Optimistic views of people to move out of self fulfilling thinking / limits.

Responsibility (R) for T&A (thoughts and actions) performance goes up.

Awareness (A)

Build A&R through daily practice.

Body inefficiency stems from lack of awareness and self doubt.

Manifesting problem solution lies the level below.

Effective questions increase A&R.

Good Q’s: what, when, who, how much.
Broad to start then more detail.
Follow the interest of the coachee.
Highlight unspoken areas “ I have noticed you have not …”

If a suggestion say it. Don’t lead the coachee.

Don’t be thinking up questions, listen instead.

Answers tell you: what to asks next,

If the talk is in line with the aims.

Listening for:

• Tone of Voice: monotone – old story

animated – new ideas happening

• Language / words used

Words, phrases, sounds, rhythm. And body, coherence and message.

Summarizing and clarifying. Might take notes.

Coach’s self awareness (A) to reactions as to what coachee says / does.

Is the coach transferring feelings and thoughts associated with ‘childhood’ relationships on to this one.

Questioning sequence.

Goal Reality Options What

Long Current situ All Possible To do

& short actions Who, when

If start with reality this can limit the possible goals.

But note, circular nature

Goal setting

For the session.

End goals Performance goals

Final objective Specific steps on the way that are achievable

Vision
Here is where one focus the work and the things to
Here is where one sets the context for the actions aim for

Reality

Awareness of those things about ourselves that shape and colour our reality.

Ask questions that demand factual answers. What , where, who, how much. Listen for clues, be alert to
the direction the questioning should take. Raising awareness of the coachee.

Be aware of the distortions of the coach and the coachee. – Their listening.

Step away from right / wrong.

Look out for the coachee stopping to think or hinting at thinking by facial expressions = increasing
awareness for the coachee.
Follow the coachee and keep in mind where it goes in relation to the goals.
One might ask how does this relate to the problem / goal.

Body awareness brings self correction.

Internal awareness increases efficiency with the task

Ask about peoples emotions.

Goals and reality need a good amount of time as sometimes the answer appears in this stage.

Options

Note all possibilities raised – take notes

Watch out for negative assumptions, often hidden and unsaid

E.g. It can’t be … They would never …

Sorting options – cost benefits

Coach making suggestions asking permission first.

Using ‘what else’

What will you do?

What are you going to do?

When are you going to do it?
Will this support the goal? If not is the goal correct?

What obstacles might you meet?

Who needs to know?

What support is needed? How will you get it?

What else do you need to consider?

Rate from 1 -10 the certainty you will complete the actions.

What would it take to go from < 8 to 8 or 8+ time scale, number of actions?

If not 8 or 8 + then it ‘will not’ happen.

Do not put things on lists you are not going to do or complete.

Concluding

Sum and a written

Performance:

Setting own targets and going beyond expected.

Potential requires taking full responsibility.

Learning and enjoyment essential. C.f. definition of success.

Feedback: Q’s What is the essential purpose of what you did?

To what extent you think you achieved that?
What else needs to be covered?
…

Feedback can be targeted at the symptomatic level but we want it at the causal level.

The coachee needs to be able to make their own feedback so the feedback questioning needs to raise
awareness of L, E and B that are relevant.

Body discomfort is an in efficiency (ignoring damaged parts).

Feed forward

Q’s Who will ..?

How confident that …?
What possible obstacles?
When can you do it by? Raising awareness:

Self awareness to generate own quality feedback.

Coaching barriers:

What do you want? Goal GROW

What is happening? Reality
What could you do? Options
What will you do? Will