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Also by Kevin Bermingham CHANGE YOUR LIMITING BELIEFS Step Two: Become More Empowered CHANGE YOUR LIMITING BELIEFS Step Three: Commit To New Beliefs CHANGE YOUR LIMITING BELIEFS Daily Diary CHANGE YOUR LIMITING BELIEFS Three Steps To Achieve Meaningful Goals (A compilation of all three steps & the daily diary)
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Change Your LIMITING BELIEFS

Step One

Assess
Step One

Become Commit
Step Two Step Three

Kevin Bermingham
BSc, MBA, MPracNLP, CMC

The Project Management & Goal Achievement Expert

Meaningful Goals Ltd

First published in Great Britain in 2010 by Meaningful Goals Ltd., Sussex, England. www.MeaningfulGoals.com Copyright 2010 by T.P. Kevin Bermingham, all rights reserved. Kevin Bermingham has asserted his right under the Copyright, Designs and Patents Act 1988 to be identified as the author of this work. No part of this book may be used or reproduced, stored in a retrieval system, or transmitted in any form or any means, electronic, mechanical, photocopying, recording, scanning, or otherwise, except as permitted by the Copyright, Designs and Patents Act 1988, without either the prior written permission of the Publisher or the author. This book is sold subject to the condition that it shall not, by way of trade or otherwise, be lent, resold, hired out, or otherwise circulated without the publisher's prior consent in any form of binding or cover other than that in which it is published and without a similar condition, including this condition, being imposed on the subsequent purchaser. Trademarks of Kevin Bermingham are not designated in the text of this publication. The following are trademarks of Kevin Bermingham and may not be used without permission: Meaningful Goals Achieve Your Wildest Dreams The Seven Principles of Meaningful Goals Three Steps To Achieve Meaningful Goals The 3-Step Goal Achievement System Goal Achiever's Mastermind Group Limit of Liability/Disclaimer of Warranty: While the publisher and author have used their best efforts in preparing this book, they make no representations or warranties with respect to the accuracy or completeness of the contents of this book and specifically disclaim any implied warranties of merchantability or fitness for a particular purpose. The advice and strategies contained herein may not be suitable for your situation. Neither the publisher or author is engaged in rendering professional services, and you should consult a professional where appropriate. Neither the publisher nor author shall be liable for any loss of profit or any other commercial damages, including but not limited to special, incidental, consequential, or other damages. Rear Cover Photograph 2010 by Laura Morgan www.LauraMorganPhotography.co.uk V4b-pocket ISBN 978-1-908101-01-3 1. Personal development. 2. Self-help. 3. Success in business.

ACKNOWLEDGEMENTS
From the start Id like to thank you for whatever investment youve made to read this book. It was written specifically for you. I hope youll forgive my informal style of writing it simply helps me feel that Im talking directly to you and I hope you find that useful. I'd like to thank my past and present teachers who, either in person or in print, have helped me in some way to write this book. I'm deeply grateful to all of these giants; upon whose shoulders I've stood to see my own dream. Many thanks to Ian Jones, my goal achievement coach. The book would never have been started without him. Id also like to thank the many people who freely donated their time to review and comment on the drafts you know who you are! My grateful thanks go to my wife Bernice; for her enduring and bemused patience.

CONTENTS
Introduction Attitude To Life Philosophy On Life The 3-Step Series Bibliography About the Author Next Steps 9 17 19 45 47 49 51

Step One - Assess Your Old Beliefs 27

Change Your Limiting Beliefs has a clear message we can change our beliefs for the better and make them suit the lives we want as individuals. It makes sense; I understood it all and its in a logical sequence. The exercises work; they fit into the overall structure and are applicable to my style of learning. Did I find it useful and relevant? Totally! Martin Cornes, Director - The Coaching Foundation Ltd.

Please commit to carrying out the written exercises youll only get good results by thinking about the questions in the exercises and then writing your answers in the book. If the instructions sometimes seem a little ambiguous, its simply a technique to engage your unconscious mind; thats how it works. If you dont know the answer to a question guess! And, if you have a belief that its wrong to write in books...

Introduction
This series is about Beliefs - what they are, how they affect your life, and how to change them. It's written for people like you - who want to achieve goals, but for some reason youre STUCK. This series of four books will help you discover why and then suggest what you can do about it. It's a practical guide that contains everything you need to know about beliefs. So you can get back on course and start converting your wildest dreams into Meaningful Goals Are you making New Year resolutions that you've forgotten by February? Are you losing motivation commitment for projects? and

Did you once achieve goals easily, but now there's a problem - your goals just don't seem worthwhile anymore?

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Do you feel frustrated because your life isn't turning out as expected? Are others achieving their dreams, but not you?

If so, its probably because you have Limiting Beliefs holding you back. For example, some people believe theyre inadequate, some believe theyre stupid, some unloved, etc. Maybe you believe that we are all limited by our upbringing? Whatever yours is youre not alone! Which limiting belief would you change if you could? How would you like to change ANY belief you wish? Is that really possible? Well, actually Yes! I did it myself. In 1990, my life was going nowhere; I was nursing my second duodenal ulcer and fire fighting my way through 14-hour, stress-filled days. Then something happened to shake up my world. I realised I was simply trapped in a mediocre job following someone else's dream. So I changed my beliefs and finally achieved my

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own dream. See the Case Study - Follow Your Dream for details. I'm not particularly gifted or special, so I know everyone else can achieve their dreams too. I am always doing things I cant do. That is how I get to

do them. After Id - Pablo Picasso retired from work, curiosity got the better of me and I looked for answers to explain how I'd unexpectedly done so well. Over the last 5 years, I've invested a lot of time and money researching what other successful achievers were doing. I've trained and consulted with experts in specific techniques; each of whom knew a piece of the puzzle. They were applying it in such diverse areas as marketing, sales, personal development and of course project management. I went on to compare what Id learned with the things I'd achieved in the past - and how I'd done it. Then I coached people and carried out experiments to see if the secrets I'd discovered could be applied by anyone.

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CASE STUDY Follow Your Dream For the first two decades of my life, I'd set myself targets; made lists of what I wanted to do or have; made New Year resolutions and promises; then waited for success - but it didnt work! I'd simply discovered that list-making and hoping doesn't achieve goals! Then, I had a life-changing experience and, for the next two decades, I started reliably achieving goals How? Was it just magic, or was there a formula...? It started in 1990 after my best friend Tom died of cancer aged 40. That woke me up - I had to do something. Then one Sunday I saw Sir John Harvey-Jones on television, rescuing failing companies, as the "Trouble-shooter". In a flash, I could see how he did it and had a vision of myself in his shoes, doing it too. Id simply decided "I can do it!... .................................... (Ctd...)

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CASE STUDY Follow Your Dream (Ctd.) ...I had no idea how, or where, to start. But eventually, in 1991 I set myself 3 impossible goals and embarked on a 10year mission to achieve them. As a result, I found myself in a job as a multi-million pound project manager with no Project Management qualifications; then went on to get an MBA, finally setting up my own management consultancy company. On the way, Id doubled my income in a single year; and then went on to do it again a few years later. Finally achieving a six figure income in 1998 when money was still worth something! By 2001, I'd become wealthy enough to retire and travel the world - while still in my 40's. I'd finally achieved my own Wildest Dream - to have sufficient passive income that I need never work again. Kevin Bermingham, Author

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Eventually, it all boiled down to just seven fundamental principles - The Seven Principles of Meaningful Goals How You Can Easily Achieve Your Wildest Dreams [Bermingham, 2010]. However, in this book youre reading, we're just concentrating on one of them; one that could change your life forever - Beliefs. In my experience, the process of challenging beliefs from different perspectives can achieve results that will dramatically change your outlook on life. Now, I have an admission to make. By itself, this series can't remove or change If you want things to a belief you don't be different, like; nor make your dreams come true. perhaps the answer I wish it could. The is to become truth is - only you different yourself. can do that. Only you can do the - Norman Vincent work needed to take back control Peale of your own beliefs. I can only give the benefit of my experience and teach you some of the tools that worked for me you have to do the rest. If you find that

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you need support, putting the series into practice, then our live seminars and workshops may help. These go into greater detail, have interactive group exercises, and use more advanced imagination techniques than are possible to teach in any book. Youll find more details in the Next Steps section. So in this series, we'll use my three simple steps to change at least one of the beliefs that are limiting your potential right now. I call it the Three Steps To Achieve Meaningful Goals. Step One Assess Your Old Beliefs Identify the limiting beliefs holding you back. Step Two - Become More Empowered Replace limiting beliefs with empowering beliefs. Step Three - Commit To New Beliefs Make sure these empowering beliefs are permanent, so you dont become stuck again in future. Consider this series to be the beginning of your journey.

Attitude To Life
Did you know that success in life and our ability to achieve goals comes down to how we deal with obstacles? And that depends on our attitudes and philosophy on life. With an empowering attitude and philosophy, the world is our oyster. Without them, it seems like every person, event and situation becomes an obstacle to our success. For success, attitude is equally important as ability. - Harry F. Banks We say some people have a positive, or good, attitude about a particular topic and that others have a negative, or bad, attitude instead.

This attitude is simply the result of their own particular set of Values (i.e. the things that are important to them) and their associated Beliefs.

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If we feel our own attitude is negative, then we may be living life in a way thats in conflict with the things we value most. Or perhaps we just have a negative philosophy or outlook on life. Maybe within our philosophy, we have an individual belief that is disempowering; limiting our opportunities, or holding us back. Because they all hold us back in one way or another, we simply call these negative and disempowering beliefs Limiting Beliefs.

Philosophy On
Life
Have you ever considered what your own philosophy on life is? Your philosophy is a personal system of beliefs - some of which are true and some of which are not. This unique personal philosophy influences every aspect of our life. Would any of the following philosophies fit you? All good things must come to an end Life is hard and then you die Everyone is against you You must compete to survive You have to work hard to become rich Good single men (women) are hard to find

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All men act like children A woman's place is in the home Sex ends after marriage Love is only found in fairytales There's not enough of anything to go around

Hmmm, they're not very empowering are they? If you're not doing as well as you'd like in life, then chances are you may have similar 'excuses' to give, or 'stories' to tell. Let's assume you're one of the lucky ones; your lifes going well and you have a very different outlook on life... We make our own luck Life is meant to be enjoyed Strangers are just friends I haven't met Life's challenging, but we're more than that You get out what you put in Life's just one great day after another Things are gonna get better Even if I lose all my money, Ill still have my friends

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Seek and you will find Life is a school with many lessons to help us do better Everyone has weaknesses their strengths and

It's easier to create money than to spend it ...because you're worth it! Every cloud has a silver lining Im in control of my destiny

What sort of results in life do you think you'd have with one of these philosophies instead? If you had a choice, which particular philosophy would you choose? Now its time to carry out your first exercise dont worry, I wont send you to the gym. The exercise is called: Whats Your Philosophy On Life? When youre finished, close your eyes. Imagine what you would have to believe for that new empowering philosophy to be yours. What would have to be different? How does it feel when you give yourself permission to consider it - scary, or exciting?

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EXERCISE Whats Your Philosophy On

Life?
1. Write down a statement to sum up your current philosophy. .................................................................... .................................................................... 2. Write down 3 ways your philosophy has influenced your life. (a) .............................................................. (b) ............................................................. (c) .............................................................. 3. Now, choose an even more empowering philosophy. .................................................................... What do you need to believe now?

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How would you like to put that new philosophy into practice? A philosophy on life is simply a collection of beliefs that we use to guide our lives. If we replace one of our beliefs with something more positive and empowering then were already moving towards having a more empowering philosophy. Heres a reminder of the simple system were going to be using. Its designed to change the beliefs that are holding you back. Step One Assess Your Old Beliefs Identify the limiting beliefs holding you back. Step Two - Become More Empowered Replace limiting beliefs with empowering beliefs. Step Three - Commit To New Beliefs Make sure these empowering beliefs are permanent, so you dont become stuck again in future.

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Case Study Change Your Philosophy In the past, I worked in a service and repair department. I naturally developed the cynical philosophy that you can't ever rely on things - they always go wrong. One weekend, I offered to take my 10 year old son to visit a giant toy shop in London to buy him a birthday present. You can imagine my surprise when he said: Thanks Dad, but would it be OK if we bought something locally instead; it would be such a long journey to take it all the way back to London when it goes wrong. My cynical philosophy had already rubbed off on him. That very moment, I decided to change my philosophy to a more optimistic one. I gave up my repair job and started a design job instead. Now my glass always seems half full, rather than half empty. Kevin Bermingham, Author

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How are you doing so far? Are you ready to change a belief yet? I know it seems a lot to take in and it might feel daunting at first. But dont worry. Its all very simple and well take it one step at a time.

Step One Assess Your Old

Beliefs
Have you ever felt frustrated because your life isn't turning out as you expected? In my experience, if we get our beliefs wrong, then our life goes wrong. Our knowledge of the real world is limited. So to get by, we rely on our beliefs instead. They're the principles and rules by which we assume the world works.

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In this first step well take stock and assess what our current beliefs really are - then, if theyre not useful, well decide what they need to be instead.

In my experience, one of our main problems in life is that we believe our own beliefs.
Beliefs are not facts... and they're not always true. Beliefs are simply a feeling of conviction or certainty that something is real or true. Theyre based on our past experiences and what others have taught us. Beliefs are our best guess at reality - our mental model of how the world appears to work. Our beliefs help us make sense of how our world works. Theyre our explanations of the world; they help us decide what things mean Theyre our rules about which things cause what effects They give us permission about what's allowed and what's not

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But beliefs also shape the boundaries of our thinking. And they can create many of the obstacles that stop us from stepping outside our comfort zone of familiarity. Most worthwhile goals require us to cross these boundaries at some point. And its our beliefs that limit us from doing that so we get FRUSTRATED and FEEL STUCK! The majority of obstacles to achieving goals are imaginary; they're a result of our beliefs. The reason some people can achieve a goal that someone else can't is often down to their different philosophies and attitudes (especially their beliefs). Weve a great personal investment in maintaining our beliefs. So much so, that even if they're not true, they'll often become selffulfilling prophesies. For example, if Argue for your something's not true limitations and, but you believe it is, you'll act as if it's sure enough, true. Eventually your they're yours. behaviour will create the evidence to - Richard Bach support it.

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Some beliefs hold us back from achieving our goals. We call these Limiting Beliefs and well mainly focus on these throughout this book.
CASE STUDY My Belief Was The Obstacle Like a lot of people, I was stuck.I'd always had a dream of selling up, retiring and living abroad. But I needed to sell my business first. However, I believed the unusual nature of my business and its problems with product quality made it too unattractive. There were just too many impossible obstacles. So I put it off... maybe Ill do it next year. One day Kevin got tired of my lame excuses and called my bluff. He offered to help me on one condition - that I started right now! (Ctd...)

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CASE STUDY My Belief Was The Obstacle (Ctd.) ...Over the next 2 years, I took his advice and applied his techniques. As a result, I finally wrote down all the operating procedures for my business and they quickly resolved our quality issues. The evidence produced by getting the business back under control finally changed my belief about it being unattractive to sell. Not only did I double my profits over those two years, but the sale of my business went far smoother than I had expected. Howard Peters, ex-owner Tudor Diamonds Ltd. In our last case, Howard could only see obstacles because his Limiting Beliefs prevented him from exploring possible solutions. When hed created enough evidence it changed his belief about what was possible or not and then all his obstacles disappeared.

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But our beliefs dont just create our maps of past experience; they also form the blueprints for our future actions.

The map is not the territory. - Alfred Korzybski

Luckily, if we don't like them, we can change them. And we'll talk about how to do that later. In her book, Cognitive Therapy: Basics and Beyond [Beck, 1995], Judith Beck describes the concept of Core Beliefs. Her definition of a Core Belief is simply one that starts with "I". For example, I might say "I'm a healthy person" - thats a positive core belief, or "I'm boring"- thats a negative core belief. Judith also describes another type of belief. These are called Supporting Beliefs because they don't start with "I". Theyre simply a prediction about what others will think or do. For example, I might say "Nobody ever finds me interesting." But, if I hadn't behaved as if my negative core belief was true (e.g. "I'm boring"), then others may well have found me to be interesting. So I wouldnt have accumulated any evidence to support my secondary belief (e.g. "Nobody ever finds me interesting").

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When we have a positive or negative core belief we'll soon find sufficient evidence to create as many supporting beliefs as we need it's a self-fulfilling-prophecy. Even though weve created those Whether you think secondary beliefs you can or think you ourselves, they can still make us feel can't; you are right. like victims. As a - Henry Ford result, we can appear to be at the mercy of what others think or do. These core beliefs can affect our happiness and our options and opportunities in life - for good, or bad. An important point is that we can choose to disbelieve or change our core beliefs. And, the good news is that this applies equally to positive or negative beliefs. Consider the following: Beliefs are ideas, theyre not necessarily truths. And their truth can be tested. They can feel like they are true, and yet still be untrue.

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Our core beliefs are usually rooted in childhood events. It may even not have been true at the time we created it. A belief persists because we regularly look for evidence to support it, while we discount evidence to the contrary. A negative belief is replaced by a more realistic view of the world when weve accumulated the evidence to disprove it.

Changing a negative belief may take some time yet with the right evidence, it can happen in an instant. Examples of limiting core beliefs would be:

An old belief is like an old shoe. We so value its comfort the hole in it. that we fail to notice - Robert Brault

I'm not worth anything. I'm bad. I'm unlovable. I'm powerless. I'm a failure

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I'm not young enough (old enough, clever enough, educated enough, well enough, rich enough, talented enough, thin enough, etc.) to be, do, or have, whatever it is I desire.

Are any of these beliefs true? How would you know if they are, or if they're not? Whos the judge?
Our beliefs can be both permissions and limitations. When we change our core beliefs, we get back control of our lives. Then we're no longer STUCK. A positive core belief allows for more flexibility of behaviour. They need not even be the exact opposite of limiting beliefs - simply a bit more positive. For example: I've got my strengths and weaknesses, like most people. I'm a balanced person, with both positive and negative attributes.

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I'm generally likable. Although I don't like everyone I meet, so I don't expect everyone to like me either. I've got control over many things. I'm usually successful doing what I value most.

The good news is that when our beliefs are similar to others' then well also feel a sense of empathy and rapport with them - even more than if wed just shared common experiences or activities. So, even if you don't share someone's belief, showing respect for their belief will build greater rapport. Our beliefs evolve into knowledge when there is clear testable evidence that they're true. Paradoxically, even if there is evidence, it does not become knowledge if it's not believed. Man is a credulous animal, and must believe something; in grounds for belief, he will be satisfied with bad ones. - Bertrand Russell

the absence of good

Heres an example: We all know its a fact that the earth is a sphere. Yet, in the distant past,

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people ignored any evidence that it was true, because they knew it was flat. So nobody believed the earth was a sphere the truth hadn't yet become knowledge. "Why is this a problem?" you may be asking. Well, some beliefs, for example "I must be a lucky person, because I've always succeeded", are positive beliefs that spur us on to overcome obstacles - they motivate the behaviours that make the positive belief self-fulfilling. Other beliefs, for example "Im a poor learner", or "Im not good with computers", are limiting beliefs. They may cause us to abdicate responsibility for our behaviour, or our results in life. And that can hold us back from making progress.

Limiting beliefs are often the EXCUSES we use to justify our situation in life listen out for yours when youre talking.
Yet none of this is set in stone. Limiting beliefs are often obsolete beliefs. They only persist, and continue to limit our achievements, because we chose not to question them.

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Beliefs often have their Achilles Heel. Like a stool with three supporting legs; when you remove just one, it falls over. Simply looking at a belief from a different perspective - and seeing something new - will often cause the limiting belief to collapse. Lets just summarise for a moment. Weve seen that beliefs can be about: what things mean (i.e. explanations) which things cause what effects (i.e. rules) what's possible and whats not (i.e. permissions) what's important to us and whats not (i.e. values)

Because our own beliefs have such a huge effect on our experiences, achievements and results in life, it's important to become aware of what they are. Putting them on paper is the first step to dealing with them; simply because we first have to own up to what they are. The earlier exercise Whats Your Philosophy On Life? Should have already

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given you an insight into what it is that you believe. And if you need further help identifying your limiting beliefs just make a list of the excuses you use everyday. Ninety-nine percent of the failures come from people who have the habit of

making excuses. Youll also find - George some typical examples of beliefs Washington Carver on page 28. Remember, theyre just examples yours may be different. The next exercise, Identify Your Limiting Beliefs, involves writing our beliefs down - this makes them more real, because theyre no longer hidden from our conscious mind. When youve finished, well move on to the next exercise: Assess Your Big Limiting Belief. But, so that you have something to work with, only move on to this exercise after youve completed the last exercise: Identify Your Limiting Beliefs.

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EXERCISE Identify Your Limiting

Beliefs
Write down FIVE beliefs that have limited you in some way. E.g. I am..., I cant..., I dont have..., People like us..., It's not possible to..., etc. (See page 28 for examples) (1) ........................................................... (2) ........................................................... (3) ........................................................... (4) ........................................................... (5) ........................................................... What do you think after you write them down?

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EXERCISE - Assess Your Big Limiting

Belief
1. Now select The BIG One from the list you made in the last exercise. Thats right, the one thats REALLY limited who, or what, you are or couldve been. E.g. I'm no good, I'm always wrong, Ill never amount to anything, I am a poor learner, etc. Write it below, starting with I (See more examples on page 28). ................................................................. 2. You can add on your reason if it helps. E.g. Because... I was made redundant / I failed my university degree / I was abused as a child, etc. ................................................................. 3. This belief wasnt always true. So, when did you decide it was? ................................................................. (Ctd.)

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EXERCISE - Assess Your Big Limiting

Belief (Ctd.)
4. Write down 3 specific things this belief has already cost you. E.g. lost opportunities for..., good health, financial security, relationship with..., etc. They can be general, or specific instances. (a) ........................................................... (b) ........................................................... (c) ............................................................ How does it make you feel to write this down? Are you ready to do something about it yet?

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Here are some examples of beliefs that Ive heard from past clients and seminar delegates. If youre not sure about what your own beliefs are, then this could be the most useful page in the book. Examples of Limiting Beliefs
I'm not good enough, I'm unsuccessful, I'm inferior, I cant get it right, I cant fix it, Its all my fault, I'm stupid, I'm guilty, I've a learning problem, I'm bad, I'm a failure, I'm too slow, I'm ugly, I'm fat, I'm unattractive, I cant be myself, I'm crazy, I'm unbalanced, I dont deserve to be loved, I dont deserve anything, I'm useless, I dont know anything, I'm in the wrong place, I'm no good, I'm always wrong, I cant understand anything, I'm a failure, I'm helpless, I cant, I'm weak, I'm inadequate, I'm powerless, I dont have any choice, I'm not in control, I'm always second best, I cant stand up for myself, I just cant say no, I'm a victim, I'm vulnerable, I'm afraid, I cant defend myself, I'm helpless, I'm uncertain, I dont matter, I'm not lovable, I'm boring, I'm nothing special, I'm all alone, I dont matter, I dont belong, Im nothing, I dont fit in, I'm not important, Im a nobody, I'm uninteresting...

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Examples of Empowering Beliefs

I can do anything I choose, Im in charge of my own destiny, I'm a good person, Im optimistic, Im a people-person, I can do it, I'm powerful, I like people, Im a good worker, I'm courageous, Its a great life, I'm a problemsolver, I'm loved and wanted, I've a great memory, I'm not perfect - but Im close, I'm an investor, I'm a natural team-player, I'm friendly and caring, I'm only ugly on the outside (joke!), I'm fast, I'm attractive, Im always myself, I'm healthy, I'm fit, Im an ideal weight, I deserve the great things I have, I'm wealthy and wise, I dont know how to fail, I'm in the right place, I'm good; very good, I'm able to ask for what I need, I'm assertive, I'm helpful, I'm interested in everything...

The 3-Step
Series
Congratulations, youve now reached the end of this portion of the series. Remember, this book is just one part of four; so look out for the next instalment.

Step 1: Assess Your Old Beliefs Step 2: Become More Empowered Step 3: Commit To New Beliefs Appendix: Daily Diary
If you feel you cant wait for the next instalment, then the complete 3-step series on

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Limiting Beliefs is now available, including the Appendix, in a single compilation volume. Available from www.MeaningfulGoals.com.

Change Your Limiting Beliefs Three Steps To Achieve Meaningful Goals

By Kevin Bermingham (ISBN 978-1-908101-03-7)

www.MeaningfulGoals.com

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About the
Author
KEVIN BERMINGHAM
The Project Management & Goal Achievement Expert Kevin Bermingham was a successful corporate project manager for over 10 years and became an independent management consultant for 6 years. He has worked all over the world and managed multi-million pound projects for blue chip companies including Shell International, National Air Traffic Services, Civil Aviation Authority, London Electricity, SEEBOARD, Nokia and AT&T. Back in 1990, way before his MBA, Kevin was going nowhere; nursing his second duodenal ulcer and fire fighting through 14-

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hour, stress-filled days. Trapped in a mediocre job, following someone else's dream. Then, when his best friend Tom died of cancer at age 40, Kevin finally WOKE UP. Focusing on his own Wildest Dream, he set himself three "impossible goals" to achieve within 10 years - and succeeded! By 2001, Kevin had made his fortune and, while still in his 40's, retired to travel the world never having to work again.
"My personal vision is of a world where people of any age, nationality, or educational background have the tools to redesign their own future. A more dependable future - despite living in such an unpredictable world. For the last 5 years, I've made it my mission to help people harness their imagination, so they can breathe life into their dreams and overcome the obstacles that previously held them back. The publication of this book is yet another successful goal towards achieving that dream. Kevin Bermingham, Author

Next Steps
I have to come clean here. With the best will in the world this series by itself can't remove or change a belief you don't like; nor achieve your goals, or make your dreams come true. I wish it could. In this series, I've given the benefit of my experience and taught you some of the basic tools that worked for me and others that Ive coached. Theyre simply my insights into a world of possibilities. Because of their nature, books have many limitations. But, at my live seminars and workshops we're able to go into much greater detail that was possible here. We use interactive group exercises and imagination techniques that really aren't possible to teach in a book.

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Achieve Your Wildest Dreams

"Walk in with nothing but dreams & leave with a plan that's guaranteed to achieve your Meaningful Goals"

Seminar Success Story Finding a Purpose

I have been raving about your Achieve Your Wildest Dreams goal-setting seminar and the magic I received from it. Thank you for helping me to see the path which I am going to take. I have told my husband and friends already, that the shining picture I saw for when I am 50 - is of me as a successful teacher (probably higher level than that) very happy in my job and surrounded by children who love me being their teacher. I now have the tools to pour green paint on the person who said they didn't see me doing that a few years ago. I am very excited to find a focus and start moving towards it. I have now resigned my job and started a Teacher Training Course. Bless you! Maggie Kelly, National account manager for Child Safe Zones

Seminar Success Story Visualising Goals

I attended Kevin's Achieve Your Wildest Dreams seminar last week. And the biggest thing I got out of it was the whole principle of visualising goals. I've now set clear goals for 3 years into the future using his simple process of visualisation. I've even come away with a CD so I can reinforce what I learned. Mike Turner, Retail Digital Coaching

Seminar Success Story Past Blockages

Kevins Achieve Your Wildest Dreams was a really positive and powerful seminar. There were some fantastically good things in there and I actually bought one of his videos. The things that came up for me during the seminar really surprised me. He got us to think about beliefs that have blocked us in the past things we tend not to think about and I've been able to just wipe them out! Ian Jones, CreativeProvocation.com

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Mastermind Group
"Putting your Meaningful Goals into practice"

Goal Achiever's

For breakthrough insights, ongoing mentoring and support, you may wish to join our Goal Achiever's Mastermind Group This is a very select group of people with serious goals to achieve. It's not for everyone, so before joining potential members will have to pass certain criteria. And, to maintain quality, the group is always limited to a maximum of 25 people. We meet monthly to share ideas and experiences, and to motivate and support one another. As a company, we facilitate the meetings and provide them with ongoing training in goal achievement principles and practice. Fortnightly achievement coaching sessions are also included on a one-to-one basis - so our membership has every chance of achieving their goals.

Information about Achieve Your Wildest Dreams and the Goal Achievers Mastermind Group can be found at:

www.MeaningfulGoals.com