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Celibacy/Abstinence/ Brahmacharya and marriage

Expert: Dhananjay - 8/30/2012
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Question hi dhananjay, i have some doubts regarding marriage in brahmacharya. 1.I experienced some postive change in my health condition and courage after performing brahmacharya and i made promise to lord that i will not masturbate.I am 29+ now and will marry in 2 or 3 years and i said to my mother that i will take up yoga before 34 as said by HH swami sivananda and my mother said that you start at the age of 45 and i don't want to hurt her, she is also saying that if you do like that then you will do injustice to the girl by not fulfilling her dreams of married life and the girls parents say words to my parents that even though you know about your son's

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Questions concerning the practice of 'Brahmacharya' to know the self & the means required are dealt with on this site.

intentions why did you married to our daughter, i saw in my childhood many of my relatives(married females)complaining to their parents about their husbands not being active in the act and the husbands got scolding from both sides even though i was child then i remember the incidents. 2.In one of your posts i read that if we practice brahmachraya before marriage and there are breaks after marriage apart from progency then we will face health problems and other problems due to long period of brahmacharya and breaking it.so i am thinking like this (A)i will perform unbroken brahmacharya till marriage(so that i become somewhat healthy and other benefits) and then according to spouse's desire i break my brahmacharya for some period (2-3 years)then make her understand the purpose and start my practice again.(B)I will break brahmacharya every 40 or 50 days(so as to eliminate the problems faced in future) and then continue like this till i start unbroken brahmacharya after my marriage. please tell me right path if my thinking is odd. i don't want to hurt my mother and my future wife and i also said to my mother that upper limit of performing yoga is under 40 years i think she thought ok to that even though she didn't tell. please tell me your valube advice ganapathi. Answer 1. Adhere to the practice with honesty and devotion to the Lord. At the right time, you will find a suitable wife who will help you evolve. Donot worry much about the future as all this is decided by the Lord. Ours is to follow our Dharma (duty) and leave the rest to HIM. Marrying early is the right approach. Whether a person takes up Brahmacharya at 29 or 45 is decided by HIM and not us. Immaterial of what we want or dont, HIS decision alone transpires. 2. A person who has practiced many years of unbroken Brahmacharya with deep meditation will generally not get the mind to squander his resources in a life of wanton sexuality. His indulgence gets limited to progeny automatically further to the Gnyana (wisdom) he acquires from the years of practice. Also, such an honest aspirant who is spiritually evolved will most often get blessed with a wife who is also spiritually compatible to his level of progress. Give consent to marriage at the earliest with devotion to the Lord and as a part of duty. Things will work as destined and the journey called life moves on. (That Supreme being is the absolute truth)

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The term 'Yoga' is a derivative of the Samskruth verb 'Yuj' which refers to union. 'Yoga', also called 'Brahma vidy' is the eternal dissolution of the individual 'Aham' (Ego) into the Atman (self) that is the Lord for 'Mukti' (liberation) Mere indulgence in 'sana' or physical postures is not Yoga. sana is only one limb or 'Anga' of Yoga. The eight limbs viz. Yama, Niyama, sana, Prnyma, Pratyhra, Dhrana, Dhyna and Samdhi are the means to Yoga. Brahmacharya or spiritually based continence is one of the important components of 'Yama'. 'Brahmacharya':-"Brahmani charyathey ithi" - "One who has completely surrendered to Brahman, overcome the Ego, and has realized himself to be a tool of the Almighty." Education/Credentials Bachelors degree in Engineering.

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