Giving and Receiving Erotic Massage CONTENTS 1. 2. 3. 4. 5. !. $. (. +.

Introduction Preliminaries Giving Your Erotic Massage Variations and Enhancements Learning More a out Massage Getting Massage "u##lies %##endi& %' %dditional Male Genital Massage Ideas %##endi& )' %dditional *emale Genital Massage Ideas %##endi& ,' "a-er "e& Precautions

u!rication Ane similarit2 et1een men and 1omen is that some sort o- lu ricant needs to e used 1hen massaging their genitals' this 1ill ma5e the e&#erience more #leasura le and #revent sore s#ots -rom develo#ing. Ane di--erence et1een men and 1omen is that one ma2 use oil6 ased3 1ater6 ased3 or silicone6 ased lu ricants on men3 1hile one should use onl2 1ater6 ased lu ricants on 1omen to avoid encouraging vaginal in-ections. *or genital massage on men3 or -or massage else1here on a man or 1oman4s od23 2ou can #urchase s#ecial massage oils at massage su##l2 sho#s or else 7ust use a light vegeta le oil 8such as "a--lo1er3 "un-lo1er3 or gra#eseed9 -rom the su#ermar5et. Lu ricants and oils should e rea##lied as necessar23 so it4s good to 5ee# them hand2. It4s ver2 convenient to have -li#6to# s;uee?e ottles -or lu es and oils3 and one o- those massage oil < elts< that massage su##l2 sho#s sell. "ince man2 o- these elts have t1o #oc5ets3 2ou could use one -or lu e and the other -or massage oil. )e sure lu es and oils are 1arm e-ore #utting them on someone@ i- 2ou 1ish 2ou can run hot ta# 1ater over 2our -li#6to# ottles -or a -e1 minutes e-ore using them3 or ma2 e 2ou could 7ust 5ee# the #lastic ottles in a o1l o- 1arm 1ater instead o- using a elt. It4s also a good idea to #ut lu ricants in 2our hand e-ore a##l2ing them so 2ou have a chance to ru 2our hands together to 1arm them i- necessar2. Ah3 and one -inal 1ord o- advice' #lease e sure an2 1ater6 ased lu e 2ou ma2 e using .AE"=40 contain =ono&2nol6+. In this conte&t =ono&2nol6+ is unli5el2 to do an2thing ut irritate. Good Communication .uring oth the rela&ation and genital #hases o- 2our erotic massage it4s im#ortant -or the #erson on the ta le to al1a2s -eel com-orta le ma5ing re;uests and comments. Be or she should -eel -ree to mention an2thing that is getting in the 1a2 o- his or her com-ort and #leasure. /e;uests to go to the athroom3 -or touch to e harder or lighter3 to ta5e a rea5 or sto#3 -or the heat to e turned u#3 etc.3 are all signs that levels o- communication and trust are high. 0he2 are also signs that the receiving #artner is #a2ing attention to his or her -eelings3 1hich is a 5e2 to e&#eriencing greater and greater #leasure. "ome #eo#le -ind that se& and:or #leasure can ring u# di--icult emotional issues -or them. Chen someone is cr2ing3 or in a similarl2 distressed emotional state3 it4s usuall2 est to 7ust e there -or that #erson and reassure them that it4s A> to cr2 8#ossi l2 1hile holding them9 rather than tr2ing to rationall2 discuss 1hat is going on or engage in #ro lem6solving. %s5ing them 1hat the2 need rather than assuming too much is also a good idea. I ho#e it goes 1ithout sa2ing that 2ou oth should e in agreement that 2our relationshi# includes the #ossi ilit2 o- se&ual intimac2 e-ore going ahead 1ith an erotic massage. "ituations 1here the giving #artner tries to shi-t a rela&ation massage into an erotic realm -or the -irst time3 ut the receiving #artner 1as e&#ecting or 1anting onl2 rela&ation massage or doesn4t -eel 2our -riendshi# should include se&3 can e uncom-orta le and em arassing at the least. It4s 1orth it to someho1 ring this to#ic u# e-orehand 1ith a ne1 #artner3 even i- 2ou have to lush a little 1hen telling him or her 1hat 2ou thin5 it 1ould e -un to do 1ith them. Giving "our Erotic Massage

10. %##endi& .' Music /ecommendations

Note: A "Part II" has been written for this guide. We recommend that you read this document (Part I) first, as these two documents will ma e the most sense when read in order. Introduction The General Approach this Guide Takes 0his guide teaches ho1 to give and receive erotic massage. It discusses ho1 to hel# 2our #artner rela&3 and discusses ho1 to hel# 2our #artner e&#erience e&tended or multi#le orgasms as #art o- 2our massage. % common arrangement is -or one #artner to receive a massage -irst3 and then to return the -avor3 ut o- course ho1 2ou choose to arrange this is u# to 2ou and 2our #artner. It4s est to #er-orm erotic massage 1hile 2our #artner is l2ing on a massage ta le osome 5ind. %-ter #re#aring 2our s#ace to e 1arm and #leasing3 2ou can start 1ith a sensual and rela&ing general massage e-ore shi-ting the -ocus to 2our #artner4s se& centers. 0he idea is to ring 2our #artner to high levels o- arousal3 and 5ee# him or her there -or a 1hile. *or men3 this is est done through ver al or non6ver al communication 1hich allo1s stimulation to e slo1ed do1n3 changed3 or sto##ed e-ore e7aculation ecomes inevita le 8stimulation then continues in a -e1 moments3 a-ter the urgenc2 -ades9. *or 1omen3 this is est done 2 using G6"#ot and:or clitoral massage to ring her to multi#le orgasms3 1hich naturall2 tend to ta5e #lace over an e&tended #eriod o- time. Erotic massage can 1or5 e;uall2 1ell -or same6se& as -or o##osite6se& #artners. %dditionall23 as having someone #leasure 2ou 1ith their hands doesn4t tend to ring u# the same set o- cultural -ears and 7udgments that oral se& or intercourse sometimes do3 it sometimes 1or5s 1ell even 1hen 2our #artner isn4t o- a gender 2ou are normall2 attracted to. Preliminaries Set and Setting

Rela#ing "our Partner$s %od& 0a5ing the time to create a sensual and a##ealing environment -or 2our erotic massage sho1s that 2ou care a out 2our #artner and value #leasure. "tart 2 turning o-- the #hones. You ma2 1ish to #ut a <.o =ot .istur < sign on the door3 illuminate the room 1ith either candles or so-t indirect lam#s3 urn incense3 and turn u# the heat to 1here one 1ould e com-orta le l2ing do1n na5ed. >ee# 2our lu ricants3 oils3 and gloves 8ineeded or desired9 1ithin eas2 reach3 and cover the massage ta le 1ith a lan5et and #lace a clean sheet over this lan5et. You can let the sides o- the lan5et and sheet dra#e over the sides o- the ta le so that the2 ma2 e rought u# to cover the receiving #artner 85ee#ing him or her 1arm9 a-ter the massage is -inished. Pieces o- 8#ossi l2 -a5e9 -ur or -eathers can e used -or additional sensual tantali?ation3 and an e2e #illo1 or lind-old can e hel#-ul in loc5ing out an2 un1anted light -or 2our #artner. Putting a ,. 8or #rerecorded ta#e9 o- 2our -avorite music on re#eat #la2 is a good idea. "ome #eo#le are more com-orta le 1ith a #illo1 or rolled ath to1el underneath their 5nees and:or head 81hen l2ing -ace u#9 or their an5les 81hen l2ing -ace do1n93 and some 1omen 1ill e more com-orta le 1ith a #illo1 underneath their hi#s@ i- this is 2our -irst massage 1ith 2our #artner 2ou might 1ant to e&#eriment a little or as5 him or her. I- 2ou4re going to e giving the massage3 ta5e a loo5 at 2our -ingernails and cli# them inecessar2. "tart 2 connecting 1ith 2our #artner. 0here ma2 e s#eci-ic 1a2s 2ou and 2our #artner #re-er to do this. I- not3 tr2 5ind 1ords3 so-t ga?ing into each other4s e2es3 s2nchroni?ed reathing3 and:or caressing each others4 -aces or hands. Chen oth o- 2ou are read23 have 2our #artner lie -ace do1n3 na5ed3 on the massage ta le. "tart 2 ;uieting and -ocusing 2our mind 1hile resting 2our hands on the receiving #artner4s u##er and lo1er ac5. 0hen3 #er-orm a rela&ing massage on the ac53 legs3 and -eet. )asic #rinci#les o- rela&ing massage include 5ee#ing 2our hands in contact 1ith 2our #artner3 ta5ing 2our time3 eing rh2thmic 2et sensitive3 and #roceeding -rom long gliding stro5es to dee#er ones. Chen giving a massage e sure to use good od2 mechanics' use 2our od2 1eight rather than arm strength -or dee# stro5es3 during gliding stro5es 5ee# 2our 5nees slightl2 ent and -luid3 and don4t lean over the ta le. %-ter rela&ing 2our #artner4s ac53 legs3 and -eet3 have him or her turn over. Massage the chest3 arms3 and hands. 0hen glide do1n to the legs. It can -eel good to rush the genitals 1hen going do1n to the legs. %-ter -inishing the -ronts o- the legs and -eet3 glide ac5 u# and slo1l2 rush over the genitals3 teasing them. 0his teasing #rocess can e dra1n out 2 rushing the inner thighs near the genitals3 ver2 lightl2 touching the #u ic region3 etc. %t this #oint erotic energ2 is o-ten uilding3 ma5ing it a natural time to start shi-ting the -ocus to more e&#licitl2 se&ual activities.

Es#eciall2 i- this is 2our -irst massage 1ith this #artner3 it4s a good idea to loo5 into 2our #artner4s e2es 1hile cradling his or her genitals3 and someho1 as5 his or her #ermission to go -urther. 0he rest o- the massage 1ill -ocus on the genitals3 1ith #eriodic s1ee#s u# and do1n the od2 to s#read3 alance3 and integrate the sensations. Ane o- the s5ills that comes 1ith #ractice is eing a le to read the energ2 and arousal levels o- 2our #artner3 and smoothl2 and graduall2 ram# u# -rom rela&ing massage to more arousing and se&ual massage. Pleasuring "our Partner$s Se# Centers Male Introduction 0he asic #rinci#le o- male genital massage is that 2ou should slo1 do1n3 sto#3 or change 1hat 2ou are doing 7ust e-ore e7aculation ecomes inevita le. 0he est 1a2 to accom#lish this is -or the man to give a signal 7ust e-ore this #oint is reached. Ver al cues3 raising a hand3 #ulling a1a2 slightl23 or even su tle od2 language cues can all 1or5 1ell. 0his re#eated <#ea5ing< #rocess can sometimes hel# men learn to have multi#le orgasms 1ithout e7aculating3 and can also e #racticed during solo mastur ation. %lthough dela2ing e7aculation during the course o- the massage is desira le -rom the #ers#ective o- ma&imi?ing #leasure3 man2 #artners do li5e to -inish the massage 1ith one. E7aculation #rovides a considera le s#ar5 o- #leasure3 ut can leave men too -atigued to en7o2 the rest o- the evening or do a good 7o massaging their #artner@ o##osite6se& #artners 1ho li5e to -inish male genital massage 1ith e7aculation should have the 1oman receive her massage -irst. It4s also -un to encourage 2our #artner 1ith hot tal5 8#ossi l2 1eaving together a ver al -antas2 ased on 2our #artner4s desires9. Letting 2our #artner 5no1 ver all2 and non6 ver all2 that 2ou4re activel2 en7o2ing his #leasure can e a #o1er-ul a#hrodisiac. %s an aside3 it should e noted that a nice -eature o- male genital massage is that an erection is not re;uired -or it to -eel good@ some massage stro5es actuall2 -eel )E00E/ 1hen the #enis is so-t. Suggested Genital Massage Strokes 0here are man2 di--erent massage stro5es that -eel good on male genitals. Dnless he indicates other1ise3 it4s usuall2 sa-e to assume that -irm and consistent stro5ing 1ill -eel est. I4m going to #resent a -e1 -avorite stro5es elo13 ut 2ou can ma5e u# 2our o1n3 re-er to %##endi& %3 or e&amine the resources in this guide4s <Learning More a out Massage< section to learn do?ens o- additional stro5es. Ane a##roach that some #eo#le -avor is selecting t1o -avorite stro5es3 and -or a #eriod o- time alternating et1een them ever2 once in a 1hile. '(ealing Stroke' 6 Cith the #enis resting on the ell23 cu# the alls 1ith one hand. 0he heel o- the #alm o- the other hand glides u# and do1n the underside o- the #enis all the 1a2 to the ti#. 8)od2 Electric "chool handout9 'Anvil Stroke' 6 )ring one hand do1n3 letting it stro5e the #enis -rom the to# all the 1a2 to the ottom. Chen it hits the ottom3 release it. Mean1hile ring 2our other hand to the to# o- the #enis and re#eat the stro5e3 creating an alternating motion. 8internet %lt."e& *%E9 'Clim!ing the Mountain' 6 0a5e the #enis in one hand and gentl23 sensuousl2 caress it -or a out ten seconds3 then give it one ;uic5 u#6and6do1n stro5e. /e#eat the sensuous caressing -or a out ten seconds 8#erha#s using slo1 u#6and6do1n stro5es93 and then give the #enis t1o ;uic5 u#6and6do1n stro5es. /e#eat the caressing3 then give three ;uic5 stro5es3 etc. ,ontinue until e7aculation a##roaches inevita ilit2. 8!" #$#, %nd &d.) Cocooning It4s u# to the t1o o- 2ou 1hether to -inish 1ith an e7aculation. I- 2ou do3 then #leasuring can continue all the 1a2 through e7aculation and until 2our #artner as5s 2ou to sto#. %t the end o- the massage 81hether or not there is an e7aculation93 the sheet: lan5et com ination can e -olded u# over the #erson on the ta le to #rovide a 1arm cocoon. 0his can e a time o- #ro-ound #eace and contentment together. )emale Introduction

*emale se&ual res#onse is o-ten signi-icantl2 di--erent -rom male se&ual res#onse3 in the -ollo1ing 1a2s' 1. *emale arousal tends to e more closel2 tied to emotional states3 and -eelings o- 1armth to1ards her #artner. 2. Man2 1omen can come in t1o distinctl2 di--erent 1a2s' through G6"#ot stimulation and through clitoral stimulation. Man2 1omen characteri?e the clitoral orgasms as <shar#er< and the G6"#ot orgasms as <dee#er<. 3. Comen o-ten var2 considera l2 in 1hat t2#e o- se&ual stimulation the2 li5e3 and ho1 the2 li5e it done. 4. *emale arousal usuall2 ta5es longer to uild3 ut can o-ten last longer and e more intense than that 1hich men commonl2 e&#erience. 5. Comen can o-ten have multi#le orgasms3 i- stimulation continues -ollo1ing the -irst 8es#eciall2 1ith G6"#ot stimulation9. It4s ecause o- F5 that the asic a##roach to erotic massage di--ers et1een 1omen and men. "ince 1omen can sometimes en7o2 stimulation all the 1a2 through one orgasm and into the ne&t3 there is little or no need -or them to hold ac5 in an2 1a2. Baving orgasms in a series can cause arousal levels to -loat -or a long time at a ver2 high level. Suggested T&pes o* Stimulation Comen var2 in their tastes concerning G6"#ot and clitoral stimulation3 so 2ou need to e attentive and listen. % common #re-erence is -or their #artners to egin 1ith gentle ru ing over the entire vulva3 to -ollo1 this 1ith clitoral stimulation3 and to -inish 1ith G6 "#ot stimulation or G6"#ot %=. clitoral stimulation. Please e a1are that neither clitoral stimulation nor an2 sort o- vaginal #enetration usuall2 -eels good unless a 1oman is alread2 in a -airl2 high state o- arousal. Chen #er-orming genital massage on 1omen one o-ten has a <-ree hand< 1hich ma2 e used to glide over the rest o- her od23 tease her ni##les3 massage her #erineum3 caress her -ace3 -orm <connections< 1ith other #arts oher od2 8 2 stimulating some other #art o- her od2 at the same time as 2ou are #leasuring her genitals93 etc. %lthough the genital massage st2les #resented elo1 are some o- the most commonl2 -avored among 1omen3 there are man2 more. /e-er to %##endi& ) or e&amine the resources in this guide4s <Learning More< section -or more ideas. 'Clitoral' 6 Chen massaging her clitoris3 learn 1hat #art o- it -eels est to her. Going in circles around it so-tl2 and rh2thmicall2 1ith a lu ricated -inger is a good 1a2 to #roceed3 at least until 2ou get more s#eci-ic -eed ac5 or until 2ou uncover something that o viousl2 -eels etter. Ance 2ou -ind something that -eels great3 consistenc2 1ith it is o-ten the 5e2 to -urther #leasure. "ome 1omen -ind that clitoral orgasms -eel etter itheir vaginas are #leasantl2 -illed' more -ingers or an a##ro#riatel26si?ed dildo are good 1a2s to accom#lish this3 though #enetration o- an2 5ind usuall2 doesn4t -eel good to someone 1ho isn4t aroused3 so it #ro a l2 isn4t 1hat she 1ould 1ant 2ou to start right out 1ith. 'G+Spot' 6 0he G6"#ot is an area on the -or1ard 1all o- the vagina3 7ust ehind the #u ic one a out t1o inches in. % 1oman can o-ten tell 2ou 1hen 2ou4ve -ound her G6"#ot3 and it o-ten -eels more <ridged< than the surrounding tissue. Pressing into it can e intensel2 #leasura le3 ut ma2 cause a sensation o- needing to urinate. *emale e7aculation is sometimes a result o- G6"#ot stimulation@ -emale e7aculate is =A0 urine3 ut I" e&#elled through the urethra. Ane eas2 1a2 to stimulate the G6"#ot is 1ith 2our 8lu ricated9 -irst and second -ingers together 8#ossi l2 starting 1ith 7ust 2our -irst -inger9. Ma5e rh2thmic gestures inside the vagina that loo5 li5e the signal to <come here<. %lternativel23 one can ru the G6"#ot in a circular -ashion. Generall23 it4s the #ads o- 2our -ingers 1hich are #ressing into her G6"#ot. %nother a##roach is to rotate 2our -ingers inside her vaginal arrel 1ith even #ressure against all areas o- it. )e a1are that the sha#e o- the vagina changes as a 1oman4s arousal level increases. You4ll #ro a l2 notice the inner #ortion allooning out1ards during e&treme arousal3 1hich means that 2our -ingers 1ill need to rotate a little -arther -rom center in order to maintain the same #ressure on the vaginal 1alls. G6s#ot stimulation usuall2 onl2 -eels good 1hen the 1oman is aroused. ',i!rator' 6 Vi rators generall2 1or5 est on or near the clitoris. I- the vi ration is too intense3 s1itch to a lo1er s#eed or #ut a cloth et1een the vi rator and her clitoris. It4s A> to let 2our #artner hold the vi rator. It4s also -un -or a vi rator to e used clitorall2 at the same time vaginal #enetration is eing #er-ormed. 0he most versatile vi rators are the standard #lug6in models such as the Bitachi Magic Cand and the Cahl. "e& su##l2 sho#s such as Good Vi rations and 0o2s in )a eland sell these vi rators3 along 1ith various attachments -or s#eci-ic 5inds o- stimulation. ',er!al and Non+,er!al Encouragement' 6 It4s hel#-ul to encourage 2our #artner 1ith hot tal5 8#ossi l2 1eaving together a ver al -antas2 ased on 2our #artner4s desires9. "e&2 com#lements3 e2e contact3 etc. are also nice additions. Man2 se&ual di--iculties 8es#eciall2 -or 1omen3 it seems9 stem -rom 1orries' 1orr2ing that her #artner is getting

tired o- #leasuring her3 that she isn4t coming -ast enough3 etc. Letting 2our receiving #artner 5no1 ver all2 and non6ver all2 that 2ou4re activel2 en7o2ing giving her #leasure can e a #o1er-ul a#hrodisiac -or her. Cocooning It4s nice to -old the sheet: lan5et com ination over 2our #artner 1hen 2ou t1o are -inished. 0his can e a time o- #ro-ound #eace and contentment together. ,ariations and Enhancements Conscious %reathing /egular3 conscious reathing is a #o1er-ul 1a2 to enhance oth rela&ation massage and erotic massage. I- the receiving #artner -orgets to reathe3 the massaging #artner can remind him or her 2 reathing rh2thmicall2 and audi l2. "ome #artners -ind that s2nchroni?ing the reathing et1een the t1o o- them leads to 1onder-ul sensations. Gust don4t h2#erventilate... Group Massage Gatherings 0hese can e #ut on 1ith three or more #artici#ants. Partici#ants divide u# into grou#s othree or -our3 1ith one massage ta le #er grou#. Each #erson in each grou# gets a certain amount o- time on their ta le3 and e-ore massage egins this #erson tells the other #eo#le at his or her ta le 1hat he or she 1ould li5e3 and 1hat his or her limits are. 0his can e a lot o- -un3 and is a great 1a2 to #ractice as5ing -or 1hat 2ou 1ant se&uall2 8a ha it 1hich has the #o1er to enhance 2our #leasure in and o- itsel-9. It4s good to start and end these 2 having ever2one get in a circle3 introduce themselves 8i- necessar293 and <chec5 in< 8i.e. sa2 something a out 1here the24re at3 1hat the2 1ould li5e to get out o- the da23 1hat the2 li5ed a out the da23 etc.9. It4s also hel#-ul to have little snac5s and 1ater -or #eo#le to eat and drin5. "ince 2ou ma2 end u# giving three or -our di--erent #eo#le massages during an event li5e this3 it4s -airl2 common -or the host and:or hostess to as5 ever2one to use gloves -or all genital massage3 and #ossi l2 -or ever2one to 1ash their hands e-ore the ne&t #erson gets on the ta le. *or small gatherings 8!6( #eo#le9 o- #artici#ants 1ho all 5no1 each other3 #eo#le can 7ust gravitate to1ards 1hatever ta le and grou# the2 1ant 1hen it4s time to start@ -or larger events or events 1here there 1ill e a lot o- eginners3 it4s o-ten hel#-ul -or the host or hostess to assign #eo#le to ta les so things sta2 alanced3 no od24s -eelings get hurt3 and so there aren4t an2 ta les com#osed entirel2 o- novices. It4s usuall2 a good idea to #ut someone in charge o- ringing su##lies to the event 8late& gloves3 massage oil in little ottles3 lu e3 to1els3 etc.93 and 81hen lots o- ne1 -ol5s are involved9 -or the host or hostess to sta2 at least marginall2 a1are o- 1hat is going on so things sta2 com-orta le -or ever2one. 0hese events usuall2 1or5 ver2 easil2 -or men6onl2 or 1omen6onl2 grou#s3 and tend to 1or5 est -or mi&ed6gender grou#s 1hen at least rough gender alance is maintained and there are at least a -e1 e&#erienced men and 1omen in attendance. )inishing -ith Intercourse "ome #artners 8es#eciall2 o##osite6se& cou#les9 li5e to -inish 1ith intercourse rather than the lan5et61ra##ing I4ve descri ed. "ince most massage ta les are sturd2 enough to su##ort t1o #eo#le3 near the end o- the massage one #artner can clim on to# the other and the2 can oth -uc5 themselves to 1hat are o-ten ver2 #o1er-ul orgasms. 0hus3 the2 can -inish loc5ed in each others4 em race 8although even 1ithout intercourse the standing #artner can lean over and em race the receiving #artner4s u##er od23 or else 7ust gentl2 rest his or her hands on the receiving #artner9. .es#ite 1hat mainstream #ornogra#h2 tends to #ortra23 1omen don4t usuall2 have orgasms -rom intercourse alone. Bo1ever3 a 1oman is MD,B more li5el2 to e&#erience orgasm during intercourse i- she has had one or more orgasms 8es#eciall2 o- the G6"#ot variet29 e-ore intercourse commences. Po#ular #ositions -or male6-emale intercourse include missionar2 and 1oman6on6to# 81hich allo1 -ace6to6-ace intimac29 and <doggie st2le< 81hich allo1s the 1oman to easil2 ru her clitoris 1hile eing #enetrated9. The '%ig .ra-' 0his techni;ue -or com#leting a massage 1as develo#ed 2 the )od2 Electric "chool. In the minutes #receding it the massage 1or5 should e ecoming more and more energetic3 uilding and uilding. %t a certain #oint 8counted do1n to ver all23 so oth #artners 5no1 1hen it4s coming9 massage and an2 other touch ceases3 the #erson on the

ta le ta5es seven ver2 dee# reaths3 and 1hile holding the seventh reath clenches ever2 muscle in his or her od2 and rolls his or her e2es ac5 in his or her head 8#ossi l2 assuming a tense #osition 1ith torso and legs a it o-- the ta le3 as in a <crunch<9 -or a out 1H seconds. Be or she then com#letel2 rela&es3 resumes regular reathing3 and the standing #erson gentl2 -olds the sheets: lan5et over his or her od2. *or ma&imum e--ect the music should e ;uite <cosmic< at this #oint3 and the #erson #er-orming the massage shouldn4t touch the #erson on the ta le 81ho has his or her e2es closed3 or 1ho has a lind-old on9 -or at least -ive minutes or until the #erson on the ta le re;uests other1ise. 0his #ractice can #rovo5e #ro-ound emotional release3 and o-ten hallucinations. %-ter1ards3 the standing #artner o#ens the cocooned sheets3 gentl2 to1els o-- an2 oil3 hel#s his or her #artner to sit u#3 and then oth #artners either 5ee# silence or sa2 1hat is in their heart. It4s -un to -ollo1 the )ig .ra1 1ith a hot tu or a 1arm ath. It4s hel#-ul to use a #re6arranged and timed music ta#e. Ideall23 there should e -ive seconds o- silence immediatel2 -ollo1ing the )ig .ra13 and #ossi l2 during it. Music should have een uilding to that #oint3 and should resume 1ith something reall2 eauti-ul a-ter the silence -ollo1ing the )ig .ra1 8<Ga riel4s A oe< -rom 'he "ission soundtrac53 or <Cith 0his Love< -rom Peter Ga riel4s Passion soundtrac53 -or e&am#le9. Incorporating PC Muscle Contractions /'0egels'1 ,ontractions o- the P, 8#u ococc2geus9 muscle are associated 1ith increased se&ual #leasure -or oth men and 1omen. 0his muscle ma2 e identi-ied 2 noticing 1hat muscles 2ou use to sto# the -lo1 o- urine 1hen 2ou are urinating 81ithout moving 2our torso or legs9@ it4s the same one. 0he P, muscle can e e&ercised 2 contracting and releasing it@ one a##roach is to rh2thmicall2 contract 1hen inhaling and rela& 1hen e&haling. Generall23 the stronger the P, muscle is3 the more intense one4s orgasms can e. 0he P, muscle can also e re#eatedl2 contracted and rela&ed at various times during se& 8such as during G6"#ot stimulation3 or during male e7aculation9 to increase #leasure. Men can use the P, muscle to #revent e7aculation@ this is done 2 holding the reath 1hile either strongl2 earing do1n 8<#ushing out<9 or tightl2 s;uee?ing 8<holding in<9 using the #elvic muscles. Prostate Stimulation %n advanced techni;ue in male genital massage is to stimulate the man4s #rostate gland at the same time one is stimulating the #enis. 0his can e done 1ith a -inger an inch or t1o inside his anus3 #ressing on the dome sha#e -ound in the direction o- the #enis. Chen stimulating the #rostate3 2ou should 1ear late& gloves3 have short -ingernails 8or else #ac5 cotton alls around 2our -ingernails and then #ut gloves on93 and use lots olu e. Part o- 1hat some eginners -ind novel a out anal #enetration is that it ma5es one -eel as i- one has to go to the athroom. )2 going to the athroom #rett2 thoroughl2 e-ore eginning #la23 one ma2 have an easier time not inter#reting this ne1 sensation in the old conte&t. Please see either 'he New (ood )ibrations (uide to !e* or Anal Pleasure and +ealth -or more details. Pressing on the #rostate gland during e7aculation3 or 1hen a man is close to e7aculation3 can -eel 1onder-ul. It is also #ossi le -or some men to have e7aculator2 orgasms through #rostate stimulation alone. Simultaneous Pleasuring Ance each #artner has su--icient e&#erience 1ith his or her o1n se&ual res#onse3 the2 ma2 1ish to tr2 mutual stimulation. 0his is est done on a ed3 rather than on a massage ta le. "im#l2 lie do1n -acing each other3 heads close together3 and #leasure each other 1ith 2our hands. %gain3 -or men slightl2 #ulling a1a2 or giving some other cue 1hen e7aculation is imminent 1ill allo1 #la2 to continue. earning More a!out Massage 0hese educational resources onl2 have to do 1ith massage. You ma2 1ish to ta5e a loo5 at our se&ualit2 resource guide -or other educational oo5s3 videota#es3 etc. %ooks

'he ,om-lete .oo of "assage3 2 ,laire Ma&1ell6Budson. 0here are hundreds o- good ho16to oo5s on non6se&ual 8<thera#eutic<9 massage3 and this is onl2 one o- them. %nother great 1a2 to augment oo5 learning is to receive ;ualit2 massage. "ee5 out a trained3 licensed thera#ist in 2our area -or non6se&ual3 rela&ing3 <"1edish< massage.

&!/: +ow 0ou and 0our 1o2er ,an (i2e &ach /ther +ours of &*tended !e*ual /rgasm3 2 %lan P. )rauer and .onna )rauer. 0his oo5 outlines a general a##roach -or using genital massage to achieve e&tended orgasmic states.

,ideos % video illustrating the )od2 Electric a##roach to se&3 along 1ith demonstrations o- over 25 male genital massage stro5es3 is called 3ire on the "ountain: An Intimate (uide to "ale (enital "assage@ in "#ring3 1+++3 the )od2 Electric "chool also released 3ire in the )alley: An Intimate (uide to 3emale (enital "assage . 0he videos 'antric "assage and Art of &*tended /rgasm also have valua le in-ormation. %od& Electric Courses 0he )od2 Electric "chool o--ers courses in erotic massage3 and is in -act the onl2 organi?ation to o--er education o- this 5ind nation1ide. 0heir courses are VE/Y 1ell #ut together. 0he )od2 Electric "chool o--ers courses consisting o- men onl23 and courses consisting o- 1omen onl2. 0he2 also 8in "eattle3 Cashington and Aa5land3 ,ali-ornia9 o--er a course 1ith oth men and 1omen3 ut 2ou must com#lete the same6se& class e-ore ta5ing the mi&ed class. ,all 851H9 !53615+4 to get a course catalog. 2orld 2ide 2e! Pages

*I/E /u the #enis et1een oth #alms3 as i- ru ing t1o stic5s together to create -ire. )e sure to use #lent2 o- oil. B%I/Y P%LM "D=.%Y Bold the #enis in one hand 1ith the head stic5ing u#. Dsing the 1ell6oiled #alm o- 2our other hand3 slo1l2 and sensitivel2 massage the head o- the #enis. /everse directions ever2 once in a 1hile. BE%LI=G "0/A>E Cith the #enis resting on the ell23 the hand closest to the -eet cu#s the alls. 0he heel o- the #alm o- the other hand glides u# and do1n the underside o- the #enis. 0CI"0 %=. "BAD0 Pull the s5in o- the #enis to1ard the ase 1ith one hand. Cith the other hand cor5scre1 the #enis. 0his can e done 1ith the thum and -irst -inger or 1ith the 1hole #alm.

Selected and Paraphrased )rom the Internet Alt5Se# )A6

Part 01o o- this Erotic Massage Guide 0he Incredi le Magic5 o- Massage =otes -rom a Year o- Massage "chool

Getting Massage Supplies Massage ta les and su##lies ma2 e #urchased through mail6order -rom "tronglite 816 (HH62(+654($9 and )od21or5 Em#orium 816(HH6(226534(9. I- 2our massage ta le is ad7usta le3 ad7ust it so that 1hen 2ou stand ne&t to the ta le 1ith 2our arms at 2our sides and -ists closed3 2our 5nuc5les 7ust rush the to# o- the ta le. I- 2our udget is es#eciall2 tight 2ou could tr2 ma5ing 2our o1n massage ta le3 #ossi l2 1ith t1o sa1horses and a ig #added oard 81ith an oval hole in the oard -or the receiving #artner4s -ace to rest in 1hile he or she is l2ing -ace do1n9.

Appendi# A3 Additional Male Genital Massage Ideas 4sing the 'E#tra (and' "ome male genital massage stro5es re;uire onl2 one hand. Bere are some suggestions -or things 2ou can do 1ith the <e&tra hand<' Massage the legs or chest.

0ease the ni##les or other erogenous ?ones 8note' <connections< can e made et1een erotic arousal and almost an2 #art o- the od23 2 lin5ing stimulation o- the genitals 1ith stimulation o- this area9. /u the #erineum3 #ossi l2 1ith an oiled -ist or several -ingers. *or some men3 this ma2 stimulate the #rostate gland. Cra# an inde& -inger and thum around the #enis et1een the alls and the od2. ,ontract slightl2 to -orm a living coc5 ring. %lternativel23 this can e done et1een the alls and the sha-t3 rather than et1een the alls and the od2. Gentl2 tug on the hairs covering the testicles. ,u# or tic5le the testicles.

Selected and Paraphrased *rom a %od& Electric *or Men (andout

,A,>DP/E""D/E Cith one hand #ull the sha-t4s s5in to1ard the ase and 1ra# the -ingers othis hand around the ase to act as a living coc5 ring. Dsing the other hand3 rh2thmicall2 #ic5 various #oints along the sha-t o- the #enis and s;uee?e o##osite sides o- the #enile sha-t at these #oints3 releasing #ressure either immediatel2 or a-ter onl2 a rie- #eriod o- time.

%=VIL "0/A>E )ring one hand do1n3 letting it stro5e the #enis -rom the to# all the 1a2 to the ottom. Chen it hits the ottom3 release it. Mean1hile3 ring 2our other hand to the to# o- the #enis and re#eat. "ee also' Mil5er and Per#etual Penetration. )AA>E=." Place oth o- 2our hands side 2 side against his sha-t li5e a #air ooo5ends. =o1 #ush hard against his #enis. 0hen li-t 2our hands u# and do1n. ,ontinue in this manner -or a 1hile. .AA/>=A) 0urn the head o- his #enis li5e 2ou4re tr2ing to o#en a door5no coated 1ith grease. =o1 tr2 turning the other 1a2. /e#eat. 0his stro5e is sometimes im#roved 2 using the other hand to stretch the s5in o- the #enis to1ard the ase. .AD)LE CB%MMY )ring oth 1ell6lu ricated hands do1n on his sha-t. "ome coc5s are so ig the2 re;uire oth hands@ i- 2our #artner4s doesn4t3 then use the other hand to caress and lightl2 -lutter his alls3 or tighten around the ase o- his sha-t. Ioth hands -it along the length o- the sha-t then move them together3 u# and do1n3 in the t2#ical #um#ing motion. Pretend 2ou4re holding a ase all at and are a out to score a grand slam. You can also var2 the directions o2our hands' one u#3 one do1n at the same time. MIL>E/ A##osite o- the %nvil' hands alternate <mil5ing< u# the #enis3 starting at the ase and 1or5ing all the 1a2 u# #ast the ti#. PE/PE0D%L PE=E0/%0IA= Li5e the %nvil3 ut instead o- 7ust gra ing the #enis at the to# let his #enis <#enetrate< into 2our -ist on each stro5e. )e-ore the head o- his #enis #o#s out o- 2our hand3 ring the other hand u# -or the ne&t #enetration. 0his 1a2 it seems to him li5e he is #enetrating dee#er and dee#er into an in-inite vagina. Ma5e sure 2ou 5ee# the #enetration continuous -or est results. 0r2 -aster or slo1er to taste. /I=G Ma5e a ring 1ith 2our thum and -ore-inger and #um# u# and do1n 1ith it. Chen 2ou get to the to# close the ring. 0hen ma5e him s;uee?e his 1a2 in as 2ou slide ac5 do1n to the ottom. "B%*0 "tro5e onl2 his sha-t3 ignoring his head. You 1ill notice his head s1elling and turning red. Chen it4s right red3 use .oor5no 3 Bair2 Palm "unda23 or Per#etual Penetration. "BD00LE ,A,> 0a5e the #enis in oth hands3 -ingers lightl2 touching the sides o- the sha-t. In order to visuali?e the #osition3 imagine 2oursel- holding a clarinet. =o1 -lic5 the #enis ac5 and -orth et1een 2our t1o hands 2 holding onto the loose s5in o- the sha-t. .o this stro5e -or a 1hile to allo1 tension to uild. "PA0 PI=,B Lightl2 and slo1l2 run a -inger u# the underside o- his coc5. %s5 him to tell 2ou 1here the most sensitive s#ot is. Pinch it3 s;uee?e it3 ni le it3 tease it. 0his is a good s#ot to #inch 8a la ,oc5u#ressure9 to turn a so-t coc5 roc5 solid.

Appendi# %3 Additional )emale Genital Massage Ideas

Selected *rom The Ne- Good ,i!rations Guide to Se#

L%)I%L M%""%GE <Place a 1ell6oiled 8or lu ed9 hand over her la ia3 -ingers #ointing to1ards her anus. Pull u# to1ard the navel and alternate hands. E&#lore the inner and outer li#s 1ith 2our -ingers. Pull gentl2 on one and then the other. /u the outer li#s gentl2 et1een 2our -ore-inger and thum 3 then the inner li#s.<

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%6A=E %=. %60CA %=. %60B/EE <0r2 inserting 2our -irst t1o -ingers into her3 then arch 2our thum ac5 4hitch6 hi5er4 st2le and thrust in until 2our thum rests against her clitoris. You can use a variet2 o- thrusting and t1isting motions in this #osition. You can also vi rate 2our entire hand.< ,LA"E )D0 =A ,IG%/ <I- 2our #artner has a #articular s#ot that the2 li5e to have lic5ed or caressed3 tr2 doing so ver2 close to ut not 4uite on that s#ot 6 e&ce#t #erha#s occasionall2. 0his tric5 1ill ma5e them ta5e longer to reach their orgasm3 ut the2 1ill li5el2 have a much stronger3 more #o1er-ul orgasm 1hen it -inall2 does ha##en. %s a variant3 2ou can do the 4not ;uite on target4 until the2 get close to coming3 then s1itch to the target itsel-3 thus earning their gratitude.< PD"B BE/E 0A "0%/0 <Gentl2 insert one -inger dee#l2 into her vagina and3 1hen she4s read23 insert a second. 0hen ta5e 2our thum and #lace it against her anus. .on4t insert it. Instead3 #ress there 1hile 2ou move 2our -ingers.< 0%P .%=,I=G <Place the #alm o- 2our hand on her mons 8the mound 1here her #u ic hair is93 and rest 2our -ingers lightl2 on her vaginal li#s. /est 2our thum on her o##osite thigh. Lightl2 ut -irml2 #ress 2our #alm onto her mons and egin to move 2our hand in a tiny circular motion. You #alm should not slide too much over her s5in during this #rocess. Instead3 her s5in should move underneath it. /e#eat this #rocess until 2ou have done ten circles. You then raise 2our -ingers and lightl2 ta# her vaginal li#s a out once a second until 2ou have given her ten ta#s. Please note that these are light ta#s3 not s#an5s. 0he2 shouldn4t hurt. %-ter giving the ta#s3 rest 2our hand -or -ive to ten seconds. 0hen re#eat the circles3 then re#eat the ta#s3 then rest again3 then re#eat the circles...<

P/APE/ I=VI0E <)egin 1ith a light3 gentle caress that arel2 touches the inner thighs and #u ic hair. .on4t go much -urther until 2our #artner4s #elvis egins to arch u#1ards. 0ease and caress until the li#s o- her vulva invite 2our -ingers inside.< 0/%,I=G <%-ter a##l2ing lu rication3 it might e nice to egin 1ith one o- the large outer li#s. Place the luc52 li# et1een 2our thum and -ore-inger3 clas#ing it at the ase 1here it attaches to the main #art o- 2our #artner4s od2. 0hen run 2our -ingers 8or -ingerti#9 -rom the lo1er to u##er #art o- the li#3 as though 2ou 1ere tracing one side o- a #arenthesis. /e#eat this as long as 2our #artner4s -eed ac5 is #ositive. You can also ma5e an u#side do1n horseshoe #attern 1ith a -ingerti# 2 starting at the lo1er inside #art o- one li# and -inishing at the lo1er inside #art o- the other. It could e -un to do this 1ith oth inner and outer li#s.<

Selected *rom Annie Sprinkle and ;oseph 0ramer$s Women's Massage Ritual

Selected *rom The Guide to Getting it On:

,E/VII ,LA,> <% 1oman4s cervi& can usuall2 e -ound in the u##er rear #art o- her vagina. 0he cervi& -eels li5e a little dome o- tissue3 and ma2 also have a small cle-t in the middle3 li5e 2our chin. ,are-ull2 stimulate the area surrounding the cervi&. "ome 1omen ma2 en7o2 this and 1ant 2ou to do it more o-ten@ others 1on4t.< *I=GE/" A= 0BE BAA. <Given ho1 the clitoral area is o-ten more sensitive than an2 single #art othe #enis3 2ou don4t 1ant the rough s5in o- 2our -ingers ru ing across it. Gentl2 #ush and #ull on the clitoral hood and la ia 1hen -irst touching a 1oman4s genitals. Dsing the li#s as leverage can #rovide #leasing stimulation 1ithout #ain-ul -riction.< */AM 0BE AD0"I.E <La2 2our -ree hand over the lo1er #art o- 2our #artner4s a domen. E&#eriment 2 a##l2ing di--erent 5inds o- #ressure 1ith the to# hand 1hile -ingers -rom 2our other hand are inside her vagina.< IMI0%0IA=" <%n e&cellent 1a2 to learn more a out #leasing 2our #artner is to rest 2our -ingers over hers 1hile she is mastur ating hersel-. 0hen do the reverse3 1ith her -ingers acting as guides -or 2our o1n.< A** 0BE E.GE <%nother -orm o- genital massage can e done 2 holding a lu ricated li# et1een 2our thum and -ore-inger. Chile s;uee?ing 7ust a little3 #ull 2our -ingers straight a1a2 -rom the 1oman4s od2. Your -ingers 1ill end u# in the air an inch or t1o a ove her od23 as though 2ou had #ulled them o-- the edge o- a ta leto# or sheet o- #a#er. I- she li5es this3 re#eat it man2 times.< AV%/IE" <%s5 2our #artner to hel# 2ou locate her ovaries. 0he2 can usuall2 e -elt in the dee#est #art o- the vagina and to the -ar le-t or right. "ome 1omen 1ill li5e 2ou to massage this area3 others 1ill -ind it #ain-ul. "ensitivit2 1ill also var2 1ith her menstrual status.<

)E BE/E =AC <Bold com#letel2 still 1hile 2our -ingers or 2our hand are still inside her vagina. .on4t move 6 7ust e there and meditate.< ,/E",E=0 MAA= <Insert 2our thum in her vagina3 curl 2our #alm around onto her clitoris3 and rest 2our -ingerti#s on to# o- her #u ic one. %lternate stimulation et1een the internal G6"#ot3 the clitoris3 and the e&ternal G6"#ot: ladder.< .AA/)ELL <Press ver2 -irml2 on her G6"#ot3 li5e ringing a door ell. Press3 release3 #ress....< *AD/ .I/E,0IA=" <Cith t1o -ingers #ress -irml2 u#:side:do1n:side in her vagina3 eight times each side.< GE=0LE 0AD,B %=. 0I,>LE <0ic5le the clitoris e&tremel2 lightl2.< BE%LI=G 0B/D"0 <"ome 1omen might need and 1ant good3 hard3 dee#3 vigorous thrusting #enetration. )e sure to 5ee# her rela&ed 6 don4t let her get into a tensed od2 mode.< PI=,B %=. PDLL <Gentl2 #inch and #ull on the clitoris.< /A,> %/AD=. 0BE ,LI0 ,LA,> <Cith 2our -ore-inger ma5e tin2 circles3 sto##ing at ever2 one o- t1elve 4hours4.< 0EMPLE G%0E 0E%"E <Cith one -inger tic5le her vaginal o#ening as lightl2 as #ossi le. Ma5e her hungr2.< 0AD/ .E */%=,E <Ar it 2our -ore-inger around et1een her inner and outer la ia -rom #erineum to a ove her clitoris.< 0/IPLE .IGI0 PD""Y PE0 <Dse 2our three longest -ingers3 1ith 2our middle -inger gliding along the outside o- her vaginal o#ening and 2our other t1o -ingers running along the #lace 1here her thigh meets her la ia.< 0CI"0 %=. "BAD0 <Dsing one or more -ingers3 massage in and out 1hile t1isting at the 1rist.<

Appendi# C3 Sa*er Se# Precautions ,oming into contact 1ith active out rea5s o- her#es or BPV3 or e&changing od2 -luids 1ith someone currentl2 carr2ing a "e&uall2 0ransmitted .isease 8"0.93 can im#art a ris5 to 2ou o- catching that "0.. %lthough un#rotected genital massage is certainl2 sa-er than un#rotected vaginal or anal intercourse3 i- 2ou or 2our #artner are #otentiall2 contagious 2ou can al1a2s insure a solute #rotection 2 #utting on a #air o- late& or nitrile gloves e-ore #leasuring 2our #artner4s genital areas. Please note that gloves are A=LY considered necessar2 1hen one is massaging s5in that is ro5en or unhealth2 due to "0.6related in-lammation3 or 1hen there is a #ossi ilit2 o- 2our hand8s9 coming into contact 1ith in-ectious od2 -luids@ -or general massage on health2 s5in 81ith no od2 -luids involved9 the2 aren4t needed. )2 the 1a23 although oils do degrade late&3 most e&#erts -eel that late& gloves 81hich are thic5er than condoms9 ma2 sa-el2 e used 1ith oils -or reasona le #eriods o- time.

Please remem er do remem er3 though3 that i- 2ou stimulate or #enetrate a 1oman4s anus 1ith one o- 2our -ingers 2ou must change gloves e-ore #utting that same -inger into her vagina. .oing other1ise can cause vaginal in-ections. Appendi# .3 Music Recommendations It4s hel#-ul to #ut together a ta#e or minidisc 1ith music selections that 1or5 1ell -or the #ace o- 2our time together. *or erotic massage3 it4s also hel#-ul to arrange the s#ea5ers so the est listening #oint is at the head o- the massage ta le. 0he -ollo1ing music recommendations come -rom the )od2 Electric "chool' GOO. M4SIC )OR T(AT NICE 'A)TERG O2' PERIO. Bere are some lovel2 <cosmic music< selections'

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PART II

Additional Erotic Massage In*ormation

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CONTENTS

Introduction

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Ch2 /ela&ation MassageK Ch2 Erotic MassageK

0raditional Massage 0erminolog2 )od2 Mechanics )asic Massage 0echni;ue Massage )i liogra#h2 o /ela&ation Massage o Erotic Massage o Massage 0hera#2 Massage /esources in "eattle o ,lasses o /eceiving Eualit2 Massage o "u##l2 "tores Massage Videota#es and Internet /esources o Videota#es o % 0hera#eutic Massage Mailing List o 0hera#eutic Massage CCC Pages % ,om#lete Erotic Massage 8-or Men or Comen9 %nother ,om#lete Erotic Massage o 0he Yoni Massage 8-or Comen9 o 0he Lingam Massage 8-or Men9 % ,om#lete Erotic Massage -or Men % ,om#lete Erotic Massage -or Comen

RE A<ATION M4SIC I- 2ou4re loo5ing -or something rela&ing that 2ou can #la2 through 1ithout needing to edit3 an2 o- the -ollo1ing might 1or5 -or 2ou'

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Introduction 2h& Rela#ation Massage=

ENERG"+%4I .ING M4SIC I- 2ou4re loo5ing -or something invigorating that 2ou can #la2 through 1ithout needing to edit3 an2 o- the -ollo1ing might 1or5 -or 2ou'

It4s a great 1a2 to give someone an e&#erience o- eing totall2 ta5en care oand -ree o- an2 res#onsi ilities. It4s good -or the od2. %n2 oo5 on thera#eutic massage 1ill list a num er o#ositive3 documented e--ects o- massage on the od2 and mind. It -eels good.

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Erotic massage is one o- the est 1a2s to hel# someone achieve e&tended3 multi#le3 or <1hole od2< orgasmic states. You can4t get #regnant -rom erotic massage3 even i- 2ou aren4t using an2 sort o- irth control. 0hus3 it4s a great 1a2 -or male:-emale cou#les 1ithout access to irth control to ma5e love. Chen intact late& gloves are used3 there is no ris5 o- "0. transmission regardless o- 1hat sort o- genital or anal #leasuring is eing #er-ormed. Most

#eo#le -ind late& gloves easier to deal 1ith and less intrusive than condoms or dental dams. *urthermore3 i- 2our s5in is health2 and 2ou aren4t going to e coming into contact 1ith in-ected s5in or od2 -luids3 then gloves aren4t necessar2 at all. Massage #rovides a s#ace to learn to give and receive #leasure3 and gives the receiving #artner a chance to -eel com#letel2 cared -or 2 the massaging #artner. It -eels good.

/ussell3 "te#hen and GLrgen >ol . 'he 'ao of !e*ual "assage. 1++2. /ush3 %nne. ?omantic "assage. 1++1. Lacroi&3 =it2a. !ensual "assage: An Intimate and Practical (uide to the Art of 'ouch. 1+(+.

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Traditional Massage Terminolog& E**leurage' % smooth3 gliding stro5e during 1hich the 1hole hand is in contact 1ith the od23 -ollo1ing the od24s contours. E--leurage is a great 1a2 to egin and end massage on a #articular area. Petrissage' % 5neading3 li-ting stro5e. 0r2 to 5ee# the #alm o- the hand in contact 1ith the od2 along 1ith the -ingers. )e rh2thmic3 and alternate hands. )riction' % direct3 -ocused3 com#ressing stro5e. 0hum s3 #ossi l2 raced3 1or5 1ell -or this stro5e. )e care-ul not to e&ert #ressure 1ith 2our -ingernails i- 2ou have long -ingernails. ,ircular motions 1or5 1ell. 0his stro5e should e #receded 2 e--leurage and:or #etrissage. %od& Mechanics

)ec53 Mar5. "ilady8s 'heory and Practice of 'hera-eutic "assage, %nd ed. 1++4.

Massage Resources in Seattle Classes I- 2ou 1ant to im#rove 2our massage s5ills3 the est a##roach is to ta5e one o- the introductor2 courses o--ered 2 an accredited massage thera#2 school. 0hese courses generall2 last either a da2 or a 1ee5end. 0he2 are a 1a2 -or the general #u lic to learn a out massage -rom #ro-essionals in a sa-e3 2et <hands6on< environment. 0he2 also #rovide a 1a2 -or #eo#le interested in attending massage school to get a sense o- 1hat that #articular school is li5e. Please note that these classes are on non6se&ual rela&ation massage. I- 2ou are interested s#eci-icall2 in erotic massage3 2ou should instead contact the )od2 Electric "chool M851H9 !53615+4N and in;uire a out their courses. 0here are three massage thera#2 schools in "eattle3 each o- 1hich o--ers introductor2 courses'

.on4t end over the ta le. Lean into the #erson 2ou4re massaging -or dee# stro5es3 rather than de#ending on u##er arm strength. >ee# 2our shoulders do1n. >ee# 2our 5nees slightl2 ent -or long gliding stro5es.

%asic Massage Techni>ue

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Maintain contact 1ith 2our #artner. Put oils:lotions in 2our hand -irst3 to e sure the2 are 1arm. "tart 1ith light and general stro5es e-ore doing dee# and direct 1or5 on an2 given area. /e#eated3 slo1 stro5es are rela&ing. *ast3 light stro5es are invigorating. .ee#3 draining stro5es on arms and legs should e done to1ards the heart rather than a1a2 -rom it. Massaging severel2 vericose veins dee#l2 and directl2 is #ro a l2 a ad idea. Cith other conditions use common sense3 getting a doctor4s o#inion inecessar2. A--er the receiving #artner a glass o- 1ater a-ter1ards. *or a variet2 oreasons3 1ater is es#eciall2 valua le to the od2 a-ter a massage.

More advanced courses in non6se&ual thera#eutic massage are availa le through the ,ontinuing Massage Education #rogram. Receiving 6ualit& Massage % great 1a2 to im#rove one4s massage s5ills is to receive ;ualit23 non6se&ual massage -rom a licensed #ractitioner. 0he most economical 1a2 to do this is to ma5e an a##ointment at the student clinic in an2 o- the three massage thera#2 schools mentioned a ove. /ates at student clinics are generall2 hal- 1hat the2 1ould e -or -ull2 licensed #ro-essionals3 as the massages are #er-ormed 2 students at the school as #art o- their educational #rocess. You can sometimes re;uest a <-ourth6;uarter< student 1hen 2ou ma5e 2our a##ointment@ since most schools divide their curriculum into -our ;uarters3 this increases the #ro a ilit2 that 2ou 1ill receive the highest ;ualit2 1or5. %nother a##roach is to visit a licensed thera#ist. /ates in "eattle at this time range -rom O4H to O$H #er hour. Individual thera#ists 1ill generall2 carr2 the designation <LMP< or <LM0< a-ter their name i- the2 are certi-ied and #roviding non6se&ual massage3 and man2 o- these inde#endent #ractitioners 1or5 out o- their homes to 5ee# costs do1n. ,linics and centers -or non6se&ual thera#eutic massage3 such as =e1 "eattle Massage 8451+ Dniversit2 Ca2 =E@ 82H!9 !3265H$49 generall2 o--er a variet2 o- #ractitioners along 1ith additional -acilities such as saunas3 sho1ers3 and steam rooms. 0here is no legal 1a2 to #a2 -or erotic massage in "eattle3 and none o- the student clinics3 thera#ists3 or centers mentioned a ove 1ill #rovide it. Suppl& Stores Massage su##l2 stores generall2 carr2 a range o- oo5s3 oils3 lotions3 ta les3 videos3 etc. "ome 1ill also rent massage ta les at dail2 rates. Each 1ill have a ulletin oard containing usiness cards and -l2ers -or a variet2 o- licensed massage #ractitioners and classes. 0here are three massage su##l2 stores in "eattle' %ll You >nead 8151( )road1a29' 82H!9 32(63412

Massage %i!liograph& Note: An A-ril ;, #66< eyword search on the sub=ect of "massage" in the .oo s in Print database turned u- #5< entries. "assage is a -o-ular to-ic, and new boo s about it are being -ublished at a ra-id -ace. Rela#ation Massage

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Massage ,ideotapes and Internet Resources ,ideotapes % good instructional videota#e on rela&ation massage is "assage for +ealth. *or more s#eciali?ed ta#es on rela&ation massage3 contact a massage thera#2 su##lier such as )od21or5 Em#orium. Instructional videota#es on erotic massage include 3ire on the "ountain: An Intimate (uide to "ale (enital "assage, 3ire in the )alley: An Intimate (uide to 3emale (enital "assage, Art of &*tended /rgasm3 etc. A Therapeutic Massage Mailing ist )A.YCA/> is a restricted3 ut unmoderated electronic mailing list -or discussion amongst od21or5 #ractitioners. 0he list o1ner intends -or the de-inition o- od21or5 to e -airl2 e&#ansive3 including all sorts o- non6se&ual od26centered thera#ies and modalities. E&am#les include "1edish massage3 0rager %##roach3 trigger #oint thera#23 /ol-ing3 Polarit2 0hera#23 /ei5i3 /e-le&olog23 %le&ander 0echni;ue3 Gin "hin .o3 acu#uncture3 "hiatsu3 #h2sical thera#2 and training3 and od26centered #s2chothera#2. Mem ershi# on the list 1ill e restricted to #ractitioners and students. =e1 su scri ers 1ill e screened 2 the list o1ner e-ore eing added to the su scri er list@ ho1ever3 the discussions 1ill not e moderated. 0o su scri e3 send the -ollo1ing command in the od2 o- 2our mail message to LI"0P/A,PE,BA=Y,.,AM on the Internet' "D)",/I)E )A.YCA/> 2ourname Therapeutic Massage 222 Pages

Bave 2our #artner turn over3 #ossi l2 o--ering an e2e #illo1 i- the room is too right. /un the -ur mitten over the -ront o- their od2. Massage the -ront o- 2our #artner4s -eet and legs. 0ease 2our #artner4s genitals3 inner thighs and:or ni##les. Massage 2our #artner4s a domen. Massage 2our #artner4s arms and hands. ,ircle 2our #artner4s ni##les 1ith 2our #alms3 5ee#ing 2our mouth 2 his or her ear. 0a5e this o##ortunit2 to sa2 an2thing se&2 and encouraging that comes to mind. Let 2our od2 language re-lect the -un 2ou are having. Dse teasing3 rushing stro5es over 2our #artner4s genitals. 0ell 2our #artner to <Imagine an arousing heat slo1l2 uilding in 2our genitals and s#reading out1ards.< .o genital massage3 to orgasm8s9 i- #ossi le or desired. Man2 1omen 1ill also en7o2 it i- a vi rator is grace-ull2 included as #art o- this. ,over 2our #artner 1ith a lan5et and rest 2our hands on his or her heart and genitals. /est li5e this -or a 1hile.

Another Complete Erotic Massage 8-rom the internet %lt."e&.Ci?ards *%E9 The "oni Massage /*or 2omen1 M=ote' this article3 <0he Yoni Massage<3 is no1 o--iciall2 maintained on htt#'::111.tantra.org3 and is co#2right R 1++362HH1 2 Ge--er2 02eN M2 1i-e and I have #racticed 0antra:"acred "e& -or several 2ears and have received much 7o2 -rom the techni;ues and #rocesses. Ane o- m2 1i-e4s -avorite and -re;uentl2 re;uested se&ual activit2 is the Yoni Massage. It has greatl2 e&#anded our se& li-e3 rought us closer and has given me a greater a##reciation o- 1omen. Ce4ve taught the techni;ue to man2 o- our -riends and the2 too have en7o2ed good results -rom it. I o--er it here and ho#e it enhances 2our se& li-e. En7o2. %AC0GRO4N. IN)O' Yoni 8#ronounced YA6=EE9 is a "ans5rit 1ord -or the vagina that is loosel2 translated as <"acred "#ace< or <"acred 0em#le.< Its meaning and use is an alternate #ers#ective -rom the Cestern vie1 o- the -emale genitals 8i.e.3 Puss23 ,unt3 01at3 etc.3 1ords 1hich ma2 or ma2 not e com#limentar2 de#ending on the intent o- their usage9. In 0antra3 the Yoni is seen -rom a #ers#ective o- love and res#ect. 0his is es#eciall2 hel#-ul -or men to learn. 0he #ur#ose o- the Yoni Massage is to create a s#ace -or the 1oman 8the receiver9 to rela&3 and enter a state o- high arousal and e&#erience much #leasure -rom her Yoni. Ber #artner 8the giver9 e&#eriences the 7o2 o- eing o- service and 1itnessing a s#ecial moment. 0he Yoni Massage can also e used as a -orm o- sa-er se& 81hen late& gloves are used9 and is an e&cellent activit2 to uild trust and intimac2. "ome massage and se& thera#ists use it to assist 1omen to rea5 through se&ual loc5s or trauma. 0he goal o- the Yoni massage is not orgasm. Argasm is o-ten a #leasant and 1elcome side e--ect. 0he goal is sim#l2 to #leasure and massage the Yoni:vagina. *rom this #ers#ective oth receiver and giver can rela&3 and not have to 1orr2 a out achieving something. Chen orgasm does occur it is usuall2 more e&#anded3 more intense and more satis-2ing. Argasm is allo1ed to ha##en or not ha##en. It is also hel#-ul -or the giver to not e&#ect an2thing in return. Gust allo1 the receiver to en7o2 the massage and to rela& into hersel- a-ter1ards. A- course3 other se&ual activit2 ma2 -ollo1 ut it should e entirel2 the receiver4s choice. 0his #ers#ective 1ill uild greater intimac2 and trust3 and 1ill greatl2 e&#and 2our se&ual hori?ons. PREPARATION' )athing is al1a2s hel#-ul as it rela&es oth the receiver and giver. % ;uiet s#ace is desira le 1ith #leasing music3 candles3 #illo1s3 etc.3 or 1hatever ma5es the #artici#ants rela& and -eel sa-e. %llo1 2oursel- enough time and do not hurr2 through the #rocess. Go to the athroom e-ore eginning the massage. 0he est results 1ill occur 1hen the o1els and ladder are em#t2 and 2ou 1ill avoid the unnecessar2 e&#erience ointerru#ting the massage to go to the athroom. ,onnect 1ith 2our #artner 2 hugging3 holding3 e2e ga?ing 8loo5ing into each other4s e2es -or an e&tended time93 or 1hatever rings 2ou to a #lace o- sa-et2 and rela&ation.

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"tart 2 setting the s#ace. 0he room should e 1arm enough -or someone to e com-orta le l2ing do1n na5ed in it 8at least $( degrees9. Pla2 some so-t music3 and #ossi l2 urn some incense. 0urn o-- an2 #hones and #ut a <.o =ot .istur < sign on the door. 0he room lights should e lo1 or o--3 and candles should e lit i- #ossi le. Letting the receiving #artner ta5e a hot ath or sit in a steam room or sauna e-ore the massage is a good idea 6 this 1ill o#en the #ores and ma5e the massage -eel t1ice as nice. I- 2ou can ta5e 2our sheets3 lan5ets3 and:or to1els out o- the dr2er 7ust e-ore eginning 2our massage3 the2 1ill e 1arm and -eel 1onder-ul to the receiving #artner. .o a sort o- <intervie1< 1ith 2our #artner i- necessar2. %s5 them a out an2 -antasies the2 have 81hich 2ou can incor#orate into <hot tal5< later93 i- the24re tic5lish an21here3 i- an2 #art o- their od2 is in7ured3 etc. %s5 ho1 the2 mastur ate. Learning 1hether the2 li5e G6s#ot stimulation3 #rostate stimulation3 and:or vi rators is valua le. Bave the receiving #artner start out -ace do1n3 l2ing on the sheet and lan5et. /emind him or her to reathe slo1l2 and regularl2. Place 2our hands on the receiving #artner4s u##er and lo1er ac53 as5ing that #erson to imagine 1ith each reath sin5ing lo1er and lo1er into the ta le. /est li5e this -or a little 1hile. 0a5e a long -eather. "a23 <I4m going to run a -eather over 2our ac5. Put all 2our a1areness into the #lace 1here the -eather is touching 2ou.< "lo1l2 run the -eather u# and do1n 2our #artner4s od2. 0a5e a -ur mitten. 0ell 2our #artner to <Gust en7o2 this sensation.< /un it all over their od2. "tart 2our massage on 2our #artner4s ac5. Proceed to his or her nec53 legs3 and -eet. >iss the ac5 o- 2our #artner4s nec5 ever2 once in a 1hile.

PROCE.4RE' Bave the receiver lie on her ac5 1ith #illo1s under her head so she can loo5 do1n at her genitals and u# at her #artner 8giver9. Place a #illo13 covered 1ith a to1el3 under her hi#s. Ber legs are to e s#read a#art 1ith the 5nees slightl2 ent 8#illo1s or cushions under the 5nees 1ill also hel#9 and her genitals clearl2 e&#osed -or the massage. 0he giver sits cross6legged et1een the receivers4 legs. 0he giver ma2 1ish to sit on a #illo1 or cushion. 0his #osition allo1s -ull access to the Yoni and other #arts o- the od2. )e-ore contacting the od23 egin 1ith dee#3 rela&ed reathing. )oth giver and receiver should remem er to 5ee# reathing dee#l23 slo1l2 and 1ith rela&ation during the entire #rocess. 0he giver 1ill gentl2 remind the receiver to start reathing again i- the receiver sto#s or ta5es shallo1er reaths. .ee# reathing3 not h2#erventilating3 is ver2 im#ortant here. Gentl2 massage the legs3 a domen3 thighs3 reasts3 etc.3 to get the receiver to rela& and -or the giver to #re#are -or touching the Yoni. Pour a small ;uantit2 o- a high6;ualit2 oil or lu ricant on the mound o- the Yoni. Pour 7ust enough so that it dri#s do1n the outer li#s and covers the outside o- the Yoni. 8"everal e&cellent se&ual lu ricants are availa le -or this. Man2 lingerie sho#s3 se& to2 sho#s3 se& maga?ines3 etc.3 o--er these sa-e lu ricants.9 CA,EAT + .o not mi# oil+!ased products -ith late#5 )egin gentl2 massaging the mound and outer li#s o- the Yoni. "#end some time here and do not rush. /ela& and en7o2 giving the massage. Gentl2 s;uee?e the outer li# et1een the thum and inde& -inger3 and slide u# and do1n the entire length o- each li#. .o the same thing to the inner li#s o- the Yoni:vagina. 0a5e 2our time. 0he receiver can massage her o1n reasts or ma2 7ust rela& and continue reathing dee#l2. It is hel#-ul -or giver and receiver to loo5 into each other4s e2es as much as #ossi le. 0he receiver can tell the giver i- the #ressure3 s#eed3 de#th3 etc.3 needs to e increased or decreased. Limit 2our s#ea5ing and -ocus on the #leasura le sensations. 8It is m2 e&#erience that too much tal5ing gets one out o- their -eelings and diminishes the e--ects.9 Gentl2 stro5e the clitoris 1ith cloc51ise and counter6cloc51ise circles. Gentl2 s;uee?e it et1een thum and inde& -ingers. .o this as a massage and not to get the receiver o--. 0he receiver 1ill undou tedl2 ecome ver2 aroused ut continue to encourage her to 7ust rela& and reathe. "lo1l2 and 1ith great care3 insert the middle -inger o- 2our right hand into the Yoni 8there is a reason -or using the right hand as o##osed to the le-t. It has to do 1ith #olarit2 in 0antra9. Ver2 gentl2 e&#lore and massage the inside o- the Yoni: vagina 1ith this -inger. 0a5e 2our time3 e gentle3 and -eel u#3 do1n and side1a2s. Var2 the de#th3 s#eed and #ressure. /emem er3 this is a massage and 2ou4re nurturing and rela&ing the Yoni. Cith 2our #alm -acing u#3 and the middle -inger inside the Yoni3 move the middle -inger in a <come here< gesture or croo5 ac5 to1ards the #alm. You 1ill contact a s#ong2 area otissue 7ust under the #u ic one3 ehind the clitoris. 0his is the G6s#ot or in 0antra3 the sacred s#ot 8there are man2 e&cellent oo5s that go into detail a out this area9. Your #artner ma2 -eel as i- the2 have to urinate or it ma2 e #ain-ul or #leasura le. %gain var2 the #ressure3 s#eed and #attern o- movement. You can move side to side3 ac5 and -orth3 or in circles 1ith 2our middle -inger. You can also insert the -inger that4s et1een 2our middle -inger and #in5ie. ,hec5 1ith 2our #artner -irst e-ore stic5ing t1o -ingers into them. Most 1omen should have no #ro lem and 1ill en7o2 the increased stimulation -rom t1o -ingers. 0a5e 2our time and e ver2 gentle. You ma2 use the thum o- the right hand to stimulate the clitoris as 1ell. %n o#tion to tr2 i- the receiver 1ants it is to insert the #in5ie o- the right hand into her anus. %s5 her -irst and do not insert 2our #in5ie into her Yoni:vagina a-ter it has een in her anus. Dse lu rication and e ver2 gentle. 8In 0antra3 it is said that 1hen 2our #in5ie is in her anus3 the ne&t -inger and middle -inger in her Yoni:vagina3 and 2our thum on her clitoris3 <You are holding one o- the m2steries o- the universe in 2our hand.<9 "o3 1hat is 2our le-t hand doing all this timeK You can use it to massage the reasts3 a domen3 or clitoris. I- 2ou massage the clitoris it4s usuall2 est to use 2our thum in an u# do1n motion3 1ith the rest o- 2our hand resting on and massaging the mound. 0he

dual stimulation o- right and le-t hands 1ill #rovide much #leasure -or the receiver. I do not recommend using 2our le-t hand to touch 2our o1n genitals ecause it ma2 ta5e 2our -ocus o-- the receiver. /emem er3 this massage is -or her #leasure and much o- the ene-it comes -rom not onl2 the #h2sical stimulation ut the intent as 1ell. ,ontinue massaging3 tr2ing di--erent s#eeds3 #ressures and motions. >ee# reathing and loo5ing into each other4s e2es. "he ma2 have #o1er-ul emotions come u# and ma2 cr2. Gust 5ee# reathing and e gentle. Man2 1omen have een se&uall2 a used and need to e healed. % giving3 loving and #atient #artner can e o- great value to her. I- she has an orgasm3 5ee# her reathing3 and continue massaging i- she 1ants. More orgasms ma2 occur3 each gaining in intensit2. In 0antra this is called <riding the 1ave.< Man2 1omen can learn ho1 to e multi6orgasmic 1ith the Yoni Massage and a ver2 #atient #artner. >ee# massaging until she tells 2ou to sto#. Ver2 slo1l23 gentl23 and 1ith res#ect3 remove 2our hands. %llo1 her to 7ust la2 there and en7o2 the a-terglo1 o- the Yoni massage. ,uddling or holding is ver2 soothing as 1ell. %s 2ou learn to master the Yoni Massage 2our se& li-e 1ill e greatl2 enriched and 2ou 1ill learn a great deal a out -eminine se&ualit2. The ingam Massage /*or Men1 M=ote' this article3 <0he Lingam Massage<3 is no1 o--iciall2 maintained on htt#'::111.tantra.org3 and is co#2right R 1++362HH1 2 Ge--er2 02eN %AC0GRO4N. IN)O' 0he "ans5rit 1ord -or the male se&ual organ is Lingam 8#ronounced LI=G6%BM3 MLI=G rh2mes 1ith singN9 and is loosel2 translated as <Cand o- Light.< Its meaning is di--erent in intention -rom the t2#ical Cestern vie1 o- the #enis 8i.e.3 ,oc53 Pric53 .ong3 .ic53 etc.3 1ords that ma2 come -rom a limited #ers#ective3 de#ending on the intent o- their usage9. In 0antra:"acred "e&ualit23 the Lingam is res#ect-ull2 vie1ed and honored3 a <Cand oLight< that channels creative energ2 and #leasure. 0he #ur#ose o- the Lingam Massage is to create a s#ace the receiver to rela&3 and receive e&#anded #leasure -rom his Lingam. Bis #artner 8the giver9 e&#eriences the 7o2 o- -acilitating and 1itnessing the man surrendering to his so-ter3 gentler side. 0he Lingam Massage can e used as a -orm o- sa-er se& 81hen late& gloves are used9 and is an e&cellent #rocess to uild trust and intimac2. It is o-ten used to hel# men heal -rom negative se&ual conditioning and trauma. Argasm is not the goal o- the Lingam massage although it is o-ten a #leasant and 1elcome side e--ect. 0he goal is to massage the Lingam3 also including testicles3 #erineum and "acred "#ot 8the e;uivalent to the -emale G6s#ot93 and allo1 the man to surrender to a -orm o- #leasure he ma2 not e used to. *rom this #ers#ective oth receiver and giver rela& into the massage. Men need to learn to /EL%I and /E,EIVE. 0raditional se&ual conditioning has the man in a doing and goal oriented mode. 0he Lingam Massage allo1s the man to e&#erience his so-ter3 more rece#tive side and e&#erience #leasure -rom a non6traditional #ers#ective. PREPARATION' 0a5e a rela&ing ath or sho1er. 0a5e 2our time and reathe dee#l2. ,onscious3 rela&ed reathing 1ill ta5e 2ou out o- 2our mental #rocess and 1ill get 2ou more into 2our -eelings. /ela& 2our ell2 and let go o- the tension that most o- us hold there. Go to the athroom e-ore eginning the massage. 0he est results occur 1hen the o1els and ladder are em#t2. Let go o- 2our thoughts and connect 1ith 2our #artner through hugging3 holding3 e2e ga?ing 8loo5ing into each other4s e2es -or an e&tended time93 ringing oth o- 2ou to a #lace o- rela&ation and trust. PROCE.4RE' Bave the receiver lie on his ac5 1ith #illo1s under his head so he can loo5 u# at his #artner 8giver9. Place a #illo13 covered 1ith a to1el3 under his hi#s. Bis legs are to e

s#read a#art 1ith the 5nees slightl2 ent 8#illo1s or cushions under the 5nees 1ill also hel#9 and his genitals clearl2 e&#osed -or the massage. 0he giver sits cross6legged et1een the receivers4 legs. )e-ore contacting the od23 egin 1ith dee#3 rela&ed reathing. Gentl2 massage the legs3 a domen3 thighs3 chest3 ni##les3 etc.3 to get the receiver to rela&. /emind the receiver to reathe dee#l2 and to sin5 dee#er into rela&ation. Pour a small ;uantit2 o- a high6;ualit2 oil 8or 1ater6 ased or silicone6 ased lu ricant 1hen using late& gloves9 on the sha-t o- the Lingam and testicles. )egin gentl2 massaging the testicles3 ta5ing care to not cause #ain in this sensitive area. Massage the scrotum gentl23 causing it to rela&. Massage the area a ove the Lingam3 on the #u ic one. Massage the Perineum3 the area et1een the testicles and anus. 0a5e 2our time. You are giving a massage to an o-ten neglected area o- the od2. CA,EAT + .o not mi# oil+!ased products -ith late#5 Massage the sha-t o- the Lingam. Var2 the s#eed and #ressure. Gentl2 s;uee?e the Lingam at the ase 1ith 2our right hand3 #ull DP and slide o-- and then alternate 1ith 2our le-t hand. 0a5e 2our time doing this3 right3 le-t3 right3 le-t3 etc. 0hen3 change the direction 2 starting the s;uee?e at the head o- the Lingam: #enis and then sliding .AC= and o--. %gain3 alternate 1ith right and le-t hands. Massage the head o- the Lingam as i- 2ou are using an orange 7uicer. Massage all around the head and sha-t. In 0antra there are man2 nerve endings on the Lingam that corres#ond to other #arts o- the od2. It is said man2 ailments can e cured 2 receiving a good Lingam Massage. =A0E' 0he Lingam ma2 or ma2 not go so-t as 2ou #er-orm this techni;ue. .o not 1orr2 iit doesn4t get hard again. You 1ill #ro a l2 -ind that it 1ill get hard3 then go so-t3 get hard again3 etc.3 1hich is a highl2 desira le 0antric e&#erience3 li5e riding a 1ave3 o ing u# and do1n. Bardness and "o-tness are t1o ends o- the #leasure s#ectrum. I- it a##ears that the receiver is going to e7aculate3 ac5 o--3 allo1ing the Lingam to so-ten a little e-ore resuming the massage. .o this several times3 coming close to e7aculation3 and then ac5ing o--. /emem er3 the goal is not orgasm in and o- itsel-. Men can learn the art o- e7aculator2 master2 and control 2 coming close to e7aculation and then ac5ing o-- on the stimulation. .ee# reathing is 5e2 here and 1ill so-ten the urge to e7aculate. Eventuall2 e7aculator2 master2 1ill allo1 2ou to ma5e love as long as 2ou 1ant and 2ou can ecome multi6orgasmic 1ithout losing a dro# o- semen. Argasm and e7aculation are t1o di--erent res#onses that 2ou can learn to se#arate. 0he result is a ver2 e&#anded se& li-e. *ind and massage the male "acred "#ot. 0here are t1o 1a2s to do this.Ane is 2 -inding the s#ot mid1a2 et1een the testicles and anus. 0here is a small indentation a out the si?e o- a #ea or ma2 e larger. )e gentle and #ush in1ard. Be 1ill -eel the #ressure dee# inside and it ma2 e intensel2 #ain-ul at -irst. Eventuall23 as this area is 1or5ed on and so-tened3 he 1ill e a le to e&#and his orgasms and master e7aculator2 control. You can massage his Lingam 1ith 2our right hand and massage his "acred "#ot 1ith 2our le-t hand. 0r2 #ushing in on this s#ot 1hen he nears e7aculation. It is a#tl2 named the Million .ollar Point in 0aoism. 0he other 1a2 to access the "acred "#ot is through the anus. Man2 men3 es#eciall2 heterose&ual men3 are uncom-orta le at -irst as a result o- negative se&ual conditioning. )e care-ul here and use lu rication. 0he 5e2 is to go slo1 and e ver2 gentle. Ma5e sure he is reathing as 2ou sli# a -inger -rom 2our le-t hand into the anus a out an inch or so. 0hen croo5 the -inger ac5 in a <come here< gesture. You 1ill -eel the #rostate gland. Var2 the #ressure and s#eed o- massage. Be ma2 1ant stimulation o- the Lingam as 2ou massage the "acred "#ot. )ac5 o-- on the Lingam as he a##roaches orgasm and increase the #ressure on the "acred "#ot. "ometimes the man ma2 have strong emotions come u# during access to the "acred "#ot. Be ma2 cr2 and remem er a traumatic event -rom his #ast. You3 the giver3 are in a #lace o- trust and intimac2. %llo1 him to -eel his emotions and e ver2 loving3 not tr2ing to console or -i& him3 7ust let him -eel 1hatever he needs to. Encourage him to scream3 cr23 moan3 so 3 i- it -eels a##ro#riate. )e the est -riend and healer he could have in that moment. EN.ING T(E MASSAGE' I- he chooses to let go and e7aculate3 encourage him to reathe dee#l2 during the orgasm. It 1ill lo1 his mind3 es#eciall2 i- he has come close and held ac5 at least "II times e-ore e7aculating. Bolding ac5 si& times charges u# the se&ual atter2 1ith

tremendous energ2. It is then his choice as to 1here he 1ants to send this energ2 66 out 1ith their e7aculate 8the #revailing #aradigm9 or in1ard -or other uses 8men 1ho master e7aculation are a le to channel this energ2 into other areas o- their eing9. Chen he -eels com#lete 1ith the massage gentl2 remove 2our hands and allo1 him to lie there ;uietl2. You ma2 1ant to snuggle u# together or 2ou can leave the room and let him dri-t o-- into a meditative state. %llo1 him to -ull2 e&#erience his childli5e innocence and magni-icent male eaut2. A Complete Erotic Massage *or Men 8Ins#ired 2 the )od2 Electric -or Men ,ourse9 STEP ONE Per-orm a general -ull od2 massage 1ith oil 8almond oil 1or5s -ine3 ut 2ou ma2 1ish to massage the ac5 1ith cornstarch instead -or easier clean6u#9. )egin 1ith the ac5 and include the ac5s o- the legs. 0hen have the #erson on the ta le roll over3 and #er-orm a general massage on the -ront. )rush over the 1hole od23 including the #u ic region. STEP TWO Per-orm one or more o- the massage stro5es detailed in the school4s 3ire on the "ountain videota#e3 #ossi l2 including some o- the anal massage techni;ues e&#lored in ?osebud "assage videota#e. STEP THREE Please read <General Ideas< elo1 to e a le to ma5e sense o- ste# three. )asicall23 uild the energ2 o- the massage to the #oint o- #er-orming the <)ig .ra1<. "to# touching 1hen this is done3 and cocoon the receiving #artner 1ith a sheet. %-ter 561H minutes3 uncover and to1el o-- oil. GENERAL IDEAS Avoiding E?aculation 0he e&#erience o- this t2#e o- massage is enhanced i- one does =A0 e7aculate 8during the massage3 during the <)ig .ra1<3 and a-ter1ards9. The '%ig .ra-' 0he <)ig .ra1< is a time3 as the massage reaches its clima&3 1hen the #erson receiving massage ta5es a series o- seven dee# reaths. 0he #erson #er-orming the massage then ste#s ac5 8and sta2s ste##ed ac59 1hile the #erson receiving the massage then #roceeds to li-t the ac5 and legs a it 8as i- doing a <crunch<93 holds his reath3 and #roceeds to -irml2 clench ever2 muscle in the od2 and hold that #osition -or 2H seconds. 0his is then -ollo1ed 2 total rela&ation and resuming regular reathing. It isn4t uncommon -or this to #rovo5e <emotional release<3 or other such reactions. 0he #erson #er-orming the massage should sta2 attentive and 1atch the #erson on the ta le 8<holding the s#ace<9 ut shouldn4t other1ise inter-ere. It4s a good idea to cover the #erson u# 1ith the sheet or lan5et a-ter the <)ig .ra1<3 and to arrange the music so that something suita l2 cosmic is #la2ing a-ter rela&ation 8total silence3 i- it can e arranged3 is a good idea -or the -ive seconds -ollo1ing the )ig .ra13 and #ossi l2 during it9. Generall23 the intensit2 o- the massage should slo1l2 e uilding 8along 1ith the intensit2 o- the music9 until this #art ha##ens. %reathing )reathing is ver2 im#ortant. Cithout h2#erventilating3 1hen 2ou are receiving a massage such as this it can enhance #leasure to reath dee#l2 and regularl2. %n advanced techni;ue -or the #erson #er-orming the massage is to reathe in time 1ith the #erson eing massaged 8 reathing 1ith some sound is hel#-ul3 and 1ill remind the #erson eing massaged to reathe9. ,ocali@ing Chen receiving the massage3 vocali?ing o- some 5ind can also e hel#-ul3 and re;uests:instructions to the #erson #er-orming the massage should al1a2s e 1elcome. A Complete Erotic Massage *or 2omen *or this3 see %nnie "#rin5le4s latest instructional videota#e3 3ire in the )alley: An Intimate (uide to 3emale (enital "assage.