information in more detail
during your strategy months. Just make sure you jot down as
much information as possible to help you later on down the
road.
• Writing down any questions you have concerning obstacles
you are facing during your journey and repeating them over
and over again before going to bed. Let your subconscious do 275 091
some of the work for you.
Wednesday
Project Implementation
And if you are stuck, or need reassurance, you need to setup an
appointment with The Evening Coach. NOW!
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Ask the Coach. . . to have doubts. Instead of questioning yourself, you should
Dear Carlos, be focusing on your strengths and work towards strengthing
I am about to re-enter the working world. I took four years off any weaknesses you feel you have.
while my children were babies and am about to start a part time Here is one exercise you can use to strengthen your weak-
job. I know I can do the work in my sleep. But I am having self
nesses. Write down all the things you are having doubts
confidence issues about it. I am also feeling some guilt, as it
about. This can include anything you feel you are inad-
will take some evenings and weekends away from my family.
equate about as well. Write these down in bullet format.
My husband says things like “it doesn’t matter if you work”.
Which sounds nice, but it really comes across as unsupportive.
Once you have quickly jotted these down, go ahead and
How do I get past the fears of going to work again? Kristine elaborate on each point you made. How can you justify
each one. Think about what do you need to do to improve
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yourself in this area. This exercise should also help to re-
Kristine, lieve any guilt you are feeling.
First let me congratulate you for having the courage and When it comes to communication, you really need to make
strength to move forward on such a major life-change. I can sure you understand the underlying message before you
only assume that this move you are taking, will later lead to
begin to assume anything. If you cannot ask your husband
you eventually working on a full time basis.
if he is really supportive of your efforts, then you need to
Suffering from low self-confidence is a part of life. Es- take his word that he is.
pecially, when you are going through a major life change
or challenge. If you are looking to raise your level of self- Your combination of low self-confidence and guilt can
confidence, you will need to start by thinking and speaking subconsciously work to undermine your efforts to becomse
in a positive manner. Make sure you are saying “I will do” successful at work by creating problems at home. This is
or “how am I going to ...” vice saying “will I ...” or “can I ...” dangerous as it can directly affect your marriage if it con-
As you continue to speak and think in a positive tone, your tinues to escalate.
actions will become aligned to support your achievements. Kristine, to get past your fears, acknowledge what you
Low self-confidence issues are one of the side effects of want to do. Identify, by writing down, what is holding you
taking chances. As you start to question yourself, you begin back. And create solutions to ensure your success.
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Meditation Mentoring
Continued From Page 5 Continued From Page 7
Benefits from Meditation cant level and develops the skill into a level that can be engaged in productivity
There are many benefits gained from meditation on a regular basis. to the benefit of the individual and company.
The most common results are stress and anxiety reduction, super charged
confidence and motivation. An accelerated healing of unresolved mental Mentoring Dynamics
and emotional blocks. Intuition starts to build up and you may begin to
have visions that can help you understand many of your life’s big ques- Once these elements are in place so begins the exchange of ideas between
tions. mentor and mentee thereby creating a dynamic work environment where the
Meditation also increases all your mental abilities, such as: focus, concen- mentor recognizes a level of expertise that he or she is willing to share with oth-
tration, enhanced learning and the control of your life. You will soon feel ers as an act of self acknowledgment and satisfaction with their general accom-
an improved sense of wellbeing and it will give you a more restful sleep, plishments in that area. Simultaneously, the mentee has a unique opportunity
which in return, gives you a less stressful day. You will also feel that prob- to learn from a veteran in the field who has learned from previous mistakes and
lem solving becomes easier since you begin to connect with your own
wants to “learn the ropes” from an expert or someone who has extensive expe-
creativity.
rience in that field. Notably, personality compatibility, skill assessment, reputa-
The reason why meditation offers so many benefits is because you begin to
dive in and reconnect with your subconscious, where all information and tion of the company and potential mentor will be relevant, but not as significant
knowing you will ever need, is stored. as developing skills within the structure that is already fostering an opportunity
Once you reconnect with this source through meditation, you soon discover to learn as income is earned.
that there is so much more within you, than you have ever dared to believe. The bottom line? Use a current employment opportunity to learn as much as
 you can from notable leaders in your company. The effort will be worthwhile
as skills increase and professional or personal development improve.
Dora Francia is the facilitator of several events and 

seminars held in France and Italy. Including meditation
workshops and fasting retreats, helping people regain
their inner strength and wisdom by first getting rid Crysaly first earned her paralegal certificate in 1995
of excess mental and physical pollution. She teaches and has been working in the legal field since. Crysaly
how to reconnect oneself easy and effectively by small holds an MBA degree and also undergrad degrees in
efforts. The techniques Dora uses are practices known Philosophy and Human Development.
throughout history with a simple approach, for the use
Currently, Crysaly is working in human resources/le-
and integration into daily life in a modern world. For more information
gal recruiting for a patent litigation firm and is a full
www.dorafrancia.com.
time student in pursuit of a Master of Theology.
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Lifestyle of Success Magazine

A Quick Guide to Relaxation and Wellbeing by Dora Francia

Learn New Skills Through Mentoring by Crysaly Arias Aviles

Goal Planning &

Ask the Coach

Click Here to Enter

volume 2 issue 3 a publication from A Path to Success.com

ÎÎ Editor’s Not e Info Section

ÎÎ Photography Copyright Notice

ÎÎ Your Monthly Assessmen t

ÎÎ Goal Planning & Strategie s

Men are not prisoners of fate,

(FEAR) > (S)

I do believe many people underestimate the tools and resources

Print Info ToC 4 of 12

Meditation A qui ck gui de to re lax ation and wellbeing

Your Monthly Assessment

Decide your degree of satisfaction from 1 to 10 and mark it on the relevant

Growth in Mentoring ...

Roll of the Mentor yy Maintain consistent and open communication.

Goal Planning & Strategies

Don’t Wait Any Longer

Dora Francia is the facilitator of several events and 

Photography Copyright Notice

Letters to the Editor

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