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Human Evolution As far as Homo sapiens is concerned this three stage evolutionary process maps directly to the Seven Levels of Consciousness model. Stage 1 of this processbecoming viable and independentrequires an individual to master the first three levels of consciousness. Stage 2bonding to form a group structurerequires an individual to master levels 4 and 5. Stage 3cooperating to form a higher order entityrequires an individual to master levels 6 and 7. The Learning System The New Leadership Paradigm Leadership Development Learning System incorporates all these evolutionary principles into its design. It is based on the three universal principles of evolution. It is emergentyou can search the Web site, your Leadership Journals and Workbooks for information and resources to address issues you are currently facing and access your previous learning. It is self-directedyou can learn at your own pace, and you can dig deeper into any topic by exploring the resource links that are provided. It is evolutionaryyou progress through the system by first learning to lead yourself, and then learning to lead others. The Leading Yourself and Leading Others modules are foundational. Once you have completed these modules you can either move to learning to lead an organisation or learning to lead in society. It is flexibleyou can follow the learning system on your own or you can meet regularly in a group and facilitate the process yourselves or have an external facilitator do the job for you. It is customisableyou can add or remove exercises from the Workbook. It involves the whole system. It uses the knowledge of everyone who is using the system to constantly update the Web site and the learning system.
Learning Modules There are four learning modules in the New Leadership Paradigm Leadership Development Learning System. Leading Self Leading a Others (Team) Leading an Organisation Leading in Society
Leading Self
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The purpose of the Leading Self component of the evolutionary leadership development programme is to help you find personal fulfilment by uncovering, and exploring your authentic self, thereby fulfilling your potential and becoming all you can become. This requires you to establish an intimate understanding of who you are, how you operate, what is important to you, and most importantly, what you need to do to find fulfilment in your life. The Leading Self programme also develops your capacity to manage your internal stability and external equilibrium by making decisions and choices that support you in meeting your needs; your egos needs (deficiency needs), your souls needs (growth needs), and your bodys needs (physiological needs). You will find personal fulfilment when you are able to meet all these needs. Leading Others (Team) Leading a Team or any group of people with a common goal or purpose is obviously not the same as leading yourself. It requires significantly more skills and capabilities. Just as you learned to create the conditions for your own fulfilment in the leading-self module of the leadership development programme, you are now going to learn how to create the conditions for a group of people to find their individual and their collective fulfilment by becoming a high performing team. Ultimately, its all about excellence, performance, getting results and being the best you can be individually and collectively. Who you are as an individual and the level of progress you have made on leading yourself will significantly influence your ability to be an effective team leader. Leading an Organisation Leading an organisation is infinitely more complex than leading a team, a division or a business unit, and it is not something you can do on your own. You need to surround yourself with a leadership team. You need the best team you can get; but more than that, you need a team that you can trust; a team that trusts each other; and a team that trusts you. When you lead an organisation, you need to be able to create the conditions that allow you, your leadership team, and all your employees to find fulfilment, and also meet all your stakeholders needsinvestors, customers, partners, the local communities where you operate, and society in general. Leading in Society There are many ways that you can become a leader in a societal context. You can be a local or national politician; you can be advocate or activist for social change or you can set up or run a charity, an association, a sports team, or some other type of interest group. The possibilities are endless. This module goes beyond the first three modules by helping you to develop a deep understanding of community and societal motivations, and what you as a leader need to know and understand to be effective in leading your community, your nation or a cause that improves the human condition or the sustainability of our natural environment.
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Learning System Components There are four components to the New Leadership Paradigm Leadership Development Learning System: The New Leadership Paradigm Web site. The New Leadership Paradigm book. A downloadable Journal for each of the four learning modulesyour own personalised record of your leadership journey. A downloadable Workbook associated with each Leadership Journal containing exercises and feedback/performance materials that can be self-administered or facilitated by a third party.
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My Potential Explores possibilities for the futurewho you can become, and where you want to go. My authentic in-flow days My personality profile My strengths/unique abilities My personal values inventory My values/beliefs/behaviours My sense of purpose at work My core motivation at work My vision/mission at work My workplace alignment
My Challenges Explores the reality of where you are now, and the hurdles you have to overcome. My inauthentic out-of-flow days My anxieties My stressors My upsets My conflicts My fears and needs inventory
My Personal Mastery Explores how you manage your day-to-day reality so you can get the outcomes you need to get to where you want to go. My self-management skills My personal mastery log Using my values to make decisions My balance wheel My goals and actions
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My Evolution Explores your evolutionary progressyour latest feedback/ performance measures, and your commitments to continued growth and learning. My feedback/performance (Johari Window) My feedback/performance (Jobari Window) My levels of identity My levels of motivation My psychological evolution My level of happiness My type of mind My level of personal consciousness My commitments to evolution
Self-Coaching Supports your evolutionary progress by providing a checklist of actions you can take when you are confronted by specific issues. Self-coaching for Personal Mastery Self-coaching for Internal Cohesion Self-coaching for External Cohesion
Be open and willing to receive feedback Operate in Dialogue mode when working with others Use the concept of Circle Time to stimulate thinking Make a copy of the original Journal/Workbook after you have downloaded it; and, as you move through the exercises save your journal with a file name that includes the date Choose the exercises that correspond to your needs and resonate with you the most
Receiving Feedback Be open and willing to receive feedback from others no matter what that feedback is. Recognize that how others experience you can be a support or a hindrance to your growth and development as a leader. Be grateful for all the feedback you receive. Thank the people who have taken the time to give you the feedback, and where appropriate indicate to them what actions you will be taking based on the feedback. If you find yourself reacting to feedback, then use this as a learning experience by referring to the eight step personal mastery process in Section 4 of the Leading Self Journal/Work. Dialogue When you are doing exercises with others move into a dialogue mode as quickly as possible. William Isaacs, a proponent of the use of dialogue, says the goal of dialogue is to reach a shared Barrett Values Centre Page | 7
understanding by exposing our beliefs and assumptions to other people and having them expose theirs to us. The main advantage of dialogue is that it activates the collective creativity of the group, thereby resulting in better decisions. There are three conditions that must be met for dialogue to possess the capacity to facilitate changes of understanding:
Participants must suspend their assumptions so they are able to fully hear what other people are saying. Questions are asked solely for the purpose of seeking clarification. Participants must be willing to see each other as colleaguesthere has to be a sense of equality in the exchanges. Someone should take on the role of facilitator to monitor the process and intervene if the dialogue degenerates into a debate.
Nancy Klein suggests ten conditions for stimulating thinking either in groups or on one-on-one coaching sessions. These conditions are similar to the principles for promoting dialogue. The most essential conditions for creating a thinking environment are:
Equality: Everyone gets an equal amount of time to put forward their ideas and expose their assumptions. While people are talking, no one interrupts. Questions can be asked for the sake of clarity when the person has finished speaking. Depending on the size of the group, everyone should be heard at least twice. Attention: Listen, listen and listen. Especially in a one-on-one discussion, ask over and over again, What else do you think about this? What else is on your mind? What other ideas do you have? The purpose here is to have the person think so deeply that they tap into their intuition. It is important to recognise that you cannot listen at this deep level if you are thinking about your own agenda. Therefore, you must park your ideas for the moment. Since you know you will get your turn to speak, you can put your ideas on hold until your turn arrives. Questions: The purpose of questioning is to remove limiting assumptions. Questions should be open-ended and freeing. For example, If you were to assume for a moment that there are no budget constraints, what would you do to tackle this issue? or If you could choose anyone at all in the company to work with you on this, whom would you choose? The purpose is to uncover the individual and group assumptions that are limiting the ability to think. Very often the perceived obstacles are assumptions that may or may not be real. Feelings: It is important to recognise that when people are passionate about something they are expressing their positive energy. When passion encounters what is perceived as an obstacle, frustration and emotion bubble up. The ensuing upset stops people thinking. Therefore, it is important to allow feelings to be expressed. As soon as they are expressed, thinking starts again. So allowing feelings to be expressed is an essential pre-requisite for a thinking environment.
Ultimately, the purpose of dialogue is to enhance meaning-making, thereby reaching a more informed decision. Based on the above, you can see how important it is to differentiate between dialogue time, and debate time. Dialogue time opens up the conversation to everyone so together they can explore diverse options. Debate time closes the conversation down by trying to narrow the options to one.
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Circle Time One way of metaphorically distinguishing between dialogue time and debate time is to refer to dialogue time as circle time, and debate time as triangle time. It works in the following way. At the start of any discussion, there is a conscious choice made to begin with circle time and then move into triangle time. The rules for circle time are as follows:
Every person in the group is given as much time as they need to speak to the issue on the table, without interruption from other members. The dialogue proceeds clockwise around the table. When one person finishes the next person begins. There is no discussion except for questions concerning points of clarity. Everyone, having listened to everyone else, and had their say, then gets a second chance to speak. They can modify their position based on what they have heard or they can make additional points. Depending on progress towards a conclusion, a third round of dialogue can be undertaken. At the end of the second or third round the person facilitating the discussion or the leader of the group will check to see if people are ready to move into triangle time. If necessary, after debate, the group can move back into circle time.
Making this distinction at the beginning of a group conversation allows people to find a space during circle time where they can detach from their position or the outcome they want, and stay open up to other possibilities. It allows constructive listening, rather than destructive listening. Once the switch is made from circle time to triangle time the rules change. People are encouraged to advocate for the position they think is best using the points that have been made. If necessary, the group can return to circle time before making a decision. Before, during and after the discussion frequent reminders should be made as to how the espoused values of the organisation relate to the topic being discussed. Copy the Original and Save Your Journal after Each Working Session You should keep a copy of the original Journal/Workbook in case you make a mistake. To make sure you dont lose your work always save your Journal/Workbook with a new file name that includes the date. If you do make a mistake, you can then retrieve the most recent version of the document. Choose the Exercises Although the Journals and Workbooks have been designed in a logical progressive manner to facilitate your learning, you should feel free to pick and choose which exercises you wish to do and if necessary change the order. You can even add or substitute exercises as you wish. Having completed a particular Journal/Workbook, we would ask you to send us your feedback, so that we can continually improve the learning system.
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My Leading Self
Journal
My Life Story
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Leaders I Admire
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My Leadership Story
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Workbook Exercises
Exercise 1.1: My Life Story Exercise 1.2: My Positive Role Models Exercise 1.3: Leaders I Admire Exercise 1.4: My Leadership Story
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Section 2: My Potential
Explores possibilities for the futurewho you can become, and where you want to go.
My Authentic Self
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My Personality Profile
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My Strengths/Unique Abilities
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My Values/Beliefs/Behaviours
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My Core Motivation
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My Vision/Mission/at Work
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My Workplace Alignment
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Workbook Exercises
Exercise 2.1: My Authentic In-Flow Days Exercise 2.2: My Personality Profile (Survey) Exercise 2.3: My Strengths/Unique Abilities (Survey) Exercise 2.4: My Personal Values Inventory (Survey) Exercise 2.5: My Values/Beliefs/Behaviours at Work/Home
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Exercise 2.6: My Sense of Purpose at Work Exercise 2.7: My Core Motivation at Work Exercise 2.8: My Vision/Mission at Work Exercise 2.9: My Workplace Alignment (Survey)
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Section 3: My Challenges
Explores the reality of where you are now, and the hurdles you have to overcome.
My Inauthentic Self
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My Anxieties
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My Stressors
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My Upsets
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My Conflicts
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Workbook Exercises
Exercise 3.1: My Inauthentic Out-of-flow Days at Work/Home Exercise 3:2: My Anxieties at Work/Home Exercise 3.3: My Stressors at Work/Home Exercise 3.4: My Upsets at Work/Home Exercise 3.5: My Conflicts at Work/Home Exercise 3.6: My Fears/Needs Inventory at Work/Home
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If another person is involved in a situation that is causing you anxiety, stress, upset or conflict, you will need to add three more steps. Step Step 9 Action Inquire about the needs of the other Explanation Be curious about the other persons needs. Try to understand what fear-based thoughts may be motivating them. What needs do they have that are not being met. Identify what you needs, and make a request of the other person to see if they are willing to support you in getting your needs met. Take time to hear one another and explore various strategies to meet both of your needs. This takes time and patience. You may discover that you are not able to meet one anothers needs.
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Dealing with Anxieties, Stress, Upsets and Conflicts Step (Steps 3, 4, 5 and 6)
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Dealing with Anxieties, Stress, Upsets and Conflicts Step (Steps 7 and 8)
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Dealing with Anxieties, Stress, Upsets and Conflicts Step (Steps 9, 10 and 11)
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My Reflection/Meditation Plan
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My Balance Wheel
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My Goals/Actions
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Workbook Exercises
Exercise 4.1: Personal Mastery ProcessSteps 1 & 2 Exercise 4.2: Personal Mastery ProcessSteps 3, 4, 5 & 6 Exercise 4.3: Personal Mastery ProcessStep 7 & 8 Exercise 4.4: Personal Mastery ProcessSteps 9, 10, & 11 Exercise 4.5: Personal Mastery Log Exercise 4.6: My Reflection/Meditation Plan Exercise 4.7: Using My Values to Make Decisions Exercise 4.8: My Balance Wheel (Body Mind)
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Exercise 4.9: My Balance Wheel (Ego Mind) Exercise 4.10: My Balance Wheel (Soul Mind) Exercise 4.11: My Goals/Actions
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Section 5: My Evolution
Explores your evolutionary progressyour latest feedback/performance measures, and your commitments to continued growth and learning.
My Feedback/Performance
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My Levels of Identity
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My Levels of Motivation
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My Psychological Evolution
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My Levels of Happiness
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My Type of Mind
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My Commitments to Evolution
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Workbook Exercises
Exercise 5.1: My Feedback/Performance (Johari Window) Exercise 5.2: My Feedback/Performance (Jobari Window) Exercise 5.3: My Levels of Identity Exercise 5.4: My Levels of Motivation Exercise 5.5: My Psychological Evolution Exercise 5.6: My Level of Happiness Exercise 5.7: My Type of Mind
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Workbook Checklists
Checklist 6.1: Self-coaching for Personal Mastery Checklist 6.2: Self-coaching for Internal Cohesion Checklist 6.3: Self-coaching for External Cohesion
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My Leading Self
Workbook
Instructions: 1. Draw a horizontal line on a piece of paper (landscape), approximately one third down from the top. This line represents your life from birth to death. Mark where you are right now with your age. Leave room for the part of your life that is as yet unlived. Mark above the line, with approximate dates, the most significant life changing events that you have experiencedyour successes, your moments of greatest joy. Mark below the line, with approximate dates, the most significant life changing events that you have experiencedyour challenging times, your moments of sadness. Write brief notes against each event indicating how this experience impacted you; what you learned about yourself, and what strengths/qualities showed up in you. Note down how you changed or your relationships changed as a result. Write down the values that became more important to you, and the values that became less important to you after each significant experience. When you have finished, look for common positive and negative themes, qualities and values. If you have someone you can share with, take 20 to 30 minutes to tell them your life story and what you believe you have discovered from carrying out this exercise. If you are listening to the story, you may ask clarifying or probing questions, but do not speak of your own experiences. When you have finished, ask the person who has been listening to summarise what they heard, and provide any comments or insights they might have. Summarise what you have learned about yourself. Based on what you learned about yourself, write down the themes/qualities/values, positive and limiting, that are consistently showing up in your life. Write down also what qualities and values you think it is important for you to embrace between now and the end of your life. Complete the worksheet.
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What I have learned about myself and what has become clear to me:
When you have finished this exercise, copy what you have written in the shaded section of the worksheet, click Text 1.1, and paste into your journal.
Facilitator Notes: You should allow about 30-45 minutes for people to complete this exercise. You can then split the group up into pairs and have them share with each other for about 20-30 minutes each following the instruction in Item 6. Then invite each participant to share one insight from this exercise in a plenary session. Give the group about 20 minutes to complete the worksheet, and transfer the worksheet contents to their Leadership Journals.
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Exercise 1.2
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Instructions: 1. Think of a person who has had a positive impact on you, and to this day, you remember with great affection and admirationsomeone who you regard as personal role model. What qualities did this person display that you liked so much? How did this person make you feel? What qualities would you like others to admire in you? To what extent do you think others see these qualities in you? How would you like to make others feel when they come into contact with you? What values/behaviours do you need to display to make this happen? Complete the worksheet.
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WORKSHEET Positive Role Models Name of Person: Qualities: This person made me feel:
How would you like to make others feel when they come into contact with you?
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When you have finished this exercise, copy what you written in the shaded section of the worksheet, click Text 1.2, and paste into your journal.
Facilitator Notes: After giving people about 20 minutes to complete this exercise, split the group up in threes or fours and ask them to share their stories with each other. After sharing for about 20 minutes, give the group about 10 minutes to complete the worksheet, and transfer the worksheet contents to their Leadership Journals.
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My Potential
Exercise 2.1: My Authentic In-Flow Days
Purpose: Objective: Background: To find out who you are when you are at your best. To deepen your understanding of what motivates you. When you are in your flow and living an authentic life, you feel a sense of happiness, even joy, and sense of personal fulfilment. If you understand what is happening, and how you are contributing to the experience of such days, then you can create more of them in the future. This will make you more effective and increase your level of personal fulfilment.
Instructions: 1. 2. Read the resource document before starting this exercise. Complete the worksheet.
WORKSHEET My Authentic In-Flow Days At Work Explore in drawings and words: a) What is happening when you have a really good day at work?
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Level 1: SurvivalSecurity/safety/money/protection/survival Level 2: RelationshipFriendship/attention/connection/love/belonging Level 3: Self-EsteemAchievement/recognition/power/status/professional growth Level 4: TransformationAccountability/freedom/adventure/challenges/ personal growth Level 5: Internal CohesionMeaning/creativity/enthusiasm/passion Level 6: Making a differenceMaking a difference/coaching/mentoring Level 7: ServiceServing humanity/planet/future generations
g) What would you need to do or change to have more good days at work?
Away from Work (At Home) Explore in drawings and words: a) What is happening when you have a really good day away from work (home)?
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Level 2: RelationshipFriendship/attention/connection/love/belonging Level 3: Self-EsteemAchievement/recognition/power/status/professional growth Level 4: TransformationAccountability/freedom/adventure/challenges/ personal growth Level 5: Internal CohesionMeaning/creativity/enthusiasm/passion Level 6: Making a differenceMaking a difference/coaching/mentoring Level 7: ServiceServing humanity/planet/future generations
Describe in your own words how people would recognise you are having a good day: a) At Work
What do you need from other people to support you in having a good day: a) At Work
What would you need to do or change to have more good days? a) At Work
When you have finished this exercise, copy what you written in the shaded section of the worksheet, click Text 2.1, and paste into your journal.
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Facilitator Notes: Give the group about 30 minutes to complete this exercise. If you have a small group or a team, ask everyone to stand in front of the group for a few minutes and describe the answers to their questions, both work and home. If you have a larger group, split the group into threes and have them share their answers with each other. After they have finished sharing, give the group about 20 minutes to complete the worksheet, and transfer the worksheet contents to their Leadership Journals.
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Section 3: My Challenges
Exercise 3.1: My Inauthentic out-of-flow Days at Work/Home
Purpose: Objective: To find out who you are when you are not at your best. To deepen your understanding of your conscious and sub-conscious reactions to situations. When you are out of alignment with who you really arewhen you feel energetically challengedyou know that your fears are getting the better of you. Whenever you feel anxiety, resistance, impatience, frustration, anger or rage, or you are experiencing conflict, you know that in some way you are holding onto a belief that you will not be able to get your needs met. This is the cause of your anxiety and stress, and unless you deal with these limiting beliefs you will continue to experience upsets.
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Instructions: 1. 2. Read the resource document before starting this exercise. Use the worksheet to identify what is happening to you when you are having a bad day at work. Repeat this exercise for when you are having a bad day at home.
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Resources: 1. 2. Chapter 8. The New Leadership Paradigm: Personal Consciousness. Chapter 9. The New Leadership Paradigm: Personal Mastery.
WORKSHEET My Inauthentic Out of Flow Days at Work/Home At Work Describe in your own words: a) What is usually happening when you have a bad day at work?
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Describe in your own words how people would recognise you are having a bad day. What are the external signs that you display that indicate to people you are having a bad day at work
What do you need to do in order to cope when you are having a bad day at work?
What do you need from other people when you are having a bad day at work?
Since you know that you are responsible for what you are feeling, what questions do you need to ask yourself to get back to a state of calm at work?
What I have learned about myself and what has become clear to me:
At Home Describe in your own words: a) What is usually happening when you have a bad day at home?
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Describe in your own words how people would recognise you are having a bad day. What are the external signs that you display that indicate to people you are having a bad day at home
What do you need to do in order to cope when you are having a bad day at home?
What do you need from other people when you are having a bad day at home?
Since you know that you are responsible for what you are feeling, what questions do you need to ask yourself to get back to a state of calm at home?
What I have learned about myself and what has become clear to me:
When you have finished this exercise, copy what you have written in the shaded section of the worksheet, click Text 3.1 and paste into your journal.
Facilitator Notes: Allow about 30-45 minutes for this exercise. If you have a small group or a team in a workplace setting, ask everyone to stand in front of the group for a few minutes and describe the answers to their work questions. It would not be appropriate to describe the answers to the home questions in a work situation. If you are conducting a personal transformation workshop, you should get everyones approval to share the answers to the home questions. When the exercise is over give participants about 10 minutes to transfer the worksheet contents to their Leadership Journals.
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Instructions: 1. 2. Read the resource document before starting this exercise. Go to the worksheet and answer the questions.
Resources: 1. Chapter 9: The New Leadership Paradigm. Process of Personal MasterySteps 1 & 2.
WORKSHEET Personal Mastery Steps 1 & 2 Releasing Your Emotions The purpose of this exercise is to help you think about and identify what are your preferred ways of releasing your emotions in a non-violent (to yourself and others) way. List all the ways that you can think of for releasing your emotions when you are upset or find yourself in a on-going conflict, without harming anyone. (For example: Going for a long walk or run; beating a cushion with a baseball bat; talking with a friend.)
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Close your eyes and ask yourself, What is alive within me today?
(The world alive seeks to get at the energetic dimension of peoples feelings. Is it something you excited about? Is it something that is upsetting you? Is it someone special that you are thinking about? It may just be that you may be feeling happy and contented. You are trying to find what physical sensations are in your body; what thoughts and feelings are occupying your mind. Observe them from a distance, like watching a movie, with as little judgement or self-association as possible.
Write down your thoughts and feelings (consult list of feelings). My thoughts are:
My feelings are:
Example: What is alive in me today? Tomorrows trip to Europe. I am both excited and anxious about the trip (feelings excited and anxious). I just remembered that I need to pack my passport (thought pack my passport). Repeat the exercise everyday for two weeks so you get used to witnessing yourself.
Ask at least two people you know within the next 24 hours, What is alive in you today Notice what they say and how it enables you to connect with them in an empathetic way.
What I have learned about myself and what has become clear to me:
When you have finished this exercise, copy what you have written in the shaded section of the worksheet, click Text 4.1, and paste into your journal.
Facilitator Notes: Allow about 15 minutes for people to complete this exercise and then spend 10-20 minutes milling around asking each other What is alive in you today? At the end of the exercise, have a general discussion about the process of a) releasing emotions, and b) accessing their self-witness. When the exercise is over give participants about 10 minutes to transfer the worksheet contents to their Leadership Journals. Barrett Values Centre Page | 34
Section 5: My Evolution
Exercise 5.1: My Feedback/Performance (Johari Window)
Purpose: Objective: Background: To find out how I am perceived by friends and family. To identify the changes you need to make to consciously evolve. We rarely see ourselves exactly as others see us. Getting feedback from others helps us to learn how we are coming across, and what changes we might want to make to our behaviours to develop more successful relationships.
Resources: 1. 2. Chapter 12: The New Leadership Paradigm. Measuring your performance. Johari Window
WORKSHEET My Goals and Actions Johari Window Print out the Johari Window Survey Form and ask 10-15 people you know to complete the survey. Also, take the survey yourself. Plot the words on the diagram: Known to self and known to others: Matching Values Known to self and not to others: Words I picked that did not come across in top ten of others. Know to others and not known to self: Words in the top ten of others that I did not pick.
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Matching words:
What I have learned about myself and what has become clear to me:
When you have finished this exercise, copy what you have written in the shaded section of the worksheet, click Text 5.1 and paste into your journal.
Facilitator Notes: This exercise can either be self-administered or be part of a facilitated programme. When people have finished the survey and plotted the results, allow 20 minutes sharing in twos or threes. Give people 10 minutes to complete their worksheets and transfer the worksheet contents to their Leadership Journals.
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Resources: 1. Chapter 12: The New Leadership Paradigm. Measuring your performance.
WORKSHEET My Goals and Actions Jobari Window Print out the Jobari Window Survey Form and ask 10-15 people you know to complete the survey. Also, take the survey yourself. Plot the words on the diagram: Known to self and known to others: Matching Values Known to self and not to others: Words I picked that did not come across in top ten of others. Know to others and not known to self: Words in the top ten of others that I did not pick.
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Comparing the results of this exercise with the previous one. How are my work and home blind spots similar or different? How is my work and home faade different?
What I have learned about myself and what has become clear to me:
When you have finished this exercise, copy what you have written in the shaded section of the worksheet, click Text 5.2 and paste into your journal.
Facilitator Notes: This exercise can either be self-administered or be part of a facilitated programme. When people have finished the survey and plotted the results, allow 20 minutes for sharing in twos or threes. Give people 10 minutes to complete their worksheets and transfer the worksheet contents to their Leadership Journals.
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Self-coaching
Checklist 6.1: Self-coaching for Personal Mastery If you are dealing with a personal mastery issue follow the check list of items. When you have finished, go to Exercise 4.5 and complete the log. Also, click Text 6.1 to go to your journal and make any notes that you need to about your experience for future reference. Checklist of items:
Release your emotions: If you are noticing any pent up emotional energy or hurt, pause while you allow it to dissipate. Engage your self-witness: Move into the balcony, and observe what happened to you on the dance floor of your life. Identify your feelings: Name your feelings and describe them to yourself in detail. Write down your feelings. Identify your thoughts: Notice what you are thinking and the judgments you are making. Write down your thoughts. Identify your fears: What are the fears that lie behind your thoughts? What are you afraid may happen? Write down your fears. Identify your needs: What needs do you have that are not being met. These needs together with your fears are what are motivating your upset. Write down your needs. Identify your beliefs: Develop a belief statement about what you lack, and what you need. Question your thoughts/beliefs: Differentiate between perception and reality and reshape your thoughts/beliefs and re-evaluate your needs.
If someone else is involved: Inquire about the needs of the other: Be curious about the other persons needs. Try to understand what fear-based thoughts may be motivating themwhat needs they have that are not being met. Communicate your needs: Identify your needs, and make a request of the other person to see if they are willing to support you in getting your needs met. Dialogue: Take time to hear one another and explore various strategies to meet both of your needs. This takes patience. You may discover that you are not able to meet one anothers needs.
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Checklist 6.2: Self-coaching for Internal Cohesion If you are dealing with an internal cohesion issue follow the check list of items. Click Text 6.2 to go to your journal and make any notes that you need to about your experience for future reference.
Self-coaching for internal cohesion Identify your values: Gain an understanding of what values drive your decision-making and the beliefs and behaviours that support them. Understand your motivations: Get clear and focused on why you do what you do each day, and in particular, your motivation for going to work. Understand your current purpose: Get clear on your most important goals and the outcomes you want to achieve. Find your mission: Understand and get clear on your life purpose. Create a vision: Understand and get clear on what outcome you would like to create by following your life purpose. Get aligned with your work: Evaluate to what extent your current work environment supports you in achieving your purpose, mission and vision, and if necessary change it.
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Checklist 6.3: Self-coaching for External Cohesion If you are dealing with an external cohesion issue follow the check list of items. Click Text 6.3 to go to your journal and make any notes that you need to about your experience for future reference.
Self-coaching for external cohesion Deepen your self-connection: Develop your intuition and inspiration through reflection, and meditation. Work with other people: Develop your empathy, compassion, humility and wisdom to build partnerships and strategic alliances. Manifest outcomes: Move beyond intention and vision and trust in the forces of inspiration to provide for your needs. Eleven strategies for staying in the flow: Develop your ability to find long-term fulfilment by staying at the top of your game.
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My Leading Self
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Return to: Exercise 5.1 Insert your name: Please select ten words (ring or underline) that most reflect how you perceive me.
accepting accountable adaptable bold brave calm caring cheerful clever complex cooperative confident dependable energetic empathetic extroverted friendly giving happy
helpful idealistic independent ingenious intelligent introverted kind knowledgeable logical loving mature modest nervous observant organized patient powerful proud quiet
reflective relaxed religious responsible responsive searching self-assertive self-conscious sensible sentimental shy smart spiritual spontaneous sympathetic tense trustworthy wise witty
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accessible accountable achievement adaptable ambitious analytical authoritarian balance (home/work) being liked blaming cautious calm coaching/mentoring collaborative commitment compassion conflict avoider connecting with customers continuous improvement controlling creative decisive delivering on promises
demanding developing others detail orientation drive/determination empathetic enthusiastic ethical experienced fairness focus on bottom line focus on sustainability forgiving goals orientation high standards honesty humility humour/fun inspiring integrity internally competitive listening logical long hours long-term perspective
making a difference open to new ideas organised patient focus on personal growth focus on professional growth positive attitude powerful reactive relationship builder reliable risk-taking short-term focus solution focus strategic thinker supportive team builder trusting vision focus on well being (physical/emotional/ mental/spiritual) focus on win-win partnerships wisdom
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The level of inclusiveness and connectedness you have towards others, and your physical environment; and The degree to which your conscious and subconscious fears separate you from others or undermine your sense of connectedness to others and your physical environment.
Fear prevents us from evolving because it promotes self-interest and separation. It restricts your sense of identity, and blocks your progress from I to We. The major inhibiting factors in this regard are a strong sense of racial identity, and/or religious affiliation. These issues arise from the fears we hold at the second and third level of human consciousnessfears associated with safety and belonging, and respect and authority. Connectedness and love, on the other hand, promote evolution because they expand your sense of identity, and support your progress from I to an ever expanding sense of We. When you operate from the fourth level of identity, you are able to accept and celebrate ethnic diversity, and religious freedom. Thus, the more inclusive your sense of identity and the less influenced you are by your conscious and unconscious fears, the higher will be the locus of the centre of gravity of consciousness that you operate from. The seven levels of identity are described in the following table, and explained in more detail in the text below.
Levels of Consciousness 7 6 Service Making a difference
Identity Self as a member of the human race, living on Earth and embracing full spectrum sustainability. Self as a member of a community, and/or an affiliation of groups with shared values, aligned missions, and a common vision. Self as a member of a group that shares the same values and a mission that aligns with your own sense of purpose and direction. Self as a member of a group that shares the same goals and values, and celebrates and encourages your unique abilities and talents. Self as a member or supporter of a group that aligns with your religious faith, interests and/or opinions. Self as member of a family or clan with a shared heritage, or ethnicity. Self as an individual in a physical body seeking to meet your physiological needs.
Internal cohesion
Transformation
Self-esteem
Relationships
Survival
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collective purpose or vision. You are concerned about building the internal capacities of your group through mentoring or coaching those with whom you work, and you are also concerned about building a culture of collaboration with your partners and the groups that form part of your strategic alliance. You are concerned about your ability to leverage your impact on the world.
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Motivation Devoting your life to self-less service in pursuit of your purpose and your vision. Actualizing your sense of purpose by collaborating with others to make a difference in the world. Finding meaning for your life by uncovering your purpose and creating a vision for the future you want to create. Embracing your individuality so that you can become a fully self-actualized, authentic individual. Satisfying your need to feel good about yourself, your ability to manage your life, and having pride in your performance. Satisfying your need for belonging and feeling loved and accepted by those with whom you interact on a daily basis. Satisfying your physiological needs and creating a safe, secure environment for self.
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Relationships Survival
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parents, and receiving praise and acknowledgement from thempraise for trying, not just for winning. People with a healthy sense of self-esteem take pride in themselves and in their performance.
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