In-Syncness the State of Being

Adopt the In-Syncness philosophy of life and experience a new way of thinking, speaking and being. This book is a must read for every leader, manager, salesperson, counselor, coach, mentor, politician, and every person who is battling any form of behavior that is sabotaging their effectiveness. The heart of the book is a nine word Declaration that instantly shifts your inner state of being from conflict (also known as Psychological Reversal) to In-Syncness. When in-sync, you will be amazed at how effectively you think, speak and conduct your daily activities. This radical yields greater efficiency and effectiveness in all your relationships and your workplace endeavors. Check out the section on how to Tap-Out contaminates. Also note there is a Progress Guide that is ideal for individual study and group discussion.

Contents
Introduction ........................................................................ 7 Chapter 1The One You Feed .............................................. 11 Chapter 2Foundational Truths ........................................... 13 Chapter 3Contaminates ..................................................... 16 Chapter 4A Mind in the Heart ............................................ 20 Chapter 5Declaration of In-Syncness ................................. 24 Chapter 6For Such a Time as This ...................................... 31 Chapter 7Decree the Proclamations .................................. 34

In-Syncness Proclamations
Proclamation 1Excellence ................................................... 37

Proclamation 2 Proclamation 3 Proclamation 4 Proclamation 5 Proclamation 6 Proclamation 7 Proclamation 8 Proclamation 9 Proclamation 10 Proclamation 11 Proclamation 12 Proclamation 13 Proclamation 14 Proclamation 15 Proclamation 16 Proclamation 17 Proclamation 18 Proclamation 19 Proclamation 20 Proclamation 21 Proclamation 22 Proclamation 23 Proclamation 24 Proclamation 25 Proclamation 26 Proclamation 27 Proclamation 28 Proclamation 29 Proclamation 30 Proclamation 31

Love and Light ........................................ 41 Living the Golden Rule ........................... 46 Words from the Heart ............................ 49 My Life is a Seed ..................................... 53 Every Word Counts................................. 57 High Frequency Living ............................ 61 See, Hear, Think ..................................... 65 Discernment Not Judgment ................... 71 Quick and Slow ....................................... 74 The Perfect Person ................................. 80 Parallel Communications ....................... 84 Relinquishing the Past ............................ 90 Regardless of Circumstances ................. 94 Plan and Prioritize .................................. 99 Faith and Hope .................................... 104 Stewardship ......................................... 108 Life in Spirit .......................................... 112 In-Syncness at Home............................ 115 Prevailing Over Weaknesses ................ 121 Forgiving Others................................... 126 Connected to Source 130 Perpetual Prosperity ............................ 133 Health and Wholeness ......................... 139 Barrier of Protection ............................ 145 Politically Astute................................... 149 Fourth-Degree Knowing ....................... 152 Truth Detector...................................... 155 The Real You......................................... 159 Tap-It-Out ............................................. 162 Wholeness Via Tapping ........................ 165

In-Syncness Tap-Outs
In-Syncness Tap-Outs ..................................................... 171

Spread In-Syncness
Spread In-Syncness ......................................................... 201

Progress Guide
Progress Guide ................................................................ 207

Appendix
Test to Determine Conflict or In-Syncness ..................... 257 Videos on Website .......................................................... 261 In-Syncness Proclamations ............................................. 263 Share Your Experiences .................................................. 265 About the Author ............................................................ 265

In-Sync Kids
In-Sync Kids ..................................................................... 267

Introduction
At every moment, regardless of race, religion or status in life, each of us is either in-conflict or in-sync. When we are in-conflict, our hearts and minds are compelled by SELF: the arrogant, selfish, defiant spirit of Me, Myself and I. When we are in-sync, our hearts and minds are in alignment with Divine Love, the source of all that is good. Raging within each of us is an on-going battle between Self and Divine Love. When Self is on the throne of our heart we are in-conflict. When Divine Love prevails, we are insync. It is when In-Syncness becomes the norm that we experience greater peace, joy, clarity and prosperity. The

authors hope is that In-Syncness will become your normal way of life. Above all else, In-Syncness is a state of being and essential if you want to make beneficial changes in yourself, your health, your relationships, your career, and in the amount of wealth you accumulate. To consistently experience a state of In-Syncness, say the Declaration presented in chapter five. The sequencing and inherent power of the words will recalibrate your heart from conflict to In-Syncness. As you open your mind and heart to follow the precepts in this book, you will be amazed at the positive changes that begin to occur in your thinking, attitudes, desires, word choices, and interactions with others. The book is divided into four sections. The first intention is to GET IN-SYNC, the second is to STAY IN-SYNC, the third is to TAP-OUT conflicting contaminates, and the fourth is to SPREAD IN-SYNCNESS.
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The book begins with seven chapters of basic information to help you comprehend In-Syncness as a state of being, as well as to help you GET IN-SYNC. As you come to better understand the life-altering benefits of In-Syncness, you will be increasingly attracted to this state of being. In chapter five, you will discover a powerful nine word Declaration that instantly recalibrates your heart from conflict to InSyncness. This paradigm shift sets the stage for positive changes in your thoughts, choice of words, relationships, desires and behavior.

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Next, you will acquire knowledge of a philosophy of life that integrates the transformational power of the Declaration with practical perspectives and strategies that comprise the thirty-one Proclamations. The lifealtering changes that you implement will help you STAY IN-SYNC. Section three is a list of IN-SYNCNESS TAP-OUTS. Each of the contaminates that are to be tapped-out is linked in conjunction with the contents of the book. By the time you get to section four, it is assumed that you will have become pleased with your new lifestyle. It is time to share your success with others--attend our webinars, read our blog, follow us on Twitter, join our social network and help SPREAD IN-SYNCNESS to people everywhere. Never doubt that a small group of thoughtful, committedcitizens can change the world. Indeed, it is the only thing that ever has. Margaret Mead

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A Progress Guide, prepared for personal or group study, is in the Appendix. The questions follow the same sequence as the book and provide an opportunity to create greater insights into In-Syncness not only as a state of being, but also as an enduring way of life.

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Chapter 1

The One You Feed

One evening an elderly Cherokee Indian told his grandson about the ongoing battle between two wolves inside us.

One wolf is mean-spirited, conniving and selfish; the other is kind, caring and benevolent. The grandson thought for a minute and asked, Which wolf wins? The wise old Indian replied, The one you feed. One day a grandmother told her granddaughter about the battle between two parrots inside each of us. One parrot says negative, debasing things to and about others. The other parrot speaks positive, valuing, curative words to and about others. The young girl thought for awhile and then asked, Which parrot will win the argument? Grandma replied, The one you feed. The Bible tells of the battle between two opposing forces within each of us, Self and Spirit (Divine Love). SELF is arrogant, erratic, selfish, and lustful. Divine Love is gentle, disciplined, giving and virtuous. The force that prevails is the one you feed.

The force that prevails is the one you feed.

Eskimos often kill wolves by capitalizing upon their uncontrollable lust for blood. When an Eskimo wants to kill a wolf, he coats a razor sharp knife with blood, freezes it and repeats the process until there is about a half-inch of blood frozen to the knife. Then he implants the knife blade-up in the snow. During the night, the wolfs keen sense of smell draws him to the bloody knife. Yielding to his appetite for blood, the wolf feverishly licks the bloody knife until he has licked it clean. Now satisfied, the wolf leaves. However, to his surprise, he discovers that his own tongue is cut to shreds; much of the blood he consumed was his own. Later that

night, in some remote place, the weakened wolf collapses and dies. Strewn throughout your daily interactions are bloody knives just as deceptive and potentially dangerous. When you are in-conflict, your thinking is under the influence of your folly/fear-based beliefs; you are more likely to take the bait offered by others, live a fantasy, say things you later regret, make flawed plans, and act in a manner detrimental to yourself and others. The opposite of conflict is In-Syncness, a state of being in which Divine Love permeates your inner being. When Divine Love prevails, your thinking is under the influence of your virtuous beliefs; you think more effectively, speak in a more kindly and thoughtful manner, make better decisions, experience more rewarding relationships, and enjoy greater success in your endeavors.
I reject conflict and embrace In-Syncness When SELF becomes self and I purposefully choose to align with Divine Love. choose to align with Divine Love.

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Chapter 2

Foundational Truths
I wrote this book from my heart, the heart of one who understands the ongoing battle between Self and Divine Love. The tenets presented in this book will provide you with a clear understanding of the human condition as

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For much of my adult life, I was driven by an endless list of things to do, people to see and stuff to obtain. But in 1995, I discovered some truths that made such intellectual and theological sense that they altered my views about the human condition. Not only were the concepts vital in spawning the behavioral changes I desired, but I also perceived them as practical, relevant truths that could help liberate countless individuals from spiritual lethargy or deception. Had you known me before I discovered these truths, you would want to know what happened to create such change. This book conveys the process God used to orchestrate a softening of my heart that resulted in a major transformation of my thoughts, choice of words, desires and behavior. The following are the six foundational truths upon which the universal concepts of In-Syncness are based:
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In-Syncness and conflict are the chosen words to depict the moment-by-moment status of our heart and mind. The clinical term for conflict is psychological reversal. At every moment, regardless of race, religion or position in life, ones state of being is either conflict or In-Syncness. Each of us is laden with a unique array of folly/fearbased beliefs we call contaminates; when we are inconflict, our contaminates influence our thoughts, attitudes, words, desires, and behavior.

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Each of us is blessed with a unique array of virtuous beliefs; when we are in-sync, our virtuous beliefs influence our thoughts, attitudes, words, desires, and behavior. When we are in-sync, our hearts and minds are influenced by Divine Love. As light dispels darkness, Divine Love quells our contaminates and liberates our virtuous beliefs. It is likely that 99% of people are in-conflict 99% of the time.

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We Shift Into Conflict When We

Devalue others with demeaning thoughts, words, behavior, Lessen ourselves with detrimental thoughts, words, actions, Criticize or judge a person or an event, Violate a living creature/thing, or pollute the environment, Touch an item or person having an evil vibration, Violate a biblical command, precept or standard, Consume alcohol or other drugs in excess, Watch, read or listen to decadent material.

We Reinstate In-Syncness When We

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Audibly or inaudibly say the In-Syncness Declaration.

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Express or receive love in thought, word or deed. Love neutralizes all fear (contaminates). Ask forgiveness for any of the thoughts, words or acts that catapult us into conflict.

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In-Syncness is a two-part process: (1) A state of being; (2) the process of thinking, speaking, doing and feeling in congruence with the time-tested beliefs, principles and teachings that are presented throughout the Chapters and in the Proclamations.

We Maintain In-Syncness When We

Audibly or inaudibly say the In-Syncness Declaration. Consistently align with Divine Love; the only force that hasthe power to trump the spirit and power of folly/fear-based beliefs (contaminates). Aggressively eradicate fear/folly beliefs and replace them with proven success principles and strategies. Know that the enemy is a hardened, contaminated heart that desires to exalt SELF rather than being ruled by Divine Love. Choose to reject conflict and embrace In-Syncness. Strive to fearlessly and enthusiastically pursue a tender heart. Know that God recalibrates our heart and mind every time we decree the Declaration. Share In-Syncness with others.

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Proclamation 4

Words from the Heart

God, orchestrate everything I think, say, do and feel; I only speak positive, valuing, restorative words. When I began my In-Syncness journey, I instinctively knew I had to immediately change my choice of words. From that day forward, I have tried to not say anything mean, negative, demeaning or discouraging to anyone. One of my daily goals is never to say a word that I will later regret. I also refuse to pass on any e-mails that degrade or malign others. At this time, I usually attain these goals; however, I still guard my heart and monitor my words/e-mails on a moment-by-moment basis. If you are serious about In-Syncness, make choosing proper words your top priority. Also join me in keeping your tongue away from any of the following: Gossip is like soap, mostly lye. Demeaning Words leave people diminished. Lies are a coward's way of experiencing life. Abrasive Speech has sharp edges that often hurt others. Profanity is an indictment of the scantiness of ones vocabulary. Boasting is a trap; when we sing our own praises we get the tune too high. Most of our speech is habitual and thoughtless; out of the overflow of the heart the mouth speaks. Words

spontaneously bubble-up from the heart and easily roll across our tongue. The following are some common habits of speech as well as their underlying motives that hinder us in our attempt to speak sensible, positive, valuing, restorative words.
Habits of Speech Interrupt others so we can speak. Speak when not necessary. Lies and foolish words. Harsh and profane words. Words that diminish others. Words of no interest to others. Words we later regret. Words that leave a negative impression. Words that take us places we really dont want to go. Motive pride need attention carnality anger insecurity narcissism arrogance insensitivity foolishness

As my choice of words and manner of speech began to change, I found myself becoming kinder and gentler in attitude and demeanor. My commitment to say the right things was feeding upon itself and favorably impacting all of my life. In 2000, I set a daily goal to never say a word that I wish I could retract. I am not always 100% with my speech, but taming the tongue is easier than you could ever imagine. You can radically alter your choice of words when you: Frequently decree the Declaration of In-Syncness. Decide to speak to others as if they were you. Stop saying anything you wouldnt want said to you. Refuse to say toxic words regardless of circumstances. Strive to progressively soften your contaminated heart.

The battle with the tongue is won gradually. You will be amazed how quickly you can alter your choice of words when you decide to talk to others as if they are you. If you want to rejuvenate your marriage; make a pact with your spouse to never say a cutting or demeaning remark to each other. Your body usually goes where your words take you. When your tongue is right, you will minimize toxic relationships and unproductive endeavors. Win the battle with your tongue and you will prevail in every facet of life. Any person, who claims to be religious and does not bridle his tongue, deceives his own heart. This persons religion is hollow. In your heart, you already know the right things to say and how best to relate to others. You know that positive, uplifting words make for better relationships than negative, demeaning, words. Yet, when you are inconflict, your desires to say the right words are sabotaged by your contaminates. But when you are in-sync, Divine Love trumps your contaminates and enables you to say positive, valuing, restorative words. To help improve your word choice, imagine that for the next seven days the person you respect the most is present during every conversation. Then you will only say things that please your friend. Take note of the immediate transformation that occurs in your word choice and delivery. You may want to extend the seven days to a month, a year or even a lifetime. These six guidelines will help you evaluate the appropriateness of your comments: Am I being truthful? 2. Are my comments necessary?
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Are my words demeaning the other person? 4. Am I interrupting another so I can speak? 5. Am I attempting to draw attention to myself? 6. Am I judging or gossiping?
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When these guidelines become your norm, you will discover that half of what you ordinarily say is unnecessary. When you eliminate that half, others will like you better because they get to talk more. We have two ears and only one mouth that we might listen twice as much as we speak. Make the ratio at least two to one in favor of asking questions versus making comments. As powerful as words are, non-verbal factors often exert a greater impact. Harsh words accompanied by a harsh look make for a harsher impact. Good words accompanied by a harsh look also make for a harsh impact. To see this depicted, go to www.insyncness.comto view Communications video. When speaking, it is never to our advantage to scowl or point our finger at others, as if we are speaking on behalf of God. These are acts of intimidation and manipulation that alienate the intelligent. Instead of being harsh or judgmental, let us strive to speak the truth in love. People who are in-sync dont speak at people; they speak topeople. Only then can our words penetrate the heart of the hearer. Words that penetrate the hearts of others are usually whispered--not shouted. Whether you are a minister, school teacher, politician, salesperson, manager or laborer, saturate your sentences with love and

compassion. If you speak with the tongues of men and of angels, but do not demonstrate love, you are but a noisy gong or a clanging cymbal.
I reject conflict and embrace In-Syncness When I speak positive, valuing, restorative words.

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Proclamation 29

The Real You

God, orchestrate everything I think, say, do and feel; I am open to new and innovative ways to better myself. Early in this book, you learned that when you are inconflict, your contaminates (negative beliefs) dominate and your prime interest is SELF. When that is the case, you are more apt to think erroneously, say inappropriate words and do things that are not in your best interest. Before discovering the impact of four containments/what you actually believe, remember most of your contaminates were introduced during gestation and childhood--times when you could not fully understand the implications of actions by people who didn't always have your interests in mind. It is likely that you believe you want to succeed, and not fail in your career. You probably also assume that there is nothing inside you that would hinder you from succeeding.

Lets use the Truth Detector and see what you really believe regarding these statements: You are now going to repeat the exercise you did when you tested your arm strength in relation to your name. However, this time, instead of saying your name, you will say one of the following statements as written. Speak each one and note the strength of your arm:

I want to fail I am a failure I need to fail I am not good enough I dont deserve a good life I dont want to be successful I fear doing life I hate myself

Strong arm means statement is true. Weakened arm means statement is false.
Your arm probably remained strong on at least five of the eight statements. Remember, you are not measuring what your conscious mind believes to be the truth; you are measuring the contaminated folly/fear thoughts and intentions of your heart and sub/unconscious mind. Think of each contaminate as one of 40,000 strands that comprise a six-inch round rope that runs from your heart to your head. Each strand (contaminate) represents a folly/fear-based belief. Collectively they are a powerful negative force that fuels your thoughts, prompts your words, compels your desires, and drives your behavior.

When seeking better physical health, the first priority is to detoxify the body. The same is true when seeking attitudinal, verbal and behavioral change prompted by contaminates. The In-Syncness method to detoxify oneself from corrupting contaminates is to speak specific words while simultaneously tapping the side of the hand. This process is similar to using the delete button on your keyboard to remove data from a file. Once you highlight the data and hit the delete button the data is gone. Even though the data is erased from the file, technically it still exists on the hard drive. The same phenomenon occurs when you tap-out a faulty belief. You highlight the data by speaking the specific words; you hit the delete button by tapping the side of your hand. Note: As with the computer, even though the neurological connection is disengaged (tappedout/deleted), technically, the precipitating event still exists somewhere in your memory (hard drive). Biochemist Dr. Merrill Garnett says, Our body is actually composed of particles and waves of energetic light vibrating at various frequencies and traversing six clearly defined pathways called meridians. The meridians of our body are like a power grid in which electricity travels clearly defined routes. When a foreign object intersects the electrical power grid, it short circuits the system and interrupts the flow of electricity. The same short circuiting process occurs when we say the prescribed words and properly tap the energetic pathway alongside of the hand. At that moment, the proper

neurological connections of the targeted contaminate are short-circuited and disengaged from the master grid. Thus, the contaminate no longer triumphs. It is our contaminates that foster stinking thinking, compel us to say negative and demeaning things, as well as induce us to do many things we later regret. In addition, our contaminates feed inappropriate feelings that act as deterrents to good. With this in mind, would you like to rid yourself of the contaminates that are housed in your cellular memory and causing all of your behavioral and relational challenges? If so, soon you will learn a tapping process that when combined with the proper words leads to positive changes in the way you think, speak, behave and feel.
I reject conflict and embrace In-Syncness When I open my mind to innovative and proven ways to attain In-Syncness.

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