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Appearance of Team (Professionally dressed.) Opening statements were well organized. Team members addressed remarks to the audience. Opening statements were not read from cards. Both team members participated equally in opening statement. Students spoke loud enough to be heard. Rebuttal was specific to arguments made in the opposing teams opening statement. Both team members participated equally in the rebuttal. Answers to audience questions were well thought out. Respect was shown throughout the debate for the opposing team. (No name calling, interruptions, etc.)
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1. Sort out What happened Where does your story come from (information, past experiences, rules)? Theirs? What impact has this situation had on you? What might their intentions have been 2. Understand Emotions Explore your emotional footprint, and the bundle of emotions you experience 3. Ground Your Identity Whats at stake for you about you? What do you need to accept to be better grounded? Step 2: Check your purposes and Decide Whether to Raise the Issue Purposes: What do you hope to accomplish by having this conversation? Shift your stance to support learning, sharing, and problem-solving.Deciding: Is this the best way to address the issue and achieve your purposes? Is the issue really embedded in your Identity Conversation? Can you affect the problem by changing your contributions? If you dont raise it, what can you do to help yourself let go? Step 3: Start from the Third Story 1. Describe the problem as the difference between your stories. Include both viewpoints as a legitimate part of the discussion. 2. Share your purposes. 3. Invite them to join you as a partner in sorting out the situation together. Step 4: Explore Their Story and Yours Listen to understand their perspective on what happened. Ask questions. Acknowledge the feelings behind the arguments and accusations. Paraphrase to see if youve got it. Try to unravel how the two of you got to this place. Share your own viewpoint, your past experiences, intentions, feelings. Reframe, reframe, reframe to keep on track. [cf. page 204] From truth to perceptions From accusations to Intentions and impact From blame to contribution From Judgments, Characterizations to feelings From Whats wrong with you to Whats going on for them Step 5: Problem-Solving
Invent options that meet each sides most important concerns and interests. Look to standards for what should happen. Keep in mind the standard of mutual caretaking; relationships that always go one way rarely last. Talk about how to keep communication open as you go forward