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(Many people think that they will find happiness when they are married. The truth
is, without God filling that deep, inner void, people never find the level of
happiness they desire.)
It isn't too difficult to pick up. Notice how people take each other for granted,
how couples fight, or how there is gossip and back biting within a large social
group. Having people in and around your life is not the ultimate answer to
happiness. Having people in and around your life is a gift that God gives to
compliment the happiness that should come from Him first. Ultimate and perfect
happiness can only come from knowing God intimately. Once a person knows God
intimately, and they have that inner contentment, composure and confidence, then
they are in the ideal position to enjoy the gifts that God gives in the form of
families, relationships, marriage, and friendships with people around them.
Each person has a loneliness that only God can fill, (See picture above) each
person has unspoken secrets that can only be revealed to God, and each person has
a missing component in their happiness that can only be experienced as they follow
God. People who are alone need to be conscious of the fact that when they take the
step toward filling up this first and foremost need, experienced by all humans,
the lonely and those who aren't lonely, they will be blessed with a measure of
happiness that not many people find. Here are practical ways to deal with
loneliness, find this measure of happiness, and enjoy an excellent quality of
life:
All these people keep searching indefinitely, constantly striving for something
else, but not finding the level of happiness they want. In times gone by, God
often drew men into isolation in order to get closer to Him. He led Moses into the
wilderness for 40 years to get him ready to lead the people of Israel out of
Egypt. He allowed Joseph's brothers to sell him into slavery in a distant, foreign
land for many years, and then be in prison for 3 or more years after that. David
tended sheep all alone in the pastures, and later went into hiding from Saul for
many years. John the Baptist preached from the wilderness where he lived, and
Jesus himself worked alone for many years, and then had to spend 40 days alone in
the wilderness before he started his ministry. After Paul's dramatic conversion,
he spent time alone in the desert of Arabia before he actively started his
ministry. John was banished to the isle of Patmos, where all alone, he was given
the book of Revelation. Being in a situation of isolation and being alone is not
to be seen in a negative light. The need that God created inside of each person to
be in an intimate relationship with his or her Creator, should be fulfilled first.
When this need is met, the person who is alone is at the best point to draw other
people towards themselves, to understand the needs of others, and to be content
even if they only have a relationship with God alone. God places reminders
everywhere of His Supreme Creatorship. His signature is everywhere as a ceaseless
reminder that by His Word He can speak miracles and marvelous wonders into
existence.
As was mentioned in the article on being "Alone or Lonely," so many people enter
relationships or marriage in order to find happiness. They put so much pressure on
that other person to make them happy, that they literally suck the energy and
vitality from the other person--this is because they don't have the primary or
fundamental happiness first before they enter any type of relationship. This
happiness, as we said above, comes only from an intimate relationship with God.
So, when a person is forced by circumstances out of their control, into being
alone, it would be helpful to take the first crucial step that all people need to
take--to build an intimate, daily, committed relationship with God. Letting go of
the automatic panic that follows these new circumstances of being alone, and
allowing God's still small voice to speak, to soothe, and to strengthen until
there is a new tenacity and fervor to live a happy life irrespective of our
circumstances.
The second very powerful way to dispel self pity by focusing too much on self, is
to sit up and take note of the other people living in the world. The world is full
of lonely people. Satan attacks a person who lives alone to think that they are
the only one going through this agony. When a person who is alone steps out beyond
their immediate small isolated world and looks a little further, they will
encounter countless other people, more lonely than they are. Yes, somehow
circumstances causing loneliness and isolation have changed the lives of many many
people out there. What happens when one person who is alone, finds another person
who is alone, and they become friends? The answer is, both people aren't lonely
anymore. So, together with becoming intimate friends with God, the other practical
way out of loneliness is to consciously go and find other lonely people.
Retirement homes, hospitals, homes for the handicapped, prisons, orphanages, and
youth detention facilities are all filled with hurting, lonely people. Then there
are the singles web sites, and countless other people who live and work around
people everyday, that are desperately lonely. The therapy found in helping someone
else out of their desperate situation is remarkable. A person who is alone, who
takes on this mission in their lives, will not be lonely anymore. By making the
decision to get out and help others, the person who is alone will suddenly have
left their life of loneliness behind forever.
Businesses can close, marriages can breakup, people can die, whole lives with
possessions and dwellings can disappear in earthquakes or severe storms. The only
hope man has is that the One who created him is true to His Word to recreate and
renew his life and happiness at the beginning of each day in the present, and
recreate and renew this lost world in the future. In order to experience the
miracle of the Creator’s commitment to daily recreation and renewal, (see 2
Corinthians 4:16), learn how to get to know God by building your life around
spending time alone with Him in prayer, meditation, and study of the same powerful
Word that spoke the universe and this earth into existence.
People know people, friends have family, families know other families who have
other friends . . . and before long, God can work through this network of love, to
bring the ideal mate for someone. God's hands are tied by a person who sits
sulking in solitude, bound and bewildered by hopelessness and self pity. God works
miracles in the lives of those who, putting their own desires and needs aside,
build their lives around getting to know Him, and then working for the happiness
of those people around them.
(God has the name of each person's perfect partner already picked out . . . it's
just up to each person to persist in their trust and daily commitment to becoming
one and staying one with God).