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Presidents Message
By Henry Penas
Whos That Hottie?

By Doug Kent
Well, its definitely autumn and some of our snowbirds have returned. We had a good turnout at the November general meeting. Our guest speaker Dr. James Dwyer spoke to us about all of the screenings and vaccinations we need to be aware of as we age. His presentation was clear, concise and humorous. He was a big hit once again. I could tell that some of our members are patients of his and I noticed that their interactions with him were casual and friendly. I hope he will return in the future to share more of his knowledge. Most of the speakers we had in 2010 were selected to address the topics you suggested on the Prime Timer survey you responded to last year. I will continue to find speakers and agencies that are knowledgeable about those issues. In January our guest speaker will be Chris Place. He will be talking about a range of Senior LGBT programs that are available in our community. In February we will hear from Steve Hurwitz on financial planning. Your feedback is important because it helps me focus on the subjects in which you are most interested. Special mention: The idea of having a Thanksgiving Dinner in November came from Arthur Marquardt at a board meeting some months ago. I presented the idea to Jerry Kasden and he found two restaurants that were interested in doing it. He chose Tropics, because they were eager to do it and because Jerry knows that many of us are regular patrons of the bar and restaurant there. What no one expected was the size of the response. A record-breaking seventy-nine people!! And not a Puritan among us.
Los Angles, San Francisco, Chicago, Miami and boating should be all you need to identify this months Hottie. Here are a few more helpful hints. Born December 25, 1922 at 3PM, he was the only child that year to ruin his doctors Christmas dinner. Raised in Chicago, he attended public schools with no major mishaps, graduated from Hyde Park High School in 1940. His father was a civil engineer and his mother was a concert pianist. Both were avid sailors and our hottie acquired his nautical blood from them. He insists that he was never seasick because his mother rode across Lake Michigan in high seas while pregnant with him. He spent his summers on the familys 32 foot yawl on Lake Michigan and became an accomplished sailor. He has never allowed sailing to drift far from his life. The summer after high school he went to live with his aunt, whose husband was an assistant director for 20th Century Fox in Los Angles, where fate would have it that he was asked to be in a movie called Yesterdays Heroes. He returned home to enroll at the University of Chicago to study business. The war however, interfered with his education and he entered the Army Air Corps and did his basic training in Miami Beach. After basic training he trained at Hamilton Field in California in the Weight and Balance School. He was assigned to Guadalcanal and then New Caledonia during the war. With the world at peace he returned to the University of Chicago and completed his undergraduate and graduate degrees in business. His major was accounting and finance which served him well throughout his career and life. His first position was with Emporium Capwell Company, a well known
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December Birthday Boys
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December Birthdays
John Patrick Connolly Donald Carbon Howard Paris Peter LaBerteaux Mike Golin Michael Morrow George Schneider Chuck Wirth William Feckete Henry Penas Richard Huitema Ronald Catena Sean Phou Ed Guhde Leonard Dennick Marshall Nanninga William Derrick Kenneth Langbauer 12/2 12/3 12/7 12/7 12/8 12/15 12/16 12/17 12/17 12/20 12/20 12/20 12/21 12/22 12/24 12/25 12/26 12/27
New Members
John Patrick Connolly David Hardie Alain Lecusay Jamie Mitchell Lloyd Parsons John Petrisin Daniel Sasser Donald Sobieski
Happy Anniversary
Lloyd Parsons & David Hardie 12/22/2002 8 years Angel Cortes & George Higginson 12/24/2002 8 years
Anybody Got 5 Singles?

How about 30? Thats the number of people Julio Ajon can accommodate at his home for the January 14th Prime Timers Singles Get Together. The time is from 7:00pm 9:00 pm. At the December general meeting there will be a sheet where you can sign up, indicate what you will bring, and receive information on how to get to Julios home. Jack Harrington will be helping Julio pull it together. If you would like to help, contact Jack or Julio.
Dr. James Dwyer Our November General Meeting Speaker
December Lunch at Lemongrass

Thursday, December 16th, 1:00pm
Join us as we return to a great local Thai restaurant for our monthly lunch. The address is Lauderdale. 3811 N. Federal Highway in Fort
Board Members
President Henry Penas 954.971.6514 hpenas@gmail.com ftlprimetimers@gmail.com Vice-President Herb Diamond 954-533-6438 hdiamond3@yahoo.com Treasurer Dick Dodd 954.401.9640 xxlbear@hotmail.com Secretary Social Activities Clark Raby 954.366.4523 clarkraby@bellsouth.net Field Trips George Higginson 954.873.3688 ghigginson@hotmail.com Database-Membership Chuck Wirth 954.632.5904 chuck200@aol.com Facilities Coordinator Arthur Marquardt 954.213.3008 amarq100@yahoo.com Sports Activities Morris Lallo 954.970.8826 immoosie@hotmail.com Newsletter Editor Mike Golin 954.970.0779 3131mg@gmail.com If you
Great Expectations!
By John Siegfried
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think of Charles Dickens at all during the holiday season, you think of Scrooge and Tiny Tim in the Christmas Carol. But I frequently think of another Dickens novel, Great Expectations, one that I probably snoozed through in high school English. Its the story of the orphan boy Pip who moves into the upper echelons of nineteenth century English society and as one reviewer noted, Pips journey through life is a very refreshing look at how distorted we let our lives become by focusing on the unimportant. As the holidays approach, great expectations are a universal phenomenon.
My partner reminds me daily when December twenty-fifth approaches that what he wants for Christmas is, a big gift. The big part is usually drawn out into two or three syllables and my standard answer is, Youre getting a big gift a big disappointment. I suspect that what he wants is a new car. But when I gave him a new Thunderbird more than a decade ago, he wasnt impressed. The fact that the Thunderbird was a bank with a slot on the top for coins, and my Christmas note said, Save your change and someday you can buy one, might have been part of the reason for his less than enthusiastic response. But great expectations arent uniquely literary, nor are they exclusively seasonal. We all have them. I was reminded of that recently while watching a rerun of Sex and the City. Every episode has a serious theme sweetened with humor and tucked away in the script are gems worth savoring. In the rerun I recently enjoyed there was a scene in which Carrie Bradshaw was telling an editorial colleague about her disintegrating relationship with a male friend. When Carrie expressed her disillusionment, the editors response was, Stop expecting it to look like what you thought it was going to look like. Thats a quote I dont want to forget. It rings true to my experience. In fouled up relationships with family or friends, when the dust finally settles I often realize the real source of my problem was my unrealistic expectations. Carries editor friend could have been speaking to me. Stop expecting it to look like what you thought it was going to look like. Growing up, I saw my relationship with my father as distant and cool. I was well into my forties before I was able to reevaluate that relationship and recognize that what I wanted in a father was a teddy-bear, a playmate, a listener, a hugger. I wanted the warm and fuzzy relationship I fantasized other kids in the neighborhood had with their dads. Thats not what I got. My father was a Pennsylvania German blue-collar worker who kept food on the table, clothes on my back, and a roof over my head, which, during
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department store in San Francisco, where he trained to become a buyer. After four years in San Francisco, and experiencing some family deaths, he returned to his birthplace to be with the family. He took a position with the Pure Oil Company in their Marine Accounting Division. For 15 years he worked with Pure Oil until they were bought out. His next position was with the Walter E. Heller Finance Company and for the next 20 years was their traveling auditor throughout the United States. His position afforded him the social freedom he sought with the stability he needed in his family life. In 1968 he purchased his first condo in Lauderdale by the Sea, and then purchased his current residence in 1974 on the Galt Ocean Mile.
Our Hero
This article appeared on the front page of the Veterans Day edition of the Sun Sentinel. Prime Timer Marshall Belmaine was one of the founding members of our group Under fire near Hill 861 in Vietnam, Lance Cpl. Marshall Belmaine proved his mettle the way tough Marines always have, through bravery and loyalty. As the North Vietnamese Army pounded U.S. positions near Khe Sanh with mortar fire that April 1967, Belmaine saw his right leg sliced open by shrapnel just before he spotted another Marine, mortally wounded, screaming in pain as he lay draped over a bush. Crawling about 100 feet over napalm-scorched ground, Belmaine was hit in the left arm by AK-47 fire before he reached his fallen buddy.
He was involved since 1940 in a life long relationship with his friend Jack, who passed away in 1990. Following two months on a hospital ship, Belmaine Several other close friendships are still maintained. was sent back to his platoon, awarded a Purple Heart In 1984 he retired, the same year that his mother and hailed as a hero. But as a member of Bravo passed away. He has been a student of bridge since Company, 1st Battalion, 9th Marines, the young his retirement, sailed as a crew member, and was a enlisted man also harbored a secret. "I followed the host on Royal Viking for 2 years. He has been active rules," said Belmaine, 64, who lives in Oakland Park. with two charity groups, The English Speaking Union "It would have been easier to say that I had and Freedom of Valley Forge. He is involved with ax-murdered my grandmother than admit that I was Prime Timers and enjoys the social life of Wilton gay." Manors and Fort Lauderdale. This Veterans Day, as the controversy over the U.S. Can you identify this nautical, outgoing, fun loving, military's "Don't Ask, Don't Tell" policy rages, the men and women of the Gold Coast chapter of Ameriwell traveled Prime Timer? can Veterans for Equal Rights, of which Belmaine is president, have never been more hopeful. (Hottie revealed on page 7)
"The important thing is to give honor to every person, no matter what or who they are, willing to go into the Monday, November 29th military and perhaps die for their country," said Gateway Theatre AVER member Ken Morris, 68, who served more Burlesque than 20 years in the Army and worked as a Broward Cher is the main attraction, with Christina Aguilera County Elderly & Veterans' Services officer. making her feature debut as a small town singer who takes her shot at stardom. Dinner will be next door at "We need to be treated equally, not as a sub-class in Il Mulino. the military," said Belmaine. "We are making progress, certainly. But we would like to see the day The times will be announced when Gateway firms up when we serve openly, and without the behind-thetheir schedule. scene snickering and wisecracks."
Prime Timers Picture Show Guys
The address is 1820 E. Sunrise Blvd, Fort Lauderdale

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A 20-year-old high school drop-out in Ashland, Mass., Belmaine was about to be drafted in 1966 when he decided to follow a strong family tradition and join the Marine Corps. Belmaine said he never worried that his sexual orientation made him less of a warrior than his comrades, even when he wasn't certain what his sexual orientation was. In state-side training, and after arriving in Vietnam in August 1966, he said he was teased for having effeminate mannerisms. Belmaine also had a girlfriend back home, who wrote him daily. Still, as he listened to the braggadocio of some of his fellow Marines, he began to face up to how different he was. Belmaine said he never once thought about having sex with his girlfriend. And he had yet to have sex with a man. "That was the revelation," he said. "That was the moment that I said to myself, 'If I live, I am not going to live a lie.'" Survival was never certain. The Marines took heavy losses in that battle near Khe Sahn, escaping the North Vietnamese onslaught only under the cover of fog. As Capt. Michael Sayers wrote in "U.S. Marines in Vietnam," the corps' official chronicle of the war: "We were carrying KIAs and WIAs in ponchos borne by four men to a litter. The heat deteriorated the bodies rapidly and they bloated fast; almost impossible to carry in the dark, the mud, and the rain. Many times we stopped our march to retrieve a body that had fallen out of a poncho and rolled down a hill." Belmaine said he picked up 16 rifles from Marines who fell that day. Weeks before he was wounded, Belmaine was photographed in what would become an iconic image of that battle. In a snapshot taken by a buddy and printed in "Operation Buffalo: USMC Fight for the DMZ," a 1991 history by Keith William Nolan, the 20-year-old Belmaine sits atop a concrete bunker, his face etched with fatigue. The photo caption reads "The Walking Dead," the term North Vietnamese leader Ho Chi Minh used to predict the fate of 1st Battalion Marines. Belmaine came home from Vietnam in August 1967, and served the rest of his enlistment in the Caribbean and at Fort Meade, Md. He was honorably discharged with the rank of sergeant in November 1969 and went
home to Massachusetts and a series of blue-collar jobs. While battling post-traumatic stress disorder, for which he has been hospitalized, Belmaine also became an activist. "As someone who put himself on line for the U.S.A., why do I and people like me not have the same rights as a straight soldier," said Belmaine, who in 1999 moved to South Florida with his partner of 41 years, Al Wakefield. Veterans such as Belmaine, now refuse to remain silent or invisible. At 11 a.m. Thursday Belmaine will take part in a Veterans Day ceremony at Hagen Park, 2020 Wilton Drive, Wilton Manors. At 2 p.m. a color guard made up of AVER members will conduct a ceremony at the Wilton Manors Health & Rehabilitation Center, 2675 N. Andrews Ave., Fort Lauderdale. "I don't have time to be depressed, or to live under a rock, peeking out from time to time," said Belmaine, who flies both the Stars and Stripes and his Marine Corps battalion flag outside his home. "You can't live under a rock forever." Written by Mike Clary for the Sun-Sentinel
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the 1930s, was no small feat. He fulfilled the expectaCompiled by Frank E. Grant, Ph.D tions of the culture and tradition that shaped his life and, as I later realized, the qualities required to fulfill December 2, 1978 Controversial group, the North my expectations of closeness and affection werent his American Man/Boy Love Association (NAMBLA), to give. founded. Ironically, when I finally grasped that the cause of the December 10, 1924 The first formal gay group, the emotional distance between us was my unrealistic Society for Human Rights, incorporated. expectations, I was able to see my father in a different light. The closeness and warmth I had wanted as a December 21, 2009 Mexico City legalizes gay child began to develop. marriage. Also, as a parent, when my own children were young, I had to recognize that some of the expectations I had for myself were unrealistic. Attempting to be the good father, I purchased all the rods and lines and plugs required to take my kids fishing. Taking your kids fishing was one of my expectations of being a good father. After several disastrous attempts, I was forced to acknowledge that I didnt even like fishing. It was boring and a waste of time. There was no way I could instill in my children a love for a sport that I disliked. If they ever were to learn to fish, it would have to be through sharing the experience with someone who enjoyed it. I was incapable of meeting my own expectation. Similarly, Ive been in relationships where my expectation of exclusivity set the stage for disaster. In the nether world of getting-to-know-you, which plagues all intimate relationships, male and female, gay and straight, lack of a mutual understanding of, and acceptance of, each partners sexual expectations is a surefire recipe for disaster. The holiday season is particularly prone to great expectations. Kids expect gifts and they may end up euphoric or disappointed as they tear the wrappings to shreds. Adults expect invitations to parties and warm gatherings with friends and family. They may end up euphoric or disappointed as the holiday season grinds on. But keeping in mind the editors advice to Carrie, Stop expecting it to look like what you thought it was going to look like, is a marvelous tool that helps me through the holiday season and the year ahead. December 30, 2005 Express Gay News names Pope Benedict XVI, the Anti-Gay Person of the Year. Tip is an acronym meaning To Insure Promptness, and used to be given in advance of service. Big Ben is not the famous clock, but the name of the bell tower of Englands House of Parliament.
Some Events In Our History
Ft. Lauderdale Prime Timers Website

Have you visited our web page lately? It is chock full of interesting information and important links. Go to www.primetimersww.org/ftlauderdale. There you will find a description of who we are and what we do. You can download the organizations by-laws, an application to become a member, the latest Surfer, and a calendar of events for the current month. Check it
Hottie
Marshall Nanninga
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Thanksgiving Dinner at Tropics Nov 2010
Photos by Mike Trask

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The Boys In The Band

Rising Action Theatre / Sunshine Cathedral 1489 S.W. 9th Avenue Fort Lauderdale, FL Sunday December 12, 2010 7:00PM
Written by Mart Crowley, this classic gay play was a long running hit, and a major motion picture. In his upper east side apartment, Michael is throwing a birthday party for Harold. As the evening wears on, fueled by drugs and alcohol, bitter unresolved resentments among the guests come to light, when a game of truth goes terribly wrong. Filled with humor and pathos, this is a chance to see how far gay people have come..Or have they?
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The Boys In The Band
Dec 6 2010
Dec 12, 2010
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Mame
Stage Door Theatre 8036 W. Sample Road Coral Springs, FL Thursday January 20, 2011 8:00pm
Music & lyrics by Jerry Herman. Mame tells the story of Mame Dennis, whos wild, adventurous spirit is inside everyone who lives for the moment and believes that life is a banquet!. Auntie Mame becomes the guardian of her ten year old nephew, Patrick during the 1920s. Special songs include Mame, If He Walked Into My Life, We Need A Little Christmas, & Bosom Buddies. For directions http://www.doortheatre.com/directions.html
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Mame
Jan 13 2011
Jan 20 2011
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Golf 9:00am Hillsboro Pines Century Village Hillsboro
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Tennis 8:00am NE 18th Ave & NE 6th St. Pompano Beach
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General Meeting 2:00pm Pride Center 2040 N. Dixie Hwy Wilton Manors
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Pool 2:00pm Sidelines 2031 Wilton Drive Wilton Manors
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Board Meeting 7:00pm @ Dick Dodds Home
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Mixer 5:30pm Scandals 3073 NE 6th Ave. Wilton Manors
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Fort Lauderdale prime timers

Whos That Hottie?

December Birthday Boys

Anybody Got 5 Singles?

Dr. James Dwyer Our November General Meeting Speaker

December Lunch at Lemongrass

(Hottie, continued from page 2)

Prime Timers Picture Show Guys

The address is 1820 E. Sunrise Blvd, Fort Lauderdale

(Hero, continued from page 5)

(Great Expectations, continued from page 4)

Some Events In Our History

Ft. Lauderdale Prime Timers Website

Thanksgiving Dinner at Tropics Nov 2010

Photos by Mike Trask

The Boys In The Band

The Boys In The Band

Dec 12, 2010

Member name _______________ Member name _ Guest name ________________

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Ft Lauderdale Prime Timers - December 2010

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