2014

LIFE SKILL DEVELOPMENT MANUAL

STUDENTSMANUAL
V RANGANATHAN

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Table of contents

Note to the participant What this manual can give? How to use the manual? Topic Questionnaire Evaluation of the answers Detail of the topic Story Learning from story ACTION PLAN

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Note to the participant

Dear student! We are happy to hand over this manual to you. We believe in your ability to learn & grow in life. We believe strongly you have greater potential than what you think you have now. By recognizing your potential & polishing your skills you can be successful in your studies, score more marks, gain admission to rewarding higher studies and become successful in career & life. To succeed in studies, study skills, memory skills, overcoming exam fear and such types of skill training is normally offered to students. Our aim through our workshop and this manual is slightly different. We wish to touch upon the very essential that brings out all these latent talents in a student. We firmly believe the contents of this manual will trigger the spark in the student and make the student shine well. Yes, our approach to build students future is psychological, in that we wish to set right the attitude of students in the positive direction, thereby the student automatically will be enthused to acquire skills on the way to become better at studies & life . So carefully preserve this manual; keep using the manual regularly as an ongoing learning process. The contents and the course are aimed at helping you lifelong. In a sense this is a life manual. Our best wishes for your success!!
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WHAT THIS MANUAL CAN GIVE?

This manual is essentially a companion to the student attending the special workshop for HONING ATTITUDE FOR SUCCESS IN STUDIES & CAREER The manual is designed in an easy to read and understandable format. The manual can easily shape the attitude of an aspiring student and put the student in a right frame of mind to approach studies and life, leading to success in studies and career thereafter. The manual if utilized properly will give the student the confidence to face life, accept the reality of life, and look for opportunities for growth. This manual will be relevant to all the students, good or not good at studies as of now. The manual essentially deals with attitude and so shaping attitude will pave way for success in studies and career thereafter.

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HOW TO USE THE MANUAL?

The manual has QUESTIONNAIRE When answering the questions the student is asked to sincerely give the truth. This questionnaire is basically for self evaluation and so no correction or evaluation will be done by external facilitator. EVALUATION Evaluation parameter is given and the student can do self evaluation. Based on self evaluation the student can know where he/she stands in terms of attitude. DETAIL OF THE SUBJECT- The subject for training is on two aspects of attitude that prevent a student from success in studies. The two aspects are identified after intense survey and observation of students belonging to various cross-section of society. INFERIORITY COMPLEX FAILURE MENTALITY By paying attention to inputs given in the workshop the student can get clues and ways to overcome these two maladies. STORY The story relates to the attitude development LEARNING FROM THE STORY: - The participants will be asked to sit in group and will have to share their learning from the story to gain better understanding of attitude development. ACTION PLAN In this portion participants will have to arrive at action plan to hone attitude on an on-going basis to sustain the attitude in their everyday life situation QUOTATION life giving quotes to keep reading; Also affirmation statements to retain attitude.

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INFERIORITY COMPLEX
SELF EVALUATION QUESTIONNAIRE Please answer to these statements honestly. You are going to make self evaluation. Nobody will come to verify and correct. Give the first answer that strikes your mind. YES
YOU PREFER TO BE ALONE YOU BELIEVE YOU HAVE LESS ABILITY YOU DONT EASILY APPROACH AND TALK TO STRANGERS YOU OFTEN FEEL SHY & RESERVED YOU OFTEN FEEL OTHERS MAY RIDICULE YOU YOU FEEL OTHERS HAVE MORE ABILITIES THAN YOU YOU FEEL SOMETIMES YOU DONT LOOK GOOD YOU FEEL SOMETIMES YOU CANT GET WHAT YOU WANT YOU FEEL SOMETIMES YOU DONT HAVE ENOUGH LUCK IN LIFE YOU GET A FEELING THAT YOU WERE NOT BORN RICH TO ENJOY LIFE YOU WISH YOU WERE A DIFFERENT PERSON THAN WHO YOU ARE YOU OFTEN REGRET OVER MISTAKES YOU FEEL JEALOUS OF YOUR FRIENDS YOU SOMETIMES FEEL YOU ARE UNCOMFORTABLE TO TALK & MOVE WITH PEOPLE WHEN SOMEONE WELL DRESSED COME TO TALK, YOU FEEL SHY AND WITHDRAWN NOWADAYS YOU OFTEN TALK TO YOURSELF NEGATIVELY YOU OFTEN CURSE YOUR FATE YOU SOMETIMES GET A FEELING PEOPLE DONT UNDERSTAND YOU AT ALL IF POSSIBLE YOU WANT YOUR LIFE TO BE DIFFERENT YOU SOMETIMES HATE YOURSELF

NO

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EVALUATION

15-20 If you have answered YES for 15 to 20 statements, you are seriously
affected by inferiority feeling. You are advised to follow this program very attentively and practice sincerely to overcome your complex easily

10-14 If you have answered YES to 10-14 statements you are partially affected; yet can easily come out of the syndrome with practice. So pay attention to what is taught in the workshop

5-9 If you have answered YES to 5-9 statements, you are a fairly self
confident person; occasional negative feeling is understandable. Learn from this workshop to eliminate those few areas

1-4 If your score is 1-4 then you are already a brilliant student. A few
tips from this workshop can make you still stronger

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DETAIL OF THE TOPIC

INFERIORITY COMPLEX

An inferiority complex is a feeling that one is inferior to others in some way. Such feelings can arise from an imagined or actual inferiority in the afflicted person. It is often subconscious, and the person suffering from this complex has a persistent feeling of worthlessness. An inferiority complex is an advanced state of discouragement, often embedding itself into one's lifestyle, and sometimes resulting in a retreat from difficulties.

Causes of Inferiority Complex

Parental attitudes and upbringing disapproving, negative remarks and evaluations of behavior emphasizing mistakes and shortcomings determine the attitude of the child before the age of six. Physical defects such as disproportional facial and body features, weight, height, strength, speech defects and defective vision cause inferiority complexes. Mental limitations cause feelings of inferiority when unfavorable comparisons are made with the superior achievements of others, Social disadvantages and discriminations family, race, economic status

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SOLUTION Whatever be the cause of inferiority complex, the good news is that one can definitely come out of this imprisoning attitude by certain specific methods and practices. Accept yourself as you are Believe you are unique & nobody can be exactly like you Stop unnecessary comparison with others Believe nobody is perfect Find out your good qualities & strength Focus on the strengths Expect best from you Believe you are inferior to nobody & also superior to nobody

STORY A big lion was taking rest. Its eyes were closed during rest. So a rat in its playful mood started running over the giant lion. It was a great merry for the small rat. Irritated by the teasing play of the rat the lion got angry. It caught the rat and was about to crush it. The rat fearing death pleaded with lion to pardon it. Please king, forgive me; spare me. I shall certainly help you when you need, the rat requested. You are such a puny creature. What help can you do me? Go- so saying the lion let go the rat. Rat was not intimidated by the comment of sarcasm of lion. Rat boldly said, In Gods creation each & every creature has purpose and unique strength. I am definitely good at certain skills and I am expert in that area. Certainly I shall be of help to you someday. So saying rat left the place.

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Unfortunately in a few days the rat heard the crying roar of the lion. The rat sensed that the lion must be in trouble. It rushed towards the sound and found that the lion was caught inside a net of a hunter. The lion was helpless and it could not tear the net. The rat immediately rushed and started biting the net with its sharp teeth and released the lion from the catch. The lion profusely thanked the rat and rat also felt happy. LEARNING FROM THE STORY (Sit in group of 4 and discuss and share ones learning from the story; write down your learning for future reference) __________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________

ACTION PLAN Write 3 things you will do from now on to appreciate & respect your self 1)________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________ 2)________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________ 3)________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________

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QUOTES

To wish you were someone else is to waste the person you are. Why compare yourself with others? No one in the entire world can do a better job of being you than you. Love yourself, for if you don't, how can you expect anybody else to love you? No one can make you feel inferior without your permission.

AFFIRMATIONS (Silently keep reading the following statements everyday) I LOVE MYSELF I ACCEPT MYSELF I AM INFERIOR TO NONE I AM COMFORTABLE WITH MYSELF I AM HAPPY AS I AM I RESPECT MYSELF

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FAILURE MENTALITY
SELF EVALUATION QUESTIONNAIRE Please answer to these statements honestly. You are going to make self evaluation. Nobody will come to verify and correct. Give the first answer that strikes your mind. Circle the number as you feel appropriate. 1- ALWAYS; 2- OFTEN; 3-SOMETIMES; 4-RARELY; 5-NEVER I FEEL DEPRESSED EASILY BY MY PARENTS/TEACHERS CRITICISM I DOUBT MY ABILITY TO SUCCEED IN EXAM I AM FEEL BAD I CANT SPEAK ENGLISH FLUENTLY BEING BORN OF POOR FAMILY DISTURBS ME I DOUBT MY ABILITY TO COMPLTE COLLEGE EDUCATION I AM DOUBTFUL OF MY ABILITIES I AM NOT ABLE TO BELIEVE MY FRIENDS I FEEL I LACK TALENT I FEEL I MUST ALWAYS SUCCEED I AM AFRAID OF FAILURE LAZINESS SPOILS MY INTEREST I AM LATE IN DOING ANYTHING I FEEL I CANNOT SUCCEED IN ANY COMPETITION I GET FEVER WHEN I THINK OF EXAMS THE MOMENT I THINK OF STUDIES I FEEL HOPELESS WHEN ASKED FOR MY NAME I CANT SAY ALOUD CLEARLY I FEEL I AM A BURDEN TO MY PARENTS TO DO ANYTHING NEW I HESITATE & THINK A LOT LEARNING ANYTHING NEW IS NOT EASY FOR ME IAM NOT CONFIDENT I CAN LEARN COMPUTER TO IMPROVE MY EMPLOYABILITY SKILLS 1 1 1 1 1 1 1 1 1 1 1 1 1 1 1 1 1 1 1 1 2 2 2 2 2 2 2 2 2 2 2 2 2 2 2 2 2 2 2 2 3 3 3 3 3 3 3 3 3 3 3 3 3 3 3 3 3 3 3 3 4 4 4 4 4 4 4 4 4 4 4 4 4 4 4 4 4 4 4 4 5 5 5 5 5 5 5 5 5 5 5 5 5 5 5 5 5 5 5 5

1 5 marks; 2- 4 marks; 3- 3marks; 4-2 marks; 5 - 1 mark Now you may total up the marks.
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EVALUATION:20-29 marks you have success mind set 30-49 marks you can easily still more develop positive attitude to succeed 50-59 marks you are moving towards developing success mindset You have great scope to become positive 60-69 marks If you try hard you can develop success mindset 70-80 marks- Matter very serious; you must immediately develop positive mindset 80 & above -- consult the faculty for special training

DETAIL OF THE TOPIC FAILURE MENTALITY is negative thinking. In this state of mind a person will only focus on what is not possible. With this attitude a person will only be talking of problems and difficulties. A person with failure mentality will be sure of failure than the possibilities of success. Such a person will not take initiative to do anything new; will not feel enthusiastic to participate in any new learning; will not express willingness to enroll for any new course or coaching; will stay away from competitions. Such people have more of fear of failure than surety of success. Failure mentality is also a mental affliction.

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CAUSES for FAILURE MENTALITY INFERIORITY COMPLEX - a person feeling inferior in ability and performance will only doubt the positive result of action. PAST EXPERIENCE in an experience in the past the individual would have failed. This is taken as permanent and so keep on doubting the success in the future OVEREXPECTATION: - Perfection syndrome is one reason for failure mentality. I must never fail in anything I do. I must only succeed. I must do only perfectly. No mistake should come. FEAR OF FAILURE: - anticipating failure beforehand and fearing the consequence of failure

SOLUTION Success or failure is only an outcome of an effort. They are not the determinants of ability of a person. While aiming one must aim for success, at the same time if one is not able to meet with expected result one should not feel dejected and conclude one is useless. Focused and consistent efforts definitely lead to success in any assignment. While taking action never be unduly worried over result. Believe in your ability and take effort Also believe you have the right to fail though you dont want. Enthusiasm & effort give positive result. Confidence cures all mental afflictions

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STORY Thomas Alva Edison, the inventor of bulb failed almost 10000 times before inventing electric bulb. Not only bulb he attempted to invent 100s of new things and failed in many projects. He lost most of his property only in his attempt to invent new things. Once his factory caught fire and all his lab equipments were burnt in fire. Edison said, Thank God! All my past mistakes are burnt and gone. Now I can start fresh. Thomas Alva Edison was attempting to invent gramophone record. The wax on the plate was not filling properly. It was becoming very late at night. His assistant became tired. He said to Edison, Sir, the wax is not filling properly. I think we are not doing it correctly. Can we do it tomorrow morning? Edison got angry and replied, We may be fools, not able to do correctly. But God who has given this desire in me is not a fool. He will show the right way. Keep filling again & again. Everything will be alright. Actually after a few attempts the wax set properly and they could make the groove correctly. Edison is a very good example for failure and also for success finally. Patience and persistence is the hallmark of Edison.

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LEARNING FROM THE STORY (Sit in group of 4 and discuss and share ones learning from the story; write down your learning for future reference) __________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________

ACTION PLAN Write 3 things you will do from now on to overcome failure mentality. 1) ________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________ 2)________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________ 3)________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________

QUOTES Confidence is the bedrock of existence Success is never ending; failure is never permanent There is no failure; only feedback Failure is the stepping stone for success Accept failure. Reject failure mentality Hard work only matters. Result is automatic.
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AFFIRMATIONS I BELIEVE IN MY ABILITY TO SUCCEED I AM CONFIDENT TO SUCCEED SUCCESS OR FAILURE DONT BOTHER ME I CAN; I SHALL; I SUCCEED I FOCUS ON SUCCESS I FOCUS ON MY EFFORT I AM A BORN WINNER I AM CONFIDENT OF FACING DIFFICULTIES I AM SURE OF SUCCESS TO SUCCEED IS MY RIGHT I CAN; I CAN; I CAN I WIN; I WIN; I WIN

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