Notes on Harassment of Lori Handrahan by Michael Waxman

1. Three or more acts of intimidation would include: Intimidation of Ms. Handrahan to point she mo ed to !orrento Intimidation of Ms. Handrahan re threats to remo e Mila "stripped of her ri#hts to her child $%1&%'()*%+,%'() (%1,%'() 1+%'(-. Threats to use his family.s financial fortune to accomplish the abo e "/%+(%'(-. Threats to use his le#al powers in an abusi e way. 0I will be as1in# the court for 2raconian sanctions.3 "+%/%1'%to Ms. !pur and Mr. Harwood- 0Let.s ha e a field day.3 "/%+(%'( to Mr. 4ltshuler-) 0I promise I will file motion after motion3 "(%*%'( to Mr. Harwood-. Threat to implied in Mr. Waxman.s mo e from professional to personal interest in three year old Mila #i en the abo e threats to remo e Ms. Handrahan from her life. Intimidation of daycare pro ider to point she 5uit. "6reached boundaries at home and threatened her lawyer that 2HH! should #et in ol ed-. Intimidation of renter to point she mo ed out "7I to her 8ob twice loo1in# for information on Ms. Handrahan-. Intimidation of mandated reporter Ms. 7olly 9ampbell. Intimidation of :aime Wa#ner to point he 5uit as lawyer "Multiple calls to his home and emails and 0despicable human bein#3 statement-. Intimidation of Tre or 6raden) M2 to point he resi#ned as Mila.s physician "two letters and encounter at isit-. The relentless 5uality and 5uantity of Mr. Waxman.s motions) emer#ency motions) dropped 7;4s) and contempt motions #i e his beha ior a stal1in# 5uality that increases its threatenin# nature.

 His poor professional boundaries<family fortune<le#al power= ma8or and realistic threat to Ms. Handrahan.

+. Intention of causin# fear or intimidation: This is measured in this case in three ways> first) there are Mr. Waxman.s words which clearly state his intentions. !econd) there is 0the reasonable person standard3 that explores how any reasonable person would react to the lan#ua#e and to the accepted meanin# of this lan#ua#e. This spea1s particularly to the #eneral acceptance of threats as forms of intimidation. The third area of response would be from my perspecti e as an abuse expert who deals re#ularly with patterns of intimidation and threat. ;rom that paradi#m) threats are examined in terms of their patterns and are accepted as a way to intimidate) and to) thereby) control the flow of information) the beha ior of others) and the outcome. Mr. Waxman has made his intention clear that he will do whate er it ta1es to remo e Mila from her mother. Mr. Waxman.s threats to ta1e Mila and to destroy Ms. Handrahan financially parallel and extend his client.s threats to do the same. Mr. Waxman is now addin# his intention to de elop a deeply personal relationship with Ms. Handrahan.s dau#hter in spite of ethical rules to the contrary. Mr. Waxman has e en used the ima#es of iolence to bac1 up his threats on at least two occasions which mirrors the actual use of iolence by his client a#ainst Ms. Handrahan and others. 0We are done screwin# around with Lori?let.s ha e a field day. "/%+(%'( to Mr. 4ltshuler-. His intention is clear here. 0I promise you I will file motion after motion and you will spend a prodi#ious amount of time on this case3 "(%*%'( to Mr. Harwood-.His intention is clear here.

 I ha e e ery intention of stayin# in this case as lon# as it ta1es. ;urther I ha e no compunction in estin# not only my time but my resources and the ery substantial resources of my family if necessary?I ha e ne er felt so stron#ly about a case?this is personal.3 "/%+(%'( to Mr. 4ltshuler-. He e en uses the word intention here. He re#ularly threatens all of her lawyers with complaints to the @ erseers of the 6ar which raises the specter of no defense for Ms. Handrahan. "1'%+1%'() 1%$%1') and 1%+,%1' and more-. His intention to sideline all of her attorneys is clear. Mr. Waxman warned her lawyers to call their malpractice companies in a particularly threatenin# manner when he used the ima#e of a #un to threaten that 0my fin#er is on the tri##er and I shall point it.3 The intention to ma1e the lawyers afraid) to bac1 off) and to lea e Ms. Handrahan unprotected would be clear to any reasonable person. Ms. !pur is the most recent lawyer to bac1 off as a result. 0I will use all the le#al and ethical weapons in my arsenal3 "1+%+1%'( to Mr. Harwood and Ms. !pur-. This is an intentional statement with threatenin# undertones. Mr. Waxman sent an email to all le els of people ma1in# a decision on 9!4 alle#ation at 2HH! that the mandated reporter should be fired. This was intended to intimidate anyone readin# it) to control the decision ma1ers and to influence the outcome. Mr. Waxman threatened the witness Ms. 9ampbell. 4ny reasonable person would read this email as an intent to ha e Ms. 9ampbell fired and incapacitated as a witness. 4s an expert on abuse) I read into it an intention to isolate Ms. Handrahan and intimidate all the decisionA ma1ers) particularly Ms. 9ampbell as a witness. His intention in threatenin# a lawsuit while screamin# at Ms. 9ampbell on the witness stand could be construed no other way than to intimidate the witness and Ms. Handrahan who was watchin#.

 Bellin# in ra#e in the lobby of CerrillA2ana re. deli ery of a subpoena also reflects Mr. Waxman.s intention to #et his way no matter what. 4 reasonable person would belie e that yellin# is used to threaten or intimidate. 4s an expert) I see it as part of a pattern to establish a climate of fear in an attempt to control people by threat in e ery aspect of this case.

D. 2oes in fact cause fear and intimidation in Ms. Handrahan and others she relies on in the followin# ways: Ms. Handrahan feels there is no place to be safe) e en in !orrento. I ha e seen emails to that effect and she has told me that by phone. Ms. Handrahan feels increasin#ly unsafe as attorneys and important support people for Mila and her are scared off her case by Mr. Waxman. Ms. Handrahan li es in a hyper i#ilant state) she is in fi#ht mode re trauma responses) is unable to sleep) and experiences nausea after readin# these emails. Her fear and anxiety are extreme and reasonable as is her constant) debilitatin# fear. Ms. Handrahan has a isceral response to Mr. Waxman.s crossin# of professional boundaries in terms of his affection for and o erni#hts with her three year old dau#hter. This results from his #lorification of Mila as 0beautiful3 "*%D1%'() 0a beautiful little #irl3 ",%*%'(-) a 0deli#htful child3 "+%/%1'- whom he says he 0cares about3 "/%+(%'(-

and has a 0bond3 with "+%/%1' to 6ill and !ophie-. 0I miss spendin# time with Mila Milen1o3 "+%/%1' to 6ill and !ophie-. He e en said he 1nows better what.s in Mila.s best interest than her mother "Emer#ency 7;H hearin# on +%1+%1'-. He admits this has become personal and no lon#er professional "/%+(%'( to Mr. 4ltshuler-. Ms. Handrahan also has a body reaction to the profoundly ne#ati e and inaccurate characteriFations made of her by Mr Waxman: malicious "11%+/%'(-) 0althou#h you may hate her and see her as the worst person in the world3 "11%+/%'( to Mr. Malen1o-) li1ened to 9harles Manson "*%D1%'(-) despicable human bein# "*%+'%'( to Mr. Wa#ner-) need for an exorcist re the way 0Lori pulls people into the blac1 world that she inhabits and persuades them to perform otherwise unthin1able acts3 "1%+,%1' to Ms. !pur-) the need to ha e 0court security present3 when crossAexamines her and 0s1ill at causin# problems 0 "11%+/%'( to 9hild !upport Enforcement-. He references her lac1 of truthfulness and malice "+%/%1' to Mr. Harwood and Ms. !pur- when his client was cau#ht in +1 serious lies. He refers to her re#ularly as 0mentally ill3 "*%D1%'( to Mr. Harwood-) with 0diminished mental capacity3 also to Mr. Harwood) a 0 ery) ery) ery sic1 indi idual3 "*%+,%'(-. This is interestin# #i en his client is the one with a psychiatric history) not Ms. Handrahan. He says Ms. Handrahan is out of control but then says he is 0so sic1 of her dis#ustin# shenani#ans that he could scream3. "1+%+1%'( to Mr. Harwood and Ms. !pur-. He also poses as her mind reader when he says she has 0no empathy for her dau#hter3. "*%D1%'(- and 0does not care at all about her child3. "*%'( to Mr. Wa#ner- Gi en his extremely ne#ati e characteriFation of Ms. Handrahan) his interest in a close personal relationship with her dau#hter would be terrifyin# to any reasonable person%parent.

 ;inancial fear is profound #i en H1'')''' spent already by Ms. Handrahan on le#al fees "while Mr. Malen1o has spent nothin#- and #i en Mr. Waxman.s threat to use his considerable family resources on this case. These threats must be iewed a#ainst the bac1drop of Ms. Handrahan.s loss of her 8ob because of her inability to mo e to 29. 6oundary iolations by Mr. Waxman increase Ms. Handrahan.s terror when he says 0I ha e ne er felt so stron#ly about a case in my life. This is personal.3 "/%+(%'(-. H e en admitted in testimony at the Emer#ency 7;H that he had become a factor in the case. Wantin# a personal relationship with her dau#hter in ol in# o erni#hts) in adin# the child care pro ider.s space) sendin# a 7I to her open house all imply there are no limits to what he will do and Ms. Handrahan feels personally and re#ularly intimidated which I belie e is reasonable. The effects on Ms. Handrahan are potentiated because of their similarity to the demeanin# nameA callin#) threats of iolence) and actual iolence that characteriFed Mr. Malen1o.s treatment of Ms. Handrahan and others in his life. Mr. Waxman.s attempts to scare her and those around her resonate with Mr. Malen1o.s admitted attempt to scare his 1, year old friend which resulted in a coma and paralysis. 4ttempts to intimidate by Mr. Waxman need to be seen in the context of Mr. Milen1o.s attempts to intimidate Ms. Handrahan if her reaction is to be fully understood. The actions by Mr. Waxman are continuous) threatenin#) and intentional and the effects on Ms. Handrahan are ne#ati e) extreme) and cumulati e. While tal1in# to her lawyers is expected professional acti ity) the discourse of threat is not) as the @ erseers are si#nalin#. He

1nows Ms. Handrahan.s lawyers are re5uired to pass these messa#es on to her. Lundy 6ancroft has discussed the way abusers choose attorneys who become coAabusers in terms of 0a ruthless orientation that is in 1eepin# with their own.3 He belie es that women 0are sometimes traumatiFed by their exApartner.s attorney as they were by him.3 6ancroft draws a sharp line between 0#i in# a man a proper chance to ha e his side heard in court) which is his le#al ri#ht) and actin# as a weapon in the man.s abuse) allowin# him to cause financial and psycholo#ical dama#e that would ha e been impossible for him without the lawyer.s assistance.3 7.+*, Why 2oes He 2o ThatI +''+ 6er1ley 7ubl.