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This article provides a perspective on addiction, and guides you on how to end suffering. on track for years, slowly working off the drive towards addiction as they re-educate themselves to a new way of coping with life yet never really doing the deep healing that would set them free and tolerating a life of being an addict. For some luckier ones, they might reach a stage at some point when the latent drive towards addictions eases off. What drives addictive behaviours is a deep feeling of not having enough of something or other. This feeling can come from unresolved emotions, unhealed traumas and losses, giving rise to a state of unwholeness in the pit of an individual. In our attempt to cope with this feeling, we reach out to all kinds of things to make us feel better. When we do this excessively and were unable to stop, were said to be addicted. Almost everybody suffers from this unwholeness. Almost everybody is addicted to something. Addiction is not confined to drug and alcohol taking; just in the dimension of computers and internet alone, you can be addicted to checking emails, Skyping, Facebook, playing Free Cell, etc. I was in a session with a client at my centre the other day when I witnessed the precise moment when suffering ended. It was breathtaking. In that moment, I saw the endless grasping the controlling, fixing, righting whats not right, perfecting whats imperfect, knowing whats not known, searching for answers STOP. In my work as an addiction therapist, my job is to lead people to the edge of the door beyond which lies their heart waiting to awaken, and guide them to travel through that door and emerge the other side as their authentic self. For most people, recovery from addiction is a long journey, since the addictive behaviour is the outermost expression of many layers of imbalance and conventional treatment for addictions tend to focus on the most apparent symptoms first. As a result, people can spend years in therapy and never really get to the deepest source of their imbalance. Some might manage to stay Addiction is a behaviour that is acted out excessively and you feel as though you cant stop that behaviour. You can also be addicted to being in pain and anxiety where your thoughts are continually generating those states of being. The thoughts which you have trained yourself to run in a repeated loop are what you cant stop, trapping you in pain and anxiety. Therefore, addiction and suffering are synonymous. Suffering is when you try to get out of something or towards something, and feeling as though you cant change the situation. Like many people, my client had spent most of his life being in suffering. A painful past and an addiction to feeling bad were the sources of his long-term suffering. He had undergone treatment for addictions a number of times throughout his life but the deepest source of his discomfort within himself was still plaguing him.
Through our guidance, he had gone to the deepest, darkest places which hed been too scared to go in the past. Armed with admirable courage and complete trust in our guidance, he had forayed into the depths and reclaimed parts of himself by stretching the capacity of his heart to love and forgive those whod wronged him. The power that came back to him was so palpable that it imbued the room with an electrifying presence. As the sense of separation dissolved, replaced by a merging with the light that was revealed to him beneath the human dramas, he said: I am full, filled with the most incredible energy. and it is all mine, it comes from me. This, to me, is the heart of addiction work. That emptiness, hollowness, void, deep loneliness or whatever it is called, must be filled from within in order for addiction to stop. Otherwise, the drug is only going to be replaced by another drug. Maybe its alcohol, pills, relationships, exercising, Tweeting or anything that seems to be a lesser evil but is nonetheless a drug in disguise. It is not so much that the addiction is bad for you. It is that the gem it can point you to lays forever buried. Like a pebble in your shoe it pokes at you to get your attention but you spend the rest of your life trying to ignore it, yet putting up with the discomfort. If you stopped walking and examined the pebble you might find out what wondrous gifts it contains.
even if temporarily, you break that strand of web and free up a pocket of power. This pocket of power will return to you as you move forward in a direction of higher vibration. Maybe you notice a certain colour in a painting that is your favourite shade. As you focus on it, you notice the same shade jumping out from a few other places and catching your attention. You may start to feel a sense of richness evoked in you as you admire the shade, and you feel a certain openness in you as though the world seems a little less bleak now. As you do this, you still battle with the sticky web that tells you that you havent finished with your suffering, that theres more suffering to be done. At this point, you can yield to the sticky web or you can push through to move into an increasingly expansive state. By staying with the opened feeling, you will start to notice other things that can give you more positive feelings. You may remember that you have people who are loving and supportive in your life, or the opportunities you do have to create happiness.
that youd automatically consume a substance to numb you of that pain, you now find that it doesnt bother you that much and you can cope with it calmly. At the end of the day, what it means is that you are free. Free from all these torments that make you feel uneasy within yourself. Free from the constant need to right an injustice because you cant bear the deeper feelings inside you which youre afraid to face when you give up your personal crusade. Freed from all these low-level struggles, bullshit, pretenses and dramas, you can allow the full force of your highest self to embody you. Who you are, is not who you think you are and that is very good news.