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SUCCESS .............................................................................................................................................. 4 Personal Inventory 12 Questions to ask your-self monthly or quarterly to be even more successful ..................................................................................................................... 4 12 Ways to Awaken the Motivation Within............................................................................ 5 10 Tips to Put the Law of Attraction into Action .................................................................. 6 What does success mean to you? ............................................................................................... 7 5 Tips to Increase Intelligence Naturally ................................................................................ 8 5 Brain and Intelligence Myths Exposed ............................................................................... 10 How to Get Motivated to Change Your Life ........................................................................... 11 Positive Affirmations for Success ............................................................................................ 12 How Hidden Subliminal Messages Work .............................................................................. 13 How to Manifest Your Hearts Desires with Visualization .............................................. 14 SELF HELP ........................................................................................................................................ 15 Why Seeking Perfection is A Waste of Your Time .............................................................. 15 70 Tips to Turn Your Daily Life Routine Around ............................................................... 16 Relocation Therapy Moving Away to Start a New Life .................................................. 18 How to Deal with Blamers Negativity ................................................................................... 19 Natural Sleeping Methods for Insomnia ............................................................................... 20 Factors in The Development of Self Esteem ......................................................................... 22 How to Overcome Anxiety without Medication .................................................................. 23 5 Easy Tips to Reduce High-Levels of Stress ........................................................................ 25 How to Manage Uncontrollable Anger Outbursts .............................................................. 26 SPIRITUALITY ................................................................................................................................. 29 Start Showing Gratitude Today ................................................................................................ 29 Forgiveness of the Self and Others .......................................................................................... 29 Age of Aquarius Shift: What does it mean? ........................................................................... 30 Benefits of Transcendental Meditation Practice................................................................ 31
Isochronic Tones and Brainwave Entrainment .................................................................. 32 Yoga Meditation for Mind & Body Wellness ........................................................................ 33 EFT Tapping Points Meaning .................................................................................................... 34 Meditation Benefits from Mind to Body ................................................................................ 35 Brainwave Vibrations and Frequencies ................................................................................ 36 ADDICTION ...................................................................................................................................... 38 Relapse vs Conscious Choice: Why do you pick up addiction and do it again? ........ 38 Bad Behavior and Mistakes What Does Shame Feel Like? .......................................... 40 Consumerism and Our Addiction to Spending Money ..................................................... 41 5 Ways to Boost Your Mood with Food .................................................................................. 43 Feeling Stressed? Try foods with positive energies to bring relief ............................. 43 Stop Taking Prozac to Overcome Depression ..................................................................... 45 Best Way to Stop Smoking Cigarettes .................................................................................... 46 AA Rehab is Not The Solution to Addiction .......................................................................... 47
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SUCCESS Personal Inventory 12 Questions to ask your-self monthly or quarterly to be even more successful
Its important to find out if you have been spending your energy and efforts in the areas of your life where you can make a positive difference. Here is a list of questions which are useful as a way of progressing yourself development; Id just like to add that I dont score yes to all of them so Im not pretending to be perfect, I am still working hard on the list myself. 1. Have I been persistent in reaching the goals I wanted to achieve this month or year to date? If yes, how can I double or triple my goals? 2. Have I done my best and applied 100% of my capabilities to achieving my goals or are there things I can improve on?
3. Have I been an optimist and maintained a positive state of mind at all times, if not what or who is it that pushes my buttons? 4. Did I practice the art of procrastination?! Have I wasted energy and lost concentration to the point that my performance decreased? If yes what aspects of my performance need attention? 5. What strengths and weaknesses have I worked on and where can I see measurable results? If none, why? 6. Have I let my fears and doubts hold me back instead of taking bold decisions and moving towards my goals confidently? 7. Have I done my best to be compassionate and see other people points of view resulting in more peaceful relationships or have I just blamed other people for negative relationships and not taken responsibility for them? 8. Have I ditched at least a bad habit or taken on a new one? If its the later, what am I going to do to about it? 9. Am I fulfilled by my work? If not, what is it that makes me feel alive and what is stopping me from doing it? 10. Where am I, where do I want to be and how am I going to get there? 11. What am I doing that works well in my life right now and what is not helping me work toward my goals? 12. What lessons have I learned that will expand my learning and help me to grow? Im sure you can come up with a few more questions of your own, but these ones should be a good start to get you thinking and reflecting.
3. Look for challenges by breaking out of your comfort zone Your comfort zone is the imaginary line that you have placed around the border of your life and this line is made of limiting beliefs. Your comfort zone is dragging you down and stopping you from moving towards the goals you see as challenging or unattainable. Remember, the more uncomfortable you get, the closer you will get to your goal so start pushing your boundaries. 4. Sometimes let your mind wonder Imagination is the beginning of creation. You imagine what you desire, you will what you imagine and at last you create what you will. George Bernard Shaw 5. Find your role model Role models are people who have achieved the things that you want to achieve or who have qualities you aspire to. Your role model could be a friend or family member or an actor, writer, anyone who you look up to and admire. Use them to get tips and information on how to go about on achieving your goals. I still remember the first time I listened to Napoleon Hill; it opened my mind to an all-new way of thinking and living. 6. Be a finisher, dont procrastinate It's not that I'm so smart, it's just that I stay with problems longer. Albert Einstein 7. Live like there is no tomorrow Ask yourself: If I had only a year to live what would I do differently? Today is your day, so think one year from now, what are you going to wish you had done today? Feel whatever it is that your heart is really telling you to do and make a start. Even if it seems unrealistic, take one small step to success today. What is stopping you from being your true authentic self? Tomorrow may never come so be the person you want to be today. 8. Make use of trouble by welcoming your problems Where there is no struggle, there is no strength. Oprah Winfrey 9. Make adjustments to your relationships
Leave the friends who hold you back; pessimist friends and people with bad attitudes and behaviors. Remember, negative emotions are contagious and you can pick up on them easily, its called emotional contagion. Protect yourself from belief s and values that dont resonate with who you are. Dont surround yourself with the wrong people, those who are not supportive because they are either scared that you will fail or even worse that you succeed. Create and take care of lasting relationships that empower and inspire you to better yourself. 10. Dont take no for an answer If people are not laughing at your goals, your goals are too small. Azim Premji 11. Reward yourself for achieving No matter how small they are, you have to set goals and establish rewards for achieving those goals. When you allow yourself rewards, you will naturally be motivated because there are additional incentives to meet your goals and experience result of your efforts. Rewards are not just about money or material things, they could be a simple treat or even a feeling youll get from the accomplishment. 12. Keep your life purpose in mind. Know who you are and what you have to do The only way to do great work is to love what you do. If you haven't found it yet, keep looking. Don't settle. As with all matters of the heart youll know when you find it Steve Jobs ***
6. Passion Desire is required to get you to your goals so make sure that youre really passionate about what youre going for and the universe will respond. Invest time in things that you really love doing. What could be a hobby now could make you a living. 7. Practice Gratitude Be grateful for what you already have and accept every gift with gratitude. The more gratitude you show, the more you will be able to open yourself up to receive whatever the universe has to give you. 8. Give Something Back The Law of Attraction is not all about receiving, but also about giving. Learn to give without wanting something back in return. Giving back does not have to cost you anything, the gift of listening, a smile or kindness can make a big difference to someones day. 9. Take Action It is good to help the universe to help you by turning thoughts into action. The right thinking with the right action is a winning combination. Repeating positive affirmations throughout the day will help keep your thoughts in alignment with your intentions. 10. Positive Thinking Focus on what you want in your life, instead of what you dont want. If you are positive then you will attract positive things to your life and vice versa. Keep in mind that your thoughts create your reality! ***
Most of us assume success is mainly attaining a social status or simply being rich but even though no one can deny that money is necessary, success can be achieved through other aspect of our lives. Perhaps for some success comes from appearing in mindless reality TV shows and fifteen minutes of fame or even forming certain discriminative parties and being worshiped by others. This is because we tend to define our personal success in relation to others. But we should really think of success as a positive state of mind only in relation to ourselves, so we are not always comparing our achievements and possessions to those of others; by doing this we will always consider ourselves as unsuccessful! Success should be about achieving balance between our mind and body and finding meaning and purpose in life. If our life has meaning then it does not matter if we are financially well of for not and whether we have fame or not. Its worth remembering that doing anything that comes from the heart is probably your right calling in life. So instead of focusing on career, money and relationships which are important but by no means define who we are, consider success as being around these three things: Life Purpose Believing and achieving your dreams Generating the positive energy required to pursue your goals Giving this one life the best shot youve got Moral Respect for yourself and others Responsibility Trustworthiness Emotional Living in the present moment Maintaining a peaceful state of mind Being your true self and being proud of who you are True meaning of success Firstly remember, success is not measurable! For me, success is finding inner peace and being happy in the present moment. Not dwelling on the past, worrying about the future or fretting over what you have in relation to others. Success means living everyday of your life with meaning and purpose. So, stop comparing yourselves to others or letting your definition of success be defined by the media and advertising, where they deliberately play on your insecurities. So pick one or more from the second list and start your journey to success today! ***
If you think that there arent any ways to increase intelligence, think again! There are two kinds of intelligence; crystallized intelligence and fluid intelligence. Scientists have described fluid intelligence as the general ability to solve new problems and recognize unfamiliar patterns. There are ways to increase fluid intelligence. Improving cognitive function increases working memory and elevates the ability to solve problems. Increases Intelligence with Transcendental Meditation Transcendental meditation develops the level of consciousness which allow you to take in more information and see what you are learning from a different angle. This results in better ideas, higher focus, increased problem solving skills and greater spontaneous decision making. Do New Things in New Ways You can increase your intelligence by training you brain, as you would do to get your dream body. Most of us forget that the brain is also a muscle. So break out of the old routine and try new things to trigger dopamine that boosts brain performance. Challenging yourself prevents your brain from getting lazy because thinking creatively is more useful than memorizing facts you already know. So doing things the hard way exercises your brain! Read more challenging books and minimize the amount of TV you watching because television doesnt utilize your full mental capacity or allow it to recharge; especially brainwashing channels like mainstream media. Instead do cerebral games that use memory and logic; solve puzzles, crosswords, Sudoku, chess and play challenging video games. Explore new cultures. Teach Yourself a Foreign Language. Network and hang out with people and friends who know something you want to learn. Imagination is more important than knowledge. For knowledge is limited, whereas imagination embraces the entire world, stimulating progress, giving birth to evolution. Albert Einstein Sleep and Rest Studies have shown that the brain actively processes and stores your day memories while you sleep thats why the brain needs to recharge. So good quality and proper duration sleep is crucial for proper brain functioning because when your brain is tired from lack of sleep, it is difficult to concentrate and reason logically. A lack of sleep can have a huge effect on your mental performance. Physical Activity and Nutrition There is evidence that a healthy lifestyle is vital to increasing intelligence and maintaining healthy brain function because similarly to other organs, the brain needs the right kinds of foods and ironically, physical exercise to develop and function properly. Performing physical cardiovascular exercises increases brain function by releasing and boosting brain chemicals that can enhance your memory, concentration, energy and speed of thinking. Make Time for Reflection It is not a good idea to saturate your brain with new knowledge without reflecting on what you have already learned. When it comes to a certain point and your progress seems stuck then its time for reflection, only then will real growth and positive breakthroughs happen.
Even if it may be hard, giving a break to your brain and doing a different activity or even daydreaming for a while is the best way to improve creativity and increase intelligence. Realize the power of your brain, believe and work to make your dream come true! ***
Reality: There is no scientific evidence to support that statement and no one seems to know where that belief began. I suppose the false idea has been spread by TV and fake news channel. However scientists do believe that we use 100% of our brains. Further Reading: www.csicop.org Myth: Its often said that listening to classical music especially Mozart increases intelligence. The first question that comes to my mind is: if that myth is true then why doesnt electronic, rock or hip hop music increase intelligence too? The truth is that Mozart created genius symphonies but listening to those wont make us geniuses in return. Reality: any cognitive enhancement is small and does not reflect any change in IQ or reasoning ability in general, but instead derives entirely from performance on one specific type of cognitive task and has a simple neuropsychological explanation, called enjoyment arousal. Source: todayifoundout.com Myth: Lets think of this logically, is it the gum or chewing that makes us smarter? No, the gum itself has no benefits, except for providing an extra dose of saturated sugar! So the myth is well a myth. Reality: The effect of chewing anything is mild exercise so it might increase your heart rate which increases blood flow to the brain, which then increases brain activity for a short period of time but this does not increase intelligence and memory in the long term. So the gum itself does not increase intelligence neither does chewing it, even though it may useful to warm up your brain and increase blood before exams for example. This myth is still unsolved. There are lots of myths about increasing intelligence, but they are exactly that, myths and these intelligence myths should be exposed. We should, however, make our brains our hobby, see my article on natural methods to increase intelligence for tips on how to do things that really work! ***
Maybe you are simply not connected in any way to a goal, so your struggle with motivation is due to a disconnect between your emotions and your awareness; emotion is the source of motivation, it is what creates the energy to become and stay motivated. Motivation is within you, so you need to tune in your emotions, get motivated and change your life! When something really matters to you and when you feel a connection to something, you will create energy and the drive that actually gets you to where you want to go. Many people struggle to connect with their emotions because it can make them feel vulnerable but emotions are the engine for growth and the driving force for self development. ***
The key is to act like you already are who you intend to be and to believe that you possess already what you desire. Positive affirmations for success must be repeated and used in the present tense to work successfully. So help your subconscious to really believe this about yourself and move your life in a positive direction! ***
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yourself these kinds of question, the closer you get to what perfection really means for you. Its funny because the truth is there is not one universal view on perfection, we all have different views of what perfection is supposed to be and from this point of view perfection is useless and meaningless! Accept only your own personal definition of perfection and remember that uniqueness is more interesting than perfection and proudly express the essence of who you are and where you want to be. 5 Tips for Perfectionists: 1- Ignore the self -sabotaging voice in your head, learn to love and accept yourself because you are perfect just the way you are. 2- Are you a perfectionist procrastinator? Sometimes we want to be perfect in everything we do and if we are not perfect then we dont do it. Remember that something done, even if it is not perfect, is better than nothing at all. 3- Become an optimist by embracing reality. Know and accept that youll never be perfect because there is no such thing. When you are willing to fail all of a sudden you have this freedom so just get out there and do it! 4- Treat life as a learning experience not as a test and try not to be limited by an all or nothing, or win or lose mind-set. Shift your goals from being perfect to being good enough and look at the positive side of a failure because there is always a lesson to be learn in failure. 5- Remember that everything happens for a reason, if like me you are into spirituality then trust in the universe to support you in your journey of life. ***
15. Unplug your TV have the occasional media detox days, no TV, no cell phone, no Internet. 16. Make a list of the happiest moments of your life and think about one of these moments every day. 17. Relish lifes simplest pleasures. 18. Each night before you go to bed write down what you have accomplished and be thankful for it. 19. Never stop learning learn something new everyday. 20. Exercise a little everyday. 21. Be content with what you have there is always something to be grateful for 22. Keep a journal writing your thoughts and ideas down is therapeutic and creative. 23. Plan a schedule for your week and stick to it. 24. Surround yourself with inspiring people. 25. Say no to distractions. 26. Drink lots of water. 27. Find pleasure in your work every single day. 28. Be passionate dedicate one hour each day to something you are passionate about. 29. Know your strengths and play to these. 30. Be patient. 31. Dont give up on your goals. 32. Speak less. Listen more. 33. Dont try too hard you dont have to get along with everyone. 34. Be kinder everyone you meet is facing their own life challenges. 35. Stop complaining it makes you miserable company. 36. Take responsibility for your life and your actions stop making excuses. 37. Show your emotions it is not a sign of weakness. 38. When you are worried dont dwell but take positive action. 39. Remember, No One is perfect. 40. Avoid over explaining yourself be confident in your convictions. 41. Keep balance in your life. 42. Have the courage to face challenges head on never be afraid of a challenge. 43. Dont compromise your value system. 44. Help others small and simple actions can make a huge difference to someone elses life. 45. Dont take things too personally. 46. Dont be afraid to laugh at yourself it shows that you are comfortable in your own skin. 47. Manage your time and focus on priorities. 48. Ask for help life can be tough remember you never have to go it alone. 49. Do your homework and know what you getting into before you start. 50. Learn to forgive others and stop carrying around hate, guilt or regret. 51. Finish what you started stay focused on the end goal. 52. Be willing to admit your mistakes 53. Stop thinking you are not ready be brave and go for it! 54. Leave work at work. 55. Do what you say you will do. 56. Avoid texting people at 1 am after a night out! 57. Dont compare your life to others be happy with what you have. 58. Dont judge people on appearances. 59. Always deal with a misunderstanding immediately dont let things fester. 60. Stop beating yourself up for old mistakes make peace with your past so it wont spoil the present. 61. Remember that your thoughts create your reality. 62. Dont respond to someone when you are angry. 63. Its not what you have in your life but who you have in your life that counts. 64. Never ruin an apology with an excuse.
65. Life is too short to waste time hating anyone. 66. You dont have to win every argument agree to disagree. 67. Remember no-one is in charge of your happiness except you. 68. However good or bad a situation is it will change as nothing is forever. 69. The best things in life are free. 70. Be true to yourself and trust your instinct! ***
For people who blame, its a way of avoiding external repercussions and blamers seek something from their victims, whether it is emotional, monetary, fun, reassurance or psychological stability. What should you do about friends who blame you? Do consider if you should be friends with someone who makes you feel so bad in the first place! Relationships of this nature are often just a one-way street where you put a lot into the friendship but the reciprocal feeling is only an illusion. Believe in your instinct and common sense and ask yourself if you are really to blame in a situation where you are being blamed. Have a good sense of yourself and how would you have acted if you were the other person and if you conclude that you are being treated unfairly just peacefully remove yourself from the situation without feeding the blamers ego. Keep a positive attitude and be nice to them because these people really suck the energy out of you so there is no point trying to make them admit their mistake, it just wont happen! Negative people who are blamers deserve compassion but we cannot change other peoples behaviors, only our own. Seek relationships instead with people who believe in you and support your dreams. ***
Many people think that an alcoholic drink before bed will help them sleep. While it may make you fall asleep faster, alcohol actually reduces sleep quality and can wake you up during the night. Cigarettes contain nicotine which is a stimulant. Smokers will experience nicotine withdrawal as the night progresses, making it hard to sleep. Eating before sleeping means the metabolism does not slow down which can impact sleep and some foods can even make falling asleep difficult, including cheeses, salami and even potatoes! Worry, stress and sleeplessness can be a vicious circle. A racing mind makes falling asleep and staying asleep impossible. Key Sleeping Methods The key to better sleep is to experiment and find out what works for you. You can try these sleeping methods: Keep a regular sleep schedule because going to bed and getting up at the same time each day is proven to help you feel much more refreshed and energized than varying sleep patterns. Try to create a relaxing environment in your bedroom or where you sleep. Dont fill your sleeping space with clutter. Think of your bedroom as your sanctuary and have soft not harsh lighting and keep it cool. Dehydration can stop you stop you sleeping so keep hydrated during the day so you dont wake up during the night. Reduce stress and worry by writing down any worries that keep you awake and try to address them by talking to someone who can help. Listening to a hypnotherapy recording before sleep can help ease tension and calm a racing mind.
In its early stages, insomnia is almost an oasis in which those who have to think or suffer darkly take refuge. Colette If you work hard too close to bedtime, your brain will be over active just when it needs to slowdown. Dont use the computer or mobile phones or watch TV before going to sleep; these gadgets actually stimulate the mind, rather than relaxing it. Instead, try listening to music or audio books instead, or practicing relaxation exercises. Spend quiet time with yourself more often; try a relaxing bath with candles and gentle music now and again. Exercise and a healthy diet are important for our sleep so try to make positive changes in both and notice how much better you sleep and feel. Cut down on caffeine, quit smoking and avoid alcohol before bed.
Sleep Easy! How you feel during your waking hours depends on how well you sleep at night. The solution to bad sleep can often be found in your daily routine. By improving your sleep schedule, bedtime habits, and lifestyle choices, you can make an enormous difference to the quality of your sleep.
So try out ways of improving your sleep so you can be mentally alert, emotionally balanced, and full of energy all day long! ***
Therefore increasing self esteem, means eliminating all negative thoughts which may cause you to doubt yourself. You need to think positively and surround yourself with people who will give you encouragement for your actions. ***
Relieve and Overcome Anxiety Counselling and therapy can be helpful in identifying the causes of anxiety and changing a negative mindset. Cognitive Behavioural Therapy and Neuro-linguistic Programming both do this as well as offering coping strategies suited to the individual and their circumstances but these are not the only options for anxiety. Breathing and visualization techniques, yoga, exercising and listening to binaural beats have all been shown to help relieve anxiety and reduce symptoms. Improve your Diet and Physical Routine Toxins, chemicals and low vitamins in the body can increase anxiety related emotional and physical issues. So watch your exposure to toxins and talk to a health practitioner about what vitamins you need and get these through natural foods rather than tablets where possible. Reduce and ideally remove all alcohol, recreational drugs, sugar, caffeine and nicotine from your life. All these substances have the ability to cause anxiety in the first place and are guaranteed to make existing anxiety worse. Reduce exposure to heavy metals like mercury, lead, cadmium and aluminium. Toxic metals can be found in nearly every area of life like soil, air, drinking water, construction materials, processed food, cosmetics and prescription medicines. A full body detoxification can help to rebuild the energy you need to tackle and manage your anxiety levels. Exercise daily because not enough physical activity or exercise also causes anxiety. Even if you are not the sporty type, going for a walking meditation to completely clear your mind is enough to make a difference. Sleep well, not enough sleep and sometimes too much sleep can aggravate anxiety. Find a sleep routine that is right for you and stick to it.
Antidepressants do they work? Many anti-depressants drug slower happy brain chemicals are addictive and can cause weight gain (which is depressing in itself) along with many other side effects. These types of medication fail to address the symptoms and root causes of anxiety which could lead on to chronic anxiety and even depression if left untreated. Its always best to look for and treat the things that are causing anxiety rather than just dealing with the side effects. If you or someone you know is experiencing anxiety, firstly, try a natural approach before seeking medication. Learning meditation and practicing regularly is a brilliant way to manage the stress and tensions of everyday life, it creates a stillness in the mind and body that is hard to find through prescribed mediation and drugs and alcohol. In my opinion anxiety is not a disease or a mental illness but and emotional and sometimes physical state that and can be turned into calmness by adopting only natural remedies and positive lifestyle choices. So eliminate your anxiety and release your potential today! ***
However, you should not let these things consume your life or drive you into health complications. Part of finding balance is just learning how to relax and take time to yourself. Your whole life will be better if you make a commitment as part of yourself development, to setting your life goals today! ***
Communicate your feelings honestly and openly. Dont savor the anger until it hurts you. Talk to someone you respect and trust.
When you take the time to think about it, in forgiving others we are also forgiving ourselves for the things we are not proud of having done to others. In the same way that if we hurt someone else we hurt ourselves, this is a fundamental rule of the universe! When you hold resentment toward another, you are bound to that person or condition by an emotional link that is stronger than steel. Forgiveness is the only way to dissolve that link and get free. Catherine Ponder In order to forgive you must be willing to: Put yourself in the other persons shoes to get a better perspective of both sides of an argument you are having. Take responsibility for your actions and learn from your mistakes to avoid the same consequences of your actions twice (I know its easier said than done). Understand and accept that everything happens for a reason, the universe is challenging you so you can learn positive life lessons to move forward in life. In the end what you put out in the universe come back to you, it is the law of Karma.
Lets Forgive and Make The World a Better Place! Too often in this world we fail to forgive others but at the end of the day no one is perfect and instead of thinking how unfair or unacceptable a situation or someone has been towards you and wasting precious time harbouring blame and resentment living in the past, try to see the bigger picture. Step out of the comfort zone of resentment because when we hold on to resentment and replay in our head scenarios of how we have been deeply hurt, we slip into self -pity and anger. Anger solves nothing and by contrast breeds ignorance and greed which on a grand scale is what creates war. To forgive is to let go and draw a line under the past so we can move on. Open your mind, challenge your assumptions and question why people behave like they do. You will see that everyone feels as human and vulnerable as you do. So be tolerant and kind to yourself and remember that by forgiving more easily you are moving on and growing as a human being. ***
The Information Age is here and marks the new evolution of humanity. You are most likely taking in as much information about the world in one week through the internet, TV, Smartphones, radio and social media as your great grandparents were during their whole lives. The Aquarian Age and The Shift of Humanity Today, people are searching everywhere for the truth or to be enlightened. Now is the time to ask ourselves what our purpose in life is and how we can realize our full potential. There are a lot of facts and views across the world about the Age of Aquarius but the only truth is your truth. It might sound like a new age craze, but really it is as simple as a shift in energies across the universe and harnessing them to help you find inner peace and meaning in your life. It is also an opportunity to connect with others in a way that truly benefits humanity. In the Age of Aquarius, the dharma of a person shall be to reach out. Reach out to help. Reach out to share smiles. Reach out to hear each other. Reach out to every person without judgement. Yogi Bhajan Personally, I think there will be a spiritual revolution that grows over the next few decades where people come together to reject the political and economic systems that control them, so the collapse of the economy is the first step in this revolution. We will no longer seek happiness purely through social status, money and material possessions but look beyond all that and experience what it is to be truly human. The date for the end of the Age of Pisces is greatly debated, as I said but for most people, around now is the end of the Piscean universe and over the next decade we will shift into the Aquarian Age. What we can say for sure is that the move into Aquarius is a shift in human thinking like nothing ever experienced since humanity began. ***
more about settling the mind so it is more peaceful. People who have struggled with other forms of meditation often find transcendental meditation much easier than they anticipated. It is the only time I have that stillness. It gives me this peaceful feeling. I just love it so much. Ellen DeGeneres Also, during transcendental meditation, the mind settles to its most silent and restful state but remains fully alert and in this calm state, the body also achieves deep rest. This rest is deeper than sleep and scientists call a restructuring state because it allows the bodys natural healing mechanisms to function fully which many claim have healed a wide range of emotional and physical health problems. Transcendental meditation helps deep rooted stresses and tensions to dissolve and current issues caused by past experiences can disappear meaning we can be content and happy in the present moment and not live in the past. Sensory experience can also be enhanced through regular transcendental meditation practice and many people describe increased appreciation of colour, sound, taste and smell. Increased enjoyment of sex is also common. People from all walks of life have discovered their natural ability to remain stress free and calm under pressure as well as being able to achieving greater mental clarity and enhanced performance in many areas of their lives. The benefits of transcendental meditation are so widely appreciated in some countries, that employers encourage and make it available to their employees. Everyone can benefit from practicing transcendental meditation, even people who consider themselves very healthy in mind and body can benefit from the unlimited potential transcendental meditation can tap into. ***
and feel the rhythm because the frequency sound and the rhythm is what enables brainwave entrainment. How to Make Best Use of Isochronic Beats Isochronic beats work best used in conjunction with an internal or external process like visualization or subliminal messages which can help you to focus and direct your awareness towards achieving a positive goal or state. When I am harnessing the power of isochronic beats, I either sit or lie down in a comfortable position and breathe deeply with my spine straight; you still get the brainwave entrainment effect from left to right without headphones and on the move. I recommend regulating your listening sessions to twenty minutes twice a day, once a day or every few days if you are a beginner, thats the routine I try to follow and it really helps me with my stress and anxiety level. It can also help to reduce doubts, negative thoughts, depression and to boost energy, confidence, peace of mind and positive thinking. Increase your Brainwaves and Enjoy a Peaceful Mind! Isochronic beats are a key element of transcendental meditation which if practiced regularly can help you to relax, fight depression, beat cravings, stop insomnia and reduce stress and anxiety. All forms of meditation allow us to connect with our soul and our inner self, where I believe the answer to many of our problems lie. You may be skeptical but dont judge before you try it! If you believe in the universe and the soul or if you are interested in knowing more about yourself then see for yourself the benefits isochronic beats and meditation can bring. ***
These movements increase physical strength. As you get stronger, you can also expect to see increased muscle tone. You learn to breathe deeply in yoga meditation techniques and experience the release of tension in muscles along with the increased flexibility that comes when your body is supplied with fresh oxygen. Yoga teaches you to engage your full lung capacity in the breathing process so that you flush toxins out and breathe fresh oxygen in. Yoga Meditation and Emotional Wellbeing By gently stretching your muscles and releasing tensions on a regular basis it is not just your body that feels more relaxed, your mind will too. Through yoga, you learn to become aware of tensions in different parts of the body, and work towards letting that tension go. This attention, acceptance and finally letting go, of tension in different areas of the body helps you to let go of tension on an emotional and mental level too. You cannot do yoga. Yoga is your natural state. What you can do are yoga exercises, which may reveal to you where you are resisting your natural state. Sharon Gannon Yoga Meditation brings Self-Acceptance In addition to the more obvious benefits of yoga there are some you might not have considered. Yoga can help bring about compassion and understanding. Yoga philosophy tells us that were all one and the experience of many bodies moving and breathing and meditating at the same time can create a real sense of unity and empathy. Were all the same and just doing the best we can in life! Because yoga makes you more in tune with your body you start to care more what you put in it. Many people who take up yoga find they take more interest in a healthy diet and quit some of those bad habits like junk food, smoking and drinking too much alcohol. Yoga makes the body more flexible and can help you relax and release tension in your body and mind. Learning yoga can also help to build self -confidence and self -acceptance. So why not try yoga and see what self development benefits it brings! ***
EFT involves tapping your fingertips at the beginning or end of your bodys meridians points. A meridian is an energy channel that flows through your body. EFT has helped my clients deal successfully with addictions, grief, fears, phobias, sexual abuse, performance issues, self -image and stress. (Dr Catherine Saltzman) Whenever you are stressed, angry or experiencing a strong emotion, these emotions block up the energy channels and energy does not flow smoothly which causes us discomfort and distress. The tapping of these key energy points, allows the blocked energy to release and encourages the smooth flow of healing energy through our body. The meridian points in EFT are the same as those used in acupuncture but fingers replace needles! Each EFT tapping points technique once learned, can offer relief. So if you persist you will feel better, sometimes very quickly. Emotional Freedom technique is safe, easy, effective and fun. It can help just about anyone to achieve genuine freedom from negative emotions and habits that have created problems in their lives. It is a valuable addition to yourself development toolbox! So why not learn and experience this healing method? Allow your energy to increase to a much higher vibration. When your body and mind are aligned, your soul will feel refreshed! ***
Regular meditation practice can bring about greater self -acceptance and self-control, selfrespect and respect for others and all round emotional stability and peace. All these positive mind states will also increase job satisfaction and productivity and relationships with family, friends and co-workers. Meditation and Spirituality With deeper and more advanced meditation you can discover the power of consciousness beyond the ego as you experience a sense of oneness with yourself and connect with the universe to transcend space and time. Meditation increases the ability to visualize and manifest desire. It can help deal with past traumas, clear karma and balance energy centres. Meditation can also help to develop and overcome limiting belief sand the mind to body alignment. So start living in the present moment and create a deepening capacity for love. Tap into the full potential of your soul, the answers are at your fingertips! ***
Can a simple technique like Brainwave Vibrations help you create and maintain a healthy life? Through decades of research scientists have come to realize that we have the innate ability to heal ourselves by using binaural beats music the body and brain vibrations can be restored to their original healthy and positive frequencies. Because we send out brainwaves which resonate vibrations when we think, we are sending out a sound frequency outside of the range of human hearing. This sound resonates energy in the universe and takes random particles and turns them into astonishing forms which turns into matter to create our reality! Types of brainwave frequencies Gamma: Inspiration, Higher Learning, Focus > 40 Hz Beta: Alertness, Concentration, Cognition 13 40 Hz Alpha: Visualization, Relaxation, Creativity 7 13 Hz Theta: meditation, Intuition, Memory 47 Hz Delta: Detached Awareness, Healing, Sleep < 4Hz
ADDICTION Relapse vs Conscious Choice: Why do you pick up addiction and do it again?
Is it a relapse or is it a conscious choice? I thought of writing this article because as spring arrives so does more temptation. Soon, there will be people sitting in the park or outside pubs drinking. Pretty much, whenever I go out its in my face! The late summer nights with a flavour of party in the air and parties resonating from your neighbours gardens and by the time you know it you see yourself starting to make excuses to justify a relapse. Excuses like alcohol should be banned in public places, alcohol advertising should also be banned, its not fair I cant go to summer festivals like everybody else. Im good at making excuses, not just in spring but Christmas, New Year, birthdays and so on. There are always going to be excuses if you look for them. Your addiction is always behind the door waiting for you to open it. Before you know it, you are mentally preparing your relapse and convincing yourself that relapse is inevitable. You are setting up a platform to fall back on and watch videos and search for information of other peoples relapse stories and you feel it is not such a big deal after all. Next, you are preparing those closest to you for your relapse too by explaining to them that a relapse would not be the end of the world. Now that I have been free from any destructible substances for a while, I have come to realise that the word relapse is a synonym of excuse. I believe that we know when we are on a slippery slope to a relapse and that we recognise and acknowledge all the triggers and the warning signs. You have probably been deliberating for a month or more or before it happens, that is not to say it does not happen on impulse, as for many people it does, it is just that a relapse is planned. When it happens maybe it will be just a lapse for one day or one night but you could relapse more than once in a short space of time and quickly go back to destructive behaviour patterns. Either way, you made a choice before you picked up whatever substance it is that is a problem for you and you knew where it would take you in the end. You assessed and weighed up the pros and cons. The truth is YOU made a conscious decision to relapse. Why do many people relapse against their best efforts and the urging of their friends and family? Most addictions serve one purpose, which is an unconscious attempt to reduce inner pain. What I mean by inner pain is, a collection of very unpleasant and intense emotions. These emotions range from shame, guilt, anxiety or fear to loneliness, emptiness, despair and rage. A mix of any of those feeling together can be called inner pain.
Most addicts in my experience acquire a great deal of inner turmoil stemming from childhood. It could be the adults that raised them traumatized them intentionally or often unintentionally and it is most likely that the adults with the parental roles themselves had negative childhood experiences that stayed with them and shaped their behaviours as adults. If someone enters adulthood with no natural mechanism for processing and managing emotions (and lets not forget happiness, excitement and joy as these too are emotions that many addicts find hard to manage) they can turn to substance abuse as a way of processing things instead, this is sometimes called self -medicating. Slowly but surely, the substance or substances of choice become an everyday way of reducing inner turmoil without having to deal with emotions. Addiction is an avoidance of what it is to be truly human. How to prevent relapse and avoid relapse in recovery from addiction Know your triggers, spot them and know what to do. Consider carefully when you start thinking about relapsing, if you really want a slip back to your old ways. I remind myself of how bad it was in my active addiction and how one relapse could sabotage my life. Which one will you choose; its your call? I know what so called experts say; to call someone, go to an addiction meeting and take things one minute at a time or even one day at a time but I believe all this just goes over your head because once the trigger are activated in your mind, it is often hard to think of anything or anyone else. Anyone with an addiction knows it comes first and as someone who went through all that I found that a desire greater that my addiction, something that gives me a better feeling than my old way of escaping my feelings, could keep me from relapsing. To live is to choose. But to choose well, you must know who you are and what you stand for, where you want to go and why you want to get there. Kofi Annan So, find an activity, work, passion, interest or people (or all of them) that motivates you to move away from addiction and hang on to it, preserve and work at it everyday. This is what will prevent you from relapsing. Find one thing or feeling that brings you a natural high and remember it is too good to lose because it provides you with inner peace and that is all you are really craving for INNER PEACE. Obviously sitting down feeling sorry for yourself, telling yourself you are powerless, hopeless and incurable whilst waiting for this power greater than yourself to save you is appealing but it is nothing more than an easy way out of your responsibility when you relapse. Yes miracles do happen but you also have to work at it, you have to believe that it is possible to be free of damaging addictions in the first place. Believe you are powerful not powerless! In moments of despair, it will only be you and your desire to live, nothing else that can stop you from relapsing and making the right decision. Only you can keep the door of temptation closed by finding happiness, peace and purpose within you, so great that it overshadows the addiction. Recognise the warning signs and take action before it is too late. What have you done to fill up your cons list? What do you have to hang on to? What is it that is worth living for? Its on the basis of all these questions that youll decide whether to
relapse or not. A slip can remind you of why you stopped your addiction in the first place but a relapse, I feel is deeper than that, its a change back to old ways of life. The only way you are going to relapse is if you choose to. If you do relapse, dont try to make excuses for it just accept it and move on, its not day one, recovery is a life long journey. Keep in mind it does get easier and remember everyday is a victory and any defeat is not the end of the day! ***
Learn to forgive yourself by acknowledging that a lot of the mistakes we make are just part of the human experience and that we can only begin to heal by self -love. Learn to let go of the past. Find ways to help you relax and relieve the anxiety that can accompany shame. EFT Tapping can help. Shame and feelings of remorse can be a positive thing if they enable someone to stop doing something they dont want to do; this is the healthy version of shame. Then there is the other side of the coin toxic shame. Toxic shame is a person believing they are bad to the core and never being able to escape that feeling. Most addicts no matter what the addiction, experience these feelings often and have their core belief about themselves rooted in toxic shame. If we can share our story with someone who responds with empathy and understanding, shame cant survive. Bren Brown Talk about it! If you hold a dark secret I hope you can find one person you can talk to about it. As you share it you may feel less burdened and be able to let go and move forward. I had to take this approach in order to make progress in my life. Also remember there is no guilt and shame in the present moment. Your natural self is guiltless, you are completely pure and natural means who you really are so whenever you are angry, depressed, upset you are not being you at that moment you are being your past. Live in the present moment, be your true self and dont let shame take over your life! ***
All of us have a tendency towards excess or even addiction; it could be food, illegal or legal drugs, self -harming, gambling, shopping and so on I believe overindulging on something to the point it becomes a problem is related to not directly addressing the unhappiness within you, so youll find anything to fill this void. To live fully, we must learn to use things and love people, and not love things and use people. John Powell We live in a world that celebrates fame and money and aggressive advertising tells us this is what we should aspire to, so that if we dont have those things, we think that we are somehow not good enough. You need to remind yourself that we all have beauty within and when you find this youll be happy regardless of external attributes and material things. The temporary relief that buying things offers is accessible through others means, like meditation or perhaps finding your true life purpose and pursuing it. In general, we are already consuming far more than we need and fear, insecurity and feelings of powerlessness makes us want to consume even more! You probably know all this deep down but you need to really acknowledge it. Its not enough to just admit that we buy too much without understanding the underlying reasons why before bad habits turn into self destructing behaviours. Consumerism and Power Its a false belief that buying brings power or happiness. We have all felt the instant gratification of when after purchasing the latest hype item, feeling satisfied because we now have something someone else desires. It is similar to feeling on top of the world after a few drinks but feeling low with a hangover the morning after. Its worth remembering that the feeling of power and happiness is temporary because the more you have the more you want so the emptiness is back for more as quick as it first came on. Consuming is an endless circle of dissatisfaction like any other addiction but it is the most socially acceptable one. We dig a deeper hole of desire in our wallets and our souls so people give us respect and admiration to make up for the lack of respect and self -belief we have about ourselves. Its kind of silly when you think about it. Money and happiness Is it impossible not to consume unless you live in the middle of nowhere on a peaceful farm disconnected from reality? The answer is no because happiness is free and something that comes from within. It doesnt mean you have to be a hippy, squatter or homeless (unless thats what you desire). Its about fulfilling the void by doing meaningful actions. There are lots of causes these days you could spend a little bit of money on to help or change someone else life. Any small act of kindness will bring you much more respect, admiration and happiness for a better price than buying five minutes of pleasure. You could also spend time, not money on your own self -development; this would give you the happiness you are seeking instead of striving for happiness through the things you own and fuelling big corporations greed. Why not challenge your current spending habits and belief s around materialistic possessions, in the end its more important to have more to show for our lives than a collection of superficial designer shoes or a pile of outdated technology items.
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Eating for Stress We have all reached for chocolate and junk food for energy and to cheer us up when we are feeling stressed out, sad or down only to feel even worse an hour later. But why do we reach for these sugary and processed low energy foods that do more harm than good? Well, Science can explain this. Serotonin is the brains feel good chemical and we need serotonin to maintain a balanced mood. When we are stressed, the stress hormone cortisol triggers appetite stimulating neurotransmitters and decreases our serotonin levels, which can make us, feel low. When serotonin is reduced it can also cause an increase in appetite or cravings and sugary snacks and junk food offer us a short term fix by quickly boosting reduced serotonin levels and creating a sense of calm and well-being. But what comes up must come down and shortly after indulging these cravings, we will experience what is called an energy crash; this is when our blood sugar drops again and we are left feeling even more stressed and miserable than we did in the first place! It takes a lot of work for our bodies to digest sugary fatty foods so it makes sense that theres more work going on, so obviously you are going to end up feeling tired and lacking in energy! Often at this point, we reach out for more junk food to make us feel better and get stuck on the rollercoaster of energy and emotions. This can also lead to overeating habits and longer-term mood swings and low moods. Use Food Energy to Boost Mood But surely if we remove these foods from our diet, we will feel stressed and low, so what should we eat to maintain a balanced mood and avoid low energy levels? Its easy! Eat complex carbohydrates instead like wholegrain bread, oats and seeds. They are high in fibre and they release their energy more slowly which means avoiding the energy dips caused by simple carbohydrates like sugar, pastry, white bread and pasta, sugary breakfast cereals and chocolate. These foods have a positive impact on serotonin levels, energy levels and mood, whereas simple carbohydrates; those cookies and chocolate bars do the opposite. But make sure you balance these good carbohydrates with protein. Protein will ensure longer lasting energy and balance out any lows caused by blood sugar dips. Protein also helps reduce junk food cravings. Protein can be found in nuts, cheese, lean meat and fish and yogurt. Eat a Balanced Breakfast and Eat Regularly Remember that food if fuel so if you skip a meal you could will feel tired and moody going too long without eating, also causes blood sugar to sink! The best and most efficient pharmacy is within your own system. Robert C. Peale You Are What You Eat
Finally, consider that food carries energy, and that energy is passed onto our bodies when we eat particular foods. There is a big difference between how we will feel eating a meal of fresh, organic plants and whole grains, compared to eating a plate full of dead, processed sugary food full of chemicals and additives. Everything in Moderation Of course, allow yourself some treats now and again, but take time to think about how your diet could be impacting your moods! * Always consult a nutritionist or health-care professional when making changes to your diet. ***
and these social and situational causes of depression cannot be changed by drugs. Irving Kirsch, The Emperors New Drugs: Exploding the Antidepressant Myth How to Stop Taking Prozac and Overcome Depression with Cognitive Therapy? The idea of cognitive therapy is that you use your own thoughts to make yourself feel better and learn to recognize how your thinking has contributed to your low moods. The approach is that if you can change to a more rational thinking style, you are eliminating the negative thoughts that contribute to depression. Cognitive therapy is an educational self development and self -efficacy treatment, once you have learned the techniques from a qualified practitioner you can apply it yourself; its something you carry with you all the time and you can use in any situation once you stop taking Prozac. Stop Taking Prozac to Try Alternative Approaches There are lots of natural things you can do to manage and treat depression so do explore them further. There are alternatives approaches to simply taking prescription drugs. You may think anti-depressants are the only answer but you could end up dependent on them and be no closer to identifying the real source of your depression.*2 Similarly some think that alcohol can help to ease anxiety but this is a myth as alcohol can increase feelings of anxiety and depression; alcohol is a depressant. There is also the risk of becoming dependent on alcohol. People should attempt to deal with the real issues and not just medicate with alcohol. You probably already know what you need to do to increase your mood and positive attitude, so stop taking Prozac now, why wait!
*1 (Statistics from a report from the federal government and a research published in BioMed Central in 2011). *2 Always visit your doctor to talk about managing your depression if you are worried about your depression. Severe depression and clinical depression are serious and you should always consult a healthcare professional.
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Smoking is perceived to release stress, help concentration and ease boredom. It is seen as a means to escape lifes stressful moments and of course for many is a satisfying source of pleasure. Ironically, people who smoke are often more stressed and anxious than nonsmokers! Nicotine is a stimulant, it speeds up the heart and raises blood pressure which causes a rapid release of adrenaline. Quit Smoking and Quit those Excuses! Once you stop smoking cigarettes all the perceived advantages of smoking and the excuses you use to smoke no longer exist. A starting point is not to acknowledge bad excuses like, you feel bad or you are having a bad day. These excuses justify you lighting up that cigarette. This is often how people get stuck in a cycle of quitting and then starting again. The physical addiction to nicotine is over in 48 hours but the emotional and psychological dependency takes longer. The Underlying Cause of Smoking So take a cigarette and question the benefits it really brings you. Does it relax you? Is it to take a break from routine? Is it because it makes you feel well socially? Also, identify particular places, occasions and situations where you smoke and try to break from these routines. Once you identified the reasons and situations that cause you to smoke, you can reduce them and in some cases eliminate them. This is very important because when you stop there wont be any reasons or excuses for you to start smoking again. Quitting smoking is easier once you identify what beyond physical addiction triggers you to smoke. Working on aspects of your personal self development might help you with this. It is difficult to stop unless you understand why, when and how you smoke. There are different ways to help you stop smoking. Use your willpower if you feel strong enough mentally. Otherwise, patches, nicotine inhalator, acupuncture, subliminal messages and Emotional Freedom Technique are all proven to work. So what are you waiting for, you have the key to stop this filthy habit now! ***
In AA focused rehab, all personal power should be handed over to a higher power and individual choice and self -control are not considered valid options. Addicts who question this approach are dismissed which can leave them in despair and unable to move forward with their recovery. Alcoholics and drug addicts should not necessarily be treated alongside each other. They have different sets of problems requiring different approaches to detoxification, treatment and longer-term recovery. a treatment setting, alcoholics with no previous exposure to illegal drugs and the lifestyle that goes with it, can become close to drug addicts increasing their vulnerability both during and after treatment. The substance is taken away but the underlying causes of addiction are not dealt with. In most traditional treatment programs, a limited amount of time is spent on individual therapy and a great deal of time is spent on group therapy. This means the individual needs of each addict are not met and self-help or self development are not explored. The underlying causes that drive individuals into addiction are not always given priority; anger, family issues, self -image, behaviors, work and education all need addressing in order for addicts to be free from relapse and continued addiction. AA Rehabilitation is a short term solution that offers the chance to detoxify and take a break from the routine and environment that drives addiction. Increased communication skills and self -awareness can come from group interaction as most addicts become isolated through their addiction and related behaviors. But treatment isnt just about improving communication skills and this is why rehabilitation does not really offer an addict any longer term solutions and coping skills. If addiction is a disease, ask yourself why is there no cure? A 12 Steps based AA rehab program maintains addiction is a lifelong disease with no cure and does not give addicts freedom of choice or empower them to be in control of their addiction and, therefore, their life. In AA, addicts remain trapped by being encouraged to discuss and focus all attention on their disease and to believe they are powerless. The only way to end the cycle of addiction for good is for people with drug and alcohol problems to take ownership of their lives. They must deal with the causes of their addiction and empower themselves to make positive and long lasting changes free from destructive substances; it is possible to for them to find happiness and strength from within themselves. If people want to leave substance abuse behind, they need to work with other people who have done this. Everyone deserves to be an adult with an enriched and fulfilled life. Encourage them to take their life back! Positive thinking, goal setting, one to one therapy and meditation can help with this as well.
Moving Forward... We've covered a lot. Likely, you will have to read this again. I suggest you print it all out by sections so that you can work through each section efficiently. There's even more to cover, but now, it's time for you to take action because I'm telling you right now that you have a distinct advantage over 99% of the people who will read this guide. The choice to take action is yours. Just know, that whatever you choose to do, there will be hundreds if not thousands of people who take action toward change based on the information in this guide.